The sisters need to go on a trip together and leave the mom home. That way, they can start working on rebuilding their relationship with the mom stepping in being messy. I wish nothing but the best for this family.
Maybe so, but they need to get together without the mom interfering. That way, they can start rebuilding their relationships. Maybe start with some therapy stations first and work up to being able to take sister trips together.
The audience kept clapping for the mother and it was truly annoying the mess out of me. Mom was clearly an instigator and abusive but they kept applauding her like she was in the right. 🙄🙄
They do that A LOT and it’s sooo annoying. It’s like validating bad behavior from some of these guests and I know the person they’re clapping for be eating it up!
Poor Connie, you can tell she doesn't have many ppl outside her family. I think thats why she is afraid to speak her truth in front of them all at once. You can tell the other sisters have their own community.
The mother probably does not know how to love because she didn’t deal with or get help with her traumas. Hurt people hurt others. Mother needs help as much as the daughters. They could benefit from family therapy, as well as individual therapy. An onion has many layers…it will take time and counseling to start healing the wounds. It is a great effort on their part to meet… a giant step.
Same thing in my family. My mother died still manipulating on her death bed with stage 4 cancer. I chose to separate from the toxicity and seek therapy 4 years prior to her death. It was necessary to save me and my son. I haven't looked back.
This episode was so triggering! And im so glad those sisters are able to heal and work on their relationship with each other. I knew right away it was the momma.
Protecting momma is CAUSING THE ISSUE . Just because it’s your mom don’t mean you have to accept everything . Absolutely not . If her behaviors are ill and it’s hindering you emotionally and physically , tell her about herself and release that . Protecting horrible parents behavior do more damage to you . Carrying that sht then spills into life , your kids etc . “You only get one mom “ yes but you only get one of me . Just because my mom can have more kids don’t give her all rights to disrespect
My mother is a spitting image of this woman and the seeds that she’s sowed when we were children have come to harvest the last few years and it’s torn the relationships between me and my three sisters apart. I only have one daughter but I’ve always taught her to cherish her relationships, to praise Jesus for what she has, and for what he has blessed other people with and to love people for who they are not who you wish they were.
@@hdunaway110 My mother is exactly how this lady is too but the only difference is my mother live by itself but my mother turned me and my two brothers and my sister against me I’m the black sheep
@@hdunaway110 I read everything you said you teaching your daughter the right way I have one daughter as well and one granddaughter I just say to myself you have to break the cycle with them and just love on them I love my mom and my family as well but when we have family functions I don’t go over there she always calling me tell me my two brothers are there one of them live in New Jersey him and his wife they just don’t like me and I’m OK with it all started when we were Young she used to talk about us to each other and still do but I don’t feed into it I just stayed in myself and have a good relationship with my daughter and granddaughter I try to do the best I could for my mother financially 🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰💕
What a heartless mother. She is blinded to her own shortcomings. Such a pity! Pray and hope they all heal and break the curse so that they all can find love and compassion for each other. Love Karamo's advice. He is full of wisdom and insight ❤
I hope these three sisters watch this over and over and over again to remind themselves to love each other and to seek each other's love over the mother.
This mother clearly caused the divide between her daughters. Tragic. I know several disgusting mothers like this. Demonic spirits allowed to have children just to torture them😢
@@lawannahtrailor9640👈 Mostly sad truth is when black ppl hv kids with multiple men that’s why on this Karamo show all the 3 girls hv kids mother too said she was single parent, that’s why on every show NO male partner is around to support his GF. 75% of blacks globally hv too many kids sometimes don’t know who’s the bio dad. Many toxic families like these and these 3 R grown up hulks and shld solve their own problems N stop sleeping with multiple men. All 4 were playing victim card, zero sympathy for such morons blaming one another .Eeeeks pathetic family
Everything you said is 100% correct my mother was the same way with my two brothers am I want to sister I don’t have a relationship with them because of her she’s very messy and she’s a big liar but I love my mother I just do what I could for her because she’s older now and I stay away from my brothers I have two of them and my one sister I feel very uncomfortable around them so when we have family functions I don’t appear I don’t go
Narcissist mother's do this to their family and you can't tell them anything. They tell lies on their kids to get what they want turn their children against one another. I got tired of it trying to raise my family different 😊
Wow, at first I was annoyed at karamo for being overly respectful to the mom and maybe wasn’t able to see through her bs, but it was actually super smart that he didn’t go hard in confronting her because he saw how much control she has over her daughters. In general, he seems more sensitive with elders I think out of respect but also because he knows that they think because they’re old, they have the mindset that nobody can talk to them “disrespectfully” and they don’t like to be called out. So he goes in very gently with calling them out and they take it better than being called out directly. All the daughters have a piece of them that is scared of her and scarred by her but they still want to respect and love her because they never received it themselves. It could have easily went wrong where they would be more defensive of the mom when she is the problem. Instead, karamo analyzed the situation, let the mom expose herself and then spoke to the girls without her constantly interjecting and being so condescending. I really do think they were open to listen and I really hope that they heal and find a way to deal with their trauma. He handled a very chaotic situation well.
Spot on. They remind me so much of my grandma, her sisters (all 7!), and their mother. It's a common dynamic in those Southern and/or Great Migration Black families. And you're right, Karamo went gently as a code switch to an elder from that era. I'm gonna send this to some friends... it might help all of us
When I learned my mom’s story I was able to view her w compassion. The way they grew up is horrific especially from small rural towns. The molestations, rape, abuse verbal & physical, all while working for pennies, woman having no rights, it’s mind boggling
I think the little sister comes off as very narcissistic. When you play favorites, which are children, this is a prime example of what happens. I am the oldest daughter, who never had a close relationship with my mother, and I could fully relate when you play favorites you divide a family that can sometimes never be healed.
I have to politely disagree with you. I think the baby sister is trying to keep the family together and has been guilted her entire life and their Mama is the reason. She’s conditioned that girl to believe things that are not true. She’s had to be Miss Perfect and she’s breaking down. Also she has a lot of emotional intelligence and ppl mistake that for narcissistic traits, when they get a small glimpse. These buzz words have got to go.
Its learned from the mom, she condones the behavior. the superiority complex is what she has. This was my life UNTIL i cut them off. No one is significant enough in this life to treat me like Im beneath them. No mama no daddy no body.
