How To Stop Repressing Your Emotions By Using This Simple (Yet Powerful) Technique
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- Опубликовано: 21 мар 2018
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In this video I'll teach you how to stop repressing your emotions by giving you a very special technique that is almost never talked about.
Feeling your emotions can be really hard if you don't know how to do it. First, you have to admit to yourself that you are running away from your emotions by doing certain activities. But once you do that, you have to find a way to break the habit of pushing your emotions away.
Breaking the habit can be done by noticing that you are trying to push your emotions away and then setting the intention to feel them.
But how do you really feel them if you don't want to feel them?
You always hear people who say that you need to 'feel your emotions completely', but they never really tell you how to do that.. In this video I'll give you the most powerful technique to actually do that. I don't think there is any other way that could help you more with this. Doing this has healed me of my chronic pain, I hope it can benefit your life in a similar way.
Much love,
Julian
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I just want to cry more... Im scared that when a loved one dies I will not cry...
@ElegantRoze yea, same here, but like i do cry because of some things sometimes in private, but my grandfather died and I didn't even cry.. i feel bad about that.. I definitely was really sad, and I often think about him, but I don't cry..
@Christian Bridger You're disgusting.
Crying is completely normal but is that what you’re really afraid of?
I've been in therapy for like 17 years and this was the most helpful advice I've ever gotten 😂😂😂
Thank you very much!
Glad to hear that it was helpful! It's unfortunate that most conventional therapy and information out there keeps people stuck. Luckily there is stuff that truly works and can create rapid changes.
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Thank you. Repressing is a thing i have been doing since a child, not wanting to create more drama in my home. So i would repress, and this become anxiety, depression, ocd, addiction, etc. I'm ready -scared too- to feel my emotions. Thank you!
You're welcome! Haha nice reframe ;)
Omg I was having those same “inexplicable” pains since childhood and only recently did I realize they were directly tied to my repressed emotions and this helped confirm thank you!
Yeah almost nobody talks about this.. Glad you found out!
Thank you so much!
I tend to run away from certain emotions because I’m afraid of how ‘bad’ they can feel and running away has only ever made it all much worse for me.
It helps to hear this. 🙏
As some one who grew up emotionally neglected and repressed it for over 20 years. Thank you. Genuinely. For the first time in my life I feel like I gained something from crying
@Dawson Davis wdym hes valid you dont have to be emotionless wreck to say you repress emotions
Love this, yes we are the master of your emotions. I find, saying " there is anger, jealousy, sadness", allowing to feel this and all the sensations that fires a different neural circuit to the thinking part. I sometimes put my hand on the area I feel it the most. Just notice how things shift. I also feel the art of compassion is important that removes people from separation that there is something wrong with them rather this is common humanity. Absolutely, what meaning are we putting to the emotions, focus on the wisdom. Everything is for us not against us. Great wisdom thank you for sharing.
I noticed today the only way i could fall asleep was by acknowledging that my heart is closed. Once i accepted that was how i felt, i was able to fall asleep.
Thanks man. I realised despite feeling depressed for the last year I only cried maybe once. I am badly emotional repressed which I realised cuts me off from people on a deeper level. I am going to do what you said, I want to feel the emotion now, it makes us human
Crying when you need to cry! 😢
I have headaches lower backache I'm repressing my emotions I'm so full of anger hate the feeling of injustice and grudges that I feel like screaming. Distract yourself that is all very well at the time but the feelings and emotions are still rattling in my head 7 years on
Thank you so much for this!
Thank you, just what I needed
Put it on 1.5 speed
That was the perfect speed. Thank you!
Wow 😳 lmaoo
2 even
Lol ty😂❤
Slowing down our speech can actually put us into a relaxed state, the parasympathetic state.
Genuinely wonder if listening to slower speech does the same thing.
Thank you for this video
Awesome - thankyou
Excellent advice
Fantastic video, simple and it totally hits the nail. Thank you🙏
Great advice. Thank you
Thank you Julian...🙏
Thanks for sharing, this really helped.
Very good advice, thank you so much!
wow this video was so beautiful
Yes, "feel your emotions" but how, lol? Thank you so much for showing us how. Am curious if/when your painful triggerpoint knots resolved. I have so many of these too, but did not realize an emotional link.
