My name is Bobby I have stage 4 lung cancer I would like to request my Christian brothers and sisters in Christ to please pray for me to receive a healing from the Lord I need your prayers desperately, Thank you and God Bless
Keep Your eyes Fixed on Jesus Bobby, Come what may. Trust Him, Whatever Happens. I had Breast Cancer, 2 operations, No Chemo, as I didn't fit the criteria for it. Had 2 rounds of radiotherapy. I got an infection on the 2nd op, but it healed very quickly, Thank The Lord! It delayed my 2nd round, and to get onto a hormonal tablet. That took between 2-3 months. It did cross my mind it could come back, But Left it In The Lord's Mighty Hands, as I did when I was told I had Cancer. During 18 months, I had a heart op, was diagnosed with diabetes, and during the same time period, 2-3 months after, cancer. I had fear for 1 second when told, and the night before my heart op, 1second again, But I Was In The Lord's Hands. Don't Forget That Bobby, He's GOT You. Surrender to Him, any fears or doubt's, Talk to our Loving Father, Rest In Jesus Loving Arms. That's the Only Way that I gave up smoking. I smoked for a few years, even though I had a heart problem, and had the operation. With God Everything Is Possible. God Bless You, Will Pray for You.
My personal problem was expecting everyone to be a good person but it's better to see people for who they are rather than the perception I have of them. The other thing is thinking people too highly of them too quick without giving it time to notice who they really are. The best thing is being patient with anyone and see who they really are before calling them friends.
Amen. Its why I'm always so encouraged by the verse in the Bible where it says that Bad Company corrupts good moral. Even around Christians you have to be careful as I've known people in my life that tried like non-believer to backpedal into the world. Yet, its those little decisions that can change everything.
The sad fact is we could have a friend for years..even decades and not know them for who they really are.And when you find out they aren't your friend,it's usually something we should have seen coming long ago.The same goes with being married..you may think you know them so well,then 10 years into it you finally see that real person.And you have to guard your Heart from such people. I have to say i do love hearing Charles Stanley put it so perfectly.
This is why I left my "friendships". My "friends" weren't friends at all. I dealt with selfish, manipulative and jealous friends. It was tough. But I know good friends will come a long 🤗.
I agree, I don't have friend's, because I don't drink, I don't listen to secular music, I don't curse, I don't like to hear it. I don't go to bar's, clubs, parties that are not Christian. Only once in a while, I miss having a friend.
Our Only True and Faithful Friend is Jesus Christ.... Amen....! Psalm 118:8 KJV It is better to trust in the LORD than to put Confidence in man. Amen....! Jeremiah 17:5 KJV Amen....
I think loving Jesus comes first that He will guide us to help others in friendships with Him. Decades ago people were less divided and more likely sensitive to helping friends.
We thank you Dr Stanley not only for this sermon on friendship but for all your sermons for your preaching for decades we thank you and we miss you the best friendship we could possibly have is our friendship with Jesus Christ there is none better
@@benten5218 Exodus 14:13-14 And Moses said to the people, “Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again. The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.
I have been praying about a friend I have known my whole life. I have always been the giver, and her the taker. But when my son was dying, and I told her about it, I never heard a word from her. She never one time called me to talk about it. Other things similar she was not there for me. I have always been there for her. I asked God if I should walk away this time. Thank you for this message. God always comes thru. He was telling me to walk away.
Remember......you could have been a great and true friend to her, yet through no fault of your own, she, was not EVER your friend. Beverly, I will pray for your help & healing.
@@randy5358 Thank you so much. This means a lot to me! God saved my son. He is alive and well. That wasn't the point tho. It was her not ever being there. I do love her still, but I know it is time to walk away.
I understand how that felt dear. Someone without empathy does not care about us. We keep overlooking 'just because' they're a friend, or relative or neighbor, but in fact they exploit our helpful and kind natures, selfishly and only for their own benefits. I had some neighbors & relatives I had helped so much, but in my time of trouble and pain, & after my parents' demise, they were totally and wilfully absent. They were also not only silent when another above 65yrs neighbor couple verbally & emotionally abused me and caused harm to property, they pretended as if nothing was wrong. When this raging & mean toxic elderly neighbor, a rich govt. postman (who had his own home!) fraudulently entered his name into my mother's house-deed documents in the city's records through corrupted officials he had won over, these neighbors didn't even care to ask about what & how it happened. One neighbor woman, ( whose younger sister my parents & I had helped immensely though we didn't even know her, and had stayed at our home for many months when she was in terrible crisis few years back ) whom I tried to tell about this awful act, and told her I would show those fraudulent documents to her, never again cared to inquire or even listen. Her husband suddenly stopped speaking to me and sided with the postman!! (Many good folk cared to learn about this, and stood by me.) Not only that, she regularly met with those very abusers. She tried to appear at my door every year with a church-calender, but I simply had no respect for such a cold and calculating person..and I did not get into any conversation or ever invite her indoors. This was the very woman, (when we were new as neighbors,) when no-one was at her home and a vicious street dog had bitten her she had rushed to my home out of all other neighbors, & I had immediately taken her on my scooter to the hospital and brought her back after the necessary treatment and injections.
I know I will lose many of my friends along the way in life. Many of them are non believers and I pray for them. I will keep my head up and move on. Amen…
Amen. discern over ones who claim they're Christian too. I've been hurt by many Christ followers but the good thing is that Jesus never leaves me. We will lose friends along the way, but its so reassuring that when one door closes, another one ends up opening.
Problem with some people today is? They don’t know how too be committed meaning what they say standing by their words letting their actions do the talking.
when he got to 3:27 , (Prov 16 :28) it is the perfect description of how an outsider destroyed my marriage of 9 years. Then when the dust settled, it was not repairable. I will tell you that forgiving is not always an instant or easy road. Instant forgiveness is usually a lie to yourself in order to be able to cover up the hurt & betrayal done to you.
