I think that more people should consider heat training their hair for relaxer free straightening. I have been heat training my hair and my hair is thriving and it doesn't revert anymore. The book "Heat Training Natural Hair on Amazon has great tips on doing it. ❤❤❤
Niara do what is best for you. My mom relaxed my hair 1 week before my graduation from high school. I don't plan to stop relaxed my hair since now we know much better about how to have relaxer and healthy hair. Always a pleasure to watch your vidéos
Thank you for your transparency! I love your channel even though I no longer relax my hair. I used to relax for most of my life up until 2017. I’m currently a straight hair natural. I still have my curls no damage, but I use heat once per month. My hair is thriving and currently tail bone length. Do what makes you happy. 😊
Do what is right for you girl! When I relaxed my hair 2 years ago, I knew it wouldn’t be forever. I see myself going back natural within the next 2-3 years but with a lot more knowledge and experience with properly taking care of my hair. All to say, do what makes you happy! I’ll still be watching your content ❤
I am doing the same thing. I am giving myself a lot of time to research before I make the decision. I noticed some women feel overwhelmed when they stop relaxing and don't have knowledge on how to care for their hair.
Girl….you’re good. People be tripp’n too much. I stopped relaxing my hair when pregnant. I wasn’t taking ANY chances with my unborn child. Had a girl and that encouraged me to stay natural. That was 17 years ago and she is relaxer free as well. Im a straight natural and she is a curly natural. Best decision I ever made. I don’t regret it at ALL.
That’s understandable. I didn’t relax my hair while pregnant BUT honey about 6-8 weeks after she was born the relaxer when back in! I have too much hair and I’m tender headed.
@@NiaraAlexistexturized is the best I was once relaxed and my hair started to change after being relaxed for over 20 years my hairdresser recommended texturizing and it has been the best thing I’ve been using it for 10 years I use linange shea butter.. the best 🎉
Lol.. Yes, the salons tried 2 get me 2 make it easier on myself & get a texturizer. I'm just toughen it out with no heat right now with braids and headband wigs. Can't wait 2 c your upcoming journey if u decide 2.
As someone who was natural for 10 years and relaxed their hair 5 months ago… I’m going back natural. I have 3 different textures, my hair is coarse and thick both natural and relaxed. There are pros and cons to both. If I were you I would transition and go natural sooner than later. I’ve only been relaxed for 5 months and I realized that I could have stayed natural and kept doing my weekly twist outs. Whether relaxed or natural our hair takes time and work. Life seemed easier with my natural hair and now my relaxed hair has become somewhat of a burden to me. I’ve even postponed getting back in the gym because I sweat a lot and my hair is getting in the way of that 😩 I’m going back natural it’s more suitable for my lifestyle.
I actually went natural while I was pregnant. It wasn't specifically for that reason, I just wanted to try being natural, and that was the perfect time. I stayed natural for 5 years and went back to relaxers specifically because I wanted a bob, and I live in FL, so being a straight hair natural didn't work for me. Although I'm relaxed, my daughter has been natural her whole life and has never wanted a relaxer. I've taught her how to take care of her hair, and she loves her curls. No matter your choice, I'll be here to root for you. I'm not going anywhere.💜
🥹 thank you! And I love that. I wish I knew how to care for my hair when I was younger. I might have still relaxed but love that you are teaching her to love her curls 🤎
As someone who has been both relaxed and a straight natural - my hair thrived with BOTH. It's all about routine. I'm currently a straight natural, 7 months post relaxer and I looove transitioning to straight hair. I just love the way straight hair looks when natural and I love not having to rely on going to the salon for a retouch or making sure I don't scratch my scalp leading up to it. It's freedom.
This is very sensible. I've seen a lot of people have great success with the straight natural life and also be moms. Also if you want to teach the men to love natural hair, we need to show them from the time they are little boys that natural hair (curly or straight) is beautiful.
I watched your videos every day last year when I was deciding to relax again after 8 years. I turned 30 this year and decided to stop relaxing for the same reason 🤯 I’m not going to stop watching 🥰
I am natural but heat trained/a straight natural. My hair looks like I relax it because of how straight it gets, especially since I got the platinum ghd; thanks to you, Niara.🥰
The only downside for natural hair is you can straighten it to perfection but slight bit of humidity and it’s puffing up a little . I also find you just put it in a bun most times for ease . I was natural for years after relaxing all my teens but decided to relax twice a year again for diversity of styles and it means i use less product . The only downside is you hair looses thickness .
