The person who loves you truly never create space ... Just focus on yourself rather than waiting for someone who wants space... Enjoy your own life ...date yourself and move on ... You will meet someone who value your presence ... Believe me.
Try not to look at it as the minimum. Its normal for things to slow down after the cupcake phase. When things slow down just match his effort and be warm and ready to recieve.
Yep, it's happened to me every time. Relationships take work...many people relax over time and that is when some cracks appear. Men stop chasing, women react. Then they wonder why things are the same. pfft.
1. Don’t chase after him 2. Don’t call and text or win him over 3. Don’t obsess over it 4. It has very little to do with me in my situation 5.don’t be a ball of anxiety don’t engage 6. You’re in control of your own mind 7. Do not bag plead or threaten 8. Don’t text him and ask how long 9. Just back off 1. Get fears under control 2. Fear of loss 3. Feelings of being unworthy you need to stop. 4. You will be okay 5. No man wants to feel like you need him! He will pull away 6. Just give him his space! They need to think things though before talking things through. 7. Space is a good thing in a relationship 8. Focus on you. Not the relationship 9. He is having a family crisis 10. He is struggling RESPECT WHAT HE NEEDS! Be a little selfish
@@shorooq22 Man change suddenly. I just don’t get it. They just take decisions suddenly . How things can change on their mind all of a sudden . Don’t we know the habit law ?? A long time habit is like a drug . We woman get attached more with time but why do they get irritated with time ?
It 1000% works!! Just let him go, don’t text, don’t call, don’t pop up and he will miss u like crazy. It’s scary, it hurts, but it’s worth it. He normally comes back saying I love you🥰
It is countertuitive to us women, when he pulls away and you do absolutely nothing (no texting, phone calls). It works like magic for me too, when he comes back I get showered with the most deep love, he plans every little details of the dates and follows through which I appreciate so much, the I love you, you are special to me text etc. I must say it was scary at first for me but through learning and practicing I couldnt be happier that I was open to learning the process.
I need to remember this. My long-term partner has asked for space. He runs his own business with 90% doing it all on his own. He has been feeling at rock bottom mentally for a while now. He feels empty inside about everything and also how he feels, especially about me. I know deep down he loves me, only over a wk ago he showed it during Xmas. I think he has depression I have asked him to seek professional help. He is a guy of 64, not a young man so I need him to get his life on track. I have been through hardship in life and he knows. I will give him the space he needs no matter how painful.
*Don't* 1. Do not chase after him. 2. Don't obsesses over it. 3. Do not begged and threatened. *Does* 1. Get your fear under control. 2. Just give him space. 3. Focus on yourself.
By the time he decides to come back I’ll probably be married with kids 🤣.. he can have all the space that he wants I gave up on him. Men are too complicated
@@lyde.official hi. I told him our situation is suffocating us and we really need to take a little time to make ourselves calm and think about things. I made no contact but he's always the one who reaches out first. If he trully loves you, he will.
What you shouldn’t do: 1. Do not chase after him - no calls, no texts 2. Do not obsess - don’t replay your last interaction with him 3. Do not beg or threaten - let him know you’re there for him What you should do: 1. Get your fears under control - no matter what happens, I will be ok 2. Just give him space - men rather think things through instead of talking 3. Focus on myself - indulge in self care
Grown woman thinking 👏🏽 Everytime things slow down a bit women get insecure and start letting their imagination run away with them. Projecting your insecurities on a your partner is such a turn off. Life is always in session. You are not your partners who world. As someone who just finished my RN program there were days I didn't have the time to talk on the phone for hours and text all day amd my woman understood that. She didn't get insecure or excuse me of foolishness. There were days when I studied 12 hours! . She was my peace and support at such a stressful time in my life.
As a man I can tell you this. He pulls away because 1: You are too much (emotional/energy vanpire) 2: There is someone else 3: He lost interest (AKA there's someone else) 4: He's not ready to handle you (avoidant reaction) 5: Although rare, he could value you too much to mess you up because he knows he's toxic
He said that things get messed up and he doesnot want to worrying me about it he will fix it and gonna meet and talk about it ( he took Space a week almost now)
Mine was the last case, he said he wanted to work on himself for many years and it seemed to me he was having anxiety. Then after a week he came back saying he didn't feel the same, because I tried to understand him pulling away.
@@PrettycupcakesgemAJ There is no specified time on hw long you should wait. But it's gonna be a long time for him to reach out to you. Bottom line is, don't reach out at all. If you do, it will make you seem very desperate. Wait for him to reach out to you, it may be a while.
I broke up with my boyfriend 3weeks ago and I was dying inside cause l loved him so much, l was in denial but after watching this l can simply say l am relieved and am ready to let him go.
So I just got done crying and found the strength to leave the bathroom. I knew the next thing I needed to do was watch you. I am a new subscriber and you just made it all so peaceful for my aching heart. After 3 months of dating, he has come to the conclusion that he doesn’t want a gf. That the more time we spent time together, the more he doesn’t see me in his future. It’s hard to accept that I am no longer going to see him anymore. I was falling for this guy. He felt guilty always cancelling on me because he has so much in his hands prioritizing his new company. Plus he isn’t making income from it yet so that’s another thing and he mentioned that his employees are revolting against his company; he has a lot on his mind right now so the last thing he needs is a gf. I get it. He wants his space. So I will wholeheartedly give him that. But once everything stabilizes and if he decides to come back to me, I’m not so sure if I’d want him back again. Thank you for this video! This is helping me during the space he needs. And I’ll be ok. I was happy before I met him. I know I will be happy after meeting him. ❤️
When my ex asked for space it was really because he was dating someone else and was too scared to break up with me, so in my case my thoughts were justified. It's not always because he needs time to deal with things. In my opinion, stress is a part of life and if you need a break from someone you love just because you're stressed, instead of opening up to them and letting them be there for you, you aren't ready for a relationship. Yeah they might not want to talk nonstop about it, but they should still be able to be around you. Once you're married, is a guy going to leave and ignore you whenever he's stressed because he "needs space"? That's why I don't think space can ever be a good thing. Even early on during dating, as you say if he wants you he will make it obvious and make the time and not make you question anything. So regardless of what point you're in the relationship, I don't see how it can be viewed as good.
This is exactly what I told my recent ex. He went from one day not being able to not see me to the next, needing space. I told him he would never be able to get married or have anything serious if he was constantly stressed over needing time to himself. He also complained that the relationship was too routine. Again, not something that you can avoid in marriage either. Ironically, he did this once before and came back but I can’t go through it again
When they say "I need some space", they actually mean "I want to search for another girl, because I don't want you" If they add "we might meet again", they mean "I will keep your number in case I am too lonely and desperate"
Sooo true....mine says I need to see a therapist before we continue seeing each other...lol....I’m not giving you no space Bruh sorry!! After 5 yrs of relationship you think I’m crazy now..BS
I needed to watch this video so much!! My BF of the last year just asked us to “cool off” and have some space. I love and adore him and he 100% knows that. I am doing everything you talked about here and I needed to hear that I’m handling this the right way. I’m missing him daily but I’m focused on myself right now and that feels good.
