Advice I learned the hard way going through divorce: As soon as you two decide on following the separation thru to divorce get a written document notarized from this date on stating he is responsible for any of his own accrued debt thats began from this date on, and you yours. Otherwise since you are still legally married bill collectors can come after spouse cuz you're still legally attached to each other until divorce is completed.
@@aug07broken i don't see why not as long as its legible. And both parties sign it. Once its notarized its a legal document. Comes in handy if soon to be Ex spouse tries to make big purchases and then doesn't keep up on payments like a vehicle and such, or in my case if you each have your own vehicle Already, mentioning he's taking sole responsibility for ( list his vehicle) and you for yours (list your vehicle) so if his gets repoed after date of notarized split it can't be held against your credit.
My son started going to his dad's house at about 6 months old. He just turned 7 years old. It definitely gets easier to be alone. And the guilt will subside about making up for being a split home. This will become their normal and they will appreciate being in two happy homes instead of one unhappy home. I learned to embrace the alone time. I used to spend all day in bed crying because he was gone. Now I look forward to it sometimes. The first night is great for me. Then the second day is harder. But I know it's important for him to spend time with his other family. And I have learned to trust that he's being taken care of by them. I see his "other" family as more people that love him.
I’m a MESS during my separation and impending divorce. Here is what I’m starting that has helped. Just me, not saying is good for everyone. Back to church, reading,volunteering, gardening, hiking , in counseling snd joined the YMCA. 56 years old and the jerk is paying me half of his income and half of all OUR assets. So I’m not working. Sucks but it’s getting better. I have to force myself to out outside away from home , do something once a day at least. We got this woman! 😊
I thought I would never get married again after I had my short huge mistake marriage at age 26. I seriously thought I would be single forever. Ten years later I met my hubby and he is the best. Most of the time in the thick of divorce you think you will never get married again but never say never!
It’s hard to like these videos when I wanna scoope you in for a hug. There should be the heart or care buttons like in Facebook 🥰 I truly hope that you you both have talked through what it is that you guys can live with and grow your family together but apart with in the future. Much prayers for you doing this uncomfortable time. Blessings
Praying all went well with mediation, Mai! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I was so happy to see your video this morning. I've been checking to see if I missed a notification... lol I miss you when you don't post regularly, so I went back and watched some of your decluttering videos in the meantime for motivation. Hang in there, it will all be ok 👍🏻 You got this, girl...💗
Hope the mediation went well and that you will post a new video soon, keep us updated :D Regarding hobbies - after divorce I went to a dance class for a year and when the teacher started with aerial yoga lessons I tried that out and have been doing it ever since, over 4,5 years now. LOVE IT! I've always loved hammocks so it's really great and fun way to move myself, do a bit yoga, bit strength training, but most of all I love all kinds of tricks - upside down, somersaults etc. You know they say it's important to let your inner child have fun even when you are grown up? Those tricks really do it for me. Aerial yoga classes can be very different - some are really acrobatic and sporty, some more chill (I'm attending the last type).
What about a part time job to get you out of the house and meeting people? I used to be a hairstylist and it's a very fun and sociable work environment. If you didn't want to go to cosmetology school, you could always be a receptionist.
We really care for you, Mai! I know it's easy to say that from across a screen but you truly have such a likeable personality and grit and we see you and are here for it! Prayers for your well-being and mental health not just for the after effects of the meditation but also as you continue to get used to not being around your kids full time. Wish I lived closer to you so we could meet up for coffee or a kid's play date or something, and of course I'd deliver some of hubby's homemade crêpes! Take care 💕
Hey Zimmy, love your content 🙌 I highly recommend taking salsa classes. It has helped me become more confident and outgoing as well as made a few friends along the way.
i suggest maybe a crafting, painting or ceramics community class then you can always use, gift, or sell the stuff you make! usually colleges/universities have community classes available! or maybe a book club or learning an instrument and eventually joining a community group if you have something like that near you! hope you find something fun to do :)
I am a divorced introvert and my advice to you is to not force yourself to be extroverted. It won’t make you happy and you won’t follow through with it. Some great hobbies for introverts are running, crocheting, painting, cycling, etc. From there you may meet some other introverts who won’t overwhelm your energy. I am INTJ.
