Harry writes in his book how he would call out to his father when he was young and his father would come into his room and sit with Harry until he slept. Yeah, that’s a bad father😂
@Wendy Colautti Henry may be a Spencer through and through with his mental health issues, but he certainly hasn't inherited Diana's compassion for others and inner beauty.
@@wcolauttiNah, I'm with you. I don't see Diana in Harry either. That she can be seen in William is probably one of the reasons Harry is so jealous of him.
Shame on Harry for letting strangers insult his grandmother and her way of behaving in the public eye. Everyone knows she had to be stoic in front of the world and was affectionate at home with her kids. Also, she helped raise him when his mother died. I haven't been this disappointed and disgusted by a public figure in my life. Shame shame shame.
@@romo9802 He was not almost 40 years old when he wrote it nor did he additionally lambast and denigrate them in a continuous stream of monetized global media interviews.
I have heard other perspectives of the moment the Queen first saw her children after being away on tour. In front of the cameras she will be reserved. Once home, maybe the next day, she will be playing and laughing and hugging her children. No Netflix camera crews or iPhones to document however....
@@justanotherthought Exactly .. in private she was a mother .. a parent. She was not a wannabe celebrity launching PR campaigns to “merch her brand” to appear as one .. as some people feel the need to do.
@@romo9802 Again each person can reexamine how their parents parent. I did not ever seen Charles openly do what that despicable person has done with the help of his wife. What h is doing is spiteful and vile and ultimately he will be on the losing end as he has abused not only his elders but his closest alies in his brother and his sis in law.
Daaaang!!! Those closing words - "Hope your children are a lot more forgiving of your errors than you have been of your father's"... never truer words were said!
If his children love Harry more than Harry loves his father, it means Harry did a fabulous job raising his kids! But let's use the word "forgiving" instead. A great example of how anyone can berate anyone in any given scenario! Great monetization!
I shudder to imagine how Harry’s kids will judge him and their mother when they are grown and of the rebellious and questioning age. To deprive them of so many enriching (not to do with $$$) experiences with their cousins, all but one grandparent, and legacy that they’ve been born into is a tragedy indeed. Their parents will have a lot of explaining to do when that times does eventually come. Especially the hating, self-righteous statements and actions, and so public. As if ol’ Harry had been raised in the Manson family. On top of that, he recommends drug abuse. Oh my.
Well, I don't think we matter much at this point, they have already set sail. She got two awards in one week. The see I A has set her afloat. But I loved your comment!
Also, keep in mind GS is a spook, she wrote a book about it, good book to read to understand how the See-I-A works is Uri Gellars book,"The Secret Life of Uri Geller", a fabulous book written a few years ago. Hugh Heffner, several Follywood producers & at least one "journalist" from each network are employees too. This whole Hakles deal is one of their operations, why they want to negatively affect the Monarchy I don't know, but when Harkle ends up in jail for tax evasion etc, they are going to turn their back on their little pupper, just like they did JE's partner (both spooks). *The Secret Life of Uri Geller focuses on Geller's CIA, Mossad and possibly other government and military connections. Part of the book is based on declassified documents from the CIA and scientists who worked with Geller in the US.
My childhood at the hands of a cruel & abusive father is difficult to revisit. Yet, Harry revisits his ‘trauma’ like a grasshopper flitting from one family member to the next looking for someone to blame for his own failings. Devoid of any real self reflection & empathy, he’s the worst possible example of therapy.
IKR?!!! Astonishing! He wants his pound of flesh and this guy is never going to change. The drum is the same incessant “blame beat”. Its disgraceful how he exploits his suffering for monetary gain- UTTERLY DISGRACEFUL. My heart is out to you- i recognize that pain too❤
What I find really sad is that Harry is literally destroying his mother’s legacy, before she was at Saint level and would have been remembered as a prominent figure in British history but now her own son, in his efforts to monetise her death has effectively tarnished her legacy.
This is true. Enough time has passed that now people are able to see her flaws, mistakes, shortcomings, and even bad things she did. But the thing is, no one would be doing/seeing these things if HE wasn’t the one constantly bringing her back into the public eye. What’s he’s trying to do is backfiring.
