@@fernandocastro4107 That's just a self imposed cage. Of course it's hard, really hard, but change is possible, especially in the area of acting needy.
as a woman, i say this is too much of a work. i agree with the playful thing but for other... pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.
It's hella of alot harder than throwing up a half naked picture of yourself on Tinder so women have it easy these days when it comes to actually getting experience in
Tbh chasing women is an art..its a game..I like how they say never play the friend to get the girl..but ive actually slept with women doing that..not all the time but sometimes..or never talk on the phone..I remember talking to a female on the phone alot ..sometimes hours and she fell for me we had sex and this girl was getting hit on everyday by men viral pics and everything..true you shouldn’t be needy but i believe the best way with women is to be a range or unpredictable at all times..be playful..be rude..be aggressive..be vulnerable..be honest but change all of the time..be laid back then post pictures of you being outgoing and loud..women like waves of emotions..when they dont know what to expect they love it..plus never care about the outcome just go with the flow dont think too much..whatever happens happens..also study her..women are just like a career..would you go into a business without learning a few things first to make it easier? Find out what kind of guys her exes were..look up her sign a little..if you can tap into her emotions she’s hooked trust me
@@canival317isback Bro. It shouldnt be hard to talk to her for hours. It should be the apportate result of a positive conversation. It's a win win. And they usually love talking on the phone. Just riff about your day and ask her all about hers. Let her talk and talk and unload all of her shit and you get to a chance to play with her, joke, make fun of her a little, give her compliments, flirt, lil bit of dirty/sexy talk. It's the best. And the more you do that with her (not every day of the week tho), the more she thinks of you and wants to see you. Then you get to have your fun. Bro. Communicate with the female. They love long phone calls. Its essential.
So there's this girl that definitely showed interest in me when I spent time with her but turned down my invitations to spend time with her. She did accept the second week and we had a great vibe together, but the week after when I invited her to hang out again she turned me down. Should I just give up or should I do what you suggest and when there's a fun event that I'm sure shes interested in I should invite her still?
@@Jibin.25 I mean if she’s hot and cold with you bro. Then play the same game, just be cool. Invite her places and if she says no then man, go to the event anyway. Show her that you can have fun with or without her.
What works for me , is to have a lot going on in your life . Whether it’s other women , activities , or both , you won’t care too much about a girl you just met if you have a lot of other stuff to do . If you have a good rapport with a girl , but she keeps saying no, it’s a matter of time that she says yes. As long as the interactions are good and positive though.
and despite popular belief it's ok in many of these situations to let things develop over time (that's how I got my last GF that lasted 4 years), although meanwhile you can certain try to get with other girls. That's good for romantic relationships with co-workers or fellow classmates. If she gets a BF meanwhile, I'm cool I got other girls I can go to. The trick is not letting it off-center you.
I get it that there's a girl out there you really want to take out but if you're getting continually turned down I would go the other way. Reason is, the more you pursue the more you push her away. You deserve a girl that is as interested in you as you are in her. I know it takes a while to find but focus on your self confidence.
Unfortunately, in the #MeToo era, most guys are terrified of having sexual harassment accusations lobbed at them, so they take a no as no. It’s just not worth the risk if you don’t know what you’re doing.
The easiest way to avoid harassing people is to know when to back off. If you see discomfort in their body language, stop it and move on. That's all you have to do. That will show you respect their boundaries and perhaps give you a second chance. If they don't, just move on after backing off.
Too much work pursuing a girl like that months? I'd much rather cut my losses and keep finding women that have high interest in me, women that will chase me, women that benefit me. It's all about me. I have tons of women that I know liked me but played hard to get. I used to when I was younger now I just don't have patience or time
Haha yeah, I used to think that as well. I've found a lot of really hot girls like to be pursued. But if you've decided that its just not worth it that's a solid choice too.
Easy come, easy go, my friend. Cutting your losses till you meet a girl that likes you might be a good idea, but losing her would be just as easy as getting her. I know what you’re thinking “who cares? I’ll get another” yes you could but remember, history with a girl can be special and can actually cause her to stick with you longer if she has more in common with you than just mutual attraction.
@@TheSingleGuy Your videos are really good, but on this one, I'd walk. If I have " to pursue for months"..a. she's playing games. ..b Scarcity creates need. If she is blowing me off, why chase? I guess I'm confused here..
You can break down her walls sometimes. Show her the value in you rather than begging for her time. Send her clips of you at a concert, rooftop bar with a pretty drink. She may not have friends providing this type of stimulation and will need you to manifest these experiences for her.
Within 1-2 months and 2-3 rejections then I tell them to get with me when they are available and I remove them outa my life and I move along. No girl is worth my time if they don't return the ball when I toss it to them. It takes two to tango so have some self respect and grab yo balls and move on if they don't wana play.
dude...if you have to work that hard for a girl to be interested youv already lost. the value in getting a girl is her WANTING you without manipulation.
