The Danger of Your Inner Bully | Theresa Byrne | TEDxChapelHillLive

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  • Опубликовано: 2 дек 2024

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  • @crashtv6478
    @crashtv6478 11 месяцев назад +4

    It's actually somewhat of a relief to know that everyone has a harsh inner voice. I've been making myself feel bad for making myself feel bad...

  • @anonisanonymous
    @anonisanonymous 11 месяцев назад +2

    I'm grateful for the reminder to be gentle with ourselves. We all have an inner warrior; sometimes, we just need to give it a little encouragement.

  • @NoahForSure
    @NoahForSure 20 дней назад +1

    I loved how she highlighted the importance of post-traumatic growth. It’s not just about surviving difficult times, but coming out of them even stronger.

  • @honeyissweetforme
    @honeyissweetforme Год назад +3

    It took me way too long to understand that how we speak to ourselves impacts our mental health! If only I'd find Theresa's talk when I was growing up 😤😤

  • @evie-c
    @evie-c 13 дней назад +1

    Such a cute story about that little boy who transformed after finding his inner warrior!! We all have so much power on the inside and this is such great proof of that

  • @granmabecker
    @granmabecker 2 года назад +2

    "You can not hate yourself thin, you can not hate yourself better." I don't have the words to explain how much that sentence has gotten to me.

  • @mystic.10
    @mystic.10 Месяц назад +1

    It's pretty cool that she gave us permission to celebrate ourselves and our wins, no matter how small. We're so quick to brush off our accomplishments sometimes. Time to start hyping myself up more!

  • @angel_rai
    @angel_rai Год назад +1

    Theresa's talk reminded me that the way we treat ourselves matters just as much as how we treat others. It's time to stop being my own worst critic and start being my biggest supporter.

  • @TheAmendIsNow
    @TheAmendIsNow 9 месяцев назад +1

    What an amazing person. The matter of fact way she tells her "accident" story won me instantly.

  • @saturnsrings3608
    @saturnsrings3608 8 месяцев назад +1

    Loving the concept of our inner warriors. We all have the power to overcome challenges, it's just activating that mindset.

  • @dennisdanilla
    @dennisdanilla 23 дня назад +1

    I never realized how much adrenaline plays a role in how we react to stress! The way she broke it down made it way easier to understand why we react the way we do.

  • @ianrendle
    @ianrendle Год назад +1

    Taking a stand against the inner bully is easier said than done. It's a daily struggle for many.

  • @RedFountainAdvertising
    @RedFountainAdvertising Год назад +1

    Challenges are inevitable, but so is our ability to overcome them.

  • @WormholeHaven
    @WormholeHaven Год назад +1

    We never know what battles someone might be fighting, your story really touched me. Life can be so unpredictable but hearing of your strength in the face of it is truly inspiring!

  • @luciddreamsspace
    @luciddreamsspace Год назад +1

    The analogy she makes about our inner bully as a toxic relationship is so accurate. We wouldn't tolerate that from others, so why should we tolerate it from ourselves?

  • @valenciaponomarenco
    @valenciaponomarenco 11 месяцев назад +1

    I watched this talk years ago and actually started doing some of the things she speaks about, it has genuinely helped me. My self-talk is so much more positive and I also feel completely comfortable telling people to not say negative things about themselves.

  • @jovitasardens207
    @jovitasardens207 4 года назад +7

    the importance of self talk! what a fabulous talk, with so many awesome pointers and tools. love this lady's energy!

    • @kotakgmasuk
      @kotakgmasuk 4 года назад +1

      It's really important I am realizing!

  • @kotakgmasuk
    @kotakgmasuk 4 года назад +3

    I never liked bullies, I enjoyed just sitting back to watch them fail, and now I see my own inner bully... This woman's path has really taken her some places, her ability to see the big picture... I see how she is going to help...

  • @albinachatton4390
    @albinachatton4390 4 года назад +4

    I have been having a lousy time during the lockdowns, then seeing this makes me realize your life is as good as you make it. I have such admiration for this woman ... watch this talk!

  • @stanzdumas
    @stanzdumas 11 месяцев назад +1

    Something I'm taking away from this is that I need to get better at offering myself the same levels of kindness I'd offer a literal stranger

  • @littleblossomtoday
    @littleblossomtoday 11 месяцев назад +1

    Your call to stand up to our inner bullies hit home. It's time we take charge of our narratives, declare 'I got this,' and move forward with purpose.

