I loss confidence being diagnosed with an illness that changed my features and made me truly uncomfortable. I now have the courage to rebuild my confidence while building an online beauty school! I’m scared but I’m doing it!
Goodness: Every 4-5 minutes, RUclips is hitting up this video with ads that stall for 5 seconds, then play for 5 seconds before one can skip. It really “Oh squirrels “ the subject matter. But….I’m still here, learning & will play it again to pull it altogether to get this into my soul. 😊
This video couldn't come at a better time. New job in a completely new career and nervous as hell. Feeling like everyone is judging and wondering if I should have gotten hired but I have to keep going despite the fear. My family is counting on me and I know Im not the only one so good luck to everyone else also! Keep moving
I’m an entrepreneur and when I’m not getting sales my confidence plummets, when I’m getting leads and deals done I feel great, but I want to be confident all the time. A huge fear is finances that can suck the life out of me. I’m alone, in my mid sixties and have to take care of me.
I am the same way, when I was a high performer wealth manager it was easy to me & I was very confident. Had a traumatic health issue had to medically retire. I paint now & I’m totally insecure because no one has bought anything yet.
Off topic but I ❤ the blue paint in this particular set! It is close to the color I had mixed for my crafting studio. Bright blue, it is a happy color.
Mel, will you consider exploring with your viewers the idea that we are all eternal beings, perfect just as we are? It can be easy to get bogged down with all of the “shoulds”. I love the saying: “Stop shoulding all over yourself.”❤️
Yes, I agree but I would hate to start a new job as a manager or something, hate the job and quit. This is what has stopped me from doing many things. A new company trains me, does all the paperwork, hiring process, etc and then I quit on them. How long do you try something if it doesn’t work out? How long should I stay at a new job I tried but hate??
I have found that, during the times when I cared about being liked, that was when I was much more likely to get disrespected. And this was one of the things that fueled my depression (that you can't just be kind and get the same in return (in fact, many people get rewarded for bad behaviour)). For the longest time, I was under the impression that I would have to call people out on their behaviour, in order to hope for respect in return. Being confrontational is not a part of my personality, because I can't stand drama; and so I sadly avoid making new friends and stick to the couple of friends who I know isn't going to take my kindness for weakness. It is surprising how often people will see it as an opportunity to kick somebody down when they perceive them as being weak. When somebody treats me like that, they will often somehow find it surprising that I would walk away from them (as if I would desire to be around them more??). And then you get people who are only really nice to you when they see you down, but will start criticizing the crap out of you as soon as you're happy again. So after all of the years of experiencing people who don't like to see me be happy, I have learned that I need to consider my own mental wellbeing when deciding whether I want to continue engaging with that person, and just be civil in a work setting when you just talk to them if it is necessary.
*****MEL please help me understand. ***** Yes, the timing of this is crazy. I was literally just now talking to God about how I want confidence and need to stand up for myself but whenever I do, people don’t like it or like me even my family . I have zero confidence. I have lost confidence because of many reasons … I’m older and don’t look as good as I used to, two of my children won’t talk to me, my husband cheated and left me, etc. I was telling Him that it’s not fair because other people do it and nobody thinks twice about them being confident or direct. But I feel disliked by everyone anytime I defend myself or have confidence. I really struggle with this and I am a people pleaser and don’t want to be. It just hurts me so much when people don’t like me and I don’t understand. Some people are very confident and very bold and people don’t think anything about it with them but when I do it, I’m disliked. Why?
You are the best. I wish l met you 55 years ago. No you are not that old. Yes to try, action. To give yourself a big ‘lift, push, shove’. Now my old age lm trying to play 🎹 🎼, & study 🇸🇪 📚 language
Successful people do not brag non stop...that is not confidence She worked hard and is respected. No need to keep saying I am most popular podcast in the world So Often
I loss confidence being diagnosed with an illness that changed my features and made me truly uncomfortable. I now have the courage to rebuild my confidence while building an online beauty school! I’m scared but I’m doing it!
I charge you and bless you for taking this bold step towards confidence. ❤
You can do Anything, just Believe in yourself!! Best wishes 😊
You got this!! 💪🏽
So awesome 👌
I love this. Makes complete sense but when you’re nervous or afraid of failing or looking stupid easy to forget!
I listen to this one on repeat!!! Thank you Mel!❤
Beautiful show Mel !! ❤
You always make me tear up! Love you Mel!
Goodness: Every 4-5 minutes, RUclips is hitting up this video with ads that stall for 5 seconds, then play for 5 seconds before one can skip. It really “Oh squirrels “ the subject matter. But….I’m still here, learning & will play it again to pull it altogether to get this into my soul. 😊
This video couldn't come at a better time. New job in a completely new career and nervous as hell. Feeling like everyone is judging and wondering if I should have gotten hired but I have to keep going despite the fear. My family is counting on me and I know Im not the only one so good luck to everyone else also! Keep moving
The timing of this is crazy
Yes
I’m an entrepreneur and when I’m not getting sales my confidence plummets, when I’m getting leads and deals done I feel great, but I want to be confident all the time. A huge fear is finances that can suck the life out of me. I’m alone, in my mid sixties and have to take care of me.