@@notpurrfect6397I don’t believe that most of the focus was on William , who was introverted . Harry was obviously very envious of Diana’s love for William . He thought that he , Harry , should have been the only child . His vile envy part of his black soul .
Nobody wants their drug addict delusional brother to make sure their children “have fun”. I only started to really hate him when he dragged William’s kids into this. It’s disgusting disturbing. This man is dangerous.
I think Harry also needs to remember that a different parenting style doesn’t necessarily mean poor parenting. Okay, so Harry needed a more tactile father than he had, fine; that doesn’t mean the King didn’t show his love in other ways. Perhaps as a boy, Harry didn’t understand that, but surely now, as a grown man and father, he can begin to understand.
I think he has a very superficial view of love. He talks of making sure he displays his love for his children openly, via hugs and kisses, but that is performative love, not real love. He also seems not to see the damage he may be doing them via his own public behaviour. The lies, the smoke-and-mirror games they play, the fact that they've deprived their children of both sides of the wider family, and their growing notoriety, earned through their own spiteful vendettas, may well be burdens Archie and Lili have to carry through their own lives.
So true! My dad didnt show me love the way I wanted him to, but that did not mean he didn't love me! He did the best he could to show his love, even if it wasn't in the way I understood it. As an adult I can see that and give him credit as well as try to heal. I would never do what Harry is doing. My father is a great if imperfect man, and he deserves grace for doing the best he could. Just like Harry's family.
It’s easy to criticise. I wonder how good a parent he is. My bet is he’s quite a part time parent himself being away a lot and having nannies to do the daily grafting.
Wait till his kids grow up and start criticising their self obsessed narcissistic parents and the impact that their actions have had on them!!! What goes around comes around.
They’ll probably be divorced in another 5-6 years; but yes , me again has given birth to 2 children with royal blood, and claim to the throne. She will always have the last laugh in the end. But yes. They will get divorced, I don’t wish it on them but it will happen. That’s my prediction anyway 🤷♀️
@@Thepateisgreat You are less cynical than me. I feel their marriage is on shaky ground now, depending on the finances and new love interest for her. I’m afraid I don’t feel she was ever pregnant with the children we see in fleeting images, hardly the same child twice. We’ll see.
I was raised by my grandparents. They took me in when my mother abandoned me at their door as a baby. They rarely said that they loved me and they almost never hugged me. But they showed me the depths of their love every day by sacrificing their golden years and retirement dreams to care for me. I’ve had to work at being more affectionate with my own kids and was far from perfect. But I see my kids taking what little I could give them and multiplying it to give even more affection to their children. Lord willing, this pattern will continue and every person in this family, from now on, will know and feel loved and it will all be because of two selfless souls that refused to say no to a child in need and gave that child all the love they had, and more, at great cost to themselves.
I found you comment so inspirational. You look at your childhood through a lense of gratitude, and use any negativity to make your family feel loved. God Bless
Yes! Love and affection is not only about saying "i love you" or physical stuff. There are a lot of ways to show it. Maybe the problem is with the one who can't see it
Harry talks about being let down by his father. How hurt he is. Never once thinking about how hurt his father and stepmother feel after he's talked trash about their relationship and her for the past few years.
I don't like Camilla at all and until a few weeks ago I didn't really like Charles, but the way that Harry talks about Camilla is so disgusting. No matter how much I hate someone, I'd never call them a "villain" when all they did was fall in love. Camilla is far from perfect but she was *not* the villain.
@@yasminedjebbaili2553 There is no reason to dislike Camilla, so please explain why you feel the way you do. There have been so many accusations made against her that are blatantly untrue. She has been falsely cast as the "villain" for so long, & in so many ways that she simply doesn't deserve. I realise that this is an unpopular position to take, but Diana is guilty of far worse than Camilla ever was, so please can you tell me why you don't like Camilla? I'm genuinely interested in knowing why Yasmine.
@@jo.s7993 I may be wrong about this but I've seen several people claim that Camilla repeatedly refused Charles' proposals and it was only until he married Diana that Camilla finally realised that she loved him. That may be wrong so excuse me if it is. Another reason why I don't like her is because she willingly had an affair with Charles when he was married. I understand that they were both unhappy in their respective marriages, I get that, but the disrespect to both of their partners was just humiliating in my eyes
None of what you’ve read is true though. And I hope for the same reason you dislike Diana who has around 10 affairs that we know of, one happening before Charles went back to Camilla after he was humiliated by the outing of her affair with Barry Mannakee in front of his family.
