The mathematics of love | Hannah Fry | TEDxBinghamtonUniversity
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- Опубликовано: 3 апр 2014
- Dr. Hannah Fry is a mathematician and complexity scientist from University College London's Centre for Advanced Spatial Analysis. Her work revolves around exploring the patterns in human behavior and applying a mathematical perspective to tackle a wide range of problems across our society. Alongside her academic position, Fry is passionate about sharing the abstract beauty of mathematics with others and demonstrating its importance in our modern world. She has a broad portfolio of media and public engagement activities from schools outreach, math-themed stand-up comedy, RUclips videos and public lectures. Fry also regularly presents the Number Hub strand of BBC Worldwide's RUclips channel, Headsqueeze.
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The last part about 'tolerance' really enlightened me. No wonder my grandparents have been together for more than 50 years and believe me they quarrel almost every single day.
Not to mention it's an awesome recipe for society.
@@ztamizzen recipe for society 😂😂😂😂😂
Your grandma couldn’t leave lol
I love this lady; I love her accent; I love her talk.
Yes she is amazing.🙂
thats absolutely lovely
simp
You are funny. You could have had a more responsive audience, but you made me laugh, so thank you.
When I solve my love equation, I get Hannah Fry...
***** deserve* medal*
James Wheeler I get a water melon with a 4Ø hole.
James Wheeler you forgot to carrie the 1.
+James Wheeler
I get 15.3948840424938394649 liters of lotion and 9.394832393923182239 pounds of tissues!
I like how the first four digits after both the numbers' decimal points are '3948'.
Red hair, accent, intelligence. I'm in love.
Tend to agree, tho I've seen a few of her shows on curiousity streams she's made for BBC, lots of Mathematics smart like scary too much smart xD
Dude
Same
😏😏
A lot of people, myself included I should say, think that Hannah Fry is seriously fabulous, and possibly one of the most beautiful creatures to have ever walked on the face of the Earth.
I wouldn't go that far but she compares favorably to the woman she showed. But it's more here mind is what makes her stand out to me.🤔
That’s exactly what I was thinking!
Would not miss a single class...
ME TOO!
She’s soo witty, clever, and beautiful and she knows it! Loved this!
She sounds perfectly clear to me.
She sounds very clear and I loved watching this presentation. I wish there was a presentation on mathematics and work related stress. How to divorce a job which you still have feelings for.
yep shes a good talker :D
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Don’t fall in love with a job. Better fall in love with a mission in your life which you chase with one of many jobs, than to fall in love with one specific job.
A wonderful speaker and a great presentation. I love that Math can teach us how to be better partners!
low negativity threshold!! thats me! it means that you only need a little bad thing happening to feel the need of talking and solving it, it means that you care very much. I agree with this. The problem is when you have a low negativity threshold (need little bad thing to react) and you are with a person with a very high negativity threshold ( somebody that let pass a lot of bad things without react, and just hold inside the bad feelings, lack of interest in solving things because think are not a big deal until everything explote and is ruined).
+Inoisa Castillo Spot on, and amazing how few people realise this.
Good girl ! 😁
How was everyone not laughing as hysterically as I was every time she said something funny 😂😂😂
I know right? She’s so funny & down to earth
Oh I learn that in class! That 37% comes from maximizing probability function.
P=1/e=0.369
whats that?
vaibhav patil: you should google 'the secretary problem' in mathematics, which is a simple version of the Optimal Stopping Theory she mentioned :)
Excellent! Immediately I've fallen in love... with Hannah:)
Kazik Anhalt oh I found a competitor.
Kazik Anhalt Well you should reject her as she falls in your first 37%
Its too bad england doesnt want foreigners
+halfseeingeye That 37% only applies to women. Us guys just go out with whoever says yes!
Fg
Met my perfect partner when we were 14, so glad I did we have been married 15 years. looking forward to growing old with her.
+Jim Evans Awesome :) Congratulations, wish you all the best!
+Benjamin Philipp Well thank you.
You married a 14-year-old?
Time for a 5-year update. How is it going Jim? Still in love?
@@martinocolombo198 Every minute of the day. Still going strong. About to celebrate 21 years in April. Hope you have a wonderful day.
She's brilliant and hilarious. More people should be laughing at her jokes!
Love this TED talk by Ariel
I am fascinated by the negativity threshold argument - I would suspect, on simple level, it keeps the relationship from developing any "nuclear level" discrepancies of value or interest, but instead lets it discuss and correct at the minimal or more readily agreed level of difference.
