Wondering if you know much about having different self states and what that looks like for different people and how to cope with learning you have more than one different self states? Thanks!
Was initially diagnosed BPD, but later on doctors same doctors diagnosed me with Bipolar, which fit way better Honestly I was happy when they changed the diganosis. When I had BPD on my chart ER and other general health care staff treated me completely different and thought I was an attention seeker because the BPD was on my chart So glad that is no longuer on my chart
Mental health "professionals" assuming people with BPD are attention seeking and treating them horribly, along with misdiagnosing two very different disorders is honestly concerning. It's a bit scary that even the people who are supposed to understand these things the most rarely genuinely do. I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
I had depression from age 12, i never knew what BPD was until nw I got told by the health team that what I have I still don't understand it, I'm keeping it away from family friends, thanks very much ❤
It might not be BPD as well it might be debilitating depression with a misdiagnosis For borderline personality disorder dissociated usually occurs meaning you might do things you got no memory of In other cases a bunch of emotions all at once and unable to control them so usually a mental break down happens tends to be anger and or tears and unable to regain control for several mins sometimes longer For me I deal with a mix of things due to my life being very bad but my borderline personality disorder seems to be fine as long as I sleep and 0 stress/overworking Keep in mind misdiagnosis happen so be in tune with yourself and ignore therapists at times because more then several times they messed my friends up Debilitating depression means your heart hurts a lot and might have a hard time moving get upset and mad fairly easily (thats how mine treated me when I dealt with it) my heart almost never stopped hurting but I dealt and got passed it (I also dealt with BPD and all the stuff that went with autism unbeknownst to me) I sort of knew but nothing 100% because I didnt realize I dissociated (meaning missed things in class but wide awake and I thought zoned out but 0 memories with zoning out its more daydream stuff) and I remembered when that happened
I wish you also had included AVPD in this one 🙏I'm diagnosed with BPD and AVPD (with traits of DPD) and I also have ADHD. I can relate to it all. Having one of these diagnoses doesn't exclude also struggling with limerence, also it's definitely a way for me to cope with loneliness, fear of intimacy and fear of rejection/abandonment. It's also stimulating, and I have felt stuck in it for long periods of my life due to this.
You’re trying to justify your diagnoses as something you can just accept, but that’s not the case. Borderline personality disorder, avoidant personality traits, and dependent traits are not just “quirks,” they are destructive patterns that prevent you from living fully. You can’t keep excusing your behavior by pointing to your diagnoses. Realizing you have these issues is an important step, but it doesn’t solve anything on its own. You need to work on yourself, not just explain your behavior away through diagnoses. You say limerence helps you cope with loneliness and the fear of intimacy, but in reality, it’s an illusion of control. Limerence is a toxic dependency on other people, not a way to solve your issues. You’re fixating on idealized images, trying to fill the emptiness, but this only deepens your reliance on external validation. It won’t lead to a real solution for loneliness or the fear of rejection. You acknowledge being stuck in your feelings, but the truth is, you’re avoiding action. Continuously revisiting your emotions without trying to change anything is just getting stuck in a rut. Emotions alone don’t change anything. If you don’t start working on yourself, you’ll keep spiraling in this cycle with no progress. Recognizing your problems is only the first step. Without taking real action, you won’t be able to change your life. You’re staying in this comfort zone where everything is familiar, but it’s not bringing you happiness. To move forward, you need to not just understand your problems, but actively work to overcome them. The fear of intimacy and rejection is the main barrier holding you back. You can acknowledge this fear all you want, but until you work through it, it will stay there, blocking you from building healthy relationships and reaching your goals. These fears won’t go away on their own. To truly overcome them, you need to take real steps and realize that no one loves you.
@@T.U.G._Alétheon Please don't write some analyses, opinion or "well-meaning/helpful" comment, trying to tell how a person should fix whatever they are dealing with, and how their issues are problematic etc. without them asking for it. You don't know me, my situation, my story, or anything. You don't have the merits to help me. I didn't ask you. You are being unhelpful and disrespectful. Don't do it again.
