Looks matter a lot less than most men think. Also follow me on Instagram if you want me to answer your questions. I am going to be doing an LIVE Q/As there on Saturday
@@TheSingleGuy my girlfriend of 1 year just had borderline manifest and diagnose. Are you familiar with this? Do you have anything to say to me based on your life experience or people you know
Dang I missed the live Q and A!! well anyway heres my question: Yoo quick question, and somewhat related to "how to get women to chase you" I've been seeing this girl for a few months now (not the only girl i've been seeing) and about half way through I developed strong feelings for her and told her, and she said she didn't feel as strongly but she still liked me. Around that time I could feel her start pulling away from me emotionally and she started wanting to see me less and less often. We used to, and still pretty much do, text everyday or talk on the phone most days. It's been a few weeks now that I haven't seen her (she's both been busy with work and school, and the last week she was out of town), and I don't want to come off as too needy, and I also don't want to get hurt being more invested than her (as I was feeling hurt since we talked about her not being as into me as I am into her). So the last 4 out of 5 times/days I texted her first in the morning, and then the other day I didn't text her for a day or two and she says "so if I (as in her) don't text you first most of the time, I shouldn't expect to here from you" which kinda feels like shes asking for drama and putting me in a hard spot not to be needy and not to give her space, but like I said I already texted her first the last 4 out of 5 times. Any tips on how to deal with this? I don't want to simp and be her bitch, don't want to get more invested than I already was if she's not at the same level, and I don't want to push her away by being either too needy or not communicating enough.. I'd think the more space I give her, the more she may want to see me again, but idk, its like shes playing that against me and I can't win (and am gonna get hurt either way)
With good looks it's easier to get attention/early attraction from women. When it comes to holding that attention for long enough, now thats where it gets brutal.
Not really, I'm a guy where if I wear a tight shirt, you can see my abs through it. Whenever I approach a girl, they're usually pretty responsive, until I try to flirt, get her number or anything like that. It doesn't matter if I do it right away, or if I wait until we've talked a half dozen times. The moment I do anything that let's them know I'm interested, they're out. I used to not be in great shape, my experience was mostly the same. They were all smiles and laughing when I talked with them, UNTIL I did anything to show interest. The only major difference between me now and me then is the current me gets rejected a lot more violently, whereas out of shape me got rejected much more gently. I've literally devoted years of my life to something that makes my life worse, and extends that terrible life.
Thesingleguy....Lets replace your face with a girl and see how you fare with your super saiyan charm and wit! How many women have complimented your eyes and hair. I'm betting you've lost count.
True confidence comes from within....Quit spitting BS. Confidence is derived from movement via work. Yes, the internal is a catalyst but that is a fraction of the picture... If you look like a girl as a man, don't expect any attention from heterosexual women...Yes, this is an extreme example but clearly looks dictste the probability of success. In fact, the perception of personality is connected to appearance.
Going up to a girl is easy. Opening her is even easier. Getting her laughing, smiling and falling into the push/pull teasing dynamic that you're setting up is the easiest. Getting her interested in you, however...that's a completely different story.
I’m like 9/10 and 9 out 10girls watch me each time I walk somewhere, but after talking with them, they lose attraction.... and girls who wants me are not girls I want ... this is my big struggle....
As a good looking guy who is 22, 6,4 190lbs and not that confident when it comes to talking to women. Yes I can totally say this is 100% correct. I’m not as good with my dating life as other dudes bc I’m always worried about others judging me especially my parents. But I’m working on myself and have been for the past year and things have gotten better but I’m still no where near where I wanna be with my dating life.
Amen brotha...we re just so unsocial its painful i can type for hours but i cant do it in person when im not able to be present so that i can express myself
I can literally only get along with girls I am not very interested in. If I‘m very interested in a girl I clamp up and am not relaxed. I get a little weird and nervous when I am with a women I truly like & adore. Gotta work on that one for sure
i go out and every women is staring at me... this has been the case since 6 to 7 years and yet i'm single... i'm loosing it all together.. i can't hold up anymore..seeing below average looking guys dating hottest of the womens..! God plz help...!
Here I am the tall, 6.2", and almost good looking, but I'm really boring and don't have enough energy and goals in my life. To be honest girls come to me at first, but when things go further, they realize that I am not the person they're looking for.
It's true that ugly guys have far better dating lives as compared to good looking guys. But I have another perspective. We judge the dating life of men on the basis of the quantity and quality of women they date. So even an average girl is out of an ugly guy's league while the case is not the same for attractive guys. And I believe it's true that in general attractive people are far more insecure as compared to unattractive people.
Attractive people have to maintain their attractiveness and expectancy that they're exceptional, and so the obsession causes insecurities. Ugly people have nothing to lose, therefore nothing to obsess about.
I don't know if I'd consider myself a "good looking" guy, maybe slightly above average. It's got my foot in the door on dating apps here and there. Until they find out that I'm an introvert who doesn't drink.....then I'm instantly no longer attractive at all.
@Max Gill I can’t drink due to an alcohol intolerance issue. Get pretty sick even after like half a beer, so I stay away from it. Sucks...but what can you do right.
@@salut4396 I don’t do either, and it definitely affects the dating results. I am who I am though, just gotta try and someone accepting of that. You would think women would be more after a straight laced guy who isn’t addicted to either of those things...but that isn’t the case. Instead, you’re viewed as some kind of weirdo.
The guys that get the most women are guys that are above average looking but not overly good looking. Women are still physically attracted to these guys but don't have to worry about them cheating.
Nailed it! Most women don't want an really attractive guy who they fear would attract tons of other attractive women. They don't like competition. Many women feel insecure and intimidated by really good looking guys. Women fear rejection even more then men. And thats face it... most really good looking guys are seeking really attractive women because their standards are higher and its human nature to prefer someone of equal or more attractiveness. Thus their potential dating pool is smaller than the average looking guy. But this guy in the video is right... even good looking men need to develop other masculine traits to keep women interested. Confidence and ambition is probably the most important traits to women even above a man's physical appearance. Men who prioritize and focus on their goals and hobbies in life are very attractive to women. Women don’t like men who are needy and put them on a pedestal
My experience proves otherwise. When you’re not attractive, you feel like you’re missing something. But when you’re good looking, you feel like you’re on top of the world.