Never wait on a man. Ask him how he feels about you and the relationship and open up too but always keep your boundaries in mind. If he finds it "too hard" to answer, then say BOY BYE :) tell him you deserve someone who is mature and emotionally intelligent and available to communicate with you 🥰
He ended it 3 days ago, said I’m in his heart, and he doesn’t want to date anyone else, has too much going on in his life and it’s all too much. He’s upset he can’t give me what I need right now and that I haven’t lost him. I’m trusting his words... but In my head I have to think I’m single and try and move on, what if he does come back, brilliant... otherwise I’m okay. X
@@LindsaySolo turned out he was living with his ex again and hadn’t told me... that was the end of that.... he’s been in touch since, but I can’t trust a liar 🤥 x
I don't have time to waste or play games, I am going on with my life. Who has time to waste when a man is not completely invested in the relationship (no one).
"It's so important to ... work on those feelings of self-worth within yourself that is independent of being in a relationship." YES. YES YES YES to ALL of THAT!!
It worked but when he wanted to comeback it backfired on him, I never wanted him back, he started stalking and chasing me until I saw him as vulnerable and I was very much turned off. I watched him emotionally hurted but I never took him back. That’s one thing he regretted in life, we’re friends today but that’s about it. He have to watch a next man love on me 😁
Ok. Here is the whole thing: he needs space more then he needs you. So... Please, go live your perfect life and stop thinking about what is HE thinking about or what HE needs. He doesn't need you in the first place. Stop. Go, find YOUR man. You deserve better. ❤️
Actually I watched a video which presents 3 ways to stop a relationship: 1. Criticize constantly instead of trying to understand 2.Ignore the other person or interrupt them talking about your things 3. Remain silent until they leave you... Silence is bad
I dated a guy - and he's the one who wanted to talk every single dingle day. If not even more. I tried to slow it down- and he said he would find someone else. Whaaaa ? So back to nonstop talking..and about 5 months later, it just burned out. No mystery, no intrigue, etc. And I KNEW it would happen. Long story short; it didn't end there..it just went on n on - out of habit I guess. So I know what it's like when someone won't give it a rest. It's Boring.
You got tired of him talking all the time. And ended it. ? Was it on the phone ? And when you say it went on and on , so you dumped him ? You think he would want to be with you instead of just talking to you.
I gave a guy space for 2 months, and now we're talking again, and he's more attentive. I didn't obess over him but thought of him often. So once I finally reached out, he was very welcoming.
I can relate. I am a highly sensitive person and I am in a relationship with a man who does not talk much. Sometimes I do not know what to think and ready to call it quits.
I feel like you are my therapist talking directly to all my concerns lol. I can't express how meaningful and powerful your content is. You are a blessing to women everywhere for knowledge and self help. Thank you so much for your content. I will continue to support you for all your valuable knowledge!
Since following Sabrina and Eric on A New Mode, I have become the QUEEN of giving a guy space. It really works. Also, I have learned that I too need space. Love their videos and advice. They are the best. Thank you Sabrina/Eric for all your knowledge and advice.
I think this is good advice for earlier stages of a relationship. For a longer relationship, if 'space' is his go-to for every little pebble he probably has an avoidant attachment issue. Don't bother waiting for those guys. They'll pull away the second you think you can relax with them again. It will drain your soul.
This is hard to do but ut defo works... u just have to hide your pain from him & focus in yourself .... things turn around because u will be more relaxed and attractive to him, u may even attract someone better so keep your options open , unless tge space doent mean a break up
He just want to make you jalous, give him space don't be needy. Put good pictures of you on sociaux média. Don't call him ,don't text him. After almost 3weeks or a month He will back
I love this! The problem is that they act like asses when they need space instead of just saying, "Hey babe, I need some space." The other important thing is if something goes wrong, like you're stranded on the side of the road, they need to GTFO their hypersensitive ninny feelings and answer the damn phone.
@@pavi9312, IT CANNOT BE TACKLED, BEST THING TO DO IS TO LET HIM GO AND BOTH OF YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFES IT IS VERY HARD TO MAINTAIN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
These are the things that we never learned in our formal (school/ university) or informal education (from our parents). Learning love skill is as important as learning how to cure the Coronavirus ❤️
This is exactly what's going on with me and my guy.....he needs space and I'm headed to Insanity ville....trying to keep him interested in me etc. You make so much sense and I need to remember all of your words!! Thank you 😊💓
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 well we have seen each other a few times, the heartbreaking thing is he accidentally messaged me instead of someone else an hour ago saying "thanks for lunch :)))" I messaged him "wrong person " he tried to make out it was his roommate, i just said "it's ok...I get it" and I do get it now..he's obviously just wanting to play the field 😔 sooo upset though....when you have this amazing connection but it's not reciprocated or seen as special....major sadness 😪
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 uggg I'm sorry to hear this....mine also said that text was meant for his roommate and not a woman but idk...try to stay positive...i know it's hard..I'm having a very down day myself...sending you hugs 🤗
I'm so glad I found this video ☺️ It helps a lot as this is what I am going through right now. It gives me positive vibes! Thanks! More power and God bless ☺️
sometimes guys need space when they are going through things like my man hasn’t been the same since his friend has passed away from suicide. mind you this is his like third friend this year that he has lost. so he has been depressed and has been drinking and smoking his life away.. and I’m so worried and concerned about him. but I’m truly going to give him the space he needs to heal from the grief.
LET THEM GO,IF A MAN WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU KEEP THEM; BUT IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE KEPT ITS THEIR LOST NOT YOUR..ITS A BLESSING FOR YOU😅😂❤
If both sides communicate openly and honestly, giving or taking space should not have a detrimental effect on each other. "hun/babes I am going through this and that and I am worried that during this time I won't be able to support you or show you the love and attention we usually share" male or female counterpart should be able to communicate this. None of this torture, eggshell, tender hooks behaviour is healthy, both persons have feelings. If you can shut your partner out without kind, respectful communication, then you really need space to develop emotional intelligence, kindness and communication skills.
I took your advice a few weeks ago, the guy Im talking to "ghosted" but said hes really busy, stressed and has not lost interest. I have given him space, backed off and stopped chasing him, thats his thing to do not mine, and hes still around even with me giving him space. Im trying to follow his lead and just roll with it. Thank you for all of your advice!
One thing that he need space because he lost feelings towards you. I asked him to give me some space because I lost my feelings and I don't like him anymore Thank you Sabrina I always watching you.
It started off so great. From the first day, we just meshed so well and so instantly. For the first month, we were basically inseperable, we even went on a short vacation together (organised by him) within 2 hours of us returning from our trip he was on the phone asking me out. Now he's basically disappeared. I made all the mistakes of chasing/asking for reassurance/ calling a lot, but he would almost never reply. I got to a point where I said to him via a vn that I was thinking we reached the end of the road together. He apologised for what he's doing and said he didn't want to lose me and that he needed me in his life. After that, I allowed a few days to pass, but nothing changed, so I said if things didn't change then I'd leave that's when he kind of exploded and said that he's going through a lot of issues and to do whatever I wanted to do. I'm so afraid of not having him around anymore.