She’s definitely materialistic and egotistical but that’s a direct result of mom, like you were saying. Theyve ALL been affected in the ways how mom treated the, each and differently. It’s crazy to see such a blatant display of generational trauma.
Ugh that’s how my mom is. She needed to have a thick skin and nobody’s pain or emotions are bigger or hurt more than hers. Luckily my sister and I recognize this selfishness and we support each other. That’s what’s these sisters need to do. It may take years to get there but at the end all you have is each other
My sister gets off on the mam treating me like this and detaching herself from me. I have been in Gods ear since i realized that she mistreats me to appease her. It has changed me.
The way I was on the mom’s side at the beginning. I was like aww she seems sweet and nice. Reminded me of my grandma! Boah was I wrongggg. Smh I pray they all find healing. Even the mom - it’s obvious she went though something in her own childhood that made her the way she is.
This story is so familiar in the Black community. This is deep rooted and it has to stop. Where is the father and husbands or spouses? They need and needed to be around to help and are highly accountable too. I see what's wrong here, competition and repeating of toxic cycles. This can not happen in a family, unless its friendly with maturity. An example, pie contest and outsiders judge. For this family they don't need any type of contest. I agree with the sisters, the mother likes drama. Sad and petty. She needs to grow up. She is a seasoned woman. Their mother needs to get a passion and or perhaps her own home. I applaud the ladies for breaking the toxic pattern of abuse. I respect that the mom took care of her kids and all the responsibilities all on her own. Unfortunately, there was abuse. They all need therapy/counseling to heal. They all need hugs. They all love their mom and eachother. Karamo is awesome. You are so calm, an intellectual, influential, kind and honest. Thank you for helping people especially in the African American community. Its very heartfelt. I hope this family heals. May God help and bless them and you all.
You know my mom used to tell my sisters and I that she wish she’d had all boys. So much so that I prayed for a boy. Well I got that son and he died in childbirth. My rainbow baby is a girl and 16 now. When I found out I was having a girl I started therapy. I wanted to be whole for her. I am whole for her.
My family has a long history of favoring boys. One of older cousins even told me her grandmother who is my 2x great grandmother would buy Christmas presents for her grandsons and not her granddaughters. That same mentality was passed down although not as extreme. There is still some animosity between the sons and daughters among both of my parents and their siblings based on the differences in treatment from their parents. My parents are divorced but when my dad remarried and had my half brother he always did more for him and with him than me. The Lord is working on me to let go on any bitterness. I don’t speak to my brother.
My mom said the same thing and she treated my brother better than me and my sister… so sad. I didn’t realize how that traumatized me and the effect it had/has on my relationship with men.
Youngest failed to mention that mother is part owner of the house that she is living in. She make it seem that mother living with her, but she actually living in a house that's hers.
Can they all just stop talking and listen to each other's pain....old school Mama with her own personal issues and her now grown-up daughters still in pain...Lord help them heal so they can have the beautiful relationship they badly so deserve 🙏💔🙁
This was so painful to watch because this was me and my sisters, me and my middle sister grew close to each other, but my oldest sister always stayed away. I was always the one trying to keep us together but my oldest sister always stay away. two years ago me and my middle sister I’m the baby had a huge fight and two days later she was dead she was hit by a car from somebody texting and driving And I still can’t get over it. Now my oldest sister is on her dead bed We’re trying to fix are relationship. It shouldn’t have happened this way after losing my middle sister. I pray to God he gets them healing that they need. Because when there gone they are not coming back. My heart is still so broken. If anyone watching this and going through it please fix it and forgive whatever it is or was.
I’m so sorry for your loss you are in my thoughts and prayers sending love and hugs to you I hope you and your sister fix your relationship as well just love each other to the fullest and if you need to talk we are here for you ❤
They may be dealing with a narcissistic, emotionally distant and emotionally immature parent. They all need a copy of the Mother Hunger book- they have mother hunger, and it’s hurting their relationships with each other, and probably other women too.
That Generational pain, abuse, and hurt is sooooooooooooo deeply rooted in toooo many families!!! Blessings to the ones that have the strength and resilience to break away from the burden!
The mother’s form of “discipline” goes far beyond corporal punishment. When you’re locking kids in closets, tying them to doorknobs, and hitting them with sticks, you are an *ABUSER!* Not to mention dismissing your daughter when she told you she had been molested. And people wonder why more young women don’t come forward when they’ve been preyed upon. Even if she did grow up in an abusive home herself, no part of what she was doing to those girls was right, and she should’ve known that. Some people just don’t even deserve to have children. 😔
Omg. You are on it. I saw the same thing when mama started talking that she was the one who kept stuff going. I'm so glad that they hugged and apologized to each other. I hope they take his advice and get their relationship on track.
Praying for this family! I definitely understand the drama! The mother will never change! So glad that Karmo help them to deal with it for the better and future❤ God bless him, this show really helped me and others who may have similar family dynamics🎉
🥴 EVERY oldest Black daughter immediately knows this is all on the mom. She picked a favorite when they were kids, spoiled her, and instigated this drama for years
It's crazy how so often, a mother can be the worst thing for her daughter(s). When you are a nasty, evil woman, it stands to reason that the daughters you raise are going to find themselves in chaos. Look at their role model. Smh.
Now we can all agree that the mother is the issue, but the little sister 100% thinks shes better than them. Its time someone says it, at no point in time did she actually say anything about what they succeeded in. Its been she’s jealous, their jealous. Everyone’s jealous. You dont have a car or house. You live in an apartment. ETC its so much & it’s annoying.
Did you hear what karamo said... they just the mother coming out. It's the mother telling her that they are jealous of her. When u are conditioned like they have been to always have mess going on. It's not their fault. They can work on it. But it not the baby girls fault, but they are learning.
@@nancybroadnax7427 The mother has no clue whos side she wants to be on, shes picking anybody whos on her side & once they’re not she moves on to a different sister. i can understand being conditioned a certain way but nobody is speaking up about her actions & what she does. even when they came to some kind of understanding she still shows how much she thinks shes better. the entire time its what she did, what she succeeded in, etc etc. its me, i.
