As an educator this made me so sad that a teacher did not look out for this boy. A child falling asleep regularly in class should be concerning and warrent at least a conversation let alone some empathetic action. Taking away a desk from him was an act of cruelty. This type of behavior would now be monotored adn reported on here in Australia.
I have severe C-PTSD from sexual abuse that occurred for four years every other day starting at 8. The amount of damage it has caused in my life is almost inexplainable. Seeing him start losing himself was heart wrenching and so familiar. I resorted to self harm extensively well into my twenties. This past summer was 5 years self harm free though I struggle still with substances and other maladaptive coping skills but I'm working every day to try and heal to whatever capacity I can.
as horrible as trauma is, it is something that can be turned into a force that makes you a stronger and more capable person as you work through your trauma and process it through life...i relate to your experience and i didnt even recognize the fact i was abused, or address the abuse until my mid 20s...on a psychedelic trip, it all came flooding into the forefront of my mind and i could no longer ignore it, pretend it was normal for a kid to experience or that it didnt happen, i was forced to face it and this was just a couple years ago..im still dealing with this and its affected my entire life as well
Damn I’m sorry to hear that, I’ve had terrible psychological abuse as a child from my own family and school from 11 to 18 and it was hell, still is and changed me completely,How did you cope with you’re abuse in the moment? Because in my case I just shuted down my brain and went elsewhere mentally but now my brain keeps doing it compulsively even when I don’t want to and I’m stuck like I am still at that time of my abuse, What was you’re coping mecanism in you’re mind on those moments? sorry If im asking something too personal, feel free to don’t answer If you don’t want to
cptsd is the first thing I thought of while watching their pod. Im four years into deep study of trauma and discovered it in dr carnes book the betrayal bond. then had a bunch of peter walkers work given to me here on YT by the crappy childhood fairy. her work is incredible. she does what i do with abused women but on a much larger scale. she's fantastic
My husband grew up like Sean and has responded to life like Sean has. We've been married for 34 years and it has taken me just about that long to understand him and learn how to be patient enough to really help him. I've tentatively diagnosed him with borderline personality disorder and I became the person he's terrified of loosing when we met in 8th grade. Later, he told me after we met, he felt hope for the first time in his life. He had always assumed he would just end up in prison but that changed when he met me. He boxed and played football to release some of his anger. I'm just glad I could be part of his life. We have 4 kids and 3 grandchildren. Life has been very difficult, but I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
You are truly and incredible person, my fiancé has %100 saved my life I would do anything for her for the patience and care she has shown me even when I’ve been at my worse I’ve never felt any judgment which was new and gave me a huge sense of peace around her I’m sure your husband feels the same way with you
Thank you for sharing that. I also have a borderline husband who I love dearly, but he struggles with getting the help he needs. He’s an alcoholic and has been sober for months, but has not yet swallowed his pride to start a program where he can talk to others who struggle the way he does. I have hope some days other days I lose all hope and just want to leave him. It’s such a tough choice because a big part of him is still just a little kid. The abuse he suffered from an alcoholic father never allowed him to mature fully. Reading these comments has given me at least a feeling of community
I was diagnosed with borderline but I've found out what I really have is cptsd. I've had all the same issues as your husband...let me tell you this... He's very lucky to have you. I wish I'd found someone who could accept me the same way you did him cos we can try and ruin everything around us including relationships. God bless you.
I don't know either of these guys, but when the host mmediately changed his tone and direction to accomodate what his guest was clearly going through, I felt such respect for that level fo empathy and compassion. It hit
See now, not many people would want footage like that ever getting out. Mostly because of our own ego. If Sean didn't give Theo the green light to put this out then none of us would be able to see this.
Thank you so much for making this video. I have always felt a kinship with Sean Strickland because Of my own childhood trauma. I understand why he is the way he is. He comes off so belligerent but underneath it all just wants to protect kids. He’s been extremely misrepresented and taken out of context, which is unnecessary because some of the things he says in context are rough enough for people to take issue with him. It upsets me when people call him racist or homophobic because he’s gone out of his way to talk about how he worked his way out of a racist mindset and has no problem with gay people. He just doesn’t want children to be sexualized. Anyway, thank you for taking time to empathize with such a controversial figure. I think he has a lot of good in him and people like you can help others see his humanity.
For those who have been through trauma, Sean opening up really helps… fuck, I cried like a baby listening to him; so many relatable moments in that discussion - thank you Sean 👍
When one is empathetic one can’t help but feel very confronted by the visceral reaction Mr Strickland is going through as he recalls memories and his body ignites with recollection and then his response to his own response. I don’t know much about him but I commend his awareness AND honesty that he has violent fantasies, has violent desires, and that unmitigated violence isn’t compatible with society. Being clear about what he wants, thinks, and why, and what to do about it, is how he’s probably avoided murder, man slaughter or grievous harm charges. That’s definitely positive and an incredible feat for someone who has clearly had non-stop, immersive trauma, terror and rage. Hopefully he’s never provoked by someone in bad faith, because if his response is so visceral it would be so regrettable if he lost control when being pushed, for all involved.
Every word Sean says makes total sense. I’m a female and have often been told by men I am not nurturing or sensitive enough, I could never explain myself to them, but pretty much everything Sean says about feeling like you have to protect your mom and always being ready to kill someone, I still feel like that. Dude makes total sense.
Thank you for acknowledging that fear from trauma is in the body, and not purely cognitive. That's one of the problems I had with CBT. It effectively got rid of a lot of my anxious thoughts, and gave me the tools to rationally argue against them when they do pop up, but I still have the physiological fear process in my body when my trauma is triggered. The really frustrating thing is that in my late teens when I first went to the doctor for help because anxiety and depression were having a serious impact on my schoolwork, I already knew what the root cause was, and I told him about it. He still referred me for CBT, rather than anything more appropriate for trauma. I found the dismissive nature of the CBT quite upsetting and it put me off seeking therapy for a long time. Now in my late 20s, I have developed a significant physical illness and have had to stop work. The trauma was being triggered almost every day at work because one of the people supervising me looked and sounded similar to an adult involved in causing me trauma at school. I kept going into work even though the anxiety felt horrible, the CBT had taught me to persist and not be avoidant. I kept working until I became so physically ill that I could not continue to work. I became physically ill because there was so much cortisol for so long from the prolonged stress that my cortisol system became dysregulated. This is one of the mechanisms which can cause ME/CFS to develop. Now I'm in treatment for that and I hope it's possible that I'll be able to recover enough to work at least part time in the future, but there's no guarantee of that. Hearing from therapists and psychiatrists on youtube about how they treat trauma is reassuring and has given me the courage and knowledge of different therapy types to try seeking therapy that is more appropriate for me. I want to avoid this cycle of becoming physically ill again if I'm able to go back to work. If it wasn't for doctors like yourself I might still be very reluctant to give therapy another chance. Thank you.
