@@kaavishnaz417 Yes, it can all over, however, it will be most resistant to weight loss in the midsection. If you have an initial apple shape, you probably wouldn't be able to tell the difference in the resistance, as that's where the weight is centered to start with. If you've always has a flat stomach, it's very noticeable.
BJRowell--When I met my soon-to-be EX-husband, his former partner had died from pancreatic cancer about 1.5 years before we met. Ofcourse he hid his narcissism while dating, but he pushed to get married in less than 4 months after meeting. RED FLAG, which I did not recognize. After getting married, within one week, his EXTREME narcissism and abuse started, including physical. Then I started to learn all about him, his life before we met, and his former partner. It turned out, she was EXTREMELY codependent to him, and that's why they were together 22 years. She put up with his narcissim and the love of money, which ultimately killed her. I left him 11 months this after getting married. If I had not, I'd probably be dead too.
I have recently been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. I had a "cyst" removed on my torso, below my armpit and it came back as a sebaceous gland cancer. I was with my X for 16 years whom was narcissistic, then thought I met the man of my dreams after him whom turned out to be more narcissistic. 23 years of ups and downs, and I've had my share of health issues with this being the latest. I suffer with fibromyalgia as well. Currently being tested for Lupus. I do believe a lot of what's going on with me is from the abuse I was exposed to. If only I could turn the clock. I have so many regrets.
I just pray God will give us divine justice. When every abuse we endure take toll on our health already ( the aftermath of all their abuse). Cancer is still cancer and other illnesses that are with it. While we suffer, we see them enjoying life like they did no wrong ( No conscience and remorse). While we are dealing with health issues that it's like you don't know if you'll still hold with your life on or give up.
I have gone NO CONTACT since Jan 2nd of this year. I am suffering from CPTSD because of the traumatic abuse I have endured. I am far from healed from this and I just had heart ♥ surgery 2 weeks ago. I am on a waiting list for counseling and feel exhausted everyday. I also survived a traumatic brain injury over a year and a half ago. I rely on God's Word and His Grace to heal me. I have gained weight through all of this and my hair is falling out. Danish helped me realize that we are dealing with DEMONS, this is spiritual warfare. I pray for all of us going through this. I pray for peace and blessings for all of us. Stay strong and stay in faith. Jesus loves you and so do I. Your Sister in Christ, Just Jen.
Listening to Gregorian Chants is very relaxing. It helps me sleep. Plus, demons hate it, when played at a low volume, and exorcists use them to help drive them out.
Iam also going through this same thing..i cant seem to heal..i keep thinking about all the things that happened to me n i wasnt putting myself first..ignored myself..hope i get my life back..jesus does help us heal.
Stay on course. Healing music helps me a lot and can be found on RUclips. Gardening helps me even more. I’d rather give my love and attention to my tomato plants than abusive people. I just had to block my ex husband on my phone. We co-parent but I told him to email me if he needs to speak to me. I’m done with him after he beat up our 11 year old son. ❤
@@undercoverbird8592 I am so very sorry to hear about your son. I will pray for you and your son. In Psalm 34:18 it says, " The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit". This is comforting to know. I wish you the best. Peace and blessings to you. Love, your Sister in Christ. Just Jen.
Now I know why I am suddenly so tired and need to rest. Sometimes I am so tired that I feel I am going to faint. I also have to motivate myself to go out and push myself to think positive. Thank you for this information. May God give you strength and health, so you can help people from all over the world🙏🙏🙏
Same here: went from 250 to 175 in about 2 years. Lost 30% of my body weight and did almost nothing, T also shot thru the roof. They kill your body thru your mind.
For 10 years during and following narc abuse, my appetite was completely gone, and I looked like a coat hanger. In modern society this is deemed a favourable condition, so my attempts to get help failed and led to more shame and humiliation. When I recovered my appetite, the smallest amount of food led to inordinate weight gain, deemed unfavorable by society, so I was blamed and shamed for 'letting myself go'.
Before I got out of my 7yr relationship with a narc, I had felt extremely nervous all the time, depressed, lost abt 70%of my hair, and just felt so ugly arnd him, so after going through the loss of my dear sweet mom, and he wasn’t any support for me, as a matter of fact he started treating me worse, and even went to the bar that night. He ghosted me one day outa nowhere, and I knew I had to get out and away from him asap! I’m getting help from God and my Guardian Angel Mom that has kept me moving forward to a happier, healthier life that I am forever thankful for. Please please please, get away from the toxic situations your in and start living your life the way you deserve. It’s the only way!! Thank you for all your helpful videos. 🙏💪💛
The impact is unbelievable- every physical ailment I’ve had in last several years always traces back to the narc trauma - Fighting to get back to myself is harder than leaving.