If you belong to a church, they usually have tons of single groups, Bible study groups, etc. You can also find some fun things to do for free at your local library. A book club would be fun. Just check the community board at your library. I always see interesting things I’d totally do if I didn’t have my kiddos with me. 😅
An Aries too 🎉 I can relate to your whole personality it’s so crazy that both of us are introverts but yet have RUclips channels I’ve still yet to figure that out myself 😂
I’m an INFJ too and it fits me to a tee as well. I definitely trust the personality test more than astrology. I took up the hobby of knitting a few years ago. It gives me something to do and it’s fun. There is a huge world out there that opened up to me with knitting. I joined a couple of knitting groups and we meet regularly. I’ve made so many good friends this way. Knitting fits my INFJ profile 😀
Thanks for recommending the bondi boost products! Have them in my cart and also took the personality test and used your swiffer microfiber method today! This is why I LIVE for ur vids - they inspire me sm haha. 🤗♥️🙏🏻
Hobbies from my own personal list that facilitate meeting people; dance class, book club, cooking class, film club, yoga class, group art classes (very therapeutic, much like dance!) learning a new language or instrument, photography (less social but still fun)
Not for everyone but snowboarding is a new hobby I picked up in the last year and has helped me make friends. It’s incredibly challenging and has truly pushed me to face my fears and tested my patience and ability to persevere. I would love to take up pottery or dance lessons so I can work on being more present in my body and be creative. I am an infj as well 😊
Community or church choirs are awesome and easy ways to make some friends and community! Also, since they’re community based being a good singer is not a requirement! It’s also just fun making music with others😃
You can take classes at the local community college or center for home and auto repair. Or you can also get a "handyman" relative to help you learn to be able to DIY.
Hobby - highly recommend bellydancing!! It’s a great way to make new friends, to practice muscle control, grow as a person, and gain confidence. You can learn online through a bunch of instructors and there are some really great teachers in Texas! Also - lots of love for all the stress and heartache you are going through.
Love your smile. You are doing amazing even in the great time of stress. I love your Arizona trip pictures so pretty. Your room/suite was heaven sent! So glad you were given that specific room. You are going to do great things in your life and great job as a mom!! Thank you for sharing your videos.
Unconventional advice for something to get you out there. I took pole dancing classes and the community around the sport is very accepting, and they were very positive! You don't need a super body to go to classes, and at least the ones I did weren't stripping, they were the tricks. It never hurts to try! :)
You asked for ideas of a hobby, so I'm here! Lol. I've never commented on your channel before now, but I love watching you. I've kept you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Anywho..I'm very introverted as well. HULA HOOP DANCING!!! The best part about it is you can do it alone AND gather with others/make new friends! Plus it's an active work out.
Taking a fencing class with my son. I also love to paint and have a lot of fun doing wine and paint night with my friends . Mai, what hobbies did you like as a kid/ and or teen? I garuntee there is an adult version out there to pick up whete you left off and meet others with that interest. I find it much easier to spend time with new people when we’re doing an activity in common. I’m not much of a Smalltalk person.
I don’t get out much anymore. Especially since the whole covid thing happened. But I go to the gym every day. The people there are mostly nice and friendly. Or maybe you could try fly fishing or golf? 😊
Fun hobby you could try is martial arts! I'm a super introvert but all of my lifetime friends are through martial arts. Its an amazing workout, great for health, a way to meet people, and also a great way to focus on yourself. Not to mention..great for learning self-defense! Sending good vibes your way for mediation ♡♡♡
Hi Mai good morning happy Saturday morning and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you
Continued prayers for you. Activity suggestions - zumba, county line dancing at a local bar, intramural volleyball (churches, ymca, community center), crafting or ceramics classes, golfing. Local churches normally have a singles or divorce support group. My friend met a few of her new friends from a group like that at our church. Does your area have any business professionals mixers or a local group for entrepreneurs or social media influencers?
I married my HS sweetheart!! We are very unique though & not like "typical normal people" haha but watching what you're going through is helpful when we go through our periodic bickering disagreements. No one is perfect. Divorce seems like a long drawn out process & I'm sure we would change our mind in the process so I'm keeping it together as long as I can! Haha but you're so adorable & fit! I'm sure you'll find new friends soon!!! 😊😊😊 the one thing about divorce that does intrigue me, is that I would have LEGIT breaks for ME TIME ALONE - like no kids at all haha that must be sooooooo nice!!!! I'm super introverted too. I used to love yoga! I would recommend workout classes. I don't drink alcohol either so it is pretty hard meeting new people- besides my kids' friends' moms! Haha
You should try cooking! I'm Hispanic but have recently taken to Indian and Koren cuisine.. good change and challenge some 🙂 Also, do you think you'll downsize when it comes to your house? Thank you! Take care 💕
It’d be very helpful for non-American subscribers if you could mention in your sponsorship part of the videos, if they ship out of the US eg. Canada! Just a though (: in Canada but would like to shop through your factor link if possible.
