Just a big reminder, there's a huge possibility that no one picked their card and the org took it upon themselves to give them some things rather than nothing. ETA: almost all the orgs that do the tree thing take donations as well. They will try to match donations to cards that aren't chosen, but that isn't a guarantee, especially when you have lists asking for $500 items. The remainder, they try to find things based on age and size of the kids.
Honestly, this makes the most sense out of everything I’ve read. On one side, I’ve volunteered at food kitchens and I will say that some people are ridiculously entitled. On the other side, I know how badly it stings when you get something you didn’t ask for, because it feels like they weren’t listening to you at all. The mom’s feelings of frustration are valid. But ultimately, you need to swallow your pride and be grateful for what you do get. Should she have made a video? Probably not
As someone who got angel tree as a kid I can tell you I was ecstatic for anything that I got. I remember one year for Angel tree I got the holes movie and a pair of jeans. I never had a pair of jeans before, it was so exciting. Also I asked for Holes because it was one of my favorite movies and i couldnt believe they actually got it for me. That was like 20 years ago and i still think about how nice of a thing a stranger did for me.
Same. A kind lady even wrote me a letter and took me out to get cloths to make sure they fit and it was what I wanted I told her it was ok ... but she insisted. I got a back pack school supplies shoes new cloths and was just so great full. I baked her cookies as a thank you cuz I felt like she did just too much for me. But i was greatful. I stayed in touch with her for years and she came to my graduation. People who do the angle tree are so wonderful ... I can not beleave people are gonna be so ungrateful about help from someone like this.
@@veronicamarrs exactly I live in the hood one of the worst in North America if she really needed Anything for Her children Anything would do ! Beggars shouldn’t be choosers old saying but it sticks in my books maybe next year get your kids to do a paper route snow shovel for neighborhoods that way they can learn to work for what they want instead of relying on strangers cheap shit. Their cheap and class less
@@carolinehead8165 my family was SUPER poor growing up and my mom and dad made sure we always had something to open on christmas, from dollar tree or not, even if we didn’t have a tree to open them under. those are still some of my favorite christmas memories, even when we were struggling.
So I work at a pretty good dollar tree, and I will say we actually have some decent toys for cheap. We have some nice stuffed animals, Barbie's, and even pokemon cards. I feel like it's a little shamey to insist the dollar tree toys are complete trash.
I don't think she was meaning everything at the Dollar tree is trash. Everybody knows that there are items that people call Dollar tree items that are trash. Those are the items she's talking about. Not every single thing that comes from Dollar tree.
Right? I actually work in early childcare and I made myself a goal to see how I could shop for the community even on a budget- I GASPED at how much good stuff I found in a dollar tree- they had playdoh for $3-5, grab a few cookie cutters, boom.
6:21 this lady is pissing me off! Ive seen angel/giving tree lists that had items like brand new Jordan's, gaming consoles, electric bikes. Tags like that generally sit there and never get picked and THEN the organization running the program substitutes those items with age appropriate items instead...so those children don't get ANYTHING from the list. My boss does a giving tree every year. Several years in a row he spent HUNDREDS out of pocket to buy gifts for the children whose tag hadn't been selected. Programs like this are intended to *assist* in someone's time of need, not provide the entire Christmas.
Exactly and she goes on about how hard the economy is yet expects people to buy expensive gifts for people they’re only trying to help because they may not get anything at all… does she think the rich people are the ones doing Angel Tree?? She is delusional and maybe she she should look at her own advice and not berate people who are also struggling but still trying too help
Exactly. If they're doing Dollar Tree shopping, it doesn't necessarily mean they think kids deserve trash, it could mean they're struggling too but have it a little better than you do and want to help in any way they can. Also from experience, younger kids don't notice if you're giving them Hot Wheels from dollar stores. One Christmas my sister was given a 50 cent playset from our great great grandmother for Christmas and we all were in disbelief that she was having way more fun playing with that than all the expensive gifts.
The entitlement has gotten absolutely out of this world. Honestly, this and seeing people defending the entitlement, has completely turned me off this program. I don't understand people saying put the tag back. The angel's reasoning makes sense in a world not completely overcome by greed. Isn't it better that all 5 children receive 2 gifts than potentially all your kids receiving nothing?
The whole discussion is so crazy to me. We grew up without much money (my mom has 5 kids, my oldest brother and two twins) Christmas was always on a budget but we always got stuff that made us really happy. Even little trips to the one dollar/euro stores was so much fun - we bought colorful papers and scissors for crafting, whool, glue, pencils, clay... As a kid I never thought about the prices of stuff, only if it made me happy and if it was fun. I bet the kids were really happy with the presents!
I dont agree with shaming the mother, but saying that these are dollar tree crap is ridiculous. Spalding, for instance, isn't cheap. Clothing isn't cheap. If we start making the angel tree an elitist program for clout, only the children lose because people will stop doing it.
assshhh is 100% wrong. Winter jackets at the Dollar Tree? No. Spaulding at the Dollar Tree? No. The OG mother had three kids, not married and with not the same father. She did fail her kids by not picking responible men.
You can’t find those underwear at Dollar tree you definitely can’t find those basketball and football at Dollar tree you can’t find those boots at Dollar tree can’t find that jacket at dollar tree what the hell is this woman talking about?
I love how she plays Robin Hood and fights for people who cannot pay for gifts but then calls actual normal gifts "dollar tree sh*t". That actually comes off as someone who is entitled. I, of course, do not know how much money she has, but those are normal middle-class gifts...
@@notimportant123also, I WOULD buy gifts from the dollar store. Many of us do. And I have more money now. What’s wrong with the dollar store? Especially for crafty stuff.
Also, like literally no one said those kids deserve less because they came from less? Most people are calling out the mom for being ungrateful for bashing a program that was created to help kids have a nice Christmas and bash people who spent their hard earned money out of the kindness of their own heart to buy absolute strangers gifts. Little miss robin hood wannabe pulled that sentence out of thin air just to play hero.
I can see both sides, but as someone who grew up with absolutely nothing, opening dollar store toys was a highlight. Not to mention, the toys she received were not dollar store! They were nice fun things!
I agree! Dollar store stuff can be awesome, I grew up pretty poor and my mother would buy tons of dollar store stuff for my birthday every year bc it's all she could afford and I was so happy and grateful for it all, I still love going to the dollar store whenever I can
I grew up never having known of dollar tree. It's a highlight to stop in and see how I can save money for bills and food! I had a few dollar tree items in Gift bags for a bday party I decorated entirely out of pocket. I had someone make rude comments. They aren't invited over anymore 😊 @@sp8lvrr
You can occasionally get some really neat stuff from dollar stores. Like the Final Faction action figure series which is honestly kind of decent quality figures with some nice accessories for them.
My allowance when i was a kid was one $2 toy or two $1 toys from the dollar tree. I remember once i even got a licensed pokemon figurine. It was a blast, I loved going there.
Who cares where it came from? Its not anyrhing the kids wanted but it's also not anyrhing they * needed * nor can use any time soon (clothes being too big) so that again, ties back into "if you cant get the things listed then pick a different one or dont participate" (especially the needs, like the correct sized clothing) hope this helped lol @anpdgbe
Bro all I get for Christmas is dollar tree stuff I’m a parent. Christmas is about the kids, it’s never been about what kind of gift you chose to get someone it’s supposed to be about the sentiment of getting them something because you care.
I like how she was like "omg dont shame the mom" and just went on to shame anyone that got their kids gifts from dollar tree this year cuz they couldnt do anything else....have a taste in my mouth, idk what it is, feels kinda irony?
For that second shopper (who bought for 5 kids) wouldn't it be wild if she only grabbed one ticket and then only one kid got gifts that year? And by the sounds of it, pretty high ticket items? Seems unlikely that anyone was going to buy that family EVERYTHING if she bought less than half and spent $300.
Seriously, I think what would solve this is a rule of one gift or two but price cap. Who wants to feel in a charitable mood only to walk up to a tree with only 5 families left all asking for 25 gifts resulting in none and a person who would have donated now feeling insecure they can’t fund the whole so they all get nothing
Her whole list would’ve been like $600, that’s insane. That would be $100 a kid including $100 for the mom. All those people saying “you should’ve bought the whole list” a) have never done angel tree, that’s not how it works, people will buy one or two items then someone else. There has never been a “whole list” thing, it literally says you don’t buy the whole list and for receivers not to expect that. B) would def not give $600 for some stranger c) are also entitled, delusional, and ungrateful apparently.
That woman did the best she could and people said if you couldn’t afford it don’t take it. Well then most likely those kids would have gotten random stuff from the donation bin or nothing at all. She got them specific things they wanted even a 50$ game
There used to be a suggested amount (I think it was only $25). If the one lady saw it posted days later, odds are her kids wouldn’t have been picked at all.
@@kx_xxTHIS. Each kid had 3 items on their list and she bought 2 out of 3 for each child. It has NEVER been required to buy the whole list. She did amazingly, as most people buying for that many siblings will buy ONE item from each list. The fundy housewives who hover around Ash in their demented little bubbles haven’t a clue what they’re talking about.
My family was the recipient of gifts from an angel tree when I was a teenager because my mother was a single parent without child support and going through metastatic cancer treatment. She worked as much as she could at a local hospital but we were struggling. We were grateful for ANYTHING that was gifted. Even as a teen I knew the struggle that my mom went through and how much she wanted us to still have a good Christmas and looking back I get teary eyed because of how grateful I still am.
I’m sorry for what you and your mom and your family went through. I was shocked to know how often fathers refuse to work a legit job so they don’t have to pay child support- I thought it was almost all working dads who refused or failed to pay (I don’t know your situation, so forgive me). It had to be incredibly difficult to ask, but your mom wanted her kids to have a decent Christmas (now I’m tearing up!). EDIT: I saw from another comment your mom passed. I’m so sorry.
Amen. I was a struggling mother with a husband. We only had one income because of my health. And growing up I got coloring books and crayons and was so happy. Its how you tea h your children imo about how they usually react. My mom even cried one year because it was a year they couldn't afford anything except crayons and coloring books. She cried because I was the happiest that year about the coloring book. I loved it. Something in me made me so happy that year over it. My sister was old enough to understand but I wasn't. And it is still my most memorable Christmas ever
I definitely agree! We had a very similar situation. My Mom wasn’t a single parent but my Dad had to be the only one driving all us kids until some of us got older and he had to take my mom to all of her appointments, study’s and other stuff. I don’t understand people who are ungrateful for what others give them.
Same here; I grew up in a very similar situation, also with a single mom with health issues including cancer and no child support. We were both so grateful to receive ANY help, and honestly just seeing Angel Trees being talked about hits me right in the feels because of how much it meant to both of us ❤🙏 I do see both sides, and of course Angel Tree kids don't deserve less, but that doesn't look like Dollar Tree stuff to me at all!
My mom goes to a food bank and when I was growing up we got gifts from the food bank. We were thankful and appreciate for anything. One year the local police department sponsored us and we got a ps2 along with some games. We still have it.
In the original video people were realizing the kids were asking for tablets and drones ( even the 4 month old smh 😑), most likely the ticket wasn’t picked at all when that happens the organization trows in random stuff from their leftover bin to give the kids something. That’s why she got random stuff, their ticket was not picked . Also another piece on info why the original mom was also shamed because on a recent TikTok on her account people found out she recently purchased a yorkie puppy, which made people call her out if she was really in need as she bought a puppy and they are expensive to maintain .
see this is what i was wondering esp w the one comment of “don’t take the ticket if you can’t afford it” like i get the sentiment but if you ask for expensive things, less ppl will want to take the ticket & then it ends up being on the org to fill so they’re definitely not getting what they want bc it’s mainly based of donations. i can get being disappointed if what was asked for was necessity or within reason but if the stuff received is usable & beneficial for your children & they can still have fun w the toys, i feel like it’s just kinda icky to complain online abt it. poor ppl shouldn’t have to suffer or only get scraps but also if you need to take donations, you gotta be open and grateful for what you get (as long as it’s not useless or unusable for some reason). complain to ppl in your personal life, blasting a charity online is just not it. most ppl who do angel tree including myself do our best to get exactly what they want but if the charity takes over untalented tickets, they’re doing the best they can & tablets and drones aren’t realistic for middle class ppl to purchase for charity in many cases
If she _bought_ the puppy instead of adopting one, then she deserves all the hate. When you _buy_ an animal, you're paying a premium for their breeding from a breeder who makes a profit by breeding animals, taking away some of the market for adoptions and functionally getting more animals in shelters put down. When you adopt one, you're taking in an animal that would probably otherwise die, and they cost a _lot_ less. If you just want a pet, you adopt.
@ even if it was adopted or bought ( many say bought since it was a tiny yorkie puppy, personally idk ) but it’s still somewhat irresponsible as she kept saying she was struggling a lot but brining a puppy into a situation and adding costs of care. She really digging herself into a bigger financial hole for the puppy and kids
Yeah I did the angel tree twice this year because I was finally able financially to do it and every kid all wanted something expensive like iPads and tablets. It was nuts. So I picked the little girl who wanted craft stuff and Legos and science kits
@@Bacteriophagebspurchasing the puppy will be the cheapest part of owning it. The vet bills for a puppy, even just routine shots, are astronomical. She bought a designer dog, not a shelter pup, and now will be out hundreds and hundreds in the first year just to get it vaccinated and fixed. But I have a suspicion she will end up breeding it for money.
For the ones saying "if you can't buy everything on the ticket don't pick it" Do you tell the kids Santa couldn't get every item on your list so you get nothing????? I'd rather my child get something off their list vs nothing at all that's insane and I understand why less people participate.
And the orgs don't even let the kids have nothing. They try to match donations to the unfulfilled cards. If they can't, they match to age and size, which very much could have been this situation with how generic (not in brand just in general like boys like sports balls) and uniform the gifts were.
The problem is that if you take the ticket and only buy some of the stuff (or none of it and just get whatever), you're preventing anyone else from getting that kid the stuff they actually need/asked for. Just take tickets you're willing to buy everything on, leave the rest. Or just donate to the organization. It's not difficult.
I was a foster kid at 14 and 15 and the holidays are hard enough being away from your family and your traditions, but I just did the standard list for Christmas my caseworker took and turned in. I think we were allowed to write 5 things. 5-6 I got a basketball. Which I played so that was fine. The place I lived 13 miles away from any town, didn't have a court but I could still practice. And a pack of crew socks. When you get in foster care you get a clothing voucher and it's for the basics so I had clothes. Walmart clothes but everything from socks to coats. So to get socks kinda sucked then in our stockings (I lived with 4 otheren girls) were two candy canes, two candy canes with other candy in them and a pack of hair tires and a brush, toothbrushes toothpaste and deodorant. Deo did suck BCS as a teen who plays sports you need a good one and it was always a cheap one that didn't work for me. 😂 That really sucked. It was one of the most depressing Christmas I ever had, after child abuse of course, and now I how crazy overboard for my kids. I was a teen mom and I bust my butt and go broke every year and can't stop. I try I say limits and budgets, but I think it's because of the crappy gifts from "angels" that made me this way and it's been 20 years. I still remember it vividly. Kids don't need everything on their list, some are better than none, but stuff you get free from a pantry shouldn't be included
I didn’t know until today there was foster care tree. Our granddaughter Everly. Her Mom was in foster care system. So this is something I would love too do. You deserved great Christmas. Adults who were supposed to provide with the things you needed and also wanted. Didn’t do what they should done. That is their fault not yours. Please know you were good kid. Who needed to be safe and loved. With the extra things that kids take for granted. Including my own child.
@@Bacteriophagebs You're not entitled to 100% of everything on the list. The org even tells you not to expect all of it. If no one takes the tag, there's a chance they get nothing on the list because they got some random toy donated to the organization instead since they couldn't find anything close enough. You shouldn't take the tag if you can't afford literally anything on the list, but at the same time, it's meant to be a wishlist, not a shopping list. If a kid asks for new shoes, a toy car, and a brand new Playstation 5, are you going to refuse to get him anything because you can't afford a PS5 for some random kid, or are you going to get him the shoes and a car so that he at least has something? What if one of the items is that year's hit item and it's impossible to find for that reason? Does that kid get nothing because the trendy toy is unavailable, or does she get the two items on the list that are easier to find? There aren't that many people that actually donate to these programs anymore because almost all of us are struggling now and can't afford it, so you should take what people can give and be grateful instead of throwing a tantrum that your five kids only got two items each instead of three.