One of the worst things that happens is your looks go! Cortisone hormone forced my hair to fall out so it was so thin. Not a good look! I also gained weight in my stomach! Unusual for me! My wedding dress was tight. I didn’t eat much but I had a balloon in my stomach. I worked out but no stomach weight gone. I too woke up in worry! Sad, hyper and confused…depressed, ptsd… My stomach went down but have been through dermatologist! They haven’t helped. I got away from him two years ago!
I’m about a month no contact with the person who was destroying me. I started advocating for my health (both mentally and physically) more than ever before. Losing weight, started some ashwaghanda gummies and was also placed on Ozempic (for my diabetes, it was completely out of control) but it’s dropped 10 off me in 3 weeks. The devastation a narcissist causes a partner takes a toll.
My god I just went back to my parents house and i swear this is the absolute worst experience in the world. Lack of willingness to empathize name calling. And other forms of verbal abuse is daunting. Both my parents are very triggering and I don’t like being here. They are crazy.
If you can't change the stressors or how you react to them, you can still do things such as exercise, sauna, cold exposure, nose breathing and fasting can all play a role in reducing your body's stress response
Great advice. There are many videos on the vagus nerve that are excellent. Yoga and slow breathing (Breathe in, count to 4, Hold breath, count to 4 and exhale count to 4) can help you regulate and trick you body to stop the automatic stress response.
Thank you Danish. At 65, it is too late for me to reverse the damage that I experienced since being a baby. But it helps knowing that it is not my fault.
It's not just what happens when you wake up...cortisol wakes you up. Cortisol drives up insulin resistance, which drives central obesity as part of a range of metabolic disorders. Elevated cortisol can then lead to muscle wasting.
Yes. I think the best way to combat this is weight lifting. This will build muscle mass (as opposed to aerobic exercise like running or biking). The more muscles you have, the more calories your body will burn. Even at rest. Right now I'm fighting a beach ball stomach that started during Covid isolation and lack of exercise and my business going under and ensuing bankruptcy, but for more than one year I've stopped drinking alcohol entirely (was never a big drinker anyways but it messes with your metabolism), go to the gym and eat healthy but the stomach fat just sticks there. Seriously think I need liposuction as a last resort. My doctor just gave me the green light to go get all of my hormone levels, etc. tested so hopefully we can find something concrete causing this.
Yes! I lost a lot of weight. I got down to 98 lbs and I was shaking constantly. My hair was falling out in piles. I just wanted to sleep all the time but I had to fight ti survive so sleep was rare.
Interesting. The narc I got tangled up with was always losing lots of hair for several years toward the end. Also constant BO, and she gained a ton of weight.
Interesting timing. About a year after I left 23 years of narcissistic abuse, I started noticing signs resembling Cushing's disease in my body, though I didn't realize it could have been Cushing's until years later. I don't have a diagnosis, and I'm still learning a lot about it while I'm trying to get tested for what I believe is a cyclical case, but it wouldn't surprise me if there was a link between complex trauma and Cushing's.
It can cause deleterious effects on your learning, memory and concentration power. It took me 4 years to complete a 2.5 year course, when I was in college.And that too was impossible without the kind support of my friends and professors. Thank you all❤
This has actually happened to me over the past few days due to a narc abuse victim accidentally triggering my old childhood cortisol patterns. Once I relieved myself of the toxic friendship - I feel like a new person. I changed my environment - mostly Sure, I still have no appetite whatsoever due to fear of the abusive boyfriend attacking me. Long story. I'm learning that these signs are what I used to experience when I was under immense stress from my narc mother. She would scream and yell at me when I was in trouble and at 29 I'm still internally terrified of being screamed at like that - even if I might deserve it. I'm learning so much about why I feel the way I do and why my body acts the way it does. Thank you, Danish! Much appreciated.
Yes, lost all appetite and 5kg or so, and I wasn't overweight. Total lack of energy and unexpected falling hair. Always had fine but thick hair, all of a sudden clogged brush and shower drain. Where to now, out of it Eighteen months...
