I like the metaphor of a relationship being a cherry on top of a sundae, because you can have a sundae without a cherry, it’s still good without a cherry. A cherry is an extra not a necessity
I am just simply proud of you, I am still struggling with my mental illness but it’s also getting better. You’re my inspiration and motivation 🖤 Glad you’re alive and here, with us.. sharing your amazing creativity and ideas, you’re so pure and beautiful person. Thanks to you I could find my way in witchcraft and I will ever will grateful even I’ll never meet you 🖤🌙 xo
We love your Harmony. I just came out of one of my biggest mental breakdowns. I really needed this. I've been a huge fan forever and you have always been my anti depressant in my life. 🖤
Thank you for this video. Perfect timing. I've been slipping more lately into dark areas in my mind. I'm at a job I absolutely hate with a passion. I just recently decided I have to get out. I'm interviewing this Wednesday with a company I've had my eyes on for some time. Everything about it just feels so right and super positive. My instincts tell me this is it. It took time for me to admit just how miserable I was. That I had it in me to make the necessary changes. Thank you beautiful young lady for being so honest and real. August 22. Job scored!
Thank you so much for doing this video! It has taken me years to learn that toxic relationships can also be friends! In the last few months I have cut all toxic friends out of my life as they were just contributing to my depression! I am so glad you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, keep going! You are a beautiful person! Blessed be xxxxxx
It's so comforting to see someone like you whom I look up to a lot going through the same stuff as I do (I know it's sad but...you know..it's nice not being alone). You basically put into words what I really struggle telling people.. It's not that I'm only a bag full of tears, it's just that sometimes I feel like carying one around with me.
my mental health recovery has skyrocketed for me in the past few months and Ive struggled to find material like this, about recovery TONS of material about ppl feeling terrible, going to therapy, asking for help... but it has been harder to find media focusing on recovery
I'm really glad I came across this. I've been struggling by myself for a while now. I'm far from suicidal, I still want to be here, I just have a lot of trouble being here. My first experience with therapy is the exact same. As a people pleaser you're used to masking your 'uglier' sides and that's exactly the part a therapist is supposed to see in order to help you. EDIT: And now I'm finding out that you were in a toxic relationship as well, and I'm at that breaking point right now just gotten rid of a few toxic friends but now my romantic relationship turns out to be a bit problematic as well. I think the universe wants me to get this message through.
Thank you so much for this video!! Exactly what I needed to hear, especially the last part.... and the whole thing! I am so sensitive and it's part of my empathy, the way I connect with others and experience the world. I'm glad you're doing so much better and treating yourself well.
I got to the end of the video and wow I didn’t know how much I needed to hear all of this 💜 Thank you so much for sharing what you’ve learned/experienced. Inspiring for sure.
Finally an advice video without shit, superficial advice! Glad to see you're feeling better Harmony, and really nice vid. I feel like we're on similar paths learning similar lessons. You've put them into words amazingly though!
Your first point about trying again with therapy... yeah I think I needed to hear that. (TW: depression, self harm, suicide etc) When I was 14 (ish?) I was referred to CAMHS for “depression” and “anxiety” after being bullied throughout school. Everyone I know goes on about how great CAMHS is, how it saved them etc but for me... it was awful. First because you’re a child you say anything they deem as “extreme” and they tell your parents. I didn’t want my parents to feel bad because of me. So I lied about how often I was self harming, if I had ever wanted to kill myself etc because I didn’t want them to know. Long story short I was told that my anxiety was just because I was doing GCSEs and it will pass when I leave school (I’m in uni and it’s still crippling), I was hormonal and going through puberty so what I feel was normal (every teen wants to kill them self? Really?) and eventually I’d just “get over it”. 5 years on I’m not over it. And I question all the time, when is “eventually”? I’ve not seen a therapist or doctor since because I’m scared I’ll get the same reaction. So this has really encouraged me to speak to someone. Thank you ❤️ in fact this whole video is just a huge help!
This is such a fantastic fucking video I can’t express it enough. These are all things I need to hear, even if deep down I know what I really feel / know.
Hold your light in your heart when it is too small to cast a light like a bonfire. Keep it safe and sacred just for you until it can grow big again. Feed and nourish your flame.
Damn, Harmony. You have a REAL talent for this. I think YOU need to explore being a therapist. Everything you said in this video made so much sense...WAY more than stuff I've heard in the past from so-called professionals.
asgdlljfl this helped me a bunch and I'm not even in a relationship at the moment. the main thing that struck a chord with me was the control portion and that your partner does have their own life. I constantly form crushes on girls that don't reciprocate or can't because they are not stable enough to have a relationship. and I would get upset and feel empty, but those aren't healthy crushes that I should keep. this also makes me want a relationship to form memories, but it's also very hard for me to date someone that I don't see myself marrying. it's very hard for me to 'waste' my time with that person when we won't get married. I don't know. I also feel too young to date because I know as soon as I'm done with college, I will be moving away, so that would ruin a relationship if I had formed one.
this video inspired me to finally reach out to my doctor to get help finding a therapist, thank you. It does mean a lot feeling like not as alone even if it’s only for 47 mins lol :’( ❣️
this was quite helpful! lots of things really hit home for me. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I'm going to try and learn something! Love you Harmony!