You make so much sense! I didn't realize I could be such a toxic girlfriend lol 🙈 thank you for your videos!! I plan to keep watching and learning to make my life better!! Much love!! ❤️
WOOOW i wish i saw this a few days ago where i felt like i was emotionally dying :"D i am now seeing the good things that come out of this space, like i can save money on gas AND choreograph and record dances that i have been working on for awhile now. thank you so much for saving me
Yeah let him sniff around when he find aut u let him his freedom and when he come back home ..don't ask stupid questions..first u don't know it's true so better just let it go and take him in ur arms .give him Unconditional love like a animal u get what u give ...no stress ..just love ...and be happy he is back in ur arms...so simple..but people make life so complicated...like they live forever ...all is temperary ..you and me too ..enjoy the moment ...then nobody know s when the last moment will come ...be happy 😎😻💖
I have social anxiety and I really like this girl I’ve been texting and seeing for a while. I don’t want her to think I'm not interested in her and she's been giving me obvious signs that she's interested in me. So I got to find a way to break outta this shell and tell her how I really feel. I felt like I messed up even though she reassured me with a kiss on the cheek
This is all very good advice. It is important to realize that men are wired totally differently than women. We women are about people; men are about things. They are also about what they do, their careers, which tend to come first, one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high. I agree that focusing on yourself is a good idea when your man starts to prefer himself over you. If you wind up creating too much space, and he doesn't respond, just move on. Most men who are so self-absorbed are not worth your love.
Thank you so much! Your right it’s time to focus on me. He’s stoped responding to my texts about a week ago so I cut back to just saying good morning and good night and still no response. He’s been away for work so I’m just going to stop & let it go for now. I’m worried that he’ll think I don’t care but for my mental well being you’re right it’s time to stop obsessing and focus on me!
Its been 5 months now. How are things going? I think it was a good thing for you to back all the way up. When someone doesnt reply to you (usually their phone isnt broken), they're making a choice. It hurts, but its their right to make that choice, just as it is your right when you want to move on from someone. In the end, hopefully you have focused on fulfulling yourself and your goals so you are an even better version of the awesome person you've always been! Do some self- healing if necessary. Many of us carry background baggage that causes us to cling to folks after they have made it clear that they aren't committed. Perhaps 'abandonment issues' of some sort or something else. But the sooner we address background stuff, the better. Anyways, I wish you the best.
I asked him "why are you with me" he responded "I don't know." After 5 years...ouch! Communication has been zero for 2 + weeks since his response, but truth be told I miss and love him so much. Is there time when a person should honestly move on, he's not coming back.
I just love you, it’s helped me a lot, I been so miserable am still trying to build my self back I do have self esteem issues and attachment issues due to my child hood issues...
Ts coming to a month now, I followed all these tips but I guess I should move on now, he keeps viewing my status updates and liking my pics on social media but I think I deserve better he can go eat his space
One month is not enough time. Use your facebook for your benefit. Look happy and inviting. He'll contact or after a couple months, you say Hi. If he is still needing space, move on.
Every time a guy has ever needed space he was deceptive or playing games. It’s usually another girl or an ex who comes back into the picture, 99% of the time, yet the advice given is still correct. But as for “the reason” he needs space she is giving too many excuses to the man. It’s 99% another girl, and men always know what they are doing.
I am so much guilty with every word you said. It gave me so much chills and made me teary eyed. I am so thankful i've stumbbled upon your video. Thanks sooo much! You helped me a lot with I am going through right now. 🙏
Now the only question i have is, i know he needs space but hes not telling me about it all (tho some of his actions says differently) since he still message me from time to time (we're on LDR) and i dunno how i woyld give him the space without actually asking him if he wants space.
Same! The only thing i can do is to wish him well in the new work place. And am trying to stay in 1.5 month of no contact😔 wishing he will come back one day when he has settle everything down
Everything in life needs a strategy nothing at this age can go spontaneous, Life pressures are tremendous and then givens and varieties are at the tip of both men and women fingers. So as Esther Petel has mentioned “ Desire is rooted in absence and in longing as well as it is in heaving.” So treat him as an equal and have this real believe that you are both in this game together and that he should seek your loyalty as well.
Even me I need space also because I Am masculine according to my sign- So I understand men if they really need space bec they need to rise up and focus.
Or he’s distant because he doesn’t like you but doesn’t know how to say it, how to say “No, I don’t want to be with you, I want out”. He doesn’t want to hurt you by saying that, but then he distance himself to kind of give you the hint.
Well, I can tell you one thing wrong I did with this one guy. The plan was to give me all my attention for the first week and then pull back but he was so intoxicating, so charming, so charismatic, I just fell into that, I didn't pull back, I just wanted to be in that. All the time. I knew I was being annoying, that was what I thought I was being but I couldn't stop it. I don't think this started right away because I did other things with him at the beginning. I wasn't trying to be needy or desperate but he was fun, and I laughed so hard with him, smoked hard and chatted just about all the time. It helped when there was distance between us, that prolonged his interest because I went on holiday and he was messaging again. When I finally found a new love interest he started showing up at the cafe where I worked, he did that so much all the staff asked me when I came back in - were we back together? I mean, I couldn't believe it but at this point I'd moved on.
Ive just listened to this, im going through this now and your advice is invaluable to me. I will listen to this over and over. Im giving him space. If he messages I answer. The only thing I do is say goodnight and he answers. Thankyou x
So yesterday he comes up to me and says I’m done, I’m tired. He was referring to being in a relationship. He said it wasn’t me at all and the only person he’d ever want to be with is me, but that he just can’t handle the stress of a relationship. So he broke things off and took down everything off social media. I’m broken hearted and I don’t know what to do. I haven’t talked to him and I’m giving him space until he reaches for me, but I don’t know what to do right now. It’s driving me insane cause it makes me feel like I’m the one that did something wrong and what could’ve I done to prevented it. I’m just at a dead end here and I need advice.
Thank you. This reminds that self love is so important!! Be gracious, be kind and respectful. Be your best self and it will work if you both want it to.
My husband was my greatest happiness. Now, he is my greatest sorrow. After 29 years of marriage and 3 beautiful kids, he tells me, he needs time and we can just be friends. 🤷♀️
I wish I saw this a couple of weeks ago. I made the mistake of chasing, calling, threatening, making him feel bad. But then I just gave him space and he text me after 3 days. So now I know what to do if this happens again
Tips. Don't play stressful background music, when you want people to hear your advice. Dont talk too fast it's too stressful. Just relax and don't shake your body and head it's stressful. More powers! Thanks for sharing ❤️
That's true. If it's got to be, then it will be. Naturally! If you need him to miss you now, you'll need the same thing later. Relationships aren't a game of hide and seek
My number 1 rule is this. I am the one who walks away and I make it clear from the beginning. I do not share. What's mine is mine and I expect 100% attention, commitment and communication, which is the life blood of a successful relationship. No man has ever left me. I stay tuned in and when attention, commitment or communication flounders, I give 1 warning and then walk away if there is no change. Only 1 man has ever left me. My husband died. We were married 32 wonderful years. Now 3 years later I am ready to love and be loved again. I will find the man who cares enough to walk this road with me. ❤
I always tell myself that I was looking for someone when i found him and can very easily keep looking lol. You have to just know that you're going to meet someone who would give anything to have you in their life.
