Lol my parents was married for 19 Long ignorant years.....trust me not all children care when parents get divorced.....it's a joyous season for some children. Ijs
Steve hushhhhh. The child is 5 yrs old why should she have to go across the country to be with her dad he needs to come to her. And the father don't call the daughter often BIG NO NO...but she is suppose to send her baby across the country. I agree with the mother 100%.
He might not call often because he doesn't want to argue with the mother every time he calls. The point is he wants to see his child. The real problem is he is currently living with the lady he cheated with. If the father wants to spend time with his child then they all should sit down so everyone can make sure the child comes first and know that her parents loves her.
Lasonia Lindsey They do need to sit down. I don’t think the mothers concerns are unfounded judging by his behavior. He needs to pay for his daughters trip and prove to the mom that he has the funds and time to care for her. He also needs to show that his home is a safe environment and let her know who her daughter will be around. I think it’s fine if the side chick is there, as long as she won’t be the one looking after the child most of the time. If he can’t show all that, he can come see his daughter where she lives. The mom is not stopping him from doing that.
If the dad is NOT paying support. He should be paying to see the child. Dad should go to the child, he should pay for travel, & his own hotel !! Since mom is paying for everything else !! Only Right !!!!
No, it depends on the situation. If the daddy is broke, then you shouldn't withhold the child. But if the person is simply unwilling to contribute, despite being stable, it can be considered.
@@anonymoususer4866 maybe he moved across country because he is broke. Think about it, a lot of people be moving out of New York and California in hopes of going from broke to financially comfortable. We don’t know the situation but people do leave their state to another solely because they are broke.
1st of all he lives in other state. But he move out or she move out ? We dont know. Another point is that like Steve said, he could lost everything in divorce. U see only peak of mount
I do not keep my child from her father even though he doesn’t pay child support regularly. But I’m not going to go to great lengths for him to spend time with her. It’s his responsibility to take the right steps to remain present in his child’s life. Not mine. I do my part. He needs to do his.
I agree. However, I also feel this gives Mom the opportunity to build a stronger bond with her daughter because it would show how mom is willing to go that extra mile for her daughter to see her father. I think that speaks volumes to a child. Because the child knows dad isn't calling, hes not coming out. And that's a poor reflection of him.
I like how hard she tried not to be too negative about her child's father I pray they are co-parenting in a healthy balanced manner now their child deserves it!...
*He should come see the child HE LEFT BEHIND!!!!! Period!!* It's unfortunate for the child. BUT he cheated...then left WITH the other woman......and mum's going to him with THEIR child? No ma'am. No thanks. You come see your child, Sir.
At the end of the day it's the child who is suffering. When a child is involved there is no place with pettiness. The fact that he cheated had nothing to do with it. I don't even know why she mentioned it. You can be a cheater and a good dad
@@jessicamazeya3626 true. But he dont pay or make the effort neither to see his daughter or even drop a call, so he is a wholesome good for nothing dad. Raising a child takes money and time whether you like it or not. Plus, Id fear her safety being overseas with strangers I wouldnt be able to do it
@@jessicamazeya3626 You are right. The child is the one suffering here. But, from personal experience: if that dad isn't making an effort now, he won't when his daughter is older. He didn't have to move that far away at her tender age. You know?
I had the same situation. I flew with my daughter, stayed in a hotel and allowed her to stay in his home with him. I took her because she loves him and wanted to see him. After 24 hours, he was calling me, because he did not know what else to do with her. The rest of the trip turned into a vacation with my daughter. If you don't trust him, DO NOT send your child.
I think its good you did it but o cover yourself for court because he likely was hoping you wouldn’t send the kid so he could blame you for his lack of relationship with the child like its your fault he doesnt see her. These men are clowns.
No it is not her, we have to protect our girls and sending a little girl out away from home is not a good idea. You don't know who's in that house sleeping at night creeping. I came from a large family we were not allowed to spend the night nowhere. I thank God my mother and father did not allow that to happen. I did the same thing with my children no spending the night no. They sent me today!
Why supervised? My daughter is 2 I have unsupervised visitation every weekend. I pick her up & take her back to my house to be a part of my life not visiting like a vacation.
Waltjoh100 You live near enough to do that and probably have proven yourself to be responsible. He is asking the mother to send her child all the way across the country by herself, when he has shown he is not a reliable father.
@@jackpea7102 Same argument could be used for mothers. My daughter is subject to whomever her mother brings into her house, which its 5 out of 7 nights she stays there. My ex moves guys in fast into her house so they can help pay bills. I was 1 of those guys I just got her pregnant right away. Usually abuse its the mom's bf or uncles. Not the non custodial visitation father or his family. There's less days & fewer visiting fathers. With courts enforcing supervised visitation it's limited duration they do that & it's hard for her to make the argument for court enforcing it if they were married anyway. If he can prove she was leaving her daughter alone with him during the marriage it destroys the case of he can't be trusted alone with her. Eventually maybe not now, this dude, if he fights, he's gonna hopefully get some individual time with his child in his reality, is that really a bad thing?
If he moved all the way across the country, then it's his responsibility to make up for the actions that he carried out. I have to disagree with you Steve on this one.
It's called "Addition by Subtraction", a child doesn't have to have two parents in their life to feel whole, the child will be better off with a good parent that offers the right kind of love, nurturing, and support from a positive ROLE MODEL, NOT from a negative, poisonous parent that would cause more harm and have a bad influence on the child's life.
I completely agree why should she jump on a plane and take her daughter to see her ex. But at the end of the day she does not want her daughter to ever look at her and said you can play from my dad.
He should put in the effort to see his daughter, or call more, his daughter is gonna think she has to put more off the effort than he should have to. Which is gonna influence her when she's older to settle for a man that don't put in the effort for her.
my only problem with this, is what happens the next time child wants to see him..she has to take off amd pay for all of this. I wanna know why she got or asked for full custody ? Get divorced, cheat on me, but why get full custody. divorce doesn't always mean bad father.
