How to Declutter with Financial Guilt
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- Опубликовано: 30 июл 2024
- In this video, I share two things I have financial guilt about and how I'm trying to deal with that while decluttering. I also offer six steps to power through the guilt and declutter items from your home.
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0:00 decluttering with financial guilt
1:00 first item causing guilt
2:00 decluttering roadblocks
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3:25 six steps to declutter with guilt
6:00 second item causing guilt
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What a great intellectual video, thank you for researching this for us and for explaining with so much clarity. What I do with the lost sock mates, I put them in a large ziplock bag then in the basket where I put the clean clothes to fold or hang. Once I have washed all the dirty clothes hampers and I still can’t find the mates, then I use them for cleaning once then throw away dirty.
Oh nice idea! Great little dusters!!
I put mismatched socks in a basket (which used to be full of I-don’t-even-remember-what!) in my hallway. That way, when I go to put clothes away, I just drop them in, and periodically go through and find matches. When I have time, I go through them, and toss any socks I haven’t had matches for in a while.
I actually got so desperate that I donated all of our socks in a winter sock drive and bought a dozen pair of matching unisex black socks. Now we have no problem matching them up and they are more durable than the thin little adorable ones 🤣
@@mamat1213 that’s making life easy!!! Love it.
Put the camera on eBay today and sell it and then don’t ever think about it again. You don’t need to feel bad about this. You are doing such a great job!
I agree, now it works like a guilt reminder everytime she sees it!
Thank you!
This is perfect for me at the moment. I'm going through decluttering financial guilt. I went to a car boot sale and made 40 euro but lost 2 days sorting stuff and bringing stiff home. It's not worth it and I'm just going to give it to charity! It's eating into my time ... I'm just constantly rearranging stuff!
2:26 This was me today ... It's a beautiful sunny week here in Ireland and I'm shuffling around my clutter. I'm taking this video as a sign and I'm declaring myself FREE! Thank you 🙏
The socks reminded me of what happened a few years ago when I choose to only buy identical white socks. I did end up keeping 2 pairs of fuzzy socks but I loved them and they’re worn at home not with shoes. Fast forward to my winter purge and I realized the white socks were really worn out with holes and dirt stains. After getting rid of those, I didn’t have enough to wear to work so I decided to get a bag. Since I typically wore black shoes the white socks stood out so I bought black socks and have been phasing out the white socks as they’ve worn down. Right now I’m down to 3 white socks. Once 2 more wear out I’ll toss them all and stick with the black ones (same brand and style). Makes socks so much easier because I don’t have to search for a match. They all match. Plus, there are no orphan socks to throw away when they’re all clones
Personally Dana, from a Slob comes Clean, mantra: "use it" always helps me move forward. Sometimes I just need the push to learn something that seems daunting, other times I truly discover it doesn't work for me. Either way it always helps me move towards a better situation. 😊
I had a spending problem this time last year. I don't think I spent over $1k, but it could've been used for things that would've improved my life. Been getting rid of what I bought mostly through selling or giving helpful and fun things to a friend with a child ❤️
I have come along way with the financial guilt. With expensive things that I can sell, I think that selling the thing does help because even if you only get half what you paid, at least then you recoup half where as keeping it and not using it is losing the whole price of the object. I'm trying hard to get rid of guilt about what I have, what I keep, what I let go. Life is too short and guilt doesn't help any part of life.
You always make so much sense! One sock at a time! It's the little triumphs! You have helped me go thru the decluttering process more than you will ever know. I've been working on our home for about 6 months now, my wife has also begun to see and feel the difference and has picked up on the mindset. We shop less, buy less, and do things more intentionally. Thank you! ❤
Love this!! It’s so great to come together on how to live. :)
Old or lonely socks can be recycled through Knickey!
Guilt is a HUGE problem for me. I was raised in a strictly religious family, and went to a religious school. Guilt was so DRILLED into me that I sort of had a breakdown when I was about 12. They taught us that even thinking about something was as bad as doing it. Everyday I thought I was going to hell because I could not control my thoughts. I am an atheist now. But since no money was spent on me as a child, I have guilt about each penny I spend. So buying something and not using it is really hard on me. And yes, I am getting therapy. What helps is that my husband and I get a certain amount of pocket money each month that we get to do whatever we want with. So I can buy craft things, or whatever. But even going to a fast food restaurant is guilt producing. It is a terrible burden. My daughter and I were just discussing this because she adopted a kitten that is not working out in her home with the other cats. I have taken it in, I wanted one anyway, and she feels horribly guilty about it. We were talking about how to get over this burden in our lives. I do enjoy your videos, and I may have to watch this one over and over as I go thru my home, decluttering. The kitten, however, is staying. LOL He is precious! BTW, socks and guitar picks both get stolen by gremlins and disappear!
