My Thoughts On The 90 DAY RULE by Steve Harvey...
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Women should wait PERIOD. Stop having sex before he has shown consistency
You’ll never know if he’s using you for sex until after sex. I’ve personally dated women who’ve I didn’t have sex with them until 6 months later while I was having sex on the side and I still left afterwards. Also dating is inherently competitive even for women there no guarantee.
Stop doing it period. People pretend well. But in all honesty most women are consumed with lust just as much as men are nowadays.
@@hideyasuyuki1 right. Idk people really need to consider being old school. Smh.
Ladenna Young exactly if someone’s values match your ( which most men don’t truthful don’t want to) wait for sex. If not you’re already starting a relationship off being manipulative.
@@ladennayoung2939 women need to wait until he is CONSISTENT. A guy whobis not into you will not be consistent for a long period of time!!!
No, no, nooooooo!!!! Speaking for myself. Having sex before marriage has left me with depression, low self esteem, anger, and being a single mom of 2! I have been abstinent for a year and 1 month and I feel better. My journey to self heal is great so far.
Good for you girl!
Got damn u been tru a lot hunni keep praying and heal urself
Thanks ladies!! Blessings to you all! 😊
Way to go! It it better to stay kept and love yourself and your babies and let God free you and bring you into His will marriage in His time. God is good. I have been pure for two years as well. In this time I am growing my love for Christ so He is all I desire from now on. Blessings.
Keierra ReeNell I love it! ❤️ blessings to you as well!!
I say wait for as long as you can because once that soul tie is created, it’s hard to disconnect
I’ve said this before and I’m a say it again. I’ve cut ties with my boy toys and stayed celibate until I found a committed relationship. I found my man in doing so and it took months to find him but I did it and it works. I encourage everyone to stay celibate until you find what you’re looking for and in the meantime take care of your needs 💕
Woman should implement it. If commitment is what you want then save yourself for commitment. We tend to give too much of ourselves. Physically intellectually Emotionally and spiritually without it being entirely reciprocated!!
I couldn't agree more 🙌🏼
Logical. Women are the loosing side if they give it before marriage. Men loose spiritually mostly
Carlota Medrano that makes you a woman who sees the value of her mind body and spirit! I think you should lead with that! Most woman will completely disagree due to infatuations
Is-haq Al-Sabiriy technically I don’t see a losing or winning side. More of who is flourishing more within themselves. It’s hard to bring yourself back after letting someone keep parts of you for so long or in the wrong ways. If woman give before commitment shes only compromising herself. yet others can say she’s opening the capacity in her mind to learn a lesson or be subconsciously hindered. Depends on who you are, your values and why you carry yourself the way you do.
#FACTS
I'm convinced that men will leave a girlfriend of 4 years and marry another woman within 6 months if she's wifey material. I've had 2 friends who did this and I've seen it first hand. Suggestion from a guy here: women if you're giving the guy husband benefits and he's not your husband why would he marry you? Its no reason because you're not a catch you're not the highest quality woman he can find in his eyes which is why you're still a girlfriend giving hot meals and sex to a man that hasn't married you because he knows he can get the reliable stable sex and affection from you because YOU subjected yourself to being a forever girlfriend. I'll put it this way. If Frosted Flakes salesman came to my door and gave me a free bowl of cereal everyday as a sample....i would never buy the full package the full box of cereal(the ring) because I'm already getting it for free. I might even decide I'm tired of eating frosted flakes and want something new like fruity pebbles and just all together ditch frosted flakes for something i think is more rare and higher quality. Some intelligent woman will understand my drift
You are too smart for your own good. I definitely agree with this line.
Nothing but the truth!!!!!!
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And you'll pay full price for that box of fruity pebbles too, with no coupon code 😂😂. Totally get your drift. There are too many women playing house and wasting all their good energy.
So on point 🙌🏼
Team Abstinent. I won't pick and choose which parts of the bible I would "like" to obey. It's all or nothing.
God bless you sis.😁🙏🏾
That is how it should be. I am definitely on your team
Exactly! No sex period, at all till marriage!!!! ❤❤❤❤
@ Annquiette Reagan Marshall Well said!! That.is.all.
Same here 7 months strong!