@@Chanel5-q5o i dont understand your point? You want them to have joint custody over a child that will be moving across the country every couple of weeks at 5 years old? For a guy that doesn't call, can't pay child support, doesn't want to fly to see his own child, and moved so far away from his baby daughter at her age? What's your point? This is one of the worst cases to plead joint custody on.
My ex n me separate since my daughter was 1 year old. I never ask for child support. N he never give not even penny. He never ever call. Not even try to fight for her. She is 11 years old now. Her step dad he being doing everything for both if us. I'm so happy I move on. He is a great father to her.
Why would he have to fight to be part of her life? Or you wanted him to fight so you can use the child as a pawn against him or start another drama? Did you even call him or reach out to him to come and take care of the child both of you created or even tell him your daughter is missing him? The only thing you are saying is that he didn't fight to be there for her. If only parents (both mum and dad) should learn that they should never have to fight to be part of their kids life, life will be easy for the kids because is not about your differences and why you divorced or separated but about the innocent child's life needing both biological parents in her life.
@@uunique7074 well my daughter was only year old. He was never in her life even we was living together. Even after we separated I give him chance so he can be in his daughter life. Well all he did was talk to me then left. After that I file for divorce. And he never ask for her to be in her life. We move on. And I have no problem she can talk to her father if she want to. I had no problem with that.. thats her choice. And he want aas to get his green card cheats with other women's.
@@demetriccooper6238 to be honest I ask her she said no she's happy where she is now. But I will never stop her to see him. Those problems was between me and him
I agree with this mother not to incur expense to go to him ! If he cared about his child he would make the effort to come and see her , plus He hardly calls her ,and he is not even paying child support?
I feel for this woman. My ex moved to the other side of the globe and didn’t see our child for 2 years claiming he couldn’t take time off work or had no money. And then it turned out he remarried and was already having a 1 year old child without even letting our child know. Now he expect our child to move to live with him and I am having major doubt. It’s also worth to note that he had one more failed marriage and one more child in between. He still thinks of himself as responsible loving father. Give me a break.
i disagree this dude getting lazy and too rich to care anymore. he shouldve said if he really wanna see his daughter he get hotel near her and do it that way.
Girl it's better that you go with your child. Just to be safe. But Steve has money so he'll say don't withhold the child. But I understand why she would keep the child from the father - because he's not spending any money.
This situation is too real be careful who u have kids with if u dont share the same values u end up raising a child in a stressful situation which will only hurt the child or children.
I agree with the majority of what Steve said except the taking off of work part. It's really easy for Steve to tell her to take off her job and fly her child to see her dad because 1. Steve is the boss, and 2. Steve is rich and can afford to do something like that. He didn't even bother to ask her if she has a job that she can take off like that.
@@carmenkimberley exactly. He's been rich too long to really understand a single mother's plight, especially if she's been doing everything for a long time.
I think the daughter needs to know the reality that her dad is did father duty. Not everything in this world perfect as it is. Because the mother pays all the bills and the father didnt do his job, so she dont need to pay extra money to pay the plane ticket and hotels for him to see his daughter.
This was not answered correctly!! Steve missed the part where she said “ he doesn’t really call, the daughter is the one that calls him” he simply does not sound like a father that cares for his daughter!! It has nothing to do with the woman being bitter or petty because the baby’s father is living with his ex mistress!! Her motherly intuitions are already telling her that he is not a good father to her daughter! Seriously if you not paying child support, you should at least be very present in your child’s life, calling the child at least 3 times a week won’t hurt his broke unstable ass!!🙄😒
@Allen Reynolds Why should he have to accommodate him in any way? If he loved his child, he would not have moved across the country. He needs to visit this child at least once a month. She needs to set her eyes on him and touch. My child would hear my voice at least twice a day. He don't even call. He don't care. She needs to feel loved. He don't even provide for her basic needs. Loser!
@Allen Reynolds that's bs. People would call the mom a selfish deadbeat for not taking care of her kid. Mothers have much stricter social rules to be seen as "good parents" than guys ever had. All a guy has to do is replace some diapers and he is the best dad in the world. That should tell you enough.
Exactly. I wouldnt have issue with this if dad would pay for the travel and do it himself as opposed to placing that burden on the mom who is juggling work and raising a kid alone that he refuses to support financially.
No I agree with this. He is the one that moved so far. The mother is already paying for everything and is there 24/7 with their child most likely working too. Now she is expected to take time out (days!) and use her working money to pay for flights and hotel costs so that the ridiculous father can see their child. He who doesn't even care to call as often no matter what but has somehow down on his supposed luck manages to maintain a love life 😧. He needs to visit if he wants to maintain a good relationship with her.
SHE has no obligation to him but she and he both have an obligation to their daughter. If her daughter really loves dad that much then she may end up being resented by her kid because "You never took me to see daddy". And her ex husband sounds like a petty ass guy, the kind to say later on that "your momma never let me see you". Steve gave good advice, I feel.
For all the women who only heard "Steve wants her to fly out with the daughter" missed the part about him not paying child support, struggling, and moved across the country (aka the new miss is the money bag here). That's why he told her to do that if he really wants to see her. Now after this one trip, two things could happen: 1. He doesn't do what he's supposed to do, new gf may get in the way to cause his daughter to not be seen by him anymore. Or 2. He has an amazing time and realizes the next time I wanna see her, he will do what he can to make that happen
The relationship between a father and a child is much more important than any amount of money he could give. It’s important to encourage and foster those relationships. There’s so much splitting that occurs in these types of relationship dynamics. But he needs to get on a place and go get his 5 yr. If she feels uncertain about his environment, then go check it out and make sure it’s safe.
If i was the mom the dad would need to come see about his child first; before he ask me about sending his child across the world to see him; a real Father would go out his way to see about his child It's more then communication he needs to show some action with getting involve with his daughter start spending time with his child paying child support Doesn't make him a man or a Father; having that bond and spending time giving advice and showing love and being a protective dad makes him a man but if he still being petty having his selfish ways he needs some growing up to do. I been in the same similar situation except i had the court to help me and i have a daughter dad pays child support but refuse to do his visits with cps and even before the court he still hasn't gotten involve my daughter is going into teenage stage and its sad. I wish great things for the mother. Delores Phelps
I agree with Steve on keeping the child support out of it. That should never be a factor in the parent seeing the kids. My Mom & Dad divorced when I was 5yrs old and Mom gave Dad custody of us 3 girls. If dad would have said no you can't have the girls because you haven't paid child support we never would have had a relationship with our Mom. As for this Dad, if he really wants to have a relationship with his daughter he will step up and find a way to see his daughter or at very least call her a few times a week. I didn't hear any kind of compromise in here. When you have kids you have to compromise. I wish this lady the best of luck with this situation.