Something I do to get through a financial guilt item is to think of a comparable fee/tax/charge that we got hit with that we survived. $700 is a surprise car repair. Not much I can do about that bill besides just moving on--I attach that same feeling to the item and move on. (For me the feelings don't go away immediately, I have to kinda revisit it and "move on" several times, and it gets easier over time. The financial guilt items are tough for me, but I think I'm getting better!)
Always difficult to let go of the financial guilt of money mistakes. But, you are so right. The decision to let go of the items we chose but now won't use for whatever reason...coming to terms with it and facing the truth about a bad choice head on, then dealing with it, including forgiving ourselves for simply being human...and moving on, lesson learned.
My husband and I, and our kids, always match up the odd socks as much as possible and wear them. They still keep the feet warm 😁
I enjoy all your videos Erica and applaud you for your complete honesty about yours and mine tendency to hoard. Thank you for alerting me to the battery storage issue we purchased a storage box and now have all out batteries in one place which of course is a plus. May I give one tip re the childrens sock issue, purchase 3 delicates wash bags or camping wash bags put a childs name on each and hang it in their bedroom or wherever they get undressed and challenge them to put their socks in ready for the wash. If you then close the bags and throw them in the machine and dryer each childs socks are enclosed and don't have to be sorted. Then a quick tip out on the bed and a moments collection of pairs and bingo socks done.
Maybe an aspiring RUclipsr would be beyond thrilled to buy a camera like this…along with other camera-related items that you don’t want! Think of blessing someone else and not just the guilt you have. Nice job on this video!
Thank you Erica! Thank you Erica! I needed THIS!! Getting stuck is sooo hard. Guilt, shame, time, volume ...yes, yes, yes all the above!
Me too 🤪
Hi Erica, I’m glad that I found your channel. I can relate to you very much. I also bought a camera years ago but never really used it as much as I thought I would. I always end up picking my phone because it’s lighter and is not getting attention from people. I had this feeling of guilt and shame whenever I see my camera sitting in my drawer collecting dust because I spent so much money on it. But I’ve put it on my ‘to sell’ list and hopefully somebody will give it a new home.
I decluttered because I downsized. After not seeing my things for a while because of a hospital stay I told my mom "I must have been rich before". I had some duplicates and a lot of crap.
What I love about you, more than any other youtuber, is that you drill down into the difficulty of the decision making process, explain why it's so hard, and then brainstorm and talk through solutions. You are better at this than any of the others and will always have a special place in my heart for it. Thank you for showing us the perfect balance between discipline and grace. Love you, Erica Lucas! ❤
Thank you Jessica❣
The socks hit home with me - I’m currently deciding on whether to purchase new walking socks or whether to just make do with the old ones I own. I’m afraid of future financial guilt/regret. It stops me from decluttering old pairs just in case and stops me buying a new pair that could the job better just encase I don’t use it enough to justify the cause or it doesn’t improve my comfort. In the meantime I suffer the blisters. I’ve made such progress on my decluttering journey that I get frustrated that I can get so hung up on something as so small as socks. But thank you for justifying that it’s okay to get a roadblock over smaller things and for leading the example of how to move on. I will taking a long look at my bag of socks tonight!
Hi Erica, I have watched your videos since the beginning and have loved watching you downsize your life. I love your video's but the next step in your RUclips journey is filming with a better camera. The video quality, sound quality and focus quality will be so much better. Sometimes it's hard changing a routine, but I think upping your production quality of your video's would be a good reason to try. Keep up the great work! Can't wait to see how the basement is coming along!
OK maybe I will try this after all!
poor socks, they must have a self-esteem problem, and they are always in trouble. Thanks for sharing Erica, everything helps when it comes to the ongoing decluttering struggle!
Thank you again for a very good video! Learning so much from you! ❤️❤️❤️ greetings from The Netherlands! 💖💖💖
You might just have possibly spurred me out of my decluttering rut. Excellent and informational video for analytical thinker. Tfs
Wonderful!
I love how empowered you have become. I've been watching quite a long time. Suggestion: how about a Thanks button. I'd love to contribute as a thank you. I enjoy your down to earth approach and your sweetness
Sally, wow thank you!! I will look into that. RUclips has messaged me about that button.