6:34 it’s disgusting how out of touch people can be! Does this woman not know that many people go to dollar tree to buy presents…. Might not be the most ideal spot for some but it’s what other can afford. She said “you don’t know someone’s situation” so why judge the person trying to do something good? Imagine for the first time they have a little extra money to help others and did their best with the gifts for the angel tree. This woman’s mindset is disgusting
Thank you. I was always taught to do for others no matter what my situation was. There was a Christmas when I bought my son dollar tree toys to make it look more full under the tree. AND I also bought extra ones to donate to a toy drive. I would have burst into tears if I saw this video 20 years ago when my son was little and I was a struggling single mother!
Exactly. She’s wildly out of her mind. Going on about it “IN THIS ECONOMY?!” Then screeching about how it’s perfectly fine to be ungrateful despite people opening their wallets to help IN THIS ECONOMY
Yeah I don't know her situation but I been broke before too but I sure didn't complain when I was getting help. There was a couple of Christmases my small kids only got 2 or 3 cheap gifts but I made it up in other ways like baking or Christmas crafts.
@@Karmaisabreez beggars can’t be choosers. As a mother if I couldn’t afford Christmas for my kids the LAST thing I’d do is get online to complain about how “cheap” the gifts are… if it wasn’t for those cheap gifts the kids would probably have nothing. I’d 1000% prefer a tree full of dollar tree toys than to wake up to my mom crying because she couldn’t put shit under the tree herself.
This woman defending the mother complaining about the angel tree gifts is out of her mind…. Those gifts were not “dollar tree bullshit.” Also, that woman had 5 kids and someone bought gifts for all 5 of her kids, including a $50 game her 12 year old wanted. If you are using the angel free you should be grateful for anything you receive! Someone spent their hard earned money on YOUR children.
100% . i mean. you are getting free items. not from a corporation or something. but from average working people just like you. its not rich people going into these salvation armys and goodwills. it's average, working class people who couldve spent the extra money on their own kids but chose to give back. its the old saying. beggars cant be choosers.
$300 and still not enough, like I'm starting to see one possible reason this family is now on hard times and needs an angel tree: perpetually living beyond their means.
I'm sorry, but what??? If something's on their list GET THAT not something else. if you can't, PUT IT BACK. Clearly they cannot get these things themselves.
@@ollie37461) these are wants not needs, specifically wanting a brand when you can’t afford it and being mad when someone got you the same thing but not branded is so entitled 2) her ticket might not have been chosen and the organisation pooled together gifts just so her kids wouldn’t get NOTHING cos their mom is a broke ass
I guess I somewhat understand the thought process of not picking the "wishlist" if you're not gonna buy everything on it, because someone else might- but that lady said she spent over $300 and got two of the three items for EACH kid😭 like yall can we be SO realistic for a second here?
Every single angel tree program I've seen, the list is to have an option of what to get. You could get everything if you want to go above and beyond. But it's more like they chose one or two so it's a surprise what the kid will get. I have never seen a Angel tree where it is expected to get everything on the list.
My friend’s grandpa is in charge of doing the Angel Tree program in our community since before we were born (so 20+ years) and something he explained to us is that because we live in a small town there won’t always be enough gifts to go around, some people will buy everything on the list and more, some people will buy the things they think are “essential”, some people will buy strictly what’s on the list etc. you get the point but what they then do is take everything out get a real list of all families and kids and divide things evenly among them so each kid gets a gift and some winter items and maybe a treat because the priority is that every single child gets something. I understand the parents being disappointed with what they are given, I understand wanting your kids to have the most amazing Christmas gifts it’s completely valid but the unfortunate fact is that at the end of the day this is a charity and they have to ration what they have and with this economy less and less people are able to afford to give to others. Controversial but nobody is entitled to anything from the others, you are not entitled to a free gift for your child it’s literally charity someone did it to be kind and a lot of work, time and money goes into the angel tree program so I encourage everyone who is able to give anything to do it even if you can’t afford everything on the list.
Wait a minute now, we are not allowed to shame the mom who can’t provide Christmas for her kids but it’s ok for her to shame the people who donated gifts with their hard earned money? Please make that make sense. Or wait don’t, I will never understand that type of stupidity
Some people here claiming how unfair it is to not get the exact item requested. Consumerism is really rotting their brains. They still got free gifts, is it’s such an issue the mom can still try to get other items on her own.
One person was saying how unfair it was to call the mom out, and how situations change etc. Another commented that the original list posted was for drones and tablets. Apparently a 4 month old baby needed them too. It was noted that her list wasn't picked up so the angel tree people probably chose instead. I get disappointment, but to actively bag the people who are helping you because they can doesn't sit right with me.
@@DoritoBot9000and if I'm not mistaken, the list is idea's of the kids likes, hobbys etc. It's not a damn guarantee. It's insane how so many children are being taught to be entitled to other's people's money's, or things just cuz they want it. I wanted a dragon when I was 6. Santa's fat ass never brought it for me, I survived and thrived tho, just the same😂
I think buying all 5 kids 2 things is a good idea because what if only 3 or 4 of the tickets got chosen by other people? Then one kid has nothing. I saw on instagram someone I follow show that a kid asked for a bed. She was so heartbroken that that was what they asked for. She ended up reading out to the organization to make sure it would be okay to buy the bed and then took donations to get the child a new mattress, bed frame, pillows and sheets.
Yeah, the way she shared the story, she made it seem like she had bought items from the lists, just not every item. Since when are you supposed to buy every item on the lists?? Even parents don’t buy their kids every item on their kids’ christmas lists. The kids are getting what they asked for, so idk why people are being so entitled as to tell the woman to “not pick up the tickets.” Um. It’s entirely possible that no one would pick up the tickets, then the kids would be left with nothing
@@roselolagne6642okay and even if it is from the 5below? as someone who was a recipient from the angel tree, you cant ask then be greedy. people are doing it out of the kindness of their heart. some people do the best they can to be helpful with what money they have left. then when stuff isnt picked the organization takes up the rest of them.
The stuff the mom complained about her kids getting from Angel Tree looks a lot like the haul I have for my kids this year 🙃😬 Commercialism has ruined Christmas
And I bet your haul cost you a pretty penny that you sacrificed &/or worked for... so this mother is now shaming you & other parents as well, all over some beautiful & amazing presents.
First of all, that is NOT dollar tree stuff. Second of all, why is it bad if someone bought some stuff from dollar tree? Depending on the location you go to, there are perfectly respectable toys. Just because they're cheap, doesn't mean they're incapable of bringing joy to children. So obnoxious, that lady mentioning the economy and then basically shaming budget options 🙄
I’m with you on the entitlement part, but a lot of toys (and products, in general) that come out of Dollar Trees and the like ARE basically poisonous trash. You know which ones I’m talking about; not typically the ones you can also get at the big box store. A kid will still like them, but parents should be extra scrupulous where safety is concerned. And obviously, the true onus _should_ be on the companies that sell these things, and not on struggling parents or charitable gifters.
@@YellaBellaRenoah trust the crunchy mums to come through with misinformation like this to scare parents into overspending on toys made in the same Chinese factories that are supposedly "poisonous". Just because it's beige doesn't make it better.
because the toys at dollar tree AREN'T just as good. if a little girl is asking for a barbie and you go to dollar tree they aren't real barbies, they feel different, they move different and they break. if you need to shop budget you should not be taking the angel tree tickets. it proves you aren't doing it for the kids but are doing it to make yourself feel good.
@@princessofjedi i wasn't talking about budget options for the Angel tree stuff. She was shaming budget options in general. That's the issue I took with it. Obviously if someone doesn't have disposable income they shouldn't be taking the lists on the tree
@@rebeccaw2300 Misinformation? Look it up, Rebecca; You have the internet at your disposal. Whatever crunchy, beige mom you’re mad at, it ain’t me. I’m a disabled, childfree woman who relies solely on the charity of others to stay off the street. Although, you bring up another good reason not to buy those toys. Many of them _are_ indeed made by children in shitty factories.
My mom use to wrap tampons, shaving cream, batteries, & other common household items with Christmas paper & put them under the tree so we had something to open at Christmas. It was beyond depressing to open an item with excitement, only to see a box of tampons. So anyone complaining about ACTUAL gifts can shove it, it could be so much worse without the kindness from strangers.
@@elleash3040 Honestly shaving cream, batteries, not bad gifts for adults, still best not to wrap them though. tampons... not so much, to have to also be reminded your going to have a terrible time when you use them or opening them in front of family, doesn't seem like the best choice.
@@Parasolhyena when you are 13, a wrapped box of tampons is awkward af. Especially unwrapping it in front of her boyfriend & his weird smile on his face..but that family drama is a whole other story. as an adult, I’d be stoked to get any present from family. This year I decided to wrapped a few items I recently bought, so I can have a Christmas morning lol. Felt dumb doing it, but it’s nice to see some presents 🎁
@@C3LaLa don’t feel dumb! Why? Who better to take care of you, than you? I will be sending you all my love tomorrow morning. Love yourself out loud! It all starts with you. Sorry to be cheesy but I can relate to being alone ❤️ I sincerely hope you have a merry Christmas and happy new year! I’m ready for 2025!
@@C3LaLa and that does sound awkward for being 13 absolutely mortifying when you said she had a boyfriend there too! You deserve the gifts you got yourself ❤️
Yes. I saw the one where the mother put her baby's clothing size as 6 mons to 12 mons and she got 12 mons to 18 mons and cried because that means her baby will have clothes for next six months and she won;t have to worry about it.
@@MashaRistova Ash is a disingenuous clout chaser. Acting like she was worried about $. Those kids probably have at least one set of grandparents, a mom in a NICE house whose not only "getting his last pay check" But she will get a DIC check, and a SS check for herself and SS on any kids she had with him. Not to mention the 6 figure insurance policy the military has. All that money she doest have to hit the bricks for....how many angels tags do you think she pulled?
4:09 the sizing up comment is TOO TRUE. I know MANY who do that for this very reason. It’s called looking out for THEIR kids’ futures as well the best they can…
@ I do understand that logic, but at the same time, arguably/imo, I would think it’d be a much better option to have to wear shoes too big for them for 6 months/until they grow into them, & having the same pair for a longer term, as opposed to getting shoes that fit instantly, but that they inevitably grow out of in about 6 months, & suddenly needing another new pair, because their feet physically cannot fit into the shoes any longer. As in, although sizes too big may not be the most comfortable or even just annoying to have to walk in, you can always make a pair *too big* work & last a whole lot longer than any size(s) too small to fit into.
it is so out of touch to complain about strangers buying YOUR kids Christmas presents. as a parent that is your responsibility and to complain about people buying stuff for you out of the kindness of their heart is wild. that mom is so ungrateful.
Some people do ask for expensive electronics and other expensive items. It is possible that the children of the first mom asked for things/brands that were too expensive so their tags weren’t chosen and the Salvation Army did what they could with the donations they received for “forgotten angels”.
In the original video we actually did saw what the kids ask for , her two sons asked for tablets and a drone ( even her four month old baby ask for tablet and a drone) that made people call her out because what does a 4 month old need a drone and tablet for ? Her daughter also asked for a tablet and a lol doll. Most likely it wasn’t picked and got random donation bin stuff
It’s entirely possible! I did one last year that was “adopt an elf” for low income families in the school district. I’m not kidding when I say on the last day to turn in gifts there were thousands of elves that never got picked. And yes, they had wishlists like “phone, tablet, laptop” which is realistic of what a kid might want at that age. But is also not something most people are in the financial position to gift. It’s unfortunate, but a real outcome that those kids might’ve gotten kicked some obligatory dollar tree gifts instead of anything they requested.
For me.. it’s the creating an account and going online to complain feels wrong and entitled. I don’t think the question is whether or not the angel tree giver was wrong or the mom should or shouldn’t be disappointed. What was she hoping to accomplish? There wasn’t a specific company or person she was complaining to seeking resolution. I wonder if she was hoping it would lead to a donation, gift, or GoFundMe.. something of the sort.
100%. She was determined to get fresh charity donations to her “liking”. She failed to make a proper complaint to the company or charity running the Tree scheme, so she can’t have been that bothered.
An old friend of mine would sign up for all of these gift giving charities and return everything for cash. It soured me for a few years before I felt my time, money, and donations was going to someone who appreciated it. I’m just going to donate cash from now. Let the organization deal with ungrateful recipients.
Ok the blonde lady isn’t hearing herself. In this economy when we can barely keep the lights on the tree turned on, BE THANKFUL FOR DOLLAR TREE SHIT because it’s that or NOTHING. You tell me which is actually going to be upsetting to kids.
I've always thought the list was like giving a few options. At least where I live, everybody usually buys 1 of the items (maybe 2 if its in their budget), but its not expected 2 buy everything
Yes they tell you when youre picking that you don't have to buy every single item, and they tell the ones filling out the tickets to also not expect every single item. I'm sure that it is very normal. But if you get something, at least have it on the list
Right? Seeing people say you have to buy the whole list is so confusing- when did that become a thing? Where I live I’ve always seen it portrayed as you giving the child some clothes, shoes and then one item off of their list. Even then, the clothes and shoes aren’t needed but people still like adding them in.
i also understood its like writing a list to Santa (which funnily Ash said), u make a huge list and hope u recieve something from the list, not the whole list
@@tkbliftime9730some people get their kids everything they ask Santa for and I think that’s where the problem comes in. If you fall on hard times and in the past Santa has given them everything they ask him for how do you explain to them that he didn’t this year. It’s hard because people don’t want to spoil the magic for their kids, personally I think it’s better to never set the precedent that Santa gets you everything you want or all the best/most expensive gifts.
I don't understand why people are shaming that disney mom because she literally spent $300 on five children and only that amount, as though it's not a lot of money. $300 is still $300, and it might mean a lot more to some people than to others. She didn't even have to get two of the three items for each child, but she did because she wanted those kids to have great Christmas. I wonder if any of those commenters against her would even spend that much on their own children and what their budgets are for Christmas every year just for presents alone.
What exactly was on her request angel? As someone who has helped pass out purchased angel tree items to the parents who requested it, nothing is more disheartening than seeing adults complain about not liking the gifts especially if the angel only said "clothes and toys for x age" or with requests that only say something like "ps5". Yes, people will list only expensive items.
In the original video, her two sons wanted a tablet and drone, her daughter tablet and a lol doll. People got really sus when they saw the baby wish list was listed as drone and a tablet . This made people suspect the mother of maybe trying to resell the items because there no way a four month old would play with a drone.
Idk why everyone thinks you suppose to or it’s required to buy everything on the list. That’s insane you know how many less ppl would do this if that was the case?! This is something I googled in 2 seconds….
I am disgusted by people that use the angel tree where I live and throw over 1/2 the stuff their kids get away because it's not what they asked for/wanted. My husband ran 22+ apartment units and the dumpster after Christmas was always disgusting. The salvation army tags would be on stuff still.
And that's why you should get what's on the list. What's the point of getting something if it's not something your child will use or play with? Should they just keep everything in the closet unused, so people don't see them throw it away even if it's never going to be touched? You just reinforced why it is so very important to follow these lists.
Not everyone who participates in the Angel Tree program is rich. I do kind of agree that if the Angel tree request is out of your budget then pick a different one. At the same time, if your child needs shoes and someone buys your child shoes, don't be upset that those shoes aren't the $300 name brand shoes they might have asked for. If your gift requests are higher end and unrealistic then you're missing the entire point of the program. I was a recipient of a program similar decades ago when I was a struggling single Mom who didn't receive child support. I made sure my son wasn't asking for insanely expensive stuff in the first place, and we were extremely thankful for what he got. If you're truly struggling you wouldn't be turning your nose up at Walmart quality when you are actually on a dollar tree budget.
Ash or whatever her name is, clearly hasn’t been in a dollar tree. What dollar tree is selling shoes, Spaulding, boots, winter coats?! I think what the kids got was more than generous, and I personally know some kids that would be so happy with that. God why are people so ungrateful!? I didn’t agree with saying the mom did the kids dirty, but that’s about all I don’t agree with
the whole thing puts a bad taste in my mouth. i get how much we want to go above and beyond for our family during this time, but i also think shaming anyone for not spending more of their own money to spoil children that aren't their own, saying you were "done dirty" when there's still a bunch of angels that are never getting touched, is distasteful. you don't have to be grateful for it, but just seems like a weird take for them broadcast that in such an entitled way? i don't know. it's hard to put into words really.
