How I make a living - affording my country cottage life
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- Опубликовано: 13 апр 2021
- In this video I wanted to share a little about how I make a living in the countryside.
Many in my town work in the forest service, as contractors, tourism, teachers, and in labor intensive jobs. There are also a growing number of remote workers, especially after last year. I enjoy observing the different types of lifestyles and careers in this area, and am glad to share a little bit about my own 🤍
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This is a bit of my story, not advice on how to build a career. Each set of circumstances is unique, but I like to believe that within reasonable boundaries, options are rarely quite as limited as we may think (if we think long-term). I built my work life by diversifying and working many jobs that were not ideal so that I could save for the future. I am so grateful that I got the opportunity to have my work noticed online to help support my offline career. Best wishes to you.
more important points I couldn’t fit into this video! ⬇️
I hope this gives you some insight on my journey building my career into what it is now. I have finally gotten to a place where I chose to diversify not because I need to, but want to in order to pursue my art and teaching interests. I am thankful that for about 5 months now I’ve had my online business grow to be successful, so that has been an enormous and life changing gift.
A year ago, I made the firm decision to do whatever possible to be able to stay in the place I loved, and that conviction really forced me get creative. This isn’t advice or an example for comparison. We are all on our own unique journeys and have different types of support and strengths. But I hope that wherever you are, you find those people in your life, whether or not they are family, that can offer encouragement and feedback on your plans and decisions. I know of few things that have more value than an authentic human connection. Wishing you all the best. ❤️
PS: I have noticed that occasionally someone writes a comment criticizing people who have leant on family support during difficult times (or helped them relocate or start a new career), suggesting that their life is less impressive or not worth respecting because of it. I understand that not everyone has this privilege, and I hope that in the same way that I have great respect for the strength and perseverance of those who have had to face the trials of life alone, I hope you may show that same respect to others in the comments. Please consider the struggling adults, students and those who have found themselves unemployed during this time. They do not need to carry the extra burden of shame. I have watched friends laid off who have no choice but to move in with their families or asked for help in some way. Let’s offer each other support and understanding, as no one knows the life and trials someone else has faced.
I'm very happy you changed careers. Your videos make me very happy, and your art looks great in my nursery. ❤️
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I have a friend who loves fairies. I bought a couple of your pictures on Etsy. I walked into her office at work and there they were hanging up. I thought of you and how much I enjoy your life journey. We all have been in humbling experiences. It is was makes us human. I feel good when I can help someone. Sometimes allowing help helps the other person too.
Thank You for always inspiring me to better each day. God Bless You🙏❤️
Thank you ♡
Your mom is beautiful. Wish I had married her. Oh, I did. I am definitely the lucky one.
Aha, that made me laugh
She is stunning! What a beautiful family
Unfair advantage! Ha ha
You're a lovely young woman who should be proud of yourself. It takes strength and courage to ask for help but absolutely no shame. I always enjoy your videos. It was wonderful to see your mom in the video.
This is the CUTEST THING ❤️❤️❤️
At 48 I became a yoga teacher! And now at 68 I am becoming a writer, and will be published in June!
I'm so happy for you!!
Congrats!!
Congratulations!
Whats your book??
Wow! A woman after my own heart! Congratulations lady!!!!
It is NEVER embarrassing to rely on your family. Society NEEDS families!
Yesss I still need my family! I feel so supported emotionally by them.
It's a cultural belief because in many cultures relying on family is normal.
#truth
@@PTV69420 In short: Reliance on family = Conservative/Republican/Classical Liberalism. Reliance on government = Neoliberalism/Socialism/Democrats/Rinos/Communism/Authoritarianism. (a bit oversimplified but there it is.)
@@PTV69420 damn that sucks bro. i wish the best for you.
As a mother, it is an honor to help whenever I am needed by my children. I am sure most parents feel this way. Never feel like a failure. Life is a journey.
Thank you for being this kind of mother in the world. It’s so beautiful 😍
@@intentionalliving7326 Thank you.
@@corvuscorone7735 thank you
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An imperfect home made pie will always be more beautiful than a store bought pie. Happy birthday Luke.
Are you kidding? That was a masterpiece
I ve been making pies for more than 20 years, and they usually aren't beautiful. People like them though 😀
Yours is beautiful though! Very creative!
That pie was gorgeous
"No body, but nobody makes it out here alone." As a parent of an adult child I am honored when ever my child trusts me enough to ask for my help. Peace to your heart.
God bless
So good to hear this, my kids don’t ask often, but I’m happy to help when I can. I never understood the ‘break their plate when they turn 18’ crowd. It’s most definitely harder today than it was in the 70’s and 80’s to make your way.
Very true!
My thoughts exactly! None of us would be here, if it wasnt for community and family.
My daughter just turned 21 and she doesn’t know I’ve been saving her a little nest egg for when she moves. My mom helped me so much, I can’t wait to pay it forward. I’ve never liked the idea of booting them out of the nest either. I’d never have made it!
We need to normalise supporting and helping one another, until recently it was normal to live in multi-generational homes where EVERYONE contributed and if someone needed a bit of extra help then it was expected the household would come together and help. It’s a reciprocal relationship. There’s a line between being taken advantage of and being a soft place to fall for those you care about.
Hello how are you doing?
So true ☀️
For real, the extended family was a norm, but with industrialization there was a breaking away from that & there are pros & cons to that. But the losses included lack of support & loss of strong values being inculcated in young ones by the elders.
Hermosa🥰
Yasssss!!!! I 2nd this.
I’m 26 and moving back home with my parents in the fall until I’m a little more financially stable and healthy. I’ve felt so ashamed of this until I watched this video. I’m also a writer (and dream of a country life like you have!) so this video just gives me hope that maybe one day I truly can make a living off of that and live the lifestyle I dream of. Thank you so much for this. You have no idea how much of an inspiration this has been. ❤️
Once you understand the meaning of 'Family', then shame changes to comfort and protection.