This is great thank you. Actually proud to say I don't do the don'ts and focus on the do's. In my case though he asked for space and no contact. I respected that, though I was hurt. He asked how much time I wanted to give it and he suggested two weeks. I said I preferred not to put a time on it, but just let him have as much time as he needed. Now I'm wondering though: I get that a man would appreciate the time he's given to have his needed space, but for all I know it will be a month or more (we have been together 10 months, started dating a year ago). At what point do I stop respecting his decision and his needed space and do I say this is taking too long for me? I know that's up to me to feel, but I'm also wondering if at some point a guy would feel like I'm not respecting myself so much for just waiting around for him (for example IF I would give him space for two months. Wouldn't he question my own self-respect and self-love?)
Thank you! Love your videos, I can totally relate with this one in particular. Could you please talk about long distance relationships and how to deal with it? It's been 8 months without seeing each other and because of the virus it will probably be longer.
He asked for a break after saying he's emotionally exhausted of feeling he's not enough for me... I get that I made him feel underappreciated at times. At the same time I think that this could be handled together, by stablishing more agreements and boundaries that are comfortable to him. Idk how much I'm willing to wait.
@@asmrsleep3079 Girl, I'm still with him but considering breaking up often. Yes, they need space and we should support them, but we also deserve emotionally stable men who don't push away. That's not healthy for us, and we should take care of ourselves. Don't feel guilty for speaking up or expressing your needs, ever. If they can't communicate or handle feedback, that's on them. We're not their coaches, mothers nor therapists.
The person who loves you truly never create space ... Just focus on yourself rather than waiting for someone who wants space... Enjoy your own life ...date yourself and move on ... You will meet someone who value your presence ... Believe me.
I 100% Agree with You!
I agree entirely!
Out of sight out of mind! Whatever? Ho hum!
💯true to that
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The problem is that they are so warm when they just met you and as time passes they start to give the minimum, gives me anxiety every time ugh.
Try not to look at it as the minimum. Its normal for things to slow down after the cupcake phase. When things slow down just match his effort and be warm and ready to recieve.
@@NaturallyHERS That's what I'm doing at the moment and slowly adjusting, will see how it turns out.
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Yep, it's happened to me every time. Relationships take work...many people relax over time and that is when some cracks appear. Men stop chasing, women react. Then they wonder why things are the same. pfft.
Life is hard enough without your partner looking elsewhere or taking you for granted.
1. Don’t chase after him
2. Don’t call and text or win him over
3. Don’t obsess over it
4. It has very little to do with me in my situation
5.don’t be a ball of anxiety don’t engage
6. You’re in control of your own mind
7. Do not bag plead or threaten
8. Don’t text him and ask how long
9. Just back off
1. Get fears under control
2. Fear of loss
3. Feelings of being unworthy you need to stop.
4. You will be okay
5. No man wants to feel like you need him! He will pull away
6. Just give him his space! They need to think things though before talking things through.
7. Space is a good thing in a relationship
8. Focus on you. Not the relationship
9. He is having a family crisis
10. He is struggling
RESPECT WHAT HE NEEDS!
Be a little selfish
Harsh but true
What abt her needs
True
I'm so weak.
I have an issue of not being able to be worthy of him this is where i feel anxiety
BY THE TIME HE DECIDES HE WANTS ME BACK AND STOP IGNORING ME, I WONT WANT HIM BACK HE CAN GO TO SPACE FOR ALL I CARE, BOY BYE
Grace Jegels me too 🤣😂😅😅😅
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Me too 😂😂
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There’s nothing worse than waking up one day and seeing the person you gave everything to just walk away. That shit hurts.
Am here I surrender everything
Hrt
Time
My wealth
My mind and he is like
No interest at all,
It does extremely hurts
It does!
@@strongmummy580 let him go, believe me if he cared about you he would think thousand times before hurting you...
@@shorooq22 Man change suddenly. I just don’t get it. They just take decisions suddenly . How things can change on their mind all of a sudden . Don’t we know the habit law ?? A long time habit is like a drug . We woman get attached more with time but why do they get irritated with time ?
*Giving space can be challenging, but it's vital for a relationship's growth. Let's use this understanding to build trust and intimacy.*
It 1000% works!! Just let him go, don’t text, don’t call, don’t pop up and he will miss u like crazy. It’s scary, it hurts, but it’s worth it. He normally comes back saying I love you🥰
when even he is out of love and thinks that we are incompatible? I don't believe that.
@@riyabanerjee2656 yess i also wanna know this😃
It is countertuitive to us women, when he pulls away and you do absolutely nothing (no texting, phone calls). It works like magic for me too, when he comes back I get showered with the most deep love, he plans every little details of the dates and follows through which I appreciate so much, the I love you, you are special to me text etc. I must say it was scary at first for me but through learning and practicing I couldnt be happier that I was open to learning the process.
@@nhl4264 congratulations!💕 but may I ask, what was the reason for the breakup? And after his many days/months did he come back?
By the time he comes back other men have offered me dinners and wine and perhaps proposed.He may be last in class
Oh if he wants space, I can give him the universe 🌌
Yes! I like your dialog.
hahahaha,nice idea.
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You don’t deserve a man who comes back, you deserve a man who never left in the first place.
I need to remember this. My long-term partner has asked for space. He runs his own business with 90% doing it all on his own. He has been feeling at rock bottom mentally for a while now. He feels empty inside about everything and also how he feels, especially about me. I know deep down he loves me, only over a wk ago he showed it during Xmas. I think he has depression I have asked him to seek professional help. He is a guy of 64, not a young man so I need him to get his life on track. I have been through hardship in life and he knows. I will give him the space he needs no matter how painful.
*Don't*
1. Do not chase after him.
2. Don't obsesses over it.
3. Do not begged and threatened.
*Does*
1. Get your fear under control.
2. Just give him space.
3. Focus on yourself.
Thank you for brief.. It's really helpful
Im ready
@@mistywheeler376 I'm ready
Life is short so i make it sweet for rest of the day that i left here😍
Thank you.
By the time he decides to come back I’ll probably be married with kids 🤣.. he can have all the space that he wants I gave up on him. Men are too complicated
Exactly
I totally agree...they say we are the complex one..! But its them!Men are from MARS!!!
Omg ..this is soo true 😝
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This truly works. I gave him space gracefully and he always comes back. He needs it. And sometimes I need it too. It makes a relationship healthy.
Precisely!
True!!
