how to build a relationship WITH YOURSELF | self-love habits & mindset to become the best you.
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"you get up early, do something for somebody else. But when it comes to yourself, you procrastinate." That hits hard!
This woman knows what she's doing
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@@TeresaChiarenza 🤭
Fr
yea and thats why we love her
Yes
Notes:
LIFESTYLE.
1. Keep the promises you make to yourself
2. Make yourself uncomfortable/ try new things- network/ socialize
3. Put thought into the way you prioritize yourself- don't be scared of disappointing others/ set boundaries with yourself
4. Monitor your feelings and change your routines based on it
5. Regular reflection- good and bad memories, awareness of your progress
MINDSET SHIFTS.
1. Pay attention to your thoughts- kill negative self talk
2. Observe your thoughts in third person- don't give your thoughts power and let them pass
3. Look at situation and relationships as lessons- acquire knowledge about yourself
4. Ditch the victim mindset- life is a game and each good thing is a level up and a bad thing is just an obstacle to get over and learn from
5. Take accountability- shift the responsibility back to yourself
HOMEWORK.
-Self reflection
-Get outside your comfort zone
I am going to write this on my notes app 💗✨
tysm
Thank you girlyyy 💗💗💗💗
Thank you!🫶🏼
the best advice for me is self-trust because procrastination kills self-trust , you find it hard to depend on yourself because you do not do the things you promise yourself to do
this.
literally!!
@shahendaelmahdya6112 I have screenshot this comment...This sums up my whole life! I really needed this,thanks
This is 100% it. Everytime I break my own promises it feels like crap. No one likes a flaking friend.
Homework:
1- Do something to connect with your inner child (e.g: watch nostalgic movies, read old journal entries, etc.)
2- Do something out of your comfort zone (e.g: attempt a new recipe)
Please I always feel so happy watching movies I watched as a kid it’s so nostalgic
Things Im taking away(to implement on my life):
1. 2-3 times a week have a day to self-care( relax, read, journal, etc)
2. read 3-4 costco bottles a day
3.always dress up when going out(properly like doing my edges,wearing jewerlly,nice clothes that compliment me)
4. Stop seeking valiadation
5.Stop Comparing myself to others but instead embrace who I am and enchance it
6. Exercise 1hr each day(workouts,dance etc)
7. Do new things( cooking,walking,reading,drawing etc)
8.Eat Healthy
9. Take a step back and think( stop being stressed)
10. Lean on God aswell
11.Stop procastinating
12.Take breaks
13.Just enjoy life
Be more forgiving on your bad days too!
Thankss ❤
@@carolinea.9241 Yesss defintely that aswelll tyy💝
@@AlmahSheikh Npp❤
@@pearl.z. heyy just a random question, how old are you?? ( if you're comfortable)
Tam we need a video on how to handle conflicts, arguments and misunderstandings and how to identify which is normal and which is toxic
YESS
Yesss that would be so good
Yes please this is very important.
Honey it all start with working on yourself. Once you master loving yourself you will see everything else making sense to you!
Fr
16:51 reading back old diaries, watching movies that you loved when you're a child is so therapeutic
TAM KAUR ALWAYS SHOWS UP AT THE RIGHT TIME 😭
'unveiling your hidden potential' by bruce thornwood was honestly life changing for me
As a healing co-dependent, having to re-parent myself, as you put it, was super important. I used to have such a lack of boundaries and would never say no or prioritize myself. I burned out and got sick from overextending myself. I wasn't happy, I was just distracted from being so busy taking care of everyone else. I had to learn to build a relationship with myself, build self-love and confidence, and find balance between being selfless and still taking care of me, always. It's one of the hardest, yet liberating journies I've ever taken. I found that your content has helped me so much. Thank you Tam❤️
1:36 Self trust - self love discipline 👑
3:47 2. Try new things out of comfort zone☁️ affirmations 🎉
7:40 3. Solo Dates 🖐🏻
9:35 4. Honouring your boundaries 📍
- future life
- me time schedule
- skills, networking
16:12 regular reflection 🪞
Past nostalgia! Photos, videosss!