LaDonna doesn't have to argue with her older sisters about her house and car being better. Why doesn't she stop talking and let Tonya speak? Who cares if you have a house or car!!! They can be taken away in minutes. A tornado, hurricane, flood can come and take all material things away. Material things aren't more important than your family!!! Life is too short to hold grudges. Once we're gone, you can't say the things you should have when they were alive. Don't live your life with regrets. Be nice and loving to your family. They won't be around forever. Treat your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, and aquaintances the way you would want to be treated like the Bible says. I pray for this family. They could have so much fun together as sisters. I wouldn't change having my loving siblings for anything.❤ I'm thankful to God that our parents were loving and taught us to love each other.❤
I absolutely adore Karamo, his compassion and his gift of helping heal families and generational pain and curses! I’m praying that these sisters learn to love on one another and heal together
As soon as the mom said the daughter was “disrespecting” her…I knew the mom was the problem. She doesn’t respect them or listen to them at all. What’s to respect?!
Healing is so important to our spirit....because when we dont heal we hurt each other....and put our pain on others....it starts by saying the truth to yourself....and say yes I am that person and im going to change and heal to be a better person...we must show and give true love to one another....❤
I believe a lot of this pain is being founded upon generational perspective. I truly believe the mom did the best that she could, yet, that generation (especially from the black experience) was never allotted the opportunity or experience to be soft and vulnerable. Unfortunately, they truly believe the are expressing love by keeping bills paid and food on the table. I think the pain the mother is causing is unfortunately unintentional. The true sadness of the situation is that, for the mother, the concept of softness is partially and completely abstract and foreign to her. In our newer generations we, thankfully, have the opportunity to believe and understand that we are deserving of parental intimacy. The “curse” is that we are now able and desiring a softness that those older generations were never able to even dream of. I pray for deep healing. Acceptance of expectations. A strength to overcome the grief of the love they deserve, and the courage to understand and have patience for the mother. ❤️ As a community, may we continue to try to give the love we never received to the generations after us. We still may not get it perfect, but hopefully we can be a bit better.
Mama is playing jack on both sides , I just have a feeling she talks different thing in each of their ears. She isn't the peace maker as a mother should be , she seems more than friend or sister to these beautiful sisters. They all should go to councelling.
I'm so glad the sisters received the new beginning they needed, and I hope they use the tools Karamo shared, however there's also pain with the mother and I wonder what happened to her to make her pit her daughters against each other. There are some deep issues there. God bless all of them.
The mum is definitely an triangulator. It's like she's the Queen Of Hearts, holding court. She enjoys that. I hope all of them get the help they need xx
I love karamo. He listens without judgement and treats people like human beings, not ways to get on tv. It’s not about blaming the mom, it’s about her understanding her role in her daughters lives. There’s a lot of generational pain and after you get through all the bickering, which he listens to patiently, you see how eloquently each daughter expresses their needs and emotions.
That mother is jealous of her daughters, she still wants to think she’s young. When she takes off that wig at night, and looks in the mirror , reality hits. Lady you old , get in touch with ur grand kids and chill out!
Reminds me of my great aunts. One sister was light skinned with a finer grade of hair and my other auntie is dark skinned. My great great grandmother born in 1902 would have my dark complexion auntie cleaning up and doing all the work getting in trouble all the time meanwhile my lighter skinned auntie went to college and had all the men and would get in trouble and somehow slither her way out of everything with my older darker skinned auntie getting in trouble for the lighter one’s actions! She was her “doll baby” and treated her so much better that that mindset and treatment went all the way down through the generations of the grandkids and cousins. God rest my dear gram but she was born post slavery and grew up with that slave mentality about certain things and skin color being one of them. That’s what this reminds me of! Sad! We have got to do better and take accountability and stop denying our wrongdoings and DO BETTER! In this case I feel the darker skinned sister is being treated more harsh because of this. The youngest was probably viewed as more “prettier” because of ignorant things like her color and hair texture and her pretty looks. Sad. We can’t make differences in how we raise our kids. This is the result.
The oldest daughter said her mother was abusing her even before her youngest sister was born. They are 13 years apart. The oldest felt it was because of how her mother felt about her father which unfortunately happens to some children who look like a dad the mother doesn’t like. The mother also acknowledged they had never had a good relationship. Plus the younger daughters said they were also beaten and abused. Connie was slung by her hair, and she looks to have the same complexion as LaDonna to me. Different families have different dynamics. My family is black and has a rural patriarchal driven culture and favoritism is based on gender. For us men/boys get better treatment and skin complexion doesn’t mean any better or worse treatment. I say this as someone who is in the middle in our range of complexions. I have female relatives who are much lighter than I am but I never felt treated like less than them. Just my boy cousins.
the fake crying is annoying me. she’s a mom pleaser, i see why though. but she ain’t dropped ONE tear. she can just communicate without feeling like she has to cry.
@@teehee83 & the mom picked up on it bc she said “girl bye” when she fake cried for the last time. i feel for her but no reason to fake cry, nobody will hate her
Yes there father left but who beat them? Who locked them in closets? Who verbally and physically still hits on them? The mother. Why do Black people act like two things can’t be true. There fathers may have not been there but there mothers was abusive. Are you saying that should be okay with being locked in closets because their mother was the one who stayed and raided them? You are just as sick as the mother.
So relatable to me and my sisters~ The oldest stay away The Second oldest will only do if money is involved and me the youngest Flipped over tables and called them all on they mess~ Meanwhile Mother @ 82 avoids and coodles 52 yr old son as if he was on of her boyfriends (He has 5 kids and 4 gbabies that don't know him) mother has always had a Man and a life (I heard this from age 10yrs old ) BUT I Have And Will continue to fight outside that BOX!!! #Finally Evolving @ 53
This one made me cry! When the younger sister heard her older sister say “I’m sorry” after she said she’d jump on her! Whew I felt that! That smile was everything! 😊
Mom needs to learn that they are not little girls anymore, she cannot talk to them however she wants. I pray these sisters can rekindle their bond and grow closer together.
Their mother is set in her ways. She came from a different time period where her generation swept issues under the rug. Her mother knows nothing else. I am happy he was respectful to their mother. This is na issue that divided thwm, but they can band together. Hopefully this show was the start of them.mending their relationship
Hurt people, hurt people.... This old doll has a lot of healing to do herself. Those sisters need to recognize, accept and disconnect from Mom in terms of being sisters. Not saying leave Mom alone, but not include her in their relationships.