As always, thank you Danish. I do wake up with anxiety and it’s making me crazy. He’s been out of the house for a year… yet I still have the anxiety. We were together 13 years . I look forward to being a member. I just want ME back without anxiety .
I am a NP who was in school so I knew about cortisol levels so I didnt stress too hard about the weight. I was concerned about my adrenals though. Thankful my ability to learn was not impacted. I knew I needed to get away from him. I went from 130lbs to 189lbs after dating a narc for 4 yrs . I kicked him out I lost 20lbs in 2 weeks. 4 years later I am back to baseline.
Yep, lost 40 lbs during the abuse. Divorce has been final for 9 months, now symptoms of chronic fatigue. Emotional torture every morning and no energy. CPTSD
Been surrounded by them my whole life and in 2021 it nearly killed me. My dhea was the only hormone that was off but I had all these symptoms to the extreme. Number 3 became full on narcolepsy at one point! I'm sorta thankful my body fell apart, even though I still need a wheelchair 50% of the time, because I was in complete denial and it allowed my doctor to ask the right questions to help me see reality. Now with all the latest research on this it's becoming clear growing up with 3 narc parent figures caused most of not all my health problems because I was growing and developing in a constant state of panic. Thankfully psychedelic assisted therapy is looking extremely promising in treating it and resetting the stress response to a healthy state. Now we just need to make it available for everyone who needs it and not just soldiers and veterans.
I am 3 mos post discard. In the first 2 weeks I went from 124lbs down tob116lbs. I only slept 3 hours a night for the first 7 weeks. I was exhausted, couldn't focus, rumination was rampant. My blood pressure was all over the place even though I was taking my BP meds. I devoured every possible narcissistic video I could find. I still watch as many videos as possible, but I started listening to the audio version of the book of Proverbs and it helped me fall asleep. I have finally gotten to 120lbs, and sleep 6-6 1/2 hrs nightly. I don't get as triggered in this last week. I am 61yrs old, and I refuse to allow him to take anymore of my life than he already has. Healing is a time consuming, heartbreaking, and difficult process for sure, but I am determined this time that I will never go back to what broke me.
This is so true. I am feeling so peaceful these days and all health issues gone... But narc toxic vibrations will affect your health and cause all issues. We are total loosers in relationship. So avoid such workplaces, people - boss, friend, dating partner.
Thank You,Danish. Yes, I've seen how Narcissistic Abuse can affect the body through different Family Members and Friends. Some people lose their apetite and experience weight loss. But too, Some people end up constantly hungry and then constantly stress eat, which makes them gain weight. Lose or Gain, it all takes its toll on the bodies and minds of Narcissistic Abuse Victims. I also have come to see how NA affects both Sleep Quality and Length and Energy Levels through the day. The more Stressed Out one feels, the less restful the sleep is and the more disturbing one's dreams become. The less stressed one feels, the more restful and calm sleep becomes. It sometimes can feel like an inescapable situation of fatigue and depression, because You are going to bed stressed, sleeping stressed and then wake up not refreshed though you slept and are already bracing for a new day of uncertainty and trauma.
I developed severe acne around the time when I finally decided to break up with them for good. It took me a few months in which my acne got worse and worse, even though I never had problems with Acne before.
I am 47 years victim of munshaus by proxy and still in it, can’t get out of it… I have this problem my hole life 😮 I am trying to get out but it’s almost impossible, I lost already everything because of this.
Difficult to explain but if your mom is the reason and that’s from the start you where born. Everything and everybody treats you this way and it takes a long time going from therapist and doctors who tell you all the time you are not the one but my mom was. Also the financial control etc etc…. If everybody thinks your grazy and my mom is also the good looking charming woman who everybody likes and is very very smart as wel, isolated you from your brothers and father along the way. You just can’t find a way out, she is in control of everything.
Am 69 yo presently. I was anorexic & bulimic from age 15 1/2 - age 28 or so. I lost a lot of hair when about 33 -thru ?, after the birth of my 2nd child at age 34 & I was depressed from age 34 on. (I thought it might be Post-Partem Depression. I was misdiagnosed as having Bi-Polar Disorder & put on various psych meds for 18-22 yrs. I actually had had a Traumatic Brain Injury at age 14 (was in a coma for 13 days & in the ICU at Stanford University Hospital in 1968 + 2 weeks in Kaiser Hospital in Redwood City CA.) I am clean & sober now & have 37 yrs clean & sober thru a famous 12-step, self-help program & only take a low-dose of Thyroid medication for my low Thyroid condition. However, I still have sleep problems (I sort of 'panic' when I wake up in the middle of the night & can't get back to sleep. Thank you for your informative videos; I find them quite helpful & reassuring.
