I've treated my 3 girlfriends like complete princesses and 2 of them ended up physically abusing me and 1 verbally,I'm 48 and I don't understand how this works. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't knock you,I've resigned myself to being single and that's just how my life is going to be and I'm okay with that,it would just have been nice to share my heart with someone 😌
Have faith the right women for you will show up. Sometimes we attract the same kind of partners. Work.on yourself first and in Devine time the right person unexpectedly will show up when you least expected.😉
My son was working and living on his own and would come over on Saturday mornings and wash his car in the driveway and we would talk. He said he went to a club with a friend and met a pretty woman he liked and they talked for quite a while. Suddenly, a man shows up out of the blue and says, "hey bitch, you wanna dance?" She said she would talk to me later and danced with a stranger who called her a "bitch". What is wrong with these women"?
As a girl im sorry to anyone who feels this. I’ve never dated anyone or been interested in dating but it’s messed up how people make it out to look like most women are like that. Sending love to everyone out there
Most men want a wife and kids yet they do an use everything they were taught by family,friends an teachers on how to get a good girl. Then don't understand why none of it work of being a good man,working hard and taking care of everything. It very simple feminist brainwash alot of women out there of " you can always do better" and the other message "men are trash" an that leads many women of only thinking of themself in a relationship cause they were lead to think " me,me,me."
I'm fucking sick of being told how nice I am and that I'm a good human. Like why the hell are you going after the guys that treat you like shit. Wasn't she the one that cried about how there aren't any good guys left? I may be a bit smaller than others but at least I'm not an asshole. If anyone tells you character is more important than being good looking, they lie.
Women usually look for one thing. Its power and social status. If you dont have it, if they feel you are beneath them, it doesnt mean shit how good you treat them. They will always look for a better option, because they feel like they can do better than you. And you know what? Let them go. They dont know that top dogs have many options themselves, and they are just another girl in line to get fucked. Once they get used, they will feel hurt. Your revenge is knowing that she will never be happy with herself. Move on with your life. If a girl truly loves you, she will not care about status. Show her who you really are. If she accepts you and loves you back, shes the one.
Lol bro. Im 5'7 and even round DOWN to 5'6 because its so trivial like whats the point of that inch if you're not like 5'11 trying to claim 6" I wasn't remotely good looking until around 18 after getting physically whipped into shape at a military school where somehow i found myself becoming one of 2 captains of our Varsity wrestling team. I was no state champion like many on the net love to claim. But i did finally make it to Semi State my senior year. Ended with a record of 34-7 So I was at least in the "pretty exceptional", category. But I too was STILL convinced that I wasn't attractive to women even in spite of being a solid athlete with a 6 pack that genuinely could be viewed through my shirt. At the time, I too was convinced 100% that "It has to just be a looks thing." But nah. Im telling you right now you're creating a self fulfilling prophecy by believing that. As soon as I stopped caring about what kind of reactions id get from talking to chicks like truly stopped focusing on the potential outcome, and instead focused on simply trying to create a fun aura of energy around myself, THAT was the moment everything rapidly began to change. Suddenly it became effortlessly to get numbers from women after just 10-15 minutes of chatting. Of course not every chick is going to be receptive and i definitely encountered at least a few who were simply not receptive at the time for whatever reason. But I can't even remember the failed attempts to get a number anymore because they became so infrequent that they never stored into my memory. So then I began to try to resolve the dissonance between what possible could've changed? I didnt suddenly become a gorgeous male model out of nowhere. So then why was I suddenly getting the treatment as if I was?? The answer HAD to be directly related to the shift in perspective i experienced. It is a true irony of life that by detaching yourself entirely from the outcome you desire externally, and focusing mostly on generating a positive inner peace and genuine state of playfulness/fun, then those initially desired external outcomes, begin to naturally gravitate towards you. Almost as if women have some kind of internal "bs & insecurity" detection system. So chin up man. If an average looking shorter looking dude like me was able to resolve the whole "only good looking guys can attract women", and definitively prove it to not be the case, AND without having to turn to the asinine teachings of the Red pill & manosphere communities, then its clear that the solution you're looking for requires a voyage of the internal, and not one towards the external. Also, dont listen to any of those pseudo Chad's who claim its necessary to be a jerk in order to get women to like you. Sure it APPEARS to be as such at times, but this is merely incidental. It is the authenticity that is attractive. And some guys simply tend to be authentically a jerk lol so it ends up working for them because its genuinely who they are. Thats where that misconception comes from. Anywho, dont quit working on yourself. Whether you believe you can do something or whether you believe you can't... either way you'll end up being right. Best wishes and good luck my guy.
