Hello psycho 2 go I don’t know if you will see this but I have this problem it feel like a voice in my head and my brain says what’s the meaning of life maybe learning I’m not to sure or like what if I never clicked on the first link I would’ve never knew that and that like what if thoughts like and like what if I never saw this video what is happening? What is this oh and also but when I found out something I felt calm and a excited feeling in my body thinking I found the secret to like life the advice I can follow
The fact that you looked up / clicked on this video proofs you are aware that you should be more kind to your self and should improve your self image. This awareness is the first step. Be proud of yourself for wanting things to change. Be your best friend! Have a great day guys :)
1. Stop comparing yourself to others 2. Overcome perfectionism 3. Figure out what you’re good at and develop it 4. Focus on what you can change and things that are in your control.
Understanding that people have different personality types has given me a whole new perspective on the self-esteem subject. We can’t compare apples to oranges nor our differences as individuals.
Totally it’s helpful to understand how different types function in the world and more importantly once you are aware of your own type you can then figure out how to build your own self esteem and view of self.
And both of these must be evidenced by externals. If other people love me, and others give me recognition for my abilities, I will have esteem. If they do not, then even in the unlikely event I feel esteem ir would be considered an arrogant delusion by others. But love and recognition for talent are.not things that everyone can achieve equally. A handsome and highly.intelligent, high status person will get more esteem for less effort than a repulsive poor idiot. On that sense, self-esteem is as much a matter of luck as everything else.
@EzC Fenix Form a specific plan. To become good at something requires three things: 1) picking something that it's possible for you to be good at. Some things have hard genetic barriers, like maths or singing or athletics. If you haven't got the right genes you'll never be great at such things. But most things don't have such clear genetic barriers - playing guitar, speaking German, juggling, painting, etc. Find something you can become at. 2) regular practice. When you've decided what you want to become good at, do it daily for 6months and you'll be much better than most. Do it daily for 5 years and you'll be top percent. Do it daily for 15 years you'll be a master. 3) mentorship - having good teachers makes you better. Put some effort and money into what you want to be good at and it will pay dividends. To make friends also requires a plan: 1) join at least 4 varied groups, such as a hobby group, sports group, education, religious, political, social, etc. And in that group make sure you speak to everyone and get as many social media contacts as possible. Go regularly and talk to prople regularly. 2) go to bars and cafes and speak to strangers. Make a habit of doing this weekly. Become a regular at a pub or games shop or cafe. Get to know the staff. 3) to be personable be confident, well groomed, ask questions and listen twice as much as talking. Smile a lot. Laugh easily.
One of my favorite things to do is conversate with people about what it is they are passionate about. To see people's eyes sparkle while indulging me with the details of their passion is so satisfying and informative. People often have near expert level knowledge concerning objects of their affection.
0:35 Stop comparing yourself to others 1:22 Overcome perfectionism 2:12 Figure out what you're good at and develop it 3:06 Focus on what you can change and things that are in your control
"The moment you stop believing in yourself, you abandoned hope of success." Truer words have not been said, and what a great message for those struggling.
All success comes down to self-belief, because success takes so many forms. If you believe in yourself, you're already successful IMO, regardless of outcome. Specific results only compound that initial foundation of success.
Baby steps for sure and I'm glad for this channel shining a light and helping people get through mental health struggles without feeling ashamed about it. 😊
Pre watch: Back in 2019 when i felt like utter GARBAGE, my secretary gave me a little tip that helped me grow and change. Heres what she said: Every morning when u wake up, look at yourself in the mirror and verbally tell yourself 5 personality traits u have that u love. Not physical traits, but personality traits. It can be the same 5 at 1st, but overtime? Aim to find new ones. Not going to lie, the 1st couple days/weeks its going to be TOUGH, but the journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step. And arent u worth putting in the effort for? One of the BEST pieces of advice ive ever gotten. It made me more self reflective. Whenever I said something harsh or like i didnt intend, i could catch myself, realize what i did wrong, think of who i wanted to be in that situation, and change it to what i MEANT to truly say. U pick up on things about yourself much better. As well as feel more complete. I swear i wish she was around when i graduated so i couldve hugged her and told her how thankful i was for her kind words💯 I hope this advice manages to help someone else one day. Gotta pass it forward and give someone else a chance👍🏾💪🏾
This couldn’t have come at a better time, Psych2Go. You have no idea how much I enjoy your videos. After a stressful day I love to watch them. It helps me understand my problems better and I consider it a self care activity
Love that quote shared about how we can't compare our 'inside' to someone else's 'outside'. I know of people who are beautiful, successful, have a large and engaged following on social media, have been featured in large publications, etc... fom a 30,000 ft. view, they seem like they have it all. Yet personally knowing them, they have good hearts but struggle with crippling anxiety and/or other mental (even physical) health disorders, attachment issues, trauma, Imposter Syndrome... this doesn't make them bad people. It makes them human. We're all on a journey as we return to wholeness. 🌱
This is very helpful. I’ve been struggling with perfectionism and convincing myself confidence is narcissism. I was raised by narcissists. So, my contradictory behaviors are over-powering me.
I really love running, it makes me feel like there's nothing important in the world. All that matters is this moment and doing my best to get where I want to.
@@Psych2go 1) Don't let other peoples accomplishments get you down about yours, do YOUR best. 2) set yourself reasonable goals. 3) grow in areas that you enjoy. 4) identify your worries, don't get caught up in your unproductive worry.
@@Psych2go you had very practical steps to work on it which is always helpful to have some tangible takeaways. As a therapist, I always balance education with practical applications.
I usually watch your videos because your voice is very comforting to me. It feels like you're hugging me and telling me everything is going to be okay through your voice.
1. Stop comparing yourself- Instead of telling us to stop, tell us how to stop. Give us some ideas that we can use to stop comparing ourselves. I've compared myself with my brother since the beginning of time. How can I stop? It's like telling me how to breath different. Help me stop. 2. Perfectionism- we can overcome that for your four reasons. It is hard to figure out "reasonable goals". Allowing room for mistakes? My whole life seems one mistake after another. But, that's just life. Some things I do right and can get a sense of accomplishment and pride. 3. Find what you are good at and developed it. Okay, that one I have done to some extent. I make and sell polymer Dragons and jewelry. I am a good friend, so I have been told. I am loyal to my friends. I am going to start learning to crochet. It's just that I don't seem to be good at much. But I am trying. 4. Focus on the things you can change- Things in my control. I can focus on the things I want to do better. But my depression makes me see that it is so much work that I'd rather go back to bed. I'm working on this one. Wow! I have never heard about Productive Worry. That I can use against depression. Thank you for that one. Boy, I really needed this episode. I have so little self-esteem, but I have been working on this point-negative self-talk. I frequently call myself names in my mind. I am working on not doing that for 1 hour. I will increase that when I have success.
