Don’t Get Trapped in the Cycle of Debt! | February 26, 2024
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- The Ramsey Show (February 26, 2024)
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Jade Warshaw & Dr. John Delony answer your questions and discuss:
- "How do I get my husband to contribute?"
- "How do I start investing?"
- "My kid won't pay me back the money I loaned him,"
- "How can I get my car paid off?"
- "What should we do with our whole life policies?"
- "Should I talk to my wife's toxic boss?"
- "My husband has been hiding his credit card use"
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49k because you have 5 kids 🤦♀️
Over here with my 5 kids in a 5k vehicle that has 262k miles on it thinking it's the luxury I've been looking for.
I hate when people use kids as human shields.
Children are not excuses for your poor decisions.
I have been listening to the Dave Ramsey show for many years. I used to listen while I was commuting to and from work. Now I listen to the shows on Utube. I have noticed that many times the hosts are not listening to the caller and they misunderstand and misquote the caller. At times they seam to want to move on to the next caller. Just an observation I like the show and it helps people. Keep up improving.
Yeah I’ve commented in some show before where I notice this, like they don’t get the whole picture or a complete advice, like the girl living in her parents house making 36k a year with a 27k car loan, she also needs to try to increase her income
Yes.
Every time I feel like I am struggling financially, I just tune in to the Ramsey show and come away feeling much better after listening to some of these callers.
The Ramsey Show is like a grain of sand trying to fight a tidal wave of stupid. God bless them.
I loved Jade's reference on cars - years back I've got leased 4y old super-mini for city commute for ~5000 (brand new was between 12-15k) invest about 200-300 per year for tiny upgrades, but it runs as new! No issues at all, nothing to worry about and I've got it for 30% of MRP if you think about that. Not to mention how little I care if someone bangs my doors at parking lot 😂 Just do a pre-check and go for low mileage - don't worry on used cars
Little car vs 18 wheeler, who will win?
@@vondreas less likely to find 18-wheeler in urban area 😊 otherwise - 18-wheeler vs. Abrams tank? It could go on and on...
Have a great week everyone!!!
Thank you, hope you have a fabulous week as well! 😊
OK, Dave, you just gave a rant about the average student loan of $55,000 - but we just had a call from someone in debt who bought a $50,000 CAR!!! I'm going on my rant that cars are keeping people broke!
Fabulous show today!!! The great and wonderful Dr. John and Jade are a fantastic duo. Both take calls with such compassion, and empathy but still give the hard truth with love when needed. ❤️
Totally agree.👍
Waiting for it!
@@Trustbutverify2651 And why?
Interesting that they "give the hard truth with love" when making a negative comment - but the rest of us who say anything negative are called "haters" and told to be kinder.
@@Trustbutverify2651 I truly struggle to understand what possible difference it makes to a seventy-something retired teacher(!) that a young woman, young enough to be Your granddaughter, is effusive about someone she credits with saving her life. Half the world is at war, and yet it’s not possible to partake in a fun conversation on a podcast, without bullying and harassment from someone who should exude exemplary behaviour. We wonder why young people die of suicide because of it. While you are hovering over the comments in order to play verbal tit-for-tat, the rest of us are astonished. Grow Up.
I got an awesome honda odyssey for my family of 6 for only 17,000. Its a 2013 but was new to me when i got it in 2019 and I love it!!
The issue with telling people to buy low end cars with cash is most can't fix them there selves so it ends up costing 10s of thousands I'm repair bills. I think the advise in paying cash for a car should include a warning that a used car will require maintenance and repairs. Which could take away from an emergency fund.
Yes, I went down that road once and ended up with a low mileage used car that was in the shop for more than 3 months out of the year. I regretted that decision and ended up losing thousands in repair bills and in the sale
That quote is from the movie "You People" Fit in where you Get In
Jill from Reno, I went through something very similar with my ex-husband. I know how you feel. I'm so sorry!
That woman needs to jettison her husband if he hasn’t held a real job in 23 years he is isn’t going to get one .My sister-in- law was married to someone like that for 25 years. They were out running bill collectors their entire marriage he eventually died and left her with a mess. What is wrong with women who would stay married to someone who has no sense of responsibility or duty? I guess they like being mommies to these type of men.
Is it just me, or when there is a Delony thumbnail the first thought is “oh boy, here we go….somber show”
He even said it himself recently, he’s trying to work on the fact that when he walks into a room the mood turns so “heavy”.