@@HannehYA Oh, of course, how could I forget that you know best. Why not reject any help? Life is so simple - just sit there and ignore any advice given, because who in their right mind would listen to people who don’t understand your unique situation? Great plan!"
@@T.U.G._Alétheon What an awful thing to say. If you are going to try to make a point, don't waste your "explanation" saying such horrible things. It completely eliminates the point you're trying to make, and just makes you condescending and mean. You are not giving "advice," you're throwing out insults.
I know Limerence way too well, this led to a lot of maladaptive daydreaming (and sometime still does). Else I would say I have a tendency towards DPD, though I value my independence.
Limerence is something I am constantly struggling with. The more unattainable, complicated and "mysterious" someone is, the stronger my desire is to be with this person. I am rarely interested in someone who already likes me since I like the "chase". Is there anything I can do against that? Being solely attracted to emotionally unavailable people makes my life really messy. P.S. I have CPTSD. so I mostly avoid any intimacy due to feeling of danger \ fear that the relationship will consume me.
Limerence can be really difficult, but it's amazing that you recognize yourself doing it (being self aware is half the battle). But working to process your past traumas will help. I find that limerence is so often tied to trauma and attachment issues. xoxo
@@Katimorton Omg, thanks for response Kati!!! Besides, you are 100% right about emotional reactions of someone in state of limerence.... Usually when someone starts ghosting me \ ignoring or acting sketchy, I start craving the person and fantasizing about "us" even more. I perceive it rather as a game that exists in my head basically LOL. I am aware of it right, but like you said it’s only a half of the battle.
Author Lucy Bain has a book series just for understanding and overcoming limerence. I was actually quite shocked at how well she articulates her understanding on the subject. I found it useful in working through my own limerent tendencies. Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach is also a must for this kind of thing, imo. It takes work but you got this 😊
Thank you Katie, I have been following your great life saving tools and resources and I appreciate your help and guidance all these years I follow your classes - mental health matters ❤.
Maybe it's because I have avpd and dpd but seeing this video just now made me wish there were more licensed professionals on here talking about avpd and dpd (or how it can present itself from someone with both). Most of the resources and videos I find are some years old and there aren't a lot of individuals talking about their experience with either of these two PDs as much currently. They're definitely are people talking and providing those resources, I guess it's not as much as someone who needs these resources hoped.
I never heard of DPD before. I do know about limerence and I understand that can last for years. I’m still working through an episode that began 2 years ago after experiencing a huge flashback and being told I have CPTSD. I think DPD fits me pretty well but I can also see bits of BPD with me as well. Do you think it’s possible for one person to experience both? Thank you for reposting the video, Kati!
I feel like you kind of glossed over how bad limerence can be. lol. You made it sound like just a mega crush when Limerence almost ruined my whole life. I went through years of obsession & anxiousness over what was essentially an imagined person, rejection, cognitive dissonance (once I realized his true character), plus the struggle to trust myself again after falling for a delusion. Limerence probably happens a lot to DPD and BPD individuals and you didn’t mention that
Ha! Totally not me having a complete meltdown after getting yelled at for making a joke that i was unaware wouldn't land because no one talked to me all night so i wasn't told they were in pain.
My husband and I had a friend that I believe has bpd. He would do these weird " tests of friendship". Once he send us a letter saying he was going to commit suicide. Scared the shit out us. At the moment I believed his story, as fantastic as it was. Now, I think he was just being manipulative. We haven heard of him in a long time. I hope he gets the help he needs but I don't think so. Interestingly he was about to graduate as a psychologist. But instead of using that knowledge to understand he had a problem and search help, he used it to manipulate.
I really am sorry for your experience, but please do not generalize. Many of us who have BPD would never use something like that to manipulate. As someone with BPD who wants to become a psychologist, I want to help people because I know pain, not hurt them even more.