MINDSET SHIFT 💪🏻
17:59 SELF TALK 🫡
21:11 SEEING OPPORTUNITY! 💭
22:42 LIFE IS A GAME 🎯
Everything is happening for me!
Progress Report,
24:47 TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY ⏰
Excuses! Questions!
Thank you 😊💞
Thank youuuu 💖💓🩷
U dont know how much confident and motivation u give me,like I act like I'm very confident and happy but deep inside I have my worries and u solve them all ,ur the big sis every big sis needs .Thank you sooo much♡♡♡
i never thought about self trust before but as someone who only recently started working on herself, i’m realising the importance of it
I started a three day fast this morning. Thank you for this message.i'm 47yrs old $73,000 biweekly and I'm retired, this video have inspired me greatly in many ways!!!!❤❤
Awesome, Tell me about it!!!!🙏
It's Renee Marie Harrison doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$500K monthly is something you should feel differently about.....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
I know that woman (Renee Marie Harrison)
If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, she's my family's Broker for 3yrs till now and a very good one if you asked me. No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!!!
one thing which wish i knew earlier was that self control is the key to self respect
Self trust - do things you told yourself you're gonna do
CONGRATS ON 1M!!!!
you've changed my life for the better so much, thank you for all your hard work
Wow! Such a young person with so much wisdom. You are fulfilling your purpose, your comment section is just a small glimpse of how you are impacting others in such a positive way. I don’t usually write comments, but your growth is so impressive and inspiring. This is the best video I have seen on self love, yes, it’s buying yourself flowers, but it is self discipline, it’s setting boundaries with yourself, getting up early even when you don’t “feel” like, witness your mind, self love is not easy at it sounds, but it’s the journey you owe to yourself the most. Wow! ❤
She's the GIRLBOSS ive always dreamt of becoming 💅✨
that inner-critique mindset shift has changed me fr fr
One of all the 1000 reasons I love you and your videos is that your videos are just you talking ✨ So many people on youtube shows short clips in between when they talk so you get the dopamine but when we’re listening to you it’s just education and you can easily take it all in! Love you Tam ❤️
Taking notes coz I wanna open a yt channel. Ok no clips in between,thanks 🫡🩷
I was feeling extremely lonely yesterday in college and I immediately thought I'd come home watch your video on loneliness and God I'm so so glad you posted this one it's like telepathy love you tam
Ikr 😭
Mee tooo
It's okay we all have bad days but if keep going then we all are going to have amazing days in the future 😄
@@angelsharma2676 so sweet of you to say that
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You made a video at just the right time, exactly what i need now. In the past few days, I hurt myself and felt underconfident. I got a ton of idea to overcome it, and i feel better now. I'd like to back and see my inner child and to see old journal notes, so we can see some changes from the starting to now.
You made my day😊.
Thank you so much for your amazing video:).
Absolutely spot-on about the importance of self-trust and discipline in personal growth! Weekly check-ins are a fantastic way to remain aligned with our deepest intentions and to truly honor the commitments we make to ourselves. 🌟
Every time i watch one of her videos i instantly get motivated to do everything i can for my dream life, i truly believe she’s one of the only self-care content creators who ACTUALLY has useful things to tell than just repeating clichés. I love u tam🎀💗
1) engage in self reflections (journelling)
2) Do something that scares you but is good for growth.
im so thankful for watching your videos , you helped me starting my healing journey in december 2023 and life started to feel like a gift again. thank you
Such an important message. Sometimes, making boundaries for ourselves is easy but actually sticking to those boundaries is the hardest… and we get stuck in a vicious cycle of never keeping to our boundaries which just reinforces that we are a failure and never good enough over and over again…. But once we recognize that we are worthy of love, stability, success, and all the good things…. THEN sticking to our boundaries becomes empowering and fun.