AWESOME SAUCE! I let go of relaxer myself. I am about a year & 6 months in now. Its been really NEW & EXCITING! I will become a Straight hair NATURAL in the end of my transition / hair growth journey. 🎉
I saw your stories the other day Niara, where you say you will keep relaxing. All I can recommend is heat training! I think you’ll love it! Transition it into natural, while heat training the new growth and trimming the relaxed ends little by little
It's crazy how you & I are going on the same journey at the same time and similar age lol. I remember finding your channel. Most of my reasons are the same. I noticed my edges have been weird since the relaxers. That motivated me to stop. Haven't had a relaxer in almost a year. The Chi Enviro has been a game changer for me. I can now transition peacefully. I plan on getting blood test to see what I'm deficient in and how that can help me get ready for my future kids. Good luck with your journey!!
Girl whichever route you go on, I’ll still be here watching! But I’m happy you brought up this conversation!!! It’s important that young black girls see their moms embracing their natural self!
I saw you going natural from miles away tbh because you flat iron your hair alottt & I feel like it’s too much heat for relaxed hair ; causes breakage but do you boo ! I’m in two minds about my relaxed hair now . Just did a really short bob .. idk if imma grow it out or go natural
I understand this completely. I had a relaxer (pixie cut) and when I found out I would need regular touch ups BUT I was newly pregnant. I immediately started growing my hair out and went natural. Two boys later….I’m back with relaxers. I commend you for thinking this far ahead ❤️
I appreciate your honesty about this topic. Because it shows how hair is one of those things we can change at any time. It's understandable, I've only been relaxed for 1year after being natural for 10 years. And since we started the braid challenge, I said I might go back natural. Do what works for you and your body! I'm here for all content either way! ❤
I big chopped after I started watching your channel. I’m not having children. However, I thought if I had a daughter, I’d teach her to love her hair. I couldn’t do that effectively if I was relaxing mine. Bottom line: I needed to resolve my cognitive dissonance. I feel you! This is my 4th big chop (I’m 49). I’m committed this time. 😊
Good morning, that’s a great ideal to give up the relaxing your hair. Especially when you’re thinking 🤔 about becoming a Mom. I did the same thing & when I was pregnant with my daughter my hair grew so long it was crazy. It’s been a year & three months without a relaxer & at times it’s been challenging, but on the other hand it’s been beautiful as well 😊 Happy Sunday. From the eastside of Detroit 😊
I want to relax again my hair really thrived. Unfortunately my hair holds heats and sweats so my silk press don’t last long at all 😢 so I’m for sure going back to the creamy crack.
I am heat trained as well: I feel like more of us black girls who’s heat trained shud have a RUclips channel; even if we don’t blow up we shud still provide our journey
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I've actually been a straight natural the entire time I've followed you, so if you become one I would actually love LOVE IT haha 😊. But obviously girl I'm gonna follow you and support you regardless! Btw, thanks for sharing your mom to be goals. I'm a mom of littles, so that was just cool to hear that you are planning for some littles of your own soon. Best of luck in all that you do and what in life!
Botox is different because those kind of straighteners have formaldehyde. Is not the same with relaxers or hair colors, is more superficial. Do the research and make the best decision for you! All support! ❤
I relaxed my hair n didn’t know I was pregnant it a be ok but i definitely was like u girl. I did so much research I had a 3d binder full of research. I didn’t relax again until til after I had him. You can over plan n something still happens with the baby but the fact ur educating urself and trying to change the situation before it happens to prevent it is already showing me ur gonna be a grate mommy when the time comes. And I also if I have a girl will not relax her hair until prom day. Especially with everything going on in today’s society and chemistry industry. I’ve even dyed my son’s hair twice his whole life he’s 10 n both times I chopped it off 😂😂😂. I did it bc he wanted it n I didn’t get to as a kid but the older I get I’m like no I don’t want any future complications to happen to ur body without knowing willingly bc it’s my fault. I learned my hair @ 14 but even then it was too late my mom let my aunties who had salons damage my hair 🤦🏾♀️. Crazy bc no matter what I do to my hair my curl pattern comes back bc it’s so coursed n coil’y. I just wouldn’t put box braids dye wigs tracks none of that in her hair until she’s like 14 nails makeup etc bc these lil girls in lace makeup n nails and be 7 yrs old I can’t😂😂😂. I hated my mom would let me play in makeup n dress up like a princess but I couldn’t go out the house with it and she wonder why I became a tomboy n likes sports not dolls 😂😂😂😂. So I get everything u saying girl the ins n outs of it all anywho do u ur way n ur babies gone be ok boy or girl. ❤