Omg as I listen to you more and more am shaking iwas extremely sick with gas just yesterday I kept throwing up because I have no appetite to eat at all untill my doctors don't know what to do....
Waking up and afraid to check my text messages - The fight or flight begins- feet ache like I’m on edge of building, heart rate spikes, breathing particularly through nose becomes wildly clear, he will have sent a loving message, a mean message or no message (to punish and get attention). Tone set for day. Can’t focus, can’t sit still, can’t perform tasks. Can’t think. Ugh.
All true!! It just takes a terrible toll on your life, leaves u so tired and lazy.All l want is to be healed and also for my other abusers who have been hurt!!🕊️🕊️
Hi Danish I'm requesting to put a vedio of marriage counseling how to explain to them about a narcissistic husband whatever we say they manuplate them also so please...
he'll be fine. He's baiting you. using whatever will get you back doing things for him. Do not go back unless you want to go around the crazy wheel again.
I don't eat for days at a time, it's a psychological block of some kind. I have never eaten properly and I am 64yrs old. I was shamed and threatened if I ate ANYTHING that I wasn't Given permission to have. Still today 50 yrs later I feel sick to my stomach when I think of eating. I put it off till I'm starving, then eat a whole pizza. I was singled out at age 6 and victimized by an adult, for catching him beating up my mom. Then SHE compounded the event by grabbing me and running home to her mom, for months, that woke me up to who he was. And set me up for vicious abuse up untill I put a 30 caliber bullet through my chest to get the fuck out. We lived too close to the hospital so I survived. At least a hundred times in my life I have thought to myself how it's too bad I survived, I found peace and the bastard took it away. Only to subject me to a lifetime of psychological abuse, smearing and gaslighting. Now 48 yrs later narcissism has become public knowledge and people are finally speaking thier truth. Child abusers have been allowed and protected by church and government institutions historically because of the monarchist history of society. THE BIGGEST BULLY GETS WHATEVER THEY WANT. Anyone who disagrees disappears in the dark
Don't let them win. Love Yourself, parent yourself. Do not sink! Rise! You, the child within you needs you - Listen to Danish, listen to others on RUclips. Save yourself and do the good in the world and to others that wasn't done for you. Sending you a hug. Choose to Rise!!
It’s been 5 years since a 20 year marriage to a psychopath. I’m still dealing with this but it is getting better. I have more calm and peace. Exercise, yoga and spending quiet time in the yard all have been helping me. Looking forward to your program. 🤍
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Consistantly high levels of cortisol contributes to weight gain in the midsection. It also makes this weight resistant to weight loss.
I did the 48 hour fast reset, I believe it helped me.
@@Earthoceanfire435 How does the 48 hour reset work?
@@Foxxy_Elegance I personally follow Dr. Berg online. I think he may be one the best to RUclips on the subject.
@@kaavishnaz417 Yes, it can all over, however, it will be most resistant to weight loss in the midsection. If you have an initial apple shape, you probably wouldn't be able to tell the difference in the resistance, as that's where the weight is centered to start with. If you've always has a flat stomach, it's very noticeable.
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narcissists drama can cause cancer, its a spiritual war. these leeches are demons.
True
BJRowell--When I met my soon-to-be EX-husband, his former partner had died from pancreatic cancer about 1.5 years before we met. Ofcourse he hid his narcissism while dating, but he pushed to get married in less than 4 months after meeting. RED FLAG, which I did not recognize. After getting married, within one week, his EXTREME narcissism and abuse started, including physical. Then I started to learn all about him, his life before we met, and his former partner. It turned out, she was EXTREMELY codependent to him, and that's why they were together 22 years. She put up with his narcissim and the love of money, which ultimately killed her.
I left him 11 months this after getting married. If I had not, I'd probably be dead too.
