Another tip - when someone gives you leaflet about your appointment or business card with phone number on it - take a photo of these items. You never know when you can loose them.
Thank you @Katimorton for your wonderful work. Since I found you here during the pandemic I watch your videos and they were always life-changing to me! I wish you all the best! Thank you!❤
Thank you so much for your ADHD videos! I have a coworker who struggles with ADHD and before researching it myself, I struggled to be empathetic and helpful when we work together. This is so insightful and helps me come up with strategies and be more understanding with her. Thank you!!
If you're a woman and haven't read it already, A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD is a great book that helps you start to identify those negative messages you've internalized over the years and that have chipped away at your self-confidence
This video came just at the right time as I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 26. I had struggled for so long and I never knew why until now. Meanwhile I found ways of dealing with «it» - using a whiteboard on my fridge as a weekly planner, and another as a weekly menu and to-do list. I was an athlete growing up so I’m sure that really kept it in check. I did varsity sports in uni and I still remain pretty active to this day going to the gym, swim sessions and running. I also started working as an ER nurse and that’s definitely my happy place, a place where I am able to use my adhd for something good. I also work in a locked psych ward with young adults with combined psychosis and addiction issues. Getting my licensure to practice as an RN in Canada and planning to move next summer. Always ready for an adventure. Also big thanks for putting out these videos, been a Kinion since 2013 era. Greetings from Norway.
Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s I had the best reminder, my mother. No whiteboard, no to do lists. She remembered everything I had to do. Of course, no one had any idea of ADD or ADHD or even autism , which I am. I got things done until I went to college where I had to learn how to focus one day at a time. Strategies such as whiteboards were mentioned, but I never used them. Instead, I used visual cues to help. For example, if I had a math test to study for, I would put my math book on the floor in the center of the room. Cleaning, same thing. Vacuum cleaner in the middle of the room, or spray cleaner either by the sink or on the bathroom floor. It’s great that you found at as a young adult. You have more time to figure out how to get things done.
The list is a nice idea but I tend to ignore it. But I make lists for when I'm going out and start to think about if I got everything. Like for University: my tablet, my student card, something to drink, something to eat... Because otherwise I stand in the middle of the room just trying to think about what I might have forgotten and simply freeze or zone out without really thinking about what I might have forgotten.
I feel your frustration. ❤️🩹 It's the moment before you have to leave and you stop, "Am I forgetting anything?" Then your brain starts going 120 mph sitting still while your body becomes temporarily paralyzed until you can snap out of it and "Just Go, Already!" It helps me to have things set up the night before for my morning departure. So far, I'm able to consistently put my keys on the hook when I get home, so they'll be there when I have to leave... 🤷♀️ I'm a work in progress. 😅
I make lists, tons of lists, and I forget about them after a couple hours. Visual cues help me the most. A key box by the door, vacuum cleaner in the middle of my room , bills taped to my computer screen, etc.
Before recognizing I have both ADHD and Autism, I knew I had to do something differently so I would be better able to remember "all the things" that i have to do routinely/ weekly/ monthly/ annually at work. I built my own custom spreadsheet calendar pages that auto-display monthly tasks by their assigned dates. I update the "January 1" start date for each new year, and the automated formulated spreadsheet fills in the rest! Between that and a couple other custom work week/ month pages, it's a lot like combining Point of Performance with Tasks/ Reminders/ To-Do.😊
How do you get past the routine/spontaneity conflict? It’s always in my head. I’m autistic, but the more I research ADHD it seems like I have both. Love routines, changes scare me, but at the same time I need spontaneity and can’t understand how to do it with my routines. And even when I have time to be spontaneous, I have no clue what to do.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with my adhd for over 40 years and never had any clue it can actually be managed. Now I just need to find the help I need for me adhd.
Happy Birthday Kati. I wish everyone the best of birthday's and also, I believe that no matter what age we turn in 2024 that everyone should celebrate it in any way that they can and do it the best that they want to with friends and family. It should be celebrated in an awesome way.
