Didn't realize that i needed to hear this. I shoud stop beating myself for making mistakes. Sometimes im really harsh and critical to me. I just really have to accept fact that im not perfect and that i am ignorant like rest. I even didn't realize that i had big hidden ego. Sometimes i repeat mistakes like idiot. Well at least i am learning...to not repeat next time...
I always have a mistake on my exam several times and motivate myself that it is a learning process but I kept making everytime no matter how hard I work, I nearly lost motivation, I'm really tired of myself. We have 5 subject exam and making and repeating the same mistake, I hate being me, being very Fool
is that a sign of perfectionism in a person? to be perfect all the time? i cannot let go of a mistake i repeated twice and i’m still feeling guilty and regretting it
@@Artificialtalk-y9x like I don't know why I thinking but... mistake is about relationship...that why I feard ..I want to stay single until my marriage...I literally not interested in any guy...but my past hunt me...si bad ...I feel guilty so much regret...what if my family know that my neighbour...what are they gonna think about ..when my marriage happen if my husband know this so much thinking and depressed 😔
There’s a few things I regret but one in particular I just can’t let go. My regret comes from hurting someone I loved. They trusted me. It was a long time ago but I wish I could go back and do things differently.
I created an account with the secret phrase and everything then I added all my FUCKING funds about £23,000 from my other Wallets LATER THAT FUCKING day I was Logged out Right SO I singed in and BooM fucking JUST WOW all my Currency GONE right In Front of my Very Own Eyes I tried everything to get I back BUT just this phrase "SORRY CURRENCY NOT FOUND" I requested a immediate check to where my money had gone but Nothing.
Yes, I did mistakes in my past that are disturbing me right now. Yes could have taken more calculated decisions.Yes, I am responsible for the wrong decisions I have taken in the past. Yes, I have hurt myself and my family because of my past decisions.but that was the best i could do at that moment, I had to take a one decision at that But unfortunately that decision didn't go according to my expectations. But I have to move on from here , still a lot of life that remaining and I can not stick to that one decision.
i really regret having dated this one person and its been haunting me... i just wish that relationship had never happened. i hope i can stop feeling intense disgust with myself and that person whenever i remember
hi same here but my case abit different almost got into a one night stand with a stranger i met online. i was depressed that time was at my lowest. glad it wast too bad but still bad
I'm too like that , I have this thing that I don't mistake I'm very kind , as the video said we are not amazing , everybody make mistakes , everybody . Just try to let go , it's hard but time heals .speaking of regrets it's just degree , sometimes small and big . Hope ur doing fine
It's not that I regret doing something, it's that I regret *not* doing something, and missed my chance. Its not even the first time I've made this mistake
Yep. Could have had a few beautiful girlfriends but was too shy, didn't know what to do, not in a good mental disposition. And now no more occasions. So much pain.
I got suspended in 5 grade because some girl accuse me of proposing her. I didnt even do it and i dont know why i still blame myself for that@@m.Process
The regret I have from my work is so bad that I need to move. And my motivations for the future have severely depleted. The wantings for myself are near zero.
@@gojosatoru3345...!! Wow, same here. It has devastated me mentally and physically. I am at such a loss.. I don't have a future, as I've only thought and known.
My biggest regret is how I mishandled a worker who almost _DlED._ I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by a student employee that her coworker (let's call him Dan) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. Still, I took him to my colleague’s office for a chat and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25, give or take. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake. The only question he had for me was if anyone reported his touching; I said, "It doesn't matter." I guess that sounded a bit tough. After work, I saw some woman wound his legs with a knife and push him into the rocky lake below them. I felt for sure that was the end of Dan. I was so horrified, I passed out in shock. When I awoke from my faint, I actually thought Dan was dead. It was the worst feeling in the world, especially given my last moment with him. It made me realize I was kind of a jerk to him. Thankfully, I learned that he didn't die. The sharp rocks from the water only got his arms and legs, but not his neck, back, stomach, or chest; he got _SO_ lucky. In his backpack, the paramedics found a letter addressed to me. He wrote that he was so sorry for making his coworkers uncomfortable and that he never meant to. That he wouldn't have if he had known. That he wanted to make things right and redeem himself. He also explained that he had ASD and sometimes acted socially flawed, inappropriately jocular, and unfiltered, to his regret. Turns out he always chose to be quiet around people who seemed to not like him. He also wanted the person he discomforted to know he was sorry. According to the news, the woman tried to kiII him because she hated his personality and jokes. She even told him, as she stabbed him and went to push him off, that people would be better off without him. That no one would miss him. She was arrested and Dan was rescued from the lake, given CPR, and taken to the hospital. He barely made it. I realized that I was wrong about a few things. Yeah, I was right about how his filter and touches were a little out of bounds, but come on; just because someone makes a mistake, doesn't mean you gotta reprimand them, especially when they're truly conscientious. I should _not_ have spoken to him the way I did. I should _not_ have said to his boss (who was in the room with us too), “is there anything you want to add?” That was insensitive. I should _not_ have restricted him to handshakes and work/school conversations only. All or nothing isn't fair. I should _not_ have taken him to the office for a formal lecture. He didn't deserve that. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers, not make them his “trophies.” I should’ve been more patient and sensitive and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall---just me. Besides, it's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy; maybe Dan deserved a right like that, within reason and limits so he didn't go over them and discomfort anyone. If he felt awful enough about his mistake and our talk, it must felt SO MUCH worse after listening to that disgusting BlTCH, who I hope gets life. I gotta tell Dan how sorry I am for the way I treated him. He is not a bad guy or a creep.