Hey, I really loved this video. Totally agree with you when it comes to therapy. Basically best thing in the world! I am very sensitive as well, most of my friends find it annoying. I hate that people see it as a bad thing. Could you please make more videos like this? xo
I needed to hear this stuff. I'm struggling so much right now, to the point of wondering why I'm even alive, and I can relate to almost everything you have said.
My mother always says it takes a life to learn how to live. I'm currently in the process of getting help for depression and social anxiety and it gives me hope to hear about your story. Much love.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I appreciate the hell out of you for taking your time and energy to make this video. You have such a beautiful soul . I've been going through a self growth journey and it's so helpful to hear someone elses experiences and journey. 😭😍
Just so you know: my five month old kitten, Wasabi, started rubbing his face on the phone over and over again and purring when this video started playing. 😊
I just wanna say this is so beautiful and inspiring to anyone with mental health struggles. Thank you fo being so open and strong, beautiful ❤️ I know it gives me hope!
I had a mental breakdown when I was 14 & I had to drop out of school. I’m 18 now & in all honesty I haven’t improved as much as you’d think you ‘should’ in 4 years. Sometimes I’m like ‘girl, what is u doin, it’s been 4 years, & you’re still depressed, you’re still scared of life, you still have panic attacks etc...’ But it’s odd. No matter how much I suffer, & how long I suffer for, I’ve always known that somehow, some way, some day, I will feel bliss. You’ve just gotta remember, your time will come :) it has to :)
Girl I feel you, I've had so many instances that you could call "mental breakdowns" but I prefer to call "going into crisis" in my life, and I still struggle with the littlest things. But in the last video I watched Alex Meyers said something like "I used to try to be better than everyone else but now I just try to be better than my last time and honestly life is much easier." and I feel like this is true for everyone. Just because it doesn't feel like you've improved when you compare yourself to other's people's lives *which you never know what people are actually going through so honestly, it's just not a great way to evaluate your life*, it doesn't mean that when you look back you didn't gain anything. One step at a time!!
Amie Collins really kind of you to take the time to respond to me. I’m rarely open about this so to receive kindness when I do means so much. Really, thank you
Harmony we love you and I’m so proud of you for talking about mental health and your life, you really help me and others for talking about this!!! We love you Harmony 🥰❤️💖
I didn't watch this video immediately because I am stubborn and I don't want to face my own reality. But I know I have to. And it is comforting to know that you went through the shit I am going through right now. At first I felt like I deserved to be miserable, I LIKED being miserable and sad. But I got so used to being like that, that now I just can't seem to get out of it. I want to be happy now but it feels like no one is understanding how I feel. But I'll be honest, hearing from people that 'you have to get over it' sounds infuriating at first but I hope that some day it will click in to place. At the moment i'm feeling good. I know I have to get over it. I know I just need to DO things. But when you are in that negative mindset it just seems to make it worse. I wish much strength to you and everyone else dealing with these sorts of issues. You don't need to be perfect. Your life isn't over when you didn't get what you expected. It is ok to be sad but don't let it overtake you. We will die in the end anyways, so why not just see what happens living life first?
I agree about that appearance thing ... I've been wearing only black for ages and now I feel like implementing some natural colours and I'm genuinely worried that everyone will address it or comment on it... well we'll see heh xD This video was very helpful or at least I plan to take it to heart and actually do something about being a paralysed slug. Soon... soon... Also I think the links in the description are missing 😅😘
It has been very similar to me and I am worrying the same thing. Want to agree that we will both implement at least one new, different clothing piece by December 31st? I'm trying to give my self a lot of time yes
This is to both of you. Wear what you want on your bodies and know that most people aren't nearly as aware of what you're doing as you think they are. Some people may comment, but I bet most of the comments will be encouraging. Change is a GOOD thing, and, as a fellow all-black (goth) wearer, it's not like we don't' already get weird looks and comments, right? Haha! But I know anxiety isn't something you can rationalize at any given time. My advice is just keep reminding yourself that you're safe, you're absolutely fine, and that you look fantastic. Hopefully this helps! ^_^
@@gothempress i know. If I get comments they're all on good faith and meant as jokes, no one is going to give me shit about it. Also in fall I will be starting in a few uni classes where I probably won't know anyone so I can basically do what I want free of expectations, yey 😊
I still come back to this video when I feel like I’m having a low. Just used the entire 47 mins to have in the background while I cleaned my room, and harmony’s voice and vibes always feels like a cleanse. I hope she’s living her best life ❤
I am on the outgoing bit of a mental breakdown and hearing someone I admire talk about this was so healing for me. I lost my job (fired for the first time in my life) and recently started my own business which is scary and hard on top of all my emotions. I am also a super super sensitive and soft person. I needed to hear this today.
Hi Harmony, I’ m already sorry for my english ( i’m french). But I juste want to say that your vidéo make me think a lot bacause I have regonized myself (but i know that every story of dépression is differents). And I’m sure your video help me to move on . So thank you so much. Kisses
1. If you have a bad experience with therapy, try again. 10:50 2. Even though someone may make you feel good sometimes, doesn’t mean they’re good for you. (Recognizing toxic relationships). 15:34 3. Healthy boundaries in relationships and friendships are a positive thing. 22:39 4. You can’t control everything. 27:40
I'm so happy that there are more people talking about this. It makes such a big difference. Believe me when I say I've been in a constant battle with myself. It's nice to know that a beautiful, sweet person like you are willing to help others learn. 😍🥰😘
💜💜💜💜YOUR MIND YOUR RULES happiness and peace comes from within its a choice 💜💜💜💜💜know love forgive grow control your self and the universe will be your playground much love kindness hope strength magic miracles true friendships epic adventures luck sexiness happiness
You're growing so much and becoming more confident day by day, and it shows! Of course you cannot be all shiny and bright all the time, but it's more a matter of dealing with your issues healthily than "defeating" the "wrong" part of yourself. Thank you for sharing your struggles and the things you've learned with us, you're so much helpful and you literally have no idea. (Also, I think you might like Kelly Ann Maddox' RUclips channel, if you don't know her already, she's a fellow witch and cohnselor and her content is bomb) Hugs and kisses!