@H vM I'm so confused by this comment. None of what I said has to do with Diana. Harry had no right to attempt to villainize his stepmother in the media or his memoir. She's his father's wife, and he should respect their marriage. Whatever happened between Charles, Camilla, and Diana is in the past. The fact that he's still opening old wounds when all his father wants is to be happy with the love of his life, which is sad and pathetic.
Prince Harry is sitting on Santa’s knee and asks “can I get a unicorn for Christmas?” Santa replies “C’mon son,be more realistic” Harry then asks “can I be a respected member of the royal family then?” Santa then asks “what colour of unicorn would you like?”
The more you see of him, the more dislikable he becomes. He didn’t know his mother as an adult. A child of 12 doesn’t know their parents as individuals. He is just monetising his mother’s legacy and dragging it into the gutter.
I feel like Harry and that therapist made a mockery of therapy. You can’t just diagnose someone in an hour with ADHD. There are people waiting to see someone to get an official diagnosis and that’s even if they can get their insurer to pay for it. This whole publicity stunt did a lot harm to people that struggle with mental illness. Harry has been mocked and there are people out there that might refrain from getting help because of this fiasco.
Dr Gabor Mate is well respected when it comes to his contributions to raising awareness about over medicating ADHD diagnosed children. To see him do this is very saddening, especially him being so casual about drug use.
Gabor Mate is not a trained therapist. He was family doctor who retired and became kind of a guru. He did work with addicts and people with mental issues.
That's Gabor Mate's shtick. He goes from one high profile interview to the other and literally has the same patter for all of his interviewees. They all have 'trauma' and they all get 'diagnosed' with ADHD. Pay no attention. He's developed a very clever persona over the years which feeds into a particular breed of egotistical man. Harry ticks all of the boxes and isn't bright enough to see he was being used by Mate as much as he was using him. It's all about money, status and power at the end of the day. Achieved through a bogus lens of 'self healing'.
It's weird - I thought Mate was of the opinion ADHD isn't a concrete condition but a reference to a mental state a person can be induced into and then helped back out of
A lot of people go through the same things that Prince Harry has during childhood; many have gone through far worse. A lot of people also didn't have the lifestyle and significant resources available to them.
My friend she die in fire with her mom and her two brothers only 2 month her baby and her father alive my baby only 2 month he neve have a chance to know his mom now he 19 year he turn out good man
I would say most and not many. I believe h is damaged as in an intellectual disability which among other disabilities like add adhd is shown by his grades and his behaviors. Left unchecked can be extremely damaging. The homeless mental illness on the streets today, most I truly believe are similar to h but without all the perks of a extremely massive lifestyle. h needs help but not from his wife. He needs cognitive brain therapy but all he gets is whakadoodle witchery using drugs and affirmations from yes men.
😂😂😂 do the space aliens know yet? How about the plankton before they get devoured by the baleen? NO REALLY FOR REAL LETS FIGURE OUT HOW TO INVOLVE THEM AS WELL THEY MAY FEEL LEFT OUT.
Wow, I’ve never heard a more accurate presentation of the distancing side effects of therapy. That was really well put. My sister went to therapy and her therapist pretty much told her to cut me out of her life, and then when I went to therapy and explained what my parents were like the therapist was telling me I needed to find temporary housing just to get away from them. I feel like there’s a fine line between a therapist listening and supporting your backstory and not-so-good therapists who pretty much instruct you to distance and leave relationships. That’s not always the right solution, and honestly I feel like all the attention Harry is getting is detrimental to the very human relationships with his brother and sister in law he could be salvaging
Some therapists are totally toxic, it's true. But some are truly marvelous. Be choosy about who you get advice from, and never let them replace your own judgement!
I had a psychologist who told me to spend as much time as I could outside of the house so that I wouldn't always be in the company of my mum and sister. I was completely baffled... how is that supposed to help a relationship?