Actually the OG mom kids were likely not picked . When that happens the organization gets random stuff from the donation bin, which is most likely what happened.
@@clarissagarcia4789 exactly! my family wasn't well off when i was younger, but i remember times my niece and i would be our most creative when shopping around the dollar store. sometimes, i think adults put far too much emphasis on things rather than moments when it comes to kids who are small. i might not remember the toys bought or what exactly caught our eyes when there, but i remember the moments thereafter far more fondly.
@@kimberlycolunga8559 which means they were using whatever donation money and additional gifts others purchased in order to give her children a christmas they wouldn't have otherwise had? i understand what you mean though --- that ultimately, she wasn't given the items she specifically asked for on her angel --- but it comes off even more entitled when considering those were gifts that wouldn't have otherwise been under her tree. i guess i feel like at a time like now, when everyone is in some sort of financial bind, if she's really that upset at what she got, she should return it as a donation so another family could receive it with a more gracious, thankful heart.
As someone who only had Christmas presents due to angels, this is upsetting. I cannot imagine not just being grateful. My angel took me shopping at 13. I was a little chubby, so i only got to shop in the Old Lady section. It sucked, but i SUCKED IT UP because I was appreciative someone just took the time for my sibling and I. Those who receive just because will never know what its like to be SO poor you NEVER see your parents and yet? Cannot get by. its unfathomable for children, especially if you live in a RICHHH area. Like, 9,000sqft homes. they all moved here a few years after we did. it changed everything
Yesssss!!! My family was the recipient of a tree thing like this from a family friends’ workplace while my single parent mom was dying from cancer because she was a single parent and unable to do anything for christmas one year. We were grateful for anything that came to us!
This is basically saying poor children and foster children should just be grateful to be given things they didn’t want. It can actually be a let down for these kids who are being thrown around in the system.
When i was homeless they had a similar program for teens and i asked for skateboarding stuff I didn’t get exactly what i wanted but i got the stuff i asked for. It’s impossible to get exactly everything for people you will never meet but also in this economy.
@ “in this economy” is a terrible excuse. If they can’t afford it they should leave it for someone who can. It’s one thing to get things that match what was asked for but not the name brand and another to just get whatever you think they should get.
The if you can buy all the things don’t take all 5 tickets only do a few. Soo…buy for a few of the kids in the household and take the chance that someone else does or…they go without? She was thinking as a mother making sure all of them got something. FFS🤦🏼♀️ ignorance is an epidemic these days.
My kids are grown and I saw the toy box at my local dollar tree so I bought a $5 Sorry board game and put that in the bin. I saw the girl behind me roll her eyes when I did this but I let it go and took my purchases to my car. I heard some raised voices as I was leaving but paid it no mind. Once in the parking lot, I see the girl come out with and she hurried to her car and left fast. The store manager came out behind her and was mad. She then tells me how that girl was saying if I couldn't buy nicer stuff then why bother. It made me feel bad so I chose not to do that anymore cuz I couldn't afford the more pricey ones.
Your kindness is truly appreciated. That 5$ Sorry board game could mean the whole world to many families. Please don’t let snobby people dim your light or the light you bring to others
Do NOT let that make you feel bad at all!! You didn’t have to take your $5 and purchase anything at all but you did out of the kindness of your heart. The lady talking mess should’ve pitched in and bought a few things herself since she is so passionate about it.
I had to use toys for tots for my kids. It happens and some people genuinely can’t help the financial position they’re in. My kids LOVE board games. We always try to get them board games. When I picked up my kids toys for tots presents and saw Chutes and Ladders and Guess Who in the bag, I admit that I cried because of how grateful I was. Tradition didn’t die because of the kindness of a stranger. Don’t let people convince you that your kindness isn’t enough or goes unnoticed because it doesn’t. Thank you for being a giving person.
I looked at an angel tree last year that was in the lobby of a hospital and most of it said earbuds for iPhones. None of it was something I could actually pick up
That ash girl is so out of touch those hot wheels cost 10 dollars . And that American football cost 20 dollars. I was so upset when she posted that video.
To all the people that are saying "if you don't get exactly what was on the list then don't get it." It's this attitude that caused our local angel tree to have 20 angels left on it, which would've been 20 kids that instead of getting anything at all, would've gotten nothing if it wasn't for my dad and I throwing what little extra cash we had together to get them something. Now I know it's different wherever you are, but most of the kids around here barely have food to eat, barely have parents that are in their lives, and as bad as it sounds, they're doing better than most. The angel tree is for people who would be grateful for any help whatsoever, not so people could complain because they didn't get everything that they asked for. Like the one I grabbed, it was a 7 year old girl. Didn't ask for any toys, just wanted clothes and 2 books.... I didn't have much extra cash on me and it even cut me short a little bit but I bought her some toys and a fluffy patterned throw blanket. And I can promise you I would never do anything close to that again if I had people telling me that I did charity wrong
Okay here is my story: I did not do angel tree but my child's school offered basically the same set up. I'd give them a list of things for my kids (they asked for something to wear, something to read, something special) I even double checked with the school that they had all of the correct information for my kids. When the gifts finally arrived they had presents for my two younger children but not my child who goes to the school. Needless to say I was distraught by this - but not for one single second was I ungrateful. I was overwhelmingly grateful for what I had been given and started looking for ways to get my other child presents. Thankfully after talking to the school they had enough extra to help us out and for that I was EVEN MORE GRATEFUL!!!! Nobody owed my kids a Christmas but Me, I am beyond grateful to anyone and everyone who helped me give them that regardless of to what extent they could help. I grew up on Angel Tree Christmas presents and even as a kid I knew that I was Lucky to be getting gifts from strangers/schools/churches/etc. TLDR As someone in a similar position I don't believe these parents have any reason to be complaining.
^^ This part. Plus I think the gifts some of these people ask for are wholly unrealistic. Coming from someone who’s been in this situation before; You’ve got to temper your expectations. It’s ridiculous to Ask for high ticket items from strangers.
As someone who grew up poor with a mother on government assistance both with food and housing, we were grateful for ANYTHING. My mom as a person is pretty damn awful, but even she wouldn’t pitch a fit about what she received in help. So to say someone did your kids dirty because you didn’t like what you were given FOR FREE, that’s just disgusting. That’s some choosing beggars shit.
I also think the response from the woman that said that children that have less don't deserve less is ignorant af. Those kids just won't get Christmas or they will get whatever leftover gifts that were donated, and it won't match the card.
My cousin is a kindergarten teacher at a local school where I live .. she Said the teachers at her school would buy their kids in their class really good presents for Christmas to be from Santa. When school would return and they asked the kids what did they get for Christmas, those good gifts the teachers had bought them were not said, ... Those parents took the good gifts back to the store to get the money for them instead of giving them to the kids as the teachers intended..
What this mother doesn’t seem to understand is how going online to complain like this will only put others off taking Angel Tree tags in the future. I mean, why would anyone bother if what you give is blasted on tiktok for not being “good enough”! So many people want to help but can only afford certain things or give what they had at home. It’s fine to be unhappy about something but people really need to think about the wider impact of their words, especially when complaining about the kindness of strangers
Checked out an angel tree this year and everyone was asking for tablets, air pods, etc. This may be an unpopular opinion, but that’s a little ridiculous.
I feel like 90% of the people commenting “if you can’t afford everything on the list don’t pick the list up” haven’t actually done an angel tree. Do you want children not to be picked because people can’t afford everything? Growing up and being an angel I was grateful if I got one thing on my list because most of the time I didn’t. I wasn’t ungrateful if I didn’t because I knew people didn’t have to do this if they didn’t want to. At the end of the day these are normal people with some extra cash wanting to do something out of the goodness of their heart.
I think it's complicated. I don't like either side. The receiving end shouldn't expect every item on their list, especially the people asking for expensive electronics. Even one requested item from the list is one gift under the tree their child wanted that otherwise wouldn't be there. On the giving end, I absolutely despise the attitude that poor people should be happy they get anything at all. For example, I don't know if this was true or just rage bait, there was a Tik Tok about a mother taking a bunch of angel tree cards so that she and her daughter could make those kids crafts instead of acknowledging any of the items of the lists. They had turned an impoverished family's request into a crafting project. At that point, it's not about trying to help, it's about the 'giver' trying to boost their own ego and feel good about themselves. If you can't afford any items on a card, then finding a card with at least one item in the giver's budget seems like good etiquette in this situation. Otherwise, why not just donate to a charity accepting general donations?
@@lumberingdinosaur9108 I understand what you’re saying, but I’m talking about the people who get an angel but not necessarily get everything they want. I completely agree that people shouldn’t be getting an Angel if they’re not going to get anything on the list but we shouldn’t be making those who do pick an Angel and only get 2/3 of the items feel bad about it. As a parent, I don’t even get my kids everything they want from their list.
ALSO. If you can’t bear to spend a single penny on your kids but still demand a Christmas with a ton of presents, MAKE SOMETHING! A lot of simple toys can be handmade without much know how, and experiences make great gifts too!! There are a lot of fun adventures you can do for free. There is literally no excuse to be so entitled, especially when the kids were probably super happy with what they got.
As someone who has been the lead point of contact for multiple years if angel trees for foster / adopted from foster kiddos I have to say it’s mad hard. For the record when a person submits their child for an angel tree they are asked to provide a list of a few items in a variety of price categories. Not for all on the list to be bought but for the buyer to have options. Some years are so financially tough for people to buy much to help. Other years are so great we have enough to give all kids extra. Also because not every adopter of an angel can afford to spend the same amount some kids provided gifts come with a lot less than others. When this happens we would shift gifts around to ensure as equal amount value and physical as possible. There are a lot of things that could have happened to create the situation. It is such a huge task to handle angel trees so it is sad and frustrating to hear when people complain. Because I have some experience both as a person who received angel tree gifts at one point and then ran multiple years of angel trees for an organization I see everyone’s view. It’s a struggle all the way around but regardless of the struggle in today’s society a person posting a video about how cruddy it was to get those gifts makes me wonder if they did it because they are hoping the internet saves them and they get tons more because the community won’t want the kids to suffer. So many people want to go viral for something and they may have seen this as their chance.
I worked with Angel Tree program and other programs for years. You are not required to get every item on the tag. Some items are expensive and others are not available. The three items are there so you can decide which item fits into your budget, you were never meant to buy all three, if you could that was great, but you only ever had to buy one of the items. This allowed for people to take more tags and get more gifts for more children. If children had less expensive items then usually people would buy more of the listed items or if they could afford more they would buy more. But the idea was to pick one of the items that you could provide as a gift not everything.
When I grew up our "angel" was mom. We wrote lists but we never received everything on them. How do you expect more from strangers than you did from mom???
Complaining about FREE Christmas gifts for your children when you as their PARENT cannot provide for them yourself is actually peak entitlement/delusion…
A bunch of Dollar Tree BS! I’m dying 😂 Christmas is so commercialized. It’s funny too because she’s lecturing people about shaming the original mom, but she’s totally throwing shade at people who shop at Dollar Tree
The point of the tree is to get these kids what they want for Christmas. It's not a "pick a child and buy that child whatever you want because they're poor" Christmas tree. It's a "pick a list that a child has made" tree. If you aren't going to buy the items that are on the list that you yourself chose then don't do it. Find a list that is more appropriate for you. It's not fair to have a child sit and make a list of things they want for Christmas and then get nothing off of that list because some random stranger decided that they knew better.
@@MalloriaAnn I just think people should read what's on the tag and decide if they can get what they asked for. If they can't afford or don't want to get the items on the list, they should put it back. 🤷♀️
@@lostineggsaisle the lady said she did buy from their list. As someone that’s bought and received from angle tree I didn’t expect all the items and some tags sit there so I’d rather grab to the best I can then let the tag sit there and not be used. Being ungrateful for only getting 2/3 items on a WISH LIST is insane, and being rude the person who gave for not giving enough…. Even a Christmas list to parents you don’t expect everything.
When I grew up my mom was poor, and we would rely on the charity of other people to help us have a Christmas. (I did not know this as a kid) My most FAV memory of my childhood was when (apparently my mom got us adopted..."angle tree") and Santa came to our house with a big red sack. It may not have been what I wanted but it was what I needed at the time.
For real. What is that teaching the children? Even kids who come from families who aren’t struggling should be taught gratitude & to not expect outlandish gifts. It’s on parents to explain that we don’t always get exactly what we want & that’s ok. My kids are taught that if you don’t care for a gift, at least fake it and don’t have expectations. If mom is ungrateful then she’s probably passing those traits along to the kids that otherwise would be content with whatever they receive.
@@teoleno4019 some people have circumstances that dont give them that choice, or they go into poverty after already having kids when they were well off. My friend's family were able to afford kids, until the place her mother worked at shut down. Then they coulnd't. Not to mention not being able to afford christmas presents doesn't always mean you cant afford to feed kids. There's situations where people can afford the stuff they need, food water housing, but not luxeries. We don't know her deep situation, she just might not be able to afford luxeries, because her money goes towards the essentials. It's more nuanced than "poor people shouldn't have kids"
I actually agree and disagree with both Salty *and* Ash. Both of them have really good points and really bad points in their video. Salty telling the original mom that she failed her kids was a low blow because A) she knows that, she flat out said it in her original video and B) you don’t know people’s circumstances or situations. That being said, I 100% agree with Salty saying that the fact that the mom’s immidiate reaction was to go on Tik Tok and complain, put these people on blast, was wrong. In Ash’s case, I completely agree with her saying that it’s wrong to shame parents in this economy and that children who have less don’t deserve less, but her harping on about the toys being “Dollar Tree bs” really rubbed me the wrong way. Chances are, the kids who got those gifts are gonna be absolutely thrilled with them. When you’re a kid, you don’t really care about what toys cost, you care that they’re fucking toys and if the only have like 5 toys, this is 3 or 4 more toys that they didn’t have before. Ash was obviously looking at it from a parent’s perspective which, of course she was, but the way she worded it just pissed me off
Totally agree, you literally said exactly what I was thinking. It’s tough because this isn’t a black and white issue so there were valid points and not so valid ones.
Just because the mom said it, doesn’t mean she actually means it or takes it to heart 😂 especially when her first response to not getting all the items she wants is to put the anonymous donors on blast. Wouldn’t put it pass that type of mom to have put something she wanted on the list too and didn’t get so that’s why she’s upset and started whining to anyone dumb enough to believe the things she said. Keep it up and next year, no one will be willing to do angel tree anymore
Ash said it’s wrong to shame people in this economy while shaming people for buying cheap gifts for their children because PoOR CHildReN DonT DeSerVe lEsS. Like, which is it?? She is clearly out of touch. Didn’t even consider the fact that maybe the OG mom’s ticket didn’t get picked up and she was given gifts just so that her kids wouldn’t have nothing.
The second lady literally shamed other middle and lower class people who are ALSO struggling BUT choose to try to help. She's either dense or a hypocrite. 😂😂 People at most levels are struggling to maintain, struggle doesn't just belong to the poorest of the poor. I used to be homeless as a teen and I struggle just as much right now as I did then just to maintain what I have. I think these people need to get it together.
Hey, past foster kid here, use to get gifts from angel tree was always grateful for anything i got, still remember this hoodie i still have that was given to me, it was bigger than my size at the time, but i did and still do love that hoodie cause i knew someone thought of us kids and i can still use it now. I also know that there is also a thing where some angel kids do not get picked either from bad luck or requesting unrealistic things like $500 game stations, phones, handbags or drones etc, so in order for kids to at least have something to open up they will switch gifts with other donations so more than often they will give kids bigger sizes so the kids who are maybe smaller than the size of the og angel kid could also get something to open on the holiday and they can grow into even if its bigger than the requested size so that they can still at some point still use it. i am still thankful for the people who donated. Some parents forget that millionaires and the super rich aren't the ones buying for angel tree, most times its normal working class people who at one time possibly struggled and they try to give out and spread some joy since now they are in a stable enough position to do so. If you wanna donate but don't want to donate to things like angel tree or the red bucket, try reaching out to your local dcs/cps, children hospitals or local group homes to see if they have anything they might need help with cause a lot of children sometimes get place into the system days before Christmas with just the clothes on their backs and if lucky a backpack they were able to pack and the workers than have to scramble to not only find them clothing and everyday essentials but also age appropriate gifts for Christmas so that they can feel a little normal during the holiday after potentially go through something hectic and traumatic in their life. Sorry for the rambling but this situation hit me a little. I still hope all the kids have a wonderful holiday and get something to help them feel seen in a world where so many kids end up getting overlooked and a thank you to all the angel tree gifters from my younger self, I know even if they cant say it to you face to face I know a good portion of kids who are in the system and has never had a stable holiday is grateful for you taking the time to consider them and notice them.