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences (that must've been nerve wracking...let your confidence soar). I can relate to what you've shared but I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through such hard times. So glad to hear that you're making progress though and when the tougher days do come around just remember that you've made it this far and you will make it through them again. You are a blessing my dear and your journey will teach you all that you need to learn about yourself. Thank you so so much for sharing. Much love xxx
Thank you, thank you so incredibly much for making this video. { TW SUICIDE } About a year and a half ago, I attempted to kill myself and almost succeeded. And now I’m looking back at this period of my life, and I know for a fact that I am not recovered, that I still struggle, that living will remain a fight, and yet I can tell I have made so much progress and I’m in a completely different place And at the time I was so sure there was no way for me to get out of this situation So thank you for bringing hope for those who struggle with mental health and might feel like they’re completely alone 💕 So proud of how far you’ve come! Keep going Harmony, we love you SO MUCH
as marina said in her song "i guess i've known it all along, the truth is you have to be soft to be strong" you should listen to that song! is beautiful and relatable: marina - soft to be strong
I’m only 10 min into the video and it’s already what I needed to hear. It took so much for me to go to therapy, and I finally made it there. My first session was so short. I’m not good at opening up so I didn’t mention much and surely didn’t mention the bad things that brought me there. After the second session, I only mention good news too and she declared me cured and said to cancel my future appointments. I’ve never thought about trying a new therapist until now. It was so hard to get to this one that I didn’t want to go through the process again (I’m in the US and mental health services are extremely difficult to get). Thank you for this whole video. You are amazing and inspirational 💜
I'm exactly the same, I've never been able to leave toxic people and situations. My brain makes excuses for them: "We all make mistakes", "No one's perfect", "They've just had a bad day, I shouldn't overreact about this", "Oh, but they've got *insert mental health issue*, so that's why they're treating me badly; I'll forgive them even though they just crapped all over me". It wasn't until this year that I finally found the strength to say enough is enough with the toxic situations in my life.
This video seriously came in the most perfect time!!! I'm currently facing some tough times since my boyfried left a few weeks ago to study in Bali for one semester! On the one hand I'm soooo happy for him that he gets this awesome opportunity, on the other hand I have some trust issues because of a relationship that did not go so well in the past. A few days ago I found myself crying and seeing everything super dark and pointless. But I talked everything out with my Boyfriend and he could calm me down and make me feel safe again. I know that for the next few moths it will be hard for me, but like you said I need to switch over to positive thoughts and don't let myself go crazy over things that only happen in my head!! Thanks for this video, Harmony!!!!
First of all; Baaaaaaaaaaaaabeeeee 😍 And Second; I NEED that lava lamp! Wtf 😳🔥 This honestly makes me so happy and sad at the same time. Seeing the you from the mental breakdown video reminds me of myself. I'm doing better now, but still have a long way to go. You are such an inspiration to me Harmony, it gives me courage to pull through. Thank you for putting yourself out there and spread word on mental health. We need more of you in the world! Like literally more Harmony's haha 🙈😘
What do you think about climat change? Would be very intrested what you think about that. For myself,I struggle alot with the situation of the world right now, wich might end in me stepping out of this life, bc I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
Harmony, Thank you so much for making this video. I also have gone through much of what you described in this video. Last year and part of 2017 was some of the lowest points of my life. Graduating university really hurt my mental health since it took me a while to realize I wouldn’t be seeing the people I want to see as often anymore. Most of my friends from home were in school still so I didn’t see them often either. I felt truly alone. I was also stuck in a job where everyone who worked there were just absolutely horrible and toxic. I had a mental breakdown around the same time you did where I ended up quitting my toxic job, started going to therapy, and started to pick up the pieces of my life a little. I also found your channel a little before my own breakdown and your videos have definitely helped me a lot. I just wanted to thank you so much for everything you do, and I’m so glad that you are doing better. I absolutely agree that everyone should go to therapy, even if you aren’t “mentally ill” because it really does help you gain peace of mind and it also gives you a place to freely talk about your problems. Before I started therapy I definitely feel like I over shared my issues with my friends and I’m sure they felt just as burnt out as I did. By going to therapy, I definitely think I mended my friendships, and I also realized some of them were more toxic, and I cut them out of my life. I feel more at peace with myself than I’ve ever been!
I'm glad you're feeling better than you were a year ago! I feel like July/Ausgust time is when all the life changing shit happens. Finding a good therapist is soooo important and getting a good one who gets you makes SUCH a difference. On a seperate note, I definately say you in the city the other day and smiled but soon realised you wouldn't have had any idea who I was lmao.
Thank you so much for sharing what you have learnt with us. This is really helpful and I already feel less alone. So glad that you are doing better and hope you continue to improve and grow as a person.
