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This is my mom. She is mentally ill. For her life. Once we talked on the phone and my mom was whispering because she said that the fbi was listening to her phone calls. When she got old, my sister and I moved her to the city we lived in. She was a hoarder and while unhoarded her her stuff and found rocks with paper around them and when we read them... she wrote... If I die, so and so at the utility’s office killed me
My mom has it....i feel like there is no help or fixing it. Ive searched. All I can find is ppl explaining it. Not fixing it. And I'm losing my mom from this disorder. My kids have lost their grandmother. Our large family has fallen apart bc of her. She single handedly tore us all apart. Its unbelievable. ...but she is the victim. Its maddening
@Anna Sichla yes, she won't see anyone more than a couple times. And if she does stay with a therapist longer than that, she uses all her time trying to get other people in there and focusing on them bc she honestly thinks everyone around her is the problem...and if she can "fix" them, then all her problems will be solved. And if you disagree with her, your up to something...or working behind the scenes with one of her enemies. It's like, what world do you live in??? Shes totally out of touch with reality, obsessive, and destructive. It's the saddest thing to watch. But also so frustrating bc she causes real damage and chases everyone away. She has swore someone tampered with the wheels on her car, tried to run her off the road, bugged her house with hidden cameras, that someone is trying to stalk her, kill her, and Rob her constantly. She thinks the on Star in her car was paid for by her brother and he somehow eves drops on her thru it 24/7 ... I could go on and on. I just feel hopeless. But thank you for your comment. Even just being heard by one person is somehow comforting.
courtneylove's MACcompact - Sad to relate dude, after doing your research you’ll come to realise that there is no cure for paranoia... It has strongly rooted, genetically-triggered components and is a lifelong condition which can only be managed at best, with the cooperation of the sufferer, not cured. It’s a bit like trying to convince an Area 51 acolyte that there are no such things as flying saucers =( Sorry. :( ... and I know where you live ;)
@@EdwardPCampbell thats exactly what it feels like I'm trying to do! This was my first Thanksgiving without her. Ive had to distance myself and my family from her. She s always making me choose between someone and ive lost all my family over it. I have my kids, and my sister left. If I don't distance myself shes gonna start getting in my kids ears and causing problems between them. She already has tried to pit me against my sister ( her own daughters) so I know she'll pit my kids against each other too. It's what she does. It's just the most frustrating thing to deal with. Back in 2011 she had a nervous breakdown I'm not really sure what caused it, but your right. It changed her on some like genetic level and rewired her entire personhood...everything about her. I dont even know who she is anymore. And she just seems to get worse all the time, never better. She lies about going to doctors and therapists and insists everyone jump thru hoops at all times. She turned mean and aggressive and she makes threats she feels are justified. But they arent justified...no on is trying to kill her. And I'm starting to get afraid of her myself bc shes made threats to shoot my husband and stuff. Multiple times. I'm afraid she might really do it. So I just stopped talking to her. I feel awful but what can I do? She's gonna kill someone.
My PPD was induced by extreme gaslighting and narcisistic mind games on top of a situation where I was and still am totally exposed and exploited in some very inhumane ways. Gotta love trauma induced personality disorders 🤡
That is really a good point that you are not in that bad stage and accept the diagnoses. Just try to start the treatment or else when it gets by any reason sever, you won't accept your problem and start suspecting and blaming people. You will get better just if you decide to take treatment and help.
Someone could be watching this exactly the same time as me right now trying to self educate themselves psychologically or just in general. Just imagine we’re all not alone ever, and we’re trying each and everyday to understand others and to understand ourselves.
Thanks for this ❤ just trying to educate myself and improve! Feeling quite isolated during this period of my life but in a way im glad because it’s given me the opportunity to self reflect. But i dont think this video resonates with me, itll be good learn a bit more
Not gonna lie here, she is fine. Her mind, not her looks. So skip the 'simp' crap. I did not say I would marry or be with her. just stated the obvious. The mind is more powerful than looks IMO. The looks fade b4 the mind.
I agree, great therapist. My previous therapist was more of a "how does this make you feel' therapist. Still, they looked at my dad like he was nuts when I left my sessions. For good reasons. I apologize if this was too much for you take in, some people aren't ready to take on others problems.
I have been diagnosed with PPD traits. The problem with paranoia is that it is not paranoia if people are really out to get you, which is exactly what I have experienced in the past.
I relate to this. I was in a toxic workplace, and, on top of that, in an international environment with very different understanding of history and symbols. I had C-PTSD, intergenerational trauma, and I was getting out of narcissistic abuse. I knew what happened to me, and what exactly I was sensitive to. However, in an evaluation it presented as PPD traits.
@@learningenglishthroughtran8540 You don't have the right to develop PPD? Your're super funny! I believe you're on to something here, let's just tell people they dont have the right to cancer, broken bones, depression and so on ... it could work ☺
omg i could have written this!! I had been diagnosed with paranoid traits during a time I was being severely abused and have history of bullying and trauma lol. I'm much better now though!!
Just found out I have traits of PPD. It's sad that years of abuse by jerks creates this hell for a person. I can relate: rigidity, thinking some people look at you funny, taking things said the wrong way. I guess the first step is self-acceptance.
I think anyone who's been abused will look around to feel safe. Having one or two traits doesn't mean you have it. I agree that it seems more PTSD. As someone who's gone through it, I understand how you feel about trusting people.
@@pillowplay2118 yep I agree with your opinion... I was thinking a got PPD after relationship with narcist.. but it was PTSD and grieving after... In PTSD it's paranoid in some degree but it's understandable
My boyfriend has diagnosed PPD and wow... now everything makes sense. This video helped me learn to not take things personally during arguments we have, because I know his disorder has a lot to do with it, because he’s a really sweet guy outside of those small moments where he becomes stubborn and unable to accept reality or being wrong. Thank you for this video !!
I'm trying to be with a man who suffers from this... he's convinced I'm the cheating type and I'm trying to not take it personally. I really like him outside of this issue. IDK how to help him though
I just dated someone who was exactly like this. He constantly accused me of being this awful person. It was really sad, because it was based on trauma, but i couldn't help and it was triggering as heck for me.
I'm in this situation and I'm trying to help him. IDK how to help him though, that's why I'm watching this. I understand how it's hugely triggering af. I get why you had to go, this man is exactly the kind of man I've wanted my whole life though... I hope he can grow while I show him he can trust me...
I know that someone like me is difficult to get along with, and I’m my own worst enemy in seeking help and getting affection from people who care. And I’m probably reading too far into this video and being hypersensitive. But I think what this psychiatrist missed was the anguish, depression, and self-hate that sufferers of this often have. Being scared 100% of the time, trusting nothing, and feeling completely isolated because of this distrust really takes a toll. The racing thoughts can never turn off. Imagine giving a presentation in front of an audience you aren’t prepared for. That’s how many of those afflicted with this feel 24/7. As I’m writing this, I’m worried that the FBI will send an ambulance to my house because they think I’m suicidal or a threat to others. I also think this portrayal of being narcissistic and control-freaky is warranted but incomplete; this never-ending, powerful fear of others makes me feel unloved which leads to feelings of self-hate and incredibly low self-esteem, which hurts even more because I am alone. And this “tongue-in-cheek” and somewhat condescending tone throughout this explanation of us just being unlikable assholes felt very dismissive and gave me less hope. But maybe I’m just being hypersensitive lol😅
Just always calm down and try to be nice to people. My mom is like this too, and I don't even wish for my enemies to experience growing up with her as their mother
Feel this. And its really easy to go along with it since weve all been hurt. Like "it happened once itll happen again". Just a matter of who and when. Just have to calculate every move i make to avoid being caused pain by others. And i wouldnt read into the condescending tone too much, Normies just arent capable of fully capable of understanding having a sideways brain. Have to be nuetral about it. But when you finally get what you want, the full package of being solitary, alone, safe from other people, and how evil they are. It ends up being worse than dealing with other people
I believe my mother is suffering from this condition. She’s been homeless and missing the last 7 years and we only found her less than a month ago. Literally everyone who’s tried to help her she digs for any reason to peg them as a bad person who’s out to use her or attack her. And the worst part is she doesn’t believe anything is wrong with her. She’s completely convinced she’s the only sane one. It literally is breaking my heart so much I can’t see her some days. I need help any suggestions
The only way with serious cases like this is to get professional help. I understand getting her into a therapist/psychiatrist may seem impossible at this point so maybe talk to a psychiatrist alone and explain the situation
I'm going through a similar thing with my brother, thank god we figured it out early and can get him help. I think it is important to establish a new relationship with your mother, go slow and be patient and gentle. I did not actually think of that until I see it succeeded. It inspired me so much to become someone like that and to help others. I wish all the best for you and your family.
Easy Go yeah 7 year and apparently she’s been on the streets the whole time and even now things still haven’t inproved in fact she’s worse and back on the streets
I come from a very disturbed family and a lot of childhood trauma and abuse, and I definitely struggle with paranoia in terms of my work life. It’s crazy and it’s so frustrating but at least if I can acknowledge those thoughts for what they are I can accept that they’re probably not true.
