Psychologist explains depression symptoms
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- About 1 in 5 people will experience clinical depression at some point in their lives, yet the symptoms of depression are still not well understood by most people.
These symptoms include:
Depressed mood
Anhedonia
Insomnia or hypersomnia
Increased or decreased appetite
Psychomotor agitation or retardation
Fatigue
Difficulty with focus, concentration, and memory
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Passive or active suicidal ideation
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First biggest one is NO MOTIVATION. Can’t even get out the door. It’s horrible. I’ve dealt with this all my adult life. “CPTSD”
Mine after trauma
@@sallypettit7156mine too. I’ve never felt this way and I’m already on medication. 💊
This is the first time ive heard someone explain depression so well . Since I was a child, I have had chronic depression . I pray 🙏 and see a counselor 💜
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For me it's so hard to get out of the house hard to take a shower. No motivation what so ever. It's a nightmare. I'm on medication but if doesn't seem to work.
The exhaustion, overwhelm, procrastination, over sleeping (escapism), over eating for comfort..... THE LIST GOES ON....
I can’t sleep at night, and that came from hyper focusing on my art. So now I roll around all night then sleep til 1:00 pm.
@@RobinMartz-x9f what medium do you express yourself through? I am a landscape painter. Cheers from the desert in Tucson Arizona.
Or not eating 😢
Watch our for unhealthy escapism. I mean alcohol, etc. It can make things so much worse in several ways. I wish you well.
And chronic guilt feelings or low self-esteem because of all this.
The cat interuption was the first thing that has made me laugh today. Thank you for keeping that in!
Same. We need more Cupcake. 🧁😍
agree! including a cupcake in videos would bring more smiles to cat people here 😻💓
😊me too
I loved cup cake
The cat was awesome 🐈
I’m just so tired…emotionally and physically.
Glad it's not just me
You're not alone. I feel this too, every day.
This....
I can totally relate.
I relate as well 😢.... I don't want to be sad. 😢
This is me nearly all of my existence. From 10 to now. Just dragging my way through life.
I feel similar to that also
Imagine doing it for 40 years but you will find a way we all must somehow.
Same
Same for 54 years
Same. Can’t find a medication or therapy that works. I have lost 20 years of my life due to this evil disease.
Depression makes you feel dead and empty. The pain you feel, so bad you can't breathe. Pain in the head is constant. Feels lots of waves of grief , saddness. Horrible remorse of life. But got yo be honest, I'm only here today because I've talked about it. Counselling and psychotherapy. Depending on your history, memories will never go away, but they feel a bit lighter to manage life. Best to expose the truth, than keep it hidden in your mind and body.
I know exactly what you are or had
gone through depression sucks
@@rosewelsh6687 I hear you as I’ve walked in your shoes
I have chronic depression and I know how you feel. It is so weird
Anxiety depression horibble 😮
@@rosewelsh6687 Psylicibin therapy is the best therapy. It has helped thousands of people. There are many videos on in RUclips.
I already knew I loved this man not only for his insight, his sincerity in helping people suffering and for his perfect explanation of concepts but then when his cat appeared behind the curtain and to find out he is a cat lover. ❤ This man rocks
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@@DrScottEilers I think you should make video what not to say to person with any type of mental illness.
@@izabelaswa85 that’s a great idea. I think I will
Would you consider discussing depression and long term illness, and/or injury which causes extreme change of lifestyle? Until my hip is replaced in 2 months, I can’t move with extreme pain, and the pain meds are strong and changing my disposition/personality-I am depressed.
I was crying at the start as missing lost family which is most of them tbh, then only thing I've laughed at all day is the cat as I have a bunch of them, as wondered what was up! Cat people are usually nice
I think the hardest part of it all is the memories. I am constantly reminded by the memories and I can’t ever forget them.
I try putting them into little boxes at the back of my brain, the bad ones like little horrible little books you wouldn’t want to read again! Take a deep breath and say to yourself, right, onwards and upwards, and don’t forget to do something you enjoy every day. I’m a highly sensitive person so really feel the sad things badly. Hope you don’t mind me passing my tips onto you! We can sort this!
@ damn this actually helps so much. Thank you
@@thekiddcolussi good luck 🤞
This is so much better than the other depression videos. I love that you talked about anhedonia so thoroughly, because for me, it’s the number one most frustrating symptom of my depression (and usually the first sign that it’s getting bad again). And I feel like most videos talk about the feelings of sadness… not the utter, grey, joyless flatness that I usually experience.
This video expjlaned everything 100 percent how I feel,
I know I have never heard of some of these symptoms but I now recognize that I have them. I can't remember the last time I felt joyful about anything. I remember one Christmas I kept staring at an ornament that said JOY and wondering how that felt. 😢
I wish I felt sadness. I just nothing, constant numb emptyness. Always flat no matter what. When I know I should feel sad/grief at times, or feel some joy at least .
Same here ... exactly.!
.... this sucks. Life isn't enjoyable anymore.