Idk I hear his takes, and it’s so dramatic all the time. I love the show and he makes it very difficult to get through. Nothing against him I’m sure he’s a great guy, I just don’t think he’s one of the strongest personalities. He feels forced.
Unfortunately, when you’re in the mental health field he can’t always be a bright and bubbly guy. His job is to dig into trauma, and find the psychology behind the money issues. Thankfully, he knows how to add levity and light because he’s just a naturally funny guy who is hyper so he can balance out the shows. But he takes the heaviest of calls on a daily basis like children dying of cancer, etc. it weighs on him quite a bit but John is still so optimistic and kind! He’s just such a good guy! Also, one thing you should know about him having met John is he is so down to earth and humble. There is nothing about him that is forced, he’s naturally loving, empathetic, and caring toward everyone!
@@flashthecorgi2053all the things you said make sense. And like I said, I’m sure he’s a great guy.
@@Arnold001-1Absolutely, and I completely understand your perspective. I’ve listened to Delony’s show for four years now and it can get heavy but he always makes sure to end with lyrics or something super funny just to wrap up with a good ending or he makes jokes like Austin’s beard being trimmed by petsmart! 😂
He's a drama queen
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Jade and John are a great duo...
If you like drama, immature humor and jumping to conclusions
@ 14min.(husband, who made low/no income and wife, who made 400K a year). I had something like this happen..so I suggested to split the bills in half and told him whatever he makes over his half he keeps. He was on unemployment for five months every year because of weather conditions, and he bought a snow plow for his truck front bumper and ended up making Buku bucks. It was good for both of us. So some kind of encouragement is needed there.
How the tables have turned in this brave new world 11:22 💀
It's not hard to deal with adult children if you raise them to be responsible. YOU wanted them to go to college, but you offered 25% and an interest-free loan. YOU MADE THE DEAL. YOU MADE THE MISTAKE, You don't have the right to decide how your adult kids should spend their money. Stop psychoanalyzing him - you didn't make him learn responsibility.
You can always tell the kids that any money not paid when we pass will be taken out of your inheritance.
I don't think the Mom was willing to wait that long for what was HER mistake in setting up the arrangement. She assumed - and you know what ASSUME means!
I don't understand the thought process of refinancing to get a larger payment UNLESS they give you a huge break on APR %. You can still pay extra each month and it go directly to the principal to pay it off faster. you can do the same with your home too.
30:00 as a mom of adult children, I'm here to advise you that the time to set the terms of any agreement (yours was financial) is at the beginning. Which you did. As Dr. John and Jade told you, you can't just up and decide to change those terms willy-nilly after the fact. And to then be unhappy with your son because he's following those terms takes some kahonies. I guess you should have figured out at the outset that it was going to take him 19 years to pay off the loans. It's not like he did a bait and switch on you. This is all on you, so suck it up and deal with it. Also, I hope you keep that disdain dripping from your voice regarding your son to yourself when he's around. Ouch!
And, by her own admission, the son is absolutely keeping his part of the deal and has never missed a payment!
@@Trustbutverify2651 absolutely! And she still sounded put out, as if he'd something wrong.
I will be able to actually invest when im 30. I have been so bummed by this but now im seeing it as an exciting thing & actually digging myself out of the hole. I never imagined myself in this situation, its so different from the principles i started out with for myself- from tens of thousands in savings to even more in debt. Ugh! But it will be over relatively soon. I will be able to get out of it faster than i got into it. Single disabled mom but i know it can be done
Yes it can be done and it sounds like you are on your way!
I have more respect for Delony after this episode. Dude is good at his job. Jade is still WAY prettier though!
Is it my imagination or did the first caller add a child? I heard 4 then he said 5. Also, how do you net 10k a month if you gross 120k a year, while actually earning 50k since both spouses are off work ATM. They need to base their budget on actual, current numbers. Math is not mathing and I think this gets people into trouble thinking they make more than they actually do.
So many kids domt pay their parents back. I wish they would have said something about that
I feel one should never lend money to friends or family
@@Nigriff Friends and family - consider any money given to them a GIFT. No loans!
Ashley - living in that camper with MS in the heat is going to be tough ..
Neighborly question - she has been putting up with it - why is it all on him? And if she is smart enough to make that amount of money, why is she calling into a radio show rather than going to a therapist and figuring out herself what she needs to do? There's something that's not quite right about that call if that is truly her income.
Exactly. We aren't getting the whole story. He probably contributes in other ways, but if he doesn't, that's her fault for staying for 23 years. Maybe she makes good money but is a horrible person to live with and he is one man who will tolerate her 😮
If it was the husband making 400k, people wouldn't be calling her a loser for being a stay at home wife/mom. They obviously have issues, but income isn't the one. She didn't say "we" make, she said "I make". They need to work out the trust and control issues.
