Why I'm Giving Up The "American Dream"
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- Опубликовано: 7 авг 2021
- The "American Dream" is often viewed as a respectable, comfortable, and ideal quality of life, primarily involving a stable job, good income, and above all buying a house.
I think I'm giving up on it. Not because I believe I can't attain it, but because I realized when it comes to the American Dream, it's not actually a dream life for me. I'm pursuing my own dream, the "Adrian Dream" and I hope you do too.
Shoutout to Timothy Ward for inspiring this video topic
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Biggest secret is....the American dream takes 3 generations to achieve. 3 generations of backbreaking hardworking.
I didn't consider that, but that makes sense. Great point!
@@AdrianLoganLive
A lot of immigrants and children of immigrants will most likely never reach the American dream but the grand children (3rd Gen) will have the support and knowledge from the 1st and 2nd gen to make it possible....It takes 3 generations or more....1st gen suffers the most.....2nd Gen will try to fix 1st gen mistakes and suffer as well...3rd Gen will inherit wisdom, secrets, assimilation, and finances from 1st and 2nd Gen to achieve the American Dream....so basically, it takes 50 years or more.....Very few ppl achieve the American Dream in 1st or 2nd generation mode. The goal is not to give up....because giving up means you are messing things up for the next generation (your kids).
Being s as blue to have a home , a couple cars, and a decent retirement is very achievable
Depending on what country you live in and the type of belief system your country lives by. We here in America live in them youngest mixing pot of a country, but because of its foundation, we are king of the hill. (Even over israel)
There is much to expand on than this comment section can handle.
@@gpnulife Well I'd be interested to hear you expand on it. What do you mean by "youngest mixing pot of a country"? And do you think USA has stable enough footing to continue being a dominant power for decades more to come?
Man I feel you. My aha moment came when I was moving my parents into an assisted facility. While I was moving out all her stuff giving and selling things she would no longer need; mom commented with deep sadness "60 years of things gone in a few hours". I realized right then we own nothing and TIME is our greatest currency. Live happy, love hard and ask yourself when was the last time I did something for the first time. Glad that you figured it out.
Yep. I feel that emotional attachment to possessions to hoarded possessions is something especially unique to our parents generation, but is dying out in ours and I'm glad to see it is.
Cherish relationships, memories and experiences. But hoarding decades worth of material items that in most case haven't been used or thought about in decades is obsessive.
Thanks for sharing man
what a statement
I work in nursing, and I have seen the lady in our billing department laugh about an 90 year old lady coming into our office crying how the nursing home took everything they owned ! The company took everything. Their home, vehicles, bank account and anything they could. The film, I care alot, is closer to reality than people know.
Very true my Men!
Damn bro that’s real…
My family came from Vietnam. Every member followed the American dream. My parents paid off their Modest home but to be honest, they are not happy in their own lives because their own relationship is failing as they failed to work on it over time. My sister has her own home and large successful salon but she works all the time and her own relationship with her husband is bad. She is not happy. My brother has the largest home, two kids with wife also working but he is often stressed because of bills. He tries to shift his perspective to be content. My group of friends are all first generation here in the USA, they also are currently trying to follow this same set path. They have all bought homes or is planning to buy home. They often compare/compete with each other. Who gets married first, who buys home first, who gets biggest home, who has nicer ring, nicer cars, etc. It's very opposite with who I am and quite toxic imo 😅. I do like comfort but get bored often. I want a life with plenty of time to do what I want to do but also contribute to community in some way. I want small home but with good amount of land to raise animals and garden. My partner and I plan to open up a clinic but we will not work overtime and we will shut down clinic 2 times a year +holidays off to relax/travel. We like camping and hiking a lot so we would want to be somewhere with that available. That is satisfactory enough to us. We don't want big home, fancy cars, lots of brand name things... We just want to be happy.
The difference between you and everyone else you mentioned, is that they are all working hard to be perceived a certain way by others and going after goals they *think* they should have... while you're working hard towards simply being happy and realizing your own goals.
I'm 100% with you. That's awesome. Congratulations! :)
Congratulations. I've been looking for a cheap piece of land in the rural Tennessee, to put my little 3 bed mobile home on. I just need about an acre of land, to grow on, and build a garage, to be able to work on cars, which is a personal hobby. I drive a 88 Chevy celebrity, 500 dollar pull a part junker. I'm perfectly happy, in my life, and skin. I never want a job again. Miserable times. I can generate income thru odd jobs, and bartering. I understand just wanting time to live. Screw an American dream.
That exactly what I want you said it perfectly
Wow!... so well said 👏🏾... Happy 4 you & your Clarity
Love this I’m with you.
I am an American, and the ”Dream”of home ownership over the last several years has become a “nightmare”! I agree with you.
Nightmare is right! Likely the most I'd be willing to do from a "cost/value" perspective is buy a condo if I find one that's reasonable.
I’m never buying a house again going forward I’m only buying assets
I always thought this.
@Be Intelligent Expand your mind and think outside your own shoes. If you bought before the past few years things have changed greatly since then. Nevermind if you bought 5, 10 or 20 years ago.
@Be Intelligent you are part of the problem.
This was very well said, I never bought into the" American dream". I live within my means and I'm not trying to keep up with anyone else.
That's definitely the way to be. I still want to make more money, but not by all means necessary. Thanks Margo!
The RUclips algorithm strikes again. I identify with everything you say in this video. I am a proud American and have served in the military my entire life. But the “American Dream” is not my dream. I have a good friend that I visited recently. He makes way more money than me. He has a huge house and many cars, ATV’s, a RV, and all kinds of other toys. He’s also miserable and completely stressed about money. He lives paycheck to paycheck and his health is going downhill.
