How I make a living - affording my country cottage life
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- In this video I wanted to share a little about how I make a living in the countryside.
Many in my town work in the forest service, as contractors, tourism, teachers, and in labor intensive jobs. There are also a growing number of remote workers, especially after last year. I enjoy observing the different types of lifestyles and careers in this area, and am glad to share a little bit about my own 🤍
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This is a bit of my story, not advice on how to build a career. Each set of circumstances is unique, but I like to believe that within reasonable boundaries, options are rarely quite as limited as we may think (if we think long-term). I built my work life by diversifying and working many jobs that were not ideal so that I could save for the future. I am so grateful that I got the opportunity to have my work noticed online to help support my offline career. Best wishes to you.
more important points I couldn’t fit into this video! ⬇️
I hope this gives you some insight on my journey building my career into what it is now. I have finally gotten to a place where I chose to diversify not because I need to, but want to in order to pursue my art and teaching interests. I am thankful that for about 5 months now I’ve had my online business grow to be successful, so that has been an enormous and life changing gift.
A year ago, I made the firm decision to do whatever possible to be able to stay in the place I loved, and that conviction really forced me get creative. This isn’t advice or an example for comparison. We are all on our own unique journeys and have different types of support and strengths. But I hope that wherever you are, you find those people in your life, whether or not they are family, that can offer encouragement and feedback on your plans and decisions. I know of few things that have more value than an authentic human connection. Wishing you all the best. ❤️
PS: I have noticed that occasionally someone writes a comment criticizing people who have leant on family support during difficult times (or helped them relocate or start a new career), suggesting that their life is less impressive or not worth respecting because of it. I understand that not everyone has this privilege, and I hope that in the same way that I have great respect for the strength and perseverance of those who have had to face the trials of life alone, I hope you may show that same respect to others in the comments. Please consider the struggling adults, students and those who have found themselves unemployed during this time. They do not need to carry the extra burden of shame. I have watched friends laid off who have no choice but to move in with their families or asked for help in some way. Let’s offer each other support and understanding, as no one knows the life and trials someone else has faced.
I'm very happy you changed careers. Your videos make me very happy, and your art looks great in my nursery. ❤️
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I have a friend who loves fairies. I bought a couple of your pictures on Etsy. I walked into her office at work and there they were hanging up. I thought of you and how much I enjoy your life journey. We all have been in humbling experiences. It is was makes us human. I feel good when I can help someone. Sometimes allowing help helps the other person too.
Thank You for always inspiring me to better each day. God Bless You🙏❤️
Thank you ♡
Your mom is beautiful. Wish I had married her. Oh, I did. I am definitely the lucky one.
Aha, that made me laugh
She is stunning! What a beautiful family
Unfair advantage! Ha ha
You're a lovely young woman who should be proud of yourself. It takes strength and courage to ask for help but absolutely no shame. I always enjoy your videos. It was wonderful to see your mom in the video.
This is the CUTEST THING ❤️❤️❤️
At 48 I became a yoga teacher! And now at 68 I am becoming a writer, and will be published in June!
I'm so happy for you!!
Congrats!!
Congratulations!
Whats your book??
Wow! A woman after my own heart! Congratulations lady!!!!
It is NEVER embarrassing to rely on your family. Society NEEDS families!
Yesss I still need my family! I feel so supported emotionally by them.
It's a cultural belief because in many cultures relying on family is normal.
#truth
@@PTV69420 In short: Reliance on family = Conservative/Republican/Classical Liberalism. Reliance on government = Neoliberalism/Socialism/Democrats/Rinos/Communism/Authoritarianism. (a bit oversimplified but there it is.)
@@PTV69420 damn that sucks bro. i wish the best for you.
An imperfect home made pie will always be more beautiful than a store bought pie. Happy birthday Luke.
Are you kidding? That was a masterpiece
I ve been making pies for more than 20 years, and they usually aren't beautiful. People like them though 😀
Yours is beautiful though! Very creative!
That pie was gorgeous
"No body, but nobody makes it out here alone." As a parent of an adult child I am honored when ever my child trusts me enough to ask for my help. Peace to your heart.
God bless
So good to hear this, my kids don’t ask often, but I’m happy to help when I can. I never understood the ‘break their plate when they turn 18’ crowd. It’s most definitely harder today than it was in the 70’s and 80’s to make your way.
Very true!
My thoughts exactly! None of us would be here, if it wasnt for community and family.
My daughter just turned 21 and she doesn’t know I’ve been saving her a little nest egg for when she moves. My mom helped me so much, I can’t wait to pay it forward. I’ve never liked the idea of booting them out of the nest either. I’d never have made it!
As a mother, it is an honor to help whenever I am needed by my children. I am sure most parents feel this way. Never feel like a failure. Life is a journey.
Thank you for being this kind of mother in the world. It’s so beautiful 😍
@@intentionalliving7326 Thank you.
@@corvuscorone7735 thank you
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People doesn't understand that life is not a competition. You have to be happy and that's all. Enjoying the small moments like you are doing is the best part! One day, I'll do the same. Greetings from Brazil!
Love your comment "Life is not a competition"
it's hard to be happy when you're alone and your income has been cut in half due to the virus. I applaud all that are moving forward in their lives...
Kathy, million of people have lost their jobs in Brazil. Including me. Here, you're lucky if you still have a job and something to eat. And that's because I'm not quoting the thousands who lost their lives... sad situation!
Life is not a competition. If only we all can understand and believe this.
Very well said! Enjoy the moments in each day. It could be as simple as feeling the deep breath one takes and enjoying that breath.
My two girls are very self sufficient and successful in their careers. As a parent, I see my role as a “port in the storm”, whenever I’m needed. There is no guilt in seeking shelter from the storm ⛈. That is what families do for each other.
This is so beautifully said ❤️
Aw so well said :)
Wisdom....