One of the nicest Xmas things I did was go with my mom around the city and hand out some different gifts and things for people in need. There was overflowing donation bins and they sent out a message saying people could come and pick up items. My mom reached out and said we could drive around and hand out various items to people and need so they got us a list and we spent the day dropping off items all over the place. Makes me miss my mom, she died a few months ago. Going to be a quiet Christmas this year.
I'm dying. Literally, i have terminal cancer and this will be my last Xmas with my family. My grandkids are babies - 2, 18 months and 1. I bought them one small gift each. It's not about the toys or the clothes. It's about the memories I'll have for whatever is left of my life, and that my grandchildren will always be told how much i loved them and how happy they made me.
I’m so sorry this will be your last Christmas. What you said is so true what means the most to kids is the time and love their share with their family those memories will be worth more than all the presents in the world. ❤ I hope this Christmas will be full of love and hugs for your family
I was an angel tree kid one time and was so grateful for all the toys I got (didn't get anything I actually wanted but was happy to just get anything for the holidays)
I’ve been a single mom due to sexual assault. Totally on my own. Food stamps and WIC. Never applied for angel tree bc I never wanted to take from kids who really needed it. I had a whole year to work, buy stuff spread out & on sale, save money, etc. Idk why people complain for what they get….. we have plenty of time to prep. This is why we do operation shoebox. ❤
It blows my mind how many people there are agreeing that if you can't buy the best, you shouldn't buy anything for the kids. These people have completely lost the plot! I spent my entire youth living in poverty and experienced many Christmases with nothing under the tree. I would have never said if you can't give me everything I want, and the best, don't give me anything at all. These people are ruining today's youth and turning them into ungrateful, materialistic, entitled people. I can't believe people say these things without feeling an ounce of shame.
If i was in this position that i was struggling at xmas for my kids, i would be grateful for anything! Dollar tree, 2nd hand items. ANYTHING! These people out there asking for help acting entitled 🙄
This story is crazy to me because I remember the first Christmas my mom and dad split was really hard on her because she hadn’t landed a consistent job so she took us to a free clinic where we got food and met Santa. Santa tried accommodating the kids with the toys people had donated. When it came to me he gave me a Barbie I didn’t really want. But I never said anything because I was so grateful to have at least one gift under the tree. I understand wanting something different, but I also understand being grateful for what you have. Regardless, I could never imagine complaining so publicly about a miracle gift when the alternative is nothing because I’ve heard stories from children who’s tags never get picked.
People act like Christmas just sneaks up on them, like every year its on a different day. As someone who was poor as a child, poor as a young adult and a little less poor now, I save what I can throughout the year and will buy things during the year on sale. Obviously things can happen throughout the year to make that impossible but you make do with what you have. Buying a child 2 out of the 3 things they asked for is absolutely a blessing. And with people doing this crap, guarantee it will turn off people from wanting to donate again. Strangers, who have no obligation whatsoever, wanted to help someone out, dont go online to shame someones generosity.n
Yep. I would be infuriated if I used my hard earned money to help out a complete stranger and found out that they were ranting that it wasn’t enough. It’s an act of generosity and people should be touched & grateful for whatever they receive. When I’ve experienced difficult times, I’m appreciative of any well-meaning act of kindness. People who are honestly really struggling would be thankful for any sort of help & not complaining that it isn’t enough. People have the right to complain about the lack of government funded assistance for necessities. They don’t have the right to complain that strangers aren’t helping them with what they wish to have.
I had a family down the street who used to register for the Salvation Army adopt a family program every year to get presents for their kids. Then I watched them remodel the house they rented ( not owned), bought a new big screen TV and a $5000.00 Craftmatic Adjustable Bed for her and her husband.
Angel tree lists aren’t long though. All the ones I’ve seen the kids usually ask for 5 or less items or the tickets say things like “Molly is 5, she loves Barbie’s, earrings, playing with fake makeup and anything pink. She currently wears size 5t clothes and size 3 shoes.” Going through the tickets over the years I actually never seen a child ask for an iPad, PlayStation, Xbox. I mean, there’s always somebody so not saying it doesn’t happen but I’d say most fill those lists out with reasonable requests.
@@SewFloSewing the angel tree ticket I picked up this year had 3 pairs of Jordans, a pair of Nike shoes that are apparently special limited edition, and a Nike tech tracksuit. I asked if I could exchange it for another because those are way out of my price range, and they gave me one that had a gaming PC lol. The teenager lists, at least in my town, are always big ticket items every single year
When people say omg if you gonna choose it get everything I respond with . When you were a kid did Santa bring you everything on YOUR wishlist ? If not then thats what these kids gonna learn too, they can’t expect everything but these strangers making sure they have something
I've bought for the angel tree before. I consider it a wish list - NOT a list of demands that need to be met! When my kids submitted their Christmas lists to me - same thing. It's called a wish list for a reason. If you get it - cool. If not? Maybe that will give the parent room/time for a birthday present.
My wife left me, I'm living in the house that we had two incomes to pay for, now it's just me. I'm barely making it, and have to go days without eating because the bills to keep a roof over my head are more important. I won't be able to get anything for my two kids this year, I've cried so many times to the point it's turned into anger. I would take anything and be grateful for it, I'd never ever complain to the Internet for ANYTHING. I don't even want to get out of bed on Christmas because I feel like an absolute failure of a father.
I promise things will get better, you never were and never will be a failure. Your kids are grateful just to have you in good health, i’m certain of it💗happy holidays and be kinder to yourself - you’re doing your best
My suggestion would be to go to a local park or somewhere that doesn’t cost money with your kids (just make sure you all wrap up warm!). Have a day of doing fun things, making some silly crafts with pens or pencils or playing a boardgame. Christmas is about family, you are trying your best and I promise you your kids know that you’re trying your best. I wish there was someway to help.
Those babies love you ❤ You're doing your best and they will look back on this and remember it. Coming from a person who grew up in a similar experience, knowing I was so loved and given everything I could is the most amazing thing looking back on as a grown up ❤🙏
The fact that you care enough to feel like a failure means you're not a failure. Good parents do the best that they can regardless of how difficult things are. And sometimes the best you can do is just being there for your kids. In the long run, that's what they're going to remember. Hang in there.
I think the problem is wayyy too many people (on both sides) need to get a fucking diary. Like do they not have friends they can vent to? My opinion however is im a little torn. On one hand there are parents who let their kids ask for the most expensive stuff like xboxes and iPads and I've sadly seen where nobody picks up an Angel from the tree because its too expensive. I also know plenty of people who dont buy their kids everything on their Christmas list so i don't think theres anything wrong with not getting every single thing they put down. As long as its some of the things because its better than nobody picking up the angel On the other hand if you're not going to get a single thing they ask for then dont pick it up. Kids are allowed to be disappointed if they asked for a Barbie doll snd you got them a 2 Dollar knock off Barbie with no hair in the middle. All in all, all these people meed a diary.
Completely agree. There is a list on the ticket so don't take it. "Choosing beggars" yes is a thing but that shouldn't be an excuse to expect ppl to just take crap and was not listed too.
@@birichinaxox9937 I definitely agree that if what they're asking for is reasonable get it. If someone wants a Barbie doll, get them a real Barbie doll. If there's someone asking for an Xbox and you notice at your local Walmart nobody has picked up the ticket and it's close to Christmas and you just want the kid to have a Christmas so you pick it up and get something that isn't cheap but you think they will like okay. It's the parents fault for allowing them to ask for a $500 gaming system. But seriously. End of the day, none of this had to be here . Everybody needed their phones taken away because this is ridiculous.
We literally used to do this as a family until parents like this ruined it for their children. Imagine publicly criticizing people just trying to buy YOUR kids FREE Christmas gifts.
I’m laughing at the dollar tree Christmas thing bc my mom recently admitted on Christmas the years where she claimed we might have less gifts due to financing it always seemed like we had more gifts than usual. She said it was because she would stock up on dollar tree toys and clothes for us and we appreciated it every time 😂❤ I didn’t know people cared that much tbh cus as a kid I wasn’t even thinking about how expensive my gifts were. Honestly I think some of those responses really show how privileged these people really are. This Christmas I even bought some stuff from goodwill for my family to turn into something more new looking and personalized. It’s all about perspective
Ash’s video was just way off base. As others have already said, that wasn’t a dollar tree haul. Those look like good gifts. Her entire argument seems to just be based on the idea of someone buying a bunch of cheap gifts when that wasn’t the case.
It's different when you're getting donated gifts and not told to sit down and make a list of what you want. If somebody wants to pick and choose what they want to buy for less fortunate children they should just go by whatever it is they want and donate it. They shouldn't go and pick a list full of specific items and then deviate from that list, so that child has nothing that they wanted. That's not what the angel tree is for.
@@lostineggsaislebut that’s how Christmas lists work, did you get every single thing that was on your Christmas list and nothing outside of it? There’s no requirement in angel tree to get every single thing on the list or nothing at all, they encourage you to do the best you can.
I'm so glad I grew uo in a family that made a point of instilling in me that Christmas isnt about gifts. Even as a child I learned humbleness and gratefulness. This mom is ignorant and intitled. There were many years where Christmas wasnt as "bountiful" as other years. Those are the years that remind us more about what Christmas is really all about
What upsets me is that people forget that the holiday isn't meant to be about gifts. It's meant to be a celebration of love and not the material items. From what I heard on this video the mothers that did the lists for their kids expected full gifts lists. At one time those angels were meant to be one item per child, not a whole haul. The list was supposed to be a list of things the child wanted or needed and their size options and the angel buying could choose one thing or more from the list. Sometimes I feel society is becoming too greedy and less thankful for what we do have and it's situations like this that make people who can help choose not to help.
As parents we have 12 months to prepare for Christmas. I used to shop sales & tucked gifts away. It’s not about “kids who have less deserve less” no one’s saying that. it’s not a strangers job to provide for strangers kids, be grateful
No it's not but those people also choose to donate. While there are definitely ungrateful people out there, saying "we have 12 months to prepare" isn't helpful if you've been barely making the bills for that entire 12 months
How are you going to complain about FREE stuff? Seriously?!? No one HAS to buy your kids anything. My husband and I used to adopt 2 kids off the angel tree every year. I would be so hurt if the parents went on social media to complain about anything we had purchased. Unfortunately, finances have changed and for the past 4 years we haven't been able to help anymore, but dang! How absolutely ungrateful and entitled does one have to be to complain about stuff strangers take their time and money to help YOUR child? It's appalling behavior.
Wow. That second lady, Ash(?) the whispering one, is an example of the American commercialisation of Christmas and what people think of as spoiled and privileged. I'm sorry she lost her husband and all but surprised that her first thought about her children celebrating their first Christmas without their father was if she was going to have enough money to buy them "real" presents. Since when are presents from the Dollar Tree not real presents? My hard working factory mom and dad raised me before parents ever thought of asking strangers to buy "angel" presents for their kids. My mom bought some of our presents from garage sales and we knew it. No one was unhappy to be getting used things because they were new to us. We also were encouraged to round up our toys every year that we outgrew and give them to kids who were less privileged than us because back then there were no Dollar Trees or even Walmarts where we lived. And people were all grateful. The flipping audacity of these mothers. I live in Central America/Caribbean where luckily, the influence of the US consumerism isn't as terrible and children are happy with very few toys and books for Christmas with little neighborhood giveaways and things like apples and grapes are still looked at as gifts. The original mom and that second one are something else. I'm only at 9:03.
Just a big reminder, there's a huge possibility that no one picked their card and the org took it upon themselves to give them some things rather than nothing.
ETA: almost all the orgs that do the tree thing take donations as well. They will try to match donations to cards that aren't chosen, but that isn't a guarantee, especially when you have lists asking for $500 items. The remainder, they try to find things based on age and size of the kids.
thank you for pointing this out!!! I feel like the mom didn't even consider that that was a possibility.
Honestly, this makes the most sense out of everything I’ve read.
On one side, I’ve volunteered at food kitchens and I will say that some people are ridiculously entitled. On the other side, I know how badly it stings when you get something you didn’t ask for, because it feels like they weren’t listening to you at all.
The mom’s feelings of frustration are valid. But ultimately, you need to swallow your pride and be grateful for what you do get. Should she have made a video? Probably not
The person who bought the stuff made a video too. Saying she was hurt to see such a complaint.
This too! I've seen this as well and was thinking that when I saw the boots and coat.
@@shataravoltz8253 is it a new person? Because in the video, it is unclear in the if she is talking about the same card
As someone who got angel tree as a kid I can tell you I was ecstatic for anything that I got. I remember one year for Angel tree I got the holes movie and a pair of jeans. I never had a pair of jeans before, it was so exciting. Also I asked for Holes because it was one of my favorite movies and i couldnt believe they actually got it for me. That was like 20 years ago and i still think about how nice of a thing a stranger did for me.
Same. A kind lady even wrote me a letter and took me out to get cloths to make sure they fit and it was what I wanted I told her it was ok ... but she insisted. I got a back pack school supplies shoes new cloths and was just so great full. I baked her cookies as a thank you cuz I felt like she did just too much for me. But i was greatful. I stayed in touch with her for years and she came to my graduation. People who do the angle tree are so wonderful ... I can not beleave people are gonna be so ungrateful about help from someone like this.
@@Lady_Duzell What a beautiful person, what a beautiful story!
@@veronicamarrs exactly I live in the hood one of the worst in North America if she really needed Anything for Her children Anything would do ! Beggars shouldn’t be choosers old saying but it sticks in my books maybe next year get your kids to do a paper route snow shovel for neighborhoods that way they can learn to work for what they want instead of relying on strangers cheap shit. Their cheap and class less
I didn’t have too much money growing up either and I would be happy with absolutely anything too, even dollar tree toys! It’s better then nothing
@@carolinehead8165 my family was SUPER poor growing up and my mom and dad made sure we always had something to open on christmas, from dollar tree or not, even if we didn’t have a tree to open them under. those are still some of my favorite christmas memories, even when we were struggling.
So I work at a pretty good dollar tree, and I will say we actually have some decent toys for cheap. We have some nice stuffed animals, Barbie's, and even pokemon cards. I feel like it's a little shamey to insist the dollar tree toys are complete trash.
She totally looks down on people who shop at DT, which is pretty hilarious considering how mad she is about the first mom being shamed
I don't think she was meaning everything at the Dollar tree is trash. Everybody knows that there are items that people call Dollar tree items that are trash. Those are the items she's talking about. Not every single thing that comes from Dollar tree.
I love dollar tree😂
Right? I actually work in early childcare and I made myself a goal to see how I could shop for the community even on a budget- I GASPED at how much good stuff I found in a dollar tree- they had playdoh for $3-5, grab a few cookie cutters, boom.
I love treasure hunting in my local Dollar Trees. I find a lot of pretty cool things for our stockings
6:21 this lady is pissing me off! Ive seen angel/giving tree lists that had items like brand new Jordan's, gaming consoles, electric bikes. Tags like that generally sit there and never get picked and THEN the organization running the program substitutes those items with age appropriate items instead...so those children don't get ANYTHING from the list. My boss does a giving tree every year. Several years in a row he spent HUNDREDS out of pocket to buy gifts for the children whose tag hadn't been selected. Programs like this are intended to *assist* in someone's time of need, not provide the entire Christmas.
🎯🎯
Exactly and she goes on about how hard the economy is yet expects people to buy expensive gifts for people they’re only trying to help because they may not get anything at all… does she think the rich people are the ones doing Angel Tree?? She is delusional and maybe she she should look at her own advice and not berate people who are also struggling but still trying too help
Exactly. If they're doing Dollar Tree shopping, it doesn't necessarily mean they think kids deserve trash, it could mean they're struggling too but have it a little better than you do and want to help in any way they can. Also from experience, younger kids don't notice if you're giving them Hot Wheels from dollar stores. One Christmas my sister was given a 50 cent playset from our great great grandmother for Christmas and we all were in disbelief that she was having way more fun playing with that than all the expensive gifts.