I have gone the opposite route in recent years. I have cleared the clutter and unnecessary “stuff”. I focus on my health by eating healthy and exercise. I now save and invest 60-75% of my income every month even on a small salary. Where there’s a will there’s a way. I am on track to retire in 4 years at 45 years old financially independent and ready to travel the world. I want to go to Colombia to learn Spanish and climb mountains throughout South America. Meet people of different cultures. Time freedom is far more satisfying than any material goods out there. That is my dream.
Yes! I literally just put out a video talking about this very thing yesterday. What TRUE freedom is, and what you're doing is a great example of that, in comparison to your friend. Having options equals freedom, and a lot of time people with a lot of money focus on things, and how they are perceived, and then one day realize they are miserable and "stuck" and have no idea why. It's because they've limited themselves.
Your plan is very similar to mine, live minimally, Invest wisely, travel, go to a Latin american country, backpack and take in the culture and continue building my fluency in the language. Time freedom is huge.
I'm happy to hear that Chris. We're definitely on the same page.
I’m with you in this.
When you said “For a lot of people, their parents are the main character in their story”? I felt seen. I love my mother but I’m starting to realise every major life choice I have made has been for her and I’m 32. When do we start truly living for ourselves and stop living for other people?
I know it's tough, especially when you appreciate all the sacrifices your parents have made for you, and the value they've given and added to your life. Particularly if you come from a strong culture. But there has to come a point in our lives where we take responsibility and make our own choices. We don't want to get old and find ourselves on our death bed only to realize the life we lived wasn't a path of our own, but instead the path of our parents who lived a second life through ours vicariously.
They had their own life, and they raised you the best they could so you are prepared for your own. Time to experience life the way it's meant to be experienced. Making your own decisions, and walking a path that you can be proud to know is all your own.
It's awesome that you've realized that so early. Many people never do until much later in life only after their parents pass away and they realize they've never made their own decisions, until now when they absolutely have to.
Thanks for sharing!
@@AdrianLoganLive parents ain’t sacrifice shit for kids. Them 2 people should’ve not fu(ked and had children
I agree. It took me to 30 to realize my dad has been vicariously living through me my entire life and it’s the reason I was so unhappy for so long.
Realizing I don’t even know who I am was a painful reality to face. Parents think they’re doing the right thing but they’re actually causing much more damage than the actual guidance they think they’re giving. I’m 34 now and still not entirely sure who I am on on my own but I’m figuring it out as I go. I was never encouraged to be myself, in fact shamed for being myself and didn’t realize it until 4 years ago. It’s been a long road of healing but it’s absolutely worth it.
@@AFFTFOMSICHTS I'm happy to hear that. There's loads of people in your situation but some literally don't realize it until after there parents die and they no longer make decions through a filter of what their parents would want. Unfortunately that moment for some people doesn't come until their 50s or worse. Overtime you'll continue to unravel your identity :)
***Being frank and honest with you, that occurrence only happens when YOU actually, really want truthfully, permit, that change into your life***
A lot of people work so hard for many years in the hope that they will “start to live” when they retire at like 60+ years. However, there is no guarantee you will have you health at that time, or even be here ..naturally, I hope you are …but the “dream” is a trap. I like your message here. I am 52 and dropped out of permanent employment to freelance, so I can earn “enough” to take time out ..months at a time between work, so I can have freedom and not wait until I am older and live life now …not when I can “afford” to in retirement
That's the way to do it. Awesome I feel the same way
I let go of the American dream a long time ago. I realized the it was more of a nightmare and decided to carve my own path. My dream is to live stress free and debt free. I just want peace of mind. It would be nice to have the security of a home and all but it just doesn't seem worth it anymore. I learned my lesson when I went into debt from college and soon learned that a college degree does not guarantee you all the things they promised it would. One thing is for sure you will be paying off debt for many years thereafter. I feel like I've been mislead by so many people that said this was what I was supposed to do. If I'm being completely honest though I want out of this country and I want to start new somewhere else where life is much more simple and people are content with the little things that life has to offer.
I had a similar path through paying off debt and then finally getting to a position where I had a decent job and could start saving a reasonable amount of money...only to look up and realize things are not the way it was for my parents or grandparents generation.
Tuition costs should be lower, not higher. Housing costs are way out of control. And what we thought would make us happy does not. It's so important we create a life by design, otherwise the life we get by default may feel empty and like a burden.
Happy to hear you've figured out the path you want to go down for your happiness and freedom. You got it
Man, I love that you connected The American Dream with comfort and complacency! I'm an American and I been thinking the same thing about how there are far too many Americans *obsessed* with "achieving" a life of *material comfort*. This American Dream notion / concept really needs a huge update to be more inclusive.
Glad you liked it! The biggest problem I see is that it's pegged to a time period where comfort and complacency were the norm. The "good old days" of getting a job and expecting that if you just be a good worker, you will be there for 40 years, can reliably afford a house and payments making up a small percentage of your net income, retire with a pension and have a stable retirement.
Comfort and complacency made sense back then. But now things are changing too fast, technology and trends and even education becomes outdated, and there's no such thing as working 40 years for a company anymore, not to mention a pension is a thing of the past.
Some people would argue the american dream is about anyone from any walk of life being able to get an education and live reasonable in peace. But when education has gone up something crazy like 1800% in a matter of a few decades, along with housing going from like 3x family income to 16x family income on average, it's just not a dream anymore.
For many people, falling into comfort and complacency just may be the worst possible decision, things are changing too fast, technology taking over jobs, and multiple streams of income is the most "secure" way of living going forward for the most part.
Sorry for the extra rant lol I just feel like a lot of people are pulling an ostrich move and sticking their heads in the ground denying the obvious changes. Thanks for commenting!
I think you make an important point here…. We need to follow our own path to find happiness instead of just mindlessly doing what is considered a traditionally happy and successful life. That being said, a traditional life might be something someone wants, but that should be a choice that is made after every other option is careful considered. A house with kids isn’t everyone’s idea of happiness and we should normalize different types of success or happiness
Totally agree. Some people the traditional life is the ideal one.