Med Circle I appreciate these videos. Could you PLEASE do a video with Dr. Ramani on social anxiety? Her eloquence/fluence of speech and thought is what I always admired and aspired.
My Father was Paranoid, and I grew up with problems of my own, and his constant unreasonable reactions and punishments(for "not respecting" him)made my problems worse.
I am shocked how you actually described my mom, and now everything makes sense. My whole life everyone was always plotting to destroy her life. Never had any friends because they were only approaching her because of financial interests. So many family reunions that she either didn’t go, or even did go but would not eat because she was sure someone made some black magic to break their marriage. One picture in their entire life that people commented in how stylish my dad looked somehow turned into people doesn’t think she looks good. One jerk made one comment to my dad and all of the sudden the whole company was also plotting to destroy their marriage. And now “there’s a new world order wanting to control the world”... the constant singling out a comment out of a context that was meant to offend her but it wasn’t even about her at all. And that on top of the “your father is cheating on me” fear that has never been proven true. This is nuts. But I understand her better now. Always thought she was a kind of a hypersensitive narcissist, but she’s actually paranoid. Thank you Dr. for clearing that out.
This is my dad 100%. He seems so high functioning because he works and lives by himself and takes care of himself but his extreme distrust of everyone has negatively affected his life so much and has pushed everyone away from him. I'm the only person he's got because the rest of his family just doesn't want to have anything to do with him. I've been trying to convince him to get help for years and the worst part is that he is so deeply in denial that he doesnt believe there is anything wrong with him. All of his delusions are so real to him. They all sound completely logical to him. One time for example, there was a dead bird on his patio. I had automatically assumed the bird flew into the window, because that was just the logical conclusion most people would make. But my dad, he had actually thought that one of his neighbours had thrown a dead bird on his patio because he got a sense that they didn't like him. He moves from job to job and place to place with a pattern of distrust everywhere he goes. He claims that every single person he has ever lived with has been stealing from him (he always rents out a room in someone's house). Also, he always thinks that his coworkers are sabotaging his work (he is a welder). He dated a couple of women back when I was a teenager and in both of those relationships, he was constantly accusing them of cheating on him. But here's the catch. With me. His teenage son. The only "evidence" was that I was up all night talking in the living room. I was actually always up all night playing Call of Duty and chatting with my friends because that's what teenagers do. But no, he thought I was trying to steal his middle aged Filipino girlfriend. Another time he couldn't find a salad in his fridge and accused me of stealing his keys, giving them to my mother (who he has had a 23 year grudge against) so my mother could copy the keys to his house, then returned his own keys so he wouldn't notice they were missing. Then he thought that my mom must have been in the house and took the salad. Because that was the only logical explanation.
@ronthorn3 it's not their fault though. Just remember that. Other people led them to think this way. And as much as you might not understand it. This is the reality of what it can do to a person. Just always love whoever you notice has it. They really need it.
I've had this type of relationship with a friend...and your advice is EXACTLY the way I learned to respond to his accusations, and he began to express how much he hated when I suggested alternates and then like other time and time again, he told me to leave his house. It's sad seeing someone you care about live in such chronic suspicious stress all the time. It's like a loss of life all together because they start being unable to enjoy the good things that are right under there nose. ☹
I have PPD and i feel its because of the time we are living in. Its hard to trust people because everyone is out for their damnselves instead of helping each other grow as a Planet.
when i was young i loved people in general and if they hurt me rather than being angry i start feeling i got something bad in me.but now i have this hate in general and if you hurt me i will never stop harbouring bad thoughts that i won,t feel sorry if i hear something bad happened to you and you can be my friend its like i want you to get karma.to be honest i wish i remained like before cause i had more peace but people changed me
This is such a rare disorder, and thus no one ever talks about it. People need to acknowledge what it's like for people to live with it, more. Thank you so much for making this video, it means the world.
Iam dealing with PPD but my symptoms are less sever , but i am so tired i ended ip alone I can’t trust anyone, I don’t want to trust anyone, because i am scared , i keep getting angry at people i love I accuse them , I am so sad that there is no treatment for PPD I don’t think i can live like this, because my heart loves my friends and family, but my brain has its own thoughts 💔
This is me to a "T"..Im so discouraaged there is no help for this. I'm trying to change ( i realize I do have HPD) but there is nothing to start working with to fight this debilitating disorder..it's renders your life down to "no life"
Oh my gosh. I’m so happy that Paranoid Personality Disorder is getting more attention and is being talked about more. There’s not much about PPD out there and especially having Dr. Ramani is immensely helpful.
I have been in a mode off and on as people interject in my business .. some friends keep me rolling into a great place and sum purposely love my spiral do I have it lol only since 2019 it increased lol being around my dad
From Switzerland - Love to listen to Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Even as a germen speaker she explains everything very clearly and good. Thanks for your great Videos.
I’ve been in a relationship with someone who I believe has ppd and the paranoia is so pronounced as well as hypersensitivity. Impossible to reason with someone who always thinks you are out to get them or attacking them or lying or playing games.......
This is my mother. She has alienated most people from her life. But she has never received a proper diagnosis because she hates all medical professionals.
The problem is a lot of paranoid people get confused to if they are in the right or wrong and because in reality people will treat you that way. Paranoid people will then choose to be hateful because that gives them alertness and the upperhand to any dangerous/threatening situation.
WOW, just described my husband and his hypersensitivity to everyone and everything out there..It truly helps me understand him and not take things so personally. But like the doc said, I gave him the bum's rush because it was incredibly toxic to live with..also he has symptoms of covert narcissism.Made for a living hell here.. Learning about these disorders helped me to understand that in no way shape or form was there ever going to be a long term relationship that was one of mutual respect and admiration..and it helped me learn my own dysfunction and work at getting healthier my self..Thank you for all that you bring here.. truly game changing for us that have endured the truth of our lives with the ones that we love.
Most heartbreaking and frustrating thing I have ever had to go through. My husband of 15 years is hypersensitive and as time goes on this has progressed into paranoia. Our relationship was wonderful the first 10years we loved and trusted each other. 5 years ago he started accusing me of cheating and I can no longer get him to believe me and he is unwilling to see a doctor..... he believes I'm the one with issues of infidelity and that I am complusive liar who fooled him the first 10years. I know I can't help him anymore and I can't go on living in such a toxic environment....... But it is so hard to walk away knowing that underneath the personality disorder is my soulmate and love of my life....... I don't want to give up on him, but I don't know what to do anymore. Has anyone gotten better or helped a love one get better. Please help with suggestions. Thank you
@@ashleys6482 no, if your talking about a narcissist they will never change. I went to a q and a with dr Ramani and she said 100% of the time if a narc accuses you of cheating they have done it.
What I'm trying to figure out is how to deal with these people. Once I read a book "the power of charm" and I thought I would practice the techniques to charm my step mom... man that back fired. Somehow she got pissed! But I know that's because she is a narcissist and feels bad about herself... so for me to come in and be interested in her, why would anyone be interested in her she is a terrible person in her mind so for me to not fall in line with that mind set, she needed to start a fight/prove me wrong to persevere her own self perception.
@@ashleys6482 "underneath the personality disorder is my soulmate and the love of my life" I felt you! Above the paranoia, someone of these people are genuinely good people. 😔🙁
@Ashley S What is the update with you and your husband? I have been married for 17 years and I am know realizing that my husband has this disorder, but the sad thing is that he will never get help because in his eyes I am the one with the problems. I am tired of being accused of cheating and lying, when I have been faithful and given up everything for him to show him I'm loyal. He is a wonderful father and I feel like I am in a tug of war because I don't know how much more I can take, but how do I take my children away from their father??
I clicked this video because I suspect my husband has this. The first thing that jumped out is that she said they often get confused with narcissists. I definitely also see all the signs of narcissism in him. He’s always accusing me of cheating, he’s suspicious of everybody and everything, he claims he’s being watched, puts a bunch of locks on the doors and if anybody is sick he’s freaking out, shutting off WiFi claiming the WiFi is making us sick, suddenly washing and cleaning everything. He believes most conspiracy theories and spends hours watching them. I could go on and on. She’s describing my husband to the tee. He believes conspiracy theories but does not trust healthcare people.
Same here. I came here and watched because my husband is SUPER paranoid. He accuses me of cheating every single day. It's so draining. His behavior is beyond ridiculous. I can't even begin to explain. I document everything just in case. I don't know what to do except leave. He refuses to get help.
I don't trust the health care system either with my health however I do trust A&E and the surgeons, health care is fecked up, people are being handed all sorts of medicines that don't really help. I think it's good to help myself independently instead of going to a doctor because they cannot really do anything. Accepting oneself is a start.
This doctor is super articulate and intelligent. I like that she is critical of the literature and has formed her own professional and clinical opinion on this data/writing. We need more doctors like her in all areas of medicine
I am 25 and came from refugee background and I have paranoid schizophrenia disorder. Life is tough for people like me. I on the other hand gets so scared whenever I am in public area and think the government is going to deport me out of the country and Think I am always being watched. Sometime I have suicidal thoughts and study seems impossibly hard sometime. But I am seeing psychiatrists and they are helping me. Hope I will get better.