14:42 i’m sorry ONLY $300???? that was my families entire christmas budget (sometimes less) for YEARS ………..
Far more than my Christmas budget the whole time my child was growing up!
The entitlement has gotten absolutely out of this world. Honestly, this and seeing people defending the entitlement, has completely turned me off this program.
I don't understand people saying put the tag back. The angel's reasoning makes sense in a world not completely overcome by greed. Isn't it better that all 5 children receive 2 gifts than potentially all your kids receiving nothing?
Literally! I was working with less for a LONG time!!
The whole discussion is so crazy to me. We grew up without much money (my mom has 5 kids, my oldest brother and two twins) Christmas was always on a budget but we always got stuff that made us really happy. Even little trips to the one dollar/euro stores was so much fun - we bought colorful papers and scissors for crafting, whool, glue, pencils, clay... As a kid I never thought about the prices of stuff, only if it made me happy and if it was fun. I bet the kids were really happy with the presents!
300 bucks when you were growing up is worth WAY more than it is today.
I dont agree with shaming the mother, but saying that these are dollar tree crap is ridiculous. Spalding, for instance, isn't cheap. Clothing isn't cheap. If we start making the angel tree an elitist program for clout, only the children lose because people will stop doing it.
I agree 100%
assshhh is 100% wrong. Winter jackets at the Dollar Tree? No. Spaulding at the Dollar Tree? No. The OG mother had three kids, not married and with not the same father. She did fail her kids by not picking responible men.
💯 💯💯💯 AGREE WIV YA IM FROM LINCOLN N MY MUM GOT TWO OFF THE TREE N DIDNT POST IT AR ALL. THEM INNOCENT KIDS
You can’t find those underwear at Dollar tree you definitely can’t find those basketball and football at Dollar tree you can’t find those boots at Dollar tree can’t find that jacket at dollar tree what the hell is this woman talking about?
Preach
I love how she plays Robin Hood and fights for people who cannot pay for gifts but then calls actual normal gifts "dollar tree sh*t". That actually comes off as someone who is entitled. I, of course, do not know how much money she has, but those are normal middle-class gifts...
such a privileged take on her part! You're ONLY supposed to buy charity gifts equal to what you'd buy your own kids? what?
Yes!! She was so hypocritical.
@@notimportant123also, I WOULD buy gifts from the dollar store. Many of us do. And I have more money now. What’s wrong with the dollar store? Especially for crafty stuff.
Also, like literally no one said those kids deserve less because they came from less? Most people are calling out the mom for being ungrateful for bashing a program that was created to help kids have a nice Christmas and bash people who spent their hard earned money out of the kindness of their own heart to buy absolute strangers gifts.
Little miss robin hood wannabe pulled that sentence out of thin air just to play hero.
She’s never been to a dollar tree in her life… 😳 and acting like receiving anything from the dollar tree is such an insult
I can see both sides, but as someone who grew up with absolutely nothing, opening dollar store toys was a highlight. Not to mention, the toys she received were not dollar store! They were nice fun things!
I agree! Dollar store stuff can be awesome, I grew up pretty poor and my mother would buy tons of dollar store stuff for my birthday every year bc it's all she could afford and I was so happy and grateful for it all, I still love going to the dollar store whenever I can
I grew up never having known of dollar tree. It's a highlight to stop in and see how I can save money for bills and food! I had a few dollar tree items in
Gift bags for a bday party I decorated entirely out of pocket. I had someone make rude comments. They aren't invited over anymore 😊 @@sp8lvrr
You can occasionally get some really neat stuff from dollar stores. Like the Final Faction action figure series which is honestly kind of decent quality figures with some nice accessories for them.
My allowance when i was a kid was one $2 toy or two $1 toys from the dollar tree. I remember once i even got a licensed pokemon figurine. It was a blast, I loved going there.
Did... did Ash watch the video? Cause her entire thesis was "dont go to dollar tree" and that stuff was NOT from dollar tree.
Yeah Ash just jumped in because it was popular and she wanted some clout
Her entire thesis was ACTUALLY "Don't get shit they didn't ask for", if you listened
@@ollie3746oh so just ignore the parts about “useless dollar tree shit” then?
Who cares where it came from? Its not anyrhing the kids wanted but it's also not anyrhing they * needed * nor can use any time soon (clothes being too big) so that again, ties back into "if you cant get the things listed then pick a different one or dont participate" (especially the needs, like the correct sized clothing) hope this helped lol @anpdgbe
Bro all I get for Christmas is dollar tree stuff I’m a parent. Christmas is about the kids, it’s never been about what kind of gift you chose to get someone it’s supposed to be about the sentiment of getting them something because you care.
I like how she was like "omg dont shame the mom" and just went on to shame anyone that got their kids gifts from dollar tree this year cuz they couldnt do anything else....have a taste in my mouth, idk what it is, feels kinda irony?
Don’t shame the mom who shamed AND insulted the stranger that bought her children Christmas gifts. Make it make sense.
For that second shopper (who bought for 5 kids) wouldn't it be wild if she only grabbed one ticket and then only one kid got gifts that year? And by the sounds of it, pretty high ticket items? Seems unlikely that anyone was going to buy that family EVERYTHING if she bought less than half and spent $300.
Seriously, I think what would solve this is a rule of one gift or two but price cap. Who wants to feel in a charitable mood only to walk up to a tree with only 5 families left all asking for 25 gifts resulting in none and a person who would have donated now feeling insecure they can’t fund the whole so they all get nothing
Her whole list would’ve been like $600, that’s insane. That would be $100 a kid including $100 for the mom. All those people saying “you should’ve bought the whole list” a) have never done angel tree, that’s not how it works, people will buy one or two items then someone else. There has never been a “whole list” thing, it literally says you don’t buy the whole list and for receivers not to expect that. B) would def not give $600 for some stranger c) are also entitled, delusional, and ungrateful apparently.
That woman did the best she could and people said if you couldn’t afford it don’t take it. Well then most likely those kids would have gotten random stuff from the donation bin or nothing at all. She got them specific things they wanted even a 50$ game
There used to be a suggested amount (I think it was only $25). If the one lady saw it posted days later, odds are her kids wouldn’t have been picked at all.
@@kx_xxTHIS. Each kid had 3 items on their list and she bought 2 out of 3 for each child. It has NEVER been required to buy the whole list. She did amazingly, as most people buying for that many siblings will buy ONE item from each list. The fundy housewives who hover around Ash in their demented little bubbles haven’t a clue what they’re talking about.
My family was the recipient of gifts from an angel tree when I was a teenager because my mother was a single parent without child support and going through metastatic cancer treatment. She worked as much as she could at a local hospital but we were struggling.
We were grateful for ANYTHING that was gifted. Even as a teen I knew the struggle that my mom went through and how much she wanted us to still have a good Christmas and looking back I get teary eyed because of how grateful I still am.
I’m sorry for what you and your mom and your family went through.
I was shocked to know how often fathers refuse to work a legit job so they don’t have to pay child support- I thought it was almost all working dads who refused or failed to pay (I don’t know your situation, so forgive me).
It had to be incredibly difficult to ask, but your mom wanted her kids to have a decent Christmas (now I’m tearing up!).
EDIT: I saw from another comment your mom passed. I’m so sorry.
Amen. I was a struggling mother with a husband. We only had one income because of my health. And growing up I got coloring books and crayons and was so happy. Its how you tea h your children imo about how they usually react. My mom even cried one year because it was a year they couldn't afford anything except crayons and coloring books. She cried because I was the happiest that year about the coloring book. I loved it. Something in me made me so happy that year over it. My sister was old enough to understand but I wasn't. And it is still my most memorable Christmas ever
I definitely agree! We had a very similar situation. My Mom wasn’t a single parent but my Dad had to be the only one driving all us kids until some of us got older and he had to take my mom to all of her appointments, study’s and other stuff.
I don’t understand people who are ungrateful for what others give them.
Same here; I grew up in a very similar situation, also with a single mom with health issues including cancer and no child support. We were both so grateful to receive ANY help, and honestly just seeing Angel Trees being talked about hits me right in the feels because of how much it meant to both of us ❤🙏
I do see both sides, and of course Angel Tree kids don't deserve less, but that doesn't look like Dollar Tree stuff to me at all!
My mom goes to a food bank and when I was growing up we got gifts from the food bank. We were thankful and appreciate for anything. One year the local police department sponsored us and we got a ps2 along with some games. We still have it.
In the original video people were realizing the kids were asking for tablets and drones ( even the 4 month old smh 😑), most likely the ticket wasn’t picked at all when that happens the organization trows in random stuff from their leftover bin to give the kids something. That’s why she got random stuff, their ticket was not picked .
Also another piece on info why the original mom was also shamed because on a recent TikTok on her account people found out she recently purchased a yorkie puppy, which made people call her out if she was really in need as she bought a puppy and they are expensive to maintain .
see this is what i was wondering esp w the one comment of “don’t take the ticket if you can’t afford it” like i get the sentiment but if you ask for expensive things, less ppl will want to take the ticket & then it ends up being on the org to fill so they’re definitely not getting what they want bc it’s mainly based of donations. i can get being disappointed if what was asked for was necessity or within reason but if the stuff received is usable & beneficial for your children & they can still have fun w the toys, i feel like it’s just kinda icky to complain online abt it. poor ppl shouldn’t have to suffer or only get scraps but also if you need to take donations, you gotta be open and grateful for what you get (as long as it’s not useless or unusable for some reason). complain to ppl in your personal life, blasting a charity online is just not it. most ppl who do angel tree including myself do our best to get exactly what they want but if the charity takes over untalented tickets, they’re doing the best they can & tablets and drones aren’t realistic for middle class ppl to purchase for charity in many cases
If she _bought_ the puppy instead of adopting one, then she deserves all the hate. When you _buy_ an animal, you're paying a premium for their breeding from a breeder who makes a profit by breeding animals, taking away some of the market for adoptions and functionally getting more animals in shelters put down. When you adopt one, you're taking in an animal that would probably otherwise die, and they cost a _lot_ less. If you just want a pet, you adopt.
@ even if it was adopted or bought ( many say bought since it was a tiny yorkie puppy, personally idk ) but it’s still somewhat irresponsible as she kept saying she was struggling a lot but brining a puppy into a situation and adding costs of care. She really digging herself into a bigger financial hole for the puppy and kids
Yeah I did the angel tree twice this year because I was finally able financially to do it and every kid all wanted something expensive like iPads and tablets. It was nuts. So I picked the little girl who wanted craft stuff and Legos and science kits
@@Bacteriophagebspurchasing the puppy will be the cheapest part of owning it. The vet bills for a puppy, even just routine shots, are astronomical. She bought a designer dog, not a shelter pup, and now will be out hundreds and hundreds in the first year just to get it vaccinated and fixed. But I have a suspicion she will end up breeding it for money.
For the ones saying "if you can't buy everything on the ticket don't pick it" Do you tell the kids Santa couldn't get every item on your list so you get nothing????? I'd rather my child get something off their list vs nothing at all that's insane and I understand why less people participate.
And the orgs don't even let the kids have nothing. They try to match donations to the unfulfilled cards. If they can't, they match to age and size, which very much could have been this situation with how generic (not in brand just in general like boys like sports balls) and uniform the gifts were.
The problem is that if you take the ticket and only buy some of the stuff (or none of it and just get whatever), you're preventing anyone else from getting that kid the stuff they actually need/asked for.
Just take tickets you're willing to buy everything on, leave the rest. Or just donate to the organization. It's not difficult.
I was a foster kid at 14 and 15 and the holidays are hard enough being away from your family and your traditions, but I just did the standard list for Christmas my caseworker took and turned in. I think we were allowed to write 5 things. 5-6 I got a basketball. Which I played so that was fine. The place I lived 13 miles away from any town, didn't have a court but I could still practice. And a pack of crew socks. When you get in foster care you get a clothing voucher and it's for the basics so I had clothes. Walmart clothes but everything from socks to coats. So to get socks kinda sucked then in our stockings (I lived with 4 otheren girls) were two candy canes, two candy canes with other candy in them and a pack of hair tires and a brush, toothbrushes toothpaste and deodorant. Deo did suck BCS as a teen who plays sports you need a good one and it was always a cheap one that didn't work for me. 😂 That really sucked. It was one of the most depressing Christmas I ever had, after child abuse of course, and now I how crazy overboard for my kids. I was a teen mom and I bust my butt and go broke every year and can't stop. I try I say limits and budgets, but I think it's because of the crappy gifts from "angels" that made me this way and it's been 20 years. I still remember it vividly.
Kids don't need everything on their list, some are better than none, but stuff you get free from a pantry shouldn't be included
I didn’t know until today there was foster care tree. Our granddaughter Everly. Her Mom was in foster care system. So this is something I would love too do. You deserved great Christmas. Adults who were supposed to provide with the things you needed and also wanted. Didn’t do what they should done. That is their fault not yours. Please know you were good kid. Who needed to be safe and loved. With the extra things that kids take for granted. Including my own child.
@@Bacteriophagebs You're not entitled to 100% of everything on the list. The org even tells you not to expect all of it. If no one takes the tag, there's a chance they get nothing on the list because they got some random toy donated to the organization instead since they couldn't find anything close enough. You shouldn't take the tag if you can't afford literally anything on the list, but at the same time, it's meant to be a wishlist, not a shopping list.
If a kid asks for new shoes, a toy car, and a brand new Playstation 5, are you going to refuse to get him anything because you can't afford a PS5 for some random kid, or are you going to get him the shoes and a car so that he at least has something? What if one of the items is that year's hit item and it's impossible to find for that reason? Does that kid get nothing because the trendy toy is unavailable, or does she get the two items on the list that are easier to find? There aren't that many people that actually donate to these programs anymore because almost all of us are struggling now and can't afford it, so you should take what people can give and be grateful instead of throwing a tantrum that your five kids only got two items each instead of three.
6:34 it’s disgusting how out of touch people can be! Does this woman not know that many people go to dollar tree to buy presents…. Might not be the most ideal spot for some but it’s what other can afford. She said “you don’t know someone’s situation” so why judge the person trying to do something good? Imagine for the first time they have a little extra money to help others and did their best with the gifts for the angel tree. This woman’s mindset is disgusting
Thank you. I was always taught to do for others no matter what my situation was. There was a Christmas when I bought my son dollar tree toys to make it look more full under the tree. AND I also bought extra ones to donate to a toy drive. I would have burst into tears if I saw this video 20 years ago when my son was little and I was a struggling single mother!
Exactly. She’s wildly out of her mind. Going on about it “IN THIS ECONOMY?!” Then screeching about how it’s perfectly fine to be ungrateful despite people opening their wallets to help IN THIS ECONOMY
Let's be honest here, if you're struggling and have little money to spare, an angel tree isn't the charity made for you. Maybe chose something else.
Yeah I don't know her situation but I been broke before too but I sure didn't complain when I was getting help. There was a couple of Christmases my small kids only got 2 or 3 cheap gifts but I made it up in other ways like baking or Christmas crafts.
@@Karmaisabreez beggars can’t be choosers. As a mother if I couldn’t afford Christmas for my kids the LAST thing I’d do is get online to complain about how “cheap” the gifts are… if it wasn’t for those cheap gifts the kids would probably have nothing. I’d 1000% prefer a tree full of dollar tree toys than to wake up to my mom crying because she couldn’t put shit under the tree herself.
This woman defending the mother complaining about the angel tree gifts is out of her mind…. Those gifts were not “dollar tree bullshit.” Also, that woman had 5 kids and someone bought gifts for all 5 of her kids, including a $50 game her 12 year old wanted. If you are using the angel free you should be grateful for anything you receive! Someone spent their hard earned money on YOUR children.
100% . i mean. you are getting free items. not from a corporation or something. but from average working people just like you. its not rich people going into these salvation armys and goodwills. it's average, working class people who couldve spent the extra money on their own kids but chose to give back. its the old saying. beggars cant be choosers.
$300 and still not enough, like I'm starting to see one possible reason this family is now on hard times and needs an angel tree: perpetually living beyond their means.
I'm sorry, but what??? If something's on their list GET THAT not something else. if you can't, PUT IT BACK. Clearly they cannot get these things themselves.