Well said
Yes!! Normalize different types of success or happiness 👏🏼👏🏼
Yes 😊
Best comment ever
Like a wise man once said "It's called the American dream, because you need to be asleep to believe it"
RIP to a comedic legend
i think the American Dream is still thier but it has evovled into a dream of financial freedom and understanding what you truly want. The American dream has been painted as a materilistic idealogy of having the best car,the best house, buying the best degree from the most prestiges school. All of that really dosent manner. its about how you want your lifestyle where you feel no stress and happiness.
I agree. That is certainly the emerging change that's happening though it's still a small portion of the population who've made that mindset shift.
A lot of people are still so indulged in their efforts for the old dream that they haven't looked up yet to realize the truth of their efforts. It would be like someone entering the workforce today depending on a company pension. The old ways and systems are gone. And what you described will (I hope) become the new paradigm in the future. Let's hope it really starts to catch on!
Thanks for sharing
Keep dreaming
Okay I don't live in America, but I still agree with the message/rant where we have to follow this "grand path" that everyone follows. This one equation that if you do A,B and C you'll live a happy life... And I'm not against people who choose to follow the traditional life but it's one I could never follow...
Totally. I think the American dream and the "keeping up with the Jones's/Your neighbors go hand in hand. We often find ourselves more focused on looking the part we think others approve of or would be impressed by, instead of asking ourselves what we truly desire.
Thanks for sharing!
@Driftwood&Sagebrush I've been working retail for 20 years, management 17 years in Produce strictly. Multiple times I've been asked to "move up". Other produce managers have gotten a spot in store management getting a fat paycheck on salary plus other luxuries. I got transferred to the flagship store of the company as the assistant produce manager and even they asked me to move up.
No.
They mentioned it'll be a raise. Even after I already had two raises within a year.
Still no.
They had another produce manager show up who's been with the company 27 years. He was asking me about taking the produce management spot and I told him I kinda didn't want it, then mentioned how I'll be stepping down in my hours then eventually retiring.
"What!?" Was his reaction.
He was mentioning how I'm too young to retire as I'm only 38. My grand plan in life isn't to work until the day I day. My grand plan is to cut back on hours and focus on my book and my husband while laying in bed watching TV most the day.
I want to relax. Been doing this 20 years. I'm tired of the grind. Now since I'm assistance, a lot of the stress has been taken off me and am a 6-4 every day with 2 days off a week. With management benefits.
They gave the position to someone else and I was still given yet a third raise. Coworkers are saying how that's cold that they done that to me. Saying how I should have gotten the position.
Why would I want to move up? My house is paid off. I told my husband we'll start upgrading the house right now and pay off the vehicles, cause once everything is done and out the way, more money will go into Savings for to cut my hours some more.
Surprises the heck out of people.
Then I'm not moving anywhere as I moved in with my husband and his family has been living on this land for generations. The land is always passed down to family in the Will.
....That's awesome. Perfect example right there. Congratulations!
@@christins.1481 Yea can't lie, I worked for Publix and Wegmans in the produce dept. And first, I am shocked how much managers get to be a produce manager. Reason why I say that is bc if you were to take each dept and you were able to place the produce dept in its own store it would be the size of a small breakfast restaurant. Produce is actually inherently cheap when you buy in bulk. These managers and assistant managers ar these spots get 45 grand a year as ASM!! And like 75grand as manager! That's crazy to much! I litterly would do more physical labor, all the managers would do is place orders for the truck 😆 lol litterly have no clue why they get paid basicly 45.00 an hour lmao!
@@seanguzy9601 I'm in a small chain and we get paid less compared to the big chains, but because I been doing this nearly two decades, I get paid for my experience and so they can keep me. I don't get paid $45 an hour in my chain and don't know any produce manager who does. Thing is, I get paid more than most my bosses over in grocery, then I do less work and have less responsibilities meanwhile having the same benefits as them since I'm "technically" a manager.
Working in Produce is therapeutic because the job is easy pretty much. You're basically a 6-4 and if you have some experience under your belt you get paid a fat paycheck. Still get some people quitting saying they didn't know produce would be that hard and quit as they were juggling with stocking shelves, down stacking the pallet and customer service.
The problem was they didn't have the speed, yet, and couldn't multitask between customers and the floor.
Also, my title is the assistant produce manager. But you're right, we do get paid a lot to do less work, compared to grocery. That's why I never wanted being promoted to grocery as a big manager.
I'm someone though who believes in leading by example. I don't expect those beneath to do my job or any extra as they're not paid to do those things. Even my boss before he was fired, he would leave early forcing our other guy who wasn't management to stay later and so I would step in and tell him to leave and I'll stay later since that's what I get paid for. Corporate found out about that and got mad at my boss because that was originally his job, not mine nor the other guy.
So even though I do get paid a lot, I'm an assistant manager who's actually worth the labor and I don't expect non-management to do the extra work.
"I'd rather pursue fulfillment over certainty." This is exactly where I am at the moment. I've lived abroad (in the same country) for thirteen years teaching. I started a small teaching business, and I thought I would do it forever. IT IS VERY SECURE, but I feel trapped. My husband and I have decided to get rid of almost everything to move to one of our favorite cities. Just being secure isn't enough for us anymore! Thank you for your video.
That's awesome Renae. That secure business is often the "golden handcuff" that many are just unwilling to give up for a higher valued lifestyle. I think it leaves many with regrets later in life.
Congrats on making the jump!
Contract to bondage is deep & so true. I went from two jobs to trying to figure out my bills with working part time ONLY. I questioned myself am I lazy and my answer is NO it’s so much I want to do hay that working would not permit 🥰
I hear that. There is a certain level of freedom that comes from working only as much as is needed to pay bills and take care of necessary responsibilities. And using the rest of time focusing on things you truly value!
