Stop Chasing LOVE & Do This Instead To Find Love! | Martha Higareda & Lewis Howes

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  • Опубликовано: 7 янв 2025

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  • @lewishowes
    @lewishowes  Год назад +446

    www.netflix.com/title/81398899 - Watch Martha's new film Queens On The Run!

    • @marialara2648
      @marialara2648 Год назад +5

      I am watching it today

    • @deesmoon3845
      @deesmoon3845 Год назад +4

      It’s on my Netflix watch list!

    • @imyourvenus5480
      @imyourvenus5480 Год назад +23

      What a Lucky Man, Lewis!!!!!!!!! She's Beautiful and Talented? What? You hit the Jackpot ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @Cravenn5
      @Cravenn5 Год назад +3

      Watching on Sunday relax time❤️

    • @dublingirl1691
      @dublingirl1691 Год назад +2

      Just started watching it!! ☘️😁

  • @mkarasfilms
    @mkarasfilms Год назад +349

    "If you want to control somebody, get a dog." - She couldn't have said it best! I love her energy and wisdom!

    • @estherhirsch4460
      @estherhirsch4460 9 месяцев назад +5

      Martha is so articulate and authentic. You've had the most amazing people on your program, but Martha is #1. Happy for both of you. Every person dating should hear Martha'swisdom.

  • @haifa7292
    @haifa7292 Год назад +136

    Dear Universe, a relationship like this 💗 thank you 🙏🏼

  • @pinktink77vp
    @pinktink77vp 10 месяцев назад +87

    I love this. I used to work with relationship coaches and I said it years ago, over a decade, that "you complete me," is SO Co-dependent it is NOT healthy. The healthy relationship is comprised of 2 independently complete people who love each other, get along, want to grow together, and CAN live without each other but don't WANT to. I love you guys. Thank you for spreading the healthy relationship message. We need more of this❣

    • @joan_of_arts
      @joan_of_arts 4 месяца назад +1

      Yes true that means so much songs with those lyrics and movies with those dialogues are promoting codependency and yes I'm one of those who got influenced huhu

  • @lopezmartosl
    @lopezmartosl Год назад +364

    I loved the way he introduced her and the way he stared at her 😊❤

  • @ashlynnleray5640
    @ashlynnleray5640 Год назад +515

    Mature love is deep, healthy, and intentional. You guys have done a fantastic job highlighting this fact. What a beautiful conversation!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +25

      Thank you!

    • @7775OMEGA
      @7775OMEGA Год назад +9

      Totaly agree, such a nice points of view. helping other to grow.

    • @catherinedao1592
      @catherinedao1592 11 месяцев назад +3

      That is s greatest ideas of Healthy and Mature Love.
      You have to be happy yourself then you have happiness to give to someone you love. Someone comes to your life just makes you happier not take away your happiness. You have to feel freedom in love not prison.
      Wonderful couple. Congratulations guys

    • @mariaandres2422
      @mariaandres2422 9 месяцев назад +1

      What a great conversation it makes me feel grownups.. I'm single and I'm not looking for love just waiting for the right time. God bless u both 😊

    • @annagokieli1497
      @annagokieli1497 6 месяцев назад

      Im 45 and only now do i feel truly ready for "mature love". As hard as its been to prepare for love I am so grateful i didn't commit before i was truly ready.

  • @MATILDOLL
    @MATILDOLL Год назад +118

    I wish for someone to look at me the way Lewis looks at Martha. This is so inspiring. 😊

    • @tanyaangel142
      @tanyaangel142 11 месяцев назад +2

      Yes, truly amazing. And she deserves that look completely! ❤❤❤

  • @mtaya97
    @mtaya97 Год назад +380

    “You’re not my whole world, but you are a big gigantic planet in my solar system.”
    “You don’t make me happy. You make me happier.”

    • @carloss2202
      @carloss2202 Год назад +2

      Lewis had to say exactly the same about she... but for a woman around 40 years old there is few chance to build a real family with sons only Cats and dogs

    • @Catherinestoring
      @Catherinestoring Год назад +1

      Yessss those parts!!!!

  • @aleidagonzalez9558
    @aleidagonzalez9558 Год назад +201

    "When you're trying to change someone else, it says: YOU DON'T LOVE THEM DEEPLY"... I got the chills.

    • @theresacameron107
      @theresacameron107 Год назад +10

      Why I am sending this podcast to many women I know! I’m all about not trying to fix or change others.

    • @aleidagonzalez9558
      @aleidagonzalez9558 Год назад +4

      @@theresacameron107 Well, you may be trying to change the women you know? Nah, maybe it's just me projecting... it's a great podcast, share it to everybody.

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +1

      SO true :)

    • @2009baglady
      @2009baglady Год назад

      I’m shooook!

    • @ivannagutierrez1009
      @ivannagutierrez1009 Год назад

      Naahh mija la persona juzga no accepts y Esta solo usando su ego y el ego no ama es el opuesto Al amor 😅😅

  • @Alexaofearth
    @Alexaofearth Год назад +113

    I am Mexican and I love this woman! And I appreciate you two. Y’all make me believe in love again.