Pay attention to those you're comparing yourself with, and take note of their mistakes and signs of imperfection (everybody's got them). Or try some good old fashioned empathy. Sometimes the success you see in them comes at a great price that you don't know. My oldest friend appears to have it all, the wealth, the confidence, beautiful wife, house, holidays, marathon runs etc. In truth he's unable to stop himself from working and has an unhealthy addiction to money, he can't allow any part of his day to be controlled by anyone other than himself, he can only sustain surface level friendships, he always longed for his dad's approval and found out in his 40s that he was 'donor conceived', he is unable to do the basic domestic duties e.g. can't cook/clean/wash clothes, unable to empathise, sexless marriage to a willing wife who is only starting to realise that he never wanted children and lied about his plans all along. He still desperately needs his father's approval and tries to fill the void by seeking admiration from people he doesn't know and doesn't need in his life. The traits that have made him successful are also detrimental to him. For me to enjoy his success would come at the cost of my identity, and I'm not gonna find another one like that anywhere else!
@@leonardomotta1143 Don't stop trying. That would be a "win" for the person who called you names in the first place. And hang in there! I've got your back. Only truly decent people ever try to change for the better. So, you are one of them!!!!
about a month ago,i was involved in a traumatic accident that left me shocked even to this day. i felt like i lost a crucial part of myself. im afraid,anxious,angry,and worried about things. i used to be fearless and daring,now i feel stuck. i have been feeling like my mental state has declined despite me doing incredible progress this past year. like my therapist said “it’s not a step back but progress on its own”. i feel like getting back into the world and becoming a better person for myself . the thing that keeps me going is that I have went through worst and was victorious,i am determined to not be my old self but a better self.
Great video. Can you do unnoticed/hidden signs of low self esteem? It can manifest in so many different ways, like too flexible OR rigid boundaries for example.
@@TravisGoodman When I say “hidden” I mean signs that aren’t obvious to others, but can still point to self esteem issues. Like being controlling for example.
@@imanabdullahi3298 Oh gotcha! A good question to ask about behaviors is to go behind and dig into their purpose, what they are trying to achieve, gain, etc.
I’ve been having a hard time of what to do with myself, but with these tips, I can find a way to boost my self esteem and have motivation to do anything.
i’ve been needing this for so long, thank you so much!! also, could you please make a video with tips on how to get of a manipulative relationship? i’m pretty sure i’m in one and don’t know how to get out
The things I enjoy doing are being in nature, reading, writing, talking to my friends and sister, making beaded jewelry, being around cats, cooking, shopping, and watching movies and television
This is good because I'm always hard on myself if I don't do things the right way or a mistake or even not get the results I thought would happen even if I did do everything right. I guess I have low self-esteem because I've been rejected multiple times and have been told to leave them alone or wonder why I'm even talking to them. So I only talk to people if they talk to me first because I don't want to be a bother or come across as annoying or a desperate attention seeker.
I do love challenges, and testing how far i could go, i know i have so many things to develop in my character and i am enjoying every single tasks to do in a day, i am passionate on continues learning and at this age of 20 im practicing a strong sense of self in having a strong sense of responsibility as a preparation to difficult adulthood, i know there's still alot to learn so let's keep on carrying on
Hey, that's great to know that you're willing to take on challenges that will gradually build you as an individual who (I'm assuming) is ready to make sacrifices and endure potential obstacles in order to embrace the next phase of your life and how you choose to live life. Based on my experiences in my early 20s, it was fun in many ways, but I've realized that the older I've gotten...the more I believe that challenging yourself to do certain tasks is important to an extent - but not worth the sacrifice if it doesn't feel right. And as somebody who's been rejected by peers, past friends, and colleagues; they really don't have the influence on me (like I used to think) but it actually has helped make me a stronger, wiser, and knowledgeable person and in regard to whatever challenges come your way; I wish you the best of luck and highest level of success that is within your realm. I'm sure whatever you put your mind to, you'll do great things! There will probably be a lot of ups and downs, but realize that even if achieving something is difficult; it's not impossible either. Blessings 🙏
My favorite things to do are art and writing. I can just let my creativity flow because I really do have a rich imagination and even though I struggle sometimes, it's still really calming and makes me happy.
I enjoyed the video. I've struggled with self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've gotten better at it in recent years, but there's always room for improvement:)
@@Psych2go A few things. Acknowledging the problem has been a big help. Then I can actively work on it. I've been doing a lot if reading/research on mental health to get more info. A lot of it has been retraining my thought process to not be so negative. And when I am having a "bad day", I know it's just that, and focus on stuff that make me happy to help get through it. A favorite show, music, friends whatever I think will help. Plus, just getting older and "wiser"-ish. Lol. Thanks for asking. And thanks for the videos. They have been a helpful resource as well:)
@@randomguy9511and to reiterate what you explained - I've had a lot of similar experiences myself - and believe me; it's not fun. But I also believe that one major aspect of life we all struggle to cope with is ACCEPTANCE: meaning that we don't always have to be happy with every little choice we make or second guess ourselves to the point where it drives us crazy....however I think the rhetoric we set for ourselves as individuals is a big aspect of developing and maintaining reasonable self-esteem (which I've never always have been the best with). And as somebody who's a sports fan and tries to have a strong awareness of issues that affect us all on a socioeconomic, sociopolitical, and sociocultural level; I believe that acknowledging any triggers related to what I briefly described is necessary for getting along but at the same time - appreciating the skills you (that us all) were blessed with, and not always worrying what others think. Having some sort of bias or validation is important depending on your situation; but even more important that you have resources to work with even if your self-esteem is far from perfect. If I'm wrong in this instance, then it can only make me work harder and feel stronger on the inside knowing I at least put in a genuine effort to spread awareness. Blessings as well 🙏
You seriously help a lot. I am just a kid in middle school that struggles a lot with self esteem and self confidence. These videos state all my problems for me to fix with a solution.
Things I like to do in life Drawing and making art Building Lego Mocs Playing competitive games like Splatoon, or Hard video games like Cuphead or Megaman And when I try doing those things and never give up, I’ll be alright
Avoid watching TV/Radio news to much. 20 mins a day is enough. Understand what is behind all the bad news (usually greedy persons) and work at improving the lot of those near you and far away. "Be versed in action (good deeds) yet try to remain unaffected by your actions" Gandhi.
Thank you for the video! The thing I enjoy the most is doing art. I was amazed by how I could put the worlds inside my head right into a paper and that's why I neevr stopped drawing. However after making the decision to turn it into a career I have been more aware of my peers that are so much better than me, the peers that will apply to the same unis as me. I have been drawing just to fill my portfolio as well and I believe these elements are making me forget the reason I like art, lowering my self esteem and raising my insecurities. I hope in the end I will be able to turn my passion into a career. Hope all of you do what you enjoy too!! have a good day/night!