Okay, but this what have happened is not your fault at all. I understand that being harsh for somebody who was soon after attacked made you feel like being part of the miserables around him, but it wasn't connected or correlating events.
@@gragram711So what? That's like saying "this person is suffering worse than you, so your pain doesn't count." If I feel the lecture and his horrible moment are related in any way, that's fair enough and has some truth to it. That's how I learned that I was a little too hard on him, considering what could've happened to him and the office being our _last_ moment. I don't think that's weird or wrong
@@johnrainsman6650So nothing. I am just saying you did nothing wrong in this story and from logical point of view you shouldn't feel guilty or regret. You took claims of your students seriously and reacted correctly. Unfortunately this person would have been attacked anyway. Obviously you can feel regret, it's psychologically very well justified, just saying that in this situation you did nothing wrong. If he hadn't been attacked, there's big possibility you wouldn't even notice his problem with boundaries
@@johnrainsman6650 just opposite, I am trying to show the point of view when he shouldn't feel so bad about all what happened since it would have happened anyway, not his guilt at all or bad choices
Maybe try to fix it somehow, talk to her or him when the emotions will not be such intense. This guy from video probably mean not to dwell on regret too much, but in my opinion it doesn't have to mean, not trying to fix, saying sorry, or whatevs which still can be done to certain situation
Same I hate myself for what I did it’s not about her forgiveness it’s about mine. Not hating myself so much to the point where I wish death upon myself
I regret to compromise my values my ethics just to be like the World😶..And This regret kills me evryday that How Can i Did this mistake..Till now I Havent be so irresponsible for myself..That was act of carelessness..Also I have guilt that..Ive lost my trueself somewhere..Can I never be the same I was??
Thank you. This was what I needed to hear. I recently said something to my classmates that i regret and now I can't stop thinking about it. Cant even concentrate.
This is me.I have tortured myself so much that I look down on myself and don’t believe myself anymore. My esteem is so low and I can’t seem to move on and can’t even see how I am doing well at currently cos I have my eyes fixed on the past and feel I am being look down upon bcos of the mistakes I made in the past
I punished myself for my past mistakes which was not really my mistakes. I just trusted wrong people in my life but i have been blaming myself for doing so. Now I'm slowly learning that everyone makes mistakes in life and that we have to forgive ourselves and never repeat the mistake again
True. This is a true feeling. Actually never fear your life. Surround yourself with like minded positive people. If you can't get one, just be one to you. You are your aura.
The fear is actually like, "I have made one already. What if I make one again?" That's how it actually is. Murderers don't always commit murder, one seeing everyone. It's all about situation. But you can always work on it. See every situation as new possibility of your way of dealing. I have recently had a big loss of confronting a narcissist, but it ended up having a job loss for me, because she fabricated it as if I am beating her up. It was a great loss for me leaving from a dream job of mine, from a dream place. My family says I was not good enough in working there. It devastated me. I was bullied and expelled. 😢 But don't know why I am living. 😅 Still thinking about it. I am upset, lost mind, but still living. 🤷🏻
i realized you have to accept the fact you make mistakes that’s the only reason who and what you are today. That’s what makes you higher you don’t learn from being perfect YOU LEARN FROM MISTAKES❤
I Already Accepted Every Mistake But Today I Remember MY Past Mistakes And It's Normal. Mistakes Will Always Come On Mind. Finally I Realised Everything But Whenever Past Mistakes Will Come Into My Mind "I WILL BLAME MYSELF" It Feels Good To Blame MYSELF:) I Don't Know Why Mistakes Don't Make Me Feel Bad Anymore I'm Finally Free :) Sadness Is Beautiful :)
When ever I feel down and my mind gets stuckup and can't think anything in the brain and low of past mistakes....affecting in the present......I am struggling to move ....I hear this vedio repeatedly it gives me strength to move forward....I will
how can I not regret i shouldn't have done that i shouted on my father and God knows what I said . it's the first time I even raised my voice on him and it's been along time i did that but that constant regret comes to me every night why you did that he spend his all life to give you better life i know he sacrificed everything just to see a smile on my face he always loved me more than my siblings and what I did what just soo much bad how mean i am . same day he came back to me at night and tried talking and he understood why I was angry and he just forgive me that easy i didn't deserve this . he deserves a better daughter 🥺
I’ve done some bad things in my past and a lot of it I wish I could go back and fix. I’ve even hurt someone close to me and everyday I regret that the most. If there is redemption for the things I’ve done then maybe I can find peace
Same here...... there is no way to make ammends, . Nor learn from, .... my life was so altered in a way,.. I couldn't/cannot handle. You couldn't believe the circumstances of my mistakes
I’m going through a hard time right now with a lot of things and i didn’t even realize how much I was going through relied on my past mistakes. I really needed to head this, thank you so much.
