Why Men Are Weaker Than Ever

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  • Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 6 тыс.

  • @ColeHastings
    @ColeHastings  3 года назад +3795

    I think one part of the video that might be taken out of context and that I didn't explain well is when I said men make up 75% of suicides.
    Men should be allowed to be vulnerable and show their emotions when they're really feeling down. We've been taught not to. If you feel that way it's not healthy to bottle up your emotions. Let the people around you know how you really feel. You're not alone. That's why I wanted to start off this video being vulnerable, because it needs to be normalized in men. Being vulnerable is a masculine trait in my eyes.

    • @sergiocamacho3915
      @sergiocamacho3915 3 года назад +161

      But at the same time don’t be weak and afraid of confrontation.

    • @ShaneCrazy
      @ShaneCrazy 3 года назад +8

      thank you for this!!

    • @okfabio7218
      @okfabio7218 3 года назад +14

      Thanks I needed this video.

    • @billionmiller2055
      @billionmiller2055 3 года назад +3

      ✅✅✅

    • @MatthewVanston
      @MatthewVanston 3 года назад +97

      Be careful who you open to though. Some people can take advantage of your vulnerability for their own ends. Only open up to those you can trust.

  • @omarmontana1969
    @omarmontana1969 3 года назад +18688

    Porn has several effects like memory loss and others that I can't remember

  • @rickhunter7443
    @rickhunter7443 3 года назад +7451

    Not to mention the Simp mentality, guys are on twitch donating their life savings to random chicks intead of investing the money in themselves. Its really damn sad.

    • @supremeleaderfrancisco9062
      @supremeleaderfrancisco9062 3 года назад +91

      no one actually dose this dude its one massive joke for commentary channels to have something to make videos on now that jake paul is a dead subject

    • @comicbookguy2326
      @comicbookguy2326 3 года назад +882

      @@supremeleaderfrancisco9062 people do in fact do it, it's not a joke

    • @Greenrivers14
      @Greenrivers14 3 года назад +48

      This is so true!!!!!

    • @clutchkid1234
      @clutchkid1234 3 года назад +427

      @@supremeleaderfrancisco9062 I hope you really fucking trolling. So you tell me you don’t see these simps on twitch and only fans desperately fucking giving away money

    • @patrickprendergast9589
      @patrickprendergast9589 3 года назад +6

      true

  • @ehwhynot9384
    @ehwhynot9384 3 года назад +3458

    As a wise man once said, "it's evolving just backwards"

    • @joga4423
      @joga4423 3 года назад +55

      Devolving is the word

    • @ehwhynot9384
      @ehwhynot9384 3 года назад +127

      @@joga4423 it's a joke by pewdiepie

    • @Dethos
      @Dethos 3 года назад +4

      And some willingly submit themselves to it for near-term gratification and pleasure. Lies and manipulation to benefit from others' suffering. They're gone already. You can't help everyone.

    • @iamfack1179
      @iamfack1179 3 года назад +7

      @@ehwhynot9384" Devolving is the word" was what he said after his subreddit started joking about it

    • @JohnnyBoy0806ea
      @JohnnyBoy0806ea 3 года назад +1

      I knew it already

  • @NiklasChristl
    @NiklasChristl 3 года назад +1627

    Man, this is the first video I‘ve watched of you and I Ioved it! Keep spreading the word. 💯

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +69

      Hey Niklas! Much love my man, you make me want to improve my filming skills and editing further. Keep crushing it as well

    • @tahamm5156
      @tahamm5156 3 года назад +8

      Shit you’re the filming guy

    • @christiaanjaneke3830
      @christiaanjaneke3830 3 года назад

      Same here, doesnt feel fake and not for fame

    • @Picklebottom12345
      @Picklebottom12345 2 года назад

      same here

    • @aarush2lol407
      @aarush2lol407 2 года назад

      no shot its niklas

  • @VpKing
    @VpKing 3 года назад +4960

    "It is always easier to build strong children then to repair broken men"

    • @fireyking2742
      @fireyking2742 3 года назад +132

      Broken adults *

    • @Shadow77999
      @Shadow77999 3 года назад +23

      @@fireyking2742 hurrdurr men arent kids..

    • @paulallen2680
      @paulallen2680 3 года назад +8

      @@fireyking2742 hurrdurr men aren’t kids..

    • @EdgarGarcia-li2jz
      @EdgarGarcia-li2jz 3 года назад +37

      What's this quote for? It literally contributes nothing.

    • @PoorMustang
      @PoorMustang 3 года назад +98

      @@EdgarGarcia-li2jz It says that it's best if you got someone to teach you the right things right off the bat. Parents, Tutors, Teachers... If they're clear with you, then you most probably won't break.
      *edit*
      Because it's hard to change.

  • @shiro4095
    @shiro4095 3 года назад +6356

    Nofap and exercising is actually real life

    • @Queennatalie1999
      @Queennatalie1999 3 года назад +160

      @Spartan damn man just do it... i believe in you!

    • @hago6115
      @hago6115 3 года назад +210

      @Spartan remember that just cause you failed doesn't mean you lost all your progress. The fact that you are trying makes you a cut above a lot of people and its nothing to be ashamed of.

    • @z3ig332
      @z3ig332 3 года назад +66

      Spartan You're at least trying. Not everyone gets to even that point. Keep going, and you can go way past 2 weeks. I struggled to do nofap for more than 10 days, but today I'm on day 25 and I'm planning on making it to day 100 to see if nofap will have a huge positive impact on me or if I don't change much

    • @roskcity
      @roskcity 3 года назад +27

      @@z3ig332 I watch Porn but I am happy and good life. Does it have bad effect on body?

    • @z3ig332
      @z3ig332 3 года назад +125

      @@roskcity If you're completely happy with your life and you watch porn then that's great. I believe nofap is mostly for people who feels like they are underaccomplished or needs more motivation to do actually important stuff instead of watching porn and fapping. However, I would recommend trying out nofap for like 90 days atleast once in your life just to make sure that you're not missing out on an even better life. If you feel basically the same after trying nofap, then I would say you should feel free to watch porn if you want. The most important thing is that you feel as good about your life as possible :)

  • @berzerkfury1459
    @berzerkfury1459 3 года назад +2597

    The internet has made people lazy.
    When i was a kid my mum kicked me outside for hours to play basketball go exploring catching up with the neighbourhood kids. Now watching my niece she just sits on her phone everyday.. shes 13.

    • @oscar1081
      @oscar1081 3 года назад +53

      Damn dude

    • @kaidne
      @kaidne 3 года назад +292

      ikr. I remember the years where everyone transitioned from playing outside to sitting inside behind a screen. Playgrounds and parks literally became emptier because of that . Sad to see

    • @GFuture
      @GFuture 3 года назад +45

      change it, inspire her for the change by doing something interesting and unique. Can be anything really but by you doing that and not giving a fuck what others might think it will give her this perspective. Also if you learn a skill and she does fuck all, she'll eventually see it within herself. If not, she's lost and not worth fighting for :D

    • @theone7059
      @theone7059 3 года назад +86

      @@GFuture change the kids by not changing them in the first place. Why do parents gove their kids devices? Just bad parenting...

    • @GFuture
      @GFuture 3 года назад +4

      @@theone7059 he's not her parent

  • @antrant7533
    @antrant7533 3 года назад +683

    I think that these are good points, but one that you really missed is loneliness. A lot of men are very lonely, even if they try to work hard with long-term goals, exercise, and abstain

    • @purpose6113
      @purpose6113 2 года назад +4

      They (or we) are alone because they don't have normal doppamine levels

    • @rittis013
      @rittis013 2 года назад +35

      @Just Some Guy Who Went Over The Edge I completely agreed with you, I understand and working all these thing with myself it's getting better but in the end i realize loneliness is still there and its the true enemy of all.

    • @yasminacortesgomez5534
      @yasminacortesgomez5534 2 года назад +2

      @Just Some Guy Who Went Over The Edge hi dear

    • @adityabhadouria8859
      @adityabhadouria8859 2 года назад +1

      @Just Some Guy Who Went Over The Edge bro 😢

    • @p-stax
      @p-stax 2 года назад +21

      @Just Some Guy Who Went Over The Edge damn that’s some real true shit man. I experienced that at a bar the other night, there were literally 5 people in there including me and a girl sitting a few seats down. I was there for about an hour and she didn’t pick her head up from her phone once. Normally id go ahead and say something to her anyway but why get involved? I’m happy being single right now. Just find something you’re passionate about and focus on that. You’ll meet the right one eventually. Just be patient. And if that day never comes then just learn to enjoy your own company and be grateful to not have to deal with pleasing anyone but yourself. I’ve been through a couple long term relationships and they were great at times but there was always a downside and the breakups were absolutely terrible. Just do you man.