@@pwnshhhop51 in my case im kinda judging the situation where she seems unsure and on the fence about me. I've made up my mind i dont wanna move on which is why i came across this video. In my case i believe i made the right decision by staying persistent because she doesn't TOTALLY think im a wanker. Just partially. I think with time i could win her over. Wish me luck dearies
agreed, as a woman, it's the truth. pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.
Thank you so much for this video Lloyd. Since getting into tuning up girls and improving my dating life and everything, due to being an extremely needy dude in the past and also from having an abundance mindet, which isn’t a bad thing, I would instantly dismiss any women who I had to work a little harder for as time wasters and used to think of pursuing in general as neediness. Good to have your take on how to do it the right way. Thanks man!
That's what I did & out of nowhere one day she text me " I want to go out with you " our 1st date went GREAT ..works everytime , we have to let them chase us
@davo she most definitely did , everything is still going great...we got a date set for today in 2 hours...she kept telling me she missed me so I finally set something up again 👌🏾
That was super motivating when you talked about relating business with dating and how in life you will fail and succeed just as you will with women. (around the 10 minute mark). It’s such a simple remark that I (we forget)but a great, HUGE reminder that I (we) should hear! AMENNNN
I like u dude! You’ve just gotten me in a better mood for keep been persistent with this particular German girl but not only her, maaaany more at the same time 😎
This helped a lot. Sounds like I've been doing fine so far. It's been a few months for me too, and she keeps giving decent responses most of the time, but I was worried about seeming creepy. Apparently, part of the issue is she hasn't fully dealt with stuff from her abusive ex a few months ago.
👍 many coaches confirm.. A popular football player (soccer) asked a chick out over a 20x... well she is his wife now but how did he feel being rejected so many times? Maybe it was unintentional but he put her high above himself by doing that pursue...
I've been rejected by Women so many times that it isn't even funny. I got Married once by pure luck. It lasted 7 years but I think the reason We drifted apart over the years is because I had a boring life. Thank You TheSingleGuy for the Most Excellent wisdom and advice. It's very much appreciated. 👍👍
I had a chick invite me out to a haunted bar around Halloween. I told her I'm interested and to send me the details. No response. She ghosted me for four days. The wrong way to do this is "wtf hello?! I thought we were going out?!" Instead I went with "hey if we don't get that haunted bar soon, the ghosts are going to head south for the winter." She texted back, apologized, and we ended up having a great time.
She said to me that being persistent and consistent will make her decide if she will love again. Since she had a very bad relationship with her ex she was really wounded.
9 years ago I met the sweetest and hottest girl ever and it costed me zero effort, I just looked good and a had good story plus I was nice. She was 9 years younger and fell for me right away. It felt good but there was never much chemistry. After 9 years we stopped and it fucking sucks coz we married with kids. Im 40 now and im gonna go on talking to as many girls i possibly can untill i find another beautiful women with chemistry this time.
Persistence is not that hard if you really don't care. You will eventually lose every girl sooner or later and if you accept this and stop caring you will not appear as needy because when you don't care you cannot be needy (logic).
I don’t think it’s being needy, i thinks it’s just the guy likes the girl and wants to be with her but the girl doesn’t want him. Needy or not the girl just might not like the guy. Dating doesn’t have to be a game
At the end of the day if you want a girl youre needy, full stop. Theres no way around it. I hate this shit I cant get over that fact because I actually want someone but I cant just play it off or pretend its not that, and thats why im needy. I want to work on it but its such a big hurdle.
There's nothing wrong with going after a girl. Successful people go after the things they want in life. Unsuccessful ones expect everything to come to them
If a girl says No, do I really want to continually hit her up or find someone who is receptive? It's ok to pursue with clear intent. But if a door shuts, move on
I grew up with my mom preaching to me constantly "let your yes be yes and your no be no." Having that drilled into your head constantly screws up my approach.
Hello Sir! Could you pls make a video about how to approach a guy that I love and who loves me too but I suspect that he is impotent and I need to tell him that I don't care and make him comfortable not being embarrassed about it
How to know she is lying that she has a boyfriend? I usually don't give up that , but she might not although. She did told that she has a boyfriend, then i replied with, good i will find another girl then , and she laughed and was depressed on the next day.
Have no time, strength or patience to pursue anyone. If someone is interested - good for them and me. But if they lose interest or play hard to get - good for them too, I will do some work but eventually will peace out. Too old for that shit. Want to be with relationship with me - say so - if things work out that's great but if they don't - it's life. But don't waste my time with childish shit :D ;).
Even if you are persistent and get yes from no,you are rewarding this behaviour of "play hard to get"by women.getting yes is not worthy when you put so much time and energy .dont persist.let her sink brother.
I think this is the missing key for me. And its the missing key for a lot of 'MGTOW' people. Being able to pursue without being attached to the outcome is magic.
I think I did give up too soon on one a couple of days ago. At first I thought I pushed too hard and that I should’ve quit sooner, but now it really seems like I actually mistook a shit test for a rejection. I’ll do better next time.
Great video , great advice and completely agree with everything you are saying. My crush might be dating other men at the minute, but im not giving up on her and I'm going to let her know that she can hit me up if any relationship she as with any other guy at the minute goes wrong , she can always give me a buzz and we can go out.
