Before You Gossip, Watch This
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- Опубликовано: 16 апр 2020
- Have you ever watched the negative chain reaction gossiping can create? Jay Shetty warns that gossiping and complaining create negativity in your life and the lives of those around you. The more negative you are now, the more negative your life is likely to be in the future.
Watch the full video to learn the truth about how gossiping can negatively affect your relationships, your attitude, and even your brain! If you don’t want to hear gossip about yourself, stop gossiping about others.
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“Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”
― Socrates
Bingo 👍🏿
👏👏👏❤ so thru !
So real. And only possible as the thought of great Socrates........
I thought it was Eleanor Roosevelt's?
Soo true
The world will be a better place if people could just focus on their own lives!
then you have a world full of selfish people ...
Bro i think he means, looking positively on other persons issues..
And focusing on our life too.
so eloquently said
@@mandeeqahmed3611 yes his comment is a good solution for this problem.
*Don't share your weakness with anyone*
*You never know who is going to use it against you*
I don’t care about anyone gossiping about me. I’m grinding my youth away, putting real hours into what I am truly passionate about and what I believe will turn into a massive success for me
Agree
Screenshooting this to be used as a affirmation. Keep that mindset girl!!
This is why I stopped gossiping. What happens in somebody else's life has nothing to do with me in the first place
Unless of course they are slandering you in public
All I know and believe is WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND 💔❤️💔🙏🌞
I hope so.
A gossip ends at the wise person's ears
Trueee
You are absolutely right. Obviously, if you cut off the gossipmongers I don't the rumors or gossip will go further.
I absolutely hate gossip....i used to participate in it, and realize how bad it is.....when you call someone out on their gossipping, they get very defensive and hold a grudge
Rightly said: "If we dont want to hear gossip about us, first we should stop gossiping about others..." And those who gossip to us will gossip about us too.
N if we r gossiping we can say positive things about others also instead of negative.
i stopped gossiping for years.. gossipping is useless.. use our energy to do the right and healthy things.. GBU all
Agree
How do you do it?
I've been told that when we talk negatively about someone we are really talking about ourselves.
Coloring with Pat & Wilson it’s called projection!
That can be so true
@@lindaosborne1617 on point
We’re harsh towards others because we’re harsh towards ourselves. Society places ridiculous expectations on us and we fail to meet them of course so we tear ourselves down and in turn do the same towards others. Someone who is full of self-love and in a positive place wouldn’t gossip about others.
Its so true. Karma is there. And i think there is no neccesity for anyone to gossip about other people. Life is short. Lets just spread only love😊
Yes right instead of talking negative of other we can say good thing to.
You never know what the other one is going through 💕 show respect and kindness to everyone no matter who they are. Kindness will always take us further
Yes right instead of talking negative we can say positive things about others also
Hi Erika how are you. Do you remember me
This is the truth. The problem is we ignore the fact that they probably are going thru something and/or we assume we KNOW why they're doing what they're doing. "If your words are no better than silence, keep silent".
I heard an amazingly positive thing about “good gossip” from a child psychologist on a RUclips video, he said after you praise someone (a child) let them overhear you whispering about their good accomplishment to someone else, even if you are pretending on the phone. Overhearing gossip is three times more powerful both negatively and positively than someone telling you something straight to your face. So let’s all try to spread good words about others to others, build each other up instead of tearing them down, life is hard enough without adding to it by intentionally hurting others.
This is the most positive thing I have read today... Thank you
Red glory; very well said, thank you for sharing.
People desire successful is by gossiping others.
The most amazing thing is that I never indulged in gossiping until the last year. I shifted and the people around me changed. I participated in gossiping to mix in or just to fit in. Everyone was so into it. I remember one of my 'friends' telling me how she loved gossiping and I thought that was just weird...I mean, who openly says that they love gossiping?
And I just realized that I was trying to fit in with the wrong people. Gossiping had put such a stress on my brain that I was frustrated at the end of the day, and I would blame the new environment for the frustration.
Gossiping is one thing that will hold you back. Even if you are not afraid that your superiority is temporary owing to gossiping, believe me when I say this - It will place immense stress upon your brain and you won't even realize it until like 2 years of your life have been wasted owing to frustration, unexplained anger, and annoyance.
I totally relate to this! I used to have toxic colleagues and friends who were gossiping and i knew they did but had to be around them as I didn’t know what to do. It affected my mental health so much! Since I became self aware and started loving myself, my life has changed completely ❤️🙏🏻
My "friends" gossip on me or that is what I think, I wish I could prove it, I see how out of control they talk when they get excited but I didn't see them gossiping about close friends yet, not sufficiently to be sure I should leave them yet anyway. I am loossing confidence in them, I think I gonna go my on way.