  • @BrianTurnerOfficial
    @BrianTurnerOfficial 3 года назад +2941

    0:35 my man being transparent 🔥👏🏻 most everyone has dealt with this but won’t admit it

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +257

      I'm also a soyboy. Hopefully you'll stop pretending to know everything about nutrition 👍

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +139

      @Armando Martinez Praying you find happiness one day :)

    • @johnnygtz746
      @johnnygtz746 3 года назад +76

      @@ColeHastings damn... u got em

    • @TheTariqibnziyad
      @TheTariqibnziyad 3 года назад +11

      Of course, men have issues too

    • @Alwaystrollingbro
      @Alwaystrollingbro 3 года назад +50

      @Armando Martinez I love and still eat meat to this day. But I went six months without it and it literally had zero impact on my life. You’re just being a little beta keyboard warrior as im sure you are aware that meat is unessential.

  • @charliehobin7794
    @charliehobin7794 3 года назад +2156

    " I feel like the the American diet has really gone downhill in the last decade"
    * Mid-Roll ad for the McRib plays*

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +120

      Hahaha wow

    • @sha2bron2
      @sha2bron2 3 года назад +14

      Gotta love the mcrib

    • @brainiac.computer
      @brainiac.computer 3 года назад +1

      Ahahaha

    • @shadowling77777
      @shadowling77777 3 года назад +3

      Lmfao

    • @presmokan
      @presmokan 3 года назад +7

      And that reduces Testesterone in men massively, Testesterone levels have dropped largely in the last 3-4 decades in the west

  • @bigbadwolf5752
    @bigbadwolf5752 3 года назад +316

    Things I do alongside NoFap to be just a little bit better:
    - taking cold shower every single day (even now, when you stay home pretty much whole day by doing this you can go outside your comfort zone),
    - drinking water instead of sugar drinks,
    - try to excersise (even a few push-ups in the morning and in the evening is something...),
    - read everyday (more free time means you have to be occupied more often by doing productive stuff instead of thinking about a relapse),
    - journalising (by throwing on paper all things about your day you can relax a little and actually see that you're making progress),
    - meditation (it's a game-changer for me, mental clarity and calmness after every session is something outstanding),
    - try to learn a new language (just download some simple app and try to do some excersises every day),
    - limied use of social media (no more dumb scrolling in facebook and instagram, that can be tempting and time wasting),
    - visualization of yourself being succeeded (before sleep try to visualize yourself winning, beating your weaknesses, tell yourself that you can do it),
    - try to eat healthier.

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 3 года назад +9

      Get plenty of sleep too

    • @maximilian2843
      @maximilian2843 3 года назад +7

      @@ASMRyouVEGANyet yeah i have this chart for myself
      < 4 hours of sleep = lost day, bad mood
      5 - 6 hours of sleep = marred motivation, no drive
      7 - 8 hours of sleep = perfect duration to eliminate every bad outcome from above
      9+ hours = bodily recovered, but 50/50 % risk of being lethargic this day (letarghy risk rises for every hour i sleep more + this is a bit vague, but it fits my routine roughly. e.g. When i sleep 12 hours my day is 100 % influenced by lethargy).

    • @trafalgarlaw6570
      @trafalgarlaw6570 2 года назад

      Fasting!

    • @vixonvontrollington4529
      @vixonvontrollington4529 2 года назад +2

      Hey before any says shit about learning a new language, it goes beyond intellectual stimulation.
      Bilingual people are proven to have much better cognitive function after learning a second language. Not only that, but it also drastically reduces your chances of developing neurological diseases later in life, most notably Alzheimer’s.
      This is definitely one of those things I would recommend everyone do, regardless of your situation.
      And I’m sure there are way more benefits to this than what I mentioned, but this is what I remembered off the top of my head.

  • @Lunar1us
    @Lunar1us 3 года назад +631

    I am 17 and tbh, this is a good motivation for me to actually make a change in my life. Thanks mate, I had no idea I needed this video

    • @Pero-zl4jp
      @Pero-zl4jp 3 года назад +19

      Damn bro glad to find someone on here with the same motivations as me

    • @YoRHaUnit2Babe
      @YoRHaUnit2Babe 3 года назад +1

      same

    • @Top_Hat_Walrus
      @Top_Hat_Walrus 2 года назад +7

      I am also 17. If you struggle with motivation I recommend short term and long term goals, they help keep you focused on what you want in life.

    • @watevatube
      @watevatube 2 года назад +3

      Stick with it and your happiness is paramount!. DO NOT subjugate yourself for others so you can be accepted by others.. I am 41 and regret that I did that !

    • @cupcakemcsparklebutt9051
      @cupcakemcsparklebutt9051 2 года назад

      @@watevatube explain please

  • @wn5364
    @wn5364 3 года назад +1939

    Most men lacked fathers, no wonder why things went downhill

    • @Matty94
      @Matty94 3 года назад +385

      'We're a generation raised by women

    • @GamingTranceSeer
      @GamingTranceSeer 3 года назад +309

      When single mothers are placed on a pedestal, fathers are villified and downgraded to atms, it really isn't a surprise how things are. This isn't even considering the attack on men/masculinity.

    • @guycyber1584
      @guycyber1584 3 года назад +15

      @@Matty94 - Tyler Durden

    • @zinomanezinomybe8244
      @zinomanezinomybe8244 3 года назад +175

      For example as long as i remember my father was a huge alcoholic, unemployed, beating me, my mom, my sisters, when i grew older and could match in power we fight with ambulances, police and so on. He is super unhappy with his life, blaming everything and everyone around for not doing shit, rarely bringing money to his family, i learned a lot in a way that i had the worst example of what a man can become and i know that i will never be there. And now im happy with far less than any other human, cause i know how bottom looks like.

    • @braxtonsmith1708
      @braxtonsmith1708 3 года назад +43

      Jordan Peterson is the internet dad we need

  • @mundea
    @mundea 3 года назад +1399

    Every man needs to see this, and as a 15-year-old, I think every boy needs to see this so that we become great men

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +236

      You are way ahead of people your age already!

    • @mundea
      @mundea 3 года назад +33

      @@ColeHastings 😎

    • @DiekePad
      @DiekePad 3 года назад +7

      @plsgoogle donttrackme what are you than?

    • @theworldisimmense
      @theworldisimmense 3 года назад +14

      @plsgoogle donttrackme ok how about kid? That better?

    • @douevenfootnite8964
      @douevenfootnite8964 3 года назад +3

      Join the army that’s how u become a better man

  • @formlessss
    @formlessss 3 года назад +2169

    Men are purposefully misled, we are becoming more and more pleasure oriented and fail to see the beauty in sacrifice for long term goals and benefits. This is all intentional, done through porn, constantly releasing your sexual energy, pedestalizing women and making them priority number 1 and many other things. I think it's time for us men to help each other, learn from our mistakes and past traumas and start leading by example again. By doing so, women will also raise their standards and will have to do much more than just 'look good' to be considered of having any real value.

    • @paulallen2680
      @paulallen2680 3 года назад +72

      Facts, we need to be comrades

    • @brianmcnary3960
      @brianmcnary3960 3 года назад +38

      Fight club

    • @boyo3446
      @boyo3446 3 года назад +10

      cringe

    • @thebadwolf3088
      @thebadwolf3088 3 года назад +105

      @@boyo3446 No.

    • @aurorarte6175
      @aurorarte6175 3 года назад +64

      Not just men. Allow anybody who wants to help to do so. Like the dude from above: we're comrades.
      I've seen so many women doing their job to become better to offer better; for society and for relationships (We cant generalize tho).
      But that's why it's a matter of society, to heal and integrate every individual without putting anyone down nor segregate and isolate.

  • @meiliu1020
    @meiliu1020 2 года назад +196

    Watching your videos being a mom makes me learn more about my sons! Thank you so much for making these positive wise videos from young guy’s perspective! I’ll definitely refer you to my sons!

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  2 года назад +38

      Thats so awesome to hear, thank you

    • @meiliu1020
      @meiliu1020 2 года назад +23

      @@ColeHastings I’ve been binged watching your videos for three days. It’s incredible! I will tell my girlfriends who are moms about your channel

    • @joeadeleke
      @joeadeleke 2 года назад +4

      @@meiliu1020 yeah, as a guy, I resonate with his videos and his videos makes me feel like I am not alone or a weirdo and that many people go through what I go through

    • @mr.meme5907
      @mr.meme5907 Год назад

      @@meiliu1020I’m glad that I’m not alone in this.

    • @rizzle3272
      @rizzle3272 Год назад +2

      You're a good mum, not that you need me to tell you. love to see it tho

  • @inamiiLIVE
    @inamiiLIVE 3 года назад +365

    real talk your brave AS FUCK for talking about your self like this

    • @persian-k4i
      @persian-k4i 3 года назад +18

      @Kuba PSHUT THE FUCK UP

    • @themainmf9573
      @themainmf9573 3 года назад

      Who the fuck you are you calling a bitch?