I've developed chronic fatigue too after also being in CBT therapy for a year and persevering in a work environment that triggered my trauma. The way you've phrased this sheds some light on how this illness developed, so thank you. I've been taking the advice of CFS recovery on RUclips and doing vagus nerve exercises which have made a huge difference. Finding the desire to get better to just go back out into the unforgiving world that did this to me is the hardest part for me. Not to be dramatic lol but yeah I've sort of given up and dont really want anything that life has to offer. Just gotta keep going through the motions until I start to feel something. Hope things start to pick up for you soon, wishing you all the best
Seans childhood is very similar to my own, so i totally understand his emotions and his personality, Spending your childhood hyper vigilant is not good and the damage lasts a lifetime. We never truly recover and i'm not sure most of us ever really find our true self Seans podcast hit ,me like a ton of bricks
After finishing this video, i want to express how grateful i am that my two sons have a great father. This was really an eye opener into how men deal with trauma and how its different from women in some ways
I had a feeling there was something more to his (Sean’s) comments, that Brad Polumbo commented on. 😢❤ And thank you, Dr. Syl for making this video. ❤️ ❤️
Great vid, I’d like to point out it’s not just men who minimise and act that way physically being uncomfortable and restless talking about difficult things. I often find myself reacting just like that, it’s like I can feel how uncomfortable it makes others and that makes it even worse for me so I often smile as I say these things and realise how weird that must be in a way it’s even worse when people are sympathetic then because they “see me” and I try so hard to hide that because I had to, even when it’s positive, it’s so unnerving to me.
Thank you for uploading this video. I cried during the video and for the little boy he was. I think his trauma started way earlier in life as he speaks about here. And I guess there are several layers to his trauma and his story too.
Wow - this was so important to watch. It hit home for me as well. My brother was the recipient of most of the abuse at home from our father. To the point where I’d sleep outside his bedroom door to try and protect him. We don’t often get insight into how trauma manifests in a masculine personality but I could hear so much of my brother in this interview. He’s now just starting to address the impact the abuse had on himself and I’m happy for him. Mental health among men is such an important conversation- thank you.
I`m diagnosed with C-PDST, and other "F"s from ICD10. Friends and Others telling me I´m the funniest person they know. It can be used as defense mechanism but it is also important to survive. In Germany it is called "Galgenhumor", wich means gallows humor.
Thank you for this excellent video depicting the lifelong effects of childhood trauma and neglect. I have a lived experience of complex PTSD as a result of being separated from my mother at birth and being adopted by two people who meant well for the most part, but who were woefully lacking in emotional intelligence and essentially unconsciously continued on intergerational trauma b/c that's all they knew and thought was normal. For me real change started to happen 4 years ago when I engaged with a trauma focussed psychotherapist who uses Somatic Experiencing primarily. I suffer from so much body pain and stiffness these days and believe a lot of it has to do with suppressed emotions trapped in the body. And I have ground my teeth in my sleep since I was 7 when one of my adoptive brothers died in a car accident & I had nightmares nightly fearing I would wake up & both my parents would be dead. That's over 55 years ago now.
This was excellent, Dr. Syl. Thank you for the thoughtful reaction and choosing this particular interview to share, with a focus on men. Trauma-informed care (TIC) and responses are HUGE! TIC is central to everything I do as a professional victim advocate working with survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, and stalking. The neurobiology and brain-body connection is absolutely embedded in survivors of trauma and neglect, such as these men. Complex causes require complex solutions; I'm adding this to my repertoire of what I say when training advocates and working with survivors. Keep the videos coming! I hope you reach your subscriber goal!
What you are saying is so very important that we develop our sense of self through others. That's why I get so angry when I hear people say "Oh what people think of you is none of your business". It absolutely is. What people think of you and how you are treated gives you self esteem. Those people who have an opinion about you are the ones who make decisions about your life !!
I wish all humans could view the world through compassion like survivors of trauma who have learned to start to heal themselves do. There’s something that cannot be taught unless you’ve gone through it that will forever change how you view yourself and others if you open yourself to it. Empathy is the only thing that can save this world.
Great video uncomfortable to watch because so much of it resonated with me . I’ve had therapy now for 25 years and still feel the rage . Can relate so much of this video with my parents thankfully one is deceased. He can’t hurt me anymore.
Well done. As a survivor of childhood abuse, this was insightful. I feel Sean is crying out in this video and I hope there are people that care about him that he listens to and he’s getting the help he needs. Otherwise I hope the authorities are keeping an eye on him. I’m surprised you can admit to such dark urges on such a large platform and not have a full time escort to keep you from harming others.
Sean has a very good support system with his gym. The UFC, who often gets a bad wrap, actually takes pretty good care of him. When he won the title in Australia for example, after an exchange with a fan they hired a bodyguard to stay with Sean the rest of the week and keep troublesome situations from arising. The problem is Sean is great with people, so he never says no, and there is always that one person who pokes the bear to see what happens.
@@user-xk9wl7nh7o I have heard the same thing. When he’s not training he goes into isolation with his girlfriend and very close friends so he never gets into a bad situation. I’m so glad that he found the UFC before he ended up taking someone’s life and wasting away in prison. The fact that he’s willing to admit, he wants to kill a man is pretty amazing because there are a lot more people than him that have those tendencies who are not willing to admit it to themselves or others. I find them to be more dangerous than someone who is honest enough to let you see the monster, that they are rather than hide it away from themselves until rage makes that monster take someone else’s life.
If youve never had CPTSD or PTSD and its comorbid mental problems, you will never in 10 million years understand what its like in any capacity. Im not gatekeeping but it is true. For example ive never had schizophrenia or BPD e.g. I can NEVER undertsand what it is like to suffer from it.
I feel like i've just had a therapy session watching this great video. Love Theo. I had just watched his video and then found yours so it was perfect. Thanks.
Great review. I think Sean likes to fight because it reinforces his ability to defend himself. I think the only man he really wants to kill is his father. If he did kill an opponent, I think the guilt would push him over the edge.
Most of his podcast interviews he’s brutally honest about his childhood and it was hellish. He rarely shows emotion when talking about it uses dark humour to get through the telling of it. He has a high level of self awareness that I really admire- he is who he is and a lot of people love him for it. Look at his reaction to bruising Nina Drama’s leg after a workout session, he’s genuinely upset. They have a sweet almost sibling like friendship because she gets who he is.
Thank you for explaining that ADHD can stem from different reasons, I did not know that... Also, you'll get to 100K subs well before your birthday! Really nice content!
I ran across this video and I get why im so fucked up now. It makes perfect sense. Its amazing how we all handle things differently. It makes a man tough as nails for sure.
Thank you for this, its the first time I seen your channel, and it made my day into one of examination, discovery and healing. Very much appreciated, thank you. Wow,
I appreciate the commentary from you Dr. Syl! One of the most insightful commentary channels on youtube, no doubt due to your education/training as a Doctor. Thankyou for spending the time to react to these videos!
Im no dr but been closely working with victims for years and read all the books and also been doing martial arts for a long time. one point that Dr Syl missed about the happiest moment of Seans life is that getting the shit kicked out of you is ; a. A badge of honor. Surviving a sparring session as a new person is a badge of honor. Also something to look forward to every day when he is at home. Also something he knows can help him help his mom. Someone made to feel weak proving to everyone and themselves that they are actually tough, is empowering and provides hope. Essentially a lifeline b. Great for bonding. The brotherhood and bonding of combat is a very real thing. Play for adults is mostly absent in modern times. So this isn't only play, but unlike something like rock climbing (which is also great of course) its more intimate. It takes a lot of trust to do combat sports. striking and submission arts (two arts sean does consistently) have potential for exponential amounts of bonding because the consequences of violating the trust in the group and with each separate individual in the group are a concussion, broken bone or putting someone unconscious. the stakes are very high
You said something like “humor is a very important to for process trauma” and yes it is, that’s why we can’t cancel people for telling jokes. And can’t encourage that. As Chappelle said “everything’s funny, til it happens to you.” Yup, and you have to roll with the punches even if it offends you, cuz it might significantly help someone who really needs help more than the importance of your perceived offense.