He always assumes the wife is a victim 😮
I wish these hosts would understand that "freedom" is not the calling card they think it is. That is not particularly motivating for people in debt. When a family has an income of more than $150,000 take-home pay and is used to spending all that money, what is DEVASTATING is if one of the earners loses a job or - God forbid - becomes disabled. So, it's not for FREEDOM that you get out of debt, it's for SECURITY before something serious happens and you lose everything! Pay off your debts and learn to live on less in case one day, through no fault of your own, you actually have to.
The 400,000 dollar wife and the husband who isn't contributing to the marriage, was like what I went through with my ex on a much small income. He was willing so I divorced him.
Yep, there is no respect there, and I doubt you can ever respect the loser
what she make 400k so if that was his wife. wh did Making anything, then this conversation would be a problem.
We had very little information. If he was such a bad husband, she should have left him long ago. Maybe she's a complete b*tch and knows no one else would live with her 😂 a marriage isn't just about income money. Maybe he's really good at sex or house work
@@MsValiGIf it was the husband making the money, people wouldn't say the wife is a loser. Maybe he helps out in other ways like around the kitchen, yard, parenting, or bedroom. If he's such a loser that's on her for putting up with him for 23 years 😮
You’re clearly sexist . Nobody would say anything if the man was earning 400k and she wasn’t
Editors for You Tube subtitles: It's SIOUX Falls. You've made this mistake before. It's easy to remember - the vowels in that word are in alphabetical order.
It doesn't have editors. The subtitles are done automatically by RUclips's AI
I'm old enough to remember when a gaffe like that would get a person fired! Guess you can't fire AI...
@llythatgrumpy6508 Somewhere there is a human making that entry before AI when the call starts - and this is a very common misspelling of that location. I'm pretty sure someone enters the person's name and location b/c there is always a lag between when the call starts on RUclips and when the name and location is entered. There are also no CCs on this RUclips show, so I don't think it is the RUclips AI like it is for other shows with CCs which start right away.
Are you talking about the lower third or the RUclips subtitles (which is the closed captioning)? It sounds like you mean the lower third. They are two different things. @@Trustbutverify2651
@@amireallythatgrumpy6508the banners aren’t generated by RUclips. The OP was taking about that, not the subtitles/closed captioning.
Re Brittney - it's hard to pull back with 4 kids who have become accustomed to living a certain way. Less than 10% of American families make your level of income. Your family needs a visual - make a huge thermometer on the wall and put blue electric strips across, each of them with a certain dollar amount, and pull them off as you pay down the debt. You need a buy-in from EVERYONE in the family to get this debt paid off.
10:46 If a man complained about this arrangement, it would be a whole different ballgame
Nice turn around, absolutely has me seeing this differently now.
Yes, some folks on here ALWAYS take the woman's side. Women have brains and choices, too - the signs are always there. TAKE A LOOK AND REALIZE YOU CANNOT CHANGE AN ADULT. Women, stop being victims about choices YOU made. Enough already. (And I'm a woman.)
Depends on if she birthed children....because that isn't given enough weight in society, the ramsey show recognizes the sacrifice women make growing babies 💪 its just as important as a man bringing in income
They ALWAYS trash the men. Women have done this same senorio for decades but when a man does it.. there is an issue
I enjoy listening to the show but I really wish the hosts would let the callers fully share their thoughts before cutting them off and jumping to solutions. Please listen to them first and try to understand them. Keep up the good work guys!
Fuck it, I’m 42k in debt, $6.72 in my pocket, no bank account. Unemployed, live in my mom’s living room, vehicle about to be repo’d. no dreams or hopes, just pills & smokes & the occasional blow, just impatiently waiting to die, fuck life, it’s garbage!!!
Are you really a single mom if you have help half time? It makes it sound like a person OSS doing everything alone. I don’t understand how making 81000 a year there’s no extra money to go towards debt unless it’s bc of living way beyond means when having debt. My household makes 85k and we live in a trailer and only pay lot rent until all of the debt is paid off and no new cars. There are other options. I think ppl are scared to give things up. I understand how we get into debt but once you see it you have to make major changes
Why are so many men calling in asking about having their wife who stays home with the children to go back to work?
John “Box of Farts” Delony
You are my two favs!
Good luck selling that suburban. Look up dealerships for your year and then look what they are asking and look days on lot. Ur probably further upside down
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Would you consider an hsa account part of step 4?