    • @JGallis
      @JGallis Год назад +1

      Love is always there, we just have to 🐝 mindful of who we choose to share it with.

  • @Elizakmx
    @Elizakmx Год назад +307

    1.Rejection
    2. Abandonment
    3. Humiliation
    4. Treason - Betrayal
    5. Shame
    Inner child wounds.

    • @speakintothemicb
      @speakintothemicb Год назад +32

      Crazy when you deal with all 5 from childhood but are required to work through it alone as an adult.

    • @PatriciaTrueTh
      @PatriciaTrueTh Год назад +5

      ​@@speakintothemicbthat is so true, I have always try to do the oposit in regard to hide who really am, I don't want suppleness to lie to me, therefore i son lie to them, i want to know the goals, the values, and with all that I'm struggling with the rejection i suffered as child

    • @MariaStFleur
      @MariaStFleur Год назад +9

      How to heal? Can I have her therapists information?

    • @shoirayusupova2198
      @shoirayusupova2198 Год назад +4

      She said that her therapist is Nilda. Could be Nilda Chiaraviglio.

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 9 месяцев назад +1

      4:00 The concept of YOU COMPLETE ME IS WRONG‼️‼️❗️‼️
      5:40😆🤣😂🤣

  • @carlareginaga
    @carlareginaga Год назад +644

    Look at your face Lewis 😍 you are so much in love. We can see it and it’s beautiful 💖✨

    • @LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj
      @LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj Год назад +22

      She is Amazing woman ,has a beautiful aura

    • @ABC-here
      @ABC-here Год назад +15

      They look so adorable together, were glowing and it looks just so perfect!

    • @malawigoldelephantmarsh6578
      @malawigoldelephantmarsh6578 Год назад +15

      Exactly what I felt! I realized when I was smiling ear to ear. I love that for them. 💗

    • @dusicaisalov5186
      @dusicaisalov5186 Год назад +8

      We want part two of this episode:)

    • @hiroko_tarot
      @hiroko_tarot Год назад +8

      i like the monent u two say i love u to each other...😂🎉❤ makes me cry.

  • @blissfulbaboon
    @blissfulbaboon Год назад +64

    I'm so glad Martha emphasized how important healing your inner child is.
    May you both have a long and meaningful experience together😊

  • @pattynguyen7167
    @pattynguyen7167 Год назад +347

    Would definitely love a Part 2. I didn’t think I’d enjoy this as much being that I’m single and assumed it was content made for couples. But I took away SO much valuable information and insight. The world desperately needs to see/hear more stories of truly healthy and authentic relationships.

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +3

      Yes! part 2 please ❤

    • @karlamerriam
      @karlamerriam Год назад

      I echo this response to the T.
      Thank you!!!

    • @genna2586
      @genna2586 Год назад +1

      Totally agree with a part 2! Very inspiring and heartfelt messages that really resonate. Please do a second part to include your 3:04 thoughts on how your journey is going.

    • @gabrielacastro6727
      @gabrielacastro6727 Год назад +2

      Exactly!!! Really worth content ❤

    • @stephtoledo2327
      @stephtoledo2327 Год назад +1

      Part 2 pls ❤

  • @4evercath
    @4evercath Год назад +82

    Please invite Martha to your show more! She's so wise, eloquent and on the point! I learn so much from her, maybe even more than from some of the other guests. :) It is also very sweet to see how a successful relationship/marriage actually looks like through both of you when there's such a marriage avoidance culture among men in the US with the 50% divorce rate like a horror fable story. I love her metaphor of having your own universe and the love partner is just one of the bright star in it, at the same time, we need to accept to just be a bright star of our partner's universe as well, not the sun, or the whole world to our men/women, so very different from the dragon slaying stories/movies where men have to risk their life to save us.

  • @DeniseShannon-sl6tc
    @DeniseShannon-sl6tc Год назад +85

    Thank you, Martha and Lewis, for sharing of yourselves so vulnerably, authentically and
    honestly. Please, please, please continue your conversation with Part 2. The example of your conversation: you "see" and "hear" one another. Beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you! The world needs to see what a healthy relationship between two responsible adults looks like and is possible for each one of us when we CHOOSE to work on healing ourselves, first.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +10

      Appreciate you and your support. 🧡

    • @happilydivorced3235
      @happilydivorced3235 Год назад +9

      Nothing is as beautiful as a healed couple.💚💚💚

  • @amyg-money1892
    @amyg-money1892 Год назад +139

    Lewis & Martha, my biggest take away from this Interview is the Values & how we love ourselves first and also that without that Growth, maturity, experiences and alignment, it's almost impossible to have a Loving Balanced relationship. I related to the both of you SO much and I am grateful for you both!!! I am proud of you both! ❤️💜

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +15

      Thank you for taking the time out of your day to check out the interview! So glad you enjoyed it🧡

  • @karissajones2294
    @karissajones2294 Год назад +162

    I’m only 23 minutes in, but I’m so happy for both of you to find this type of love, connection and maturity. The fact that you’ve both worked on yourselves as individuals is evident. ❤

    • @Jay-ef2ii
      @Jay-ef2ii Год назад +1

      @karissa Jones: Are you crazy?! I was into the first 5 minutes and I got the full picture of this messed up relationship. That woman will only drain him mentally and heart-wise. It's not about them but it's about her only. I believe that both parties have been married before, but it's a bad move. It's best if this host ends up with someone Young. Some one unmolested! California has so many women to date especially young ladies and he ends up with this old foggie. Really?! This is a joke! It's bad comedy. April 23, 2023. USA.