Hope you are ok, I went through a separation after many years and 2 children, it takes time to get used to it but now I feel so much happier and I know you will. Shame I don’t visit Texas, we could go out together and meet some new people 😂😀 x
I... don't have a hobby. Ahhahaha I'm thinking of crocheting and going to a meetup but that's pretty much it. My daughter is an Aries! She's kind and spunky.
If you have a local chamber of commerce, do their leadership program! A great way to connect with other professionals who like to socialize. Also, Junior League or the local Education Foundation or Women’s Center volunteer groups. Hope all went well with mediation!
Here 🙌 like always supporting your videos 💕 Have you tried going to the gym class? And not by yourself? I sometimes bound with the ppl around me 😂 no idea what else you can do cause like you I don’t go out often 😵💫😪
If you guys are amicable you shouldn’t do mediation imo. Find a lawyer to consult in alone what you’re entitled, if they agree do 50-50 or whatever you agree on, and file a joint petition. It’s cheaper but only if you’re amicable and in agreement and one party isn’t trying to take advantage of the other
I wouldn’t necessarily advise this if you’re a sahm or there are significant assets involved. It’s very important to be aware of your rights. But yea, lawyers are ridiculous $ and time consuming
I've found not getting married to be the best. I've been completely happy in a non-married committed relationship, with separate finances (shared expenses), and being able to retain my individuality. Love doesn't require a contract.
Marriage was better because it showed my kids I meant my part. It also provided alimony after being a stay at home mom so I don't feel pressed to find work whilst raising my children so I can focus on my family during this difficult time.
check out belly dancing. It's fun and even if you have all the coordination of a newborn puppy(me), it's fun and a workout. It also has the benefit of getting you in touch with your Female Body which is important for a mom but especially a mom who is going thru a divorce
Volunteering is so fun and humbling, you can do this with or without the kids! It’s a great way to help and meet, giving and caring people like yourself. Give yourself time. Don’t rush. Look up events going on in your area for you, and the kids. I’m so proud of you! Don’t pressure yourself on anything. Give yourselves Grace and understanding. Praying for peace and solace for you. This is a new year with lots to look forward to!❤
I was married for 30 years and it ended in divorce. I remarried a man with 3 children … with that came an ex wife, his parents and his children’s personalities. It is so more difficult than you can imagine. Tread lightly
Many years ago I was single and had just lost my job so I was in quite a "funk". I took line dancing classes. You don't need a partner, it's great exercise and I had so much fun and met some great people.
Take the group exercise classes at your gym. Great, fun workouts. You will get to know the people that come regularly and form friendships and camaraderie. The people that go like staying healthy and those are the types of people that I like to be friends with!
Hi, The only reason I subscribe to your channel is your cleaning tips and your stories. I don’t know if the gospel has ever been shared with you, but if I were you, try to find someone, a Christian person you are comfortable with, to share it with you. Then find a women’s home Bible study group to attend. An honest Bible study group should only have two rules, love God and love your neighbor. Jesus and I found each other when I was 19. I married a divorced lady with two children and we had one of our own. I have been, mostly happily married for 34 years. The key to my happiness is putting God first. Hope all works out with you. With God I know it would. -Bob
I’m an introvert too and it’s really hard to make new friends honestly. Especially since Covid it just feels even harder. And I just had my second child, I thought I wanted three but I’m overwhelmed and my eldest is three, i don’t know how you did three under two! And I’ve never been through a divorce but after bad breakups I tried to focus on activities I enjoyed, like taking an art class, I did fencing club fir a bit in college, just pursue your interests.
It's going to take time so don't rush into anything - like after giving birth, you need time to recoup. So enjoy the peace of learning to be happy with your own self and in time you're going to find the hobby/ outside interests that will make you happy.