Don't do that. If you are not sure that she likes you back, don't wait up on her. And by likes I don't mean "occasionally talks to me". I mean actual signs she likes you. Hell,there are girls that will give signs they like you when they actually don't. Happened to me recently.
What does it mean when last night she came to my place and we had fun and took some pictures together, and today she was cold at university. I sent her two messages that went seen but without any answer... She uploaded a story and i liked it, but when i did upload one, she ignored it.... Any tips ?
Does anyone have problem, like me? Imagine you have different 5 girls you are about to date. If one says strong 'no', like the first one. Or even second one ... And it might be even because her fault. Like you would even had right to not response, get angry of you being disrespected. Whatever. Suddenly you really become needy to her. Theoritically Like you still have 4 to go, but somehow this one becomes important. Very important. It ruins your game after also for a while because you start chasing these one who just said no? Or it is only my fucked up head?
In the end what matters is if she likes you. If shes into u, how shitty u many be at texting she will still respond to u! And on the other hand, how good ur at texting and if shes not into u well shes wont text u back, doesnt matter how funny you are, interesting you are or whatever. She will still wont reply to u!
Most other game shit, said this shit was pretty much a waste of time, and needy. I mean it's not working amazing so far but ill get a nut here n there. Just a process. Gave me another view.
You are correct but this is dangerous advice. These days if a girl isn't 100% into you then it probably will not happen. It is either zero or 100. Very rarely do men convert the maybe girls. Those maybe girls slept with the guys they really liked the first night and never turn them down. Your channel is great tho bro. You have a non bitter practical laid back vibe.
I have to disagree with that. There are many women who slowly fall for guys. Just basic "exposure effect" is enough to turn familiarity into lust. Plus women don't know you or the way you act from just seeing your face. However first impressions are very important.
@@xFlared I respectfully disagree. Women or atleast American women know within seconds if you are a worthy sexual prospect or not. Girls that fall for a guy slowly usual end up putting the guy in the friendzone. But we may just have different experiences brotha =)
@@thedust850 "Sexual prospect" isn't a fixed variable. If that was the case 99% of guys would be single. I've seen many fat low income guys with hot model like girls. And do you think they fell for these guys from first sight? More important than looks is confidence, characteristics, depth, and masculinity. All factors that take time to reveal. No model faced guy with a beta cuck personality will get beyond first few dates. In addition of attraction being a fluctuating variable, so is human personality and human looks. This is why people break up all the time. They change.
@@xFlared Real attraction can not be negotiated. The low income fat guys you speak of had to "win" the girl over a course of weeks and months. He had to convince her that he was worthy. Meanwhile there is another guy who she felt an intense visceral tingling feeling of lust for from the first time she saw him. This is where the term " love at first sight" comes from. This guy gets her best sex and her most intense loyalty. She obsesses over this guy and cries about him at night. The other low smv guy will get second rate sex and treatment as compared to the first guy. She will always deep down know she "settled". This is assuming that he even bypasses the friendzone. I agree that with repeated exposure to a girl that you can eventually maybe win her over. But this victory is second rate to the real lust at first sight type of attraction. Are you dealing with America girls btw? It matters what nation the gir from also.
@@thedust850 There is no negotiation. You state that sexual intimacy by females is determined by first sight. And I said that first impressions and slow introduction are even more powerful and are the reasons most guys have long lasting relationships. (these are not negotiations, but your neutral exposed self in the present) And it's not good looking at it as a victory. A woman is never the price, but is either equal or the other way around since the guy is usually the provider. In addition woman going head over heels for a guy isn't good. Clinginess and attachment is toxic beyond one night stand, and it proves she's low value and has self esteem/instability issues. There is also the question of attainability. If a woman sees you as way out of her league and unattainable then she will also reject you or push you away as a defense mechanism, meaning that easing your way in is the only way to build trust. (this happens more frequently than you think) And most "good girls" and valuable women will almost always test you and make you prove your worth. Unless it's casual sex, getting easy reciprocation with little to no rapport is already a red flag for any woman you're interested in, since it shows she's a freelancer, and you're just a side job.
No, in most cases the only way a guy will give a girl a chance that he rejected at first is if she falls back and finds a way to look more attractive physically
It never ceases to amaze me how American "pick up artists" all seem to think that trashy strippers are somehow the highest quality women and continually pursue them and put them on high pedestals...
I met a girl online (she wasn't that attractive though), we exchanged numbers she seduced me and started sexting. It went well, both side ended up in a good way, next day she gave a reply to a small text of mine (normal one) but later when I saw she blocked me. I mean wtf!??? I didn't get this logic.. what just happened? (I wasn't creepy,needy, and also I'm good looking)
She wasn't ready, when girls find someone really attractive but they don't feel ready, they try to avoid that person at all cost, so it's not your fault, she just wasn't ready for you
What is wrong with this guy? I watched his another video ("why she seems interested but keeps flacking") where he told that you should go to another girl after 2 flakes and mixed signals can mean that this girl just likes to be followed by guys. Now he is talking that you shouldn't give up unless you have clear signs that a girl is not into you...