    • @DeniseShannon-sl6tc
      @DeniseShannon-sl6tc Год назад +2

      @jay-
      It's obvious, Martha's vulnerability intimidates your insecurities about who you are. Stay exactly who you are. What we don't change, WE CHOOSE. You will attract exactly who you are, which is the OPPOSITE of who Lewis and Martha are: a manipulating, controlling, dominating, insecure adult, reacting as a traumatized child in an adult body. I wish you the happy, fulfilling life of your dreams you so deserve!

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 9 месяцев назад

      Are they married?

    • @Dua373
      @Dua373 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Jay-ef2iiyou are sick !!😢 i feel sorry for you. She is Young and beautiful, inside and out. You see through your heart

    • @Dua373
      @Dua373 3 месяца назад

      @@DeniseShannon-sl6tcthank you!! He is sick soul

  • @morticia2904
    @morticia2904 Год назад +12

    This is what a healthy, healed, emotionally mature relationship looks like thank you.

  • @anchaleeintac.2195
    @anchaleeintac.2195 Год назад +23

    MY take aways: 1. Put yourself first (specially your health), 2. When you don’t feel secure in your relationship, you begging trying to control the other person, and that may come from not feeling good enough yourself, if they betray you, they weren’t the person for you, 3. Everything is information, is not personal.

  • @dimcg7445
    @dimcg7445 Год назад +97

    I met this two at the Dr Joe Dispenza's retreat. I get the chance to hug them. Both of them are humble. Martha is super sweet! I manifested Lewis to see at the retreat and it happened with the plus. So grateful to see them! 🙌❤️🙌

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +7

      🧡

    • @ceciaosorio2331
      @ceciaosorio2331 Год назад +1

      I would love to go to those retreats!

    • @dimcg7445
      @dimcg7445 Год назад +3

      @@ceciaosorio2331 You won't regret it! Best happened to me!

    • @1216miriam
      @1216miriam Год назад +1

      Do you recommend the retreat?

    • @dimcg7445
      @dimcg7445 Год назад +2

      @@1216miriam i would! It help a lot of making the right decision. When you're there, you will be sorrounded with so much energy and love. You will heal that way coz everybody is in the same page!

  • @PameHdz13
    @PameHdz13 Год назад +56

    I’d love a part 2!! Martha is soooo wise and I don’t think we in Mexico acknowledge it enough 🥹

  • @elisaramosrodriguez3212
    @elisaramosrodriguez3212 Год назад +177

    He seguido a Lewis ya por varios años y me encanta su programa y sabía que tenia una relación con una Latina ❤ pero jamás creí que fuera con Martha Higareda 🥰♥️ Felicidades a los 2. Que orgullo que una Latina sea pareja de este hombre increíblemente talentoso que nos trae siempre información invaluable al alcance de todos. Martha cuídalo!!!! Ya me siento súper orgullosa de ti ♥️🥰

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +26

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

    • @jacquelinereyes5109
      @jacquelinereyes5109 Год назад +10

      On the contrary he got way lucky with Martha. Either way, I wish them the best of love. It is cute to see Martha with a man that enjoys learning to be a better person, and that too has his own podcast. Please treat Martha right. I want to see her live the happily ever after!

    • @NathanlovesAna
      @NathanlovesAna Год назад

      Muy bien dicho Elisa! Pienso lo mismo ❤

    • @aracelihernandez5221
      @aracelihernandez5221 Год назад +3

      😱😱😱No sabía esto que dices,neta, qué fregón esto ,Miles de bendiciones para ellos .Me tiene con boca abierta la Martha ,muy bien ella ,él ,súper genial ,ya lo veía antes ,ahora lo veré más a este hombre divino .

    • @patriciareddy
      @patriciareddy Год назад +12

      No se dice Martha cuídalo, sino "Lewis cuida a Martha", más bien debe ser mutuo.

  • @soulprintslifecoaching
    @soulprintslifecoaching Год назад +58

    I don't understand how this doesn't have a million likes and views yet. Thank you for putting this out there. It has helped me tremendously!! Definitely want to see a part 2.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +5

      You're welcome,thank you for watching🧡

  • @sarinagold1869
    @sarinagold1869 Год назад +17

    Her voice is so sweet! Love the healthiness of this relationship

  • @angelieavenie5741
    @angelieavenie5741 9 месяцев назад +25

    He asked her, "why do women go out with the troubled man...as opposed to the healthy man?" A, she replied,, "I think it has to do with your past, it has to do your inner child...it has to do with unresolved trauma.... You start lookinng at your past". That is so relatable for me. Just recently, I reflected on my past fails and relationships & I realized the problem....that I never learned early on in life how to maintain a relationship.