Boom!
I know my worth and for me celibacy is the way I decided to go and have been since 2015. Thank you JESUS!
Amen 🙏🏽 so excited for you!!! And, same here 😁
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@@virgobae4899 😊❤🙌🏾
Amen, I rather wait
@@virgobae4899 definitely will be worth it. I stand on His promises to me!🙋♀️
I had sex with my girlfriend after a few weeks. Being both believers, we started to doubt our choice and are now convinced we should wait until marriage in order for God to bless our relationship. I can't reverse what happened, but we can still make a choice today. Would indeed be good to have your take on waiting until marriage and tips to make it work.
yessir. Glad to see it. "I say to you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repents, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance." Luke 15:7.
Stephen you hit it on the nail bro .. it's not about time it's about connection and making sure we in it to win it. But 90 days is easy, that's old school dating 🤷🏿♂️ . Wait to marriage, God's school of dating.
So true.
@ My KingThoughts Spoken like a true King
Love that...”make sure we IN IT TO WIN IT!”
Love: “90 days is easy; that’s old school dating. Wait to marriage, God’s school dating.”
I think this should depend on both people, you got to be both ready emotionally and spiritually.
This is one of the best responses of heard.
Sex will get a man, but it won’t keep him
So what will keep him?
@@lynn111l An emotional connection with a good man is what will keep you together as a couple. Sex won't get a man, it will just get you in his bed.
You are right I see women who sleep with men hoping they stay and then he finds someone else serous and marry that person instead.
@Darxk Prime it depends on the person
@@lynn111l GOD!!! The 1 WHO made him, and will KEEP you too! --- UNLESS GOD BUILDS THE HOUSE, they that LABOR/work,put forth effort, LABOR in VAIN. - People have a misunderstanding of the Scriptures, thinking that the man is the head of the women in a committed relationship, that is true if she is an UNREPENTED SINNER ( still under the punishment in the Garden of Eden), BUT if she has been FORGIVEN - ACCEPTED CHRIST as her SAVIOR & LORD, then NOW, she is a MEMBER of the BODY OF CHRIST and JESUS CHRIST is the HEAD of her LIFE. -- And if that man has not ACCEPTED CHRIST, then his SPIRITUAL FATHER is the DEVIL and he is UNDERNEATH her feet. --- Those who have accepted this ABUNDANT GRACE of the SECOND ADAM will RULE/LEAD/TAKE DOMINION with CHRIST - CHRIST has given US/ BELIVER'S POWER OVER ALL the power of the Enemy. -- The SKUNK who wants SEX to POSSIBLY bring CHILDREN into this SINFUL WORLD and Who HAS NOT MADE a HOLY COMMITMENT to GOD, is a LOW CRAWLING LIZARD, BUZZARD, SNAKE, DOG, DEVIL.
For me, I'll be waiting until Marriage👰🤵...I do not want to be outside of God's Will...
I actually agree with you but what I think Steve Harvey meant is it shouldn’t take a man too long to know if he is serious and invested about the direction of the relationship. He was saying most men knew their spouse and asked for her hand in marriage in less than a year.
I believe he is saying by month 3 if you still don’t have a title of some sort girlfriend, my lady, my woman then he’s probably not into you.
It's weird that so many people do not understand this.
My end goal is marriage if it takes waiting until marriage with the woman for me i have no issues with that.
Much Respect!!
Right. It's gonna come eventually. Waiting is fun! The anticipation makes it even better!!
Waiting until marriage is best.
Facts
I could careless about Steve Harvey rule !!!!! But I have to go by what the bible says.And Gods rule states no sex before marriage
That is so good. Man the want when after with someone that is not your husband is strong and crazy.. The part is pray he is the same. If I could do things over I’d wait until marriage or atleast someone that will be that I am for sure my going to be my husband.
A lot of stuff don’t apply in nowadays. Sex is healthy but it must be with the right person. Like Stephan mentioned the realistic sense of relationship landscape.
Amen
“Gods rule” the Bible wasn’t even written by Jesus. Take the Bible out, it just doesn’t feel right to do so before marriage.
The CREATOR'S ADVICE IS ALWAYS UP TO DATE AND ACCURATE.