Harmony!! I'm so happy and proud of you! I went through a period of depression around the same time you did. Seeing your videos talking about mental health really helped me and made me feel like if you were getting through it, then so could I. And we both did! You're right, mental health does waver and it's never perfect, but i'm so glad you're doing better now. The amount of emotional and mental growth you've shown in the past year or so is incredible. Thanks for keeping it real. :)
Sending you love and hugs from this old gal in Tennessee, I do understand, more than I can say. It is so helpful for others to have you speaking out so honestly about these issues that affect so many of us. Thank you for your honesty, and your courage to be open. :)
For some reason I got a bit emotional at some parts of this video. I've had a few bad experiences with therapy and have recently been considering going again when I go back to uni.
Like.. how honest is this human 💙💜💚 Want to be taken seriously on youtube? Then be an incredible, honest, "this is what I did wrong, this is what I did right, this is how I'm affected" human Wow I'm blown away, and actually this woman is so brave. Subscribed because I see a wonderful human, not a fake 💛💚💙💜💜
Im sorry about that. Sometimes parents don't know how mental health and therapy works and it's frustrating. I don't know how old you are but I hope you will be able to make some money soon and maybe use some of the money on therapy and try again? Thats what im looking into rn, you could also explain to the therapist that your parents wont pay for it so maybe they can give you a discount or have health care cover some of the cost. Stay strong
If you have a drug addiction, or mental illness you're automatically less than. It's harder to make friends, get a job, have relationships, go out, be taken seriously, be believed, be respected, the list goes on forever.. I wish I wasn't alive.
the thing about friends was super important for me too! i now have a couple friends who know how i work and i know how they work and we know we will call each other out if we have gone too far or if we are in the wrong and that has been super important. i cut of so many people when i graduated uni and im so thankful for where i am mentally now.
Harmony Nice. Hi. I think you oughta write about this topic in a small book 📖. It's 03;03 whilst listening to you on u-tube I'm working on my first chapter of a book. By the way greetings from England 😇
I had no idea you had a breakdown. Sorry to hear that. I think if you have a heart it is just a matter of time. I am glad that you're back on your feet and have grown from the setback. I just started watching your videos. I am absolutely enamored by everything that is you. Yes your beauty but so much more. Wish I had the opportunity to meet you . I will never tire of watching this woman speak or hearing her voice. Some facts: - Redheads are less than 4% of the world population. - Among redheads, Most common eye color is brown. Then green and blue eyes comprising of only 12% of the redheaded population. So they are the most rare people on earth.
She's right about the therapist. I went through 5 therapists in 2-3 years and I wasn't getting anything from it. They seemed very mundane, I didn't need to talk I wanted help. I thought therapy wasn't for me. But my 5th therapist (cbt therapist) helped me SO much with my OCD and Anxiety. I saw him for 9 months... For some reason I instantly felt less judged because he was a man. I'm still dealing with ocd and anxiety but I can cope and I can tell my brain to stop...its not out of control anymore. And I'm happy. This might so far be. My best year!!!!
I quit my job and came to NZ and bought a van all by myself to travel around for several months. Mentally, it's so hard. It's good for me, but it's so fucking hard. I have been REALLY struggling the past few days and somehow this video came at the right time and struck a chord. Appreciate it.
I like the metaphor of a relationship being a cherry on top of a sundae, because you can have a sundae without a cherry, it’s still good without a cherry. A cherry is an extra not a necessity
Isn't it just perfect?
i'm definitely going to be using this to describe relationships to friends and my children in the future!!! go on Harmony!!!
It was a very good metaphor. She’s a wise young woman x
"There is no end goal, we're all going to die"
Honestly if that aint the perfect Tinder bio idk what is.
Don't give me ideas 😂
That's untrue. We will all be revived. This is reality.
Would you F to that? I would F to that
I am just simply proud of you, I am still struggling with my mental illness but it’s also getting better.
You’re my inspiration and motivation 🖤
Glad you’re alive and here, with us.. sharing your amazing creativity and ideas, you’re so pure and beautiful person.
Thanks to you I could find my way in witchcraft and I will ever will grateful even I’ll never meet you 🖤🌙 xo
We love your Harmony. I just came out of one of my biggest mental breakdowns. I really needed this. I've been a huge fan forever and you have always been my anti depressant in my life. 🖤
Thank you for this video. Perfect timing. I've been slipping more lately into dark areas in my mind. I'm at a job I absolutely hate with a passion. I just recently decided I have to get out. I'm interviewing this Wednesday with a company I've had my eyes on for some time. Everything about it just feels so right and super positive. My instincts tell me this is it. It took time for me to admit just how miserable I was. That I had it in me to make the necessary changes. Thank you beautiful young lady for being so honest and real.
August 22. Job scored!
I know it’s been ages ago, but just so happy you got the job! Hope you’re still happy there!
Thank you so much for doing this video! It has taken me years to learn that toxic relationships can also be friends! In the last few months I have cut all toxic friends out of my life as they were just contributing to my depression! I am so glad you are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, keep going! You are a beautiful person! Blessed be xxxxxx
It's so comforting to see someone like you whom I look up to a lot going through the same stuff as I do (I know it's sad but...you know..it's nice not being alone). You basically put into words what I really struggle telling people..
