CONQUER THE MESS: Do These 3 Things Every Day to Change Your Life
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- This previously messy person wanted to demonstrate how I turned my life around by teaching myself a few easy habits.
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First, I decided which habits I wanted to have.
The temptation here is to have ALL THE HABITS.
But I had tried that before and failed miserably.
I had to get down to only a few things that I could require of myself that would make a difference in my home, but it had to be so minimal, that it would seem silly to procrastinate on it. It had to be easy. Stupid easy.
As a demonstration, I recorded myself doing my morning and evening reset for 31 days.
These are the tasks I decided on doing:
Kitchen tidy
Wash dishes
Wipe off counters and stove
These need to be done in the morning after breakfast and in the evening after dinner.
In the morning I also gave myself a 5-minute reward and in the evening, I wiped down the sink.
I have made my 5-minute reward to be sitting down with a cup of coffee and reading devotionals. But it can be anything you want it to be - it doesn’t have to be “ideal or perfect” but it should be something you look forward to.
The basic idea of the reward is to shift from using things to procrastinate to instead, using them to reward yourself for getting something done.
Most of the time we procrastinate with things - scrolling through social media, playing phone games, reading, streaming tv shows - we can find all kinds of things to help us procrastinate. So the idea behind giving ourselves a 5-minute reward is simply to shift from using those things as a way to procrastinate and avoid our daily tasks to instead something we can enjoy completely guilt-free when we are done with our tasks.
As you can see in this demonstration, there were days when I skipped the 5-minute reward - where I just focused on the minimum amount of tidying and dishes.
There were also days that I skipped wiping down the sink in the evening.
We’re not failing when we don’t do everything.
That idea of having to do it perfectly or not doing it at all has ruined so many lives, honestly. It doesn’t really matter at the end of the week if I wiped the sink down 7 times or 5 times. But it would be very evident if I NEVER wiped the sink down.
And if we have a night we skip - sure it doesn’t look as good on our chart, but again, at the end of the week, it doesn’t matter if we washed the dishes 14 times or 10 times. What matters is that we did it - and the more often we do it, the easier it is.
If we’re in the habit of doing the dishes twice a day, they never pile up and become overwhelming.
If we’re in the habit of cleaning the stove and counters, then more often than not, they will be clean when we need to use them.
Another thing I would like to emphasize is the importance of WHEN we do our reset routine. (And yes, I prefer to call them a reset - because that’s what I’m doing. I never want to do “Chores” but I am willing to “reset the kitchen.”)
It doesn’t always work out that we do it at the same time every day, it’s not realistic to say we’re going to do the dishes at 8 am every single day and that’s ok.
But if we can get used to doing it in a specific order, it will help us.
For example, I get up at six-thirty, make breakfast, it’s done by seven-thirty and then the next thing I do is the reset. It always comes right after breakfast and before my “me time” of a cup of coffee.
The morning reset done before we get started on our day, makes the rest of the day flow smoothly.
This might mean you have to get up 10 minutes earlier so you have enough margin in your morning to do it.
I know that’s hard to give up - I LOVE my sleep. But I have had to evaluate, do I love to sleep more than I like having a calm home? No. The answer is no. And, if I really want that extra 10 minutes of sleep - I can be nice to myself and go to bed 10 minutes earlier and still get the same amount of sleep.
Getting the kitchen reset before starting your day makes the home feel so good and manageable. If you work - do the reset before you leave for work. If you are a stay-at-home or work-at-home, do your reset before officially starting the day.
That way when you come back to the kitchen later in the day, it is ready to be used. Dishes are clean and ready, the counter is clear and ready - everything is ready for you to use it.
Try to get the evening reset done after dinner before you sit down to relax. The point of getting it done immediately is so that you truly can relax. So you can veg on the couch knowing there is nothing sitting in the sink waiting for you. And no chance of forgetting and then having to wash dishes at 11:30 PM.
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I love that subtle mindset shift from "I hate doing the dishes" to "I love having the dishes done."
This was a big "A-ha insight" for me. I will work on changing my mindset starting today, focusing on desired RESULTS instead of the process involved in cleaning/tidying & how I feel about doing it to get that result.