I'm very interested in learning about males and females & I watch quite a few of these. Much better then my previous interest, politics.. I've learned so much. The thing that sets your videos above is they are more high caliber in your advice. You're more on par with Jason from Atract Great Guys. This is dating advice at a higher level. I enjoyed & truly grateful for coaches like you who help men. (And the great coaches for women.) High caliber women like... no particular order. 1. Direct, no games, no manipulation 2. High standards - boundaries 3. Confidence - very sexy 4. A man that knows what he wants. 5. A man with a mission & purpose. 6. Leads 7. Loving, attentive, but not needy - gives woman space. 8. Slow & Steady 9. Kind to people around him. 10. Chilverous - sadly a dying traight 11. Healthy 12. Fun, adventurous 13. Sexy, playful, teases 14. Honest
Not sure about others, but for me its having game. Its easy enough to introduce but then escelating, making the conversation sexy, hinting at something more. All doing this while trying to balance not being a prude or a creep while maintaining good reporr.
No matter how good of a personality you have and how much of a good genuine guy you are looks will always matter if you are short, balding and ugly. Women do care and its a widespread myth that they dont. You as an bald, short ugly dude may end up with a woman. But it wont be a sexy raunchy experience. To downplay that as a good looking guy with none of those attributes is just ignorant and somewhat cruel. I am sorry but looks matter Alot more than anything else when it comes to dating. Everything else is Secondary. Its not the other way around.
I agree with you to an extent. Why I will differ is because I've dated girls: 5'7 another 5'6, and believe it or not another 5'9 (all pretty), I'm 5'4 (ugly lol). These girls gave me the chance to show them who I was, the reason why it didn't work out with either of them, well all three have different outcomes which I will not state due to length. My point being it depends/varies on the girl & how well you initially connect/communicate with them. Personally, I don't see all women as the same, each one is an individual, and I find out what it is that I am working with. Of course, I've had my share of girls judging my looks as you have stated here.
Good looking guys always seem to say personslity is key wheras truly ugly guys emphasize looks. This is the yin yang spectrum (reality) proving time and time again that looks are the precondition.
@@hurlentropy6866 Exactly, and how can they relate their life to a guy that has never been with a woman because he is short, ugly and balding? In other words been rejected for his looks his whole life? How is he going to master personality traits that land womens interest? He will just further humiliate himself. Most importantly trying it in this time of instagram era is just mission impossible. Again downplaying the importance of looks never wins me over because thats not the reality we live in. But you cant sell this game bs without having men believe that they have a shot no matter how they look to begin with.
That's a solid point, if you're good looking you just don't worry about that, and you're more likely to focus on and beat yourself up about other aspects of your personality.
The man is right. We should invest in other assets such as; knowledge, experiences and personality. Our life doesn't only revolve over a woman that's why we must venture out and become the person we are proud to be. Women will just come and go.
Ive realized im a bit boring in convo. I actually admit it. When i was younger i was more loose and carefree, as an older man i feel more uncomfortable being my weird outspokwn self.
I tend to have a high strung nature, mostly because I consume a lot of caffeine everyday. But also for other reasons, such as upbringing. I had a friend years ago tell me about some antidepressants that relax you and got me on one of them (starts with a p-you figure it out), and he saw how soft my eyes and demeanor were, and told me women will be all over that! It seemed like when I had at least some P***l in my system, women noticed me more and I even got more dates and laid more. I am not at all advocating cannabis use, but that is something else which would have women notice me. Young college girls have tried to pick me up, and even women where I live would come and talk to me. I live in Turkey, and Turkish women are some of the hardest women to get attention from and to pick up on the streets! A friend of mine said when you are a little high, you are laid back, calm, and just don't give a f**k about anything. That's a very attractive trait.
Everyone tells me I'm good looking. Im 6'6 lean build, beard dark hair dark eyes. I have dated really good looking women but the moment I start to really fall for them and express my feelings suddenly theyre not ready for long term wtf
@@ChooseFreshAtSubway Ya man, my last girl and I dated for 5 months and I told her I loved her first. Her response was shes been waiting for me to say it and told me she loved me too. A week later she said she wasn't ready for long term. Im 33 and looking to settle down but I'm sick of women's shit right now
Just a tip brother to help you in the future. Never be the first to bring up the relationship topic, that's her job. I've learned the hard way but that's the way it goes
I look it like this, if you get two gifts one with a plain cardboard box and the other with a gift wrapper. Chances are you open the one with the gift wrapper first. But the gift in the gift wrapper may turn out to be crap and the one in the plain cardboard box is the best gift you can ask for. So in retrospect looks do matter, but things NEVER end there. It's always a "What's next" kinda thing.
@@Ben-jq3ov I agree with you. But for Men looks matter more to us than for women. You rarely see a guy who looks like Paul Walker or Brad Pitt who is with someone who looks like Rosie O'Donnell
I can always get the 1st date but I found that I come off needy even the girl I want now wants to start out as friends and now she's not txting gotta move on these videos have helped out alot
That was great I always thought 💭 about this so other things that are important if not more important then looks are hygiene, not being addicted to things, good father/nurturing qualities etc
Any guy who thinks it’s good looks that gets you laid clearly haven’t lived life long enough or just haven’t been outside exploring cities, I see more physically attractive women with average to below average looking guys more than I see physically attractive guys with these women, looking good is not the main piece women care about, guys are the one’s blowing up this “looks are all it is” and it’s clearly not true
@@djbonk77 yes, women clearly care more about a man’s financial situation than his height, muscle to fat ratio, or structure of his face, it’s pretty obvious too, only guys I see who can bag any chick he wants are guys with money, being very physically attractive typically women will give you choosing signals, when you have a high level lifestyle(nice car nice home etc etc) that shows your financial situation is good, you’re choosing the woman, and women will approach you a lot based off money compared to looks
I'm sorry but a 5"6 guy has no chance against a 6"3 ripped guy. Confidence may add a few points to the first guy but he'll never be as successful as the Chad
It´s not my intention to be arrogant. But I do struggle with these issues alot lately. I do feel more insecure around women that are on my league and feel like i´m more afraid to make mistakes. Girls that think that I am out of their league gimme a sort of super confidence boost and then I don´t struggle with insecurity at all. I´m not afraid to make mistakes then. Guess it´s time to work a little harder on myself to boost up te internal world and achieve somethingss I can get condifent about..... #HardKnockLife
Being good looking is actually a curse because either women (and men) are scared of you or women will give you tons of choosing signals but still expect you to approach. And when you approach, they have higher expectations of your level of confidence just based on how you look.