  • @H4xri
    @H4xri 3 года назад +834

    It’s sad but a true man is someone who fights life’s hardest challenges

    • @McRemmyBaby
      @McRemmyBaby 3 года назад +14

      You’re child hood must have been normal

    • @H4xri
      @H4xri 3 года назад +8

      @@McRemmyBaby my childhood is questionable

    • @McRemmyBaby
      @McRemmyBaby 3 года назад +17

      @@H4xri i was abused in all ways by my 5 year older sister for years, mom denied me to join MMA (was asking around 6yr old), first love did me so dirty with entire town n best friend and told everyone i was small... after all that, i gave up at 16, I will be 35 in april, spent my life alone and never bettered myself, actually caught around 20charges including a felony

    • @McRemmyBaby
      @McRemmyBaby 3 года назад +3

      @@H4xri also hot butter pan burnt my face when i first learned to walk, moved over and over and over again, lost friends after friends! Extended family cut my mom n her kids off when i was 12-13 over dumb shit between her n her siblings, family chose my moms one sisters side a left us

    • @McRemmyBaby
      @McRemmyBaby 3 года назад +3

      @@H4xri never met black side my family, mom kept me away from them n always called them bad people, well those bad people actually are good people and have their shit together unlike my white side these days, but sadly i can’t even be cool with them, recently just met them all but they are like strangers to me

  • @fwwaller
    @fwwaller 3 года назад +372

    It’s easy to talk about quitting porn, doing it for real though is an entirely different beast

    • @SmADdi4u
      @SmADdi4u 3 года назад +44

      bro im 6 days in and dying, but ik ill make it through tho

    • @cxontrow2003
      @cxontrow2003 3 года назад +5

      Fr I am also on day 6 and its tuff

    • @deepsouthmtb2531
      @deepsouthmtb2531 3 года назад +26

      I knew all the shit porn addiction caused so I never got caught in it. Temptation is real but getting over that is so worth it.

    • @munirumagomu8366
      @munirumagomu8366 3 года назад +24

      That's true.....relapsed constantly but I never gave up. I saw a post once on NoFap that read "5km moved is better than 0 and those 2 people arent the same." So I kept pushing. Been clean for 2.5 years now. The ED is long gone. Am a better person now.
      Keep trying till you figure it out lads

    • @707drift
      @707drift 3 года назад +3

      watch John Doyle's vid on it

  • @Tushar_Talwar_09
    @Tushar_Talwar_09 3 года назад +957

    Strong men create good times.
    Good times create weak men.
    Weak men create hard Times.
    Hard times create strong men.
    Its the cycle of life

    • @arashfatehi9971
      @arashfatehi9971 3 года назад +5

      So true...

    • @judgmentstar843
      @judgmentstar843 3 года назад +45

      Nah, this sentence literally ignores other factores that shape society the way it i

    • @Osd.434
      @Osd.434 3 года назад +8

      So what are you telling me about the favelas, a very hard environment where a great majority of men end their lives in jail or by drug overdose

    • @Pherretfish
      @Pherretfish 3 года назад +9

      @@judgmentstar843 not really, what people can’t really get is that this is a definite repeat. It will always happen forever but it will return in a different shape and form.

    • @saartjeh
      @saartjeh 3 года назад

      Bruhh no

  • @alwayscreatingio
    @alwayscreatingio 3 года назад +1661

    Glad you could share your story and perspective. Amazing video bro

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +30

      Thanks dude, great vids

    • @gaeborg
      @gaeborg 3 года назад +1

      @@ColeHastings i started working out and eating healthy, and this caused me to masturbate more often (twice a week) due to my excess stamina. Is this good or bad

    • @anonymousdemon7229
      @anonymousdemon7229 3 года назад +2

      PMO FEELS SO FUCKING GOOD🥵🚮🥵🚮🥵🚮

    • @omarmontana1969
      @omarmontana1969 3 года назад +5

      @@anonymousdemon7229 ?

    • @omarmontana1969
      @omarmontana1969 3 года назад

      @لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله I know I know brother, but still, its not that easy mate

  • @smitnov
    @smitnov 3 года назад +807

    "Men are moving away from the positive side of masculinity." Amen to that!

    • @mikelisteral7863
      @mikelisteral7863 2 года назад +15

      @@cothinker680 every man is chad to some girl. its all relative. women want chad not marriage. so treat them accordingly

    • @divyanshsingh1078
      @divyanshsingh1078 Год назад

      @@mikelisteral7863 i can respect that

  • @michaelcrosby7035
    @michaelcrosby7035 2 года назад +201

    I can’t help but feel that people made porn so easy to access on purpose. Men like us get curious as teens and search up porn. All we have to do is click “Yes, I’m 18” and we’re hooked. I’m a 16 year old male and I got hooked when I was 11. Between then and now I’ve managed to quit porn multiple time, my highest up to about 3 months, but I got depressed due to not being able to do what I loved during quarantine. Once I was able to finally find myself again, I got depressed again but for different reasons and got hooked on porn again. Starting 2022, I’m going to quit it for good, because it can really destroy your life, especially as a teen male. In fact, it has destroyed my life for the past few years because I haven’t been able to enjoy anything as much as I used to. It’s time for us to prove that we are stronger than people want us to be. Good luck to all you other men struggling with the same issue. Godspeed.

  • @avafoyle8428
    @avafoyle8428 3 года назад +746

    I feel like a lot of men also put pressure on other men. Things like finding the perfect woman, getting jacked and fcking girls are seen as a mans goal in life.

    • @xNulg
      @xNulg 3 года назад +92

      Older generation pushing us to uphold their shitty views of being a "man". Being highly aggressive, putting women on pedestals, being "dominant", treat your woman like a queen. All crap told to me by elders.

    • @Jnnewsman
      @Jnnewsman 3 года назад +152

      @@xNulg I honestly believe that "being a man" is just knowing how to react to problems, being calm in negative discussions, showing emotions but knowing when to stand up for yourself, taking care of yourself, etc. Honestly, this could all apply to women as well.

    • @MichaelOBrien71
      @MichaelOBrien71 3 года назад +21

      @@xNulg nothing wrong with that. The people that told you that are right. I’m 50 single and still in good shape and still hook up with a woman. A 20 year old man should be out having fun and not being in the house all day. Not healthy

    • @MidnightStorm4990
      @MidnightStorm4990 3 года назад +23

      @@MichaelOBrien71 Damn 50 year old? You prob getting all the young chicks from college who want that daddy experience. Not really doing those 20 year old guys a favour 😂😂. Then again I'm 17 and haven't been with anyone lmao

    • @MichaelOBrien71
      @MichaelOBrien71 3 года назад +8

      @@MidnightStorm4990 haha I wish

  • @backat506
    @backat506 3 года назад +184

    This is so common, it’s just no one is talking about it. Good for you for speaking up

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +17

      Thanks brother. Men need to get more comfortable with being vulnerable (also a masculine trait). Hopefully I've showed people that

    • @backat506
      @backat506 3 года назад +3

      @@ColeHastings Puck Forn

    • @justadude598
      @justadude598 3 года назад +3

      Yea this really resonates with me and its really been in my face as of late, Im trying to get rid of some nasty habits but it's hard and I keep failing, but I keep trying so i know I'll get there soon.

    • @backat506
      @backat506 3 года назад +5

      @@justadude598 it’s seems to be one of those things that you need to quit forever. (Porn not masturbation). Ive quit for months before but as soon as you do it even once you’re back in it. Crazy shit man.

    • @justadude598
      @justadude598 3 года назад +1

      @@backat506 Yea I think you're right....now to just put it to practice.

  • @88Kieys
    @88Kieys 3 года назад +2346

    Such good content! The video editing is very authentic and gives vibes.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +32

      Thank you Elliott

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +9

      @Williamsiller80 siller ???

    • @ElGuapo408_
      @ElGuapo408_ 3 года назад +2

      @Williamsiller80 sillerhe never said he did drugs lol in the beginning he said all he did was workout, drink, and party in his early 20s and no goals or ambitions and no drive to do anything

    • @ElGuapo408_
      @ElGuapo408_ 3 года назад +5

      @Williamsiller80 siller probably because he’s busy? Lmao

    • @jetercanda9661
      @jetercanda9661 3 года назад +1

      Yeah.but muñano

  • @osmiloe2776
    @osmiloe2776 3 года назад +351

    If schools only would cut back a little on all the "toxic masculinity" speakers and started to invite people like him, I believe it would give a lot of contrast to people's view on masculinity as a whole and actually help a lot of guys who feel lost and insecure in other ways than described by toxic masculinity speakers.

    • @KRYMauL
      @KRYMauL 3 года назад +25

      Or even better show kids what real masculinity is by having outdoor classes that and bring in people from the military.

    • @daftbanna7202
      @daftbanna7202 2 года назад +2

      @UCxvONJm3cm3PRRLzuHuuzjA bro that's not what actually masculinity is you moron

    • @SubStarLex
      @SubStarLex 2 года назад +7

      @@KRYMauL fuck that on all levels

    • @A3N.A2B
      @A3N.A2B 2 года назад

      at school, I seen a group girls trying to a boy more feminine.

    • @believer431
      @believer431 Год назад

      In my culture, there's a saying, "To attack your own self with an axe"... By killing masculinity, they're doing exactly that

  • @skad2485
    @skad2485 3 года назад +494

    In my late teens a few years back I was depressed, anxious and lost my confidence even though I did well in school. Exercising and at least trying to avoid porn, the latter of which I have become better at, has definitely improved my life and given me more positive energy. When people try to normalise their porn watching habits they are just lying to themselves.