“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions to our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That's how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layers of opacity and see each other's naked hearts.” ― Tennessee Williams
YES! And going through it now I have epilepsy This kind of parents deserve to go in prison If you realise you have such problems you NEED! to get help ❤
Yes I think so. One of my parents gets off on correcting me and others. It's so annoying and soul destroying and if your parent is like this what hope do you have of feeling people are supporting you.
I commented a few times under other comments here. But I wanted to share this. I JUST discovered that I have this. I'm not diagnosed but I'm 99% sure this is it. I have fought this part of me for so many years and its literally the hardest thing that I have battled with. Now that I learned what it is i can finally start to dismantle all the damage it has caused in my life. My relationship now and the family I made with her was almost at the brink of being over. It was just an hour ago that i learned about this disorder and now im so happy I dont have to live my life thinking I AM RIGHT NOT TO TRUST PEOPLE. When the problem was with me this whole time. I've battled this since 13.... I'm 40 now. Thank you thank you thank you for this video. You have my subscription!!!! Thanks you!
I was like that as a younger person. It's wasn't till I was in my 40s I set out to face my fears. I regret not doing it as a younger person. I have missed so many opportunities because of fear. I seeked the truth. I'm glad to say I have found it. Truth is a person. Jesus christ. Go seek the truth. Don't waste any more of your life on the lies you have in your thoughts. You are Gods masterpiece I am the way the truth and the life. Jesus christ
Paranoid or your instinct telling you something is wrong out there and you can't put your finger in it?!!! The same thing applies when it comes to being anxious.
I have PPD, and I can not tell the difference between real red flags and normal human behavior. The difference is that someone with PPD is oversensitive to other people's behavior. A person with PPD will strain ALL of their relationships and CONSTANTLY be in a state of fear.
@@jedisentinel1499 I understand how you feel, my paranoia has put a strain on most of my relationships. I have a long history of falsely accusing people, even close friends. If I ever see someone doing something that I don't fully understand, my mind will come up with the worst possible explanations, especially explanations based on times I was actually screwed over by people in the past or mistreated. For years, people would explain to me how my assumptions about them were wrong until I finally realized I have a mental problem that will not go away on its own. It is treatable with counseling, but I don't think it is curable. I have to fight my suspicious thoughts everyday.
@@jedisentinel1499 I would have a discussion with her about the symptoms you're seeing in her. Try not to be accusatory or judgmental. Tell her that the symptoms are bothering you a lot, and that she needs to trust you and others close to her if she wants her relationships to be healthy. As you know, I can't say anything about psychiatric treatment as I'm not qualified. If it's that bad, you should both speak with a trusted psychiatrist about the symptoms and they'll tell you what to do next. I wish you and your partner well.
patients is what saved me from PPD and taking a deep breath while acknowledging it when these thoughts come. You have to be real objective with these thoughts. Whats funny about this is after u overcome these paranoias, it’s not like it’ll leave you, you still be “hyper sensitive” and see things as it is, you’ll be enlightened in away... or maybe I’m so paranoid that I’ve convinced myself I’m enlightened lol but the point is you shouldn’t believe anything, I’m sure u know that but I’m talking about your own thoughts also.. the devil is a lier or ur brain, it’s the same thing. especially if you’re not taking care of yourself with healthy eating habits and fasting. Also I wanna add if u ever find ur self in an episode of like crazy paranoia where it won’t stop, go find yourself the nearest forest or anywhere with lots of trees. it helps a lot speaking from experience. Another thing Ik I already said it but Patients, patients, patients it’ll save you from looking crazy. You’re also going to gain a lot of insight of life that’s going to help you in the long run. Most of these mental illnesses are a blessing in disguise after we over come them.
I absolutely love watching Dr romani's videos. Not only is she very articulate and intelligent, but she's always using layman's terms that even a moron can understand, but she answers questions directly without beating around the bush. Thank you Dr Armani and young man that conducts the interviews. And thank you Dr Romani, as I have benefited so much from your therapeutic sessions. God bless you and maybe someday I will meet a wonderful woman such as yourself! Keep up the good work and I hope that your life is nothing but fulfilling, even though you are not getting paid anything compared to what you're really worth and the help that you have given thousands of people.
Thank you so much for this. There is not enough information about this disorder. My boyfriend had it. I had to leave because it was too toxic and he never wanted to get help but thank you for telling people about this.
I was diagnosed with Paranoid personality disorder, Avoidant Personality disorder, Social anxiety disorder, Generalized anxiety Disorder and Depression. It took me 20 years to get help, and now 2 & half year under treatments both medications and therapies. Half symptoms have reduced but still I have some problems, specially with anxiety and social anxiety. I think if you have avoidant personality disorder it make social anxiety harder to treat.
Never had these problems- until I dealt with narcissistic abuse. Now, I deal with all of this and it sucks so badly. I only think the people that want to hurt me are narcs or strange men (my ex-narc that is still in my life, my mother) I've endured a lot of abuse. I have 10 ACES and ongoing trauma as an adult. I want to get better. I know my paranoid thoughts are paranoid and I usually have power over them, but my trust is so wrecked after my narc ex.
And the worse part is that it seems like subconsciously we seek out narcs. We don't want to but do. Or at least that's how it is for me and now I try to maybe overanalyze people to see if they are a narc.
Does anyone else have a feeling that people are ‘talking about you’? Cause I does. That’s why I am here.. literally every time a group of people are talking.
I think this is me tbh. i always always find hidden negative meanings in conversations and body language, to the point i do it even with my parents. if i catch myself doing it i can usually bring myself back, especially if its someone im close with, i can usually recognise that its highly unlikely that they were secretly attacking me. i suffer chronic social anxiety and i come across as very rigid in conversation, i haven't truly felt relaxed in what feels like years. on the point of coming across as aggressive and scowling its really hard because i might appear that way but inside im actually scared out of my mind, but people will naturally react negatively towards me which in turn makes me more aware of my strange behaviours and more weird.there have been times when i have gone crazy and destroyed friendships with very little evidence of them actually doing anything, most of it being the story iv made up in my head, being confirmed by little things i pick up on in conversations. its tiring being so caught up in you're own head.
@KnicksNYanks84 this is where it gets irritating. You're constantly on a repetition of "He's out to get me" but then it pulls you back in with a comment like yours "Maybe you're right" you get so tired of the battle eventually you jump to conclusions and cut the person off regardless. With no evidence to back it up. Only theories of how you interpret things they mightve said or done. Truly vicous cycle it feels like living in hell everyday
This isn't your normal kind of paranoia. The patients suspect everything, even a fucking animal. They will flip out at advertisements that 'is meant to insult them'. They can get insulted by you drinking water too.
@Kåre Åge when I said advertisements, I didn't say any one selective advertisement. They would flip out at all of them. It could be due to something as silly as the number of people appearing in the ad. First hand experience this side.
@@ashishsengupta6980 actually man it ranges from mild to extreme. I have it but I dont think everyone is out to get me. Just women I let into my life. And uts only REALLY bad sometimes. Most times I can think my way out of it but sometimes I get hit too hard all at once then I lose the ability to control it. And its bad.... that's all
there is so much that others do that harm others and what if a person is picking up cues from someone like the things they say - and with all of naricissms going around I mean I wish there was nothing going on with some of the others whom I am all too often thinking but if they would not imply things that certainly sound abusive then I would not experience such suspcions so how do one draw the line
I felt like I was living with an actual madwoman with all the accusations. If I couldn't be reached on the phone for a few hours, there would be huge tear soaked rages.
Coming from someone who has this, it is literally fucking hell living through this mindset. Can never relax AT ALL, many things become triggers on a daily basis, the smallest details end up being hostile or threatening. Your worldview is all distorted with ideas of corruption and threats against you. Everything is bad until being proven innocent. No joke, you kids who act like "Ohh I must have PPD" need to think about your words again because this is serious, it fucks with your whole life and mind
My wife has this and I always tell her I am guilty until proven guilty because she is always looking for evidence that I am cheating. She has never found any, but tells herself that she just didn't find it yet. Meanwhile, it's been almost two decades. Smh! Help!
I too vent found exact conversations of hubby but I've past his old fb id using , never leaves phone , alwz takes phone where evr he goes , I never feel m loved , I alwz feel neglect Ed even in special occasions ,,my patience is out of control I can't put fake smile , not deal normal in society, husband dnt want to talk abt this plz help
This lady is very considerate of people who are hypersensitive. She clearly defines the difference between being hypersensitive or untrusting , vs psychotic paranoia and crazy imagination
I am a therapist and have not seen this in practice. But, I did date someone briefly and just Wow!! The malevolent motives theories abound!! And ideas that simply everyone is after them or setting them up in some way. And yes, actually functioning pretty well outside of these symptoms.
I have PPD, but I was misdiagnosed with asperger's as the 2 disorders share many symptoms. Psychologists really need to know the differences between the 2 because they didn't give me the help I really need.
True and for that you don't have to have PPD. Look into sep 11 being explosives, MK-Ultra, AI spying on you, mobile camera rigs that look and move like animals, cell phone tracking. Now you have a choice blue pill.....or red pill. These are the more believable stores that after some research you can see and will believe.