Honestly agree. I was told by a wise man just at the time when my son was to be born: "parents have to let their children fly, but they shall always be there as the airport where they can come back to land if needed" ... and there is no shame to do so, for sure.
this is such a western thing.. in the east... leaning on and taking care of your parents is expected
We need to normalise supporting and helping one another, until recently it was normal to live in multi-generational homes where EVERYONE contributed and if someone needed a bit of extra help then it was expected the household would come together and help. It’s a reciprocal relationship. There’s a line between being taken advantage of and being a soft place to fall for those you care about.
Hello how are you doing?
So true ☀️
For real, the extended family was a norm, but with industrialization there was a breaking away from that & there are pros & cons to that. But the losses included lack of support & loss of strong values being inculcated in young ones by the elders.
Yasssss!!!! I 2nd this.
The only problem I see with getting help from family, especially moving back into the parental home,, is that with certain family members, they may have a narcissistic tendency to hold on to someone sticking around long term, and not considering that the soul of the one who has moved back home deserves to fly free once they get back on their feet.
Reliance on family is not a sin, but neither is being independent and self-reliant, if the latter is what the soul craves.
In many European cultures (and Asian too) it is quite normal to see parents help their grown children with whatever they can, they do it with love and pride, and children are grateful and will look after their parents if need be later down the line. I love this support and collaboration between generations ❤️
Coming from a European country (Germany) I really didn't know until now that this idea of always being able to count on your family (ylur parents, your siblings) no matter what, as a matter of course, wouldn't be universally. I really had problems to grasp why someone would be ashamed to ask for help in the family. I can grasp that it might be a problem for some to ask strangers for help - but, your own folks? Isn't that exactly what families are for? This was really eye-opening. I'm glad that she was able to overcome those misconceptions and now seems to have found a happy place! :)
@@elektra121 exactly! I moved from Slovenia to the UK and you can already notice a difference. In the UK parents would charge rent to their own children as soon as they turn 18 or finish University if they still happen to live at home. This would never happen in Slovenia - your parents (if they can) pay for your rent if you have to relocate to another town to attend University for example. And if you can't find a job straight after Uni you can definitely live with your parents! They are actually happy to help out and people don't judge so much or see you as a failure. It's just life and it has many different paths!
@@naturewithmarusa3539 Of course! Wow, taking rent from your own children while they don't have a good job yet, seems really wrong.
@@elektra121 yes, can be very different even within Europe. It would be great if everyone could do what is best for them in their situation, not worrying so much about what other people think. Easier siad than done though!
@@naturewithmarusa3539 same in my culture, Bangladesh, but when I moved to Toronto Canada 🇨🇦, they would see it as failure! I hate it western culture at times!
Friends who criticise your choices are not true friends. It is not embarrassing to admit you need help, it is wisdom and a form of strength. I reached out to my parents when I needed their help and I gave it back when they needed mine. It is what families do.
Yes I agree! 💜
Your very wise and lucky to be able to ask your parents for help. I seem to go from one mess to another without family.
@@Bobsbud100 aww I am with you on that! It’s tough without family 💜 I’m the same on that front...
Yes I love this!
@@LadyoftheFarm Hopefully we will get there. I'm hoping my health improves first 🙏
You are a breath of much needed air!! Your 500K followers look forward to your videos, don't ever doubt yourself, we all support you:)
I am a 26 year old, currently unemployed and living at home. My grandma developed dementia last year and needs round the clock care. It's hard not being able to work and earn money and be independent but my grandma is worth it. I do have a blog on the side and maybe some day I'll earn a tiny amount with it but right now I am focusing on my grandma. Life has seasons.
It is amazing what you are doing but share this with other family members. You have to take care of yourself too!
Respect.
What youre doing is just plain remarkable & praise worthy. Youre a good, decent human being & should give yourself a Huge pat on the back. Hope youre loved ones are super proud of you
May Allah reward you in this life & the next..Amen
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Awww that is so wonderful! I think your love for her is amazing...you are a wonderful soul to do that! I’m sure you will do great things having a heart like that! 😊
It takes a lot of strength to do what you’re doing...I don’t think I could and if I was force to I would be hella resentful
I'm mother to two adult daughters. I am proud of them and delighted to be their safety nets if and when they need a safe place to land. Parenting doesn't stop when your babies turn 18.
Very true!
Yes.
I wish more people would understand this and stop judging when you are supportive of your adult children.
I wish my parents thought like you do, and didn't shame me for coming back to their home unenployed at 25
Beautiful thing. My mom has helped me so much. I'm 25 and she will retire in 3 years, I'm so excited to 'care for her' basically pay for expenses her SS can cover and go on vacations together.
People can't live on pride: if you need help, it's much worse not to ask for it. Thank you for putting this reminder out there!
Anne of Green Gables would absolutely love you, such kindred spirits
OMG, i had not thought of that, but spot on
Such a great story of hope and perseverance!
Quite opposite I believe, Anne was a firecracker but this woman is a calming voice. They'd be quite compatible as friends in sure
The vibes really match too 💜
I live on Prince Edward Island, my favorite is the live musical production which plays every summer ,(excepting 2020and 2021)since 1964,here in Charlottetown
One is not an island; instead, we are bridges --- extending to help, encourage growth, and offer goodness to others. Your channel is a beautiful expression of this. Thank you.
I love that image!
I was also thinking about the adage that it takes a village to raise a child -- and that we don't actually ever stop needing the village! It may be that our village (support network) changes, but hopefully not completely ;)
So, as hard as it may have been and may still be to accept needing your parents as an adult, we see you + acknowledge that fear + disappointment, but also laud your courage and self-posesseion and your sharing of wise words with the rest of us in our life-journeys :) Thank you!