  • @anamadrigal1111
    @anamadrigal1111 Год назад +141

    Que alegría años de seguir a Lewis y saber que comparte una historia de amor con Martha Higareda VIVA MÉXICO !

    • @yarahingutierrez6006
      @yarahingutierrez6006 Год назад +6

      ❤❤ viva México 🇲🇽

    • @anasifitthesmarteatingcoac1441
      @anasifitthesmarteatingcoac1441 Год назад +6

      Omg I didn't knew you guys were together! Totally awesome!

    • @lillyrocks2011
      @lillyrocks2011 Год назад +8

      Porqué dicen "Viva México" por cosa que no. Pues si no se trata de la nacionalidad ,sino de lo persona, algo independiente, de dónde se sea. Él está enamorado de ella, como ser humano, no por una nacionalidad.
      El nacionalismo de algunos es irritante en un país donde mucho más de la mitad de la población vive en pobreza, el narco está a todo lo que da, gobiernos de gente ignorante, egoístas, corruptisimos, pero algunos viven en la burbuja de "no pasa nada"
      Mientras eso no cambia el "viva México" sale sobrando y es hasta ridículo.
      Y no es contra de Martha, porque ella sí es una buena persona, pero da pena cómo tienen a México la gente que ha gobernado y gobiernan (todos los partidos la misma mentalidad de robarnos,tener mucho poder y empobrecer a la población).
      Así que un "viva México" sale sobrando.
      Yo diría "empobrecido y corruptisimo México, no lo merecemos!!"

    • @claudelatorre6818
      @claudelatorre6818 11 месяцев назад

      Que chingon!!!

    • @claudelatorre6818
      @claudelatorre6818 11 месяцев назад

      Que chingon!!!

  • @maribelmarini2819
    @maribelmarini2819 Год назад +16

    1:37:13 I’m 55 years old, married and with 2 children and I never realized how important was to work in knowing myself before get to know a partner. The key work in the art of happiness and in the successful life is working in our inner child wounds and be clear who you are before to choose anyone to share the life with you. This was kind of masterclass for teenagers to adults to thinking seriously how to build healthy relationship . Felicitaciones a los 2 por su excelente ejemplo!!!!

  • @virginiaherrera9321
    @virginiaherrera9321 Год назад +23

    You guys give me hope and faith that real love does exist. Please do this more!

  • @tnns4l287
    @tnns4l287 Год назад +84

    I did not have any idea how much this episode would help me as I navigate my own life... please part 2. Martha is amazing with her words

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +4

      Thank you!

    • @antoniavasile63
      @antoniavasile63 Год назад +3

      Yess I clicked on the video out of curiously and ended up going back several times, taking notes and realizing my wounds and those of my loved ones 😮❤

  • @lotusdedart
    @lotusdedart Год назад +161

    I loved seeing her love for you Lewis, everyone deserves love, but you especially Lewis. You've given so much to people and are always growing into an even more amazing person. Thanks for the interview Lewis ❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +12

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

    • @win05
      @win05 Год назад +4

      Yes I do. This is very informative and both of you are open and honest 😊

  • @marielavivero2647
    @marielavivero2647 9 месяцев назад +1

    I don’t have enough words to express how great this was. Love you guys together! This is exactly what I learned about relationships but it took kissing many frogs to have clarity. I’m still single, but I look at myself so differently, I had to really heal from so much that single is ok. I’ve learned to love myself first. Love you guys and yessss another one of these would be amazing! ❤❤

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  9 месяцев назад

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

  • @michellethechallenger747
    @michellethechallenger747 Год назад +329

    Love this conversation!! As a Mexican I admired Martha a lot as an actress, however as a person a lot more 😘 Amazing couple 👏🏻❤️

  • @zealiabella8553
    @zealiabella8553 Год назад +64

    It was just so inspiring to see the two of you reaping the fruits of your individual inner healings. You both have modelled what a healthy relationship looks like. Two people building each other up and celebrating your own uniqueness. I would love to see another video of you both sharing your experiences and wisdoms. All the best to you both.💜

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +5

      Appreciate you and your support🧡

  • @StephenScoggins
    @StephenScoggins Год назад +1

    Man Martha!! Lewis Randy said she was awesome, but “seeing I love you through the eyes of another” dude! Powerful ! Much love you too. Congrats to you both !

  • @consummatel
    @consummatel Год назад +37

    Yes part 2 please! What a beautiful example of two humans loving each other deeply and supporting each and choosing each other to adventure in life together! I was emotional at the end when they spoke in gratitude of each others love ❤ what a beautiful example to follow in my own relationship❤

  • @drchen6424
    @drchen6424 Год назад +5

    She is one of the most insightful relationship experts I’ve ever seen you interview. And she wasn’t even introduced as a relationship expert! Thank you for sharing her greatness with your audience. I feel that could have been somewhat scary and intimidating for you too. It took real cajones to expose to the world what a smart and wise woman she is.

  • @jayelle1102
    @jayelle1102 10 месяцев назад +4

    For anyone wondering… the 5 wounds she is talking about is from a book : Heal your wounds and find your true self by Lise Bourbeau. In french: Les 5 blessures qui empêchent d’être soi-même.