At the age of 32 I've just realized how bad I have this, the constant suspicion with partners, getting angry with people at work for asking how long the order is going to take which I take as a personal attack every time. I must be fucking insufferable lol Would explain why I have virtually no friends left at this point in my life and after about 12 hours into a new relationship I'm certain she's cheating lmao. What a hellish existence it is.
There is hope! If you accept that something is wrong, it is possible to change! 🙏 At the same time, show that probably you are not a narcisist person. Narcisist cannot admit that something is wrong with theirselves.
It pretty much is fucking insufferable to have to deal with/live with people who are PPD (they ARE this character, they do not "have" this character, and it is a character disorder, not a personality disorder) and these ppl need a wake up call. If you don't have evidence to prove your accusations, stick your accusations against someone else's character where the sun doesn't shine
I worked with one of these PPDs. It was hell on earth. The guy was constantly causing conflicts, was constantly angry, always reporting, filing lawsuits and he could never get anything done because he was too afraid to sign anything. I ended up being reported to the CEO for giving the guy wrong instructions on how to do his job and I wasn't even assigned to give him any instructions. What was friendly advice that he asked for turned into my worst nightmare. Run from PPD is all I can say. He ended up getting fired. He's now in court battling my employer.
I love Dr. Ramani, she is clearly very knowledgeable and passionate about her field. I'd love to have a conversation with her, she seems infinitely interesting.
I used to constantly change my name or I would never tell people my real name. I shut my windows because I feel like I’m being recorded by neighbours or watched. I cannot develop close bonds to people because if they make a hurtful comment I cannot trust them ever again no matter how hard I try. It’s very lonely and tiring existence.
Through out this whole video I literally would finish this womans sentences... I never understood why I think he way I do and I called myself crazy but it makes sense now.. I have ppd it comfort me knowing I'm not alone and I'm not crazy now I hope with this knowledge I can learn and better myself.
Having a friend who has a lot of these symptoms.. I am so glad I shut the door on them coz it got to a point almost each sentence of mine had a negative meaning behind it that no one but her only noticed. This video just cemented that my decision was one of the best I've ever taken.
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am paranoid all the time about my boyfriend “cheating” on me. And I’m also paranoid that people are talking about me negatively. I’m paranoid at my workplace too, I think everyone’s talking or thinking negatively of me and it’s making me respond in an angry manner when it’s confronted. And when people take a glimpse of me, I automatically think that they “know” me and will tell others about me and waiting for me to screw up on anything. They’re just waiting for me to mess up, whatever the issue may be. People keep telling me “really, they’re not even looking at you” but I just KNOW it somehow that they’re talking about me. Sounds really self-absorbed. But I can’t help but be suspicious of people.
Same except I haven't had BPD diagnosis yet but it fits but I think the same way as you. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy a lot too cuz you end up being right, so it's hard to think differently 😕
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641 there's always that ONE person who goes out of their way to make someone feel worse. What joy do you get out of this?? I've just read a man having a similar experience with being suspicious of his gf and there were similar comments under his as well. Could you atleast acknowledge that people aren't always what you make them to be? Even if generally they maybe disingenuous or what not? if you're sick too, please get help. If you don't want to atleast try Magnesium glycinate or ashwagandha. Paranoia isn't "helping" you, it's stopping you from living your best life. Not being paranoid is not the same as being naive.
This might sound harsh but when people as individuals realise they aren't that special or interesting they can stop worrying what other people think. At the end of the day who cares what other people think?!
I'd love guidance about how to deal with people who have paranoid personality disorder. It's so difficult. Thank you for this information, very helpful.
This sounds like my husband. Even though he is trying to suppress it since I told him I want a divorce, I see it leak through on little things. He still assumes the worst motivation in others' actions and is extremely hurt when I don't see what he is seeing in the situation. It has been exhausting.
There is so much more to say... everything you described. I even tried suggesting other possibilities for what he perceived. That resulted in my being accused of not supporting him. He has accused me so many times of lying and cheating and not saying what I mean. He believes his doctors make fun of him behind his back and smirk to his face. My friends have been accused of taking verbal pokes at him and not liking him, which was not the case, insisting that I was telling them things I wasn't about him. When he has tried counseling, mainly because our marriage is failing, he has believed the counselors have not liked him, thought bad things about him and been messing with him. He has had the same problems at every job I have seen him attempt with his bosses and co-workers being out to get him somehow. I'm heartbroken for him.
A person with paranoid personality would never show such weakness. He's most likely the garden variety jealous spouse. PPD is very rare and they are masters of impression management and guarding their weakness. Donald Trump is a great example.
Do you know anyone with symptoms of paranoid personality disorder?
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I watched your video as I'm diagnosed with this and your just trying to make money here your link tried to charge me to watch the other videos sneakey
This is my mom. She is mentally ill. For her life. Once we talked on the phone and my mom was whispering because she said that the fbi was listening to her phone calls. When she got old, my sister and I moved her to the city we lived in. She was a hoarder and while unhoarded her her stuff and found rocks with paper around them and when we read them... she wrote... If I die, so and so at the utility’s office killed me
Please are there different types of degree with this disorder do you have to have all the symptoms to have this disorder and to what extent thank you
What is the primary cause of this disorder?
@@jakgodfrey9281 typical PPD response!
Why is this lady talking about me behind my back?
Because you're a verbally abusive clown
@@sal2975 lmao
No she is doing it in your face, lmao
Niahahahahaha 😆 lol
She is cheap trick from jjba
she explains every detail so clearly, i love her
Hot motherly figure, I'd tap that.
Certainly one of the key strengthens of an introvert. ;)
Yes but solutions pointed out.
Finally a video about paranoid personality it's so very rare on RUclips
Yes, thank you so much. It's hard to find a lot of videos about this. I'm not too encouraged by the prognosis...... :(
My mom has it....i feel like there is no help or fixing it. Ive searched. All I can find is ppl explaining it. Not fixing it. And I'm losing my mom from this disorder. My kids have lost their grandmother. Our large family has fallen apart bc of her. She single handedly tore us all apart. Its unbelievable. ...but she is the victim. Its maddening
@Anna Sichla yes, she won't see anyone more than a couple times. And if she does stay with a therapist longer than that, she uses all her time trying to get other people in there and focusing on them bc she honestly thinks everyone around her is the problem...and if she can "fix" them, then all her problems will be solved. And if you disagree with her, your up to something...or working behind the scenes with one of her enemies. It's like, what world do you live in??? Shes totally out of touch with reality, obsessive, and destructive. It's the saddest thing to watch. But also so frustrating bc she causes real damage and chases everyone away. She has swore someone tampered with the wheels on her car, tried to run her off the road, bugged her house with hidden cameras, that someone is trying to stalk her, kill her, and Rob her constantly. She thinks the on Star in her car was paid for by her brother and he somehow eves drops on her thru it 24/7 ... I could go on and on. I just feel hopeless. But thank you for your comment. Even just being heard by one person is somehow comforting.
courtneylove's MACcompact - Sad to relate dude, after doing your research you’ll come to realise that there is no cure for paranoia... It has strongly rooted, genetically-triggered components and is a lifelong condition which can only be managed at best, with the cooperation of the sufferer, not cured. It’s a bit like trying to convince an Area 51 acolyte that there are no such things as flying saucers =( Sorry. :( ... and I know where you live ;)
@@EdwardPCampbell thats exactly what it feels like I'm trying to do! This was my first Thanksgiving without her. Ive had to distance myself and my family from her. She s always making me choose between someone and ive lost all my family over it. I have my kids, and my sister left. If I don't distance myself shes gonna start getting in my kids ears and causing problems between them. She already has tried to pit me against my sister ( her own daughters) so I know she'll pit my kids against each other too. It's what she does. It's just the most frustrating thing to deal with. Back in 2011 she had a nervous breakdown I'm not really sure what caused it, but your right. It changed her on some like genetic level and rewired her entire personhood...everything about her. I dont even know who she is anymore. And she just seems to get worse all the time, never better. She lies about going to doctors and therapists and insists everyone jump thru hoops at all times. She turned mean and aggressive and she makes threats she feels are justified. But they arent justified...no on is trying to kill her. And I'm starting to get afraid of her myself bc shes made threats to shoot my husband and stuff. Multiple times. I'm afraid she might really do it. So I just stopped talking to her. I feel awful but what can I do? She's gonna kill someone.
My PPD was induced by extreme gaslighting and narcisistic mind games on top of a situation where I was and still am totally exposed and exploited in some very inhumane ways. Gotta love trauma induced personality disorders 🤡
That’s your PDD talking…
Jk lol
Sorry. It makes sense. Just feel bad it had to happen to you.
maybe that was just a domino effect
Same. Years of being manipulated and narcissisticly abused had defined developed this in me. It has remnants now but it’s much more tane
I like how the dog got excited when they high fived
I like how in the end he's just laying down.
Hahaha i literally came to the comments section just to see someone comment about that moment, dogs are too cute man!
The dog looked like wth because he raised his voice so loud.
4:18 for those who were also curious to know where haha so cute.
Hes a good boy
I was diagnosed with PPD and I’m not that bad 😭 I’m always feeling guilty. I swear I’m not that BAD!!
