The 3 Unfortunate Reasons Why People Misunderstand You | Say It Stronger with Mike Foster
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2021
- Strong communication requires observations about the barriers that often stand in the way. When you’re misunderstood, it’s not necessarily about you, but about how people hear you. There’s going to be distortion and filters over everything you say in terms of what people hear. Mike shares with us 3 distortion filters to be aware of to help us Say It Stronger.
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So true❤
Sometimes out of jealousy and envy people twist your words and change it into something you never said or intended to say that way. Happened to me.
Narcissists do that a lot. It's intentional. They're purposefully misunderstanding you to make you the bad guy to justify whatever bs they're pulling.
Just happened to me at work 😂. I was blown away. Never said anything to the effect and my manager brought it to my attention. Now I refuse to say anything to anyone unless it’s strictly work related.
Yess man it happens to me all the time in my family and in my relatives and guess what my own mom projects me in a wrong way in front of relatives and now they all think am bad and laugh about how my mom just insults me in front of everyone I really don't know what to do. Everyone thinks that I am arrogant and say I will never get married to good person or I will have a divorce soon. When marriage is not even a topic of my worries for now.
I was misunderstood and attacked by someone online (a pioneer RUclipsr and researcher) who I idolised and it was as simple as them misreading my comment. The way they defended themselves was passive aggressive, disrespectful and she was obviously triggered. I’m trying to not take it personally. She was an idol of mine but the bubble has burst now. 😢
Mr Foster, God used this to remind me and encourage me toward truth. Thank you for sharing.
Distortion Filters:
1. Survival
2. Protection
3. Our Past
This is a brilliantly blessed message in communication and perspective.
People misunderstand In my family and in my relatives and guess what my own mom projects me in a wrong way in front of relatives and now they all think am bad and laugh about how my mom just insults me in front of everyone I really don't know what to do. Everyone thinks that I am arrogant because my mom just provokes me to say arrogant things to her when she insults me so everyone in my relatives think and say to eachother that I will never get married to a good person or I will have a divorce soon. When marriage is not even a topic of my worries for now. Even some jealous cousin twist my words all the time.
Valid points ❗️🎯
My spiritual leader misunderstood me and the problem with that is I can’t explain that I didn’t mean what I said the way she understood it.
But now each time she speaks is still being talked about and I’m gonna “go through “ testing and chastisement by God! I can’t say it again to her that I didn’t mean it like that but she won’t let it go!
I even feel like I can’t even talk to God about what I feel because I don’t wanna be disciplined or chastised because she’s His Leader.
I’m sure there’s a lesson in it for me. But I don’t want to shut down and not talk to her or anyone in our Christian family but there’s no one to share with that I didn’t mean all that’s being said to everybody!
What do I do?
Just learn to be quiet no need to explain because there will be countless times when we’re all misunderstood!!
Oh honey. I hope you were finally able to talk to the Lord first. I hope you were able to move past this, but if not, Jesus has been in your shoes and mine.
I came to RUclips seeking some encouragement after being misunderstood by another sister in Christ. So grateful God brought me here.
I have been a Christian since I was 11 and I’m 48 now. I have been in several situations or conversations where way something I said or something I did was misinterpreted.
Sometimes I can see how after they respond and I’m like “oh my goodness. What I just said sounded really terrible? Didn’t it?! Wow. It was the opposite of my intention and reality. “
Now here is the hard fact: not everyone is going to try and understand you or me. They didn’t understand Christ. They hurled insults at him, wrongly accused him and interpreted why he was on earth. Even so, Jesus looked on them with compassion. “Father, they know not what they do.” He cried on the cross.
Instead of hurling back insults or begging and pleading for them to change their minds, he was quiet, or he prayed and at times he spoke, but not all who heard received what was said the way He intended.
It hurts to be misunderstood, but God knows the truth. Times like this can make us bitter or we can turn to God, give our hurt to Him and pray for the ones who misunderstood. We must forgive with God’s help.
As this video reminded people who respond in a way that’s harsh or take it personally or wrong-are often speaking from their own trauma and experience.
When it’s been Christians, sometimes the Lord has shown me that He has a different place and path for me.
In the Bible we see Paul and Barnabas in the NT split ways. They couldn’t agree on some things, so they decided to part ways.
If you’re still dealing with this, pray for God’s direction on if He is moving you on to a different group/people/church.
Overall I pray you would know God’s grace and mercy and understanding beyond fathom. He knows your heart and your true intentions. He loves you and relates and wants to help you.
Know a sister is lifting you up to Him this evening.
Tell me about it❤