I believe the family issues. I run away with my parents. Since I was +13 years old. Now, I stay in Seattle and never go back Taiwan to see the family. Taiwan father always hits the kids while the kids in small. Please understand this children abuse law issues at Taiwan. A lot poor kids issues by abuse their father. And mother
After I graduated from college, I never asked for money from my family. I have always been self-sufficient. Now I'm used to it and feel very free. I like what Cui Jian said in his lyrics, "People should live happily and independently."
WOW... I am in awe. I can't imagine. My wife already started a 529 plan and it never crossed our mind to stop supporting our son financially while he is in school.
My parent support me while I am in university.It's the same as all chinese parents.Parents want to give their all love to their children.Even if children is too older,Chinese parents always treat them like children.
Traditional Chinese parents like us handle things differently from most American parents. My wife and I were both salaried employees and we were not even close to being rich. But we still very willingly paid everything for our daughter's education (Ivy League college tuitions, round-trip travel across the country three times a year, and of course room and board plus a brand new SUV, etc.), college and medical school. Of course this is partially because she is an only child and we love her very much. But we saw no other way of handling this. We decided not to have a 2nd child because of her and we had no regret doing so. Is it wise? I don't know but seeing her well-established as an adult with a very happy family, I am very happy as a father.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I can identify with a lot of what you've said. I too, left home at 18 for Uni. It was like the 1920's great depression, budget-wise, while at the same time experiencing the joys of new found freedom :) ah! Good times.
All meant for a reason. Just be kind to yourself. As an introvert, i find traveling to be quite fun. Enjoy short trips in asia just to get away from work.
Although I am Taiwanese, your experience is very similar to mine. When I was a child, due to poverty, I worked harder than others in the process of growing up, and now I have achieved a small success with an annual salary of over NTD 3 million .
This makes me think of my first job when I was eighteen. That was the start of my independence. That might seem strange, but it's all because of my love for coding. I left high school to do software development work.
I am glad my son finished his degree in 3 years come back home and started his job this May nearby. I gave him all the freedom he wants even he stay at home, just try to help him save some money, rent a decent place to live in Bay Area is too expensive now.
I believe the situation is changing because the prices of essential items like rent and food have become unaffordable. Some people work full-time and still can’t earn enough to cover their expenses. How can we expect an 18-year-old to make enough money while being a full-time student?
I am from China. I left my hometown at the age of 23 to be independent. The reason is that it is difficult for self-taught university graduates in my hometown to find jobs. My first love broke up with me because of my poor family conditions. Later, I moved from a large city in inland China to the coastal areas and worked in European and American companies for 20 years. I started a family and built a career. But now it is difficult for middle-aged unemployed to find jobs.
You may feel like home is the anchor in your storm, but leaving may well save you from drowning and set off on your exploration journey of llfe... You only live ONCE. But if you do it right...ONCE is enough.
When I studied in MN USA during 1992. Most of family still support their kid, even they study in college. Only few of them kick out by their parent by the age of 18.
I finally got to know why Liya is so beautiful in the eyes of Chinese people. The biggest reason is that she demonstrates a kind of disposition of introversion and modesty, which quite fits the eastern culture for females. As for appearance, Liya combines the advantages of both western and eastern in that she has quite big and good shaped eyes and well positioned nose bridge, while her face contour is as soft as most of Chinese girls.
It’s very common to go to college, and if you want a new chapter in your life, it’s kind of necessary. Once you’re familiar with your surroundings, I think no one would be happy just staying at home.
Wow, thanks for your share of this interesting topics, I love all your videos. Your Chinese is so excellent, may I know do you study it at college? Do you have ins or Facebook we could follow?
老师可以考虑发挥特长，做些游戏，尤其是zoomer gaming pop culture相关主题的文化介绍。比较新颖，又容易引起同龄观众兴趣。Some of those slangs may become more accepted as some sort of formal language as people getting older.
I think it varies from family to family. My family doesn't care if I move or stay with in our family house--they're more open-minded about that. While other families, if parents set expectations, they'll want kids to move out by a certain age or situation, or the kids want to move out to experience stuff on their own. I personally like living alone when the rest of my family is on vacation or living elsewhere. Like you said, I'm free to do anything I want when I'm alone and prefer it that way.
