How to Feel My Feelings - What the Therapists Say...
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
- HOW TO FEEL MY FEELINGS - WHAT THE THERAPISTS SAY
This video is a bit different than usual. I reached out to social media to gather advice from therapists on how they help their clients to feel their feelings. I share with you the themes that arose.
With thanks to the following for their ideas:
Kids feel their feelings in their whole bodies, our emotional experience gets smaller as we grow up: Carly Radford
1. Viewing feeling as a practice/check-ins: Javaneh Pirzad, Jem, Trevor Burgess
2. Understand resistance to feeling: Cara Martin, Helena Byrne,
3. Name the feeling: Cheryl-Ann Stewart, Jem, Claire Francis, Natalie Barso
4. Get in touch with bodily sensations: Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar, Erika Kamlert, Amelie Rachel, JR Jinney
5. Accept feelings: Manaal Mulla, Jess [Counsellor], Tracey Douglas,
Alexithymia: Olatunde Spence.
Video on alexithymia: • What Causes Alexithymia?
Emotion-sensation wheel: lindsaybraman.com/emotion-sen...
Emotion wheel: fairygodboss.com/career-topic...
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Most challenging - feeling the emotions even when you are overwhelmed by them and they feel like too much. Letting go of the mental story to have acceptance instead of ruminating like that will change the past. Knowing having the discernment of what you need when you are panicked or have persisting emotions. Finding the privacy or safe space (even when you are out or going about your day) where you can cry, shake, scream or hit something safely. And not feeling guilt or intellectualizing everything
Growing up we were not allowed to show feelings, even at my mother's funeral (I was 17) my father said he didn't want to see one tear. I don't remember that day, I was disassociated and numb so not to show emotions. We were all scared of him. He was from the old school that feelings showed you were weak.
As I discovered your channel, a lot of past trauma is suddenly coming up. I’m dealing with it with compassion and see it as part of my healing process.
"Feeling feelings as a practice" loving it!!! Thank you Sarah!!! This video is so great!!! It is very helpful everything you said ❤ your channel is an international treasure!!!
Thanks Andrea ❤️❤️
Just finished my (about twice weekly) class. It takes me a bit to process. Once again, thanks from the heart for you.
The golden ticket would be how to express your truth to people who have done you wrong, beautifully
You may be able to express yourself perfectly and they may not be able/willing to hear it. For some, there may be benefits in just expressing their truth regardless of how it is received, but if someone hopes that they just need to find the ‘right’ way to communicate in order for the other to acknowledge their errors, I think often ends in disappointment
oh its 5am here! Did i watch ur videos for 4 hours 😳. "Binge watching" lol, literally my whole life is in a binge zone 😬🤩
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Oh wow!! This video is so enlightening! I needed to hear #5🙌🏼🙌🏼
Thank you ! 🌟
Thank you, this is very insightful.
Just about everything you articulate is accurate, and at times, it touches upon the essence of the task: how to experience one's emotions. However, you then depart from the core issue and don't really teach how to do that. You mention how children experience feelings in their bodies and refer to therapists who suggest doing something similar. That's on the right track but for simplicity's sake needs to be taken a little further. So, may I please? Feelings have corresponding sensations in the body and it's these sensations that require attention. Let me put it more directly: when experiencing emotions, simply feel and observe the sensations within your body. There's no need to label or identify them. This is because we can't always be certain that, for example, the pulsing in the back of our head is anger, or the butterflies in our stomach are fear. When triggered by some event in the present or by a memory fom the past, emotions/feelings/body sensations arise instantly. Depending on the nature of the trigger, the resulting sensations can be either pleasant or unpleasant, but that does not matter. The concept is to permit oneself to remain with whatever emerges. Attempting to identify and label emotions can divert one's focus, engaging it in a cognitive process. The objective is to stay present with the physical sensations, observing and feeling them arise, shift, and dissipate. Remaining vigilant and observing as they arise, move and eventually diminish is the method to process emotions.
What happens if the pain is ongoing? How do you make space for pain when it’s constant? When you care for a sick loved one…. you’re not curious about your pain, you know exactly why it’s there and what caused it, and yet the sadness continues. 😞
This is such a massive topic that this advice is not going to be helpful in every situation. I don’t want to presume I know what you need as I’m not walking the same path. I’m happy to share the thoughts that popped into my head when I read your comment, but please discard them if they feel irrelevant/not possible/unhelpful:
I thought about making space for other feelings. Is it possible to experience moments of peace, acceptance or even happiness? What would that take? Sometimes there is guilt about trying to feel good when someone you care about is suffering.
I do think making space for sadness may still apply. When something feels as if it’s always there the idea of making space for it doesn’t seem to make sense, but one of the techniques used for chronic worry is to set aside ‘worry time’, when you plan to use that time to worry. What often happens is that the worrying reduces outside of that time. I wonder if it can work with processing sadness. Setting aside sadness time to intensely feel it may ease the constant sense of it being there.
I don’t have all the answers, but these are just some ramblings that came to mind ❤️🩹❤️🩹
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you 🙏 🙏 I hope you know that my comment was not a criticism of your video, I really liked your video. I was just thinking out loud because I’m caring for 3 family members and struggling to make space. I’m seeing a psychologist which helps a bit. Trying to be gentle with myself because sometimes life just hurts.
Thank you so much for your videos and your reply. You are the most skilled and empathetic therapists I’ve over come across. If only there were more Sarahs! 🙏💛💛💛
@@katestephens4258 Didn’t take it as a criticism at all! I am so conscious of how these very complex experiences become oversimplified in 10-15 minute RUclips videos.
I cannot imagine what it’s like to have such responsibility of care for others and my heart goes out to you ❤️🩹
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you🙏
Really appreciate all the time, energy and authenticity you put into your videos and social media. ⭐️
I would rather make my emotional experience dull and muted than feel the pain. Is there a way to do that?
A 2 year old doesn’t need any schooling on feeding their feelings. We might wwll learn from them.
Omg we've been groomed by our parents and we're doing it from generation to generation 🥲
I love the wheels of emotion and sensation! Thank you so much. Never heard of those and I seem to never know what I am feeling exactly..