Different women respond to different signals. What works to attract one woman doesn't necessarily work on another woman, so knowing different approaches to meet and attract women is a good way to ensure more successful hookups and/or relationships.
Great video! Could you make a video about pursuing a girl, who is in a long distance relationship? Do you pursue such girls like other girls aswell? Kino has been exchanged and we are both playful, but I didnt have the balls yet to make a kiss close.. also I dont want to hang around her too much so that I dont get too deep in the friend zone.. any advice? :)
Yeah, try not to spend too much time around her. There is definitely a chance that she could be using you for attention while her boyfriend is far away. You can tell her how you feel and be unapologetic about it, but she has to know she can lose you. Women will keep men around they know are safe but will never respect them enough to date them.
But if someone text me even though I tried to reply later and seemed like a high quality guy , I cant help to reply them as soon as I can lol. Cuz i feel bad if I reply them really late
This chick I like a lot forced me to over text cause she said texting really helped with her anxiety. She's beautiful but gets really bad anxiety and keeps her up at night she would call me at 3 in the morning. I wanted help her with her anxiety. Now she won't respond and if she does it's very short.
Whats up brother! I dont get it man... One video you make says DO NOT hit a woman up if shes ghosted or otherwise stopped communication and with this one its well, if your going to, be playful and fun?! I had the most amazing first 2 dates with a woman, and she ghosted me big time! Haven't heard from her for 2 weeks... I mean we were feelin each other big time! Not sure what happened, women are so unpredictable!!!
Dude, it’s your fault you don’t know how to listen. That was for flaking not texting. With flaking you have a definite plan already but she cancels with texting there are no definite plans but you want one
Work it like a muscle is so true. It’ll hurt at first, but eventually gets strong.
True 💯
I am so freaking needy when i really like a girl. my worse quality F hate it.
You 're not alone.
Why are you acting like it’s out of your control? Like it’s ingrained in your DNA? Like it’s something you can’t change?
Master Epps Returns some people are that way. Ive met people who couldn't change it for the sake of a relationship and it sucks for them....
Same I always have to text her first and start a conversation.
@@fernandocastro4107 That's just a self imposed cage. Of course it's hard, really hard, but change is possible, especially in the area of acting needy.
as a woman, i say this is too much of a work. i agree with the playful thing but for other... pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.
Welcome to the men's world XD
It's hella of alot harder than throwing up a half naked picture of yourself on Tinder so women have it easy these days when it comes to actually getting experience in
Some women love attention too much
Factz, she says no then that’s it
I agree
Tbh chasing women is an art..its a game..I like how they say never play the friend to get the girl..but ive actually slept with women doing that..not all the time but sometimes..or never talk on the phone..I remember talking to a female on the phone alot ..sometimes hours and she fell for me we had sex and this girl was getting hit on everyday by men viral pics and everything..true you shouldn’t be needy but i believe the best way with women is to be a range or unpredictable at all times..be playful..be rude..be aggressive..be vulnerable..be honest but change all of the time..be laid back then post pictures of you being outgoing and loud..women like waves of emotions..when they dont know what to expect they love it..plus never care about the outcome just go with the flow dont think too much..whatever happens happens..also study her..women are just like a career..would you go into a business without learning a few things first to make it easier? Find out what kind of guys her exes were..look up her sign a little..if you can tap into her emotions she’s hooked trust me
Too much work man 😂 study her like a career? Or I can just stick with IB and make a shit load of money haha
Hours? Yeah you’re weird. MYbe 10-15 max. I don’t even talk to my father for more than 7-10 min.
You sound like her side bitch
@@canival317isback you sound like you're lonely af, thats nothing to boast about
@@canival317isback Bro. It shouldnt be hard to talk to her for hours. It should be the apportate result of a positive conversation.
It's a win win. And they usually love talking on the phone. Just riff about your day and ask her all about hers. Let her talk and talk and unload all of her shit and you get to a chance to play with her, joke, make fun of her a little, give her compliments, flirt, lil bit of dirty/sexy talk. It's the best. And the more you do that with her (not every day of the week tho), the more she thinks of you and wants to see you.
Then you get to have your fun.
Bro. Communicate with the female. They love long phone calls. Its essential.
Fraser Lally yeahs let net wake up. Take hours out of my day, to talk to a girl on the phone. Lol. Delusional
Knowing how to pursue without being seen as needy or desperate is a big part of game
So there's this girl that definitely showed interest in me when I spent time with her but turned down my invitations to spend time with her. She did accept the second week and we had a great vibe together, but the week after when I invited her to hang out again she turned me down. Should I just give up or should I do what you suggest and when there's a fun event that I'm sure shes interested in I should invite her still?
Jibin
Yep invite her man
@@Jibin.25 no bro give out she did see somebody and she is having as the last option go get somebody else bro she not the one
@@Jibin.25 I mean if she’s hot and cold with you bro. Then play the same game, just be cool. Invite her places and if she says no then man, go to the event anyway. Show her that you can have fun with or without her.