I really wanted to go to college, but my English scores in exams were less than 10 out of 100. As a result, I had no choice but to start working. Before I turned 28, I kept only a small portion of my salary as pocket money for myself and gave the rest to my mother. Later, I left home to work far away, managing my income independently. Ever since I started working, I’ve never asked my family for a single cent. If I couldn’t afford a house, I simply didn’t buy one. In fact, even to this day, I still can’t afford to buy a house.
I didn't move out until I was 21. I paid a small amount of "rent" while still living at my parent's house after I graduated highschool. At 21, I needed to finally get out on my own, because I felt like a kid still. It's nice to see my parents on the weekends, rather than still living under their roof all the time. 🤣
I live in Shenzhen, China. If you ever have the chance to come to Shenzhen, feel free to reach out to me. I'll show you around, taking you to enjoy delicious food and have fun activities😊
妳是一個勇敢美麗又有智慧的女孩,加油!
莉雅真的是一个很好的女孩儿！自由独立，美丽温柔！不管在哪个国家，都是很好的女孩儿！
美丽与智慧集于一身，good luck
是女的又白 就是美麗@@ 我錯過了什麼嗎 哈
A woman of beauty and wisdom, God bless you!
我是台灣人，目前35歲。我也給妳一樣念大學的時候家裡沒有支柱我，我的學費必須貸款，唸研究所也是。因為家裡的狀況沒辦法支柱我這麼多錢，所以我選擇讀家附近的大學，減輕自己的負擔。我覺得老師很棒，18歲獨立也是一種成長❤
語速可以再慢點嗎？
@@游吉祥-x9u自己調0.75
我是台灣人, 念大學也是申請學貸, 與許多台灣學生一樣希望有朝一日選舉時有人提出免償還學貸的政見, 到時管他是台灣人 中國人 日本人 美國人 我都投他一票.
@@AuchanChen 我欠你20萬→我花完之後，鄰居跟你説 不要向我討錢。
@@AuchanChen我也繳學貸，但是我覺得自己借的錢本來就是要自己還，而不是期待有人赦免你的學貸。事實上負債不會憑空消失，如果你的學貸消失，一定由納稅人以某種形式幫你支付。你的助學貸款不是別人的問題，你也可以選擇工作不要借錢，既然你已經使用了，付款也是理所當然。
原来莉雅老师18岁就开始独立了，真是羡慕！
擦这也叫独立，弱智儿童怎么那么多！那中国人上大学也这个年纪上大学。。
I believe the family issues. I run away with my parents. Since I was +13 years old. Now, I stay in Seattle and never go back Taiwan to see the family. Taiwan father always hits the kids while the kids in small. Please understand this children abuse law issues at Taiwan. A lot poor kids issues by abuse their father. And mother
I am from Taiwan, and so appreciated with the information you provide. You encouraged me so much
Thank you so much!!
Taiwan father and mother abuse law to their kids and so kids run aways
麗雅老師很開心聽到你的這期節目,十分感謝.你也很勇敢的在18嵗就開始獨立,你是最棒的!
一边学习美国文化，一边欣赏美女，一边学英文，太棒了，多更新呀，leah老师
除了这些，我还在一边锻炼中文字幕的阅读速度
I randomly came across your channel, and just wanted to say:
Keep pushing the boundaries of what is possible, you’re awesome 😎.
終於看到一個能了解更多美國文化的channel，而且是這麼漂亮的youtuber
你值得尊敬(You deserve respect.) 我认为不管原生家庭是否富裕，孩子都要慢慢学会独立，不管是精神上还是经济上，早一点独立可以加快这一过程，对个人成长是有好处的，因为人生本质上是属于一个人的。
是的，人总有一天是要靠自己的
我觉得我是富有的，70年代我经营家庭农场的年收入是8万，我不要求我的孩子赚钱糊口，但是除了家务以外，我还要求我的孩子在17-18岁时去餐馆做服务性工作，在教会参加团契做义工。去学习如何对人笑脸相迎打招呼，讲礼貌的慢速的完整的标准言语，热心帮助他人的需求。（不同意和同学们暑期去停车场的洗车活动，我想你明白我的意思）。他们可以开着纯新的克尔维特敞篷车上街，但是要学会礼让和礼貌驾驶。现在我的孙辈们也被父母教育走这样的路。礼貌和自我约束是年轻人的必修课。中国文化里有一要点：要慎独要知礼义廉耻！
看看中国政府的言行，礼义廉耻他们会遵循吗？他们一样是中国人
@@沈轶-t1n中国政府中共代表中华文化吗
@@laoyin9075 你我之间最大的不同是：我在说我自己的故事，你来评论别人的你根本不懂的故事。
@@沈轶-t1n中国政府的礼义廉耻，比你这种什么都拿来上纲上线的败类强太多。别特么哪儿都来引战，垃圾人
不同意去暑期停车场洗车，没去过没过的人表示不懂啥意思呀，怎么这样的活动很不好吗？
莉雅老師很獨立，很堅強，很聰明，很漂亮的！真棒呀！我喜歡妳！
You’re too cute. Just saw your “lonely” video from a year ago. Had to check and see how you were doing. Happy to see that you’re well.