Love you and your message! You and Timothy Ward are so bomb!!! I moved to Arizona in the pandemic, with my husband. I got married at 44. Not having kids. Living a simple, happy, carefree life. Appreciate you!!!
Congratulations Pam! Persevering and thriving despite the conditions. Love to hear it :)
What part of Arizona did you guys relocate to?
Told a family member I didn’t want to chase the American Dream because I didn’t want to stay in debt and miserable. They said debt is normal and that I am too young and don’t understand life. I was upset. I felt as though maybe I needed to graduate from a fancy college to get a degree I’m not sure I want. I started college in higher school because I wanted a home that had love and be a resource to my community. I didn’t really go to school to get a degree. Though I don’t hate college or higher education, I just didn’t want to get into debt and hate my career. I love versatility and creativity. I’m teaching myself code and pursuing a career in web development. I would love to move abroad, get rid of my car, and live within my comforts. If I’m going to work for something, i need to feel content. Am I crazy?😅
Great job! Sure debt is normal, so is an unfulfilled life full of stress and living pay check to pay check. "Normal" is not a worthy pursuit. Stay in your lane and keep moving forward towards what fulfills you. Conformity is a bitch. Don't fall into that trap
Bit of a raw rant, not exactly my typical video. Let me know if you think I should do these more, or stick to more outlined videos. Just trying things out...Sharing my thoughts. Thanks for watching
Natural is best. People connect with what is organic too. Everything doesn’t need to be “polished.” 😊
@@winter_s_44 Thank you :) It's definetely easier to edit haha Tomorrows video is more raw and conversational as well.
Agreed 💯
Read my rant…I think it’s the most recent comment.
Oh you said what you needed to say
The dream isn't that hard to achieve. The problem is, so many people want more than they can afford. Why buy a $50,000 car when a $15,000 car will suffice? Just because the bank will loan you $400k for a house doesn't mean you should get such an expensive house. I'm in agreement with you bro. I'm unplugged from the matrix. I'm 42 and debt free. I keep it simple. I'm not trying to stunt for Instagram or impress anyone. I'm so glad to see that I'm not the only one who rejects the social norms. Great content.
That's it bro. People feeling convinced they need more than they do, living beyond their means, and prioritizing the short term things. Not enough delaying of gratification.
That being said, inflation is a problem, and so are the housing and tuition cost increases compared to income over the past few decades.
But as you mention, financial management and competance is a necessary skill that is not being taught or kept up with enough
Sigma Nation stand up! 👍🏾😎✌🏾
I couldnt afford a car for 15K in USA, so I moved to the Philippines and got a scooter for $500. Never been happier my entire life. I have people that love me here, no crime, no stress, and Im healthy again. Cheers.
I'd love to live in the Phillipines. How'd you pull that off or get a job there?
And a lot of people don't think about actual price vs. Appraisal.
I Once Heard A Pastor Say: "Live Each Day Like It's Your Last Because One Day, It Will Be". When U Tend 2C LIFE From That Lense, You Really Do Realize That The Most Important Things In LIFE Really Aren't "Things*, But "People". Living, Loving, Sharing And Experiencing One Another. Those Are The "Things" People Will Remember About You. Not That Big Home Or Nice Car U Had... Great Video Man ✌️
Preach! Totally agree. Possessions are tools, nothing to take pride in.
I live in Africa but the american dream is the goal also here, university degree, corporate 9-5 job, fenced 3 bedroom house, 3 kids, a car and a trophy woman. Well its not for me, I quit university and stared my own business that am passionate about and like you said, I would rather mam less money but on my terms, I live in one bedroom apartment thats more than enough for me, I also dont want kids because I don't see anything that parents get out of being parents and also I ride a motorcycle. I wake up without an alarm clock and I can't wake up before the sun, am just living my dream life
That's exactly the way it should be Joel. Realizing what ideal life is best suited for you and pursuing it. Congrats man
Well said Joel ! I share the same sentiments like you
The movement has begun. Thank you for sharing.
YEP! Thanks for watching :)
My dream is to live abroad, and it's the best decision I've ever made. I relocated to Tanzania early last year. I'm living my dream by choice, not by influence.
Ah that's awesome. A friend of mine also moved out there in Tanzania last year. Congrats Kaddy. Life by design, and not by default!
Sold my house last year. There is a lot of worry that comes with it! Especially on a single income
Just went to your channel and watched your video about it. You clearly have thought through it deeply and have made the decision that best matches your values. Congratulations!
@@AdrianLoganLive I feel richer now than when I had alllll my debt haha. While I do acknowledge leverage/debt can be used to get ahead I decided to opt against it since I'm a worrier by nature. Will hopefully be traveling to different cities in México to see where I can settle down for a few years! Can't wait to see your journey on your travels abroad. Woot.
@@minimalmiss I love this comment. Do you know I’ve stressed myself out for almost a year bidding over ask for a home and I’m purchasing by myself. I don’t even feel the same about getting a house at this point. I’ve owned one before I sold it in 2013 and just wanted that again. Maybe it’s not for me. I saved enough money to go do something that makes me truly happy I just have to sort out what in fact that really is😭I too am an avid planner and worrier. Good luck on your next chapter sis!
so good to see finally more and more of you waking up.
Man your videos are the truth! I remember the first time I got furloughed on my government job I once had years ago. I thought that job was my "end all be all" when i got it. It was like suppose to be a "secure" job too. No job is stable or forever and I learned that when it happened to me. Thank you for mentioning about the kids. I don't want them either clearly thought there was something wrong with that. It plays on my mind if I am going about doing things the right or wrong way in life but your videos help me with that.
I appreciate that bro. This current generation is going through such a change in how the world works, how the economy works, how money is made, how technology is being used etc. It feels like the old mentality that has been used for decades and even centuries is outdated. Everyone is going to have to re-evaluate their plans because a lot is changing, and if we don't make the change ourselves, it seems people will be forced to changed and get caught off guard
This video helped me gain clarity, you spoke in words what I’ve been feeling but couldnt express.