Commitment is a very powerful word . God didn’t say forgive for no reason the moment you choose something the emotions and actions and thoughts follow your choices. So you have to forgive even when you don’t feel like it . Its the work of the Holy Spirit to heal and make your soul whole again. To restore you. Don’t put it on yourself to rid your emotions and discomfort or discouragement . Leave it to the holy spirit to do the work. That’s his work.
Some people are wicked and unreasonable: “Finally, brethren, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may run swiftly and be glorified, just as it is with you, and that we may be delivered from unreasonable and wicked men; for not all have faith.” II Thessalonians 3:1-2 NKJV
Bobby I took care of my sister that had stage 4 lung cancer and it was not a pleasant thing to watch so I know what you are going through and what you are feeling I am very ill myself I don't have that much longer myself I will pray for you daily my brother🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I hope everyone reading this is finding the peace they need listening. If you are able, please pray for my wife, my marriage, and for me. Things went off the rails fast and I'm hoping for a revival.
Please pray for my son and his wife they have separated and I’m hoping they can work it out and that it’s God’s will for them to stay together I have been so upset about it and I’m praying that God will help them to work it out
Before watching this extremely timely message, I need to ask for your prayers. I've commented on this specific incident many times, as GOD, in HIS Providence, has continued to show me many things through the utterly heartbreaking loss of this friendship, over 2 years ago. I've been praying, and I'm going to speak with her ,GOD willing, at Church tomorrow. I'm nervous, and worried about breaking down when I speak w her. She hasn't spoken to me this whole time so it will be emotional for me. Even so, I need to be obedient to the WORD where it says if you've offended someone go to them and make it right. I wont willingly disobey GOD'S prompting again, that's what brought me to this situation in the first place. And even though it's my fault (due to backsliding w drugs), I feel betrayed by her. So please, if your so inclined and led my the Holy Spirit, please pray with me for courage that I speak honestly with all the Grace that GOD will grant me, to be wise with my words, and for humility to listen to her more than I speak, and to accept accountability for my choosing drugs over her and our friendship (I didn't realize at the time thats what I did, I was in the addiction cycle and I couldn't stop) but sadly thats what I did, nonetheless. Thank you, and may you all have a blessed and beautiful day in the LORD! 🙏✝️🤙
@@hollygaines9728 Hi, after all my preparation, she wasn't at Church today. I hope she's ok. GOD is SOVEREIGN, everything will happen in it's correct time. Have a blessed day/evening.
Amen to the Prayer in the End 📯Besutifull and Precious 🤗Dr Charles Stanley (spiritual Dad Grandpa that speaks wise words to you that some people never had ,that rymes 😄😉),a very positive and helping Message in this video of this Gathering , this is for all of God His Children📜📯
Dr. Stanley this was right on time. My girl friend I’ve only known for 8 months was damaged because I acted instead of responding. I truly regret how I reacted. I did apologize. She took a whole day to accept my apology. I felt better and was happy. I also asked God to forgive me too. But I don’t feel our relationship is what it was. I asked if we could start over because I really value her friendship 🙏🏽
Bobby I am in prayer for you right now and I said before I lost my sister from stage 4 lung cancer I also lost my nephew Joseph when he was 37 and I feel very much alone just hang on to Jesus without him we won't make it🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’ve had so many friends walk out/ away from me. I don’t believe in true friendships. I do know that people will tell you exactly what you want to hear so they get their way. Any time I ask for a favor back they don’t even answer my text messages or call me back. So I believe that friends are fake. It makes me think that love is a lie from the pits of hell.
Praying for you dude. Friendships are tough. I too have seen and have experienced people walk out of my life. Something my pastor said that gave me freedom and joy in this area is to just keep smiling and move on. Its so hard when those people you invest days/months/years into decide to walk out of your life, but I like to remind myself that more often than not, rejection is protection. The Lord told me that there were certain people that had to walk out of my life who were holding me back, could lead me down a wrong path, or just weren't good overall. Praying for you that you also get some great Godly friendships in your life that can/will pour life into you and that will stick close to you like a brother.
Wisdom right here. This was very insightful n helpful it showed me alot about myself and my friends that I love. Lord help us to understand,grow, and cherish our friendships for your glory.
What about past hurts again and again from the same friendship and you overlook it and forgive and forgive because you love this friendship dearly, but now I'm not cutting it off totally but I am reducing it to another level, I prayed about it and I've been elevating my friend as a source of my comfort and acceptance and I have asked for forgiveness from God.
Sometimes like barnabas and Paul you just go your separate ways, doesn't mean you both can't work for God etc...... also however forgive 7 x77 jesus telling Peter forgive a limitless number of times ... what ever situations diferent... but they did not die for you shed blood for you gave you gifts only one person did that. They have no control unless you allow it xx xx x
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be their friend. You can forgive and move on or love from a distance/boundaries. My ex hubby equated forgiveness with me taking him back...I forgave and filed for divorce because infidelity in marriage is one of my non negotiable standards and I didn't have peace anymore. I can't be with someone I don't trust.
Remember, in Matthew 18:22, Jesus told Peter to forgive others 70×7 times. Now Even if you tried to count all 490 times you forgave... It wouldn't work. You would get distracted by life or something else 😅. And God knows this (He knows everything). So He really means that He wants us to forgive all the time. So you should definitely forgive your friend and act like it never even happened 😀 😀. Have a blessed day!
Forgiveness doesn't mean being their friend. We can love other people, but because of their actions, they've been denied access to more intimate parts of our lives. I've been there, but ultimately, take that up with God and see what he's revealing. One of the ways in those moments is that when I didn't have a peace about the friendship, then it was necessary to enforce boundaries. Sometimes, hanging onto certain friendships can burden us more than they bless us. Read that again because when I started to release people from my life, I could walk more into the destiny God has for my life. The Bible says to love your enemies. We should pray for them too. We never know with life. I've had people who walked out of my life try to come back, and in all those moments, give it to God. Some of them were allowed back in, others were denied access, but the ones that God said to allow them back now have boundaries. Praying that you get the comfort in your friendships that you need.
