Martin, you nailed it! One of your best videos, informative and dead on, when I was forced to retire 1 1/2 years ago, after working with them for 38 years I never hear from anyone.
I absolutely agree. I only heard a few times from coworkers after I retired. For the last year, I have heard from none of them. I unfriended a bunch on Facebook, those who I considered more or less friends. I only have a few that I include, but even so have received no phone calls or texts from them. I'm retired almost 3 years now.
@@Patty747 Thank you Patty for sharing. Yes for me as well. No one at my former employer’s ever reached out to ask if I was okay when I got fired. Sad state of affairs.
Very true. It's not that every coworker doesn't "like you", it's simply a relationship created due to proximity. Once you are gone (or the other person is removed), the relationship is also gone. I experienced a real since of friendship loss when I lost my job of almoat 20 years. I quickly discovered that of the dozens of "work" friends I had, once I was gone, those 30 contacts became 2 after three months. Like Martin said, it's just how it is. So don't neglect your family and childhood friends, when life changes catch you, they are then ones you'll need to have for support (emotional support gets us through tough times). Be well all
Before I was terminated from a job back in the 1990s, my boss said to me, "Not everyone you think is your friend is your friend." It turns out my co-worker "friend" was after my job and did get me fired. Be careful how much you share with a co-worker "friend"; it could be the bullet that takes you out.
Thanks for the video. I wholeheartedly concur. Two years ago I retired from a company I had worked at for about 11 years. They had an open office environment in office rooms that held 100s of people so I knew a lot of guys. I busted my tail supporting others and when I left I was given some nice accolades. However, I only hear from one person on any kind of regular basis. Truth is that I was older than most of my co-workers and geographic differences made it hard for us to do stuff together even if we wanted to and most of us just wanted to do our jobs and go home. One thing that was a little surprising is that I retired from the Army National Guard (US military reserves) in 2011. Many of the guys I had known for the better part of 20 years and had gone to war with in Iraq. I wasn't hanging out friends with anyone because I lived a long way away from most of them but I did think I would at least get the occasional phone call or text to see how I was doing. Nope. Truth is, just like your video said, they moved on with their lives. I'm not bitter about that, it just is the way it is.
Thanks for sharing your experience and I hope the New Year finds you well. Yes. It’s nothing to be bitter about but I wanted to do this video to hopefully let newer workers understand this is how the work world is so be prepared and to also get feedback from folks like you who’ve been through this. Have a blessed New Year 😃🙏
Hi Martin! Chris in Dartmouth NS. Good discussion. I’m no expert on RUclips but I think you don’t need to worry about your videos length. We like you and even long form videos would be great. No need to apologize or tell us you’ll keep it short. Subs are actually not necessarily the most important. It’s views and watch time. Glad you are doing well and looking forward to your next video. Keep going!
Perfect timing, as far as I'm concerned, sir. I'm two months shy of a week into a new job, so this will come in handy going forward. I'm normally a trusting friendly guy, taking people at face value, so I'll try to bear your advice/tips in mind. Thanks for sharing. Subbed. Merry Christmas to one and all! 🎅🌲
Thank you so much. Just keep this in the back of your mind. It’s wonderful to be friendly and it is possible to create lasting friendships but just be cautious who you confide personal information to as people can turn on you quicker than you can imagine. Thank you for subscribing. Have a blessed New Year ❤️😃🙏
I worked for a family run business and I had those issues where the boss was fabricating a reasons file to fire me. The HR that I had to place my complaint was actually her daughter in law. HR should be a neutral person outside of a family run business. Co-workers, you have to keep at arms length, you can be friendly ... but not friends.
Sorry to hear this happened to you. At my former employer the boss who fired me was also the HR person. Total conflict of interest as he was subtly abusive and the person you’d complain to. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I have been with one company for 33 years. Every one of my original crew has died do illness or old age. There has been so much turnover over the years and everyone that is gone was never spoken about again. Now there was one guy I trained 25 years ago. I would call him a friend. He retired 10 years ago and we still talk over the phone every week. But everyone else in the company could care less that I exist. I do my job, I remain friendly, I don't give anyone a hard time and I do my job to the best of my abilities. For that I get paid and receive some benefits. I go there because that's how I make money and that's the reason why I show up every damn day for the last 33 years. One day soon, I will retire and they will no longer exist to me either. I would say that's an exchange.