It's not that I'm only a bag full of tears, it's just that sometimes I feel like carying one around with me.
my mental health recovery has skyrocketed for me in the past few months and Ive struggled to find material like this, about recovery TONS of material about ppl feeling terrible, going to therapy, asking for help... but it has been harder to find media focusing on recovery
I'm really glad I came across this. I've been struggling by myself for a while now. I'm far from suicidal, I still want to be here, I just have a lot of trouble being here. My first experience with therapy is the exact same. As a people pleaser you're used to masking your 'uglier' sides and that's exactly the part a therapist is supposed to see in order to help you. EDIT: And now I'm finding out that you were in a toxic relationship as well, and I'm at that breaking point right now just gotten rid of a few toxic friends but now my romantic relationship turns out to be a bit problematic as well. I think the universe wants me to get this message through.
Starts out looking like a life tribute at a funeral... brings in wisdom for the ages. Beautiful. 💕
Thank you so much for this video!! Exactly what I needed to hear, especially the last part.... and the whole thing! I am so sensitive and it's part of my empathy, the way I connect with others and experience the world. I'm glad you're doing so much better and treating yourself well.
I got to the end of the video and wow I didn’t know how much I needed to hear all of this 💜 Thank you so much for sharing what you’ve learned/experienced. Inspiring for sure.
Finally an advice video without shit, superficial advice! Glad to see you're feeling better Harmony, and really nice vid. I feel like we're on similar paths learning similar lessons. You've put them into words amazingly though!
Your first point about trying again with therapy... yeah I think I needed to hear that.
(TW: depression, self harm, suicide etc) When I was 14 (ish?) I was referred to CAMHS for “depression” and “anxiety” after being bullied throughout school. Everyone I know goes on about how great CAMHS is, how it saved them etc but for me... it was awful. First because you’re a child you say anything they deem as “extreme” and they tell your parents. I didn’t want my parents to feel bad because of me. So I lied about how often I was self harming, if I had ever wanted to kill myself etc because I didn’t want them to know. Long story short I was told that my anxiety was just because I was doing GCSEs and it will pass when I leave school (I’m in uni and it’s still crippling), I was hormonal and going through puberty so what I feel was normal (every teen wants to kill them self? Really?) and eventually I’d just “get over it”. 5 years on I’m not over it. And I question all the time, when is “eventually”? I’ve not seen a therapist or doctor since because I’m scared I’ll get the same reaction. So this has really encouraged me to speak to someone. Thank you ❤️ in fact this whole video is just a huge help!
This is truely an amazing video! Like to show people your journey and that things get better even though there are ups and downs. You're amazing 💕✨
This is such a fantastic fucking video I can’t express it enough. These are all things I need to hear, even if deep down I know what I really feel / know.
I appreciate you so much and I’m proud of how far you’ve come in a year! 💜💜💜
All the love to you Harmony, you are strong and you inspire me to be strong too ❤️
Hold your light in your heart when it is too small to cast a light like a bonfire. Keep it safe and sacred just for you until it can grow big again. Feed and nourish your flame.
You are your main event!!! so good
Honestly you are so inspiring and I just love you so much 💖
Really needed to hear this today.. thank you Harmony.
yo harms, from one sensitive taurus to another, I really fucking needed this today xoxo
Damn, Harmony. You have a REAL talent for this. I think YOU need to explore being a therapist. Everything you said in this video made so much sense...WAY more than stuff I've heard in the past from so-called professionals.
You are so wise, Harmony. Thank you so much. What beautiful advice.🌹🌺
The beginning had me crying 😭
asgdlljfl this helped me a bunch and I'm not even in a relationship at the moment. the main thing that struck a chord with me was the control portion and that your partner does have their own life. I constantly form crushes on girls that don't reciprocate or can't because they are not stable enough to have a relationship. and I would get upset and feel empty, but those aren't healthy crushes that I should keep. this also makes me want a relationship to form memories, but it's also very hard for me to date someone that I don't see myself marrying. it's very hard for me to 'waste' my time with that person when we won't get married. I don't know. I also feel too young to date because I know as soon as I'm done with college, I will be moving away, so that would ruin a relationship if I had formed one.
Yes werk girl werk all that fight left in you! I believe in you love
this video inspired me to finally reach out to my doctor to get help finding a therapist, thank you. It does mean a lot feeling like not as alone even if it’s only for 47 mins lol :’( ❣️
this was quite helpful! lots of things really hit home for me. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I'm going to try and learn something! Love you Harmony!
Hey, I really loved this video. Totally agree with you when it comes to therapy. Basically best thing in the world! I am very sensitive as well, most of my friends find it annoying. I hate that people see it as a bad thing.
Could you please make more videos like this? xo
Thank you♥♥♥
Esto fue de mucha ayuda hoy 🦄
Can totally relate...love u
This video really has some life changing tips xx
Wow thanx for sharing
omg I needed so much to hear all of this
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I needed to hear this stuff. I'm struggling so much right now, to the point of wondering why I'm even alive, and I can relate to almost everything you have said.
You make priests McQueary of the Vatican role in his Aquarium
Thank you for sharing this.
My mother always says it takes a life to learn how to live. I'm currently in the process of getting help for depression and social anxiety and it gives me hope to hear about your story. Much love.
I love that, its very true. Your mother must be a very wise person.
watching 47 minutes is not a punishment at all
Seriously can’t express how much I appreciate you ♥️ You’re such a ray of light! Xoxo!