I think you might have thyroid problems thats what my guardian angels says says. Can you please check it for sure?🙏 Symtoms are: Losing weight without trying. Fast heartbeat, a condition called tachycardia. Irregular heartbeat, also called arrhythmia. Pounding of the heart, sometimes called heart palpitations. Increased hunger. Nervousness, anxiety and irritability. Tremor, usually a small trembling in the hands and fingers. Sweating. Changes in menstrual cycles. Increased sensitivity to heat. Changes in bowel patterns, especially more-frequent bowel movements. - blu
I feel this way for the person I had sex with for the first time and Eventhough we haven’t talked in a while it still hurts for me like it happened yesterday and my family has made me feel bad about feeling this way for them and that hurts even more and I have to keep pulling myself back into reality of what actually happened between us instead of the fantasy that I imagine all the time I really enjoy your videos and hope your having a good day
Your fantasy is better than the nuts and bolts of what happened. I'd posit that because such a fantasy even exists at all shows how awesome your relationship with the right person would be.
I still insist that a Borderline should get together with Schizoid and Limerence is just another word for love. It's just love that's expressed in an unhealthy way, particularly when it's put up against societal norms. Fantasy can be more powerful than reality. I'll give one example you can't argue with: A dream can be far more intense than memory. Fantasy isn't inherently a "bad" thing. In fact it can be awesome.
Didn't know about dpd, I feel I have things from all of the 3 but maybe dpd is most similar. Can a dpd-person have a limerence with a friend/someone they have a somewhat close non romantic relationship with, and have the elements from both of these? Can a limerence go on for many years?
My bpd tends to be me typing to much like in this comment section as well as others then hating myself for being like that (most of my online friends understand and pretty chill with it) those people became my family others blocked me but made it very clear that as a person i am probably awesome but to much in the comment section Some friends with my cousin so thats partly why they feel that way one of them said i seem like a more awesome version of him
Excellent information. Can limerance also apply to material things, because I'm obsessed with your adorable sweater and am deluding myself into believing it will look as cute on me if I can find it online.😂
That thing about the silence doesnt apply to BPD either it reminded me when collete randomly thought shay somehow might be mad at her so she built up this whole bizarre thing in her head Then random said to shay while they silently worked are you mad at me and she randomly snapped at him and luckily his sense of humor just laughed it off and he said no and let collete say what she needed to and it ended up being so funny what she built up instead saying it sooner and letting it get to that point Shay handle her snapping at him very well and he said he needed to laugh because of how ridiculous her way of thinking ended up being and she agreed
I'm confused that i don't exhibit any of these issues with any of my friends, yet i seem to exhibit a few symptoms of BPD, DPD and limerence with just one. I can't understand why or how to fix it. I do have an overwhelming need for connection with friends and struggle if the connection becomes superficial.
The bpd you talk about seems more like bipolar disorder at least with some people I know who have it their mood swings like that get very bad sometimes
My issue i feel other people feeling that way about lav towards me and i always need to sort out am i being empathic or am i also feeling this way almost always been empathic Im high school i realized that happens i felt a girls crush on me and its like i am straight and she hid being gay i never knew for sure until she came out on facebook so i never outted her my frienemy knew mostly kept it to himself he only semi outted her to me and a boy who wanted to date her lgbt+ person so he never cared (i said like me she might be acexual but i said i didnt know) the one who knew knew because of his sister being gay
What is the difference between being a victim of bad people plotting human trafficking for Opioids Profits vs Standing up for what you believe is protecting life preciousness, do we conform to the evilness or we stand on our beliefs of what's right from wrong, some will say Let it go, but in my opinion I will never conform to evil wrong doing as a US Humanitarian investigator college journalist. Amen 🙏.