Thank you Martin. Very true and any company who claims that they are "family"... well that raises a red flag for me. Co-workers are simply there to earn money and keep paying the bills. Good if you get along well with co-workers whilst you are with them and it may be a bonus if, like your wife, you can maintain a friendship with some, but this is not a given. Hope you get over your cold very soon - perhaps before the New Year! Wishing you good health and joy in 2025.
Thank you so much Rita. I really appreciate your support and kind words. Yes hopefully my cold clears up completely soon. It’s getting better slowly. I wish you a blessed New Year as well 🙂❤️🙏
I know this is a popular opinion and it is so often true. I get it yet I don't entirely agree. We don't have our third places to meet one another anymore. Isolation is a societal problem. Work is often where we find our friends, people we see daily. Not everybody is bad or malicious. When I struggled with cancer last year, I realized my friends are mainly people I worked with. I am careful but I have met some of the greatest friends from work, including my partner. I think being careful is key.
Hi Martin. I really appreciated this video. I hope you make more videos like this one. I think you have a lot of wisdom to share about the professional world. Your 40+ years of knowledge is very helpful.
I have a former colleague who is like a sister to me. The whole team got replaced by underpaid folks in a “more cost effective country” so we were all in the same boat. I still regularly keep in touch with a few other folks on our team. We all network for each other. We all worked and lived in different cities so we didn’t regularly socialize apart from occasional in person work meetings - but we were all very close. My former boss is also still in contact and helped me get my current job. Not everybody is a jerk out there. Maybe it’s just a big city mentality vs where you live in a smaller community. In big cities, you need other people to have your back to survive. It’s not every man for himself rugged individualism. Hope you feel better soon!
I recall an interview with a retired Marine Corps captain who decided to take a job in Afghanistan during the war working for a company out of Singapore doing irrigation (as a civilian). He noted that after talking to the local authorities/Taliban they were able to work out in the open without an armed escort with no issues. In contrast he pointed out that if they had tried to do that in Iraq they would have lasted about one week. One week because that is about how long it would take the locals to "figure out who the highest bidder is." It made me think of what the difference might be. Both countries are Islamic and third world. So what might make Iraqis so opportunistically predacious (and presumably sycophantic otherwise) where as Afghans seem to have a kind of honour culture were you can in fact take them at their word. Reminded me of what happened to Marcus Luttrell. A whole village willing to fight the Taliban to the death, not I suspect because they love America, but because of some sense of honour that the local Taliban was infringing upon. I watched a speech were Luttrell mentions Micheal Murphy, who won the Medal of Honour attempting to make a radio call for help from an exposed hilltop where he was killed. "The first thing I'm going to do after I die is tell my brothers that I love them" *Marcus pauses, adopts a serious tone of voice: "Men bond in adversity; you do know that right?"
I think this also greatly depends on the type of person you are. If you're a very self-centered person, and/or you constantly expect the worst from people under the guise of "being careful," you'll have a very difficult time establshing genuine friendships in ANY environment. I have made many forever friends in every occupation I have ever had - friendships that hold to this day.
@ of course! I’m an Author, Martin. With your genuine authenticity, and noteworthy experience, you may find it appropriate to write a book, as well. I’d be happy to refer you to a few resources if you think you might be interested in looking into doing something like that.
@@deborahrodriguez-castinado9536 Thank you Deborah. I’m a published author as well. I cover that in other videos. My books are available on Amazon, eBay and other sites. 🙏😃
@@deborahrodriguez-castinado9536 I’m so happy to have you here Deborah. I’m trying to create a bit of a community here so welcome. I hope you come back often. By watching some of my other videos you might discover some interesting things about me such as I’m a competitor in Strongman in my 60’s at a high level. ❤️🙏😃
Martin. Hang in there you will do fine. I was laid off at 60 it happens to many of us I was preparing for years since I saw it happening in all my corporate jobs. Started reducing debt in my 50s. 68 now and loving life with family. So many extra things to do to make money I scrap, sell stuff on marketplace, substitute teach, do odd jobs You’ll be fine with the right positive attitude that you have!!