Whats the reason of the space? My partner ask for space after argument, how long it will take?
@@lyde.official hi. I told him our situation is suffocating us and we really need to take a little time to make ourselves calm and think about things. I made no contact but he's always the one who reaches out first. If he trully loves you, he will.
So you will always on dating stage ,never married
I love it when she says "focus on yourself, who cares about him! "
When he feels he needs space ..its time to fill the space , girl!
sr sr good one ☝️
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Na everybody needs space. Alone time.
I need space means indirect way of saying I am no longer interest in you.... I don’t what kind person sit around and wait for that
lmfao
What you shouldn’t do:
1. Do not chase after him - no calls, no texts
2. Do not obsess - don’t replay your last interaction with him
3. Do not beg or threaten - let him know you’re there for him
What you should do:
1. Get your fears under control - no matter what happens, I will be ok
2. Just give him space - men rather think things through instead of talking
3. Focus on myself - indulge in self care
We are ladies we dint chase after men. The rules. Hard to get
@@annedungu5449 wrong ! girls can't handle being chased, that makes the guy weak and you don't desire him after
Just like Lizzo says, "Why're men great til' they gotta be great?" So true.
That part!
what if he's seeing someone are texting
I find that giving space n supporting his goals makes him appreciate you. A busy man is a successful man. Let him follow his dreams
Yes, for sure. The last thing is man wants is seeking his attention constantly.
😂😂😂😂 busy fucking other people lol but true
Healing Angel damnit same🤦♀️
Grown woman thinking 👏🏽 Everytime things slow down a bit women get insecure and start letting their imagination run away with them. Projecting your insecurities on a your partner is such a turn off. Life is always in session. You are not your partners who world. As someone who just finished my RN program there were days I didn't have the time to talk on the phone for hours and text all day amd my woman understood that. She didn't get insecure or excuse me of foolishness. There were days when I studied 12 hours! . She was my peace and support at such a stressful time in my life.
And how's that working out for you? Has he put a ring on it yet?
As a man I can tell you this. He pulls away because
1: You are too much (emotional/energy vanpire)
2: There is someone else
3: He lost interest (AKA there's someone else)
4: He's not ready to handle you (avoidant reaction)
5: Although rare, he could value you too much to mess you up because he knows he's toxic
He said that things get messed up and he doesnot want to worrying me about it he will fix it and gonna meet and talk about it ( he took Space a week almost now)
Mine was the last case, he said he wanted to work on himself for many years and it seemed to me he was having anxiety. Then after a week he came back saying he didn't feel the same, because I tried to understand him pulling away.
@@sukiarts its almost month they lie about it too gost and left with out worrying about explaning
My husband wants me to understand him for cheating he want to mingle with another girls and after that he want me not to react about that..
No 5 is interesting 🤔
When you don't focus on him, it makes him wonder
I couldn't agree more, that is so true.
I know he is cheating.. But I still I'm almost chasing him... Why o why?
I know we r supposed to give space.. but how much space?? when exactly can we call and how much... just need some advice
@@PrettycupcakesgemAJ There is no specified time on hw long you should wait. But it's gonna be a long time for him to reach out to you. Bottom line is, don't reach out at all. If you do, it will make you seem very desperate. Wait for him to reach out to you, it may be a while.
@@lilyroeun7324 is twoonths normal?
Maybe I will just start moving on. He can have all the space he needs.
That’s what I did and it’s been over a year of unfriending and no contact.
I broke up with my boyfriend 3weeks ago and I was dying inside cause l loved him so much, l was in denial but after watching this l can simply say l am relieved and am ready to let him go.
So I just got done crying and found the strength to leave the bathroom. I knew the next thing I needed to do was watch you. I am a new subscriber and you just made it all so peaceful for my aching heart. After 3 months of dating, he has come to the conclusion that he doesn’t want a gf. That the more time we spent time together, the more he doesn’t see me in his future. It’s hard to accept that I am no longer going to see him anymore. I was falling for this guy. He felt guilty always cancelling on me because he has so much in his hands prioritizing his new company. Plus he isn’t making income from it yet so that’s another thing and he mentioned that his employees are revolting against his company; he has a lot on his mind right now so the last thing he needs is a gf. I get it. He wants his space. So I will wholeheartedly give him that. But once everything stabilizes and if he decides to come back to me, I’m not so sure if I’d want him back again. Thank you for this video! This is helping me during the space he needs. And I’ll be ok. I was happy before I met him. I know I will be happy after meeting him. ❤️
So true
Awww that is so sad
The same here. 😢 Its just a devastating feeling that he likes you but you’re not a priority. I hope one day, the right guy comes for us.
Did he ever come back?
I am truly sorry ☹
When my ex asked for space it was really because he was dating someone else and was too scared to break up with me, so in my case my thoughts were justified. It's not always because he needs time to deal with things. In my opinion, stress is a part of life and if you need a break from someone you love just because you're stressed, instead of opening up to them and letting them be there for you, you aren't ready for a relationship. Yeah they might not want to talk nonstop about it, but they should still be able to be around you. Once you're married, is a guy going to leave and ignore you whenever he's stressed because he "needs space"? That's why I don't think space can ever be a good thing. Even early on during dating, as you say if he wants you he will make it obvious and make the time and not make you question anything. So regardless of what point you're in the relationship, I don't see how it can be viewed as good.
Seriously you are making alot of sense, my man is doing it for the second time in 2 years
Agree
This is exactly what I told my recent ex. He went from one day not being able to not see me to the next, needing space. I told him he would never be able to get married or have anything serious if he was constantly stressed over needing time to himself. He also complained that the relationship was too routine. Again, not something that you can avoid in marriage either. Ironically, he did this once before and came back but I can’t go through it again
Good point
When they say "I need some space", they actually mean "I want to search for another girl, because I don't want you"
If they add "we might meet again", they mean "I will keep your number in case I am too lonely and desperate"
“You can never know what he’s thinking and also who cares!” That’s gold🤩
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Nowadays when men need space is because someone already in your space
Sooo true....mine says I need to see a therapist before we continue seeing each other...lol....I’m not giving you no space Bruh sorry!! After 5 yrs of relationship you think I’m crazy now..BS
Not necessarily !
Or in their space
This is absolutely true
Perfectly true
I needed to watch this video so much!! My BF of the last year just asked us to “cool off” and have some space. I love and adore him and he 100% knows that. I am doing everything you talked about here and I needed to hear that I’m handling this the right way. I’m missing him daily but I’m focused on myself right now and that feels good.
Did he come back?
What’s the update?
We need an update? Im on day 5 and 7 days seem to be the common time for when space shifts to break up
@@dabada9541update for you?
Never wait on a man. Ask him how he feels about you and the relationship and open up too but always keep your boundaries in mind. If he finds it "too hard" to answer, then say BOY BYE :) tell him you deserve someone who is mature and emotionally intelligent and available to communicate with you 🥰
even if you are still or have been pursuing/chasing him? Oh and you said no to going out with him, but you're still chasing him. TF is that shit!
lovely..❤️..just say them Good Bye..