@@sarahsmom1002 For myself having a mindset of gratitude, appreciation for having dishes and a sink and running water, soap and a home to take care of has given me a whole new attitude in caring for all these blessings not just dishes ❤
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I watch your videos when I'm in a funk and every single time it resets my brain to where I can go "Okay, let's do this!" and start getting tackling life again
Oh good ❤️❤️❤️
Me too
Re: the strawberries, rinse them in a bowl of very, very warm tap water (the hottest that will come out of your tap). Just swish them gently; then put them on a clean dish towel to dry thoroughly. Then put them in something glass (jar, etc.) with a tight fitting lid. I’ve had them last a month! The hot water rinses off mold spores. I also recommend emptying out the glass container after several days & drying it thoroughly. Pat off any water that has accumulated on the berries. This trick also works with any kind of berries/veggies, pretty much!
Thanks Vivian!
Thank you🌹
11:44 - I love the concept of home hygiene. Thank you for further explaining why we shouldn't be mad about these routine cleaning tasks just like we understand and don't get mad about our own personal hygiene needs.
Do dishes and tidy up at night. In morning while coffee pot is going. I can put up clean dishes, make the bed, get clothes ready. It's lovely to wake up to a clean kitchen.
I used to make a mess of the kitchen all week and would clean it on Saturday mornings. Now I clean the sink and dishes every day and rarely go to bed with dishes in the sink. 💪
I just re-framed my thought about making the bed. I'm going to work on telling myself "I love having the bed made" since I can't honestly say "I love making the bed." And I'm going to tell myself "I love having a clean desk." Thank you! 💛
I stopped saying “I have to get these things done today” & started saying “ I want to get these things done today”. Turned my whine into a positive.
I hate dishes too! I did pare down my dishes and started doing them as I cooked and filled the sink with hot soapy water so I could do the dishes after we ate. What a relief! Clean kitchen= peace of mind.
After keeping a routine of cleaning the kitchen I realized how the next morning I will always say, I am so glad I did the dishes last night! I will never say, I sure wish I had waiting until this morning! Lol
“I love having the dishes done!”
I love that♥️
Sometimes I resent doing the house work😩 but true, I do it because I love having a clean house.
Rachel, I love the idea of rewarding myself with a cup if coffee and my devotional!!🥰💝
I know this was geared toward kitchen reset, but one more thing I include in my morning reset is - make the bed, always.
Something I learned many years ago, make the bed, if you get nothing else done at least you've accomplished one thing.
This is so true!
If people would clean up their dirty dishes and tidy their kitchens up after dinner or meals and didn't have to wake up in to a dirty kitchen or go into a mess to cook dinner they would enjoy that feeling so much.
It really makes your whole house feel cleaner.
The next comparable thing is the bathroom.
Keep dry dirty laundry in hampers and keep your sink and clean, counters wiped off, honestly, you will enjoy your home more.
Thank you for the strawberry tip too.
From now on I will store them in glass.
I can't stand a dirty kitchen. I do dishes through out the day, usually allowing them to air dry. This makes sure we have everything available to us all day and night, which is important because our little family of 3 are all on different schedules. Keeping our home clean and tidy all the time is really easy. The key is getting rid of excess and good daily habits . tfs Have a lovely day Rachel ! 🥰💐🌞🌛💗✝🍒🏜
This reset is such a key. It’s so awesome when you finally get that just spending the 10 minutes doing it takes so much less time and effort than it takes procrastinating it. I’ve learned to actually enjoy doing the dishes, I know, I know, but it’s true. My husband and I do the kitchen reset together. It’s 10 -15 minutes of together time. I embrace that time together regardless of what we are actually doing.
I love that you do it together. It’s nice to visit while working on it.
I am learning so much about my own choices. I'm creating peaceful days.
Rachel, this is one of your best videos yet! This was such an “aha moment” for me. I’m going to start my own 31 day reset tomorrow. Thank you so much for all you do for us! ❤️
Your starting point is like many others but your presentation, your explanation why & the details that were included were better understood & applicable. I think having a mind-set that promotes how you feel about having a clean kitchen v. not speaks volumes. Also, I think because of your difficulties, trials & tribulations during the time you were accomplishing the daily tasks plus decluttering has given you a perspective that not everyone can see or teach. As a result, you have also become a leader & motivational speaker. Your softer approach v. using a hard/harsh approach is much more likely to be accepted by most, as well as, to those who might be struggling on their journey to minimalism or at least a house that they control the clutter v. a house of clutter that controls them.