That is really a good point that you are not in that bad stage and accept the diagnoses. Just try to start the treatment or else when it gets by any reason sever, you won't accept your problem and start suspecting and blaming people.
You will get better just if you decide to take treatment and help.
Sanna h I have both anxiety and depression tho...
@@Alaa-ft4is it is not that difficult to overcome it if you get the treatment. Just don't worry!
Repent
We’re all sinners and authenticity shouldn’t be measured
Diagnosed by whom?
Someone could be watching this exactly the same time as me right now trying to self educate themselves psychologically or just in general. Just imagine we’re all not alone ever, and we’re trying each and everyday to understand others and to understand ourselves.
Right here.
Thank you for injecting this positivity and goodheartedness here. 🙏
Thanks for this ❤ just trying to educate myself and improve! Feeling quite isolated during this period of my life but in a way im glad because it’s given me the opportunity to self reflect. But i dont think this video resonates with me, itll be good learn a bit more
I definitely am right now.
Gone through so much, breakdown again and trying to get help and watching this right now
I can't agree more about renaming it hypersensitive rather than paranoid.
zacharykingston1046 - I am very sensitive but I am not paranoid whatsoever.
This lady is brilliant, wish she was my therapist.
Not gonna lie here, she is fine. Her mind, not her looks. So skip the 'simp' crap. I did not say I would marry or be with her. just stated the obvious. The mind is more powerful than looks IMO. The looks fade b4 the mind.
I agree, great therapist. My previous therapist was more of a "how does this make you feel' therapist. Still, they looked at my dad like he was nuts when I left my sessions. For good reasons. I apologize if this was too much for you take in, some people aren't ready to take on others problems.
I have been diagnosed with PPD traits. The problem with paranoia is that it is not paranoia if people are really out to get you, which is exactly what I have experienced in the past.
"Gaslighting" does exist! I used to trust disingenuous people who screwed me over. I'll stop being hypersensitive when I stop being RIGHT!
I relate to this. I was in a toxic workplace, and, on top of that, in an international environment with very different understanding of history and symbols. I had C-PTSD, intergenerational trauma, and I was getting out of narcissistic abuse. I knew what happened to me, and what exactly I was sensitive to. However, in an evaluation it presented as PPD traits.
I used to open up to my ex about my paranoia. He said "the thing is, some people ARE out to get you".. it was not helpful
@@learningenglishthroughtran8540 You don't have the right to develop PPD? Your're super funny! I believe you're on to something here, let's just tell people they dont have the right to cancer, broken bones, depression and so on ... it could work ☺
omg i could have written this!! I had been diagnosed with paranoid traits during a time I was being severely abused and have history of bullying and trauma lol. I'm much better now though!!
Just found out I have traits of PPD. It's sad that years of abuse by jerks creates this hell for a person. I can relate: rigidity, thinking some people look at you funny, taking things said the wrong way. I guess the first step is self-acceptance.
The 12 steps help me, acceptance is the first one.
This might be PTSD not PPD.
@@carrielove384 yes! I was just thinking that when I read your comment. Progress not perfection. 😊
I think anyone who's been abused will look around to feel safe. Having one or two traits doesn't mean you have it. I agree that it seems more PTSD. As someone who's gone through it, I understand how you feel about trusting people.
@@pillowplay2118 yep I agree with your opinion... I was thinking a got PPD after relationship with narcist.. but it was PTSD and grieving after... In PTSD it's paranoid in some degree but it's understandable
My boyfriend has diagnosed PPD and wow... now everything makes sense. This video helped me learn to not take things personally during arguments we have, because I know his disorder has a lot to do with it, because he’s a really sweet guy outside of those small moments where he becomes stubborn and unable to accept reality or being wrong. Thank you for this video !!
I'm trying to be with a man who suffers from this... he's convinced I'm the cheating type and I'm trying to not take it personally. I really like him outside of this issue. IDK how to help him though
@@anonymousobservers run as fast as you can from him
listening to the voices of these two people is calming add the dog and it is perfect
Did you take any med?
This woman is just absolutely amazing. She explains such volatile things so easily... Just WOW 🤩
100% agree
I just dated someone who was exactly like this. He constantly accused me of being this awful person. It was really sad, because it was based on trauma, but i couldn't help and it was triggering as heck for me.
Help him, may God heal em
I'm in this situation and I'm trying to help him. IDK how to help him though, that's why I'm watching this. I understand how it's hugely triggering af. I get why you had to go, this man is exactly the kind of man I've wanted my whole life though... I hope he can grow while I show him he can trust me...
I know that someone like me is difficult to get along with, and I’m my own worst enemy in seeking help and getting affection from people who care. And I’m probably reading too far into this video and being hypersensitive. But I think what this psychiatrist missed was the anguish, depression, and self-hate that sufferers of this often have. Being scared 100% of the time, trusting nothing, and feeling completely isolated because of this distrust really takes a toll. The racing thoughts can never turn off. Imagine giving a presentation in front of an audience you aren’t prepared for. That’s how many of those afflicted with this feel 24/7. As I’m writing this, I’m worried that the FBI will send an ambulance to my house because they think I’m suicidal or a threat to others. I also think this portrayal of being narcissistic and control-freaky is warranted but incomplete; this never-ending, powerful fear of others makes me feel unloved which leads to feelings of self-hate and incredibly low self-esteem, which hurts even more because I am alone. And this “tongue-in-cheek” and somewhat condescending tone throughout this explanation of us just being unlikable assholes felt very dismissive and gave me less hope. But maybe I’m just being hypersensitive lol😅
Blitzing Houndog hit the nail on the head... your completely right.
I am with you. I suffer like this
They did sound condescending and don't worry. Jesus loves you.
Just always calm down and try to be nice to people. My mom is like this too, and I don't even wish for my enemies to experience growing up with her as their mother
Feel this. And its really easy to go along with it since weve all been hurt. Like "it happened once itll happen again". Just a matter of who and when. Just have to calculate every move i make to avoid being caused pain by others. And i wouldnt read into the condescending tone too much, Normies just arent capable of fully capable of understanding having a sideways brain. Have to be nuetral about it. But when you finally get what you want, the full package of being solitary, alone, safe from other people, and how evil they are. It ends up being worse than dealing with other people
I believe my mother is suffering from this condition. She’s been homeless and missing the last 7 years and we only found her less than a month ago. Literally everyone who’s tried to help her she digs for any reason to peg them as a bad person who’s out to use her or attack her. And the worst part is she doesn’t believe anything is wrong with her. She’s completely convinced she’s the only sane one. It literally is breaking my heart so much I can’t see her some days. I need help any suggestions
The only way with serious cases like this is to get professional help. I understand getting her into a therapist/psychiatrist may seem impossible at this point so maybe talk to a psychiatrist alone and explain the situation
You haven’t talked to her in 7 years?
I'm going through a similar thing with my brother, thank god we figured it out early and can get him help.
I think it is important to establish a new relationship with your mother, go slow and be patient and gentle. I did not actually think of that until I see it succeeded. It inspired me so much to become someone like that and to help others.
I wish all the best for you and your family.
Easy Go yeah 7 year and apparently she’s been on the streets the whole time and even now things still haven’t inproved in fact she’s worse and back on the streets
I think my mum does too..or this and Borderline Personality Disorder 😩 it sucks feeling helpless because she refuses to believe she needs help 😢
I come from a very disturbed family and a lot of childhood trauma and abuse, and I definitely struggle with paranoia in terms of my work life. It’s crazy and it’s so frustrating but at least if I can acknowledge those thoughts for what they are I can accept that they’re probably not true.
Med Circle I appreciate these videos. Could you PLEASE do a video with Dr. Ramani on social anxiety? Her eloquence/fluence of speech and thought is what I always admired and aspired.
2nd that request!
We actually have that! Enjoy! www.medcircle.com/series/understanding-anxious-self-53448
Kyle Kittleson would love to hear you both do a video on Stockholm syndrome
My Father was Paranoid, and I grew up with problems of my own, and his constant unreasonable reactions and punishments(for "not respecting" him)made my problems worse.
So fascinating, this is why Dr Ramani and medcircle are incredible, so insightful!
I am shocked how you actually described my mom, and now everything makes sense. My whole life everyone was always plotting to destroy her life. Never had any friends because they were only approaching her because of financial interests. So many family reunions that she either didn’t go, or even did go but would not eat because she was sure someone made some black magic to break their marriage. One picture in their entire life that people commented in how stylish my dad looked somehow turned into people doesn’t think she looks good. One jerk made one comment to my dad and all of the sudden the whole company was also plotting to destroy their marriage. And now “there’s a new world order wanting to control the world”... the constant singling out a comment out of a context that was meant to offend her but it wasn’t even about her at all. And that on top of the “your father is cheating on me” fear that has never been proven true. This is nuts. But I understand her better now. Always thought she was a kind of a hypersensitive narcissist, but she’s actually paranoid. Thank you Dr. for clearing that out.