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I appreciate the hell out of you for taking your time and energy to make this video. You have such a beautiful soul . I've been going through a self growth journey and it's so helpful to hear someone elses experiences and journey. 😭😍
Haha definitely didn't mean to leave my comment as a reply to yours. Guess that's what happens when I watch videos late at night 😂
lily evans I really thought this said you’re so gay so we learned 2 things. 1, I’m illiterate. 2, nope just 1
Just so you know: my five month old kitten, Wasabi, started rubbing his face on the phone over and over again and purring when this video started playing. 😊
omg your cat has the cutest name 😍
I just wanna say this is so beautiful and inspiring to anyone with mental health struggles. Thank you fo being so open and strong, beautiful ❤️ I know it gives me hope!
I had a mental breakdown when I was 14 & I had to drop out of school. I’m 18 now & in all honesty I haven’t improved as much as you’d think you ‘should’ in 4 years. Sometimes I’m like ‘girl, what is u doin, it’s been 4 years, & you’re still depressed, you’re still scared of life, you still have panic attacks etc...’
But it’s odd. No matter how much I suffer, & how long I suffer for, I’ve always known that somehow, some way, some day, I will feel bliss. You’ve just gotta remember, your time will come :) it has to :)
The exact same happened to me, yesss our day will come🥰🥰
Clo19
Girl I feel you, I've had so many instances that you could call "mental breakdowns" but I prefer to call "going into crisis" in my life, and I still struggle with the littlest things. But in the last video I watched Alex Meyers said something like "I used to try to be better than everyone else but now I just try to be better than my last time and honestly life is much easier." and I feel like this is true for everyone.
Just because it doesn't feel like you've improved when you compare yourself to other's people's lives *which you never know what people are actually going through so honestly, it's just not a great way to evaluate your life*, it doesn't mean that when you look back you didn't gain anything. One step at a time!!
Amie Collins really kind of you to take the time to respond to me. I’m rarely open about this so to receive kindness when I do means so much. Really, thank you
@@naife1000 I think I was talking to both of us haha
Harmony we love you and I’m so proud of you for talking about mental health and your life, you really help me and others for talking about this!!! We love you Harmony 🥰❤️💖
This is the most precious video on the internet. Thank you for this, I definitely needed it💕
I didn't watch this video immediately because I am stubborn and I don't want to face my own reality. But I know I have to. And it is comforting to know that you went through the shit I am going through right now. At first I felt like I deserved to be miserable, I LIKED being miserable and sad. But I got so used to being like that, that now I just can't seem to get out of it. I want to be happy now but it feels like no one is understanding how I feel. But I'll be honest, hearing from people that 'you have to get over it' sounds infuriating at first but I hope that some day it will click in to place. At the moment i'm feeling good. I know I have to get over it. I know I just need to DO things. But when you are in that negative mindset it just seems to make it worse.
I wish much strength to you and everyone else dealing with these sorts of issues. You don't need to be perfect. Your life isn't over when you didn't get what you expected. It is ok to be sad but don't let it overtake you. We will die in the end anyways, so why not just see what happens living life first?
I agree about that appearance thing ... I've been wearing only black for ages and now I feel like implementing some natural colours and I'm genuinely worried that everyone will address it or comment on it... well we'll see heh xD
This video was very helpful or at least I plan to take it to heart and actually do something about being a paralysed slug. Soon... soon...
Also I think the links in the description are missing 😅😘
It has been very similar to me and I am worrying the same thing. Want to agree that we will both implement at least one new, different clothing piece by December 31st? I'm trying to give my self a lot of time yes
This is to both of you. Wear what you want on your bodies and know that most people aren't nearly as aware of what you're doing as you think they are. Some people may comment, but I bet most of the comments will be encouraging. Change is a GOOD thing, and, as a fellow all-black (goth) wearer, it's not like we don't' already get weird looks and comments, right? Haha! But I know anxiety isn't something you can rationalize at any given time. My advice is just keep reminding yourself that you're safe, you're absolutely fine, and that you look fantastic. Hopefully this helps! ^_^
Same, the challenge is on to not buy anything black clothingwise. 😜
@@efoy_ivyhund6172 sure let's do it! I'm desperate for fall to begin because I have a gorgeous dark green sweater that I wanna wear 😂
@@gothempress i know. If I get comments they're all on good faith and meant as jokes, no one is going to give me shit about it. Also in fall I will be starting in a few uni classes where I probably won't know anyone so I can basically do what I want free of expectations, yey 😊
I need to stop falling in love with RUclipsrs. It's not healthy.
This is so strange, I was thinking about you and binge watching your videos and you uploaded 💖 Love you from Italy💫
I'm so proud of how far you've come and I can't wait to see what else this journey has in store for you 💙 a literal goddess
Love you and your vids harmony! Keep up the good work💜
47:40 well spent ❤️💜🧡💛💚💙 I thought I was crazy but what you said is how I felt thank you ☺️ for making me feel more normal and less alone
I still come back to this video when I feel like I’m having a low. Just used the entire 47 mins to have in the background while I cleaned my room, and harmony’s voice and vibes always feels like a cleanse. I hope she’s living her best life ❤
same i miss her sm i hope she's doing amazing ❤
Your a Beautiful Soul Harmony, Blessed Be ⛤ 🌛 🌕 🌜 ⛤
I am on the outgoing bit of a mental breakdown and hearing someone I admire talk about this was so healing for me. I lost my job (fired for the first time in my life) and recently started my own business which is scary and hard on top of all my emotions. I am also a super super sensitive and soft person. I needed to hear this today.