Beautiful. :)
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I’m 26 and moving back home with my parents in the fall until I’m a little more financially stable and healthy. I’ve felt so ashamed of this until I watched this video. I’m also a writer (and dream of a country life like you have!) so this video just gives me hope that maybe one day I truly can make a living off of that and live the lifestyle I dream of. Thank you so much for this. You have no idea how much of an inspiration this has been. ❤️
Once you understand the meaning of 'Family', then shame changes to comfort and protection.
@@hangoutwithabhi Well ‘family’ means something different for everyone, and it’s not always positive when referring to ‘parents’. But this video did definitely remind me that there will at least be some comfort and protection from moving to a place where I have more friends and space to heal. :)
Keep going LJ!!! Write!
@@tabi5550 Thank you!!
Don't worry about it. One day you'll hopefully return the favor when your parents need a (younger) hand to navigate their life.
To all of you reading this : Please don't hesitate to extend a helping hand to those who need it.There are a lot of people out there who have no relatives or friends.
Just give them " a fishing rod " instead of "a fish. "
And while I can appreciate how well intentioned your comment is, you can offer someone both, meaning a rod and the fish. If you're starving you need 2 eat first and foremost. Then once well nourished you can then learn how 2 fish until u master that craft as a way of life.
@@robyndismon394 Yes,you're quite right,but most people don't want to help someone in need even though they may have millions.
It's so calming to even listen to your voice. Each and every video of yours is a masterpiece. Love and only love to you❤️ I really wish I get this kind of peace of mind one day. Everyone these days are running behind money.. but this. Right here. .is LIFE 🙌
Hi there. Anybody reading this would you take the vaccine and why please?
"Give them a fishing rod instead of a fish" - I think about this a lot
That’s what FAMILY is all about. Parents helping their adult children, grown children caring for their elders, siblings stepping in where needed. We are all connected. Only in a monetary driven society do we spurn the old and criticize the young who stumble on hard times. Never be ashamed of your story.
Thank you for saying this. I have a family member who is a baby boomer and I a millennial. She is extremely critical of me as a young person, losing my wonderful job due to COVID has been hard. She is very wealthy and is very smug about it. She is leaving her wealth to charities instead of the person who takes care of her me. It’s not about the money is the principal and I may be done helping her. She’s doesn’t understand family and you put it perfectly.
I love what you said, Deb! Maybe we're all likeminded people who follow this channel, but it's so good to hear other people express this sentiment of family unity. I just found a work-from-home job so that I can be home working instead of out of the house after my daughter has to return to work after her maternity leave is up. We're family. It's what we do.
@@raspberrykissable I am almost in the same position as you lol. My baby boomer parents had the "perfect life" marrying and having children, having a wealthy career, buying house and car. They can't understand why I don't do the same and why I am unemployed at 25 years, why I wanna do a masters degree, why I don't wanna marry, why I am dating a guy that does art (which according to them will never make any money to "raise a family with me"). It is very demotivating at times. I wish I could say my family is my safety net, they do help me and I live here with them, but they shame me for it everyday.
Yes yes! I wish I had family like that 💜
@@AmandaFreitas1998 same here. Live with them but they shame me every day for it and don't care that society has changed now and our generation is NOT like theirs 🙄🙄🙄
I am so happy for you that you have a supportive family. My parents were always disappointed with the jobs I chose. I worked 20 years in book stores, 5 years with a cookware retailer, and am now in my 9th year at an organic grocery. What you are doing is wonderful. You are giving peace and pleasure to thousands of people.
Nothing wrong with making an honest living
Y r a beautiful person x
I like the lifestyle that you chose. Book stores are amazing. Organic grocery sounds good too. Always being in touch with the things you value.
I'm so sorry your family has that attitude 😔
You will not regret teaching art. After 25 years as a graphic artist for a company, they unexpectedly decided to lay me off. Needless to say that rocked my world greatly. It took a year to get my feet steady again and experience much heartache trying to continue in this field. However God had other plans. I heard a voice at the end of the year that said I needed to teach. I reached out to my church that had a fine arts school. They were excited about the possibility. I wanted to teach realistic art skills to teens to seniors. That was over two years ago. I cannot express the joy and peace that I have experienced seeing people learn to express themselves in many mediums. Not only do I see improvement but I also see hearts healed and peace come into their lives. And if I have encouraged someone to open themselves to apply art skills at home on their own then I have done my job and made a difference in this world. You are such a kind hearted and sensitive person. I am sure you will be successful in this decision and I wish you many blessings in your life as an art teacher. ❤️ Rachel Paulette Tawzer from Tennessee.
Wow i love your Story ❤
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Is a so nice read this............. God is good!
Purposeful lives. That needs this world. Not lives earning money in good jobs. But lives helping and changing other lives.
Blessings to you Rachel.
I think people who say that getting help from your family means failing in life, should be more greatful.
I lost all my family when I was 20 years old and there were ,AND ARE STILL, times when I'd wish that there'd be a family to rely on.
It would be lovely.
I always get surprised at how the western world look at leaning on family for support when in need😢. One thing I appreciate of our African culture, and I mean born and raised in Africa, is the willingness to ask and extend help. In fact, it's always expected. Not to say it's a right, because it's always appreciated, by both the giver(surprise), and the receipt 🙏🏻.
I totally appreciate this aspect of humanity in our culture 💖
This is a beautiful culture trait indeed. It is very sad when families are not supportive. More cultures should be like yours
@@AmandaFreitas1998 most cultures outside of the far west are like that, for instance in Indian culture(s) family is the most fundamental unit of society and the most important thing in one’s life. Children often stay with parents and help each other out when needed, as in all societies India does have its share of flaws, however this one thing I see as a plus point.
@@miriammeenattoor2952 people here in the US are unfortunately taking every opportunity to deteriorate the family unit. It is indeed fundamental to society, but so many folks here are determined to destroy it. It’s so sad to watch. I’m incredibly thankful for my close knit family
When Covid hit I was happy to pay for my 24yr old daughter to quickly fly back to New Zealand from Australia and she lived with us for 4 months.She had not been home for 5yrs.