I would like to see an update on this family. 😢 this is truly heartbreaking but I pray they are applying that simple technique Karamo gave and everything is healing ❤️🩹
This show had me in tears because this, to me, seemed to be a classic case of a situation where the mother was in survival mode and resentful that she was doing it alone. A lot of mothers, especially, black mothers have so much pressure to be a provider, etc. that they struggle the juggle of it all. They are angry at the father, for not being there, angry at the world because of the lack of opportunities and unfair treatment, then they misplace their anger in the areas they can control, which is their children. They need healing. They perpetuate the behavior that was experienced, and has been transferred from generation to generation, and taught from how the oppressors treated us during slavery, and that is to instill fear and keep us separated. They pitted us against each other, and this is a condition that we, as a community, need to heal from. Until then the family is going to have a lot of this. I feel for all of them. This is much deeper and bigger than we will ever know!
Damn this triggered me! I have a mother that continously hurts & lets me down & has the audacity to get mad at me when i catch on to her bs. I understand that in her childhood she probably suffered but i see her treat her men very good & i just wish she'd treat me half as good as she treats them. My sisters & i struggle too, its a mess. Sometimes i wish i had a different family. I feel like i have never experienced love in my life.
Omggg this ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️. I feel you and going through the same thing. You have to turn that vulnerability off to your mom unfortunately. You have to protect yourself. Sending you love and hugs 🥰
Mothers sometimes use their individual relationships with their children to manipulate them instead of being accountable. As adults, siblings need to be really aware of this dynamic and not feed into it. It’s difficult but it’s the only way to end it.
Whew Chile!!! When I say this episode was intense....that literally is an understatement. Mama needs help for real. With Karamo's help I do believe these sisters are gonna be alright
The sisters need to go on a trip together and leave the mom home. That way, they can start working on rebuilding their relationship with the mom stepping in being messy. I wish nothing but the best for this family.
Nah...that's gonna end poorly. You can't travel with trauma lol
Maybe so, but they need to get together without the mom interfering. That way, they can start rebuilding their relationships. Maybe start with some therapy stations first and work up to being able to take sister trips together.
IMO…The Mother Is A Narcissist ‼️‼️‼️
@@mudbuds1161agreed. They have to deal with the trauma first before they take a trip.
The need counseling period
“We broke the curse” I love that for y’all 🥺👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
That I was happy to hear.
The mother has never stopped being abusive to her daughters. She is proud of herself for turning them against each other
Sad TRUTH. Youre SPOT ON
These sisters are like me and my sister well whole family
The momma just making a mess of herself
I swair me and my sister going threw the same thing. And my Aunt bringing us far apart
Sad but so true!!!
The audience kept clapping for the mother and it was truly annoying the mess out of me. Mom was clearly an instigator and abusive but they kept applauding her like she was in the right. 🙄🙄
Right the mother need to go to an assisted living facility lol
Yup!! That’s why I sometimes wish there wasn’t an audience lol
They do that A LOT and it’s sooo annoying. It’s like validating bad behavior from some of these guests and I know the person they’re clapping for be eating it up!
@kayl7055 this is the comment I was looking for. She would not be under my roof.
Sometimes I am convinced that the audience are in another room
Connie was saying more than they heard, " I don't want my momma to mad with me." The abuse that she experienced keeps her locked in a place of fear.
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Poor Connie, you can tell she doesn't have many ppl outside her family. I think thats why she is afraid to speak her truth in front of them all at once. You can tell the other sisters have their own community.
The mother probably does not know how to love because she didn’t deal with or get help with her traumas. Hurt people hurt others. Mother needs help as much as the daughters. They could benefit from family therapy, as well as individual therapy. An onion has many layers…it will take time and counseling to start healing the wounds. It is a great effort on their part to meet… a giant step.
@@janettewest309 NO EXCUSE
That mother is the reason why they are not getting along. She feeds off the drama.
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Reminds me of my grandmother. 😢
Same thing in my family. My mother died still manipulating on her death bed with stage 4 cancer. I chose to separate from the toxicity and seek therapy 4 years prior to her death. It was necessary to save me and my son. I haven't looked back.
My mother is the same way… throws the rock & hide her hand
I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING
This episode was so triggering! And im so glad those sisters are able to heal and work on their relationship with each other. I knew right away it was the momma.
So Did I. It pissed me off when the attendees were Clapping for her.
@@615BlackBarbie same!
Very triggering
Protecting momma is CAUSING THE ISSUE .
Just because it’s your mom don’t mean you have to accept everything . Absolutely not . If her behaviors are ill and it’s hindering you emotionally and physically , tell her about herself and release that . Protecting horrible parents behavior do more damage to you . Carrying that sht then spills into life , your kids etc . “You only get one mom “ yes but you only get one of me . Just because my mom can have more kids don’t give her all rights to disrespect
Protecting momma is CAUSING THE ISSUE . is absolutely right. The entitlement they have because they push you out is unreal.
Absolutely the fxck not! Never condoning it & you are right!
This is so true!!
As a mother, this is a situation I have sworn never to find myself in!
My mother is a spitting image of this woman and the seeds that she’s sowed when we were children have come to harvest the last few years and it’s torn the relationships between me and my three sisters apart. I only have one daughter but I’ve always taught her to cherish her relationships, to praise Jesus for what she has, and for what he has blessed other people with and to love people for who they are not who you wish they were.
@@hdunaway110 so sorry to hear this. I'm an only child. But I'm happy for your daughter cos she seems to have the best mama😊
I try ✝️🩵
@@hdunaway110 My mother is exactly how this lady is too but the only difference is my mother live by itself but my mother turned me and my two brothers and my sister against me I’m the black sheep
@@hdunaway110 I read everything you said you teaching your daughter the right way I have one daughter as well and one granddaughter I just say to myself you have to break the cycle with them and just love on them I love my mom and my family as well but when we have family functions I don’t go over there she always calling me tell me my two brothers are there one of them live in New Jersey him and his wife they just don’t like me and I’m OK with it all started when we were Young she used to talk about us to each other and still do but I don’t feed into it I just stayed in myself and have a good relationship with my daughter and granddaughter I try to do the best I could for my mother financially 🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰💕
Moms wig has a life of its own
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I just made that comment bout them curls😂😂😂😂
That ain't funny
That ain't funny
What a heartless mother. She is blinded to her own shortcomings. Such a pity! Pray and hope they all heal and break the curse so that they all can find love and compassion for each other. Love Karamo's advice. He is full of wisdom and insight ❤
Karamo had his hands full with this episode. He truly was able to get the healing process started.