I don't see Sean as a Bully, if anything he's an anti bully, he bullies the bullies. He calls things out and has strong opinions. However he's endured a lot of trauma and is a bit of a lost soul so his inability to filter himself comes across as abrasive. If you want to see ACTUAL bullies in the ufc just look at Ian Garry and Jon Jones. They're messed up and get pleasure from putting others down while playing victim themselves constantly. They're infuriating. Sean doesn't have that same drive in terms of his vocal opinions. It's not coming from a place of putting anyone down.
I agree that there is often an explanatory backstory that started a bully's actions. That makes life seem plain cruel all way around, to both the bully and their victims. But this video also made me think that there is also a backstory behind front line workers that inspired them to want to incite change. I felt it a lot with this episode as I can see that it hit Dr. Syl personally. I hope we find paths to become the helpers we needed as kids. That's one of the few reasons I find living to be just a little bit more hopeful.
I don't consider him to be a bully imo he's a shock jockey he says shocking sh*t for views and some of his opinions are valid like his view on the hypocrisy of Israel Adesanya.
This interview made me absolutely love Shaun Strickland the first time I saw it. I really think it’s an absolute case study for what severe trauma does to males, in terms of self image, reaction, and specifically in the idiosyncrasies of shaun Strickland. I never seen someone both tell and embody every part of how I feel discussing my trauma all in one video. The humor just being a few hairs away from tears etc. however when u mention wanting to understand the humor and why it helps, I suppose to me it’s for 2 reasons. One is it confirms to me “it’s over, I don’t have to be afraid anymore.” The other is that, growing up in an awful household, is in some ways like living in a sitcom. When people are that broken, they never learn from their mistakes. Or at least they learn the cartoonishly wrong message from their mistakes. So part of the humor is like, telling the story, and almost imagining the seinfeld bassline playing behind it lol. Because the behavior of those involved in those households (both the victims and the perpetrators) is so unchanging and archetypal, that it results in almost comedically predictable stories. Stories that in the moment were obviously terrifying, and to outsiders possibly disturbing, but to me, it has become funny. Just like how Kramer always has his “crazy scheme,” my dad always had his completely self absorbed behavior, that always resulted in absurd consequences, that (even funnier) he could never connect to being of his own device, since, well, he has no self awareness or insight. In an almost more morbid yet comedic way, it’s like slap stick looney toons. Bugs bunny smoking Yosemite same with a shotgun and me getting absolutely laid into has this weird comedic connection in a dissociated retrospective way. Idk, truthfully people who say not to joke about trauma, I’ve always felt a lot of resentment towards. It’s normally people who are so focused on appearing empathic, they aren’t able to empathize at all with someone who actually dealt with what they think they are defending against. It’s not like I only use humor to process trauma, but come on, what do you want me to do lol? Break down and cry at work? Of course I’m gonna crack jokes. I’m convinced the mass wave of “unjokeable topics” has resulted in a worsening of symptoms and feelings of powerlessness in people.
The teacher perpetuated the harm. He probably needed someone outside the family system to notice and help. The teacher made it worse. Another person who was supposed to provide care and instead harmed.
I agree with you but I have many teachers in my family. They recognize the issues, but aren't given much power to do anything about it. Furthermore, they have to care for 30 other students at the same time. It's a lot to put on one person.
This last minute of interview was intense and so honest😳. I hope Sean receives some help with his issues. Must be very difficult to live with all this rage inside.
Damn! So much pain running through his veins. 😢. I get it. Cause pain to others that was put onto you. For himself to let him be vulnerable and shed tears is healing. In a safe place, he needs to be able to cry out all the pain from his childhood, give his inner child a voice, scream to the top of his lungs and an anger management safe place to break sh*t up with a baseball bat or boxing gloves. I really get it. His inner child needs an outlet. I truly sympathize. I’m glad I watched this interview 🙏🏻
Could not finish this. Reminded me of when I had to save my mother when her drunken husband had her backed up against the kitchen wall and said “I could kill you.” I was in the hallway peeping through the grill of our house heater. She had already tried and failed to leave the kitchen once so I thought he was serious. But my childish mind thought that he wouldn’t follow through if I came out from hiding. Either I was right or he was saying those things to control her but not ready to kill. I think I am over it, but not being able to watch this shows me different.
Found you today, seen a couple of your yt videos - really good for me today, also this bro conversation is really the deepest talk I’ve seen between two guys, wow ❤
The interviewer is honorable for giving him space. This moment may be therapeutic as well, as the interviewer created a safe space to talk and a gentle nonpressured time to calm down My ex had anger issues and would do the same thing by grunting, pacing, and clenched fists. He’d punch holes in walls. Most likely why this energy is so triggering. Ironically or not, my ex now has his PhD in Clinical Psychology and his own practice. Seeing his reactions brings me back to the fear of his aggression. I got this 😮💨
He's starting to see the forest through the trees in real time, and in front of everyone. When you go through a lot of crazy shit, some people become dark and angry. You construct a mentality of work hard and don't be a pussy so that you're too busy to deal with your past. Now that he's so famous, he's being forced to look in the mirror and deal with his trauma. He's put himself into a position where people want to see him self destruct for their entertainment because of the things that he says and does. Some men never slow down and deal with their past, the majority of them end up in prison or dead. He really seems like he wants to be a good person, but he knows that he's been a pos (with little fault of his own) for most of his life. The ball is in his court, he can deal with his shit and get the help that he needs, or end up being a statistic. I'm rooting for the guy, but the the deck is stacked against him with him being a public figure and with all of the shit talking he does. If he changes, half of his current fans will turn on him and his detractors will double down on bringing up his past and trying to nudge him closer to self destruction.
I had a VERY similar childhood to Sean's, without the neglect. I've found therapy to be almost wholely ineffective, but I think I'm much more introspective than Sean. His emotions seem to be raw, and his pain visceral.
As well as fighters can have concussions that can affect how their brain can work effectively; typically anger issues, going from 1-10 in intensity, within seconds.
Sigmund Freud would be so proud that I'm psychoanalyzing you, but I must admit it creeps some people out. This one woman ran from the room in panic. Having read all manner of books on psychiatry and psychology I am well versed. I also like physics, but I'm no physicist either. Well, I just wanted to say, I enjoy watching your videos. If my neurotransmitters didn't short circuit I could have gone to university too. At 18 years of age I was locked up in a psychiatric hospital. I'm 54 now.
I love your reaction videos, this was really insightful and I actually prefer the longer format. There’s a video called “Andrea Yates | The Crime That Changed Mental Healthcare Forever” by the creator Behind Criminal Minds; It’s long but the creator really goes into the details surrounding the psychiatric care history of the perpetrator and I’d be super interested in your insights on the entire case!
This is why you cannot criticize and hate a racist into being a more tolerant. You cannot hate and judge someone into being loving. When you see a bully or a racist, you are seeing someone that needs love more than anyone else. You are seeing a victim. It’s the easiest thing on the world to hate the hateful. This is not a virtue. It requires no skill, strength or integrity. Loving the unlovely is a virtue. That’s what requires strength, skill and true compassion.