@@lucialuciferion6720wow,. I've been feeling exactly this way, but couldn't explain this to anyone. I don't have my feelings anymore. I thought I was the only one like this,... it has scared me so much. Depression is so scary and uncomfortable.... Hope we get better, and feel correct emotions again 🙏
I am 41 now,my early age was ok.I started feel depressed by the age 35,i have insomnia, anxiety,unfocus mind and many more.Our brain need time to heal,dont give it a push to think.Unfortunately we have our own problems,hope the best to all of you
I’m same but for me it started in late 20’s
Perimanopause will cause that too
Same here
Your videos should be required viewing for all aspiring therapists. After a lifetime dealing with mental health professionals this is the first time ive heard someone who actually knows what it feels like.
Amen!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for explaining what depression more or less what I have experienced lately. Very tired not eating and lack of sleep and forgetting to do daily chores. I am 70+. I feel bad for feeling this way.
Kitty, Kitty,,,,……cats can sense our depression, and when I was really sad, cats would lay on my chest and purr…that made me feel so good and loved.
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Me too !
So true! Jesse will stay with me on the bed --lying across the bed -- (horizontally, of course!!)and it does help me feel a bit less lonely
Yes, the Cupcake interruption and Scott's inter-action with Cupcake soothed my stomach with a love potion, Thanks. It felt so good.
Having, caring and loving pets always help motivate me to get up for a purpose. It reminds me how love is unconditional for them. They give me joy, like children do! I highly recommend them.
The benefit of unconditional love from an animal is beyond words…my little pug gives me more than any human ever has. I’ve rescued, fostered and adopted pugs…my little human. I’d be lost without him.
@@BarbStewart-x8h the bible says in proverbs that a rightoues person cares for there beasts. Or In modern words pet's.
I haven’t smiled all week, but cupcake just gave me a smile…cupcake should feature regularly
Excellent video. When you go to a hospital or mental health facility, they ask you if you are suicidal. When you explain that you're not suicidal (ie about to kill yourself) but you think about death as an escape from the misery of depression they look at you blankly. More training is required and there is definitely a stigma about depression and anxiety. If you've never experienced it you don't understand. Everyone is different, there is a wide array of symptoms as the video explains.
Heaviness and fatigue. The most simple task can feel like climbing a mountain.
I get this 100% I deal with these episodes weekly. It's so difficult to do anything on any given day.
I usually sleep my days away to escape from my reality.
omg yes like I need to clean my bedroom but it literally causes me pain to even think about starting it. It’s so daunting and overwhelming. I hate this feeling
Can be very painful
This is so true, its hard to deal with the tiniest things.
@@AniAni-dy7hoyour description reflects my experience totally. Sleep is my sanctuary. Best wishes to you ❤
I have all of these symptoms after sudden loss of my 23yr old son this summer. Hollow and empty, joyless....stopped doing all my hobbies.
What most people dont understand about depressed people....we have to wind up our energy levels to achieve normality, but once your friends of family dinner or event is over you crash....tank completely empty, and struggle for days after to even get out of bed.
People see you occasionally and you seem normal or recovering from the loss...but it's just a snapshot of your life.
I'm 58, and the thought of being like this for potentially next 25 yrs fills me with dread.
I am so sorry for your pain, so sorry that your son lost his life, I hope your heart can heal a little. Bless you.
Sending love to you ❤ xxxx
So sorry for your loss.Your son would want you to find peace and comfort.I hope you will learn to heal through grieving.
I'm so so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. God bless you. 💓🙏
I’m very sorry for your loss
Would absolutely love a video on C-PTSD if that's not already in the works!
This sucks really bad. Cptsd is a constant non stop depression and anxiety. For me the biggest thing with this is mostly a constant high anxiety/hypervigilance that increases the depression
@@Bar_Bar27exactly!😢❤
I have found my people on this channel and in this man. I love that he says that no two depressive people are exactly the same. Depression can but doesn't have to lead to extremes of feelings or actions if one receives the correct help from the psychologist, GP and psychiatrist you are seeing. This can be an extremely difficult task for the depressive. One of the things I believe the therapy needs to include is group therapy for the people in the depressive's life specifically significant others. This is absolutely vital in my opinion. It is interesting to see the ways in which depression can manifest from a depressive's point of view. We need to be more open to the possibility that this can be genetically inherited. It is difficult to discover whether having a depressive parent makes one more likely to be born with depression or whether growing up with a depressive in the home makes one more likely to manifest and become a depressive thus perpetuating the problem. In my case I have a son with ADD which has resulted in him believing that he has a bad memory and means that he spent the requisite time in education but didn't reach the necessary results required in the greater world. I feel guilty that this was my fault because he was an unplanned pregnancy which meant I was very angry and really didn't want another child at that time. From birth onwards it seemed he had to fight life and challenge everything as if his life depended on it. It made bonding with him extremely difficult until he was almost 8 years old. I am now 75 and have a wonderful life but whilst I am on top of my depression I am unafraid of death and envy people who have died.