Feel your emotions means literally that. You have to feel your emotions. Its in a literal sense. I only understood this through experience. One of those things you cant explain but must experience. If you really want anything in life the universe will give it to you (often in a literal sense so you have to be careful what you wish for and be very precise in what you want bc that's literally what you'll get)
@@user-vx9yp7ch3e can you please explain further what you mean with the universe analogy?
@@macrons593 the universe is listening to ur life all the time = 24/7.
Great video man thank u
Just what I needed to hear. Thanks for sharing!
fantastic thank you ! inspiring
Thanks man. Helped a lot :). learn to embrace ur feelings not run away from them. really helped me feel at ease. peace
This attitude is genious man, lots of respect!
Thanx Julian and often times we are not aware of repressing or emotions also because we live in a world what is created full off distractions and full of superficial amusement. But I agree....the only way out is through. For me nature can give me the opportunity to get closer to my real emotions😊
Definitely Gea, nature is a powerful healer!
Thank you, this was the video I was looking for. So many videos on why it's 'bad to not feel your emotions'
Very few on how to do it 👍
I stopped repressing my emotions, and my court hearing is for next week! Great advice! I have finally taken the first step to being a homeless beggar, but at least I am not emotionally repressed!
How's it working out?
proud of you love.
Thank you brother
Great information, thanks so much for sharing! I think all emotions are ultimately different aspects of love and when they’re felt completely as you said, without resistance we can feel and experience love.
Great tips. This is going to be a long process for me since it's so repressed it barely comes up. This is hope giving
Thank you very much for your sharing! The idea of labeling it differently is really great! :)
Thank you 🥰🌸❤
Thank you sir
YES!!! very helpful. It is also essential to know, to name the emotions to validate its existance.Downloading an emotional wheel helps a lot
Very nice hint not to label emotions as negative so that we stop rejecting, avoiding, resisting and escaping. Yet: emotions are not just meant to flow but to guide us. They are a message. So how to cover this second aspect of the process? Let's say I feel fear: instead of escaping I thank it and welcome it, right? It is good for me because it helps me grow, it tells me something. I let it flow, and since I put no resistance it flows. But what was it there for? What did it want me to understand? If I don't get the message, there I'll go again: after a while it'll show up again... Can you help me with this?
Great 😊
Thank you Very much , you have helped me to understand how to stop the unconscious repressing of negative emotions, i used to repress my emotions so long until i wake up one day and feel nothing neither good nor bad & it is a really really bad way of living i will try to do it
bro this is what I was looking for past few years
Thank you
Thanks.
Thank you.
You're very welcome!
Goed filmpje Julian. Helder uitgelegd. 👍🏻
Thanks!
Thank you. it is exacly what i needed right now. You made it clean and So easy to understand and apply.
Good to hear that this came at the right time for you. I'm glad to be of service :)
@@Amstermind when you stopped repressing your emotions, did your positive emotions came back? did you start feeling the motivation energy, joy again?
Even while watching your video I wanted to click away and watch other things while listening smh
I had these knots on the back of my head and I thought they were acne so I began to pick and them. After certain research I understand now . I thought that there was something wrong with me physically but it was just my own manifestation
Man, you are unbelievably underrated! Plenty of people are in various matters and ways of life, but this is just.. Amazing man!
Thank you brother! Glad to be of service.
Relating A LOT to the chronic pain, ALL OVER the body for years. It's insane how much trauma and stress and so on can do to a "individual".
It definitely is! And most people are unaware of it.. It's time to change that :)
I'm 39 and this video taught me something new and helped me a lot. Thankyou so much for making it
I'm 41 now and still coming back to this video. Yep. Still repressing my feelings 🤣🤣🤣
How do you maintain control of yourself when empowering and amplifying emotions like anger? I've learned to suppress anger above all else because I used to punch walls and break things and lost a fiancee over it who was afraid I might end up punching her at some point. When my temper flared, I was like an angry bull in berserk mode, would completely lose control over my body and ability to think clearly, and would immediately start smashing things and already begin regretting it just minutes later when I started gaining control again over my senses. I thought it was good to learn how to repress that anger and it has improved my relationships ever since I learned how to do that, making me a much calmer and mellow type of person, but sometimes I do feel like it has left me a little bit on the numb side.