Pretty rough to hear. I have diagnosed NPD, regret and beating myself has been the majority of my life no matter what I accomplish. I would love to understand this in a way that I can apply to my life.
Perhaps, if you knew then what you know now you would have done it differently. You are a different person today. Forgive yourself, & move on. You are doing great and heading in the right direction! Let go of yesterday.. because yesterday has already let go of you.
1. No, .. it wasn't 2. Yes, 3. Yes Im literally suffering 24/7 with insomnia, anxiety and severe depression. My mistakes didn't have to happen at all. It was my foolish thinking and attitude !! I cannot believe i lost it all...💔😫
I cheated on my wife and she left me. I totally deserved it, I was young and felt untouchable. Now I just feel like I'm radioactive. Who would give me a chance after what I did? How do I get past that, do I even deserve to get past that? I messed up, I admit to it. I apologize, immensely. But what real chance do I have to move forward?
God is your chance, he knows we're flawed but he still loves us , and everyone deserves forgiveness that's why he says Forgive just like how I forgave all your sin by Blood of Jesus, He created us and he knows us the best ❤
. stop regretting that it happened rather seek genuinely the path of enlightened realization the journey of joy is like river-rafting the thrill is as much in the waves as much as in calmness of flowing ! #meditation .
Thank you. I’m trying to be a better person, because I have said things in my past that might have offended people. I have said the n word multiple times around my sibs. I feel horrible about it everyday. I was doing it because my step sis was doing it and I didn’t want to ruin the vibe. But it was horrible and I should not have said those disgusting words. I’m going to try to be better.
I had a baby two years ago, I nearly had an abortion and then didn’t. She is amazing and life is beautiful with her. However I’m in my last year of my phd and burned out trying to be a mother and work. I can’t help thinking what life would have been like if I didn’t have this responsibility, if I was single and with no child. It’s not regret as such but I find these intrusive thoughts pop into my head of “what if “. And I can’t stop them.
Ik this isnt something to overthink or feel bad abt but recently me, my (autistic) cousin , and my beother we throwing dirt-rocks at eachother just messing around and my cousin throws a big rock at my brother and hits my brother it the head so i get defensive and throw a rock abt 3/4 of the rock he threw at my brother, at him and it hits him right under his neck and it scares him and he jumps throwing his hands fast towards his chest wiping the dirt off and looking at me in a sad/hurtful way couple minutes later, i couldnt handle it anymore so i went to apologize to him(emotional part) when i told him im sorry and i shouldnt have thrown sum back he starts crying and starts hitting himself hard in the head while saying “STUPID STUPID STUPID” (hes calling himself stupid) and ive never seen him cry before so this starts making me cry and im not someone to cry, i dont remember the last time ive cried infront of someone though but this really got to me and i cant stop thinking abt the face he made:(
The only thing I regret is being naive when I was young. I was often told by my mom that you should be like that, look at him/her already helping their parents and more, to the point where I developed this mindset that if that's what you think I am, I will just be one then, and that's how I ruined my life. I really wished to my past self that I shouldn't let those words to my head and tried to live for myself instead.
I regret my decision of leaving the country I love and burning bridges with my boss. Now I hate that I lost money and opportunity. It is so sad because I feel like Ive wasted my time
This is something I needed to hear because I’ve been carrying guilt on my back from an hour ago because I accidentally broke my Chromebook because with all the stress that everything has been pulling on me everything just swelled up at once and I threw something trying to aim for the wall but with my terrible am I missed and hit my Chromebook and ruined it and I started to feel girls, and I got heavier and heavier by the spontaneous minutes passing by and it just felt endless. It’s still does a little bit but seeing that just makes me feel better because I kept saying to myself. Why did I do that? Why did I have to do that but knowing this can help me get past it. Thank you for making this video is truly helps everybody on the Internet. Have a great day.