Your hair is looking so healthy! So glad you found the curly girl method!
You have hit a nerve with me! My issue is not socks, it is gloves. Favorite gloves…. That lost its other hand! After two years and not finding its mate, (what was I thinking?)…. Yes it’s time to let it go. All my socks have pairs, but maybe it’s time to examine my collection…. Your video… two inspirations. Thanks.
Loved this video! There isn’t much I’m still hanging onto that has financial guilt attached… but I do have a couple items hanging over my head (Silent To-Do List) that I want to attempt to sell… but I’m too embarrassed to post the items for sale! Lol. Oh, those silly things we purchased in our younger days. I know I won’t recoup the funds but, it would be nice to get something!
Ps that camera - sell it to me! I’m an aspiring RUclipsr wannabe and need some better equipment than what I have! As long as you’re at it, post a video on how to Run/Do a YT channel!
This is a big issue for me.Thanks for the advice.
Thank you once again on teaching me to think through decisions. HOW to think through them. 🥰
When the thing you WANT is greater than the thing you have. I’m going to chant this as I go through my house. Getting ready for a yard sale in 3 days and I’d hit a wall. Now, off to look and chant!
I wonder if their socks were in a small bin if it would make it easier for them to get a pair and put away. Maybe put the camera for sale and get some of your money back. We all have purchases like that. I actually have looked at that camera a few times and thought about purchasing it. My daughter did but she has a RUclips channel and uses it lots. You have come a very long way with decluttering so be proud of you 👏
This is so true for items we have spent money on. You have learned so much Erica through your journey into minimalism, thank you for sharing your insights with us. Side note?? Why are socks so expensive? I have never looked into it but always have questions about the price when I am purchasing them. Hope you are having a fantastic day!!
I feel like you were directly talking me through something important today. Thank you.
Me too ... This really resonated.
This brings me joy!!
@@theeggtimertictic1136 wonderful!!!
Great video!
Suggestion: A small basket with a lid next to the shoe basket would be much easier for the kids to get to there socks 🙂
Great video !!!
I have found that once I donate the item and it’s out of my life, the guilt also leaves. My shopping is very intentional because I ask myself, do I love this thing or need it enough to give it space in my home? Thanks for this video. You are a wise teacher.
Sometimes there are purchases we make (or gifts we receive) that we don't use simply because we haven't got round to learning how to use them. I was given an air fryer oven that I was going to get rid of because I wasn't using it and it was taking up space on my counter top. I thought I'd give it a try before disposing of it and - wow! Much easier than I thought to use and so money-saving in these days of high energy costs. There's a moral there somewhere. 😃
Maybe the lesson is that we already have what we need to make life easier for ourselves. We can be resourceful with what we already own. We don't need to buy a new thing, just actually use what we have!
@@joyindrelie6715 Definitely, Joy. The Minimalist Mom says to resource what we already own rather than buy something new. It may not be perfect and may need modifying, but better than leaving it to rot at home in a cupboard or rot in landfill. ☺
Love your channel Erica... my grandkids and daughters-in-law purposely wear unmatched socks. I'm too buttoned up to do that myself; but my niece orders her socks from a website that the pairs are not matched. I remember having mis-matched sock bins for years in the hopes they would filter through the laundry. Now my nest is empty and rarely have the issue...and I just toss, with no guilt.
The financial mishaps that come to my mind are the ones in self care category. Idk if that means I need to take time to do those things (eg. dry brush, IPL, dermaroller) or that I just *wish* I was the person who did those things (take time + discipline). Something to think about!
I usually wear mismatched socks for the fun variety, so all readers here can consider donating unmatched socks. Many people will love them. 😊
Oh boy, I know this financial guilt all too well. Thanks.
Sell elektronic as soon as possible, because it looses value quickly.
I bought a pair of designer distressed jeans when I was rushed to choose a pair while shopping 😅 they were expensive and I can’t wear them to work :( I’ve I’m honest with myself, I’m a little too old for that style anyway. I don’t know who to give them to and I keep forcing myself to wear them anytime I can but idk …… ugh
Honestly, I've thought to myself many times that I wish your videos were of better quality. I also think it would help you get more subscribers. I'm surprised to see you actually purchased a good camera! And also sad to see that it will be decluttered... but I understand your decision
In which ways would be better quality? This is a learning opportunity for me!
@@EricaLucasLoves I think she meant video/audio quality!