OMG Unproductive worry and Productive worry, THAT'S HELPFUL, thank you so much, now thats unproductive mindset can put on my self, and focusing on the productive one
~Amazing advices! I really hated the feeling of being judged of who I am... it makes my self esteem low but I will try to think of positive ways its not just me it's everyone else that has similar issues!😅
I've struggled with this feeling of getting judged for so many years. It's really debilitating. What's crazy is that I do believe that nobody is qualified to judge, yet it has still plagued me for much of my life.
Knowing that not just my self that everyone had character flaws helped learn to accept that I can't follow someone's blueprint for an easy life.... I need to become a blackprint, forge my own template and navigate my own way... Though hard and sad at times... Becoming.... Is the goal
We all have our lowest days but remembers there’s no such things as bad days without good days take time for yourself and improve the minor mistakes that happens throughout your life im pretty sure you find purpose one day 😊
I generally enjoy, helping others, and being of service, and helping in anyway, that I can to make others feel better about themselves❤😊 My intention is to show my self, self compassion so that I can have a greater understanding of self compassion for others in the world😊
my self esteem has always been atrocious and while i can't confirm or deny the effectiveness of these tips i'll definitely try some of these out on another note i just realized how close you are to 10 mil subs rn
1. Stop Comparing yourself to others. I get it, but what if you are comparing yourself to, well, yourself. It is a metric you are trying to work on and you ask yourself "am I better off now that I was a week ago" or what ever the metric is that you choose. 2. Prefectionism I get I'm not perfect, I don't believe I am. And in fact I believe we learn from our mistakes so some mistakes are important for growth. 3. Figure out what I am good at. I actually have a long list of things I am good at. I write music, I am good at learning language (both computer and linguistic), I can make friends pretty easily. 4. Focus on what I can change. This is a question, isn't it? I want to change how I feel about myself. That is easier said than done. I have listed my Unproductive worries which means I cannot control what I want to change. That's pretty depressing.
Everybody out there struggling with something that makes them feel low and not worth of anything. I love you and hope you find peace in your life, we are all brothers and i wish the best for you stay with me i have been very close to giving up many times but theres a reason i keep getting back up❤️
I have been restelss and been living in fear and anxiety. I always strive for exceleence. I find meaning in doing what I need to do for myself. I used to do that. I loved music and art and science and productive life.
Thank you so much for this video on low self-esteem. I’ve always had trouble with self-esteem and self-confidence issues. May I suggest doing a video on how to show yourself self compassion
For me it's remembering what I am good.at after decades of practice I am already good enough at art and poetry. Getting therapy and keeping tabs on my self talk. Healing so that I can succeed in life and help others.
The only thing you should worry about being good at is being kind to others (including animals). This means being patient with others, understanding of others , forgiving (but wary) of others. Read Martin Luther King and Gandhi for encouragement.
I really need this video, thank you so much in advance! Can you maybe make a video about the difference between fear caused by autism and anxiety? I don't know if my fears are caused by my autism or maybe I have anxiety, I don't know. Can you help?
It may sound like a weird request but the people who help me (I can't find the English work for it right now) told me it could just be my autism. But she did say it's extreme for the other people she helps for het job. So I don't know.
From what I know about the matter some of the symptoms of autism can look a lot like “anxiety” since one of the symptoms is rumination which can just be part of autism or anxiety or both.
My favorite thing is to help others grow because I see myself in them when they progress I feel like I progress but I will say there has been a gap lately it’s like Ive had this separation of self and others which can be good in it’s own right but it has left me less passionate, so I’m taking a break from it for awhile I want to find that fire again I want to find the new me
I’ve been told that there was no way I could do something and the reason behind was something that could be changed over time. I think I just need to remember that I need to work at it and concur some fears.
Personally, i like story telling. There’s nothing more fulfilling to me than creating an entire fictional world with characters and what fuels their motivations. And more so i like exploring the reasons behind said motivations and what led to these aspects of a character forming
This video provided profound insights into boosting self-esteem. Learning about self-praise and the importance of gratitude truly inspired me to cultivate a positive outlook on life.
As a performing artist, I always struggle with accepting that I can't be perfect. I'm a perfectionist, at least when it comes to myself. I can easily accept and even like other people's imperfections. But I'm very strict with myself. ,,My form isn't good enough, I need to practice that more", ,,I need to exercise, I'm not strong enough yet", ,,I need to track calories, because my body shape isn't beautiful", ,,I need to do the full 50min of cardio today, even though I'm not feeling well". I centered my complete life around my career and that was what broke me. I couldn't go to grab a coffee with my mother when we went to Starbucks anymore without writing down the extra calories. I had either cardio or strength training every day for 6 days a week. I had to track my protein consumption to make sure I'm not losing strength. Spend hours in practice every day. Either contortion, aerial or breaking (a B-Girl that does contortion and aerial hoop, I know that a weird combination). Sometimes even all on one day, or several practice sessions a day. On some days I fell asleep with my teddy in my arms while crying my heart out on his shoulder because I felt so hopeless. The next morning I would wake up without any energy left, sometimes in pain from overtraining the last days, and I would need two hours to get out of bed. That lifestyle, driven by my urge to be perfect, drained me from all the joy and excitement I once felt while practicing. The reason for why I picked up each of those things, let it be breaking, contortion or aerial hoop, was because it made me feel happy and free. But I came to a point where I felt trapped in that because of the pressure I put on myself. Thankfully, I got reminded of why I'm doing all of this. And all it took to change my mind was a performance by my biggest role models (at least when it comes to breaking), the Flying Steps. I finally got to see them perform again yesterday, and they inspired me to overthink my decisions and reminded me that I don't need to destroy myself like that just to be successful.
I'm so glad that you know that you don't have to be 'perfect'. In my work, I strive for perfection. It's hard when what I want to do doesn't come out perfectly. But I have learned to embrace some of my mistakes as life lessons (and I hate that term). Please don't destroy your body and mind. Virtual hug!
Mine went down due to people being rude. I still remeber often crying,and its the fact that it wasnt the 3 main people but also those other teachers included. Its even worse when you feel that yours is not bad sinec someone you witnessed for years go thru that whilst you went through it for a few months.
Self-esteem is extremely difficult for many to obtain because it really requires a minimum of the following: a genuinely high level of skill in something and to have that recognised by others; a life lived consistently with one's of value system (thus nor feeling guilty for repeated moral failings); the respect, affection, and preferably love, of other people; evidence that your efforts are making an important contribution to some positive grand project. Very few people can have these if they don't have have a suitable internal and external set of circumstances. For example, if you are below average in intelligence, innate talent and physical prowess, and have limited free time and mentorship oportunies, what skills can you master? If you are ugly and unlikeable who is going to love you? If you arenaverage what important contribution can you possibly make? If you grow up in a terrible environment how can you survive without compromising your values? It seems to me that self-esteem is a luxury enjoyed by a minority of talented wealthy people.
