The funeral one throws me for a loop. If it's the parent of your spouse/significant other, the only questions to ask are, where is it, when is it, and do you want me to drive. If the SO can't be bothered to do the basic, or requires being asked to attend, that's a giant red flag. How do you come back from that?
Foster parent story is a trip! I was placed for adoption as a baby (65 now) and I never tried to force my way into the birth family when I found them. I have no hard feelings at my half siblings. I totally get where they are coming from. Some stories are best left untold, especially with a young child. I was 30 or so when I found the info and I had a fair idea what was coming.
I too was adopted at birth by a couple who were completely dysfunctional and the most god-awful parents. I knew I was adopted from a young age but never had any curiosity about my birth parents. You know the old adage: better the devil you know than the devil you don't.
Story 10 makes me so mad why is the wife adding to the fuel by just brushing her family off. It’s important to support your partner and trust them the wife probably knows her family is racist but doesn’t care.
Story 1: this story reminds me of my ex FIL. He got super butthurt when my ex and I gave our first son my dad's name as his middle name. He kept going on and on about how he should get the same consideration. Here's the thing: he and I have the same name. So, if I had given one of my kids the name, it would've been because of me, not him. I think he finally realized that, because he eventually dropped it.
For the final story about babysitting the step nephew with autism, I, as an autistic person, and someone who nannies for autistic children totally agree with OP. If you don’t know, the child don’t know their specifics, their triggers, and what are their comfort things, and what sort of things help calm them down, then you shouldn’t be taking care of them you are not prepared and that’s fair and it’s for everyone’s safety and comfort especially if the child is not familiar with you children with autism typically don’t handle being around unfamiliar people in unfamiliar places very well, so I think it is not only fair but the sensible thing for this person to refuse to care for this child, as they were not equipped to care for this child properly
Story: 1-11 and 13, In these stories the OPs are not the ah. Story 1: OP made it clear that her stepdad is not her dad, just her mom's husband and nothing more; the sister needs to understand and respect that and quit pushing this on her
Story 2: These foster parents are so pushing to find a relative for their foster daughter, and when they do, they hear they don’t want contact with their foster daughter; instead of respecting it, they start being rude to them and calling them monsters where the bio-parent of their foster daughter is someone they despise Story 3: Even if you’re not too close with the person, but your partner is, you should go as support for your partner, and you don’t need to ask your partner to come after taking care of something.
Story 4: It is so odd and messed up to expect OP, being the only sibling, to see the wife as a second mom when he doesn’t want or need that, and everyone is ignoring what they said about it. Pushing the relationship
Story 5: If a friend offers to cook something, you wouldn’t expect to pay them for something they cook and choose to do, especially if they only ask you for me and nothing else. Story 6: The nephew took something that didn’t belong to him, and OP took it back Story 7: Even though it was OP’s medical issue to tell, OP is just looking out for their sister's safety. It is unbelievable to me that the sister is willing to risk her life to have more kids just because her fiance wants kids. Story 8: Sil is trying to make the wedding about her daughter and getting OPs and their brother to bend the rules for her. Story 9: Holy shit 6 kids are about to be 7, and they haven’t put to move out; the daughter is being selfish and inconsiderate Story 10: OP should reconsider this marriage, since they wife won’t back him up and stand up for him from her racist family. Story 11: Yes, it is a sad situation for the cousin, but it’s OP’s wedding; if OP allows this, then people will probably be all talking about the cousin, not OP, which makes the cousin selfish Story 13: It is not about playing favorite; it is giving someone who has never experienced in handling special needs kids; of course, OP wouldn’t agree to it, especially since they only meet the kid twice. Story 12 is the only story where I feel, the OP is the ah. Even though I, myself, don’t drink and probably would have a dry wedding, maybe I would put it on the invitation that it would be a dry wedding, especially if I had my wedding during the new year or another popular holiday. However, if you already RSVP for a wedding and this is for a friend then suck it up and go, you can last many hours without a drink.
This is how you know op in story 9 is a white person because white peoples are the only race to kick there children out and I’m not saying you shouldn’t kick out your kids but you I mean other races don’t end up in nursing homes when they get old so there’s that
I drink but if I said I was attending a wedding, then I would go. Like you said, Steven, ring in the New Year after as most weddings don’t run until midnight, especially if there’s no alcohol.
I’m Muslim so I don’t really understand. But is drinking that important that you’d rather drink than go to a close friend’s wedding?? That’s so depressing to me lol maybe get some help?