@Elizabeth Bennett nah, you’re totally right and moving away from my parents was definitely a positive eventually but I also managed to salvage an incredibly close relationship with my mom. Not my dad, but at least one of my parents. all the therapist knew was my side and sometimes my side wasn’t the right one lol there’s sometimes a chance it’s your own side that’s toxic
I think people forget therapist are people too with their own ideas , perspective, mentality and personality. If u get a therapist who himself doesn't think he can do wrong he will project that on his patients too. Furthermore, patients themselves most of the time narrates story in such a way that they don't look wrong. So only listening to one side of the story. This combo can easily create some negative results. Out of all medical profession being a therapist is tricky bcs it's entirely dependent on people's own perspective.
Harry got played by that woman he married. His problems come from her cause she only thinks of herself and now he is like her . Look at me Look at me Look at me .
When Gabor Maté talks about trauma and parental failure, he always emphasizes that the right reaction is not to blame your parents. They had their own baggage and were trying their best given their knowledge and circumstances. Identifying trauma is not finding scapegoats, that prevents you from healing.
In anger management, you are REQUIRED to go around the room state your name & the reason why YOU ended up there at the start of every session. No mention of anyone else is allowed. It was fantastic to keep me from falling into that loop. He needs anger management classes.
Then I would assume/hope that he had a lot more in mind during the interview than what he said. I didn't watch it, but there are several layers of such encounters. A therapist can prompt exposition, lead the subject to stumble over themselves etc..
Thank you for making that point about the handshake situation, it was a different time with different norms in different social cues, and expectations. As history buff, I’ve always been annoyed when people look at and judge things in the past from the perspective of today instead of taking at the historical context, doesn’t mean it was the right thing or the most healthy but we always need to give the people of the past a certain level of Grace and have a idea of the social and political context and norms of the time. Love your videos. ❤
I would also question whether the modern ways of doing things is any better. Seems we are producing a lot of fragile people who have little resilience and loads of anxiety and who are incredibly self-absorbed.
The handshake was in front of the cameras, those were "more reserved times". Surely behind closed doors they acted differently. And his father did hug him, go on bike rides with him, played with him. He's just changed the narrative because it suits his me--eternal-victim story.
I’m so glad you talked about judging the past through the lens of today. In spite of some traumatic childhood experiences, I realize my parents were just people too and were the products of their childhood and experiences. I loved them and they loved me.
That is something I came to realize through therapy as well, that parents are people dealing with their own stuff at the time and this perspective can be helpful in the healing process, forgiving some things and moving forward in a more positive direction without that past weight.
Yes, this absolutely!!! Almost everyone I know has a story today about how their parents "failed them" and they cut them off forever, or how they are "better/more enlightened" than their parents. My parents made some huge mistakes with me, and as a young adult I went through a phase where I did distance myself to make sense of it, but then I went back to them, not to "teach them" or "punish them," but because I has better tools of how to cope with MY life and also see them as flawed individuals I loved and who loved me, like every other human interaction.
100%!! Harry has made me realize that I have the most amazing therapist. After 4 years of therapy, I no longer feel like I NEED therapy. My therapist also helped me to understand my family and be more patient with them. My relationship with them is much better now. His therapists just enables his self absorption. It’s ironic that he blames his father/family for everything but doesn’t even realize the future pain he may be causing his children. Growing up without a family. Countless tv interviews and a tell all book. Hug your kids Harry, but that’s not all they need…
You broke that down beautifully especially the circumstances of when it was a totally different era and mindset when our grandparents were busy parenting, this was excellently explained. Thank You for you level-headed and reality-based opinions on these subjects. If only all therapists had your sensible, pragmatic & truthful outlook, those that need help and guidance would have a far better chance of finding their place in today's society.
Well Stated ! And your Last Statement was Profound: “I hope your children , Harry, are as forgiving of your parenting skills as you are of your father’s!” Excellent point!
As a therapist for many years it is clear to me that absolutely no therapy works addressing issues of family without including the family in the therapy itself. Most therapists shy away from family and couples therapy as it is so complicated. Most patients lie in front of their family members. It is kind of a Bermuda Triangle. But my clients rarely achieved success without family therapy if family was their issue.
No therapy works if the individual is not willing to look at their own shortcomings and take responsibility for their future. you are not perfect and yet so many people expect that from others. We all need to be aware of our own weaknesses
My point being that the so called “trauma specialist” should have addressed that. My other point being mental health therapists are often as confused and incapable as their patients.
i agree with your assessment. ive seen these scenes too many times now. first time or two you're in such shock and anger. now hearing it makes me feel sick. Neither one of them ever convinces me to blame William, Catherine or KC & Camilla. I feel more sorry for them each time.
