What is the INTJ "Death Stare"
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- I discuss why INTJs have their notorious stare.
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"For a second there it looked like you were staring right through me. Like I didn't even exist."
"For a second there you DIDN'T exist."
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As an INTJ, for me, the death stare comes when Ni takes over complete control of my mind; my body goes haywire and I even forget to blink. It is like a very heavy computation that takes control of your entire RAM in your laptop, and it forces other applications to slow down or completely stop. You are so focused on this one particular scenario, that no force on earth can make you stop, and when an answer or an idea finally emerges, you snap back into reality and you look away.
I experience those daydreams, too. And rather often than rarely. ^^'
Do you know the movie "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty"? The portrayal of the death stare phenomenon in this movie is absolutely great. 😃
Agree, I am a Virgo, sigma, INTJ.
Who is also ambidextrous
I thought it was because of my ocd, but it's because I'm an intj
The RAM analogy is exactly how I've always described it to people as well.
It means we are actually listening to you. Be flattered, not frightened.
@@thuynguyenthidieu2074 What you say is true. But it doesn't negate that a person should also be flattered we stepped out of what we were pondering to try and grasp a full understanding of what they are communicating.
Now if we say, "Wait. That doesn't make sense.," then they should be worried. lol
My professors freak out , everytime I stare at their soul like am trying to understand u , am not being creepy.
No. It means we were listing, now we're just thinking about what they previously said and no longer listing, but in time we shall come back to the topic at hand.
Or maybe... we are so into inside our mind, that us eyes shows de death of the body. Because we are not here. Shuashua...
"Do not be afraid"
Daydreaming on the bus with headphones on -- the interruption-caused deathstare has saved me from countless conversations from men who think public transit is tinder 😆
How dare a man try to talk to a woman!
@@EresirThe1st I would think the opposite. Wouldn't want a male who is a stranger to me coming up to me when there's no one around in case of shenanigans. Also, where the f else is a man supposed to meet a woman? You 21st century people are f'ing weird.
@@angelbear_og when I am using public transportation, I am trying to go from point A to point B. I'm not looking for a mate, therefore do not wish to be disturbed by random men. There are many services available these days where people can go to meet their physical needs from interested parties. No need to disturb the peace of woman who are not interested in the slightest while taking a bus someplace. Not sure why this is difficult for you to understand but maybe you are intellectually challenged.
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As a young intj I disagree with you.
The part about death stare being the normal look of entj and estj is hilarious, and you make it more so XD
Explanation about INTJ floating away mid-conversation is spot-on.
And I want to add my own description of the inner state of the INTJ death stare as that I am trying to see clearly and seriously. I am trying to keep emotions away from clouding what I see so that I don't end up with non-sense in my judgement and action.
I tried not to scrutinize people. But now that I think about it, I may have repressed myself unwisely, because I have been terribly deceived time and again.
Careful taking in and getting lost processing. Is that why we are considered deep?
This is by far the best explanation for the death stare of the INTJ I’ve come across. Even showed it to my partner who often gets frustrated with my perceived lack of attention during conversations etc haha.
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sick of seeing INTJ's commenting and telling us..."Im INTJ"- who cares stfu...YT, Quora, Reddit full of it...
@@Khan_is_mongol it also applies on your comment "who cares stfu"
@@Khan_is_mongol Hah, you have a point. But thankfully anyone can comment whatever tf they want.
What’s funny is that people can tell when I’m inside my head easily because I always subconsciously start staring at the ground like I’m a powered off robot.
When your an INTJ and you don't know anything about this "death stare" that INTJ's apparently use:
Never knew anything about it until these videos. Although a psychiatrist years ago wrote in the notes that I have a "staring gaze". Maybe that was it.
Now what about the TJ “what you trying to pull w/ me” single eyebrow raise? 😆
You mean the wtf eyebrow raise 😂 When extraverted thinking needs to switch to introverted feeling, because the other person doesn't have a clue to the objective truth of the matter. I have never done that. Nope not me😅😂 I bet asura psych hasn't either. Lol Even though i just got a clear picture of how he would look in my mind. With an inconspicuous side looking eye slightly raising its eyebrow. Intj's literally switch to compassion pretty quickly at that point.
I think entj's and entj's wait until they can't take the nonsense any more and freak out, and then afterwards have a burst of very pure compassion, but only if healthy. If not, they can be cruel, and then wonder where everyone went.