@ you’re welcome. Try to get rid of that car payment. Uber will wear that car out fast. Try to find something that doesn’t require an asset School bus drivers are in huge demand here in NJ. $30 an hour with benifits
I only know America, but age discrimination is illegal like any other discrimination. It doesn't mean much to employers, but they are not supposed to ask how old you are, what your religion is, or other such questions. They often will because the employer thinks they are bulletproof, but you have no need to answer these questions, and in general I believe it is none of their business. That being said, I believe it's perfectly fine if your resume only details your very most recent job, your schooling/certification and most relevant experience, which sound like they started in the early 2000s. I am from the US and haven't had a job as professional as Health and Safety Inspector, but I have left notifications on my resume, like "additional experience, or additional information available upon request." I really believe getting in for an actual interview, face-to-face can make up for a lot of things, especially in the culture of 2024.
I'm in my mid 50s and was laid off 6 months ago. Financially, it's pretty tough, even with EI. And I'm a person who saves his money. Northern Alberta isn't what it used to be.
I hear you. I’m in Edmonton and it’s an ongoing struggle to pay bills but I keep going forward as I have no real alternative. I hope you find blessings in the New Year. 🙏
I learned this at P&0, one co worker tried getting me fired for having a physical disability onboard the ship i worked on and went behind my back to the manager which ended up me winning my job back after a 6 month investigation. Also when the bosses fired everybody without notice in 20 mins. You can have friends at work but just got to act like a airhead at work and let nothing effect you.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Yes I recommend just working and getting a long with your co-workers but know that most are not true friends.
Our plants has been off for Christmas going back on new years i don't won't to go back that day what should I tell my boss for a day off without him getting mad I just Don't wanna go back that day
I hope you can evaluate your total situation including financial, emotional and mental. If your job is causing so much mental and emotional distress then is it worth going in every day? Are you financially able to quit and get something else? Are you and your family (are you married with children etc) able to move to a different state if it’s too expensive where you live. Start having conversations with your loved ones. Start making plans for the next 24 months. This is the life we have so maybe we need to rethink our priorities. God bless you and keep you safe 🙏
Same here. Back in the mid 80’s I went to house parties with a few co-workers but I never thought of them as true friends that I would trust with my life.
I work in an office that has no boundaries and when I set my boundaries I have been told I’m Mr Grinch 😂 I’m absolutely 👍🏽 okay either way that keeps me out from drama 🎭 too 😂
It always surprised me how there are people at every job who act like they need this social life with co-workers. In my last job there was a guy who acted nice but was a snake. He would buddy up with the office manager and gossip about others. I’m sure there were a few lies told about me that made my position there difficult. I eventually left though never knew what this snake was saying about me.
There are good & bad people everywhere including suck-holes and rats in your work environments. The only one you can depend on is yourself and hopefully your family.
Please see my separate comment. I’m still in touch with nearly all my former colleagues where I last worked. One of them I talk to several times a week.
I told you about this when you first started your channel Co- workers! YOU ARE RECORDING WITH A VERY LOW VOLUME NO ONE CAN HEAR ANYTHING! You may want to do this video over!!!
I just learned this today. I even told the boss, asking for nothing to be done b/c she's leaving anyhow. I have no clue what happened to make her turn on me the last 3 wks. I've never said anything bad about her, only good. Yelling & screaming, WTH?? My boundaries set to stop it today, period. I hope I still have my job not that I have reason to believe otherwise. She's leaving anyhow. . I was laid off during COVId for not agreeing to vaccinate so I don't want to lose this job. My bible based non-denominational church is my true family.
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Even my so-called friends are not really my friends. Only my family is family.
I agree Martin. Co-workers are not your friends. They are out for themselves.
Thank you Kathy. Sadly that’s true.
Martin, you nailed it! One of your best videos, informative and dead on, when I was forced to retire 1 1/2 years ago, after working with them for 38 years I never hear from anyone.