@@hangoutwithabhi Well ‘family’ means something different for everyone, and it’s not always positive when referring to ‘parents’. But this video did definitely remind me that there will at least be some comfort and protection from moving to a place where I have more friends and space to heal. :)
Keep going LJ!!! Write!
@@tabi5550 Thank you!!
Don't worry about it. One day you'll hopefully return the favor when your parents need a (younger) hand to navigate their life.
My two girls are very self sufficient and successful in their careers. As a parent, I see my role as a “port in the storm”, whenever I’m needed. There is no guilt in seeking shelter from the storm ⛈. That is what families do for each other.
This is so beautifully said ❤️
Aw so well said :)
Wisdom....
Honestly agree. I was told by a wise man just at the time when my son was to be born: "parents have to let their children fly, but they shall always be there as the airport where they can come back to land if needed" ... and there is no shame to do so, for sure.
this is such a western thing.. in the east... leaning on and taking care of your parents is expected
People doesn't understand that life is not a competition. You have to be happy and that's all. Enjoying the small moments like you are doing is the best part! One day, I'll do the same. Greetings from Brazil!
Love your comment "Life is not a competition"
it's hard to be happy when you're alone and your income has been cut in half due to the virus. I applaud all that are moving forward in their lives...
Kathy, million of people have lost their jobs in Brazil. Including me. Here, you're lucky if you still have a job and something to eat. And that's because I'm not quoting the thousands who lost their lives... sad situation!
Life is not a competition. If only we all can understand and believe this.
Very well said! Enjoy the moments in each day. It could be as simple as feeling the deep breath one takes and enjoying that breath.
There's definitely a shift happening. Many are tired of the homogenized, globalized world that has developed. Many want simplicity and a decentralized existence.
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Fuck yeah
I'm so happy for this shift indeed!
Yes!!!
I am so happy for you that you have a supportive family. My parents were always disappointed with the jobs I chose. I worked 20 years in book stores, 5 years with a cookware retailer, and am now in my 9th year at an organic grocery. What you are doing is wonderful. You are giving peace and pleasure to thousands of people.
Nothing wrong with making an honest living
Y r a beautiful person x
I like the lifestyle that you chose. Book stores are amazing. Organic grocery sounds good too. Always being in touch with the things you value.
I'm so sorry your family has that attitude 😔
Friends who criticise your choices are not true friends. It is not embarrassing to admit you need help, it is wisdom and a form of strength. I reached out to my parents when I needed their help and I gave it back when they needed mine. It is what families do.
Yes I agree! 💜
Your very wise and lucky to be able to ask your parents for help. I seem to go from one mess to another without family.
@@Bobsbud100 aww I am with you on that! It’s tough without family 💜 I’m the same on that front...
Yes I love this!
@@LadyoftheFarm Hopefully we will get there. I'm hoping my health improves first 🙏
In many European cultures (and Asian too) it is quite normal to see parents help their grown children with whatever they can, they do it with love and pride, and children are grateful and will look after their parents if need be later down the line. I love this support and collaboration between generations ❤️
Coming from a European country (Germany) I really didn't know until now that this idea of always being able to count on your family (ylur parents, your siblings) no matter what, as a matter of course, wouldn't be universally. I really had problems to grasp why someone would be ashamed to ask for help in the family. I can grasp that it might be a problem for some to ask strangers for help - but, your own folks? Isn't that exactly what families are for? This was really eye-opening. I'm glad that she was able to overcome those misconceptions and now seems to have found a happy place! :)
@@elektra121 exactly! I moved from Slovenia to the UK and you can already notice a difference. In the UK parents would charge rent to their own children as soon as they turn 18 or finish University if they still happen to live at home. This would never happen in Slovenia - your parents (if they can) pay for your rent if you have to relocate to another town to attend University for example. And if you can't find a job straight after Uni you can definitely live with your parents! They are actually happy to help out and people don't judge so much or see you as a failure. It's just life and it has many different paths!
@@naturewithmarusa3539 Of course! Wow, taking rent from your own children while they don't have a good job yet, seems really wrong.
@@elektra121 yes, can be very different even within Europe. It would be great if everyone could do what is best for them in their situation, not worrying so much about what other people think. Easier siad than done though!
@@naturewithmarusa3539 same in my culture, Bangladesh, but when I moved to Toronto Canada 🇨🇦, they would see it as failure! I hate it western culture at times!
I have never seen a patterned rolling pin before in my life. What an excellent idea.
That pie lid was an exceptional work of art in itself ❤️
🙌🏻🤩 yes!!
I am a 26 year old, currently unemployed and living at home. My grandma developed dementia last year and needs round the clock care. It's hard not being able to work and earn money and be independent but my grandma is worth it. I do have a blog on the side and maybe some day I'll earn a tiny amount with it but right now I am focusing on my grandma. Life has seasons.
It is amazing what you are doing but share this with other family members. You have to take care of yourself too!
Respect.
What youre doing is just plain remarkable & praise worthy. Youre a good, decent human being & should give yourself a Huge pat on the back. Hope youre loved ones are super proud of you
May Allah reward you in this life & the next..Amen
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Awww that is so wonderful! I think your love for her is amazing...you are a wonderful soul to do that! I’m sure you will do great things having a heart like that! 😊
It takes a lot of strength to do what you’re doing...I don’t think I could and if I was force to I would be hella resentful
One is not an island; instead, we are bridges --- extending to help, encourage growth, and offer goodness to others. Your channel is a beautiful expression of this. Thank you.
I love that image!
I was also thinking about the adage that it takes a village to raise a child -- and that we don't actually ever stop needing the village! It may be that our village (support network) changes, but hopefully not completely ;)
So, as hard as it may have been and may still be to accept needing your parents as an adult, we see you + acknowledge that fear + disappointment, but also laud your courage and self-posesseion and your sharing of wise words with the rest of us in our life-journeys :) Thank you!