I don't understand what religion has to do with someone's poor decision-making. We are all born with basic knowledge of right and wrong and make intentional good and bad decisions as we age, whether we have a relationship with God or not. We all have sinned and fallen short. While I wholeheartedly believe having a relationship with God/Christ is better than not having one, it will not automatically prevent you from making poor decisions.
@@blessedcutie8983 no no that’s not how I meant it, I meant it in the I and everyone around me don’t drink because we’re Muslims so I don’t understand drinking culture way! But I definitely agree with you
@maishai5106 I have long realized that when you are emotionally and physically removed from something or someone, it's much easier to REALLY see the agenda or the person. For example, I don't drink either, and I've noticed how drinking is really pushed in movies, tv shows, social media and nearly every social setting. Sometimes, subtly like a glass of wine after work, shots in a club, beers during a match, or something hard to drain your sorrows. It's completely innocent until you've formed a ritualistic habit and later an addiction. Drinking also discourages critical thinking and increases brushes with the law. This may seem dramatic to someone who regularly drinks, but to a person who doesn't, he or she can comprehend rhis and can clearly see this agenda. Sorry for the rant, but God placed this on my heart to share. Bonne soir
Story twelve: OP and his "buddies" are jerks of the first order, putting their need for alcohol ahead of their friend's wedding. He sucks used ostomy products and is no friend at all.
Are they banning alcohol or simply not providing alcohol? If the latter, then just bring your own drinks. How is it different from you partying elsewhere anyway? If the former, then yea... It should have been stated
Could you read some of the comments from the posts? I like your videos but I’d like to hear what other people have said on the posts. Sometimes the comments have good points on the situation or different perspectives that are good to hear and consider.
I'm sorry, you can love and worry about your sister all you want, but it's her choice if she wants to risk her life to try to have another baby or not. And it's her business if she tells her fiancée or not. So, yes, you are too immature. Adults can make their own decisions, weigh the risks/ benefits, they don't need OP to tell them what to do.
Let’s not play saint 😂 I barely drink but if I’m being forced to socialize with people I don’t know or barely know ontop of shelling out money for a gown, doing my hair & makeup, travel, hotel etc …..I’d be annoyed I couldn’t do it tipsy ontop of it. The exchange for all that work and presents is to be a good host.
@@ZomBeeQueeen I not trying to play saint .The couple said they had a good reason for it being a dry wedding .. To me a friendship is more important then a few drinks.. IF they are not great friends then no problem don't go ..But If they are real friends Its a few hours .. Go out or home after and get as toasted as you like .. Just how I feel ...
@@wendyjones3586 their reason was the finances family that’s all they said so I’m guessing conservative or religious reasons. I think the fact they deliberately hid it makes them bad friends too
Dry wedding: Let’s not play saint with these comments about not going one day without 😂 I barely drink but if I’m being forced to socialize with people I don’t know or barely know ontop of shelling out money for a gown, doing my hair & makeup, travel, hotel etc …..I’d be annoyed I couldn’t do it tipsy ontop of it. The exchange for all that work and presents is to be a good host. The reason is the finances family too so I’m guessing conservative or religious reasons …things that would have been well known and it’s obvious they hid this detail on purpose.
Agreed. However, it's not like the OP can't just sneak something (like a glass of wine in a mason jar) in the car park or have a few drinks at a bar between the ceremony and reception... if the grounds that were hired are alcohol-free (it is often cheaper venue hire for religious organisations because they save on insurance) ... there are still ways around it. It's a bit sad that they can't give up heavy drinking for one night to be there for their friend. Who knows they might have fun that they remember in the morning
If you have a “dry” wedding on New Years Eve or St. Patrick’s Day, no one will want to go and I don’t blame them.
The funeral one throws me for a loop. If it's the parent of your spouse/significant other, the only questions to ask are, where is it, when is it, and do you want me to drive. If the SO can't be bothered to do the basic, or requires being asked to attend, that's a giant red flag. How do you come back from that?
Story 9: baby NUMBER SEVEN?!?!?!?!?! WTF!!!!! I wouldve kicked you out after three
I gave my son my stepdad's middle name since he loved me like his own from the first time we met... He passed in a car accident in 1998!
Friend getting billed for pizza? Never charged an invited guest…. No matter the cost to me…. It is the price of playing host
Foster parent story is a trip! I was placed for adoption as a baby (65 now) and I never tried to force my way into the birth family when I found them. I have no hard feelings at my half siblings. I totally get where they are coming from. Some stories are best left untold, especially with a young child. I was 30 or so when I found the info and I had a fair idea what was coming.
