36:02 Father wanting a connection with his daughter. Concerned about drinking. 39:40 Role play - Marshall is the father, father is the daughter. 50:40 "What would it take for you to share with me what is bothering you in a way that you would feel safe to do it, so I can feel more connected to what is going on in you. What would you need from me to feel the safety to do that?" 55:45 "Take your time to come from the energy that you choose to come from rather than the one that you've been programmed to come from." 2:11:20 Be careful about the objective to stop doing something.
If you’re denying a little child their attachment needs they are certainly not going to be able to translate that into Giraffe. Maybe an outside trainer could teach them, but if all they have to go on is the Jackal messages from their family, that is all they will be able to hear. In the service of fairness, I’d like to see more understanding for the psychology of young children.
@lenavoyles526 it has taken decades to attune to Giraffe and as painful as the journey has been, the attuning is at a heart level, beyond the reach of psychology. As we heal our own unmet attachment needs - with self-awareness, honesty and empathy - we’re able to appreciate the attachment needs of other people, both young and old. Such unconditional acknowledgment is often the catalyst for healing.
I love Marshall Rosenberg but at around 1:35:00, when the woman came up to be practiced on, something went kind of strange. This phenomenon is something I have noticed in the communications between men and women. Notice the man who came up prior to the woman, Marshall gave much time to. He let him take his time in answering, he was given all the space to speak. On the other hand, notice when the woman spoke, he kept interrupting her. She couldn't finish one sentence. This is something men do when women speak and it's very common. Men don't even know they're doing it but it makes the woman feel lost and disregarded. Women don't notice it either, because it is so endemic in our society. It is a pattern that happens all the time and even from men who one would consider "advanced". I'm surprised Marshall exhibited this behavior. It comes from women being second-class citizens for all of history. We sexes still haven't addressed the consequences of that policy for all those centuries and what it has left us with, and we keep perpetuating this kind of awkwardness and dismissiveness. Men need to let a woman speak. It's programming that goes under the radar of our awareness. Notice it in future and let's try and heal it.
Dr Rosenberg provided both of them with a transformative once-in-a-lifetime experience. On the spot gestalt therapy. And I feel the woman got much more out of it than did the man.
@@sasha365i Well you give no reasons for basing your opinion on that. This phenomenon is rife in society. Yet men don't notice it and women don't speak about it. She was driven to tears. She got out of it what a lot of women get out of dialog - downgrading. Even Marshall has this habit.
@@sasha365i Well I'm not so sure about that. And why is he using puppets to talk to adults? Does he think we are children or cannot comprehend adult concepts?
Yeah, and his constant impersonations of crying women is nakedly sexist. I had to shut this video off and I won't be watching any more by him. It felt like an advanced calculus class to me. Marshall has this INCREDIBLY intricate code, which only he understands, as to how communication should take place. It's like a prank on the audience. You can't tell when he's joking or serious, there's only one way to express anything, the puppets, UGH! I understand that Marshall Rosenberg started NVC so he's up on a pedestal, but don't give up on NVC based on him. I did the free monthly NVC zoom intro, and the teacher, Rick was awesome. NVC really does have a lot to offer. It's a really valuable practice for our relations with others. It's just one of those cases where the originator of the ideas is not the best source to learn them from.
that should be on NETFLIX
This is gold!! Thank you so much from Natal, Brazil.
Thank you so much for this video!!! Helped me a lot to be clear❤
36:02 Father wanting a connection with his daughter. Concerned about drinking.
39:40 Role play - Marshall is the father, father is the daughter.
50:40 "What would it take for you to share with me what is bothering you in a way that you would feel safe to do it, so I can feel more connected to what is going on in you. What would you need from me to feel the safety to do that?"
55:45 "Take your time to come from the energy that you choose to come from rather than the one that you've been programmed to come from."
2:11:20 Be careful about the objective to stop doing something.
16:18 “Never connect yourself with the other person's pain”
“It must be painful for you to be around me” 19:30 poor poor baby giraffe
אלופים! מאוד מעניין
Google. Translate says that youre saying “Champions! Very intersting.” Is that correct?
What languange are you speaking by the Way?
@@ChristianDall-p2j That's correct, and this is Hebrew
1:46:13 private timestamp!
1:17:20
19:30
If you’re denying a little child their attachment needs they are certainly not going to be able to translate that into Giraffe. Maybe an outside trainer could teach them, but if all they have to go on is the Jackal messages from their family, that is all they will be able to hear. In the service of fairness, I’d like to see more understanding for the psychology of young children.
@lenavoyles526 it has taken decades to attune to Giraffe and as painful as the journey has been, the attuning is at a heart level, beyond the reach of psychology. As we heal our own unmet attachment needs - with self-awareness, honesty and empathy - we’re able to appreciate the attachment needs of other people, both young and old.
Such unconditional acknowledgment is often the catalyst for healing.
1:14 - Rejection Excercise
1:45 mean mood joke on immigrant
44:20 well, im glad to know that you aint, perfect, if you know what i mean.
That you Aintˋ perfect.
I love Marshall Rosenberg but at around 1:35:00, when the woman came up to be practiced on, something went kind of strange. This phenomenon is something I have noticed in the communications between men and women. Notice the man who came up prior to the woman, Marshall gave much time to. He let him take his time in answering, he was given all the space to speak. On the other hand, notice when the woman spoke, he kept interrupting her. She couldn't finish one sentence. This is something men do when women speak and it's very common. Men don't even know they're doing it but it makes the woman feel lost and disregarded. Women don't notice it either, because it is so endemic in our society. It is a pattern that happens all the time and even from men who one would consider "advanced". I'm surprised Marshall exhibited this behavior. It comes from women being second-class citizens for all of history. We sexes still haven't addressed the consequences of that policy for all those centuries and what it has left us with, and we keep perpetuating this kind of awkwardness and dismissiveness. Men need to let a woman speak. It's programming that goes under the radar of our awareness. Notice it in future and let's try and heal it.
Dr Rosenberg provided both of them with a transformative once-in-a-lifetime experience. On the spot gestalt therapy. And I feel the woman got much more out of it than did the man.
@@sasha365i Well you give no reasons for basing your opinion on that. This phenomenon is rife in society. Yet men don't notice it and women don't speak about it. She was driven to tears. She got out of it what a lot of women get out of dialog - downgrading. Even Marshall has this habit.
sharp and accurate observation
@@sasha365i Well I'm not so sure about that. And why is he using puppets to talk to adults? Does he think we are children or cannot comprehend adult concepts?
Yeah, and his constant impersonations of crying women is nakedly sexist. I had to shut this video off and I won't be watching any more by him. It felt like an advanced calculus class to me. Marshall has this INCREDIBLY intricate code, which only he understands, as to how communication should take place. It's like a prank on the audience. You can't tell when he's joking or serious, there's only one way to express anything, the puppets, UGH!
I understand that Marshall Rosenberg started NVC so he's up on a pedestal, but don't give up on NVC based on him.
I did the free monthly NVC zoom intro, and the teacher, Rick was awesome. NVC really does have a lot to offer. It's a really valuable practice for our relations with others. It's just one of those cases where the originator of the ideas is not the best source to learn them from.
1:19:40
52:00
“The biggest aha for me…”
“Was…”
54:00