Babe! New subscriber - I just watched your video on silk pressing. I literally have a son & daughter. I had them at 21 & 23. YES, two is enough! Second, you will neverrrrrr need to relax your hair. Your nails and hair will grow like CRAZYYYY. Post partum, my hair was like a lions mane! I just did protective styles my whole pregnancy because 1. I was not trying to straighten my hair (buns weren’t doing it) 2. I know I relax my hair and like you, I did not want to transfer that product to my kids. I would say don’t worry about the relaxing now. You’re not pregnant yet but just do protective styles while you are pregnant and enjoy the ride ❤
I totally understand your decision. I also thought the same. My hair is a lot softer than yours and I was totally over the relaxing , but I found I still had to use heating appliances to smooth out my hair. There are so much good hot tools we now can use on curly hair . Then I remembered I read somewhere, that relaxers are not meant to straighten curly hair it is meant to ease out the curls to make styling our hair easier. I noticed the longer I left my hair without texturising it , the more heat appliances I was using. So I made up my mind to relax my hair every 4-5 months. Braiding is not an option for me , as I like to wash my hair twice or once a week, depending on how much hair products I have used, plus my hair will just break due to the dehydration/lack of moisture . My hair type is a soft curl , but I do need to texturise the roots so they lay flat. Niara , it’s your hair and you know what is best. I am currently researching on some Half Wigs, which I think for me is a better option when I’m taking a break from relaxing. At least I can wash my hair often 😂. 💖
I love you so much for being team “movement, bounce, and shake.” Because if I take the time to apply 300-something degrees of heat in little half inch sections all for it to be ruined by oils and butters, why would I press it in the first place? I need the bounce. The problem is, my hair hasn’t been bouncing lately. I use less product and my hair is more dry. When I use more product my hair is stiff. 😒
Yes , you can totally forgo relaxer as you can flat iron your hair expertly. But for me I was thinking of stopping relaxer treatments and doing a texture release. What’s your opinion on cuticle builder such as Avlon Affirm Texture release instead of relaxer . switching to that.
I believe texture release is just a different name for a Keratin treatment, which I’ve had, and those are definitely worse than relaxers, they do in fact have formaldehyde. I used a keratin treatment that wasn’t supposed to have formaldehyde but it just the two or so compounds that crated the treatment when combined and heat was added formed formaldehyde. And it made my hair shed like crazy. So be leary of even a release it MAY be the same.
I didn’t even think of this but it’s a really great idea. I’m a little older and I had my kids awhile back. I was forced to stop relaxing my hair…when I wasn’t too sick to get up(had morning sickness until I was 6 months with both kids😫).Whn I did muster up the strength to get my hair done, my relaxers wouldn’t even take😂😂. I was forced to get a hard press anot rely on relaxers like I had been.
I feel like it’s easier to heat train your hair (or new growth) if you are transitioning out of relaxed hair. If you have a twa (like me) it’s not as easy
Very understandable. I was natural for 15+ years while i was pregnant and only just relaxed my hair Nov 2023. But i didnt even use certain skin products while pregnant. I tried to do everything by the 'book'.
Did something similar! Stopped relaxing once I got pregnant with my first and won’t do until my second is born. After that I’ll probably go back tho 😅. I also thought of stretching it out but decided to avoid it all together in the end.
I stopped doing texturizer since my pregnancy last year and now I'm 13 months post. Honestly I don't know if I'm going back or not, I just do braids, my hair sheds a lot but I built a regimen and do protective style. I apply the texturizer as a relaxer it meand that I leave it for more minutes and then my hair is straight, I have a sensitive scalp.
I think it’s a good idea for you to start leaving relaxers alone now. Because you don’t know how hormonal you will be with your pregnancies. I was completely different emotionally with all 3 of my pregnancies. You don’t wanna wake up and not know what to do with your hair and start crying. Which may not happen at all. You may be super happy all the time. But it least this way you’ll be prepared. But whatever you choose will be right for you.😊
I don’t know how I missed this post. But yoou have great points. I’m excited to see if I can apply anything from your straight natural journey (should you choose that) because I’ve seen other women do it, but don’t know how to achieve it in south Florida at home, and honestly, I think I would prefer that over relaxing (even text-laxing is preferred). Other wise I’m still on track to locking it when the time is right 😂
My hair sheds so much after relaxing my hair. I’m going on three years post big chop. I’m going to hopefully stay that way from now on. I just love the look of relaxed hair though. Especially on myself .