Honestly I was adopted too the only reason why I wanna find them is for medical background that’s it
I too was adopted at birth by a couple who were completely dysfunctional and the most god-awful parents. I knew I was adopted from a young age but never had any curiosity about my birth parents. You know the old adage: better the devil you know than the devil you don't.
Story 10 makes me so mad why is the wife adding to the fuel by just brushing her family off. It’s important to support your partner and trust them the wife probably knows her family is racist but doesn’t care.
Story 1: this story reminds me of my ex FIL. He got super butthurt when my ex and I gave our first son my dad's name as his middle name. He kept going on and on about how he should get the same consideration. Here's the thing: he and I have the same name. So, if I had given one of my kids the name, it would've been because of me, not him. I think he finally realized that, because he eventually dropped it.
Wait... Your ex-wife's father and you have the same exact name??
@@audreym3908 the same first name, yes
@@triplehfan5000 that's crazy! I'd understand if it was a distant family member's name but your own father's? That's just weird.
For the final story about babysitting the step nephew with autism, I, as an autistic person, and someone who nannies for autistic children totally agree with OP. If you don’t know, the child don’t know their specifics, their triggers, and what are their comfort things, and what sort of things help calm them down, then you shouldn’t be taking care of them you are not prepared and that’s fair and it’s for everyone’s safety and comfort especially if the child is not familiar with you children with autism typically don’t handle being around unfamiliar people in unfamiliar places very well, so I think it is not only fair but the sensible thing for this person to refuse to care for this child, as they were not equipped to care for this child properly
Story: 1-11 and 13, In these stories the OPs are not the ah.
Story 1: OP made it clear that her stepdad is not her dad, just her mom's husband and nothing more; the sister needs to understand and respect that and quit pushing this on her
Story 2: These foster parents are so pushing to find a relative for their foster daughter, and when they do, they hear they don’t want contact with their foster daughter; instead of respecting it, they start being rude to them and calling them monsters where the bio-parent of their foster daughter is someone they despise
Story 3: Even if you’re not too close with the person, but your partner is, you should go as support for your partner, and you don’t need to ask your partner to come after taking care of something.
Story 4: It is so odd and messed up to expect OP, being the only sibling, to see the wife as a second mom when he doesn’t want or need that, and everyone is ignoring what they said about it. Pushing the relationship
Story 5: If a friend offers to cook something, you wouldn’t expect to pay them for something they cook and choose to do, especially if they only ask you for me and nothing else.
Story 6: The nephew took something that didn’t belong to him, and OP took it back
Story 7: Even though it was OP’s medical issue to tell, OP is just looking out for their sister's safety. It is unbelievable to me that the sister is willing to risk her life to have more kids just because her fiance wants kids.
Story 8: Sil is trying to make the wedding about her daughter and getting OPs and their brother to bend the rules for her.
Story 9: Holy shit 6 kids are about to be 7, and they haven’t put to move out; the daughter is being selfish and inconsiderate
Story 10: OP should reconsider this marriage, since they wife won’t back him up and stand up for him from her racist family.
Story 11: Yes, it is a sad situation for the cousin, but it’s OP’s wedding; if OP allows this, then people will probably be all talking about the cousin, not OP, which makes the cousin selfish
Story 13: It is not about playing favorite; it is giving someone who has never experienced in handling special needs kids; of course, OP wouldn’t agree to it, especially since they only meet the kid twice.
Story 12 is the only story where I feel, the OP is the ah. Even though I, myself, don’t drink and probably would have a dry wedding, maybe I would put it on the invitation that it would be a dry wedding, especially if I had my wedding during the new year or another popular holiday. However, if you already RSVP for a wedding and this is for a friend then suck it up and go, you can last many hours without a drink.
This is how you know op in story 9 is a white person because white peoples are the only race to kick there children out and I’m not saying you shouldn’t kick out your kids but you I mean other races don’t end up in nursing homes when they get old so there’s that
I drink but if I said I was attending a wedding, then I would go. Like you said, Steven, ring in the New Year after as most weddings don’t run until midnight, especially if there’s no alcohol.
In the updates, the bride is having it go past midnight
I’m Muslim so I don’t really understand. But is drinking that important that you’d rather drink than go to a close friend’s wedding?? That’s so depressing to me lol maybe get some help?