I like to use visual triggers instead of to do lists. For example, taking my recycled bottles out to the recycling bin is easier when I place the box of bottles by the door. For cleaning, I put the vacuum cleaner in the middle my room, or put my cleaning spray on the floor of the bathroom. At work, I have to use a to do list, but it’s on my desk where I can see it at all times.
I really want to try the exercise thing, but I am JUST not a morning person. It takes hours for my brain to load. My mantra when overwhelmed with a tasks at work is “one thing at a time. One thing at a time.” I may not be good at breaking things down, but at work, I am forced to get into gear. It also means I am exhausted at the end of the day. I do wish there was a better way to pace myself.
Hi, Kati. Your videos have been really helpful to me and my sister thank you. I wanted to ask if you could maybe do a video on autism and trauma, and having both. I'm autistic and have emotionally abusive parents which has caused me major difficulties in life and I am certain I am not the only one. Apologies if you've already done a video on this in the past, but it would mean the world to me. You could talk about anything but mainly if you have any tips on how to heal. Also, doing a video on an extreme want of different parents would be very helpful too. Thank you so much and I hope you see this comment!
Thank you, Kati! Very helpful! I have a lot of students who struggle to focus in class (we all struggle to focus nowadays, I guess). The ones with ADHD are great initiators and quick to grasp the new concepts that I introduce, but boy!, you can't make them finish their tasks! They need a lot of body doubling😁
I love these strategies! Thank you for this video. I am soooo into body doubling. It has helped me so much. I once read a study where they mentioned the saying, "Hills aren't as steep when you walk them with a friend." I relate body doubling to that...the sloggy craptastic tasks aren't as hard with an accountabilibuddy! Now I'm off on a rabbit hole looking into xtiles.
I need to go to the doctor to get prescribed some meds. Second hand is hard on the pocket and people don't look at that right. Without them, I'm just about useless. With them, I have to deal with being judged, because "I don't need them". I don't even know where to start at to look for a doctor. Haven't been to a doctor in over 15 years, my mom took care of all that. Sad, but true.
The view of xTiles with blocks for each day of the week made me feel anxious 😂 but definitely, I love the idea of folding a page and using one side for current goals and the other side for "lower" priority goals. The xTiles overview was very useful and finally, I created an xTiles profile. Now I need an xTiles dashboard to start using xTiles 🤣 UPDATE: xTiles is absolutelly useless. I would continue using goodle docs, excel, calendar and chrome bookmarks. I expected being able to reuse contact/address/task/event information in different projects and different dashboards. I can't afford wasting my time on coping and pasting manually the same info everythere.
Hi Kati, I just got your book traumatized. I’m looking forward to reading it. Thank you! How to navigate family situations, when you are trying to avoid your abuser and not everyone knows about the abuse? So how do you say I don’t feel comfortable coming over if so and so will be there? Have you done a video or addressed this in your book?
Gonna throw in a request for a video...I'm not sure what this is called, but was wondering if you could break down the psychology behind adults that have childhood trauma have a habit of thinking their relationships with acquaintances are deeper than they actually are. Thank you for even considering =) Great video, as always!
Body doubling strangely doesn’t work for me. I think it’s because of my anxiety. I become too concerned about the other person and my brain will hyperfixate on them instead of the task at hand. Are they comfortable enough, are they hungry or thirsty, is my background noise annoying them, am I working too slow or too fast…what if they finish their task before me, will I keep them waiting. I also won’t take bathroom or food breaks in the effort to just keep going, so they don’t think I’m slacking. Maybe I’ve just worked as a freelancer remotely for too long and I have my systems in place so having someone there really throws me off a lot. Yes things still distract me on my own but I feel less anxious about it I guess. 🤷🏻♀️
Try the body doubling with someone from youtube. There are many of such recordings in which someone is studing in front of you and you can find with some relief in your anxious thoughts about the person.