You are a great parent :)
So sad we all sacrifice family for jobs that discard us in a heart beat
You are a wonderful parent 💜
Nice. I love stories of families who reconnect!
@@sylvie9256 so very true
Chuckling - the two of you...adorable together. Thank you, for your invaluable sharing (s). Yes, coming from a 'place' of general earnestness - absolutely, no "shame!"
Families are there to support you. There is no shame in it. My angel mother paid for my master degree university fees. I am so grateful to her. She is my angel
Yes. My mother too. I think probably its our Indian values that living in close family and supporting each other is more important than living "independent" and lonely life. Asking help from family members is not at all considered shameful. Rather its kind of a duty of everyone to help each other out.😊❤
She is the one who got you into this world.
Yes. Its Indian tradition. Also, the multi-generational family homes are like our anchor. Grandparents, adults, grandkids.... all get the support they need. One thing this pandemic did was let people slow down and reconnect with what's really important in life.
I was not gifted with an emotionally or financially supportive mother in this life so I love hearing stories about those whose parents help them achieve their dreams. I am excited for you to become an art teacher. What a lovely career path!
My mother was very emotionally cruel and I changed all of that when I had 3 children and have had a revolving door when they need to come back temporarily or even permanently. Even though they are successful, you never know what life may bring. I could never do the things my mother did to my sisters and myself and happy I broke the abusive cycle by grandfather started. Best of luck to you!!!
@@debbiesmith5836 Thank goodness you were able to break the destructive pattern.
I did not know my mother was emotionally abusive. She had trained me to owe my life to her; This way she could control me. In my 50, I feel emotionally broken and never had the stamina and confidence to have my own family.
Same same. I am lucky and get to break the cycle with my little family.
I have never seen a patterned rolling pin before in my life. What an excellent idea.
One of the main differences between Americans and Latins is relationship with our relatives, specially our parents. Asking your parents to help you overcome a difficult moment should not be a reason to feel ashamed. That's what family is for. There will come a time when you will be able to help them 😊
I too have had to run to my family for support after some devastating circumstances. It did make me absolutely ashamed of myself to ask for help but in our time of need isn't that what families are for? Love and support? I would help them if they needed help because I love them.
I look at the beauty and simplicity in your life and am grateful that there are talented creatives rejecting the modern city life and getting back to some basics. You are a role model for those of us still tied to the modern existence. Oh and your pie was an absolute work of art and love. Hello from Australia.
“the moment you can start laughing at your mistakes in life, everything gets better”
haha i do this all the time. also, it’s important to understand that mistakes are a part of the learning process and proof that you’re trying.
Hi there true. So would you take the vaccine?
@@Sketchbook9999 hi there! yeah, i think so.
There are two kinds of laughing, and I have done both. First, I made jokes to avoid the pain, then I stop doing that and have lots of naps and go for lots of walks and cry a bit, and then I am able to laugh at it for real. And that for-real laugh is great :)
Amen sistah 🙌🏻
In the US we are way too individualistic. We need help, we need other people and there is no shame in that! God bless!
Yassss! Speak that!
umm okay
I am European. It is the first time I hear that receiving help from your parents or family is a failure. That sounds really strange.
Yep
Completely agree! I'm from Asia (Taiwan) and in my country, it is very common and completely normal and acceptable for grown children to live with their parents. In fact, a lot of parents prefer that their adult children live with them, sometimes even after their (sons, usually) are married. I don't know anyone who frowns upon the adult children who still live with their parents. Also, I even know people who are well into their 40s or 50s who are still single and live with their parents. People here in the U.S. value independence and are very strong, which is good, but they could also be very judgy instead of respecting other people's choices. Not everything has to fit into a certain mold IMO.
That pie lid was an exceptional work of art in itself ❤️
🙌🏻🤩 yes!!
I am not a mother but the oldest sister. As an oldest grew up and experienced the most difficult life that a little girl could have been through, I've promised myself to finish school no matter what, get a job and help my younger siblings and mother to have a better life. I am thankful to God that He uses me to make a difference to my family's life and other people. ❤
Your life wasn’t harder because you were an oldest. It doesn’t make you better or mean you suffered more. Don’t take away from younger siblings just bc they happened to be born after. It doesn’t change anything about suffering
@@raynamaldonado1058 What you mean don't take away from younger siblings?
@@raynamaldonado1058 And I am talking about my life that I suffered and experienced extreme hardship because I am the oldest in the family. If there are any oldest child that did not experienced what I had, then, I am happy for them. My point being was, because of my experienced as the first born and because the family was not established when I was born and when I grew up, I work harder making sure that my younger siblings (who are years younger than me) will not experience the same and have them a better life with their children by helping them up to this day.
@@Lynandherlilfriends OK that makes more sense. The original post made it sound like simply because you were older you have more experience and life is worse for you… But as a younger sibling I can quite honestly say that it makes no difference. There are many blessings that older kids have the younger kids don’t get And vice versa. The idea that older kids have it worse is often times very very wrong.
@@raynamaldonado1058 Totally agree!
Anyone else love the fact that she was just eating pie with a bunny in her lap? 🥰🥰🥰
🤩😁 I am glad I am not the only one paying attention to that sistah 😁
I love her bunny!!! Her having that bunny speaks volumes about her, and her soul in my opinion. ❤️
Absolutely!🐇🐇
This is one of the most beautiful vlogs I’ve seen. I wouldn’t just call your angles “camera work” but cinematography. So beautiful! I love the thoughtful voiceover segments of you reflecting upon a theme while we watch you create something beautiful. And the juxtaposition of the reflection/action segments with you speaking directly to the camera - provides a delightful contrast that makes you “real” to us. You see, the reflection/action segments are so beautiful - pastoral, like a moving painting - that they are dreamlike. When you then speak to the camera, it’s fun to get the sense that you’re a real person...almost like the painting is coming to life. Great choice of music too. I love the pace of these videos. Just so lovely.