I am 32 years old and i feel myself at the bottom of a pit, everyone around me, even my little brother who was just like me managed to improve, and that only hit me even harder.
My way of perception has changed.Now days I try to listen to people,understand them and then act accordingly.Don't judge, someone taught me.Never judge someone of their disabilities coz you may be one of them.
I enjoy doing music and I've now created 9,270 compositions. Even though this is the case, I still have trouble with finding motivation to continue because I'm struggling with a deep depression. My hope for trying to get in the industry is lacking but all I want so badly is for people to hear the beautiful music and continue to be touched by it.
Well one thing that I know is that I'm good at doing pottery But I heard God angel tell me that I should be a carpenter 🪚, I was also thinking about going back to school for plumbing So anyways God bless you big sis and keep up the videos about mental health and relationships it's really helping me out ✝️🙌👁️🗨️
What I enjoy most in life is playing a card game. Growing up my parents were always worried about me playing sports bc I would get hurt. So, playing card games help me test my mind and improve my critical thinking skills. I enjoy critical thinking and the aftermath of accomplishing a difficult scenario is worth it.
Got a grip of most of my life. Healthy body, regular workout, good paying job, educational but....no partner. I've been madly in love with my ex for 13 years (im 27) and even though we've been dating before which only held for a year...kind of, I still can't let my feelings, hopes and dreams with her completly go. I am ready go meet others but I don't know how and intimidecy scares me. I want to have a family life of my own but im not progressing in that direction i think, I feel stuck.
As my understanding and perspective at the moment, I think I need more "me time". I'm always surrounded by people, don't get me wrong It's not necessarily a bad thing. But I feel in need to take a journey to hear, understand and release myself...
Catch yourself in the act, and consciously stop. It gets more and more easier. List for yourself all the reasons it's unreasonable to compare, and refer to it often: -Can't compare apples with oranges. -I can see my full life; I can't see their full life, and so I can't really make an accurare comparison. - We have different purposes in life, and so their strengths and talents cannot be the same as mine. I'm happy for them for being good at that. I'm going to figure out what I'm good at and focus on developing it. - Stop/limit exposing youself to people or places (social media, etc) that make you feel bad about yourself.
'Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not To Who Someone Else Is Today' From '12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos' by Jordan B. Peterson This is how to you can stop comparing yourself to others, take inspiration from others sure. But you can compare yourself to someone who has a completely different life experience, genetics, etc. The differences are to major to make any real equation possible, on saying also here "If you met one person who is [race/gender, age, language, etc]. You met one person who is [...]." Labels and category don't work either here as you would have to make too many intersections, and each label takes one part of a bigger whole into consideration but cannot on itself be used to identify a single person as too many also have this label and many other labels as well.
the problem comes when that need for perfection is directed toward meeting a professional standard, and the obvious need to do it as quickly as possible; so its hard to have patience with oneself when ones career goals and professional dreams are on the line.
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No, but thanks for the videos! Helped me with crushes and mental health :)
Hello psycho 2 go I don’t know if you will see this but I have this problem it feel like a voice in my head and my brain says what’s the meaning of life maybe learning I’m not to sure or like what if I never clicked on the first link I would’ve never knew that and that like what if thoughts like and like what if I never saw this video what is happening? What is this oh and also but when I found out something I felt calm and a excited feeling in my body thinking I found the secret to like life the advice I can follow
You know what’d be a great idea for a video? Covering mental benefits that diaries can give, whether it be personal therapy or memory skills
About scared of dark phobia thing
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Acraphobia (fear of spiders)
Oh yes! Yes!
The fact that you looked up / clicked on this video proofs you are aware that you should be more kind to your self and should improve your self image. This awareness is the first step. Be proud of yourself for wanting things to change. Be your best friend! Have a great day guys :)
thank you so much because my self esteem is so low i’m tired of being this way
Thank you so much I wish you nothing but the best in your life 🫶🏻
Tysm may God bless u.
Thank you my guy
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1. Stop comparing yourself to others
2. Overcome perfectionism
3. Figure out what you’re good at and develop it
4. Focus on what you can change and things that are in your control.
Yes to all these!
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Wow the first Aries that cares about the others
You think this is because of Zodiac signs? -_-
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Understanding that people have different personality types has given me a whole new perspective on the self-esteem subject. We can’t compare apples to oranges nor our differences as individuals.
Totally it’s helpful to understand how different types function in the world and more importantly once you are aware of your own type you can then figure out how to build your own self esteem and view of self.
Exactly ❤
@Silver Sun are you referring to MBTI types? :)
I can compare apples and oranges
Next time just use F5
My favorite thing?
Probley learning new things.
Knowledge for the sake of knowing.
"Self-esteem is made up primarily of two things: feeling lovable and feeling capable." - Jack Canfield
And both of these must be evidenced by externals. If other people love me, and others give me recognition for my abilities, I will have esteem. If they do not, then even in the unlikely event I feel esteem ir would be considered an arrogant delusion by others.
But love and recognition for talent are.not things that everyone can achieve equally. A handsome and highly.intelligent, high status person will get more esteem for less effort than a repulsive poor idiot. On that sense, self-esteem is as much a matter of luck as everything else.
@EzC Fenix Make friends, have a romantic relationship, and get good at something. There's basically no other way.
@EzC Fenix Form a specific plan.
To become good at something requires three things:
1) picking something that it's possible for you to be good at. Some things have hard genetic barriers, like maths or singing or athletics. If you haven't got the right genes you'll never be great at such things. But most things don't have such clear genetic barriers - playing guitar, speaking German, juggling, painting, etc. Find something you can become at.
2) regular practice. When you've decided what you want to become good at, do it daily for 6months and you'll be much better than most. Do it daily for 5 years and you'll be top percent. Do it daily for 15 years you'll be a master.
3) mentorship - having good teachers makes you better. Put some effort and money into what you want to be good at and it will pay dividends.
To make friends also requires a plan:
1) join at least 4 varied groups, such as a hobby group, sports group, education, religious, political, social, etc. And in that group make sure you speak to everyone and get as many social media contacts as possible. Go regularly and talk to prople regularly.
2) go to bars and cafes and speak to strangers. Make a habit of doing this weekly. Become a regular at a pub or games shop or cafe. Get to know the staff.
3) to be personable be confident, well groomed, ask questions and listen twice as much as talking. Smile a lot. Laugh easily.