  • @lilmermaid2930
    @lilmermaid2930 Год назад +18

    Everything she said resonates deep within my soul!! Values are so so important!! I always try to change the person thinking I’m helping them! I want to love someone unconditionally and for who they are! I am manifesting someone who loves me for me! 💙🌌💫

  • @dianabrenes777
    @dianabrenes777 Год назад +13

    Martha!!! You go Girl!!! You are my definition of an "EVOLVED WOMAN"
    THANKS FOR BEING YOU ❤!!!!

  • @Taashuzzz
    @Taashuzzz 2 месяца назад

    How lucky she is to express each and everything in front of his spouse.its because of his respect to her which made her special and confident more. Love and respect for you both.

  • @Wombpriestesss
    @Wombpriestesss Год назад +6

    Martha is such a sweet heart, you can tell she’s done a whole lot of inner work& other things to grow as a person. I love her heart based words!

  • @aysandunga_3762
    @aysandunga_3762 Год назад +117

    Vine aquí a decirte que este es el amor que todas merecemos y me da mucho gusto que lo estés viviendo!!!

    • @plentyoflife
      @plentyoflife Год назад +7

      el amor, las finanzas, las casas, autos, ciudades, sociedades, TODO SE CONSTRUYE, nada se merece

    • @gra_mandalasmandaleandoando
      @gra_mandalasmandaleandoando Год назад +3

      Todo lo que podemos ver dentro de nuestra realidad es porque es posible, y ellos vienen a mostrarnos que es posible para el que lo ve ❤

    • @ivyfariassantos
      @ivyfariassantos Год назад +1

      Sí! Todas nosotras merecemos ese tipo de amor. Eres para nosotras tambien. Universo, mostre para nosotras.

    • @mar_dma
      @mar_dma Год назад +1

      @@plentyoflifetienes que saber y sentir que lo mereces antes de construir, si no se derrumba.

    • @dididodi652
      @dididodi652 Год назад +1

      Espérate que huela el primer pedo asqueroso que se tiren y veremos si aún siguen así.. Ellis están con la enfermedad del amor. No ves defectos . No ves más allá del futuro.. no ves cosas que te molestan del otro y el otro no lo he en ti.. aún ella tiene progesterona y están en la etapa de procreación... Espera pase eso y muy muy pocos se quedan juntos.

  • @rosyalmazan6330
    @rosyalmazan6330 8 дней назад

    We need more shows about this topic . It’s also very important to talk about expectations in relationships

  • @JenniferLett2011
    @JenniferLett2011 Год назад +21

    Bawling my eyes out at how open and loving this was. So helpful and absolutely life-changing for me to see two independent people love each other so openly and in such a dynamic way. Really inspiring conversation with two humans who have learned to love themselves, help others, and align with their person. So cool.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +3

      Thank you so much for your kind words 🧡

  • @cynthiatat
    @cynthiatat Год назад +36

    YES - I love Martha's insights. Please bring her in for a regular segment 😊

  • @GabrielBrown-q4n
    @GabrielBrown-q4n Год назад +24

    I am Mexican married to an American woman. Same like you, but the opposite. The biggest challenge we have had has been the cultural differences. I was raised and educated in Mexico City and she in the USA. I would love for you guys to do a show about cultural differences and how to deal with them. How have you done so that your cultural differences do not affect your relationship?

    • @KarlaGarcia-rs3oi
      @KarlaGarcia-rs3oi Год назад

      I totally agree

    • @Majesty12-12
      @Majesty12-12 11 месяцев назад

      Cultural differences will be just that always different, unchanging. You just adapt to that and go with the flow of things. People always identify with their cultures and upbringing, its not something that changes overtime. This is why its important to first evaluate if cultures differ if that's something your willing to be accepting of in the other person. Tradition and culture always shows in people. It's best to refrain from getting involved with someone that you can't accept their culture because there's always disagreements that will happen and you can't change someone else for yourself to be pleased.

    • @aplik881
      @aplik881 11 месяцев назад

      Hi friend, it is not something easy to anticipate contrarily to what the other answer said. We learn on the go, feel stressed, misunderstood or whatever by thw other person reaction, and it takes time to figurw out that these oppositions are in dact different perspectives. However this is cultural and this is as well individual, becaise ain't each if us building our own culture in a way, even inside one or several culture. So it get ti the same point, see the other person take away as alternatives in this world and not fundamentally something against our views or personal. How you guys have been doing with tjese differences? One love. We are on one Planet you know,we can work it out

  • @johnlombardo7816
    @johnlombardo7816 Год назад +90

    Yes!! Not only do we need a part 2.. this needs to be a regular segment please !! So amazing! You guys are a wonderful representation of the meaning of love. ..matter of fact ... .please get you Two and jay and radhi together for a monthly episode please ❤❤❤

  • @rainbowtouch797
    @rainbowtouch797 Год назад +4

    I want to have relationship like Lewis has with Martha.
    Thank you for being constant role model and sharing timeless truth

  • @_lines_of_joy
    @_lines_of_joy 24 дня назад +1

    I love everything she’s saying❤ I love what she said “scare him early”. So wise!! Love her❤

  • @jessicahe7535
    @jessicahe7535 Год назад +9

    Encore please! Part 2, 3, 4, 5, and so on!! We need more conversations of knowledge and wisdom with Lewis and Martha! Thank you for sharing your healthy love relationship

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @kellytaylarkarim1608
    @kellytaylarkarim1608 Год назад +51

    Loved this talk! Martha is a freaking boss standing in her personal power in a way that awes me!!! Yesss please to parts 2,3,4,5!!!