    • @necrosadotor
      @necrosadotor 3 года назад +22

      im always afraid of my new gf saying that porn's normal or ok. instant break-up.

    • @zachrat9083
      @zachrat9083 3 года назад +19

      @@necrosadotor It’s not her fault. She was told this by google and by all the “experts”. 99% of people aren’t redpilled on even one thing. It’s your job to slowly plant the seed of truth. You won’t be able to convince her out right of it’s effects as she can only find that on her own with your guidance.
      You can’t find the real truth behind almost anything because people are still using google. You have to scroll through pages of the contrary in order to find what you are looking for. Big tech/social media/news/government want to control the masses and promoting porn addiction is a great first step!

    • @necrosadotor
      @necrosadotor 3 года назад +1

      @@zachrat9083 partially i know, just makes me confused & angry. thanks for replying.

    • @zachrat9083
      @zachrat9083 3 года назад +1

      @@necrosadotor Yeah it is very frustrating ;/

    • @fidassino4611
      @fidassino4611 3 года назад +1

      @@necrosadotor I think that it is ok.. in moderation.. And it really depends on what porn she means. There are certainly some categories that are not ok... But I wouldnt blame anyone for watching some soft porn once a week. Idk that is just my opinion

  • @boxwhale5877
    @boxwhale5877 3 года назад +535

    It’s crazy because what this guy says is true. My best nofap streak was 35 days and the me before and after was a totally different person. I had limitless confidence and way more energy and had a super positive mindset. I’m slowly climbing my way back up to reach beyond 35 days.

    • @sauron2617
      @sauron2617 3 года назад +4

      you can do it : )

    • @ZukoRobin
      @ZukoRobin 3 года назад +1

      yeah man. Its crazy , the change, is crazy. But you can do it bro! Many are on this journey

    • @lauder810
      @lauder810 3 года назад +14

      Just broke my streak before watching this and now I'm sad :(

    • @tytaggem3194
      @tytaggem3194 3 года назад +16

      @Pen Bashiro, MD too much of anything is never a good thing. Masterbation can be harmful if you abuse it just like any other drug.

    • @eligreg99
      @eligreg99 3 года назад +50

      @Pen Bashiro, MD Nah, masturbation isn’t bad but if you’re making it a daily habit that you have to do everyday then it becomes a problem especially when you beat off to porn with pornstars that have unrealistic bodies.

  • @mire1390
    @mire1390 3 года назад +319

    One reason we may act the way we act is because we are hurt, and wounded, we are not being trained and taught on how to cope with life stress, emotional traumas and personal needs that are not being met. We want the easy way out of pain. We deny pain. We try to not feel pain. So we look for pleasures. We try to heal a deep wound by putting on a bandaid. Meaning we succumb to self destructive behavior that produces a lot of dopamine to get by, that includes uncontrollable gaming, drugs, binge watching tv, masturbation, porn, binge eating and much more. We distract ourselves from the real problem.
    The brains main function is to keep us alive, not to make us happy. We on the other hand want to be happy and will do things knowing that it may harm us and not keep us alive.
    It’s an awesome feeling to know people like you and many like the ones in these comments that think and realize these things and make a change for the best!
    Love to everyone 💕

    • @DancehallLyricsTV
      @DancehallLyricsTV 3 года назад +11

      This is so true, we are alway avoiding pain

    • @maarty6079
      @maarty6079 3 года назад +5

      so true

    • @mire1390
      @mire1390 3 года назад +8

      @لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله
      You wrote so much but said nothing.
      Matthew 7:3, 4 - 3. Why, then, do you look at the straw in your brother’s eye but do not notice the rafter in your own eye? 4. Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Allow me to remove the straw from your eye,’ when look! a rafter is in your own eye?
      You are just like the rest of us. Instead of pointing fingers and shaming others, apply that to yourself and be a good example for your family and friends, that will get you farther than what you’re doing here buddy.

    • @YourLocalLeadFarmer
      @YourLocalLeadFarmer 3 года назад +3

      I'd rather game and work my ass off. No offense, but Western Women really killed dating and core family values dramatically, they literally bring nothing to the table other than good looks and drama. Maybe there's some good women out there, but I don't have high hopes for that, it seems more of a pipe dream than anything else.

    • @mire1390
      @mire1390 3 года назад +7

      @@YourLocalLeadFarmer Untrained minds can be easily molded. That’s what happened to many women. The media and commercial propaganda subconsciously made us believe that we must be beautiful to be loved and that’s it. Personality didn’t matter. Just sex and pleasure, no hard skills, no knowledge, and no values. So I do see where your coming from. It’s a crappy world we live in.

  • @dominiquesmith-pierre5476
    @dominiquesmith-pierre5476 3 года назад +93

    I found this video to be incredibly insightful. It’s so important that these conversations continue to happen. I really appreciate your channel. As a woman there are certain things about men and masculinity that go way over my head or has been muddled with so much negativity I feel like it has forced men into even more silence which is not conducive nor sustainable. Men, women, and our friends in between should take the time and listen to each other’s experiences. That’s how we can connect again and grow together while acknowledging the importance and struggles of each other.

    • @slothvr5752
      @slothvr5752 2 года назад +2

      thank you

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 Год назад +1

      You're correct. The worst part is when you do all of these things: get into great shape, adopt a clean diet, work on your social skills, push yourself out of your comfort zone, make yourself talk to that girl you're interested in....yet get terrible results anyway.
      The depression I felt when I was an out of shape, shy, introverted guy who did poorly with women is NOTHING compared to the depression I feel now that I'm in great shape, outgoing, charismatic, and routinely put myself out there and approach women, yet get the exact same results as before.
      When you fail just as hard after working for years to become the best version of yourself...it's hard to draw any conclusion other than any version of you isn't good enough.

  • @shreyapattnaik7611
    @shreyapattnaik7611 3 года назад +332

    i'm a woman and watching this makes me feel good about the increased awareness.

    • @carljohnsoncj6896
      @carljohnsoncj6896 3 года назад +19

      Women are the reason why masculinity is decreasing in men.

    • @V-oe9cu
      @V-oe9cu 3 года назад +85

      @@carljohnsoncj6896 nah bro don’t blame them tho where did our brains go even if they tempted us.....

    • @ForzaNapoli666
      @ForzaNapoli666 3 года назад +110

      @@carljohnsoncj6896 Such a masculine response to shift the blame onto women lmao

    • @thatwaver8309
      @thatwaver8309 3 года назад +47

      @@carljohnsoncj6896 nice blame your bullshit on women

    • @dhaloh
      @dhaloh 3 года назад +34

      @@carljohnsoncj6896 Why exactly? If you want to cry - cry, if you want to stop fapping - stop. No woman is stopping you from changing and becoming your ideal self. If you want to be less masculine then do so. I think that many men have this masculine mindset that they hold onto because of what their fathers have taught them but you have to let go.

  • @girlfromtheglen
    @girlfromtheglen 3 года назад +518

    Interesting from a female perspective to understand men

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +160

      I do hope women watch this video as well, like you

    • @snowconeman512
      @snowconeman512 3 года назад +21

      Now you know why men are weak and not masculine nowadays 😂😂

    • @1kike31
      @1kike31 3 года назад +6

      Imposter!

    • @WarriorOfTheLight00
      @WarriorOfTheLight00 3 года назад +20

      Get outta here! This is exclusive content for the boys, Cole is just trying to get in your pants like the old college days.

    • @gutsjoestar7450
      @gutsjoestar7450 3 года назад +3

      you won't understand

  • @an18yearoldmongolianguy
    @an18yearoldmongolianguy 3 года назад +141

    Lots if guys work out so that they look good. There's nothing wrong with that, but those guys are missing the bigger picture. Looking good is just a bonus. Working out and staying fit itself boosts the confidence of both men and women. We can think more clearly, we don't get acne because we eat healthy and live in our optimal physical shape, we don't get constipated because we are hydrated. Working out isn't just lifting weights, it's also getting good sleep, eating right and drinking lots of water. And that gives us confidence. Knowing that you, YOU overcame all those obstacles and stepped out of your comfort zone to improve yourself - THAT gives you more confidence, more attractiveness, and most importantly more LOVE and ACCEPTANCE for yourself. Working out is 80% mental benefits and 20% physical in my opinion. But even though I say all this, I'm not really doing so good myself right now. I'm trying to get off porn and focus on my studies. Stay healthy, strong, and more importantly - self-accepting, brothers.

    • @yasinruhulla372
      @yasinruhulla372 3 года назад

      Start off by reading books and figuring out what you want out of life and start by becoming more of an “Alpha Male” if Yk what I mean and assert your dominance in life and focus on becoming the greatest version of yourself

    • @iMrp1
      @iMrp1 3 года назад +1

      Even if I work out I stay in the bathroom for at least 30 min

    • @peep3879
      @peep3879 3 года назад

      Great comment

    • @TheKittenish
      @TheKittenish 3 года назад +3

      I've never been into working out just to look good. Being strong is about 80% of the reason I lift. I like to feel strong and powerful. If somebody needs help with anything like moving a heavy box or opening a jar, it feels super masculine to help. The looking good thing is just a nice bonus. I never understood how some guys were totally focused on 'looking' a certain way but not actually enjoying being a strong man for what it was worth.