As someone who's never been in a relationship, I can truthfully say that I AM looking for someone who treats me well. Many guys have been interested in me, but I saw something off in them. I had a sense that they weren't as nice as I thought. I was right every time. I've just met a guy through mutual friends who is the sweetest guy ever, very smart, and funny. THAT is what I'm looking for. I'm the type of person to always treat people well because I would also want to be treated well. It's just second nature
Unfortunately you are extremely rare, i had a gf that said she wanted all those, and helped her out of toxic relationship (i wasn’t interested in her at first but she pursued me later) and she herself was a logical person and said she saw how her friends were all following toxic men and leaving good ones. She did love me and yada yada but also backstabbed me in a way that after 20 years of putting up with so much shit in life i broke down. Then suddenly all the advices from other men to “not be honest” “play around, if you do they wont leave you” “most women are just like that can never trust them”. Flood into my mind, before i used to say i’d never be that kind of person due to my moral ethics. Then you reach a point and realise , it is what it is. 90% of women i have met said they wanted someone nice and good, yet they always destroy them and backstab them for the trashy guys. And i would know, when i was emotionally unavailable and didnt trust women and treated them like they were guys ( like i really didn’t care about them despite me being actually a nice emotional guy), i didnt treat them bad mind you, i just didn’t care. I couldn’t keep them off me, and when they would gain my trust and i finally open up and truly love them and no longer be the mysterious bad guy, guess what happens? Its absolutely fucked up
@@BurriedTruth well damn. I'm sorry, that really sucks. But just know that not all women are like that. If you want a good one, she will probably be a believer in Jesus
@@starlightqueen2002 i can, because women just can’t respect nice guys, they confuse niceness with weakness. That’s why so many women choose assholes because they are more confident and they don’t give a shit to women it looks like “wow he is so strong and cool” To other men he just looks like a weak asshole talking big. Just came to the conclusion in majority of cases a nice guy will just get used by the women. The wildest thing i figured out is alot of women hate to be loved, the moment a guy truly loves them, they know he isn’t going anywhere and it gets boring to them and he feels disposable and chase others they cant get. Its same reason why you can have perfectly good guys, good specs, great personalities, single for years, moment they get with a girl women would fly to them left and right. Alot of women are attracted to what other women want, a hard concept i had to wrap my head around, that’s why cheaters prosper and alot of them are willing to forgive them because they know they got other women 🤷♂️
My problem is that it’s not often women would approach a man for fear of being rejected. It’s been said that women would not say anything to a man that they are attracted too. I have treated women as if I was unbothered by them, and only a few would try to find a way to get my attention . The woman psyche is very challenging for me, and probably other men too.
"Challenging" is an understatement. Maybe we should reconcile to the fact that they're all different and there's no one shot solution. You need a more diverse approach.
In the words of Shawn Spencer, “Treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again”. I didn’t understand thjs quote when I first heard it but after growing up a little, I think I get it now. Treating her like a person means just being real with her as a fellow human being. She’s gonna be real with you whether she’s attracted to you or not. If you put her on a pedestal without even getting to know her first, it makes you look fake, and possibly desperate, cause no one would ever do that unless they wanted something from somebody. Granted, this isn’t an invitation to act like an ass either unless that’s who you are lol As long as you’re real to yourself and putting your own genuine vibes out there, you’ll find someone who’s on the same wavelength. Treating her like a princess comes when a relationship, not necessarily romantic yet, has been well established between you two. There’s no set timeline or anything, you just gotta go with how you feel as it’s different for everyone. This is the time to put her on a bit of pedestal and show her how much she means to you cause she prolly doing the same thing. Essentially this is the time to strengthen and solidify the relationship. If this ain’t happening on either end, that’s a pretty big sign that the relationship is not as strong as y’all thought. Y’all gotta be real about it to cause if the attraction is indeed one-sided, you’re only gonna simping over that person or leading them on depending which side you’re on and that is totally not fun for anyone. Treating her like a Greek Goddess is the time when no feelings should be held back. This is when a strong relationship built on love, trust, communication and mutual respect has been well established. This is when you put this woman on a much higher pedestal because out of 8 billion people on this planet, you fell in love with her. That pedestal represents how much she means to you and you can bet that she’s putting you on that same pedestal. Like before, there’s no timeline. It just depends on how y’all are genuinely feeling. Finally, treating her like a person again. Now this doesn’t necessarily mean the same as in the beginning. The thoughts, feelings, memories and time you shared together have not only made y’all different people, but different people to each other. You’re not complete strangers anymore, you’re a part of each other’s lives. It’s pretty unrealistic to expect the Greek God/Goddess treatment to last forever, but that doesn’t mean the romance and passion should be completely gone. Y’all just gotta do you the best way you know how and as long as you have each other, everything will be okay. I know that was kinda long, and a bit corny at times lol, but that’s my opinion. Lmk if you have anything to add or comment on. Thx!
They are diluted to believe attention=validation and this knowledge and not advice simply because the guy who gives advice is often perceived as the simp
This was perfect until he said the reason they want the 11th guy is because they dont want a nice guy. That is where I believe he is wrong, i believe women want that 11th guy because he is comfortable without her, he shows her he doesnt need her attention to be happy. To a woman this is a challenge compared to all the guys just throwing everything they have at them. I dont think they want to be treated badly they just dont want a desperate guy!
It's always like that if she's those typa 7-9/10 city girls Most women just want the attitude of the 11th man, you dont have to be an asshole. Women just love the traits of those men It's not about disrespecting her but about treating her like everybody else
You'll be able to find a man willing to treat you nice practically anywhere, but your dating history wouldn't reflect that because being nice ALONE is never enough. 3 men can be nice, but one will be called creepy, one will get friendzoned, and the other will get the date and eventually the girl. They all want the same thing in the end, regardless. Companionship and what comes with it. So what differentiates them all?
only the universe may judge me and let me die alone or with a man by my side when i die i do not fear life or death both are the greatest journey and blessing to have . bless u
I gave her everything anytime she needed someone to talk to anytime she was lonely I was there but all it took was one guy she didn’t even know to forget about everything I did 😔
Us not wanting nice is a big lie. The thing that we don’t want is a guy that’s “nice” just to get us into a bed. We know when it’s real and when it’s not, or partly. When I met my bf I knew it was real, and we’ve been dating for years now and he treats me like a princess, and he’s the nicest guy I know And guys that say stuff like “girls don’t want nice guys cause I’m nice and they don’t want me”, most of the time are frustrated about something in the past and them going on about it years after shows a different kind of weakness that’s just a massive red flag. Girls need maturity to get stability in life. You won’t get that from a guy that’s still crying over some girl in his past🤷🏼♀️ Guys that say this are also often toxic or narcissistic:( Also I’m not saying all girls are the good guy, there are lots of bad women as well. Just as there are a lot of good ones
Nice Guys™ be wilin in the chat 💀💀 To be clear, you don't want a nice guy. You want a good guy; someone who can balance bad boy and nice guy traits and someone who is confident being without you but wants to be with you. It's a fine line to walk.