I recently met a man. We had great conversations sharing about ourselves. He raised suspicion when he said he deactivated his personal cell phone but started calling and texting on his work phone. He one day casually mentioned sex in a text. I responded I do not have casual sex. I shared I had more to offer anyone than sex, and I never heard from him again. Ladies test them to stand firm on your values and see if he is for real. Sometimes the trash takes itself out.
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problem with the 90 day rule is lets say 90 days pass, and he hit it and leave. you just wasted 90 days. and while you make him wait 90 days he going to be dealing with another girls. better off just waiting until marriage or having sex whenever you want to when you are ready
Better you know after 90 days then after 9 years of marriage! These dudes today are not waiting 9 days for what they want! It don’t take a lot of time at all to see what a guys true intentions are! If he waits 3 months with consistent communication and interaction he will probably ask you to marry him!
I was celibate for 6.5 years. An ex popped back in my life. I thought I could handle it. Turns out I couldn’t. I can’t get those 6.5 years back 😔
Glad someone said this. Sometimes you hope the person has changed, or that person pretends to be different and a better version of themselves, it seems like kismet. But then their intentions weren’t true and you’re back in the mode of celibacy again.
Don’t be to hard with yourself. WE ALL MAKES MISTAKES! God loves you deeply no matter what. He already forgives you. So FORGIVE YOURSELF and Be His Light into this world. ❤️Xoxo from Paris
Many of us make that mistake. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Analyse what the pattern is and what to do about it, so that the next time an ex (or any other man who is only after lust) surfaces, you can keep him away or tell him to go play elsewhere.
Those 6.5 years are not lost. You hit a speedbump on your road, it slowed you down. But may it not stop you to get back on track. You've been incredibly strong during those years. Many people don't make it to 6.5 years.
You've done your best, hit a speedbump, learned and will do better.
Sweetie forgive yourself. You did not give those 6.5 years away! You learned so much about yourself! You loved yourself and see yourself so much different now! To the point that you understand you can't stay caught up in that EX! And you have to remember that Nothing can Separate you from the Love of God! That has been one of my words for the past year. You are already forgiven. And you have already been given grace! But now you can see yourself and you see that you deserve better than him! So that was an incredible sacrifice of 6.5 years to now understand you are better than you used to be because now you see it for yourself. The way God sees you.
Wow! What an encouraging and supportive group or people here! Thank you all so much! Your kind words are appreciated 💛
I honestly feel women should wait, and learn their partners, physicality ruins the courting process!!
1 Corinthians 7:2
“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” Plain and simple and straight from the Word of the Lord!!! This is why Jesus said we must die unto ourselves daily and take up our cross so that we may have self-control over daily temptations. Believing in His word will set you free and renew your mind.
GREAT CONTENT
Hey Pastor!!! Glad to see you here!!! Supporting God's purpose, the correct way.
Give your life to Jesus christ repent , pray and read your bible , Jesus loves you , it may be hard but it is worth it 🙏
Pastor Blake , you are the man!!! Thank you for all your great videos/ advise!! Say hello to your beautiful wife.
Pastor Blakes, Jr. It is Great to see you giving this Young Man of God Encouragement. I love both of your valuable information. ACT
I say, wait until marriage!
Lady Love 👍🏽👍🏼👍🏽
No we don't wait , sex is good for body , to stay healty and young etc ..
We're in 2020, marriage and this wainting until thing is has been.
Are you a secte there and Stéphane is your guru?
Sorry am just joking 😀
The first time I had sex I was 26 and it was my wedding night. The relationship ended up being abusive, and sex was not enjoyable (I honestly didn't enjoy it even before the relationship went bad). We divorced after just a little over a year. I'm not saying my story is the norm, but these things happen, and it was traumatizing, disappointing, and disillusioning for me as a woman who did it the right way and it still turned out to be a nightmare. I'm not discouraging anyone from their choice to be abstinent, but I would warn against romanticizing it. I have a close friend who shared a similar experience, as well. She was also left wondering how she ended up in the situation she was dealt in her marriage after she had also done it the right way. Her husband ended up being a serial cheater, including members of her family. And this was a man she grew up with as a child and knew him for most of her life, and was still completely blindsided by his behavior after marriage. We live in a broken, fallen world, so things don't always have the expected ending even when you follow the formula. We see that everyday in many contexts. The expectation that waiting until marriage for sex automatically blesses your union or "greases" the wheels for blessings (which, honestly, many girls and young women end up holding to) is I think what is unhealthy and what leads to the disillusionment. I think there's a way to have a healthy mindset about waiting and in my, and several people I know, experience is something that isn't necessarily being taught. We end up valuing our ability to wait as though it were a part of some merit system. I think that aspect of it is unhealthy.