Kari, are you a serious channel? How would you feel (seriously think about this) if you click on a video that claims there is “no fluff” and starts with the 6 points… only to lean hard on advertising a sponsored product as point 2. It feels dishonest. You have lost a potential subscriber, you have lost all integrity in my opinion. Advertise first, or at the end.
Firstly, her name is Kati. Secondly, she provides free mental health videos online for our benefit... For free. If watching a little bit of an ad is too hard for you, go pay to get therapy. Or pay for another creators online classes. Or... just skip past the damn ad.
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6 things you might not know are ADHD related: ruclips.net/video/Nk3aEY2T0Ls/видео.html
Love using visual schedules like writing a list.
Another tip - when someone gives you leaflet about your appointment or business card with phone number on it - take a photo of these items. You never know when you can loose them.
Thank you @Katimorton for your wonderful work. Since I found you here during the pandemic I watch your videos and they were always life-changing to me!
I wish you all the best! Thank you!❤
This is also useful when recovering after trauma- when some of your neuron links have basically fallen apart after repeated abuse episodes...thank u
A million tabs open in our heads… so true 😅. I have a gazillion open on my phone and iPad 😂
Thank you so much for your ADHD videos! I have a coworker who struggles with ADHD and before researching it myself, I struggled to be empathetic and helpful when we work together. This is so insightful and helps me come up with strategies and be more understanding with her. Thank you!!
The app Neronation helps me to practice how to improve my brain functions that most need to be sharpen
Different things require so much even if they aren’t hard thanks for this info
Agreed.. that's why I tried to offer varying ideas, and hopefully one of them is something you can incorporate. xoxo
If you're a woman and haven't read it already, A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD is a great book that helps you start to identify those negative messages you've internalized over the years and that have chipped away at your self-confidence
This video came just at the right time as I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 26. I had struggled for so long and I never knew why until now. Meanwhile I found ways of dealing with «it» - using a whiteboard on my fridge as a weekly planner, and another as a weekly menu and to-do list. I was an athlete growing up so I’m sure that really kept it in check. I did varsity sports in uni and I still remain pretty active to this day going to the gym, swim sessions and running. I also started working as an ER nurse and that’s definitely my happy place, a place where I am able to use my adhd for something good. I also work in a locked psych ward with young adults with combined psychosis and addiction issues. Getting my licensure to practice as an RN in Canada and planning to move next summer. Always ready for an adventure.
Also big thanks for putting out these videos, been a Kinion since 2013 era. Greetings from Norway.
Growing up in the 70’s and 80’s I had the best reminder, my mother. No whiteboard, no to do lists. She remembered everything I had to do. Of course, no one had any idea of ADD or ADHD or even autism , which I am. I got things done until I went to college where I had to learn how to focus one day at a time. Strategies such as whiteboards were mentioned, but I never used them. Instead, I used visual cues to help. For example, if I had a math test to study for, I would put my math book on the floor in the center of the room. Cleaning, same thing. Vacuum cleaner in the middle of the room, or spray cleaner either by the sink or on the bathroom floor. It’s great that you found at as a young adult. You have more time to figure out how to get things done.
The list is a nice idea but I tend to ignore it. But I make lists for when I'm going out and start to think about if I got everything. Like for University: my tablet, my student card, something to drink, something to eat... Because otherwise I stand in the middle of the room just trying to think about what I might have forgotten and simply freeze or zone out without really thinking about what I might have forgotten.
I feel your frustration. ❤️🩹
It's the moment before you have to leave and you stop, "Am I forgetting anything?" Then your brain starts going 120 mph sitting still while your body becomes temporarily paralyzed until you can snap out of it and "Just Go, Already!"
It helps me to have things set up the night before for my morning departure. So far, I'm able to consistently put my keys on the hook when I get home, so they'll be there when I have to leave... 🤷♀️ I'm a work in progress. 😅
I make lists, tons of lists, and I forget about them after a couple hours. Visual cues help me the most. A key box by the door, vacuum cleaner in the middle of my room , bills taped to my computer screen, etc.