    • @aurorarte6175
      @aurorarte6175 3 года назад

      👏👏👏 these kind of mentality restores my faith in mankind. 💖 I sure you're gonna do great

  • @boloky553
    @boloky553 3 года назад +166

    "What you eat is what you become"
    Me eating pasta: Oh shit.

    • @Jakob123999
      @Jakob123999 3 года назад +3

      Underrated comment 😂

    • @bleizik8450
      @bleizik8450 3 года назад +9

      Me eating pasta : Oh yes

    • @bush3126
      @bush3126 3 года назад +2

      guess I’m rice now.

    • @austinperezgk1
      @austinperezgk1 3 года назад +4

      Guess I'm shit

    • @boloky553
      @boloky553 3 года назад

      @tolothatsthemotto haha good one 😂

  • @Olhildr
    @Olhildr 3 года назад +281

    I stopped with porn six months ago. My life and attitude transformed.
    This was after years of steering my life in the right direction and putting in the inner and external work. It is safe to say that stoping porn was more effective than daily meditation or consistent journaling in keeping my eyes on the prize so to say and not letting me sink emotionally.

    • @masteringillustration8811
      @masteringillustration8811 3 года назад +21

      Yeah porn is a huge waste of time and energy bro

    • @masteringillustration8811
      @masteringillustration8811 3 года назад +4

      Although we all have that natural, inescapable urge there are so many better things to be doing with your time on earth. I found that being grateful for the time you have and acknowledging that time and life itself is a gift, helps in not wasting it on porn

    • @robdog114
      @robdog114 3 года назад +13

      fuck man I need to quit but im struggling pretty bad

    • @someonesomeone25
      @someonesomeone25 3 года назад +3

      Pron makes no difference imho. I guess different people have different vices and issues. But I dont date or care about a relationship, so I guess thats a big part of it.

    • @bryceboyer5131
      @bryceboyer5131 3 года назад +4

      @@someonesomeone25 i think you dont care about dating or a relationship because of porn🤣 You’re okay with touching yourself to another man pleasing himself

  • @PuppersLumpkins
    @PuppersLumpkins 3 года назад +688

    As a single woman on the dating scene I am so happy to see a man covering this topic with honesty! Please continue to help restore traditional masculinity.

    • @ConejoRecopila
      @ConejoRecopila 3 года назад +117

      @عبدالله أحمد العتيبي Shut UP, this is not a religiouse thing.

    • @trapperskey805
      @trapperskey805 3 года назад +38

      @لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله Jesus is King

    • @PuppersLumpkins
      @PuppersLumpkins 3 года назад +64

      @_jeff _ Typically, men set the temperature for societal norms and expectations. However, in recent years, I've seen a trend emerge where men have reneged accountability and are blaming women for their own lack of alpha masculinity, leadership, purpose, vision, and dominance. As a single hetero/feminine woman, I am telling you that we are craving normalcy, traditional courtship, romance and dominance from our men. Get your balls back from wherever they are and lead us properly. Be forthcoming and purpose driven when dating us. I don't know what happened to traditional men (I honestly think there are hormones in the food, but we won't go there😅) but I'm going to tell you straight, men need to practice being masculine, surround yourself with positive male influence. This is your battle, not ours, go take control.

    • @fredricksmith2562
      @fredricksmith2562 3 года назад +6

      @@PuppersLumpkins yes i wanna be an alpha male

    • @Lcmrockets
      @Lcmrockets 3 года назад +7

      @@PuppersLumpkins amen sis!!

  • @goodgirlgamer6424
    @goodgirlgamer6424 3 года назад +459

    I literally had no idea that men are having erectile dysfunction, like this is bad

    • @Juubox
      @Juubox 3 года назад +104

      Yeah it’s a problem. NOT FOR ME THO PULL UP SHAWTYS

    • @davidromero2704
      @davidromero2704 3 года назад +11

      known as PIED the RUclips algorithm recommended noah church speech. I thought it was a comedy but man that shit was an eye opener

    • @noobgamer8882
      @noobgamer8882 3 года назад +5

      @SUM1DOIDE can I ask how and why is that so? I am genuninely curious

    • @nelzelpher2088
      @nelzelpher2088 3 года назад +2

      ED Doesn’t matter since seeing girls during quarantine is not a great idea.

    • @TheRealFobican
      @TheRealFobican 3 года назад +7

      That's is because your mind is too occupied with things taking attention to worries or current negatives that happened recently and you already tipped the scale of lewd stuff with over the top porn content that it even competes with real intercourse that looks bleak in comparison while can go on for a while.

  • @julienmancilla5576
    @julienmancilla5576 3 года назад +34

    I grew up so confused with my masculinity. In the past two years, I've decided to change my lifestyle, and kick off a couple items off my personal bucket list. This year was porn. I've also struggled with ED and always thought I was the only one. Thank you for sharing, the impact you made is gonna have a ripple effect. I've been off porn for about a week and a half and I've built a foundation with people I can talk to if I feel I'm going to slip. It's only the beginning but I feel stronger than ever. Let's get in touch with our positive masculinity again. Let's do better men! Love u all

    • @julienmancilla5576
      @julienmancilla5576 3 года назад +2

      @Weedgy Apex it's a long process my friend. I've slipped many times since, but everytime I get up stronger and my no-fap streaks become longer. I'm confident in the path I'm in.

    • @aniket-tq1gd
      @aniket-tq1gd 2 года назад +1

      all the best king

  • @res6696
    @res6696 3 года назад +701

    This man has more girlfriends than I have ever talked to in my entire life

    • @SpaceMonkeyBoi
      @SpaceMonkeyBoi 3 года назад +117

      Wait. You actually get to talk to girls?
      👁👄👁

    • @res6696
      @res6696 3 года назад +30

      @@SpaceMonkeyBoi one

    • @roskcity
      @roskcity 3 года назад +4

      @@res6696 same. My friend's sister who happens to be my crush.

    • @_nathanabeth_3775
      @_nathanabeth_3775 3 года назад +59

      @@SpaceMonkeyBoi Wait. What are girls?

    • @fearthereaper76
      @fearthereaper76 3 года назад +36

      @@_nathanabeth_3775 i have no clue bro

  • @princess.sierra
    @princess.sierra 3 года назад +173

    Guys, educate your bros! Girls, educate your man! It took a while for my bf to realize how it could potentially damage himself and his relationship. (For instance, many gfs start to feel insecure, jealous, they're receiving less attention, etc. It impacts their mental health as well!) He stopped for over a year now and he's better than EVER! Be there for them. Motivate them. Be patient with them, then everyone's happy! So to the guys who are starting to realize the implications of porn, YOU'RE ON THE RIGHT TRACK! Praying for everyone 🙏🏽✨

    • @thedankest1218
      @thedankest1218 3 года назад +2

      Its always been a complicated subject for me because in my opinion, humans are always bound to be sexually attracted to other people which doesn't just biologically turn off because your emotionally devoting yourself to one person. So when me or my partner want to masturbate and watch porn by ourselves I think it's healthy but am always in conflict as to whether it's really cheating and lessening the value of our relationship.

    • @originalMP3com247
      @originalMP3com247 3 года назад +2

      @@thedankest1218 It's literally just another tool to help you sexually explore yourself

    • @originalMP3com247
      @originalMP3com247 3 года назад +4

      @لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله This isn't Beetlejuice. Just because you post the same nonsense three times doesn't mean it magically comes to or is positive in your life. Be well, zealot

    • @tromboner6061
      @tromboner6061 3 года назад +1

      In my country, progressive women want porn to thrive n support it.
      Duh.
      As long as someone isnt affected by something they always support it.

    • @somb8434
      @somb8434 3 года назад +1

      Period.

  • @scp_1012
    @scp_1012 3 года назад +146

    Man I’ve been stuck in a lot of addictions: social media, porn, video games, etc. but I’ve recently tried to change my ways. I took the initiative to stop posting random garbage each day and to stop getting caught in other people’s businesses, and now I barely look at social media anymore except RUclips. In terms of porn and video games I’m so far a couple of days off of porn and doing well, video games I have yet to break the addiction from unfortunately, but I know I’ll get there eventually. Nice video by the way 👍

    • @ScarChrome
      @ScarChrome 3 года назад +5

      Hey man same here, hope you reach that goal

    • @thebignacho
      @thebignacho 3 года назад +6

      You can't be addicted to those, you dont have an addiction, you just have no self control so don't act like you're over there dealing actual medical problems.

    • @ChadRepson
      @ChadRepson 3 года назад +12

      @@thebignacho actually you can get addicted to anything. Doesn’t have to be something that’s addictive to get addicted. Porn addiction and other shit is all real

    • @thebignacho
      @thebignacho 3 года назад +3

      @@ChadRepson No its not medical addiction. Doctors don't recognize porn or internet "addiction" as addiction as it has no actual chemical change.
      You have no withdrawal, negative symptoms, or anything that actually fits the medical definition.
      You can be """"addicted"""" to anything sure, but its not a medical addiction.