I agree! I think her videos are just beautiful, and always so serene. I can't believe she does it all with just her phone! Even the sound quality is perfect.
This is a wonderfully beautiful and inspiring vlog, I am very glad you get to make it and share it with us.
At 72 y.o.a. and being unemployed for a year I have become a self-taught swimming pool designers the pay is not great but I have found a passion in desing pool and out door living for others
Hmm..hats off to you lad. Thats great because there are those your age may have slumped into depression. Keeping on going bro & keep God close to your heart.
At 60 I had to depend on asking my older brother and sister in law for help. Her words....never feel bad about asking, we're happy to help. Now that I'm in a position 2 yrs later to help my grown daughter and her family, I too am so happy I can help. It's like giving a gift, it's always more fun to give than receive.
No shame Wende, so nice that you have a loving family...
@@charuuppal7043 I am surely lucky in that regard.
I knew a man who grew up in the 1950's. Four people in a 3-room house. He said they were "poor" but they didn't know it because everyone around them lived the same way. Kids played with each other outside and no one had a TV, so there was no exposure to mass marketing. No one thought they were lacking for anything. They were happy. P.S. Your pie looks delicious!
Thank you for sharing your story. My son is going through something similar. He is a musician and his world fell apart last April right as he was graduating from college. He lost his job, his band folded, and he had to move back to his hometown so we could help him. It has been hard for him.
My heart goes out to him, my brother has recently hit the reset button on his life, scary for him but hopefully fruitful experience in the long term. Wishing the best for yours. Thank you for sharing
My son as well, he left a job in NC that he said was like making him wither each time he walked thru the door, he came home and is following his dream of cooking. It was so hard he said to take our help but I told him as a parent, you want to help them. He will understand that if he ever has children.
Many blessings to you.
Getting family support is absolutely WONDERFUL! Never be ashamed to ask parents for help because one day you will return the favor. As a mother, grandmother and daughter, I have developed a support system that works well for all 4 generations!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Whenever I'm feeling stressed I watch one of your videos
From a father’s perspective, I want/need my children to ask for my help. It is part of my fulfillment as a father and dad.
I believe this is my favorite video of yours thus far. You simply motivate me to take things slowly, enjoy the little things and appreciate the nature around me.
Thanks for sharing your perspective as a father.
I am 54 years old, divorced, with grown children and 5 grandchildren. Last year my employer retired and due to circumstances in my country I have been unable to find a new job. I now live with my daughter (who has need of my practical help and support, being a single mother of 3, in a corporate job, working from home) and have a lot of my needs taken care of. However, my parents (81 years old) are supporting me financially. It was and is a very difficult thing for me. But my dad said, many years ago already, that he will never allow me to sink. Now I understand their perspective better.
I am blessed by God with the family He gave me, and am extremely grateful for their support, both my daughter and my parents.
My parents died when I was 29 and 30. I’ve had to take care of myself ever since. It was extremely hard at times. A lot of the time. I am 53 and proud that I am such a strong and independent person...I’ve pulled myself up out of financial and even emotional despair, by my own bootstraps, more times than I can count. However I don’t know how to ask for help let alone receive it. I truly remind myself of the song desperado. That’s me. I love my simple life and I’m an introvert and a loner... still, I wonder what it would be like to have my mom or my dad all these years. The only ones who were there for me. You are lucky to have people to lean on. We all should have that.
Sorry to hear about your loss at a young age and that it was hard to find anyone to rely on. Many people live that way around the world. But that you survived and can look back and see your own strength is what counts. I am sure along the way, despite being introvert you have directly helped people and inspired many without knowing. It is indeed a great thing to have people to rely on. Everyone should have that. Being in survival mode always is not good for the soul. But now that you know you have done it all, may be asking for and allowing others to help you when needed is another skill to incorporate. And possibly much simpler than what you have acquired already. Wishing you the best. And friends and many who you can build an interdependent friendship with.
Dear Kristin, that is very hard and I imagine your loss has had a great impact on you. This may not make a ton of sense, but being open to receive the help of others will attract them to you, so that you can enjoy that wonderful feeling of both giving and receiving. You are very similar to me. Life is meant to be lived with others (as much or as little as you want) we should allow ourselves to do this bit by bit in a way that feels comfortable. I was advised to consider getting a pet, that is not always practical, but their love is a way to help us to open back up to the fullness of our heart. And it is that openness that is the key to welcoming the help and support most of us want. Maybe allow your beautiful heart to slowly open through practices as heart opening meditation or a gentle yoga. RUclips is a great resource. Going slowly and gently, of course. Much love ❤️
@@fc4660 thank you. Opening my heart is my number one lesson these days. ❤️ luckily I am a happy introvert and loner, but I absolutely hope to make some supportive female connections in my life. And oh yes, animals (and nature) have always been my true angels. Thank you for your words!
@@charuuppal7043 thank you. ❤️ I think I have helped and inspired others, and many times strangers have done the same for me.
Hi. I have a story similar to yours. Both parents gone by the age of 23. I too am strong and independent but I don't know how to ask for help either. I don't feel I have anything in common with those who have or have had 'help.' And I'm a failure because I didn't accomplish more than I have.
There’s no shame in asking for help. That’s a sign of wisdom. Pride comes before a fall after all so being too proud to ask for help is for the foolish. Lovely video.
When I was eighteen I moved out of my parents' house and began working while putting myself through college. People in my generation pretend that problems younger people have don't exist just because we didn't have those problems. Getting help used to be shameful, but now it is (probably) essential, respectable and even responsible.
Your humility and willingness to understand and believe the stories of those much younger than you is wonderful. I am grateful for the understanding. It does mean a lot.