I’m here something I’m in shape I say okay looks. Shd got high paid job in Leeds uk big city snd all girls ignore me abd some ugly lads on Facebook get woman I’ve been chasing for 12 months ?
It's not enough but it's one huge factor...if u are not good looking u will inevitably face insecurities when your patner goes outing with good looking people
Besides looks are not everything I think a guy still needs looks to get girls, especially young and attractive ones. It is a most important thing still in dating
Everyone tells me I’m an attractive guy. They automatically assume I have a high body count. Little do they know reality is often disappointing. I just don’t have game. However recently in my interactions with beautiful girls beyond my league, I just think to myself “what would Timothee Chalamet do or say?” That’s helped me a lot in my confidence. Especially in the way I express myself.
As stupid as it sounds, I sometimes use the shit I would say in a message in real life. As much as inboxing these thots is simpin it teaches you to carry out good conversations in person .
A thought just struck my mind that good looking people trusted that their looks could give them the girl they want so as a result they didn’t pay attention to the most important things when it comes to dating like CONFIDENCE and the rest. So since you didn’t give attention to those things, as a result, you lack them.
Confidence is extremely tricky. If your confidence is too subtle, you're perceived as not confident. If your confidence is too strong, you're seen as cocky and arrogant. Christ man, I wish I had been born a chick, with all the time I've devoted to getting into insanely good shape, none of this would be a problem and instead of drinking by myself on a Friday night, I'd be having guy after guy trying to work up the courage to come buy me a drink.
Unfortunately I’m going to have to disagree on this video because good looks make it much easier for you so if you fuck up she’s gonna give you more chances but you still have to have game.
Why separate looks from personality? Its just an illusion. Looks distorts the perception of personality and personality distorts the perception of looks. Its all connected on a spectrum!!!
I'm an earned "good looking guy". I wasn't attractive all through my youth, I was small, skinny, insecure, unconfident etc. After taking an honest look at myself, I knew I needed to improve. I embarked on a decade long journey to build up all of those areas. Physically, I am now a fully jacked guy with 6 pack abs and 17 inch arms. After spending thousands of hours practicing I've gone from a shy, insecure introvert to an energetic, outgoing extrovert. I've consumed no less than 5 different programs on game and practiced their content across thousands of interactions. I can confidently say that I am a completely transformed man. Yet, I still get rejected, sometimes violently, by almost every girl I approach. Unfortunately, what I've learned is that if the universe hates you, there's not much you can do to change your results.
@@kenc6569 Lol, I'm gonna look past your backhanded comment because it's a legitimate point. My face definitely isn't a problem, even before I was in shape I had a pretty good face. Now that I'm in shape my jawline is much sharper and more pronounced, my cheekbones are far more defined, and years of skin care routines gives my face a healthy, hydrated look. So my face isn't the problem.
Are you arrogant or boastful like people should like me because I earn well or look good, then maybe that's the reason. People generally don't like boastful people male or female. But if you are cute like your profile picture girls should like it.
@@myentertainmentmypuppies8865 No, I try to be very humble. I'm never like "look at my biceps, rawr!" I hate that kinda stuff, I rarely even flex when I'm in the gym. I aim to be a very down to Earth, fun guy who likes to spread good vibes and energy. As far as I can tell, I succeed at that because most people like me and want to be around me, just not girls.
I don't go chaotic clubs where has very not professional bartenders who rejected a big buyer who is from China ! How ? Stop going there for good , mentally financially and even physically
Looks don't matter huh? Tell every girl that on every social media platform, dating site or app. No one reads profiles anymore it's all about looks case closed.
Man... us guys are not in any way, shape or form like women when it comes to who we pick... It is predominantly looks for us. That's how we really, really get into a woman it's looks. She could be lackign in many areas but if she's hot, she is in. This is why a hot 18 year old can end up on a billionaire's yatch and in a relationship with him. This is why Leonardo Dicaprio only dates women 25 and under who are models. There is basically no woman in hollywood or anywhere in the world (well barely) who will only date male models. In fact, so many of them are turned off by those guys... It makes the game and the dating dynamic favour specifically masculine, confident, assertive, fun guys over anyone else. It's not looks at all, at all, at all when it comes to us men. And if a good looking guy is doing well with women, it's not just his looks whatsoever...
Because most women like to be the more hotter one in the bond. They lose control of the man if he's got other choices. They don't like other women wanting him.
What to do with a girl who always Uses you to get something (what noone else can do) and than ghosting you (im in the friendzone). No contact doesnt work here.
I'm the typical cute guy (girls I'm not interested in keep telling me I'm a model). Still... it's so hard to keep up the energy with the girls I really like. Damn annoying! There is this girl I like now... and I'm going to ask her out. Already feel like I have failed. But let's see.
That's because you are introverted and they are extroverts. Introverts have to spend energy being social. I get the same thing. I've had a few women ask me out, but most of them are lunatics.
This is bs y'all. If it doesn't work it simply means you're not attractive enough. You have to go over the top and overwhelm them with extreme good looks
Totally relate...im fucking boring but going back to what you said about women aproaching these types of men i dont believe they even notice handsome men let alone aproach them they re far too distracted ranting for hours to her friend of typing for hours and oblivious to even notice a hot stud next to her...i shit you not women dont proactivley notice or look around the enviroment to give their eyes plesure like we do even if they re litteraly alone walking home they STILL wont look they just act like they dont fucking care about looks its.Because they DONT only at particular situations if.its a celebrity.but.if its a civil in starbucks mcdonalds the mall you name.it they fucking wont NOTICE YOU i know because i live that and expirience it and get proof every single.day
It really confuses me why a lot of guys seem to think women only care about looks. That’s how MALE sexual attraction works, not female. Women will almost always choose an ugly, confident guy over a good looking, nervous guy.
Women look for greed and self righteousness plus bein a snob is a better word to describe it. It’s sad but in reality it’s basically true. I personally don’t like snobby women and women that want men to pay to take em out on dates too
I'm 15, and I've been talking to this girl for about a month. But I AM BORING what can I do to be less boring. I am not good at carrying on a conversation over text message.