We must be sisters. Ive exact mom
This is my dad 100%. He seems so high functioning because he works and lives by himself and takes care of himself but his extreme distrust of everyone has negatively affected his life so much and has pushed everyone away from him. I'm the only person he's got because the rest of his family just doesn't want to have anything to do with him. I've been trying to convince him to get help for years and the worst part is that he is so deeply in denial that he doesnt believe there is anything wrong with him. All of his delusions are so real to him. They all sound completely logical to him. One time for example, there was a dead bird on his patio. I had automatically assumed the bird flew into the window, because that was just the logical conclusion most people would make. But my dad, he had actually thought that one of his neighbours had thrown a dead bird on his patio because he got a sense that they didn't like him. He moves from job to job and place to place with a pattern of distrust everywhere he goes. He claims that every single person he has ever lived with has been stealing from him (he always rents out a room in someone's house). Also, he always thinks that his coworkers are sabotaging his work (he is a welder). He dated a couple of women back when I was a teenager and in both of those relationships, he was constantly accusing them of cheating on him. But here's the catch. With me. His teenage son. The only "evidence" was that I was up all night talking in the living room. I was actually always up all night playing Call of Duty and chatting with my friends because that's what teenagers do. But no, he thought I was trying to steal his middle aged Filipino girlfriend. Another time he couldn't find a salad in his fridge and accused me of stealing his keys, giving them to my mother (who he has had a 23 year grudge against) so my mother could copy the keys to his house, then returned his own keys so he wouldn't notice they were missing. Then he thought that my mom must have been in the house and took the salad. Because that was the only logical explanation.
Man I feel you I live with this type of person and it’s exhausting
@ronthorn3 it's not their fault though. Just remember that. Other people led them to think this way. And as much as you might not understand it. This is the reality of what it can do to a person. Just always love whoever you notice has it. They really need it.
Sounds just like my husband of 30 yrs. Add narcissism to that and it’s been hell.
I've had this type of relationship with a friend...and your advice is EXACTLY the way I learned to respond to his accusations, and he began to express how much he hated when I suggested alternates and then like other time and time again, he told me to leave his house.
It's sad seeing someone you care about live in such chronic suspicious stress all the time. It's like a loss of life all together because they start being unable to enjoy the good things that are right under there nose. ☹
I have PPD and i feel its because of the time we are living in. Its hard to trust people because everyone is out for their damnselves instead of helping each other grow as a Planet.
Exactly! We act like "gaslighting and triangulation" do not exist. Evil does exist and some of us refuse to rest in energy that doesn't promote peace.
when i was young i loved people in general and if they hurt me rather than being angry i start feeling i got something bad in me.but now i have this hate in general and if you hurt me i will never stop harbouring bad thoughts that i won,t feel sorry if i hear something bad happened to you and you can be my friend its like i want you to get karma.to be honest i wish i remained like before cause i had more peace but people changed me
I agree
Someone betrayed you ?
“And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.”
This is such a rare disorder, and thus no one ever talks about it. People need to acknowledge what it's like for people to live with it, more. Thank you so much for making this video, it means the world.
Iam dealing with PPD but my symptoms are less sever , but i am so tired i ended ip alone I can’t trust anyone, I don’t want to trust anyone, because i am scared , i keep getting angry at people i love I accuse them ,
I am so sad that there is no treatment for PPD I don’t think i can live like this, because my heart loves my friends and family, but my brain has its own thoughts 💔
This is me to a "T"..Im so discouraaged there is no help for this. I'm trying to change ( i realize I do have HPD) but there is nothing to start working with to fight this debilitating disorder..it's renders your life down to "no life"
Suffering from the same thing😓😓😓
Felt
Wow this is exactly how I feel
Ssri (Paxil) is really helping me.
This video has helped me a lot because I never knew that what I was feeling is an actual issue other people are facing
Oh my gosh. I’m so happy that Paranoid Personality Disorder is getting more attention and is being talked about more. There’s not much about PPD out there and especially having Dr. Ramani is immensely helpful.
I have been in a mode off and on as people interject in my business .. some friends keep me rolling into a great place and sum purposely love my spiral do I have it lol only since 2019 it increased lol being around my dad
From Switzerland - Love to listen to Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Even as a germen speaker she explains everything very clearly and good. Thanks for your great Videos.
I’ve been in a relationship with someone who I believe has ppd and the paranoia is so pronounced as well as hypersensitivity. Impossible to reason with someone who always thinks you are out to get them or attacking them or lying or playing games.......
Yeah I love with one and they are so difficult to deal with.
Have you received any resources since this comment? I’m looking for resources
Same
This is my mother. She has alienated most people from her life. But she has never received a proper diagnosis because she hates all medical professionals.
Same :(
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Dr. Ramani is simply amazing. I wish we had more of her calibre in psychiatry and psychology.
The problem is a lot of paranoid people get confused to if they are in the right or wrong and because in reality people will treat you that way. Paranoid people will then choose to be hateful because that gives them alertness and the upperhand to any dangerous/threatening situation.
WOW, just described my husband and his hypersensitivity to everyone and everything out there..It truly helps me understand him and not take things so personally. But like the doc said, I gave him the bum's rush because it was incredibly toxic to live with..also he has symptoms of covert narcissism.Made for a living hell here.. Learning about these disorders helped me to understand that in no way shape or form was there ever going to be a long term relationship that was one of mutual respect and admiration..and it helped me learn my own dysfunction and work at getting healthier my self..Thank you for all that you bring here.. truly game changing for us that have endured the truth of our lives with the ones that we love.
Most heartbreaking and frustrating thing I have ever had to go through. My husband of 15 years is hypersensitive and as time goes on this has progressed into paranoia. Our relationship was wonderful the first 10years we loved and trusted each other. 5 years ago he started accusing me of cheating and I can no longer get him to believe me and he is unwilling to see a doctor..... he believes I'm the one with issues of infidelity and that I am complusive liar who fooled him the first 10years. I know I can't help him anymore and I can't go on living in such a toxic environment....... But it is so hard to walk away knowing that underneath the personality disorder is my soulmate and love of my life....... I don't want to give up on him, but I don't know what to do anymore. Has anyone gotten better or helped a love one get better. Please help with suggestions. Thank you
@@ashleys6482 no, if your talking about a narcissist they will never change. I went to a q and a with dr Ramani and she said 100% of the time if a narc accuses you of cheating they have done it.
What I'm trying to figure out is how to deal with these people. Once I read a book "the power of charm" and I thought I would practice the techniques to charm my step mom... man that back fired. Somehow she got pissed! But I know that's because she is a narcissist and feels bad about herself... so for me to come in and be interested in her, why would anyone be interested in her she is a terrible person in her mind so for me to not fall in line with that mind set, she needed to start a fight/prove me wrong to persevere her own self perception.
@@ashleys6482 "underneath the personality disorder is my soulmate and the love of my life"
I felt you! Above the paranoia, someone of these people are genuinely good people. 😔🙁
@Ashley S What is the update with you and your husband? I have been married for 17 years and I am know realizing that my husband has this disorder, but the sad thing is that he will never get help because in his eyes I am the one with the problems. I am tired of being accused of cheating and lying, when I have been faithful and given up everything for him to show him I'm loyal. He is a wonderful father and I feel like I am in a tug of war because I don't know how much more I can take, but how do I take my children away from their father??
The way the beautiful doggo looks at Dr. Ramani: I'm ascribing complete benevolence, as in, that dog loves her as much as the rest of us.
I clicked this video because I suspect my husband has this. The first thing that jumped out is that she said they often get confused with narcissists. I definitely also see all the signs of narcissism in him. He’s always accusing me of cheating, he’s suspicious of everybody and everything, he claims he’s being watched, puts a bunch of locks on the doors and if anybody is sick he’s freaking out, shutting off WiFi claiming the WiFi is making us sick, suddenly washing and cleaning everything. He believes most conspiracy theories and spends hours watching them. I could go on and on. She’s describing my husband to the tee. He believes conspiracy theories but does not trust healthcare people.
Same here. I came here and watched because my husband is SUPER paranoid. He accuses me of cheating every single day. It's so draining. His behavior is beyond ridiculous. I can't even begin to explain. I document everything just in case. I don't know what to do except leave. He refuses to get help.
I don't trust the health care system either with my health however I do trust A&E and the surgeons, health care is fecked up, people are being handed all sorts of medicines that don't really help. I think it's good to help myself independently instead of going to a doctor because they cannot really do anything. Accepting oneself is a start.
This doctor is super articulate and intelligent. I like that she is critical of the literature and has formed her own professional and clinical opinion on this data/writing. We need more doctors like her in all areas of medicine
I am 25 and came from refugee background and I have paranoid schizophrenia disorder. Life is tough for people like me. I on the other hand gets so scared whenever I am in public area and think the government is going to deport me out of the country and Think I am always being watched.
Sometime I have suicidal thoughts and study seems impossibly hard sometime. But I am seeing psychiatrists and they are helping me. Hope I will get better.
Sending 🙏 to you
Even the pupper agrees there should be a nap every afternoon. He got equally excited 😄
“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions to our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That's how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layers of opacity and see each other's naked hearts.”
― Tennessee Williams
Can someone develop PPD as a result of growing up with a narcissist PD parent?