This was a good message, and really timely. I think after listening to this, I could really use some prayer. Something that hit me that kept crossing my mind is this idea that we all have friends, but to the standard we hold them is another thing. A lot of my friendships don't seem reciprocal, or for others, its a friendship when its convenient for certain people, so I've placed boundaries. At the same time, I'm trying to be a better friend to people, but a lot of friendships can be draining, and it feeling like you're doing all the giving. I know that this is confirmation that the Lord needs me to really sit down in God's word, and really evaluate my friendships and allow him to reveal these answers to me. Furthermore, friendships just seem to get more complicated and challenging as they get older. But thanks be to God for allowing me to enter a season where I'll be praying and fasting and really getting into spending time with God to seek clarity in the area of friendships. They're really hard to navigate, and the internet has made how we define friendships so flawed and skewed. This sermon is what I needed to hear.
Characteristics of Great Friendship : We all go through trials and problems in life. In friendship with another person. Consider this : ( YOU 'RE EITHER PART OF THE SOLUTION OR PART OF THE PROBLEM ) . A good listening ears is where we start with patience and understanding . If a man has never walk through darkness ? how can he tell the other how it feels. Listen and go away and pray for the other person. Its all about Love. Much Thanks Dr. Stanley Words of wisdom.
This is a good video to just learn from. I ruined a friendship recently with a woman. Pretty sure I projected, was jealous, manipulative, critical, selfish. I defended myself. Definitely need to improve and draw closer to Lord Jesus.
When you're the only one in the friendship who's constantly reaching out and the other person doesn't reciprocate and when they do respond, the dialogue feels forced. That's what I'm dealing with and my gut feeling is telling me to take the hint because the friendship is finished. Angry? Confused? Saddened? Yes. Even if my family and friends abandon me, it is my hope that Jesus will never leave me nor will He ever forsake me! I just wanted to add that after being snubbed without explanation, I've purposed in my heart that me and my ex-friend never met, i.e., I will block my ex-friend permanently from my memory.
Bobby just want you to know that I'm going to pray for you right now because that's what my sister had stayed for lung cancer and I took care of her for many years so I know what it's like to take care of someone that has stayed for lung cancer just want you to know that you're deeply in my prayers right now and may the Lord Jesus Christ heal you from head to toe
I have No friend's, I walked away from a life style, that was Not of God. I have been saved 10 year's Now, I had friend's from church, but I moved from California to Navada, going on 2 year's, I'm in a church I really like. It's been a year at this church, but I don't talk to anyone outside of church. I've had the few friends in California 6 out of 10 have passed away, COVID, major underlined conditions. I talk to the other's, IF I call them. I take care of my mom 86, I really can't do much. But, it's nice to have someone to talk to. I'm single, I've not married people, don't care for having single woman around, I did realize this until it was pointed out.
I would say make friends outside Church, even if only 1 to begin with. We're meant to be in Fellowship with our Brothers and Sisters In Christ. Are You afraid. Do You have Siblings. A Lot of my childhood was spent in hospital. I have a twin Sister, there was Always lots of other children of my age around. But I had a Lot of time on my own, being ill, and got used to it. Am happy in my own company, though Love being with people. I have a True Friend, a Dear Christian Friend, Who Is a Huge Blessing. Due to my health, I can't get out every day. I made a Friend the other day, I Believe that it was Providence, was meant to meet Her. Don't isolate yourself, go to Bible Study, go to meeting at other's homes, to Have Fellowship, to Read The Bible together, for Help, Support, Worship, and Prayers. Have a Blessed Sunday.
Wow!! Amazing.. Just what I needed in this moment in my life. May God bless everyone of you with these powerful words and guidance so that we can become the best person God wants us to be.
Thank you, Dr. Stanley. This video is a blessing to me. I am hoping on restoration of friendship between myself and Kim. I miss her dearly and lift her up in prayer. I pray The LORD continues to change my heart as well ✝️
I love this but for peace we have to just move on and just let the lord work things out how he sees will be most beneficial As a believer their are several folks I’ve cut ties with saved or lost that’s just life you just do what you have to do to have peace no matter who it is no matter if you apologize or the others person did it’s not worth reigniting issues drama gossip pain etc give it to the lord let it go And rest in the lord tell him all about it domt get ahead of him and revisit the past or bring up old thing it only causes issues at some point depending on how others take it or react so it’s better to let go let God fight the battles and mend things his way I guess it depends on how your lead either way you take a change I’d just rather have peace keep peace and keep on moving but that’s just me every man is to be pursuaded in his or her own mind
I agree. That is how I see it too. Saved or loss, its life, and the Bible says let us not remember the former things. Its so helpful to get to that place in your walk with God when you can be free from those things.
I really like Dr Stanley and his advice. For years I have listened to him...however in this message I have to disagree that apologizing when you did nothing wrong to save a friendship is such wrong advice. Toxic and arrogant people never apologize and do much harm and if you apologize to them according to Dr. Stanley's advice you will be setting yourself up for abuse.
I have been betrayed and burnt by people who I really thought were my trusting friends .. me always giving until I could give no more - my box became empty - all they did was take .. I am so leery of trying to make any friends anymore .. I just go about my business and just hide ..just don’t want to get close to anyone anymore ..
I've been there. But I promise you, there are good people out there. It can be hard though. I find I'm still healing in that area. I'm at a very loving Church, but I've been burnt by a lot of past ones. Especially one I went to where friendships didn't prosper, and I felt used for my gifts rather than feeling valued. We don't need a lot of friends, nor do we have to get close to a lot of people. We can trust God for the people he sends into our lives. And maybe this is a season you may be in the wilderness to keep seeking God and ask him for true relationships to form.
Sorry Dr. Stanley but very time I apologized to someone when I knew it was the other persons fault the other person did it again and again. It always gave them the green light to keep on doing it, and believing that its alright to do it!