Hi Harmony,
I’ m already sorry for my english ( i’m french). But I juste want to say that your vidéo make me think a lot bacause I have regonized myself (but i know that every story of dépression is differents). And I’m sure your video help me to move on . So thank you so much.
Kisses
1. If you have a bad experience with therapy, try again. 10:50
2. Even though someone may make you feel good sometimes, doesn’t mean they’re good for you. (Recognizing toxic relationships). 15:34
3. Healthy boundaries in relationships and friendships are a positive thing. 22:39
4. You can’t control everything. 27:40
I'm so happy that there are more people talking about this. It makes such a big difference. Believe me when I say I've been in a constant battle with myself. It's nice to know that a beautiful, sweet person like you are willing to help others learn. 😍🥰😘
💜💜💜💜YOUR MIND YOUR RULES happiness and peace comes from within its a choice 💜💜💜💜💜know love forgive grow control your self and the universe will be your playground much love kindness hope strength magic miracles true friendships epic adventures luck sexiness happiness
S e x i n e s s 😏😏
You're growing so much and becoming more confident day by day, and it shows! Of course you cannot be all shiny and bright all the time, but it's more a matter of dealing with your issues healthily than "defeating" the "wrong" part of yourself. Thank you for sharing your struggles and the things you've learned with us, you're so much helpful and you literally have no idea.
(Also, I think you might like Kelly Ann Maddox' RUclips channel, if you don't know her already, she's a fellow witch and cohnselor and her content is bomb)
Hugs and kisses!
Goddamn Harmony. I cried during the clips of the short film. Ugh I love you and am so happy for you on your life journey
This is one of the most validating things I've ever listened to
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences (that must've been nerve wracking...let your confidence soar). I can relate to what you've shared but I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through such hard times. So glad to hear that you're making progress though and when the tougher days do come around just remember that you've made it this far and you will make it through them again. You are a blessing my dear and your journey will teach you all that you need to learn about yourself. Thank you so so much for sharing. Much love xxx
wow.. i needed this so badly. thank you so much.
Thank you, thank you so incredibly much for making this video.
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About a year and a half ago, I attempted to kill myself and almost succeeded. And now I’m looking back at this period of my life, and I know for a fact that I am not recovered, that I still struggle, that living will remain a fight, and yet I can tell I have made so much progress and I’m in a completely different place
And at the time I was so sure there was no way for me to get out of this situation
So thank you for bringing hope for those who struggle with mental health and might feel like they’re completely alone 💕
So proud of how far you’ve come! Keep going Harmony, we love you SO MUCH
harmony, you are such a goddess. 💞
as marina said in her song "i guess i've known it all along, the truth is you have to be soft to be strong" you should listen to that song! is beautiful and relatable: marina - soft to be strong
I’m only 10 min into the video and it’s already what I needed to hear. It took so much for me to go to therapy, and I finally made it there. My first session was so short. I’m not good at opening up so I didn’t mention much and surely didn’t mention the bad things that brought me there. After the second session, I only mention good news too and she declared me cured and said to cancel my future appointments. I’ve never thought about trying a new therapist until now. It was so hard to get to this one that I didn’t want to go through the process again (I’m in the US and mental health services are extremely difficult to get). Thank you for this whole video. You are amazing and inspirational 💜
Going through a hard time right now and this helped me take mind off of it and give me hope.
I'm exactly the same, I've never been able to leave toxic people and situations. My brain makes excuses for them: "We all make mistakes", "No one's perfect", "They've just had a bad day, I shouldn't overreact about this", "Oh, but they've got *insert mental health issue*, so that's why they're treating me badly; I'll forgive them even though they just crapped all over me".
It wasn't until this year that I finally found the strength to say enough is enough with the toxic situations in my life.
I love your videos! Brazil here!
This video seriously came in the most perfect time!!! I'm currently facing some tough times since my boyfried left a few weeks ago to study in Bali for one semester! On the one hand I'm soooo happy for him that he gets this awesome opportunity, on the other hand I have some trust issues because of a relationship that did not go so well in the past. A few days ago I found myself crying and seeing everything super dark and pointless. But I talked everything out with my Boyfriend and he could calm me down and make me feel safe again.
I know that for the next few moths it will be hard for me, but like you said I need to switch over to positive thoughts and don't let myself go crazy over things that only happen in my head!!
Thanks for this video, Harmony!!!!
First of all; Baaaaaaaaaaaaabeeeee 😍
And Second; I NEED that lava lamp! Wtf 😳🔥
This honestly makes me so happy and sad at the same time. Seeing the you from the mental breakdown video reminds me of myself. I'm doing better now, but still have a long way to go. You are such an inspiration to me Harmony, it gives me courage to pull through. Thank you for putting yourself out there and spread word on mental health. We need more of you in the world!