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words. I so appreciate it 🙂🙏
So great to see the number of subscribers increasing for such an authentic guy.
@@DEKKD Thank you so much 😃🙏
I absolutely agree. I only heard a few times from coworkers after I retired. For the last year, I have heard from none of them. I unfriended a bunch on Facebook, those who I considered more or less friends. I only have a few that I include, but even so have received no phone calls or texts from them. I'm retired almost 3 years now.
@@Patty747 Thank you Patty for sharing. Yes for me as well. No one at my former employer’s ever reached out to ask if I was okay when I got fired. Sad state of affairs.
You are right about this. I have 3 friends I worked with who dont respond at all or take forever to get back to you, so I'm done!
This is very true !
Stay blessed
Thank you 🙏
Very true. It's not that every coworker doesn't "like you", it's simply a relationship created due to proximity. Once you are gone (or the other person is removed), the relationship is also gone. I experienced a real since of friendship loss when I lost my job of almoat 20 years. I quickly discovered that of the dozens of "work" friends I had, once I was gone, those 30 contacts became 2 after three months. Like Martin said, it's just how it is.
So don't neglect your family and childhood friends, when life changes catch you, they are then ones you'll need to have for support (emotional support gets us through tough times).
Be well all
Thank you for sharing your experience with us James. Like you said it’s just the way it is. Best of the New Year to you and your family. 🙂🙏
Before I was terminated from a job back in the 1990s, my boss said to me, "Not everyone you think is your friend is your friend." It turns out my co-worker "friend" was after my job and did get me fired. Be careful how much you share with a co-worker "friend"; it could be the bullet that takes you out.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s a sad story but a valuable lesson. 🙏
Thanks for the video. I wholeheartedly concur. Two years ago I retired from a company I had worked at for about 11 years. They had an open office environment in office rooms that held 100s of people so I knew a lot of guys. I busted my tail supporting others and when I left I was given some nice accolades. However, I only hear from one person on any kind of regular basis. Truth is that I was older than most of my co-workers and geographic differences made it hard for us to do stuff together even if we wanted to and most of us just wanted to do our jobs and go home. One thing that was a little surprising is that I retired from the Army National Guard (US military reserves) in 2011. Many of the guys I had known for the better part of 20 years and had gone to war with in Iraq. I wasn't hanging out friends with anyone because I lived a long way away from most of them but I did think I would at least get the occasional phone call or text to see how I was doing. Nope. Truth is, just like your video said, they moved on with their lives. I'm not bitter about that, it just is the way it is.
Thanks for sharing your experience and I hope the New Year finds you well. Yes. It’s nothing to be bitter about but I wanted to do this video to hopefully let newer workers understand this is how the work world is so be prepared and to also get feedback from folks like you who’ve been through this. Have a blessed New Year 😃🙏
This is a GOLD. Hopefully younger employees come across this and learn something.
@@goodmoneyfamgoodmoneyfam9671 Thank you so much ❤️😃🙏
Hi Martin! Chris in Dartmouth NS. Good discussion. I’m no expert on RUclips but I think you don’t need to worry about your videos length. We like you and even long form videos would be great. No need to apologize or tell us you’ll keep it short. Subs are actually not necessarily the most important. It’s views and watch time. Glad you are doing well and looking forward to your next video. Keep going!
Thank you so much Chris, I really appreciate the feedback 😃🙏
My co worker who would come to my house every weekend, had to write me up when he became my supervisor ,so remember every man for himself at work.
Thats cold
@annberlin5811 ,just to show just co workers
Oh that’s harsh. Yes exactly
@themartinblairproject yep that's the world we live in my friend
Shoot!!! I learned this back in highschool. And I'm 48. We are cool at work. But once I drive past that gate after my shift I do not know you lol.
Thank you for sharing that experience. 😃
Perfect timing, as far as I'm concerned, sir. I'm two months shy of a week into a new job, so this will come in handy going forward. I'm normally a trusting friendly guy, taking people at face value, so I'll try to bear your advice/tips in mind.
Thanks for sharing. Subbed.
Merry Christmas to one and all!