Wow great statement @An L. This happens to me with my sister to this day. What I started doing is telling my sister about her fault and that she keeps doing it. I do this so maybe she will stop. I dunno who you're talking to (a friend, family, stranger, etc) but another thing you could do... The best thing.... Is to talk to God about it. Whenever you have time ask God to change this person in Jesus name and it will be done! Prayers for you my friend and have a blessed day (night) 🙏 Hope this helps ☺️
When someone show u who they are believe that. A lot of people Dont ask God, properly vet a person Be4 getting involved with them. To many people go to job to make friends ur coworkers are not ur friends. I will say u can have friends on the job u got do it the right way. I have few formers coworkers we are in good relationship. Everyone not going to have our best interest. Some people change will u do better in one area or more.
God help my friend Brian Feldkamp to become a Godly person, take him higher in you for your Glory I declare and decree in Jesus name Amen and Amen Joanna Perschall Etter
Chris, Praying is always an alternative. Because you can talk to God anytime and anywhere. Pray about this and talk this over with God so He'll help you overcome!!!!!!!!
@@viviennejordan215 yt didn't notify me of the replies. Thank you so much and yes it definitely has roots from hurt and Abuse. You saw right through me. God Bless You Abundantly 🙏
You know what that's a good question. On my opinion you should try to keep at least a close bond so you can share the gospel with them. But other than that... yea... You should not keep that "bad" relationship if there's no purpose. It could harm you and they could try to get you away from Christ. Hopefully hear my answer will help. But if not Prayers for you 🤠
Great question. I think it comes down to prayer first, then peace. By that, what I'm referring to is if there is any peace in the friendship. Sometimes, as much as we want to save a friendship, we're almost better letting it go to keep growing. Some pastors and even the life of Jesus in sermons I've watched say that faith will cost us something. Friendships is one of them. Even with many Christians unfortunately.
@@terrymcdermott8320 iI find love with God & my husband. Because of lack of love from parents, I spent my lifetime questioning others if theirs was sincere. Hasn’t been an easy road for me or the people that genuinely, really cared. I pushed plenty people away. I thank you for your comment . ♥️
I'm praying for you I hope that you didn't get lung cancer from smoking 😂 I know some people get lung cancer that don't smoke that's why I say that. God says be not deceived God is Not mocked whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap. But some people reap stuff that they did not sow I'm glad you are a Christian because the rapture will be soon and then you'll get a glorified❤❤❤❤ fear not
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My name is Bobby I have stage 4 lung cancer I would like to request my Christian brothers and sisters in Christ to please pray for me to receive a healing from the Lord I need your prayers desperately, Thank you and God Bless
In Jesus name His healing grace and miracle be upon u right now. Strength power and full recovery be urs.Jesus our healer and our Saviour.
@@luzvimindasiapco3045 Thank you friend may the Lord bless you
I pray for HIS peace that passes understanding in this part of your journey. (amen)
Keep Your eyes Fixed on Jesus Bobby, Come what may. Trust Him, Whatever Happens. I had Breast Cancer, 2 operations, No Chemo, as I didn't fit the criteria for it. Had 2 rounds of radiotherapy. I got an infection on the 2nd op, but it healed very quickly, Thank The Lord! It delayed my 2nd round, and to get onto a hormonal tablet. That took between 2-3 months. It did cross my mind it could come back, But Left it In The Lord's Mighty Hands, as I did when I was told I had Cancer. During 18 months, I had a heart op, was diagnosed with diabetes, and during the same time period, 2-3 months after, cancer. I had fear for 1 second when told, and the night before my heart op, 1second again, But I Was In The Lord's Hands. Don't Forget That Bobby, He's GOT You. Surrender to Him, any fears or doubt's, Talk to our Loving Father, Rest In Jesus Loving Arms. That's the Only Way that I gave up smoking. I smoked for a few years, even though I had a heart problem, and had the operation. With God Everything Is Possible. God Bless You, Will Pray for You.
I will keep you in my prayers 🤲🏼 Bobby. God speed my friend in Christ Jesus. 💙🧘🏼♂️
My personal problem was expecting everyone to be a good person but it's better to see people for who they are rather than the perception I have of them. The other thing is thinking people too highly of them too quick without giving it time to notice who they really are. The best thing is being patient with anyone and see who they really are before calling them friends.
My Bible App Says Better Days Are Coming🙏
Bad company will bring you down and keep you there, so be careful of those you invite into your life.
Yes Amen sister (brother) in Christ
Amen. Its why I'm always so encouraged by the verse in the Bible where it says that Bad Company corrupts good moral. Even around Christians you have to be careful as I've known people in my life that tried like non-believer to backpedal into the world. Yet, its those little decisions that can change everything.
The sad fact is we could have a friend for years..even decades and not know them for who they really are.And when you find out they aren't your friend,it's usually something we should have seen coming long ago.The same goes with being married..you may think you know them so well,then 10 years into it you finally see that real person.And you have to guard your Heart from such people.
I have to say i do love hearing Charles Stanley put it so perfectly.
This is why I left my "friendships". My "friends" weren't friends at all. I dealt with selfish, manipulative and jealous friends. It was tough. But I know good friends will come a long 🤗.
Good friends are very rare...
I am praying to have a friend.
😔 Dr.Stanley's thank you.
The older I get the more I understand that it's okay to live a life others don't understand,loving when it's not returned.
I agree, I don't have friend's, because I don't drink, I don't listen to secular music, I don't curse, I don't like to hear it. I don't go to bar's, clubs, parties that are not Christian. Only once in a while, I miss having a friend.
Proverbs 3:5
@@tinamartinez1040God is good
Our Only True and Faithful Friend is Jesus Christ.... Amen....!
Psalm 118:8 KJV
It is better to trust in the LORD than to put Confidence in man.
Amen....!
Jeremiah 17:5 KJV
Amen....
I think loving Jesus comes first that He will guide us to help others in friendships with Him. Decades ago people were less divided and more likely sensitive to helping friends.