@@Bar_Bar27yup. Me too
Hey, it’s real if you think it is
I had no idea that my not caring if I died was a sign of depression. Thank you.
I finally understand depression because of this video. Other videos on depression have not been this good. Thank you.
I have never heard or have had this explained so well. I have struggled with depression after my first baby at the age of 22. Now 54, I am still struggling. It’s been lifelong. Thank you for clarifying what has been happening all of these years. I believe I can take some action now and address these symptoms.
Describes my whole life perfectly. My mother cried for the duration of her pregnancy and months afterwards which was probably a major contributing factor. I was literally born depressed. I learned early in life to go to school, work, whatever and appear to be "fine." It was/is exhausting.
The guilt/shame thing is a major topic as well. It also comes on top of that all. Because of not functioning like before. What we remember on how it was in the past/before the episode. And the guilt trip to friends and family, because of the isolating since we maybe don't have enough energy to hold on to meetings. A bad circle. The wish to meet with others, but not being able to do it, to feel ashamed for the excuses and the sadness to again disappoint others.
I'm 62 and I've always been an 'unhappy' person. I've been in every type of therapy and course available and you are the first person I've come across who 'gets' it. I would love to tell my oldest child about you but if I did they wouldn't watch you, but I just know you could really help them. They have borderline personality disorder and have struggled all their life. I love them so much but currently they don't want to have anything to do with me. I hope somehow they come across your podcast....
💔 bless you and your kids
Arrrh u love them that’s all that matters .
Thanks mate for doing these vids for free. I’m in my 70s and can’t wait to die and I’m so unhappy and lonely. Too late for me to change my fucked up life but I know your work and sharing will make a difference to so many younger people who still have a life ahead of them. Go well.
It’s not too late for you ❤
Never late
@@heinmolenaar6750looks don't mean a thing... Most try to smile for the camera, many in bad shape can put on a really good front.
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@@heinmolenaar6750 💖🙏✨
This is the best description of what it is like to be chronically depressed that I've ever heard or read. Every single word is spot on. I am 74 and have been clinically depressed since age 12. I've been in therapy and on SSRI's for the past 35 years. This treatment has helped me avoid the suicidal lows, but does nothing to relieve the helplessness of it all. It is troubling to see this sad outcome reflected in the majority of the comments. Today I have added remeron to my regimen. Tomorrow morning I will wake up "foolishly optimistic" that it will be a better day. This is the only tool I have left. I wish better days for all of us. Remember that you are not alone and that someone cares and is rooting for your success.
I appreciate you for making this video. I have been struggling with depression for most of my life and this is the first time I’ve heard someone speak about the differences from person to person in such detail. I believe through your videos a lot of people will be saved. Thank you
Thank you so much Deon! It means a lot to me that you understand what I’m going for. You might also like my latest video on anxiety!
I have every one of these symptoms. I am amazed at how accurate these are for me. The struggle is real, especially the suicidal ideation.
Thank you for breaking it down so well. It’s sad that I don’t have anyone interested in understanding or watching this in order to do so. You describe it very well. I’m having a major depression episode that has lasted for a couple years now. I’m 98 lbs from my normal 120 lbs. I sleep most of the time and feel like I have brain fog most of the time. I’m physically weak. I’ve lost interest in the things I love. Cooking, creating art, gardening…
I recently went on a trip from NY to NM to maybe help snap out of this depression. I have visited many times and lived there for a couple years. My Dad was born n raised there. I have lots of family there too. I got lost when I first got there and the trip spiraled down from there. I was overwhelmed with anxiety n could barely drive my rental car. Finding my Airbnb was a nightmare. I ended up coming home 3 days into my 7 day trip. I barely made it back to the airport to catch my flight.
I’ve traveled since I was a teen by myself. It was always such a thrill for me. I hadn’t a fear in the world.
This trip I felt like a nervous child who lost her parents. I am. I was going to honor the 20th anniversary of my Dad’s passing. My Mom passed 2 years ago in November. I had a tiny bit of both of their ashes n I was going to do a little memorial at the top of the Sandia’s. My Dad passed up there while hiking in 2003. I never made it up there to do my memorial. I didn’t do anything the 3 days I was there and I didn’t see any of my family. Although they knew 3 months in advance that I was coming.
I get it, life is busy. However, being depressed I always think it’s me somehow. I’m not worthy of their time. They don’t really like me anymore.
These things are probably not true but in a depressed mind they are. You beat yourself up about it. It’s a horrible place to be. I can’t watch the news because it wrecks me when I see the things going on right now. It’s physical as well as mental. It’s exhausting. It’s very hard to break out of.
I don't have any words of wisdom, but maybe you can try a local grief support group? And try to take that trip with a friend or two(if you have them , and yes if they can make time ). It sucks, I understand what you're going through. If not in local grief support group, perhaps online forums? Hugs ❤
I'm in the same exact boat. And it's overwhelmingly frustrating, too. You're not alone in your experiemces. Wishing you peace and a happier life.