From as long as I can remember dirty dishes were never left in the sink, just something I couldn’t stand. My mom always did the dishes after a meal. Of course we all pitched in and many times we did them so she could get a break. She cooked big Sunday dinners and we had a rule that she would never be left with the dirty dishes. I feel that if the dishes are done then the house stays cleaner.
I completely agree! It’s wonderful that you were aware of your mom’s efforts and needs! ❤️
Yes
Great tips.
The only thing I would do different is to put a tick on the chart when I’ve done something, rather than a cross. A cross to me means that I haven’t done a certain item.
Me too!
I put a smiley face in the square when I complete a task & an X when it goes undone.
Such a helpful video! Being a cerebral type of person, the concept of changing our mindset really resonated with me. I can definitely get my head around that & make some small but significant changes. I'm excited to start today! Thank you Rachel for sharing your wisdom & practical tips so generously!
Yes
I discovered that learning how to cook efficiently is just as powerful as the reset routine. When I cook, if I take the time to plan how I am going to prepare the food, the space is much less of an explosion. I also leave the dishwasher open. Nothing is allowed to hit sink purgatory; it's either on my cutting board or in the dishwasher. This way only the hand wash only items are typically left to wash at the end (knives and pans).
I absolutely agree with your tips. I try doing the same. Washing dishes anytime I go to the sink and I see even 2 glasses. Thanks for sharing these.
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Awesome! Thank you! ❤️
I am appreciating you! Inspiring in the Little things
I love your peaceful face.
We have reduced our dishes to one plate, cup, bowl, and set of silverware per person. We have a family of 5. Each person washes what they used after the meal. The parent that cooks does not do the dishes the other does. It works fantastic. My husband cooks, I was the cooking dishes and we all wash our own meal dishes. we never have undone dishes now!!!
I so need to learn your method for doing the dishes! I don't have a dishwasher. We are only 2 adults in the house, it doesn't take me as little as 10-15 minutes to do the dishes.
I always rinse the dishes after a meal, but only wash at night, and it takes me 20 to 45 minutes (sometimes more if we cooked a bit).
I REALLY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS BY THE WAY :D So comforting and helpful !!
Thank you. So practical and helpful. Habits usually take 21 days to reset. I see you are using Truth For Life as your devotional material. I am also using it as my daily “feeding” from our Father, God.
If you look into it, that 21 day claim isn’t true. I don’t remember where I finally heard the full explanation, but there’s no magic number. An easy habit could possibly be created in 21 days, but some habits will take much longer.
Since watching your videos I never walk out of the kitchen without putting any dirty dishes in the dish washer. I don’t allow myself to internally whine about who left them there; I’m sure I have irritating habits that the rest of my family is polite enough to ignore. That way after dinner it takes about two minutes to load and start the dishwasher for the night. After over fortysome years my husband has started to unload the dishwasher every morning . I think it’s because it’s just so obvious what needs to be done.
That’s so encouraging Angela! ❤️
Thank you for making these videos !
It's so much harder to clean up if you leave everything to dry on! We are retired and my husband cleans up after I cook dinner. He's tired like I am and he doesn't dry everything etc. But my routine is every morning during cooking and after breakfast I unload the dishwasher, wash all the dishes and kitchen and leave it 100% spotless. Then I let it go and if things don't stay perfect during the day it's OK, it can't get too bad. Cleaning up and putting things away as you cook is my other thing I do.
i'm going to try this method.. i have to start somewhere🙏😇. ✨💕💖
Thank you. I enjoy your videos.
Wonderful Wonderful Wonderful video thanks
This is 1 thing that has helped me. Even if I don't do anything else my kitchen reset AM/PM it makes me feel good !! Thanks Rachel
I like the term reset ❤
We wash our fruit with vinegar and water 1 c to 1 qt. (except raspberries - they melt) and this keeps the fruit longer. Will try the jar hack sometime. Thanks.