  • @florenciaconde3817
    @florenciaconde3817 5 месяцев назад +1

    I related so much to what she said about her inner bully telling her she was worthless after her injury. I think we've all had moments where we've felt like failures and struggled to see our own value.

  • @someonednamessomeone
    @someonednamessomeone Год назад +1

    I love the mantra "I got this." It's a simple yet powerful affirmation that can boost confidence and remind us of our capabilities.

  • @aliyahrhodes
    @aliyahrhodes Год назад +1

    I saw this talk years ago and it really helped shift my mindset. Very nice to see it pop up again and reinforce just how far I've come mentally!

  • @oscarkluk
    @oscarkluk 2 года назад +1

    I am in awe of this woman, I can't imagine how difficult her recovery must have been.

  • @tinatuvalle
    @tinatuvalle 8 месяцев назад +1

    Love this talk so much. Very easy to dispel the negative self-talk once you see it for the bully it is!

  • @rosiealturo14
    @rosiealturo14 Год назад +1

    The inner warrior is a powerful concept. We all have the strength within us to overcome obstacles and tap into our inner power.

  • @gerdefrederick
    @gerdefrederick 5 месяцев назад +1

    The concept of post-traumatic growth resonates deeply. I've always felt that challenges can be stepping stones to a stronger self if we allow ourselves the right mindset to overcome them

  • @coachlisha
    @coachlisha 4 года назад +3

    Incredibly powerful and inspiring, and so well delivered! Theresa fully embodies the spirit of "I've got this!"

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 2 года назад +1

      You do @coach Lisha “you got this” Thank you for the kind words!

  • @gwendolyncarnell
    @gwendolyncarnell Год назад +1

    I've struggled with negative self-talk for a long time, and Theresa's mantra of "I got this" is a simple yet powerful reminder to combat those inner doubts. It might sound cheesy, but repeating it to myself really does make a difference.

  • @COCOtheBRAT
    @COCOtheBRAT 2 года назад +1

    My favorite TED, she is amazing and strong!

  • @carllokit
    @carllokit 17 дней назад +1

    This is such an intense story!! Kind of makes me grateful for my own struggles in a weird way... like they sucked at the time but they were nothing compared to that

  • @nohadiesl
    @nohadiesl 4 года назад +16

    how many of us pay 1000s a year to have a professional teach us this and this lady simplifies it and puts it into a 15 minute ted talk. amazing! i'll be sharing this. absolutely brilliant.

    • @jonathanvallers
      @jonathanvallers 2 года назад +2

      It is a great talk but I don't know that it could/should replace the work a professional therapist does.

    • @valarchavez
      @valarchavez Год назад +1

      @@jonathanvallers I think that depends on how harsh our inner bully actually is 😅😅

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne Год назад

      Thank you! I don’t disagree.
      Therapists are amazing at diagnosing and treating mental illnesses that go beyond just self-defeating patterns.

    • @RickReynoldsCCHT
      @RickReynoldsCCHT 10 месяцев назад +1

      And you can hire her for a fraction of that cost to coach you on a regular basis. She's an awesome coach!

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 месяца назад

      ⁠@@RickReynoldsCCHTthank you for saying so! I love helping others through their own challenges - brain related or not. It’s all mindset!

  • @vivianpatgreen
    @vivianpatgreen Год назад +1

    Calling that negative self-dialogue our inner bully is pretty interesting... Many of us may not even realize we have an inner bully, or how damaging it can be to our self-esteem and well-being. Personally I try to be aware of the negative self talk but calling it that really puts it in perspective and might even make it easier to control. Thanks Theresa, great talk.

  • @oguzkaanuremis
    @oguzkaanuremis 2 месяца назад

    I love how she talked about the inner warrior being something we can rely on. It’s comforting to think we have that strength inside us, ready to help us through tough times.

  • @TheRealLoveChannel
    @TheRealLoveChannel 3 года назад +2

    I want to quote everything she says. Just watch the talk, this is just packed with great stuff from start to finish.

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 3 года назад

      Wow, thank you @LoveChannel, you made my day!

    • @margotaylor-ritchie5937
      @margotaylor-ritchie5937 3 года назад +1

      JAM packed. Everything she is said is so insightful and spot on!

  • @mehdidouinine
    @mehdidouinine Год назад +1

    I appreciate the idea of living in a friendly universe versus a hostile one. It's empowering to think that we have the ability to create a positive and supportive environment for ourselves.