Especially if you have been the one making other people's issues your own. And they can't be bothered...
I completely understand. I'm 21 and have been feeling this way since I was 14. Whenever I open social media I see other people's lives and feel bad that I'm missing out on the prime years of mine. People are dating, travelling, just doing all sorts of things (scuba diving and stuff) and I just sit at home for years on end. I only find some semblance of peace- not really a "positive" peace, but an abating of that numb feeling- when I'm on a religious pilgrimage. I hope I see purpose and faith in life again, and I hope you do too.
This video was crazy helpful to me because I often blamed myself for how dumb I acted in college. I didn't talk to anyone and people bullied me, the teachers mocked me saying "does she have a mental problem?" To which people laughed-- and I didn't know that I was acting foolish and ditzy because of my depression. I just blamed myself. I was actually a very smart kid, everyone said so. I had no idea what had happened to me.
I wish I knew you in real life and could have met you on that trip. It's going to get slightly better, slowly and slowly
My depression comes and goes, but the older I get the harder it is to deal with. I’d never off myself, but if I didn’t wake up, I’m okay with that
Me too.
I feel the same way.
I agree
9:14 when your cat appeared and then you held it in your arms was so cute! as a cat person it made me smile, Cupcake is adorable! 🐱💕 Also, Dr. Scott Eilers thank you very much for your videos, I've watched them all, and rewatching again along with listening to your Spotify podcasts, helps me with my anxiety.
This man is a gift.
Omg. What a revealing episode. I was thinking,i already tick all the boxes and i wonder if constant guilt can be a symptom... and boom. Thank you so much. This is life changing.
The lifelong guilt and shame struck me too!!
Same. I've been wanting to go out for lunch or so , or maybe get a coffee , and yet I instantly recognize i will feel guilty , towards the fact I'm having a chance to escape work, and guilt towards whoever 'serves' my table . It's bloody hopeless!
Yes, guilt is most definitely a symptom of depression
Man, am I glad I stumbled upon this surfing You Tube. This is me. A lot of it.
You explained everything so well. People with depression, and people who interact with depressed people, really need to watch this video. I came away really understanding what depression, and a depressive episode look, and feel. So glad I found your videos on RUclips. Thank you so much for doing this.
Yes! Thank you for making this video. It can be so isolating when people don't even understand that there's something they don't understand. This is very validating.
What does depression feel like inside? I'm 65 and have suffered from depression all my life. When people ask, I use this analogy: Imagine your mind, or your brain, is hemorrhaging internally- not blood, but sadness and hopelessness- forever. That's what depression feels like.
Have you never used anti depressants? Or didn't they work?
Look Idont know if you will ever se this but. This sound stupid but ho friking cares.(English Isn't my first language so don't judge me just so you know and this is going to be loong to). Look I'm a 14 year old femel and have feelt depression for 2 years. My problem is that I care to much about pepole and feel their feelings more than they do and feel like It basically my problem that i deal whit. I'm stress unecessary, introvert, dont feel alive sometimes, fell left out becuse no one seems to care and feel one whit the wall. I don't know how to cam me down when I'm stress luckily I'm geting help from a terapist and a organisation ho helps children ho feel depression. Efter a month i will get tips and stuff to cam down and feel not depresst. If you feel something that I feel I will nethier way tell you what they told me to mabey help you❤.Bayy whis you a great day!😁 Like if Some one se this pls
practice qi gong ang breathing technique
@@johnjones99124 yeah, chi gong helps a bit when you're agitated. It does not cure depression. At all. Doing chi gong for 8 years now when I'm bordering high stress.
I’m 68 and have endured depression my entire life. I’m at the point where I can’t do this any longer…
Friends and family want to keep in touch with me but I don’t have any thing to say to them, don’t want to sound like I’m wallowing in my misery nor asking for their rookie attempts to help me. Also, I’ve given them all I have… I no longer want to hear how happy they are nor fake my exuberance for their joy. I want to be left alone but I’d like to not feel so much guilt and shame for being true to who I am. I have more than 5 of these criteria….. going on 20 years
I feel exactly like you. It is a terrible feeling, but keeping the facade up seems equally terrible. I haven't found a solution yet. Stay strong.
Episodes hit me and last about 3 days to a week. Thank Jesus I am retired.
I have a bout every couple of months...had one at Christ mas, what a bummer...I dread them when I have to work..its 4 days of pure hell
Thank you. I feel so much quilt because of my depression. I think I'm affecting my friends, my dog. Neglecting my home.
Thanks for breaking that down into a language the average person can understand. You are gifted and I am thankful for your drive to help us understand.
That was an extremely helpful video for me. I am going to view it again. I think at the age of 65, you have given me more insight than I have ever had. Your lovely children got me.. even more invested 😊😊
I have lived with depression for 45 years, and still can't find words that actually describe the feeling / experience. The closest I can come is a terrible, sourceless grief, and complete lack of any sense of a future.