After listening to this crap, I’m once again convinced that being a psychopath is actually much better than most people think. All this talk about feelings, empathy, and connecting with others is just nonsense. Psychopaths don’t drown in that crap because they understand how the world works and play by their own rules. Emotions are a weakness, but intellect and control are what really matter. Psychopaths don’t suffer from attachments, they don’t stress over being abandoned or hurt by others. They don’t need validation from people around them; they can manipulate others by exploiting their weaknesses and remain cold and detached. That’s power, the kind that offers freedom, independence, and the ability to get what you want without all the unnecessary emotions. Being a psychopath means not being bound by social norms. You’re not tied to ideas of “right” and “wrong” behavior. You don’t live for the approval of others. You can be effective, driven, and not waste energy on caring about other people’s feelings. That gives you an advantage in a world where everyone is seeking validation and afraid of being rejected. Psychopaths aren’t limited by the moral constraints that hold others back. They can do whatever is necessary to achieve their goals without feeling guilt or shame. They see people not as emotional beings but as tools to get what they want. That’s a gift that allows you to stay in control, unlike everyone else who’s tied to their illusions and emotions. So yeah, being a psychopath is definitely better than living in a world full of pathetic and helpless people who are so afraid of being happy and successful that they’re willing to conform to others’ expectations and suffer because they “don’t fit in.”
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Wondering if you know much about having different self states and what that looks like for different people and how to cope with learning you have more than one different self states? Thanks!
what would be a combo of all ?
Hi kati, This video was really helpful. I'm wondering where C-PTSD might fall into these dynamics. C-PTSD feels like a mix of all three. Thank you.
Was initially diagnosed BPD, but later on doctors same doctors diagnosed me with Bipolar, which fit way better
Honestly I was happy when they changed the diganosis. When I had BPD on my chart ER and other general health care staff treated me completely different and thought I was an attention seeker because the BPD was on my chart
So glad that is no longuer on my chart
Mental health "professionals" assuming people with BPD are attention seeking and treating them horribly, along with misdiagnosing two very different disorders is honestly concerning. It's a bit scary that even the people who are supposed to understand these things the most rarely genuinely do. I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
I had depression from age 12, i never knew what BPD was until nw I got told by the health team that what I have I still don't understand it, I'm keeping it away from family friends, thanks very much ❤
It might not be BPD as well it might be debilitating depression with a misdiagnosis
For borderline personality disorder dissociated usually occurs meaning you might do things you got no memory of
In other cases a bunch of emotions all at once and unable to control them so usually a mental break down happens tends to be anger and or tears and unable to regain control for several mins sometimes longer
For me I deal with a mix of things due to my life being very bad but my borderline personality disorder seems to be fine as long as I sleep and 0 stress/overworking
Keep in mind misdiagnosis happen so be in tune with yourself and ignore therapists at times because more then several times they messed my friends up
Debilitating depression means your heart hurts a lot and might have a hard time moving get upset and mad fairly easily (thats how mine treated me when I dealt with it) my heart almost never stopped hurting but I dealt and got passed it (I also dealt with BPD and all the stuff that went with autism unbeknownst to me) I sort of knew but nothing 100% because I didnt realize I dissociated (meaning missed things in class but wide awake and I thought zoned out but 0 memories with zoning out its more daydream stuff) and I remembered when that happened
I wish you also had included AVPD in this one 🙏I'm diagnosed with BPD and AVPD (with traits of DPD) and I also have ADHD. I can relate to it all. Having one of these diagnoses doesn't exclude also struggling with limerence, also it's definitely a way for me to cope with loneliness, fear of intimacy and fear of rejection/abandonment. It's also stimulating, and I have felt stuck in it for long periods of my life due to this.
You’re trying to justify your diagnoses as something you can just accept, but that’s not the case. Borderline personality disorder, avoidant personality traits, and dependent traits are not just “quirks,” they are destructive patterns that prevent you from living fully. You can’t keep excusing your behavior by pointing to your diagnoses. Realizing you have these issues is an important step, but it doesn’t solve anything on its own. You need to work on yourself, not just explain your behavior away through diagnoses.
You say limerence helps you cope with loneliness and the fear of intimacy, but in reality, it’s an illusion of control. Limerence is a toxic dependency on other people, not a way to solve your issues. You’re fixating on idealized images, trying to fill the emptiness, but this only deepens your reliance on external validation. It won’t lead to a real solution for loneliness or the fear of rejection.
You acknowledge being stuck in your feelings, but the truth is, you’re avoiding action. Continuously revisiting your emotions without trying to change anything is just getting stuck in a rut. Emotions alone don’t change anything. If you don’t start working on yourself, you’ll keep spiraling in this cycle with no progress.