This is ironic because I just found your channel in the last week when i was about to relax my hair…and I’m pregnant with my first child. lol. I didn’t want to but I’ve been wearing braids mostly for the last year and needed it to be more manageable “for me”. I just waited until I was in the second trimester and talked to my obgyn. Obviously won’t be doing it again until after baby is born and probably wouldn’t have if I didn’t have braids prior to. Everyone and every pregnancy is different so there’s not really a definitive answer to this in my opinion. Good luck on whatever you choose.
I’ve watched people go natural whilst pregnant because they wanted to know how to take care of their hair so they could take care of their natural hair. It would give you time to learn techniques on yourself so it’s not as overwhelming when you do have your first child.
32?! Girl i thought you was like 24-28 max 😂 fr! I have 2 kids :) & I’m 29. I don’t plan on relaxing my daughter hair nor myself but i love your content. When you’re pregnant you really have to be mindful of what you put in & on your body especially as you age, so I feel you.❤
Damn girl I hear you.... Also I am a relaxed girl but I didn't relax my hair since January m thinking about quiting too... Mainly I m thinking of the long run, just like u. Just rurned 35 this year m more thinking as I get older m better off getting use to stay natural and learning to get my hair healthy also I enjoy protective style braids, weave, wigs. Good for u girl... I laughed when I saw this title, because I am thinking the same thing but at the same time I wonder should I just keep relaxing? Lol. We just need to remember patient is the key... As rhe time goes by this process will get better❤❤❤ lots of love and kisses.
Girl after watching a year of your videos I relaxed my hair. So you might dip out? Lol. I think I'll relax 2 times a year. I'll still follow your journey, whatever you do.
I'm with you. I am 32. My birthday next month (9/11.)I also want a boy and girl. And I'm debating on relaxing again. I'm about 6 weeks post relaxer. Are you with child at the moment?
I had a head full of bushy natural hair. Beautician over processed my virgin relaxer and it broke my hair so bad. I've been sewing hair in since February with plans to cut the relaxed ends gradually. 😢
maybe consider texturising? i texturise my hair but my hair needs to be taken care of like natural hair, and my hair still has its curl pattern although looser
I think that more people should consider heat training their hair for relaxer free straightening. I have been heat training my hair and my hair is thriving and it doesn't revert anymore. The book "Heat Training Natural Hair on Amazon has great tips on doing it. ❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing!!
Yeah but you get frizz !
@@cecblackberryhm I guess it depends on the hair type becaue mines don’t
Awesome! Thanks, for the info. I plan on becoming a HEAT TRAINED NATURAL as well. :)
Maybe that product WOW! will help stop that.:)
WHAT? 32? Beautifulllll. I’ll be 27 this year and my coworker thought I was 24 🙃. We are aging beautifully!
Like fine wine! 🤎
Niara do what is best for you. My mom relaxed my hair 1 week before my graduation from high school. I don't plan to stop relaxed my hair since now we know much better about how to have relaxer and healthy hair. Always a pleasure to watch your vidéos
Thank you for your transparency! I love your channel even though I no longer relax my hair. I used to relax for most of my life up until 2017. I’m currently a straight hair natural. I still have my curls no damage, but I use heat once per month. My hair is thriving and currently tail bone length. Do what makes you happy. 😊
This means you wash your hair once every month? How do you cope with the itches ?
@@solexbesty4227 my scalp doesn't get too itchy if it does I add a little oil to my scalp.
I watch your channel as well Roxanna . You have actually been my motivation in my transition. HAIR GOALS! #straighthairnatural
Do what is right for you girl! When I relaxed my hair 2 years ago, I knew it wouldn’t be forever. I see myself going back natural within the next 2-3 years but with a lot more knowledge and experience with properly taking care of my hair. All to say, do what makes you happy! I’ll still be watching your content ❤
I am doing the same thing. I am giving myself a lot of time to research before I make the decision. I noticed some women feel overwhelmed when they stop relaxing and don't have knowledge on how to care for their hair.
Girl….you’re good. People be tripp’n too much. I stopped relaxing my hair when pregnant. I wasn’t taking ANY chances with my unborn child. Had a girl and that encouraged me to stay natural. That was 17 years ago and she is relaxer free as well. Im a straight natural and she is a curly natural. Best decision I ever made. I don’t regret it at ALL.
That’s understandable. I didn’t relax my hair while pregnant BUT honey about 6-8 weeks after she was born the relaxer when back in! I have too much hair and I’m tender headed.