@@darioschaeffer5513 I didn't say no to going out with anyone that I'm interested in..
@@nadianasrin352 ❤️
@@zelihagokce what if they're in a relationship with someone else but are giving you blatant signs of flirtation?
He ended it 3 days ago, said I’m in his heart, and he doesn’t want to date anyone else, has too much going on in his life and it’s all too much. He’s upset he can’t give me what I need right now and that I haven’t lost him. I’m trusting his words... but In my head I have to think I’m single and try and move on, what if he does come back, brilliant... otherwise I’m okay. X
What happened now?
@@LindsaySolo turned out he was living with his ex again and hadn’t told me... that was the end of that.... he’s been in touch since, but I can’t trust a liar 🤥 x
@@ceebeeceebee671 🥺🥺🥺🥺so sorry for that
I don't have time to waste or play games, I am going on with my life. Who has time to waste when a man is not completely invested in the relationship (no one).
Yessss no one!he can go
True.. If he want space he go to hell
You are so on point. My sentiments exactly!
"It's so important to ... work on those feelings of self-worth within yourself that is independent of being in a relationship." YES. YES YES YES to ALL of THAT!!
It worked but when he wanted to comeback it backfired on him, I never wanted him back, he started stalking and chasing me until I saw him as vulnerable and I was very much turned off. I watched him emotionally hurted but I never took him back. That’s one thing he regretted in life, we’re friends today but that’s about it. He have to watch a next man love on me 😁
Nathania Andrews Powerful!!!!!👍🏽🙌🏽🤗❤️👑👸🏽
Yeah girl.... ✌
How long did it take for him to come back?
🏆 You are the real MVP! 🏆
Yes coz some men think that when u plead for them they are the only ones that u have in life or this world
Giving him space an urself from each other is really great because u want each other all over again an talking is really great as well
If he is pulling away, or saying he needs space. He is seeing/entertaining someone else!
This video is exactly what I needed. Currently going through this with a guy I’ve been seeing. I feel less crazy and anxious now. Thank you!
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Ok. Here is the whole thing: he needs space more then he needs you. So... Please, go live your perfect life and stop thinking about what is HE thinking about or what HE needs. He doesn't need you in the first place. Stop. Go, find YOUR man. You deserve better. ❤️
Of course.
Actually I watched a video which presents 3 ways to stop a relationship:
1. Criticize constantly instead of trying to understand
2.Ignore the other person or interrupt them talking about your things
3. Remain silent until they leave you...
Silence is bad
I dated a guy - and he's the one who wanted to talk every single dingle day. If not even more. I tried to slow it down- and he said he would find someone else. Whaaaa ? So back to nonstop talking..and about 5 months later, it just burned out. No mystery, no intrigue, etc. And I KNEW it would happen. Long story short; it didn't end there..it just went on n on - out of habit I guess. So I know what it's like when someone won't give it a rest. It's Boring.
You got tired of him talking all the time. And ended it. ? Was it on the phone ? And when you say it went on and on , so you dumped him ? You think he would want to be with you instead of just talking to you.
Ahhh you’ve definitely helped me in my healing!! Thank you ❤️❤️ stay strong y’all and love yourself !!
I gave a guy space for 2 months, and now we're talking again, and he's more attentive. I didn't obess over him but thought of him often. So once I finally reached out, he was very welcoming.
I can relate. I am a highly sensitive person and I am in a relationship with a man who does not talk much. Sometimes I do not know what to think and ready to call it quits.
I feel like you are my therapist talking directly to all my concerns lol. I can't express how meaningful and powerful your content is. You are a blessing to women everywhere for knowledge and self help. Thank you so much for your content. I will continue to support you for all your valuable knowledge!
A relationship is not a relationship without appropriate communication. A lack of it is the beginning of a problem.
I like this... “just back off”
Relate to this so much.
Since following Sabrina and Eric on A New Mode, I have become the QUEEN of giving a guy space. It really works. Also, I have learned that I too need space. Love their videos and advice. They are the best. Thank you Sabrina/Eric for all your knowledge and advice.
I think this is good advice for earlier stages of a relationship.
For a longer relationship, if 'space' is his go-to for every little pebble he probably has an avoidant attachment issue. Don't bother waiting for those guys. They'll pull away the second you think you can relax with them again. It will drain your soul.
Great reality check.
This is hard to do but ut defo works... u just have to hide your pain from him & focus in yourself .... things turn around because u will be more relaxed and attractive to him, u may even attract someone better so keep your options open , unless tge space doent mean a break up
He said he needed space and then he comes back to tell me he found someone new :)
Sawdah Ali thats good for him
@@reenabrandt4260 why do you say that
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He just want to make you jalous, give him space don't be needy. Put good pictures of you on sociaux média. Don't call him ,don't text him. After almost 3weeks or a month He will back
@@gracen4542 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Great video. Yes, I'm giving him space if he comes back good if he does not I wish him the best.
If a guy asks for space, give him a map of Mount Everest and fill your dance card.
I love this! The problem is that they act like asses when they need space instead of just saying, "Hey babe, I need some space." The other important thing is if something goes wrong, like you're stranded on the side of the road, they need to GTFO their hypersensitive ninny feelings and answer the damn phone.
Best comment!
When I do give him space, he asks me if I've stopped caring about him. I'm in a long distance relationship and it's tough.
Same 😞
@@lilmissdoctor How do you tackle it?
@@pavi9312, IT CANNOT BE TACKLED, BEST THING TO DO IS TO LET HIM GO AND BOTH OF YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFES IT IS VERY HARD TO MAINTAIN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
Same
same here its so draining
Well I found out he was talking to his exs and telling them everything sometimes he just doesn’t want to talk to you he has someone he talks to🤷🏽♀️
These are the things that we never learned in our formal (school/ university) or informal education (from our parents). Learning love skill is as important as learning how to cure the Coronavirus ❤️
You are true 🥰😂😂
You are true
Totally lol
This is exactly what's going on with me and my guy.....he needs space and I'm headed to Insanity ville....trying to keep him interested in me etc. You make so much sense and I need to remember all of your words!! Thank you 😊💓
Is he back?
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 well we have seen each other a few times, the heartbreaking thing is he accidentally messaged me instead of someone else an hour ago saying "thanks for lunch :)))" I messaged him "wrong person " he tried to make out it was his roommate, i just said "it's ok...I get it" and I do get it now..he's obviously just wanting to play the field 😔 sooo upset though....when you have this amazing connection but it's not reciprocated or seen as special....major sadness 😪
@@sophisticat6456 mine was gone for 6 months n he came back now his gone again
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 uggg I'm sorry to hear this....mine also said that text was meant for his roommate and not a woman but idk...try to stay positive...i know it's hard..I'm having a very down day myself...sending you hugs 🤗
As stressful as it is, sometimes you feel rejected but withdrawing works because he asks himself why you are quite and call back.