I understand this totally... but we got this...😊
I am the same way, when I was a high performer wealth manager it was easy to me & I was very confident. Had a traumatic health issue had to medically retire. I paint now & I’m totally insecure because no one has bought anything yet.
Thank you for reminding me.
HTnask Mel, this video is very relevant to me. When you said, we would rather be respected than liked.
Off topic but I ❤ the blue paint in this particular set! It is close to the color I had mixed for my crafting studio. Bright blue, it is a happy color.
Your so right ❤
Mel, will you consider exploring with your viewers the idea that we are all eternal beings, perfect just as we are? It can be easy to get bogged down with all of the “shoulds”. I love the saying: “Stop shoulding all over yourself.”❤️
@@kate1830 I like that, I’ve been known to should all over myself but I’m learning
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.❤❤
“Truth confidence is the moment you’re willing to try”- bring home with me.
Yes, I agree but I would hate to start a new job as a manager or something, hate the job and quit. This is what has stopped me from doing many things. A new company trains me, does all the paperwork, hiring process, etc and then I quit on them. How long do you try something if it doesn’t work out? How long should I stay at a new job I tried but hate??
Thank you Mel for sharing
So great and amazing❤❤❤
I have found that, during the times when I cared about being liked, that was when I was much more likely to get disrespected. And this was one of the things that fueled my depression (that you can't just be kind and get the same in return (in fact, many people get rewarded for bad behaviour)). For the longest time, I was under the impression that I would have to call people out on their behaviour, in order to hope for respect in return. Being confrontational is not a part of my personality, because I can't stand drama; and so I sadly avoid making new friends and stick to the couple of friends who I know isn't going to take my kindness for weakness. It is surprising how often people will see it as an opportunity to kick somebody down when they perceive them as being weak. When somebody treats me like that, they will often somehow find it surprising that I would walk away from them (as if I would desire to be around them more??). And then you get people who are only really nice to you when they see you down, but will start criticizing the crap out of you as soon as you're happy again. So after all of the years of experiencing people who don't like to see me be happy, I have learned that I need to consider my own mental wellbeing when deciding whether I want to continue engaging with that person, and just be civil in a work setting when you just talk to them if it is necessary.
Thanks!
*****MEL please help me understand. *****
Yes, the timing of this is crazy. I was literally just now talking to God about how I want confidence and need to stand up for myself but whenever I do, people don’t like it or like me even my family . I have zero confidence. I have lost confidence because of many reasons … I’m older and don’t look as good as I used to, two of my children won’t talk to me, my husband cheated and left me, etc. I was telling Him that it’s not fair because other people do it and nobody thinks twice about them being confident or direct. But I feel disliked by everyone anytime I defend myself or have confidence. I really struggle with this and I am a people pleaser and don’t want to be. It just hurts me so much when people don’t like me and I don’t understand. Some people are very confident and very bold and people don’t think anything about it with them but when I do it, I’m disliked. Why?
Thank you for sharing ✌🏽💖🤟🏼✨️🧚♂️
Excellent
Truth
Omg im doing this right now on a walk. 56:58 its real!
❤❤❤thanks
Cute top! Can I have the name of this clothing store?
So, you are saying by doing something it improves confidence.
Thank you Mel.You are right.
If you idolize The Rock, I am your karma because I adolize you.🥰
Motivation bring you the confidencewith ground realty 😂 6:01
Prep
Willing to do
What would Tate do
Perse
Being urself
Loud
You are the best. I wish l met you 55 years ago. No you are not that old. Yes to try, action. To give yourself a big ‘lift, push, shove’. Now my old age lm trying to play 🎹 🎼, & study 🇸🇪 📚 language
Timestamps please !😅
Successful people do not brag non stop...that is not confidence
She worked hard and is respected. No need to keep saying I am most popular podcast in the world So Often
Mel you are actually me.thankyou .May Allah bless you
Who is allah?
i love you girl
I love you lady 🎉
The willingness to TRY starts with liking yourself.
Thank you for acknowledging the lack of good resources on this topic and thank you for this episode❤
❤❤❤
Looking at my phone is putting myself in "shame mode". Oh please, give me a break!
Love your video, Mel Robbins
Mel I like your podcasts but maybe you repeat you are the Best, Greatest Most Popular in the World too often.
Lol, how do you think she got there, she foresaw that manifested that, she bred that, WORKED for that bragging right! Holy moly
Love it
Amazing
I don't consent
Maybe start by learning to spell unshakeable?
You seem fun to be around
You seem fun to be around
Confidence is the ability to be wrong but trying anyway 🙂 I think you missed the point mate
10:30 mel is a god send. Downloaded this and will be studying this yearly. Appreciate you so much all that you share and this video. 🙏🩵
You always make me tear up! Love you Mel!
Thanks!
You always make me tear up! Love you Mel!