It's funny when guys assume sexy dudes only go after sexy women, but that couldn't be further from the truth. We're all just out here taking what we can get lol. Trust me A good looking dude is still a dude and they too have had their fair share of fat girls
Hood looking guys... listen to me.... they might just be on the playing hard to get phase after showing enough attraction, they want ypu to show more appreciation of them and put more effort.
sometimes i hate and resent hot girls, because it reminds me, i've always hated and never liked the dynamics of dating, attraction and seduction, because the way it looks like, girls just have to be attractive, or cute, pretty, thats all, and a bonus is just having a decent or average kind, friendly personality, and bam, they have dates lined up already or have a boyfriend already, and they can be shy quiet, awkward, be boring. But guys, men, have to have good social-skills or people-skills, be an almost perfect conversationalist, be confident or have confidence, talk right, sit right, stand right, breathe right, have a certain lifestyle, certain social behaviors, because confidence is part of social behaviors or social talent based, have a mission, purpose, be a leader or have leadership skills, pass her shit tests, be an interesting person, and i'm sure there is probably more things guys have to know or learn, but either i don't know or just forgot. Basically, the guy has to unlearn shyness or awkwardness, but the girl doesn't. Even if a guy is handsome and good-looking, but he lacks those social abilities that i mentioned, he will still very likely struggle with women. It reminds me of this quote "it's the guys role to be interesting, its the womans role to be interested" Another quote that filled me with anger and rage a lot was: "Well, everything depends on how you look at things. And you can complain about how the world works, or you can adapt to it and make the most of your situation!" that pissed me off a lot because its a reminder that, sadly, those dating dynamics are forever here to stay, sadly can't do anything about it.
A man has to turn into a dancing monkey for a woman’s entertainment. He must never be socially awkward and if he loses frame for a moment then she will lose interest. The whole dating and seduction process is a huge hassle for men. Women think dating is a fun thing. Yeah, for them. Because they don’t have to do anything.
Facts and that’s why I only pursue women that make my life easy . I’m done trying to be perfect while all she needs to do is “show up” . It’s all bs . Whichever women makes my life easy, that’s the women I’m gonna pick. And I’m attractive so I’m damn sure not allowing certain behaviors from an average women. Men when you are attractive , you should not take any games from women. Attractive men are rare. You don’t need to have super charisma . Be yourself and if she doesn’t like it , leave her 💯
Yeah just with the hottest guy but he is so one dimensional. In everything … food , sex, activities. Just the same thing all the time. I mean as a woman I definitely like consistency but this is ridiculous LOL
Or we can just get laid or make out with them or date them temporarily. My problem is money and im convinced whole world is giant conspiracy and some personality issues and life skills
Looks matter a lot less than most men think.
Also follow me on Instagram if you want me to answer your questions. I am going to be doing an LIVE Q/As there on Saturday
@Aaron Crace RUclips Q/As are really buggy unfortunately.
Many girls came into my life and went without be GF I still struggling to get a girlfriend I.
@@TheSingleGuy my girlfriend of 1 year just had borderline manifest and diagnose. Are you familiar with this? Do you have anything to say to me based on your life experience or people you know
Dang I missed the live Q and A!! well anyway heres my question:
Yoo quick question, and somewhat related to "how to get women to chase you" I've been seeing this girl for a few months now (not the only girl i've been seeing) and about half way through I developed strong feelings for her and told her, and she said she didn't feel as strongly but she still liked me. Around that time I could feel her start pulling away from me emotionally and she started wanting to see me less and less often. We used to, and still pretty much do, text everyday or talk on the phone most days. It's been a few weeks now that I haven't seen her (she's both been busy with work and school, and the last week she was out of town), and I don't want to come off as too needy, and I also don't want to get hurt being more invested than her (as I was feeling hurt since we talked about her not being as into me as I am into her). So the last 4 out of 5 times/days I texted her first in the morning, and then the other day I didn't text her for a day or two and she says "so if I (as in her) don't text you first most of the time, I shouldn't expect to here from you" which kinda feels like shes asking for drama and putting me in a hard spot not to be needy and not to give her space, but like I said I already texted her first the last 4 out of 5 times. Any tips on how to deal with this? I don't want to simp and be her bitch, don't want to get more invested than I already was if she's not at the same level, and I don't want to push her away by being either too needy or not communicating enough.. I'd think the more space I give her, the more she may want to see me again, but idk, its like shes playing that against me and I can't win (and am gonna get hurt either way)
Explains why countless women have told me my face is ugly af...This is what your ego wants to believe
With good looks it's easier to get attention/early attraction from women. When it comes to holding that attention for long enough, now thats where it gets brutal.
The attention span is exponentially dissipated as looks converges to 0
@@hurlentropy6866 Absolutely.
That is straight up fact.
brutal xD
Not really, I'm a guy where if I wear a tight shirt, you can see my abs through it. Whenever I approach a girl, they're usually pretty responsive, until I try to flirt, get her number or anything like that. It doesn't matter if I do it right away, or if I wait until we've talked a half dozen times. The moment I do anything that let's them know I'm interested, they're out.
I used to not be in great shape, my experience was mostly the same. They were all smiles and laughing when I talked with them, UNTIL I did anything to show interest.
The only major difference between me now and me then is the current me gets rejected a lot more violently, whereas out of shape me got rejected much more gently.
I've literally devoted years of my life to something that makes my life worse, and extends that terrible life.
Looks only get you to the door, personality will get you through!
You should probably write something interesting first instead of saying something usual.
@@MrKrushgutz 👌🏽
You don't even need looks to get in the door as well
Still ugly guys don't even get to the door though
Thesingleguy....Lets replace your face with a girl and see how you fare with your super saiyan charm and wit!
How many women have complimented your eyes and hair. I'm betting you've lost count.
this applies to me. i'm 6'1 and most people say i'm good looking. i just don't have game. but i've gotten a little better listening to lloyd.
Yea but when you get a haircut , you have a boost of confidence and swear you can go up to any girl😂
You just said it right there man. Your state of mind and confidence is what matters.
@@TheSingleGuy Or its him looking good? That's why has confidence, he looks better.