So true!
Everyone has problems. That is normal.
Your RUclips channel brings so much peace!
Can I just that your voice is so very peaceful and soothing to hear, especially for people who deal with anxiety. Thanks for sharing these wonderful experiences with the world! :)
Family should always there to always lend support. Family is the foundation of our lives. I have been criticized by well meaning friends for providing assistance here and there as my children needed it. Today I can proudly say I have 3 grown children who are financially independent and are adulting well on their own.
I was one of those people who felt it was embarrassing to ask parents for help after you've left, but I kicked my pride aside and did it after a job loss. He reminded me that he had to ask his mom for help in his 30s, so don't be ashamed.
That is very often the case, happened to both my parents, too.
I am 32 years old but I am feeling so old to change my life
@@juanpedro4083 no you are not old, age is just a number and life is not a race. slowly but surely you will be doing okay in life. just take your time and reset your life.
@@nana9624 would you mind if I ask your age?
@@juanpedro4083 ~ I’m 47 and still my life is always changing. 32 is sooooo young!
I am Irish and we never stop giving dig outs to our kids or family...money or resourses flows in all directions and comes back to us if given with an open heart...We all work hard but sometimes there are unforseen situations or circumstances that pitch us or our kids into crisis..its comforting to know you can rely on those we love to be there...as a life long giver a friend reminded me lately of how poor I am at allowing people to give a little back when i was very ill...I gratefully assisted help and it saved my life. My expressed gratitude for the assistance given brought me closer to those who helped and I learned the magic of giving is a reciprocal one...everyone benefits...so relax Payola...accept...and pay it forward when the time is right.
Ay, preciosa, a las mamás (y a los papás también) nos da tanto gusto apoyar a nuestros hijos adultos. Siempre estamos listos , con los brazos abiertos, para recibirlos y ayudarlos. Algún día ustedes nos ayudarán a nosotros.
There is NO such thing as a "self-made" person. We all need help, to be needed, to give, and to receive. Fairy, I'm glad you were able to hack a life that works best for you -- it's inspiring to me at 41, as I don't have it figured out. I do know, however, as someone very much alone, how wonderful it is (or would be) to have support. For anyone reading, look to your loved ones with appreciation and gratitude! XOXO
That has GOT to be the most BEAUTIFUL pie I have ever seen!! I was a Special Education Teacher for 14 years, until some health challenges came along, now I am a "stay at home Grandma." 😊 I am so inspired by your lovely, peaceful videos!
I did not have parents I could ask when I needed help-you can bet I help my sons...often. They work hard and I make sure they know they have a soft place when needed. I must say, that was the prettiest pie crust I have ever seen.
I don’t have parents either but I will do everything I can for my kids now and when they’re older.
My parents are dead ( my father died 20 years ago, my mother 15 years ago), but I still miss them, because they were able to give me good ideas, when I thought there was no possibility, but at the same time they encouraged me to be independent. Love your videos. Greetings from Italy, Lake Maggiore
My word..........That pie......I am moved to tears......you possess so much talent. Martha Stewart ain't got nothing on you......
In Austria now itˋs 6.30 am and Thursday. Every single week, when my family is still sleeping, First I watch your Video, and the day starts brighter. ( sorry my englisch isnˋt the best! ) Best wishes from the Tyrolean Alps!
The pie looked amazing! My parents helped each of their five children and all of their grandchildren - all at different times, different amounts and in different ways. My dad told me: “once you have kids, you are no longer working for yourselves”. It’s what good humans do. PS beautiful story!
Sweetie, I now rely heavily on help from my mom, and I'm 63! I've become disabled, and I'm sure not ashamed to admit that my precious mom helps. I'm truly blessed. I implore people to not be mean to others, but rather pray for them to find miraculous provision.
Probably the best filming, editing and dialogue I have seen on RUclips. The beauty and serenity of a Fairy Tale Princess is just the best addition. :)
lovely video, just wish the talking was louder and clearer and the music softer or gone. volume up, earphones and captions on and still struggling to hear clearly enough enjoy this beautiful piece.
I loved your soft calm soothing voice and the music. Everything was perfect
@@TZ2OurLittleDogToo I love the music but I agree with you. It could be lower in volume, at least when she is speaking.
you're a Therapeutic, in the midst of this chaotic year.. Thank you so much. I am always waiting for your videos every week. You help someone's life out there I am one of them. Not physically but with your calming persona, your serenity, your simplicity, the outlook of life you have. You encouraged me to see life as it is .
I love your site so much. It comforts me.
I am Bulgarian and it's neither uncommon, nor embarrassing in my culture for children to get help from their parents or even live with them forever. People move for school or marriage, of course, but they are not pressured to... Well, we are pressured to get married, but not to move out :D I moved 3 hours away from my parents after high school and even though I had access to incredible opportunities for personal and academic growth, traveled the world, and met wonderful people (including my husband), I've always been a little bit sad that my parents were no longer direct witnesses of my growth.
Happy Birthday, Luke!
Thank you, once again, my friend for being such an encouraging, yet quiet, voice in a very loud and hectic world
I’m touched by how much of your life you shared with us in this video. You’ve helped more people than you might realize!
I'm a teacher for many years, but I found that only teaching is not enough, I still have so many things I want to share with the wold, that's why I started my YT channel, even though it's far from the point of making money out of it, but at least YT is one of my way to express myself and I'm happy for it.
I would reevaluate those friends who pointed out that in their opinion it’s embarrassing to ask for help. Parents are always there for you. Someday you will be there for them.
Everyone needs help sometimes. Just beware whom you ask for. 💚🙏
Love your rolling pin.
I’m an adult who moved back home to live with her parents years ago. I got really sick at the time and needed to leave my job. Of course, I was devastated, but years later, I enjoy living with my parents. We get along well, help each other, and I think it’s better to be with family than to sit in an empty apartment eating dinner alone every day.