As a Christian I agree with this. This is why I believe Jesus says to love your enemies. Or how a soft word can change someone rather than a harsh word. Growing up I thought this way but lately I’ve been hating my enemies. Your comment made me realize I need to go back. Perhaps God is speaking to me as well.
If you thought his story was wild, you wouldn't want to hear mine . I'll say, much respect to him. My PTSD is a bit different but it's PTSD and I understand why he does what he does.
Theo saying we don't have to talk I can just sit here with you to me is so powerful and real. Shows me how much he cares for others and knows what there is nothing in this moment he can say to get him out until this thought has passed. So he brings him back with a terrible piss joke lol
my farther was a big part of my life to be honest he was the only one that understood me, i think also i find it hard to understand people emotionally unless they say how they are feeling then i can respond to it. my farther understood that about me, i do feel emotions its just hard to detect emotional states in others.
"Mental health affects everyone, even UFC fighters" Mate, you've no idea. I follow the UFC. Believe me, this is not an isolated incident. Look up Diego Sanchez or Tony Ferguson for good examples. Great video!
studying redstar vs partizan crowd youtube & find it filled with auditory hallucinations that seem rather grandiose in a persercutory manner. i wonder if anyone here has experienced this or is interested in experimenting on their self with them. good luck all. from the heart & her spirit belonging to his Soul. xoxo
What are your thoughts on emotional abuse vs. physical abuse in causing trauma responses? My parents only hit me one or two times but they HATED each other and were constantly playing me in the middle - plus I have Autism, which is not what they signed up for - the only help I got for that was ‘study harder and just don’t be Autistic’ (I’m old - this was the 70s) Cam emotional abuse like that also cause PTSD/C-PTSD?
I think it's interesting how perceptions on emotional abuse can differ greatly from other abuse. I have deep trauma from childhood that has resulted in issues with addiction, interpersonal relationships, trust, fear, rejection, abandonment, self worth, intimacy, co-dependance, people pleasing, the list goes on. I always downplayed my pain because I felt it was insignificant compared to others physical and sexual abuse/trauma. I learned in rehab that even if it's emotional, it's still trauma and its MY trauma, which clearly has left significant negative lasting effects in my life as an adult. To answer your question.... 1000% it can cause complex PTSD.
i'm a fan of theo and i don't know who this guy he is interviewing is, but i hope he knows what happened to him is not ok but please dont let it define you... I am speaking from care and experience.
Excellent analysis of this poor guy's behavior from surviving a horrifically abusive childhood here in the US. Also, no kid should also have to go to bed hungry, thirsty, cold and in fear of getting blown up in the middle of the night bc they're victims of a war torn country, most likely funded and instigated by the US government! Like the kids in Palestine, Yemen, Ukraine, and all the other places targeted by our gov...😮😢
23:13 Braindamage is NOT the goal of UFC... You can also win by splitting a spleen! LOL Anyways, for a psychologist I thought the determination was just too singlesided without nuance. I am an electrician. My goal is not to electrocute ppl even though I bring the power. I have my own traumas and physical manifestations. When I get too anxious and feel preassured into a situation I don't like, I start pullinghairs out of my beard. sometimes I have to shave for weeks just to make myself unable to do it because I can't stop doing it without thinking and I end up with big balled patches. Over the years I have slowly learned to recognize the patterns and get myself out of the situation causing it... but some situations can't be avoided, so I still go through periods struggeling with this...
It really means a lot that men are talking more and more about their struggles and life experience with this candidness, hopefully it means the world is finally becoming safe enough for some guys to feel comfortable even trying. There are so many stories that have gone unspoken that matter
@@KayosHybrid yeah. we need to talk and communicate and not judge others or ourselves. I am so glad the world seems to be shifting towards this after the recent year of toxic masculinity and fake bravado being applauded by so many. Sean is definetly a crude man... But he just made himself extremely relatable to allmost everyone. A "fun" observation: In many ways he reminds me of Mike Tyson. I wonder if Sean will grow into a wise gentle man in the same way as he ages. It could be really interesting hearing them talk about their lives, but I am not sure either of them could handle it honestly... I hope Sean finds a way into mentoring young fighters like himself when he retires from the octagon. I think that could really make him grow and help alot of young men in similar situations.
@@JokerInk-CustomBuilds it’s always easier to celebrate crude, baseless virtue (he’s cool, he’s rich, he’s tough) because it doesn’t require anything of us. We don’t have to become better people, look inward, admit we need help, admit we’re lost. Insecure young men don’t always have the resources to tackle something like that. Plus conservatism loves to point to a YesterYear as a golden social example we need to return to, because again it requires no development, no growth, but regression and dependence on crutches. Appealing to tradition is a form of running away or accepting a prescribed life instead of trying to live your own. But like all scams it has no legs to walk on, ans it collapses under its own weight
I really hope Sean gets help. It worries me that he has a skill set that essentially makes him a weapon paired with what seems to be some anti-social tendencies. I saw him on a show where he told the hosts that their “softness” makes him fantasize about doing violent acts to them. He was trying to convey how his childhood trauma had distorted his day to day outlook and wasn’t threatening them but that really stuck with me.
Hey doc…. The grinding and clenching is also an ADHD thing. It’s a sensory stim for many of us. The biting of the inside of our mouthes. We hold a lot of tension in our bodies. Is the anxiety from years of undiagnosed ADHD or is the anxiety simply a comorbidity? I’m still trying to comprehend the complexity of the diagnosis.
Anyone who thinks Sean says the things he says on stage in real life all the time. “Omg your insulting people who you are about to fight so you can sell more drama and make money the same way literally every fighter ever does?”😱😱😱😱😱😱
As an educator this made me so sad that a teacher did not look out for this boy. A child falling asleep regularly in class should be concerning and warrent at least a conversation let alone some empathetic action. Taking away a desk from him was an act of cruelty. This type of behavior would now be monotored adn reported on here in Australia.
I have severe C-PTSD from sexual abuse that occurred for four years every other day starting at 8. The amount of damage it has caused in my life is almost inexplainable. Seeing him start losing himself was heart wrenching and so familiar. I resorted to self harm extensively well into my twenties. This past summer was 5 years self harm free though I struggle still with substances and other maladaptive coping skills but I'm working every day to try and heal to whatever capacity I can.