I have recently been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. I had a "cyst" removed on my torso, below my armpit and it came back as a sebaceous gland cancer. I was with my X for 16 years whom was narcissistic, then thought I met the man of my dreams after him whom turned out to be more narcissistic. 23 years of ups and downs, and I've had my share of health issues with this being the latest. I suffer with fibromyalgia as well. Currently being tested for Lupus. I do believe a lot of what's going on with me is from the abuse I was exposed to. If only I could turn the clock. I have so many regrets.
I just pray God will give us divine justice. When every abuse we endure take toll on our health already ( the aftermath of all their abuse). Cancer is still cancer and other illnesses that are with it. While we suffer, we see them enjoying life like they did no wrong ( No conscience and remorse). While we are dealing with health issues that it's like you don't know if you'll still hold with your life on or give up.
I have gone NO CONTACT since Jan 2nd of this year. I am suffering from CPTSD because of the traumatic abuse I have endured. I am far from healed from this and I just had heart ♥ surgery 2 weeks ago. I am on a waiting list for counseling and feel exhausted everyday. I also survived a traumatic brain injury over a year and a half ago. I rely on God's Word and His Grace to heal me. I have gained weight through all of this and my hair is falling out. Danish helped me realize that we are dealing with DEMONS, this is spiritual warfare. I pray for all of us going through this. I pray for peace and blessings for all of us. Stay strong and stay in faith. Jesus loves you and so do I. Your Sister in Christ, Just Jen.
Listening to Gregorian Chants is very relaxing. It helps me sleep. Plus, demons hate it, when played at a low volume, and exorcists use them to help drive them out.
Iam also going through this same thing..i cant seem to heal..i keep thinking about all the things that happened to me n i wasnt putting myself first..ignored myself..hope i get my life back..jesus does help us heal.
@@jasred8786 I will pray for you. It's funny how us empaths are kind to everyone but ourselves.
Stay on course. Healing music helps me a lot and can be found on RUclips. Gardening helps me even more. I’d rather give my love and attention to my tomato plants than abusive people. I just had to block my ex husband on my phone. We co-parent but I told him to email me if he needs to speak to me. I’m done with him after he beat up our 11 year old son. ❤
@@undercoverbird8592 I am so very sorry to hear about your son. I will pray for you and your son. In Psalm 34:18 it says, " The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit". This is comforting to know. I wish you the best. Peace and blessings to you. Love, your Sister in Christ. Just Jen.
Now I know why I am suddenly so tired and need to rest. Sometimes I am so tired that I feel I am going to faint. I also have to motivate myself to go out and push myself to think positive. Thank you for this information. May God give you strength and health, so you can help people from all over the world🙏🙏🙏
Yes! After I escaped I lost a ton of weight. I’m still at that weight 5 years later. From 207lbs to 130lbs.
Same here
100lbs loss for me😊
Same here: went from 250 to 175 in about 2 years. Lost 30% of my body weight and did almost nothing, T also shot thru the roof. They kill your body thru your mind.
Maybe hidden abuse at home is a significant contributor to obesity in society. Hidden in plain sight
The kind of long lasting impact that is left on the body of the victim is so horrific. I can only imagine what karma for this would look like !
For 10 years during and following narc abuse, my appetite was completely gone, and I looked like a coat hanger. In modern society this is deemed a favourable condition, so my attempts to get help failed and led to more shame and humiliation. When I recovered my appetite, the smallest amount of food led to inordinate weight gain, deemed unfavorable by society, so I was blamed and shamed for 'letting myself go'.
Before I got out of my 7yr relationship with a narc, I had felt extremely nervous all the time, depressed, lost abt 70%of my hair, and just felt so ugly arnd him, so after going through the loss of my dear sweet mom, and he wasn’t any support for me, as a matter of fact he started treating me worse, and even went to the bar that night. He ghosted me one day outa nowhere, and I knew I had to get out and away from him asap! I’m getting help from God and my Guardian Angel Mom that has kept me moving forward to a happier, healthier life that I am forever thankful for. Please please please, get away from the toxic situations your in and start living your life the way you deserve. It’s the only way!! Thank you for all your helpful videos. 🙏💪💛
The impact is unbelievable- every physical ailment I’ve had in last several years always traces back to the narc trauma -
Fighting to get back to myself is harder than leaving.
One of the worst things that happens is your looks go! Cortisone hormone forced my hair to fall out so it was so thin. Not a good look! I also gained weight in my stomach! Unusual for me! My wedding dress was tight. I didn’t eat much but I had a balloon in my stomach. I worked out but no stomach weight gone.
I too woke up in worry!