I’ve had manyyyyy people tell me I’m wrong for this and call me a deadbeat (even tho I work). But... I don’t have a significant other and I don’t want to live alone. My family and I enjoy each other’s company. I don’t see what the problem is?
Never be ashamed, I moved in and out a few times with my parents and no one seemed it was a problem.
No shame in that at all. Good for you that you have a good family relationship.
That is the normal way of life. To be around those who love you, and who better than a caring family. Most of the world still lives that way. Wise way. 18 is no age to be on your own as people in developed world has created. One still needs emotional, financial, psychological help. Check out the study done on a town called Rosetto, Pennsylvania about communities and health of our 'physical hearts.' May you always have guidance and blessing of your loving elders on you.
I could never tell that you've been making videos for only over a year. The quality of your content & cinematography is just...rich & fulfilling. Happy to see how far you've come :)
There's definitely a shift happening. Many are tired of the homogenized, globalized world that has developed. Many want simplicity and a decentralized existence.
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Fuck yeah
I'm so happy for this shift indeed!
Yes!!!
@@braveheartlioness
You won't be happy very long, especially when their agenda is fully implemented. They want you to eat bugs, own nothing and be happy.
I have been so flustered with my hectic life lately... this was just the break that I needed 💗
Same!!! 😣
I'm 18 and moving out of my hometown to attend university and this calms me down as much as it calls me out. My degree will take 6 years and my childhood dog is already 8, I'm afraid shd dies before I an even return home. My sister is only 14 years old and she is my love and joy, I took care of her since we were too small to see over the desk. My mom, recently divorced, is pursuing a degree she dreamed about. I'm afraid I'm gonna miss them so much... but at the same time I love it. Not the freedom, the joy, I'm going to uni after all!
Edit: I actually ended up passing the exam on my own city so no more moving out! Now I can have both.
I wish you the best darling!!
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YOU'RE PUERTO RICAN?! Omg this brings me so much joy! I relate to you so much but felt that in doing so, I was "betraying my heritage." I have so much family tell me that my interests and aesthetic makes me not "Puerto Rican" and it's so demeaning. It's good to know that someone like you both shares my ethnicity and is purely herself, with no borders around that. It is so awesome to see. Side note though, your mother is absolutely beautiful, and you and her eating cheese and coffee brings me such nostalgia. Blessings to you and your family
Much love to u and your family. From your fellow 🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷🇵🇷😊😊😊😊
Wow I thought when I first saw these videos she was Finnish or Norwegian, and in the Norwegian mountains!
I thought so also....I need to get some Yaucono Coffee...( on a side note).
Bonjour tout le monde! I am 43 voiceover artist, audiobook narrator .I used to be a school teacher for 15 years and I took the leap last September to be fully self-employed as a voiceover actress.
Congratulations 👏🏻👏🏻
As a 21 year-old young adult, who is just about to move out from her parents' house, it was so calming to get to know your story. We are so blessed to have our family, not just in childhood, but in our entire lives. Sending you lots of energy from Transylvania!
Completely agree! I’m also a young 20-something that lived with her family through college and now, as I approach the end of graduate school, have to think about my next move. Wishing you the best of luck with your transition!
Dear CottageFairy, you sound like one, for sure. I love your voice, and the way you decorated that pie made me cry. Such attention and kindness, to create that Birthday gift for Luke. I had to sit for a while, with my tears, looking at the low golden sunlight on the trees, through my large living room window, thinking about all the madness, the confusion, anger, and anxiety that goes on in humanity right now. Here in The Netherlands, we're in a 3rd hard lockdown for 3 weeks, at least, that's the plan. While cases and hospitalisation are rising much. My two kittens are a comfort to me, and they watched my tears for the first time.
They arrived on October 23rd in my home, brother and sister. Thorin and Meis. Meis is the Dutch word for a girl.
You're sincere in creating your life and work, and I'm sure you'll find your way, with the help of family, and friends. Important.
That black rabbit's ears were just large enough to be noticed, on your lap. That's so funny to discover, while Luke was beaming gratefully while enjoying the pie. By the way, the view from your window is stunning! I wonder if it's Wales or some mountainous area in Britain. I do understand that you're not making your whereabouts known, that's very wise. But nature is gorgeous where you are.
Family support is not a failing nor anything to be ashamed of. Nor also the support of friends. We all have hard times, family and friends a those who love you, they welcome the chance to show their love. I am much older than you, I have had many chances to help those I love, and they me. Why are we here together if not to help love and care for those we love.
Numbers 369- Nikola Tesla heard of him?
What about David Icke
I am a 63 year old woman who has always followed your channel. I have been in exactly the same position as you when I was 23 and went back home to my mum and dad. There I felt grounded and safe. I now have a 27 year old daughter and 25 year old son and I love the fact that they come to me when their life is not going well. Thank you for sharing this.
Hello how are you doing 😊😊😊☺️😊👋
Your story about the almost-exploding pie reminds me of the time when I made dinner for the man who became my husband. I burned the rice. When I showed him, he said, “Thank you,” and he ate it. That was one of the many little incidents that showed me that we could live well together. We could make mistakes and help each other, and, also, when things got tough and one of might start to fray emotionally, we could be there for each other. In marriage (and if and when kids come along) making do and finding the happiness in that is often more needed than making beautiful or making perfect.I think that almost-exploding pies can be a blessing, when you can enjoy them together.
I'm a mother of 5 adult children and they need my help often. I'm divorced and as a single parent it's very hard , but I'm grateful to be able to help when necessary.
M son is a comedian and with the Pandemic he has suffered tremendously and needed my help in every way.especially emotionally.
I feel that we must support each other as much as is needed.
Wow, I am a single mother of 5 adult children too, lovely to read your comment, they are all still living with me, I am trying to enjoy them as much as I can, they are my beautiful gift.