@@Jibin.25 What happened?
What works for me , is to have a lot going on in your life . Whether it’s other women , activities , or both , you won’t care too much about a girl you just met if you have a lot of other stuff to do . If you have a good rapport with a girl , but she keeps saying no, it’s a matter of time that she says yes. As long as the interactions are good and positive though.
and despite popular belief it's ok in many of these situations to let things develop over time (that's how I got my last GF that lasted 4 years), although meanwhile you can certain try to get with other girls. That's good for romantic relationships with co-workers or fellow classmates. If she gets a BF meanwhile, I'm cool I got other girls I can go to. The trick is not letting it off-center you.
I get it that there's a girl out there you really want to take out but if you're getting continually turned down I would go the other way. Reason is, the more you pursue the more you push her away. You deserve a girl that is as interested in you as you are in her. I know it takes a while to find but focus on your self confidence.
No other video explained it this well, thanks man, it really makes me change my mentality
Unfortunately, in the #MeToo era, most guys are terrified of having sexual harassment accusations lobbed at them, so they take a no as no. It’s just not worth the risk if you don’t know what you’re doing.
The easiest way to avoid harassing people is to know when to back off. If you see discomfort in their body language, stop it and move on. That's all you have to do. That will show you respect their boundaries and perhaps give you a second chance. If they don't, just move on after backing off.
@E-M Entertainment that's ridiculous, as it would open the door to more sexual harassment because now nobody can call out their assaulter
Is so sad now days because when you like a girl they will think is harassment
When is a no never a no? A no is always no you complete egotistical lunatic.
If a girl says no why would anyone want to chase?
Yes I think a lot of good looking guys struggle with this because they r used to girls being easier so the girls who say no they just accept it.
Best video ever, I am in this situation right now. This motivates me, thank you Loyd!
Yeah I’ve been wondering the paradox between pursuing without being needy. Cause I run into this a lot. Thank you addressing this
Too much work pursuing a girl like that months? I'd much rather cut my losses and keep finding women that have high interest in me, women that will chase me, women that benefit me. It's all about me.
I have tons of women that I know liked me but played hard to get. I used to when I was younger now I just don't have patience or time
Haha yeah, I used to think that as well.
I've found a lot of really hot girls like to be pursued.
But if you've decided that its just not worth it that's a solid choice too.
TheSingleGuy Yea they do it's a turn off for me but hey man it's all about preference
Easy come, easy go, my friend. Cutting your losses till you meet a girl that likes you might be a good idea, but losing her would be just as easy as getting her.
I know what you’re thinking “who cares? I’ll get another” yes you could but remember, history with a girl can be special and can actually cause her to stick with you longer if she has more in common with you than just mutual attraction.
Ur just using an excuse , u gave up and don't wanna admit it
@@TheSingleGuy Your videos are really good, but on this one, I'd walk. If I have " to pursue for months"..a. she's playing games. ..b Scarcity creates need. If she is blowing me off, why chase? I guess I'm confused here..
You can break down her walls sometimes. Show her the value in you rather than begging for her time. Send her clips of you at a concert, rooftop bar with a pretty drink. She may not have friends providing this type of stimulation and will need you to manifest these experiences for her.
Within 1-2 months and 2-3 rejections then I tell them to get with me when they are available and I remove them outa my life and I move along. No girl is worth my time if they don't return the ball when I toss it to them. It takes two to tango so have some self respect and grab yo balls and move on if they don't wana play.
dude...if you have to work that hard for a girl to be interested youv already lost. the value in getting a girl is her WANTING you without manipulation.
jesse james game is literally manipulation and there’s nothing wrong with it if you’re not manipulating in malicious manner
You are like the dude that says: just do it, witchout clarifying
No, his advice is good. It’s not worth chasing a girl who clearly just isn’t into you. You’re undervaluing yourself by doing it.
@@pwnshhhop51 in my case im kinda judging the situation where she seems unsure and on the fence about me. I've made up my mind i dont wanna move on which is why i came across this video. In my case i believe i made the right decision by staying persistent because she doesn't TOTALLY think im a wanker. Just partially. I think with time i could win her over. Wish me luck dearies
agreed, as a woman, it's the truth. pursue a little bit but it should still be a somewhat equal union. if u have to do all the work that's not dating that's slavery.
Thank you so much for this video Lloyd. Since getting into tuning up girls and improving my dating life and everything, due to being an extremely needy dude in the past and also from having an abundance mindet, which isn’t a bad thing, I would instantly dismiss any women who I had to work a little harder for as time wasters and used to think of pursuing in general as neediness. Good to have your take on how to do it the right way. Thanks man!
I like this guy he tells it from his own experiences & he has valid points!
the best thing i have found to do is never ask her out, just text her every now and again until she gets suggestive.
That's what I did & out of nowhere one day she text me " I want to go out with you " our 1st date went GREAT ..works everytime , we have to let them chase us
@@only1jmar54 nice one brother
@@only1jmar54 so what about the 2nd date.. lol did she suggest as well
@davo she most definitely did , everything is still going great...we got a date set for today in 2 hours...she kept telling me she missed me so I finally set something up again 👌🏾
@@only1jmar54 just curious what do you plan for your dates ?? Like drinks / dinner or something fun to do like bowling etc..