I'm happy to hear it resonated with you man. It took a while for me to put words to the feeling as well.
Thank you for your truth. Your video is really enlightening and hopefully others will be open to hear your truth. I had my wake up call about the so called “American Dream” two yrs ago and I have been happy ever since. I have never chased cars and homes as that was never me. I just woke up to be happier with less. I am free.
Thank you Lila. Was there a particular event that lead to your "wake up call" or that was just the moment you gained clarity on your priorities in life?
I knew it was a flaw from the begging especially for those not born in a rich family. So I got two dish washing jobs for a year saved up bought a house in the cheapest city in the USA for 10k and started flipping houses. I made more in 5 years than I would have in my entire life had I lived the so called American dream 💪. Follow the heard be like the heard. Create you own path and the sky is the limit 💪
Great video and advice! Totally relate and agree with your view points! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks man. I appreciate it!
This was an amazing video, thanks for sharing 🙏🏾
Thank you 🙏🏽
This my bro right here! Fam, your videos are truth! This one is by far one of my favorites you’ve recorded, because so many ppl are scared to say, or act on how they truly feel!
It’s *REAL,* and *GENUINE* ppl like yourself that keep things in this world somewhat normal, in the positive light! Stay Blessed fam 💯🤜🤛✨
@@AdrianLoganLive No doubt bro! You keep going! We All rockin with you bro! I love Real Mags, and I’m bout to drop more content myself! Hahaha! (Peace fam) 💯
Yo, I feel ya heart and sincerity. Like this was amazing. I'm on this same path as well and I wish you well. Cant wait to start my journey.
Thank you :) All the best on your journey Crystal!
I'm a year late but this video was right on time! I feel the same. "Fulfillment over Stability" ...words to live by.
Thanks! Happy it resonated with you
This definitely resonates with me. great rant!
Happy to hear it. Thank you :)
Every word of this. I’ve watched a few more of these videos than I’d have liked to, but this one. I affirm you my friend because you spoke to my soul this morning. Thank you 🙏🏽.
I'm happy it resonated with you. Thank you for letting me know!
I believe your realization was an eye opener for many. I think alot of times we say either or intstead of and also or in addition to. What I'm saying your video has shed light on the fact we can create the life we want to live. We don't have to have approval or permission to do so. I thank you for sharing.
Exactly! Thank you
Feels good to not be alone in this!!♥️🙏🏾
This one video made me Smash that subscribe button! So glad to see men my own age waking up!!!
Thanks Ross. It's hard to ignore what's going on!
💛💛💛 awesome share & tips! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching Zweena!
I really enjoy watching this yu make sense on alot of points, i wish yu all the best on what life have to offerd
I appreciate that brother. Same to you!
Wow! Thank you Adrian for making this video. I relate to everything you said and I do need to sit down and start some heavy evaluation of what I truly desire. You are spot on when you say most of us have been going with the flow or been taught (brainwashed) that the “American Dream” is just what you do.
I have always wanted to travel more and that has never wavered from my mind. I know I don’t want to be forced to work full time for how many years to pay off a home in one location. I have never owned a home and was hell bent on possibly buying one this year or early next. Then I started thinking. I’m already 42. Is that what I really want? Does it make sense? If I do buy it most likely will be an investment property at this point where I can live in another part of the home.
I just want to travel, work minimal, and learn to invest. I no longer feel that I have to have the same dream as every other individual, including my father. I will continue to support theirs and expect the same in return.
Sorry for My rant. New subscriber here. Peace.
That sounds like a good plan to me. Possibly but a down payment on a multi-family home with 3 or 4 units. If you stay in one of the units you'd have free rent. And when traveling could always hire a property management company to oversee maintenance when you're gone or hire a retired family member to do it on the cheap or something while you're off traveling.
That's what I'd like to do ultimately once I can get a proper down payment set up. Sounds like an awesome plan to me!
Thanks for the rant. I love it lol
I appreciate this content so much. I have been following the FIRE movement because my goal is to be done with corporate America by 55. Both parents died last year, both retired and only lived to age 67. I know we don't know how much time we have, but I know I don't want to do what I'm doing for what time I do have.
Dude, I think the FIRE movement has single handedly changed the course of millions of lives that would have been lead right into a financial trap. I've taken a lot from it as well.
When you look at the statistics you find a shocking number of people dont live to see their planned retirement, and a significant number of those who do, die within 10 years of retiring. With that being known, I can't make decisions with the idea "I'll start enjoying life when I retire"...Hitting 60 or 70 may not even come, and if it does what shape will you be in to truly enjoy it?
That doesn't mean we should be irresponsible and not plan for retirement, but we can live within our means and avoid the financial/economic traps and enjoy freedom now. Just takes some intention and designing our lives.
Thanks for sharing King!
Great video brother 👍
Got yourself a new subscriber.
I was on the same tip about not having kids but it was the best thing that ever happened to me man. Something primal that's hard to explain...
I get it man. I know something beautiful clicks when you have children and your priorities change, you get a fire lit under you that outpowers anything else. It changes some people from a life of crime to a honest working citizen. It's the power of love. I've seen it in others. Its not the case everytime but I know there's power there. I imagine it's a deep seeded inner-change meant to help ensure we continue advancing life through protecting the child. Although I've decided it's not for me, I would never knock those who do.
Thanks for the sub bro!
This is probably the most inspiring rant ever!
Wow. That's quite the compliment Marco. Thank you!
Love this man, thanks for creating it. I've been on the same path.
Happy to hear that bro. Thank you
Go ‘head, Adrian. Handle your business. Best of luck on your journey.
I appreciate it!
Amen brother! Revolution is coming!!!!
Do what you want to do in life💕 love the video
You got it. Thank you :)
Who said the American dream was having a house, car, dog etc.