@@Ben-jq3ov that has nothing to do , you can still be good looking but have no game at all
True confidence comes from within....Quit spitting BS. Confidence is derived from movement via work. Yes, the internal is a catalyst but that is a fraction of the picture...
If you look like a girl as a man, don't expect any attention from heterosexual women...Yes, this is an extreme example but clearly looks dictste the probability of success. In fact, the perception of personality is connected to appearance.
Going up to a girl is easy. Opening her is even easier. Getting her laughing, smiling and falling into the push/pull teasing dynamic that you're setting up is the easiest. Getting her interested in you, however...that's a completely different story.
I’m like 9/10 and 9 out 10girls watch me each time I walk somewhere, but after talking with them, they lose attraction.... and girls who wants me are not girls I want ... this is my big struggle....
Same
Not alone
Same
and now imagine how hard would it be if you didnt even have that looks...
@@arthurmorgan2906 🤣🤣
As a good looking guy who is 22, 6,4 190lbs and not that confident when it comes to talking to women. Yes I can totally say this is 100% correct. I’m not as good with my dating life as other dudes bc I’m always worried about others judging me especially my parents. But I’m working on myself and have been for the past year and things have gotten better but I’m still no where near where I wanna be with my dating life.
If you are good looking go out alone and party alone and it will boost your confidence. Crazy stuff will happen to you.
How things going on man I have the same problem as you 😢
6,3 205lbs and athletic. Yeah women don’t take good looking men seriously.
@@BarronBarca honestly bro a good way to put it. I can say it does seem that way
I am very good looking
Always thought that would be enough
The Truth is different
I‘m 26 now and I‘ll try to get my mind better, I am on a good path
lack of social and conversation skills that's why
Amen brotha...we re just so unsocial its painful i can type for hours but i cant do it in person when im not able to be present so that i can express myself
I can literally only get along with girls I am not very interested in. If I‘m very interested in a girl I clamp up and am not relaxed. I get a little weird and nervous when I am with a women I truly like & adore. Gotta work on that one for sure
That's totally me man.
Same
i go out and every women is staring at me...
this has been the case since 6 to 7 years and yet i'm single... i'm loosing it all together.. i can't hold up anymore..seeing below average looking guys dating hottest of the womens..! God plz help...!
Oofy doofy is law
You gotta approach these women bro, most of the time they will not approach and just stare in amazement. if you don't approach someone else will.
Here I am the tall, 6.2", and almost good looking, but I'm really boring and don't have enough energy and goals in my life. To be honest girls come to me at first, but when things go further, they realize that I am not the person they're looking for.
Same bro, minus the girls coming to me part😔
Workout, learn something new, be adventurous. It's easier said than done, but you must exert effort in yourself in order to become who you want to be.
@@oobibab9572 facts
The point is you have an opportunity to begin with die to looks. Women just call me ugly or ignore me on most occasions.
mierda! Im in the same situation I really need help :c
Watching your videos when I lack confidence always changes my mindset and sets me back on track bro thanks a lot!
It's true that ugly guys have far better dating lives as compared to good looking guys.
But I have another perspective. We judge the dating life of men on the basis of the quantity and quality of women they date. So even an average girl is out of an ugly guy's league while the case is not the same for attractive guys.
And I believe it's true that in general attractive people are far more insecure as compared to unattractive people.
Attractive people have to maintain their attractiveness and expectancy that they're exceptional, and so the obsession causes insecurities. Ugly people have nothing to lose, therefore nothing to obsess about.
Good looking out Lloyd, you're helping a lot of people keep doing your thing
I don't know if I'd consider myself a "good looking" guy, maybe slightly above average. It's got my foot in the door on dating apps here and there. Until they find out that I'm an introvert who doesn't drink.....then I'm instantly no longer attractive at all.
Not drinking hurts the dating app chances
@@thatguymatt5816 facts
@Max Gill I can’t drink due to an alcohol intolerance issue. Get pretty sick even after like half a beer, so I stay away from it. Sucks...but what can you do right.
@@NsIX3 Stay away from drugs and alcohol
@@salut4396 I don’t do either, and it definitely affects the dating results. I am who I am though, just gotta try and someone accepting of that. You would think women would be more after a straight laced guy who isn’t addicted to either of those things...but that isn’t the case. Instead, you’re viewed as some kind of weirdo.
Imagine you're an ugly guy and you here that attractive guys are struggling.
Extreme butthurt or extreme satisfaction
It's tru bro
The guys that get the most women are guys that are above average looking but not overly good looking. Women are still physically attracted to these guys but don't have to worry about them cheating.
Agreed
Nailed it! Most women don't want an really attractive guy who they fear would attract tons of other attractive women. They don't like competition. Many women feel insecure and intimidated by really good looking guys. Women fear rejection even more then men. And thats face it... most really good looking guys are seeking really attractive women because their standards are higher and its human nature to prefer someone of equal or more attractiveness. Thus their potential dating pool is smaller than the average looking guy. But this guy in the video is right... even good looking men need to develop other masculine traits to keep women interested. Confidence and ambition is probably the most important traits to women even above a man's physical appearance. Men who prioritize and focus on their goals and hobbies in life are very attractive to women. Women don’t like men who are needy and put them on a pedestal
My experience proves otherwise. When you’re not attractive, you feel like you’re missing something. But when you’re good looking, you feel like you’re on top of the world.
You just proved that the state of mind trumps the actual looks
@Cmndr Roy Fokker nah you're wrong. I'd say it's 60 personality 40 looks.
Women have called me ugly countless times to the point of suicide. Now, I just don't care bc its outside my control.
@@hurlentropy6866 good👍
I'm very interested in learning about males and females & I watch quite a few of these. Much better then my previous interest, politics.. I've learned so much. The thing that sets your videos above is they are more high caliber in your advice. You're more on par with Jason from Atract Great Guys. This is dating advice at a higher level. I enjoyed & truly grateful for coaches like you who help men. (And the great coaches for women.)
High caliber women like... no particular order.
1. Direct, no games, no manipulation
2. High standards - boundaries
3. Confidence - very sexy
4. A man that knows what he wants.
5. A man with a mission & purpose.
6. Leads
7. Loving, attentive, but not needy - gives woman space.
8. Slow & Steady
9. Kind to people around him.
10. Chilverous - sadly a dying traight
11. Healthy
12. Fun, adventurous
13. Sexy, playful, teases
14. Honest
Not sure about others, but for me its having game. Its easy enough to introduce but then escelating, making the conversation sexy, hinting at something more. All doing this while trying to balance not being a prude or a creep while maintaining good reporr.