I feel none of those
@@ItsjustSaddist They are habits of thought and can become our habits by patience and persistance.
One of my favorite things to do is conversate with people about what it is they are passionate about. To see people's eyes sparkle while indulging me with the details of their passion is so satisfying and informative. People often have near expert level knowledge concerning objects of their affection.
That's really empowering! It's great to be someone can inspire others by listening to their stories.
Nicceeee that is so refreshing to know ^_^
Same here :)
So true, I also love that glimmer in peoples' eyes when they're lit up about a passion 💡✨
0:35 Stop comparing yourself to others
1:22 Overcome perfectionism
2:12 Figure out what you're good at and develop it
3:06 Focus on what you can change and things that are in your control
A FISHSTICK IS IN DA CHAT...
"Just be kind" Kurt Vonnegut. is a good plan. (To yourself as well as others.)
You are amazing. ❤
"The moment you stop believing in yourself, you abandoned hope of success." Truer words have not been said, and what a great message for those struggling.
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All success comes down to self-belief, because success takes so many forms. If you believe in yourself, you're already successful IMO, regardless of outcome. Specific results only compound that initial foundation of success.
Baby steps for sure and I'm glad for this channel shining a light and helping people get through mental health struggles without feeling ashamed about it. 😊
I love the name lmfao
Pre watch: Back in 2019 when i felt like utter GARBAGE, my secretary gave me a little tip that helped me grow and change. Heres what she said:
Every morning when u wake up, look at yourself in the mirror and verbally tell yourself 5 personality traits u have that u love. Not physical traits, but personality traits. It can be the same 5 at 1st, but overtime? Aim to find new ones. Not going to lie, the 1st couple days/weeks its going to be TOUGH, but the journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step. And arent u worth putting in the effort for?
One of the BEST pieces of advice ive ever gotten. It made me more self reflective. Whenever I said something harsh or like i didnt intend, i could catch myself, realize what i did wrong, think of who i wanted to be in that situation, and change it to what i MEANT to truly say. U pick up on things about yourself much better. As well as feel more complete.
I swear i wish she was around when i graduated so i couldve hugged her and told her how thankful i was for her kind words💯
I hope this advice manages to help someone else one day. Gotta pass it forward and give someone else a chance👍🏾💪🏾
Still working on that. I am 65, and still not able to talk to myself in the mirror.
All of this feel like an untended sequel to Unus Annus. Markiplier’s series
If you’re reading this you’re worth way more then you may believe and you’re never alone 🤍
Exactly 💗
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Crying immediately after read your comment. Thank you, I really need it
aww yess thanks gurly
Thank you this is underrated comment
This couldn’t have come at a better time, Psych2Go. You have no idea how much I enjoy your videos. After a stressful day I love to watch them. It helps me understand my problems better and I consider it a self care activity
Love that quote shared about how we can't compare our 'inside' to someone else's 'outside'. I know of people who are beautiful, successful, have a large and engaged following on social media, have been featured in large publications, etc... fom a 30,000 ft. view, they seem like they have it all. Yet personally knowing them, they have good hearts but struggle with crippling anxiety and/or other mental (even physical) health disorders, attachment issues, trauma, Imposter Syndrome... this doesn't make them bad people. It makes them human. We're all on a journey as we return to wholeness. 🌱
“The minute you stop believing in yourself-you abandon hope of success.”
Jesus. I needed to hear that. Thank you, ma’am.
This is very helpful. I’ve been struggling with perfectionism and convincing myself confidence is narcissism. I was raised by narcissists. So, my contradictory behaviors are over-powering me.
Now you're aware ...
Things will change, for the better, for you.
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I really love running, it makes me feel like there's nothing important in the world. All that matters is this moment and doing my best to get where I want to.
I love this! I've been struggling with my self esteem lately, this has been so helpful to watch.
Yes very helpful video!
Glad this video can be helpful. What are your main takeaways from this video?
@@Psych2go
1) Don't let other peoples accomplishments get you down about yours, do YOUR best.
2) set yourself reasonable goals.
3) grow in areas that you enjoy.
4) identify your worries, don't get caught up in your unproductive worry.
@@Psych2go you had very practical steps to work on it which is always helpful to have some tangible takeaways. As a therapist, I always balance education with practical applications.
I had adhd and I struggled a lot with my peers till I began micro dosing and it has helped me a lot. You should consider it
I usually watch your videos because your voice is very comforting to me. It feels like you're hugging me and telling me everything is going to be okay through your voice.
1. Stop comparing yourself- Instead of telling us to stop, tell us how to stop. Give us some ideas that we can use to stop comparing ourselves. I've compared myself with my brother since the beginning of time. How can I stop? It's like telling me how to breath different. Help me stop. 2. Perfectionism- we can overcome that for your four reasons. It is hard to figure out "reasonable goals". Allowing room for mistakes? My whole life seems one mistake after another. But, that's just life. Some things I do right and can get a sense of accomplishment and pride. 3. Find what you are good at and developed it. Okay, that one I have done to some extent. I make and sell polymer Dragons and jewelry. I am a good friend, so I have been told. I am loyal to my friends. I am going to start learning to crochet. It's just that I don't seem to be good at much. But I am trying. 4. Focus on the things you can change- Things in my control. I can focus on the things I want to do better. But my depression makes me see that it is so much work that I'd rather go back to bed. I'm working on this one. Wow! I have never heard about Productive Worry. That I can use against depression. Thank you for that one. Boy, I really needed this episode. I have so little self-esteem, but I have been working on this point-negative self-talk. I frequently call myself names in my mind. I am working on not doing that for 1 hour. I will increase that when I have success.
I hope soon you will see what a great person you are
@@hnnhml Thank you. I wish I could.
Pay attention to those you're comparing yourself with, and take note of their mistakes and signs of imperfection (everybody's got them). Or try some good old fashioned empathy. Sometimes the success you see in them comes at a great price that you don't know. My oldest friend appears to have it all, the wealth, the confidence, beautiful wife, house, holidays, marathon runs etc. In truth he's unable to stop himself from working and has an unhealthy addiction to money, he can't allow any part of his day to be controlled by anyone other than himself, he can only sustain surface level friendships, he always longed for his dad's approval and found out in his 40s that he was 'donor conceived', he is unable to do the basic domestic duties e.g. can't cook/clean/wash clothes, unable to empathise, sexless marriage to a willing wife who is only starting to realise that he never wanted children and lied about his plans all along.
He still desperately needs his father's approval and tries to fill the void by seeking admiration from people he doesn't know and doesn't need in his life. The traits that have made him successful are also detrimental to him. For me to enjoy his success would come at the cost of my identity, and I'm not gonna find another one like that anywhere else!