    • @ChadRepson
      @ChadRepson 3 года назад

      @@thebignacho I thought there were withdrawal symptoms from porn?

  • @antrant7533
    @antrant7533 3 года назад +21

    Huge respect to Cole for opening up about this

  • @BahubaliKota
    @BahubaliKota 3 года назад +440

    Facts man. NoFap is a must for a healthy and disciplined life.

    • @travis6694
      @travis6694 3 года назад +1

      @Cerulean can you teach me about the chakra thing, can you text me?

    • @kingswithdreams
      @kingswithdreams 3 года назад

      @The Deathless you have the internet use it there ton of information on youtube...

    • @c.s.9427
      @c.s.9427 3 года назад +35

      @@travis6694 chakra shit is new age bs just dont fap its that simple

    • @JayTraversJT
      @JayTraversJT 3 года назад +1

      @@c.s.9427 agreed

    • @Fabio-Galante
      @Fabio-Galante 3 года назад +1

      Am I the only one who prefers good sexual relationship

  • @musicallyrical2927
    @musicallyrical2927 3 года назад +341

    advice for everyone: guys i was very bad at talking english and my dream is to be an English rapper in America I studied so hard to get in here through poverty in third world country. now I can rap very well and amma about to start my carrér too many people in my home country told me to give up but don't u ever listen to those people just do what u want to do and be relentless.
    never give up

    • @reese8050
      @reese8050 3 года назад +4

      Thanks dude

    • @said2679
      @said2679 3 года назад +3

      Where r u from?

    • @okguimacedo
      @okguimacedo 3 года назад +11

      @@said2679 The way he wrote "carrer" he's probably French

    • @azurepimpernel4652
      @azurepimpernel4652 3 года назад +5

      @@okguimacedo yeah maybe from a north african country

    • @juandiegoargandona4160
      @juandiegoargandona4160 3 года назад +26

      @@okguimacedo yeah France is a poor third world country.

  • @general_electrics
    @general_electrics 3 года назад +37

    This is an extremely important video for young men. Men are not developed through "adult entertainment" and video games. Men develop in the *real* world. And there's no substitute for interacting with real people, real women.
    Being too complacent to interact with the real world will ruin a young man's psychological development in ways that may not be corrected.

  • @jacksondune327
    @jacksondune327 3 года назад +2

    Glad this video showed up right at NNN

  • @isathumm4185
    @isathumm4185 3 года назад +129

    I think having normal conversations with strangers got more difficult rather because of social media and that people in general aren't used to face-to-face conversation anymore and that's why it feels weird.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +12

      yeah also true

    • @zaki2dunya321
      @zaki2dunya321 3 года назад

      FACTS

    • @ronaldjebi5647
      @ronaldjebi5647 3 года назад +17

      dude facts I was in the store with my friends and we couldn't find something and we had a whole debate on who should ask an employee, I was so confused

    • @isathumm4185
      @isathumm4185 3 года назад +1

      @@ronaldjebi5647 oh wow I mean, this should be a casual thing to do right?

    • @nicknordstrom774
      @nicknordstrom774 3 года назад +7

      @@ronaldjebi5647 if you can order food at a restaurant, you can ask Joe at Target where the car air fresheners are.

  • @immyanon
    @immyanon 3 года назад +29

    Thank you for this. Porn addiction should NOT be normalised like it is. I hope many more get the help they need and live a more fulfilling life.

  • @bradpresley2878
    @bradpresley2878 3 года назад +25

    I’m 16 and this makes so much sense it’s mind blowing. I’ve been exploring spirituality lately and this opened me up even more. On behalf of a lot of men, I thank you.

  • @audreylenardo7077
    @audreylenardo7077 2 года назад +20

    From a girls' perspective, I think it's great that you shared this video. I think in today's world, it's not often brought up of what men often/can go through. That's not to say that I'm not for empowering women, but I think everyone should be empowered and have their stories told, and most importantly, feel understood.

    • @mr.meme5907
      @mr.meme5907 Год назад

      Ye

    • @fuzzypanda1684
      @fuzzypanda1684 Год назад

      Empowering women was necessary and a great thing...until equality was achieved yet the movement continued to the point of putting down men to boost up women.
      I think the 1st and 2nd wave feminists who fought bravely for equality would be disgusted at how their once noble movement has been completely hijacked by insane people.

  • @dylansubramanian1940
    @dylansubramanian1940 3 года назад +23

    Day 79 for me- going strong and helped me improve myself so much

  • @laurenramosvlogs
    @laurenramosvlogs 3 года назад +1090

    this is the best video i’ve ever watched

  • @Dr.Jekyll_
    @Dr.Jekyll_ 3 года назад +38

    “Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”
    G. Michael Hopf

  • @arianphukon4771
    @arianphukon4771 2 года назад +5

    Keep grinding fellas, we will make it

  • @PhillyTK
    @PhillyTK 3 года назад +75

    Bro. I know this shit is true because I started fasting (72hr fasts) and retaining semen around the same time for about 10 days and I felt extremely compelled to get my life together in that time. I was cleaning more than usual, I wanted to exercise, I started looking for a better job. I felt amazing and way more driven to get things done. I also felt more assertive.

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +7

      Keep it up

    • @jmainesmarts7721
      @jmainesmarts7721 3 года назад +4

      That’s good news keep going! I’m restarting 2021’ , it’s gonna be hard but I’m going cold turkey.

    • @colevanner1510
      @colevanner1510 3 года назад

      Fasting is bad for you, when you start eating more frequently you will put a load of weight on

    • @colevanner1510
      @colevanner1510 3 года назад

      Plus you’re starving yourself, just go in a calorie deceit if you wanna lose weight

    • @PhillyTK
      @PhillyTK 3 года назад +2

      @@colevanner1510 Nah, I'd rather fast. Research on fasting has gone far beyond "you're starving yourself" these days. Also, I know it might sound strange but I find it easier to fast than using any specialized diet. Of course I'll be eating more cleanly in between fasts.. but yeah. There's great sources available about the benefits. You should look up Dr. Fung's and Dr. Berg's lectures/videos on fasting. Great stuff

  • @tommyronny5730
    @tommyronny5730 3 года назад +224

    Dude you’re on point but the true cause of this problem is the alienation that’s caused by our current economic and societal system

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +10

      Could you explain further?

    • @tommyronny5730
      @tommyronny5730 3 года назад +28

      @@ColeHastings I have been staring at my screen trying to type out a proper response but sadly I lack the education to properly articulate my reasoning, however I can redirect you towards a few RUclips channels that explore the deeper societal and systemic problems that not only harm men but harms everyone

    • @tommyronny5730
      @tommyronny5730 3 года назад +19

      @@ColeHastings ruclips.net/video/GHxwQxg1da8/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/BUvWOy0urFo/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/c_X-812q_Jc/видео.html
      For example these videos explain what I mean a lot better

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +13

      @@tommyronny5730 Thank you very much

    • @Ab_A60
      @Ab_A60 3 года назад +8

      No it’s not. Porn usage has been on the rise way before this “pandemic”. Sure, this year it’s probably increased due to loneliness but the current economic situation isn’t the true cause.
      The true cause is easy access to porn and human nature. As humans we want the highest reward for the littlest effort. Why put in all the months or even years of hard work to get the gorgeous women when you can just open porn and have her right now, since your brain can’t tell the difference between a real experience and an imaginary - it sees porn and real sex as the same.
      So no this current pandemic isn’t the true cause dude.

  • @jacksullivan7777
    @jacksullivan7777 3 года назад +22

    So brave of you to talk about tough times like this. Love you buddy!

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +4

      Love you dog. Everyone go subscribe to my man Jack

  • @irunthestreets
    @irunthestreets 3 года назад +2

    this video sat in my recommendations for so long and i resisted clicking it...but i finally did it

  • @aestheticbeatz5700
    @aestheticbeatz5700 3 года назад +271

    Is not just porn its heathenistic consumerism, its nihilism, its lack of religion/spirituality, its vice.

    • @niceboii9368
      @niceboii9368 3 года назад

      @Necro Fell oh u also already there is a war and u christians want to join the war also get out of here

    • @riverunconfirmed
      @riverunconfirmed 3 года назад +8

      It’s also pride, ego, vanity, and anger.

    • @mlgfrog2470
      @mlgfrog2470 3 года назад +6

      @Necro Fell Your comment just shows your ignorance. According to a credible book called Encyclopedia of Wars, only 7% of recorded wars in history are due to religious reasons. evangelism.intervarsity.org/resource/religion-caused-almost-every-war-history

    • @positive1914
      @positive1914 3 года назад +5

      @@mlgfrog2470 Dude he was making a joke and your statistics don't mean shit at all crusades were religious and he was taking about them so stfu nobody asked

    • @mlgfrog2470
      @mlgfrog2470 3 года назад +4

      @@positive1914 It's a low tier joke if it even is a joke and not just a random attack on religion. It's not my statistics it's what other historians concluded through years of research, I'm not making that up dumbass. Woah "crusades", if I had one dollar for every mouthbreather that mentioned crusades in order to disprove religion I'd be Bezos level rich. So what if nobody asked I'll say whatever the fuck I want kid. Go do your own research.