What a weird place to be in. I both hate myself for making stupid mistakes (going 94 on the highway and getting a ticket) and also subconsciously think im better than that (how could I POSSIBLY make such a stupid mistake?) How freeing it is to know that I am human. I am GOING to do stupid shit. I dont have to be BETTER than making mistakes. Nobody ever needed me to be. GOD didnt need me to be perfect. He doesnt expect that of me. I was a gifted child. Highly intelligent (I accidentally "discovered" calculus for myself when trying to work on a personal project and realizing that i had to make my own math to do it, unaware that Calculus was ALREADY a thing). And because of my gifting, my parents expected academic perfection from me. I would get yelled at for getting a B on a progress report. No matter what I did academically, it was never enough. And I kept that perfectionism until now. Only it also took a dark turn. I had extremely high expectations for myself, but I also kept getting rejections from people and relationships which made me hate who I was. Wondering why I wasnt good enough to get a girlfriend, or why nobody seemed to want to be my friend even though I was a kind compassionate kid. Now im left drifting in the wake and aftermath of these two seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Every mistake I made was a verdict on who I was a person. (I didnt MAKE a mistake, I WAS a mistake). And I'm not saying my parents are horrible people either. They did do some not okay things, but they also had not okay things happen to them, and I just have to learn how to love them from a safe distance. Its easier now that Im an adult, but still difficult as I am in college and still dependent on them in some ways.
I lost my big toenail, i read that it grows in 1 year and 6 months, and it was because i was an idiot and i was moving the chair then it stood on my big toenail, now its purple and cut
Didn't realize that i needed to hear this. I shoud stop beating myself for making mistakes. Sometimes im really harsh and critical to me. I just really have to accept fact that im not perfect and that i am ignorant like rest. I even didn't realize that i had big hidden ego. Sometimes i repeat mistakes like idiot. Well at least i am learning...to not repeat next time...
I'm in same stage of my life...
Same. Didnt occur to me thatI had a really big ego
same here, but is it different between male and female tho? a lot respect for man REALLY, u guys are awesome when u handle this particular thing❤
I always have a mistake on my exam several times and motivate myself that it is a learning process but I kept making everytime no matter how hard I work, I nearly lost motivation, I'm really tired of myself. We have 5 subject exam and making and repeating the same mistake, I hate being me, being very Fool
@@SlayBaseOne hang on there man, u should keep going, exam is like a tiny dust compare to the real job problems, god bless u! and don't give up!
#3 about the ego is 💯. We are often easier on others but harsh on ourselves in these matters.
Really? I'm harsh on myself and everyone else.
is that a sign of perfectionism in a person? to be perfect all the time? i cannot let go of a mistake i repeated twice and i’m still feeling guilty and regretting it
@@h4rshita-r I feel the same way like you described
You're right.
If i talked to my friends the way i talk to myself, id be alone. Be nice to yourself, you deserve empathy too
Even when I stop thinking about my regrets during the day, they come back to haunt me in my dreams at night. 😢
Esa kya hua ya kiya aapne
If you will share with me than you will feel light,
I'm asking to you because I also want to share something
I really want to
@@Artificialtalk-y9xhi .. I also punished myself so long i can't share my thoughts with anyone I really feel depressed
@@Arpitaajhh
Yes please 😊
@@Artificialtalk-y9x like I don't know why I thinking but... mistake is about relationship...that why I feard ..I want to stay single until my marriage...I literally not interested in any guy...but my past hunt me...si bad ...I feel guilty so much regret...what if my family know that my neighbour...what are they gonna think about ..when my marriage happen if my husband know this so much thinking and depressed 😔
"you're ignorant and flawed just like others" that was so funny and good to hear 😂😂😂
Yea right
Much needed, I laughed like "you got me there" 😂😂❤
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There’s a few things I regret but one in particular I just can’t let go. My regret comes from hurting someone I loved. They trusted me. It was a long time ago but I wish I could go back and do things differently.
I'm in the same situation 🤦 I always wish I could go back and change things ! But I really need to let it go! It's jus difficult
that means there's growth, if we didn't have that feeling we would not recognize it and be able to grow from it
I created an account with the secret phrase and everything then I added all my FUCKING funds about £23,000 from my other Wallets LATER THAT FUCKING day I was Logged out Right SO I singed in and BooM fucking JUST WOW all my Currency GONE right In Front of my Very Own Eyes I tried everything to get I back BUT just this phrase "SORRY CURRENCY NOT FOUND" I requested a immediate check to where my money had gone but Nothing.
Sammme with me and I can't Stop crying and thinking about it and just destroying my life and my exams
I feel this deeply and nothing bad has even come from it yet!
Ego is the right thing to say.. We all make mistakes..
I love the last point. So true it is excessive ego. ‘How can I do this’.. we’re all flawed
no one will ever know how much I needed this today 💔 thank you so much ❤😢
Same😭
Someone please pray for me that i can release myself from this bondage and guilt that comes with it
Yes, I did mistakes in my past that are disturbing me right now. Yes could have taken more calculated decisions.Yes, I am responsible for the wrong decisions I have taken in the past. Yes, I have hurt myself and my family because of my past decisions.but that was the best i could do at that moment, I had to take a one decision at that But unfortunately that decision didn't go according to my expectations.