We thank you Dr Stanley not only for this sermon on friendship but for all your sermons for your preaching for decades we thank you and we miss you the best friendship we could possibly have is our friendship with Jesus Christ there is none better
Thank you God in Jesus Christ. Many blessings for all and have great and blessed Saturday in Jesus Christ Amen. 😇❤🌷🌻☕🍰
Love Charles God Bless this man of God
Over the years I’ve learned to stay out of trouble with others by praying for them that’s the best thing anyone can do.
Ikr, keep doing what you're doing!!!👍
Matthew 5:44
@@lenapin6521 you are correct Hallelujah great verse!
@@benten5218 Exodus 14:13-14
And Moses said to the people, “Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will work for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall never see again. The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.
@@lenapin6521 Wow another great verse!!! Praise the Lord Almighty 😄🙏 Thanks for sharing the scripture with me 😊!
Right on time message for me. I needed this. Thank you lord. I will listen a second time for sure.
guess I need to listen alot
I have been praying about a friend I have known my whole life. I have always been the giver, and her the taker. But when my son was dying, and I told her about it, I never heard a word from her. She never one time called me to talk about it. Other things similar she was not there for me. I have always been there for her. I asked God if I should walk away this time. Thank you for this message. God always comes thru. He was telling me to walk away.
Remember......you could have been a great and true friend to her, yet through no fault of your own, she, was not EVER your friend.
Beverly, I will pray for your help & healing.
@@randy5358 Thank you so much. This means a lot to me! God saved my son. He is alive and well. That wasn't the point tho. It was her not ever being there. I do love her still, but I know it is time to walk away.
Walk, she never was a friend, spend the time with your son.
Walk, she never was a friend, spend the time with your son.
I understand how that felt dear. Someone without empathy does not care about us. We keep overlooking 'just because' they're a friend, or relative or neighbor, but in fact they exploit our helpful and kind natures, selfishly and only for their own benefits. I had some neighbors & relatives I had helped so much, but in my time of trouble and pain, & after my parents' demise, they were totally and wilfully absent. They were also not only silent when another above 65yrs neighbor couple verbally & emotionally abused me and caused harm to property, they pretended as if nothing was wrong. When this raging & mean toxic elderly neighbor, a rich govt. postman (who had his own home!) fraudulently entered his name into my mother's house-deed documents in the city's records through corrupted officials he had won over, these neighbors didn't even care to ask about what & how it happened. One neighbor woman, ( whose younger sister my parents & I had helped immensely though we didn't even know her, and had stayed at our home for many months when she was in terrible crisis few years back ) whom I tried to tell about this awful act, and told her I would show those fraudulent documents to her, never again cared to inquire or even listen. Her husband suddenly stopped speaking to me and sided with the postman!! (Many good folk cared to learn about this, and stood by me.) Not only that, she regularly met with those very abusers. She tried to appear at my door every year with a church-calender, but I simply had no respect for such a cold and calculating person..and I did not get into any conversation or ever invite her indoors. This was the very woman, (when we were new as neighbors,) when no-one was at her home and a vicious street dog had bitten her she had rushed to my home out of all other neighbors, & I had immediately taken her on my scooter to the hospital and brought her back after the necessary treatment and injections.
Thank you so much for being such a great teacher and a humble man of God, many more blessings to you, l enjoy your teaching
Thank you Lord God for everything that you love me endlessly through JESUS Christ your son Amen 💖🔥🙏🙏🙏
CHRIST JESUS THANK YOU
FOR BEING MY BEST FRIEND
EVER IN THIS WORLD
I LOVE YOU CHRIST JESUS
amen
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I know I will lose many of my friends along the way in life. Many of them are non believers and I pray for them. I will keep my head up and move on. Amen…
Yes sir Amen 🙏👍
Amen. discern over ones who claim they're Christian too. I've been hurt by many Christ followers but the good thing is that Jesus never leaves me. We will lose friends along the way, but its so reassuring that when one door closes, another one ends up opening.
Problem with some people today is? They don’t know how too be committed meaning what they say standing by their words letting their actions do the talking.
Yes, that is a problem. So us Christians have to step up and stand firm in Jesus 🙏😃
Wow , that is exactly the sermon that I needed to hear today🙏
when he got to 3:27 , (Prov 16 :28) it is the perfect description of how an outsider destroyed my marriage of 9 years. Then when the dust settled, it was not repairable. I will tell you that forgiving is not always an instant or easy road. Instant forgiveness is usually a lie to yourself in order to be able to cover up the hurt & betrayal done to you.
Commitment is a very powerful word . God didn’t say forgive for no reason the moment you choose something the emotions and actions and thoughts follow your choices. So you have to forgive even when you don’t feel like it . Its the work of the Holy Spirit to heal and make your soul whole again. To restore you. Don’t put it on yourself to rid your emotions and discomfort or discouragement . Leave it to the holy spirit to do the work. That’s his work.
You are prayed for, and believe help is on the way , I know god and so do you! He knows ❤
So thankful God reveals & remove! I'm trusting the process and know they can't go where God is exalting me! Amen.
Through Jesus learn to be a better friend with yourself. The rest will come.
Some people are wicked and unreasonable: “Finally, brethren, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may run swiftly and be glorified, just as it is with you, and that we may be delivered from unreasonable and wicked men; for not all have faith.”
II Thessalonians 3:1-2 NKJV
No grudge, deliverance, Healing prayers
Thank you DR. Charles Stanley for a great reminder of genuine relationships with Christ 🙌❤️
Hallelujah, thank You Lord, for this powerful message.
Bobby I took care of my sister that had stage 4 lung cancer and it was not a pleasant thing to watch so I know what you are going through and what you are feeling I am very ill myself I don't have that much longer myself I will pray for you daily my brother🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I hope everyone reading this is finding the peace they need listening. If you are able, please pray for my wife, my marriage, and for me. Things went off the rails fast and I'm hoping for a revival.