I call myself names all the time too. I’ll try to do what you do and everytime I do it, I’ll say something nice to myself as well. Thanks for that one
@@leonardomotta1143 Don't stop trying. That would be a "win" for the person who called you names in the first place. And hang in there! I've got your back. Only truly decent people ever try to change for the better. So, you are one of them!!!!
about a month ago,i was involved in a traumatic accident that left me shocked even to this day. i felt like i lost a crucial part of myself. im afraid,anxious,angry,and worried about things. i used to be fearless and daring,now i feel stuck. i have been feeling like my mental state has declined despite me doing incredible progress this past year. like my therapist said “it’s not a step back but progress on its own”. i feel like getting back into the world and becoming a better person for myself . the thing that keeps me going is that I have went through worst and was victorious,i am determined to not be my old self but a better self.
Cheer up! You'll be okay
You will be okay and I hope you are okay. ❤️
You got this ❤
Great video. Can you do unnoticed/hidden signs of low self esteem? It can manifest in so many different ways, like too flexible OR rigid boundaries for example.
I know you already made some good low self esteem videos, but you mainly covered the typical signs, but there’s a lot more signs than just those.
How do you experience those hidden signs?
@@TravisGoodman When I say “hidden” I mean signs that aren’t obvious to others, but can still point to self esteem issues. Like being controlling for example.
@@imanabdullahi3298 Oh gotcha! A good question to ask about behaviors is to go behind and dig into their purpose, what they are trying to achieve, gain, etc.
@@TravisGoodman Yes, true
I’ve been having a hard time of what to do with myself, but with these tips, I can find a way to boost my self esteem and have motivation to do anything.
You can do it 🙌🏻
Overcoming petfectionism is the tool I needed today. Thanks a lot !!!
yes one!
i’ve been needing this for so long, thank you so much!! also, could you please make a video with tips on how to get of a manipulative relationship? i’m pretty sure i’m in one and don’t know how to get out
The things I enjoy doing are being in nature, reading, writing, talking to my friends and sister, making beaded jewelry, being around cats, cooking, shopping, and watching movies and television
Martin Luther King thought the most important thing we can ask ourselves is "What am i doing for others" others ,of course includes animals.
I love this channel so much, it helps me a lot to find my way back to a normal life and how to properly live
This is good because I'm always hard on myself if I don't do things the right way or a mistake or even not get the results I thought would happen even if I did do everything right. I guess I have low self-esteem because I've been rejected multiple times and have been told to leave them alone or wonder why I'm even talking to them. So I only talk to people if they talk to me first because I don't want to be a bother or come across as annoying or a desperate attention seeker.
This is so me. And till date, I still find it difficult to make friends.
I do love challenges, and testing how far i could go, i know i have so many things to develop in my character and i am enjoying every single tasks to do in a day, i am passionate on continues learning and at this age of 20 im practicing a strong sense of self in having a strong sense of responsibility as a preparation to difficult adulthood, i know there's still alot to learn so let's keep on carrying on
Hey, that's great to know that you're willing to take on challenges that will gradually build you as an individual who (I'm assuming) is ready to make sacrifices and endure potential obstacles in order to embrace the next phase of your life and how you choose to live life. Based on my experiences in my early 20s, it was fun in many ways, but I've realized that the older I've gotten...the more I believe that challenging yourself to do certain tasks is important to an extent - but not worth the sacrifice if it doesn't feel right. And as somebody who's been rejected by peers, past friends, and colleagues; they really don't have the influence on me (like I used to think) but it actually has helped make me a stronger, wiser, and knowledgeable person and in regard to whatever challenges come your way; I wish you the best of luck and highest level of success that is within your realm. I'm sure whatever you put your mind to, you'll do great things! There will probably be a lot of ups and downs, but realize that even if achieving something is difficult; it's not impossible either. Blessings 🙏
My favorite things to do are art and writing. I can just let my creativity flow because I really do have a rich imagination and even though I struggle sometimes, it's still really calming and makes me happy.
I add to the list: Be yourself, and you,are your only competition.
I enjoyed the video. I've struggled with self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've gotten better at it in recent years, but there's always room for improvement:)
What was the most consistent habit that helped you cultivate positive self esteem?
@@Psych2go A few things. Acknowledging the problem has been a big help. Then I can actively work on it. I've been doing a lot if reading/research on mental health to get more info. A lot of it has been retraining my thought process to not be so negative. And when I am having a "bad day", I know it's just that, and focus on stuff that make me happy to help get through it. A favorite show, music, friends whatever I think will help. Plus, just getting older and "wiser"-ish. Lol. Thanks for asking. And thanks for the videos. They have been a helpful resource as well:)
Yes longer works with new character models. Also apparently the actual name of the object (starting with a B) isn't allowed.
@@randomguy9511and to reiterate what you explained - I've had a lot of similar experiences myself - and believe me; it's not fun. But I also believe that one major aspect of life we all struggle to cope with is ACCEPTANCE: meaning that we don't always have to be happy with every little choice we make or second guess ourselves to the point where it drives us crazy....however I think the rhetoric we set for ourselves as individuals is a big aspect of developing and maintaining reasonable self-esteem (which I've never always have been the best with). And as somebody who's a sports fan and tries to have a strong awareness of issues that affect us all on a socioeconomic, sociopolitical, and sociocultural level; I believe that acknowledging any triggers related to what I briefly described is necessary for getting along but at the same time - appreciating the skills you (that us all) were blessed with, and not always worrying what others think. Having some sort of bias or validation is important depending on your situation; but even more important that you have resources to work with even if your self-esteem is far from perfect. If I'm wrong in this instance, then it can only make me work harder and feel stronger on the inside knowing I at least put in a genuine effort to spread awareness.
Blessings as well 🙏
I just needed to hear this. And I won't give up on myself.
You seriously help a lot. I am just a kid in middle school that struggles a lot with self esteem and self confidence. These videos state all my problems for me to fix with a solution.
I was too I have been working out and playing sports as well as talking to and seeing friends now I am about to begin highschool feeling a lot better.
Thank you for sharing this! I dealt with low self-esteem in my childhood and adolescence.
Same here
Things I like to do in life
Drawing and making art
Building Lego Mocs
Playing competitive games like Splatoon, or Hard video games like Cuphead or Megaman
And when I try doing those things and never give up, I’ll be alright
I am struggling with self esteem since many years. Lots of love. This video is helpful and amazing.
I hope some day you’ll see how great you actually are 💜
If you are reading this, you can do anything, you are better then you think. Nobody's perfect, you are loved.
I’m actually glad I found this video! My counselor said that I have a low self-esteem so I am trying to work on it.
Thanks to this channel I was able to diagnose myself with depression and im trying my best to get better, thank you so much
I hope you get better soon 💗
Avoid watching TV/Radio news to much. 20 mins a day is enough. Understand what is behind all the bad news (usually greedy persons) and work at improving the lot of those near you and far away. "Be versed in action (good deeds) yet try to remain unaffected by your actions" Gandhi.