@@charlesj.easleyii7642 ye it’s crazy but I’m not gonna feed into that argument 💀✌🏻 Anyway I think many would see “nice” and “good” as somewhat the same thing in this case. And even though each person wants a different kind of guy, you summed it up pretty well since that’d be the case for most women:)
Im going to real, as a women, i love to be treated nicely, and i will only give my attention to someone who treats me nicely and i will see their kindness and treat them well.
It's always like that if she's those typa 7-9/10 city girls Most women just want the attitude of the 11th man, you dont have to be an asshole. Women just love the traits of those men It's not about disrespecting her but about treating her like everybody else
Thats the problem with dating these days. Once a woman finds a guy they like that doesnt do the “nice guy” theyll realize later that they lost a guy who is “simpy” because that guy will do anything to keep that woman he likes or loves. Not desperate
@@jasonbari5997 I’m guessing you see yourself as this “nice guy”? Or are you just frustrated about something that has happened before, and out of you not understanding the other side, you go and put your assumptions out as facts? That shows a lot about you. You can’t blame the female for not wanting the guy that almost screams unbalance lifestyle:^ Let’s be honest rn. It’s hard to find a good mate for everyone
I just don’t have it in me to treat a woman I care about like shit just so they’ll stay with me. Treat them well, but definitely don’t put them on a pedestal.
The sad truth about both sides of the argument, is that both men and women want the same thing. From the womans perspective, 10 men are showering her in compliments and gifts because they want to sleep with her or get with her in some way. Then walks in the 11th man who treats her like anybody else, a genuine person who doesn't feel the need to douse her in affection with every interaction they have. Humans are creatures of infinite possibility, they have potential to be amazing, genuine, kind, while they also have that same level of potential to be manipulative, vindictive, and petty. Trust doesn't come with compliments and gifts, it comes with time, interaction, learning who someone is and what makes them who they are. Men, and women, just want someone genuine. Someone who is willing to take steps to getting to know each other as people before getting to know each other as lovers.
I think because the girl may think these ten men will just use me and are being nice for the time being and the 11th couldnt just need me for something and wont just use me and throw away
There's a lil bit of everyone in that situation because the woman can let herself be treated but at the end the one that didn't only notice her for her physique so you are right the one that doesn't approach so desperately you feel me so it's intriguing how that man mind work for us so it's tricky... or maybe none of the above but you want you want no matter how you see it 😏
The opposite is true. All of those guys drooling over her are the fake ones. To them, love is a transaction, and she knows they're trying to buy something even if they don't. They don't want her; they need her. These (seemingly) selfless acts of love will turn sour if she doesn't reciprocate them with her affection. The guy that could care less about her is the one that fascinates her because he appears self-confident and reliant on his own. He isn't trying to buy her love. She knows he doesn't need her, but maybe she can get him to want her.
This is not the opposite, this is the same but glorifying women and thinking men are hollow, but you are saying to nice guys " you wanna have sex how awful human being, and you wanna treat her right ohh man you should go in jail" I am not saying man are good either, we are the part who cares on physical appearance more, whatsoever some of this men aren't fakes they really wanna have a good relationship and form a family they just don't know how to seduce women they don't know how to sell themselves. Btw what you are saying it's true but it's not entirely what is happening, another thing you go glorifying women just check porn dude all those girls who let strangers ejaculate in their faces they are mothers, sisters and daughters and they did it for money, so don't thinks very highly of every women you meet by saying what you said you put them on a pedestal where they are entitled for choosing their king, and you are below them while the "king" is doing anal to her.
This is exactly why so many women always seem to have nothing but a sucession of bad relationships. You don't believe any guy can actually be chill and genuinely be attracted to you as a person, so instead you go for a guy, who in addition to just wanting some tail is also a inconsiderate jerk. And, what does that say about you if you're right, and no one is actually interested in you?
@@klocke-hx3xl damn okay 💀 I'm not going to be exhaustive in my reply. Suffice it to say, a guy who can balance nice guy and bad boy traits will attract a good woman. You need both.
It’s the view of someone that has pity for themself in this video. This person assumes bc he doesn’t understand what’s going on. And bc he doesn’t get it his way due to confusion he gets frustrated and puts assumptions into the world as if they are facts..
Men and women need to learn about each other, men need to learn more about women. You won't have problems anymore. You can make a feel special after she earns it, yoy dont have to go overdo it (Thas creepy)
As a woman myself, I dont like it when guys are doing just everything for me, because i need a little room for me, but there is no problem of beeing treated well. You see, if i had a boyfriend, i would spend much time with him, but not all my time, because i need different people in my life. But i dont have a boyfriend lol. Maybe its also the other way round, because i would treat people i love really well. I got the feeling, that guys also like bitches, but maybe i am also not attractive or cute enough to be a person who easily finds someone.
Translation: "I want an attractive guy but it would be really great if he was also a good human" I'm not actually faulting you. Everybody given the choice would want to be with someone they're attracted to. But you have to admit that attraction comes first. It goes for women and Men, too.
I'm sorry you had to experience that. Nothing excuses abuse and no one deserves it. There are a lot of guys out there who would never do that. It's easy to understand why some of them would get cynical (including me, I have to fight it every day) about bad behavior getting rewarded and meanwhile they were told all their life to be a gentleman, be polite, and treat people like they are special, but it doesn't get them to where they want to go. I hope everyone who's experienced abuse can heal and everyone who feels cynicism and bitterness can find more positivity and hope in their life.