@@ollie3746 cry about it
@@ollie37461) these are wants not needs, specifically wanting a brand when you can’t afford it and being mad when someone got you the same thing but not branded is so entitled 2) her ticket might not have been chosen and the organisation pooled together gifts just so her kids wouldn’t get NOTHING cos their mom is a broke ass
I THINK the Angel Tree adds the coats, boots etc to the donations even if they are not asked for bc they know that kids need that stuff in the winter?
Yes, all the gifts go back to the angel tree organizers who will supplement the gifts with coats, undershirts, maybe brushs or books.
I guess I somewhat understand the thought process of not picking the "wishlist" if you're not gonna buy everything on it, because someone else might- but that lady said she spent over $300 and got two of the three items for EACH kid😭 like yall can we be SO realistic for a second here?
Every single angel tree program I've seen, the list is to have an option of what to get. You could get everything if you want to go above and beyond. But it's more like they chose one or two so it's a surprise what the kid will get. I have never seen a Angel tree where it is expected to get everything on the list.
The world is so greedy!
That lady was lying. I just saw a video calling her out for putting herself into more drama that she’s not actually a part of for rage bait
Which lady?@@bryannacloutier4018
You have to keep in mind that no one else might pick up that tag, either.
My friend’s grandpa is in charge of doing the Angel Tree program in our community since before we were born (so 20+ years) and something he explained to us is that because we live in a small town there won’t always be enough gifts to go around, some people will buy everything on the list and more, some people will buy the things they think are “essential”, some people will buy strictly what’s on the list etc. you get the point but what they then do is take everything out get a real list of all families and kids and divide things evenly among them so each kid gets a gift and some winter items and maybe a treat because the priority is that every single child gets something. I understand the parents being disappointed with what they are given, I understand wanting your kids to have the most amazing Christmas gifts it’s completely valid but the unfortunate fact is that at the end of the day this is a charity and they have to ration what they have and with this economy less and less people are able to afford to give to others. Controversial but nobody is entitled to anything from the others, you are not entitled to a free gift for your child it’s literally charity someone did it to be kind and a lot of work, time and money goes into the angel tree program so I encourage everyone who is able to give anything to do it even if you can’t afford everything on the list.
Wait a minute now, we are not allowed to shame the mom who can’t provide Christmas for her kids but it’s ok for her to shame the people who donated gifts with their hard earned money? Please make that make sense. Or wait don’t, I will never understand that type of stupidity
Some people here claiming how unfair it is to not get the exact item requested. Consumerism is really rotting their brains. They still got free gifts, is it’s such an issue the mom can still try to get other items on her own.
One person was saying how unfair it was to call the mom out, and how situations change etc. Another commented that the original list posted was for drones and tablets. Apparently a 4 month old baby needed them too. It was noted that her list wasn't picked up so the angel tree people probably chose instead. I get disappointment, but to actively bag the people who are helping you because they can doesn't sit right with me.
@@DoritoBot9000and if I'm not mistaken, the list is idea's of the kids likes, hobbys etc. It's not a damn guarantee. It's insane how so many children are being taught to be entitled to other's people's money's, or things just cuz they want it. I wanted a dragon when I was 6. Santa's fat ass never brought it for me, I survived and thrived tho, just the same😂
No one should be getting shamed, The entire situation is ridiculous.
Once again. No one obligated the person to donate anything. When you pick up an angel tree card you get what’s on it or you leave it alone.
I think buying all 5 kids 2 things is a good idea because what if only 3 or 4 of the tickets got chosen by other people? Then one kid has nothing.
I saw on instagram someone I follow show that a kid asked for a bed. She was so heartbroken that that was what they asked for. She ended up reading out to the organization to make sure it would be okay to buy the bed and then took donations to get the child a new mattress, bed frame, pillows and sheets.
Yeah, the way she shared the story, she made it seem like she had bought items from the lists, just not every item. Since when are you supposed to buy every item on the lists?? Even parents don’t buy their kids every item on their kids’ christmas lists. The kids are getting what they asked for, so idk why people are being so entitled as to tell the woman to “not pick up the tickets.” Um. It’s entirely possible that no one would pick up the tickets, then the kids would be left with nothing
@@tealicious711 imagine EXPECTING a stranger to spend OVER $300 on your kids xmas.
@@tealicious711exactly!
That's a $45+ football!!! You can't get that at the dollar store!
No it wasn’t! 😂 TF It’s literally from FIVE BELOW.
@@roselolagne6642okay and even if it is from the 5below? as someone who was a recipient from the angel tree, you cant ask then be greedy. people are doing it out of the kindness of their heart. some people do the best they can to be helpful with what money they have left. then when stuff isnt picked the organization takes up the rest of them.
@roselolagne6642 Maybe you have cheap ass google
It’s $12 at Walmart. And the basketball is $9.97
Don’t lie that a clearance rack football that I saw at my local Walmart
The stuff the mom complained about her kids getting from Angel Tree looks a lot like the haul I have for my kids this year 🙃😬 Commercialism has ruined Christmas
And I bet your haul cost you a pretty penny that you sacrificed &/or worked for... so this mother is now shaming you & other parents as well, all over some beautiful & amazing presents.
But didn't the first woman only "complain" about getting stuff that wasn't even on the list and the wrong sizes?
Exactly... Christmas is way too commercialized.
@@Ponder_Wonder Good job mama (or dada?) ! Your kids are going to have great gifts! 👍
Commercialism created Christmas lol
First of all, that is NOT dollar tree stuff. Second of all, why is it bad if someone bought some stuff from dollar tree? Depending on the location you go to, there are perfectly respectable toys. Just because they're cheap, doesn't mean they're incapable of bringing joy to children. So obnoxious, that lady mentioning the economy and then basically shaming budget options 🙄
I’m with you on the entitlement part, but a lot of toys (and products, in general) that come out of Dollar Trees and the like ARE basically poisonous trash. You know which ones I’m talking about; not typically the ones you can also get at the big box store. A kid will still like them, but parents should be extra scrupulous where safety is concerned. And obviously, the true onus _should_ be on the companies that sell these things, and not on struggling parents or charitable gifters.
@@YellaBellaRenoah trust the crunchy mums to come through with misinformation like this to scare parents into overspending on toys made in the same Chinese factories that are supposedly "poisonous". Just because it's beige doesn't make it better.
because the toys at dollar tree AREN'T just as good. if a little girl is asking for a barbie and you go to dollar tree they aren't real barbies, they feel different, they move different and they break. if you need to shop budget you should not be taking the angel tree tickets. it proves you aren't doing it for the kids but are doing it to make yourself feel good.
@@princessofjedi i wasn't talking about budget options for the Angel tree stuff. She was shaming budget options in general. That's the issue I took with it. Obviously if someone doesn't have disposable income they shouldn't be taking the lists on the tree
@@rebeccaw2300 Misinformation? Look it up, Rebecca; You have the internet at your disposal. Whatever crunchy, beige mom you’re mad at, it ain’t me. I’m a disabled, childfree woman who relies solely on the charity of others to stay off the street. Although, you bring up another good reason not to buy those toys. Many of them _are_ indeed made by children in shitty factories.
My mom use to wrap tampons, shaving cream, batteries, & other common household items with Christmas paper & put them under the tree so we had something to open at Christmas. It was beyond depressing to open an item with excitement, only to see a box of tampons. So anyone complaining about ACTUAL gifts can shove it, it could be so much worse without the kindness from strangers.
I’m 36 and still like getting basic hygiene products for Xmas!!! Saves me from buying them!
@@elleash3040 Honestly shaving cream, batteries, not bad gifts for adults, still best not to wrap them though. tampons... not so much, to have to also be reminded your going to have a terrible time when you use them or opening them in front of family, doesn't seem like the best choice.
@@Parasolhyena when you are 13, a wrapped box of tampons is awkward af. Especially unwrapping it in front of her boyfriend & his weird smile on his face..but that family drama is a whole other story. as an adult, I’d be stoked to get any present from family. This year I decided to wrapped a few items I recently bought, so I can have a Christmas morning lol. Felt dumb doing it, but it’s nice to see some presents 🎁
@@C3LaLa don’t feel dumb! Why? Who better to take care of you, than you? I will be sending you all my love tomorrow morning. Love yourself out loud! It all starts with you. Sorry to be cheesy but I can relate to being alone ❤️ I sincerely hope you have a merry Christmas and happy new year! I’m ready for 2025!
@@C3LaLa and that does sound awkward for being 13 absolutely mortifying when you said she had a boyfriend there too! You deserve the gifts you got yourself ❤️
I am not on this side of TikTok... the only Angel Tree stuff I've seen are people who are grateful for what they've got 😅
Yes. I saw the one where the mother put her baby's clothing size as 6 mons to 12 mons and she got 12 mons to 18 mons and cried because that means her baby will have clothes for next six months and she won;t have to worry about it.
Renamed the Clout Devil Tree
@@chrissyb7916 I saw that one too! I just about started crying with her
That stuff wasn’t dollar tree stuff. It was name brand stuff .
Exactly. That Ash ladies rant pissed me off so bad. How about we teach our kids to be grateful for what they have, not to be greedy and entitled!!!
They have name brand stuff at discount stores like dollar tree and dollar general and five below.
You can get namebrand stuff from five below and dollar tree if not, anything new
@@MashaRistova Ash is a disingenuous clout chaser. Acting like she was worried about $. Those kids probably have at least one set of grandparents, a mom in a NICE house whose not only "getting his last pay check" But she will get a DIC check, and a SS check for herself and SS on any kids she had with him. Not to mention the 6 figure insurance policy the military has. All that money she doest have to hit the bricks for....how many angels tags do you think she pulled?
4:09 the sizing up comment is TOO TRUE. I know MANY who do that for this very reason. It’s called looking out for THEIR kids’ futures as well the best they can…
I can see that but also, if the kid needs new shoes now it doesn't do any good to get him shoes he can wear in 6 months.
@ I do understand that logic, but at the same time, arguably/imo, I would think it’d be a much better option to have to wear shoes too big for them for 6 months/until they grow into them, & having the same pair for a longer term, as opposed to getting shoes that fit instantly, but that they inevitably grow out of in about 6 months, & suddenly needing another new pair, because their feet physically cannot fit into the shoes any longer. As in, although sizes too big may not be the most comfortable or even just annoying to have to walk in, you can always make a pair *too big* work & last a whole lot longer than any size(s) too small to fit into.
it is so out of touch to complain about strangers buying YOUR kids Christmas presents. as a parent that is your responsibility and to complain about people buying stuff for you out of the kindness of their heart is wild. that mom is so ungrateful.
Some people do ask for expensive electronics and other expensive items. It is possible that the children of the first mom asked for things/brands that were too expensive so their tags weren’t chosen and the Salvation Army did what they could with the donations they received for “forgotten angels”.
In the original video we actually did saw what the kids ask for , her two sons asked for tablets and a drone ( even her four month old baby ask for tablet and a drone) that made people call her out because what does a 4 month old need a drone and tablet for ? Her daughter also asked for a tablet and a lol doll. Most likely it wasn’t picked and got random donation bin stuff
It’s entirely possible! I did one last year that was “adopt an elf” for low income families in the school district. I’m not kidding when I say on the last day to turn in gifts there were thousands of elves that never got picked. And yes, they had wishlists like “phone, tablet, laptop” which is realistic of what a kid might want at that age. But is also not something most people are in the financial position to gift. It’s unfortunate, but a real outcome that those kids might’ve gotten kicked some obligatory dollar tree gifts instead of anything they requested.
For me.. it’s the creating an account and going online to complain feels wrong and entitled.
I don’t think the question is whether or not the angel tree giver was wrong or the mom should or shouldn’t be disappointed. What was she hoping to accomplish? There wasn’t a specific company or person she was complaining to seeking resolution. I wonder if she was hoping it would lead to a donation, gift, or GoFundMe.. something of the sort.
100%. She was determined to get fresh charity donations to her “liking”. She failed to make a proper complaint to the company or charity running the Tree scheme, so she can’t have been that bothered.
@@llxxblondiexxllI think this is it! I think she saw that people are generous and thought others would buy her gifts!
An old friend of mine would sign up for all of these gift giving charities and return everything for cash. It soured me for a few years before I felt my time, money, and donations was going to someone who appreciated it. I’m just going to donate cash from now. Let the organization deal with ungrateful recipients.
Holy crap, I was thinking the exact same points! eBegging is the only motive that I can think of as well.
Ok the blonde lady isn’t hearing herself. In this economy when we can barely keep the lights on the tree turned on, BE THANKFUL FOR DOLLAR TREE SHIT because it’s that or NOTHING. You tell me which is actually going to be upsetting to kids.
She turned her comments off because so many normal people disagreed with her comments.
lmfao right? I heard that and I was like "yeah people can barely keep the lights on yet they still chose to give kids SOMETHING for christmas"
Exactly. You can never tell a chick in the ‘burbs who has never had to struggle a day in her life a damn thing about that. 😂
@@YaDamnSkippi 'never had to struggle a day in her life' uhhh did you miss the part about her losing her husband/father of her kiddos...?
I can actually see her point. If someone can’t afford it, leave the angel tree tags for someone else.
I've always thought the list was like giving a few options. At least where I live, everybody usually buys 1 of the items (maybe 2 if its in their budget), but its not expected 2 buy everything
Yes they tell you when youre picking that you don't have to buy every single item, and they tell the ones filling out the tickets to also not expect every single item. I'm sure that it is very normal. But if you get something, at least have it on the list
Right? Seeing people say you have to buy the whole list is so confusing- when did that become a thing? Where I live I’ve always seen it portrayed as you giving the child some clothes, shoes and then one item off of their list. Even then, the clothes and shoes aren’t needed but people still like adding them in.
i also understood its like writing a list to Santa (which funnily Ash said), u make a huge list and hope u recieve something from the list, not the whole list
@@tkbliftime9730some people get their kids everything they ask Santa for and I think that’s where the problem comes in. If you fall on hard times and in the past Santa has given them everything they ask him for how do you explain to them that he didn’t this year. It’s hard because people don’t want to spoil the magic for their kids, personally I think it’s better to never set the precedent that Santa gets you everything you want or all the best/most expensive gifts.
Yup! That's why you choose several items.
I don't understand why people are shaming that disney mom because she literally spent $300 on five children and only that amount, as though it's not a lot of money. $300 is still $300, and it might mean a lot more to some people than to others. She didn't even have to get two of the three items for each child, but she did because she wanted those kids to have great Christmas. I wonder if any of those commenters against her would even spend that much on their own children and what their budgets are for Christmas every year just for presents alone.
What exactly was on her request angel? As someone who has helped pass out purchased angel tree items to the parents who requested it, nothing is more disheartening than seeing adults complain about not liking the gifts especially if the angel only said "clothes and toys for x age" or with requests that only say something like "ps5". Yes, people will list only expensive items.
In the original video, her two sons wanted a tablet and drone, her daughter tablet and a lol doll. People got really sus when they saw the baby wish list was listed as drone and a tablet . This made people suspect the mother of maybe trying to resell the items because there no way a four month old would play with a drone.
Idk why everyone thinks you suppose to or it’s required to buy everything on the list. That’s insane you know how many less ppl would do this if that was the case?! This is something I googled in 2 seconds….
Spalding? Franklin? Hot Wheels? Somebody got money. They can be me gifts
I am disgusted by people that use the angel tree where I live and throw over 1/2 the stuff their kids get away because it's not what they asked for/wanted. My husband ran 22+ apartment units and the dumpster after Christmas was always disgusting. The salvation army tags would be on stuff still.
And that's why you should get what's on the list. What's the point of getting something if it's not something your child will use or play with? Should they just keep everything in the closet unused, so people don't see them throw it away even if it's never going to be touched? You just reinforced why it is so very important to follow these lists.
@lostineggsaisle They could donate them back rather than throwing them out at least.
They shouldn't be throwing good stuff away regardless@@lostineggsaisle
@@lostineggsaislewow! You think it’s okay just to throw out NEW things?
That is so sad... the amount of waste 😔
Not everyone who participates in the Angel Tree program is rich. I do kind of agree that if the Angel tree request is out of your budget then pick a different one. At the same time, if your child needs shoes and someone buys your child shoes, don't be upset that those shoes aren't the $300 name brand shoes they might have asked for. If your gift requests are higher end and unrealistic then you're missing the entire point of the program.
I was a recipient of a program similar decades ago when I was a struggling single Mom who didn't receive child support. I made sure my son wasn't asking for insanely expensive stuff in the first place, and we were extremely thankful for what he got. If you're truly struggling you wouldn't be turning your nose up at Walmart quality when you are actually on a dollar tree budget.