Beautiful. :)
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Can I just that your voice is so very peaceful and soothing to hear, especially for people who deal with anxiety. Thanks for sharing these wonderful experiences with the world! :)
This is one of the most beautiful vlogs I’ve seen. I wouldn’t just call your angles “camera work” but cinematography. So beautiful! I love the thoughtful voiceover segments of you reflecting upon a theme while we watch you create something beautiful. And the juxtaposition of the reflection/action segments with you speaking directly to the camera - provides a delightful contrast that makes you “real” to us. You see, the reflection/action segments are so beautiful - pastoral, like a moving painting - that they are dreamlike. When you then speak to the camera, it’s fun to get the sense that you’re a real person...almost like the painting is coming to life. Great choice of music too. I love the pace of these videos. Just so lovely.
I agree! I think her videos are just beautiful, and always so serene. I can't believe she does it all with just her phone! Even the sound quality is perfect.
This is a wonderfully beautiful and inspiring vlog, I am very glad you get to make it and share it with us.
Anne of Green Gables would absolutely love you, such kindred spirits
OMG, i had not thought of that, but spot on
Such a great story of hope and perseverance!
Quite opposite I believe, Anne was a firecracker but this woman is a calming voice. They'd be quite compatible as friends in sure
The vibes really match too 💜
I live on Prince Edward Island, my favorite is the live musical production which plays every summer ,(excepting 2020and 2021)since 1964,here in Charlottetown
I'm mother to two adult daughters. I am proud of them and delighted to be their safety nets if and when they need a safe place to land. Parenting doesn't stop when your babies turn 18.
Very true!
Yes.
I wish more people would understand this and stop judging when you are supportive of your adult children.
I wish my parents thought like you do, and didn't shame me for coming back to their home unenployed at 25
Beautiful thing. My mom has helped me so much. I'm 25 and she will retire in 3 years, I'm so excited to 'care for her' basically pay for expenses her SS can cover and go on vacations together.
I look at the beauty and simplicity in your life and am grateful that there are talented creatives rejecting the modern city life and getting back to some basics. You are a role model for those of us still tied to the modern existence. Oh and your pie was an absolute work of art and love. Hello from Australia.
I’m touched by how much of your life you shared with us in this video. You’ve helped more people than you might realize!
Thank you for sharing your story. My son is going through something similar. He is a musician and his world fell apart last April right as he was graduating from college. He lost his job, his band folded, and he had to move back to his hometown so we could help him. It has been hard for him.
My heart goes out to him, my brother has recently hit the reset button on his life, scary for him but hopefully fruitful experience in the long term. Wishing the best for yours. Thank you for sharing
My son as well, he left a job in NC that he said was like making him wither each time he walked thru the door, he came home and is following his dream of cooking. It was so hard he said to take our help but I told him as a parent, you want to help them. He will understand that if he ever has children.
Many blessings to you.
I feel shamed that I get no emotional support around me when I need it. In my eyes you are blessed, not shamed.
You deserve emotional support too. As kids we internalize our parents limitations as our fault, that's just the way kids developing brains see things, but it's not too late to experience being supported. Maybe to a certain degree it's your parents who have done some healing and growing, but it will likely also be from other people. For me it was my therapist, and it changed the way I see myself and other people and the world, made life feel more friendly and hopeful, and made me feel more welcome as a human. I hope you get this too.
al' calibur....call out here sweetie. We care and will be glad to help you in your need for
emotional support.
Me too. No support.
I understand. This will only make you stronger for something else in the future. Trust ⚘
Totally understand where you're coming from. Both parents are deceased, my only sibling always wants to dump his problems on me & get my support but never has the time or desire to do the same for me & my friend does the same...she expects me to listen & commiserate whenever she needs to vent but then "just can't handle the negativity" whenever I'm the one needing to vent. I've spent a lifetime taking care of everyone around me at my own expense. I so desperately wish someone would take care of ME for a change.
I am Irish and we never stop giving dig outs to our kids or family...money or resourses flows in all directions and comes back to us if given with an open heart...We all work hard but sometimes there are unforseen situations or circumstances that pitch us or our kids into crisis..its comforting to know you can rely on those we love to be there...as a life long giver a friend reminded me lately of how poor I am at allowing people to give a little back when i was very ill...I gratefully assisted help and it saved my life. My expressed gratitude for the assistance given brought me closer to those who helped and I learned the magic of giving is a reciprocal one...everyone benefits...so relax Payola...accept...and pay it forward when the time is right.
I just stumbled upon your channel today, and I been binge watching your videos. Your videos are highly inspiring, and calming. You are very creative, and inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. Keep up the great work you are doing, you are doing awesome with your videos!
Found her channel been binge watching also . I’m ready to get a cottage
You are an inspiration and please i dont agree with what u mentioned that its a feeling of "failure" to ask for help from others. The feeling of belonging and being true to yourself is the most important. Heres to more videos from the cottage fairy
🙌🏻 beautifully put ✨✨
Same
I also stumbled upon her channel and I wanted to say the exact same things. Inspiring gifted young lady. ~Joanna♡ NW Ohio
To all of you reading this : Please don't hesitate to extend a helping hand to those who need it.There are a lot of people out there who have no relatives or friends.
Just give them " a fishing rod " instead of "a fish. "
And while I can appreciate how well intentioned your comment is, you can offer someone both, meaning a rod and the fish. If you're starving you need 2 eat first and foremost. Then once well nourished you can then learn how 2 fish until u master that craft as a way of life.
@@robyndismon394 Yes,you're quite right,but most people don't want to help someone in need even though they may have millions.
It's so calming to even listen to your voice. Each and every video of yours is a masterpiece. Love and only love to you❤️ I really wish I get this kind of peace of mind one day. Everyone these days are running behind money.. but this. Right here. .is LIFE 🙌
Hi there. Anybody reading this would you take the vaccine and why please?