I think dating sites and social media are ruining dating and starting relationships.
Re: Comments Section: Video is titled "Why good looking guys struggle with women they like" not "Why good looking guys have it harder than ugly guys"
You can’t be insecure if you have nothing to be insecure about
Basically, have something enduring for yourself not based in looks.
No matter how good of a personality you have and how much of a good genuine guy you are looks will always matter if you are short, balding and ugly. Women do care and its a widespread myth that they dont. You as an bald, short ugly dude may end up with a woman. But it wont be a sexy raunchy experience. To downplay that as a good looking guy with none of those attributes is just ignorant and somewhat cruel. I am sorry but looks matter Alot more than anything else when it comes to dating. Everything else is Secondary. Its not the other way around.
I agree with you to an extent. Why I will differ is because I've dated girls: 5'7 another 5'6, and believe it or not another 5'9 (all pretty), I'm 5'4 (ugly lol). These girls gave me the chance to show them who I was, the reason why it didn't work out with either of them, well all three have different outcomes which I will not state due to length. My point being it depends/varies on the girl & how well you initially connect/communicate with them. Personally, I don't see all women as the same, each one is an individual, and I find out what it is that I am working with. Of course, I've had my share of girls judging my looks as you have stated here.
@Kuba P Slim to none is no way of a happy dating life. But yes miracles happen
Good looking guys always seem to say personslity is key wheras truly ugly guys emphasize looks. This is the yin yang spectrum (reality) proving time and time again that looks are the precondition.
@@hurlentropy6866 Exactly, and how can they relate their life to a guy that has never been with a woman because he is short, ugly and balding? In other words been rejected for his looks his whole life? How is he going to master personality traits that land womens interest? He will just further humiliate himself. Most importantly trying it in this time of instagram era is just mission impossible.
Again downplaying the importance of looks never wins me over because thats not the reality we live in. But you cant sell this game bs without having men believe that they have a shot no matter how they look to begin with.
That's a solid point, if you're good looking you just don't worry about that, and you're more likely to focus on and beat yourself up about other aspects of your personality.
The man is right. We should invest in other assets such as; knowledge, experiences and personality. Our life doesn't only revolve over a woman that's why we must venture out and become the person we are proud to be. Women will just come and go.
Ive realized im a bit boring in convo. I actually admit it. When i was younger i was more loose and carefree, as an older man i feel more uncomfortable being my weird outspokwn self.
Finally, a mature man who really understand men's real problem.
I tend to have a high strung nature, mostly because I consume a lot of caffeine everyday. But also for other reasons, such as upbringing. I had a friend years ago tell me about some antidepressants that relax you and got me on one of them (starts with a p-you figure it out), and he saw how soft my eyes and demeanor were, and told me women will be all over that! It seemed like when I had at least some P***l in my system, women noticed me more and I even got more dates and laid more. I am not at all advocating cannabis use, but that is something else which would have women notice me. Young college girls have tried to pick me up, and even women where I live would come and talk to me. I live in Turkey, and Turkish women are some of the hardest women to get attention from and to pick up on the streets! A friend of mine said when you are a little high, you are laid back, calm, and just don't give a f**k about anything. That's a very attractive trait.
Everyone tells me I'm good looking. Im 6'6 lean build, beard dark hair dark eyes. I have dated really good looking women but the moment I start to really fall for them and express my feelings suddenly theyre not ready for long term wtf
Watch coach Corey Wayne. The woman is supposed to express their feelings first or else you just end up looking needy. Patience is key
@@ChooseFreshAtSubway Ya man, my last girl and I dated for 5 months and I told her I loved her first. Her response was shes been waiting for me to say it and told me she loved me too. A week later she said she wasn't ready for long term. Im 33 and looking to settle down but I'm sick of women's shit right now
I have the same problem. I get lots of attention, easy to sleep and date but as soon as I fall in love everything falls apart.
Just a tip brother to help you in the future. Never be the first to bring up the relationship topic, that's her job. I've learned the hard way but that's the way it goes
Emotional self control or being self possessed watch videos on it. But ur 6 foot 6 so you should know wtf to do
I look it like this, if you get two gifts one with a plain cardboard box and the other with a gift wrapper. Chances are you open the one with the gift wrapper first.
But the gift in the gift wrapper may turn out to be crap and the one in the plain cardboard box is the best gift you can ask for.
So in retrospect looks do matter, but things NEVER end there. It's always a "What's next" kinda thing.
Looks matter
@@Ben-jq3ov I agree with you. But for Men looks matter more to us than for women. You rarely see a guy who looks like Paul Walker or Brad Pitt who is with someone who looks like Rosie O'Donnell
Dating apps are proving wo.en date up in looks. Cosmetics has fueled this
I can always get the 1st date but I found that I come off needy even the girl I want now wants to start out as friends and now she's not txting gotta move on these videos have helped out alot
That was great I always thought 💭 about this so other things that are important if not more important then looks are hygiene, not being addicted to things, good father/nurturing qualities etc
I think you're a really good looking guy
I believe it's mainly how you were raised, as long as your somewhat attractive.
Any guy who thinks it’s good looks that gets you laid clearly haven’t lived life long enough or just haven’t been outside exploring cities, I see more physically attractive women with average to below average looking guys more than I see physically attractive guys with these women, looking good is not the main piece women care about, guys are the one’s blowing up this “looks are all it is” and it’s clearly not true
It's that the realthruth?
@@djbonk77 yes, women clearly care more about a man’s financial situation than his height, muscle to fat ratio, or structure of his face, it’s pretty obvious too, only guys I see who can bag any chick he wants are guys with money, being very physically attractive typically women will give you choosing signals, when you have a high level lifestyle(nice car nice home etc etc) that shows your financial situation is good, you’re choosing the woman, and women will approach you a lot based off money compared to looks
I'm sorry but a 5"6 guy has no chance against a 6"3 ripped guy. Confidence may add a few points to the first guy but he'll never be as successful as the Chad
Agree
Bro I'm 6'6 and used to do modeling in my 20s and my girl just left me for this short dude who's her manager at Heinens lol
@@santaclaus3077 Maybe cus he's richer? or has the personality the women seeks.