The American dream may mean something entirely different to those who coined the phrase. It might just be misinterpreted.
Myths are half true.
Great video g!💯💪🏽💪🏽
I appreciate it bro!
Preach brother, really well said.
Also cheers for all your hard work with these videos man!
Thanks so much, I truly appreciate it!
NOT a rant my friend.
You are speaking what increasingly more of us are thinking and feeling, and have been for some time.
Thank you :)
Great video. Very happy for an algorithm this time :) We were told since we were small to follow an authority. Do what your parents say, what your teacher says, never question anything or we would take our love away from you. Our emotional well-being was at stake. So we follow others, we follow TV, politicians, any kind of authority, adverts, friends, never questioning if this is good for any of us. When we achieve what we were told to achieve, we feel a very tiny relief. We feel safe for a split second. And then our abused mind is on its way to figure out the next thing to get for its own safety. It’s like an animal in the cage. Waiting for the worst to happen. We are living in constant fear. I adore parents that believe their child supposed to get in trouble with them. Thats the recipe to end all conflict, including wars. Only then “love your enemy” makes complete sense.
The great and mighty algorithm gets it right from time to time lol Glad you enjoyed it.
Yes that's true, and for a long time throughout human history it made sense to listen to parents and community leaders with blind faith and trust for the sake of survival and having the edge over other dominating species. But now? Our safety and convenience is so high, it makes sense that we do some thinking and exploring of our own, and I do see some parents encourage their children to do just that from an early age. I love to see it and hope more do too.
Thanks for sharing!
I like this monk style video bro… good job.
I will continue to travel the world
I appreciate it Tyrell. Great to hear that you're living out your dream. All the best
Stumbled on your video today. You’ve spoken nothing but the absolute truth
Thank you. I appreciate that!
Amazing video
It’s amazing how you stop & think… i myself also want to give up the American dream to live a minimalist life in other country like you…
This video is interesting and I appreciate it ! I myself want to purchase a house because I never lived in one. But I too do not want to settle in just one place.
I get it. It's nice to have a home base you can always come back to. Ideally we would like to purchase a very reasonable condo and so when we do travel for 4 months for example, we always have a place to come back to for recharging. There's nothing wrong with a house purchase if it matches your goals and income. All about designing the lifestyle you want. I hope you find the balance and get that home purchase Rachel :)
Pump it up brother
The cost of the American dream has become too costly and people are waking up...It feels like there's always a scam attached to the American dream like, HOA's, soaring house prices, and increasing property taxes...
Freedom is a beautiful thing especially when you don't have material baggage weighing you down...
Totally Linda. You said it exactly right.
I think there are a variety of circumstances under which many of us can flourish, but it is much easier to do when those circumstances are chosen consciously.
Absolutely. Intention is my biggest encouragement more than the actual choice people make.
Thank you for sharing
My pleasure Ajak. Thanks for watching!
I actually printed out that Goerge Carlin qoute and taped it at my desk at work like 2 weeks ago.
It's worth seeing everyday. He's got quite a few good ones
You've got a good narrating voice man
haha Well thank you. I've never gotten a compliment on my voice before!
I almost cried watching this. You get it bro
Thanks for letting me know that. It means a lot to hear that it resonates with you on that level
I’m glad this is becoming a thing. Western culture isn’t to supportive or people that are satisfied with life and not needing force some kindof movement forward.
Exactly
America only gave me hate, discrimination, racism from coworkers (this must be the worst place to work in the universe). America killed my spirit to the point of no return and took away my will to live.
Sorry to hear that. It can be a cruel place at times for foreigners. I've heard enough stories to know that's true. Sure there is opportunity but it comes with a unique uphill battle. Hope things turn around for you!
Awesome video! Glad you talked about crypto!
Thank you. I'm still hodling strong for this next bull market!
I love it not a rant, this is what Im working on.
You got it Paula. Just takes some consistant effort and a vision
Amen!!! I realized this last year. I agree a lot of $$ isnt everything. Is $$$ nice yes but its not everything. The American 401k and the 9 to 5 isnt really life. Who says any of us will live to see the age that most of these 401k's require to get ur money out. SMH They want u to work all of ur young years and retire at a age where u might not be able to really enjoy much more of it. Live life Bro!! Im wit ya! Peace and Happiness 💯
Right. Not to mention the rise in inflation over 40 years of working can cut the value of your retirement plans in half if you do get there. I have a retirement account I contribute too through work but I only put in enough to max out the matching contributions my work gives. Nothing more lol
Thanks for dropping through. Peace & Prosperity to ya!
@@AdrianLoganLive I know inflation is a mess isn't it. Plus are we gonna even have any Social Security....thats in question as well for future purposes. Understood I was doing same thing with matching lol Fa sho no doubt! Thank you and the same to you!
Your absolutely right spot on 💯 percent
I have true home ownership in Dominican Republic , no taxes , no mortgages , no permits , the house is mine and I paid a little money for it , not telling how much
haha Sounds like an awesome situation. I'd love to do something like that eventually as well. Congrats!
I think i have never related to someone so much in my life,also saw your video on why you dont want kids and your analogy about like is a 7/10 movie is just brilliant.
That's awesome to hear, I'm happy to know you've been feeling the content. Thanks for letting me know. With every video part of me really hopes some of the things I talk about is relatable. It's hard to know sometimes if what I feel is unique to me or if others feel the same. So thank you!
I agree. It's worse in the States. The US is a joke.
It most definitely is
It always has been especially for indigenous and colored people.
Especially, Especially. Indigenous to this day have it so bad. It's ridiculous
I Agree!
2022 this aged well. I paid off $150k. The cause of trying to impress people i don’t really like or know. I bought a modest house (mortgage only debt). I practice minimalism. I can track every penny I spend and make adjustments the way I see fit. It crazy how we as Americans fallen victim of debt is normal.