But I have to move on from here , still a lot of life that remaining and I can not stick to that one decision.
My biggest regret is lying to safe my ass. Other people deserve to hear the truth, even if I get in a little trouble.
same
i really regret having dated this one person and its been haunting me... i just wish that relationship had never happened. i hope i can stop feeling intense disgust with myself and that person whenever i remember
hi same here but my case abit different almost got into a one night stand with a stranger i met online. i was depressed that time was at my lowest. glad it wast too bad but still bad
There are these two regrets I have and I think about them 24/7 like it's impossible to not think about them
May god always be with you. I hope something better in you for next. Good luck mate!
@@Pew23t69 tysm it really means alot :)
@@kkmjpkjb yes bro. I have a lot of sins to, that's how human being and that's how we learn and grow up. I hope you Will move on. See you 🤍
@@kkmjpkjbhow are you now brother same
@@user-dm2vt4mo7y I'm still the same just a lil better
I’m obsessed with regret HELP
You've got intense ego according to research 😮
I'm too like that , I have this thing that I don't mistake I'm very kind , as the video said we are not amazing , everybody make mistakes , everybody . Just try to let go , it's hard but time heals .speaking of regrets it's just degree , sometimes small and big . Hope ur doing fine
I'll download this and set it as a sleep reminder tone and wake up alarm😂
I really needed it, thanks❤
It's not that I regret doing something, it's that I regret *not* doing something, and missed my chance. Its not even the first time I've made this mistake
Same here. Apparently all the time lately :| imho not taking a chance of doing smth is much worse than regretting after
Yep. Could have had a few beautiful girlfriends but was too shy, didn't know what to do, not in a good mental disposition. And now no more occasions. So much pain.
The best 30 secs someone needs to hear when they can't get over their past.
This was so helpful. Thanks a lot
I made a rlly stupid mistake a while ago and that pain has jus stuck by me and most nights I stay up and wonder y I did that, I needed this
Can I ask what it was
I got suspended in 5 grade because some girl accuse me of proposing her. I didnt even do it and i dont know why i still blame myself for that@@m.Process
@@m.Processme too.. Actually this is not to disturb.. But to know the extend of mistake.. How hurtful it could be. Whilst having ours in hand..😮
Same here. I try to forget it but I can’t stop thinking about it. It was very silly and and I made a fool out of myself in front of a hundred people.
@@anu14215 what did u do? May i know
Never use WHY HOW in your mind. Just live happily.
The regret I have from my work is so bad that I need to move. And my motivations for the future have severely depleted. The wantings for myself are near zero.
Brother we are in the same situation...Oh wow..
@@gojosatoru3345...!! Wow, same here. It has devastated me mentally and physically. I am at such a loss.. I don't have a future, as I've only thought and known.
The problem with this regret is that I CAN'T BE BETTER NEXT TIME I JUST HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT 😭
Just think and behave according to situation. Be logical rather emotional.
Yeah. And we all have done some emotional mistakes. Would like to forgive me, if I get a chance.
My biggest regret is how I mishandled a worker who almost _DlED._ I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by a student employee that her coworker (let's call him Dan) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. Still, I took him to my colleague’s office for a chat and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25, give or take. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake. The only question he had for me was if anyone reported his touching; I said, "It doesn't matter." I guess that sounded a bit tough.
After work, I saw some woman wound his legs with a knife and push him into the rocky lake below them. I felt for sure that was the end of Dan. I was so horrified, I passed out in shock. When I awoke from my faint, I actually thought Dan was dead. It was the worst feeling in the world, especially given my last moment with him. It made me realize I was kind of a jerk to him. Thankfully, I learned that he didn't die. The sharp rocks from the water only got his arms and legs, but not his neck, back, stomach, or chest; he got _SO_ lucky. In his backpack, the paramedics found a letter addressed to me. He wrote that he was so sorry for making his coworkers uncomfortable and that he never meant to. That he wouldn't have if he had known. That he wanted to make things right and redeem himself. He also explained that he had ASD and sometimes acted socially flawed, inappropriately jocular, and unfiltered, to his regret. Turns out he always chose to be quiet around people who seemed to not like him. He also wanted the person he discomforted to know he was sorry. According to the news, the woman tried to kiII him because she hated his personality and jokes. She even told him, as she stabbed him and went to push him off, that people would be better off without him. That no one would miss him. She was arrested and Dan was rescued from the lake, given CPR, and taken to the hospital. He barely made it.