"Mommie Dearest" Syndrome is prevalent within many ethnic groups and socio- economic backgrounds; she knows no boundaries.
I call my mom, Mommie Dearest for obvious reasons 😢😢!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂 So, does the woman in Mommy Dearest look melanated or ethnic? It's more of then that's like this than our people...
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@@YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BONDright! They completely lost me at that part! 🤦🏽♀️🙄
Can you explain that perspective more ?
I hope these three sisters watch this over and over and over again to remind themselves to love each other and to seek each other's love over the mother.
Im sorry but they are arguing in slow-motion and i just cant 😂😂😂😂
😂😂Same! Glad it was not just me
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I'm hollering....what da HHHHHELL!!!😂😂😂😂😂
Baby they a lil off😂😂😂
Low key, people only come on Karamo for his Hugs❤❤
I want one 😂
Ayo I'm a guy and I feel the same way lol
I know he smells amazing.
Lol I need one too. I wish he was my dad frfr😅@squirrell19861
I just know he smells like shea butter and Cologne
me too❤
This mother clearly caused the divide between her daughters. Tragic. I know several disgusting mothers like this. Demonic spirits allowed to have children just to torture them😢
Sad TRUTH
@@lawannahtrailor9640👈
Mostly sad truth is when black ppl hv kids with multiple men that’s why on this Karamo show all the 3 girls hv kids mother too said she was single parent, that’s why on every show NO male partner is around to support his GF. 75% of blacks globally hv too many kids sometimes don’t know who’s the bio dad. Many toxic families like these and these 3 R grown up hulks and shld solve their own problems N stop sleeping with multiple men. All 4 were playing victim card, zero sympathy for such morons blaming one another .Eeeeks pathetic family
Everything you said is 100% correct my mother was the same way with my two brothers am I want to sister I don’t have a relationship with them because of her she’s very messy and she’s a big liar but I love my mother I just do what I could for her because she’s older now and I stay away from my brothers I have two of them and my one sister I feel very uncomfortable around them so when we have family functions I don’t appear I don’t go
She has pain herself. Calm down with that demonic stuff.
@@erinlee6018 Bow your head and go to the corner. Your energy is off and not welcomed here.
Narcissist mother's do this to their family and you can't tell them anything. They tell lies on their kids to get what they want turn their children against one another. I got tired of it trying to raise my family different 😊
I don't think she's a narcissist, its an abuse cycle.
PREACH IT🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
My maternal vessel called the police on my 13yr old "to get ME under control".
Wow, at first I was annoyed at karamo for being overly respectful to the mom and maybe wasn’t able to see through her bs, but it was actually super smart that he didn’t go hard in confronting her because he saw how much control she has over her daughters. In general, he seems more sensitive with elders I think out of respect but also because he knows that they think because they’re old, they have the mindset that nobody can talk to them “disrespectfully” and they don’t like to be called out. So he goes in very gently with calling them out and they take it better than being called out directly. All the daughters have a piece of them that is scared of her and scarred by her but they still want to respect and love her because they never received it themselves. It could have easily went wrong where they would be more defensive of the mom when she is the problem. Instead, karamo analyzed the situation, let the mom expose herself and then spoke to the girls without her constantly interjecting and being so condescending. I really do think they were open to listen and I really hope that they heal and find a way to deal with their trauma. He handled a very chaotic situation well.
Spot on. They remind me so much of my grandma, her sisters (all 7!), and their mother. It's a common dynamic in those Southern and/or Great Migration Black families. And you're right, Karamo went gently as a code switch to an elder from that era. I'm gonna send this to some friends... it might help all of us
When I learned my mom’s story I was able to view her w compassion. The way they grew up is horrific especially from small rural towns. The molestations, rape, abuse verbal & physical, all while working for pennies, woman having no rights, it’s mind boggling
yup. beatings, scars. ive never seen my great grama hug any of her girls but she hugged the boys
I try to remember that as welll . My momma lived 14 yrs of whites only water fountains …
I think the little sister comes off as very narcissistic. When you play favorites, which are children, this is a prime example of what happens. I am the oldest daughter, who never had a close relationship with my mother, and I could fully relate when you play favorites you divide a family that can sometimes never be healed.
i agree, i wonder why nobody else is discussing the youngest daughters behavior.. comes off as entitled and narcissistic
I have to politely disagree with you. I think the baby sister is trying to keep the family together and has been guilted her entire life and their Mama is the reason. She’s conditioned that girl to believe things that are not true. She’s had to be Miss Perfect and she’s breaking down. Also she has a lot of emotional intelligence and ppl mistake that for narcissistic traits, when they get a small glimpse. These buzz words have got to go.
Its learned from the mom, she condones the behavior. the superiority complex is what she has. This was my life UNTIL i cut them off. No one is significant enough in this life to treat me like Im beneath them. No mama no daddy no body.
She’s definitely materialistic and egotistical but that’s a direct result of mom, like you were saying. Theyve ALL been affected in the ways how mom treated the, each and differently. It’s crazy to see such a blatant display of generational trauma.
@@CassandraV-kl4hq , narcissistic ppl do not possess genuine emotional intelligence.
Ugh that’s how my mom is. She needed to have a thick skin and nobody’s pain or emotions are bigger or hurt more than hers.
Luckily my sister and I recognize this selfishness and we support each other. That’s what’s these sisters need to do. It may take years to get there but at the end all you have is each other
My grandmother is like this luckily my mom was the one to break the cycle ❤🙏🏼
My sister gets off on the mam treating me like this and detaching herself from me. I have been in Gods ear since i realized that she mistreats me to appease her. It has changed me.
@@keesh777That sounds wayyyy too similar to mine and I was crying watching these sisters. Praying for us ❤❤
Those two guys' facial expressions when the mother said she doesn't see it was my exact reaction.
