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"How do you stay grounded... when the ground itself is moving" ♡ "Certainty is the enemy of change" ♡ "You can't fully say yes if you can't fully say no" ♡
This interview is so touching because of the sincerity and openness throughout. I am someone who learns that it's ok to have and show emotions after they have been blocked my entire childhood, and I am more than happy to learn that there is nothing wrong with crying and bursting with joy.
A tear just dropped listening your young self saying thank you for all the work you have done to become what you are today, it really resonated in me. We definitely need to look back to that child and dialogue with tenderness. You are a beautiful person.
Lewis I'm sorry to hear of your extended loss after your dad's accident and your grief at his passing. My mom has final stage Alzheimer's disease, she was diagnosed 17 years ago. My sympathies on the sadness of the prolonged loss of your dad. May he rest in peace. I hope you find peace too.
I just wanted to say that I’m sorry to hear about your dad passing away. It sounds really tough, and I think it’s awesome that you had the courage to open up about it.
" Humor and play is possibility Possibility invites change Change invites healing"...wow, WOW 💖😍 she's so amazing..logical, charming, funny, near, real
Esther Perel is the best therapist out there. Every time I watch her your channel or somewhere else is always a groundbreaking experience and I learn every single time new aspects about myself and the relationships also about life itself 👏👏 Love your channel much ❤
You, Lewis Howe and Ester Perel are phenomenally transparent and an inspiration. You two provide innovative perspectives on age-old challenges in every day life. To listen and to drink-in the ideas you express helps individuals reflect on their own lives and invites major breakthroughs! Thank YOU two!
Lewis, you and Esther are my favourite duo to watch ever! Another hugely insightful interview together. Just love the vulnerability and sense of connection you both share, what beautiful humans you are, inside and out. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You know when they say who would be your dream dinner party guests...well mine would be you two! Along with Esther's new game- just love it! 💙👏xx
Great listening to this, have learned a lot of staff, especially after going through a loss of a husband for the past 11 years, and now ready for a new start to move on to another relationship . Such great insight. Thank you so much.
Lewis you are so conscious, honest, humble and good hearted ❤❤❤ I cry every time you open up, you explain your processes so wonderfully that I get emotional instantly. Thank you. Oh, Ester Perel is amazing😄😄
1:15:00 : Values 1:15:56 : Your relationship with others 1:15:20 : Who can you build a life with? -> have many values in common. 1:16:00 : 1) Someone that values relationships, that sees the presence of others in their life as central VS somebody who does not want community or does not. If your whole life is about being with people, and their whole life is about not being with people... 1:17:10 : Were you raised for autonomy, or were you raised for loyalty? 1:17:15 : Were you raised for self-reliance, or were you raised for interdependence? 1:19:57 : Do you want to live in more than one place? 1:20:02 : Money, feelings, emotions, religious beliefs, attitude toward life, etc. 1:21:39 : Similar mindset , but don't get fooled, find out what is the belief behind the aspiration, the longing, the interest, and then you get a sense of what is the value. 1:21:50 : Calibrate expectations. 1:23:35 : Relationships is based on the repair. 1:24:38 : Take responsibility, being accountable.
Thank you Lewis. Esther is a very interesting, keen and insightful person. I learn something new from you and your guest each time I watch your content.
I’ve never had a relationship like this cos I couldn’t stand laughing @ bad things esp young girls were involved but my man is refreshingly good for me & my fam 😍
that point at the end where she's talking about how a partner should be changing to please you - you voice a concern and they change their behaviour... well simply this does not work with a lot of people because they see it as dominance and the fear is if they let someone boss them / change them through kind request they will eventually lose themselves... these subtle requests if only coming from one side will end up being dominance, so the requests must be balanced and coming from both sides otherwise the power dynamic will be unbalanced and one person will lose themselves.
I never regret taking in these episodes. They always contain gold nuggets. Thank you for daring to put out such authentic and heart centered content Lewis. Much love.
Very touching and insightful conversations. I’ve definitely learned a lot and it has placed my mind to think in a new perspective. I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years now. I have been cheated and I have been a cheater. However, I love this man and want to learn, grow, and strengthen our relationship from our mistakes. I am looking to become a better version of myself every day, learning from the failures, from all the emotions I feel, connecting and loving my inner child. Lewis is you are ever casting to be on your show/podcast for views experiences, count me in! I’d love to connect!
I forgot to write it is nice you take tne time to reply to so many comments. I ha e learned so much from tbis channel. There is so much superficial trash on YT you have one of the best channels better than all the garbage trash out there. Thanks again from NYC.