I also suspect that by giving the relationship an actual identity, not just an "I - Thou" but also an "Us - Our" identity allows for better shared responsibility for its maintenance, and respects the work of maintaining the health of this attraction and connection over time a a living entity as opposed to a current convenience.
Excellent insights and information - thank you
I could listen to her for hours.
+no Have you seen her on Number Hub? Her beautiful voice comes out much better there :)
I start to wonder if Dr. Fry is using an algorithm when she is both planning and performing her presentation as she displays a humorous rhythm.
+T Berry For a mathematician that is.
I could watch her all day
Tips
1. For online dating, emphasize your unique (and perhaps unflattering/divisive) parts of yourself.
2. Reject the first 37% of dates and settle for the next one that's better than them all.
3. Have a really low negativity threshold - sound out any negativities with your partner ASAP
Now this is a speech that's worth to listen to! You're fabulous!
I like this woman. I like this woman a lot
have you liked her as many times as i've liked her? i'm liking her right now.
Wife material right there
Richmond suck, join a better team
🙂 People like her I'm glad.
I got lucky wife has been chasing me sense 12 years old and we've been on our honeymoon for 24 years and counting. Now with that said this info may have been helpful when I was younger haha great presentation.
Theory of attractive factor, love has to be unconditional
Agh! I love Hannah Fry, what a great talk and great maths!!
Hannah, this is fascinating! Love the unexpected results on what makes someone "popular" online.
This woman is amazing, I love her.
Asolutely mesmerising voice, mind, humor & and beauty.
Thank you for that great, inspiring presentation!
Tip 1: Marry a redheaded British woman.
Tip 2: Repeat tip 1.
I'm more interested in what this mathematical couple equations say about Russia and the US, and which is the woman of the two hahaha
So... marry multiple redheaded British women??
More relevant now for US/N.Korea? :)
In new britain yo ucan do that, thanks muslims!
Help, I cannot stop marrying red-headed British women. I have 13 different families I have to tend to now, and each time I divorce one, I marry another to fill in her place.
Wow!!!!! I LOVE this presentation!!!
Loving the idea that an arguing couple spiraling into negativity is mathemetically equivalent to the beginning of a nuclear arm race ... this sound realistic to some extent
I love her... what a nice talk!
I loved this! Thank you. Absolutely adored your speech.
Le saviez vous ? :))
whats wrong with the audience lol
They are all mgtow
yeah, they don't seem to get any joke o_O
I could listen to you all day
I always knew math is the only thing will never lie to you. And I became mathematician,too :)
Incredible blend of science and magic
WHAT?? I went to Binghamton University back in 2014 and I didn't know Hannah spoke at Tedx there
She's good. She's very, very good.
Before even watching the video I can already tell you a mathematical fact of love. If Hannah Fry is involved there is a 100% chance I will fall in love with her.
In summary,
1) Play to your weaknesses & your strengths to be somewhat "attainable",
2) When you start dating, Get (a decent amount of) experience BEFORE you choose your "One"/Don't be too serious from the start, enjoy yourself in a few non-serious relationships before you get into a new, serious relationship,
3) Communicate positively, openly & often/Have high transparency/"No one ever tripped over a mountain, but many did on pebbles" aka the little things matter
This research doesn't take account of fact that you ought to be getting better at picking dates over time, as experience grows, I think.
If you do math on life, all your problems will disapere. Look at Hannah! She look healty to me :-)
What an incredibly beautiful voice.
Amazing! Love it
Math and Fry, what else can I ask for life?
Just love Math, and now...here she is.
I want to marry this woman
Alfredo Moreno You need to pass an advance mathematics test to even get a date with her.
Jacko Ludvich true
I was shocked with the 37% theory. I was ready to seriously date for marriage from 25 until im 33(this is my cut off). Hence my 37% should be at age 28. Without knowing this, i marry my husband at 28. Same with my hubby. We got same same 37% optimal.
shes amazing
Brilliant!