That Mama exercising in that audience getting up and down 😂
The way I was on the mom’s side at the beginning. I was like aww she seems sweet and nice. Reminded me of my grandma! Boah was I wrongggg. Smh I pray they all find healing. Even the mom - it’s obvious she went though something in her own childhood that made her the way she is.
I was believing her at first until the third daughter came out and they started telling the abuse.
This story is so familiar in the Black community. This is deep rooted and it has to stop. Where is the father and husbands or spouses? They need and needed to be around to help and are highly accountable too. I see what's wrong here, competition and repeating of toxic cycles. This can not happen in a family, unless its friendly with maturity. An example, pie contest and outsiders judge. For this family they don't need any type of contest. I agree with the sisters, the mother likes drama. Sad and petty. She needs to grow up. She is a seasoned woman. Their mother needs to get a passion and or perhaps her own home. I applaud the ladies for breaking the toxic pattern of abuse. I respect that the mom took care of her kids and all the responsibilities all on her own. Unfortunately, there was abuse. They all need therapy/counseling to heal. They all need hugs. They all love their mom and eachother. Karamo is awesome. You are so calm, an intellectual, influential, kind and honest. Thank you for helping people especially in the African American community. Its very heartfelt. I hope this family heals. May God help and bless them and you all.
I felt that collective heavy sigh from the audience when the mother said that she “didn’t see it”.
The way those two men rolled their neck was CRAZY!
I couldn't roll my eyes hard enough when she said that.
You know my mom used to tell my sisters and I that she wish she’d had all boys. So much so that I prayed for a boy. Well I got that son and he died in childbirth. My rainbow baby is a girl and 16 now. When I found out I was having a girl I started therapy. I wanted to be whole for her. I am whole for her.
My family has a long history of favoring boys. One of older cousins even told me her grandmother who is my 2x great grandmother would buy Christmas presents for her grandsons and not her granddaughters. That same mentality was passed down although not as extreme. There is still some animosity between the sons and daughters among both of my parents and their siblings based on the differences in treatment from their parents. My parents are divorced but when my dad remarried and had my half brother he always did more for him and with him than me. The Lord is working on me to let go on any bitterness. I don’t speak to my brother.
❤️
My mom said the same thing and she treated my brother better than me and my sister… so sad. I didn’t realize how that traumatized me and the effect it had/has on my relationship with men.
@taytiggs9095 I was so scared to have a girl. But the universe gave me boys . I became whole for them too.
That is so beautiful and makes me tear. Thank you ❤
Youngest failed to mention that mother is part owner of the house that she is living in. She make it seem that mother living with her, but she actually living in a house that's hers.
Facts
Mother 's name is on the title deed but the daughter is paying for it.
Right! Talmbout she jealous… mam g’bye😂
So
Yours is Yours with Nobody else name! IJS
Can they all just stop talking and listen to each other's pain....old school Mama with her own personal issues and her now grown-up daughters still in pain...Lord help them heal so they can have the beautiful relationship they badly so deserve 🙏💔🙁
Another one listen All seeking attention and clack love God help them all
18:24 “That’s how how I feel”
🗣️”Well don’t Feel, Tell The Truth!!”
Me: 😅What!? 😂😂😂😂😂
That was hilarious to me lol
It's funny and sad at the same time😂😂😂😂😂
This was so painful to watch because this was me and my sisters, me and my middle sister grew close to each other, but my oldest sister always stayed away. I was always the one trying to keep us together but my oldest sister always stay away. two years ago me and my middle sister I’m the baby had a huge fight and two days later she was dead she was hit by a car from somebody texting and driving And I still can’t get over it. Now my oldest sister is on her dead bed We’re trying to fix are relationship. It shouldn’t have happened this way after losing my middle sister. I pray to God he gets them healing that they need. Because when there gone they are not coming back. My heart is still so broken. If anyone watching this and going through it please fix it and forgive whatever it is or was.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏾
I’m so sorry for your loss you are in my thoughts and prayers sending love and hugs to you I hope you and your sister fix your relationship as well just love each other to the fullest and if you need to talk we are here for you ❤
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you and your sister all the best
Thanks Karamo. I needed this show. I'm going through the same thing.
I am so very sorry. Prayers for you and your family.❤
Me too 😢
ditto argh.. hugs.. urnotalone soul sister.. tlc
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m going through the same thing as well
They may be dealing with a narcissistic, emotionally distant and emotionally immature parent. They all need a copy of the Mother Hunger book- they have mother hunger, and it’s hurting their relationships with each other, and probably other women too.
That Generational pain, abuse, and hurt is sooooooooooooo deeply rooted in toooo many families!!! Blessings to the ones that have the strength and resilience to break away from the burden!
The mother’s form of “discipline” goes far beyond corporal punishment. When you’re locking kids in closets, tying them to doorknobs, and hitting them with sticks, you are an *ABUSER!* Not to mention dismissing your daughter when she told you she had been molested. And people wonder why more young women don’t come forward when they’ve been preyed upon. Even if she did grow up in an abusive home herself, no part of what she was doing to those girls was right, and she should’ve known that. Some people just don’t even deserve to have children. 😔
generational. that wasnt abuse to her.
She couldn't even remember her own daughters name...the mom FEEDS OFF of this. So sad...
“I did all I could” and “I did what I could” are the phrases that are dead giveaways of a toxic parent.
I was so hurt for thesis sisters. I’m so sorry they had to go through there life in pain because of there mother. I wish all the best for y’all.❤
I love Tonya. She's such a sweet lady! ❤❤ it's always a pleasure to see and be around her!
Omg. You are on it. I saw the same thing when mama started talking that she was the one who
kept stuff going. I'm so glad that they hugged and apologized to each other. I hope they take his advice and get their relationship on track.
Praying for this family! I definitely understand the drama! The mother will never change! So glad that Karmo help them to deal with it for the better and future❤ God bless him, this show really helped me and others who may have similar family dynamics🎉
For mom to say "Which drama was it?" let's us know she's the problem.
The mother is a narcissist. She’s weird.
She’s likes that they fight for her love
Lawwwwd the wig, even Rick James telling😂😂😂
🥴 EVERY oldest Black daughter immediately knows this is all on the mom. She picked a favorite when they were kids, spoiled her, and instigated this drama for years
It's crazy how so often, a mother can be the worst thing for her daughter(s). When you are a nasty, evil woman, it stands to reason that the daughters you raise are going to find themselves in chaos. Look at their role model. Smh.