Thank you for sharing. Because of your history, it seems that you have linked the internal feeling of anger to external violent behavior. I think it would be beneficial to try to see the emotion of anger and physical violence as two different things. In this case, I highly recommend starting a meditation/mindfulness practice. Because this will teach you to become less reactive to things and make you more capable of actually observing your emotions and thoughts (instead of reacting to them by doing something physical for instance). When you learn to take the role of the observer more, it will be much easier for you to feel your emotion (after you give it an empowering meaning). I hope this helps. Do let me know if you have any questions :)
Cheers. I've also been revisiting Stoicism lately to try to think more positively so that I'm not suppressing anger so much as thinking in a way that prevents it (or at least mitigates it). I think one of the reasons I used to get so angry to the point of being so aggressive and violent is that I had such a negative thinking pattern whenever I got into a conflict which would just feed and feed that anger.
Negative thinking can definitely feed a loop. Be sure to check out my video on "how to master your thoughts' for a technique that could help you with that. Be cautious that you don't fall in the trap where you are trying to positive think all the time and neglect your negative emotions. The key is to think empowering thoughts about the feelings you are having, so that you still feel your emotions and let them flow through you. Good luck!
Suppressing your emotions can make you calm but eventually you'll burst out of frustration.
Thank you for your wisdom 🙏
Good video.
Thank you!
really thx
Glad to serve you!
Anger!! Nicee!! 😅👍
Better than any doctor. Thank You.
If you feel muscle pain headaches and tension but no emotions? What to do ?
skip to 4:00
I guess it's an act of brave confrontation for many people to feel feelings they have been afraid to face for years. This technique may not be suitable for everyone
Great video Julian. Thank you so much. I have a question: I have also chronic pain all over my body and this pain is triggered specially when I am stressed or I feel fear for any reason. My stomach is really contracted, as well as my psoas and my diaphragm, which basically causes me to be in pain all the time. My question is, are this trigger points caused by my fear or any other emotion or because I somehow repress them? According to what you say it would be the second option but I am not sure... Thank you and congratulations for your great videos.
In exactly same position
I was partly afraid to stop repressing my emotions(crying) because I felt like I’d just be a big cry baby for the rest of my life after Smh lol.
Yezzir!
One of the hardest things for me, has been to control anger because it makes me feel sick physically, like i feel will vomit the heart out, and then I try to breathe and think other things to distract but still feels super bad, like running a race and stopping suddenly, even if i think is unnecesary to get disturbed by irrelevant things, maybe just need medication I guess.
Thank you. Do you have advice on what to do with intrusive thoughts?
Yes, I'll make a video about this soon. There are a few ways to deal with them. The main way is to stop identifying with your thoughts and to realize that you can observe them (which means you are NOT your thoughts). Just observe them and see them as thoughts that are just programs running in your head. Just stay in observer mode and find peace there. Learn how to meditate, it helps. There is a video about how to get started with this on our channel. Good luck!
Thank you so much for this.. may i ask a question... If i feel triggered/angry by what someone said is it ok to tell her? I feel scared of being abandoned.
maybe ur ryt sir. i don't know. but kept going
my hero
Ive done this for 3 years but I kept myself busy with work
But when people ask you how you are, they're not _really_ asking you how you are, they just want you to say "Yeah, pretty good 😐".. right?
You're confusing repression from suppression. Repression happens subconsciously.
Great vid mate thanks! One question, how to get rid of recurring thoughts when they don t provoke any physical feeling? I m victim of my own mental masturbation due to a girl that rejected me and treated me badly
I'll make a video about this in the near future. There are a few ways to deal with them. The main way is to stop identifying with your thoughts and to realize that you can observe them (which means you are NOT your thoughts). Just observe them and see them as thoughts that are just programs running in your head. Just stay in observer mode and find peace there. Learn how to meditate, it helps. There is a video about how to get started with this on our channel. Good luck!