I love it! It completely makes sense and explains why my last relationship went down the tubes. (along with it seemed like instead of trying to make things work at the same time we would take turns pretty much saying f you I don't care any more) I think even though it was one of my longest relationships it wasn't unsuccessful because of the nagging, or the lack there of, it's just we eventually grew apart and we were trying to hold to strongly to something we didn't have any more. I will always care and love him in a sense but we definitely fell out of love with each other. We needed each other at the time to help each other through those last years of being minors and into young adulthood. Even though we sometimes would get angry just looking at each other we knew for a while any ways that we would still be there for each other and didn't budge. Near the end it had that calm before the break. It was scary for me, I can't say for him as I don't know, but I know for myself that I thought we were planning on marrying in the future and that all going down the drain really rocked me and my little world. I am now in a pretty happy relationship and we are really open with each other. The first thing I told him as soon as we made it "official" that we were a couple I told him that I want him to tell me when I'm being a complete b*tch whether or not it hurts me at the time because then I can realize when I'm nagging too much and not letting him take time to fix what I'm focusing so much on. I can honestly say that since my last relationship I've gone from a raving maniac that seems like I was never happy to being mellow and only really nit picking when I know it's something that can be helped. I can't count how many days and nights we spent bickering. And how many times he stopped my rant in it's tracks just by saying "what is wrong" or "what's really bothering you" I'd then stop for not even thirty seconds and find that I'm not sure exactly why I'm mad at the moment I just am and not necessarily at him. So overall neither one of us is perfect, far from it actually, and we aren't even the people we normally go after. I usually go for the "hot, aloof, douche-bag" that always seemed to care when around but once I was away oh the mice would play. My boyfriend had nearly the same type in girls they would be blonde, pretty, a little bit b*tchy and no sense of commitment. He's not conventionally attractive but he's genuine and he's always ready to catch me when I'm falling apart. As well as I'm a brunette who wants nothing more than a long term commitment and cares a great deal about my friends and family.
We've been friends for four years, met on the first day of college, and we always had a close friendship. When we both were at the end of our recoup periods of our last relationships we literally pretty much said "why not?" I know after having my heart wrenched out of my chest and stomped and shattered by my last I pretty much thought what else do I have to lose? He's nice, he actually cares, and most likely if we don't happen to work we will still have a sort of friendship. Now, yes we've only been together for about a year and a half, but already it's different from my previous relationships. We are still learning about each other, we are still having minor spats, and we still can go to bed every night saying we love each other and mean it and not being angry. Honestly, I have a lot of hope for this. Now we know it won't always be easy, we pretty much started on a rocky road full of dips, turns, and some places that weren't clear which way was up, down, left, or right; but we figured it out together and we still keep going. Good luck to the rest of you out there. And if something tells you some thing isn't right (call it a hunch or your gut instinct, quite literally if your stomach is turning and there seems to be no reason for it.) find out why. Don't let it go. If it's nothing great! But if it's something major it's better to find out now then years down the road.
Sorry for the severely long comment. I rarely can figure out how to comment without sharing my story. please no negativity, it's not that I can't handle it, I really don't care, but I'm sharing because it pertains to the video. My last relationship had that negativity spiral for nearly three out of the four years we were together and should have ended a lot sooner and we did quite a bit of damage to each other, yes we were both to blame, but we both learned.
xXJuggalettex4lifeXx no hate, just posting for whatever reason my disbelief in my self and for my curiosity winning out that I read the entire thing. been a while since you posted this though, hope all is well, even if I don't know you :p
Very observant and very funny. Thank you
Riveting, funny and witty show !!! Thanks a lot !!! Though, equations have little to do with love, some basic math behind a charming lady can do the ricks, that's for sure !!! Cheers, guys !
There is a truth that every science nerd has fallen to Hannah, so have I. That's really hard to find a girl who is loving maths and science while being beautiful
turns out it's easier! Take a look at Full information secretary problem.
@@shreya_sinha. thank you for your advice but numbers does not count as emotions
Hannah Fry is both intelligent and beautiful . His husband must be very lucky.
+gyzard Yes she is...
...wait, what? Is she trans? O.o
"Rule 10 of life: Be precise in your speech"
Wonderbar, Hannah!
Why I don't have a girlfriend: Hannah Fry is already married.
+John Gowers Besides which, only 0.0000032% of the women in the UK are Hannah Fry. What's the probability I run into one of them on a night out?
+John Gowers I actually had a drink with her one night but didn't know who she was
Mico Quit lying.
Jacko Ludvich feel free not to believe me, but it actually happened. We both were attending and speaking at a SIAM conference in Snowbird, Utah in May 2013.
@@overthetip
She's offensively attractive, full of life and unimpeachably smart! Why in the 12 Holy Fucks (and the 32 lesser fucks, of course) would you NOT pursue such a girl, just because "you didn't know who she was?" It shouldn't matter _who_ she is, only _that_ she is!
Dr. Fry is sooooo smart and so cute!!!!
She deserves more laughs
I just luuuuuv this woman!
If the time & space coordinates had different set-up I would have been father of her kids.