You literally just said that “for once i want to be treated nice” So all the abuse you’ve got didn’t mind you in the past… Now suddenly at 40 you want the good guy to rescue you😂 News flash: Good guys are dead 💀 and fortunately i would say…
There is one way I will ever treat women I respect and care for I will treat them, like an equal If we agree to go out for dinner, I only intend to pay for MY food, if she can’t pay for hers, then sure, I can cover her, as long as she pays me back later, if I don’t get paid back within a week, or whenever she said she’d get her pay cheque, I start getting on her case about it If she covers for me, I pay her back within a week or whenever I get paid And this isn’t just in terms of dating, this is in everything, she will not be treated like royalty, nor will she be the bug I brush aside Some of the best women still have some of those qualities like the girls who only go for guys with no interest in them, they’re just not as amplified Put her above you, she’ll shit on you from up there, put a girl far below you, she won’t stick around Put a girl beside you, the best ones will work with you, so that both of you can keep going up
@@lanecrescent4161 same. Been dating a nice guy for years now and enjoy every time he treats me like a queen. And as a return I treat him like a king 👑💅🏻 Good guys for life hell ye💃🏼
I disagree the woman doesn't want to be treated well or kind a woman needs to see if they way he expressed himself or his gestures so there's a lot of misunderstanding in that aspect ,a bitch wants that man Dat has that attitude of I got you and respects her and is sweet with actions and the little things a girl likes you feel me , just mak I ng them laugh it's not that complicated
I think he refers mostly to (don’t mean to be rude)younger women, most of those women do behave like this, but an older more experienced woman who has already gotten all out of her system, have experienced different relationships is most likely aware of what she wants but by then, guys refer to them as ran thru or someone who is “not” desirable
Oh my goodness! It’s not what happens to us. It’s how we react. So did you interrupt the dance with the 11th guy? Stability and gentleman persistence are gold. But you have to know what you want and recognize it. Rejection could save you from a charming horror. Go to the next door. There’s stories like this for both men and women. There’s no conspiracy. It’s not just men that tell this story. Quit your belly aching and work on yourself. Be a good person and you will attract the same. Count your lucky stars she went for the bad boy. She would have disappointed you.
This is an oversimplification and generalization. These are the same men who then get angry when the same generalizations and stereotypes are made about them. The quote unquote nice guy who is only nice because he wants to get laid, isn’t actually a nice guy, that’s what they have trouble comprehending. Possessing actual, true and tested integrity, courage and compassion regardless of rejection or female attention is what makes you a good man/nice guy, nothing else and sure some women haven’t developed enough self respect to choose the good ones, but plenty do, they’re just not always the ones you have idealized as being the most worthy or attractive etc and so you ignore them. You focus on the young, superficial, vain and self centered and then pretend to be surprised when they act a certain way, because we can also discuss men’s preferences and how that attracts the type of person that they ultimately come to loathe and complain about. Enough of this self-pitying crap please and just look inwards, instead of blaming a whole gender for something this insignificant. 🙄
Yeah, nope, not a chance. A good woman would not even entertain the rude man. However, that doesn’t mean that the other 10 qualify. What’s their motive? This is an oversimplified scenario.
Those ten men after the one toxic woman ignoring the good women in the room. This is a man who is passive aggressively manipulating that he does not get the ten men have the same issues as the 11th man. Here he is blaming women instead of acknowledging hurt men need to heal so they can see all the other women in the room.
Noooo you guys listen up… Women want the eleventh guy because he has backbone. The dream man for many of us is someone who treats us like princesses but not in the obsessive way, one who loves us wholly but who also has dreams and visions he won’t stop at anything for… we want leaders, men who stand for something, men who are strong enough to carry deep humility, men who are the world is bigger than themselves but know they are powerful enough to do something about the world around them. Jus some random thoughts😅
I've treated my 3 girlfriends like complete princesses and 2 of them ended up physically abusing me and 1 verbally,I'm 48 and I don't understand how this works.
I'd be lying if I said it doesn't knock you,I've resigned myself to being single and that's just how my life is going to be and I'm okay with that,it would just have been nice to share my heart with someone 😌
Heal your heart and one day real love will find you x
It’s all biological - Look up Corey Wayne and study his work - it will change your whole perspective.
Hope your doing ok brother
I feel you, it goes both ways. Men do that to women too
Have faith the right women for you will show up. Sometimes we attract the same kind of partners. Work.on yourself first and in Devine time the right person unexpectedly will show up when you least expected.😉
A quote that always stuck with me.
“If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan”
They don’t call him Samwise for nothing!💪🏻
My son was working and living on his own and would come over on Saturday mornings and wash his car in the driveway and we would talk. He said he went to a club with a friend and met a pretty woman he liked and they talked for quite a while. Suddenly, a man shows up out of the blue and says, "hey bitch, you wanna dance?" She said she would talk to me later and danced with a stranger who called her a "bitch". What is wrong with these women"?
They have no self respect or are looking only for sexual partners and not lifelong ones
😂😂😂 my sweet summer child. Welcome to "The Modern Woman".
Treat her like a queen, she’ll treat you like a peasant.
Damn right.
and treat her like a peasant, she’ll treat you like a king. Makes me sick how far we have fell
Samwise dropping GEMS. 💯🔥
As a girl im sorry to anyone who feels this. I’ve never dated anyone or been interested in dating but it’s messed up how people make it out to look like most women are like that. Sending love to everyone out there
It’s personal experience not a perception.
Most men want a wife and kids yet they do an use everything they were taught by family,friends an teachers on how to get a good girl. Then don't understand why none of it work of being a good man,working hard and taking care of everything.
It very simple feminist brainwash alot of women out there of " you can always do better" and the other message "men are trash" an that leads many women of only thinking of themself in a relationship cause they were lead to think " me,me,me."
I'm fucking sick of being told how nice I am and that I'm a good human. Like why the hell are you going after the guys that treat you like shit. Wasn't she the one that cried about how there aren't any good guys left? I may be a bit smaller than others but at least I'm not an asshole. If anyone tells you character is more important than being good looking, they lie.
Women usually look for one thing.
Its power and social status.
If you dont have it, if they feel you are beneath them, it doesnt mean shit how good you treat them.
They will always look for a better option, because they feel like they can do better than you. And you know what? Let them go.
They dont know that top dogs have many options themselves, and they are just another girl in line to get fucked.
Once they get used, they will feel hurt.