I'm so glad I found this video ☺️ It helps a lot as this is what I am going through right now. It gives me positive vibes! Thanks! More power and God bless ☺️
I'm ready
Same here
I Iove your optimistic point of view! It’s refreshing to hear A view that doesn’t put down a man.
sometimes guys need space when they are going through things like my man hasn’t been the same since his friend has passed away from suicide. mind you this is his like third friend this year that he has lost. so he has been depressed and has been drinking and smoking his life away.. and I’m so worried and concerned about him. but I’m truly going to give him the space he needs to heal from the grief.
LET THEM GO,IF A MAN WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU KEEP THEM; BUT IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE KEPT ITS THEIR LOST NOT YOUR..ITS A BLESSING FOR YOU😅😂❤
If both sides communicate openly and honestly, giving or taking space should not have a detrimental effect on each other. "hun/babes I am going through this and that and I am worried that during this time I won't be able to support you or show you the love and attention we usually share" male or female counterpart should be able to communicate this. None of this torture, eggshell, tender hooks behaviour is healthy, both persons have feelings. If you can shut your partner out without kind, respectful communication, then you really need space to develop emotional intelligence, kindness and communication skills.
That is not cool.
So I’m supposed to just wait however long for them? That’s not fair to anyone
🎯Exactly….Adults communicate and resolve issues without playing games. If you’re both interested, then it shouldn’t be too complicated
If he thinks you're too much it's cuz he's just not one to stay with. Letting go sux but it feels gud to get your energy back.
I took your advice a few weeks ago, the guy Im talking to "ghosted" but said hes really busy, stressed and has not lost interest. I have given him space, backed off and stopped chasing him, thats his thing to do not mine, and hes still around even with me giving him space. Im trying to follow his lead and just roll with it. Thank you for all of your advice!
Nice of u but for me he just got someone else and it hurt me really bad
Move on you're worth more.
One thing that he need space because he lost feelings towards you. I asked him to give me some space because I lost my feelings and I don't like him anymore Thank you Sabrina I always watching you.
It started off so great. From the first day, we just meshed so well and so instantly. For the first month, we were basically inseperable, we even went on a short vacation together (organised by him) within 2 hours of us returning from our trip he was on the phone asking me out. Now he's basically disappeared. I made all the mistakes of chasing/asking for reassurance/ calling a lot, but he would almost never reply. I got to a point where I said to him via a vn that I was thinking we reached the end of the road together. He apologised for what he's doing and said he didn't want to lose me and that he needed me in his life. After that, I allowed a few days to pass, but nothing changed, so I said if things didn't change then I'd leave that's when he kind of exploded and said that he's going through a lot of issues and to do whatever I wanted to do. I'm so afraid of not having him around anymore.
Going through something similar now we can talk if you want I’m really depressed and hurting.
You both moved to fast. Plus you have soul tie from premarital sex. God couldn't bless that.
You make so much sense! I didn't realize I could be such a toxic girlfriend lol 🙈 thank you for your videos!! I plan to keep watching and learning to make my life better!! Much love!! ❤️
You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed! xo
Men are following these tips too... And that's how some people aren't back together 😁
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WOOOW i wish i saw this a few days ago where i felt like i was emotionally dying :"D i am now seeing the good things that come out of this space, like i can save money on gas AND choreograph and record dances that i have been working on for awhile now. thank you so much for saving me
I’m going through all what you are saying ! Thanks for the advice , I’m letting him have his space👍🏽
Yeah let him sniff around when he find aut u let him his freedom and when he come back home ..don't ask stupid questions..first u don't know it's true so better just let it go and take him in ur arms .give him
Unconditional love like a animal u get what u give ...no stress ..just love ...and be happy he is back in ur arms...so simple..but people make life so complicated...like they live forever ...all is temperary ..you and me too ..enjoy the moment ...then nobody know s when the last moment will come ...be happy 😎😻💖
I have social anxiety and I really like this girl I’ve been texting and seeing for a while. I don’t want her to think I'm not interested in her and she's been giving me obvious signs that she's interested in me. So I got to find a way to break outta this shell and tell her how I really feel. I felt like I messed up even though she reassured me with a kiss on the cheek
have you asked her out?
This is all very good advice. It is important to realize that men are wired totally differently than women. We women are about people; men are about things. They are also about what they do, their careers, which tend to come first, one of the reasons why the divorce rate is so high. I agree that focusing on yourself is a good idea when your man starts to prefer himself over you. If you wind up creating too much space, and he doesn't respond, just move on. Most men who are so self-absorbed are not worth your love.
Thank you so much! Your right it’s time to focus on me. He’s stoped responding to my texts about a week ago so I cut back to just saying good morning and good night and still no response. He’s been away for work so I’m just going to stop & let it go for now. I’m worried that he’ll think I don’t care but for my mental well being you’re right it’s time to stop obsessing and focus on me!
Its been 5 months now. How are things going? I think it was a good thing for you to back all the way up. When someone doesnt reply to you (usually their phone isnt broken), they're making a choice. It hurts, but its their right to make that choice, just as it is your right when you want to move on from someone.
In the end, hopefully you have focused on fulfulling yourself and your goals so you are an even better version of the awesome person you've always been! Do some self- healing if necessary. Many of us carry background baggage that causes us to cling to folks after they have made it clear that they aren't committed. Perhaps 'abandonment issues' of some sort or something else. But the sooner we address background stuff, the better.
Anyways, I wish you the best.
I love your videos!!! They have helped me feel mentally better already! It all makes so much sense, thank you for doing what you do!
I asked him "why are you with me" he responded "I don't know." After 5 years...ouch! Communication has been zero for 2 + weeks since his response, but truth be told I miss and love him so much. Is there time when a person should honestly move on, he's not coming back.
I just love you, it’s helped me a lot, I been so miserable am still trying to build my self back I do have self esteem issues and attachment issues due to my child hood issues...
Ts coming to a month now, I followed all these tips but I guess I should move on now, he keeps viewing my status updates and liking my pics on social media but I think I deserve better he can go eat his space
One month is not enough time. Use your facebook for your benefit. Look happy and inviting. He'll contact or after a couple months, you say Hi. If he is still needing space, move on.
@@mixedchickULike I make sure I glow especially on FB, thanks alot for the advise💯
Hahaha
He's juggling other women.
Yah u are right they are so annoying u know
Every time a guy has ever needed space he was deceptive or playing games. It’s usually another girl or an ex who comes back into the picture, 99% of the time, yet the advice given is still correct. But as for “the reason” he needs space she is giving too many excuses to the man. It’s 99% another girl, and men always know what they are doing.
I am so much guilty with every word you said. It gave me so much chills and made me teary eyed. I am so thankful i've stumbbled upon your video. Thanks sooo much! You helped me a lot with I am going through right now. 🙏
Now the only question i have is, i know he needs space but hes not telling me about it all (tho some of his actions says differently) since he still message me from time to time (we're on LDR) and i dunno how i woyld give him the space without actually asking him if he wants space.
this gave me a lot lesson for my long distance relationship,,coz we are in that situation now..
Thank you!!