Every day in recovery is a victory ❤️ your mind, self and body are deserving of comfort and peace
You are doing right by you, for you. Much respect.
as horrible as trauma is, it is something that can be turned into a force that makes you a stronger and more capable person as you work through your trauma and process it through life...i relate to your experience and i didnt even recognize the fact i was abused, or address the abuse until my mid 20s...on a psychedelic trip, it all came flooding into the forefront of my mind and i could no longer ignore it, pretend it was normal for a kid to experience or that it didnt happen, i was forced to face it and this was just a couple years ago..im still dealing with this and its affected my entire life as well
Damn I’m sorry to hear that, I’ve had terrible psychological abuse as a child from my own family and school from 11 to 18 and it was hell, still is and changed me completely,How did you cope with you’re abuse in the moment? Because in my case I just shuted down my brain and went elsewhere mentally but now my brain keeps doing it compulsively even when I don’t want to and I’m stuck like I am still at that time of my abuse, What was you’re coping mecanism in you’re mind on those moments? sorry If im asking something too personal, feel free to don’t answer If you don’t want to
cptsd is the first thing I thought of while watching their pod. Im four years into deep study of trauma and discovered it in dr carnes book the betrayal bond. then had a bunch of peter walkers work given to me here on YT by the crappy childhood fairy. her work is incredible. she does what i do with abused women but on a much larger scale. she's fantastic
Sean should be very proud of himself to be able to achieve what he has in life despite his terrible upbringing. I’m rooting for that guy
Me too
My husband grew up like Sean and has responded to life like Sean has. We've been married for 34 years and it has taken me just about that long to understand him and learn how to be patient enough to really help him. I've tentatively diagnosed him with borderline personality disorder and I became the person he's terrified of loosing when we met in 8th grade. Later, he told me after we met, he felt hope for the first time in his life. He had always assumed he would just end up in prison but that changed when he met me. He boxed and played football to release some of his anger. I'm just glad I could be part of his life. We have 4 kids and 3 grandchildren. Life has been very difficult, but I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
You are truly and incredible person, my fiancé has %100 saved my life I would do anything for her for the patience and care she has shown me even when I’ve been at my worse I’ve never felt any judgment which was new and gave me a huge sense of peace around her I’m sure your husband feels the same way with you
Thank you for sharing that. I also have a borderline husband who I love dearly, but he struggles with getting the help he needs. He’s an alcoholic and has been sober for months, but has not yet swallowed his pride to start a program where he can talk to others who struggle the way he does. I have hope some days other days I lose all hope and just want to leave him. It’s such a tough choice because a big part of him is still just a little kid. The abuse he suffered from an alcoholic father never allowed him to mature fully. Reading these comments has given me at least a feeling of community
I was diagnosed with borderline but I've found out what I really have is cptsd. I've had all the same issues as your husband...let me tell you this... He's very lucky to have you. I wish I'd found someone who could accept me the same way you did him cos we can try and ruin everything around us including relationships. God bless you.
Cool lady🤜
Sean is a good guy he isnt a bully
I don't know either of these guys, but when the host mmediately changed his tone and direction to accomodate what his guest was clearly going through, I felt such respect for that level fo empathy and compassion. It hit
Because humor can de-escalate the power you give your own trauma atleast thats how i feel about mine
See now, not many people would want footage like that ever getting out. Mostly because of our own ego. If Sean didn't give Theo the green light to put this out then none of us would be able to see this.
Thank you so much for making this video. I have always felt a kinship with Sean Strickland because Of my own childhood trauma. I understand why he is the way he is. He comes off so belligerent but underneath it all just wants to protect kids. He’s been extremely misrepresented and taken out of context, which is unnecessary because some of the things he says in context are rough enough for people to take issue with him. It upsets me when people call him racist or homophobic because he’s gone out of his way to talk about how he worked his way out of a racist mindset and has no problem with gay people. He just doesn’t want children to be sexualized.
Anyway, thank you for taking time to empathize with such a controversial figure. I think he has a lot of good in him and people like you can help others see his humanity.
For those who have been through trauma, Sean opening up really helps… fuck, I cried like a baby listening to him; so many relatable moments in that discussion - thank you Sean 👍
When one is empathetic one can’t help but feel very confronted by the visceral reaction Mr Strickland is going through as he recalls memories and his body ignites with recollection and then his response to his own response. I don’t know much about him but I commend his awareness AND honesty that he has violent fantasies, has violent desires, and that unmitigated violence isn’t compatible with society.
Being clear about what he wants, thinks, and why, and what to do about it, is how he’s probably avoided murder, man slaughter or grievous harm charges. That’s definitely positive and an incredible feat for someone who has clearly had non-stop, immersive trauma, terror and rage.
Hopefully he’s never provoked by someone in bad faith, because if his response is so visceral it would be so regrettable if he lost control when being pushed, for all involved.
Thank You for reviewing this video. His interview hit so close to home with me I was crying right along with him.
Every word Sean says makes total sense. I’m a female and have often been told by men I am not nurturing or sensitive enough, I could never explain myself to them, but pretty much everything Sean says about feeling like you have to protect your mom and always being ready to kill someone, I still feel like that. Dude makes total sense.
You do more videos like this and you will absolutely make it to your RUclips goals.
Thank you for acknowledging that fear from trauma is in the body, and not purely cognitive. That's one of the problems I had with CBT. It effectively got rid of a lot of my anxious thoughts, and gave me the tools to rationally argue against them when they do pop up, but I still have the physiological fear process in my body when my trauma is triggered.
The really frustrating thing is that in my late teens when I first went to the doctor for help because anxiety and depression were having a serious impact on my schoolwork, I already knew what the root cause was, and I told him about it. He still referred me for CBT, rather than anything more appropriate for trauma. I found the dismissive nature of the CBT quite upsetting and it put me off seeking therapy for a long time.
Now in my late 20s, I have developed a significant physical illness and have had to stop work. The trauma was being triggered almost every day at work because one of the people supervising me looked and sounded similar to an adult involved in causing me trauma at school. I kept going into work even though the anxiety felt horrible, the CBT had taught me to persist and not be avoidant. I kept working until I became so physically ill that I could not continue to work. I became physically ill because there was so much cortisol for so long from the prolonged stress that my cortisol system became dysregulated. This is one of the mechanisms which can cause ME/CFS to develop. Now I'm in treatment for that and I hope it's possible that I'll be able to recover enough to work at least part time in the future, but there's no guarantee of that.
Hearing from therapists and psychiatrists on youtube about how they treat trauma is reassuring and has given me the courage and knowledge of different therapy types to try seeking therapy that is more appropriate for me. I want to avoid this cycle of becoming physically ill again if I'm able to go back to work. If it wasn't for doctors like yourself I might still be very reluctant to give therapy another chance. Thank you.
I've developed chronic fatigue too after also being in CBT therapy for a year and persevering in a work environment that triggered my trauma. The way you've phrased this sheds some light on how this illness developed, so thank you. I've been taking the advice of CFS recovery on RUclips and doing vagus nerve exercises which have made a huge difference. Finding the desire to get better to just go back out into the unforgiving world that did this to me is the hardest part for me. Not to be dramatic lol but yeah I've sort of given up and dont really want anything that life has to offer. Just gotta keep going through the motions until I start to feel something. Hope things start to pick up for you soon, wishing you all the best
check out The Body Keeps the Score. many helpful tools and explanations in that one. its a best seller
Seans childhood is very similar to my own, so i totally understand his emotions and his personality, Spending your childhood hyper vigilant is not good and the damage lasts a lifetime. We never truly recover and i'm not sure most of us ever really find our true self Seans podcast hit ,me like a ton of bricks
Theo is a beautiful soul, he can make it so that the tortured feel allowed to talk heavy pain, and sean is a tough nut to crack.
After finishing this video, i want to express how grateful i am that my two sons have a great father. This was really an eye opener into how men deal with trauma and how its different from women in some ways
I had a feeling there was something more to his (Sean’s) comments, that Brad Polumbo commented on. 😢❤ And thank you, Dr. Syl for making this video. ❤️ ❤️
Great vid, I’d like to point out it’s not just men who minimise and act that way physically being uncomfortable and restless talking about difficult things. I often find myself reacting just like that, it’s like I can feel how uncomfortable it makes others and that makes it even worse for me so I often smile as I say these things and realise how weird that must be in a way it’s even worse when people are sympathetic then because they “see me” and I try so hard to hide that because I had to, even when it’s positive, it’s so unnerving to me.