Love your channel! But i need to set the speed to 2.5x for all of them 😆
Love the way you organize your thoughts and keep control of yourself to achieve doing what helps you feeling happier. Hope that someday I can achieve something similar. ❤ Thanks for sharing!
Right now, I am helping my kids with their morning resets. They have a 3 month old (that doesn't sleep) and a demanding 4 year old, now home for summer break from her montessori school. Plus my daughter works 12 or MORE hours a day. Every spare minute is spent with Charlie... breastfeeding. And so... I help my son-in-law (a nurse that is currently stay at home dad) and I do resets for them as often as I can! I've spent the last few days with the 4 year old because the little one needed full-time care. I washed a muffin tin that had sat on the counter for 2 days when I did this morning's reset. This afternoon I stopped by and my son-in-law was making lunch on a CLEAN counter! He was rocking the baby with his foot and making a sandwich. He was smiling because he had a clean kitchen. Every little bit helps. And I'm so thankful that this retired grandma can help. AND that my kids are so appreciative. I'm SO thankful my husband said YES to leaving Alaska to retire in Utah near my kids. Dishes have always been therapy for me. And it helps my kids! Life is GOOD. We all help each other.
That is wonderful - what a gift to give them! I always loved when my mom would do my dishes when I had little ones. ❤️
There's one habit I got into. And it was washing my pots and pants before I sat down and ate.
I would make the meal. I would put it on the plates which are kept on a warming pland i'd wash the pots and pans right away before even sat down to have supper or lunch or any meal.
You'd be surprised how quick and easy. That is when you get the pots and the pants and the frying pants and all the utensils that you use for cooking, washed and put away.
And even if you don't want to wash and put them away, at least have the wash and sitting on the counter draining while you guys eat your meal
Hi there sweetie pie hope you are well great ideas and every one helping out Mom I always clean my kitchen every night after dinner love from Eugenie your friend xxx 😁🌟💖💤
Excellent video. Thank you so much.
Wish I could give this video two thumbs up. It’s concise and it pulls together everything I’m trying to do. It’s a good reminder.
Wonderful advice thanks 🙏
Your kitchen is so peaceful. I need that simplicity. Did you wait to set these habits until you had the room decluttered to your satisfaction? Following through with habits is my weak spot.
No, I started habits first, and then started decluttering. ❤️
I actually love doing dishes! So rewarding and love the warm water and bubbles while scrubbing....BUT the IRONING!!!! I put it off until desperate then loathe the time spent! Working on a quicker reset with that! Thanks Rachel for your encouragement.
😁 I got rid of all clothing items that require ironing! ❤️
@@Nourishingminimalism And so should I encourage the hubby. All his shirts! Ugh!
Listen to audio books while you iron.
@@susandermond9254 I will try that. The back and forth motion of the ironing makes me nauseous. I know, weird! Can do 3, then walk away, 3 more. Ugh!
What is funny is I'm listening to this as I wash my dishes and reset my kitchen. Heheh
Seeing the jucy strawberry from the jar makes me want to eat it!
It's easy to feel overwhelmed when it feels like I just cleaned earlier that day. It's sometimes hard to find the second wind because of that.
Hi Rachel loved this video & presentation Have a lovely weekend lol 💖🇮🇱💝❤️
My issue has always been dishes and this is one of the first things I learned when starting to follow minimalism and decluttering My reset includes taking out the garbage it has always been my area that i forget until it falls on the floors so part of my reset has to include the garbage daily along with the dishes. Love your channel and honesty about issues and how to address them. It helps to feel better about ourselves when we acknowledge that i hate doing the dishes and taking out the garbage, I only do it once a day and that is not making me feel good about myself. Going to try the reset as i let things build up during the day and by evening I get overwhelmed, Thanks much for todays video.
That’s great that you include taking out the trash- so much easier to deal with it daily versus when it’s overflowing. ❤️❤️
I have a question about the strawberries in the jar. Were they rinsed/cleaned first, and completely dry? We eat so many berries, I'd love not to throw any out. Thank you.