🎅🌲
Thank you so much. Just keep this in the back of your mind. It’s wonderful to be friendly and it is possible to create lasting friendships but just be cautious who you confide personal information to as people can turn on you quicker than you can imagine. Thank you for subscribing. Have a blessed New Year ❤️😃🙏
Oh and I hope you had a very Merry Christmas 🎄 😃🙏
I worked for a family run business and I had those issues where the boss was fabricating a reasons file to fire me. The HR that I had to place my complaint was actually her daughter in law.
HR should be a neutral person outside of a family run business.
Co-workers, you have to keep at arms length, you can be friendly ... but not friends.
Sorry to hear this happened to you. At my former employer the boss who fired me was also the HR person. Total conflict of interest as he was subtly abusive and the person you’d complain to. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I have been with one company for 33 years. Every one of my original crew has died do illness or old age. There has been so much turnover over the years and everyone that is gone was never spoken about again. Now there was one guy I trained 25 years ago. I would call him a friend. He retired 10 years ago and we still talk over the phone every week. But everyone else in the company could care less that I exist. I do my job, I remain friendly, I don't give anyone a hard time and I do my job to the best of my abilities. For that I get paid and receive some benefits. I go there because that's how I make money and that's the reason why I show up every damn day for the last 33 years. One day soon, I will retire and they will no longer exist to me either. I would say that's an exchange.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s kinda sad that we give our whole lives to employers and in the end nobody cares once we’re gone.
I agree. Good boundaries are a two-way street.
My outlook: life’s journey can be tough. If you find someone that is good to you; appreciate them.
Well put John 😃🙏
Thank you Martin. Very true and any company who claims that they are "family"... well that raises a red flag for me. Co-workers are simply there to earn money and keep paying the bills. Good if you get along well with co-workers whilst you are with them and it may be a bonus if, like your wife, you can maintain a friendship with some, but this is not a given. Hope you get over your cold very soon - perhaps before the New Year! Wishing you good health and joy in 2025.
Thank you so much Rita. I really appreciate your support and kind words. Yes hopefully my cold clears up completely soon. It’s getting better slowly. I wish you a blessed New Year as well 🙂❤️🙏
Great and it’s so hot in 🇦🇺🌞🌞
Ha ha 😆
I know this is a popular opinion and it is so often true. I get it yet I don't entirely agree. We don't have our third places to meet one another anymore. Isolation is a societal problem. Work is often where we find our friends, people we see daily. Not everybody is bad or malicious. When I struggled with cancer last year, I realized my friends are mainly people I worked with. I am careful but I have met some of the greatest friends from work, including my partner. I think being careful is key.
Thank you for your feedback. Yes it certainly can be true that a friendship can be developed at work.
Hi Martin. I really appreciated this video. I hope you make more videos like this one. I think you have a lot of wisdom to share about the professional world. Your 40+ years of knowledge is very helpful.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate you saying that! 🙂🙏
I can hear perfectly.
Thank you Maureen. My voice is scratchy but I got my message out 😃🙏
I agree in corporate job but not in my job as fire service although maybe not every person
I have a former colleague who is like a sister to me. The whole team got replaced by underpaid folks in a “more cost effective country” so we were all in the same boat. I still regularly keep in touch with a few other folks on our team. We all network for each other. We all worked and lived in different cities so we didn’t regularly socialize apart from occasional in person work meetings - but we were all very close. My former boss is also still in contact and helped me get my current job. Not everybody is a jerk out there. Maybe it’s just a big city mentality vs where you live in a smaller community. In big cities, you need other people to have your back to survive. It’s not every man for himself rugged individualism. Hope you feel better soon!
Thank you for your perspective and for sharing Laura ❤️😃🙏
Great video Martin, they always seem to get rid of the best workers, don't they? Hmmm
You’re welcome. Thank you for watching and commenting 😃🙏
Totally agree !!!
I recall an interview with a retired Marine Corps captain who decided to take a job in Afghanistan during the war working for a company out of Singapore doing irrigation (as a civilian). He noted that after talking to the local authorities/Taliban they were able to work out in the open without an armed escort with no issues. In contrast he pointed out that if they had tried to do that in Iraq they would have lasted about one week. One week because that is about how long it would take the locals to "figure out who the highest bidder is."