I might do the same if I get desperate enough 😂 or even try texturizer instead
@@NiaraAlexistexturized is the best I was once relaxed and my hair started to change after being relaxed for over 20 years my hairdresser recommended texturizing and it has been the best thing I’ve been using it for 10 years I use linange shea butter.. the best 🎉
Lol.. Yes, the salons tried 2 get me 2 make it easier on myself & get a texturizer. I'm just toughen it out with no heat right now with braids and headband wigs. Can't wait 2 c your upcoming journey if u decide 2.
I’m out !
@NiaraAlexis a texturizer is the same chemical as a relaxer you could just do a 9 month stretch and keep your hair in braids
As someone who was natural for 10 years and relaxed their hair 5 months ago… I’m going back natural. I have 3 different textures, my hair is coarse and thick both natural and relaxed. There are pros and cons to both. If I were you I would transition and go natural sooner than later. I’ve only been relaxed for 5 months and I realized that I could have stayed natural and kept doing my weekly twist outs. Whether relaxed or natural our hair takes time and work. Life seemed easier with my natural hair and now my relaxed hair has become somewhat of a burden to me. I’ve even postponed getting back in the gym because I sweat a lot and my hair is getting in the way of that 😩 I’m going back natural it’s more suitable for my lifestyle.
I understand you clearly sweetheart, whatever decision you make will be here to enjoy your journey ❤
Thank you so much!
I actually went natural while I was pregnant. It wasn't specifically for that reason, I just wanted to try being natural, and that was the perfect time. I stayed natural for 5 years and went back to relaxers specifically because I wanted a bob, and I live in FL, so being a straight hair natural didn't work for me. Although I'm relaxed, my daughter has been natural her whole life and has never wanted a relaxer. I've taught her how to take care of her hair, and she loves her curls. No matter your choice, I'll be here to root for you. I'm not going anywhere.💜
🥹 thank you! And I love that. I wish I knew how to care for my hair when I was younger. I might have still relaxed but love that you are teaching her to love her curls 🤎
As someone who has been both relaxed and a straight natural - my hair thrived with BOTH. It's all about routine. I'm currently a straight natural, 7 months post relaxer and I looove transitioning to straight hair. I just love the way straight hair looks when natural and I love not having to rely on going to the salon for a retouch or making sure I don't scratch my scalp leading up to it. It's freedom.
This is very sensible. I've seen a lot of people have great success with the straight natural life and also be moms. Also if you want to teach the men to love natural hair, we need to show them from the time they are little boys that natural hair (curly or straight) is beautiful.
I watched your videos every day last year when I was deciding to relax again after 8 years. I turned 30 this year and decided to stop relaxing for the same reason 🤯
I’m not going to stop watching 🥰
I am natural but heat trained/a straight natural. My hair looks like I relax it because of how straight it gets, especially since I got the platinum ghd; thanks to you, Niara.🥰
I really want to be a straight natural!
@@NiaraAlexis You can do it. Go for it!☺️
I’m also thinking about it…
Your hair blown out before ironing at the start of the video convinced me😭❤️ It’s just too gorgeous!!
Excited for your future content no matter what you decide! We all know your hair will eat either way 💞
Thank you! 🥹🤎
I'm currently transitioning to natural . I just can't keep dealing with the breakage set backs . I'm wishing you the best in whatever you choose
The only downside for natural hair is you can straighten it to perfection but slight bit of humidity and it’s puffing up a little .
I also find you just put it in a bun most times for ease .
I was natural for years after relaxing all my teens but decided to relax twice a year again for diversity of styles and it means i use less product . The only downside is you hair looses thickness .
AWESOME SAUCE! I let go of relaxer myself. I am about a year & 6 months in now. Its been really NEW & EXCITING! I will become a Straight hair NATURAL in the end of my transition / hair growth journey. 🎉
I saw your stories the other day Niara, where you say you will keep relaxing. All I can recommend is heat training! I think you’ll love it! Transition it into natural, while heat training the new growth and trimming the relaxed ends little by little
It's crazy how you & I are going on the same journey at the same time and similar age lol.
I remember finding your channel.
Most of my reasons are the same. I noticed my edges have been weird since the relaxers. That motivated me to stop. Haven't had a relaxer in almost a year. The Chi Enviro has been a game changer for me. I can now transition peacefully.
I plan on getting blood test to see what I'm deficient in and how that can help me get ready for my future kids.
Good luck with your journey!!
I want to get a blood test this year too! I’m gonna be telling my kids “I was preparing for you wayyyy before you were born” 😂
😂😂😂@@NiaraAlexis
Awww ❤
Girl whichever route you go on, I’ll still be here watching! But I’m happy you brought up this conversation!!! It’s important that young black girls see their moms embracing their natural self!