The reason why I love this question 😂🤣😂 because this question turned into an audience question-and- an ask Steve question everybody in that room seem to have a story that matched hers because it was so funny you heard the men yelling and you heard the women yelling!!!!!! This would be a great panel discussion they should think about doing that......
Being a daughter of supposedly loving father who never paid child support I don't believe now it's was worth for me and my mother to do everything was possible for me to see him. I was running after somebody who was proud to say it's my daughter but was too busy running is "love" life. I finally had never childsupport and the love of my father was like a river without water... I think now if a father really love his children he will bring the food for them. Period
Theres one man in the back yelling right I just knew Steve was gone say something about him but he didn't😂😂 he paused at the first right though almost did it.
Issa WHOLE no from me. I’ve been through this. My ex husband suddenly wanted 50/50 custody of our 2 year old daughter after he moved the girl he cheated on me with in with him- and lied to me about living with her. Nope nope nope. He took me to court...AND LOST. He can see her any time he wants but live with him? Hell no. She’s 7 now and has a great relationship with her daddy, but still lives with me
Uncle Steve, I think he needs to come see his daughter. His problem is because HE doesn't WANT to make the effort to come and see his daughter. I don’t think she should have to go. If HE really wants to see his daughter, find away to make it his PRIORITY to see his child. 💅🏾
Steve is right about kids and daughter-father relationship My parents aren't divorced but my dad doesn't earn and my mom is the only breadwinner of our family she has been working for 20years nd my dad used to earn but gave all his earning to his family (parents nd sister) , my mom was done with him but I loved my dad so much , I used to play with him a lot and I didn't need money from my dad , I needed his love but then as days went. He stopped showing love nd once he called me failure right into my face cuz I had break in my. Colg but then I finished later., I had toxic boyfriend issues , I talked to my parents my mom stood like dad nd solved it my dad was out of the scene , he just told "we shouldnt have raised you and gave education in the first place" and went on with his life , those where the breaking point of our relationship and now I don't have any relationship with my father nd I hate him now that even when he comes nd ask "how am I doing" I keep it short with a single word reply nd ignore him. That's why when I hear Steve speak of his family nd love for his daughter I cry a bit
As soon as she asked the question, I knew Steve response !!! I know he felt some type of way. However, I agree with his response, she can go there with her but the next time he better do the move and come see his child! Additionally a call cost nothing so that’s a cheap excuse. Even if you got no money, so many great apps there that you can use for free to call!
totally agree! thats why i think its bogus. the father is free to now be with his gf. How many men are going to add drama, by dealing w baby mom, when he has a new lady. Plus if they have children, that woman don't want none of his past.
@@MHWM2014Oh no, not at all. The gf shouldn't be a factor, if he's a good dad. Just sayin when there's a new woman, she doesn't want him to be bothered w his daughter or ex on any level. You know women are possessive, even if it is his daughter....theres no excuse really not to see your child. I get it from both views. I just think he's going to use momma as being combative as the reason to not see child.
To keep it a buck I bet she fabricated the story because she's bitter. You can't finalize a divorce without some type of payment arrangement for the kids thru the courts.
The problem here is not the guy moving across country its him leaving with a woman he cheated with. She didn't say why he moved for all we no it was to better himself. Why stay and b broke when u have an opportunity to do better for yourself to support the child.
I'd take a week off and go with her. She's staying with me in an hotel and spending all day every day with her dad. One night, she'll sleep over at his place. That's all. 5yo is still a baby. I'm not letting her go to some woman who doesn't love nor care for her.
@@carmenkimberley Yes, not for him, but for her. They have a great relationship, which means she loves him and wants to spend more time with him. For safety, I'm not comfortable leaving her completely in his care since he is unstable and irresponsible (is not supporting financially) so I rightly think he mind be negligent too. But I'm doing my best for her to see her daddy and have him in her life as much as possible. And I would keep the toxicity to a minimum. No talking him down to her, no making it awkward if she wants both of us for an activity. I'm hurt, but there is no way my baby is going to pay for something she is not responsible for.
Note the slight pause in "he doesn't call...too frequently." At that point i saw a lil bit of her. I understand her situation though. Been there. I think the other parent has to step up. If it's a legal separation with mediation, there's rules they both should be adhering too. If they can't, court takes action
Listen to the man that says "RIGHT!" @2:43 steve didnt even finish what he was saying......that man said that so fast like he could relate. Its aight bruh........dont let the world know your business 😂😂😂😂
Interesting comments. Now that I no longer pay childsupport I actually see things differently. It's truly amazing to see how one sided people talk about raising and supporting children. I heard it all and mostly from people who don't have a clue about how it works.
Fathers need to come to their daughter, daughters who have to chase after their fathers have relationship issues later on with men who are not fully available
An important factor to be mentioned, is that the kid is only 5 yrs old. Why would any mother let a 5 yr old travel to the other side of the country alone? In my opinion, in this case, it should be the father who takes the time and responsibility to go and be with his daughter. It got nothing to do with getting back at him, she is making sure the kid is safe.
I believe that if the parent weather it's the mother or father and they're obligated to pay child support and they're intentionally underemployed and living with his or her parents to avoid paying child support, in addition of not actively being in the child's life and calling DCF continuously on the other parent that has the child full time... Doing all that to AVOID being a RESPONSIBLE PARENT, shouldn't be allowed to be around the child POINT- BLANK-PERIOD... Because that parent that's choosing not to take care of their child or be a proactive parent doesn't deserve to get credit for the other parent that's taking on ALL the responsibilities of raising the child and putting up with the drama from the IRRESPONSIBLE parent that's causing more harm than good...that poisonous parent needs to stay away all together.