Thank you for the video! The thing I enjoy the most is doing art. I was amazed by how I could put the worlds inside my head right into a paper and that's why I neevr stopped drawing. However after making the decision to turn it into a career I have been more aware of my peers that are so much better than me, the peers that will apply to the same unis as me. I have been drawing just to fill my portfolio as well and I believe these elements are making me forget the reason I like art, lowering my self esteem and raising my insecurities. I hope in the end I will be able to turn my passion into a career. Hope all of you do what you enjoy too!! have a good day/night!
OMG Unproductive worry and Productive worry, THAT'S HELPFUL, thank you so much, now thats unproductive mindset can put on my self, and focusing on the productive one
~Amazing advices! I really hated the feeling of being judged of who I am... it makes my self esteem low but I will try to think of positive ways its not just me it's everyone else that has similar issues!😅
That's great that you have a strong mindset!
I've struggled with this feeling of getting judged for so many years. It's really debilitating. What's crazy is that I do believe that nobody is qualified to judge, yet it has still plagued me for much of my life.
@@roberttruman8444wow that's deep whoever you are...
Blessings 🙏
Thank you so much for this video, I really needed to hear this advice today.
Knowing that not just my self that everyone had character flaws helped learn to accept that I can't follow someone's blueprint for an easy life....
I need to become a blackprint, forge my own template and navigate my own way... Though hard and sad at times... Becoming.... Is the goal
Yes💪🏻
This week I had my first session with my therapist and whilst I'm still not 100% sure about it I can ses this will be a step in the right direction
We all have our lowest days but remembers there’s no such things as bad days without good days take time for yourself and improve the minor mistakes that happens throughout your life im pretty sure you find purpose one day 😊
Yes one step at a time!
I generally enjoy, helping others, and being of service, and helping in anyway, that I can to make others feel better about themselves❤😊 My intention is to show my self, self compassion so that I can have a greater understanding of self compassion for others in the world😊
my self esteem has always been atrocious and while i can't confirm or deny the effectiveness of these tips i'll definitely try some of these out
on another note i just realized how close you are to 10 mil subs rn
You thought patterns are habits they can be changed by patience and persistance.
1. Stop Comparing yourself to others.
I get it, but what if you are comparing yourself to, well, yourself.
It is a metric you are trying to work on and you ask yourself "am I better off now that I was a week ago"
or what ever the metric is that you choose.
2. Prefectionism
I get I'm not perfect, I don't believe I am. And in fact I believe we learn from our mistakes so some mistakes are important for growth.
3. Figure out what I am good at.
I actually have a long list of things I am good at.
I write music, I am good at learning language (both computer and linguistic), I can make friends pretty easily.
4. Focus on what I can change.
This is a question, isn't it?
I want to change how I feel about myself.
That is easier said than done.
I have listed my Unproductive worries which means I cannot control what I want to change.
That's pretty depressing.
Oooh I love my hero academia reference!!! And the baby plant in diaper is way too adorable!! You guys are awesome!!! Thank you for this one as well. 🥹
Everybody out there struggling with something that makes them feel low and not worth of anything. I love you and hope you find peace in your life, we are all brothers and i wish the best for you stay with me i have been very close to giving up many times but theres a reason i keep getting back up❤️
I have been restelss and been living in fear and anxiety. I always strive for exceleence. I find meaning in doing what I need to do for myself. I used to do that. I loved music and art and science and productive life.
Thank you so much for this video on low self-esteem. I’ve always had trouble with self-esteem and self-confidence issues. May I suggest doing a video on how to show yourself self compassion
Focusing on things I can change is the biggest problem I have right now, because so little actually seems to be in my control
Powerful!
Great work psych2go!! One needs to focus on making themselves better and avoid comparisons especially what is influenced by social media
I just wanna be friends with the owner of this voice , I feel like you're a very wholesome person to be around
For me it's remembering what I am good.at after decades of practice I am already good enough at art and poetry. Getting therapy and keeping tabs on my self talk. Healing so that I can succeed in life and help others.
The only thing you should worry about being good at is being kind to others (including animals). This means being patient with others, understanding of others , forgiving (but wary) of others. Read Martin Luther King and Gandhi for encouragement.
I love learning about various topics. Mostly surface level but I go extra deep if it interests me like psychology, cooking, and gaming.
After watching this I understood I was a perfectionist and that was the reason for my low self esteem..
I really need this video, thank you so much in advance! Can you maybe make a video about the difference between fear caused by autism and anxiety? I don't know if my fears are caused by my autism or maybe I have anxiety, I don't know. Can you help?
It may sound like a weird request but the people who help me (I can't find the English work for it right now) told me it could just be my autism. But she did say it's extreme for the other people she helps for het job. So I don't know.
From what I know about the matter some of the symptoms of autism can look a lot like “anxiety” since one of the symptoms is rumination which can just be part of autism or anxiety or both.
@@TravisGoodman I really appreciate you commenting, thank you!!
@@veraa5809 For sure!
Baking and painting brings me the most sense of purpose. I feel like I’m good at these things, but I have trouble keeping up practice😅
My favorite thing is to help others grow because I see myself in them when they progress I feel like I progress but I will say there has been a gap lately it’s like Ive had this separation of self and others which can be good in it’s own right but it has left me less passionate, so I’m taking a break from it for awhile I want to find that fire again I want to find the new me
Honestly I don’t have low self esteem but I still like watching videos like this to help me improve.
I’ve been told that there was no way I could do something and the reason behind was something that could be changed over time. I think I just need to remember that I need to work at it and concur some fears.
Personally, i like story telling. There’s nothing more fulfilling to me than creating an entire fictional world with characters and what fuels their motivations. And more so i like exploring the reasons behind said motivations and what led to these aspects of a character forming
Lovely!
Keep story telling. You can write a book with that talent!!
I learnt that we have to build our self esteem by overcome fear and use what your good act that is your talent
This video provided profound insights into boosting self-esteem. Learning about self-praise and the importance of gratitude truly inspired me to cultivate a positive outlook on life.