Sad, hyper and confused…depressed, ptsd…
My stomach went down but have been through dermatologist! They haven’t helped. I got away from him two years ago!
I’m about a month no contact with the person who was destroying me. I started advocating for my health (both mentally and physically) more than ever before. Losing weight, started some ashwaghanda gummies and was also placed on Ozempic (for my diabetes, it was completely out of control) but it’s dropped 10 off me in 3 weeks. The devastation a narcissist causes a partner takes a toll.
The best therapy for me was reading my Bible, discovering the spirits behind narcissism and cutting her off
Amen! ❤🙏
Seek and keep very close to God.
I wake up nauseated and anxious, my appetite is low. Bicycle riding to and from work helps.
Thank you so much for this video.
You are absolutely correct on all these aspects.
My god I just went back to my parents house and i swear this is the absolute worst experience in the world. Lack of willingness to empathize name calling. And other forms of verbal abuse is daunting. Both my parents are very triggering and I don’t like being here. They are crazy.
If you can't change the stressors or how you react to them, you can still do things such as exercise, sauna, cold exposure, nose breathing and fasting can all play a role in reducing your body's stress response
Great advice. There are many videos on the vagus nerve that are excellent. Yoga and slow breathing (Breathe in, count to 4, Hold breath, count to 4 and exhale count to 4) can help you regulate and trick you body to stop the automatic stress response.
Thank you Danish. At 65, it is too late for me to reverse the damage that I experienced since being a baby. But it helps knowing that it is not my fault.
Healing still happens ! 🙏💝🌿
Loss of appetite for a long time, but the blast of Cortisol made me blow up, almost back to normal after 1 1/2 year's out
It's not just what happens when you wake up...cortisol wakes you up. Cortisol drives up insulin resistance, which drives central obesity as part of a range of metabolic disorders. Elevated cortisol can then lead to muscle wasting.
Yes. I think the best way to combat this is weight lifting. This will build muscle mass (as opposed to aerobic exercise like running or biking). The more muscles you have, the more calories your body will burn. Even at rest. Right now I'm fighting a beach ball stomach that started during Covid isolation and lack of exercise and my business going under and ensuing bankruptcy, but for more than one year I've stopped drinking alcohol entirely (was never a big drinker anyways but it messes with your metabolism), go to the gym and eat healthy but the stomach fat just sticks there. Seriously think I need liposuction as a last resort. My doctor just gave me the green light to go get all of my hormone levels, etc. tested so hopefully we can find something concrete causing this.
Yes! I lost a lot of weight. I got down to 98 lbs and I was shaking constantly. My hair was falling out in piles. I just wanted to sleep all the time but I had to fight ti survive so sleep was rare.
Interesting. The narc I got tangled up with was always losing lots of hair for several years toward the end. Also constant BO, and she gained a ton of weight.
I love and appreciate your invaluable insight Danesh ❤️
Thank you for caring
Interesting timing. About a year after I left 23 years of narcissistic abuse, I started noticing signs resembling Cushing's disease in my body, though I didn't realize it could have been Cushing's until years later. I don't have a diagnosis, and I'm still learning a lot about it while I'm trying to get tested for what I believe is a cyclical case, but it wouldn't surprise me if there was a link between complex trauma and Cushing's.
It can cause deleterious effects on your learning, memory and concentration power. It took me 4 years to complete a 2.5 year course, when I was in college.And that too was impossible without the kind support of my friends and professors. Thank you all❤
This has actually happened to me over the past few days due to a narc abuse victim accidentally triggering my old childhood cortisol patterns. Once I relieved myself of the toxic friendship - I feel like a new person. I changed my environment - mostly
Sure, I still have no appetite whatsoever due to fear of the abusive boyfriend attacking me. Long story.
I'm learning that these signs are what I used to experience when I was under immense stress from my narc mother. She would scream and yell at me when I was in trouble and at 29 I'm still internally terrified of being screamed at like that - even if I might deserve it. I'm learning so much about why I feel the way I do and why my body acts the way it does. Thank you, Danish! Much appreciated.
Yes, lost all appetite and 5kg or so, and I wasn't overweight. Total lack of energy and unexpected falling hair. Always had fine but thick hair, all of a sudden clogged brush and shower drain. Where to now, out of it Eighteen months...