These types of confronting videos are actually the most interesting and relatable. Please do more, they're great!
Thank you for uploading this video. I cried during the video and for the little boy he was. I think his trauma started way earlier in life as he speaks about
here. And I guess there are several layers to his trauma and his story too.
Wow - this was so important to watch. It hit home for me as well. My brother was the recipient of most of the abuse at home from our father. To the point where I’d sleep outside his bedroom door to try and protect him. We don’t often get insight into how trauma manifests in a masculine personality but I could hear so much of my brother in this interview. He’s now just starting to address the impact the abuse had on himself and I’m happy for him. Mental health among men is such an important conversation- thank you.
I`m diagnosed with C-PDST, and other "F"s from ICD10. Friends and Others telling me I´m the funniest person they know. It can be used as defense mechanism but it is also important to survive. In Germany it is called "Galgenhumor", wich means gallows humor.
Thank you for this excellent video depicting the lifelong effects of childhood trauma and neglect. I have a lived experience of complex PTSD as a result of being separated from my mother at birth and being adopted by two people who meant well for the most part, but who were woefully lacking in emotional intelligence and essentially unconsciously continued on intergerational trauma b/c that's all they knew and thought was normal.
For me real change started to happen 4 years ago when I engaged with a trauma focussed psychotherapist who uses Somatic Experiencing primarily. I suffer from so much body pain and stiffness these days and believe a lot of it has to do with suppressed emotions trapped in the body. And I have ground my teeth in my sleep since I was 7 when one of my adoptive brothers died in a car accident & I had nightmares nightly fearing I would wake up & both my parents would be dead. That's over 55 years ago now.
Nice insight on the teeth thing. I had to have dental work done from grinding so bad.
Theo is an amazing human being
This was excellent, Dr. Syl. Thank you for the thoughtful reaction and choosing this particular interview to share, with a focus on men. Trauma-informed care (TIC) and responses are HUGE! TIC is central to everything I do as a professional victim advocate working with survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, and stalking. The neurobiology and brain-body connection is absolutely embedded in survivors of trauma and neglect, such as these men. Complex causes require complex solutions; I'm adding this to my repertoire of what I say when training advocates and working with survivors. Keep the videos coming! I hope you reach your subscriber goal!
What you are saying is so very important that we develop our sense of self through others. That's why I get so angry when I hear people say "Oh what people think of you is none of your business". It absolutely is. What people think of you and how you are treated gives you self esteem. Those people who have an opinion about you are the ones who make decisions about your life !!
When you said that Sean was probably angry that it still affects him - he said on twitter that he almost bit a hole in his lip trying to stop crying.
I was physically and sexually abused as a kid and i was a cutter as a tween and teen.. thanks for these insights.
Dr Syl is just so warm and emphatic, love the videos!
and dreamy ;)
Lmao I've never heard anyone describe theo von as a "Nicaraguan-American" haha you brits are funny
I just loved this video, the insight of someone who has experienced trauma and what that looks like as an adult and how it came to be from childhood.
I wish all humans could view the world through compassion like survivors of trauma who have learned to start to heal themselves do. There’s something that cannot be taught unless you’ve gone through it that will forever change how you view yourself and others if you open yourself to it. Empathy is the only thing that can save this world.
Great video uncomfortable to watch because so much of it resonated with me . I’ve had therapy now for 25 years and still feel the rage . Can relate so much of this video with my parents thankfully one is deceased. He can’t hurt me anymore.
Well done. As a survivor of childhood abuse, this was insightful.
I feel Sean is crying out in this video and I hope there are people that care about him that he listens to and he’s getting the help he needs.
Otherwise I hope the authorities are keeping an eye on him. I’m surprised you can admit to such dark urges on such a large platform and not have a full time escort to keep you from harming others.
Sean has a very good support system with his gym. The UFC, who often gets a bad wrap, actually takes pretty good care of him. When he won the title in Australia for example, after an exchange with a fan they hired a bodyguard to stay with Sean the rest of the week and keep troublesome situations from arising. The problem is Sean is great with people, so he never says no, and there is always that one person who pokes the bear to see what happens.
@@user-xk9wl7nh7o I have heard the same thing. When he’s not training he goes into isolation with his girlfriend and very close friends so he never gets into a bad situation. I’m so glad that he found the UFC before he ended up taking someone’s life and wasting away in prison. The fact that he’s willing to admit, he wants to kill a man is pretty amazing because there are a lot more people than him that have those tendencies who are not willing to admit it to themselves or others. I find them to be more dangerous than someone who is honest enough to let you see the monster, that they are rather than hide it away from themselves until rage makes that monster take someone else’s life.
If youve never had CPTSD or PTSD and its comorbid mental problems, you will never in 10 million years understand what its like in any capacity.
Im not gatekeeping but it is true. For example ive never had schizophrenia or BPD e.g.
I can NEVER undertsand what it is like to suffer from it.
I feel like i've just had a therapy session watching this great video. Love Theo. I had just watched his video and then found yours so it was perfect. Thanks.
Great review. I think Sean likes to fight because it reinforces his ability to defend himself. I think the only man he really wants to kill is his father. If he did kill an opponent, I think the guilt would push him over the edge.
Sucks, holding back tears when he broke down and I relate a lot.
I felt the same way about him!!! Thanks for sharing.
I do sympathize with his upbringing.. such a huge factor; but his heart was to protect his mother. Honorable. He’s a product of his environment 😢
Most of his podcast interviews he’s brutally honest about his childhood and it was hellish. He rarely shows emotion when talking about it uses dark humour to get through the telling of it. He has a high level of self awareness that I really admire- he is who he is and a lot of people love him for it. Look at his reaction to bruising Nina Drama’s leg after a workout session, he’s genuinely upset. They have a sweet almost sibling like friendship because she gets who he is.
Deep heartfelt thank you for this Dr Syl. Many blessings
Thank you for explaining that ADHD can stem from different reasons, I did not know that... Also, you'll get to 100K subs well before your birthday! Really nice content!
I ran across this video and I get why im so fucked up now. It makes perfect sense. Its amazing how we all handle things differently. It makes a man tough as nails for sure.
Thank you for this, its the first time I seen your channel, and it made my day into one of examination, discovery and healing. Very much appreciated, thank you. Wow,
I love all your videos but this one is my very favorite. Such a shocker Sean broke down like that. I hope he does it more often.
I appreciate the commentary from you Dr. Syl! One of the most insightful commentary channels on youtube, no doubt due to your education/training as a Doctor. Thankyou for spending the time to react to these videos!
Im no dr but been closely working with victims for years and read all the books and also been doing martial arts for a long time. one point that Dr Syl missed about the happiest moment of Seans life is that getting the shit kicked out of you is ;
a. A badge of honor. Surviving a sparring session as a new person is a badge of honor. Also something to look forward to every day when he is at home. Also something he knows can help him help his mom. Someone made to feel weak proving to everyone and themselves that they are actually tough, is empowering and provides hope. Essentially a lifeline
b. Great for bonding. The brotherhood and bonding of combat is a very real thing. Play for adults is mostly absent in modern times. So this isn't only play, but unlike something like rock climbing (which is also great of course) its more intimate. It takes a lot of trust to do combat sports. striking and submission arts (two arts sean does consistently) have potential for exponential amounts of bonding because the consequences of violating the trust in the group and with each separate individual in the group are a concussion, broken bone or putting someone unconscious. the stakes are very high
You said something like “humor is a very important to for process trauma” and yes it is, that’s why we can’t cancel people for telling jokes. And can’t encourage that.