It made me think of what the difference might be. Both countries are Islamic and third world. So what might make Iraqis so opportunistically predacious (and presumably sycophantic otherwise) where as Afghans seem to have a kind of honour culture were you can in fact take them at their word. Reminded me of what happened to Marcus Luttrell. A whole village willing to fight the Taliban to the death, not I suspect because they love America, but because of some sense of honour that the local Taliban was infringing upon.
I watched a speech were Luttrell mentions Micheal Murphy, who won the Medal of Honour attempting to make a radio call for help from an exposed hilltop where he was killed.
"The first thing I'm going to do after I die is tell my brothers that I love them"
*Marcus pauses, adopts a serious tone of voice:
"Men bond in adversity;
you do know that right?"
Thank you for sharing that information.
I think this also greatly depends on the type of person you are. If you're a very self-centered person, and/or you constantly expect the worst from people under the guise of "being careful," you'll have a very difficult time establshing genuine friendships in ANY environment. I have made many forever friends in every occupation I have ever had - friendships that hold to this day.
Great perspective. Thanks for sharing this.
You have the same on air presence as Fred Rogers, and I mean that as a huge compliment!!!!
That’s amazing Deborah. Thank you so very much ☺️❤️🙏
@ of course! I’m an Author, Martin. With your genuine authenticity, and noteworthy experience, you may find it appropriate to write a book, as well. I’d be happy to refer you to a few resources if you think you might be interested in looking into doing something like that.
@@deborahrodriguez-castinado9536 Thank you Deborah. I’m a published author as well. I cover that in other videos. My books are available on Amazon, eBay and other sites. 🙏😃
@@themartinblairproject that’s awesome! I just discovered your videos on Christmas break. Looking forward to watching, and reading!!
@@deborahrodriguez-castinado9536 I’m so happy to have you here Deborah. I’m trying to create a bit of a community here so welcome. I hope you come back often. By watching some of my other videos you might discover some interesting things about me such as I’m a competitor in Strongman in my 60’s at a high level. ❤️🙏😃
Martin. Hang in there you will do fine. I was laid off at 60 it happens to many of us I was preparing for years since I saw it happening in all my corporate jobs. Started reducing debt in my 50s.
68 now and loving life with family. So many extra things to do to make money I scrap, sell stuff on marketplace, substitute teach, do odd jobs
You’ll be fine with the right positive attitude that you have!!
Thank you for sharing your experience and your words of encouragement. 🙂🙏
@ you’re welcome.
Try to get rid of that car payment. Uber will wear that car out fast. Try to find something that doesn’t require an asset
School bus drivers are in huge demand here in NJ. $30 an hour with benifits
@ Thank you for your support and encouragement.
I only know America, but age discrimination is illegal like any other discrimination. It doesn't mean much to employers, but they are not supposed to ask how old you are, what your religion is, or other such questions. They often will because the employer thinks they are bulletproof, but you have no need to answer these questions, and in general I believe it is none of their business. That being said, I believe it's perfectly fine if your resume only details your very most recent job, your schooling/certification and most relevant experience, which sound like they started in the early 2000s. I am from the US and haven't had a job as professional as Health and Safety Inspector, but I have left notifications on my resume, like "additional experience, or additional information available upon request." I really believe getting in for an actual interview, face-to-face can make up for a lot of things, especially in the culture of 2024.
Thanks for sharing your experience. 🙏
I'm in my mid 50s and was laid off 6 months ago. Financially, it's pretty tough, even with EI. And I'm a person who saves his money. Northern Alberta isn't what it used to be.
I hear you. I’m in Edmonton and it’s an ongoing struggle to pay bills but I keep going forward as I have no real alternative. I hope you find blessings in the New Year. 🙏
I learned this at P&0, one co worker tried getting me fired for having a physical disability onboard the ship i worked on and went behind my back to the manager which ended up me winning my job back after a 6 month investigation. Also when the bosses fired everybody without notice in 20 mins. You can have friends at work but just got to act like a airhead at work and let nothing effect you.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Yes I recommend just working and getting a long with your co-workers but know that most are not true friends.
agree
So glad I'm self employed for the last 9 years and don't have to deal with all this anymore
You’re in a great position. Thanks for commenting 😃🙏
Hope you feel better soon. Rest and relax, your viewers will be here when you are healthy.