Doing what's best for your child has never been about what's fair. She shouldn't have to take the child out there but it is the best way to help facilitate the relationship between father and daughter as well as stay aware of the environment she is in. Life isn't always fair when you have kids , you just do what's best because it's the right thing to do,.. You're not doing it for him.
My daughter is my everything and I've always wanted to be the best father I couldn't be no I don't know if I should just let it go and walk away I will continue sending my support I know that's for my daughter and she deserves every cent but I was under the impression that kids need both their parents the unfortunate thing is I can't afford to pay somebody and I know nobody who would help me pro bono I've done everything I could do I've listened to lawyers and made mistakes the judge even tried to make me pay for her lawyer because of one of the mistakes I was only doing what I was told I needed to do you're a smart man would you be able to give me some advice please Mr Harvey 🙏
She needs to set a requirement that he reach out to their daughter consistently before she spends any money to make a face to face visit happen! It’s not about the money. He needs to show his little girl that she matters despite whatever financial limitations he may have. Give your time and attention and do so consistently. Don’t teach your daughters that they have to chase a man for their love and attention. If they love you then they will demonstrate it and you won’t have to beg or trade in your dignity for their crumbs.
does he not have the money to at least buy his daughters plane ticket. I wouldn't be apposed to letting him see our daughter. but he taking advantage if he ain't got no balls to at least get the money for her ticket. especially if he dont pay child support. he needs to grow some balls.
Exactky. If he can’t buy a plane ticket, how is he going to provide a safe and stable environment for her? He’d have to show me that he has money for groceries and can take time off of work to look after her. He can’t just be giving her happy meals and leaving her with the side chick all day long. Or save up and buy a ticket for his damn self and come to see her where she lives.
Any lawyer worth their certification, as well as I, can see thru this. If he can ante up the money for the ticket then she should be able to go providing he has a safe environment for her. It's not entirely up to one parent to provide the opportunity to parent. The opportunity is there! He ain't taking it! No calls, no trips, no child support. Please. He needs to step up and show his daughter what a man looks like.
In divorce, the kids are the ones that suffer the most. Always!
true, it doesn't matter how the children are when the divorce takes place. the children may be all grown and have their own family, they still suffer
SOKUN HONG that's true, however they may possibly suffer even more by being in a household with a troubled marriage - speaking from experience
SOKUN HONG yea..........well that’s true
Lol my parents was married for 19 Long ignorant years.....trust me not all children care when parents get divorced.....it's a joyous season for some children. Ijs
@@godschildb4thewomb198 ~ Were you a kid when they divorced? Remember I emphasized on the kids
Steve hushhhhh. The child is 5 yrs old why should she have to go across the country to be with her dad he needs to come to her. And the father don't call the daughter often BIG NO NO...but she is suppose to send her baby across the country. I agree with the mother 100%.
He might not call often because he doesn't want to argue with the mother every time he calls. The point is he wants to see his child. The real problem is he is currently living with the lady he cheated with. If the father wants to spend time with his child then they all should sit down so everyone can make sure the child comes first and know that her parents loves her.
That’s his baby too though
Yes I feel like the point that he doesn't call was forgotten.
Lasonia Lindsey They do need to sit down. I don’t think the mothers concerns are unfounded judging by his behavior. He needs to pay for his daughters trip and prove to the mom that he has the funds and time to care for her. He also needs to show that his home is a safe environment and let her know who her daughter will be around. I think it’s fine if the side chick is there, as long as she won’t be the one looking after the child most of the time. If he can’t show all that, he can come see his daughter where she lives. The mom is not stopping him from doing that.
Thats why hilton hotel is open
Steve know this situation all to well because he’s in one just as similar. The only difference, Steve have money!
Yes... but his kids are now adults. So it's up to him to go see his mom.
Mom The Ebayer amen and amen again
Monique Alishia Did I say Steve was wrong? I never gave my opinion about it, I said he’s in a similar situation.
Vision L Whatever they decide it’s their business. I hope they do what’s best for the child.
He's not in a similar situation because his kids are grown.
If the dad is NOT paying support. He should be paying to see the child. Dad should go to the child, he should pay for travel, & his own hotel !! Since mom is paying for everything else !! Only Right !!!!
No, it depends on the situation. If the daddy is broke, then you shouldn't withhold the child. But if the person is simply unwilling to contribute, despite being stable, it can be considered.
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@@tim.prasad03 if dad is broke then how he move across the country? Why not be broke closer to the kid?
@@anonymoususer4866 maybe he moved across country because he is broke. Think about it, a lot of people be moving out of New York and California in hopes of going from broke to financially comfortable. We don’t know the situation but people do leave their state to another solely because they are broke.
1st of all he lives in other state. But he move out or she move out ? We dont know. Another point is that like Steve said, he could lost everything in divorce. U see only peak of mount
I do not keep my child from her father even though he doesn’t pay child support regularly. But I’m not going to go to great lengths for him to spend time with her. It’s his responsibility to take the right steps to remain present in his child’s life. Not mine. I do my part. He needs to do his.
I agree. However, I also feel this gives Mom the opportunity to build a stronger bond with her daughter because it would show how mom is willing to go that extra mile for her daughter to see her father. I think that speaks volumes to a child. Because the child knows dad isn't calling, hes not coming out. And that's a poor reflection of him.
@@aprils670 yhh exactly mom shouldn't leave any effort or else when daughter grows up she will be mad that u also didn't do anything.
" He doesn't provide for his child AND doesn't call to see about his flesh and blood" .....deadbeat dad for REAL!
If he wants to see HIS daughter HE should go get her
Why?
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That's right. He should go get her instead of the mom send daughter. Or mom will go
He cant hes an unstable deadbeat.
You shouldn't keep your child from their father unless they're abusive, she'll end resenting you.
I like how hard she tried not to be too negative about her child's father I pray they are co-parenting in a healthy balanced manner now their child deserves it!...
*He should come see the child HE LEFT BEHIND!!!!! Period!!*
It's unfortunate for the child.