    • @marthahigareda8
      @marthahigareda8 Год назад +4

      Thank you Kelly!

    • @claudiafegari5116
      @claudiafegari5116 Год назад +1

      I second that, Kelly!!! :)
      I would like to add the end brought tears to my eyes, when they expressed their gratitude, sharing what they have learned from each other so far... :)

  • @JazminGeronimo-y3p
    @JazminGeronimo-y3p Год назад +3

    Wow! I’m Mexican-American.
    I was fallowing Martha Higadera and Lewis independently way before they were together. Seeing them together is very joyful.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      Thank you! Your support means a lot🧡

  • @Vi_Vi_1
    @Vi_Vi_1 Год назад +16

    These types of things are so important to me because they help me have hope that these good relationships can exist. After a lifetime of abuse and trauma, I'm really working on healing and reframing things, and stuff like this is such a gift on my journey, so thank you

    • @barbaraclayton6053
      @barbaraclayton6053 Год назад +1

      Wow this is awesome VV! It takes a hell of a lot of courage to face your shadow-self and heal the wounds that keep you and happy. I have done much can't sing in group therapy for myself and now I love myself unconditionally more everyday and I am so very deeply grateful that I had the courage to do it. !
      Because it is worth it to be able to see the world in a whole different perspective 💕🦄💕

    • @Vi_Vi_1
      @Vi_Vi_1 Год назад

      @@barbaraclayton6053 Thank you Barbara! May we both continue on this path and create wonderful lives!

    • @boygates6511
      @boygates6511 Год назад +2

      Sending good healing vibes!! ❤

  • @jef9688
    @jef9688 Год назад +5

    What a privilege to listen to you two talk about your very thoughtful relationship.

  • @linda.cooks.
    @linda.cooks. Год назад

    Martha's English is amazing! Lewis' introduction was just the most perfect definition of love and admiration for your special one.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @alexvaloficial
    @alexvaloficial Год назад +33

    ¡Ustedes son una inspiración de verdad! Qué relación tan bonita y sana. Me encantan los podcasts de ambos. ¡Qué viva el amor! ❤

  • @cindygonzalez5052
    @cindygonzalez5052 Год назад +19

    Going through this process it’s crazy how she literally put in words everything I have been thinking and healing. Amazing! I feel very identified and it’s a confirmation I’m on the right path. 🙏 blessed and refreshing to hear all this. ❤️‍🩹

  • @ClarisaMompremier
    @ClarisaMompremier 11 месяцев назад +1

    her metaphor about someone being part of your universe...was genius!!

  • @fatboyannie
    @fatboyannie Год назад +31

    Yes for part 2
    I see why Lewis loves Martha. I like her within 20 mins. Look at Martha’s eyes when she talks, she is completely open and truthful!
    I didn’t want to change my ex, I try to accept him. But how can you accept someone when he doesn’t know who he is, and cannot be open about it. I said I need to leave so he doesn’t need to change to tell his truth. Some people are not ready to get to know themselves.
    Omg she said it feels like family, he said which part of the family, I thought …the abandonment or the way she doesn’t explain anything part of my mother was my ex husband lol.

    • @eugenegauggel1000
      @eugenegauggel1000 Год назад +1

      So true. some people can't be helped either.

    • @HeartFireSessions
      @HeartFireSessions Год назад

      Sometimes accepting people as they are means seeing that that’s where they are at, and then changing the configuration of the relationship so that it is also right for you.
      Like, “ok, this is the way you are. I’m not ok with someone like that being my intimate partner, so we should just be friends.”

    • @fatboyannie
      @fatboyannie Год назад

      @@HeartFireSessions very true. It took me a while to figure that out, then more time to walk away. If one is not on a mindful journey, it is not easy to realize what’s going on and not react to it.

  • @anaisaerksen
    @anaisaerksen Год назад +13

    What a great conversation, thanks for sharing!
    I'm 38 and just got out of the most unhealthy/toxic relationship I've ever been in and find myself in so much of what you're saying.
    This gives me hope.
    You seem to be a wonderful couple. All the best to you!
    Would love to hear more.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @gerrycelotto561
    @gerrycelotto561 Месяц назад

    Yes, talk about when things are not in total alignments, love not being enough (which I know is true 😞), boundaries, shared visions conscientiously, also how each partner becomes aware of the other’s reasonable needs without feeling it’s a demand.

  • @Sliickriick
    @Sliickriick Год назад +5

    When she said that a man doesn’t feel like he’s enough even though he gives the girl everything. I definitely felt that. My ex would told me I wasn’t enough plenty of times. Until now I had it ingrained in my brain that I’ll never be enough for someone. Jaa now I know that it’s not me it was her. Gracias

  • @v9b23j
    @v9b23j Год назад +14

    What a beautiful and mature conversation. Lewis and Martha, you embody the conscious couple.