That’s what happened me,I’m definitely gonna seek help after watching this video
YES. you can. I have, Borderline as well.
YES!
And going through it now I have epilepsy
This kind of parents deserve to go in prison
If you realise you have such problems you NEED! to get help ❤
Yes I think so. One of my parents gets off on correcting me and others. It's so annoying and soul destroying and if your parent is like this what hope do you have of feeling people are supporting you.
@Robert Scott hello I AM from the Netherlands, mabey this WILL help you . RUclips : ANTHONY SOMMER
I commented a few times under other comments here. But I wanted to share this.
I JUST discovered that I have this. I'm not diagnosed but I'm 99% sure this is it. I have fought this part of me for so many years and its literally the hardest thing that I have battled with. Now that I learned what it is i can finally start to dismantle all the damage it has caused in my life. My relationship now and the family I made with her was almost at the brink of being over. It was just an hour ago that i learned about this disorder and now im so happy I dont have to live my life thinking I AM RIGHT NOT TO TRUST PEOPLE. When the problem was with me this whole time. I've battled this since 13.... I'm 40 now.
Thank you thank you thank you for this video. You have my subscription!!!!
Thanks you!
Did things get better?
me too,hope we all live a more easy life
Paranoia is my best gift. It has saved me from many tragedies
Same here, esp from creeps.
Eh it can also lead to self sabotage in good relationships
You’re confusing good judgement with a disorder. Unless this is a joke. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm just a preteen who is always paranoid and scared. No one believes me because I mask it very well, but it's terrifying.
I was like that as a younger person.
It's wasn't till I was in my 40s I set out to face my fears.
I regret not doing it as a younger person.
I have missed so many opportunities because of fear.
I seeked the truth. I'm glad to say I have found it.
Truth is a person.
Jesus christ.
Go seek the truth.
Don't waste any more of your life on the lies you have in your thoughts.
You are Gods masterpiece
I am the way the truth and the life.
Jesus christ
There's a fine line between hyper-vigilance and paranoia.
Yep.
The psych said I'm hyper vigilance
Paranoid or your instinct telling you something is wrong out there and you can't put your finger in it?!!! The same thing applies when it comes to being anxious.
I have PPD, and I can not tell the difference between real red flags and normal human behavior. The difference is that someone with PPD is oversensitive to other people's behavior. A person with PPD will strain ALL of their relationships and CONSTANTLY be in a state of fear.
@@jedisentinel1499 I understand how you feel, my paranoia has put a strain on most of my relationships. I have a long history of falsely accusing people, even close friends. If I ever see someone doing something that I don't fully understand, my mind will come up with the worst possible explanations, especially explanations based on times I was actually screwed over by people in the past or mistreated. For years, people would explain to me how my assumptions about them were wrong until I finally realized I have a mental problem that will not go away on its own. It is treatable with counseling, but I don't think it is curable. I have to fight my suspicious thoughts everyday.
@@jedisentinel1499 I would have a discussion with her about the symptoms you're seeing in her. Try not to be accusatory or judgmental. Tell her that the symptoms are bothering you a lot, and that she needs to trust you and others close to her if she wants her relationships to be healthy. As you know, I can't say anything about psychiatric treatment as I'm not qualified. If it's that bad, you should both speak with a trusted psychiatrist about the symptoms and they'll tell you what to do next. I wish you and your partner well.
patients is what saved me from PPD and taking a deep breath while acknowledging it when these thoughts come. You have to be real objective with these thoughts. Whats funny about this is after u overcome these paranoias, it’s not like it’ll leave you, you still be “hyper sensitive” and see things as it is, you’ll be enlightened in away... or maybe I’m so paranoid that I’ve convinced myself I’m enlightened lol but the point is you shouldn’t believe anything, I’m sure u know that but I’m talking about your own thoughts also.. the devil is a lier or ur brain, it’s the same thing. especially if you’re not taking care of yourself with healthy eating habits and fasting. Also I wanna add if u ever find ur self in an episode of like crazy paranoia where it won’t stop, go find yourself the nearest forest or anywhere with lots of trees. it helps a lot speaking from experience. Another thing Ik I already said it but Patients, patients, patients it’ll save you from looking crazy. You’re also going to gain a lot of insight of life that’s going to help you in the long run. Most of these mental illnesses are a blessing in disguise after we over come them.
Convincing yourself the monster under the bed is real will not make your life better
I absolutely love watching Dr romani's videos. Not only is she very articulate and intelligent, but she's always using layman's terms that even a moron can understand, but she answers questions directly without beating around the bush. Thank you Dr Armani and young man that conducts the interviews. And thank you Dr Romani, as I have benefited so much from your therapeutic sessions. God bless you and maybe someday I will meet a wonderful woman such as yourself! Keep up the good work and I hope that your life is nothing but fulfilling, even though you are not getting paid anything compared to what you're really worth and the help that you have given thousands of people.
So in love with that dog 😍
You just described my wife 100%. It's so hard to live with this disorder. She won't admit it.
How are you dealing with it?
@@jasmere2189 I am not dealing with it anymore... file for a divorce 2 years ago. I could not handle it anymore.
@@StefanKingdom good now I am dealing with my mom with ppd I am done now I am going to explode
This page , this lady, and this journalist deserve much more than they have (I assume) solely based on these videos
This sounds just like what I'm going through now and it feels very scary and real.
Thank you so much for this. There is not enough information about this disorder. My boyfriend had it. I had to leave because it was too toxic and he never wanted to get help but thank you for telling people about this.
I was diagnosed with Paranoid personality disorder, Avoidant Personality disorder, Social anxiety disorder, Generalized anxiety Disorder and Depression. It took me 20 years to get help, and now 2 & half year under treatments both medications and therapies. Half symptoms have reduced but still I have some problems, specially with anxiety and social anxiety. I think if you have avoidant personality disorder it make social anxiety harder to treat.
That's for the comment I also have symptoms of other personality disorders and anxiety issues .
This woman is very well-spoken and explains this very clearly. 🌻
Never had these problems- until I dealt with narcissistic abuse. Now, I deal with all of this and it sucks so badly. I only think the people that want to hurt me are narcs or strange men (my ex-narc that is still in my life, my mother) I've endured a lot of abuse. I have 10 ACES and ongoing trauma as an adult. I want to get better. I know my paranoid thoughts are paranoid and I usually have power over them, but my trust is so wrecked after my narc ex.
And the worse part is that it seems like subconsciously we seek out narcs. We don't want to but do. Or at least that's how it is for me and now I try to maybe overanalyze people to see if they are a narc.
Narcissism isn't even what like 99% of these people accusing others of being are. Social media is propagating lies.
Does anyone else have a feeling that people are ‘talking about you’?
Cause I does. That’s why I am here.. literally every time a group of people are talking.
"Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they aren't after you." - K. Cobain
Exactly! If it's true or comes to fruition, then the person isn't paranoid! "Gaslight" does exist, people are cruel.
A guy once told me "I'm not paranoid I know everybody's after me"
So THAT’S where my paranoid son got that line!
@David you are onto something I was raised by narcissists and this is how I feel
Thank you
I thought I was the only one that had these symptoms. Now to fix myself. Thank you
I think this is me tbh. i always always find hidden negative meanings in conversations and body language, to the point i do it even with my parents. if i catch myself doing it i can usually bring myself back, especially if its someone im close with, i can usually recognise that its highly unlikely that they were secretly attacking me. i suffer chronic social anxiety and i come across as very rigid in conversation, i haven't truly felt relaxed in what feels like years. on the point of coming across as aggressive and scowling its really hard because i might appear that way but inside im actually scared out of my mind, but people will naturally react negatively towards me which in turn makes me more aware of my strange behaviours and more weird.there have been times when i have gone crazy and destroyed friendships with very little evidence of them actually doing anything, most of it being the story iv made up in my head, being confirmed by little things i pick up on in conversations. its tiring being so caught up in you're own head.
maybe u are the one who is right
@KnicksNYanks84 this is where it gets irritating. You're constantly on a repetition of "He's out to get me" but then it pulls you back in with a comment like yours "Maybe you're right" you get so tired of the battle eventually you jump to conclusions and cut the person off regardless. With no evidence to back it up. Only theories of how you interpret things they mightve said or done. Truly vicous cycle it feels like living in hell everyday
I too wish Dr Ramani ran the world 😂 I just love this woman!
Fantastic.
I got this diagnose this week!
Thank you so much.
How do you deal with it do they give you Meds to take for this
@@durrbrian1952 I do get some medicine, sertraline and venlafaxine in small dosage. I get therapy aswell payd of my own pocket .
Okay... But what if people ARE out to get them? Not everyone, but people in their lives have done sketchy shit to sabotage their entire lives.
This isn't your normal kind of paranoia. The patients suspect everything, even a fucking animal. They will flip out at advertisements that 'is meant to insult them'. They can get insulted by you drinking water too.
@Kåre Åge when I said advertisements, I didn't say any one selective advertisement. They would flip out at all of them. It could be due to something as silly as the number of people appearing in the ad. First hand experience this side.