@@Paula-sw4mw I did rinse them first and let them air dry, but they weren't completely dry when I put them in the jar. I'm not sure if it matters too much though. ❤
@@Paula-sw4mw .. you can add a paper towel on top of them before closing the lid. . .i've done this for years with lettuce and cucumbers and they last a very long time.
Quote from Rachel J on Nourishing Minimalism: "As you can see, there were days during my 30-day demonstration that I skipped my 5 minute reward, where I just focused in on doing the minimum amount of tidying and doing the dishes. And there were also days that, in the evening, I skipped wiping down the sink.
We're not failing when we don't do everything.
We're not failing when we don't do it perfectly. In fact, most of the time, we don't do it perfectly, and that's quite alright.
❤️ The idea of having to do it perfectly or not doing it at all has ruined so many lives, honestly. ❤️
It doesn't really matter if at the end of the week I've wiped down the sink 7 times - that would be perfect, right? That would be every single day - or if I wiped it down 5 times. It doesn't matter!
But, it would be very evident if I NEVER wiped the sink down.
And if we end up skipping a night - let's say, worst case scenario, we don't get the dishes done. Sure, it doesn't look good on our chart that we missed a night, but at the end of the week it doesn't really matter if we washed the dishes 14 times or 10 times. What matters is that we did it most of the time. The more often we do it the easier it is to do it. If we never did the dishes throughout the week, if we let them pile up all week long, there would be a big mess at the end of the week. But if we washed the dishes those 10 times at least, there are no dishes piled up at the end of the week."
As empty nesters with full time jobs and who make our meals from scratch, we still have to reset our kitchen and bathroom daily- twice a day usually. I am the kitchen and bathroom resetter, my husband is the leftovers and sweeping floors (living room, kitchen and bathroom in the evenings) resetter. There is nothing like waking up and going to bed knowing the kitchen ad bathroom are clean and fresh. I have Fridays-Sundays off so I do the deeper cleaning and meal planning on Fridays, then Saturday and Sunday is time spent with my husband and our adult children and grand children or even doing deeper cleaning or yard work without thinking about what is waiting in the kitchen. And I am a form of minimalist- I am not a gadget or lots of decor person, I love my kitchen counters to have very few things on them and my cabinets and drawers well organized (though I can definitely be a drawer and cabinet stuffer and pretend everything is just perfect 😉). But o know things are put back where they belong or “live” and wiped down or swept regularly just makes it less stressful everyday.
I don't have any problem with the reset. I still have so much stuff in the house and I am not sure where to start and what all to get rid of. I realize that I need to get rid of whatever does not serve me. My house is beginning to get a little more simple, but my mother is moving in with our family next month, moving here from another state. We have been working on her new living space and I am somewhat concerned about all that she will be bringing here, although I have helped her to get rid of a lot of stuff in her house and talked with her about bringing only what she will need. My life will change drastically and I am very thankful that I am in a position to help care for her.
Wonderful! Thank you.
Hi Rachel - Your videos have helped me so much. I am now in the habit of doing dishes every day thanks to you. I still have a long way to go to get my house in order but these small actions help build a feeling of accomplishment and success so much. I have the same plastic storage bins as you! And thank you so much for the strawberry freshness life hack. I literally just washed and put away a large ball jar like yours in the video and I've had such trouble with my strawberries this year. I will share this with my friends on FB. I LOVE life hacks. Thank you so much for all your content and please keep them coming.
What a wonderful video! Thank you for the mind shift/ switch to get things done.
This makes so much sense! I use the word “reset” now! Thank you!
Hey I have that same faucet!
How do you like it?
I love mine. When we moved to our new house, I took my faucet with me, and bought a new one for the old house.
I love doing my resets! I bought some new rubber gloves to make it even more fun.
♥️🎉🎉🎉
I like it! The old one was leaking - the water pressure in our house is messed up, so it ruins the the seals in the valves, so hoping we'll be able to find replacement parts on this faucet if/when we need it. The old one was cheap and no one carries parts. 😊
Thanks for the strawberries tip!!
I got rid of the dishes that were given to me. Bought brand new ones (corelle winter white from walmart) and only enough for 2 people. Its just myself and kiddo. Even if they "pile" up theres only 2 plates 4 bowls 4 cups and limited silverware. Its not a massive ordeal even if I miss a day.