  • @deannehorner-godlove8982
    @deannehorner-godlove8982 Год назад +8

    I’ve followed you for several years. This is one of my favorites!! Thank you for sharing this much needed conversation! You two are simply delightful!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @anonimochenta4439
    @anonimochenta4439 Год назад +2

    Well, i just read the news they got engaged. I didnt know the guy, sorry. Have seen Higadera since she was super young back in Mexico and I always liked her personality. I am very happy to see her this happy and I am very happy to see that he seems like a really good guy.

  • @mp7140
    @mp7140 Год назад +9

    What a wonderful conversation and how sweet and wise Martha is.
    Also how well she can express herself. It was a pleasure to listen.

  • @adrianaaagaardsommer3466
    @adrianaaagaardsommer3466 Год назад +16

    Martha for president!❤
    I’ve learned more about the way I react in relationships from this conversation than I have during the last twenty years and I have worked hard on myself. This conversation explained so much for me. Thank you love birds ❤

  • @user-pk5pl7ox1e
    @user-pk5pl7ox1e Год назад

    I think when you give and recieve love in certain ways and it matches organically for the other person is just BEAUTIFUL

  • @tHiSfUgGgiNdUdE
    @tHiSfUgGgiNdUdE Год назад +6

    Yes! I definitley want a Part 2 to this conversation please. Listening to the two of you discuss these things has really helped me re-center myself for my own growth. The journey has been rough lately and this helped me to keep pressing on. Also, just hearing how much she loves you is really wholesome and beautiful. So yes please. Part 2 ASAP.

  • @glovazquez5865
    @glovazquez5865 Год назад +3

    Martha is an old soul that has awakened

  • @eyle1154
    @eyle1154 Год назад +1

    So many compliments when ppl do not notice that these two ppl are gorgeous. It really is easy to love and be loved when you are attractive. You are then positive brave and confident. I would like to hear from ppl who do not have all this from the start. How are these ppl going to live?

    • @blessingjennifer24
      @blessingjennifer24 10 месяцев назад

      They work on gorgeousness and attractiveness then

  • @itzaliadenizard1933
    @itzaliadenizard1933 Год назад +6

    I wouldn't have never guessed that these two would end up together. I am beyond happy for both of you. You're the perfect match made in heaven ❤ Keep up the great work.

  • @LoveeeeelyM
    @LoveeeeelyM Год назад +47

    Absolutely we need a part 2 pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
    I loved this episode! Sent it to a bunch of people and took notes. Thank you so much for this incredible gem 💎♥️🫶🏻

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +7

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening.

    • @PatriciaTrueTh
      @PatriciaTrueTh Год назад +1

      We will love the second part, certainly is plenty of wisdom, and for that i want to thank you for helping this human to be a better person. ❤

  • @Meandyou-b7e
    @Meandyou-b7e 4 месяца назад

    After watching this, a year ago, I started to look at my relationships. I started to look for my wounds and in the first place I said that I don't have any ...that this is just not true but then I discovered why I was jealous. I felt like I could not control myself. Thanks to this interview I did what she said. Why getting in these relationships when you could take therapy and heal first before looking for a new relationship. This is how a person can literally change other people's lives, by being authentic and talking from experience and being able to face its own fears, thanks Martha you really saved me by narcissistic men because that was my pattern which I discovered after I dug for a while. 🎉

  • @임수-h7t
    @임수-h7t Год назад +9

    I actually applied her advice to the friendships that I have often found challenging to carry on.

  • @jenn2025
    @jenn2025 Год назад +11

    Yessss please!!! best interview on Love and Relationship ever listened. There's such a higher sense of self in both of you that makes it enriching and so potent. We want more #2 for sure. Thanks Lewis Howes grateful for you

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡

  • @vickig6080
    @vickig6080 10 месяцев назад

    Abandonment can also be not getting emotional connection or validation even if both parents are present. Thank you for your candor, openness, and wisdom. Healing and communication is so important. ❤

  • @zhannas3033
    @zhannas3033 Год назад +10

    It’s so beautiful to watch two awakened people creating a beautiful loving relationship together ❤

  • @lizparenzan4761
    @lizparenzan4761 Год назад +4

    Lewis' best podcast. Brought tears to my eyes regarding the love between these two.

  • @PennyNelson
    @PennyNelson Год назад +33

    Thank you both. What an extraordinary conversation! We should be taught this in school. ❤ So many people are children of dysfunctional relationships. How far we have to go.

    • @ainatler
      @ainatler Год назад +3

      Agree! We need this type of education in the classrooms.

    • @yvettesantillanes
      @yvettesantillanes Год назад +3

      Same thing I said! This would be great in school.

  • @cos1beauty83
    @cos1beauty83 Год назад +9

    I wish I would’ve listened to this before getting married and having kids.. now I have no clue how to leave 💔😭

    • @emilyreitnauer8658
      @emilyreitnauer8658 9 месяцев назад

      I'm in the same boat. Have to trust the universe's timing.