Ash or whatever her name is, clearly hasn’t been in a dollar tree. What dollar tree is selling shoes, Spaulding, boots, winter coats?! I think what the kids got was more than generous, and I personally know some kids that would be so happy with that. God why are people so ungrateful!?
I didn’t agree with saying the mom did the kids dirty, but that’s about all I don’t agree with
She sounds so out of touch ngl
the whole thing puts a bad taste in my mouth. i get how much we want to go above and beyond for our family during this time, but i also think shaming anyone for not spending more of their own money to spoil children that aren't their own, saying you were "done dirty" when there's still a bunch of angels that are never getting touched, is distasteful. you don't have to be grateful for it, but just seems like a weird take for them broadcast that in such an entitled way? i don't know. it's hard to put into words really.
Yes, like something is better than nothing... Also there's nothing wrong with dollar tree
Actually the OG mom kids were likely not picked . When that happens the organization gets random stuff from the donation bin, which is most likely what happened.
@@clarissagarcia4789 exactly! my family wasn't well off when i was younger, but i remember times my niece and i would be our most creative when shopping around the dollar store. sometimes, i think adults put far too much emphasis on things rather than moments when it comes to kids who are small. i might not remember the toys bought or what exactly caught our eyes when there, but i remember the moments thereafter far more fondly.
@@kimberlycolunga8559 which means they were using whatever donation money and additional gifts others purchased in order to give her children a christmas they wouldn't have otherwise had? i understand what you mean though --- that ultimately, she wasn't given the items she specifically asked for on her angel --- but it comes off even more entitled when considering those were gifts that wouldn't have otherwise been under her tree. i guess i feel like at a time like now, when everyone is in some sort of financial bind, if she's really that upset at what she got, she should return it as a donation so another family could receive it with a more gracious, thankful heart.
As someone who only had Christmas presents due to angels, this is upsetting. I cannot imagine not just being grateful. My angel took me shopping at 13. I was a little chubby, so i only got to shop in the Old Lady section. It sucked, but i SUCKED IT UP because I was appreciative someone just took the time for my sibling and I. Those who receive just because will never know what its like to be SO poor you NEVER see your parents and yet? Cannot get by. its unfathomable for children, especially if you live in a RICHHH area. Like, 9,000sqft homes. they all moved here a few years after we did. it changed everything
Yesssss!!! My family was the recipient of a tree thing like this from a family friends’ workplace while my single parent mom was dying from cancer because she was a single parent and unable to do anything for christmas one year. We were grateful for anything that came to us!
This is basically saying poor children and foster children should just be grateful to be given things they didn’t want. It can actually be a let down for these kids who are being thrown around in the system.
When i was homeless they had a similar program for teens and i asked for skateboarding stuff I didn’t get exactly what i wanted but i got the stuff i asked for. It’s impossible to get exactly everything for people you will never meet but also in this economy.
@ “in this economy” is a terrible excuse. If they can’t afford it they should leave it for someone who can. It’s one thing to get things that match what was asked for but not the name brand and another to just get whatever you think they should get.
The if you can buy all the things don’t take all 5 tickets only do a few. Soo…buy for a few of the kids in the household and take the chance that someone else does or…they go without? She was thinking as a mother making sure all of them got something. FFS🤦🏼♀️ ignorance is an epidemic these days.
My kids are grown and I saw the toy box at my local dollar tree so I bought a $5 Sorry board game and put that in the bin. I saw the girl behind me roll her eyes when I did this but I let it go and took my purchases to my car. I heard some raised voices as I was leaving but paid it no mind. Once in the parking lot, I see the girl come out with and she hurried to her car and left fast. The store manager came out behind her and was mad. She then tells me how that girl was saying if I couldn't buy nicer stuff then why bother. It made me feel bad so I chose not to do that anymore cuz I couldn't afford the more pricey ones.
Your kindness is truly appreciated. That 5$ Sorry board game could mean the whole world to many families. Please don’t let snobby people dim your light or the light you bring to others
Do NOT let that make you feel bad at all!! You didn’t have to take your $5 and purchase anything at all but you did out of the kindness of your heart. The lady talking mess should’ve pitched in and bought a few things herself since she is so passionate about it.
I had to use toys for tots for my kids. It happens and some people genuinely can’t help the financial position they’re in. My kids LOVE board games. We always try to get them board games. When I picked up my kids toys for tots presents and saw Chutes and Ladders and Guess Who in the bag, I admit that I cried because of how grateful I was. Tradition didn’t die because of the kindness of a stranger. Don’t let people convince you that your kindness isn’t enough or goes unnoticed because it doesn’t. Thank you for being a giving person.
My kids would have been estactic with that game !!!! Thank you for donating !
I looked at an angel tree last year that was in the lobby of a hospital and most of it said earbuds for iPhones. None of it was something I could actually pick up
You can get earbuds for $20.
@bettymurrell5628 oh yeah $20 airpods. Sure, I could get some earbuds they will throw in the trash but I decided not to.
That ash girl is so out of touch those hot wheels cost 10 dollars . And that American football cost 20 dollars. I was so upset when she posted that video.
To all the people that are saying "if you don't get exactly what was on the list then don't get it." It's this attitude that caused our local angel tree to have 20 angels left on it, which would've been 20 kids that instead of getting anything at all, would've gotten nothing if it wasn't for my dad and I throwing what little extra cash we had together to get them something.
Now I know it's different wherever you are, but most of the kids around here barely have food to eat, barely have parents that are in their lives, and as bad as it sounds, they're doing better than most. The angel tree is for people who would be grateful for any help whatsoever, not so people could complain because they didn't get everything that they asked for.
Like the one I grabbed, it was a 7 year old girl. Didn't ask for any toys, just wanted clothes and 2 books.... I didn't have much extra cash on me and it even cut me short a little bit but I bought her some toys and a fluffy patterned throw blanket. And I can promise you I would never do anything close to that again if I had people telling me that I did charity wrong
A gift isn’t a right it’s a privilege.
Okay here is my story:
I did not do angel tree but my child's school offered basically the same set up. I'd give them a list of things for my kids (they asked for something to wear, something to read, something special) I even double checked with the school that they had all of the correct information for my kids. When the gifts finally arrived they had presents for my two younger children but not my child who goes to the school. Needless to say I was distraught by this - but not for one single second was I ungrateful. I was overwhelmingly grateful for what I had been given and started looking for ways to get my other child presents. Thankfully after talking to the school they had enough extra to help us out and for that I was EVEN MORE GRATEFUL!!!! Nobody owed my kids a Christmas but Me, I am beyond grateful to anyone and everyone who helped me give them that regardless of to what extent they could help. I grew up on Angel Tree Christmas presents and even as a kid I knew that I was Lucky to be getting gifts from strangers/schools/churches/etc.
TLDR As someone in a similar position I don't believe these parents have any reason to be complaining.
^^ This part. Plus I think the gifts some of these people ask for are wholly unrealistic. Coming from someone who’s been in this situation before; You’ve got to temper your expectations. It’s ridiculous to Ask for high ticket items from strangers.
you should read about crabs in a pot
As someone who grew up poor with a mother on government assistance both with food and housing, we were grateful for ANYTHING. My mom as a person is pretty damn awful, but even she wouldn’t pitch a fit about what she received in help.
So to say someone did your kids dirty because you didn’t like what you were given FOR FREE, that’s just disgusting. That’s some choosing beggars shit.
Strangers don’t owe you A SINGLE THING. PERIOD.
I also think the response from the woman that said that children that have less don't deserve less is ignorant af. Those kids just won't get Christmas or they will get whatever leftover gifts that were donated, and it won't match the card.
Why are some ppl so entitled? Jeez!
My cousin is a kindergarten teacher at a local school where I live .. she Said the teachers at her school would buy their kids in their class really good presents for Christmas to be from Santa. When school would return and they asked the kids what did they get for Christmas, those good gifts the teachers had bought them were not said, ... Those parents took the good gifts back to the store to get the money for them instead of giving them to the kids as the teachers intended..
OH HELLLLLL NO
What this mother doesn’t seem to understand is how going online to complain like this will only put others off taking Angel Tree tags in the future.
I mean, why would anyone bother if what you give is blasted on tiktok for not being “good enough”!
So many people want to help but can only afford certain things or give what they had at home.
It’s fine to be unhappy about something but people really need to think about the wider impact of their words, especially when complaining about the kindness of strangers
Exactly right! And donations are already down everywhere because of the economy.
This! Charity is charity. She didn’t loose anything. Nothing is stopping her from trying to get more stuff by other means than Angel Tree.
Checked out an angel tree this year and everyone was asking for tablets, air pods, etc. This may be an unpopular opinion, but that’s a little ridiculous.
If someone spent $300 on my family, I would never complain. That’s fucked.
Facts. I dont understand why ANYONE in need would bitch when they get help.
Especially buying a $50 video game. I don't even ask my own parents for that stuff😂
I'm glad to see the Christmas spirit is alive and well.
Sad but also 😂😂😂
I feel like 90% of the people commenting “if you can’t afford everything on the list don’t pick the list up” haven’t actually done an angel tree. Do you want children not to be picked because people can’t afford everything? Growing up and being an angel I was grateful if I got one thing on my list because most of the time I didn’t. I wasn’t ungrateful if I didn’t because I knew people didn’t have to do this if they didn’t want to. At the end of the day these are normal people with some extra cash wanting to do something out of the goodness of their heart.
I think it's complicated. I don't like either side. The receiving end shouldn't expect every item on their list, especially the people asking for expensive electronics. Even one requested item from the list is one gift under the tree their child wanted that otherwise wouldn't be there. On the giving end, I absolutely despise the attitude that poor people should be happy they get anything at all. For example, I don't know if this was true or just rage bait, there was a Tik Tok about a mother taking a bunch of angel tree cards so that she and her daughter could make those kids crafts instead of acknowledging any of the items of the lists. They had turned an impoverished family's request into a crafting project. At that point, it's not about trying to help, it's about the 'giver' trying to boost their own ego and feel good about themselves. If you can't afford any items on a card, then finding a card with at least one item in the giver's budget seems like good etiquette in this situation. Otherwise, why not just donate to a charity accepting general donations?
@@lumberingdinosaur9108 I understand what you’re saying, but I’m talking about the people who get an angel but not necessarily get everything they want. I completely agree that people shouldn’t be getting an Angel if they’re not going to get anything on the list but we shouldn’t be making those who do pick an Angel and only get 2/3 of the items feel bad about it. As a parent, I don’t even get my kids everything they want from their list.
ALSO. If you can’t bear to spend a single penny on your kids but still demand a Christmas with a ton of presents, MAKE SOMETHING! A lot of simple toys can be handmade without much know how, and experiences make great gifts too!! There are a lot of fun adventures you can do for free. There is literally no excuse to be so entitled, especially when the kids were probably super happy with what they got.
As someone who has been the lead point of contact for multiple years if angel trees for foster / adopted from foster kiddos I have to say it’s mad hard. For the record when a person submits their child for an angel tree they are asked to provide a list of a few items in a variety of price categories. Not for all on the list to be bought but for the buyer to have options. Some years are so financially tough for people to buy much to help. Other years are so great we have enough to give all kids extra. Also because not every adopter of an angel can afford to spend the same amount some kids provided gifts come with a lot less than others. When this happens we would shift gifts around to ensure as equal amount value and physical as possible. There are a lot of things that could have happened to create the situation. It is such a huge task to handle angel trees so it is sad and frustrating to hear when people complain. Because I have some experience both as a person who received angel tree gifts at one point and then ran multiple years of angel trees for an organization I see everyone’s view. It’s a struggle all the way around but regardless of the struggle in today’s society a person posting a video about how cruddy it was to get those gifts makes me wonder if they did it because they are hoping the internet saves them and they get tons more because the community won’t want the kids to suffer. So many people want to go viral for something and they may have seen this as their chance.
I worked with Angel Tree program and other programs for years. You are not required to get every item on the tag. Some items are expensive and others are not available. The three items are there so you can decide which item fits into your budget, you were never meant to buy all three, if you could that was great, but you only ever had to buy one of the items. This allowed for people to take more tags and get more gifts for more children. If children had less expensive items then usually people would buy more of the listed items or if they could afford more they would buy more. But the idea was to pick one of the items that you could provide as a gift not everything.
When I grew up our "angel" was mom. We wrote lists but we never received everything on them. How do you expect more from strangers than you did from mom???
Complaining about FREE Christmas gifts for your children when you as their PARENT cannot provide for them yourself is actually peak entitlement/delusion…
Anyone who sided with the mom is the problem. How does one ask for free shit then complain?
Okay but if you don't do the angel tree because you can only do 2/3, what happens when those kids get nothing because no one else picks them either
Then the salvation army takes the "forgotten angels" and tries to match whatever they wanted and clothes from their donations pile
A bunch of Dollar Tree BS! I’m dying 😂 Christmas is so commercialized. It’s funny too because she’s lecturing people about shaming the original mom, but she’s totally throwing shade at people who shop at Dollar Tree
Good point for real I didn’t think of it like that 😂
I love the tree not the Angel/Devil Tree but Dollar ONE
Exactly. That rubbed me the wrong way.
It's also Walmart stuff. Not even dollar tree, lol.
The point is, the stuff is cheap, regardless of where it came from.
What's crazy is how many angel tree tags I've seen asking for $$$ items like tablets, consoles, and other unnecessary items.
Wow I couldn't imagine asking for help then shitting on the people that tried to help! Sad
The point of the tree is to get these kids what they want for Christmas. It's not a "pick a child and buy that child whatever you want because they're poor" Christmas tree. It's a "pick a list that a child has made" tree. If you aren't going to buy the items that are on the list that you yourself chose then don't do it. Find a list that is more appropriate for you. It's not fair to have a child sit and make a list of things they want for Christmas and then get nothing off of that list because some random stranger decided that they knew better.
I feel like it depends what was on the list, because without that information it's hard to tell what's even going on
@@lostineggsaisledepends on where you are, I guess. I've only ever seen ones that only list the gender and age.
@@MalloriaAnn I just think people should read what's on the tag and decide if they can get what they asked for. If they can't afford or don't want to get the items on the list, they should put it back. 🤷♀️
@@lostineggsaisle the lady said she did buy from their list. As someone that’s bought and received from angle tree I didn’t expect all the items and some tags sit there so I’d rather grab to the best I can then let the tag sit there and not be used. Being ungrateful for only getting 2/3 items on a WISH LIST is insane, and being rude the person who gave for not giving enough…. Even a Christmas list to parents you don’t expect everything.
When I grew up my mom was poor, and we would rely on the charity of other people to help us have a Christmas. (I did not know this as a kid) My most FAV memory of my childhood was when (apparently my mom got us adopted..."angle tree") and Santa came to our house with a big red sack. It may not have been what I wanted but it was what I needed at the time.
Seriously?? Some of these kids get more than my own kids do from a fully functional working family. It's Christmas not winning the lottery.
For real. What is that teaching the children? Even kids who come from families who aren’t struggling should be taught gratitude & to not expect outlandish gifts. It’s on parents to explain that we don’t always get exactly what we want & that’s ok. My kids are taught that if you don’t care for a gift, at least fake it and don’t have expectations. If mom is ungrateful then she’s probably passing those traits along to the kids that otherwise would be content with whatever they receive.
So we shouldn’t shame parents for asking for gifts but it’s ok to shame people for the gifts they give…. Umm a little cognitive dissonance
Or you could just not have kids, since you can't afford them! 😒
@@teoleno4019especially when one of the ppl who is complaining about the gifts bought a new puppy!
@@teoleno4019 some people have circumstances that dont give them that choice, or they go into poverty after already having kids when they were well off. My friend's family were able to afford kids, until the place her mother worked at shut down. Then they coulnd't. Not to mention not being able to afford christmas presents doesn't always mean you cant afford to feed kids. There's situations where people can afford the stuff they need, food water housing, but not luxeries. We don't know her deep situation, she just might not be able to afford luxeries, because her money goes towards the essentials. It's more nuanced than "poor people shouldn't have kids"
@@teoleno4019 We all got the point, but we all go through hard times. And the holidays can and have been the hardest times for a lot of families.