BUT he cheated...then left WITH the other woman......and mum's going to him with THEIR child? No ma'am. No thanks. You come see your child, Sir.
At the end of the day it's the child who is suffering. When a child is involved there is no place with pettiness. The fact that he cheated had nothing to do with it. I don't even know why she mentioned it. You can be a cheater and a good dad
Sounds like the dad just tring to make a joke of the sitiation and regain the power he has over his wife that he loss.
@@jessicamazeya3626 true. But he dont pay or make the effort neither to see his daughter or even drop a call, so he is a wholesome good for nothing dad.
Raising a child takes money and time whether you like it or not. Plus, Id fear her safety being overseas with strangers I wouldnt be able to do it
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@@jessicamazeya3626 You are right. The child is the one suffering here. But, from personal experience: if that dad isn't making an effort now, he won't when his daughter is older. He didn't have to move that far away at her tender age. You know?
Audience?... Audience.. Uhh this segment is called "Hey Steve" 😂😂😂
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he tried to get the audience to go against her, this time it failed.
I had the same situation. I flew with my daughter, stayed in a hotel and allowed her to stay in his home with him. I took her because she loves him and wanted to see him. After 24 hours, he was calling me, because he did not know what else to do with her. The rest of the trip turned into a vacation with my daughter. If you don't trust him, DO NOT send your child.
I think its good you did it but o cover yourself for court because he likely was hoping you wouldn’t send the kid so he could blame you for his lack of relationship with the child like its your fault he doesnt see her. These men are clowns.
@@anonymoususer4866 the men u deal with are clowns.
All situations aren’t the same. Most men love their kids. So do according to your situation not others
Exactly.
No it is not her, we have to protect our girls and sending a little girl out away from home is not a good idea. You don't know who's in that house sleeping at night creeping. I came from a large family we were not allowed to spend the night nowhere. I thank God my mother and father did not allow that to happen. I did the same thing with my children no spending the night no. They sent me today!
I think he should get supervised visits...day visits..5 is young for a lil girl to be away from mom
Why supervised? My daughter is 2 I have unsupervised visitation every weekend. I pick her up & take her back to my house to be a part of my life not visiting like a vacation.
Waltjoh100 You live near enough to do that and probably have proven yourself to be responsible. He is asking the mother to send her child all the way across the country by herself, when he has shown he is not a reliable father.
@@jackpea7102 Same argument could be used for mothers. My daughter is subject to whomever her mother brings into her house, which its 5 out of 7 nights she stays there. My ex moves guys in fast into her house so they can help pay bills. I was 1 of those guys I just got her pregnant right away.
Usually abuse its the mom's bf or uncles. Not the non custodial visitation father or his family. There's less days & fewer visiting fathers.
With courts enforcing supervised visitation it's limited duration they do that & it's hard for her to make the argument for court enforcing it if they were married anyway. If he can prove she was leaving her daughter alone with him during the marriage it destroys the case of he can't be trusted alone with her.
Eventually maybe not now, this dude, if he fights, he's gonna hopefully get some individual time with his child in his reality, is that really a bad thing?
No, he need to come get his baby..
he needs to man up
If he moved all the way across the country, then it's his responsibility to make up for the actions that he carried out. I have to disagree with you Steve on this one.
But its wrong to deny the child her father
EXACTLY!!! Steve is in the wrong on this one
It's called "Addition by Subtraction", a child doesn't have to have two parents in their life to feel whole, the child will be better off with a good parent that offers the right kind of love, nurturing, and support from a positive ROLE MODEL, NOT from a negative, poisonous parent that would cause more harm and have a bad influence on the child's life.
I completely agree why should she jump on a plane and take her daughter to see her ex. But at the end of the day she does not want her daughter to ever look at her and said you can play from my dad.
@@g.suejohnson7676 he denied his own child
He should put in the effort to see his daughter, or call more, his daughter is gonna think she has to put more off the effort than he should have to. Which is gonna influence her when she's older to settle for a man that don't put in the effort for her.
my only problem with this, is what happens the next time child wants to see him..she has to take off amd pay for all of this. I wanna know why she got or asked for full custody ? Get divorced, cheat on me, but why get full custody. divorce doesn't always mean bad father.
@@Chanel5-q5o i dont understand your point? You want them to have joint custody over a child that will be moving across the country every couple of weeks at 5 years old? For a guy that doesn't call, can't pay child support, doesn't want to fly to see his own child, and moved so far away from his baby daughter at her age? What's your point? This is one of the worst cases to plead joint custody on.
he should have a segment of hey audience
My ex n me separate since my daughter was 1 year old. I never ask for child support. N he never give not even penny. He never ever call. Not even try to fight for her. She is 11 years old now. Her step dad he being doing everything for both if us. I'm so happy I move on. He is a great father to her.
She will eventually want to know her dad. Nothing like the original. That's where she gets her identity. Wait and see.
RA A .God bless your family
Why would he have to fight to be part of her life? Or you wanted him to fight so you can use the child as a pawn against him or start another drama? Did you even call him or reach out to him to come and take care of the child both of you created or even tell him your daughter is missing him? The only thing you are saying is that he didn't fight to be there for her. If only parents (both mum and dad) should learn that they should never have to fight to be part of their kids life, life will be easy for the kids because is not about your differences and why you divorced or separated but about the innocent child's life needing both biological parents in her life.
@@uunique7074 well my daughter was only year old. He was never in her life even we was living together. Even after we separated I give him chance so he can be in his daughter life. Well all he did was talk to me then left. After that I file for divorce. And he never ask for her to be in her life. We move on. And I have no problem she can talk to her father if she want to. I had no problem with that.. thats her choice. And he want aas to get his green card cheats with other women's.
@@demetriccooper6238 to be honest I ask her she said no she's happy where she is now. But I will never stop her to see him. Those problems was between me and him
"Probably lost everything in the divorce anyway...." 🤣🤣🤣 That's one killed me
I agree with this mother not to incur expense to go to him ! If he cared about his child he would make the effort to come and see her , plus
He hardly calls her ,and he is not even paying child support?