Sounds like you're on the right track and doing quite well. Plus, I've got to say it's impressive you paid off 150k. That takes some serious commitment and financial management. Great job!
I felt this ❤
I’m just looking for a few acres of land…and build some type of shipping container home on it🤞🏽🤞🏽
We've been intrigued by tiny homes. If we moved to a warmer climate we'd consider buying one of those 2 story, super space efficient and well planned out tiny homes complete with appliances for like 50k.
Great video! Living life of intention is great, but family, i.e., your parents are significant factor in what you may or may not do to honor your parents having you. They took care of me, I want to give back to them and take care of them when the time comes. My mother and father lived the "American Dream" bought a home and it's paid off, dad is retired but my mother died prematurely and my dad is "home alone", so I've made it a point to be there (I have my own apartment and enjoy my weekends there). All I am saying there are other factors that sway one's actions other than the "American Dream". I've never wanted the "American Dream", I've always sought living life, while trying to be responsible and have had a pretty good balance. Note I am 56 years old. 😉Good luck to whatever you wish to pursue.
Thank you. If someone is pursuing a great career and a big house and their motivation is to set their parents up and give back to them I think that's great. If that's what their dream is.
Personally, I just want to encourage people to go after what they want, sometimes that means doing for others. I just want people to not do things just because they feel "I'm doing what everyone else is doing because I'm told that will make me happy" without them actually asking themselves if they think it will make them happy. Hope that makes sense.
Helping parents will make a lot of people happy and there's nothing wrong with. Happiness and freedom is the north star!
@@AdrianLoganLive "Want" is so misleading. You get what you "want" and that ends up not being enough. It always happens. What is "travelling"? What is "living" somewhere else? One stays in one place too long, he will find something to be unhappy about that other location. It goes to what is "happiness" in general and what is "happiness" for you? Being "happy" is an emotion that will always be pursued and yet never really captured until you quiet the mind. It's not about being "happy" to take care of others, but it fulfills a stronger emotion to care for others, while caring for myself. Practicing gratitude would be a better pursuit of happiness.
@@ZalinaW I totally agree with you. Fulfillment and gratitude are better words to use to portray the message.
@@AdrianLoganLive 🥰 I wish you the best!
@@ZalinaW Thank you. And I peaked at your channel. All the best on your weight loss journey. You got it!
Very true my Men!
I feel you. My partner and I live in a cheap rented flat and tbh with you if I stay here for the rest lf my life I would be more than happy!
I live cheap so I dont have to work every day. Yes, I don't believe in 40 hours a week! Im self employed so I work when I want. No plans for kids or buying property.
Living below your means. Prioritizing time and the things you love. It just makes sense.
Love this video I have made strides toward the American dream” and I would much rather live by the beach and be a beach bum and eat fresh fruit and seafood and just have peace and not the hustle and bustle of life…
A simple life with peace seems to feel better than a complex life (even if luxurious) if it is full of stress and chaos. No doubt
I'm trying to get my wife to understand this... The american dream is some bullshat.... she wants a house soooo bad... I can care LESS
There’s generations of brainwashing about this, it will take time don’t give up. You are the start
My partner and I live in a 1200 Sq foot apartment and even this is more space than we need. I have no idea why people feel a need to have huge 2500sq foot spaces...I suppose unless you have like 3+ kids. Everyone I've said with large houses have atleast 1 room than never gets used. Show living rooms and dining rooms no one eats at. Moderation is important
AFTER PAYING OFF 98 THOUSAND IN STUDENT LOAN DEBT, I'M PRICE OUT OF OWING A HOME IN THE WASHINGTON DC AREA. I'M DONE WITH THE "American Dream"!
Between exponential rises in tuition (when there's no practical reason tuition isn't exponentially lower instead), and the real estate costs appreciating so fast, it's a scheme of the highest order.
On the other hand, excellent job on paying off 100k, that takes serious committment and financial management!
That’s a major accomplishment! So happy for you😊
WhatvI thought was my dream of becoming a homeowner came true in 2020. However I've felt trapped ever since. I actually wanted to build a tiny home are get a used RV home but a friend of mine and some relatives convince me it would be better to invest that money saved on a house. After my purchase so many things went wrong and the mortgage is like a yoke around my neck. Now I'm suffering anxiety and depression from this whole ordeal and I'm left with the task of "fixing" up the house so I can sell and get the RV/tiny home I should've gotten in the first place lol. Don't let people shame you into falling victim to this American dream. Its definitely not for everyone.
Sorry to hear that. That feeling of anxiety from being trapped and tied down to those mortgage payments is exactly what I want to avoid and I'm heard many others reflect the same feeling.
I'm always shocked to hear of people with car payments like "$300/month for 72 months" haha meanwhile people have mortgages like "$1200/month for 25 years" or more!
I wouldn't mind buying a condo and hopefully I will one day. But it will be at most a 10 year commitment and I'd like to have a significant fat down payment.
Thanks for sharing your experience and feeling of anxiety and regret. I know it's not easy sometime. Hope you get what you're looking for!
The thing with a paid of house is that when you get to old age, you would often time rely on retirement fund, not everyone had enough saved for retirement. So if rent goes up but your retirement and living on off retail rent you can’t work but at least you’ll be able to have a place to live and not be on the streets.
I hope what I’m trying to say makes sense
Absolutely. But that's only wise when you can afford it and a lot of people who can't afford it try to anyway thinking it's for the best when it may not be.
Often people will see a house for 500k and think they can afford it so they buy it and pay whatever the mortgage they are told needs to be paid on it. But many don't consider that after taxes and the interest they'll be paying on it over 30 years means that they did not spend 500k on a house, but actually spend 1.2 million for example.
For many buying a modest condo would be more realistic. I'm not against home ownership at all. I just feel sad at times to see so many people over leveraging themselves and getting into situations they don't totally understand, all because they were lead to believe it's what was right to do. Or because they saw their parents buy a house and manage it, not realizing it's a significant different time period and average housing costs compared to average income is nothing like it was before. It's not realistic for everyone.
