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Idk why I never knew about this disorder or why it was never brought up to me by therapists because this is my entire life since childhood. I’m def going to get myself an evaluation. Thank you for this video ❤
NO LITERALLY! bpd just didn’t fully click considering my childhood. i think both disorders are equally really hard to live with but bpd is more common so it’s talked about more
What does it look like when a person with Dpd lives alone? They’re forced to make certain decision on their own, such as feeding oneself. Do they just fall back on what they know they DO like? Do they call someone to ask? Are they paralyzed? Unable to formulate a plan? What about cleaning, and making decisions about organizing or letting go of clutter?
These are all valid questions. I think it can be rather paralyzing - eventually you will have to eat something, but it may not be the healthy option. As far as clutter goes, that can be next to impossible. For me, deciding what to clean is a compromise. Basic cleanliness and having a sanitary home is important - so countertops, sinks, and the bathroom have to be in good shape, but dusting and deeper cleaning projects are harder to get to. Just my experience, even though I haven't been diagnosed (even though I can identify with many of the traits).
Probably they won't do it for long, they are going to do anything to jump in to the next relationship, with basically anyone who is willing to do that. They are willing to be treated like dirt everyday, maybe even r_ped or beaten, tossed around, just to have someone. Living alone for a period of time would be extremely painful, filled with fears, worries, being terrified to the point of being unable to move or do anything. Loads of thoughts of committing s_icide or that they have to spend all of this energy to find someone. As far as food go, probably they go to one shopping trip buying loads of long-lasting food like cans, ready meals, pot noodles, bread, etc. Put them next to the bed so they don't even have to get up when they didn't eat for like days. Been there, done that, talking from experience. Thankfully I got medicated and got into CBT and exposure therapy so it is getting better.
@@vivienm2037there are different degrees. Please don't generalize and go to worse case scenario for each person who is diagnosed with this. It gives the wrong impression to those unfamiliar with the disorder
@@vivienm2037Good to know that you are getting better! I'm on my first day off my person and one week trying to make the decision to break it off... The house is a mess, I have no clean dishes and underwear. I'm on meds and therapy too...
i have dpd, but i've gone to psychotherapy and had assetiveness training and also read books on assertiveness. So, i live alone and i do all these things. i wasn't afraid of doing all these things, i just didn't know how! Once i got assertiveness training i started doiing more and more things for myself.
Im pretty sure my dpd stems from trauma, my parents (especially my mom) are strict and my mom would yell at me and hurl death threats whenever I would try to defend myself to her disliking and my parents made me feel like nothing i do is good enough, every time i did something to what i thought was their expectation, it wasn’t done to their expectation somehow. When i made a decision, It always seemed to be the wrong one. Now my mom gets mad at me for depending on her so much to make simple decisions, so that feeds even more into it. I hate my dpd so much, i hate not being able to defend myself, i hate not being able to express my opinions anymore due to fear of someone not agreeing. I hate it that my reflex is to go radio silent when someone says something i dont agree with. I hate my parents for making me this way.
Hey! I’m impressed that you can express your anger so well! Good for you - I hope you’re able to find people be they therapists or others who can really help you. May I suggest finding a therapist who has had good success with dpd. I can also suggest Psychology in Seattle- that channel has podcasts on Patreon, and a whole series on dpd. A lot of what’s needed for healing is the space and time where someone truly believes you can solve your own problems. I hope you can surmount the incredible challenge of braving the world yourself and if it helps: I know you can do it; and if you make mistakes, you’ll still be ok. All the best!
I have DPD, and I have a proposition... that is kind of self evident. And that is that DPD goes hand in hand with Inattentive ADHD. I have them both, so I made the connection. It's kind of obvious, when you think about it, because they are dependent on other, because they FOR REAL are incapable of every day tasks. Because as you know ADHD makes your brain quite literally close to incapable of doing every day things and "Grownup" tasks, because of the lack of working memory and executive function. -Aka people with DPD do NOT have false fears of being unable to take of themselves. But very realistic ones, people just assume it's false. DPD could just be the result of someone having Inattentive ADHD, and legitimately unable to do "life things". -I didn't put hyperactive ADHD here, because they are a different type, more extroverted version of ADHD, who are often more aggressive and self reliant.
I actually wonder this too. I was diagnosed with DPD but also have every symptom of inattentive type ADHD (undiagnosed). I struggle a *lot* both cognitively (working memory, processing & learning, executive function, focusing, motivation etc) & physically (chronic illness which causes such disabling fatigue & other symptoms that I am genuinely unable to work or socialise)...so of course I am going to feel the need for ppl to help me in order to do things. Everyday decisions such as what to wear or eat I don't even want ppl's input on. I feel like some of us may have genuine disabilities, but some Drs don't realise the severity of them.