As a performing artist, I always struggle with accepting that I can't be perfect. I'm a perfectionist, at least when it comes to myself. I can easily accept and even like other people's imperfections. But I'm very strict with myself. ,,My form isn't good enough, I need to practice that more", ,,I need to exercise, I'm not strong enough yet", ,,I need to track calories, because my body shape isn't beautiful", ,,I need to do the full 50min of cardio today, even though I'm not feeling well". I centered my complete life around my career and that was what broke me. I couldn't go to grab a coffee with my mother when we went to Starbucks anymore without writing down the extra calories. I had either cardio or strength training every day for 6 days a week. I had to track my protein consumption to make sure I'm not losing strength. Spend hours in practice every day. Either contortion, aerial or breaking (a B-Girl that does contortion and aerial hoop, I know that a weird combination). Sometimes even all on one day, or several practice sessions a day. On some days I fell asleep with my teddy in my arms while crying my heart out on his shoulder because I felt so hopeless. The next morning I would wake up without any energy left, sometimes in pain from overtraining the last days, and I would need two hours to get out of bed. That lifestyle, driven by my urge to be perfect, drained me from all the joy and excitement I once felt while practicing. The reason for why I picked up each of those things, let it be breaking, contortion or aerial hoop, was because it made me feel happy and free. But I came to a point where I felt trapped in that because of the pressure I put on myself. Thankfully, I got reminded of why I'm doing all of this. And all it took to change my mind was a performance by my biggest role models (at least when it comes to breaking), the Flying Steps. I finally got to see them perform again yesterday, and they inspired me to overthink my decisions and reminded me that I don't need to destroy myself like that just to be successful.
I'm so glad that you know that you don't have to be 'perfect'. In my work, I strive for perfection. It's hard when what I want to do doesn't come out perfectly. But I have learned to embrace some of my mistakes as life lessons (and I hate that term). Please don't destroy your body and mind. Virtual hug!
Mine went down due to people being rude.
I still remeber often crying,and its the fact that it wasnt the 3 main people but also those other teachers included.
Its even worse when you feel that yours is not bad sinec someone you witnessed for years go thru that whilst you went through it for a few months.
Really needed this one
I enjoy gardening and nature! I garden using native plants to help the local wildlife, which I love to observe
Self-esteem is extremely difficult for many to obtain because it really requires a minimum of the following: a genuinely high level of skill in something and to have that recognised by others; a life lived consistently with one's of value system (thus nor feeling guilty for repeated moral failings); the respect, affection, and preferably love, of other people; evidence that your efforts are making an important contribution to some positive grand project.
Very few people can have these if they don't have have a suitable internal and external set of circumstances.
For example, if you are below average in intelligence, innate talent and physical prowess, and have limited free time and mentorship oportunies, what skills can you master? If you are ugly and unlikeable who is going to love you? If you arenaverage what important contribution can you possibly make? If you grow up in a terrible environment how can you survive without compromising your values?
It seems to me that self-esteem is a luxury enjoyed by a minority of talented wealthy people.
thank you guys so much, love your vids!, this one def. going in my p2g favorites playlist to revisit later
I am 32 years old and i feel myself at the bottom of a pit, everyone around me, even my little brother who was just like me managed to improve, and that only hit me even harder.
My way of perception has changed.Now days I try to listen to people,understand them and then act accordingly.Don't judge, someone taught me.Never judge someone of their disabilities coz you may be one of them.
To stop comparing oneself with others and overcoming perfectionism are apt points 🎉
Thanks. Your voice is very kind and calming. The info is very helpful too❤.
I enjoy doing music and I've now created 9,270 compositions. Even though this is the case, I still have trouble with finding motivation to continue because I'm struggling with a deep depression. My hope for trying to get in the industry is lacking but all I want so badly is for people to hear the beautiful music and continue to be touched by it.
Well one thing that I know is that I'm good at doing pottery But I heard God angel tell me that I should be a carpenter 🪚, I was also thinking about going back to school for plumbing
So anyways God bless you big sis and keep up the videos about mental health and relationships it's really helping me out ✝️🙌👁️🗨️
I enjoy singing and doing home decors. Also love helping others but i always turns out pleasing them instead of helping them
I enjoy photography and drawing
I draw a lot and often take pictures of scenery I find nice!
My Grandparents raised us not to compare, but to be thankful and seekers of goodness. 🙏🏽
That was really helpful. When i hear your voice, i feel like you're good friend of mine.. Your voice is so soothing ❤️
writing, of course. I'm fond of it. 03:04
do not give up on yourself
those 4 qualities of a perfectionist is so accurate, thanks for helping
What I enjoy most in life is playing a card game. Growing up my parents were always worried about me playing sports bc I would get hurt. So, playing card games help me test my mind and improve my critical thinking skills. I enjoy critical thinking and the aftermath of accomplishing a difficult scenario is worth it.
Got a grip of most of my life. Healthy body, regular workout, good paying job, educational but....no partner. I've been madly in love with my ex for 13 years (im 27) and even though we've been dating before which only held for a year...kind of, I still can't let my feelings, hopes and dreams with her completly go.
I am ready go meet others but I don't know how and intimidecy scares me. I want to have a family life of my own but im not progressing in that direction i think, I feel stuck.
I swear you post the right video at the right time! 😭
I hope you feel better soon 🤍
Thank you for the video! Your voice is really soothing to hear. 🥰
As my understanding and perspective at the moment, I think I need more "me time". I'm always surrounded by people, don't get me wrong It's not necessarily a bad thing. But I feel in need to take a journey to hear, understand and release myself...
This is a helpful video, thank you. Particularly the bit about perfectionism, which is something I grapple with.
Today my friend caught me crying at school and...... She was the one that comforted me, even more than my mom could........
Love the soothing voice and the crisp content of course 💯
Well, it's hard not to compare yourself to others :(
I know :(
Catch yourself in the act, and consciously stop. It gets more and more easier. List for yourself all the reasons it's unreasonable to compare, and refer to it often:
-Can't compare apples with oranges.
-I can see my full life; I can't see their full life, and so I can't really make an accurare comparison.
- We have different purposes in life, and so their strengths and talents cannot be the same as mine. I'm happy for them for being good at that. I'm going to figure out what I'm good at and focus on developing it.
- Stop/limit exposing youself to people or places (social media, etc) that make you feel bad about yourself.
Your lil doodle of All Might saying “Eat it” had me CACKLING.
Thank you ♥️
'Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not To Who Someone Else Is Today'
From '12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos' by Jordan B. Peterson
This is how to you can stop comparing yourself to others, take inspiration from others sure. But you can compare yourself to someone who has a completely different life experience, genetics, etc. The differences are to major to make any real equation possible, on saying also here "If you met one person who is [race/gender, age, language, etc]. You met one person who is [...]."
Labels and category don't work either here as you would have to make too many intersections, and each label takes one part of a bigger whole into consideration but cannot on itself be used to identify a single person as too many also have this label and many other labels as well.
singing, art, editing, hanging out with genuine ppl, badminton etc.
I love music and writing. Im great at writing, too.
Thank you so much for this video✨🥺
the problem comes when that need for perfection is directed toward meeting a professional standard, and the obvious need to do it as quickly as possible; so its hard to have patience with oneself when ones career goals and professional dreams are on the line.