@@oobibab9572 He doesn't have more money. He was her ex boyfriend who used to physically abuse her (so she said). Maybe that's what she wants.
@Ben what if the 5"6 guy is also ripped AND has better personality qualities?
It´s not my intention to be arrogant. But I do struggle with these issues alot lately. I do feel more insecure around women that are on my league and feel like i´m more afraid to make mistakes. Girls that think that I am out of their league gimme a sort of super confidence boost and then I don´t struggle with insecurity at all. I´m not afraid to make mistakes then. Guess it´s time to work a little harder on myself to boost up te internal world and achieve somethingss I can get condifent about.....
#HardKnockLife
Confidence is probally where I went wrong
Being good looking is actually a curse because either women (and men) are scared of you or women will give you tons of choosing signals but still expect you to approach. And when you approach, they have higher expectations of your level of confidence just based on how you look.
I’m here something I’m in shape I say okay looks. Shd got high paid job in Leeds uk big city snd all girls ignore me abd some ugly lads on Facebook get woman I’ve been chasing for 12 months ?
jordan peterson or whoever mentioned a study which concluded that it is in fact the looks women go for.. well, not those in their 30s ofc
It's not enough but it's one huge factor...if u are not good looking u will inevitably face insecurities when your patner goes outing with good looking people
Great video, made a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing!
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Besides looks are not everything I think a guy still needs looks to get girls, especially young and attractive ones. It is a most important thing still in dating
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It’s not just women, it also guys too. If u wanna make friends the same applies
looks don't matter much, behavioral traits yes.
Everyone tells me I’m an attractive guy. They automatically assume I have a high body count. Little do they know reality is often disappointing. I just don’t have game. However recently in my interactions with beautiful girls beyond my league, I just think to myself “what would Timothee Chalamet do or say?” That’s helped me a lot in my confidence. Especially in the way I express myself.
As stupid as it sounds, I sometimes use the shit I would say in a message in real life. As much as inboxing these thots is simpin it teaches you to carry out good conversations in person .
I used to do the same but , do what Trey Songz would do. I’m going to have to start that again
A thought just struck my mind that good looking people trusted that their looks could give them the girl they want so as a result they didn’t pay attention to the most important things when it comes to dating like CONFIDENCE and the rest. So since you didn’t give attention to those things, as a result, you lack them.
Confidence is extremely tricky. If your confidence is too subtle, you're perceived as not confident. If your confidence is too strong, you're seen as cocky and arrogant. Christ man, I wish I had been born a chick, with all the time I've devoted to getting into insanely good shape, none of this would be a problem and instead of drinking by myself on a Friday night, I'd be having guy after guy trying to work up the courage to come buy me a drink.
Unfortunately I’m going to have to disagree on this video because good looks make it much easier for you so if you fuck up she’s gonna give you more chances but you still have to have game.
Looks can definitely help. When did I say they didn’t?
That not true bro. Think about that sexy girl you want to bang but when she opens her mouth and talks shit, you instantly dislike her
@@cjc4426 dude... its 2021 Social media world.
Why separate looks from personality? Its just an illusion. Looks distorts the perception of personality and personality distorts the perception of looks. Its all connected on a spectrum!!!
I'm an earned "good looking guy". I wasn't attractive all through my youth, I was small, skinny, insecure, unconfident etc. After taking an honest look at myself, I knew I needed to improve.
I embarked on a decade long journey to build up all of those areas. Physically, I am now a fully jacked guy with 6 pack abs and 17 inch arms. After spending thousands of hours practicing I've gone from a shy, insecure introvert to an energetic, outgoing extrovert.
I've consumed no less than 5 different programs on game and practiced their content across thousands of interactions.
I can confidently say that I am a completely transformed man. Yet, I still get rejected, sometimes violently, by almost every girl I approach.
Unfortunately, what I've learned is that if the universe hates you, there's not much you can do to change your results.
It's your face probably
@@kenc6569 Lol, I'm gonna look past your backhanded comment because it's a legitimate point. My face definitely isn't a problem, even before I was in shape I had a pretty good face. Now that I'm in shape my jawline is much sharper and more pronounced, my cheekbones are far more defined, and years of skin care routines gives my face a healthy, hydrated look. So my face isn't the problem.
Are you arrogant or boastful like people should like me because I earn well or look good, then maybe that's the reason. People generally don't like boastful people male or female. But if you are cute like your profile picture girls should like it.
@@myentertainmentmypuppies8865 No, I try to be very humble. I'm never like "look at my biceps, rawr!" I hate that kinda stuff, I rarely even flex when I'm in the gym.
I aim to be a very down to Earth, fun guy who likes to spread good vibes and energy. As far as I can tell, I succeed at that because most people like me and want to be around me, just not girls.
I don't go chaotic clubs where has very not professional bartenders who rejected a big buyer who is from China ! How ? Stop going there for good , mentally financially and even physically
Why ! Because they saw me dress better talk better very calm , no alcohol they are jealous !!!
And I don't even want to look at these bartenders .....
Looks don't matter huh? Tell every girl that on every social media platform, dating site or app. No one reads profiles anymore it's all about looks case closed.
@Cmndr Roy Fokker wat
True
All men are beautiful
How can i get to Dm you sir ?
I’ve done so well in high school dating but now I’m in the real world I have troubles.
Good looks are not enough..this answer comes from people who are not good looking
This is absolutely me 💔
Broo, great Video👌
I’m a janitor. There’s nothing good about my life
Man... us guys are not in any way, shape or form like women when it comes to who we pick... It is predominantly looks for us. That's how we really, really get into a woman it's looks. She could be lackign in many areas but if she's hot, she is in. This is why a hot 18 year old can end up on a billionaire's yatch and in a relationship with him. This is why Leonardo Dicaprio only dates women 25 and under who are models. There is basically no woman in hollywood or anywhere in the world (well barely) who will only date male models. In fact, so many of them are turned off by those guys...
It makes the game and the dating dynamic favour specifically masculine, confident, assertive, fun guys over anyone else. It's not looks at all, at all, at all when it comes to us men. And if a good looking guy is doing well with women, it's not just his looks whatsoever...
Because most women like to be the more hotter one in the bond. They lose control of the man if he's got other choices. They don't like other women wanting him.