@@taoist32 ah yes: the "If I trip over it, I might remember it" method. 😂
@@rebeccamay6420 Yep, doesn’t always work!
Before recognizing I have both ADHD and Autism, I knew I had to do something differently so I would be better able to remember "all the things" that i have to do routinely/ weekly/ monthly/ annually at work. I built my own custom spreadsheet calendar pages that auto-display monthly tasks by their assigned dates. I update the "January 1" start date for each new year, and the automated formulated spreadsheet fills in the rest! Between that and a couple other custom work week/ month pages, it's a lot like combining Point of Performance with Tasks/ Reminders/ To-Do.😊
How do you get past the routine/spontaneity conflict? It’s always in my head. I’m autistic, but the more I research ADHD it seems like I have both. Love routines, changes scare me, but at the same time I need spontaneity and can’t understand how to do it with my routines. And even when I have time to be spontaneous, I have no clue what to do.
Thank you for the ADHD videos! I just received a diagnosis at age 49, finally! I'm trying to adjust and be nicer to myself.
Thank you so much for this video. I have been struggling with my adhd for over 40 years and never had any clue it can actually be managed. Now I just need to find the help I need for me adhd.
Happy Birthday Kati. I wish everyone the best of birthday's and also, I believe that no matter what age we turn in 2024 that everyone should celebrate it in any way that they can and do it the best that they want to with friends and family. It should be celebrated in an awesome way.
I use my phone calendar for reminders and appointments. Thankfully they integrated reminders into the calendar now.
Same!! I thought that was such a an important integration! xox
Which phone calendar do you use?
I like to use visual triggers instead of to do lists. For example, taking my recycled bottles out to the recycling bin is easier when I place the box of bottles by the door. For cleaning, I put the vacuum cleaner in the middle my room, or put my cleaning spray on the floor of the bathroom. At work, I have to use a to do list, but it’s on my desk where I can see it at all times.
Thank you!
I really want to try the exercise thing, but I am JUST not a morning person. It takes hours for my brain to load.
My mantra when overwhelmed with a tasks at work is “one thing at a time. One thing at a time.” I may not be good at breaking things down, but at work, I am forced to get into gear. It also means I am exhausted at the end of the day. I do wish there was a better way to pace myself.
Hi, Kati. Your videos have been really helpful to me and my sister thank you. I wanted to ask if you could maybe do a video on autism and trauma, and having both. I'm autistic and have emotionally abusive parents which has caused me major difficulties in life and I am certain I am not the only one. Apologies if you've already done a video on this in the past, but it would mean the world to me. You could talk about anything but mainly if you have any tips on how to heal. Also, doing a video on an extreme want of different parents would be very helpful too. Thank you so much and I hope you see this comment!
Yay Kati is talking about adhd! 😁🥰
I started martial arts 🥋 again after 32 years to help with my ADHD but I still get distracted
thanks for my friend who did same thing for me when I struggle with procrastination
Try doing a low-carb diet. It has really helped me and many others!
When the dog rang the doorbell 😂
This is great to know, to get better
The animated transitions (including sound effects) work really nicely.
😀😀 well thank you. I’ll the kind words on to Sean 😀
Thank you, Kati! Very helpful! I have a lot of students who struggle to focus in class (we all struggle to focus nowadays, I guess). The ones with ADHD are great initiators and quick to grasp the new concepts that I introduce, but boy!, you can't make them finish their tasks! They need a lot of body doubling😁
I love these strategies! Thank you for this video. I am soooo into body doubling. It has helped me so much. I once read a study where they mentioned the saying, "Hills aren't as steep when you walk them with a friend." I relate body doubling to that...the sloggy craptastic tasks aren't as hard with an accountabilibuddy! Now I'm off on a rabbit hole looking into xtiles.
This is great! Thanks!
You're welcome!