"Give them a fishing rod instead of a fish" - I think about this a lot
You will not regret teaching art. After 25 years as a graphic artist for a company, they unexpectedly decided to lay me off. Needless to say that rocked my world greatly. It took a year to get my feet steady again and experience much heartache trying to continue in this field. However God had other plans. I heard a voice at the end of the year that said I needed to teach. I reached out to my church that had a fine arts school. They were excited about the possibility. I wanted to teach realistic art skills to teens to seniors. That was over two years ago. I cannot express the joy and peace that I have experienced seeing people learn to express themselves in many mediums. Not only do I see improvement but I also see hearts healed and peace come into their lives. And if I have encouraged someone to open themselves to apply art skills at home on their own then I have done my job and made a difference in this world. You are such a kind hearted and sensitive person. I am sure you will be successful in this decision and I wish you many blessings in your life as an art teacher. ❤️ Rachel Paulette Tawzer from Tennessee.
Wow i love your Story ❤
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Is a so nice read this............. God is good!
Purposeful lives. That needs this world. Not lives earning money in good jobs. But lives helping and changing other lives.
Blessings to you Rachel.
I am sitting here with tears in my eyes as I watch this. I know I shouldn't envy others but damn I want this life so much. I just spent two days really sick because of my reaction to the second COVID shot and while physically I feel better, I feel so guilty at the same time because I realized I was happier while sick and being taken care of by wife rather than working. I mean, hell, I work in a field that my degree is relevant in- not something most people my age can say that they do. I know I'm lucky to have a job and health insurance, but I want to reconnect with nature and live in a rural area. I'm so tired of my city. Anyway, I'm sorry for complaining on such a beautiful video. I just wish I lived a simpler life with my wife and my cat that wasn't so dominated by work.
Can you try to work less? Talk about it with your wife
You can do it, Randall!! X
Your wife may support it. I honestly wouldn't mind moving to the country and becoming a housewife to take care of our property my family so my husband could be in nature and spend less time working. It may be a dream for her too. You don't know.
Make it happen, Randall! You can do it!
It's more important to follow the heart than feel guilty or judge ourselves through societal standards. You've got one life, it should feel like it was worthwhile when you're sitting on your deathbed :) Maybe you can start by spending more time with nature. Small changes can also help concretize/ bring clarity to what direction you really want to take. God luck and all the best to you 💛
Your story about the almost-exploding pie reminds me of the time when I made dinner for the man who became my husband. I burned the rice. When I showed him, he said, “Thank you,” and he ate it. That was one of the many little incidents that showed me that we could live well together. We could make mistakes and help each other, and, also, when things got tough and one of might start to fray emotionally, we could be there for each other. In marriage (and if and when kids come along) making do and finding the happiness in that is often more needed than making beautiful or making perfect.I think that almost-exploding pies can be a blessing, when you can enjoy them together.
“the moment you can start laughing at your mistakes in life, everything gets better”
haha i do this all the time. also, it’s important to understand that mistakes are a part of the learning process and proof that you’re trying.
Hi there true. So would you take the vaccine?
@@My_Secret_ArtSketchbook hi there! yeah, i think so.
There are two kinds of laughing, and I have done both. First, I made jokes to avoid the pain, then I stop doing that and have lots of naps and go for lots of walks and cry a bit, and then I am able to laugh at it for real. And that for-real laugh is great :)
Amen sistah 🙌🏻
When Covid hit I was happy to pay for my 24yr old daughter to quickly fly back to New Zealand from Australia and she lived with us for 4 months.She had not been home for 5yrs.
You are a great parent :)
So sad we all sacrifice family for jobs that discard us in a heart beat
You are a wonderful parent 💜
Nice. I love stories of families who reconnect!
@@sylvie9256 so very true
YOU'RE PUERTO RICAN?! Omg this brings me so much joy! I relate to you so much but felt that in doing so, I was "betraying my heritage." I have so much family tell me that my interests and aesthetic makes me not "Puerto Rican" and it's so demeaning. It's good to know that someone like you both shares my ethnicity and is purely herself, with no borders around that. It is so awesome to see. Side note though, your mother is absolutely beautiful, and you and her eating cheese and coffee brings me such nostalgia. Blessings to you and your family
Much love to u and your family. From your fellow 🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷😊😊😊😊
Wow I thought when I first saw these videos she was Finnish or Norwegian, and in the Norwegian mountains!
I thought so also....I need to get some Yaucono Coffee...( on a side note).
The west side of my country is burning for 3 days. We are so bad mood in Turkey. But watching your videos made me calm and peacefull. Keep spreading this good vibe all around sister. Wish you an amazing life.
Hi, glad you find peace here. Apart from the fire, I heard that the inflation in Turkey is rising.
God bless Turkey I
Met a wonderful brilliant Dr from
There
I too have had to run to my family for support after some devastating circumstances. It did make me absolutely ashamed of myself to ask for help but in our time of need isn't that what families are for? Love and support? I would help them if they needed help because I love them.
I'm 27, living with my sister. At the beginning I wanna move out and live alone because I hate the feeling of depending on others but my saving was not enough for that, but rn I think it's better for me to depend on her sometimes. My online business is getting better, thank god
I feel you
i think as long as you’re working towards being independent it’s fine. ☺️ but i don’t think it’s fair to depend on siblings financially forever
I'm starting law school this fall and it's just as scary, if not even more scary, than moving away for my bachelors education. Because my parents are immigrants working blue collar jobs, I often had to support myself through school. It's a lot sometimes but hopefully I'll be able to get through it and reach my dreams
At 72 y.o.a. and being unemployed for a year I have become a self-taught swimming pool designers the pay is not great but I have found a passion in desing pool and out door living for others
Hmm..hats off to you lad. Thats great because there are those your age may have slumped into depression. Keeping on going bro & keep God close to your heart.
One of the main differences between Americans and Latins is relationship with our relatives, specially our parents. Asking your parents to help you overcome a difficult moment should not be a reason to feel ashamed. That's what family is for. There will come a time when you will be able to help them 😊
What you said about reaching out to family for help and support as an adult really hit home. I had to do the same recently and it was more difficult than it should be to call my family. Thank you for being so relatable and comforting. My niece and I love your videos and have been watching them when we cook and paint. Keep being completely yourself
I was 23 working as a paralegal in a private small law office. My boss was very toxic and I wanted to work as a ESL teacher. I had every intention of getting my masters in education but my intuition told me not to. Instead I applied to be an after school teacher and taught ESL to adults and spanish for kids. I loved what I did even thought my pay was cut 80%. It was through the people in that school that I met my boyfriend and even got promoted to program coordinator. There were months of employment uncertainty and I received financial support from my parents and I still thank God for meeting all of my needs during that time.