Now we can all agree that the mother is the issue, but the little sister 100% thinks shes better than them. Its time someone says it, at no point in time did she actually say anything about what they succeeded in. Its been she’s jealous, their jealous. Everyone’s jealous. You dont have a car or house. You live in an apartment. ETC its so much & it’s annoying.
Did you hear what karamo said... they just the mother coming out. It's the mother telling her that they are jealous of her. When u are conditioned like they have been to always have mess going on. It's not their fault. They can work on it. But it not the baby girls fault, but they are learning.
@@nancybroadnax7427 The mother has no clue whos side she wants to be on, shes picking anybody whos on her side & once they’re not she moves on to a different sister. i can understand being conditioned a certain way but nobody is speaking up about her actions & what she does. even when they came to some kind of understanding she still shows how much she thinks shes better. the entire time its what she did, what she succeeded in, etc etc. its me, i.
Women's first heart break is usually from their moms 😢
Both parents. Not just Moms.
This is one of the most excellent shows I have ever seen on this program, thank you
This I can not comprehend? I have 5 children, and my heart wants them to get along...To love each other, and support each other! ❤
LaDonna doesn't have to argue with her older sisters about her house and car being better. Why doesn't she stop talking and let Tonya speak? Who cares if you have a house or car!!! They can be taken away in minutes. A tornado, hurricane, flood can come and take all material things away. Material things aren't more important than your family!!! Life is too short to hold grudges. Once we're gone, you can't say the things you should have when they were alive. Don't live your life with regrets. Be nice and loving to your family. They won't be around forever. Treat your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, and aquaintances the way you would want to be treated like the Bible says. I pray for this family. They could have so much fun together as sisters. I wouldn't change having my loving siblings for anything.❤ I'm thankful to God that our parents were loving and taught us to love each other.❤
Tonya broke my heart. Peach is far too arrogant for her own good.
I absolutely adore Karamo, his compassion and his gift of helping heal families and generational pain and curses! I’m praying that these sisters learn to love on one another and heal together
As soon as the mom said the daughter was “disrespecting” her…I knew the mom was the problem. She doesn’t respect them or listen to them at all. What’s to respect?!
The momma just shaking her head going “uh huh uh huh yeah yeah maybe so” girl if you don’t hush! 😂
And the wig was just bouncing 😂😂😂😂
Healing is so important to our spirit....because when we dont heal we hurt each other....and put our pain on others....it starts by saying the truth to yourself....and say yes I am that person and im going to change and heal to be a better person...we must show and give true love to one another....❤
I believe a lot of this pain is being founded upon generational perspective. I truly believe the mom did the best that she could, yet, that generation (especially from the black experience) was never allotted the opportunity or experience to be soft and vulnerable. Unfortunately, they truly believe the are expressing love by keeping bills paid and food on the table. I think the pain the mother is causing is unfortunately unintentional. The true sadness of the situation is that, for the mother, the concept of softness is partially and completely abstract and foreign to her. In our newer generations we, thankfully, have the opportunity to believe and understand that we are deserving of parental intimacy. The “curse” is that we are now able and desiring a softness that those older generations were never able to even dream of.
I pray for deep healing. Acceptance of expectations. A strength to overcome the grief of the love they deserve, and the courage to understand and have patience for the mother. ❤️
As a community, may we continue to try to give the love we never received to the generations after us. We still may not get it perfect, but hopefully we can be a bit better.
This is so true❤
Thank you.
30:59 has me in tears, these men are fed up with that woman😂
Right I saw that lol
Me too. I kept rewinding 😂
I died laughing 😂😂
Mama is playing jack on both sides , I just have a feeling she talks different thing in each of their ears. She isn't the peace maker as a mother should be , she seems more than friend or sister to these beautiful sisters. They all should go to councelling.
I'm so glad the sisters received the new beginning they needed, and I hope they use the tools Karamo shared, however there's also pain with the mother and I wonder what happened to her to make her pit her daughters against each other. There are some deep issues there. God bless all of them.
Mother was abused, she too needs healing of her past. 🙏🏾
You must break those generational curses and dysfunctional behaviors...
The oldest daughter said “ well that’s how I feel” mom said, “ well don’t feel tell the truth“ 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Took me out😂😂😂😂
Momma cold blooded. I was in the floor when she 1st shut Connie crybaby ass up 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah she’s toxic but she’s funny. 😂
The mum is definitely an triangulator. It's like she's the Queen Of Hearts, holding court.
She enjoys that.
I hope all of them get the help they need xx
This episode touched me so much.. Karomo did and excellent job at identifying what the core problem was
I love karamo. He listens without judgement and treats people like human beings, not ways to get on tv. It’s not about blaming the mom, it’s about her understanding her role in her daughters lives. There’s a lot of generational pain and after you get through all the bickering, which he listens to patiently, you see how eloquently each daughter expresses their needs and emotions.
This is off topic but that mommas curls is bouncin……I can’t help but think of Bounce it by juicy j 😂
SCREAMING 😭😭😭😭😭😭💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀!!!
When I seen her hair I instantly thought of shenana from Martin 🤣🤣
It was so distracting
cherish them moments wit your siblings cause i sadly cant get my sis back❤
Im so sorry ❤
That mother is jealous of her daughters, she still wants to think she’s young. When she takes off that wig at night, and looks in the mirror , reality hits. Lady you old , get in touch with ur grand kids and chill out!
Connie is a peace-maker and absorbs people's trouble.
Reminds me of my great aunts. One sister was light skinned with a finer grade of hair and my other auntie is dark skinned. My great great grandmother born in 1902 would have my dark complexion auntie cleaning up and doing all the work getting in trouble all the time meanwhile my lighter skinned auntie went to college and had all the men and would get in trouble and somehow slither her way out of everything with my older darker skinned auntie getting in trouble for the lighter one’s actions! She was her “doll baby” and treated her so much better that that mindset and treatment went all the way down through the generations of the grandkids and cousins. God rest my dear gram but she was born post slavery and grew up with that slave mentality about certain things and skin color being one of them. That’s what this reminds me of! Sad! We have got to do better and take accountability and stop denying our wrongdoings and DO BETTER!