I have had depression as long as you have. I see a doctor and take medication and it helps.
Or a sense of a future of the life you wanted. Unrealized goals. And then we get in our own way to even come close to making goals.
@@jillwonders9562 Oh, I do both of those things, and they do help, to an extent. Medication, I find, takes out the suicidal low, but also any high, leaving me in a sort of muffled mid-range, a half life where nothing is awful, but nothing is much good, either, which is where passive suicidal ideation festers.
The other night I was coughing alot so I took some cough medicine but it made me feel nervous so I took one of my anxiety pills and I had a reaction to them taken together. It made me so nervous I couldn't function well for two days.i felt heavy and very panicky. I will never do that again.
When you're in it, it feels like it will never end but that's not true. It always eventually loses it's power and stops. Never give up!
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A lot of times I don't want to be around people because I am so depressed and anxiety ridden I don't want to inflict my presence on anybody to bring them down especially if they're going through stuff themselves😢
Hi Dr Scott, thank you for this very informative video on depression. Every symptom you described matched mine perfectly. I am also a sufferer of PTSD, the cause of which goes back to the age of 9, I am now 71 (62 years). I last saw a psychologist 5 years ago and when I explained why I was sure it was PTSD, all she could say was, "you're living in the past". No doubt I will not see her again. The cause of my depression is rejection, bullying, being ignored, not being good enough for others, being sidelined, never being allowed to stand up for myself and many more. I have now subscribed to your channel and look forward to more of your videos. And your children are too adorable for words!! Take care, Janet (from the city of Port Elizabeth, Eastern Cape Province, South Africa).
I was diagnosed with major depression when I was 19 along with panic disorder. I was in college at the time. It was hell. It lasted for 4 years. I couldn't eat sleep or walk down the hallway in a straight line. I felt like I had A cloud of cotton around my head all the time. Horrible experience that you can't understand unless you go through it through it And you don't want to.
Amen to that!!! 🙏🏻
Like NPD abuse. An unspeakable hell.
Panic disorder sounds like hell. I've had 1 panic attack and that was caused by an edible. If I had panic attacks out of nowhere, I don't think I'd be able to live that way. Kudos to you.
@@philkim8297 Thanks. I've had many, and they're hell. Sheer terror.
You've described what I'm going through right now perfectly. I'm wandering what you did to stop it? What helped? I hope you're well now ❤
im actually impressed that you actually really understand real depression. probably the first person ive seen describe it.
Yes! The difference in depression types vastly differs from person to person I've noticed. I tend to be more emotional, cryey, hopeless, procrastination and over-eat. My teenage son is angrier, emptier, cant sit still, no appetite.
Gorgeous kids btw - they convinced me to subscribe for sure 😉
My lifelong problem was in how I suffered a lack of personal energy and motivation, and I was said to be too slow of a worker. My entire working career, I was fired from one job and had to move on to the next. My so-called friends made fun of me, and other people hated me. I went to a variety of mental health people who diagnosed me with depression, and I took a number of different pills, but none of them worked
Thank you for breaking this down into understandable terms. The grief, PTSD, (a therapist suggest ed this), and the depression have been overwhelming after caring for my beloved husband who passed from Early On-Set Alzhiemers. What was also surprising was the reaction by a long time friend, who actually said to me, "You're really milking this", after I was wanting to talk about my husband just a few months after he passed. There seemed to be a certain time frame that I was supposed to get over it.
Hi Cynthia, Unbelievable to me that a " friend" would say such a cruel thing to you in a moment of vulnerability! I am so sorry this happened, that is on THEM, speaks to their level of compassion, lack there of! Do not accept it. ❤
GOSH! So sorry that happened to you. And soooo unbelievable
@@ERRNCJThank you for your kind comment❤
@@louisecampbell2628Thank you. ❤
I hope you have other people in your life to give you comfort and compassion. That friend has no empathy at all. I would limit how much time to be around them. Just a thought.
This just explains how I feel exactly and I so wish others understood.
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I'm going to suggest the family and friends I've let down because of my crippling depression watch this video. Hopefully they might understand.
They don’t. 😢
I completely understand and sympathize with everyone who is feeling this. I have just been dragging myself through this world for 20 years just waiting for it to end
This is the best explanation for others (ones who don’t have or understand depression) TO understand depression! THANK YOU!
Loss of appetite … anxiety … sense of being out of body … hot face … existential terror … sense of desperation …
I experienced a severe depressive episode many years ago that lasted for several years. Looking back, I would describe that episode “as if my soul was caught between two pieces of sandpaper, being ground into nothingness.” A horrible sensation.
I love how you Included your cat in the video. Very informative video and you brought a smile to my face
I Have suffered depression for years, it is well under control at the moment. This has to be the best analysis that I’ve ever heard. Keep up the great work.