As always, thank you Danish. I do wake up with anxiety and it’s making me crazy. He’s been out of the house for a year… yet I still have the anxiety. We were together 13 years . I look forward to being a member. I just want ME back without anxiety .
I don’t ever feel hungry when I wake up in the morning. No hunger cues at all until about 11:00 am or later.
I am a NP who was in school so I knew about cortisol levels so I didnt stress too hard about the weight. I was concerned about my adrenals though. Thankful my ability to learn was not impacted. I knew I needed to get away from him. I went from 130lbs to 189lbs after dating a narc for 4 yrs . I kicked him out I lost 20lbs in 2 weeks. 4 years later I am back to baseline.
Yep, lost 40 lbs during the abuse. Divorce has been final for 9 months, now symptoms of chronic fatigue. Emotional torture every morning and no energy. CPTSD
Been surrounded by them my whole life and in 2021 it nearly killed me. My dhea was the only hormone that was off but I had all these symptoms to the extreme. Number 3 became full on narcolepsy at one point! I'm sorta thankful my body fell apart, even though I still need a wheelchair 50% of the time, because I was in complete denial and it allowed my doctor to ask the right questions to help me see reality. Now with all the latest research on this it's becoming clear growing up with 3 narc parent figures caused most of not all my health problems because I was growing and developing in a constant state of panic. Thankfully psychedelic assisted therapy is looking extremely promising in treating it and resetting the stress response to a healthy state. Now we just need to make it available for everyone who needs it and not just soldiers and veterans.
It's available in large cities for a price.
I am 3 mos post discard. In the first 2 weeks I went from 124lbs down tob116lbs. I only slept 3 hours a night for the first 7 weeks. I was exhausted, couldn't focus, rumination was rampant.
My blood pressure was all over the place even though I was taking my BP meds.
I devoured every possible narcissistic video I could find.
I still watch as many videos as possible, but I started listening to the audio version of the book of Proverbs and it helped me fall asleep. I have finally gotten to 120lbs, and sleep 6-6 1/2 hrs nightly. I don't get as triggered in this last week. I am 61yrs old, and I refuse to allow him to take anymore of my life than he already has. Healing is a time consuming, heartbreaking, and difficult process for sure, but I am determined this time that I will never go back to what broke me.
This is so true. I am feeling so peaceful these days and all health issues gone... But narc toxic vibrations will affect your health and cause all issues. We are total loosers in relationship. So avoid such workplaces, people - boss, friend, dating partner.
I ended up in hospital fighting for my life and was diagnosed with asthma aged 43😢
Thank You,Danish.
Yes, I've seen how Narcissistic Abuse can affect the body through different Family Members and Friends.
Some people lose their apetite and experience weight loss.
But too, Some people end up constantly hungry and then constantly stress eat, which makes them gain weight.
Lose or Gain, it all takes its toll on the bodies and minds of Narcissistic Abuse Victims.
I also have come to see how NA affects both Sleep Quality and Length and Energy Levels through the day.
The more Stressed Out one feels, the less restful the sleep is and the more disturbing one's dreams become.
The less stressed one feels, the more restful and calm sleep becomes.
It sometimes can feel like an inescapable situation of fatigue and depression, because You are going to bed stressed, sleeping stressed and then wake up not refreshed though you slept and are already bracing for a new day of uncertainty and trauma.
Huge weight loss. Was 160lbs now 100lbs. After 4 years still unable to gain weight! No matter how much I eat 😢
Loss of appetite for sure. Energy slumps as well.
I developed severe acne around the time when I finally decided to break up with them for good. It took me a few months in which my acne got worse and worse, even though I never had problems with Acne before.
My short-term memory got really bad. I wanted to take math courses, but I coudent focus on it:((
How can I be social after long periods of isolation from narcissistic abuse?
Excellent question & advice! Thank you 🙏 📞
I am 47 years victim of munshaus by proxy and still in it, can’t get out of it… I have this problem my hole life 😮 I am trying to get out but it’s almost impossible, I lost already everything because of this.
Difficult to explain but if your mom is the reason and that’s from the start you where born. Everything and everybody treats you this way and it takes a long time going from therapist and doctors who tell you all the time you are not the one but my mom was. Also the financial control etc etc…. If everybody thinks your grazy and my mom is also the good looking charming woman who everybody likes and is very very smart as wel, isolated you from your brothers and father along the way. You just can’t find a way out, she is in control of everything.
Yes, very insightful.