Oh, Harry's related to Diana? That's new information Harry!! END:Sarcasm Also, that list of diagnoses? The doctor didn't do that. The British press did. 🙄
I remember hearing Harry's claim that Dodi wasn't white. My husband and I looked at each other in bemused astonishment because he has pretty much the same heritage as Dodi. Dodi was half-Egyptian, half-Saudi, whereas my husband is half-Egyptian, half-Syrian. The only non-white feature about my husband is the tan he gets during a decent summer: you just can't pick him out of a crowd of white Brits. I think the thing that we chortled over the most, though, was that we had put three white, British kids to bed only to have them turn biracial overnight - at least, according to Harry!
@@mystique592 My husband is very much on planet Earth, thanks, Mystique, and I'm quite happy to take his word for how he views his own ethnicity. Incidentally, like Dodi, his heritage is MENA, not just middle eastern.
He isnt wrong though People from the Middle East arent white just becuase they can pass as white then again Megan herself could easily pass at white so this is clearly not about Race at all just about Victim Playing
Harry’s repeat of “breaking his silence” shows how stunted he actually is, I think it’s an inner out cry of not knowing how to accept what happened with his pain, to the point he becomes numb with just living yet he needs to feel extreme emotions to feel something. He is hooked on being in a depressed state, refuses to take the essential steps of properly grieving to learn how to conduct his own life. The repeat of Diana is him not accepting that she has passed, instead, has put himself in a situation where he tries to force himself to seeing her in every possible relatable thing he can think, especially as an excuse of his wife where she obviously uses this as a way to manipulate him. The internet was frustrating for the irresponsible drug promotions, however it highlighted the chances that Harry’s cognitive thinking is fried. It just revealed how much he is in a bad position, his brain is fried, hooked on certain drugs that enable his poor judgment, isolated from real friends and family that actually care about him, and stuck with someone who is making preparations to put him on a chopping block. The whole thing is not good, especially as this couple is actively in vain trying to get his wife into US politics as well as Harry trying to censor Americans over here.
I want to slap the smirk off of his face. Harry barely let Gabor Mate finish what he was saying before he jumped in and gleefully confirmed 'So I have all 6 of them?'. He's thrilled he has 'all 6' of the trauma points. And he thinks he's not going to pass on this genetic pain, that his kids will be perfect. Good luck with that Haz been.
He is a functioning addict. He will always deny that he has a real drug problem. He did a disservice to all families and friends that are dealing with a functioning addict. We wait for the doorbell or phone call to tell us that our loved one is no more.
I appreciate your realistic take on "context and times". H's self-preoccupation and exclusion of any others' life experience is mind-blowing. H doesn't have real life problems. He has entitlement problems and mental issues. He's a wealthy man living a wealthy life but he wants more. He makes a fortune pushing his "tale of woe". What is he a role model of? Mental health? NO. Taking responsibility for his own actions? NO. Appreciating what he has? NO. He's a negative force who's message is, Grab tight to every grievance. Others should give me what I want. My truth is THE truth even if not factual. Others should agree with me and behave and think how I want. If they don't, punish them. Accuse, lie, betray, backstab - it's their fault. 🤨 Demented poisonous man.
BC, you have hit the nail on the head, Harry's inability to consider context to be grateful for our ability nowadays to focus on self and not have to worrt about daily survival, war, famine etc... H hasnt left his golden cage, he's simply moved into another one... People with glass houses....
It’s important to note that its not a side effect of therapy, Its a side effect of a bad therapist. A good therapist will help you to understand how do you cope with what you already have around you and not just run away from it. Dont give up on therapy, Just be patient until you’ll find the right one. Just like any professionals- Some therapists are quite shitty.
Filial piety is an important virtue that was forgotten by the modern western world. And I'm also guilty of that. Now I have an elderly mother that I have to care for, and I'm having to learn this virtue as a grown man, which is hard but necessary.
Excellent commentary. I have been fortunate enough to have had wonderful therapy. No parent is perfect and never will be. We have the opportunity to have therapy and then as adults, forgive our parents for their mistakes, learn from them, and take responsibility for our actions…AS ADULTS.