@@Amstermind thanks a lot really! Very helpful. I ll check your meditation out and will stay tuned. Take care
I had similar pain with trigger points my question did feeing your emotions get rid of your physical pain over time?
@sarahkayaker yes he mentioned that he got rid of his pain after feeling his emotions completely in another video ofcourse
How does this work with feelings of resentment?
When I'm angry or blow up I break plates, smash the dishes, slam the doors and throw things. Lucky I live alone. Is this getting out my repressed anger? I don't mean to do it...it just explodes out when I am totally frustrated at my life as it seems like ground hog day! 🤬🙈💣💥
I question and surpess rather than feel and express.
@Amstermind after you stopped repressing your emotions how long did it takes to feel again
Dr. Sarno
So you say change the meaning. But don't you mean accept the emotion? And when you accept it you are on a path of getting more in touch with your own emotions which is also positive emotions?
Hold up! People have more than two feelings??
What if ylur emotionally numb 0 emotions?
BRO I HAVE THE SAME SHIT! THANK U !
I have chronic pain and haven't worked in 3 yrs due to this. What are the processes I should follow to remove all this build up from my body?
Jennifer Conte look at tms and mind body syndrome. I cured mine from it.
Yes, look into TMS therapy. Tension Myoneural Syndrome.
Do you advise to just sit with it? I find this hard when I’m at places like work because I don’t want to look like I’m overreacting!
Go to the washroom.
I have a question... I tried this technique for the first time today and it seemed to work (tho I know it's going to be a long process). Alot of emotions came up, but now I feel completely numb. Am I maybe not ready? Or does feeling numb count as an emotion?
i've been having the same issue broke up with my ex recently over not feeling emotions managed to have a quick cry about it then felt nothing
I’m really scared that EVERYTHING will fall apart 😱😭
I use to have that same fear.
I feel like this is something that probably affects a lot of enneagram 7 people the most. Speaking from the experience of an INFJ enneagram 7 wing 6.
I'm a 7 & it effects me 💁♀️
ever heard of a 5??? the whole ass description of a 5 is just “they repress lmao”
It's not a good idea to live your life by these enneagram and similar stuff
I cant do it - I have already reached the point of understanding everything from a positive angle, I already fully understand how in control I actually am in almost all situations... its all good. But the problem is - that its all good. Someone is pissing me off? I can understand it, I empathize... so I am not angry. Something is bothering me, should make me sad - I know its a good thing, because its letting me know what I should do - so I am not sad.... Etc. I understand everything positively, so there is no way for me to naturally express negative emotions. I cant get angry, it makes no sense. I cant be sad, it makes no sense... So I dont... and I am at square one. because this absence of emotion does not add up to happiness... How can I be authentically angry/sad, while understanding it all positively.
I think that's the thing - you don't have to actually understand it positively. Or negatively. It's more about not labeling the feelings at all, at least at first steps of the process. Do not judge your emotions, that means don't judge them as good either. Just try to let them be and aknowledge them. Maybe after that you'll be able to make sense of them and find out what they were about
@@ssugarrr Thank you! :-) I managed to actually realize this very soon after I made this comment and my life has changed beyond recognition :-) For the first time I feel free. I was trapped in a cage of overthinking... labeling, judging and trying to understand everything. Well, I did not even need to give up "understanding everything" because now I actually understand more, with much less effort :D It was just that I was using my analytical intelect on everything... analytics never build anything, they only do a "break down" of things... quite litterally. Cheers! -Pete
I've lived for 41 years without showing (or even feeling many) emotions. It's worked for me.
Do you think Navy SEALs sit around and have group crying sessions before they go fight?
#Mike Roa Greschen
May be it manifested in to diseases
fucking hell, im looking for a way to better repress my feelings not stop
@mr.noname really if u know the suffering & lifeless of the emotionally numb ppl you would know the meaning & importance of emotions
As some one who represses my emotions trust me you’ll retreat it I can’t even cry when I’m alone cus I feel like I’ll be judged and that I’m pathetic and when I do cry i feel so much Shame I want two cry so fucking bad but I can’t
MasyaAllah thankyou for the most helpful vid I’ve ever seen🥹💕
Escape has become my middle name 🪄
Thank you
Thank you.
You're very welcome :)