@@schoo9256 thanks! I’ve been working on that in recent videos. I hope it’s better nowadays
My problem is the little figurines my grandkids have given me over the years. They take up an entire curio cabinet and are dust catchers. I need to get rid of them but what do I do when they ask where they went? I don't want them to think I don't want them. So I keep them, dust them, and wishing they weren't here.
"I had some friends who needed a figurine to make them smile, so I've shared some with friends--" regardless of where they actually went 😉--"but I've saved these extra special ones from you, and you, and you, cause they make me smile the biggest!"
Also, phew, I've never heard of a grandparent wanting to declutter tchotckes from kids, that makes me feel better, as it's usually the other way around 😅
By keeping the camera you don't use, you increase its costs : each time you see it, it costs you guilt, which is far worse than money.
If you would sell it, not only would it cut the guilt cost, but you would recoup some money.
And the difference between the price you paid and your selling price would just be the cost of learning a lesson.
Could you use the camara for taking photos to sell.you could make cards with the pictures as well?I like josh Beckers way of looking at it.josh has us look at the mind clutter it holds over us(the space in the brain)it naws at our peace.
Donate the socks :) or stocking stuffers.
I just donated a $200+ Brevelle juicer my husband gave me for Christmas a decade ago and I have literally used it maybe a dozen times at most… I’ve moved it with me to 3 different houses. I had planned to clean it up and try to sell it but I never got around to and now with 3 young kids, I just finally accepted that I don’t have to time and even if I did, more importantly, I don’t have the mental bandwidth to bother with it. I still felt crappy as I handed over the donation box to the guy at goodwill… although my husband couldn’t care less and he has been telling me to just donate for years if I don’t use it, I still feel like I failed my hushed for #1 not using a gift he gave me and #2 not at least recouping some of the money. I wish I could say I get better after donating it, but I don’t… I still feel guilt over it BUT I can say that I have one less on my to do list and one less thing silently nagging me every time I open my cupboard so that is definitely worth something!!
Thanks. I vote for you to use that Sony camera. Your phone camera works ok as far as the visuals go, although the focus element kept compensating when you were on the couch, but the audio has reverb (that "back of the room" kind of echoie sound), so the audio could be better, not just quality of sound but better volume. The way to get rid of echo and other poor quality traits is to put the mic close to your mouth, where you speak. Notice broadcasters when they are speaking on camera. The mic is on their shirt usually, right next to their mouth. The Sony might have a connect input on it to connect an external mic. But you might also be able to connect an external mic to your phone if it has an input. Just a little feedback to possibly help with your channel.
I am in the middle oh Financial sentimental ans Gift guilt: Eleven years Long i bought Expensive Brands second Hand clothes from a Friend. I have three daughters 11 9 ans 3 years my husband Wants me to keep the Masses of clothes for the Kids we have Capsule wardrobes now ans i dont want This stuff in my basement my husband absoluteky Wants me to Keep Or sell the stuff: sources of guilt: husband my friend who sold me the Stuff for a good Price my daughter no three could Wear it and i feeling so Stuck ist is horrible so i wait and wait for Nothing i hate it
I'm going to side with other commenters. Try learning to use your Sony camera because your phone audio and video are starting to struggle in your most recent videos.
Ok good feedback!
I just sold a camera (manual), which I bought for about 500 Euro but 20 yrs ago, hardly used, tried to sell it over and over again, after yrs I finally sold it for about 300 Euro. So Happy about it. I will spend the money for holidays and concerts.
Is the camera a business expense? Do you itemize?
I think that when you learn to use the camera, the video and audio of your video's will improve. Maybe even attract more viewers because of it. I'm sure many courses for this camera are found on skillshare :)
I will think about that! Sitting at the computer is tough for me - time wise. I can edit on my phone on the go (sports for the kids, etc.).
so weird... I just bought myself and my kids socks on Amazon like 5 minutes before watching this video 😂
I am just going to donate my old digital cameras... They are 15 to 21 years old. It is time.
You should definitely maybe start using the camera as in can change the quality of your videos and help improve the quality of your content. Use it before you truly decide to let it go if it doesn’t work out.
None of my nine grand kids ever wear matching socks. Clean yes matching no.
Yes! I spent out on a high end computer to use with our VR rig, then got pregnant and found that VR made me too queasy, so the computer barely gets touched. :(
Ypu can sell it
Over the last few years, you’ve definitely decluttered $700 worth of clothes & books. You may be getting stuck because it’s a singular item that cost $700.
Quand il n'y a qu'un salaire on est obligé de faire attention de ne pas gaspiller
Why dont you just leave socks in wardrobes? And kids sport clothes? That way you dont need to make additional space for them around the house.