I saw you going natural from miles away tbh because you flat iron your hair alottt & I feel like it’s too much heat for relaxed hair ; causes breakage but do you boo ! I’m in two minds about my relaxed hair now . Just did a really short bob .. idk if imma grow it out or go natural
same
I understand this completely. I had a relaxer (pixie cut) and when I found out I would need regular touch ups BUT I was newly pregnant. I immediately started growing my hair out and went natural. Two boys later….I’m back with relaxers. I commend you for thinking this far ahead ❤️
Your advice is still great for non-relaxed too. Do what’s best for you girl, the real ones will support you either way ❤
I appreciate your honesty about this topic. Because it shows how hair is one of those things we can change at any time. It's understandable, I've only been relaxed for 1year after being natural for 10 years. And since we started the braid challenge, I said I might go back natural. Do what works for you and your body! I'm here for all content either way! ❤
I big chopped after I started watching your channel. I’m not having children. However, I thought if I had a daughter, I’d teach her to love her hair. I couldn’t do that effectively if I was relaxing mine. Bottom line: I needed to resolve my cognitive dissonance. I feel you!
This is my 4th big chop (I’m 49). I’m committed this time. 😊
I love that! 🤎
GIRL I MIGHT JUST STOP RELAXING TOOOOO... its still not gonna be the sameee😩😖
Good morning, that’s a great ideal to give up the relaxing your hair. Especially when you’re thinking 🤔 about becoming a Mom. I did the same thing & when I was pregnant with my daughter my hair grew so long it was crazy. It’s been a year & three months without a relaxer & at times it’s been challenging, but on the other hand it’s been beautiful as well 😊 Happy Sunday. From the eastside of Detroit 😊
I want to relax again my hair really thrived. Unfortunately my hair holds heats and sweats so my silk press don’t last long at all 😢 so I’m for sure going back to the creamy crack.
I am heat trained as well: I feel like more of us black girls who’s heat trained shud have a RUclips channel; even if we don’t blow up we shud still provide our journey
Omg yes join the straight natural 😊i been doing this for about to be two years.
Content ideas I would love to see if you're interested: upcoming holiday content ( Fall decor, cozy stuff, cozy fall living, Christmas decor, etc.) tips on looking put together, goal setting, full body care products (body creams, body glitter, pedi/mani). Also would love to learn more about your hobbies or also love it when you drop gems of general advice. We love cameos from Wendy too, lol.
I've actually been a straight natural the entire time I've followed you, so if you become one I would actually love LOVE IT haha 😊. But obviously girl I'm gonna follow you and support you regardless! Btw, thanks for sharing your mom to be goals. I'm a mom of littles, so that was just cool to hear that you are planning for some littles of your own soon. Best of luck in all that you do and what in life!
Botox is different because those kind of straighteners have formaldehyde. Is not the same with relaxers or hair colors, is more superficial. Do the research and make the best decision for you! All support! ❤
Thanks for sharing!!
I relaxed my hair n didn’t know I was pregnant it a be ok but i definitely was like u girl. I did so much research I had a 3d binder full of research. I didn’t relax again until til after I had him. You can over plan n something still happens with the baby but the fact ur educating urself and trying to change the situation before it happens to prevent it is already showing me ur gonna be a grate mommy when the time comes. And I also if I have a girl will not relax her hair until prom day. Especially with everything going on in today’s society and chemistry industry. I’ve even dyed my son’s hair twice his whole life he’s 10 n both times I chopped it off 😂😂😂. I did it bc he wanted it n I didn’t get to as a kid but the older I get I’m like no I don’t want any future complications to happen to ur body without knowing willingly bc it’s my fault. I learned my hair @ 14 but even then it was too late my mom let my aunties who had salons damage my hair 🤦🏾♀️. Crazy bc no matter what I do to my hair my curl pattern comes back bc it’s so coursed n coil’y. I just wouldn’t put box braids dye wigs tracks none of that in her hair until she’s like 14 nails makeup etc bc these lil girls in lace makeup n nails and be 7 yrs old I can’t😂😂😂. I hated my mom would let me play in makeup n dress up like a princess but I couldn’t go out the house with it and she wonder why I became a tomboy n likes sports not dolls 😂😂😂😂. So I get everything u saying girl the ins n outs of it all anywho do u ur way n ur babies gone be ok boy or girl. ❤
Babe! New subscriber - I just watched your video on silk pressing. I literally have a son & daughter. I had them at 21 & 23. YES, two is enough! Second, you will neverrrrrr need to relax your hair. Your nails and hair will grow like CRAZYYYY. Post partum, my hair was like a lions mane! I just did protective styles my whole pregnancy because 1. I was not trying to straighten my hair (buns weren’t doing it) 2. I know I relax my hair and like you, I did not want to
transfer that product to my kids.