Sorry to hear that. 😢 A God sent Man is better than a Godly man. Don't let this steer you from receiving what God has for you. Jeremiah 29:11 I pray you get the healing you need in All areas in your life. Listen to the song "Alone in the Room" by Yolanda Adams. You are a Queen just got blindsided by a wolf in sheep clothing disguise as the King you thought he was. Don't give up.
@@marilynevans3206 Thank you for your kind words 💜
I agree. I mean I definitely don't down people who want to wait until they are married but in some cases it can lead to issues. I'm waiting now but I've had experience and made that decision for myself not by some expectation set for me.
I did similar. Waited till marriage, married 8 years and was miserable in bed and learned his own sex habits I was not comfortable with. It is good to know before marriage if it works but I also agree hooking up right away is terrible too. 90 days seems a better idea in many ways.
This is the most sound advice I’ve read in all these comments! I think many Christians believe in JC Magic that is unrealistic and mentally and emotionally damaging. Abstained will NEVER secure that your marriage will be healthy, fulfilling, or even that the man will love you forever and never cheat or leave! Abstinence historically and biblically was a societal concept put into place to ensure that women were legally protected to have their children taken care of and access to resources during a time when women were not allowed to own property or work. I agree 100% that it’s romanticised as if one’s marriage is foul proof just because you withheld the Kitty for you wedding night all is well forever. A man getting the kitty (officially) is a one time event and although I promote women definitely holding out abstinence never made or broke a marriage. Focus more building healthy relationship over time, with healthy individuals who are committed to doing the inner work. So many Christian women I know focus on the fact that a man is dating her without sex over seeing if that man is the best person or emotionally mature or psychologically stable. Withholding your kitty is not the magic marriage cure all!
Intimacy accelerates attachment is fact and the main reason many of us end up in toxic relationships.
Ladies just wait till marriage.
I am 34 years old, and the dating life has been annoying because other females have made it that easy for guys to get it that fast... that fast that when I say I'm waiting for marriage they say I can't wait that long. I did the waiting, and still things didn't work out.. so now I am truly trusting God and the process, because a man who truly loves God.. and knows the value of a good woman, especially a woman of God.. he will wait!! that came from a man of God who really had me thinking "do I really know my value, do I value my self"... i thought I did but I didn't thw way God does. Take the time to learn your true value queens. Read the book of Ruth then proverbs, read book THE WAIT... and let you heart see who you are. Once you see your value in God's eyes... the waiting if not hard, You're gain confidence you never thought you had with out fear.
thanks
You might want to get a matchmaker. They can help with the incompatibility. Nesting 2 kids takes around 8 years.
You’re absolutely right. If a man, in today’s world, and I don’t care how old he is, ESPECIALLY if he’s, by general population standards, is very good looking, he’ll agree and that’s when you become a convenience. You’ll cook for him and pretend you’re his wife and even be at your house more than you are. Which means nothing. That’s why dating is so important. You have time to learn his habits, his way of thinking and doing things.
All that glitters ain’t gold.
It’s better to do it for a good reason and to wait for wedding
Facts
For me this is not about Bible or some rules, for me this is about my self-esteem and dignity. Chasteness is beautiful.
Why is it always on the woman to “wait”? Are y’all telling the men to do the same too?
Double standard unfortunately. Men will wait for you during the "90 days" but in the meantime, they get with "Becky with the good hair".
I tried waiting before. At first it was cool, and a load off my mind. Then it started driving me crazy. Each person just has to find what works best for them. No need to throw shade at a whole group of people or one side of the sexes. Find happiness in yourself.