This is a beautiful interview. Love u more Lewis. I think my dad has the same fear of lost like her. Afraid of lost. My dad imagine i cant come back in peace if i go out after 8pm. From my childhood until now that i am in my 40s, he still has the same fear. I dont hang out at all after work. Thus i am not married yet even i am so beautiful
My fear of loss of other loved ones,I lost my oldest son tragically when he was 6,I was there in the ER with him he was gone but was still wiring in him .. I still have ptsd symptoms I have 5 other children and 10 grandchildren! I’m seeking therapy at this time . Anxiety I’ve been through soooo much in my life from the time I was born!
You are charming guys! Both! I speak of you with all my respect and admiration.You're soooo charming👏👏😍😍 I've learned so gorgeous wisdom. Thank you so much.
Me 2 I Like humor in my relationship and it’s a must👌🏿😘I can argue and the next minutes I laugh this is exactly me and it’s funny I thought I was wrong and listening to you now 👌🏿😘
Great conversations, but you can not blame yourself if you are in an abusive relationship. Other then blame yourself that you were too nice of the person.
Wow! I just watched this and I loved the content from start to end. Can someone share where to buy the card games they used in this video? Thanks Lewis for creating such amazing contents. I love the way you ask questions, and how you navigate the conversation, you are so authentic and grounded into your heartspace .
While I love the wisdom she has, it still leaves the problem of finding a partner in the first place. While I met many awesome women during my life, I never ever met one who was single /available.
@@jacintavenita2027 No. Occasionally, I meet awesome women , just again a few days ago. But as usual, she is married. Truly attractive women are always taken, so I don't expect that I will ever find a partner as there are never opportunities to flirt or to experience love /intimacy.
@@farmerfox99 It's a matter of chance. The chances of finding an attractive partner, especially when older, are extremely low. Naturally, 99.99 % of the awesome people are off the dating market. You need a lot of luck finding such a person. I never had the luck. While I met awesome women, I have several fantastic female friends, all of them, without exception, are married or in long-term relationships. Finding a suitable partner is probably the most difficult thing in life. It seems I failed.
Love Ester .. Lewis you are of the most amazing interviewers You like a child wanting to know about everything. You listen and ask great questions. I'm a big fan. I'm turning 67 in a month and going to make it my mission to see one of your workshops . I too would like to uplift people and due everyday.Whether at the gym, grocery store anywhere I can uplift or help people. Thank you and look forward too meeting you and if its ok maybe a hug I'm a hugger.. please let me know where you bought those great tennis shoes from the photo shoot in the latest Success magazine love them. My passion is stylish clothing amongst other things.
We need to stay away from anyone that does not do therapy or the work.....as they only damage others via their pain. EVERYONE HAS BEEN BROKEN.....yet not everybody is doing the work.....the ppl that do the work are the best amongst us.....those that do not are the worst like NPD
Wishing you move into visions that are dread free. I know how this feels in the body and deeply releasing this is possible with breathe in Iyengar yoga ... It's possible to not have to think of the past and yet shift the energy and stale feelings. I hope you see this #estherperel
Every person is different so we can’t say what we’d say to the next relationship & my man is unpredictable too so we can’t predict what we can say to the other person. I don’t blame me or him but he doesn’t like alota talk so I can’t say how I feel all the time. I only know 3 other ppl that talk more me, I have a lot to say. I love saying how I feel. I don’t enjoy keeping my feelings to myself. I let him know a quite wife is a dangerous person 🤣🙏🏻
Work on building a healthy relationship and falling in love with the person that you see everyday, who has been through so much pain and heartache, but still manages to gets through it all.❤️ 💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship
Question for everyone. Who are you inspired by seriously? I'll go first ( no order) - Jocko, Pat McNamara, Jordan Peterson, Tim Ferriss, Vigilance Elite, Ed Calderon, Gracie Family, Robert Greene, Alux, Hubermanlab, Tom Bilyeu, Terrence Popp, George Gammon, Robert Kiyosaki, Ken McElroy, Lewis Howes, Snordster, Real Men Real Style, Think Media Podcast Among others....
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"How do you stay grounded... when the ground itself is moving" ♡
"Certainty is the enemy of change" ♡
"You can't fully say yes if you can't fully say no" ♡
@Self Retired thanks for writing it out!
We expect one person to give us what once an entire village used to provide, and we live twice as long.
Esther Perel
This interview is so touching because of the sincerity and openness throughout. I am someone who learns that it's ok to have and show emotions after they have been blocked my entire childhood, and I am more than happy to learn that there is nothing wrong with crying and bursting with joy.