Salsa dancing! It was the best thing I ever did. You meet tons of men and women partner dancing and bonding with ladies learning styling. You dress up cute! It’s exercise. And the dances are short and if you don’t like someone, it’s easy enough to avoid them. I have friends for life from this.
What?! I love watching your videos and have always especially appreciated the fact that you’re so comfortable in your own company and today I find out YOURE AN INFJ TOO?! Girl some time we gotta get together and just nerd out together about INFJ life and mom life!
Girl, I get why you wouldn’t want to get married again but god designed marriage for a reason and when we have Him In it as the center then marriage becomes a completely different animal. I’m a good way. So just keep an open mind about that. Not all marriages lead to stupid lawyers and fees. Also if you feel so inclined- join a church! Texas has amazing churches! Don’t know what part you’re from but my church just started a new one there called compass Bible church: they literally have groups for everything! And I’m sure lots of new people to meet and not too mention your kids will have faith based values growing up! Not trying to tell you what to do or how to love, just offering my two cents cus I adore you and love you like a real friend (even tho you don’t know who the hell I am 🤣🤣🤣). Also my sister married a man with a child. The man is amazing the child and the ex wife are not…as another follower commented…TREAD LIGHTLY. My poor sister who is the best person ever has to deal with a world of BS! Falling in love with a great guy and having another child might be a great path you never knew would happen. Not saying it will happen but you never know.
I’m super into astrology but I’m equally as into Enneagram. I love enneagram. Take the test if you haven’t already! Have you tried pottery? Could be a fun hobby! And super relaxing!
Do you think that maybe if you made some changes to the house update your space and make it completely your own and your own style. It might make you feel better?
Conventions... There are house, garden, media, gaming, art and pop culture conventions. Definitely brings you out of your shell but also lets you peak into other hobby cultures and you can make new friends with those same interests.
Maybe you could try archery or paint by numbers from Michels they also have classes of decorating painting paint pouring wreaths good place to meet creative people
Its the freedom for me too! I am introverted so I wanted to be outside but not with people necessarily. I kayak and hike! Both are so peaceful. the PEACE is worth the divorce for me. Highly contentious divorce, angry ex is always coming after me. It affects our kids, so to be able to go outside with them, or just myself, is super freeing and peaceful. When you are stressed, go outside!
One thing you can do to get out is to join a local singing group. Sweet Adeline’s International has choruses in cities all over the world. They sing “4 part harmony in the barbershop style’. There are also local chorales choruses to sing with ( for example the chorus here in Wilmington NC is focusing on patriotic songs for it’s spring program.
Mia keep up the great work. If you would like to learn wood turning I would be glad to mentor you. Can I be one part of your family? Happy to support you and the kids.
Advice I learned the hard way going through divorce: As soon as you two decide on following the separation thru to divorce get a written document notarized from this date on stating he is responsible for any of his own accrued debt thats began from this date on, and you yours. Otherwise since you are still legally married bill collectors can come after spouse cuz you're still legally attached to each other until divorce is completed.
Hi, ty for this advice! Is this just something I can hand write, like a self-attested statement and then get it notarized? Thx again!
@@aug07broken i don't see why not as long as its legible. And both parties sign it. Once its notarized its a legal document. Comes in handy if soon to be Ex spouse tries to make big purchases and then doesn't keep up on payments like a vehicle and such, or in my case if you each have your own vehicle Already, mentioning he's taking sole responsibility for ( list his vehicle) and you for yours (list your vehicle) so if his gets repoed after date of notarized split it can't be held against your credit.
@@lenarobins2480 Thank you Lena! All the best to you! ☺️
Yes free trader agreement !!!!
My son started going to his dad's house at about 6 months old. He just turned 7 years old. It definitely gets easier to be alone. And the guilt will subside about making up for being a split home. This will become their normal and they will appreciate being in two happy homes instead of one unhappy home. I learned to embrace the alone time. I used to spend all day in bed crying because he was gone. Now I look forward to it sometimes. The first night is great for me. Then the second day is harder. But I know it's important for him to spend time with his other family. And I have learned to trust that he's being taken care of by them. I see his "other" family as more people that love him.
i met my very best group of friends by going to a book club. Volunteering is another great way to meet people!