The hard part is when you're in a relationship that you're anxious, attachment style kicks i, andt youcan'tt control it.and paradoxically you choose unhealthy relationships you prove youre anxiety and feel youre realety testing right, so you get to abusive relationship couse you know you can handle abuse and the only thing that you can't handle is been alone😢
"Might I suggest,that learning to identify(as I have done years ago)why you're feeling a certain emotion,writing on paper, such symptoms to an M.D.,and / or to your'self might help alot:It had helped me with that moments satisfaction":3-12-2022'
I have been diagnosed with DPD. My husband is my person and he goes away a lot for 3 days trips, especially in the summer. I also have schizoaffective disorder and would not feel safe travelling with him even though i am invited. This leaves me with an impossible decision as often as every week or two. My husband is going away tomorrow and i am planning to go to my parents’ to help cope but they are rather toxic. I am in therapy and got some great insights last week but i just don’t know if i will ever make progress. I’m so terrified that my husband will die and i am always after him to check his life insurance policy and will but he just doesn’t get around to it. On top of everything, i can’t work and my husband provides a nice lifestyle which i could never figure out how to manage alone. I’m afraid i will be homeless if anything happens. What can i do? I don’t even like it when he is down the hall in his office!
Someone very close to me has symptoms of this so I recommended he start assertiveness training after watching dIs vid!!!;) He's my homie and I love him, hope he goes!!!;) Thanks Doc!!!;)
Hello, I am employed with a very, VERY, VERY disturbing individual. Im not a medical professional, although this person drove me to study all of the characteristics in which they displayed from a professional standpoint. This is my conclusion, please bare with me. This individual suffers first and foremost from : DPD, histrionic disorder, aboulmania, anosognogia, sociotropy, histrionc disorder, persecutory delusions disorder, avoidant personality disorder and BPD. There's even a himt of marty syndrome. While it is truly disturbing it is fascinating as a study and also causes an introspective effect. I am employed by a company that has to target and hire people with severe mental illness and severe mental retardation, ptsd, spinal conditions etc... everyone who works there does not have these issues. There are supposed to be vocational rehabilitation counselors on site but there aren't any, only rarely. Thank you for your video.
I can't imagine a person having both BPD & DPD. Ppl with DPD don't have massive mood swings or outbursts. They act *very* differently to someone with a Cluster B personality disorder.
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Thanks a bunch!
I have DPD. Thank you so much for talking about this. There needs to be more information out there about this disorder.
Idk why I never knew about this disorder or why it was never brought up to me by therapists because this is my entire life since childhood. I’m def going to get myself an evaluation.
Thank you for this video ❤
NO LITERALLY! bpd just didn’t fully click considering my childhood. i think both disorders are equally really hard to live with but bpd is more common so it’s talked about more
A worked with a supervisor with DPD, it's wasn't a good work environment. She finally quit because people started to set boundaries with her
What does it look like when a person with Dpd lives alone? They’re forced to make certain decision on their own, such as feeding oneself. Do they just fall back on what they know they DO like? Do they call someone to ask? Are they paralyzed? Unable to formulate a plan? What about cleaning, and making decisions about organizing or letting go of clutter?
These are all valid questions. I think it can be rather paralyzing - eventually you will have to eat something, but it may not be the healthy option. As far as clutter goes, that can be next to impossible. For me, deciding what to clean is a compromise. Basic cleanliness and having a sanitary home is important - so countertops, sinks, and the bathroom have to be in good shape, but dusting and deeper cleaning projects are harder to get to. Just my experience, even though I haven't been diagnosed (even though I can identify with many of the traits).
Probably they won't do it for long, they are going to do anything to jump in to the next relationship, with basically anyone who is willing to do that. They are willing to be treated like dirt everyday, maybe even r_ped or beaten, tossed around, just to have someone. Living alone for a period of time would be extremely painful, filled with fears, worries, being terrified to the point of being unable to move or do anything. Loads of thoughts of committing s_icide or that they have to spend all of this energy to find someone. As far as food go, probably they go to one shopping trip buying loads of long-lasting food like cans, ready meals, pot noodles, bread, etc. Put them next to the bed so they don't even have to get up when they didn't eat for like days.
Been there, done that, talking from experience. Thankfully I got medicated and got into CBT and exposure therapy so it is getting better.
@@vivienm2037there are different degrees. Please don't generalize and go to worse case scenario for each person who is diagnosed with this. It gives the wrong impression to those unfamiliar with the disorder
@@vivienm2037Good to know that you are getting better! I'm on my first day off my person and one week trying to make the decision to break it off... The house is a mess, I have no clean dishes and underwear. I'm on meds and therapy too...
i have dpd, but i've gone to psychotherapy and had assetiveness training and also read books on assertiveness. So, i live alone and i do all these things. i wasn't afraid of doing all these things, i just didn't know how! Once i got assertiveness training i started doiing more and more things for myself.