I will keep you & your wife in my prayers 🤲🏼. Keep praying 🤲🏼. 💙🧘🏼♂️
Me too man 👍 Prayers for y'all ☺️
Best words Let go, Let God, Father God its God will, not our will.
Human love and friendship unreliable comes and goes
The eternal surpasses the temporal!
Brilliant sermon by Pastor Charles Stanley, great wisdom of God’s words spoken, thank you Pastor ❤
Thank you Sir Charles Stanley Amen ❤❤❤
Please pray for my son and his wife they have separated and I’m hoping they can work it out and that it’s God’s will for them to stay together I have been so upset about it and I’m praying that God will help them to work it out
Hey Melissa 👋 I will surely pray for them and you!!! Thanks for mentioning and I pray you will have a blessed day 🙏
Praying for your family, I hope they have reunited
Before watching this extremely timely message, I need to ask for your prayers.
I've commented on this specific incident many times, as GOD, in HIS Providence, has continued to show me many things through the utterly heartbreaking loss of this friendship, over 2 years ago.
I've been praying, and I'm going to speak with her ,GOD willing, at Church tomorrow. I'm nervous, and worried about breaking down when I speak w her. She hasn't spoken to me this whole time so it will be emotional for me.
Even so, I need to be obedient to the WORD where it says if you've offended someone go to them and make it right. I wont willingly disobey GOD'S prompting again, that's what brought me to this situation in the first place.
And even though it's my fault (due to backsliding w drugs), I feel betrayed by her.
So please, if your so inclined and led my the Holy Spirit, please pray with me for courage that I speak honestly with all the Grace that GOD will grant me, to be wise with my words, and for humility to listen to her more than I speak, and to accept accountability for my choosing drugs over her and our friendship (I didn't realize at the time thats what I did, I was in the addiction cycle and I couldn't stop) but sadly thats what I did, nonetheless.
Thank you, and may you all have a blessed and beautiful day in the LORD! 🙏✝️🤙
Hey! How did things go??
@@hollygaines9728 Hi, after all my preparation, she wasn't at Church today. I hope she's ok. GOD is SOVEREIGN, everything will happen in it's correct time.
Have a blessed day/evening.
Thank you Sir Charles 💟
Communication has always been a problem and heartbreaking. 🙏
Theseasonorg explains whole bible God bless.
Amen to the Prayer in the End 📯Besutifull and Precious 🤗Dr Charles Stanley (spiritual Dad Grandpa that speaks wise words to you that some people never had ,that rymes 😄😉),a very positive and helping Message in this video of this Gathering , this is for all of God His Children📜📯
As I am listening to Dr Stanley I have you deep in prayer🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
Dr. Stanley this was right on time. My girl friend I’ve only known for 8 months was damaged because I acted instead of responding. I truly regret how I reacted. I did apologize. She took a whole day to accept my apology. I felt better and was happy. I also asked God to forgive me too.
But I don’t feel our relationship is what it was. I asked if we could start over because I really value her friendship 🙏🏽
Bobby I am in prayer for you right now and I said before I lost my sister from stage 4 lung cancer I also lost my nephew Joseph when he was 37 and I feel very much alone just hang on to Jesus without him we won't make it🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’ve had so many friends walk out/ away from me. I don’t believe in true friendships. I do know that people will tell you exactly what you want to hear so they get their way. Any time I ask for a favor back they don’t even answer my text messages or call me back. So I believe that friends are fake. It makes me think that love is a lie from the pits of hell.
I'm so sorry for you Nathaniel. I pray that you'll soon find a good friend.
@@jenperez9293 well thank you. I really appreciate your comment
I understand you completely it’s happened to me a lot too. I pray we both find good Godly friendships. 🙏🏽sending hugs 🤗
@@NZelalem96 i hope and pray that we do find godly friendship.🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you dude. Friendships are tough. I too have seen and have experienced people walk out of my life. Something my pastor said that gave me freedom and joy in this area is to just keep smiling and move on. Its so hard when those people you invest days/months/years into decide to walk out of your life, but I like to remind myself that more often than not, rejection is protection.
The Lord told me that there were certain people that had to walk out of my life who were holding me back, could lead me down a wrong path, or just weren't good overall. Praying for you that you also get some great Godly friendships in your life that can/will pour life into you and that will stick close to you like a brother.
Wisdom right here. This was very insightful n helpful it showed me alot about myself and my friends that I love. Lord help us to understand,grow, and cherish our friendships for your glory.
What about past hurts again and again from the same friendship and you overlook it and forgive and forgive because you love this friendship dearly, but now I'm not cutting it off totally but I am reducing it to another level, I prayed about it and I've been elevating my friend as a source of my comfort and acceptance and I have asked for forgiveness from God.
Sometimes like barnabas and Paul you just go your separate ways, doesn't mean you both can't work for God etc...... also however forgive 7 x77 jesus telling Peter forgive a limitless number of times ... what ever situations diferent... but they did not die for you shed blood for you gave you gifts only one person did that. They have no control unless you allow it xx xx x
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be their friend. You can forgive and move on or love from a distance/boundaries. My ex hubby equated forgiveness with me taking him back...I forgave and filed for divorce because infidelity in marriage is one of my non negotiable standards and I didn't have peace anymore. I can't be with someone I don't trust.
@@tanitrarobinson7477 yes, good for you..... and exactly... go your separate way's.. your not a doormat either.... .... glad you did that 💪 ♥.....
Remember, in Matthew 18:22, Jesus told Peter to forgive others 70×7 times. Now Even if you tried to count all 490 times you forgave... It wouldn't work. You would get distracted by life or something else 😅. And God knows this (He knows everything). So He really means that He wants us to forgive all the time. So you should definitely forgive your friend and act like it never even happened 😀 😀. Have a blessed day!
Forgiveness doesn't mean being their friend. We can love other people, but because of their actions, they've been denied access to more intimate parts of our lives. I've been there, but ultimately, take that up with God and see what he's revealing. One of the ways in those moments is that when I didn't have a peace about the friendship, then it was necessary to enforce boundaries.