I’m a MESS during my separation and impending divorce. Here is what I’m starting that has helped. Just me, not saying is good for everyone. Back to church, reading,volunteering, gardening, hiking , in counseling snd joined the YMCA. 56 years old and the jerk is paying me half of his income and half of all OUR assets. So I’m not working. Sucks but it’s getting better. I have to force myself to out outside away from home , do something once a day at least. We got this woman! 😊
I thought I would never get married again after I had my short huge mistake marriage at age 26. I seriously thought I would be single forever. Ten years later I met my hubby and he is the best. Most of the time in the thick of divorce you think you will never get married again but never say never!
Awe! Well said!! ❤
It’s hard to like these videos when I wanna scoope you in for a hug. There should be the heart or care buttons like in Facebook 🥰 I truly hope that you you both have talked through what it is that you guys can live with and grow your family together but apart with in the future. Much prayers for you doing this uncomfortable time.
Blessings
Praying all went well with mediation, Mai! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I was so happy to see your video this morning. I've been checking to see if I missed a notification... lol I miss you when you don't post regularly, so I went back and watched some of your decluttering videos in the meantime for motivation. Hang in there, it will all be ok 👍🏻 You got this, girl...💗
Would you ever get a dog? I’ve met a lot of friends at the dog park and training. Plus when your kids are away you wouldn’t be totally alone.
Hope the mediation went well and that you will post a new video soon, keep us updated :D Regarding hobbies - after divorce I went to a dance class for a year and when the teacher started with aerial yoga lessons I tried that out and have been doing it ever since, over 4,5 years now. LOVE IT! I've always loved hammocks so it's really great and fun way to move myself, do a bit yoga, bit strength training, but most of all I love all kinds of tricks - upside down, somersaults etc. You know they say it's important to let your inner child have fun even when you are grown up? Those tricks really do it for me. Aerial yoga classes can be very different - some are really acrobatic and sporty, some more chill (I'm attending the last type).
What about a part time job to get you out of the house and meeting people?
I used to be a hairstylist and it's a very fun and sociable work environment. If you didn't want to go to cosmetology school, you could always be a receptionist.
We really care for you, Mai! I know it's easy to say that from across a screen but you truly have such a likeable personality and grit and we see you and are here for it! Prayers for your well-being and mental health not just for the after effects of the meditation but also as you continue to get used to not being around your kids full time. Wish I lived closer to you so we could meet up for coffee or a kid's play date or something, and of course I'd deliver some of hubby's homemade crêpes! Take care 💕
Me as well…I wish I lived closer to you & we can meet for coffee & just chat about our mom’s crazy life🌷💜
Hey Zimmy, love your content 🙌 I highly recommend taking salsa classes. It has helped me become more confident and outgoing as well as made a few friends along the way.
i suggest maybe a crafting, painting or ceramics community class then you can always use, gift, or sell the stuff you make! usually colleges/universities have community classes available! or maybe a book club or learning an instrument and eventually joining a community group if you have something like that near you! hope you find something fun to do :)
I am a divorced introvert and my advice to you is to not force yourself to be extroverted. It won’t make you happy and you won’t follow through with it. Some great hobbies for introverts are running, crocheting, painting, cycling, etc. From there you may meet some other introverts who won’t overwhelm your energy. I am INTJ.
If you belong to a church, they usually have tons of single groups, Bible study groups, etc. You can also find some fun things to do for free at your local library. A book club would be fun. Just check the community board at your library. I always see interesting things I’d totally do if I didn’t have my kiddos with me. 😅
An Aries too 🎉 I can relate to your whole personality it’s so crazy that both of us are introverts but yet have RUclips channels I’ve still yet to figure that out myself 😂
I’m an INFJ too and it fits me to a tee as well. I definitely trust the personality test more than astrology. I took up the hobby of knitting a few years ago. It gives me something to do and it’s fun. There is a huge world out there that opened up to me with knitting. I joined a couple of knitting groups and we meet regularly. I’ve made so many good friends this way. Knitting fits my INFJ profile 😀
I joined my local CrossFit gym, and it’s been a game changer for me. I’m such an introvert, and the gym helped me meet some great people!
Thanks for recommending the bondi boost products! Have them in my cart and also took the personality test and used your swiffer microfiber method today! This is why I LIVE for ur vids - they inspire me sm haha. 🤗♥️🙏🏻
Hobbies from my own personal list that facilitate meeting people; dance class, book club, cooking class, film club, yoga class, group art classes (very therapeutic, much like dance!) learning a new language or instrument, photography (less social but still fun)
Join a life group at a church. They will be your new family who will step in and help out and do life with you. It's really great
Tennis is fun, I have friends who enjoy golf, but I don’t try that. Take some arts and craft classes, painting, ceramics, cake decorating.