I moved out when I was 18 too. Hope you're doing well Leah.
18歲離開家可以讓你更獨立、堅強和勇敢，不是壞事。
真佩服，没想到美国上大学是不容易的一件事，我还以为每个人都可以去上大学呢
有好，有坏，也不见得离开家就能独立~~~顺其自然就好，社会情况，家境都不同。没必要强调几岁或非得离家就是好。。我表妹16岁就辍学离家了，太早离家，放纵自己，学了一身毛病，常去夜店喝成个酒鬼，早早就把自己折腾没了，因为喝酒过量，猝死，还没到30岁就没了。。。
😂你在开玩笑？
After I graduated from college, I never asked for money from my family. I have always been self-sufficient. Now I'm used to it and feel very free. I like what Cui Jian said in his lyrics, "People should live happily and independently."
WOW... I am in awe. I can't imagine. My wife already started a 529 plan and it never crossed our mind to stop supporting our son financially while he is in school.
My parent support me while I am in university.It's the same as all chinese parents.Parents want to give their all love to their children.Even if children is too older,Chinese parents always treat them like children.
原生家庭有小錢但不富，應該頭1年幫忙付學費→零用孩子自己賺。
後3年學費 孩子賺，偶爾父母耒看望孩子 給零用錢。
It's a different kind of blessing. Look at how well you are doing right now. Bless you!
It is really the same here in China. Like your speed of talking. I can easily follow without looking into the words on the screen.
非常佩服妳對人生的態度,健康而美好!
羨慕你啊，18歲就知道獨立生活了，我活了三十多年讀了聖經才知道，孩子長大要與父母分開，與自己伴侶成為一體的，現在我不後悔，一個人過！但是有時我也後悔為什麼自己不早點獨立，有時也後悔原生家庭的物價條件差！不過我現在一路走來也在慢慢獨自長大自己的內在人格和獨立思考！加油啊，大美女！
我16歲離開家→就學。
17歲 長輩帶我去找工作，之後→我就獨立找工作找同事找房子租養活自己。
頭1年的3個月非常慌，後來⇒少年不識愁嗞味 就在我身上發酵，每天快樂上班，假日去看個電影 交女友。
@@洁李-h5l 你娃安逸！我現在窮的都不敢找女朋友！
@@鄭水-i5s 我年紀比你大(我衹是敘述過往。
@@洁李-h5l 哦，好吧
每次看你的视频，都让我心情愉悦。
+1
好美的小姐，獨立又勇敢。歡迎來台灣，希望妳生活快樂幸福。
你的辛苦成就今天的你和未来的你，真棒
It prepared you well for life after graduation. Great job Leah!
我住在一個沒有華人的小城40年 大概都是這樣 父母可以喘口氣 減輕經濟負擔 而且有隱私過自己的生活！小孩自己打工讀書 很獨立！
主要是没钱😂我认识的朋友大多数会帮孩子付学费。我一个朋友的父母给三个儿子都存了一大笔钱，足够读私立名校的，他们读了公立旗舰以后剩的钱都可以买房付首付了
Traditional Chinese parents like us handle things differently from most American parents. My wife and I were both salaried employees and we were not even close to being rich. But we still very willingly paid everything for our daughter's education (Ivy League college tuitions, round-trip travel across the country three times a year, and of course room and board plus a brand new SUV, etc.), college and medical school. Of course this is partially because she is an only child and we love her very much. But we saw no other way of handling this. We decided not to have a 2nd child because of her and we had no regret doing so. Is it wise? I don't know but seeing her well-established as an adult with a very happy family, I am very happy as a father.
You are a loving father.
夫妻生3個正常
Proud parents. Congrats.
Only through communication, we can understand each other's living habits and avoid misunderstandings.