I realized that I was wrong about a few things. Yeah, I was right about how his filter and touches were a little out of bounds, but come on; just because someone makes a mistake, doesn't mean you gotta reprimand them, especially when they're truly conscientious. I should _not_ have spoken to him the way I did. I should _not_ have said to his boss (who was in the room with us too), “is there anything you want to add?” That was insensitive. I should _not_ have restricted him to handshakes and work/school conversations only. All or nothing isn't fair. I should _not_ have taken him to the office for a formal lecture. He didn't deserve that. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers, not make them his “trophies.” I should’ve been more patient and sensitive and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall---just me. Besides, it's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy; maybe Dan deserved a right like that, within reason and limits so he didn't go over them and discomfort anyone. If he felt awful enough about his mistake and our talk, it must felt SO MUCH worse after listening to that disgusting BlTCH, who I hope gets life. I gotta tell Dan how sorry I am for the way I treated him. He is not a bad guy or a creep.
Okay, but this what have happened is not your fault at all. I understand that being harsh for somebody who was soon after attacked made you feel like being part of the miserables around him, but it wasn't connected or correlating events.
@@gragram711So what? That's like saying "this person is suffering worse than you, so your pain doesn't count." If I feel the lecture and his horrible moment are related in any way, that's fair enough and has some truth to it. That's how I learned that I was a little too hard on him, considering what could've happened to him and the office being our _last_ moment. I don't think that's weird or wrong
@@johnrainsman6650So nothing. I am just saying you did nothing wrong in this story and from logical point of view you shouldn't feel guilty or regret. You took claims of your students seriously and reacted correctly. Unfortunately this person would have been attacked anyway. Obviously you can feel regret, it's psychologically very well justified, just saying that in this situation you did nothing wrong. If he hadn't been attacked, there's big possibility you wouldn't even notice his problem with boundaries
@@gragram711 well let me ask you this: do you not have sympathy for his remorse? Do you think he deserves all the guilt he feels?
@@johnrainsman6650 just opposite, I am trying to show the point of view when he shouldn't feel so bad about all what happened since it would have happened anyway, not his guilt at all or bad choices
All thats makes a lot of sense.
Though it doesnt bring a loved one back when you left them for "ignorant reasons" 😢😢😢😢
True :)
Yes it's correct.
Just ruined my best friend's life. ):
He was my everything and now he doesn't even wanna see my face. How can I even stop this regret?
Maybe try to fix it somehow, talk to her or him when the emotions will not be such intense. This guy from video probably mean not to dwell on regret too much, but in my opinion it doesn't have to mean, not trying to fix, saying sorry, or whatevs which still can be done to certain situation
The best thing you can do is let it go. He will forgive you .
Same I hate myself for what I did it’s not about her forgiveness it’s about mine. Not hating myself so much to the point where I wish death upon myself
That last one was so convicting 😂
I regret to compromise my values my ethics just to be like the World😶..And This regret kills me evryday that How Can i Did this mistake..Till now I Havent be so irresponsible for myself..That was act of carelessness..Also I have guilt that..Ive lost my trueself somewhere..Can I never be the same I was??
Point #3 hit me straight...I needed to hear this. Thank you bro!!!🎉
Thank you. This was what I needed to hear. I recently said something to my classmates that i regret and now I can't stop thinking about it. Cant even concentrate.
Bro my regret is too high 😭
This is me.I have tortured myself so much that I look down on myself and don’t believe myself anymore. My esteem is so low and I can’t seem to move on and can’t even see how I am doing well at currently cos I have my eyes fixed on the past and feel I am being look down upon bcos of the mistakes I made in the past
Man I just can't get over the fact that I committed such shitty thing.. the regret is getting heavier and heavier.. I'm literally dying with guilt 😭😭
I punished myself for my past mistakes which was not really my mistakes. I just trusted wrong people in my life but i have been blaming myself for doing so. Now I'm slowly learning that everyone makes mistakes in life and that we have to forgive ourselves and never repeat the mistake again
Same
The last one is on point...
But i don't think i have this big ego...the problem is I'm so scared of mistakes because they makes life far harder...
True. This is a true feeling. Actually never fear your life. Surround yourself with like minded positive people. If you can't get one, just be one to you. You are your aura.
The fear is actually like, "I have made one already. What if I make one again?" That's how it actually is.
Murderers don't always commit murder, one seeing everyone. It's all about situation. But you can always work on it. See every situation as new possibility of your way of dealing. I have recently had a big loss of confronting a narcissist, but it ended up having a job loss for me, because she fabricated it as if I am beating her up. It was a great loss for me leaving from a dream job of mine, from a dream place. My family says I was not good enough in working there. It devastated me. I was bullied and expelled. 😢
But don't know why I am living. 😅
Still thinking about it. I am upset, lost mind, but still living. 🤷🏻
This made me feel so much better. Thank you for sharing.
i realized you have to accept the fact you make mistakes that’s the only reason who and what you are today. That’s what makes you higher you don’t learn from being perfect YOU LEARN FROM MISTAKES❤
Yes I accept this fact that i am an ignorant and flawed just like others😌
I Already Accepted Every Mistake But Today I Remember MY Past Mistakes And It's Normal. Mistakes Will Always Come On Mind.