That was super motivating when you talked about relating business with dating and how in life you will fail and succeed just as you will with women. (around the 10 minute mark). It’s such a simple remark that I (we forget)but a great, HUGE reminder that I (we) should hear! AMENNNN
My sense of humor has inadvertently helped me through a lot of stuff in life. When you're funny looking you better be funny too.
Very inspired by this talk. This applies to all goals and dreams too. Nicely done!
Exactly Justin! Happy this helped you!
I like u dude! You’ve just gotten me in a better mood for keep been persistent with this particular German girl but not only her, maaaany more at the same time 😎
Not gonna lie with my ex the first days she said, "your such a good" friend. I didnt give up a few weeks she was riding me so dont give up
This helped a lot. Sounds like I've been doing fine so far. It's been a few months for me too, and she keeps giving decent responses most of the time, but I was worried about seeming creepy. Apparently, part of the issue is she hasn't fully dealt with stuff from her abusive ex a few months ago.
Seems to be contradictory to a high value mindset.
👍 many coaches confirm.. A popular football player (soccer) asked a chick out over a 20x... well she is his wife now but how did he feel being rejected so many times? Maybe it was unintentional but he put her high above himself by doing that pursue...
I've been rejected by Women so many times that it isn't even funny. I got Married once by pure luck. It lasted 7 years but I think the reason We drifted apart over the years is because I had a boring life.
Thank You TheSingleGuy for the Most Excellent wisdom and advice. It's very much appreciated. 👍👍
I had a chick invite me out to a haunted bar around Halloween. I told her I'm interested and to send me the details. No response. She ghosted me for four days. The wrong way to do this is "wtf hello?! I thought we were going out?!" Instead I went with "hey if we don't get that haunted bar soon, the ghosts are going to head south for the winter."
She texted back, apologized, and we ended up having a great time.
They get scared you are gone fuck em over
Always remember though fellas we are the “PRIZE” not chicks YESSIR‼️🗣🙌🏾
You’re way too good at this. If you stop making RUclips videos I’ll call the cops. Knowledge and respect is key. Stay determined. RIP KOBE
She said to me that being persistent and consistent will make her decide if she will love again. Since she had a very bad relationship with her ex she was really wounded.
Don't listen to what women say, listen to what they do. Treating her like a princess will be your undoing. ruclips.net/video/Cb4M5R9nrFA/видео.html
@@xFlared i think so too. Just like how,you dont want to spoil your kids
9 years ago I met the sweetest and hottest girl ever and it costed me zero effort, I just looked good and a had good story plus I was nice. She was 9 years younger and fell for me right away. It felt good but there was never much chemistry. After 9 years we stopped and it fucking sucks coz we married with kids. Im 40 now and im gonna go on talking to as many girls i possibly can untill i find another beautiful women with chemistry this time.
Persistence is not that hard if you really don't care. You will eventually lose every girl sooner or later and if you accept this and stop caring you will not appear as needy because when you don't care you cannot be needy (logic).
Good to hear it from the perspective of a good looking guy who has had ups and downs. Thanks for sharing.
Doesn't that go against what you say 'don't try to make plans with a girl if she says no 2 times'?
it does, but he is dating other women, so he is not needy, just persistent.
big diff.
This girl told me to “f off” and she also told me that she has someone else. I think she’s giving me hints. Shall I persist?
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Conclusion: Always be playful in conversations and have positive mental attitude and know whether or not it's a 'maybe' or a real 'no'
I don’t think it’s being needy, i thinks it’s just the guy likes the girl and wants to be with her but the girl doesn’t want him. Needy or not the girl just might not like the guy. Dating doesn’t have to be a game
Dude this is a great video, with practical example.
Its interesting how you mentioned a lot of things in this video, encouraging people do to these but are congruent with what you teach.
At the end of the day if you want a girl youre needy, full stop. Theres no way around it.
I hate this shit I cant get over that fact because I actually want someone but I cant just play it off or pretend its not that, and thats why im needy. I want to work on it but its such a big hurdle.
Lol good luck with that attitude Garbage Can
Thats the point, im trying to change it
There's nothing wrong with going after a girl. Successful people go after the things they want in life. Unsuccessful ones expect everything to come to them
Okay, this gave me a mountain of hope 😂
But how can i stop being needy if i've never gotten laid or had a gf?
If a girl says No, do I really want to continually hit her up or find someone who is receptive? It's ok to pursue with clear intent. But if a door shuts, move on
I grew up with my mom preaching to me constantly "let your yes be yes and your no be no."
Having that drilled into your head constantly screws up my approach.
When loyd Christmas delivers someone to the airport he makes sure she gets all of her luggage.
be playful when persistant
I really needed this. Thank you, man.
Thank you man, you just boosted my confidence
Hi Lloyd, really interesting to hear you say examples of what you do. Best, kieran
I like His Honesty .... Very Good ....