Your RUclips channel brings so much peace!
I was not gifted with an emotionally or financially supportive mother in this life so I love hearing stories about those whose parents help them achieve their dreams. I am excited for you to become an art teacher. What a lovely career path!
My mother was very emotionally cruel and I changed all of that when I had 3 children and have had a revolving door when they need to come back temporarily or even permanently. Even though they are successful, you never know what life may bring. I could never do the things my mother did to my sisters and myself and happy I broke the abusive cycle by grandfather started. Best of luck to you!!!
@@debbiesmith5836 Thank goodness you were able to break the destructive pattern.
I did not know my mother was emotionally abusive. She had trained me to owe my life to her; This way she could control me. In my 50, I feel emotionally broken and never had the stamina and confidence to have my own family.
Same same. I am lucky and get to break the cycle with my little family.
One of the most wonderful things in life is giving and receiving aid and comfort from family members - there is something timeless about it. We all need help at sooner or later.
Watching from NC USA! You are an inspiration. Keep going. I am a Filipino by blood line, 47 yrs old but if I need help from family & friends,
I would do it. I believe that it shows my honesty & by doing that, I could regain my strength. We always observe close family ties & support each other . That’s a blessing! Above all, God is my strength & refuge.
In the US we are way too individualistic. We need help, we need other people and there is no shame in that! God bless!
Yassss! Speak that!
umm okay
I am European. It is the first time I hear that receiving help from your parents or family is a failure. That sounds really strange.
Yep
Completely agree! I'm from Asia (Taiwan) and in my country, it is very common and completely normal and acceptable for grown children to live with their parents. In fact, a lot of parents prefer that their adult children live with them, sometimes even after their (sons, usually) are married. I don't know anyone who frowns upon the adult children who still live with their parents. Also, I even know people who are well into their 40s or 50s who are still single and live with their parents. People here in the U.S. value independence and are very strong, which is good, but they could also be very judgy instead of respecting other people's choices. Not everything has to fit into a certain mold IMO.
Happy Birthday, Luke!
Thank you, once again, my friend for being such an encouraging, yet quiet, voice in a very loud and hectic world
That's the most beautiful pie I have ever seen, bubbling and all. I'm sure your parents are proud of you and glad to have you near.
I’m Kathleen I’ve always loved penpals and so this is kind of that for me.I’m a retired social worker drug addiction counsellor,I worked front line for 18 years, I’m now living in a quiet senior building on the edge of a small city in Canada Eastren shores.I love your videos they bring me closer to the things I value and not many but a few people living quietly…….we could start up a group, well maybe we have of quiet living people.I have a car but only spend it’s energy once a week or maybe just a weee joy ride it’s one of my favorite things to do,drive.I love to drive.
Getting family support is absolutely WONDERFUL! Never be ashamed to ask parents for help because one day you will return the favor. As a mother, grandmother and daughter, I have developed a support system that works well for all 4 generations!❤️❤️❤️❤️
I always get surprised at how the western world look at leaning on family for support when in need😢. One thing I appreciate of our African culture, and I mean born and raised in Africa, is the willingness to ask and extend help. In fact, it's always expected. Not to say it's a right, because it's always appreciated, by both the giver(surprise), and the receipt 🙏🏻.
I totally appreciate this aspect of humanity in our culture 💖
This is a beautiful culture trait indeed. It is very sad when families are not supportive. More cultures should be like yours
@@AmandaFreitas1998 most cultures outside of the far west are like that, for instance in Indian culture(s) family is the most fundamental unit of society and the most important thing in one’s life. Children often stay with parents and help each other out when needed, as in all societies India does have its share of flaws, however this one thing I see as a plus point.
@@miriammeenattoor2952 people here in the US are unfortunately taking every opportunity to deteriorate the family unit. It is indeed fundamental to society, but so many folks here are determined to destroy it. It’s so sad to watch. I’m incredibly thankful for my close knit family
Whenever I'm feeling stressed I watch one of your videos
That has GOT to be the most BEAUTIFUL pie I have ever seen!! I was a Special Education Teacher for 14 years, until some health challenges came along, now I am a "stay at home Grandma." 😊 I am so inspired by your lovely, peaceful videos!
At 60 I had to depend on asking my older brother and sister in law for help. Her words....never feel bad about asking, we're happy to help. Now that I'm in a position 2 yrs later to help my grown daughter and her family, I too am so happy I can help. It's like giving a gift, it's always more fun to give than receive.
No shame Wende, so nice that you have a loving family...
@@charuuppal7043 I am surely lucky in that regard.
Anyone else love the fact that she was just eating pie with a bunny in her lap? 🥰🥰🥰
🤩😁 I am glad I am not the only one paying attention to that sistah 😁
I love her bunny!!! Her having that bunny speaks volumes about her, and her soul in my opinion. ❤️
Absolutely!🐇🐇
There's absolutely nothing wrong asking your parents for temporary assistance when life becomes too much to bear. You did the sensible thing at the time, and I'm sure they were more than happy to assist. You are a remarkable and endearing woman my dear Paula. Your artistic abilities and creations are a Godsend. I wish so much joy, peace, prosperity and blessings. Much love to you and your wonderful family always. 🙏🏻💖🙏🏻
I don't think we should be embarrassed to ask for help, especially from our family. Every human being, at some point in life, can face a great obstacle and the very fact that he/she has the power to ask for help is a sign of power. You have to be strong to be vulnerable and honest in front of others. I appreciate you for what you do and I understand that you did not have an easy life. I'm glad to see that you do what you love and that you find beauty in simple things. Sending you love 💖
There is NO such thing as a "self-made" person. We all need help, to be needed, to give, and to receive. Fairy, I'm glad you were able to hack a life that works best for you -- it's inspiring to me at 41, as I don't have it figured out. I do know, however, as someone very much alone, how wonderful it is (or would be) to have support. For anyone reading, look to your loved ones with appreciation and gratitude! XOXO
I’m an adult who moved back home to live with her parents years ago. I got really sick at the time and needed to leave my job. Of course, I was devastated, but years later, I enjoy living with my parents. We get along well, help each other, and I think it’s better to be with family than to sit in an empty apartment eating dinner alone every day.