*Who thinks people gossip because they are jealous?*
Definitely 👍
Reflective identity
Yes n No both
Because sometimes someone comes to you for jst to share their feeling ,thought etc
N another situation where the some one will come n say the things that r not having any kind of meaning jst having negative words for other.
Hell yeah and totally relatable. They will rot in hell. Oh wait! They're already in hell. They've got nothing but miserable lives.
Yes!
People gossip. People are insecure, so they talk about other people so that they won’t be talked about. They point out flaws in other people to make them feel good about themselves. Do you agree?
Totally!
Yep..
Agreed.
Kinda.
Yes.
We live in the technological era so no one can escape the digital footprint.
What you do today, will be known even after you are gone.
Guard your reputation with your life.
Iam always inspired with your messages in the comment section of almost all the channels I go to
@@thelmabukikun1485 Much love.
You should join me.
Yes...I should
Omg I found you again!!!
The thing about gossiping is its sounds juicy and interesting, until it's about you!!!
When people gossip with you, they will gossip about you. Powerful point.
I know quite a lot of Indian Aunties who need to hear this. Hopefully, they take a hint and start minding their own business.
Gossip is a Global problem which affects mostly us women.. I Pray that God deliver us from the spirit of God
Not only us women.All over the WORD
Studies proven that men gossip more than women. Only difference is we hold on to it bit longer than men.
@@madhurichakraborty1254 thank you my feminist mind was kinda irked
I just made a video on this! Gossiping is so destructive to your life. When you get rid of it it’s like taking junk food out of your diet! You don’t realize all the additional stress it brings to your life until you stop doing it. I wish the best for all of you!
The tables can turn really quickly 👌🏾
Although we don't want to gossip its so contagious that you get yourself into this cause if you don't you don't fit into the peer group and stand out weird ...but its true that gossip has a negative impact. Better not to gossip about anyone and get away from the ones who do so subtly without hurting their feelings too diplomatically.
Gossip it's not positive, it doesn't make you superior and rather puts you in a position where you appear weak. Instead, build up those around you when they need help
I will never let anyone walk through ma mind with their dirty feet,the more yuh gossip at me and make me feel like am not good enough, the more I learn that I need to love my self,and shouldn't seek approval or recognitions from them,so I take it as an opportunity to learn,thanks Bro jay for sharing that to us🙏🙏 #Peace#✌✌
That can totally happen at work ; and that's a reason why I hate this place sometimes.
Gossiping is an easy way to feel connected to people but it's so insidious. Why do you think people listen to the gossips without answering back ? I think it isolates people and instils a climate of distrust against each other.
Have you ever listen or participate at a gossip session and wondered "do they talk behind my back when I'm not here ?".
I feel that sometimes you have the opportunity to encourage more positivity and honesty at your workplace, and sometimes it isn't worth the effort because the climate is already messed up.
Hey ! I'm a 19 y/o girl . You know what Mr. Jay you are like a father who teaches so much . Your words are so powerful that you change thoughts. You even don't know that your videos helped me in my tough times when I needed someone who can tell me or teach me what's good and what's not. You were like that someone who told me at that time that things will be fine and you don't even realize how much that mean.
Thank you so much for your words and helping me to make me a better person !!!
I’ve had jobs (and am currently in one) that are toxic environments. I’ve learned over the years to keep myself out of pointless discussions about other people. I just show up, keep my head down, do my work, and then go home. I also never voluntarily share information about my personal life, and when asked, I keep my answers as vague ad possible. My motto: “people can’t talk about what they don’t know about.” It’s actually quite horrible because I was asked a very personal question recently while many of my coworkers were in our staff break room by a MANAGER. I just stuck to my guns and just kept my answer vague. If she really wanted to know she could pull me aside and ask me privately. Not that it would have answered her question because there’s no way in hell I’d tell anyone (not even bosses/managers) anything even somewhat personal about my life.
I even once just made an offhand comment about something in private to the same manager (I don’t remember what it was but it wasn’t even that bad) and by the time I was midway through my shift, half the people I work with knew about it. And that was MANAGEMENT.
True, very common thing this is which people don't realize the effect of....
Gossiping creates Trouble .
I don't usually gossip but if I do, I spill the tea about beauty gurus.