Males lack sexual self control the majority of the time. Women, who are not dominated by testosterone usually so she can make him pump the breaks. If he can't handle it, he can be gone.
Good point! It’s not like we’re rubbing all up against them, right? Excellent point!
Exactly! There are millions of videos on women who wait, but never any videos on men waiting, sometimes I feel like they don't exist...:(
“Do it when I am comfortable.” I had to learn this the hard way. Now, its time for me to have faith and patience. 💟
You do need time babe...too many women giving it up too fast based on how stuff is early on..... Please wait and get tested as well
Getting tested is vital
And not only are they giving up too fast, once she does, she’s starts in with pretending to be his wife. He has to stay over night, even though he has his own place. Then she uses the “I’m-cooking-dinner-tonight. You-coming-over?” And if he says no, she’ll pretend she’s doesn’t have an attitude but she’s pissed. And if he doesn’t come over at least 4 days out of the 7, she losses it.
Ladies, these men are telling the truth about some of us and a few of us know these women. Stop acting like you’re his wife and don’t have him taking your car to get oil changed and washed. He’s not your husband. Even if you two become exclusive, you’re both still single. There I box on the IRS form that states “Exclusive”. You’re single and he’s single. So you keep your door key and let him keep his. You’re both entitled to privacy, even once you become “exclusive”.
This is so true. Waiting 3 months for any physical connection is great. This will give you time to genuinely know that person.
The 90 day rule is cool for most but I believe I’m God’s rule!
Kaya Jackson I do agree with you
Amen to that!
I have a serious question is it realistic for a men to have sex with only one women for the rest of his life ? In a relationship aspect I have an ex that told me it’s not realistic for a men to only have sex with one women for the rest of his life cuz that not human nature and he quoted no human is place on this earth to have sex with one person for the rest of their life because temptation is everywhere he told me if we ever get back together he wan to set boundaries in our relationship where if I do go on a trip and I end up finding some guy attractive and if I wanted to have sex with him I can do that but I shouldn’t give the guy my number or anything no strings attached or smash anybody in our neighborhood matter fact nobody in our city and he said I should allow him to do the same as well with females but he said we shouldn’t bring up or talk about it he said he saying this being he is being honest and most guys won’t say that they will lie and say your the only one for me and I will never cheat on you and end up doing that so since he doesn’t condone cheating he rather be honest with me and tell me that from time to time if he wan to fuck other females he going to do it smh
@@selenajackson1745 that's why he is your ex...
Selena Jackson I mean if y’all both agree to an open relationship then that’s fine. So he needs to find someone who wants an open relationship.
Absolutely not! Sex is for marriage, the way God intended it to be.
Amen
AMEN!!!
Amen your so right. Sex outside of marriage creates these negative demonic sexual soul ties.
Exactly 👏🏾 all these rules what about God rules ?
Yesss
Where was this man 46 years ago. He described my life in a nutshell. I wish I had waited. Now I’ve chosen abstinence until or if I remarry.
Waiting until marriage is the game! And it includes my name!!! Lol completely speechless on your answer! Wonderful job!!!
I feel that 90 days Is still too soon because you don’t know the person. Women please be celibate ❤️
I feel the same.
My ex husband divorced me on our one year anniversary. He isn’t emotionally attracted to me Yet he cannot get over me sexually. As long as I give him what he wants he will think it’s okay to have your body before your mind and respect.
Hey nina stop giving yourself and time to a man who want his cake and icecream you nd to walk away and don't look back
Wow he is lost
Olikia Hill thank you!! tbh that makes me tear up. I gave so much of myself to him and watched him give even more of himself to me... I can’t detach myself from the past and it clouds why I can’t get a grip either and move forward
You are beautiful he missed out
Eternity With Christ self esteem has nothing to do with it. When I gave him my vows I did not redact them whether he did or not. I’m placed on this earth to serve. Not be served. He is the father of my child. A man who gave me a new lifestyle and opened doors for me. He pushed me off drugs and into a good space in life. He married me and planned a family with me. Just because he wasn’t ready for what I have to offer doesn’t mean I wasn’t valued or am being used now. If I can help him any way I can I will as long as he understands what he does is not okay. I love him always and that won’t change. I will help teach him just like he thought me. I’m the end my body or time was not wasted bc he is who I want to spend my life with. I’ve accepted that I’ll never have him back. But I’ll always be in his corner unless asked otherwise. I’m focused on myself always. Somehow this brings me joy even though I don’t get what I want. Which is his love... I asked god if his love isn’t for me then give me what is for me. Piece by piece I’m grateful for the love my ex husband does give me bc I know he cares. I know I damaged a good man. I’ll never reject him just to feel validation bc in reality I wanna cater to him and so I will
Waiting until marriage from here on out. My body is a temple & I’m worth the wait. 👑🦋✨
I'm waiting because I want to honor Jehovah.