Me too, I am in long distance relationship and he doesnt wanna talk to me.. what should I do? should I not contact him at all?
@@jssclua how did it go sis? I'm in the same situation. We have taken a break for a week now.
Same!! I’m in a long distant relationship and it’s tough. And we have been spaced out for a week
I'm going through this right now.
Same! The only thing i can do is to wish him well in the new work place. And am trying to stay in 1.5 month of no contact😔 wishing he will come back one day when he has settle everything down
Everything in life needs a strategy nothing at this age can go spontaneous, Life pressures are tremendous and then givens and varieties are at the tip of both men and women fingers. So as Esther Petel has mentioned “ Desire is rooted in absence and in longing as well as it is in heaving.” So treat him as an equal and have this real believe that you are both in this game together and that he should seek your loyalty as well.
Even me I need space also because I Am masculine according to my sign- So I understand men if they really need space bec they need to rise up and focus.
I love the way you explain it. It’s not offensive, just truthful and hilarious❤️💜
Or he’s distant because he doesn’t like you but doesn’t know how to say it, how to say “No, I don’t want to be with you, I want out”. He doesn’t want to hurt you by saying that, but then he distance himself to kind of give you the hint.
I got engaged to your videos Sabrina! They are so insightful and helpful! Thank you very much for making things clearer for us!
This is 1000% true
Well, I can tell you one thing wrong I did with this one guy. The plan was to give me all my attention for the first week and then pull back but he was so intoxicating, so charming, so charismatic, I just fell into that, I didn't pull back, I just wanted to be in that. All the time. I knew I was being annoying, that was what I thought I was being but I couldn't stop it. I don't think this started right away because I did other things with him at the beginning. I wasn't trying to be needy or desperate but he was fun, and I laughed so hard with him, smoked hard and chatted just about all the time. It helped when there was distance between us, that prolonged his interest because I went on holiday and he was messaging again. When I finally found a new love interest he started showing up at the cafe where I worked, he did that so much all the staff asked me when I came back in - were we back together? I mean, I couldn't believe it but at this point I'd moved on.
Ive just listened to this, im going through this now and your advice is invaluable to me. I will listen to this over and over. Im giving him space. If he messages I answer. The only thing I do is say goodnight and he answers. Thankyou x
So yesterday he comes up to me and says I’m done, I’m tired. He was referring to being in a relationship. He said it wasn’t me at all and the only person he’d ever want to be with is me, but that he just can’t handle the stress of a relationship. So he broke things off and took down everything off social media. I’m broken hearted and I don’t know what to do. I haven’t talked to him and I’m giving him space until he reaches for me, but I don’t know what to do right now. It’s driving me insane cause it makes me feel like I’m the one that did something wrong and what could’ve I done to prevented it. I’m just at a dead end here and I need advice.
Hang in there girlfriend. ❤️Remember your worth and who you are 💙
I can feel your pain cause it's as the same as what am going through
I’m going through the same thing
I can relate first hand
You gonna be ok , is just a matter of time , delete all his pictures , stop looking at his status , with time he gona be a story 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you. This reminds that self love is so important!! Be gracious, be kind and respectful. Be your best self and it will work if you both want it to.
My husband was my greatest happiness. Now, he is my greatest sorrow. After 29 years of marriage and 3 beautiful kids, he tells me, he needs time and we can just be friends. 🤷♀️
One thing, though, Sabrina, I found the musical background distracting. Would be easier to focus on your talk without it.
I'll keep that in mind!
Yes please!! I couldn't focus on you. Thanks!!
Me too. I feel like I can't concentrate much
I liked it tho anyways
I didn’t really notice it until I read this comment
I wish I saw this a couple of weeks ago. I made the mistake of chasing, calling, threatening, making him feel bad. But then I just gave him space and he text me after 3 days. So now I know what to do if this happens again
Tips.
Don't play stressful background music, when you want people to hear your advice.
Dont talk too fast it's too stressful.
Just relax and don't shake your body and head it's stressful.
More powers! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Believe it or not,right after I watched this ,he texted me back...."i want you".....
That's true. If it's got to be, then it will be. Naturally! If you need him to miss you now, you'll need the same thing later. Relationships aren't a game of hide and seek
My number 1 rule is this. I am the one who walks away and I make it clear from the beginning. I do not share. What's mine is mine and I expect 100% attention, commitment and communication, which is the life blood of a successful relationship. No man has ever left me. I stay tuned in and when attention, commitment or communication flounders, I give 1 warning and then walk away if there is no change. Only 1 man has ever left me. My husband died. We were married 32 wonderful years. Now 3 years later I am ready to love and be loved again. I will find the man who cares enough to walk this road with me. ❤
You may have just changed my whole life. I'm so glad for stumbling across your channel! Thank you so much! ❤
I’m a gay, and my BF broke up with 5 days ago, I stop chatting and texting him for 2 days, I hope the no contact rule works for us.
I always tell myself that I was looking for someone when i found him and can very easily keep looking lol. You have to just know that you're going to meet someone who would give anything to have you in their life.
This is great thank you. Actually proud to say I don't do the don'ts and focus on the do's. In my case though he asked for space and no contact. I respected that, though I was hurt. He asked how much time I wanted to give it and he suggested two weeks. I said I preferred not to put a time on it, but just let him have as much time as he needed. Now I'm wondering though: I get that a man would appreciate the time he's given to have his needed space, but for all I know it will be a month or more (we have been together 10 months, started dating a year ago). At what point do I stop respecting his decision and his needed space and do I say this is taking too long for me? I know that's up to me to feel, but I'm also wondering if at some point a guy would feel like I'm not respecting myself so much for just waiting around for him (for example IF I would give him space for two months. Wouldn't he question my own self-respect and self-love?)
Just give him space for 3 months the most! If he doesn’t come back after the 3rd month. Just move on
Thank you! Love your videos, I can totally relate with this one in particular.
Could you please talk about long distance relationships and how to deal with it? It's been 8 months without seeing each other and because of the virus it will probably be longer.
Yes same
He asked for a break after saying he's emotionally exhausted of feeling he's not enough for me... I get that I made him feel underappreciated at times. At the same time I think that this could be handled together, by stablishing more agreements and boundaries that are comfortable to him. Idk how much I'm willing to wait.
Any updates? I made my boyfriend feel the same and I regret it. He asked for space
@@asmrsleep3079 Girl, I'm still with him but considering breaking up often. Yes, they need space and we should support them, but we also deserve emotionally stable men who don't push away. That's not healthy for us, and we should take care of ourselves. Don't feel guilty for speaking up or expressing your needs, ever. If they can't communicate or handle feedback, that's on them. We're not their coaches, mothers nor therapists.
@@frida_m4426 true. Me and him are back he couldn't even go 2 days without texting me back
When I ask my guy "Why didn't you text me over the last few days?", he asks me back "Why didn't you text me either?" Wtf? 🙄
This is what is happening to me too
Samedt 🙄
Ya ur right my bf also told me that.
Guy having alot of ego problem, they want to be up everytime.
Why didn't you text him?