Maybe in some other Universe, right now, right there... 😂❤
This is a very interesting video
5:30 a second of heaven
Great sense of humor
My parents had a rule “Never go to bed angry or annoyed.” When they had an issue they talked about it. If there was a big issue then entire family was brought into the living room to avoid anyone saying anything they didn’t mean because the kids were in the room so they’d watch their tongues (and my sister and I wished to never be born the moment when my dad said “Taking care of the house isn’t that big of a job” and my mom saw red and torn him a new one before making him do every single chore she normally did on a daily basis for 14+ years for just a week and he never again said anything about dinner being an hour late again... and my sister and I were confused as to why he had pink socks instead of white for a year after that before my mom took pity and bought him new ones)
Thank you! You are beautiful!
The double G's.. Genius and Gorgeous...... great... now I have to become someone in the mathematics field so I can meet this woman.
I'm sure Hannah has never had a problem finding love.
how the hell do you know your 37% when you cant look in the future?
Haha, great question!
I think it is 37% of the the total time you want to be looking for a partner.
ohhh. in that case i have some numbers to keep up with
It's something call probability of success and it works in other areas. There are two videos on numberphile explaining it in a much different usage, but it's exact same math that's employed.
Intro: watch?v=ZWib5olGbQ0
Math prove: watch?v=XIOoCKO-ybQ
I'm not saying I support this method, but from a cynical math perspective it does make sense.
TheHarboe It doesn't make sense at all.. this theory is based on the idea that there is a set N (like the example the video gave with the toilets: you know how many toilets there are). But in reality you don't really know how many girls you'd date. So basically this could mean you have to make a fixed N about how many girls you will fuck and then pick the one at 37%. Which means (I've already had an idea of how many girls i wanted to lay with) I have to pick the next or second girl lol that sucks
If you are looking for somebody who's living near you and you get a number of 26 available partners for you, you can't say, that there are only 26 partners available in the whole of the UK.
There are only 26 partners available in your area. His chance in getting a date with one of these girls is also not 1:285000. He's not competing with guys who are living far away from where he is, is he?
+Patrick Bateman I would guess that she meant the whole UK as "living near you".
PLEASE TED INSERT AUTO-GENERATED SUBTITLES,normal subs cant keep up when you speed the video up!! LOVEEE
first thing when talking to a girl: ask her if she is over with the first 37 percent
Amazing 👏 🙌😍
sen konuş sabaha kadar dinleyeyim hannah
Love: Never let the sun go down on your anger.
i love her laugh
Thankyou
hey...you used the toilet example on people! Love it
Any lady who uses the phrase "massive minga" will always have my respect and admiration :D
Do you want Fry with that? Yes!
35% of the age window given is 22yo... So that means you should marry the first best option once you reach this age if you wanna be married by 35... So you have 13 years to meet "the one".
Now I need to rate everyone based on...?
There are so many variables...
I really enjoyed this one.
Assuming your standard deviation / variance (people dated per month/year) is low over time... This might not work out for you individually but with enough people doing it the average ought to work out.
I’m in love
I love this woman !!!
Brilliant
Hannah Fry is really attractive, let's be honest. And that dig at Piers Morgan was AWESOME! Why didn't it get laughs?
I'm in love, very nice speech! Inspiring educated words from a very attractive woman. We need more like her... Sway the masses into a positive direction
Very interesting
I would have an entirely disparate relationship with mathematics if I'd have such a teacher.
Also the jon gottman study is described elaborately in Malcolm gladwell's Blink.
I’m confused... how do you “reject the first thirty seven percent” of an amount of people of which you don’t know the maximum of. I mean, how do you know when you’ve reached the 37% if you don’t know the total amount?
About the thing with nuclear war, I think that when you and your partner actually fall in love you both already have zero sum capacity because if things go sideways both will be terribly hurt, even if you end up as friends, so every time you choose to express affection and positivity towards your loved one you are in fact your own Stanislav Petrov
The Last Leg brought me here
Wow!
Beautiful and intelligent- Hannah Fry in a nutshell;).
1. So people who perceive themselves of average attractiveness have higher likelihood of approaching and/or being approached by other people who perceive themselves of average attractiveness because rejection is statistically less likely in this situation. When everyone is average, everyone should be happy. Trust the maths.
2.Reject marriage while you're 15 to 19 years old. From then and until you're 35, marry somebody who is better than those men who you dated while you were 15-19. This means that the more men you have within that period (15-19) the higher your standards will get, the better your chances will be of finding The One. Trust the maths.
3. The secret of a happy marriage is low negativity threshold. Not letting anything go unnoticed. Not compromising. Not allowing the partner the space to be themselves. I suppose when you're average in every way, you would be quite happy in such marriage. Both of you.
*I like her Nigel Thornberry accent*
*_Marry me, Hannah_*
I think I might be in love with the presenter.