  • @rekagy744
    @rekagy744 3 года назад +51

    I'm so happy that there are guys like you. Our society needs a LOT more similar contents.

    • @tha1sorrow
      @tha1sorrow 2 года назад

      Hey you are extremely beautiful (Profile pic not actually me) I am on a workout cold shower nofap jouerney myself. I am from germany. You find my telegram contact on my channel. Feel free to join me

  • @MamaWho
    @MamaWho 3 года назад +133

    This dude needs to become a minister...cuz he sure can preach.

    • @50shekels
      @50shekels 3 года назад +1

      @Eric Smith If you honestly think religion “fails on every level” then don’t end your sentence with “I am educated”. In fact don’t begin your sentence at all

    • @50shekels
      @50shekels 3 года назад

      @Eric Smith the fact you think religion began roughly 2000 years ago lmfao. Get the money back from your McDonalds education my guy

  • @megamariofan4009
    @megamariofan4009 2 года назад +3

    This video is such a wake up call. I’ve noticed in the past month or so I’ve had more confidence than I have ever had. Playing my guitar gave lots of confidence, after a break up with a girl in January I suddenly got more confidence when I got over her at the end of February. It’s time for me to apply the things you have said in the video. It will be really really hard but becoming a better man is when keeps you going

  • @mumsy8711
    @mumsy8711 3 года назад +16

    I don’t think I’ve felt so guilty yet so motivated at the same time. Thank you for this

  • @streetfashiontv9149
    @streetfashiontv9149 3 года назад +25

    It takes a lot of courage to disclose such a personal experience to the world. I salute you bro.

  • @vel5094
    @vel5094 3 года назад +118

    I, A 14 year old will try my best in becoming a true M A N.

    • @hytellus
      @hytellus 3 года назад +18

      best of luck to you kid

    • @Илан-ю7г
      @Илан-ю7г 3 года назад +4

      But don’t hurt your body brother

    • @williamfryer4528
      @williamfryer4528 3 года назад +18

      No such thing as a true man, be what makes you happy I like cross dressing and I'm as just as much a man any other

    • @chadofthexxthcentury4741
      @chadofthexxthcentury4741 3 года назад +7

      I, also a 14 year old, am with you, good luck mate

    • @Илан-ю7г
      @Илан-ю7г 3 года назад +1

      You will but also don't hurt your body you steel should go through puberty my little friend

  • @nicolasdufort9822
    @nicolasdufort9822 Год назад +2

    Really good video! Like the content! Semen retention day number 15 for me!!

  • @flawIess
    @flawIess 3 года назад +493

    dont let feminists or tiktok girls see this bro, they will lose their sh!t

    • @tinydemons5284
      @tinydemons5284 3 года назад +38

      Huh?

    • @jamesmccloud7535
      @jamesmccloud7535 3 года назад +13

      Why what's wrong?

    • @litosalt8639
      @litosalt8639 3 года назад +42

      and onlyfans

    • @hacker7341
      @hacker7341 3 года назад +62

      They sure will 😂 it’s almost as if they want every man to be feminine. But it’s not gonna happen.

    • @tinydemons5284
      @tinydemons5284 3 года назад +49

      Hacker we never said we want every man to be feminine , it’s just to show guys can be feminine.

  • @AlexRodriguez-ho2ws
    @AlexRodriguez-ho2ws 3 года назад +41

    thank you for talking about this! This is something that’s starting to effect women too and yet we are told that watching porn and masturbating is “normal and healthy” don’t fall further into that lie like I did

  • @benfeldman8361
    @benfeldman8361 3 года назад +612

    In the middle of the section about how unhealthy the average American is, I got an ad for potato chips 😂

  • @muundus7
    @muundus7 3 года назад +5

    It’s calming to know that I ain’t the only one going through this... thank you, man

  • @mustafaa3226
    @mustafaa3226 3 года назад +19

    Man this is genuinely, one of the most sought after. Throughly constructive videos I came across on the Tube. Man keep up the dedication and hard work!

  • @XdgamehackerXd
    @XdgamehackerXd 3 года назад +13

    I’ve recently started my journey as a 16 year old it’s really sad seeing myself and so many of my friends go down this rabbit hole this is truly the new addiction of our generation, and it’s funny because it’s deemed to inappropriate to talk about so nobody is addressing this issue there’s so much shame, hate, and disgust luckily my gf is very understanding and has helped me a lot on this process but I’d be lying if I said it was easy even she had a hard time understanding and we almost broke up over it, but I love her now more than ever this issue NEEDS to be addressed and I’m glad your using your platform to address it

  • @Thonck-
    @Thonck- 3 года назад +20

    The diet part is extremely true, I changed my diet a few months ago and I have so much more energy than I did before. It's truly insane how true the phrase "you are what you eat" is.

  • @eburke5533
    @eburke5533 2 года назад +2

    I saw this and put it in my watch later. I found it again today when I needed to see it. It found me tbh

  • @ephsis7848
    @ephsis7848 3 года назад +16

    the quality of your videos is so much higher than channels with more subs than you it's insane.

  • @BrittanyJeanThrifts
    @BrittanyJeanThrifts 3 года назад +26

    I just wanna tell you I’m supper proud of you and you inspire me so much! There needs to be more conscious men out there, humans in general... keep up the good work spreading your awareness with others, you are changing the world! Much love Brit

    • @shashank9638
      @shashank9638 3 года назад +1

      @الإسلام كما كان سابقاً فقد اكتمل ولا مجال لزياده there was no need to talk about religion here. Please do respect others opinion.

  • @nicolatressler3660
    @nicolatressler3660 3 года назад +53

    We need more men like you!! It’s not only good for men, but women too! We need y’all more than you know. Step up and be who you were created to be💪🏻 Thank you for this.

  • @arktiksnyper492
    @arktiksnyper492 3 года назад +5

    Trust me... he's not lying

  • @reflectionofself570
    @reflectionofself570 3 года назад +28

    Finally you came to the topic I was waiting to hear. We, as a man, are struggling in this manner way more than ever before, and i am saying this through my observations of my own self and also everyone around me (and I am not even including the people who bring this topic of being "weak" or having no drive over and over on internet by themselves), I am seeing the same pattern of weakness (being comfortable on where they are, not having any goals or ambitions (that also bothers them themselves), not having any willingness to take any responsibility that they need to take) and all are mostly related to short term pleasure/quick gratification things (such as porn and excessive masturbation, processed sugar, internet addiction or any other pleasure giving actions, that gives pleasure instantly). Instead of taking time to dedicate on finding who you truly are, what you love, exercise/take care of yourself, and take on your responsibilities of your life (which in turn will be beneficial in the future), find a partner you desire, or learn anything valuable/enjoyable - instead of these, short term gratification is chosen. So, that's why it needs to be adressed way more frequently and should be explained way more in depth, so it gets to anyone, who needs to hear it (including myself).
    So, thank you for making this vid man, great job!

  • @sweeteve13
    @sweeteve13 3 года назад +34

    I’m so grateful you share what you share. I’m on a similar path, seeing your growth is wonderful and motivating. Thank you. Stay well, stay grateful. Many blessings.

  • @nickagrinzone
    @nickagrinzone 3 года назад +8

    started my self-improvement journey just over a year ago and the benefits it's had led me to a reality I never thought was even possible. obviously I still have my struggles, but I'm able to address them head on rather than settling into a victim mentality. this video is so important

  • @mitchellseeman4783
    @mitchellseeman4783 3 года назад +6

    The simplicity of this video is awesome. It’s changing small habits, that can change everything. Not the drastic lifestyle changes that take years to build. Thank you

  • @novaibunosoulong5523
    @novaibunosoulong5523 3 года назад +262

    Although as a female, i’m predominantly lesbian, but learning about men is amazing imo! Much respect to guys out there!✨🥰
    Edit: Set goals, follow your dreams, be altruistic and kind and live a good good life!

    • @mukeshsoni4125
      @mukeshsoni4125 3 года назад +35

      Women's are same amazing #respect

    • @nightmarekhazix4419
      @nightmarekhazix4419 3 года назад +34

      Oh. found a normal female who isn't a misandrist. And a lesbian? when 99% of lesbian representatives on twitter are normalizing *being lesbian=hate men*. Bonus points

    • @novaibunosoulong5523
      @novaibunosoulong5523 3 года назад +14

      @@mukeshsoni4125 Men, women, non-binary and others are awesome! ✨🙏
      Thank you!

    • @novaibunosoulong5523
      @novaibunosoulong5523 3 года назад +30

      @@nightmarekhazix4419 Yeah! not all lesbians tho! Like what’s the purpose of hating men?
      They’re just as great!✨🙏🙏

    • @nightmarekhazix4419
      @nightmarekhazix4419 3 года назад +6

      @@novaibunosoulong5523 I got screenshot material. a lesbian harrasing me in dm's on Instagram just because im a male and im white . lol

  • @Zspader
    @Zspader 3 года назад +88

    To transform your world, it's imperative to first change yourself. Quitting porn is the 1st step to self-actualization, my brothers. Stay strong.