Im pretty sure my dpd stems from trauma, my parents (especially my mom) are strict and my mom would yell at me and hurl death threats whenever I would try to defend myself to her disliking and my parents made me feel like nothing i do is good enough, every time i did something to what i thought was their expectation, it wasn’t done to their expectation somehow. When i made a decision, It always seemed to be the wrong one. Now my mom gets mad at me for depending on her so much to make simple decisions, so that feeds even more into it. I hate my dpd so much, i hate not being able to defend myself, i hate not being able to express my opinions anymore due to fear of someone not agreeing. I hate it that my reflex is to go radio silent when someone says something i dont agree with. I hate my parents for making me this way.
Hey! I’m impressed that you can express your anger so well! Good for you - I hope you’re able to find people be they therapists or others who can really help you. May I suggest finding a therapist who has had good success with dpd. I can also suggest Psychology in Seattle- that channel has podcasts on Patreon, and a whole series on dpd. A lot of what’s needed for healing is the space and time where someone truly believes you can solve your own problems. I hope you can surmount the incredible challenge of braving the world yourself and if it helps: I know you can do it; and if you make mistakes, you’ll still be ok.
All the best!
I have DPD, and I have a proposition... that is kind of self evident.
And that is that DPD goes hand in hand with Inattentive ADHD.
I have them both, so I made the connection.
It's kind of obvious, when you think about it, because they are dependent on other, because they FOR REAL are incapable of every day tasks. Because as you know ADHD makes your brain quite literally close to incapable of doing every day things and "Grownup" tasks, because of the lack of working memory and executive function.
-Aka people with DPD do NOT have false fears of being unable to take of themselves. But very realistic ones, people just assume it's false.
DPD could just be the result of someone having Inattentive ADHD, and legitimately unable to do "life things".
-I didn't put hyperactive ADHD here, because they are a different type, more extroverted version of ADHD, who are often more aggressive and self reliant.
I actually wonder this too. I was diagnosed with DPD but also have every symptom of inattentive type ADHD (undiagnosed). I struggle a *lot* both cognitively (working memory, processing & learning, executive function, focusing, motivation etc) & physically (chronic illness which causes such disabling fatigue & other symptoms that I am genuinely unable to work or socialise)...so of course I am going to feel the need for ppl to help me in order to do things. Everyday decisions such as what to wear or eat I don't even want ppl's input on. I feel like some of us may have genuine disabilities, but some Drs don't realise the severity of them.
If your fear of not being able to take care of yourself is legitimate because of a disability, then i don’t think it should be diagnosed as DPD.
The hard part is when you're in a relationship that you're anxious, attachment style kicks i, andt youcan'tt control it.and paradoxically you choose unhealthy relationships you prove youre anxiety and feel youre realety testing right, so you get to abusive relationship couse you know you can handle abuse and the only thing that you can't handle is been alone😢
"Might I suggest,that learning to identify(as I have done years ago)why you're feeling a certain emotion,writing on paper, such symptoms to an M.D.,and / or to your'self might help alot:It had helped me with that moments satisfaction":3-12-2022'
I feel like this is me! AND MY DAUGHTER. 😢😢
awww this is me and my mom!!!!🤪😻
I have been diagnosed with DPD. My husband is my person and he goes away a lot for 3 days trips, especially in the summer. I also have schizoaffective disorder and would not feel safe travelling with him even though i am invited. This leaves me with an impossible decision as often as every week or two. My husband is going away tomorrow and i am planning to go to my parents’ to help cope but they are rather toxic. I am in therapy and got some great insights last week but i just don’t know if i will ever make progress. I’m so terrified that my husband will die and i am always after him to check his life insurance policy and will but he just doesn’t get around to it. On top of everything, i can’t work and my husband provides a nice lifestyle which i could never figure out how to manage alone. I’m afraid i will be homeless if anything happens. What can i do? I don’t even like it when he is down the hall in his office!
A lot feels like it makes sense
I used to be so dependant to others, I didn't even realize it till one of my friend pointed it out
Thankyou for video..its help my study so much❤
4:40 how real your words are ! 🥺
Someone very close to me has symptoms of this so I recommended he start assertiveness training after watching dIs vid!!!;) He's my homie and I love him, hope he goes!!!;)
Thanks Doc!!!;)
Hello, I am employed with a very, VERY, VERY disturbing individual. Im not a medical professional, although this person drove me to study all of the characteristics in which they displayed from a professional standpoint. This is my conclusion, please bare with me.
This individual suffers first and foremost from : DPD, histrionic disorder, aboulmania, anosognogia, sociotropy, histrionc disorder, persecutory delusions disorder, avoidant personality disorder and BPD. There's even a himt of marty syndrome. While it is truly disturbing it is fascinating as a study and also causes an introspective effect. I am employed by a company that has to target and hire people with severe mental illness and severe mental retardation, ptsd, spinal conditions etc... everyone who works there does not have these issues. There are supposed to be vocational rehabilitation counselors on site but there aren't any, only rarely.
Thank you for your video.
I can't imagine a person having both BPD & DPD. Ppl with DPD don't have massive mood swings or outbursts. They act *very* differently to someone with a Cluster B personality disorder.
Thank u for the video❤
Sorry love. I couldn't get more than 2 mins in because of the music. Completely unnecessary. You are great though 😊
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