I’ve had manyyyyy people tell me I’m wrong for this and call me a deadbeat (even tho I work). But... I don’t have a significant other and I don’t want to live alone. My family and I enjoy each other’s company. I don’t see what the problem is?
Never be ashamed, I moved in and out a few times with my parents and no one seemed it was a problem.
No shame in that at all. Good for you that you have a good family relationship.
That is the normal way of life. To be around those who love you, and who better than a caring family. Most of the world still lives that way. Wise way. 18 is no age to be on your own as people in developed world has created. One still needs emotional, financial, psychological help. Check out the study done on a town called Rosetto, Pennsylvania about communities and health of our 'physical hearts.' May you always have guidance and blessing of your loving elders on you.
I was about to say, I hope Luke knows how blessed he is to have a woman like you in his life. But then you had that last clip at the end. I saw how he looked at you. I'm pretty certain he knows.
I knew a man who grew up in the 1950's. Four people in a 3-room house. He said they were "poor" but they didn't know it because everyone around them lived the same way. Kids played with each other outside and no one had a TV, so there was no exposure to mass marketing. No one thought they were lacking for anything. They were happy. P.S. Your pie looks delicious!
My parents died when I was 29 and 30. I’ve had to take care of myself ever since. It was extremely hard at times. A lot of the time. I am 53 and proud that I am such a strong and independent person...I’ve pulled myself up out of financial and even emotional despair, by my own bootstraps, more times than I can count. However I don’t know how to ask for help let alone receive it. I truly remind myself of the song desperado. That’s me. I love my simple life and I’m an introvert and a loner... still, I wonder what it would be like to have my mom or my dad all these years. The only ones who were there for me. You are lucky to have people to lean on. We all should have that.
Sorry to hear about your loss at a young age and that it was hard to find anyone to rely on. Many people live that way around the world. But that you survived and can look back and see your own strength is what counts. I am sure along the way, despite being introvert you have directly helped people and inspired many without knowing. It is indeed a great thing to have people to rely on. Everyone should have that. Being in survival mode always is not good for the soul. But now that you know you have done it all, may be asking for and allowing others to help you when needed is another skill to incorporate. And possibly much simpler than what you have acquired already. Wishing you the best. And friends and many who you can build an interdependent friendship with.
Dear Kristin, that is very hard and I imagine your loss has had a great impact on you. This may not make a ton of sense, but being open to receive the help of others will attract them to you, so that you can enjoy that wonderful feeling of both giving and receiving. You are very similar to me. Life is meant to be lived with others (as much or as little as you want) we should allow ourselves to do this bit by bit in a way that feels comfortable. I was advised to consider getting a pet, that is not always practical, but their love is a way to help us to open back up to the fullness of our heart. And it is that openness that is the key to welcoming the help and support most of us want. Maybe allow your beautiful heart to slowly open through practices as heart opening meditation or a gentle yoga. RUclips is a great resource. Going slowly and gently, of course. Much love ❤️
@@fc4660 thank you. Opening my heart is my number one lesson these days. ❤️ luckily I am a happy introvert and loner, but I absolutely hope to make some supportive female connections in my life. And oh yes, animals (and nature) have always been my true angels. Thank you for your words!
@@charuuppal7043 thank you. ❤️ I think I have helped and inspired others, and many times strangers have done the same for me.
Hi. I have a story similar to yours. Both parents gone by the age of 23. I too am strong and independent but I don't know how to ask for help either. I don't feel I have anything in common with those who have or have had 'help.' And I'm a failure because I didn't accomplish more than I have.
you're a Therapeutic, in the midst of this chaotic year.. Thank you so much. I am always waiting for your videos every week. You help someone's life out there I am one of them. Not physically but with your calming persona, your serenity, your simplicity, the outlook of life you have. You encouraged me to see life as it is .
I just found your channel yesterday, and now I cannot stop watching your videos. Your words are full of wisdom and the visuals are stuuuuuuuunning. Thank you for being you! My favourite part was you eating pie on the counter with a bunny in your lap. Big hug all the way from Denmark, Scandinavia. Wish you all the best.
The whole vibe of your videos made me vividly remember my childhood with my grandmother. We used to walk through patches of tall grass, finding good ones to braid later. I've lost that happy connection with my younger self, but now that the world is in a state were being healthy is far more important than being busy, I think I'll make the choice of doing less in favour of my health and sanity. Thank you. This made me really, really happy and quite emotional :)
In Austria now itˋs 6.30 am and Thursday. Every single week, when my family is still sleeping, First I watch your Video, and the day starts brighter. ( sorry my englisch isnˋt the best! ) Best wishes from the Tyrolean Alps!
Family should always there to always lend support. Family is the foundation of our lives. I have been criticized by well meaning friends for providing assistance here and there as my children needed it. Today I can proudly say I have 3 grown children who are financially independent and are adulting well on their own.
I had to stop my workout to respond lol but there is absolutely NO shame in moving back home! I had to move back home and as my parents helped me when I was down and out I have now been able to help them as they are both in their 80s. I also been able to go back to school and make more money. When the time is right I'll be able to buy a house but I'm so grateful to be able to be there for them. Consider yourself blessed that you have parents to help you. ❤️
Your pie is the most beautiful one I've ever seen!
Agree 🤩
From a father’s perspective, I want/need my children to ask for my help. It is part of my fulfillment as a father and dad.