Is the single eyebrow raise an intj thing? Because I do that all the time
@@manofculture467 So what type are you? *raises eyebrow*
My guess is it's a stronger inclination for thinking over feeling thing.
@@Rumplegirlskin as an intj I think I'd agree with that explanation. Thanks
I don’t know, I think the stare might because the intj is asking themselves if the person speaking really believes their own bs.
That death stare is sometimes, "I'm bored, move on" lol
Up next: The INTP "Blank Stare"
This has been my observations as well. I like the comparisons you mentioned. Very astute and precise explanation!
The ExTJs I've lived with used to have an extra Te mode stare when wanting to control or drive in their reality of being right. It really bothered me sometimes but I couldn't put my finger on it.
- INFJ
I am an INFJ, but I appreciate your very good insight into the interaction of cognitive functions...”Te” is hard for me to understand in other personality types...”Ti” inclines me to prefer heeding my own counsel
The vast majority of us have piercing eyes to begin with...
Adding the death stare is more than most can handle. Good. Keep walking...
After decades of being completely misunderstood, my piercing eyes being their primary trigger, I find it a confounding paradox, that I have to understand their dysfunctions: _No One EVER_ has asked me anything... they just assume, pass judgement based on those inaccurate assumptions, then act out emotionally... & EXPECT ME to adjust my ocular operations to appease THEM... & I'm the SOB WHEN I DON'T!!! Well... News FLASH!!!... those "appeasement adjustments" are NOT part of my obligation in ANY context. _I am who I am... I am what I am. If YOU can't take the heat, STAY OUT of my kitchen!!!_ I think that's on point...🖤
Im so related to this people always assume that I want to pick a fight or something 😂 its so tired to try to "make face" for them so they are not afraid of me. Nowadays I mostly just f*ck it its your problem that you get triggered by my face and we dont even talk how could you know that I am a bad person I bet that I hold my moral higher than some of you so tired lol sorry for my venting and bad english just that I finally found others who could related.
Sim,eu chamo de guardar os olhos da medusa, só para faze-los se sentirem confortáveis.
I secretly love that my resting face is a death stare because I started having it around the beginning of highschool and all of the "bullies" who loved to harass me in middle school gradually started distancing themselves from me, and of course it also helped even more once I taught myself an imposing posture. Even a chill weightlifter guy who was one of the most swole in my grade has told me that I scare him, even though I'm not even trying to be scary and he could easily fold my clothes with me still inside them. In reality though I'm a bit of a goofball around people I actually like.
Scott: "Mister Chekov, I've lost the Bird Of Prey. She must've cloaked."
Chekov: "Raise shields!"
Scott: "But the shuttle!"
Chekov: "Do it. Go to red alert."
I would have liked to have known I did this much earlier than Star Trek warned me I would.
My family is in the habit of asking if my shields are up or down and that darn Death Stare has gotten me in so much trouble...and not the trouble with tribbles. si-gh
Live Long and Prosper, Chris. and please keep creating te-rrific content.
Holy crap, I had a boss who could do a ‘death stare’ so now my mind is racing about what her type might be
It's because we realize we can learn something from everyone and we proceed from the assumption you have something important to say. You have our undivided attention and we want to learn all we can from you.
I got the chance to see this stare one day at temporary work.
I had to take the corridor, thinking there were no one. He was walking surely on his mind like 80% of the time. He surely didn’t expected to see someone appear just next to him at this moment. I saw this deep almost black / void stare. And I was happy to saw this, because I know it was this.
He got the chance it was on me, who know what really is. Because surely others would think he has a nasty stare.
One day, many years ago, during party at home, 3 ex friends thought one other had a nasty/bad stare, as if he wanted to kill all people. We (2 INTJ) were the only two people not drunk.
Since this day, they think he is a bad person, and they never see him anymore, just because of his killer stare XD.
I find myself telling my family and closest compadres something along the lines of, "give me a second, I'm thinking." I've done this since I was a kid. I mean, I can think and listen to people at the same time, but I notice that people feel awkward when I go into my thinking mode.
INFJ here. I have a very similar “death stare”, but I don’t have a warm Fe look when someone yanks me out of my Ni world, but I don’t do it on purpose it kind of just happens. It honestly bothers me a little bit when someone pulls me out of my Ni world, and it definitely shows on my face. That might be a Ti thing, I don’t know. But whenever someone pulls me out of my head, it’s almost like when you’re having a really interesting dream and your alarm goes off and you just want to go back to the sleep to finish it, but you can’t.😂
Yes! 😂 I just wanna slap them. I even try to dismiss them so I can go back to my inner world.