Thanks for sharing Stephan. As for me and my current partner, we have decided to wait until marriage if it happens. I've done the opposite in the past and my question afterwards is, "after the nut then what?" It's important for me to know what we are both made of without indulging in sex. I have to know that we like each other, that we can laugh with each other, that we are financially compatible as far as being responsible. It's important for me to know if I can deal with his flaws and he with mine. There are so many things to discover about someone without getting between the sheets. Sex can have me so distracted that I forget all about the other important things. But that's just for me. The wait can be hard but I'm worth the wait and so is he.
Soul tie with the wrong it never good
Those soul ties are real...
Never ever good
Soul ties do not exist so...
I’ll be waiting for the video on celibacy! 👍🏾 thank you for your teaching ❤️
I'll stay celibate until I die. These men out here now-a-days make me WANT to say no.
After a long term marriage (28yrs) I was jumping into bed too soon.
Realizing how this effected my relationships and my own worth. So I learned that for me I needed to wait to know my person on other levels. No "set time".
I just purchase The Wait by Devon Franklin and Megan Good , I’ve been abstinence for 4 months and thinking on being celibate .
The 90 day rule has good intentions, however I disagree with setting a time limit. You should really wait until marriage because you always get the best version on a person early on & this may not be the person you want to be with.
I agree with you on the waiting part. As I get older my needs and desires change too. I take my time to get to know a man too
Hi Stephen you showed up in my feed and i just want to say i like your spirit and your a breath of fresh air I appreciate you not demeaning and recognizing that we as women are all different and one is not better than the other
Thank you for your wisdom. You give very valuable relationship perspective that many of us need to hear.
So many great videos! I'm binge watching.
Great advice Stephan...wait until marriage👏👍
I dont know about anyone else but i am HOOKED on his video's. Keep them coming!!! I love this.
I used to have the 3month rule had no idea Steve Harvey made that up. I now go with knowing a person and getting commitment first.
Your advice is the most mature. Thank You!
Yes I love to hear from all perspectives
This was well needed
Its better to wait for the wedding night. Anyone can do a good act for 90 days, especially the cluster B types 😑
@Eternity With Christ What are cluster B type.. I'm not familiar with that term
LOL at your comment but the damage those cluster b types leave is NOT funny.
Girrrrrlll tell it
You are such a nice person and are changing many lives. May god bless you abundantly.
Spot on!!👍🏻
💯💯💯 agree!!! LOVE the way you explain this!
I applaud those who are able to remain celibate before marriage and make it work with a like minded person as ideally clean body and mind can discipline you and deepen your spiritual foundation. Personally after being married for over 20 yrs, surviving serious domestic violence, now divorced with 3 kids and 3 grandkids I would not be able to be celibate for a number of reasons although I agree with most of this video and think we should take our time and do our due diligence in getting to know the person you are dating. I would add to this video by saying that most of us put our best foot forward in the first few months of getting to know each other and we need to pass that stage into seeing the real person and them seeing you in order to really see if you can live with the other person's values, personality and habits and if they can live with yours. You can't find out all these things in a few weeks. In order to see consistent patterns you need to spend time with the person and in a variety of situations and visa versa. For me that includes sex. What has surprised me getting back into the dating game 5 yrs back is that some men present as very kind, considerate and having several values that are attractive and I could live with, however have proved to be very selfish lovers and not open to finding out about my likes and dislikes which is at odds with their daily persona. I've also know if people who have waited to have sex after marrying and have found they are so incompatible it has completely disrupted the relationship. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but is important and causes no end of problems if you are not both in the same wavelength.. There's a lot of chat b4 hand that is not always true in reality. And for me I wouldn't be able to wait until I'd already invested my life into that person to fund out we are that incompatible. So for those of you remaining celibate and getting serious with someone make sure you have plenty of discussions about expectations, boundaries, likes, dislikes etc. For those thinking about the 90 day rule, it is a waste of time if you don't use that time to really get to know them and sex shd not b dependent on a date but whether you are both truly compatible and ready for a committed relationship. Remember actions and words should match and patterns of behaviour and matching values are key. If you are looking for a long term relationship then you should wait until you are in a committed relationship before having sex with them. But also be aware of committing too soon. You need to also be clear about what you want and be able to hold yourself to similar standards that you hold the other person to.