Your revenge is knowing that she will never be happy with herself.
Move on with your life. If a girl truly loves you, she will not care about status.
Show her who you really are. If she accepts you and loves you back, shes the one.
Lol bro. Im 5'7 and even round DOWN to 5'6 because its so trivial like whats the point of that inch if you're not like 5'11 trying to claim 6"
I wasn't remotely good looking until around 18 after getting physically whipped into shape at a military school where somehow i found myself becoming one of 2 captains of our Varsity wrestling team.
I was no state champion like many on the net love to claim. But i did finally make it to Semi State my senior year. Ended with a record of 34-7
So I was at least in the "pretty exceptional", category.
But I too was STILL convinced that I wasn't attractive to women even in spite of being a solid athlete with a 6 pack that genuinely could be viewed through my shirt.
At the time, I too was convinced 100% that "It has to just be a looks thing."
But nah. Im telling you right now you're creating a self fulfilling prophecy by believing that.
As soon as I stopped caring about what kind of reactions id get from talking to chicks like truly stopped focusing on the potential outcome, and instead focused on simply trying to create a fun aura of energy around myself, THAT was the moment everything rapidly began to change.
Suddenly it became effortlessly to get numbers from women after just 10-15 minutes of chatting.
Of course not every chick is going to be receptive and i definitely encountered at least a few who were simply not receptive at the time for whatever reason.
But I can't even remember the failed attempts to get a number anymore because they became so infrequent that they never stored into my memory.
So then I began to try to resolve the dissonance between what possible could've changed?
I didnt suddenly become a gorgeous male model out of nowhere. So then why was I suddenly getting the treatment as if I was??
The answer HAD to be directly related to the shift in perspective i experienced.
It is a true irony of life that by detaching yourself entirely from the outcome you desire externally, and focusing mostly on generating a positive inner peace and genuine state of playfulness/fun, then those initially desired external outcomes, begin to naturally gravitate towards you.
Almost as if women have some kind of internal "bs & insecurity" detection system.
So chin up man. If an average looking shorter looking dude like me was able to resolve the whole "only good looking guys can attract women", and definitively prove it to not be the case, AND without having to turn to the asinine teachings of the Red pill & manosphere communities, then its clear that the solution you're looking for requires a voyage of the internal, and not one towards the external.
Also, dont listen to any of those pseudo Chad's who claim its necessary to be a jerk in order to get women to like you.
Sure it APPEARS to be as such at times, but this is merely incidental.
It is the authenticity that is attractive. And some guys simply tend to be authentically a jerk lol so it ends up working for them because its genuinely who they are.
Thats where that misconception comes from.
Anywho, dont quit working on yourself. Whether you believe you can do something or whether you believe you can't... either way you'll end up being right.
Best wishes and good luck my guy.
Women thrive on emotion, the more extreme the greater the yield
Sad truth 😔
Simping must fall
As someone who's never been in a relationship, I can truthfully say that I AM looking for someone who treats me well. Many guys have been interested in me, but I saw something off in them. I had a sense that they weren't as nice as I thought. I was right every time. I've just met a guy through mutual friends who is the sweetest guy ever, very smart, and funny. THAT is what I'm looking for.
I'm the type of person to always treat people well because I would also want to be treated well. It's just second nature
Unfortunately you are extremely rare, i had a gf that said she wanted all those, and helped her out of toxic relationship (i wasn’t interested in her at first but she pursued me later) and she herself was a logical person and said she saw how her friends were all following toxic men and leaving good ones.
She did love me and yada yada but also backstabbed me in a way that after 20 years of putting up with so much shit in life i broke down.
Then suddenly all the advices from other men to “not be honest” “play around, if you do they wont leave you” “most women are just like that can never trust them”.
Flood into my mind, before i used to say i’d never be that kind of person due to my moral ethics.
Then you reach a point and realise , it is what it is. 90% of women i have met said they wanted someone nice and good, yet they always destroy them and backstab them for the trashy guys.
And i would know, when i was emotionally unavailable and didnt trust women and treated them like they were guys ( like i really didn’t care about them despite me being actually a nice emotional guy), i didnt treat them bad mind you, i just didn’t care.
I couldn’t keep them off me, and when they would gain my trust and i finally open up and truly love them and no longer be the mysterious bad guy, guess what happens?
Its absolutely fucked up
@@BurriedTruth I’m sorry you had to go through that.. I’m dating a nice guy and really don’t understand why other girls wouldn’t want that fr
@@BurriedTruth well damn. I'm sorry, that really sucks. But just know that not all women are like that. If you want a good one, she will probably be a believer in Jesus
@@starlightqueen2002 i can, because women just can’t respect nice guys, they confuse niceness with weakness.
That’s why so many women choose assholes because they are more confident and they don’t give a shit to women it looks like “wow he is so strong and cool”
To other men he just looks like a weak asshole talking big. Just came to the conclusion in majority of cases a nice guy will just get used by the women.
The wildest thing i figured out is alot of women hate to be loved, the moment a guy truly loves them, they know he isn’t going anywhere and it gets boring to them and he feels disposable and chase others they cant get.
Its same reason why you can have perfectly good guys, good specs, great personalities, single for years, moment they get with a girl women would fly to them left and right.
Alot of women are attracted to what other women want, a hard concept i had to wrap my head around, that’s why cheaters prosper and alot of them are willing to forgive them because they know they got other women 🤷♂️
@@meadowyj not all, but alot, women just think differently.
True story... I didn't want to play that guy either but it works it really works and I've been sticking wit that ever since... Works like a charm
I guess that’s why he’s called Sam The Wise
My problem is that it’s not often women would approach a man for fear of being rejected. It’s been said that women would not say anything to a man that they are attracted too. I have treated women as if I was unbothered by them, and only a few would try to find a way to get my attention . The woman psyche is very challenging for me, and probably other men too.