Not for everyone but snowboarding is a new hobby I picked up in the last year and has helped me make friends. It’s incredibly challenging and has truly pushed me to face my fears and tested my patience and ability to persevere. I would love to take up pottery or dance lessons so I can work on being more present in my body and be creative. I am an infj as well 😊
Thinking of you. Glad AZ trip went well.
Mai,would you consider doing a day in the life of a single mom of 3 kids and how you manage it all alone? You dont have to show your kids.
That would be an awesome content Mia🌷💜💚💙🌷
Praying for you, you are handling your divorce in a good and healthy way. I truly admire you!!!
Community or church choirs are awesome and easy ways to make some friends and community! Also, since they’re community based being a good singer is not a requirement! It’s also just fun making music with others😃
I’m an INFJ-A too! Actually spent the last 3 years working as an Advocate, haha! No wonder I love your videos ☺️🤍
You can take classes at the local community college or center for home and auto repair. Or you can also get a "handyman" relative to help you learn to be able to DIY.
I would seriously ask the ex if you’re still amicable! You’re still learning and if he’s willing to help, why not?!
Hobby - highly recommend bellydancing!! It’s a great way to make new friends, to practice muscle control, grow as a person, and gain confidence. You can learn online through a bunch of instructors and there are some really great teachers in Texas!
Also - lots of love for all the stress and heartache you are going through.
Love your smile. You are doing amazing even in the great time of stress. I love your Arizona trip pictures so pretty. Your room/suite was heaven sent! So glad you were given that specific room. You are going to do great things in your life and great job as a mom!! Thank you for sharing your videos.
Unconventional advice for something to get you out there.
I took pole dancing classes and the community around the sport is very accepting, and they were very positive! You don't need a super body to go to classes, and at least the ones I did weren't stripping, they were the tricks. It never hurts to try! :)
You asked for ideas of a hobby, so I'm here! Lol. I've never commented on your channel before now, but I love watching you. I've kept you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Anywho..I'm very introverted as well. HULA HOOP DANCING!!! The best part about it is you can do it alone AND gather with others/make new friends! Plus it's an active work out.
Volunteering is a great hobby!
Taking a fencing class with my son.
I also love to paint and have a lot of fun doing wine and paint night with my friends .
Mai, what hobbies did you like as a kid/ and or teen? I garuntee there is an adult version out there to pick up whete you left off and meet others with that interest. I find it much easier to spend time with new people when we’re doing an activity in common. I’m not much of a Smalltalk person.
I don’t get out much anymore. Especially since the whole covid thing happened. But I go to the gym every day. The people there are mostly nice and friendly. Or maybe you could try fly fishing or golf? 😊
Fun hobby you could try is martial arts! I'm a super introvert but all of my lifetime friends are through martial arts. Its an amazing workout, great for health, a way to meet people, and also a great way to focus on yourself. Not to mention..great for learning self-defense!
Sending good vibes your way for mediation ♡♡♡
Hobbies to try: aqua aerobics, Bible study, golf, tennis, coloring. Good luck. I enjoy your videos. Thanks.
Hi Mai good morning happy Saturday morning and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you
Love your videos, always feel like I’m listening to a friend when I watch them! Ps where is your shirt from?! Love it!!
Continued prayers for you. Activity suggestions - zumba, county line dancing at a local bar, intramural volleyball (churches, ymca, community center), crafting or ceramics classes, golfing. Local churches normally have a singles or divorce support group. My friend met a few of her new friends from a group like that at our church. Does your area have any business professionals mixers or a local group for entrepreneurs or social media influencers?
I married my HS sweetheart!! We are very unique though & not like "typical normal people" haha but watching what you're going through is helpful when we go through our periodic bickering disagreements. No one is perfect. Divorce seems like a long drawn out process & I'm sure we would change our mind in the process so I'm keeping it together as long as I can! Haha but you're so adorable & fit! I'm sure you'll find new friends soon!!! 😊😊😊 the one thing about divorce that does intrigue me, is that I would have LEGIT breaks for ME TIME ALONE - like no kids at all haha that must be sooooooo nice!!!! I'm super introverted too. I used to love yoga! I would recommend workout classes. I don't drink alcohol either so it is pretty hard meeting new people- besides my kids' friends' moms! Haha
Fellow Aries here! I also have no clue what that means either😂
ditto
Missed you!!!! Good luck!