  • @ElaineStarling
    @ElaineStarling Год назад +1

    Such a powerful and important message: How to overcome our inner bully to harness our inner super hero! This is a must watch!

  • @stratulatlucian8064
    @stratulatlucian8064 4 года назад +3

    Being left alone for a long period of time with only your thoughts. "The moment you start beating yourself up, your brain stops healing" so worth the listen.

  • @jayreaves1578
    @jayreaves1578 3 месяца назад

    The whole idea of having an inner bully and an inner warrior inside us is so eye-opening. It's like, we've got this constant battle going on in our heads, and we get to choose which voice we listen to.

  • @MyOwnBookpad
    @MyOwnBookpad 2 месяца назад

    Her honesty about how even she struggles with self-doubt was refreshing. We often look up to people like her and forget that they have their own battles, too.

  • @julestempest
    @julestempest 4 месяца назад

    "Our bodies are created not just for survival but for thriving" - love this positive outlook!

  • @newcenturyboy
    @newcenturyboy 2 месяца назад

    That whole "fight, flight, freeze" concept is something I hadn’t thought of in terms of mental battles before but the way she explained it made so much sense

  • @DivaComet
    @DivaComet 11 месяцев назад +1

    never have i ever fully understood what was going on in my head until watching this. wow

  • @jonasblix
    @jonasblix 2 года назад +1

    Floored by her journey, her recovery and being as noble as to share her experience. This will help me a bunch.

  • @giovanni-is-here
    @giovanni-is-here Год назад +1

    I think our inner bully is so harsh because we know ourselves the most. We know all our terrible thoughts and actions, all the ways we've let ourselves and other people down...

  • @georgiarouse
    @georgiarouse 3 года назад +5

    If self-awareness was gold, this woman would be swimming in it. What an incredible journey she has been on and to know and understand how her brain has coped and rewired is just incredible. This is such an important thing for us to understand

    • @peterdgrubb
      @peterdgrubb 3 года назад +1

      Seriously though, she's so switched on, she gets it!

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 3 года назад

      Wow thank you for your kind words - I’m still on the journey and your words remind me how far I’ve come!

  • @samirahussein2390
    @samirahussein2390 4 года назад +2

    Men say women are emotional and weak, no man would get up off the mat like she did. And still be kind - this is strength.

  • @yassacrown
    @yassacrown Месяц назад

    “You can’t hate yourself into success.” That line was everything. We’re always so hard on ourselves, but this talk made me realize how toxic that can be.

  • @nostatus4me
    @nostatus4me 9 месяцев назад +1

    Learning more about my inner bully has been so enlightening.. Had no idea it was such a tyrant.

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 5 месяцев назад

      Once you see it, you can't unsee it. But then we can do something about it! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • @Tangeirin
    @Tangeirin Год назад +1

    Your journey resonates with me deeply. Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons we never signed up for.

  • @audreylstamford
    @audreylstamford 2 года назад +2

    The self-awareness or even just being sick of a cycle and realising that inner voice has been sabotaging me for so long. That dialogue is so important to be aware of. Thank you Theresa for this brilliant talk!

  • @katyabradova
    @katyabradova 4 года назад +53

    We all think we have issues to get over, then, we see a talk like this. This is perspective.

  • @daphnefish
    @daphnefish 3 года назад +2

    I love that perspective change, and I can definitely see how viewing that inner voice as a warrior instead of a bully would be so empowering and I would think a lot easier to manage the negative thoughts.

  • @IWonaMillion
    @IWonaMillion Год назад

    I loved Theresa's call to action to stand up against our inner bullies. The power of positive self-talk is so under-rated.

  • @darioconsolata8691
    @darioconsolata8691 Год назад +1

    Making an agreement to challenge and counteract the inner bully is a powerful commitment. It's important to be kind to ourselves and nurture self-belief.

  • @alicemonay
    @alicemonay Месяц назад

    “The inner bully gets triggered by doing something outside your comfort zone.” YES! I feel this every time I try something new. It’s like my mind freaks out even when there’s no real danger.

  • @susanpqpowell
    @susanpqpowell 3 года назад +5

    You are such a light Theresa. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and open like this. There are many of us who need this message and your wisdom

  • @mirandacarr
    @mirandacarr 28 дней назад +2

    Her examples really made me reflect on how I talk to myself daily and wow. I can really do better.