"Challenging" is an understatement. Maybe we should reconcile to the fact that they're all different and there's no one shot solution. You need a more diverse approach.
Dam son.... so true I'm done with the game myself
That really happened in anime hentai ntr comics and series, now that's really sad🙁
In the words of Shawn Spencer, “Treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person again”. I didn’t understand thjs quote when I first heard it but after growing up a little, I think I get it now.
Treating her like a person means just being real with her as a fellow human being. She’s gonna be real with you whether she’s attracted to you or not. If you put her on a pedestal without even getting to know her first, it makes you look fake, and possibly desperate, cause no one would ever do that unless they wanted something from somebody. Granted, this isn’t an invitation to act like an ass either unless that’s who you are lol
As long as you’re real to yourself and putting your own genuine vibes out there, you’ll find someone who’s on the same wavelength.
Treating her like a princess comes when a relationship, not necessarily romantic yet, has been well established between you two. There’s no set timeline or anything, you just gotta go with how you feel as it’s different for everyone. This is the time to put her on a bit of pedestal and show her how much she means to you cause she prolly doing the same thing. Essentially this is the time to strengthen and solidify the relationship. If this ain’t happening on either end, that’s a pretty big sign that the relationship is not as strong as y’all thought. Y’all gotta be real about it to cause if the attraction is indeed one-sided, you’re only gonna simping over that person or leading them on depending which side you’re on and that is totally not fun for anyone.
Treating her like a Greek Goddess is the time when no feelings should be held back. This is when a strong relationship built on love, trust, communication and mutual respect has been well established. This is when you put this woman on a much higher pedestal because out of 8 billion people on this planet, you fell in love with her. That pedestal represents how much she means to you and you can bet that she’s putting you on that same pedestal. Like before, there’s no timeline. It just depends on how y’all are genuinely feeling.
Finally, treating her like a person again. Now this doesn’t necessarily mean the same as in the beginning. The thoughts, feelings, memories and time you shared together have not only made y’all different people, but different people to each other. You’re not complete strangers anymore, you’re a part of each other’s lives. It’s pretty unrealistic to expect the Greek God/Goddess treatment to last forever, but that doesn’t mean the romance and passion should be completely gone. Y’all just gotta do you the best way you know how and as long as you have each other, everything will be okay.
I know that was kinda long, and a bit corny at times lol, but that’s my opinion. Lmk if you have anything to add or comment on. Thx!
I mean, if your lighting her cigarettes that means that she’s a smoker and I don’t want that… so those 10 men dodged a big bullet
The problem is they’re are so many thing out there to tach men about woman but nothing to teach woman about men.
They are diluted to believe attention=validation and this knowledge and not advice simply because the guy who gives advice is often perceived as the simp
At the very end what he said, good luck guys. It's easier to date when you don't have a heart for it
This was perfect until he said the reason they want the 11th guy is because they dont want a nice guy. That is where I believe he is wrong, i believe women want that 11th guy because he is comfortable without her, he shows her he doesnt need her attention to be happy. To a woman this is a challenge compared to all the guys just throwing everything they have at them. I dont think they want to be treated badly they just dont want a desperate guy!
Not always 🌸🐝
Tactically he's right.... Coz women like the tagged of bad guy with attitudes.... But sometimes it's not like that
It's always like that if she's those typa 7-9/10 city girls
Most women just want the attitude of the 11th man, you dont have to be an asshole.
Women just love the traits of those men
It's not about disrespecting her but about treating her like everybody else
it's pathetic to me
I like being treated nice . Just th 10 who usually talk to me just want some of my skirt then 🧠
You'll be able to find a man willing to treat you nice practically anywhere, but your dating history wouldn't reflect that because being nice ALONE is never enough.
3 men can be nice, but one will be called creepy, one will get friendzoned, and the other will get the date and eventually the girl. They all want the same thing in the end, regardless. Companionship and what comes with it. So what differentiates them all?
only the universe may judge me and let me die alone or with a man by my side when i die i do not fear life or death both are the greatest journey and blessing to have . bless u
This may not be the same exact case today but it’s damn near close enough. Nice guys always finish last
Couldnt agree more
No I'm the 12th Man, the one that says "You Got a Great @SS!!" the one that she never forgets.
It finally made sense.
If this made sense to you man I'm sorry.
I'm the 12th man. The man who stares at her from the other side of the bar.
And the truth shall set you free
....... lmao
They like a challenge. Any guy would be lying if he said he didn't as well.
It isn't just a challenge, but depth, different angles, so on.
@@zeddwulfen7737yep
I am cold hearted to the females at work.
That's some women
thats not crazy.. treating someone too good at first is always off putting.thats try hard
I gave her everything anytime she needed someone to talk to anytime she was lonely I was there but all it took was one guy she didn’t even know to forget about everything I did 😔
Us not wanting nice is a big lie. The thing that we don’t want is a guy that’s “nice” just to get us into a bed. We know when it’s real and when it’s not, or partly.
When I met my bf I knew it was real, and we’ve been dating for years now and he treats me like a princess, and he’s the nicest guy I know
And guys that say stuff like “girls don’t want nice guys cause I’m nice and they don’t want me”, most of the time are frustrated about something in the past and them going on about it years after shows a different kind of weakness that’s just a massive red flag. Girls need maturity to get stability in life. You won’t get that from a guy that’s still crying over some girl in his past🤷🏼♀️
Guys that say this are also often toxic or narcissistic:(
Also I’m not saying all girls are the good guy, there are lots of bad women as well. Just as there are a lot of good ones
If you women could actually tell when a guy is just being nice to get laid, then there wouldn’t be so many single mothers.
@@MultiUnrealshe doesn't understand because she's not a man.
Nice Guys™ be wilin in the chat 💀💀
To be clear, you don't want a nice guy. You want a good guy; someone who can balance bad boy and nice guy traits and someone who is confident being without you but wants to be with you. It's a fine line to walk.