Appreciate you and your support🧡
She is so intellectual person, always have a non judgmental response. It is so encouraging.
A tear just dropped listening your young self saying thank you for all the work you have done to become what you are today, it really resonated in me. We definitely need to look back to that child and dialogue with tenderness. You are a beautiful person.
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Stop trying to find it and start trying to create it.
Yes, I agree to start trying to create it.
Stop trying to find it and start giving yourself the love you seek.
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@@SuperNashumamen
Lewis I love this channel. Please don't ever close it. Let's grow old being great together. More health and life to you.
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Ms Perel has very good common sense and highly educated in human relationships! Great guest!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Lewis
I'm sorry to hear of your extended loss after your dad's accident and your grief at his passing. My mom has final stage Alzheimer's disease, she was diagnosed 17 years ago. My sympathies on the sadness of the prolonged loss of your dad. May he rest in peace. I hope you find peace too.
Thank you so much for your kind words🧡
I just wanted to say that I’m sorry to hear about your dad passing away. It sounds really tough, and I think it’s awesome that you had the courage to open up about it.
Her intelligence blows me away. Thank you for letting her talk!
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
I believe the content of our words to our love one is essential. Positive, soft words, no blame content.
I love Esther's definition of greatness.
OMG !! Minute 36:00 ... so unbelievably touching and heartfelt... tears were just running down my face.... I felt it... It could've been me...
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" Humor and play is possibility
Possibility invites change
Change invites healing"...wow, WOW 💖😍 she's so amazing..logical, charming, funny, near, real
I m so sorry for your loss.Wishing you all the best.
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Esther Perel is the best therapist out there. Every time I watch her your channel or somewhere else is always a groundbreaking experience and I learn every single time new aspects about myself and the relationships also about life itself 👏👏 Love your channel much ❤
This podcasts with Ester are the best of all . Love her insights 🙏🏻💝✨
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Love this: play invites, possibility, possibility invites healing
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I love this women her depth is amazing the wisdom ❤ she holds has no bounds.
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You, Lewis Howe and Ester Perel are phenomenally transparent and an inspiration. You two provide innovative perspectives on age-old challenges in every day life. To listen and to drink-in the ideas you express helps individuals reflect on their own lives and invites major breakthroughs! Thank YOU two!
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
You saved my life with all this knowledge and love since 2019
Maybe I can help others one day
Thank you Esther
Yes Esther. Thankyou for showing up. Lewis mentions this after the interview.
Thankyou as well Lewis, for being honest and enquiring.
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Very courageous episode...”what would the little boy say to you” 😢❤️
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She's brillant....I love listening to her!
Thanks for being here!
Lewis, you and Esther are my favourite duo to watch ever! Another hugely insightful interview together. Just love the vulnerability and sense of connection you both share, what beautiful humans you are, inside and out. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You know when they say who would be your dream dinner party guests...well mine would be you two! Along with Esther's new game- just love it! 💙👏xx
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I understand the “living with dread” and yet not having it completely control every moment.
Now to keep practicing the vulnerability
Great listening to this, have learned a lot of staff, especially after going through a loss of a husband for the past 11 years, and now ready for a new start to move on to another relationship . Such great insight. Thank you so much.
Glad this was helpful for you🧡
Nourishing, loving, deep, playful. Thank you for the dynamic of that conversation!
Lewis you are so conscious, honest, humble and good hearted ❤❤❤ I cry every time you open up, you explain your processes so wonderfully that I get emotional instantly. Thank you.
Oh, Ester Perel is amazing😄😄
Oh my God I love her work she makes all the sense in the world
1:15:00 : Values
1:15:56 : Your relationship with others
1:15:20 : Who can you build a life with? -> have many values in common.
1:16:00 : 1) Someone that values relationships, that sees the presence of others in their life as central VS somebody who does not want community or does not.
If your whole life is about being with people, and their whole life is about not being with people...
1:17:10 : Were you raised for autonomy, or were you raised for loyalty?
1:17:15 : Were you raised for self-reliance, or were you raised for interdependence?
1:19:57 : Do you want to live in more than one place?
1:20:02 : Money, feelings, emotions, religious beliefs, attitude toward life, etc.
1:21:39 : Similar mindset , but don't get fooled, find out what is the belief behind the aspiration, the longing, the interest, and then you get a sense of what is the value.
1:21:50 : Calibrate expectations.
1:23:35 : Relationships is based on the repair.
1:24:38 : Take responsibility, being accountable.
This woman is so inspiring she blows my mind. Beautiful speaker.
Absolutely!