Recognizing your problems is only the first step. Without taking real action, you won’t be able to change your life. You’re staying in this comfort zone where everything is familiar, but it’s not bringing you happiness. To move forward, you need to not just understand your problems, but actively work to overcome them.
The fear of intimacy and rejection is the main barrier holding you back. You can acknowledge this fear all you want, but until you work through it, it will stay there, blocking you from building healthy relationships and reaching your goals. These fears won’t go away on their own. To truly overcome them, you need to take real steps and realize that no one loves you.
@@T.U.G._Alétheon Please don't write some analyses, opinion or "well-meaning/helpful" comment, trying to tell how a person should fix whatever they are dealing with, and how their issues are problematic etc. without them asking for it. You don't know me, my situation, my story, or anything. You don't have the merits to help me. I didn't ask you. You are being unhelpful and disrespectful. Don't do it again.
@@HannehYA Oh, of course, how could I forget that you know best. Why not reject any help? Life is so simple - just sit there and ignore any advice given, because who in their right mind would listen to people who don’t understand your unique situation? Great plan!"
I have AvPD with dependent and paranoid traits
@@T.U.G._Alétheon What an awful thing to say. If you are going to try to make a point, don't waste your "explanation" saying such horrible things. It completely eliminates the point you're trying to make, and just makes you condescending and mean. You are not giving "advice," you're throwing out insults.
Great to see the differences between these! 💜
As someone with quiet BPD, there are a lot of DPD reactions/behaviors I relate to a lot... and I feel like I have to fight with limerance sometimes.
Thx for the re-upload! Great stuff as always! 👍🏽
I know Limerence way too well, this led to a lot of maladaptive daydreaming (and sometime still does). Else I would say I have a tendency towards DPD, though I value my independence.
Limerence is something I am constantly struggling with. The more unattainable, complicated and "mysterious" someone is, the stronger my desire is to be with this person. I am rarely interested in someone who already likes me since I like the "chase". Is there anything I can do against that? Being solely attracted to emotionally unavailable people makes my life really messy.
P.S. I have CPTSD. so I mostly avoid any intimacy due to feeling of danger \ fear that the relationship will consume me.
I feel the same way but I believe you’ll find someone that loves you and there for you
Limerence can be really difficult, but it's amazing that you recognize yourself doing it (being self aware is half the battle). But working to process your past traumas will help. I find that limerence is so often tied to trauma and attachment issues. xoxo
@@Katimorton Omg, thanks for response Kati!!! Besides, you are 100% right about emotional reactions of someone in state of limerence.... Usually when someone starts ghosting me \ ignoring or acting sketchy, I start craving the person and fantasizing about "us" even more. I perceive it rather as a game that exists in my head basically LOL. I am aware of it right, but like you said it’s only a half of the battle.
Author Lucy Bain has a book series just for understanding and overcoming limerence. I was actually quite shocked at how well she articulates her understanding on the subject. I found it useful in working through my own limerent tendencies. Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach is also a must for this kind of thing, imo. It takes work but you got this 😊
Thank you Katie, I have been following your great life saving tools and resources and I appreciate your help and guidance all these years I follow your classes - mental health matters ❤.
Maybe it's because I have avpd and dpd but seeing this video just now made me wish there were more licensed professionals on here talking about avpd and dpd (or how it can present itself from someone with both). Most of the resources and videos I find are some years old and there aren't a lot of individuals talking about their experience with either of these two PDs as much currently. They're definitely are people talking and providing those resources, I guess it's not as much as someone who needs these resources hoped.
I agree.
Thank you for the perfect clarity on this!!🎉❤
I never heard of DPD before. I do know about limerence and I understand that can last for years. I’m still working through an episode that began 2 years ago after experiencing a huge flashback and being told I have CPTSD.
I think DPD fits me pretty well but I can also see bits of BPD with me as well. Do you think it’s possible for one person to experience both?
Thank you for reposting the video, Kati!