@@charlesj.easleyii7642 ye it’s crazy but I’m not gonna feed into that argument 💀✌🏻
Anyway I think many would see “nice” and “good” as somewhat the same thing in this case. And even though each person wants a different kind of guy, you summed it up pretty well since that’d be the case for most women:)
“A women’s intuition is never wrong”. Too many single moms for this to be true
Im going to real, as a women, i love to be treated nicely, and i will only give my attention to someone who treats me nicely and i will see their kindness and treat them well.
It's always like that if she's those typa 7-9/10 city girls
Most women just want the attitude of the 11th man, you dont have to be an asshole.
Women just love the traits of those men
It's not about disrespecting her but about treating her like everybody else
Women want to be treated like anyone else you’d normally engage with not like a prize to be won at a contest
It’s not that they don’t want a nice guy. Just most nice guys seem desperate and a simp and women don’t find that attractive at all.
Thats the problem with dating these days. Once a woman finds a guy they like that doesnt do the “nice guy” theyll realize later that they lost a guy who is “simpy” because that guy will do anything to keep that woman he likes or loves. Not desperate
Confusing the unstable/toxic minority for the majority. Nah.
Minority my ass!! Most women don’t want a nice guy it’s as plain as day
@@jasonbari5997 I’m guessing you see yourself as this “nice guy”? Or are you just frustrated about something that has happened before, and out of you not understanding the other side, you go and put your assumptions out as facts? That shows a lot about you. You can’t blame the female for not wanting the guy that almost screams unbalance lifestyle:^
Let’s be honest rn. It’s hard to find a good mate for everyone
I don't even know the f**** difference between minority and majority anymore since these words have been so f**** abused that they lost it all
If you don’t play that game you will regret it
Women want a challenge.
Well, being single and dried up at 40 years old is pretty challenging.
@@MultiUnrealI know that it's petty to think that way. But I hope that those women end up exactly how u described
I just don’t have it in me to treat a woman I care about like shit just so they’ll stay with me. Treat them well, but definitely don’t put them on a pedestal.
An unhealed woman can't see the 11th man.
The sad truth about both sides of the argument, is that both men and women want the same thing. From the womans perspective, 10 men are showering her in compliments and gifts because they want to sleep with her or get with her in some way. Then walks in the 11th man who treats her like anybody else, a genuine person who doesn't feel the need to douse her in affection with every interaction they have. Humans are creatures of infinite possibility, they have potential to be amazing, genuine, kind, while they also have that same level of potential to be manipulative, vindictive, and petty. Trust doesn't come with compliments and gifts, it comes with time, interaction, learning who someone is and what makes them who they are. Men, and women, just want someone genuine. Someone who is willing to take steps to getting to know each other as people before getting to know each other as lovers.
I think because the girl may think these ten men will just use me and are being nice for the time being and the 11th couldnt just need me for something and wont just use me and throw away
There's a lil bit of everyone in that situation because the woman can let herself be treated but at the end the one that didn't only notice her for her physique so you are right the one that doesn't approach so desperately you feel me so it's intriguing how that man mind work for us so it's tricky... or maybe none of the above but you want you want no matter how you see it 😏
Does anyone know What is the name of this movie?
I really have a warm heart but this fucking works I'm telling you I don't want to be harsh but that's what you gonna be if you want to succeed
Samwise the great is so wise
Movie name?
The opposite is true. All of those guys drooling over her are the fake ones. To them, love is a transaction, and she knows they're trying to buy something even if they don't. They don't want her; they need her. These (seemingly) selfless acts of love will turn sour if she doesn't reciprocate them with her affection.
The guy that could care less about her is the one that fascinates her because he appears self-confident and reliant on his own. He isn't trying to buy her love. She knows he doesn't need her, but maybe she can get him to want her.
This is not the opposite, this is the same but glorifying women and thinking men are hollow, but you are saying to nice guys " you wanna have sex how awful human being, and you wanna treat her right ohh man you should go in jail" I am not saying man are good either, we are the part who cares on physical appearance more, whatsoever some of this men aren't fakes they really wanna have a good relationship and form a family they just don't know how to seduce women they don't know how to sell themselves. Btw what you are saying it's true but it's not entirely what is happening, another thing you go glorifying women just check porn dude all those girls who let strangers ejaculate in their faces they are mothers, sisters and daughters and they did it for money, so don't thinks very highly of every women you meet by saying what you said you put them on a pedestal where they are entitled for choosing their king, and you are below them while the "king" is doing anal to her.
This is exactly why so many women always seem to have nothing but a sucession of bad relationships. You don't believe any guy can actually be chill and genuinely be attracted to you as a person, so instead you go for a guy, who in addition to just wanting some tail is also a inconsiderate jerk. And, what does that say about you if you're right, and no one is actually interested in you?
are you asking me or this hypothetical miserable human? Lol
@@charlesj.easleyii7642 You're hypothetical?
@@klocke-hx3xl damn okay 💀
I'm not going to be exhaustive in my reply. Suffice it to say, a guy who can balance nice guy and bad boy traits will attract a good woman. You need both.
and this is why Sam changed sides and went after Frodo :)
Facts
Why? Can someone please explain?
It’s the view of someone that has pity for themself in this video. This person assumes bc he doesn’t understand what’s going on. And bc he doesn’t get it his way due to confusion he gets frustrated and puts assumptions into the world as if they are facts..
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Men and women need to learn about each other, men need to learn more about women.
You won't have problems anymore.
You can make a feel special after she earns it, yoy dont have to go overdo it (Thas creepy)
Exactly thank you 🙏🏻
As a woman myself, I dont like it when guys are doing just everything for me, because i need a little room for me, but there is no problem of beeing treated well. You see, if i had a boyfriend, i would spend much time with him, but not all my time, because i need different people in my life. But i dont have a boyfriend lol. Maybe its also the other way round, because i would treat people i love really well. I got the feeling, that guys also like bitches, but maybe i am also not attractive or cute enough to be a person who easily finds someone.