@@ashishsengupta6980 actually man it ranges from mild to extreme. I have it but I dont think everyone is out to get me. Just women I let into my life. And uts only REALLY bad sometimes. Most times I can think my way out of it but sometimes I get hit too hard all at once then I lose the ability to control it. And its bad.... that's all
Self fulfilling prophecy. These patients cause poor outcomes with their behavior
there is so much that others do that harm others and what if a person is picking up cues from someone like the things they say - and with all of naricissms going around I mean I wish there was nothing going on with some of the others whom I am all too often thinking but if they would not imply things that certainly sound abusive then I would not experience such suspcions so how do one draw the line
"There would be a nap every afternoon" Ok, I'm in. Vote Dr. Ramani, 2020!
"Hypersensitive personality disorder" DEAD ON
Yes
I felt the same way when she said that!
Diagnosed and fully agree 😂
You know that episode in Black Mirror where the guy has technology to replay the past and he over-analyzes every conversation? That episode = PPD
I was just diagnosed with this on top of ptsd, ocd, adhd, depression. Just a mixed bag of mental illness. This explains everything for me though.
I felt like I was living with an actual madwoman with all the accusations. If I couldn't be reached on the phone for a few hours, there would be huge tear soaked rages.
Coming from someone who has this, it is literally fucking hell living through this mindset. Can never relax AT ALL, many things become triggers on a daily basis, the smallest details end up being hostile or threatening. Your worldview is all distorted with ideas of corruption and threats against you. Everything is bad until being proven innocent. No joke, you kids who act like "Ohh I must have PPD" need to think about your words again because this is serious, it fucks with your whole life and mind
My wife has this and I always tell her I am guilty until proven guilty because she is always looking for evidence that I am cheating. She has never found any, but tells herself that she just didn't find it yet. Meanwhile, it's been almost two decades. Smh! Help!
I too vent found exact conversations of hubby but I've past his old fb id using , never leaves phone , alwz takes phone where evr he goes , I never feel m loved , I alwz feel neglect Ed even in special occasions ,,my patience is out of control I can't put fake smile , not deal normal in society, husband dnt want to talk abt this plz help
This lady is very considerate of people who are hypersensitive.
She clearly defines the difference between being hypersensitive or untrusting , vs psychotic paranoia and crazy imagination
This channel is brilliant. I am learning so much
I am a therapist and have not seen this in practice. But, I did date someone briefly and just Wow!! The malevolent motives theories abound!! And ideas that simply everyone is after them or setting them up in some way. And yes, actually functioning pretty well outside of these symptoms.
i love her! Ramani run the world !!!
No this woman's just trying to line her pockets off us follow the link and it tried to charge you fukc that she's a fake
I have PPD, but I was misdiagnosed with asperger's as the 2 disorders share many symptoms. Psychologists really need to know the differences between the 2 because they didn't give me the help I really need.
Makes me uncomfortable only because I recognize alot of this...
Thanks for doing this show you guys. It means alot to me tonight.
This is a rare topic. Thanks for describing this and talking about myths.
But I HEAR people say things mean and look at me. I need an invisibility potion.
same
Could actually be gangstalking in that case.
easy to tell that is not paranoia
Yo I swear it's cuz our brains force what they say through a mean filter, I do this too but this ain't no way to live
I had a therapist once try and tell me I might have this... but I left before he could give me a diagnosis. Because he had it out for me
Motto of the CIA: ‘Just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you’ :’(
😳🤯
True and for that you don't have to have PPD. Look into sep 11 being explosives, MK-Ultra, AI spying on you, mobile camera rigs that look and move like animals, cell phone tracking. Now you have a choice blue pill.....or red pill.
These are the more believable stores that after some research you can see and will believe.
This woman's been reading my psychiatrist's notes!
At the age of 32 I've just realized how bad I have this, the constant suspicion with partners, getting angry with people at work for asking how long the order is going to take which I take as a personal attack every time. I must be fucking insufferable lol Would explain why I have virtually no friends left at this point in my life and after about 12 hours into a new relationship I'm certain she's cheating lmao. What a hellish existence it is.
There is hope! If you accept that something is wrong, it is possible to change! 🙏 At the same time, show that probably you are not a narcisist person. Narcisist cannot admit that something is wrong with theirselves.
It pretty much is fucking insufferable to have to deal with/live with people who are PPD (they ARE this character, they do not "have" this character, and it is a character disorder, not a personality disorder) and these ppl need a wake up call. If you don't have evidence to prove your accusations, stick your accusations against someone else's character where the sun doesn't shine
Love that doggo wagging his tail.... completely engrossed in the conversation.... ♥️♥️
I feel sick, like I'm breaking some kind of wall understanding these things about myself..
I like when she speaks about topics other than NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
I worked with one of these PPDs. It was hell on earth. The guy was constantly causing conflicts, was constantly angry, always reporting, filing lawsuits and he could never get anything done because he was too afraid to sign anything. I ended up being reported to the CEO for giving the guy wrong instructions on how to do his job and I wasn't even assigned to give him any instructions. What was friendly advice that he asked for turned into my worst nightmare. Run from PPD is all I can say. He ended up getting fired. He's now in court battling my employer.
I love Dr. Ramani, she is clearly very knowledgeable and passionate about her field. I'd love to have a conversation with her, she seems infinitely interesting.
I used to constantly change my name or I would never tell people my real name. I shut my windows because I feel like I’m being recorded by neighbours or watched. I cannot develop close bonds to people because if they make a hurtful comment I cannot trust them ever again no matter how hard I try. It’s very lonely and tiring existence.
Lolol yup same. Obviously this is my other account. Blinds on windows. Oh and single still in mid to upper 20s
are you referring to me 😂
Through out this whole video I literally would finish this womans sentences... I never understood why I think he way I do and I called myself crazy but it makes sense now.. I have ppd it comfort me knowing I'm not alone and I'm not crazy now I hope with this knowledge I can learn and better myself.
I love dr Ramani. Thanks medcircle
Having a friend who has a lot of these symptoms.. I am so glad I shut the door on them coz it got to a point almost each sentence of mine had a negative meaning behind it that no one but her only noticed. This video just cemented that my decision was one of the best I've ever taken.
Very informative video, however, I went like 18 whole minutes into the video and THEN I noticed the
doggo on the floor! :D
I read your comment on 18:00 and only then noticed... How the fuck is that possible!
very upset that i have dealt with this since gaining ptsd. this is a horrible thing for me.. i hope we all feel better soon. loveyou all ♡
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am paranoid all the time about my boyfriend “cheating” on me. And I’m also paranoid that people are talking about me negatively. I’m paranoid at my workplace too, I think everyone’s talking or thinking negatively of me and it’s making me respond in an angry manner when it’s confronted. And when people take a glimpse of me, I automatically think that they “know” me and will tell others about me and waiting for me to screw up on anything. They’re just waiting for me to mess up, whatever the issue may be. People keep telling me “really, they’re not even looking at you” but I just KNOW it somehow that they’re talking about me. Sounds really self-absorbed. But I can’t help but be suspicious of people.
Same except I haven't had BPD diagnosis yet but it fits but I think the same way as you. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy a lot too cuz you end up being right, so it's hard to think differently 😕
You are not paranoid. You are realistic. Your boyfriend is probably cheating on you. All men do. And people at work do talk behind your back
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641 there's always that ONE person who goes out of their way to make someone feel worse. What joy do you get out of this?? I've just read a man having a similar experience with being suspicious of his gf and there were similar comments under his as well. Could you atleast acknowledge that people aren't always what you make them to be? Even if generally they maybe disingenuous or what not? if you're sick too, please get help. If you don't want to atleast try Magnesium glycinate or ashwagandha. Paranoia isn't "helping" you, it's stopping you from living your best life. Not being paranoid is not the same as being naive.
This might sound harsh but when people as individuals realise they aren't that special or interesting they can stop worrying what other people think. At the end of the day who cares what other people think?!
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641 cheating with your ma😂
I'd love guidance about how to deal with people who have paranoid personality disorder. It's so difficult. Thank you for this information, very helpful.
OH SO THAT'S WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME
I have this disorder, I was just always called "too sensitive"
This sounds like my husband. Even though he is trying to suppress it since I told him I want a divorce, I see it leak through on little things. He still assumes the worst motivation in others' actions and is extremely hurt when I don't see what he is seeing in the situation. It has been exhausting.
There is so much more to say... everything you described. I even tried suggesting other possibilities for what he perceived. That resulted in my being accused of not supporting him. He has accused me so many times of lying and cheating and not saying what I mean. He believes his doctors make fun of him behind his back and smirk to his face. My friends have been accused of taking verbal pokes at him and not liking him, which was not the case, insisting that I was telling them things I wasn't about him. When he has tried counseling, mainly because our marriage is failing, he has believed the counselors have not liked him, thought bad things about him and been messing with him. He has had the same problems at every job I have seen him attempt with his bosses and co-workers being out to get him somehow. I'm heartbroken for him.
A person with paranoid personality would never show such weakness. He's most likely the garden variety jealous spouse. PPD is very rare and they are masters of impression management and guarding their weakness. Donald Trump is a great example.
AMAZING!!!! It is such a pleasure to watch your videos. Thank you for sharing your valuable knowledge!!!!