Finally I Realised Everything But Whenever Past Mistakes Will Come Into My Mind "I WILL BLAME MYSELF" It Feels Good To Blame MYSELF:)
I Don't Know Why Mistakes Don't Make Me Feel Bad Anymore I'm Finally Free :)
Sadness Is Beautiful :)
"Your'e not that Amazing"😅 Love it
Yes we all make mistakes... Accept learn never to repeat again.. Thank you for sharing this !!
When ever I feel down and my mind gets stuckup and can't think anything in the brain and low of past mistakes....affecting in the present......I am struggling to move ....I hear this vedio repeatedly it gives me strength to move forward....I will
how can I not regret i shouldn't have done that i shouted on my father and God knows what I said . it's the first time I even raised my voice on him and it's been along time i did that but that constant regret comes to me every night why you did that he spend his all life to give you better life i know he sacrificed everything just to see a smile on my face he always loved me more than my siblings and what I did what just soo much bad how mean i am . same day he came back to me at night and tried talking and he understood why I was angry and he just forgive me that easy i didn't deserve this . he deserves a better daughter 🥺
😭😭😭😭same i felt , he deserves a better son, similar to my situation
Thank you so much for this knowledge,I needed it as I've been feeling depressed over the past.
Thankyou so muchh. I'll be better. I'm realising my mistakes and I'll grow slowly but surely.
Don't beat yourself up for a man that no longer exists
I don’t know why no one every touches the fact that regret and shame are more triggered by the way people taunt you
Thank you! I really needed to hear this today.
I’ve done some bad things in my past and a lot of it I wish I could go back and fix. I’ve even hurt someone close to me and everyday I regret that the most. If there is redemption for the things I’ve done then maybe I can find peace
Same here...... there is no way to make ammends,
. Nor learn from, .... my life was so altered in a way,.. I couldn't/cannot handle. You couldn't believe the circumstances of my mistakes
I’m going through a hard time right now with a lot of things and i didn’t even realize how much I was going through relied on my past mistakes. I really needed to head this, thank you so much.
WELL, I WISH I HAVE TIME MACHINE TO FIX MY MISTAKE & MAKE IT ALLRIGHT!! 😢😢:'((((((()
This is just what I needed to hear. Thanks ❤
Pretty rough to hear. I have diagnosed NPD, regret and beating myself has been the majority of my life no matter what I accomplish. I would love to understand this in a way that I can apply to my life.
No matter what you try stop thinking your parents or relatives will.poke you on the same hurt 😢
Its very hard to forgot the regret and moves on sometime it haunts too much...
Thanks this is helpful i have this bad friend telling stuff around and i can't even have a good weekend cause of her and im just crying
Im blown away at this. Amazing way to move forward heal be humble and learn
Perhaps, if you knew then what you know now you would have done it differently. You are a different person today. Forgive yourself, & move on. You are doing great and heading in the right direction!
Let go of yesterday.. because yesterday has already let go of you.
1. No, .. it wasn't
2. Yes, 3. Yes
Im literally suffering 24/7 with insomnia, anxiety and severe depression. My mistakes didn't have to happen at all. It was my foolish thinking and attitude
!! I cannot believe i lost it all...💔😫
Didn't realise I needed this today. Thank you!
This helped a lot thank you 🙂
I cheated on my wife and she left me. I totally deserved it, I was young and felt untouchable. Now I just feel like I'm radioactive. Who would give me a chance after what I did? How do I get past that, do I even deserve to get past that? I messed up, I admit to it. I apologize, immensely. But what real chance do I have to move forward?
God is your chance, he knows we're flawed but he still loves us , and everyone deserves forgiveness that's why he says Forgive just like how I forgave all your sin by Blood of Jesus, He created us and he knows us the best ❤
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stop regretting
that it happened
rather seek genuinely
the path of enlightened realization
the journey of joy
is like river-rafting
the thrill is as much
in the waves
as much as in
calmness of flowing !
#meditation
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Seriously your words touch my heart and help me to stop thinking too much❤
BUT I feel like my public mistakes are worse than others and they see my as a freak
Thank you. This is what i need!
Wow 🙏🏽 Thanks a ton 🙏🏽 This was so very required.
I needed this. Thank you so much!
Thank you. I’m trying to be a better person, because I have said things in my past that might have offended people. I have said the n word multiple times around my sibs. I feel horrible about it everyday. I was doing it because my step sis was doing it and I didn’t want to ruin the vibe. But it was horrible and I should not have said those disgusting words. I’m going to try to be better.
I regret nothing
-Postal Dude
Thank you so much 🥰 loved your words ❤❤❤
I had a baby two years ago, I nearly had an abortion and then didn’t. She is amazing and life is beautiful with her. However I’m in my last year of my phd and burned out trying to be a mother and work. I can’t help thinking what life would have been like if I didn’t have this responsibility, if I was single and with no child. It’s not regret as such but I find these intrusive thoughts pop into my head of “what if “. And I can’t stop them.