Sometimes, hanging onto certain friendships can burden us more than they bless us. Read that again because when I started to release people from my life, I could walk more into the destiny God has for my life. The Bible says to love your enemies. We should pray for them too. We never know with life. I've had people who walked out of my life try to come back, and in all those moments, give it to God. Some of them were allowed back in, others were denied access, but the ones that God said to allow them back now have boundaries. Praying that you get the comfort in your friendships that you need.
Good morning..🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿Thank you Dr. Charles Stanley...Amen
Take care.. Blessings to you..Amen
This was a good message, and really timely. I think after listening to this, I could really use some prayer. Something that hit me that kept crossing my mind is this idea that we all have friends, but to the standard we hold them is another thing.
A lot of my friendships don't seem reciprocal, or for others, its a friendship when its convenient for certain people, so I've placed boundaries. At the same time, I'm trying to be a better friend to people, but a lot of friendships can be draining, and it feeling like you're doing all the giving. I know that this is confirmation that the Lord needs me to really sit down in God's word, and really evaluate my friendships and allow him to reveal these answers to me. Furthermore, friendships just seem to get more complicated and challenging as they get older. But thanks be to God for allowing me to enter a season where I'll be praying and fasting and really getting into spending time with God to seek clarity in the area of friendships. They're really hard to navigate, and the internet has made how we define friendships so flawed and skewed. This sermon is what I needed to hear.
Characteristics of Great Friendship : We all go through trials and problems in life. In friendship with another person. Consider this : ( YOU 'RE EITHER PART OF THE SOLUTION OR PART OF THE PROBLEM ) . A good listening ears is where we start with patience and understanding . If a man has never walk through darkness ? how can he tell the other how it feels. Listen and go away and pray for the other person. Its all about Love.
Much Thanks Dr. Stanley Words of wisdom.
Amen 🙏🏼✝️, Steven. 💙🧘🏼♂️
@Steven Johnson Amen, great words brother 🙏👍
This is a good video to just learn from. I ruined a friendship recently with a woman. Pretty sure I projected, was jealous, manipulative, critical, selfish. I defended myself. Definitely need to improve and draw closer to Lord Jesus.
Amen Dr. Charles Stanley right on point
So on point! Thank you Dr. Stanley!!
When you're the only one in the friendship who's constantly reaching out and the other person doesn't reciprocate and when they do respond, the dialogue feels forced. That's what I'm dealing with and my gut feeling is telling me to take the hint because the friendship is finished. Angry? Confused? Saddened? Yes. Even if my family and friends abandon me, it is my hope that Jesus will never leave me nor will He ever forsake me!
I just wanted to add that after being snubbed without explanation, I've purposed in my heart that me and my ex-friend never met, i.e., I will block my ex-friend permanently from my memory.
Communication 🙏 Amen
Bobby just want you to know that I'm going to pray for you right now because that's what my sister had stayed for lung cancer and I took care of her for many years so I know what it's like to take care of someone that has stayed for lung cancer just want you to know that you're deeply in my prayers right now and may the Lord Jesus Christ heal you from head to toe
GOD BLESS❤❤🙏
I have No friend's, I walked away from a life style, that was Not of God. I have been saved 10 year's Now, I had friend's from church, but I moved from California to Navada, going on 2 year's, I'm in a church I really like. It's been a year at this church, but I don't talk to anyone outside of church. I've had the few friends in California 6 out of 10 have passed away, COVID, major underlined conditions. I talk to the other's, IF I call them. I take care of my mom 86, I really can't do much. But, it's nice to have someone to talk to. I'm single, I've not married people, don't care for having single woman around, I did realize this until it was pointed out.
I would say make friends outside Church, even if only 1 to begin with. We're meant to be in Fellowship with our Brothers and Sisters In Christ. Are You afraid. Do You have Siblings. A Lot of my childhood was spent in hospital. I have a twin Sister, there was Always lots of other children of my age around. But I had a Lot of time on my own, being ill, and got used to it. Am happy in my own company, though Love being with people. I have a True Friend, a Dear Christian Friend, Who Is a Huge Blessing. Due to my health, I can't get out every day. I made a Friend the other day, I Believe that it was Providence, was meant to meet Her. Don't isolate yourself, go to Bible Study, go to meeting at other's homes, to Have Fellowship, to Read The Bible together, for Help, Support, Worship, and Prayers. Have a Blessed Sunday.
What a fantastic message!
Amen. Thank you.
Very solid teaching!!! 🙏🏼🙌💖🌹🌷💐🙏🏼🙌
📖Thank you for this message 🕊Father🕊 which i needed to hear, Bless my amazing friends, family, brother's and sister's in 🕊Christ🕊. Amen 🙌💖🌷🤗
Wow!! Amazing.. Just what I needed in this moment in my life. May God bless everyone of you with these powerful words and guidance so that we can become the best person God wants us to be.
God bless everyone ❤❤
Such wisdom!!🙏🏼🙌💐🌷🌹🙌🙏🏼💐🌷🌹
BIG AMEN ❤
God will judge all of them.
Amen the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏😇❤️👏🙌
Amen 🙏🏼 Praise the Lord 🙏🏼
Amen !🙏
Thank you, Dr. Stanley. This video is a blessing to me. I am hoping on restoration of friendship between myself and Kim. I miss her dearly and lift her up in prayer. I pray The LORD continues to change my heart as well ✝️
🙏 My Only Friend It's Jesus Christ of Nazareth 🙏 no need for more 🙏
Literally the only friend I have is Jesus Christ!blessings&Love my sister in Christ🌿🥀🌿
❤️❤️Amen
Great message Amen
Wonderful!
October 2022 thanks
Amen.
Amen!