As Chappelle said “everything’s funny, til it happens to you.” Yup, and you have to roll with the punches even if it offends you, cuz it might significantly help someone who really needs help more than the importance of your perceived offense.
Thank you for this video❤
I don't see Sean as a Bully, if anything he's an anti bully, he bullies the bullies.
He calls things out and has strong opinions. However he's endured a lot of trauma and is a bit of a lost soul so his inability to filter himself comes across as abrasive.
If you want to see ACTUAL bullies in the ufc just look at Ian Garry and Jon Jones. They're messed up and get pleasure from putting others down while playing victim themselves constantly. They're infuriating.
Sean doesn't have that same drive in terms of his vocal opinions. It's not coming from a place of putting anyone down.
I agree that there is often an explanatory backstory that started a bully's actions. That makes life seem plain cruel all way around, to both the bully and their victims. But this video also made me think that there is also a backstory behind front line workers that inspired them to want to incite change. I felt it a lot with this episode as I can see that it hit Dr. Syl personally.
I hope we find paths to become the helpers we needed as kids. That's one of the few reasons I find living to be just a little bit more hopeful.
I don't consider him to be a bully imo he's a shock jockey he says shocking sh*t for views and some of his opinions are valid like his view on the hypocrisy of Israel Adesanya.
This interview made me absolutely love Shaun Strickland the first time I saw it. I really think it’s an absolute case study for what severe trauma does to males, in terms of self image, reaction, and specifically in the idiosyncrasies of shaun Strickland. I never seen someone both tell and embody every part of how I feel discussing my trauma all in one video. The humor just being a few hairs away from tears etc. however when u mention wanting to understand the humor and why it helps, I suppose to me it’s for 2 reasons. One is it confirms to me “it’s over, I don’t have to be afraid anymore.” The other is that, growing up in an awful household, is in some ways like living in a sitcom. When people are that broken, they never learn from their mistakes. Or at least they learn the cartoonishly wrong message from their mistakes. So part of the humor is like, telling the story, and almost imagining the seinfeld bassline playing behind it lol. Because the behavior of those involved in those households (both the victims and the perpetrators) is so unchanging and archetypal, that it results in almost comedically predictable stories. Stories that in the moment were obviously terrifying, and to outsiders possibly disturbing, but to me, it has become funny. Just like how Kramer always has his “crazy scheme,” my dad always had his completely self absorbed behavior, that always resulted in absurd consequences, that (even funnier) he could never connect to being of his own device, since, well, he has no self awareness or insight. In an almost more morbid yet comedic way, it’s like slap stick looney toons. Bugs bunny smoking Yosemite same with a shotgun and me getting absolutely laid into has this weird comedic connection in a dissociated retrospective way. Idk, truthfully people who say not to joke about trauma, I’ve always felt a lot of resentment towards. It’s normally people who are so focused on appearing empathic, they aren’t able to empathize at all with someone who actually dealt with what they think they are defending against. It’s not like I only use humor to process trauma, but come on, what do you want me to do lol? Break down and cry at work? Of course I’m gonna crack jokes. I’m convinced the mass wave of “unjokeable topics” has resulted in a worsening of symptoms and feelings of powerlessness in people.
Very well done🙏🏼🫂👏🏽my grandson suffers from this anger formulation 😢😢22 yrs old, terrible parenting for him and sis...I am his constant...65 yr old ❤❤
The teacher perpetuated the harm. He probably needed someone outside the family system to notice and help. The teacher made it worse. Another person who was supposed to provide care and instead harmed.
I agree with you but I have many teachers in my family. They recognize the issues, but aren't given much power to do anything about it. Furthermore, they have to care for 30 other students at the same time. It's a lot to put on one person.
Stumbled upon your channel and really enjoy the content. You have a new subscriber. Keep up the great work.
surfing helps with trauma too. thats the most effective for me.
Sean Strickland is just straight up, people can define their reaction to brutal honesty however they like…it’ll still likely be true at the end of it.
Yea people nowadays are just to into their own world and don't like people who say what they think instead of bending to society's will
This last minute of interview was intense and so honest😳. I hope Sean receives some help with his issues. Must be very difficult to live with all this rage inside.
Damn! So much pain running through his veins. 😢. I get it. Cause pain to others that was put onto you. For himself to let him be vulnerable and shed tears is healing. In a safe place, he needs to be able to cry out all the pain from his childhood, give his inner child a voice, scream to the top of his lungs and an anger management safe place to break sh*t up with a baseball bat or boxing gloves. I really get it. His inner child needs an outlet. I truly sympathize. I’m glad I watched this interview 🙏🏻
Could not finish this. Reminded me of when I had to save my mother when her drunken husband had her backed up against the kitchen wall and said “I could kill you.” I was in the hallway peeping through the grill of our house heater. She had already tried and failed to leave the kitchen once so I thought he was serious. But my childish mind thought that he wouldn’t follow through if I came out from hiding. Either I was right or he was saying those things to control her but not ready to kill. I think I am over it, but not being able to watch this shows me different.
Found you today, seen a couple of your yt videos - really good for me today, also this bro conversation is really the deepest talk I’ve seen between two guys, wow ❤
Dr Syl watching Theo Von? Universes have just collided.
ha! yeah for me too. love them both
The interviewer is honorable for giving him space. This moment may be therapeutic as well, as the interviewer created a safe space to talk and a gentle nonpressured time to calm down
My ex had anger issues and would do the same thing by grunting, pacing, and clenched fists. He’d punch holes in walls. Most likely why this energy is so triggering. Ironically or not, my ex now has his PhD in Clinical Psychology and his own practice.
Seeing his reactions brings me back to the fear of his aggression. I got this 😮💨
He's starting to see the forest through the trees in real time, and in front of everyone. When you go through a lot of crazy shit, some people become dark and angry. You construct a mentality of work hard and don't be a pussy so that you're too busy to deal with your past. Now that he's so famous, he's being forced to look in the mirror and deal with his trauma. He's put himself into a position where people want to see him self destruct for their entertainment because of the things that he says and does. Some men never slow down and deal with their past, the majority of them end up in prison or dead. He really seems like he wants to be a good person, but he knows that he's been a pos (with little fault of his own) for most of his life. The ball is in his court, he can deal with his shit and get the help that he needs, or end up being a statistic. I'm rooting for the guy, but the the deck is stacked against him with him being a public figure and with all of the shit talking he does. If he changes, half of his current fans will turn on him and his detractors will double down on bringing up his past and trying to nudge him closer to self destruction.
Something to think about: Dr. Syl, teaching instructor for Dialectics Behavioral Therapy on line😊.
I had a VERY similar childhood to Sean's, without the neglect. I've found therapy to be almost wholely ineffective, but I think I'm much more introspective than Sean. His emotions seem to be raw, and his pain visceral.
As well as fighters can have concussions that can affect how their brain can work effectively; typically anger issues, going from 1-10 in intensity, within seconds.
Sigmund Freud would be so proud that I'm psychoanalyzing you, but I must admit it creeps some people out. This one woman ran from the room in panic. Having read all manner of books on psychiatry and psychology I am well versed. I also like physics, but I'm no physicist either. Well, I just wanted to say, I enjoy watching your videos. If my neurotransmitters didn't short circuit I could have gone to university too. At 18 years of age I was locked up in a psychiatric hospital. I'm 54 now.