What you said makes sense, thank you so much
Like your independent character ❤
What a wonderful lady ❤❤❤❤so kind so thoughtful so sweet 😊😊
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I can identify with a lot of what you've said. I too, left home at 18 for Uni. It was like the 1920's great depression, budget-wise, while at the same time experiencing the joys of new found freedom :) ah! Good times.
You are brave
@@treesmith5914 Thanks👌
獨立又美麗👍
我覺得主要取決於和家人的關係及相處情況, 如果家人間彼此冷漠那住一起也只是貌合神離~
心在哪裏家就在哪裏
All meant for a reason. Just be kind to yourself. As an introvert, i find traveling to be quite fun. Enjoy short trips in asia just to get away from work.
确实有这种刻板印象，因为没有美国朋友，所以就一直存在；这期节目确实有用，非常不错；我们那儿，放假啊，基本都是回家的，家的那种氛围很重，父母的思想影响很大，想独立的阻力都很大，所以很少有18岁就搬出去
我大学时放暑假直接出了校门去了外省打工，家里三天两头打电话催我回去
在中国，父母有些心理都不独立，没有孩子在身边不知道干什么。中国父母和子女相互依赖过分严重
社会环境也不太支持这种半工半读，挣不够学费生活费
I love the kanji that goes like this: 门 I read Japanese only, and the simplified characters have such a vibe.
the tough which you use in speaking english,, the end always goes up.. not decisive . meaning, you are so gentle...
you have such a nice relaxing voice and presence. if you did asmr i would listen all the time.
丽娅真棒，给你点赞
Although I am Taiwanese, your experience is very similar to mine. When I was a child, due to poverty, I worked harder than others in the process of growing up, and now I have achieved a small success with an annual salary of over NTD 3 million .
如果我读书的时候英语老师这么美丽，我的英语会很出色。
👍👍英语非常清晰很适合练习听力！
中文很流畅，其中汉字发音的第一声可注意，音调要稍高一点并“挺~住~不变”，会更地道，不容易变成第二声，比如“根据我个人的经验”一句的中“经”字。
谢谢你，我之前一直认为所有美国人，18岁必须离开家的印象。
，I live in New York , I want learn english
给你点个赞，我以前留学的时候也是一样，自己打工缴学费，缴房租，生活比较拮据，一直持续了很多年，后来才有幸加入一家公司开启了职业生涯。
谢谢莉雅老师，你是一个坚强独立乐观的女孩，非常漂亮。
This makes me think of my first job when I was eighteen. That was the start of my independence. That might seem strange, but it's all because of my love for coding. I left high school to do software development work.
我也是感觉美国人未必都如此刚烈，给莉亚老师点赞
這個英文講的我聽得懂
太感動了
Was funny when you said I guess everybody has different experiences instead of saying they chick didn’t appreciate and took her parents for granted👍
I am glad my son finished his degree in 3 years come back home and started his job this May nearby. I gave him all the freedom he wants even he stay at home, just try to help him save some money, rent a decent place to live in Bay Area is too expensive now.
原来你中文那么好，几乎没有口音，声调的都对，厉害啊
Awesome content. 祝你一生幸福👍
You did great job 👏 好棒棒👍
My kids are lucky and my son working for just over 2 yrs in Audit firm currently. My daughter still studying in yr 3 in hk
😂我15岁就独立生活了，曾经睡过火车站，被人打劫多次，但我爱我的家人们，只有艰辛生活过才真正懂得感恩和回馈社会，这些经历像金子一样留在我的人生道路上，所以小姑娘你应该为此自豪❤
你说的英语也太清楚了吧？我靠，瞬间我对我的听力有了自信😊
我15岁去城里读高中，只有寒暑假才回家。17岁去college然后读研究院然后出国。一直很enjoy假期和父母兄弟姐妹团聚的日子。
18歲生活其實是場自我表演的過程！👍
非常勇敢，👍🏻
I believe the situation is changing because the prices of essential items like rent and food have become unaffordable. Some people work full-time and still can’t earn enough to cover their expenses. How can we expect an 18-year-old to make enough money while being a full-time student?
financial aids + grants + loans + part time jobs
在我們家族真的是這樣的，18歲生日禮物就是被送去學校或是軍隊，我選擇從軍最後成為最高指揮官，帶領太空總署建立死星要塞
I like your VLOGs very much.