Nice sermon
I love this but for peace we have to just move on and just let the lord work things out how he sees will be most beneficial
As a believer their are several folks I’ve cut ties with saved or lost that’s just life you just do what you have to do to have peace no matter who it is no matter if you apologize or the others person did it’s not worth reigniting issues drama gossip pain etc give it to the lord let it go
And rest in the lord tell him all about it domt get ahead of him and revisit the past or bring up old thing it only causes issues at some point depending on how others take it or react so it’s better to let go let God fight the battles and mend things his way
I guess it depends on how your lead either way you take a change I’d just rather have peace keep peace and keep on moving but that’s just me every man is to be pursuaded in his or her own mind
Amen, I agree with you sister (brother)
I agree. That is how I see it too. Saved or loss, its life, and the Bible says let us not remember the former things. Its so helpful to get to that place in your walk with God when you can be free from those things.
Dr. Charles Stanley you the GOAT!!
In Jesus name Amen 🙏 🙌 ✨ ❤ 💖 💓 🙏 🙌
Amen 🙏🙌🙌
My phone is not know how to spell anymore I meant stage 4 lung cancer you are deep in my prayers❤❤❤❤
I really like Dr Stanley and his advice. For years I have listened to him...however in this message I have to disagree that apologizing when you did nothing wrong to save a friendship is such wrong advice. Toxic and arrogant people never apologize and do much harm and if you apologize to them according to Dr. Stanley's advice you will be setting yourself up for abuse.
Yes you are right 👍
The only thing you could do then to be helpful is to try to share Jesus with them 😀
I am in agreement with you, well said
I have been betrayed and burnt by people who I really thought were my trusting friends .. me always giving until I could give no more - my box became empty - all they did was take .. I am so leery of trying to make any friends anymore .. I just go about my business and just hide ..just don’t want to get close to anyone anymore ..
I've been there. But I promise you, there are good people out there. It can be hard though. I find I'm still healing in that area. I'm at a very loving Church, but I've been burnt by a lot of past ones. Especially one I went to where friendships didn't prosper, and I felt used for my gifts rather than feeling valued.
We don't need a lot of friends, nor do we have to get close to a lot of people. We can trust God for the people he sends into our lives. And maybe this is a season you may be in the wilderness to keep seeking God and ask him for true relationships to form.
Sorry Dr. Stanley but very time I apologized to someone when I knew it was the other persons fault the other person did it again and again. It always gave them the green light to keep on doing it, and believing that its alright to do it!
Wow great statement @An L. This happens to me with my sister to this day. What I started doing is telling my sister about her fault and that she keeps doing it. I do this so maybe she will stop. I dunno who you're talking to (a friend, family, stranger, etc) but another thing you could do... The best thing.... Is to talk to God about it. Whenever you have time ask God to change this person in Jesus name and it will be done! Prayers for you my friend and have a blessed day (night) 🙏 Hope this helps ☺️
Someone came in between our friendship
I dont know how to fix it
It's 2022 A D.!!
When someone show u who they are believe that. A lot of people Dont ask God, properly vet a person Be4 getting involved with them.
To many people go to job to make friends ur coworkers are not ur friends. I will say u can have friends on the job u got do it the right way. I have few formers coworkers we are in good relationship. Everyone not going to have our best interest. Some people change will u do better in one area or more.
I come in agreement in faith in my friendship with Brian Feldkamp in Jesus Christ Almighty name Amen and Amen Joanna Perschall Etter
God Guide me to do everything necessary to save my friendship with Brian F. Thank you Lord Jesus Christ Almighty you have already done it.
God help my friend Brian Feldkamp to become a Godly person, take him higher in you for your Glory I declare and decree in Jesus name Amen and Amen Joanna Perschall Etter
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Now, we have scammers not friends. Evil folks set by the evil ones to destroy God's will in our life. Warfare, against God.
I can't trust nobody so how do I overcome that?
Pray To The Lord, to Have Love and Forgiveness towards your Fellowman, and Towards those that hurt You. Pray For The Healing of All past hurts/abuse.
@@viviennejordan215 amen 🙏🏼! Prayers 🤲🏼 helps. 💙🧘🏼♂️
Chris, Praying is always an alternative. Because you can talk to God anytime and anywhere. Pray about this and talk this over with God so He'll help you overcome!!!!!!!!
@@viviennejordan215 yt didn't notify me of the replies. Thank you so much and yes it definitely has roots from hurt and Abuse. You saw right through me. God Bless You Abundantly 🙏
@@anitajenkins8992 thank you Anita. Have a Blessed Day
What about being the only godly one, and the other person is a manipulator? Should we do all we can to save a relationship that's bad for us?
You know what that's a good question. On my opinion you should try to keep at least a close bond so you can share the gospel with them. But other than that... yea... You should not keep that "bad" relationship if there's no purpose. It could harm you and they could try to get you away from Christ. Hopefully hear my answer will help. But if not Prayers for you 🤠
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Great question. I think it comes down to prayer first, then peace. By that, what I'm referring to is if there is any peace in the friendship. Sometimes, as much as we want to save a friendship, we're almost better letting it go to keep growing. Some pastors and even the life of Jesus in sermons I've watched say that faith will cost us something. Friendships is one of them. Even with many Christians unfortunately.
What if it’s parents that don’t give love in return?
That's very sad . Hope your ok
@@terrymcdermott8320 iI find love with God & my husband. Because of lack of love from parents, I spent my lifetime questioning others if theirs was sincere. Hasn’t been an easy road for me or the people that genuinely, really cared. I pushed plenty people away. I thank you for your comment . ♥️
@@Michelle_9_27 God bless you and your husband 🙏
I'm praying for you I hope that you didn't get lung cancer from smoking 😂
I know some people get lung cancer that don't smoke that's why I say that.
God says be not deceived God is Not mocked whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap.
But some people reap stuff that they did not sow I'm glad you are a Christian because the rapture will be soon and then you'll get a glorified❤❤❤❤ fear not
13:50 Well, it's a little different when they keep throwing stones at you over and over again when you have done nothing. they need to repent
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