I would say don’t worry about the relaxing now. You’re not pregnant yet but just do protective styles while you are pregnant and enjoy the ride ❤
I totally understand your decision. I also thought the same. My hair is a lot softer than yours and I was totally over the relaxing , but I found I still had to use heating appliances to smooth out my hair. There are so much good hot tools we now can use on curly hair . Then I remembered I read somewhere, that relaxers are not meant to straighten curly hair it is meant to ease out the curls to make styling our hair easier. I noticed the longer I left my hair without texturising it , the more heat appliances I was using. So I made up my mind to relax my hair every 4-5 months. Braiding is not an option for me , as I like to wash my hair twice or once a week, depending on how much hair products I have used, plus my hair will just break due to the dehydration/lack of moisture . My hair type is a soft curl , but I do need to texturise the roots so they lay flat. Niara , it’s your hair and you know what is best. I am currently researching on some Half Wigs, which I think for me is a better option when I’m taking a break from relaxing. At least I can wash my hair often 😂. 💖
Totally understand this! Softer hair can be hard to braid/tends not to do as well in braids.
I love you so much for being team “movement, bounce, and shake.” Because if I take the time to apply 300-something degrees of heat in little half inch sections all for it to be ruined by oils and butters, why would I press it in the first place? I need the bounce. The problem is, my hair hasn’t been bouncing lately. I use less product and my hair is more dry. When I use more product my hair is stiff. 😒
Yes , you can totally forgo relaxer as you can flat iron your hair expertly. But for me I was thinking of stopping relaxer treatments and doing a texture release. What’s your opinion on cuticle builder such as Avlon Affirm Texture release instead of relaxer . switching to that.
I believe texture release is just a different name for a Keratin treatment, which I’ve had, and those are definitely worse than relaxers, they do in fact have formaldehyde. I used a keratin treatment that wasn’t supposed to have formaldehyde but it just the two or so compounds that crated the treatment when combined and heat was added formed formaldehyde. And it made my hair shed like crazy. So be leary of even a release it MAY be the same.
I’ve been looking into them but I dont have an opinion just yet
@@eudoh21 so far, I have checked affirm treatment has no formaldehyde … and is not a keratin
@@NiaraAlexis if I’m doing it this year would be around nov 25, like 16w pst relaxer- in salon. Although I saw @naturally Nadine do it herself at home
I didn’t even think of this but it’s a really great idea. I’m a little older and I had my kids awhile back. I was forced to stop relaxing my hair…when I wasn’t too sick to get up(had morning sickness until I was 6 months with both kids😫).Whn I did muster up the strength to get my hair done, my relaxers wouldn’t even take😂😂. I was forced to get a hard press anot rely on relaxers like I had been.
I feel like it’s easier to heat train your hair (or new growth) if you are transitioning out of relaxed hair. If you have a twa (like me) it’s not as easy
Very understandable. I was natural for 15+ years while i was pregnant and only just relaxed my hair Nov 2023. But i didnt even use certain skin products while pregnant. I tried to do everything by the 'book'.
I just want to be the best vessel for them! 🤎
Did something similar! Stopped relaxing once I got pregnant with my first and won’t do until my second is born. After that I’ll probably go back tho 😅. I also thought of stretching it out but decided to avoid it all together in the end.
I had some thoughts about going straight natural ever since seeing more articles about the link with relaxers and fibroids
Good luck Niara 🤩. Sounds like you’ll make a fantastic mom 🌷
I hope so!
I stopped doing texturizer since my pregnancy last year and now I'm 13 months post. Honestly I don't know if I'm going back or not, I just do braids, my hair sheds a lot but I built a regimen and do protective style. I apply the texturizer as a relaxer it meand that I leave it for more minutes and then my hair is straight, I have a sensitive scalp.
I think it’s a good idea for you to start leaving relaxers alone now. Because you don’t know how hormonal you will be with your pregnancies. I was completely different emotionally with all 3 of my pregnancies. You don’t wanna wake up and not know what to do with your hair and start crying. Which may not happen at all. You may be super happy all the time. But it least this way you’ll be prepared. But whatever you choose will be right for you.😊
I don’t know how I missed this post. But yoou have great points. I’m excited to see if I can apply anything from your straight natural journey (should you choose that) because I’ve seen other women do it, but don’t know how to achieve it in south Florida at home, and honestly, I think I would prefer that over relaxing (even text-laxing is preferred). Other wise I’m still on track to locking it when the time is right 😂
My hair sheds so much after relaxing my hair. I’m going on three years post big chop. I’m going to hopefully stay that way from now on. I just love the look of relaxed hair though. Especially on myself .