  • @bobbywie
    @bobbywie 4 месяца назад

    "I got this" is such a simple phrase but it's so powerful. I'm gonna start saying it to myself in the mirror every morning as a reminder that I can handle whatever comes my way

  • @kaymitchell4935
    @kaymitchell4935 2 года назад

    Navigating negative self-talk can be so difficult, it's always refreshing to find someone talking about how to overcome it.

  • @kristyphoney
    @kristyphoney 2 месяца назад

    Love the parallels between self-defense and defending yourself from your inner critic... mental resilience really is as important as physical strength

  • @verymarysalisbury
    @verymarysalisbury 4 года назад +9

    This woman is FABULOUS, she is my new hero!

  • @cagneydd
    @cagneydd 2 месяца назад

    The way she talks about transforming fear into ferocity is so motivating. It's a reminder that we have the power to turn fear into something useful rather than let it paralyze us.

  • @shimmikang
    @shimmikang 5 месяцев назад

    The part about the 11 year old boy who was bullying himself broke my heart. Kids are so impressionable at that age. I'm glad she was able to help him start to see his own strength.

  • @VodkaByNight
    @VodkaByNight Год назад

    Wow, Theresa's story of facing adversity head-on is truly inspiring. Her message about turning inner struggles into strength resonates deeply with me. I've often found that our biggest challenges can become our greatest sources of power.

  • @Me-lolahernandez
    @Me-lolahernandez 5 месяцев назад

    I loved her point about how we'd never yell at a cut to make it heal faster, but we do that to ourselves all the time. It's so true - we're way harsher on ourselves than we'd ever be to anyone else.

  • @1luckylepine
    @1luckylepine Год назад +1

    The description of her accident was vivid and real for me as I recently went through a similar experience. Wow, brought it all back in slow motion.

  • @catastrid
    @catastrid 4 года назад +1

    This woman is a warrior, powerful and smart, no brain injury can stop her...

  • @linasuchodolskyte
    @linasuchodolskyte 2 года назад +1

    You aren't damaged Theresa, you are different, and it seems to me better much better.

  • @sandralewandowski
    @sandralewandowski Год назад +1

    We're also sort of brainwashed into being hard on ourselves all the time. Like experiencing something traumatic isn't enough but we often then go through all these mental gymnastics around feeling guilt or shame for feeling hurt and being sad... all of it is so exhausting

  • @elizabethbernard3135
    @elizabethbernard3135 3 года назад +1

    Freeze response as anxiety sums me up so much. I just pause and don’t know where to go or what to do next, and then think I should be doing something, but don’t know what to do. It is just an infinite loop... Fun.

  • @linuspears
    @linuspears Месяц назад

    Ngl I got a little emotional when everyone stood up at the end. Felt like they were all taking a stand against their inner bullies together. There's something really powerful about that kind of collective energy.

  • @jessiesangster
    @jessiesangster 8 месяцев назад

    The recount of the car accident and the subsequent journey through a brain injury is both harrowing and inspiring. It's a stark reminder of life's unpredictability and the strength it takes to face such challenges head-on.

  • @johngayton
    @johngayton 3 года назад +1

    Holy heck Theresa has blown my mind. I know that the ability to rewire a brain is something we have been looking at for a while but to have to go through all that she did and come out the other end such a pure soul?! Brilliant

  • @talismesmer
    @talismesmer Год назад

    I appreciate how Theresa talks about the inner warrior within us.

  • @Iamcarlosdanger
    @Iamcarlosdanger Год назад +1

    This is a great talk, it's really important to be aware of our self-talk.

  • @timoguedon
    @timoguedon 4 года назад +2

    The inner bully, I was raised on think the worst and hope for the best. This allowed for many wonderful and pleasant surprises in a household that could be quite turbulent.

  • @leah-buttons
    @leah-buttons Год назад

    While I appreciate Theresa's encouragement to stand up to our inner bullies, it's not always that simple. Some days, the weight of negative thoughts can feel overwhelming, and finding that inner warrior is easier said than done.

  • @_mama_tea_6590
    @_mama_tea_6590 Год назад +1

    Taking breaks and practicing self-care is essential. Even a few seconds of intentional breathing can make a significant difference in our well-being.

  • @jaspernedivek
    @jaspernedivek 2 года назад +1

    It's a thing that more people should be taught to be aware of from a young age. Thankful to Ms. Byrne for sharing her story, it's really encouraging.

  • @milagroczarnecki
    @milagroczarnecki 4 года назад +3

    This will be my 3rd time watching your talk Theresa and I really do love your way of explaining mindfulness, self-awareness and kindness to self. I feel like every time I watch your talk I'm getting a better understanding of my Inner Warrior. Thank you !