Thank you so much Sharon 😊 🙏 You are always so kind and supportive ❤️😃🙏
Spot on. Again
Thank you 🙏 😃
I wish more people would realize this. I dont go to any work functions...ever. People will throw you under the bus in a heartbeat!!
Absolutely. Thanks for commenting.
Our plants has been off for Christmas going back on new years i don't won't to go back that day what should I tell my boss for a day off without him getting mad I just Don't wanna go back that day
I hope you can evaluate your total situation including financial, emotional and mental. If your job is causing so much mental and emotional distress then is it worth going in every day? Are you financially able to quit and get something else? Are you and your family (are you married with children etc) able to move to a different state if it’s too expensive where you live. Start having conversations with your loved ones. Start making plans for the next 24 months. This is the life we have so maybe we need to rethink our priorities. God bless you and keep you safe 🙏
I totally agree - I worked 11 years and never really hung out with those folks.
Currently my business this is still true today.
Same here. Back in the mid 80’s I went to house parties with a few co-workers but I never thought of them as true friends that I would trust with my life.
I work in an office that has no boundaries and when I set my boundaries I have been told I’m Mr Grinch 😂 I’m absolutely 👍🏽 okay either way that keeps me out from drama 🎭 too 😂
I think that’s a great way to handle it! 😃
It always surprised me how there are people at every job who act like they need this social life with co-workers.
In my last job there was a guy who acted nice but was a snake. He would buddy up with the office manager and gossip about others. I’m sure there were a few lies told about me that made my position there difficult. I eventually left though never knew what this snake was saying about me.
That is horrible. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I wish you a blessed New Year 🙏
Also HR is not on your side, they work for the employer not the employee.
@@cjengland2365 I will be doing a video about HR soon.
There are good & bad people everywhere including suck-holes and rats in your work environments.
The only one you can depend on is yourself and hopefully your family.
My point exactly. The only way your company is family is if you marry the bosses daughter or son 😝 and even then I would not trust them.
Most workplace people you should never trust always let them talk about themselves. I don't understand why they act the way they do its weird.
Absolutely. Thank you for commenting 😃🙏
A lot of RUclipsrs will say this is your channel we're all a family here😂 that's not true
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Hope you feel better soon.
Thank you so much 😊
Did any of you reach out to any of your former colleagues ? Of course not.
So the fact you are no longer in touch is 100% on you.
Interesting perspective
Well if they never reached out either I guess it’s 100% on them also right?
Please see my separate comment. I’m still in touch with nearly all my former colleagues where I last worked. One of them I talk to several times a week.
@@lauraweiss7875 That is very admirable Laura. Great to hear.
Former colleagues have the mindset that we don’t need him now, just forget about him. He’s not one of us. People are brutal.
I told you about this when you first started your channel Co- workers! YOU ARE RECORDING WITH A VERY LOW VOLUME NO ONE CAN HEAR ANYTHING! You may want to do this video over!!!
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No issues here. Turn up your volume
@@noreengrant8862 Thank you 🙏 ❤️
I agree I can hardly hear you get a better mic or turn the volume up all the way
I hear you just fine. No issues.
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You noticed Mary ☺️❤️
I just learned this today. I even told the boss, asking for nothing to be done b/c she's leaving anyhow. I have no clue what happened to make her turn on me the last 3 wks. I've never said anything bad about her, only good. Yelling & screaming, WTH?? My boundaries set to stop it today, period. I hope I still have my job not that I have reason to believe otherwise. She's leaving anyhow. . I was laid off during COVId for not agreeing to vaccinate so I don't want to lose this job. My bible based non-denominational church is my true family.
I am so sorry that happened to you and is happening to you. I pray everything works out for you Melissa 🙂❤️🙏
@@themartinblairproject Thank you so much! I needed to hear that today. God bless you