Corey Wayne says to set a date when she reaches out, I find thats a good way to do it
6:15 exact thoughts everytime . more mad at myself tho 'why tf are you acting so weird?!!"
This is why I like the arranged marriage aspect of some Asian cultures
Hello Sir!
Could you pls make a video about how to approach a guy that I love and who loves me too but I suspect that he is impotent and I need to tell him that I don't care and make him comfortable not being embarrassed about it
Man, You are wise...
What if it’s a rejection; should you be persistent off of that? And how many times can you re-approach before switching to another girl?
How to know she is lying that she has a boyfriend? I usually don't give up that , but she might not although. She did told that she has a boyfriend, then i replied with, good i will find another girl then , and she laughed and was depressed on the next day.
Wow, holy fawk you motivated me. Thanks bruv 🤝🫡
Damn dude this is a great video!! Keep up the good work man!
Have no time, strength or patience to pursue anyone. If someone is interested - good for them and me. But if they lose interest or play hard to get - good for them too, I will do some work but eventually will peace out. Too old for that shit. Want to be with relationship with me - say so - if things work out that's great but if they don't - it's life. But don't waste my time with childish shit :D ;).
You’re a smart man my friend.
Don't let rejections make you mad. Thats very unhealthy and a big part of the problem why women treat man like they do. Big no no. Very big No no
Even if you are persistent and get yes from no,you are rewarding this behaviour of "play hard to get"by women.getting yes is not worthy when you put so much time and energy .dont persist.let her sink brother.
Single Guy make a video on long distance texting as well man. What if you are in a long distance relationship?
I think this is the missing key for me. And its the missing key for a lot of 'MGTOW' people. Being able to pursue without being attached to the outcome is magic.
I think I did give up too soon on one a couple of days ago. At first I thought I pushed too hard and that I should’ve quit sooner, but now it really seems like I actually mistook a shit test for a rejection. I’ll do better next time.
Great video , great advice and completely agree with everything you are saying.
My crush might be dating other men at the minute, but im not giving up on her and I'm going to let her know that she can hit me up if any relationship she as with any other guy at the minute goes wrong , she can always give me a buzz and we can go out.
Don't do that.
If you are not sure that she likes you back, don't wait up on her. And by likes I don't mean "occasionally talks to me". I mean actual signs she likes you.
Hell,there are girls that will give signs they like you when they actually don't. Happened to me recently.
Great vid man, love it!
Did he jus say stripper?..but ya playful persistence...that's 🗝️
What does it mean when last night she came to my place and we had fun and took some pictures together, and today she was cold at university. I sent her two messages that went seen but without any answer... She uploaded a story and i liked it, but when i did upload one, she ignored it.... Any tips ?
she said she is not interested, should I keep going?
Does anyone have problem, like me? Imagine you have different 5 girls you are about to date. If one says strong 'no', like the first one. Or even second one ... And it might be even because her fault. Like you would even had right to not response, get angry of you being disrespected. Whatever. Suddenly you really become needy to her. Theoritically Like you still have 4 to go, but somehow this one becomes important. Very important. It ruins your game after also for a while because you start chasing these one who just said no? Or it is only my fucked up head?
Dude, do you do anything else apart from chasing or talking about women. Let me know when you find the answer
Thank You for this wonderful video
Am I giving up quickly or don't tolerate ghosting?
Thanks bro! A very motivational video!!
In the end what matters is if she likes you. If shes into u, how shitty u many be at texting she will still respond to u! And on the other hand, how good ur at texting and if shes not into u well shes wont text u back, doesnt matter how funny you are, interesting you are or whatever. She will still wont reply to u!
Bro how do you be playful when being persistent? And how to be playful during text?
Most other game shit, said this shit was pretty much a waste of time, and needy. I mean it's not working amazing so far but ill get a nut here n there. Just a process. Gave me another view.
What if she’s still being playful after about 20 no’s ?????
"I'm going to go to it, even if she doesn't come". That could get disappointing very soon.....
AWESOME VID! 100%
Yes. Woww thank you!
You are correct but this is dangerous advice. These days if a girl isn't 100% into you then it probably will not happen. It is either zero or 100. Very rarely do men convert the maybe girls. Those maybe girls slept with the guys they really liked the first night and never turn them down. Your channel is great tho bro. You have a non bitter practical laid back vibe.
I have to disagree with that. There are many women who slowly fall for guys. Just basic "exposure effect" is enough to turn familiarity into lust. Plus women don't know you or the way you act from just seeing your face. However first impressions are very important.
@@xFlared I respectfully disagree. Women or atleast American women know within seconds if you are a worthy sexual prospect or not. Girls that fall for a guy slowly usual end up putting the guy in the friendzone. But we may just have different experiences brotha =)
@@thedust850 "Sexual prospect" isn't a fixed variable. If that was the case 99% of guys would be single. I've seen many fat low income guys with hot model like girls. And do you think they fell for these guys from first sight? More important than looks is confidence, characteristics, depth, and masculinity. All factors that take time to reveal. No model faced guy with a beta cuck personality will get beyond first few dates. In addition of attraction being a fluctuating variable, so is human personality and human looks. This is why people break up all the time. They change.