Seems like much of my life has been a depressive episode starting definitely by 4, but at age 62 I had a real reactivation in the last month-and-a-half and I was horrified that I could not concentrate at all and could not accomplish tasks that I needed to accomplish. I was looking up ADHD and wondering if I had that even though my doctor told me that ADHD and PTSD have a lot of overlap and she didn't think that I have ADHD but that my symptoms could be attributed to PTSD. She knew what I was going through and that it was a lot and it's a comfort when you're in the pits to get validation that you're dealing with a whole lot.
Working on my mood. Working on noticing when I'm finding pleasure in something. Working on being aware of my blessings even if a lot of times life feels flat and no fun. This is a great explanation of depression and hopefully will help other people who don't experience it to understand it better. I have a friend who once told me that she didn't used to understand depression. Until at some point she experienced some loss in her life and then knew what depression was like. When she told me she didn't used to be able to understand depression I thought how lucky she was and that I felt like there was never a time that I didn't understand the feeling of depression.
you should try anti depressants asap; got nothing tp lose - Zoloft for example
I’m glad that you mentioned that overeating is a sign of depression as people usually think not eating is the only sign in regards to nutrition. I went through a time where I would overeat and would buy bags of chocolates to find some semblance of joy in my life. Something in me snapped after seeing a picture of myself and how much weight I gained(20lbs) as well as higher cholesterol levels so I stopped and started going to the gym and I felt so much better. The best way I can describe depression is an invisible weight that sucks the energy out of the body
@@sgnibble1 BUT, major depression won’t let many of us get out of bed to go to a gym? Id rather poke my eyes out.
@@M.Sforza that’s fair but everyone will experience it differently which is the point I was trying to make. I hope you’re feeling better
@@M.Sforzait is a chore to take a shower and wash and dry my hair, let alone actually put on something other than pajamas or even some makeup. I don't even want to leave the house anymore.
I’ve had 15 years of pain, grief and loss also the menopause is crippling, I have got to the point where I literally can’t carry on, from my divorce to my mother dying of cancer and then looking after my Dad with dementia until he passed during the pandemic, has left me feeling empty and exhausted, I am utterly dead inside, some days I don’t feel joy anymore, being around others is extremely difficult.
Sorry about this. There's something Dr Gabor Mate says about caregiving roles and how it leaves people drained. It will be worth checking out. I am sorry about what you're going through. Hugs. I love you.
Im sending you a massive virtual hug Beverley...Please ask for help, look what you have achieved.. aloving caring Daughter worthy of a life.Yes the menopause is shite...but its not forever .. i presume you are between 40 and 60 you have a life beyond all the negativity...treat yourself..get a complete make over...new hairstyle...clothes , its a start ..even letting my dark hair go grey and had it syled was a pick me up..the compliments were amazing..anew wardrobe on a budget with matching everything ... more lovely compliants...it can be done Bev...I still have crap days where I fester, but the booster days more than make up for it..I wish you well, perhaps you can reply back and we can chat
I'm 65 and have battled major depressive disorder for 50 years. I've been on all the meds at one time or another. Also have been in and out of therapy for the last 30 years. I have learned more from you in the last year than from anyone else. Thank you Dr. Scott.
Thank you, I've been binge watching your videos and appreciate your knowledge and your straight forward honesty.
I struggled with bad depression in my teen years and got through it, but I feel I've always had a sad part living inside me all my life.
I've had bouts of depression here and there and realized as I got older, the depressed part of me can't be hypnotized, meaning I'm a realist I don't fall for things easily and that's a good thing.
Secondly the depressed part of me almost feels like a superpower because it allows me to not care so much. Meaning it's made me resilient to lets say... insults, harsh words, failure, a critical boss, people opinions, the most calm person in a bad situation.
The sadness has made me the most sane person in the room to some degree because I'm always expecting the worst and if the worst happens my mentality is bring it because I'm_not_afraid_to_die. Your dealing with a person who is not thinking like everyone else, that's me and that's you too Dr. Eilers.
There is actually a positive side about it, of course I'm not talking about or referencing clinical depression that's a whole other level that needs more attention.
This is the BEST explanation I have EVER heard. I am a retired psychologist and my hat goes off o you for presenting the information in a comprehensive manner. I look forward toward to more topics.
Thank you for sharing, your definition has helped me understand not only myself but has helped to give me some insight into the disease of depression . I lost someone very dear to me last year to suicide and I have struggled since trying to understand why💔😪This I will live with the redt of my life
Hi Scott, you just summed up the last 10 years of my life. Definitely have/ had 7 out of 9 of the recognised definitions of depression. The best way I can describe it is it’s like your life is a rollercoaster but you don’t feel any of the adrenaline you get from being on this rollercoaster. That someone who isn’t suffering from depression gets, they enjoy the highs and lows, the twists and turns, the lops. I can only sit there and feel flat and numb and empty. Thank you for the insight and breaking this down for me and others.
I started feeling depression last January 6th when my husband had to take me to the hospital. I thought I had an ulcer from dress and overworking, only to find out I have Pancreatic Cancer at the age of 54. Three children, which none are married yet and I have no grandchildren. Life for me is day by day. I was able to have the surgery and so far it’s all good. Every three months another scan. How do you not be depressed !!!!