Thank you Jay for giving wisdom a platform. If there's no energy in our body's inner environment for growth and repair, we are more susceptible to pain and suffering from our outer environment. Gossiping and badmouthing zaps the energy within us. Meditation music helps to increase our energy within. As a pianist, that's what I have begun to do with my music.
Ppl don't know the pain of others until they hear gossip about themselves. Dunno y ppl enjoy gossip, y ppl take out time to spreading gossip, even some ppl think gossip make them energetic.ugh! Super awkward feeling, when hear gossip about me from others. Of course, strong ppl never care gossip, either I do. Thank you Jay! ❤
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I've never felt the inclination to gossip but have been on the receiving end more than a few times, hearing outright lies of what I have been supposed to have said. It is utterly hurtful, destructive & puzzling. I'm always polite & believe a little kindness goes a long way as you never *really* know what someone else's life is truly like... I am an avid comments section reader on YT & am often horrified at some of the mean-spirited or even completely foul posts I see, wondering if anonymity makes such hate-filled people braver or whether they just *are* that negative in life. I tend to live by the premise that "Harbouring hate & anger is like drinking poison while expecting the other person to die" & know that I'd just rather not live that way.
Thank you so much Jay sir. This is exactly the time when I needed this message in my life; and here is your video. It has saved me from drifting my energy to complete waste things, like gossiping. Thank you once again for making me feel more positive and special about myself.
Thanks for your time!
Well said Jey! I'M Amazed by the Content itself a real massage.
Powered words! Thanks, Jay, for this content.
Soooo real... You are such an awesome life coach... Ty for trying to make the World a better place!!!
Thanks for such positive messages. Ignorance is the key and only remedy when we face such situations.
Thank you so much for this amazing video!!
Great video, Jay Shetty.
Thanks for sharing. Gossiping has become a norm today. We have to respect other people's privacy and mind our own business.
I don't gossip regularly however I did when I was in school now I really regret about it. I told others my negative opinion about the one whom I talked about, I didn't make fake stories or insult anyone. Now I know it is bad, I feel guilty, regret, and don't know what to do to free myself from my negative thoughts about my personality.
Love the message!!!
This is such an amazing video , short but so meaningful, i hope gossipers who watches this change.
I love your content man
You are amazing! Thank you 😊
Thanks for sharing... Whatsoever a men soweth, that SHALL he also reap.
super helpful, loved that
Very well thought Jay
I was doing this shit for so long than realized is a wrong thing. It's been 2years that I don't gossip about others. That 2 years was because I walk out of people's life to get a clean and positive soul. Kindness is everything,never do something which involve others. Let them be what they want to be. Don't judge people easily. No one is perfect. Don't let negativity ruin your life.
You can't change the world, if you can't change yourself. Don't judge others before judging yourself.
That is so so true!!!!
Inspiring as always...thanks jay
I wish more people knew about this!
Great thought♥️♥️♥️
Thank you, jay..
Thank you!😇😀
Really Love u and your words too😊
*Amazing!!*
Thanks @Jayshetty
It seems no matter where you work. You can never escape high school.
The ability to understand overpowers the desire to assume!
love this 👏
Awesome Sir I hate gossips
This is so good♥️
This is so cool!
God bless u dear.
Thanks you
You have no idea how true that was
yeah your right
❤️
thank you.
So true 👌 You cannot gossip & feel happy at the same time😝😍
Love yourself for who you're and don't trust fake new all this while these are some tough times that we're going though but this too shall pass 🌍 help others and help yourself out too ❤️ try to do every positive thing you can in your free time and also indulge yourself in some good and your favourite activities 🌸
Nice message 😔😔
Amazing ♥️
I am really happy with this video jay shetty sir thank u for this video lot information to do
Amazing ❤❤❤
True message
Never unmine someone. Never make someone feel unimportant
Amazing.
Yes, right!☺
"if you don't want to hear gossip about you,stop gossiping about others".. It's really a great message..👏👏👏.. You are always superb Jay bro.🙂😇. The content in these vedios is always inspiring us....
Amen to that
I hope few woman I have known will start focusing on work and stop gossiping.
Very true
Gossiping is extremely toxic. It just goes to show that the golden rule still stands. "If you can't say something nice or polite. Don't say anything at all!!!" Which is why people need to mind their own business
Exactly right
Exactly.
Good moral.....🤩🤩🤩
So true
People who gossip are such low life’s . That have absolutely nothing going for them .
I wish everyone at my college could watch this video and learn from it.
Is she the actress from
" fault in our stars" or her twin sister
It's the weakest foundation to build your superiority on someone else's inferiority