@@xFlared Real attraction can not be negotiated. The low income fat guys you speak of had to "win" the girl over a course of weeks and months. He had to convince her that he was worthy.
Meanwhile there is another guy who she felt an intense visceral tingling feeling of lust for from the first time she saw him. This is where the term " love at first sight" comes from. This guy gets her best sex and her most intense loyalty. She obsesses over this guy and cries about him at night.
The other low smv guy will get second rate sex and treatment as compared to the first guy. She will always deep down know she "settled". This is assuming that he even bypasses the friendzone.
I agree that with repeated exposure to a girl that you can eventually maybe win her over. But this victory is second rate to the real lust at first sight type of attraction.
Are you dealing with America girls btw? It matters what nation the gir from also.
@@thedust850 There is no negotiation. You state that sexual intimacy by females is determined by first sight. And I said that first impressions and slow introduction are even more powerful and are the reasons most guys have long lasting relationships. (these are not negotiations, but your neutral exposed self in the present) And it's not good looking at it as a victory. A woman is never the price, but is either equal or the other way around since the guy is usually the provider. In addition woman going head over heels for a guy isn't good. Clinginess and attachment is toxic beyond one night stand, and it proves she's low value and has self esteem/instability issues. There is also the question of attainability. If a woman sees you as way out of her league and unattainable then she will also reject you or push you away as a defense mechanism, meaning that easing your way in is the only way to build trust. (this happens more frequently than you think) And most "good girls" and valuable women will almost always test you and make you prove your worth. Unless it's casual sex, getting easy reciprocation with little to no rapport is already a red flag for any woman you're interested in, since it shows she's a freelancer, and you're just a side job.
What about the girls that dont say no but just ghosted me? Please help? Do i still need to hit her up?
Can this be applied the other way around? (Girl pursue man) or do you not recommend it?
No...
No, in most cases the only way a guy will give a girl a chance that he rejected at first is if she falls back and finds a way to look more attractive physically
dude was getting strung along by a stripper... i thought i had it rough
It never ceases to amaze me how American "pick up artists" all seem to think that trashy strippers are somehow the highest quality women and continually pursue them and put them on high pedestals...
I met a girl online (she wasn't that attractive though), we exchanged numbers she seduced me and started sexting. It went well, both side ended up in a good way, next day she gave a reply to a small text of mine (normal one) but later when I saw she blocked me. I mean wtf!??? I didn't get this logic.. what just happened? (I wasn't creepy,needy, and also I'm good looking)
She wasn't ready, when girls find someone really attractive but they don't feel ready, they try to avoid that person at all cost, so it's not your fault, she just wasn't ready for you
What is wrong with this guy? I watched his another video ("why she seems interested but keeps flacking") where he told that you should go to another girl after 2 flakes and mixed signals can mean that this girl just likes to be followed by guys. Now he is talking that you shouldn't give up unless you have clear signs that a girl is not into you...
Different women respond to different signals. What works to attract one woman doesn't necessarily work on another woman, so knowing different approaches to meet and attract women is a good way to ensure more successful hookups and/or relationships.
U buggin
She say no, I’m not interested anymore
Great video! Could you make a video about pursuing a girl, who is in a long distance relationship? Do you pursue such girls like other girls aswell? Kino has been exchanged and we are both playful, but I didnt have the balls yet to make a kiss close..
also I dont want to hang around her too much so that I dont get too deep in the friend zone.. any advice? :)
Yeah, try not to spend too much time around her. There is definitely a chance that she could be using you for attention while her boyfriend is far away. You can tell her how you feel and be unapologetic about it, but she has to know she can lose you. Women will keep men around they know are safe but will never respect them enough to date them.
But if someone text me even though I tried to reply later and seemed like a high quality guy , I cant help to reply them as soon as I can lol. Cuz i feel bad if I reply them really late
High value guys aren't persistant with women. They pay to play.
This chick I like a lot forced me to over text cause she said texting really helped with her anxiety. She's beautiful but gets really bad anxiety and keeps her up at night she would call me at 3 in the morning. I wanted help her with her anxiety. Now she won't respond and if she does it's very short.
All you needed to want is to go and leave the nuts hanging out bro...She used you like a simp
Whats up brother! I dont get it man...
One video you make says DO NOT hit a woman up if shes ghosted or otherwise stopped communication and with this one its well, if your going to, be playful and fun?!
I had the most amazing first 2 dates with a woman, and she ghosted me big time! Haven't heard from her for 2 weeks... I mean we were feelin each other big time! Not sure what happened, women are so unpredictable!!!
Sir, motivational
haha thanks
I like his style 👌🏼👌🏼
i dont get it, in your other videos you say don't give her more than two chances. now you speak about persisting and keep hitting her up.
Dude, it’s your fault you don’t know how to listen. That was for flaking not texting. With flaking you have a definite plan already but she cancels with texting there are no definite plans but you want one
Really Good Video