Same! I love the look
This is ironic because I just found your channel in the last week when i was about to relax my hair…and I’m pregnant with my first child. lol. I didn’t want to but I’ve been wearing braids mostly for the last year and needed it to be more manageable “for me”. I just waited until I was in the second trimester and talked to my obgyn. Obviously won’t be doing it again until after baby is born and probably wouldn’t have if I didn’t have braids prior to. Everyone and every pregnancy is different so there’s not really a definitive answer to this in my opinion. Good luck on whatever you choose.
All valid reasons!
Regardless of what you decide, I’ll be heresesss
I’ve watched people go natural whilst pregnant because they wanted to know how to take care of their hair so they could take care of their natural hair. It would give you time to learn techniques on yourself so it’s not as overwhelming when you do have your first child.
Hello Niara! ❤ Do what is best for YOU!!!....I will still be watching 👀.
32?! Girl i thought you was like 24-28 max 😂 fr! I have 2 kids :) & I’m 29. I don’t plan on relaxing my daughter hair nor myself but i love your content. When you’re pregnant you really have to be mindful of what you put in & on your body especially as you age, so I feel you.❤
Damn girl I hear you.... Also I am a relaxed girl but I didn't relax my hair since January m thinking about quiting too... Mainly I m thinking of the long run, just like u. Just rurned 35 this year m more thinking as I get older m better off getting use to stay natural and learning to get my hair healthy also I enjoy protective style braids, weave, wigs. Good for u girl... I laughed when I saw this title, because I am thinking the same thing but at the same time I wonder should I just keep relaxing? Lol. We just need to remember patient is the key... As rhe time goes by this process will get better❤❤❤ lots of love and kisses.
Girl after watching a year of your videos I relaxed my hair. So you might dip out? Lol. I think I'll relax 2 times a year. I'll still follow your journey, whatever you do.
I'm with you. I am 32. My birthday next month (9/11.)I also want a boy and girl. And I'm debating on relaxing again. I'm about 6 weeks post relaxer.
Are you with child at the moment?
No im not
I had a head full of bushy natural hair. Beautician over processed my virgin relaxer and it broke my hair so bad. I've been sewing hair in since February with plans to cut the relaxed ends gradually. 😢
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oh i guess that's okay thennnn all the best girl still gonna watch you and love you
you said ok I’ll give you a pass for the kids 😂😂😂
Girl i said I wanted 2 but after my son, i am 1 and done lol. Everyone i know that relaxes also stopped relaxing their hair when they were pregnant.
The chemicals in relaxers are known to cause certain types of cancer
Do what works for you! The studies are definitive enough for me.
Ors relaxer or motions which is better
I’m going back natural I want highlights so bad
You can get highlights while relaxed too but I would see a professional fornit
@@NiaraAlexis i tired and it ate my hair right up 😩
I love that idea. I’m thinking about doing that as well and would love watch and learn with you❤
what product do you use as your chasing comb i cant find it linked.
It’s in my Amazon store. It’s from the brand Diane
You should look into getting a qiqi treatment
maybe consider texturising? i texturise my hair but my hair needs to be taken care of like natural hair, and my hair still has its curl pattern although looser
What type of texturizer do u use?
@@jasminehuey6869 soft and beautiful botanicals
You should try an amino acid smoothing treatment! I love it and helps with manageability so much!
I’m natural and have kids and wow I can’t wait to put in a relaxer in bc the time o natural hair takes …😂
What is straight natural? Can someone give me more information? Or what RUclips channel I can go to?
Natural hair that is straightened
16:40 😂❤
Well my mom was relaxed when she had me and I turned out ok 😕😂😂 Don’t come for me please lol whatever works for you.
Girl I though you were my age, 24 about to be 25
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I'm hear long as the hair is "flying flowin in the wind", 😅😊. Fully support you and I would do the same,if I was considering becoming a mom.
Never mind.
32!! i thought you were like 23
You’re dating then! Aaaaaa ʚ🤭ɞʚ🫣ɞ Congrats! ❤
I don’t share my personal life on here lol
@@NiaraAlexis ʚ🤭ɞ 100% fair!