I often wonder if all the stress cortisol etc caused me to have diabetes
Wouldn’t surprise me. Hormones are no joke and absolutely wreak havoc throughout our systems
Am 69 yo presently. I was anorexic & bulimic from age 15 1/2 - age 28 or so. I lost a lot of hair when about 33 -thru ?, after the birth of my 2nd child at age 34 & I was depressed from age 34 on. (I thought it might be Post-Partem Depression. I was misdiagnosed as having Bi-Polar Disorder & put on various psych meds for 18-22 yrs. I actually had had a Traumatic Brain Injury at age 14 (was in a coma for 13 days & in the ICU at Stanford University Hospital in 1968 + 2 weeks in Kaiser Hospital in Redwood City CA.) I am clean & sober now & have 37 yrs clean & sober thru a famous 12-step, self-help program & only take a low-dose of Thyroid medication for my low Thyroid condition. However, I still have sleep problems (I sort of 'panic' when I wake up in the middle of the night & can't get back to sleep. Thank you for your informative videos; I find them quite helpful & reassuring.
Omg as I listen to you more and more am shaking iwas extremely sick with gas just yesterday I kept throwing up because I have no appetite to eat at all untill my doctors don't know what to do....
Tell me about it. I am constantly stressed and my waistline is only increasing, leading to more stress. Grrr.
I have gained 30 pounds in the 4 months stuck staying with narc relative! I am usually in shape and comfortable being myself but not allowed here.
I lost a lot of weight. After 6 months I am at a normal weight and appetite.
Waking up and afraid to check my text messages -
The fight or flight begins- feet ache like I’m on edge of building, heart rate spikes, breathing particularly through nose becomes wildly clear, he will have sent a loving message, a mean message or no message (to punish and get attention). Tone set for day. Can’t focus, can’t sit still, can’t perform tasks. Can’t think. Ugh.
All true!! It just takes a terrible toll on your life, leaves u so tired and lazy.All l want is to be healed and also for my other abusers who have been hurt!!🕊️🕊️
I’ve felt extreme anxiety and I can’t eat unless I take Xanax. Can’t stand relying on medicine to feel better
Thanks
Thanks!
Hi Danish I'm requesting to put a vedio of marriage counseling how to explain to them about a narcissistic husband whatever we say they manuplate them also so please...
No counseling will help. You need to leave. They just manipulate the counselors. The narc never gets better. Just worse.
Yes I was like that!
food issues? yes!!!!
I lost my weight hair and also hair colour changed 😢
I lost 70 lbs and yes. I'm almost completely gray.
My ex boyfriend is miserable without me. He can't sleep without me.
he'll be fine. He's baiting you. using whatever will get you back doing things for him. Do not go back unless you want to go around the crazy wheel again.
🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
i gain a ton of weight ....
Whatever i eat i vomit even water sometimes
I don't eat for days at a time, it's a psychological block of some kind. I have never eaten properly and I am 64yrs old. I was shamed and threatened if I ate ANYTHING that I wasn't Given permission to have. Still today 50 yrs later I feel sick to my stomach when I think of eating. I put it off till I'm starving, then eat a whole pizza. I was singled out at age 6 and victimized by an adult, for catching him beating up my mom. Then SHE compounded the event by grabbing me and running home to her mom, for months, that woke me up to who he was. And set me up for vicious abuse up untill I put a 30 caliber bullet through my chest to get the fuck out. We lived too close to the hospital so I survived. At least a hundred times in my life I have thought to myself how it's too bad I survived, I found peace and the bastard took it away. Only to subject me to a lifetime of psychological abuse, smearing and gaslighting. Now 48 yrs later narcissism has become public knowledge and people are finally speaking thier truth. Child abusers have been allowed and protected by church and government institutions historically because of the monarchist history of society. THE BIGGEST BULLY GETS WHATEVER THEY WANT. Anyone who disagrees disappears in the dark
Don't let them win. Love Yourself, parent yourself. Do not sink! Rise! You, the child within you needs you - Listen to Danish, listen to others on RUclips. Save yourself and do the good in the world and to others that wasn't done for you. Sending you a hug. Choose to Rise!!
It’s been 5 years since a 20 year marriage to a psychopath. I’m still dealing with this but it is getting better. I have more calm and peace. Exercise, yoga and spending quiet time in the yard all have been helping me. Looking forward to your program. 🤍