I believe this is my favorite video of yours thus far. You simply motivate me to take things slowly, enjoy the little things and appreciate the nature around me.
Thanks for sharing your perspective as a father.
I am 54 years old, divorced, with grown children and 5 grandchildren. Last year my employer retired and due to circumstances in my country I have been unable to find a new job. I now live with my daughter (who has need of my practical help and support, being a single mother of 3, in a corporate job, working from home) and have a lot of my needs taken care of. However, my parents (81 years old) are supporting me financially. It was and is a very difficult thing for me. But my dad said, many years ago already, that he will never allow me to sink. Now I understand their perspective better.
I am blessed by God with the family He gave me, and am extremely grateful for their support, both my daughter and my parents.
That’s what FAMILY is all about. Parents helping their adult children, grown children caring for their elders, siblings stepping in where needed. We are all connected. Only in a monetary driven society do we spurn the old and criticize the young who stumble on hard times. Never be ashamed of your story.
Thank you for saying this. I have a family member who is a baby boomer and I a millennial. She is extremely critical of me as a young person, losing my wonderful job due to COVID has been hard. She is very wealthy and is very smug about it. She is leaving her wealth to charities instead of the person who takes care of her me. It’s not about the money is the principal and I may be done helping her. She’s doesn’t understand family and you put it perfectly.
I love what you said, Deb! Maybe we're all likeminded people who follow this channel, but it's so good to hear other people express this sentiment of family unity. I just found a work-from-home job so that I can be home working instead of out of the house after my daughter has to return to work after her maternity leave is up. We're family. It's what we do.
@@raspberrykissable I am almost in the same position as you lol. My baby boomer parents had the "perfect life" marrying and having children, having a wealthy career, buying house and car. They can't understand why I don't do the same and why I am unemployed at 25 years, why I wanna do a masters degree, why I don't wanna marry, why I am dating a guy that does art (which according to them will never make any money to "raise a family with me"). It is very demotivating at times. I wish I could say my family is my safety net, they do help me and I live here with them, but they shame me for it everyday.
Yes yes! I wish I had family like that 💜
@@AmandaFreitas1998 same here. Live with them but they shame me every day for it and don't care that society has changed now and our generation is NOT like theirs 🙄🙄🙄
As a Latina, we stay home until we get married! It’s been a blessing living with my mom. We are besties and I’ve been able to save money. I’m also helping her pay off her house. I’m also a teacher! I teach ESL :) love your channel!! It’s so peaceful.
My Mother has always made the most delicious "ugly cake". My family wouldn't have it any other way. Thank you for sharing your videos. They are truly a gift to watch. Much love from San Diego, CA. ❤💛💚
My parents are dead ( my father died 20 years ago, my mother 15 years ago), but I still miss them, because they were able to give me good ideas, when I thought there was no possibility, but at the same time they encouraged me to be independent. Love your videos. Greetings from Italy, Lake Maggiore
I have been so flustered with my hectic life lately... this was just the break that I needed 💗
Same!!! 😣
Absolutely NOT 'failing at adulthood'!!!
That you have family to turn to is a wonderful gift.
That they help you is yet another.
Every time I somehow feel blue, I watch your videos, which gives me peaceful energy and makes me restore to balanced status. Really like it!! Tks!
When you learn to let go you also learn that life will hold you.
❤✨🦋🌼
Thank you for this comforting comment 🙏 I am trying to let go a lot of things right now and sometimes it's hard to believe that life will hold me
@@AGMAYOGA you're welcome. The trick is to start with small things and the faith will grow.
So beautiful and deep... and true 😍🤗☀️
I was one of those people who felt it was embarrassing to ask parents for help after you've left, but I kicked my pride aside and did it after a job loss. He reminded me that he had to ask his mom for help in his 30s, so don't be ashamed.
That is very often the case, happened to both my parents, too.
I am 32 years old but I am feeling so old to change my life
@@juanpedro4083 no you are not old, age is just a number and life is not a race. slowly but surely you will be doing okay in life. just take your time and reset your life.
@@nana9624 would you mind if I ask your age?
@@juanpedro4083 ~ I’m 47 and still my life is always changing. 32 is sooooo young!
Asking for and accepting help shows humbleness, and a teachable nature. Teachable people grow in wisdom!
I'm trying to buy my own land. It's a nightmare. Either scams or it's too expensive. You really have quite the touch. Keep it up. My kids Have to rely on me for now. No biggie. We all lift together.
I did not have parents I could ask when I needed help-you can bet I help my sons...often. They work hard and I make sure they know they have a soft place when needed. I must say, that was the prettiest pie crust I have ever seen.
I don’t have parents either but I will do everything I can for my kids now and when they’re older.
I am seventeen years old, I dropped out of highschool last year while I was a junior. I had severe depression and was struggling with suicidal thoughts daily. I occasionally have seizures and severe panic attacks.
I remember crying to my counselor, telling him I just wanted to have chickens and a small homestead, and I don’t know how it’ll happen but everything else was just so hard for me to cope with. He helped me drop out, and I’ve been living with my boyfriend and his little brother. Their mom is a drug addict, like mine.
It’s all very hard, but I am always dreaming of having my little slice of land where I can have my veggie garden and chicken coop.
Be encouraged, never stop dreaming, choose life everyday, choose joy daily! Peace to you Catherine Pratt!
I hope your dream comes true 💚
Your story has touched my heart and I deeply emphasize with you....John 3:16 🌷
I am old, only have sons, no daughter. I learned right here on RUclips from Neville Goddard, 1905-1972, that nothing ever exists in this world until it has first been imagined. All tall buildings, airplanes, cities were first created in someone’s mind. Google his name to learn how to see your dream to make it real. You have a beautiful name, Katherine Pratt, so create yourself a beautiful life.
Catherine, good luck to you💗 Once you're 18, if you ever get the urge to travel and work, look up WWOOF. It's a great way to travel, and get experience farming while you get room/board. Having a homestead and animals takes a little learning, and experience doing it would be worth its weight in gold when you have your own little slice of land
Your pastry is totally breathtaking! You are so creative! Your friend is lucky! Blessings!