Try ballroom dancing! Or learn to play an instrument like violin or piano. Both would be great for emotional and physical health 😊
You should try cooking! I'm Hispanic but have recently taken to Indian and Koren cuisine.. good change and challenge some 🙂
Also, do you think you'll downsize when it comes to your house? Thank you! Take care 💕
It’d be very helpful for non-American subscribers if you could mention in your sponsorship part of the videos, if they ship out of the US eg. Canada! Just a though (: in Canada but would like to shop through your factor link if possible.
Hope you are ok, I went through a separation after many years and 2 children, it takes time to get used to it but now I feel so much happier and I know you will. Shame I don’t visit Texas, we could go out together and meet some new people 😂😀 x
Try pole dancing! I have found an amazing sisterhood once i started! Its also helped me feel more confident
Yea this is your perspective we don’t know what really went on
I... don't have a hobby. Ahhahaha I'm thinking of crocheting and going to a meetup but that's pretty much it.
My daughter is an Aries! She's kind and spunky.
Fellow Aries ♈️ woot!
If you have a local chamber of commerce, do their leadership program! A great way to connect with other professionals who like to socialize. Also, Junior League or the local Education Foundation or Women’s Center volunteer groups. Hope all went well with mediation!
I signed up for a pottery wheel throwing class. It really got me out of my comfort zone
Love these updates and you! I love your blouse may ask where it is from?
It’s from a small boutique and they don’t have any online presence otherwise I would share the link!
Here 🙌 like always supporting your videos 💕 Have you tried going to the gym class? And not by yourself? I sometimes bound with the ppl around me 😂 no idea what else you can do cause like you I don’t go out often 😵💫😪
I hope your mediation went well Mai.
You can do a birth chart, that would be fun for you to see if that fits your personality.
Hope all was ok x
Hi! Hope your ok! Haven't heard from you. Keep checking. 😢 🙏 🌷 For you 💔. Hang in there girl.
Rock climbing 😊
Keep going forward, hobby could take is going to shooting range, sure their group of women that does this,
Mediation?! Ours was quick and easy.
If you guys are amicable you shouldn’t do mediation imo. Find a lawyer to consult in alone what you’re entitled, if they agree do 50-50 or whatever you agree on, and file a joint petition. It’s cheaper but only if you’re amicable and in agreement and one party isn’t trying to take advantage of the other
I wouldn’t necessarily advise this if you’re a sahm or there are significant assets involved. It’s very important to be aware of your rights. But yea, lawyers are ridiculous $ and time consuming
How was mediation?!
My husband is an INFJ-A and I am an INFJ-T.
I've found not getting married to be the best. I've been completely happy in a non-married committed relationship, with separate finances (shared expenses), and being able to retain my individuality. Love doesn't require a contract.
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Marriage was better because it showed my kids I meant my part. It also provided alimony after being a stay at home mom so I don't feel pressed to find work whilst raising my children so I can focus on my family during this difficult time.
check out belly dancing. It's fun and even if you have all the coordination of a newborn puppy(me), it's fun and a workout. It also has the benefit of getting you in touch with your Female Body which is important for a mom but especially a mom who is going thru a divorce
Why don’t you try to find a church? They always have all kinds of activities and events. And it is a great way to socialize. ☺️
Mosaics
But where’s your top from??
Small boutique that doesn’t have a website otherwise I would link!!
There is definitely something to astrology.
Play hockey again!
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You could make friends in church ❤
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Wow she must be rich
Volunteering is so fun and humbling, you can do this with or without the kids!
It’s a great way to help and meet, giving and caring people like yourself. Give yourself time. Don’t rush. Look up events going on in your area for you, and the kids.
I’m so proud of you! Don’t pressure yourself on anything. Give yourselves Grace and understanding.
Praying for peace and solace for you.
This is a new year with lots to look forward to!❤
I was married for 30 years and it ended in divorce. I remarried a man with 3 children … with that came an ex wife, his parents and his children’s personalities. It is so more difficult than you can imagine. Tread lightly
YES IT IS.
Many years ago I was single and had just lost my job so I was in quite a "funk". I took line dancing classes. You don't need a partner, it's great exercise and I had so much fun and met some great people.