    • @Fabio-Galante
      @Fabio-Galante 3 года назад

      What if I quit porn but continue having sex ? Is it different

    • @terryterry4760
      @terryterry4760 3 года назад +6

      @@Fabio-Galante porn is bad because it’s artificial. Sex is fine because it’s real.

    • @victorugo3875
      @victorugo3875 3 года назад +1

      @Pen Bashiro, MD Lmao. Maybe what you've said is true regarding a lack of science backing, but you don't need science to tell you that quitting porn has significant life benefits. You said there's no such thing as "porn addiction"...say who? Where are you getting your information from, sire?
      Whether or not you watch porn is nobody's business. Men around the world are improving themselves by quitting porn and adopting better life habits. You only need to look at the personal testimonies of men on the Nofap community to know that quitting porn provides significant benefits.
      You realize that there are books written on the subject of porn and some of its effects, yeah? Tf are you saying?

    • @Zspader
      @Zspader 3 года назад +1

      @@Fabio-Galante What Terry said. Sex has always been natural. Whether its monogamous, casual, poly amory or polygamous depends on your culture. Sex is healthy.

    • @Zspader
      @Zspader 3 года назад +1

      @Pen Bashiro, MD Porn addiction paired with masturbation addiction is one of the top leading factors contributing to a society of young guys in their 20s experiencing ED. These are Causation-correlation relationships. The numbers are out. Just google erectile dysfunction and pornography/masturbation.

  • @GigaChad-em9qw
    @GigaChad-em9qw 3 года назад +143

    Reason your so confident is cause your hairline is literally perfect

    • @ColeHastings
      @ColeHastings  3 года назад +36

      Giga Chad approved

    • @MFESPFTWKF
      @MFESPFTWKF 3 года назад +1

      Great comment but it’s you’re* not your

    • @muddycatfish5396
      @muddycatfish5396 3 года назад +1

      @@MFESPFTWKF people have been calling out that exact same spelling mistake since the inception of youtube, I love this website.

  • @CamSpratley
    @CamSpratley 2 года назад +2

    I have a huge appreciation for your videos, you have this wonderful way of calling out the bs of modern life without being as brash about the point you make compared to other channels that talk about the same points. It is far more relatable and I'm so glad I found your channel. You seem far more real because you are talking from your own real experience. Thank you for sharing your stance, keep spreading the word

  • @ThatAnnoyingBird
    @ThatAnnoyingBird 3 года назад +69

    "What are you watching?"
    "Nothing"
    Exactly that. The world's largest repository of nothing.

  • @ordinarypablo
    @ordinarypablo 3 года назад +280

    Porn, social media and video games, that is fucking us up

    • @tiesdijkmans
      @tiesdijkmans 3 года назад +102

      @Sewage Water video games in particular aren't bad. But the amounts of time people nowadays game that is bad. People are gaming 8 hours+ per day and that is bad. So you can game of course, but if you do it too much you'll lose motivation, concentration and its super unhealthy to sit all day

    • @ordinarypablo
      @ordinarypablo 3 года назад +11

      @@tiesdijkmans nah, video games just make people stupid, is like saying hey alcohol ain’t bad is just bad if you drink too much, it’s bad but in different levels but bad for you at the end of the day, plus is a waste of fucking time and money

    • @iTz_GSWAG
      @iTz_GSWAG 3 года назад +86

      @@ordinarypablo fuck you I’m still playing video games

    • @d3mentia538
      @d3mentia538 3 года назад +31

      @@ordinarypablo your mom thinks your a waste of time and money.

    • @H.A.TV30
      @H.A.TV30 3 года назад +6

      Quit P, limit socmed, but games ok. Because life in this world itself is full of games

  • @oliverwalker9419
    @oliverwalker9419 3 года назад +27

    my main problem is I will see a video like this and get motivated for a couple hours but I can never integrate these fully into my life

    • @oliverwalker9419
      @oliverwalker9419 3 года назад

      @Larry Ossei I've realised this since and am actively trying to improve myself. Thanks for the advice though and hopefully it helps someone else out

    • @trappart9209
      @trappart9209 3 года назад +2

      You have to think every time you do something and ask yourself "what value this adds to my life, what my life will look like if I continue doing this". Make sure decisions and actions you take add value to your life and make you closer to your goals. It already seems clear, that you have to set some goals. Period

    • @ranicierkens666
      @ranicierkens666 3 года назад

      Do not want to forge my advice on you, but what I learnt: change happens by small steps. And you will fall back in old habits sometimes. Must read is atomic habits by James Clear! Good luck

  • @bayani7626
    @bayani7626 2 года назад +4

    You hit it all my dude. This is literally my problem rn in my 20s

  • @ColeHastings
    @ColeHastings  3 года назад +57

    This whole video was just a flex for me to show off my quads. Also, I don't think comfortability is an actual word lol.
    Anyways, please leave your thoughts on the video below. Thanks for watching.

    • @moritz3168
      @moritz3168 3 года назад +2

      Im 18 years old.
      I eat healthy, i exercise every 1-2 days with weights, i try to not watch porn as often (happens a lot less but still not completely stopped), i didnt smoke weed in 2 weeks.
      But i still have no feeling of purpose, i am home watching anime and series all day while drawing, or play league of legends.
      I dont feel bad but i dont feel great either...
      I think the next step is probably establishing a healthy sleep routine. Not going to bed at 2-4 am but going to bed at 1 am max.
      Maybe i should go outside atleast once every day. although i find that dificult as i get no enjoyment out of that at all... i just think ugh its cold i want go inside again...

    • @shakurwonders5216
      @shakurwonders5216 3 года назад +1

      U so funny bro. I thought sex helped u overcome porn. But well its the other way round.

    • @shakurwonders5216
      @shakurwonders5216 3 года назад +1

      @@moritz3168 Maybe u should add it to ur daily routine. Going outside while listening to ur favourite podcast or music? What do u think? Anyways im 20 .and have more to learn. But im through no pmo journey. I feel healthier than ever. I feel ambitious.

    • @shakurwonders5216
      @shakurwonders5216 3 года назад +1

      Cole, thanks for naming that, like when u re not fapping and watching porn. U really remember there are many stuff to adress and goals to acomplish.

  • @vblack8043
    @vblack8043 3 года назад +9

    "What you eat is what you will become" Cole Hastings. Stay 💪

  • @germansniper5277
    @germansniper5277 3 года назад +78

    Day 28 of NoFap: I have unlocked Heatray-vision and can levitate up to 50centimeters, going for the full meter soon!

  • @sweepy-sb7641
    @sweepy-sb7641 2 года назад +2

    this is the wake up call I needed, Im going to do as you advised. Thank you, I really needed this

  • @markneedham8437
    @markneedham8437 3 года назад +4

    Stumbled onto this in my recommendations. Well done, son. Well done.

  • @elrondilsommo4899
    @elrondilsommo4899 3 года назад +110

    Weak men think that nofap will make them stronger or that a video will give them motivation or that an healthy lifestyle will make them feel better. Motivation comes from the inside. A strong man is a man who is motivated to live. Find yourself an hobby and you'll become a strong man.

    • @powerincarnate6783
      @powerincarnate6783 3 года назад +26

      Motivation is important yes, but in the end discipline is what creates changes.

    • @avertingapathy3052
      @avertingapathy3052 3 года назад +1

      Underrated comment

    • @uheikon1240
      @uheikon1240 3 года назад +2

      I don’t like this comment, seems pretty biased to me and that your on the other end of the spectrum just a hypothesis though ...

    • @hickle94
      @hickle94 3 года назад +3

      @@uheikon1240 He isn't shitting on nofap he is saying to guide your life not based on trends or lifestyles looking for outcomes but to live your life seeking challenges through your own deep-rooted motivation-- not what a youtuber or a forum tells you will make you stronger

    • @V0ID_beats
      @V0ID_beats 3 года назад

      thank you

  • @dwayno6696
    @dwayno6696 3 года назад +101

    Just completed 350 days nofap changed my life drastically

    • @8yo624
      @8yo624 3 года назад +35

      Dude. That's some achievement right there

    • @aceeder2
      @aceeder2 3 года назад +33

      Atta boy. I'm on day 33 right now but my longest is around 50 days. I'm done with the shit now tho fr. 1 minute of pleasure is not worth the negative effects it has on me. (Anxiety, lower motivation, lower confidence, lower energy, etc.)

    • @keotshephilegaregae1470
      @keotshephilegaregae1470 3 года назад +2

      Wow congratulations 🔥

    • @KeeganRusz
      @KeeganRusz 3 года назад +3

      King

    • @jamesfield7335
      @jamesfield7335 3 года назад +3

      How😳

  • @cristianpinto5565
    @cristianpinto5565 2 года назад +1

    Thanks bro, I was just trying to learn english and I ended up learning more things that I really need..