You got yourself a follower, sir.
I love your reaction videos, this was really insightful and I actually prefer the longer format. There’s a video called “Andrea Yates | The Crime That Changed Mental Healthcare Forever” by the creator Behind Criminal Minds; It’s long but the creator really goes into the details surrounding the psychiatric care history of the perpetrator and I’d be super interested in your insights on the entire case!
This is why you cannot criticize and hate a racist into being a more tolerant. You cannot hate and judge someone into being loving.
When you see a bully or a racist, you are seeing someone that needs love more than anyone else. You are seeing a victim.
It’s the easiest thing on the world to hate the hateful.
This is not a virtue. It requires no skill, strength or integrity.
Loving the unlovely is a virtue. That’s what requires strength, skill and true compassion.
As a Christian I agree with this. This is why I believe Jesus says to love your enemies. Or how a soft word can change someone rather than a harsh word. Growing up I thought this way but lately I’ve been hating my enemies. Your comment made me realize I need to go back. Perhaps God is speaking to me as well.
If you liked this interview you will be blown away by DJ Shipley interview with Shawn Ryan
If you thought his story was wild, you wouldn't want to hear mine . I'll say, much respect to him. My PTSD is a bit different but it's PTSD and I understand why he does what he does.
Theo saying we don't have to talk I can just sit here with you to me is so powerful and real. Shows me how much he cares for others and knows what there is nothing in this moment he can say to get him out until this thought has passed. So he brings him back with a terrible piss joke lol
my farther was a big part of my life to be honest he was the only one that understood me, i think also i find it hard to understand people emotionally unless they say how they are feeling then i can respond to it. my farther understood that about me, i do feel emotions its just hard to detect emotional states in others.
Disturbing and familiar as well, sadly.
"Mental health affects everyone, even UFC fighters" Mate, you've no idea. I follow the UFC. Believe me, this is not an isolated incident.
Look up Diego Sanchez or Tony Ferguson for good examples. Great video!
bullies run the world. I hear you though
studying redstar vs partizan crowd youtube & find it filled with auditory hallucinations that seem rather grandiose in a persercutory manner. i wonder if anyone here has experienced this or is interested in experimenting on their self with them. good luck all. from the heart & her spirit belonging to his Soul. xoxo
What are your thoughts on emotional abuse vs. physical abuse in causing trauma responses? My parents only hit me one or two times but they HATED each other and were constantly playing me in the middle - plus I have Autism, which is not what they signed up for - the only help I got for that was ‘study harder and just don’t be Autistic’ (I’m old - this was the 70s)
Cam emotional abuse like that also cause PTSD/C-PTSD?
I think it's interesting how perceptions on emotional abuse can differ greatly from other abuse. I have deep trauma from childhood that has resulted in issues with addiction, interpersonal relationships, trust, fear, rejection, abandonment, self worth, intimacy, co-dependance, people pleasing, the list goes on. I always downplayed my pain because I felt it was insignificant compared to others physical and sexual abuse/trauma. I learned in rehab that even if it's emotional, it's still trauma and its MY trauma, which clearly has left significant negative lasting effects in my life as an adult. To answer your question.... 1000% it can cause complex PTSD.
i'm a fan of theo and i don't know who this guy he is interviewing is, but i hope he knows what happened to him is not ok but please dont let it define you... I am speaking from care and experience.
UFC middleweight champion
Excellent analysis of this poor guy's behavior from surviving a horrifically abusive childhood here in the US. Also, no kid should also have to go to bed hungry, thirsty, cold and in fear of getting blown up in the middle of the night bc they're victims of a war torn country, most likely funded and instigated by the US government! Like the kids in Palestine, Yemen, Ukraine, and all the other places targeted by our gov...😮😢
23:13 Braindamage is NOT the goal of UFC... You can also win by splitting a spleen! LOL
Anyways, for a psychologist I thought the determination was just too singlesided without nuance.
I am an electrician. My goal is not to electrocute ppl even though I bring the power.
I have my own traumas and physical manifestations.
When I get too anxious and feel preassured into a situation I don't like, I start pullinghairs out of my beard. sometimes I have to shave for weeks just to make myself unable to do it because I can't stop doing it without thinking and I end up with big balled patches.
Over the years I have slowly learned to recognize the patterns and get myself out of the situation causing it... but some situations can't be avoided, so I still go through periods struggeling with this...
It really means a lot that men are talking more and more about their struggles and life experience with this candidness, hopefully it means the world is finally becoming safe enough for some guys to feel comfortable even trying. There are so many stories that have gone unspoken that matter
@@KayosHybrid yeah. we need to talk and communicate and not judge others or ourselves.
I am so glad the world seems to be shifting towards this after the recent year of toxic masculinity and fake bravado being applauded by so many.
Sean is definetly a crude man... But he just made himself extremely relatable to allmost everyone.
A "fun" observation: In many ways he reminds me of Mike Tyson. I wonder if Sean will grow into a wise gentle man in the same way as he ages. It could be really interesting hearing them talk about their lives, but I am not sure either of them could handle it honestly...
I hope Sean finds a way into mentoring young fighters like himself when he retires from the octagon. I think that could really make him grow and help alot of young men in similar situations.
@@JokerInk-CustomBuilds it’s always easier to celebrate crude, baseless virtue (he’s cool, he’s rich, he’s tough) because it doesn’t require anything of us. We don’t have to become better people, look inward, admit we need help, admit we’re lost. Insecure young men don’t always have the resources to tackle something like that. Plus conservatism loves to point to a YesterYear as a golden social example we need to return to, because again it requires no development, no growth, but regression and dependence on crutches. Appealing to tradition is a form of running away or accepting a prescribed life instead of trying to live your own. But like all scams it has no legs to walk on, ans it collapses under its own weight
I really hope Sean gets help. It worries me that he has a skill set that essentially makes him a weapon paired with what seems to be some anti-social tendencies. I saw him on a show where he told the hosts that their “softness” makes him fantasize about doing violent acts to them. He was trying to convey how his childhood trauma had distorted his day to day outlook and wasn’t threatening them but that really stuck with me.
Hey doc…. The grinding and clenching is also an ADHD thing. It’s a sensory stim for many of us. The biting of the inside of our mouthes. We hold a lot of tension in our bodies. Is the anxiety from years of undiagnosed ADHD or is the anxiety simply a comorbidity? I’m still trying to comprehend the complexity of the diagnosis.
Old stricky definitely comes across as someone with deeply ingrained issues to express doesn't he. He got all big and stwooong
Ghey
Theo's from Louisiana.
Trauma sucks
17:40 I don't get it. Having symptoms that match ADHD is not the same as having ADHD. Misdiagnosed ADHD have nothing to do with ADHD o_0
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I remember when I stopped believing in God dude
Can you give an example of how Sean's a bully.
Anyone who thinks Sean says the things he says on stage in real life all the time. “Omg your insulting people who you are about to fight so you can sell more drama and make money the same way literally every fighter ever does?”😱😱😱😱😱😱
hari aum tat sat. aum shantih
Dricus is going to send Sean back to the trailer park
When you reffered to theo as a Nicaraguan American i realized the low value wokeness coming my way. However i will listen.