Guys who ignore get ignored.
What?
lol so wrong
Bob from stranger things?
I definitely wanted a nice guy, but they're virtually impossible to find
Unfortunately it’s because most are hurt or taught to be gruff and gritty but there are some left:( unfortunately hard to come by
Its because of this perpetual cycle and even if you did find it there's no guarantee that you will feel for him what you thought you did
You did find a nice guy, and you probably just friend zoned him.
Translation: "I want an attractive guy but it would be really great if he was also a good human"
I'm not actually faulting you. Everybody given the choice would want to be with someone they're attracted to. But you have to admit that attraction comes first. It goes for women and Men, too.
Wtf
No, for once I want to be treated nice.
I'm almost 40 and still have ptsd by the abuse I experienced
Lmao, losing an argument isn’t abuse.
I'm sorry you had to experience that. Nothing excuses abuse and no one deserves it.
There are a lot of guys out there who would never do that. It's easy to understand why some of them would get cynical (including me, I have to fight it every day) about bad behavior getting rewarded and meanwhile they were told all their life to be a gentleman, be polite, and treat people like they are special, but it doesn't get them to where they want to go.
I hope everyone who's experienced abuse can heal and everyone who feels cynicism and bitterness can find more positivity and hope in their life.
@@garmisra7841 Simp
You literally just said that “for once i want to be treated nice”
So all the abuse you’ve got didn’t mind you in the past…
Now suddenly at 40 you want the good guy to rescue you😂
News flash:
Good guys are dead 💀 and fortunately i would say…
@@theknight3093Women☕
There is one way I will ever treat women I respect and care for
I will treat them, like an equal
If we agree to go out for dinner, I only intend to pay for MY food, if she can’t pay for hers, then sure, I can cover her, as long as she pays me back later, if I don’t get paid back within a week, or whenever she said she’d get her pay cheque, I start getting on her case about it
If she covers for me, I pay her back within a week or whenever I get paid
And this isn’t just in terms of dating, this is in everything, she will not be treated like royalty, nor will she be the bug I brush aside
Some of the best women still have some of those qualities like the girls who only go for guys with no interest in them, they’re just not as amplified
Put her above you, she’ll shit on you from up there, put a girl far below you, she won’t stick around
Put a girl beside you, the best ones will work with you, so that both of you can keep going up
He isn't wrong at all. Wtf is wrong with us. You always want the least interested.
Nope, not me
If a guys not interested, he's not interested. Which makes ME not interested.
I want the nice guy.
@@lanecrescent4161 🧢
@@lanecrescent4161 same. Been dating a nice guy for years now and enjoy every time he treats me like a queen. And as a return I treat him like a king 👑💅🏻
Good guys for life hell ye💃🏼
I disagree the woman doesn't want to be treated well or kind a woman needs to see if they way he expressed himself or his gestures so there's a lot of misunderstanding in that aspect ,a bitch wants that man Dat has that attitude of I got you and respects her and is sweet with actions and the little things a girl likes you feel me , just mak I ng them laugh it's not that complicated
I think he refers mostly to (don’t mean to be rude)younger women, most of those women do behave like this, but an older more experienced woman who has already gotten all out of her system, have experienced different relationships is most likely aware of what she wants but by then, guys refer to them as ran thru or someone who is “not” desirable
Oh my goodness! It’s not what happens to us. It’s how we react. So did you interrupt the dance with the 11th guy? Stability and gentleman persistence are gold. But you have to know what you want and recognize it. Rejection could save you from a charming horror. Go to the next door. There’s stories like this for both men and women. There’s no conspiracy. It’s not just men that tell this story. Quit your belly aching and work on yourself. Be a good person and you will attract the same. Count your lucky stars she went for the bad boy. She would have disappointed you.
Finally. Someone who speak facts
Ty for this
This is an oversimplification and generalization. These are the same men who then get angry when the same generalizations and stereotypes are made about them. The quote unquote nice guy who is only nice because he wants to get laid, isn’t actually a nice guy, that’s what they have trouble comprehending. Possessing actual, true and tested integrity, courage and compassion regardless of rejection or female attention is what makes you a good man/nice guy, nothing else and sure some women haven’t developed enough self respect to choose the good ones, but plenty do, they’re just not always the ones you have idealized as being the most worthy or attractive etc and so you ignore them. You focus on the young, superficial, vain and self centered and then pretend to be surprised when they act a certain way, because we can also discuss men’s preferences and how that attracts the type of person that they ultimately come to loathe and complain about.
Enough of this self-pitying crap please and just look inwards, instead of blaming a whole gender for something this insignificant. 🙄
Generalising much?!!! It's giving where have all the good girls gone red pill community vibe. Lame
Both sides of the same coin buddy.
That sounds pathetic. The 11th guy is not for me. I care to be treated like gold
Yes💅🏻
Yeah, nope, not a chance. A good woman would not even entertain the rude man. However, that doesn’t mean that the other 10 qualify. What’s their motive? This is an oversimplified scenario.
Those ten men after the one toxic woman ignoring the good women in the room. This is a man who is passive aggressively manipulating that he does not get the ten men have the same issues as the 11th man. Here he is blaming women instead of acknowledging hurt men need to heal so they can see all the other women in the room.
Not the point of this story. Only one woman in this scenario and it's speaking to the broader issue of dating in modern, post social media times
Facts
Wrong, not ALL women. I want a nice, decent, good guy. Period.
Chances are what you say you want is not what you respond to
Noooo you guys listen up…
Women want the eleventh guy because he has backbone. The dream man for many of us is someone who treats us like princesses but not in the obsessive way, one who loves us wholly but who also has dreams and visions he won’t stop at anything for… we want leaders, men who stand for something, men who are strong enough to carry deep humility, men who are the world is bigger than themselves but know they are powerful enough to do something about the world around them.
Jus some random thoughts😅