@@NadaAlawadhi my sister is an ENFJ and she intentionally pulls me out of my Ni world when she sees that I start to zone out. One time she literally clapped in my face... let’s just say she never did that again😂😂
@@alexismccombs4805 oh my haha 😂
Great analogy -- the dream and alarm clock.
What's interesting and maybe a bit of nuance is that as a very young child, my ISTP dad would zone out, looking away. And one time he did that mid-conversation, and I gently grabbed his face and made him look at me. He loves to tell that story.
Yes I do give some Fe warmth while trying not to look murderous, but my tone gets deadly 🤣
Reading the comments lets me know I am not alone 😊
Beautiful comparison explanation buddy, I felt really happy, can you do infj stare next? You explained very nicely man! Only Ni user can get closest to explaining accurately from personal experience
Once I went into that deep-thinking mode during a trivia game. The guy who asked the question was watching me, and when I got the answer, it felt like an electric shock in my head. The guy said, "Wow, I saw that!" before I had a chance to say anything. He saw the electric shock in my brain.
Nice video! I'm an INTJ and ODU Alum May 21.
The true death stare happens when we decide to temporarily kill our emotions (shut off tertiary feeling function) and put all into perception and logic, ceasing actions as well.
In those moments, you know you're fked.
"I do not partake in mental combat with the... unarmed."
Oh my God, I'm impressed by your proficiency and speed of speech. Wow, cool >_
I go into my mind alot to think about quiestion I get asked so I thought that was just something normal to go into your mind and try to find something
I got good at holding up a finger when I was going into computation mode. The stare afterwards was letting them know that I had a solution or at least a suggestion.
I always do this while heading to work or vice versa mostly when I'm quickly making calculations on my planning for the day. Literally don't want to talk to anyone about anything when I'm focused on things.
We INTJs have: Ni hypnotic eyes according to vultology, Ni/Se axis, Te/Fi rigidity and we are gamma quadra: Serious, Democratic and Decisive.
In younger days, called it "the stares". I briefly wondered if it might be petit mal seizures. I have been told about my "piercing" eyes. I took test on line twice because I didn't believe it the first time. Once I accepted and found sites like this, I accepted myself as I never had before.
2:14 This reminds me of one time when my great uncle (istj) and I (intj) are both sitting in the backyard enjoying the sun and the other family members are playing cards, we seemed like we were both zoned out, but somehow he still realized what's going on around him and what's going on with those playing cards, but I was completely zoned out. ISTJ has a certain kind of death stare as well, that's why when I talk to an ISTJ, I don't directly make eye contact, it feels like they can see right through me as well. My ISTJ great uncle once said to me, "We are the same, you see me the way as I see you." :) scary. It's funny tho, now I realize that I barely make eye contact with others when I talk to people, but when I do, mostly because I try to analyze the person in front of me, or because I was angry and I find my death stare pretty effective and energy saving, I don't need to say a word, but I knew they are intimidated.
I grew up with a parent who would perceive my eye contact as aggression, so I often end up staring at some point near the person but never straight at them, or just closing my eyes to stop the "drift" when I notice it happening. Not gonna lie I often get really self conscious after the exchange, wondering if they thought I wasn't listening.
Unless i'm trying to pressure someone to finish their bit and leave me alone. Then it's full on stare into their soul lol
intjs are the best personality type. definitely not biased.
Excellent work! Very insightful 👍
🦈LoL I've always likened my 'deathstare' to that of a great white shark, cauz I'm tryin' to profile my prey; I'm not tryin' to see their physical appearance, but am rather intent on discovering their psychological make-up.
'Part of the great white shark's mystique is its unnerving gaze, a sort of blank stare, as though from a creature whose soul has departed its body.
Some might recall the chilling description delivered more than 40 years ago by the gruff shark hunter Quint, in the thriller Jaws:
"Y'know the thing about a shark, he's got... lifeless eyes, black eyes, like a doll's eyes. When he comes at ya, doesn't seem to be livin…"'
I always zone out or can’t articulate my words. Damn!
I call it my screensaver mode.
Entj here with intj tendancies- i have one dead ass serious death stare😆
I feel like this is necessary! Most intj s who do this aren’t emotionally intelligent enough to know what’s going on or what it appears as being.