I feel for this woman. My ex moved to the other side of the globe and didn’t see our child for 2 years claiming he couldn’t take time off work or had no money. And then it turned out he remarried and was already having a 1 year old child without even letting our child know. Now he expect our child to move to live with him and I am having major doubt. It’s also worth to note that he had one more failed marriage and one more child in between. He still thinks of himself as responsible loving father. Give me a break.
Selfish jerks are everywhere
Hell naw HE is responsible for his relationship with his own daughter
Somehow its always on the mother.
let him keep her then, just like his mom keeps her. It should be like 1 month at a time or 2 weeks at a time.
Morgan Curry exactly!!
Swear some men think we women have to do everything for them including maintaining their own relationships with their kids.
Oh so now it's convenient not to acknowledge 2 parents lol. Women '
i disagree this dude getting lazy and too rich to care anymore. he shouldve said if he really wanna see his daughter he get hotel near her and do it that way.
Girl it's better that you go with your child. Just to be safe. But Steve has money so he'll say don't withhold the child. But I understand why she would keep the child from the father - because he's not spending any money.
This situation is too real be careful who u have kids with if u dont share the same values u end up raising a child in a stressful situation which will only hurt the child or children.
dump D so true. Sadly a lot of us don’t learn the real values of the other person until after we have kids.
I agree with the majority of what Steve said except the taking off of work part. It's really easy for Steve to tell her to take off her job and fly her child to see her dad because 1. Steve is the boss, and 2. Steve is rich and can afford to do something like that. He didn't even bother to ask her if she has a job that she can take off like that.
Tracy Daniels I’m very disappointed with his reaction it was almost patronizing.
@@carmenkimberley exactly. He's been rich too long to really understand a single mother's plight, especially if she's been doing everything for a long time.
Loool we all know my mans in the back paying that child support talmbout RIGHT!! 2:41
Bahahahahaha
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think the daughter needs to know the reality that her dad is did father duty. Not everything in this world perfect as it is. Because the mother pays all the bills and the father didnt do his job, so she dont need to pay extra money to pay the plane ticket and hotels for him to see his daughter.
She did say the daughter was 5. How would she know these things?
The mom should go along with the daughter or dad should go get daughter
Who will pay the plane? Him no money, her as a single mum.... It's not 20 mins drive...
No! If he don't pay the kids support don't send her to him. 👍 And you are a beautiful mother. 👍😉
My sister did the same! She moved out cause of divorce BUT she moved in a house near them, so the kids can see the father so often as they want to.
Did she tell Steve to "Stop "????😲😲😲😲😲😲... Am going to watch again..
I rewind and she said did
She did. I figured it was a joke. He was playing for a bit.
@@ieshasmith6740
Now isn't that rude... omg
@@hyacinthdibley2420 .
He ignored the hell out of it
Yep
This was not answered correctly!! Steve missed the part where she said “ he doesn’t really call, the daughter is the one that calls him” he simply does not sound like a father that cares for his daughter!! It has nothing to do with the woman being bitter or petty because the baby’s father is living with his ex mistress!! Her motherly intuitions are already telling her that he is not a good father to her daughter! Seriously if you not paying child support, you should at least be very present in your child’s life, calling the child at least 3 times a week won’t hurt his broke unstable ass!!🙄😒
So why did he move across the country if he really wanted to be with his daughter? 🤔 And why should the mom have to deal with that?
@Allen Reynolds even if all that is true 5 is too young to go alone, he can come and stay at his mama, sister, brother homie house while he visits
@Allen Reynolds Why should he have to accommodate him in any way? If he loved his child, he would not have moved across the country. He needs to visit this child at least once a month. She needs to set her eyes on him and touch. My child would hear my voice at least twice a day. He don't even call. He don't care. She needs to feel loved.
He don't even provide for her basic needs. Loser!
If it was the other way round? If the mom moved and the dad kept the daughter, who's being selfish in that situation?
@Allen Reynolds that's bs. People would call the mom a selfish deadbeat for not taking care of her kid. Mothers have much stricter social rules to be seen as "good parents" than guys ever had. All a guy has to do is replace some diapers and he is the best dad in the world. That should tell you enough.
Exactly. I wouldnt have issue with this if dad would pay for the travel and do it himself as opposed to placing that burden on the mom who is juggling work and raising a kid alone that he refuses to support financially.
Worst advice from Steve..she has no obligations to go to him. His ass needs to come see his daughter, if not..boy bye!!
Not him in person, but his ass right lol
@Sahabiya It not about him, it is what best for the child.
It's not about the parents, it's about what's best for the child. You shouldn't poison your child's mind with doubt that their father loves them.
No I agree with this. He is the one that moved so far. The mother is already paying for everything and is there 24/7 with their child most likely working too. Now she is expected to take time out (days!) and use her working money to pay for flights and hotel costs so that the ridiculous father can see their child. He who doesn't even care to call as often no matter what but has somehow down on his supposed luck manages to maintain a love life 😧. He needs to visit if he wants to maintain a good relationship with her.
SHE has no obligation to him but she and he both have an obligation to their daughter. If her daughter really loves dad that much then she may end up being resented by her kid because "You never took me to see daddy". And her ex husband sounds like a petty ass guy, the kind to say later on that "your momma never let me see you". Steve gave good advice, I feel.
Steve says "to know what a man's love should feel like." Well this ain't it!!!
This is the second Time in my life I’m seeing Steve not automatically supporting the female in the situation.
For all the women who only heard "Steve wants her to fly out with the daughter" missed the part about him not paying child support, struggling, and moved across the country (aka the new miss is the money bag here).
That's why he told her to do that if he really wants to see her. Now after this one trip, two things could happen:
1. He doesn't do what he's supposed to do, new gf may get in the way to cause his daughter to not be seen by him anymore. Or
2. He has an amazing time and realizes the next time I wanna see her, he will do what he can to make that happen
Anybody else here ole dude in the back saying “RIGHT” after Steve when he talking about child support😂😂
That one guy in the back agreeing with Steve "RIGHT" 😂
Finally I found somebody else who caught thise
The relationship between a father and a child is much more important than any amount of money he could give. It’s important to encourage and foster those relationships. There’s so much splitting that occurs in these types of relationship dynamics. But he needs to get on a place and go get his 5 yr. If she feels uncertain about his environment, then go check it out and make sure it’s safe.