I am from China. I left my hometown at the age of 23 to be independent. The reason is that it is difficult for self-taught university graduates in my hometown to find jobs. My first love broke up with me because of my poor family conditions. Later, I moved from a large city in inland China to the coastal areas and worked in European and American companies for 20 years. I started a family and built a career. But now it is difficult for middle-aged unemployed to find jobs.
very helpful to learn English
老师，你英语说的太好了
You may feel like home is the anchor in your storm, but leaving may well save you from drowning and set off on your exploration journey of llfe... You only live ONCE. But if you do it right...ONCE is enough.
18-19就上大學, 都已經不會留在家住, 到大學畢業後都已經習慣了四年的獨立生活, 也開始有自己工作, 所以都大多都不回去跟爸媽住, 而爸媽也開始有他們的第二次人生
When I studied in MN USA during 1992. Most of family still support their kid, even they study in college. Only few of them kick out by their parent by the age of 18.
Good girl! Thumbs up 👍
I finally got to know why Liya is so beautiful in the eyes of Chinese people. The biggest reason is that she demonstrates a kind of disposition of introversion and modesty, which quite fits the eastern culture for females. As for appearance, Liya combines the advantages of both western and eastern in that she has quite big and good shaped eyes and well positioned nose bridge, while her face contour is as soft as most of Chinese girls.
汉语发音很准，棒棒哒
It’s very common to go to college, and if you want a new chapter in your life, it’s kind of necessary. Once you’re familiar with your surroundings, I think no one would be happy just staying at home.
😘😘😘 Thanks ！
我在中国也是，19岁上大学离开老家住大学宿舍。不过初中，高中就已经开始在学校寄宿了，早就习惯了。
Thank you for the clarification
自由，这是主要的~
Wow, thanks for your share of this interesting topics, I love all your videos. Your Chinese is so excellent, may I know do you study it at college? Do you have ins or Facebook we could follow?
From Douyin following you here, I really like your voice😊
me too
🎶😎🎶💕Go girl. Live your life. Best wishes From Gainsy….🎉xx
Brave girls always know where they should go in life 🎉
老师可以考虑发挥特长，做些游戏，尤其是zoomer gaming pop culture相关主题的文化介绍。比较新颖，又容易引起同龄观众兴趣。Some of those slangs may become more accepted as some sort of formal language as people getting older.
I think it varies from family to family. My family doesn't care if I move or stay with in our family house--they're more open-minded about that. While other families, if parents set expectations, they'll want kids to move out by a certain age or situation, or the kids want to move out to experience stuff on their own.
I personally like living alone when the rest of my family is on vacation or living elsewhere. Like you said, I'm free to do anything I want when I'm alone and prefer it that way.
To be able to lead an independent life is very important. It is very natural.
I really wanted to go to college, but my English scores in exams were less than 10 out of 100. As a result, I had no choice but to start working. Before I turned 28, I kept only a small portion of my salary as pocket money for myself and gave the rest to my mother. Later, I left home to work far away, managing my income independently. Ever since I started working, I’ve never asked my family for a single cent. If I couldn’t afford a house, I simply didn’t buy one. In fact, even to this day, I still can’t afford to buy a house.
如此说来，中国上大学的学生，也都在18, 19岁离开父母住在学生宿舍过集体。当然在经济上，很多家庭还得给予支持。
I can see you are doing well. very independence.
mostly when the parents tell the kid "you can leave now" they are very happy
God bless you!!!!! 👍❤👍
thanks for your video. I always can learn a lot, language and culture and let me know what's the real world are.
I didn't move out until I was 21. I paid a small amount of "rent" while still living at my parent's house after I graduated highschool. At 21, I needed to finally get out on my own, because I felt like a kid still. It's nice to see my parents on the weekends, rather than still living under their roof all the time. 🤣
你厉害，完全经济独立。我16自己出去上高中，不过有一笔遗产供我生活，完全不艰苦。
这方面而言，新西兰在十年前的时候，年轻人离开家住的平均年龄是三十几岁，主要的一个原因是年轻人买不起房。
The issue isn't about independent living itself, but rather the support for those who identify as independent.
莉雅老师真的好美啊😍！
Tks.🎉🎉🎉
I live in Shenzhen, China. If you ever have the chance to come to Shenzhen, feel free to reach out to me. I'll show you around, taking you to enjoy delicious food and have fun activities😊
watched the whole clip, found out meizi so cute.
No matter the method, the ultimate goal is for children to be healthy, confident, brave, and independent.