Just makes me wonder what would happen if an Intj and Infj made eye contact, The Dead stare meets aline with the Death Stare which would be pretty counterproductive for you can't kill something that's without a soul
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4:00 yeah Te doms do the death stare all the time lol
When i was with an ex, she said i always looked mad and it always confused her whether i was happy or sad.
With another ex she noticed after it after things were going downhill.
And now i do it almost everyday bc of memories/flashbacks of my ex’s. What they did, what I’ve done with them is forever burned into my brain
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Side note: could it be an Ni-dom tendency to compare and contrast? If that is good way to describe your juxtaposition of types to distinguish nuance and understanding. I noticed few in my life do this but there is an INTJ I know who does.
@@Rumplegirlskin I do too and am an INFJ. interesting to think of compare/contrast with angles of perspective. It's like we thoroughly analyze a multi faceted diamond.
This cause me lots of problem before haha
because i dont even realize i am doing it
i have been told that i have a death stare (when i'm thinking) and i also float away mid-conversation, both when i'm the one talking or when it's the other person, but I'm an INTP. I have never experienced this behavior from other people though. There is definitely thinking space in my conversations with INTJ-s, but it feels natural. But i suppose i don't interrupt people, it's clear from their facial expression when someone is absorbed in something.
Omg i think i finally got it. Thank u for explaining it :))
I developed mine behaviour until I never really focus my stare on people's faces. I usually look somewhere near they ears. It also help me to avoid all their emotions I don't want. I prefer to to keep with the logical reasons and to process. Not sure if it is a type thing or just personal.
Also I use rised eyebrow a lot. But in those few moments when I focus on person's face.
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.
I literally go deadly with my death stare for no reason
I love it when people who have no idea about Psychology decide to take the Myers Briggs Type Indicator and then turn into Psychology masterminds. Oh right how predictive is it of anything? 0%. Its completly useless. Its a 1930s test which has not been able to predict anything. If you really want to know your 'Personality' use the big Five Test.
I have a recent video on why the big 5 is not so useful if you are interested in learning more. I have worked with both assessments professionally.
INTJ here with Borderline Personality Disorder. Lemme tell ya, people think I'm constantly pissed off - and I am. LOL.
Why does he know me so well
So I am not broken I’m just very unique/rare/different? Really good news for god sake I always thought I was insane or my brain just wasn’t as good as other people or what I would tell to myself for example was “aw dude you came faulty out of the fabric” LOL but in reality I am a fucking dangerous weapon now I know this yay! They should teach you this in school!
I would be INTJ or INTP, i don't death stare so much, i would describe as staring into space, i also make very poor eye contact. What would that be? I've always thought it was rude to stare, is this learned or instinctive. I don't remember much of my childhood maybe i did do this alot at one point? I would describe me going into this headspace as an extremely easily derailable train of thought. Minor distractions will fuck me over while that happens.
wait- I THERES ACTUALLY A NAME FOR IT
I find it hard to tell apart the Fi dom vs. the Ti dom when it comes 'to mental processes and 'the stare' based on your explanation. I do not have sufficient real-world data as I only know 1 INTJ and 1 ISTP intimately. Based on these 2 people, I can only say the ISTP tends to look away and looks like they are updating a mental database and do not want eye contact to come in the way of disturbing that process; while the INTJcan while looking at you. Both have an 'intentional' type of stare ie. looking for information. to consume. Would that be an accurate description?
I love this
Is it any way you can fix it?
How many INTJ's does it take to screw in the lightbulb?
1.
But he first investigates how to change one.
No one, they prefer stay in the dark.
Like me INFJ XD
None. They're too busy dealing with shit that actually matters.
Forgetting I was driving wen I stopped on the stopped sign is seen kinda creepy to people but my thoughts are vivid moments 🤣 joke...
OMG so true! ⭐ /INTJ
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Death star
I’ve never even seen it. 😂. I guess I’m boring.
the intj death stare is the reson my freinds say thet i suck their soul
3:53 - 4:01 😂 lol
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please help. im depressed and isolated. i deathstare at the internet all day long. otherwise shut up your gay.
Sorry. Just notice you are falling out of frame... 😬
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.
I reall think you're confusing a few different things here.
1. From observation, all NJs have what I'd call an Ni stare and it has nothing to do with Te. Ni is lazer focus and NJs possessing high Ni, all have the capacity to stare daggers, for lack of better phraseology.
2. The so called INTJ death stare may also look like we're very angry or hostile, not merely detached, even though we're just chilling in our Ni world.