Stephan just wanted to say that I really respect how you first mentioned about saving yourself till marriage. God is working through you ☺️
Excellent!!!!
You are right on point with this one. I know myself. I jump in everything with both feet. My curse And blessing. I have to watch myself and look forward into the future with Everything in life.
Thanks so much Mr Labossiere this was definitely the confirmation I needed...God definitely lead to this video! 🙏🏾💓
Well said my brother👍🏾👏🏾
you are definitely taking a chance whether you wait or not. Whether have communication or not. There is a lot of fraudsters out here. Best to wait on God
How can you say to wait until marriage? All that is to oppress women and men. We are sexual beings and there’s nothing wrong with that. Not saying sleeping with each other on the first date is a good idea. And waiting until marriage doesn’t give you some sort of control that the relationship will last. You could even wait 6 months and a guy can still leave you because he didn’t feel that there was attraction/sexual chemistry. It’s whatever is meant to be and sex does not make or break a situation, In most cases.
Going through heartache and heartbreak I truly know and believe that it's best to wait PERIOD!!!
I recall you saying during a singles ministry workshop at Saint Paul’s Baptist Church in Richmond, VA “The first time it’s a test drive after that, it’s a joy ride...” Spot on! The wedding night is even more exciting when you’ve waited. God bless and keep you Stephan.
This is heavy... you're talking some real stuff...
I clicked so fast almost dropped my phone. haaa. had to see comments and his commentary!
I totally agree
I think grown people need to live and accept there true feelings and reality and live with no regrets.
Yet ...how many are as you say "grown people?????".
Great content, I loved the disclaimer 🤣
Waiting is good. I agree.
Thank you!
Amén I really believe in all that you said
I believe in waiting till marriage. I waited & fell short so many times. Thanks for sharing
1:17ishh yesssssss sir ✌🏾♥️🦋... That's what I'm talking about
I love this
I do agree with everything you said, waiting is best.
No sex until marriage for me. Its been #FiveYears when at one time I barely could go 5 days. I have a vid on my channel giving tips on abstaining if anyone is interested
You're right 💯❤️. Waiting until marriage is best but if 2 adults have done their due diligence and have a genuine connection, it's up to them to make that decision.
Yes evaluate...good word 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Cant wait to see your video on "Waiting till Marriage."
Good message
Yess Stephan yes. I agree 100% w u man!
Yes I agree waiting till marriage is the best thing to do. 💯 We must give it time, Time is a Weapon!
Excellent
I believe and I am waiting until marriage as well...thanks for always driving home clarity accompanied with truth...
Dude, I've said this before - "Two weeks" is way too soon to know if relationship is going to last. I don't care if it's sex, thinking you have the same values or goals, even intuition - You CAN NOT be certain of a relationship's longterm potential in the first few months. Everything you are feeling in that first few months, especially if there's that "swept off your feet" or "head over heels" or "mind-blowing sex" is INSTANT GRATIFICATION, and is no measuring stick for the real gauge of a relationship.
Stephan you are speaking truth facts. I have learn from my past so i am worth the wait. Waiting until marriage is my take on. I don't get down with the 90 day rule. Its best to find someone that is on the same path that you on. Time, communication, patience and respect plays a part in a relationship also. Some folks think sex is everything.
This is good !!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well stated 🤗
I believe in waiting for as long as it takes to be comfortable with each other and a genuine connection.
Wow I love that most of the people in the comments agree with waiting like me!!! Our wait is not in vain