Every member of the family should wash their own cup. 😮 saucer plate bowl and leave it on the counter
. It gets the kids prepared for their own. but if mama is doing their own dishes, then The Thing is, she is enabling them.
Great video, It continues to surprise me that a lot of women would not do dishes until they had no more clean dishes. I had to wash them,I couldn't stand the look of them in the morning. I gave up the dishwasher , i do my dishes by hand, that way I don't have to wait 2hours + to put my dishes back in the cupboard. I still have the dishwasher, i do clean it and run some dishes about once every 2 weeks, I would like to have it replaced with 2 pull out drawers!!!
👍🏾 Changing the verbiage is having a much greater influence on me than I expected. Thanks! 😀
I do the dishes before I even sit down and eat that way when I get up. I only have my plate and cup to clean. And I always believe that you have to get the dishes done before you go to bed or you wake up in the morning. Not refreshed nothing worse than waking up in the middle of the night or in the morning to dirty dishes yak
I've done the changing the terms with money, Instead of saying "we can't afford that" or "we are to broke" I say "we can do it but I would rather save for something else"
Please forgive me if you mentioned this, but do you rinse your strawberries before you store them in the jar? Thanks for the tip... I'm going to try this. 😊🌸
I did- they had air dried a bit before I put them in the jar.
@@Nourishingminimalism Thank you! 😊🌸
You have Is four burners on your stove. You don't need any more cooking utensils than four. All you need is one frying Pan, 1 large cooking pot, 1 medium cooking pot. And one small won't if you can't learn how to cook with only 4. Items items, then there's something wrong.
Loved this video and all of the tips. But, my favorite thing was the strawberries in the jar!!!! The next time I buy strawberries, I'm definitely trying that! It also helps that it looks pretty in the refrigerator, instead of just having them in the plastic container! Thank you for this video! I will probably watch it over and over when I need a reminder when I'm not wanting to clean my kitchen. 😊
I'm the type of person if I get my sleep and I have neglected all my housework and my responsibilities I will wake up at 3. O'clock in the morning and start doing something so that interferes with my sleep. And I can't handle the loss of sleep so I have decided that. I'm going to bed at the proper time get up at the proper time and hit the responsibilities.. Do Your responsibility so you don't wake up in the middle of the night kicking yourself in the rear end for not being responsible
I do love having the dishes done but it is SO much work. It takes around an hour and is super draining and then we cant relax when done because we need to put the kids to bed.
What appliance do you make pancakes on?
It’s a crepe griddle 😊
Did you rinse or wipe off the strawberries before putting them in the jar?
Do what you can live with with less Stress.
Hi, I can see you don’t have a dish rack, where do you dry or keep those things that don’t go into the dishwasher while they are getting dried? I so want to get rid of mine but haven’t found the way. Also great video!
Rinse with hot water and lay them on a towel to dry, or hand dry them. The hot water rinse will evaporate quickly.
I purposely didn't keep anything that needs to be handwashed, but every now and then I use more than will fit in the dishwasher. In these cases I just put them on a towel and let them airdry. But with doing the dishes so often, it's very rare that I have more than will fit in the dishwasher. I do have to run my dishwasher twice a day, because I limited my dishes and don't have enough for all three meals.
Did you wash those strawberries before your jar experiment? (I know...that wasn't the main idea of this video! 😅)
I did… they had air dried a bit before I put them in the jar 😊
No offense, but how hard can it be to clear 4’ worth of counters..? So much harder with bigger areas/rooms. It’s a good start though.
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It sounds a little like habit bundling
Do you work outside of the house?
I work from home, for myself, so my time is flexible.
OMG, what is the thing hanging on your kitchen door knob? It looks creepy!
😂😂😂 the kids were making spy vs spy videos and made masks. I didn’t even pay attention, I bet it does look creepy! 🤣
So, what chores does your husband do? Children? Seems like Mom is doing everything in this vid
Please... no reset. I am allergic to that word. Reset is an absolute wipe out and start again, like when you reset your computer. Just upgrade and do your chore. And stop being emotional about small responsabilities... i like i dont like i like i dont like... you still have to deal with it. Find happines in everything.