In this case I feel the darker skinned sister is being treated more harsh because of this. The youngest was probably viewed as more “prettier” because of ignorant things like her color and hair texture and her pretty looks. Sad. We can’t make differences in how we raise our kids. This is the result.
None of them are pretty, they all look like the mother.
The oldest daughter said her mother was abusing her even before her youngest sister was born. They are 13 years apart. The oldest felt it was because of how her mother felt about her father which unfortunately happens to some children who look like a dad the mother doesn’t like. The mother also acknowledged they had never had a good relationship. Plus the younger daughters said they were also beaten and abused. Connie was slung by her hair, and she looks to have the same complexion as LaDonna to me.
Different families have different dynamics. My family is black and has a rural patriarchal driven culture and favoritism is based on gender. For us men/boys get better treatment and skin complexion doesn’t mean any better or worse treatment. I say this as someone who is in the middle in our range of complexions. I have female relatives who are much lighter than I am but I never felt treated like less than them. Just my boy cousins.
the fake crying is annoying me. she’s a mom pleaser, i see why though. but she ain’t dropped ONE tear. she can just communicate without feeling like she has to cry.
I just said the same thing!
@@teehee83 & the mom picked up on it bc she said “girl bye” when she fake cried for the last time. i feel for her but no reason to fake cry, nobody will hate her
Nasty mom
Someone just said that they arguing in slow motion 😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
……they have ALL that smoke for their mother-what about their father, where are the fathers?
Yes there father left but who beat them? Who locked them in closets? Who verbally and physically still hits on them? The mother. Why do Black people act like two things can’t be true. There fathers may have not been there but there mothers was abusive. Are you saying that should be okay with being locked in closets because their mother was the one who stayed and raided them? You are just as sick as the mother.
Karamo keep teaching us and helping us! Your assessments are on point. Let the breakthrough and healing begin for this family.
Karamo need more than 45 minutes because Lawd!!
So relatable to me and my sisters~ The oldest stay away The Second oldest will only do if money is involved and me the youngest Flipped over tables and called them all on they mess~ Meanwhile Mother @ 82 avoids and coodles 52 yr old son as if he was on of her boyfriends (He has 5 kids and 4 gbabies that don't know him) mother has always had a Man and a life (I heard this from age 10yrs old ) BUT I Have And Will continue to fight outside that BOX!!! #Finally Evolving @ 53
This one made me cry!
When the younger sister heard her older sister say “I’m sorry” after she said she’d jump on her! Whew I felt that! That smile was everything! 😊
Mom: Am I the problem? Is it me?
All three daughters: Yes!
Mom: Ya'll need to tell the truth.
Mom needs to learn that they are not little girls anymore, she cannot talk to them however she wants. I pray these sisters can rekindle their bond and grow closer together.
Meanwhile mama in the back being held back by security because she’s mad at karamo for spitting facts!
😂😂😂😂
When the show went off without him going and talking to her on camera I got second hand embarrassment. 😂 I know she pissed off!
I needed this, cuz boy is this room TENSE! 😂
@@IcannotloseHad she spoken, she would have been heading straight to prison after the show for ASSAULT & ABUSE!
Their mother is set in her ways. She came from a different time period where her generation swept issues under the rug. Her mother knows nothing else. I am happy he was respectful to their mother. This is na issue that divided thwm, but they can band together. Hopefully this show was the start of them.mending their relationship
This is so toxic! The mother reminds me of my mother! She’s toxic she’s caused us not to communicate with each other anymore for years
Karamo! You keep my allergies active… teary eyes, runny nose, congested sinuses… Somebody, please pass the Zyrtec!!😢😂😅❤❤❤❤
My family is divided also, related by blood but not a drop of family
Hurt people, hurt people.... This old doll has a lot of healing to do herself. Those sisters need to recognize, accept and disconnect from Mom in terms of being sisters. Not saying leave Mom alone, but not include her in their relationships.
I like how you called her an 24:00 "old doll" good one!!
30:56 that mans face, I hollered!
Wow Karamo is amazing! The way he brought these sisters together! 😢
I like how all 4 of them talk slowly and low....you wont even know when they get dangerous 😂😂.
I would like to see an update on this family. 😢 this is truly heartbreaking but I pray they are applying that simple technique Karamo gave and everything is healing ❤️🩹
They have me in tears 😢 I'm so glad y'all on the show bless this family lord ❤ 🙏
This show had me in tears because this, to me, seemed to be a classic case of a situation where the mother was in survival mode and resentful that she was doing it alone. A lot of mothers, especially, black mothers have so much pressure to be a provider, etc. that they struggle the juggle of it all. They are angry at the father, for not being there, angry at the world because of the lack of opportunities and unfair treatment, then they misplace their anger in the areas they can control, which is their children. They need healing. They perpetuate the behavior that was experienced, and has been transferred from generation to generation, and taught from how the oppressors treated us during slavery, and that is to instill fear and keep us separated. They pitted us against each other, and this is a condition that we, as a community, need to heal from. Until then the family is going to have a lot of this. I feel for all of them. This is much deeper and bigger than we will ever know!
Damn this triggered me! I have a mother that continously hurts & lets me down & has the audacity to get mad at me when i catch on to her bs. I understand that in her childhood she probably suffered but i see her treat her men very good & i just wish she'd treat me half as good as she treats them. My sisters & i struggle too, its a mess. Sometimes i wish i had a different family. I feel like i have never experienced love in my life.
Omggg this ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️. I feel you and going through the same thing. You have to turn that vulnerability off to your mom unfortunately. You have to protect yourself. Sending you love and hugs 🥰
Mothers sometimes use their individual relationships with their children to manipulate them instead of being accountable. As adults, siblings need to be really aware of this dynamic and not feed into it. It’s difficult but it’s the only way to end it.
This is the best Karamo show I have seen and hear
Whew Chile!!! When I say this episode was intense....that literally is an understatement. Mama needs help for real. With Karamo's help I do believe these sisters are gonna be alright
This hit home.
Tears of Joy You all are Brave Bold BEAUTIFUL!!! Keep loving each other!! And Moma FORGIVE Move Forward ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
That hard wig.. Connie... That wig
Girlllllll I can’t with that shakable wig😩😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