Gosh thanks so much for this video! Needed to study on this for a client and I need to look at BPD instead of OCD.
Definitely DPD thank you for explaining
Thank you for the sound it grounded me immediately thank you...
You saved my life
I feel like you kind of glossed over how bad limerence can be. lol. You made it sound like just a mega crush when Limerence almost ruined my whole life. I went through years of obsession & anxiousness over what was essentially an imagined person, rejection, cognitive dissonance (once I realized his true character), plus the struggle to trust myself again after falling for a delusion. Limerence probably happens a lot to DPD and BPD individuals and you didn’t mention that
Ha! Totally not me having a complete meltdown after getting yelled at for making a joke that i was unaware wouldn't land because no one talked to me all night so i wasn't told they were in pain.
What to do if I am going through 1 after the other and the other and the cycle continues....
Or PTSD and CPTSD. I see the overlay there.
When you have comorbidities like ASD, ADHD & BPD, how can you tell where certain symptoms are coming from?
Is it possible to have all of them?
My husband and I had a friend that I believe has bpd. He would do these weird " tests of friendship".
Once he send us a letter saying he was going to commit suicide. Scared the shit out us. At the moment I believed his story, as fantastic as it was. Now, I think he was just being manipulative.
We haven heard of him in a long time. I hope he gets the help he needs but I don't think so.
Interestingly he was about to graduate as a psychologist. But instead of using that knowledge to understand he had a problem and search help, he used it to manipulate.
I really am sorry for your experience, but please do not generalize. Many of us who have BPD would never use something like that to manipulate. As someone with BPD who wants to become a psychologist, I want to help people because I know pain, not hurt them even more.
I think you might have thyroid problems thats what my guardian angels says says. Can you please check it for sure?🙏
Symtoms are:
Losing weight without trying.
Fast heartbeat, a condition called tachycardia.
Irregular heartbeat, also called arrhythmia.
Pounding of the heart, sometimes called heart palpitations.
Increased hunger.
Nervousness, anxiety and irritability.
Tremor, usually a small trembling in the hands and fingers.
Sweating.
Changes in menstrual cycles.
Increased sensitivity to heat.
Changes in bowel patterns, especially more-frequent bowel movements.
- blu
I feel this way for the person I had sex with for the first time and Eventhough we haven’t talked in a while it still hurts for me like it happened yesterday and my family has made me feel bad about feeling this way for them and that hurts even more and I have to keep pulling myself back into reality of what actually happened between us instead of the fantasy that I imagine all the time I really enjoy your videos and hope your having a good day
Your fantasy is better than the nuts and bolts of what happened. I'd posit that because such a fantasy even exists at all shows how awesome your relationship with the right person would be.
I still insist that a Borderline should get together with Schizoid and Limerence is just another word for love. It's just love that's expressed in an unhealthy way, particularly when it's put up against societal norms. Fantasy can be more powerful than reality. I'll give one example you can't argue with: A dream can be far more intense than memory. Fantasy isn't inherently a "bad" thing. In fact it can be awesome.
Didn't know about dpd, I feel I have things from all of the 3 but maybe dpd is most similar. Can a dpd-person have a limerence with a friend/someone they have a somewhat close non romantic relationship with, and have the elements from both of these? Can a limerence go on for many years?
Great. How do you resolve it?
My bpd tends to be me typing to much like in this comment section as well as others then hating myself for being like that (most of my online friends understand and pretty chill with it) those people became my family others blocked me but made it very clear that as a person i am probably awesome but to much in the comment section
Some friends with my cousin so thats partly why they feel that way one of them said i seem like a more awesome version of him
I'm a "quiet borderline"... My fiance I believe is Dependent... We've been together for 8 yrs now... But it is a struggle
Note: I'm literally all of the above. Just depends on the relationship
Excellent information. Can limerance also apply to material things, because I'm obsessed with your adorable sweater and am deluding myself into believing it will look as cute on me if I can find it online.😂
It is a nice sweater!😊
That thing about the silence doesnt apply to BPD either it reminded me when collete randomly thought shay somehow might be mad at her so she built up this whole bizarre thing in her head
Then random said to shay while they silently worked are you mad at me and she randomly snapped at him and luckily his sense of humor just laughed it off and he said no and let collete say what she needed to and it ended up being so funny what she built up instead saying it sooner and letting it get to that point
Shay handle her snapping at him very well and he said he needed to laugh because of how ridiculous her way of thinking ended up being and she agreed
I was depressed since 5
How do attachment styles play in?