    • @elishaboatman9693
      @elishaboatman9693 Месяц назад

      Me three! I’m going to save this and make my kids watch this before they start dating!!!

  • @redthings8
    @redthings8 7 месяцев назад

    Wow, I am going through having lost my husband, who I did have as the importance in my life. Now, I am doing the work to find what I truly need to be happy. The problem is I still want someone to just hangout with. This show is a big help for my healing. THANK YOU, LEWIS!!

  • @dharaneemartinez4796
    @dharaneemartinez4796 Год назад +23

    I was so happy to see that you’d be interviewing one of our great Mexican actors and ecstatic when I learned of your relationship 🎉 I rarely post comments, clearly I had to make an exception. The love is off the charts! 💕 Thank you for this and all of your interviews 😊

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад +1

      You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

  • @tnyqueen
    @tnyqueen Год назад +8

    I'm watching Martha's interview of Lewis and it's so good. Can't wait to watch this one too!

  • @roxanneflores13
    @roxanneflores13 Год назад

    Thanks!

  • @bff4877
    @bff4877 Год назад +4

    I thought Lewis will propose in the end of the interview 😍 you are both fortunate to be with each other ♥️❤️

  • @Peanut_Butter_Jam
    @Peanut_Butter_Jam Год назад +3

    We are so honored to hear Martha's input. Thank you Lewis for another wonderful interview. She is a sister, a friend, a mother for all of us who dont have such a figure in our lives. What a beauty with brains! And what a great looking couple you are.

  • @DJSC5618
    @DJSC5618 22 дня назад

    Thank you ❤ onto a great Re-start this 2025 of finding myself, ...to heal, learn, grow and be whole again to find and give authentic love.
    Blessings to all of you ❤

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz 9 месяцев назад +4

    oh my gosh, did not expect to start crying when the two of you reached across the table to hold hands. Congratulations. So happy for both of you.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @LL-fc5fo
    @LL-fc5fo Год назад +11

    Hour 1:20:32 WOW maturity is clear. No need to fight for being a priority. Your cup is full and is willing to give naturally. ❤❤❤ best convo guys! Thank you!
    Martha explaining the protection and safety is so true! I am in charge of my safety no one else!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Год назад

      Thank you so much for watching!

  • @traceykerr572
    @traceykerr572 8 месяцев назад +1

    Love Martha We’d really enjoy more talks by her on relationships she has an incredible perspective and can help me and so many others

  • @monicadinca2821
    @monicadinca2821 Год назад +8

    I am on this journey to discover my self more than 11 years and I am extremely grateful for this amazing podcast, where is condensed years and years for healing, Lewis and Martha, both of us you helped a lot of people with your beautiful story.
    Thank you so much!
    Be blessed with LOVE ❤

    • @lilmermaid2930
      @lilmermaid2930 Год назад

      GREATNESS ❤ THIS WAS ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!! Thank you!!

  • @talhyoblitas1602
    @talhyoblitas1602 Год назад +13

    You guys are great together!!.....this episode is fantastic 👏🏼, so many of us thinking about finding our other half 😢 when in real life first we have to find ourselves ❤

  • @bereczki_toth_noemi
    @bereczki_toth_noemi 7 месяцев назад

    OMG, I love this! ❤️
    I loved especially what you said about your priorities, Lewis! I just wrote a priority list for myself 2 days ago and the first two were the same, in the exact same order, for the same reasons.
    I've been with my husband for 16 years and we have 4 kids together, but what I realised early on in my life is that you are your first responsibility. Just what Martha said, you cannot take care of others unless you take care of yourself first.
    But I kind of forgot about it for a while and it took its toll on me.
    I had to actually grow into that mindset and heal a lot of my trauma (there's still a lot to heal, though...) not just to understand all of this but to have a deep knowing about the truth of it.
    Really, you've been talking about all my realisations and my journey in healing throughout the whole conversation!
    This was soooo inspiring and empowering! Thank you so much to both of you for being so authentic! You are role models!❤🙏

  • @latisalserica6393
    @latisalserica6393 Год назад +4

    yes part 2 would be great. was brought up an old fashion way by my mother and previously I thought I had changed many of my faults but realised that I still have more work to do on myself ♥we never stop learning and to be humble and vulnerable.

  • @MM-eg3so
    @MM-eg3so Год назад +8

    I don’t know why I am crying listening to this conversation… thank you to both of you ❤

  • @Oluwadamilola_2
    @Oluwadamilola_2 Год назад +1

    There's nothing as good as personal growth...I am so happy to be on this journey.

  • @stephaniearistei
    @stephaniearistei Год назад +14

    Yes, we want a part 2!!! Pretty please, this has been so insightful! Thank you both so much for sharing your experiences!

  • @eugenierunner7988
    @eugenierunner7988 Год назад +7

    You are both unique! You can feel the kindness and the warmth in Martha! Two beautiful souls who finally meet! Yes, to a part 2, please, cz I learned so much in this so needed, (especially in today’s world), deep, conversation! All the best in your endeavours and thank you!❤😊