I wish when they talk about renting they specify that while renting you get the cheapest thing it’s acceptable for you in your situation. That way you can save for a future home
True, but you also need to be aware of the neighborhoods and schools in some areas.
Jill, you certainly know your husband's SSN - why haven't you been checking both your credit reports? FREEZE THE CREDIT FOR BOTH OF YOU. Whose credit card use was already what you cashed out your retirement for - his or yours? Fool you once, it's on him. Fool you twice - it's on you.
Her husband needs professional help ASAP. With pill and online gambling addictions combined, he's most likely depressed and suicidal. I hope he gets professional help ASAP.
Ok. Lemme get this right, the young girl didn’t go after child support because she made more money than him and yet things are 50/50 n he isn’t even asking for child support?? I hate this system.. because love how jade immediately trying to get child support from the man yet things are 50/50..
Lovely Jade is getting better and better in this role!
I used to be distracted by her constant use of "look," but it's gone.
That's one thing the comments can do - show the hosts how they are coming across to the listening public. It can make them better in their roles.
So true, John wants to be more "likeable" this year, I like John but my only pet peeve is how he changes his voice from natural to LOW, drives me nuts. Almost like a fake laugh to me, just doesn't sound genuine.... But that is just me!! I love Ken and I see a lot of negative comments about him, to each his own I guess :) .@@Trustbutverify2651
@@KAinFLThat’s just his counselor voice. When he gets super empathetic and is talking to someone in a traumatic/ scary situation he lowers his voice. Most counselors do! He has such a gift with being a calm, caring presence when he is talking to someone who has experienced trauma. He will help someone breathe, tell them to count buttons on their car, clinch their fist and release. I’m amazed at just how loving and kind this guy is. The fact he can talk with someone for 15 minutes and make them feel safe, calm, and heard is such a gift. Love, love Delony! ❤
@kainFL This 👍🏻
Did Jade say "peaceness"?
The Dramatic Duo 🤪
John "I can't breathe and I'm scared to death" Deloney
Where’s Dave been?
Last week they said he was in Mexico
Jade always looks fabulous! And John is trying to look like Steve Jobs wearing black always...
Heavy show today... wow!
Jacob - you are WAY over the line if you think it's up to you to talk to your wife's boss. There should be plenty of jobs in Dallas! Time for her to switch out.
Where is Dave?
still on vacay in Mexico
Lol
Doing his taxes
Where ever he wants to be!! LOL He deserves it. I miss him too though. I love all the personalities, but if Dave is out for several weeks, I miss him.
@@dianem4188 everyone is lovely, but the fact is it's incredibly boring without Dave
Will the live stream on 2/27 be recorded so I can watch after work?
i think so, just like how you're watching this one!
$49,000 on a car loan? Yikes
I want a 4runner ill trade any1 any make model and color. I'll give you 2k cash, one 35 gallon aquarium, and you can keep my mother inlaw.
Why is it always the MIL? I'll keep mine - you can have my FIL!
i don't have one but i'll tell anyone i see who does! 😂
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Since Chantelle did her 401k distribution in 24 she can roll it to an ira within 60 days. Hurry up and sell that car and put the 15k in an ira so it wont be taxable!
We hear on the show that things with motors and wheels shouldn't be more than half of ones annual income. We also hear that one shouldn't buy a new car unless their net worth is more than 1 million.
If someone has a networth of a million, and makes $75,000 they can a buy a new car but no more than $37,500?
Good question. I guess it also depends on whether they can pay cash for it. Maybe out of the $75,000 were able to save up the amount over the year to buy the car of their dreams?
i think maybe the "motors and wheels being less than half your income" rule applies if you're not yet a net worth millionaire? if you are a millionaire making 75k a year, with no debt, and can buy a car in cash.... why limit yourself? but if you are in debt, or not yet a millionaire, it might not be wise to make such a purchase
John perpetually slams the men and praises the women. 🤪
He's so quick to judge with very little information. That's the sign of a dangerous "doctor".
@@Nigriff Because he's not a professional clinician - he has PhDs in education-type fields like higher education administration. Most people watching the show think he is either a psychiatrist or a psychologist because that's the way RS promotes him - as someone who can solve every psychological and emotional problem. The RS actually NEEDS real professionals to take the show from time to time - a clinical psychologist, a tax expert, a financial planning expert, etc.