Thankyou so much i needed this kind of words!!!
This video has changed my life thank you ❤️
i needed this. 🙏
That Ego part is so good
Ik this isnt something to overthink or feel bad abt but recently me, my (autistic) cousin , and my beother we throwing dirt-rocks at eachother just messing around and my cousin throws a big rock at my brother and hits my brother it the head so i get defensive and throw a rock abt 3/4 of the rock he threw at my brother, at him and it hits him right under his neck and it scares him and he jumps throwing his hands fast towards his chest wiping the dirt off and looking at me in a sad/hurtful way couple minutes later, i couldnt handle it anymore so i went to apologize to him(emotional part) when i told him im sorry and i shouldnt have thrown sum back he starts crying and starts hitting himself hard in the head while saying “STUPID STUPID STUPID” (hes calling himself stupid) and ive never seen him cry before so this starts making me cry and im not someone to cry, i dont remember the last time ive cried infront of someone though but this really got to me and i cant stop thinking abt the face he made:(
The only thing I regret is being naive when I was young. I was often told by my mom that you should be like that, look at him/her already helping their parents and more, to the point where I developed this mindset that if that's what you think I am, I will just be one then, and that's how I ruined my life. I really wished to my past self that I shouldn't let those words to my head and tried to live for myself instead.
OOF BRO past you is me right now bro. Help me get out of this mindset.
Thank you I definitely needed to hear this
What a legend, thx bro
THANK YOU I REALLY NEEDED THIS I ALWAYS FEEL GUILTY BUT AFTER WATCHING THIS I FEEL RELAXED.😊
Love this, thank you.
I regret my decision of leaving the country I love and burning bridges with my boss. Now I hate that I lost money and opportunity. It is so sad because I feel like Ive wasted my time
Thank you for coming in my feed you teach me life lessons
This is something I needed to hear because I’ve been carrying guilt on my back from an hour ago because I accidentally broke my Chromebook because with all the stress that everything has been pulling on me everything just swelled up at once and I threw something trying to aim for the wall but with my terrible am I missed and hit my Chromebook and ruined it and I started to feel girls, and I got heavier and heavier by the spontaneous minutes passing by and it just felt endless. It’s still does a little bit but seeing that just makes me feel better because I kept saying to myself. Why did I do that? Why did I have to do that but knowing this can help me get past it. Thank you for making this video is truly helps everybody on the Internet. Have a great day.
i really messed up once tho i am trying really hard to forget about that, and i just hope that i can someday somehow forgive myself and forget it..
I need to hear this. Thank you!
This is true life facts
What a weird place to be in. I both hate myself for making stupid mistakes (going 94 on the highway and getting a ticket) and also subconsciously think im better than that (how could I POSSIBLY make such a stupid mistake?)
How freeing it is to know that I am human. I am GOING to do stupid shit. I dont have to be BETTER than making mistakes. Nobody ever needed me to be. GOD didnt need me to be perfect. He doesnt expect that of me.
I was a gifted child. Highly intelligent (I accidentally "discovered" calculus for myself when trying to work on a personal project and realizing that i had to make my own math to do it, unaware that Calculus was ALREADY a thing). And because of my gifting, my parents expected academic perfection from me. I would get yelled at for getting a B on a progress report. No matter what I did academically, it was never enough. And I kept that perfectionism until now.
Only it also took a dark turn. I had extremely high expectations for myself, but I also kept getting rejections from people and relationships which made me hate who I was. Wondering why I wasnt good enough to get a girlfriend, or why nobody seemed to want to be my friend even though I was a kind compassionate kid.
Now im left drifting in the wake and aftermath of these two seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Every mistake I made was a verdict on who I was a person. (I didnt MAKE a mistake, I WAS a mistake).
And I'm not saying my parents are horrible people either. They did do some not okay things, but they also had not okay things happen to them, and I just have to learn how to love them from a safe distance. Its easier now that Im an adult, but still difficult as I am in college and still dependent on them in some ways.
I needed this so much!
Thank you so much for this I needed to hear this
Accept yourself for who you are
I’ll tell you, you’re not that amazing 😂LOL. Thank you, sir for your loving honesty ❤
Thanks this helped relax my mind
I had a real fight with my father a couple of hours ago and it eats my soul
Thank you, No one is Perfect Except Good
🎉 Thank you ❤️💖😊
Thankuu so muchhh🥺🥺I needed this so much
Wow! Thank you. ❤❤❤
i love your content a lot... keep it up 👍
I lost my big toenail, i read that it grows in 1 year and 6 months, and it was because i was an idiot and i was moving the chair then it stood on my big toenail, now its purple and cut