NO ONE HAS SAID THAT OH MY GOD YOU PEOPLE ARE IMPOSSIBLE
I actually agree and disagree with both Salty *and* Ash. Both of them have really good points and really bad points in their video. Salty telling the original mom that she failed her kids was a low blow because A) she knows that, she flat out said it in her original video and B) you don’t know people’s circumstances or situations. That being said, I 100% agree with Salty saying that the fact that the mom’s immidiate reaction was to go on Tik Tok and complain, put these people on blast, was wrong. In Ash’s case, I completely agree with her saying that it’s wrong to shame parents in this economy and that children who have less don’t deserve less, but her harping on about the toys being “Dollar Tree bs” really rubbed me the wrong way. Chances are, the kids who got those gifts are gonna be absolutely thrilled with them. When you’re a kid, you don’t really care about what toys cost, you care that they’re fucking toys and if the only have like 5 toys, this is 3 or 4 more toys that they didn’t have before. Ash was obviously looking at it from a parent’s perspective which, of course she was, but the way she worded it just pissed me off
Totally agree, you literally said exactly what I was thinking.
It’s tough because this isn’t a black and white issue so there were valid points and not so valid ones.
Yes, exactly. Mostly agreed with salty's video except the part where she said the original mom failed her kids. Nah that wasn't it.
Just because the mom said it, doesn’t mean she actually means it or takes it to heart 😂 especially when her first response to not getting all the items she wants is to put the anonymous donors on blast. Wouldn’t put it pass that type of mom to have put something she wanted on the list too and didn’t get so that’s why she’s upset and started whining to anyone dumb enough to believe the things she said. Keep it up and next year, no one will be willing to do angel tree anymore
Ash said it’s wrong to shame people in this economy while shaming people for buying cheap gifts for their children because PoOR CHildReN DonT DeSerVe lEsS. Like, which is it?? She is clearly out of touch. Didn’t even consider the fact that maybe the OG mom’s ticket didn’t get picked up and she was given gifts just so that her kids wouldn’t have nothing.
The second lady literally shamed other middle and lower class people who are ALSO struggling BUT choose to try to help. She's either dense or a hypocrite. 😂😂
People at most levels are struggling to maintain, struggle doesn't just belong to the poorest of the poor. I used to be homeless as a teen and I struggle just as much right now as I did then just to maintain what I have. I think these people need to get it together.
Hey, past foster kid here, use to get gifts from angel tree was always grateful for anything i got, still remember this hoodie i still have that was given to me, it was bigger than my size at the time, but i did and still do love that hoodie cause i knew someone thought of us kids and i can still use it now. I also know that there is also a thing where some angel kids do not get picked either from bad luck or requesting unrealistic things like $500 game stations, phones, handbags or drones etc, so in order for kids to at least have something to open up they will switch gifts with other donations so more than often they will give kids bigger sizes so the kids who are maybe smaller than the size of the og angel kid could also get something to open on the holiday and they can grow into even if its bigger than the requested size so that they can still at some point still use it. i am still thankful for the people who donated. Some parents forget that millionaires and the super rich aren't the ones buying for angel tree, most times its normal working class people who at one time possibly struggled and they try to give out and spread some joy since now they are in a stable enough position to do so.
If you wanna donate but don't want to donate to things like angel tree or the red bucket, try reaching out to your local dcs/cps, children hospitals or local group homes to see if they have anything they might need help with cause a lot of children sometimes get place into the system days before Christmas with just the clothes on their backs and if lucky a backpack they were able to pack and the workers than have to scramble to not only find them clothing and everyday essentials but also age appropriate gifts for Christmas so that they can feel a little normal during the holiday after potentially go through something hectic and traumatic in their life.
Sorry for the rambling but this situation hit me a little. I still hope all the kids have a wonderful holiday and get something to help them feel seen in a world where so many kids end up getting overlooked and a thank you to all the angel tree gifters from my younger self, I know even if they cant say it to you face to face I know a good portion of kids who are in the system and has never had a stable holiday is grateful for you taking the time to consider them and notice them.
One of the nicest Xmas things I did was go with my mom around the city and hand out some different gifts and things for people in need. There was overflowing donation bins and they sent out a message saying people could come and pick up items. My mom reached out and said we could drive around and hand out various items to people and need so they got us a list and we spent the day dropping off items all over the place. Makes me miss my mom, she died a few months ago. Going to be a quiet Christmas this year.
I’m sorry about your mom. The first few holidays/birthdays are the hardest. Mine has been gone a decade now, and I still miss her like crazy. 💝
I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the sweet story with us
I'm dying. Literally, i have terminal cancer and this will be my last Xmas with my family. My grandkids are babies - 2, 18 months and 1. I bought them one small gift each. It's not about the toys or the clothes. It's about the memories I'll have for whatever is left of my life, and that my grandchildren will always be told how much i loved them and how happy they made me.
I’m so sorry this will be your last Christmas. What you said is so true what means the most to kids is the time and love their share with their family those memories will be worth more than all the presents in the world. ❤ I hope this Christmas will be full of love and hugs for your family
I am so very sorry.
I was an angel tree kid one time and was so grateful for all the toys I got (didn't get anything I actually wanted but was happy to just get anything for the holidays)
I’ve been a single mom due to sexual assault. Totally on my own. Food stamps and WIC. Never applied for angel tree bc I never wanted to take from kids who really needed it. I had a whole year to work, buy stuff spread out & on sale, save money, etc. Idk why people complain for what they get….. we have plenty of time to prep. This is why we do operation shoebox. ❤
The tree at my gym has tags for elderly people and kids. Grabbed one for a woman who likes purple wash towels and needs cleaning products. 😢❤
It blows my mind how many people there are agreeing that if you can't buy the best, you shouldn't buy anything for the kids. These people have completely lost the plot! I spent my entire youth living in poverty and experienced many Christmases with nothing under the tree. I would have never said if you can't give me everything I want, and the best, don't give me anything at all. These people are ruining today's youth and turning them into ungrateful, materialistic, entitled people. I can't believe people say these things without feeling an ounce of shame.
If i was in this position that i was struggling at xmas for my kids, i would be grateful for anything! Dollar tree, 2nd hand items. ANYTHING! These people out there asking for help acting entitled 🙄
This story is crazy to me because I remember the first Christmas my mom and dad split was really hard on her because she hadn’t landed a consistent job so she took us to a free clinic where we got food and met Santa. Santa tried accommodating the kids with the toys people had donated. When it came to me he gave me a Barbie I didn’t really want. But I never said anything because I was so grateful to have at least one gift under the tree. I understand wanting something different, but I also understand being grateful for what you have. Regardless, I could never imagine complaining so publicly about a miracle gift when the alternative is nothing because I’ve heard stories from children who’s tags never get picked.
People act like Christmas just sneaks up on them, like every year its on a different day. As someone who was poor as a child, poor as a young adult and a little less poor now, I save what I can throughout the year and will buy things during the year on sale. Obviously things can happen throughout the year to make that impossible but you make do with what you have. Buying a child 2 out of the 3 things they asked for is absolutely a blessing. And with people doing this crap, guarantee it will turn off people from wanting to donate again. Strangers, who have no obligation whatsoever, wanted to help someone out, dont go online to shame someones generosity.n
Yep. I would be infuriated if I used my hard earned money to help out a complete stranger and found out that they were ranting that it wasn’t enough. It’s an act of generosity and people should be touched & grateful for whatever they receive. When I’ve experienced difficult times, I’m appreciative of any well-meaning act of kindness. People who are honestly really struggling would be thankful for any sort of help & not complaining that it isn’t enough. People have the right to complain about the lack of government funded assistance for necessities. They don’t have the right to complain that strangers aren’t helping them with what they wish to have.
I had a family down the street who used to register for the Salvation Army adopt a family program every year to get presents for their kids. Then I watched them remodel the house they rented ( not owned), bought a new big screen TV and a $5000.00 Craftmatic Adjustable Bed for her and her husband.
Noted: no longer helping children because no present is better than something.
expecting everything off a wishlist is so entitled. They could’ve been skipped and received nothing.
Angel tree lists aren’t long though. All the ones I’ve seen the kids usually ask for 5 or less items or the tickets say things like “Molly is 5, she loves Barbie’s, earrings, playing with fake makeup and anything pink. She currently wears size 5t clothes and size 3 shoes.” Going through the tickets over the years I actually never seen a child ask for an iPad, PlayStation, Xbox. I mean, there’s always somebody so not saying it doesn’t happen but I’d say most fill those lists out with reasonable requests.
You seem to have completely missed the entire point...
@@SewFloSewing the angel tree ticket I picked up this year had 3 pairs of Jordans, a pair of Nike shoes that are apparently special limited edition, and a Nike tech tracksuit. I asked if I could exchange it for another because those are way out of my price range, and they gave me one that had a gaming PC lol. The teenager lists, at least in my town, are always big ticket items every single year
@ omg that’s just ridiculous. I’m thankful for my humble community I guess lol
When people say omg if you gonna choose it get everything I respond with . When you were a kid did Santa bring you everything on YOUR wishlist ? If not then thats what these kids gonna learn too, they can’t expect everything but these strangers making sure they have something
I've bought for the angel tree before. I consider it a wish list - NOT a list of demands that need to be met! When my kids submitted their Christmas lists to me - same thing. It's called a wish list for a reason. If you get it - cool. If not? Maybe that will give the parent room/time for a birthday present.
My wife left me, I'm living in the house that we had two incomes to pay for, now it's just me. I'm barely making it, and have to go days without eating because the bills to keep a roof over my head are more important. I won't be able to get anything for my two kids this year, I've cried so many times to the point it's turned into anger. I would take anything and be grateful for it, I'd never ever complain to the Internet for ANYTHING. I don't even want to get out of bed on Christmas because I feel like an absolute failure of a father.
I promise things will get better, you never were and never will be a failure. Your kids are grateful just to have you in good health, i’m certain of it💗happy holidays and be kinder to yourself - you’re doing your best
You are not a failure! All you need to do is love your kids! You and your children are in my thoughts!
My suggestion would be to go to a local park or somewhere that doesn’t cost money with your kids (just make sure you all wrap up warm!). Have a day of doing fun things, making some silly crafts with pens or pencils or playing a boardgame. Christmas is about family, you are trying your best and I promise you your kids know that you’re trying your best. I wish there was someway to help.
Those babies love you ❤ You're doing your best and they will look back on this and remember it. Coming from a person who grew up in a similar experience, knowing I was so loved and given everything I could is the most amazing thing looking back on as a grown up ❤🙏
The fact that you care enough to feel like a failure means you're not a failure. Good parents do the best that they can regardless of how difficult things are. And sometimes the best you can do is just being there for your kids. In the long run, that's what they're going to remember. Hang in there.
I think the problem is wayyy too many people (on both sides) need to get a fucking diary. Like do they not have friends they can vent to?
My opinion however is im a little torn. On one hand there are parents who let their kids ask for the most expensive stuff like xboxes and iPads and I've sadly seen where nobody picks up an Angel from the tree because its too expensive. I also know plenty of people who dont buy their kids everything on their Christmas list so i don't think theres anything wrong with not getting every single thing they put down. As long as its some of the things because its better than nobody picking up the angel
On the other hand if you're not going to get a single thing they ask for then dont pick it up. Kids are allowed to be disappointed if they asked for a Barbie doll snd you got them a 2 Dollar knock off Barbie with no hair in the middle.
All in all, all these people meed a diary.
Right. She didn’t need to complain online about it.
wow. you are genuinely so insightful it’s crazy to see that in comment sections these days
You are the most correct commenter in my opinion
Completely agree. There is a list on the ticket so don't take it. "Choosing beggars" yes is a thing but that shouldn't be an excuse to expect ppl to just take crap and was not listed too.
@@birichinaxox9937 I definitely agree that if what they're asking for is reasonable get it. If someone wants a Barbie doll, get them a real Barbie doll. If there's someone asking for an Xbox and you notice at your local Walmart nobody has picked up the ticket and it's close to Christmas and you just want the kid to have a Christmas so you pick it up and get something that isn't cheap but you think they will like okay. It's the parents fault for allowing them to ask for a $500 gaming system. But seriously. End of the day, none of this had to be here . Everybody needed their phones taken away because this is ridiculous.
We literally used to do this as a family until parents like this ruined it for their children. Imagine publicly criticizing people just trying to buy YOUR kids FREE Christmas gifts.
I’m laughing at the dollar tree Christmas thing bc my mom recently admitted on Christmas the years where she claimed we might have less gifts due to financing it always seemed like we had more gifts than usual. She said it was because she would stock up on dollar tree toys and clothes for us and we appreciated it every time 😂❤ I didn’t know people cared that much tbh cus as a kid I wasn’t even thinking about how expensive my gifts were. Honestly I think some of those responses really show how privileged these people really are. This Christmas I even bought some stuff from goodwill for my family to turn into something more new looking and personalized. It’s all about perspective
Ash’s video was just way off base. As others have already said, that wasn’t a dollar tree haul. Those look like good gifts. Her entire argument seems to just be based on the idea of someone buying a bunch of cheap gifts when that wasn’t the case.
13:27 I would get donated gifts from the local community center around Christmas and was always grateful .it really doesn’t matter
It's different when you're getting donated gifts and not told to sit down and make a list of what you want. If somebody wants to pick and choose what they want to buy for less fortunate children they should just go by whatever it is they want and donate it. They shouldn't go and pick a list full of specific items and then deviate from that list, so that child has nothing that they wanted. That's not what the angel tree is for.
@@lostineggsaislebut that’s how Christmas lists work, did you get every single thing that was on your Christmas list and nothing outside of it? There’s no requirement in angel tree to get every single thing on the list or nothing at all, they encourage you to do the best you can.
I was an angel tree kid a couple of times when I was a kid. It’s a great program. I was shocked and grateful to even get anything those years.
I'm so glad I grew uo in a family that made a point of instilling in me that Christmas isnt about gifts. Even as a child I learned humbleness and gratefulness. This mom is ignorant and intitled.
There were many years where Christmas wasnt as "bountiful" as other years. Those are the years that remind us more about what Christmas is really all about
What upsets me is that people forget that the holiday isn't meant to be about gifts. It's meant to be a celebration of love and not the material items. From what I heard on this video the mothers that did the lists for their kids expected full gifts lists. At one time those angels were meant to be one item per child, not a whole haul. The list was supposed to be a list of things the child wanted or needed and their size options and the angel buying could choose one thing or more from the list. Sometimes I feel society is becoming too greedy and less thankful for what we do have and it's situations like this that make people who can help choose not to help.
I think all of them are ridiculous for putting any of this on the internet. 🤷♀️
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My first thought.
As parents we have 12 months to prepare for Christmas. I used to shop sales & tucked gifts away. It’s not about “kids who have less deserve less” no one’s saying that. it’s not a strangers job to provide for strangers kids, be grateful
No it's not but those people also choose to donate. While there are definitely ungrateful people out there, saying "we have 12 months to prepare" isn't helpful if you've been barely making the bills for that entire 12 months
How are you going to complain about FREE stuff? Seriously?!? No one HAS to buy your kids anything. My husband and I used to adopt 2 kids off the angel tree every year. I would be so hurt if the parents went on social media to complain about anything we had purchased. Unfortunately, finances have changed and for the past 4 years we haven't been able to help anymore, but dang! How absolutely ungrateful and entitled does one have to be to complain about stuff strangers take their time and money to help YOUR child? It's appalling behavior.
3:11 I like how this is another drama caused by someone having negative comprehension skills
Wow. That second lady, Ash(?) the whispering one, is an example of the American commercialisation of Christmas and what people think of as spoiled and privileged. I'm sorry she lost her husband and all but surprised that her first thought about her children celebrating their first Christmas without their father was if she was going to have enough money to buy them "real" presents. Since when are presents from the Dollar Tree not real presents? My hard working factory mom and dad raised me before parents ever thought of asking strangers to buy "angel" presents for their kids. My mom bought some of our presents from garage sales and we knew it. No one was unhappy to be getting used things because they were new to us. We also were encouraged to round up our toys every year that we outgrew and give them to kids who were less privileged than us because back then there were no Dollar Trees or even Walmarts where we lived. And people were all grateful. The flipping audacity of these mothers. I live in Central America/Caribbean where luckily, the influence of the US consumerism isn't as terrible and children are happy with very few toys and books for Christmas with little neighborhood giveaways and things like apples and grapes are still looked at as gifts. The original mom and that second one are something else. I'm only at 9:03.