I'm confused that i don't exhibit any of these issues with any of my friends, yet i seem to exhibit a few symptoms of BPD, DPD and limerence with just one. I can't understand why or how to fix it. I do have an overwhelming need for connection with friends and struggle if the connection becomes superficial.
The bpd you talk about seems more like bipolar disorder at least with some people I know who have it their mood swings like that get very bad sometimes
Wow you get me
Is it possible to have both BPD and DPD?
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Yay!! Thank you so much for letting me know that there was an issue with the last one :) xoxo
@@Katimorton 🙂😅
My issue i feel other people feeling that way about lav towards me and i always need to sort out am i being empathic or am i also feeling this way almost always been empathic
Im high school i realized that happens i felt a girls crush on me and its like i am straight and she hid being gay i never knew for sure until she came out on facebook so i never outted her my frienemy knew mostly kept it to himself he only semi outted her to me and a boy who wanted to date her lgbt+ person so he never cared (i said like me she might be acexual but i said i didnt know) the one who knew knew because of his sister being gay
What is the difference between being a victim of bad people plotting human trafficking for Opioids Profits vs Standing up for what you believe is protecting life preciousness, do we conform to the evilness or we stand on our beliefs of what's right from wrong, some will say Let it go, but in my opinion I will never conform to evil wrong doing as a US Humanitarian investigator college journalist. Amen 🙏.
the text thing is resal
Isn’t limerence pretty normal? Most people get infatuated with people. It doesn’t sound like a mental illness.
Thank you! ❤
People with limerence will sometimes go as far as giving all of their money to the people they’re obsessing over so not necessarily
All of the above 😂
I HAVE BPD so ican say from exp not someone telling you
I do not consent
I have BPD, and pretty sure my fiancé has had Limerence and now has DPD, oof!😓
It can all be managed!! It's a lot to consider, but with the right help it will be okay :) xoxox
Do I have DPD? 😢 I think I really have it.
Sometimes it’s just a manipulative catfish online 😂
I have experienced limerence. What a story…oof
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Didn't mean to offend you .I'm sure you're helping a lot of people that resulted to their good amd well being .thankyou for that
But what about your own well being while trying to help others .don't get me wrong ,if all I'm thankfull
10 years ago nobody knew what was mental health was now everyone has it ????
After listening to this crap, I’m once again convinced that being a psychopath is actually much better than most people think. All this talk about feelings, empathy, and connecting with others is just nonsense. Psychopaths don’t drown in that crap because they understand how the world works and play by their own rules. Emotions are a weakness, but intellect and control are what really matter.
Psychopaths don’t suffer from attachments, they don’t stress over being abandoned or hurt by others. They don’t need validation from people around them; they can manipulate others by exploiting their weaknesses and remain cold and detached. That’s power, the kind that offers freedom, independence, and the ability to get what you want without all the unnecessary emotions.
Being a psychopath means not being bound by social norms. You’re not tied to ideas of “right” and “wrong” behavior. You don’t live for the approval of others. You can be effective, driven, and not waste energy on caring about other people’s feelings. That gives you an advantage in a world where everyone is seeking validation and afraid of being rejected.
Psychopaths aren’t limited by the moral constraints that hold others back. They can do whatever is necessary to achieve their goals without feeling guilt or shame. They see people not as emotional beings but as tools to get what they want. That’s a gift that allows you to stay in control, unlike everyone else who’s tied to their illusions and emotions.
So yeah, being a psychopath is definitely better than living in a world full of pathetic and helpless people who are so afraid of being happy and successful that they’re willing to conform to others’ expectations and suffer because they “don’t fit in.”