@@lewishowes I going back to college in my 40s to study psychotherapy . Been following this lady years what I would give to be a client of hers.
Wow! Her discussion on post traumatic experience is enlightening.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I could listen to her for ♾ ❤️
She is so lovely. I just love her.
Thank you, Lewis. I always learn on your podcasts.
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The dynamic duo does it again!
Thanks for the wisdom & direction kids!
Namaste!
Glad you enjoyed it!
What a beautiful talk, so deep, so emotional ….BEAUTIFUL! Thanks a lot
Love and hugs go out to you Lewis
I feel like I am the one talking here, not Lewis, I love the honesty level of your personality Lewis. Can’t wait for the next interview
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
Esther always dropping gems! Thank you both ♥️
You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡
Oh dear! What a beautiful and moving conversation. ❤ Gratitude 🥹 for you both ❤❤❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Thank you Lewis. Esther is a very interesting, keen and insightful person. I learn something new from you and your guest each time I watch your content.
I’m sorry about your loss Lewis. I hadnt learned about it yet. RIP
Thank you so much!
I’m so sorry for your loss Lewis. 😞
I could listen to EP for hours. So much helpful information.
Inspiring interview, demonstrating honesty and vulnerability through the game. Love it!
I’ve never had a relationship like this cos I couldn’t stand laughing @ bad things esp young girls were involved but my man is refreshingly good for me & my fam 😍
that point at the end where she's talking about how a partner should be changing to please you - you voice a concern and they change their behaviour... well simply this does not work with a lot of people because they see it as dominance and the fear is if they let someone boss them / change them through kind request they will eventually lose themselves... these subtle requests if only coming from one side will end up being dominance, so the requests must be balanced and coming from both sides otherwise the power dynamic will be unbalanced and one person will lose themselves.
You guys have a great dynamic and teaching us so much. Esther is anointed in this subject. ❤️
Happy to hear this, thank you!
Thank you so much
This conversation is so spot on and so relatable 🙏🏽
I never regret taking in these episodes. They always contain gold nuggets. Thank you for daring to put out such authentic and heart centered content Lewis. Much love.
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"Play is the other side of fear"...
Very touching and insightful conversations. I’ve definitely learned a lot and it has placed my mind to think in a new perspective. I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years now. I have been cheated and I have been a cheater. However, I love this man and want to learn, grow, and strengthen our relationship from our mistakes. I am looking to become a better version of myself every day, learning from the failures, from all the emotions I feel, connecting and loving my inner child. Lewis is you are ever casting to be on your show/podcast for views experiences, count me in! I’d love to connect!
Appreciate you and your support🧡
What a wonderful woman.. Her knowledge is so enriching and informative. I'm so inspired... Thank you Lewis
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Always enjoy her talks. Excellent channel. Not superficial at all and better than many TV channels. Thank you so much bug thumbs up!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.
I forgot to write it is nice you take tne time to reply to so many comments. I ha e learned so much from tbis channel. There is so much superficial trash on YT you have one of the best channels better than all the garbage trash out there. Thanks again from NYC.
I cried as soon as Lewis made his inner child thank himself. Still crying aha
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I love this interview LEWIS ... YOU and Ester's intellectual, emotional, exchange to give good vibes, truth thank you!!!!hugs
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
This is a beautiful interview. Love u more Lewis. I think my dad has the same fear of lost like her. Afraid of lost. My dad imagine i cant come back in peace if i go out after 8pm. From my childhood until now that i am in my 40s, he still has the same fear. I dont hang out at all after work. Thus i am not married yet even i am so beautiful
Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂
My fear of loss of other loved ones,I lost my oldest son tragically when he was 6,I was there in the ER with him he was gone but was still wiring in him .. I still have ptsd symptoms I have 5 other children and 10 grandchildren! I’m seeking therapy at this time . Anxiety I’ve been through soooo much in my life from the time I was born!
My heart goes out I know your pain. Sending l heartfelt compassion we have seemed to live similar lives. 🙏
So sorry for your loss🧡
You are charming guys! Both! I speak of you with all my respect and admiration.You're soooo charming👏👏😍😍 I've learned so gorgeous wisdom. Thank you so much.
She is brilliant and i learn so much from these videos, thank you!!!!
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Me 2 I Like humor in my relationship and it’s a must👌🏿😘I can argue and the next minutes I laugh this is exactly me and it’s funny I thought I was wrong and listening to you now 👌🏿😘
Great conversations, but you can not blame yourself if you are in an abusive relationship. Other then blame yourself that you were too nice of the person.
I love ur podcasts so much! I have learned so much… and ur amazing, what an amazing guy you are, smart, sensitive humble… thank you 😊
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Excellent!