@@NigriffHe goes off what he is told. Until he has both sides he has to assume that the person on the email/ phone is telling the truth. Not sure why y’all can’t get that! He’s a trained counselor who’s spent years doing this, he knows what he is doing and is SO freaking good at it! Delony has the experience, education, and his own personal issues dealing with mental health issues. He hits the nail on the head A LOT and when he screws up (because he’s human) he apologizes! Not to mention, he has several clinicians and counselors following what he says, listening to his advice if they had a problem with it they would address him head on but instead he gets continual praise because he’s making a difference in so many lives. You seriously need to stop hating on John. You chose to click on this video with John in the thumbnail. If you don’t like him, don’t watch. It’s that simple.
3:40 this car or van or whatever you're calling it lol. Sums up about what most ppl see when they look at other ppl driving
She’s making $400K and he has a “hobby” and doesn’t contribute??? 😂😂😂😂 the writing is on the wall!!!!
John says “box of farts” - so juvenile. This is a guy with a PhD? Jeez.
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It’s the best! Love his sense of humor. 🤣 He needs the light and levity with as much trauma as he deals with on a daily basis. Also, this is a guy with an 8 year old girl and a middle school boy so he’s around that humor on a daily basis!
Depends what the doctoral degrees are in... Corgi knows ALL about him - and allows NO negatives in the comments, so you will definitely get both a rationalization and your hand smacked.
He’s hilarious 😂
He's so intelligent but he's also a real person!
Callers were allowed to ramble a bit too much this episode.
@1:27. Weak, John. I'd confront ANY man disrespecting my Bride.
John you should have asked the first caller if he was scared
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1:14:14
We miss Dave..
Who is we?
I get something out of every show with or without Dave.
400,000 a year, completely unrelatable to any average
This comment section is negative; y’all must be having a rough day.
love your show but....obviously you guys aren't car guys. some of us hoarder...er collector of cars have a really hard time letting go. It's like telling us to get rid of a child, or as George advised a listener to just sell a horse. (this is from a couple with 4 cars, 2 trucks, and 5 honda three wheelers) But Zero debt.
😂 George and the horse
You have zero debt and take care of yourself responsibly and are not a leech on society (or or in the future) - you can buy what you want!
get rid of your car, it doesn't even know your name. hahaha
Dave's getting old. Still does a great job on those ads though!
1:42:36
Dave has secretly been stacking up Bitcoin and Ethereum before the halving. Great move Dave🎉
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Why does Dave advertise that he is in Nashville? He has not been based in Nashville in over 20 years. He has a beautiful building in historic Franklin TN.
Because Nashville is universally recognized. Franklin is a suburb of Nashville so it’s close enough.
He often mentions Franklinville.
It is common for people to say they are from the biggest city they are living close to. Reason is everyone knows where "big city" is. Not everyone knows where "suburb" is.
Stop watching these shows as much because the ENTIRE SHOW is a big fat advertisement. Buy blinds, use our services, use our money pro and keep watching our advertising.. ridiculous might unsubscribe
It's still entertaining.
@@amireallythatgrumpy6508I only watch it for the entertainment value at this point...and the comments section.😉
@@amireallythatgrumpy6508I'm here for the entertainment value...and the comments here 😉
You must not watch other RUclips podcasts. They all have a plethora of ads. Gotta pay the bills somehow.
It's also free thanks to the ads
I dont care much for john!!!
You’re welcome to watch something else. I mean after all you CHOSE to click on a video with his face on the thumbnail. If not though, he appreciates your watch time and boosting of the algorithm! 😊
I love John!
I love jade.... john not so much.......
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Wait for the Corgi to pounce and bite! No negatives about John allowed🤣
I love John, he gives excellent guidance and advice.
Im not enjoying Jade's positioning or demeanor. Very unpleasant to practically every caller, abrasive really. Talking down to people similar to how Dave occasionally does, but her positions are never as coherent.
Example - The 22 year old woman in Mississippi living with her parents... First, she explains how quickly she can get back into a more valuable car. Secondly, she's throwing in the concept that she must pay her parents rent for living at her home under the purpose of building credit / documentation for when she eventually goes out and rents on her own.
How about keep $500 to $1000 a month partially supported by parents, being offered to her. Over a year or two, that could be between $6,000 and $24,000 when she decides to go out on her own. Or give the money to her parents and have a better lease application? No, that type of money is extremely valuable to someone at that stage, especially if they invested it. Short sighted not to address how that's being viewed between the young woman and her parents.
My kid won’t pay me back lol ur kid didn’t ask to be born 🤷🏻♀️
Nor did he ask for the loan - the parent offered, and now regrets the terms SHE made.