I appreciate your honesty. Your kids are probably the most loving kids but they just aren’t married yet and that’s okay. They will find their happiness with themselves and then find someone. I’ve had family members make it out of different types of cancer. All is not lost 🙏🏽 thinking of you and hoping for better days for you
I've been watching bits n pieces for a little while now. I've been fighting crippling depression for several years. You've made complete sense. I'm grateful for you. Looking forward to buying your book.
I am 71 & suffered the loss of my husband & home last year. I am trying to force myself to get out but I just feel numb & cry. It hyrts so bad...
Oh, sweet Kitty!!! Aw, Cupcake came in to offer some cuddle therapy for depression. Every purr helps. Sweet man🥰
I am so thankful I found you. I have no access to psychological help where I live. Everything you’ve talked about is so clear and concise. You have described me exactly, I’m trying to keep my cool and not bother people by not talking about how I feel. I don’t ride my horse anymore, I don’t enjoy drawing and painting anymore or my friends.
Thanks for the exactly explanation of the differences between depression. My 5 cats keep me sane. I am 58 years old and i have been depressed and fighting depression all my life, on top of it i have severe OCD, a constant struggle. Love the way you interact with your cat, he is adorable! Animals is the reason I’m still alive.
oh my goshhhh…when you started talking about the point of Feelings of Worthlessness and guilt, I felt like a feeling I’ve been experiencing for more than a year now was finally being explained! I would tell myself I’m being “self-cynical” but “the opposite of narcissist” is exactly it. I don’t trust my own thoughts, I always blame myself for things. And you’re so right…it just makes me feel even more tired, and even more disinterested in social interactions and relationships. This point alone, for me, makes this video incredibly worth it. Also, realizing that I most definitely am/have been going through a depressive episode…
I wish i could find a psychologist like you to work with . Im grateful i found this channel
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Decorating my house and i suffered a injury leaving me with epilepsy and its changed my life forever i really wish my life was to just come to a end i hate how its left me 😢😢 its definitely a video for me this is
Its hard when you can't be your old self--- you are grieving
This is the most thorough explanation of acute depression vs depressive episode that I've ever heard. Thank you for this!!! And cupcake is adorable
I really needed that tonight - Cupcake is adorable and your interaction with her was uplifting. I like that you are a cat 🐱 person, just one more reason (if I needed it) to watch you. The rest of the video was enlightening; I am experiencing a reason to be depressed (the recent death of my mother and the very real fear that my cat is reaching the end of her life (nearly 20 years) whilst in a depressive episode already. I feel anhedonia is part of my symptoms and yet Cupcake got through to me and I enjoyed that moment and will remember it as a good feeling. I can’t quite explain what I AM feeling, not sure I’ve made a lot of sense. It seems that I can feel good and bad - perhaps I need to view your anhedonia video again. I think I am just very confused and dreadfully sad just now and nothing is making sense. I know one thing - I need help. I have an appointment in a couple of weeks but it’s not going to be someone as skilful and empathetic as you ❤Thank you for taking the time to read this, I am usually able to be a bit more coherent but I’m just not reasoning clearly. I guess that is what mental health is all about.
I am so happy to have found your channel. Extremely grateful for your help ❤
I’ve had tears running down my face since a few minutes into this video. You have explained this so very well. I now understand some of the moods I go through. You are a God send for those of us struggling. I’ve had family members tell me to just get over it. I’ve had PHN for 14 years now. I wish and hope and pray that one day I will just get over it. All the different stages or feelings you have described so well. Thank you SO much for doing these videos. I’m a mess but you are an inspiration and a beacon of light in this dark journey. Thank you again!!! I’ve been subscribed to your channel from the first time God landed me there. Thank you for what you are doing. You are helping immensely. I have days when I don’t even want to watch your latest video. I try but I can’t get motivated. 😢. BUT your children are beautiful!! God bless you all!!! ❤
Depression and mental illness can be difficult to deal with, and it's important to remember that it's not something you can easily "just get over."
It's great that you have found ways to cope and still keep yourself motivated in spite of the hardships. Keep up the good work and remember that you are an inspiration to others who may be struggling with mental illness as well. I hope that you can continue to find peace and happiness in your own journey. ❤
best depression explanation I've ever heard, I can relate to everything you said. Fortunately, I only have rather mild symptoms at the moment, but there have been really bad episodes as well.
Thank you so much, your video is so helpful i.e. to explain the condition to others.
Thank you, Cupcake! My girls, Betty Boop and Winter Apple-Daisy are definitely my salvation in dealing with my depression and anxiety. Dr. Eilers, this was an excellent and easily understandable description of Depression and its evil symptoms. Thank you.
I'm 51, and was diagnosed with depression at 17.
My analogy of its description to let people try to understand where I'm coming from.