What to do with a girl who always Uses you to get something (what noone else can do) and than ghosting you (im in the friendzone). No contact doesnt work here.
Let her go man. What? You ain't her dog?
This dude eyebrows are trying to fly away
I'm the typical cute guy (girls I'm not interested in keep telling me I'm a model). Still... it's so hard to keep up the energy with the girls I really like. Damn annoying! There is this girl I like now... and I'm going to ask her out. Already feel like I have failed. But let's see.
That's because you are introverted and they are extroverts. Introverts have to spend energy being social.
I get the same thing. I've had a few women ask me out, but most of them are lunatics.
It's like my story in dating :')
This is bs y'all. If it doesn't work it simply means you're not attractive enough. You have to go over the top and overwhelm them with extreme good looks
Totally relate...im fucking boring but going back to what you said about women aproaching these types of men i dont believe they even notice handsome men let alone aproach them they re far too distracted ranting for hours to her friend of typing for hours and oblivious to even notice a hot stud next to her...i shit you not women dont proactivley notice or look around the enviroment to give their eyes plesure like we do even if they re litteraly alone walking home they STILL wont look they just act like they dont fucking care about looks its.Because they DONT only at particular situations if.its a celebrity.but.if its a civil in starbucks mcdonalds the mall you name.it they fucking wont NOTICE YOU i know because i live that and expirience it and get proof every single.day
It really confuses me why a lot of guys seem to think women only care about looks. That’s how MALE sexual attraction works, not female. Women will almost always choose an ugly, confident guy over a good looking, nervous guy.
WRONG, Most times, ugly guy wouldnt even get a chance to prove himself. The GOODLOOKing guy gets a chance, he just has to not fuck it up.
i can relate, there other things women value besides looks
Women look for greed and self righteousness plus bein a snob is a better word to describe it. It’s sad but in reality it’s basically true. I personally don’t like snobby women and women that want men to pay to take em out on dates too
I'm 15, and I've been talking to this girl for about a month. But I AM BORING what can I do to be less boring. I am not good at carrying on a conversation over text message.
it’s because of your profile
@@salut4396 Do you mean the flag?
@@andrewgrant3677 Yeah 😏
@@salut4396 That ain't why
@@andrewgrant3677 confederate flag = boring
It's funny when guys assume sexy dudes only go after sexy women, but that couldn't be further from the truth. We're all just out here taking what we can get lol. Trust me
A good looking dude is still a dude and they too have had their fair share of fat girls
You're right brother I agree
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What if the guy is broke
Get a job then
@@salut4396 but they took errrr job
@@kingdrift1136 Sorry I don’t understand what you’re trying to say
@@salut4396 south park joke
@@kingdrift1136 oh lol
Hood looking guys... listen to me.... they might just be on the playing hard to get phase after showing enough attraction, they want ypu to show more appreciation of them and put more effort.
ive been seeing some success using Implanted commands from Ross Jeffries lol.
Some women may look good but those looks never match their brain.
A strong ugly man will beat up a handsome weak man. Looks aren't everything.
Nope. Strong ugly man is just a creepy to women
A true ugly man looks like a girl...poor logic
How about a strong handsome man beating up an ugly strong man ?
It is easy just ask a girl out
Lol i went MGTOW last year
sometimes i hate and resent hot girls, because it reminds me, i've always hated and never liked the dynamics of dating, attraction and seduction, because the way it looks like, girls just have to be attractive, or cute, pretty, thats all, and a bonus is just having a decent or average kind, friendly personality, and bam, they have dates lined up already or have a boyfriend already, and they can be shy quiet, awkward, be boring.
But guys, men, have to have good social-skills or people-skills, be an almost perfect conversationalist, be confident or have confidence, talk right, sit right, stand right, breathe right, have a certain lifestyle, certain social behaviors, because confidence is part of social behaviors or social talent based, have a mission, purpose, be a leader or have leadership skills, pass her shit tests, be an interesting person, and i'm sure there is probably more things guys have to know or learn, but either i don't know or just forgot. Basically, the guy has to unlearn shyness or awkwardness, but the girl doesn't. Even if a guy is handsome and good-looking, but he lacks those social abilities that i mentioned, he will still very likely struggle with women.
It reminds me of this quote "it's the guys role to be interesting, its the womans role to be interested"
Another quote that filled me with anger and rage a lot was: "Well, everything depends on how you look at things. And you can complain about how the world works, or you can adapt to it and make the most of your situation!"
that pissed me off a lot because its a reminder that, sadly, those dating dynamics are forever here to stay, sadly can't do anything about it.
Yes men have to be Superman while women can thrive just being Lois lane
A man has to turn into a dancing monkey for a woman’s entertainment. He must never be socially awkward and if he loses frame for a moment then she will lose interest. The whole dating and seduction process is a huge hassle for men. Women think dating is a fun thing. Yeah, for them. Because they don’t have to do anything.
Facts and that’s why I only pursue women that make my life easy . I’m done trying to be perfect while all she needs to do is “show up” . It’s all bs . Whichever women makes my life easy, that’s the women I’m gonna pick. And I’m attractive so I’m damn sure not allowing certain behaviors from an average women. Men when you are attractive , you should not take any games from women. Attractive men are rare. You don’t need to have super charisma . Be yourself and if she doesn’t like it , leave her 💯
Sad reality 😂😂
Get rich guys, it will always be enough :)
No, world's 90 percent millaniore or billaniore are divorced
Why ? how to change !
You don't know anything zyzz was a body builder he noticed that they where all over the body builders who would whant a girl On a cute boy.
BIG SAGITTARIUS ENERGY
Big wallet is the secret for god sake its all about interes.
Yeah just with the hottest guy but he is so one dimensional. In everything … food , sex, activities. Just the same thing all the time. I mean as a woman I definitely like consistency but this is ridiculous LOL
Now i dont Feel so bad now lol
Or we can just get laid or make out with them or date them temporarily. My problem is money and im convinced whole world is giant conspiracy and some personality issues and life skills
thats why i an able to date taller girls
Or you’re simply over estimating your looks
This is business world , you have to understand business rules right ?
His eyebrows = *V*
you must take care of those eyebrows.
What's wrong with his eyebrows?
well I'm not into women so, this video isn't for me 😂
That's me
Yeah but you're symmetrical.
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