Get a dog. A big dog. Go to dog parks and on hikes. OR!!!! Become a foster family for dogs!!!! You’ll meet other rescuers etc.
How did you stay in such amazing shape when so many kids in a short time span?!
Take the group exercise classes at your gym. Great, fun workouts. You will get to know the people that come regularly and form friendships and camaraderie. The people that go like staying healthy and those are the types of people that I like to be friends with!
Hi, The only reason I subscribe to your channel is your cleaning tips and your stories. I don’t know if the gospel has ever been shared with you, but if I were you, try to find someone, a Christian person you are comfortable with, to share it with you. Then find a women’s home Bible study group to attend. An honest Bible study group should only have two rules, love God and love your neighbor. Jesus and I found each other when I was 19. I married a divorced lady with two children and we had one of our own. I have been, mostly happily married for 34 years. The key to my happiness is putting God first. Hope all works out with you. With God I know it would. -Bob
I’m an introvert too and it’s really hard to make new friends honestly. Especially since Covid it just feels even harder. And I just had my second child, I thought I wanted three but I’m overwhelmed and my eldest is three, i don’t know how you did three under two! And I’ve never been through a divorce but after bad breakups I tried to focus on activities I enjoyed, like taking an art class, I did fencing club fir a bit in college, just pursue your interests.
It's going to take time so don't rush into anything - like after giving birth, you need time to recoup. So enjoy the peace of learning to be happy with your own self and in time you're going to find the hobby/ outside interests that will make you happy.
Salsa dancing! It was the best thing I ever did. You meet tons of men and women partner dancing and bonding with ladies learning styling. You dress up cute! It’s exercise. And the dances are short and if you don’t like someone, it’s easy enough to avoid them. I have friends for life from this.
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What?! I love watching your videos and have always especially appreciated the fact that you’re so comfortable in your own company and today I find out YOURE AN INFJ TOO?! Girl some time we gotta get together and just nerd out together about INFJ life and mom life!
Watched some vids on your channel. Love it!!!
Bowling is an activity that you can do year round.
Girl, I get why you wouldn’t want to get married again but god designed marriage for a reason and when we have Him In it as the center then marriage becomes a completely different animal. I’m a good way. So just keep an open mind about that. Not all marriages lead to stupid lawyers and fees. Also if you feel so inclined- join a church! Texas has amazing churches! Don’t know what part you’re from but my church just started a new one there called compass Bible church: they literally have groups for everything! And I’m sure lots of new people to meet and not too mention your kids will have faith based values growing up! Not trying to tell you what to do or how to love, just offering my two cents cus I adore you and love you like a real friend (even tho you don’t know who the hell I am 🤣🤣🤣). Also my sister married a man with a child. The man is amazing the child and the ex wife are not…as another follower commented…TREAD LIGHTLY. My poor sister who is the best person ever has to deal with a world of BS!
Falling in love with a great guy and having another child might be a great path you never knew would happen. Not saying it will happen but you never know.
I’m super into astrology but I’m equally as into Enneagram. I love enneagram. Take the test if you haven’t already! Have you tried pottery? Could be a fun hobby! And super relaxing!
Do you think that maybe if you made some changes to the house update your space and make it completely your own and your own style. It might make you feel better?
Conventions... There are house, garden, media, gaming, art and pop culture conventions. Definitely brings you out of your shell but also lets you peak into other hobby cultures and you can make new friends with those same interests.
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Maybe you could try archery or paint by numbers from Michels they also have classes of decorating painting paint pouring wreaths good place to meet creative people
Its the freedom for me too! I am introverted so I wanted to be outside but not with people necessarily. I kayak and hike! Both are so peaceful. the PEACE is worth the divorce for me. Highly contentious divorce, angry ex is always coming after me. It affects our kids, so to be able to go outside with them, or just myself, is super freeing and peaceful. When you are stressed, go outside!
One thing you can do to get out is to join a local singing group. Sweet Adeline’s International has choruses in cities all over the world. They sing “4 part harmony in the barbershop style’. There are also local chorales choruses to sing with ( for example the chorus here in Wilmington NC is focusing on patriotic songs for it’s spring program.
Mia keep up the great work. If you would like to learn wood turning I would be glad to mentor you.
Can I be one part of your family? Happy to support you and the kids.