The body is like a car, sometimes you get a flat tyre (broken limb) but someone can fix it, sometimes you might have issues under the bonnet (internal body issues) but at the end of the day after repairs the car can still limp along. But if there is no driver (brain, ego, stress, depression) then the car goes nowhere, it sits in the driveway rusting away and seizing up. My therapist said this was a very good description, I can't use words very well to describe things so I use a lot of synonyms
Seven pages of notes taken. Very enlightening. I finally have a term and definition for a huge burden I've carried practically my whole adult life. "Adhedonia" ! It's actually kinda reliving to finally know what this feeling is called. I've carried seven of the nine almost constantly for at least the last 12 years or longer. Stopped the zombie medication a year ago and have been trying to learn and understand more about this frustrating, tiring BS condition since. I like your presentation style and will be listening to more of your content. Keep up the good work.
I’m really happy that I found this guy. For weeks now my mental health has declined and I really wanted to try to understand it more, this really helps to get a better grasp for what’s happening to me. Got a psychotherapist appointment next week to get the help that I desperately need
Cupcake's appearance and your response was a godsend.🥰 You seem to be such a good person, Dr. Scott 🥰Thank you for not editing that out.🥰
The cat coming through the certain was a gift to those that are constantly sad, it gave us a brief moment to feel a little happy and smile! So give her a treat for me!
Yea this has been my entire existence. It’s basically long, arduous periods of feeling empty, interrupted by a period that makes you happy, which usually revolves around or has something to do with love, but then it’s back to feeling empty once you lose that love. For me love has been the only thing that has worked in making me feel any sense of happiness, or just high levels of dopamine ricocheting all over my brain.
I have suffered from depression for many years. This is by far the best presentation on the topic I have ever seen. Thank you so much. This has been very helpful.
This was really helpful thank you. My smyptoms are mild but unfortunately I have the full range all the time. Because I can get up and go to work every day and mask my mood people dont realise that I would much prefer to be hiding out in my house not seeing anyone. My life is ticking by and I am wasting it but can find no joy anymore..
I get it. I consider myself a highly functional depressive. I can do everything I need to get done but underneath I am sad
Thanks, Doc! Much respect to you and deep peace to all of us in the chaotic vortex of depression❤
Thank you!
Thank you so much for your work. I have watched all of your videos and especially this one is so helpful, because next time I have an episode I can send it to my beloved ones, so I don't have to explain when I have zero energy.
Depression is an obsession of a thought that just keeps looping
You are literally explaining some of this my whole life and now, i can’t even get out of bed, i was a trainer and now I have to drag myself to the gym where I used to love to go.. still love but, lost my motivation plus I have ADHD too and high levels of anxiaty but, I don’t have that guild or isolate because I don’t want to be around people, I do isolate because I can’t stand the people that surrounded me and I feel nothing turn them whatsoever. I don’t have a bad outlook of life and not negative but, the feelings are more as numbness and activities I used to love before, food, anything excite me anymore.. I sleep at least 12 hours and not motivated to get out of bed at all most of the time.
Hi Scott. I am 70 and for about a week or so I have been experiencing a lot of the symptoms you described. After reading a lot of material online and then listening to you, I think it is depression I have. As a Christian my desire and method to overcome this may be different than others, but I am trusting God to heal me. I see a lot of people in comments who have struggled with this for many years and I truly feel bad for them. But I will pray for all of you .
It's extra fun when you have ptsd and panic disorder too. I really tend to think that the anxiety and panic are what cause me to feel depressed. When I have brief periods of less anxiety I feel less depressed. But was diagnosed with recurrent major depressive disorder as well.
I love Cupcake ❤ I also experience all the Anhendoia symptoms. I participate in 12 step groups and often receive shaming responses from my peers 😢😢😢 Your videos bring me hope that i am not an alien
There is no place for shaming in a 12-step group. The meetings help with my depression and my social problems.
Thank you for outlining depression in this way. For those you haven’t been depressed, find it difficult to understand the “reality” for someone who is depressed. You described some exact feelings I experienced. I went through therapy for 2 years. I moved to a new city and went to a new psychiatrist and he prescribed a drug and it was a LIFE CHANGER for me. Within 2 weeks I was a changed man. My life was back to normal and has been ever since. 25 years since and I’m so fortunate I sought out help and found it. Thank you again for explaining this in more simple, understandable terms.
I have tried to hide my depression from other people most of my life by faking being alright when Inside I feel I don't belong anywhere and have often wanted out of this existence I have to cope with day after day but I go through the motions for my children and grandchildren .
Good morning and 93 I went through a similar depression I lost my job 15 years my mother died and I went through a divorce out to me 1993 the first thing I did was cry and then I dust myself out I went looking for a job and I found😊❤ I am 79 years old now at the time I was 43. I would say I was blessed I paid off my home by myself. I’m on myself cars. I still drive myself. I have five children about 15 to 20 grand children but I’m usually by myself.
Thank you for doing videos like this. So difficult to talk about our mental health.