Amazing information to absorb.
Play absolutely a MUST!
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Wow! I just watched this and I loved the content from start to end. Can someone share where to buy the card games they used in this video? Thanks Lewis for creating such amazing contents. I love the way you ask questions, and how you navigate the conversation, you are so authentic and grounded into your heartspace .
Excellent summing up of all the issues in a relationships
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To get rid of a feeling of dread we need faith.. Fear keeps us enslaved faith gives us freedom.
When a you tube video brings you to tears
She is so amazing!!!
While I love the wisdom she has, it still leaves the problem of finding a partner in the first place. While I met many awesome women during my life, I never ever met one who was single /available.
Have you meant one now?
@@jacintavenita2027 No. Occasionally, I meet awesome women , just again a few days ago. But as usual, she is married. Truly attractive women are always taken, so I don't expect that I will ever find a partner as there are never opportunities to flirt or to experience love /intimacy.
@@farmerfox99 It's a matter of chance. The chances of finding an attractive partner, especially when older, are extremely low. Naturally, 99.99 % of the awesome people are off the dating market. You need a lot of luck finding such a person. I never had the luck. While I met awesome women, I have several fantastic female friends, all of them, without exception, are married or in long-term relationships. Finding a suitable partner is probably the most difficult thing in life. It seems I failed.
This is amazing! Looking forward when she is your guest the next time :)
Powerful convo from your younger self!!
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Love Ester .. Lewis you are of the most amazing interviewers
You like a child wanting to know about everything. You listen and ask great questions. I'm a big fan. I'm turning 67 in a month and going to make it my mission to see one of your workshops . I too would like to uplift people and due everyday.Whether at the gym, grocery store anywhere I can uplift or help people. Thank you and look forward too meeting you and if its ok maybe a hug I'm a hugger.. please let me know where you bought those great tennis shoes from the photo shoot in the latest Success magazine love them. My passion is stylish clothing amongst other things.
Thank you!
hhmmss: 00:30-4:45 introspection
1:12:40 I needed to hear this. Thank you so much.
You're welcome, thank you for being here 🧡
She is amazing I hope my next woman could bring half the common sense she has
OMG I love this lady 🙏🏼❤️✨
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I am happy to be here
You two are the BEST Lewis👏 & Esther👏
Appreciate you and your support🧡
We need to stay away from anyone that does not do therapy or the work.....as they only damage others via their pain. EVERYONE HAS BEEN BROKEN.....yet not everybody is doing the work.....the ppl that do the work are the best amongst us.....those that do not are the worst like NPD
Well said
Wishing you move into visions that are dread free. I know how this feels in the body and deeply releasing this is possible with breathe in Iyengar yoga ... It's possible to not have to think of the past and yet shift the energy and stale feelings. I hope you see this #estherperel
Amazing always Lewis and Esther. Thanks
You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡
Once again, a great interview 😍
Lewis, could you make an assembly of "definition of greatness", from all your guests? 🙏
Absolutely!
00:38 the truthtelling begins!
Listening To this so that I can be the best husband possible to my future wife🤍
WHEN THE ASD’s START I TUTN OFF INSTANTLY
Thank you!
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Every person is different so we can’t say what we’d say to the next relationship & my man is unpredictable too so we can’t predict what we can say to the other person.
I don’t blame me or him but he doesn’t like alota talk so I can’t say how I feel all the time. I only know 3 other ppl that talk more me, I have a lot to say. I love saying how I feel. I don’t enjoy keeping my feelings to myself. I let him know a quite wife is a dangerous person 🤣🙏🏻
Work on building a healthy relationship and falling in love with the person that you see everyday, who has been through so much pain and heartache, but still manages to gets through it all.❤️
💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship
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NERTZ!!!! Yes!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
This is absolutely beautiful
Thank you so much! 🧡
Oh wow this one is a deep one
Question for everyone. Who are you inspired by seriously?
I'll go first ( no order) - Jocko, Pat McNamara, Jordan Peterson, Tim Ferriss, Vigilance Elite, Ed Calderon, Gracie Family, Robert Greene, Alux, Hubermanlab, Tom Bilyeu, Terrence Popp, George Gammon, Robert Kiyosaki, Ken McElroy, Lewis Howes, Snordster, Real Men Real Style, Think Media Podcast Among others....
Full Red Moon 9th, and my Birthday !
You are a beautiful human. Thank you for what you’re doing (you know!) ❤️✨
You're welcome🧡
Everybody ,and Esther get a handel, no perfect relationShip in this experience of being alive