Nothing to be ashamed of. You are absolutely right.
I'm a teacher for many years, but I found that only teaching is not enough, I still have so many things I want to share with the wold, that's why I started my YT channel, even though it's far from the point of making money out of it, but at least YT is one of my way to express myself and I'm happy for it.
When I was eighteen I moved out of my parents' house and began working while putting myself through college. People in my generation pretend that problems younger people have don't exist just because we didn't have those problems. Getting help used to be shameful, but now it is (probably) essential, respectable and even responsible.
Your humility and willingness to understand and believe the stories of those much younger than you is wonderful. I am grateful for the understanding. It does mean a lot.
So true!
Everyone has problems. That is normal.
I have only very recently discovered your channel….and what a beautiful, peaceful, channel it is! You are indeed an artist!! Thank you 🌺
I am from the south shore of Nova Scotia, CDA…on the Atlantic. Originating from the Pacific shores of CDA, I moved out here with my three very young children after my husband died….and when family refused to help….with a dream for a slower way of life. My career as a Registered Nurse has been able to afford us a modest home that I’m slowly and lovingly renovating…and, situated on a cove, a property that will feed our bellies and our soul!
When life gets hectic, your channel and my wee piece of paradise remind me to breathe in peace and comfort. Thank you.
Dear CottageFairy, you sound like one, for sure. I love your voice, and the way you decorated that pie made me cry. Such attention and kindness, to create that Birthday gift for Luke. I had to sit for a while, with my tears, looking at the low golden sunlight on the trees, through my large living room window, thinking about all the madness, the confusion, anger, and anxiety that goes on in humanity right now. Here in The Netherlands, we're in a 3rd hard lockdown for 3 weeks, at least, that's the plan. While cases and hospitalisation are rising much. My two kittens are a comfort to me, and they watched my tears for the first time.
They arrived on October 23rd in my home, brother and sister. Thorin and Meis. Meis is the Dutch word for a girl.
You're sincere in creating your life and work, and I'm sure you'll find your way, with the help of family, and friends. Important.
That black rabbit's ears were just large enough to be noticed, on your lap. That's so funny to discover, while Luke was beaming gratefully while enjoying the pie. By the way, the view from your window is stunning! I wonder if it's Wales or some mountainous area in Britain. I do understand that you're not making your whereabouts known, that's very wise. But nature is gorgeous where you are.
I am Bulgarian and it's neither uncommon, nor embarrassing in my culture for children to get help from their parents or even live with them forever. People move for school or marriage, of course, but they are not pressured to... Well, we are pressured to get married, but not to move out :D I moved 3 hours away from my parents after high school and even though I had access to incredible opportunities for personal and academic growth, traveled the world, and met wonderful people (including my husband), I've always been a little bit sad that my parents were no longer direct witnesses of my growth.
Bonjour tout le monde! I am 43 voiceover artist, audiobook narrator .I used to be a school teacher for 15 years and I took the leap last September to be fully self-employed as a voiceover actress.
Congratulations 👏🏻👏🏻
I think people who say that getting help from your family means failing in life, should be more greatful.
I lost all my family when I was 20 years old and there were ,AND ARE STILL, times when I'd wish that there'd be a family to rely on.
It would be lovely.
Sweetie, I now rely heavily on help from my mom, and I'm 63! I've become disabled, and I'm sure not ashamed to admit that my precious mom helps. I'm truly blessed. I implore people to not be mean to others, but rather pray for them to find miraculous provision.
I'm 18 and moving out of my hometown to attend university and this calms me down as much as it calls me out. My degree will take 6 years and my childhood dog is already 8, I'm afraid shd dies before I an even return home. My sister is only 14 years old and she is my love and joy, I took care of her since we were too small to see over the desk. My mom, recently divorced, is pursuing a degree she dreamed about. I'm afraid I'm gonna miss them so much... but at the same time I love it. Not the freedom, the joy, I'm going to uni after all!
Edit: I actually ended up passing the exam on my own city so no more moving out! Now I can have both.
I wish you the best darling!!
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I am not a mother but the oldest sister. As an oldest grew up and experienced the most difficult life that a little girl could have been through, I've promised myself to finish school no matter what, get a job and help my younger siblings and mother to have a better life. I am thankful to God that He uses me to make a difference to my family's life and other people. ❤
Your life wasn’t harder because you were an oldest. It doesn’t make you better or mean you suffered more. Don’t take away from younger siblings just bc they happened to be born after. It doesn’t change anything about suffering
@@raynamaldonado1058 What you mean don't take away from younger siblings?
@@raynamaldonado1058 And I am talking about my life that I suffered and experienced extreme hardship because I am the oldest in the family. If there are any oldest child that did not experienced what I had, then, I am happy for them. My point being was, because of my experienced as the first born and because the family was not established when I was born and when I grew up, I work harder making sure that my younger siblings (who are years younger than me) will not experience the same and have them a better life with their children by helping them up to this day.
@@Pinayfarmgirl OK that makes more sense. The original post made it sound like simply because you were older you have more experience and life is worse for you… But as a younger sibling I can quite honestly say that it makes no difference. There are many blessings that older kids have the younger kids don’t get And vice versa. The idea that older kids have it worse is often times very very wrong.
@@raynamaldonado1058 Totally agree!
I’m married, work full time and have a child. I’ll be having a second child soon and I’ll be a stay at home mom after our second child is born. I honestly never considered or thought it be an option to stay at home with children if I could have any. Navigating the different lifestyle we’ll have soon is scary for me but I am thankful and grateful I have family to help with this new chapter. Thank you for sharing with us! Sending you good vibes!🌻
hey, how nice to hear your story. im from brazil and last year i left the big city for a very small village. i am 39 and going thru a moment of feeling so lost about what i want to do as a career. i was a teacher, and now i work as a website developer, ive been so many other things too like sales manager and flight attendant. i would love to live and make a living doing what something i love, but im at a loss. thanks for sharing, it was truly inspiring!