Tam I’ve been watching you since early 2023 now and the progress I’ve made is quite good but this video really helped me to realise I was treating myself like a work machine rather than catering to my emotional needs. Thank you for this video ❤
Showing up for myself by honoring my word and also not being a robot and filling my cup one day in the weekend xx
These are my takeaways thank you tam!
I finally did what I always wanted to do but I was so scared off. And I'm so happy, even though this path might be rough, but I finally stepped up for me and I could never be happier ❤
Omg, i NEEDED THIS, I'm done with my rut...I deserve hella better
i dont usually comment on ppls videos but you suggested such a great ice breaker for the event & it ties so well with your content like well done girl keep bossing !!
I am watching this while getting ready for college and omg this is so helpful because before watching this video I was thinking of skipping college today but I made up my mind to play one of her videos to get me out of bed and this is the first video that was recommended as soon as I opened RUclips.
you make me feel like i have a voice. a voice that NEEDS to be heard. thank you girl ❤
Been listing to your videos on repeat for two weeks straight so glad you posted a new video! 🩷👏🏽
You literally a elder sister I needed I love you Tam thankyouuu for this
Really needed this video atm, I feel like I’m at the lowest point of my life rn and it’s honestly bc I’m just holding myself down for past mistakes and bc I don’t think I’ve rlly been showing myself any love. Thank you so much for these videos though I feel like this is what will push me to start loving myself again and getting over my fears. ❤
I love this video amd the "life is a game" mindset part really made me start thinking about life actually and it is perceived as a game if we really think about it and ive never thought about it like that. I love you so much and i have been watching you since i started my healing journey❤️.
i loved the content of this video and i'm definitely going to follow these steps but you look so ethereal, you are literally glowing. i am so proud of you. you inspire me everyday. thankyou for starting youtube
its becoming so crystal clear the light we can see in her
congratulations tam for 1M🎀 You deserve more than this! Love you
YOUR ENERGY>>>>>
Ty for motivation queen.
This queen has taken a special place in our hearts ❤️❤️Stop owning our hearts prettiest❤️❤️🧿🧿Love from Indiaaaa
Love the thought of asking questions to oneself in uncomfortable situations...
Like bamm avoiding something is an insider 😂❤
I've been feeling so low for past couple days and was blaming me for all the problems I was facing, your amazing video came out just IN Time! I'm confident now and motivated, love you queen ❤️
you deserve the world Tam!
Tam, I have followed your channel when you had about 1000 subs and I knew you were going to be BIG. Well done on your success ❤❤❤
i felt a super strange feeling while watching the video, and that tam felt like a sister and a frnd. i gasped and i love the feeling. tam is winning hearts
Gratitude universe for sending me this video on the right time!
Tam's correct timing of videos are on another level.
Hey Tam I am 14 i have been watching ur videos for a year now and lately I felt a bit of hopelessness in my goals like every single thing is a mess i feel lonely, doesn't have the energy to do anything i am trying to do one thing everyday but whenever i start i just starts to tear up I don't know what it is. I feel uninterested in many things that i used to love before now I just wanna lay in bed and hope that I dont wake up tomorrow morning. I just cant tell anyone not even my family or friends bcoz i feel like they won't understand. I know ur not gonna see this comment but i feel a bit good venting to u. I procrastinate a lot than i did when i had school, its summer vacations but I am studying to improve my academics and I feel like a failure.