Alcohol is nothing but an easy way for demonic influence to take hold
I don't understand what religion has to do with someone's poor decision-making. We are all born with basic knowledge of right and wrong and make intentional good and bad decisions as we age, whether we have a relationship with God or not. We all have sinned and fallen short. While I wholeheartedly believe having a relationship with God/Christ is better than not having one, it will not automatically prevent you from making poor decisions.
@@blessedcutie8983 no no that’s not how I meant it, I meant it in the I and everyone around me don’t drink because we’re Muslims so I don’t understand drinking culture way! But I definitely agree with you
@maishai5106 I have long realized that when you are emotionally and physically removed from something or someone, it's much easier to REALLY see the agenda or the person. For example, I don't drink either, and I've noticed how drinking is really pushed in movies, tv shows, social media and nearly every social setting. Sometimes, subtly like a glass of wine after work, shots in a club, beers during a match, or something hard to drain your sorrows. It's completely innocent until you've formed a ritualistic habit and later an addiction. Drinking also discourages critical thinking and increases brushes with the law. This may seem dramatic to someone who regularly drinks, but to a person who doesn't, he or she can comprehend rhis and can clearly see this agenda. Sorry for the rant, but God placed this on my heart to share. Bonne soir
It’s New Years Eve, don’t have a wedding on a major drinking holiday.
Story twelve: OP and his "buddies" are jerks of the first order, putting their need for alcohol ahead of their friend's wedding. He sucks used ostomy products and is no friend at all.
In the babysitting story at the end the family member had the right to say no.
Are they banning alcohol or simply not providing alcohol? If the latter, then just bring your own drinks. How is it different from you partying elsewhere anyway? If the former, then yea... It should have been stated
Not sure if you use the word in this video steven but I've noticed you say awry as "orry" it's actually pronounced " ah rye" like rye bread.
First story OP isn't the a-hole but need therapy and better communication skills.
Could you read some of the comments from the posts? I like your videos but I’d like to hear what other people have said on the posts. Sometimes the comments have good points on the situation or different perspectives that are good to hear and consider.
I'm sorry, you can love and worry about your sister all you want, but it's her choice if she wants to risk her life to try to have another baby or not. And it's her business if she tells her fiancée or not. So, yes, you are too immature. Adults can make their own decisions, weigh the risks/ benefits, they don't need OP to tell them what to do.
Alcoholics going to alcoholic I guess.
OP cant give up booze for one night for a friend .. Tell me a lot ..
Let’s not play saint 😂 I barely drink but if I’m being forced to socialize with people I don’t know or barely know ontop of shelling out money for a gown, doing my hair & makeup, travel, hotel etc …..I’d be annoyed I couldn’t do it tipsy ontop of it.
The exchange for all that work and presents is to be a good host.
@@ZomBeeQueeen I not trying to play saint .The couple said they had a good reason for it being a dry wedding .. To me a friendship is more important then a few drinks.. IF they are not great friends then no problem don't go ..But If they are real friends Its a few hours .. Go out or home after and get as toasted as you like .. Just how I feel ...
@@wendyjones3586 their reason was the finances family that’s all they said so I’m guessing conservative or religious reasons. I think the fact they deliberately hid it makes them bad friends too
Dry wedding: Let’s not play saint with these comments about not going one day without 😂 I barely drink but if I’m being forced to socialize with people I don’t know or barely know ontop of shelling out money for a gown, doing my hair & makeup, travel, hotel etc …..I’d be annoyed I couldn’t do it tipsy ontop of it.
The exchange for all that work and presents is to be a good host.
The reason is the finances family too so I’m guessing conservative or religious reasons …things that would have been well known and it’s obvious they hid this detail on purpose.
Agreed. However, it's not like the OP can't just sneak something (like a glass of wine in a mason jar) in the car park or have a few drinks at a bar between the ceremony and reception... if the grounds that were hired are alcohol-free (it is often cheaper venue hire for religious organisations because they save on insurance) ... there are still ways around it. It's a bit sad that they can't give up heavy drinking for one night to be there for their friend. Who knows they might have fun that they remember in the morning
Yeah we get it. You're an alcoholic. Just admit it already
Alcoholics choosing booze over a wedding for a friend
Sad
Story #12 ESH
Cannot believe that ah told the sister's fiance her personal information! Teenagers can be so stupid!
I cannot believe the sister is LYING to her fiancee...
op doesnt want to lose her sister, there is a very real risk she can DIE if she tries to get pregnant