@@marciahenriquez4605 Ah, Enjoy every minute. Mine have flown out the nest . Long ago 2007. Yes , precious gifts our adult children. I'm grateful to have them.
Thank you so much for sharing.
Be Strong mom.
Thank you for saying this, Carol. As a parent of four adult kids, I can certainly relate. When they need us, we should help them out, if we're able. Life is tough these days.
@@shopgirl_ny152 Thank you. For me it's an active way to accompany my children through their stages of life.
Love is what we do.
Ohhhhh that pie looks delicious. Err...Do you deliver? Lol. Hun, I’m glad you had the courage to ask for help. Everyone of us has been down that road.
#TheCottageFairy. I love seeing mother and daughter photo. You are lovely like your mother. Have a lovely venture in your new life and venture.💙🙏🕊
Your not the only one who had to help this past month. I try to look at it as a blessing that your parents could help! Your videos are nice&relaxing😊🌈
OMG!!!!! THIS IS WHAT I DESPERATELY NEEDED!!! FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT!!! I FELT GUILTY WHEN MY MOM "WILLINGLY" WANTS TO HELP ME BECAUSE OTHERS SAID I'M BURDENING MY MOM. I don't understand why people always have to make me feel like shit for accepting help. I am just a student, how am I even supposed to be self-sufficient???!!!! This is so stressful. I always felt bad.
@@natureloversadventures7335 Thank you so much for the warm comment!
Does not matter what anybody says, the only person who matters is your mom and she desires to help.
No one is helping you but mom, so ignore the ones who are not helping.
@@Jacksonvilleplanespotting2 yeah. Thank you. Lately, I've been doing a lot of thinking about these kinda things. I'll put some distance with those type of people.
@@random_life_things your welcome sweet heart. Listen, after you finish school, if you finish, you will still need your mom in some shape or form. I am in my thirties, married with a kid and I still need my mom. I expect my kid to always need me even when he is my age and I’m preparing for that. It’s all good love, I’m sure your a great kid and your mom is proud.
Blessings.
@@Jacksonvilleplanespotting2 I just realized one thing, even my mom relied on her mom(my grandma), from time to time.
Absolutely NOT 'failing at adulthood'!!!
That you have family to turn to is a wonderful gift.
That they help you is yet another.
I'm at a crossroad in my own life, signed off work and recovering from a severe mental breakdown. I've found your content to be extremely calming and valuable during my recovery, and this video in particular has given me some small encouragement as to how I will take stock of my choices moving forward, which, over the past 6 months, has been quite impossible. You're a wonderful person, Paola, and the work you do here on RUclips is invaluable.
I understand. I went through something similar a couple of summers ago. Take the time that you need, if you can. Turns out that I had been trying to do everything alone with no support and along the way my mom passed. 6 years later I was stopped by my own self and forced to focus on mourning. I'm doing really well these days! An amazing mental health professional has helped me to heal like no other in 25+ years of coping with depression. I hope you get the same wholeness and relief. Peace.
@@mariebernier3076 thank you for reaching out with your story and showing recovery is possible. Glad to hear you're doing well!
As a parent you never want your child to feel so alone that they can't ask for your help. When you see your child doing everything right but need a little boost, it's a parents' joy & honour to give them that lift. xo
My Mother has always made the most delicious "ugly cake". My family wouldn't have it any other way. Thank you for sharing your videos. They are truly a gift to watch. Much love from San Diego, CA. ❤💛💚
your videos, voice and most importantly, your beautiful soul heals mine, thank you Paola
❤️ thank you very much
You're still here and still adulting, making the world better. You have nothing to regret/be ashamed of and it speaks to your character that you did accept help and have done so well for yourself. Best wishes to you.
Lol, Paola, those saying it's embarrassing to ask for help are asking for help, but disguising it as "delegating!" No lie, I SAW this! As if asking one's mom to clean your house when you over commit, a house she doesn't live in, is not asking for help. As if it's partly her job, somehow, to do this. I died laughing. Nobody is doing it all alone.
That pie....was gorgeous... The love you put into things gives my heart joy....hoping there are millions more young people like you. Your mother's heart must be bursting with pride♡ you are a light in my very busy life.... a breath of fresh air once again. Sending love from Tampa...K
I totally can relate with fear and anxiety of making ends meet and getting by... But never be ashamed of what you must do - It makes you a better person!!! Love your videos 😊
Thank you very much ❤️ yes I am so glad that I am finally feeling stable, a journey with many twists and turns. Hugs to you
Paola you’re such a young beautiful woman and as long as you have FAITH in yourself, you can and will get through very hard times... Times you never ever think you’ll come out of - But with your faith you’ll get through them all!!! To me it’s the Single most important thing you can have in your life 😊!!! Hang in there and keep in mind I’m always praying for you!!! Have a calm night.....
I just stumbled upon your channel today, and I been binge watching your videos. Your videos are highly inspiring, and calming. You are very creative, and inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. Keep up the great work you are doing, you are doing awesome with your videos!
Found her channel been binge watching also . I’m ready to get a cottage
You are an inspiration and please i dont agree with what u mentioned that its a feeling of "failure" to ask for help from others. The feeling of belonging and being true to yourself is the most important. Heres to more videos from the cottage fairy
🙌🏻 beautifully put ✨✨
Same
I also stumbled upon her channel and I wanted to say the exact same things. Inspiring gifted young lady. ~Joanna♡ NW Ohio
I became independend really late in my adult life ( only at 30) and I felt really bad about that. I struggeld with future anxiety and depression and I didnt know what I wanted to do for a living. I studied for some time but people at university would tell me all the time that this subject wouldnt put foor on the table so I made my favourite hobby into my job: child care. I am now a childcare-assistent.
I hope you know how proud you can be of yourself for havong found something that you love doing.