I really admire u Tam hope u reach 10 million soon ❤❤
You’re 14. You have so much life ahead of you. Give yourself some grace. You’re not a failure! You’re on this earth for a reason so don’t hope you don’t wake up. Your teens and 20s are meant for figuring life out, making mistakes and learning lessons. You are beautiful, you are successful, you are amazing! Start telling yourself that every morning and every night in the mirror until you believe it! 🤎
Ur literally me
I feel you. we are the same and feeling like a constant disappointment and failure is one of the worst feelings and having your parents, just breathing down your neck about "your grades have dropped." or "I don't know what to do with you" or "go outside, get some sun, you look sickly" and you just wanna Scream at them and "I can't, I physically can't, because of you" and you can't scream at them because they won't understand, no matter how hard they try is true pain. I love Tam and it feels like she is a big sister, that I never had (I'm the oldest) is why I love her and have also been feeling this way and having someone else feel this way just validates my feelings and I'm not saying I'm happy you feel this way,I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy if Tam does see this we love her so much
Hey, I don't know who you are but think you need to rear this I am 16 now and it's been two years since I start watching her videos,let me tell you my journey,so firstly I had anxiety back then , I was used to cry every night before sleeping and now I have overcome it , I have topped in my school in my 10th exam and I actually got a position in merits and yes I never believed myself but look the self confidence and constant hardwork brought me the success,so you don't need to worry much just work hard and believe yourself and my best wishes are with you 💗 and yes after 2 years I want you to come back tell me your achievements, I will be so proud and happy 😄😄
@@bhinderkaur2805 Thank you for the kind words I really appreciate it. I hope the same for myself too, I feel like it's necessary to keep studying even during vacations idk why. Its just that I don't know what to do with my time and everything is uninteresting for me. Thank you again for telling it helps☺️
Thank you soo muchh Tam❤, like this was exactly what I needed. I got to know about your channel 3 months ago and your videos have helped me a lot to heal❤️🩹 and start my self-love journey🫶✨️🤌. But still I needed to work on with the relationship with myself. Thank you again❤
As soon as I realized it's Friday I jumped onto RUclips and waited for the upload❤Tam Kaur you are amazing❤so much love for you all the way from South Africa🇿🇦
You know 🫵🏿❤️🇿🇦
Thank you so much for this video. I was a people pleaser for such a long time and now I'm finally committing to cultivating a decent self love and care discipline in the ways you described here. So I'm definitely going to listen to this again and make notes and start implementing these changes. 😊❤️🙏🏻
Hey Tam, am 15 and i rlly have a goal after watching your videos my aspects for my goal and life has changed it really motivated me to actually get addicted to discomfort however i still get lazy sometimes but am glad that I am starting to stand up and push myself into being productive love your tips
Ahhhhhh the timing. 😭😭😭 tam ahhhhhh ily. I’m just starting the healing journey thank you so much for this video.
We appreciate your dedication and commitment. Keep working hard.
Just a reminder! Not everyone has a good day and it's fine atleast you're trying! Keep it up! :)
Much needed this video right now for real and this is just showed up😩 thank you queen🥺💗
Love you Tam❤
And actually amazed by your hardwork and dedication towards what you do cause you are recording while you are in your VACATION where you went to rest. Its a honest advice pls,take rest and enjoy your own time.
Watching your videos for the past few months / year has really changed me alot without my knowledge
Tam, you are greattt, I love your videos because they always help me so much!
Thank you
3:15 i came back home to myself. i love that
Congratulations on 1M! You gorgeous and wise girl deserve the world !🥰❤️
Just cannot express how correct your timing is. I love you tam❤❤❤... you came in my life like the universe sends again something to get back to feel grateful for when I'm losing myself again . Thankyou and I love you thankyou so muchh❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💗💗💗💗💋😘😘😘🫀🫀
My favourite thing about this video was honestly every thing ❤️ Tam is just one of the most amazing people on this planet❤️ thank you for everything, from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Hey tam❤️
I was wondering if you might consider making a video about how to trust yourself and talk about it more in detail.How can we trust ourselves all the time, when facing new challenges and obstacles etc.
Girll im so proud of you hope ur living ur best life in New York Cityyy its so motivating for me that you have come so far. All the best to everyone who reads btw love the message of ur vid cause self love is wayyy more than one bubble bath( even though i love them)
Once again, the video manifested in the right time I needed it. You are really special Tam!