Like literally more Harmony's haha 🙈😘
What do you think about climat change? Would be very intrested what you think about that. For myself,I struggle alot with the situation of the world right now, wich might end in me stepping out of this life, bc I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
Wow girl alot has changed in your life bless your heart ❤💚💜💙💛
Harmony,
Thank you so much for making this video. I also have gone through much of what you described in this video. Last year and part of 2017 was some of the lowest points of my life. Graduating university really hurt my mental health since it took me a while to realize I wouldn’t be seeing the people I want to see as often anymore. Most of my friends from home were in school still so I didn’t see them often either. I felt truly alone. I was also stuck in a job where everyone who worked there were just absolutely horrible and toxic. I had a mental breakdown around the same time you did where I ended up quitting my toxic job, started going to therapy, and started to pick up the pieces of my life a little. I also found your channel a little before my own breakdown and your videos have definitely helped me a lot. I just wanted to thank you so much for everything you do, and I’m so glad that you are doing better. I absolutely agree that everyone should go to therapy, even if you aren’t “mentally ill” because it really does help you gain peace of mind and it also gives you a place to freely talk about your problems. Before I started therapy I definitely feel like I over shared my issues with my friends and I’m sure they felt just as burnt out as I did. By going to therapy, I definitely think I mended my friendships, and I also realized some of them were more toxic, and I cut them out of my life. I feel more at peace with myself than I’ve ever been!
thank you for being so open with us!! you're always so relatable. love you 💓
I'm glad you're feeling better than you were a year ago! I feel like July/Ausgust time is when all the life changing shit happens. Finding a good therapist is soooo important and getting a good one who gets you makes SUCH a difference. On a seperate note, I definately say you in the city the other day and smiled but soon realised you wouldn't have had any idea who I was lmao.
Thank you so much for sharing what you have learnt with us. This is really helpful and I already feel less alone.
So glad that you are doing better and hope you continue to improve and grow as a person.
Harmony!! I'm so happy and proud of you! I went through a period of depression around the same time you did. Seeing your videos talking about mental health really helped me and made me feel like if you were getting through it, then so could I. And we both did! You're right, mental health does waver and it's never perfect, but i'm so glad you're doing better now. The amount of emotional and mental growth you've shown in the past year or so is incredible. Thanks for keeping it real. :)
I'm bipolar. I admire your honesty!
Bipolar too❤️
Sending you love and hugs from this old gal in Tennessee, I do understand, more than I can say. It is so helpful for others to have you speaking out so honestly about these issues that affect so many of us. Thank you for your honesty, and your courage to be open. :)
For some reason I got a bit emotional at some parts of this video. I've had a few bad experiences with therapy and have recently been considering going again when I go back to uni.
Go! 💚💙💜💚
I love you...mental is s form of suppressed shamanism...Grateful for you being you...love Gemini
this entire video helped me SO MUCH more than you could imagine. bless you, love your videos.
Like.. how honest is this human 💙💜💚
Want to be taken seriously on youtube?
Then be an incredible, honest, "this is what I did wrong, this is what I did right, this is how I'm affected" human
Wow I'm blown away, and actually this woman is so brave.
Subscribed because I see a wonderful human, not a fake 💛💚💙💜💜
Wow when you talked about the therapy that really hit home the only difference is that my parents won’t let me try again
Im sorry about that. Sometimes parents don't know how mental health and therapy works and it's frustrating. I don't know how old you are but I hope you will be able to make some money soon and maybe use some of the money on therapy and try again? Thats what im looking into rn, you could also explain to the therapist that your parents wont pay for it so maybe they can give you a discount or have health care cover some of the cost. Stay strong
If you have a drug addiction, or mental illness you're automatically less than. It's harder to make friends, get a job, have relationships, go out, be taken seriously, be believed, be respected, the list goes on forever.. I wish I wasn't alive.
It would be cool if I could afford therepy for my severe OCD and panic attacks but I'm in the US so I guess I'll just suffer
the thing about friends was super important for me too! i now have a couple friends who know how i work and i know how they work and we know we will call each other out if we have gone too far or if we are in the wrong and that has been super important. i cut of so many people when i graduated uni and im so thankful for where i am mentally now.
Harmony Nice. Hi.
I think you oughta write about this topic in a small book 📖. It's 03;03 whilst listening to you on u-tube I'm working on my first chapter of a book. By the way greetings from England 😇
I had no idea you had a breakdown. Sorry to hear that. I think if you have a heart it is just a matter of time. I am glad that you're back on your feet and have grown from the setback.
I just started watching your videos. I am absolutely enamored by everything that is you. Yes your beauty but so much more. Wish I had the opportunity to meet you .
I will never tire of watching this woman speak or hearing her voice.
Some facts:
- Redheads are less than 4% of the world population.
- Among redheads, Most common eye color is brown. Then green and blue eyes comprising of only 12% of the redheaded population. So they are the most rare people on earth.
She's right about the therapist. I went through 5 therapists in 2-3 years and I wasn't getting anything from it. They seemed very mundane, I didn't need to talk I wanted help. I thought therapy wasn't for me. But my 5th therapist (cbt therapist) helped me SO much with my OCD and Anxiety. I saw him for 9 months... For some reason I instantly felt less judged because he was a man. I'm still dealing with ocd and anxiety but I can cope and I can tell my brain to stop...its not out of control anymore. And I'm happy. This might so far be. My best year!!!!
I quit my job and came to NZ and bought a van all by myself to travel around for several months. Mentally, it's so hard. It's good for me, but it's so fucking hard. I have been REALLY struggling the past few days and somehow this video came at the right time and struck a chord. Appreciate it.
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Have you considered going to school for psychology?