If i was the mom the dad would need to come see about his child first; before he ask me about sending his child across the world to see him; a real Father would go out his way to see about his child It's more then communication he needs to show some action with getting involve with his daughter start spending time with his child paying child support Doesn't make him a man or a Father; having that bond and spending time giving advice and showing love and being a protective dad makes him a man but if he still being petty having his selfish ways he needs some growing up to do. I been in the same similar situation except i had the court to help me and i have a daughter dad pays child support but refuse to do his visits with cps and even before the court he still hasn't gotten involve my daughter is going into teenage stage and its sad. I wish great things for the mother. Delores Phelps
I agree with Steve on keeping the child support out of it. That should never be a factor in the parent seeing the kids. My Mom & Dad divorced when I was 5yrs old and Mom gave Dad custody of us 3 girls. If dad would have said no you can't have the girls because you haven't paid child support we never would have had a relationship with our Mom.
As for this Dad, if he really wants to have a relationship with his daughter he will step up and find a way to see his daughter or at very least call her a few times a week. I didn't hear any kind of compromise in here. When you have kids you have to compromise.
I wish this lady the best of luck with this situation.
If he wasn’t a good father she wouldn’t have a dilemma!!!!!!
Being a good father is more than hugs and kisses. Children take time and money too. He has shown that he is not willing to provide those things.
The reason why I love this question 😂🤣😂 because this question turned into an audience question-and- an ask Steve question everybody in that room seem to have a story that matched hers because it was so funny you heard the men yelling and you heard the women yelling!!!!!! This would be a great panel discussion they should think about doing that......
Right I feel the same way. Nickey👍 i love seeing the male- female panel its really good!
Wonderful advice, always, brother ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Being a daughter of supposedly loving father who never paid child support I don't believe now it's was worth for me and my mother to do everything was possible for me to see him. I was running after somebody who was proud to say it's my daughter but was too busy running is "love" life. I finally had never childsupport and the love of my father was like a river without water... I think now if a father really love his children he will bring the food for them. Period
Women always gotta stand up and be the Man..not sending my child nowhere..same situation I knw he renting a room sooo Negative calling BS.steve..
Theres one man in the back yelling right I just knew Steve was gone say something about him but he didn't😂😂 he paused at the first right though almost did it.
Woo . That’s why I let my son see his dad so he is not deprived of parental love
2:42 RIGHTTTT
Mr Sir Steve Harvey, You are an inspiration to me!
from Just an average guy from Singapore
Steve is the best counselor
Thank you uncle Steve..... ❤👏👏👏👏👏
Issa WHOLE no from me.
I’ve been through this. My ex husband suddenly wanted 50/50 custody of our 2 year old daughter after he moved the girl he cheated on me with in with him- and lied to me about living with her. Nope nope nope. He took me to court...AND LOST. He can see her any time he wants but live with him? Hell no. She’s 7 now and has a great relationship with her daddy, but still lives with me
the guy in the audience felt steve, all I kept hearing was "that's right.... yeah" haha
Uncle Steve, I think he needs to come see his daughter. His problem is because HE doesn't WANT to make the effort to come and see his daughter. I don’t think she should have to go. If HE really wants to see his daughter, find away to make it his PRIORITY to see his child. 💅🏾
Steve you need to listen more. Steve knows everything 🤦🏾♀️
Steve is right about kids and daughter-father relationship
My parents aren't divorced but my dad doesn't earn and my mom is the only breadwinner of our family she has been working for 20years nd my dad used to earn but gave all his earning to his family (parents nd sister) , my mom was done with him but I loved my dad so much , I used to play with him a lot and I didn't need money from my dad , I needed his love but then as days went. He stopped showing love nd once he called me failure right into my face cuz I had break in my. Colg but then I finished later., I had toxic boyfriend issues , I talked to my parents my mom stood like dad nd solved it my dad was out of the scene , he just told "we shouldnt have raised you and gave education in the first place" and went on with his life , those where the breaking point of our relationship and now I don't have any relationship with my father nd I hate him now that even when he comes nd ask "how am I doing" I keep it short with a single word reply nd ignore him. That's why when I hear Steve speak of his family nd love for his daughter I cry a bit
I can relate to this, baby Daddy isnt there financially but if ever he decides to spent tym with her, she comes bek happy
As soon as she asked the question, I knew Steve response !!! I know he felt some type of way. However, I agree with his response, she can go there with her but the next time he better do the move and come see his child! Additionally a call cost nothing so that’s a cheap excuse. Even if you got no money, so many great apps there that you can use for free to call!
totally agree! thats why i think its bogus. the father is free to now be with his gf. How many men are going to add drama, by dealing w baby mom, when he has a new lady. Plus if they have children, that woman don't want none of his past.
Chanel5 So having a new girlfriend makes it ok to just not call or be apart of his daughter’s life? Wow
@@MHWM2014Oh no, not at all. The gf shouldn't be a factor, if he's a good dad. Just sayin when there's a new woman, she doesn't want him to be bothered w his daughter or ex on any level. You know women are possessive, even if it is his daughter....theres no excuse really not to see your child. I get it from both views. I just think he's going to use momma as being combative as the reason to not see child.
To keep it a buck I bet she fabricated the story because she's bitter. You can't finalize a divorce without some type of payment arrangement for the kids thru the courts.
Very good advice
Mr. Harvey
Steve is a Professional@ giving his OPINIONS😌
Steve is a wise man. I respect him
HIS NOT STABLE?BUT THEY HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
Maybe she meant stable financially? *shrugs*
She's just being nice. He doesn't even call his daughter. Smh.
The problem here is not the guy moving across country its him leaving with a woman he cheated with. She didn't say why he moved for all we no it was to better himself. Why stay and b broke when u have an opportunity to do better for yourself to support the child.
I've experienced this... none of the reasons make sense!!!
