My husband is in this stress turtle shell right now. Everything you said lines up and helps me empathize with him and know what to do. Because he isn’t reacting to my support which makes me feel rejected, but how you explained it helps me not take it personal, and know how to show i care and help him process
Thank you sooo much!!! This is soo helpful, and seriously might help save me from drowning him in endless attempts to open up, causing him to feel attacked over the simplest debates. I’ll keep you updated on how this helps! Thank you soooo much!!
I totally want my dismissive avoidant ex back. We’ve been in no contact since the day we broke up - two months today. I really wish she would reach out though. If I break no contact, I will never know that she really cared for me. I’m beginning to think that maybe she wasn’t even that attached to begin with. I’m the one who lost my job and haven’t earned a cent fo five months. People committing suicide around me and other shit going down but not the bare minimum from her... three little words. “How are you?” is all it would take :(
Just work on yourself first ..easier said than done but just do it for you . My ex that is a DA and I went 3 months until she reached out . Fortunately I have become much more secure and now know about attachment styles . She may come back to you but also you do you . Good luck .
Wow. This is exactly what has happened to me. My ex is an avoidant and hasn't worked during pandemic. He just ended our 5 year relationship. I'm devastated. He said his priorities had changed. He is worried about lack.of work and other domestic stuff. You hit the nail on the head with the timelines. I don't know how to help him. :( He has invited me over and keeps wanting to be friends. I want him back though
It would have been good to know two months ago. My wife and I seperated September, heading for divorce, been together for 7 years. I had went through a deep depression for 7 long months,it was so terrible. She rebound with a friend of her son in laws, right after the breakup. Younger than her, the rebound was always around, guided by the son in laws. After trying to talk to her, for months with no response, I went into no contact in March. I just disappeared, right before COVID-19 lockdown. I had received a flood of unlisted calls back to back from 6 June until 27 June. I do not answer unlisted calls, numbers I do not recognize. One day on 24 June, I made a mistake and opened the call. The female on the other line said: Mr (last name)? I replied "Who is this?", they then disconnected. The voice sound familiar, to where I knew it was one of her friends. I then went into my settings and blocked unlisted calls. Calls continued until I became anxious, did not know what was going on. I finally called, 27 June and she argued at me saying: "You called with a blocked number!" "You did not care, you did not even call during COVID!!" I tried to talk to her calmly, telling her I do care! I then remembered I forgot to unblock my phone! She disconnected, blocked me, on phone and social media. Heartbreaking..When I think about it...she did not care about me at all! During lockdown...the Holidays! Especially Valentines Day? I don't get it...maybe an excuse to go back to her rebound? I still feel for her...
My husband is in this stress turtle shell right now. Everything you said lines up and helps me empathize with him and know what to do. Because he isn’t reacting to my support which makes me feel rejected, but how you explained it helps me not take it personal, and know how to show i care and help him process
Let me know if you need more help
100 percent right on! Exactly what my DA experienced and how I was able to reconnect over time.
Thank you sooo much!!! This is soo helpful, and seriously might help save me from drowning him in endless attempts to open up, causing him to feel attacked over the simplest debates. I’ll keep you updated on how this helps! Thank you soooo much!!
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I wish i would have seen this earlier. Would have saved me a lot of stress
You’ve seen it now. It will still save you stress in the future!
I totally want my dismissive avoidant ex back. We’ve been in no contact since the day we broke up - two months today. I really wish she would reach out though. If I break no contact, I will never know that she really cared for me. I’m beginning to think that maybe she wasn’t even that attached to begin with.
I’m the one who lost my job and haven’t earned a cent fo five months. People committing suicide around me and other shit going down but not the bare minimum from her... three little words. “How are you?” is all it would take :(
stormfalcon72 got have to let go the need for the external validation. Love you first! The world will follow. 💪🏾
Just work on yourself first ..easier said than done but just do it for you . My ex that is a DA and I went 3 months until she reached out . Fortunately I have become much more secure and now know about attachment styles . She may come back to you but also you do you . Good luck .
I wish I knew this before the break up!!
Wow. This is exactly what has happened to me. My ex is an avoidant and hasn't worked during pandemic. He just ended our 5 year relationship. I'm devastated. He said his priorities had changed. He is worried about lack.of work and other domestic stuff. You hit the nail on the head with the timelines. I don't know how to help him. :( He has invited me over and keeps wanting to be friends. I want him back though
I would say accept his invite and let him come to you if you really want him. No pressure!
I''m AP/FA and making big secure improvement. This video was great! Thank you, Coach!
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Hey Coach, keep it up on RUclips. Your videos have been a big help!
Thanks man! Will do ☺️
Thank you. Invaluable advice.
2:53 a similar case for me jajajaja
It would have been good to know two months ago. My wife and I seperated September, heading for divorce, been together for 7 years. I had went through a deep depression for 7 long months,it was so terrible. She rebound with a friend of her son in laws, right after the breakup. Younger than her, the rebound was always around, guided by the son in laws. After trying to talk to her, for months with no response, I went into no contact in March. I just disappeared, right before COVID-19 lockdown. I had received a flood of unlisted calls back to back from 6 June until 27 June. I do not answer unlisted calls, numbers I do not recognize. One day on 24 June, I made a mistake and opened the call. The female on the other line said: Mr (last name)? I replied "Who is this?", they then disconnected. The voice sound familiar, to where I knew it was one of her friends. I then went into my settings and blocked unlisted calls. Calls continued until I became anxious, did not know what was going on. I finally called, 27 June and she argued at me saying: "You called with a blocked number!" "You did not care, you did not even call during COVID!!" I tried to talk to her calmly, telling her I do care! I then remembered I forgot to unblock my phone! She disconnected, blocked me, on phone and social media. Heartbreaking..When I think about it...she did not care about me at all! During lockdown...the Holidays! Especially Valentines Day? I don't get it...maybe an excuse to go back to her rebound? I still feel for her...
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My ex has reached out after 3 months of no contact to tell me they’re stressed, how do I respond to this? Thanks
tons of information on DAs but are there any helps to deal with the Fearful Avoidant?
Diving there next! Stay tuned!
@@IamCoachCourt Looking 4word 2 it. Great job