I need to go to the doctor to get prescribed some meds. Second hand is hard on the pocket and people don't look at that right. Without them, I'm just about useless. With them, I have to deal with being judged, because "I don't need them". I don't even know where to start at to look for a doctor. Haven't been to a doctor in over 15 years, my mom took care of all that. Sad, but true.
Good luck with getting the med tech you need, remember that you deserve to have medical help with your medical problem.
2:55 xtiles sounds great but it has too much visual stimuli for my ADHD.
Thankyou sooooo much Kati ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My daughter have adhd
Thanks for sharing this❤
My pleasure 😊
The view of xTiles with blocks for each day of the week made me feel anxious 😂 but definitely, I love the idea of folding a page and using one side for current goals and the other side for "lower" priority goals. The xTiles overview was very useful and finally, I created an xTiles profile. Now I need an xTiles dashboard to start using xTiles 🤣
UPDATE: xTiles is absolutelly useless. I would continue using goodle docs, excel, calendar and chrome bookmarks. I expected being able to reuse contact/address/task/event information in different projects and different dashboards. I can't afford wasting my time on coping and pasting manually the same info everythere.
Thank you !
Dog with a doorbell
🐕🔔
😂😂😂
1:14
She really is in charge.. hahah!! So spoiled!
@@Katimorton she's got her hoomins well trained 🤣
Hi Kati, I just got your book traumatized. I’m looking forward to reading it. Thank you!
How to navigate family situations, when you are trying to avoid your abuser and not everyone knows about the abuse? So how do you say I don’t feel comfortable coming over if so and so will be there?
Have you done a video or addressed this in your book?
Gonna throw in a request for a video...I'm not sure what this is called, but was wondering if you could break down the psychology behind adults that have childhood trauma have a habit of thinking their relationships with acquaintances are deeper than they actually are. Thank you for even considering =) Great video, as always!
Really Great Explaination but are you looking for a video editor for your channel?
Body doubling strangely doesn’t work for me. I think it’s because of my anxiety. I become too concerned about the other person and my brain will hyperfixate on them instead of the task at hand. Are they comfortable enough, are they hungry or thirsty, is my background noise annoying them, am I working too slow or too fast…what if they finish their task before me, will I keep them waiting. I also won’t take bathroom or food breaks in the effort to just keep going, so they don’t think I’m slacking. Maybe I’ve just worked as a freelancer remotely for too long and I have my systems in place so having someone there really throws me off a lot. Yes things still distract me on my own but I feel less anxious about it I guess. 🤷🏻♀️
Try the body doubling with someone from youtube. There are many of such recordings in which someone is studing in front of you and you can find with some relief in your anxious thoughts about the person.
Thanks!
You’re welcome! Glad you enjoyed the video 😀
OMG, my alarms for ADHD annoy the hell out of my co-workers 😂 But it works
Subbed
xtiles looks promising for my chaotic brain
Got a nightmare about unaliving my sister I wake up shaking and I can't get it out my mind
@katimorton. You always look nice ❤😊
I ,literally missed point 1
I missed the Advertisement part😂
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Do you have ADD Kati?
Im so gonna remake xtiles. So i dont have to pay for it
Can you have adhd and ocd ? Google says you can I try and take google with a pinch of salt though.
The second you realize a third of this vid is a commercial...
Kari, are you a serious channel? How would you feel (seriously think about this) if you click on a video that claims there is “no fluff” and starts with the 6 points… only to lean hard on advertising a sponsored product as point 2. It feels dishonest. You have lost a potential subscriber, you have lost all integrity in my opinion. Advertise first, or at the end.
Firstly, her name is Kati. Secondly, she provides free mental health videos online for our benefit... For free. If watching a little bit of an ad is too hard for you, go pay to get therapy. Or pay for another creators online classes. Or... just skip past the damn ad.
@katimorton. Very interesting content about ADHD I don't think I have ADHD but very important to know ❤🙏🏻