Lot of foreclosed houses, living pay cheque to paycheque, downsizing (and the significant costs associated with it) all because of outdated expectations.
That's all it is man. I plan to buy a condo myself. But a dual income alone isn't enough to guarantee home ownership anymore and I want to encourage people to live within their means. Nothing quite like being house poor and a slave to debt for your whole life. It's avoidable.
Your point is absolutely true though. Having a fixed income in old age while the cost of everything keeps rising is a very vulnerable position to be in. Very true
Use a $100,000 a year salary as an example. 30 years ago you would be considered well off with this income. Today after paying bills, motgage/rent and taxes, you are no longer well off with that salary in America. That gives you a idea just how much the economy and cost of living has gone bad. Only the rich can have an " American Dream " with the poor ( no more middle class ) having the American nightmare.
Excellent video, I think a lot of us are coming to the realization that the dream is really an illusion. The only thing missing from your critique is an analysis of politics.
Thank you. I don't speak on politics directly because I don't feel competant enough about it to feel confident having a video permanently alone about it to be seen by potentially thousands of people lol.
I'm fine talking about individual subjects or topics giving my opiji9n, but politics is a different beast and so incredibly divisive.
You are right… I think that the baby boomer generation (ages 60+ specifically)is the only group that honestly benefitted from 30+years of company loyalty & home ownership. Here in Cali my parents bought there home in 1977 for $65,000 & there friends/neighbors that bought at that time are selling between $1.2-$1.7M. Meanwhile my wife and I had to pay $1M for our first pad and it’s stressful & expensive to keep up. When I bring up the topic of them being lucky with opportunity and timing, they just shake it off & laugh as if pay ratio & opportunity is the same now as it was then! They are in denial! Their American Dream was exponentially easier and cheaper to achieve.✌🏾
Yep I agree. I think for the most part there were 3 generations where buying land, buying a house, and having a loyal long term careeer was a very reasonable thing for the average person to achieve.
(Ofcourse there were whole groups of people that weren't allowed of were made to have a hard time doing it but that's a different topics)
But yes no boomer should be proud of what they did if they are also shaming people now. It's a completely different economical landscape. Tuition and real estate alone is outrageous.
These things should be getting easier to afford with our technology and advances, not significantly more difficult.
Thanks for sharing
It’s kinda all relative. Buying a house for $65,000 in 1977 is a lot like buying a house for $300,000 today. One of the benefits of living back in 1977 was that your dollar could buy a lot more back in that day than it can today.
@@Aduhwan yes it’s somewhat relative in maybe Midwest states but not here in Cali. My parents made about $60K combined income ($30K each in 1975) when they bought that home…and now it’s worth 25x times in value?!?!? Average household incomes have only risen 2x or maybe 3x max within that same 30+ year period. It’s not even close man…unequal society on steroids for anyone not inheriting big money.
Agreed. When I'm from in Ontario Canada a house that would have cost 40,000 in 1980 is easily going through 800k now. Real estate values are outpacing income and earning potential at an outrageous pace. Same with tuition. Completely unsustainable and destructive for the economy
@@jtt1928 No argument here. The real estate market in Cali is an entirely different universe compared to the rest of the USA.
there are a lot of jobs that enable you to make a living and and travel the world. Some are quite lucrative if you have the skill set and training. Pursuing that type of lifestyle and home ownership in America are not mutually exclusive.
For sure and that's part of my ideal for my life. Work remotely, live minimally, explore the world and build this channel. Though many people still live under the traditional American dream philosophy and it's putting them behind. Tuition and real estate is nothing like it was before. Should be getting cheaper not more expensive in relation to income
Thanks 😊
My pleasure :)
I came to that conclusion to quit working so hard in Dec 2019. But, I slaved for the American dream and am 57 yrs old now. I work part time and my wife works part time and it is way better. Houses here in Illinois are only 45k. I realized I didn’t need to be the boss or manager anymore. I don’t want to “care” about my JOB anymore. It is a very freeing feeling to get off the hamster wheel. Yes, I work part time and started taking care of disabled people in a residential setting. Such easy work in comparison to the hamster wheel. Thanks for the video.
That's awesome man. Yes I think it's important to work, contribute and find something you enjoy to challenge you. But like you said, no longer having to care about a job just for the sake of money is like taking off the shackles. Happy you found a great space in life. Thanks for sharing
So weird i was thinking about this yesterday, it's unfair how life just keeps you in your comfort zone if you let it, getting outside of your comfort zone is basically living life
100%. This week I start Hand drumming lessons and singing lessons. Just building up different experiences and getting uncomfortable.
I have always wanted to live in the US or Canada some day, but this kinda alters my perspective in some kinda way.
There's still a lot of opportunity, but you really have to not compare yourself to others and have your own vision for what you want out of life. If you try to keep up with others you'll find yourself making 80k/year and house poor. Just got to be intentional with how you set up your life. Canada is still one of the better countries in the world
Very true!
I feel we all need to follow our dreams. It’s not to say that those that find satisfaction with the typical American dream aren’t happy. I have created generational wealth through Realestate granted bought many of the apartments I own when the market was less expensive but if u start with a duplex and have tenants pay the property off for u it’s a great vehicle for wealth.
Totally agree. I'm not downplaying the traditional goals or those who pursue it. I just think a lot of people are pursuing such goals blindly. I would like to own some rental properties myself some day. Congrats on your success. That's aweome
I agree, the cost of the "American Dream" is just too high.
Not worth the time involved.
Can always rent your house out. My mortgage is 1200$ for a 3room 2.5 bath 1700 sq ft. Rent for a 3 room apartment in my area is 3400$
That's excellent for people who own homes already.
The government took our house when I was 5 for back taxes. It sat vacant for years and finally was demolished .