Yes sir Steve..... lot of pettiness
Steve I'm from Mauritania Ilike this emition because it's make me feel better
Question: IS HE GOING TO SEND THE MONEY$$$ FOR THE PLANE TICKETS AND THE HOTEL STAY?? ANSWER ME THAT ONE!! 🤨🤔
I like the mother. She's not being negative about daddy and she ain't parent alienating.
Well said steve..
I'd take a week off and go with her. She's staying with me in an hotel and spending all day every day with her dad. One night, she'll sleep over at his place. That's all. 5yo is still a baby. I'm not letting her go to some woman who doesn't love nor care for her.
Flower Petal looool are you going to use your hard earned off days so a dead beat can spend time with his child? Mmmkay
@@carmenkimberley Yes, not for him, but for her. They have a great relationship, which means she loves him and wants to spend more time with him. For safety, I'm not comfortable leaving her completely in his care since he is unstable and irresponsible (is not supporting financially) so I rightly think he mind be negligent too. But I'm doing my best for her to see her daddy and have him in her life as much as possible. And I would keep the toxicity to a minimum. No talking him down to her, no making it awkward if she wants both of us for an activity. I'm hurt, but there is no way my baby is going to pay for something she is not responsible for.
A WEEK OFF? YOU MIGHT LOSE YOUR JOB!
Amazing steve i totally agree
Mum ...advice ... humble ...yourself whichever you can ... coz the man might end up ... harming the child
Oh, yes. It is like I am listening to my story. But one does what is BEST for the kids & looks like a fool, in the eyes of the world. Worth it anyday.
As difficult as she was- Steve Gave a great solution ♥️
no way. steve is wrong
Steve:
Man in the background: " RIGHT!"
Note the slight pause in "he doesn't call...too frequently." At that point i saw a lil bit of her.
I understand her situation though. Been there. I think the other parent has to step up. If it's a legal separation with mediation, there's rules they both should be adhering too. If they can't, court takes action
Listen to the man that says "RIGHT!" @2:43 steve didnt even finish what he was saying......that man said that so fast like he could relate. Its aight bruh........dont let the world know your business 😂😂😂😂
Interesting comments. Now that I no longer pay childsupport I actually see things differently. It's truly amazing to see how one sided people talk about raising and supporting children. I heard it all and mostly from people who don't have a clue about how it works.
People! Be careful who you have babies with 😔
He should do the travelling end of story
She said “he says send her to me” 🤣🤣it ain’t no damn time share
It almost went down in there 😂, if steve didn’t say anything... LORDDD 😂
Fathers need to come to their daughter, daughters who have to chase after their fathers have relationship issues later on with men who are not fully available
An important factor to be mentioned, is that the kid is only 5 yrs old. Why would any mother let a 5 yr old travel to the other side of the country alone? In my opinion, in this case, it should be the father who takes the time and responsibility to go and be with his daughter. It got nothing to do with getting back at him, she is making sure the kid is safe.
Welcome to the new and improved section called "hey audience"
I believe that if the parent weather it's the mother or father and they're obligated to pay child support and they're intentionally underemployed and living with his or her parents to avoid paying child support, in addition of not actively being in the child's life and calling DCF continuously on the other parent that has the child full time... Doing all that to AVOID being a RESPONSIBLE PARENT, shouldn't be allowed to be around the child POINT- BLANK-PERIOD... Because that parent that's choosing not to take care of their child or be a proactive parent doesn't deserve to get credit for the other parent that's taking on ALL the responsibilities of raising the child and putting up with the drama from the IRRESPONSIBLE parent that's causing more harm than good...that poisonous parent needs to stay away all together.
Exactly! Hes irresponsible, but I cant tell you what aint? Money.
Let him pay for the ticket. If he wants to see her. If she is going with her he has to buy both tickets. CALL YOUR CHILD MAN
They thank me today.
STEVE! You got your signature moustache back!
Doing what's best for your child has never been about what's fair. She shouldn't have to take the child out there but it is the best way to help facilitate the relationship between father and daughter as well as stay aware of the environment she is in. Life isn't always fair when you have kids , you just do what's best because it's the right thing to do,.. You're not doing it for him.
My daughter is my everything and I've always wanted to be the best father I couldn't be no I don't know if I should just let it go and walk away I will continue sending my support I know that's for my daughter and she deserves every cent but I was under the impression that kids need both their parents the unfortunate thing is I can't afford to pay somebody and I know nobody who would help me pro bono I've done everything I could do I've listened to lawyers and made mistakes the judge even tried to make me pay for her lawyer because of one of the mistakes I was only doing what I was told I needed to do you're a smart man would you be able to give me some advice please Mr Harvey 🙏
A LITTLE girl should NOT travel by herself! Daddy or no Daddy.
Real af
She needs to set a requirement that he reach out to their daughter consistently before she spends any money to make a face to face visit happen! It’s not about the money. He needs to show his little girl that she matters despite whatever financial limitations he may have. Give your time and attention and do so consistently. Don’t teach your daughters that they have to chase a man for their love and attention. If they love you then they will demonstrate it and you won’t have to beg or trade in your dignity for their crumbs.
does he not have the money to at least buy his daughters plane ticket. I wouldn't be apposed to letting him see our daughter. but he taking advantage if he ain't got no balls to at least get the money for her ticket. especially if he dont pay child support. he needs to grow some balls.
Exactky. If he can’t buy a plane ticket, how is he going to provide a safe and stable environment for her? He’d have to show me that he has money for groceries and can take time off of work to look after her. He can’t just be giving her happy meals and leaving her with the side chick all day long. Or save up and buy a ticket for his damn self and come to see her where she lives.
I do respect this female very much... My ex took my son preventing me from seeing him at all
i can hear a guy shouting Right! lmao
That one man in the back yelling “Right Right”
Any lawyer worth their certification, as well as I, can see thru this. If he can ante up the money for the ticket then she should be able to go providing he has a safe environment for her. It's not entirely up to one parent to provide the opportunity to parent. The opportunity is there! He ain't taking it! No calls, no trips, no child support. Please. He needs to step up and show his daughter what a man looks like.