  • @hooponopono8528
    @hooponopono8528 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your powerful story. It's inspiring to see how you continue to thrive after overcoming such a devastating experience

  • @sylviacrittendon
    @sylviacrittendon 4 года назад +3

    This wasnt brain damage, this was awakening, seeing and smelling life the way she does, wow.

    • @taniagill4673
      @taniagill4673 4 года назад +1

      100% not, she's freekin amazing..

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 года назад

      Thank you! What a great way to say it - it feels like a second chance from the awakening of my brain!

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 года назад

      @@taniagill4673 Bless YOU!

    • @geoffdeeprose9469
      @geoffdeeprose9469 4 года назад +1

      agreed

    • @taniagill4673
      @taniagill4673 4 года назад

      @@theresabyrne wow great talk TB

  • @lucyiberard1219
    @lucyiberard1219 2 месяца назад +1

    I think I've been neglecting my inner warrior for a while.... thank you for the advice on how to reconnect ❤

  • @jessiedallen
    @jessiedallen 2 года назад +2

    Such danger! I love Theresa's talk here. So much info and a reminder that we can always change and do better!

  • @moyaresgard
    @moyaresgard 4 года назад +38

    This woman is so alive, when she was so close to death. A MUST SEE!!!

  • @joedoe5938
    @joedoe5938 11 месяцев назад +1

    Obviously she already had some serious strength of mind before her accident, but truly a bit of a miracle the way she made it out of that all, especially the traumatic brain injury... Wow.

  • @monteTthompson
    @monteTthompson 2 года назад

    "I'm lucky to be anywhere." Damn what an opening, she had my full attention right from the beginning

  • @theresarives
    @theresarives 4 года назад +1

    You so not damaged, you are so powerful and smart!!!!!!!!

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 года назад

      Wow! Thank you. I mean really thank you!

  • @therealgentlegiant
    @therealgentlegiant 2 месяца назад

    That breathing exercise at the end? Simple but so effective! It’s something I can use right away whenever my inner bully tries to take over.

  • @sharoncooper4161
    @sharoncooper4161 4 года назад +2

    She really speaks so much truth, reminds me of all the times I told myself I couldnt.

    • @nadiaferchichi
      @nadiaferchichi 4 года назад +1

      yes me too

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 года назад +1

      Thank you so much Sharon, I think it’s such a human experience. Sometimes we rock, sometimes we get stopped.

    • @nadiaferchichi
      @nadiaferchichi 4 года назад +1

      @@theresabyrne I love that quote.

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne 4 года назад

      @@nadiaferchichi Aw thanks! Just made it up when replying to Sharon. It fits, right? And I know I go through it too.

    • @phyllismknapp6038
      @phyllismknapp6038 4 года назад +1

      Oh you got that right.

  • @Tell-Us-Now
    @Tell-Us-Now Год назад +1

    Love the emphasis on self-compassions! Why is it the default to be so hard on ourselves?

  • @TheErosChat
    @TheErosChat 3 месяца назад

    It's so cool to think about how much impact our self-talk has on our physical well-being. The mind-body connection is no joke!

  • @thereallybigplanet
    @thereallybigplanet Месяц назад

    I’ve never thought of viewing my mind as either a “friendly” or “hostile” universe, but now that I’m realizing how much my mindset controls I'm definitely going to work on that

  • @maverickvassallo
    @maverickvassallo 2 месяца назад

    The idea of creating a “friendly universe” was something I hadn’t heard before. It really makes me rethink how my mindset might be influencing my reality.

  • @rubyguil4622
    @rubyguil4622 Год назад +1

    THERESA YOU BEAUTIFUL GEM OF A HUMAN!

    • @theresabyrne
      @theresabyrne Год назад

      Bless you, such a kind thing to say!

  • @EmosterPink
    @EmosterPink 5 месяцев назад

    "You cannot hate yourself successful" - that line is gonna stick with me. I'm guilty of beating myself up when I'm working towards a goal and not seeing progress fast enough. Time for a mindset shift!

  • @ashgadah
    @ashgadah 2 года назад

    I never thought of that voice as an inner bully... will definitely be paying more attention to my inner hero!

  • @katrienkarsen
    @katrienkarsen 2 года назад

    I come back to this talk monthly. Plus I share it with friends. This is a very important part in not only healing, but thriving.