*Tamanna, You are my guardian angel and my saviour* 🫀🌜✨
*Love from India* 💗🌻
Tam making my mindset go📈 each day. Tysmmmm❤
im a boy but thank you so much for ur videos. u helped me through my depression last year.
ur timing is always right
Thank you, Tam! You are like my online best friend and I am glad that our support also gives something back to you because I feel so grateful towards you and - thanks to your content - now also towards myself! 🥰
I so look forward to your Friday videos! It's a great way to unwind from a hard week and good reminders. A reset!
Hi Tam, your self-improvement videos have been such an inspiration to me, thank you for all the positive energy you bring to your content ❤
Your hair looks so pretty istgggg🎀🎀🎀🎀
You really are so mature for your age (you're only like 3 years older than me, EEK!) and put so much effort into your videos.. thank you, no other youtuber researches and puts in the work like you!!! I actually already do a lot of the things in these videos (i pride myself on being insightful) and i used to watch old videos of myself all the time and read my old diaries, its such a fun pastime to compare your current self to your past self and see how much you've grown!! And I agree with the other comment - self trust because procrastination kills self trust. I realized i definitely have some self trust issues. You're so beautiful and smart, keep going!! You're AWESOME Tam.
Edit: Also, I need to start taking notes on all of your videos... i keep watching them and its such great advice and then I forget it after a couple days except for a few integral lessons that stick with me.
I feel like this was so much needed 😢❤❤❤ thankyou for the kind reminder
Tam! I remember you telling us that New York is your dream City, so proud of you that you made it there!!💗
Congratulations on a million subscribers!!! ❤
I love this!! Tam please do an updated makeup routine your makeup is so nice. What’s your lip combo here?
I love when you give homework about that, is very fantastic ❤
Congratulations on 1Million!! Love your channel. Thank you for this!
I'm really inspired by your RUclips journey! You have such a good mindset and I want to implement these self-love habits. So many of us have a work-based opinion about ourselves. Thanks for reminding us all of our worthiness, just being in our energy.
Also your makeup looks so cool!
Homework part in your videos are fab to summarise the topic ❤
Glad you like them!
I can’t wait for the day I watch your TED talk
holding myself accountable and in a form of self love i have decided to invest in myself all because of you. I'M MANIFESTING 1000 SUPPORTERS BY JULY I CAN DO THIS I NEED TO BE CONSISTENT AND DO THIS FOR MYSELF BECAUSE ONLY I CAN WORK TOWARDS MY DREAMS NO ONE ELSE!!!
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you got this!!!! you just gained 1 more subscriber towards your goal. will support you moving forward too ❤
great message and yes we need to do it for ourselves we owe it to our self
@@mindyli5974 thank you so much
shes so confident and beautiful i wish i was more like her x
Congrats on 1 million🎉🎉
Thank you for this❤
Love from South Africa 🇿🇦
You always help me to shift my mind & energy towards my goals, love ya girl
YOU KILLING IT !! LOVE YA SM
Tam you're really glowing sm since ur last few videos i mean you always look gorgeous but now u're looking sooo pretty and even ur confidence😭😍is like on next level ...u're so comfortable now like doing videos is no big deal😮💨i luv u brooooo🧚♀
Love you so much for posting this!! Please make a video on shadow work, it seems a lot and your take on it would make all the difference❤❤
I AM LITRERAY SO IN LOVE WITH YOU AND YOUR VIDEOS. IT'S LIKE HAVING AN ELDER SISTER WHO REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU. CAN YOU PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ON COLLEGE LIFE , LIKE WHEN YOU ARE MOVING OUT OF YOUR HOME FOR THE FIRST TIME AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THE NEW WORLD YOU ARE JUMPING INTO.
Girl ❤😢 I was watching your videos for a while and doing great but I fell off for a bit with burnout and depression. I decided on an impulse to come here to try to get it back together, and you uploaded 55 min ago?! It’s a sign! Also welcome to New York! I’m up here in the Adirondacks, you should give the mountains a visit too sometime… they’re beautiful :)
Thank you Tam. This video came at the perfect time. Time to successfully achieve my goals.