I will disagree with the idea that therapists are blindly on your side and will encourage a type of selfishness. A good therapist does not do that. They will help to validate your feelings, yes, but they also encourage you to do so while also looking at reality, which includes that others have different perspectives and thoughts. The best therapist help you be compassionate but not at the expense of yourself.
Harry and his treatment of William really reminds of when in Avatar the Last Airbender Katara told Sokka that he didn’t love their mother the way she did because he told her to learn to forgive not hold on to her feelings of vengeance. I can totally imagine a scenario where William tells Harry he needs to move on and learn to heal better from their mother’s death and Harry tells William, “Then maybe you didn’t love her the way I did.”
I, honestly, love just about every one of your videos. Your voice and delivery are perfect for the kind of intelligent, engaging commentary you do. I'm so glad I subscribed :D
Excellent! Part of maturing is gaining the ability to see a situation outside of your own narrow experience. That is how wisdom is acquired and compassion develops. Harry repeatedly shows that he is no where close to achieving those points. Thank you for pointing out how the context of ones time has major effects on their parenting. Childhood mortality used to be quite high so parents knew they might loose their children. The world was harsh and uncertain politically, financially with few safety nets. Good parenting of the time meant feeding, housing and preparing the child for the realities of life. In many cases that meant teaching them to stand on their own two feet and toughen up. The pendulum swings and modern parenting styles has helped create extended adolescence, victim-hood and self entitlement. No parenting style is perfect, each child will respond to a style in their own way. Harry is blind to the fact that his parents loved him and did the best they could based on who they were in that time. That formed his foundation. He has free will to build on his foundation and move forward. Unfortunately he is happiest wallowing in self pity.
I've tried to avoid making the mistakes that my parents made, and in that process I made my own. The best relationship between me and my parents came when I stopped blaming them and started to accept that they were a product of their circumstance. I am a product of my circumstance, which my children will have to deal with in turn. But Harry better hurry up or his children will miss out the best time of their lives with their grandparents and extended family on both sides. Acceptance is the first and foremost step, setting a new default position. I wonder if he'll manage that.
he reminds me of a friend I had growing up. She lost her dad when she was very young and ended up obsessed with the image she built of him. She made him so ideal and perfect in her mind that she failed to notice how amazing her mum and step dad were to her. No one could ever even come close to being as wonderful as the dad she barely knew, and she saw everything through that lense.
Diana got into a car with a drunk driver who was driving far to fast and lost control. She wasn't wearing a seatbelt ! William lost his mother too and has turned out to be very rounded, a happy family life and looks happy. William has moved on where as Harry is clinging to the past to make lots of money out of it.
The arrogance this man displays is off the charts. I can’t help but feel that he is waving it in our faces at this point. People do that when they feel untouchable.
The Archie saying Grandma Diana thing drives me insane. Anyone who has been anywhere near a young child knows that children don't start speaking like that until they are much older than what Harry is claiming. Grandma is an extremely complex word my daughter is 2 and has only recently started calling her Grandma something that can be recognized as the word Grandma and she first started saying Dada at 10 months old so no she does not have a speech delay.
I wanted to just scream watching these clips. You nailed it when you said people are now using therapy as a tool to self-aggrandize. I see it all the time. It means the therapy didn't work. He just learned a new warped defense mechanism to justify behavior that seems to be rooted in "authority."
loved that you called out the luxury of our modern times to even be be able to navel-gaze this much, talk about experiences and and healing generational trauma, and look for optimal ways to raise your kids. Absolutely agree. Its ok to talk about them, and try to work on them, but for the love of all that is holy, people should stop pretending the world started revolving around the sun when they were born, and its so very beneficial to put things into context and remember that we are +in general+ living in the most prosperous and privileged age in ENTIRE HISTORY!
sometimes you have to separate from your family, not because you hate them or you don't forgive them, but because they aren't good for you. their way of interacting with each other (once everyone has become an adult) can be toxic and if so it's wise to distance yourself from them, to whatever degree works for you. i'm not talking about harry, but the underlying theme of this video.
Simply masterful, BC. Thank you! I am bowled over by the riveting content and summary as a first-time viewer. Both filmers and viewers in the M/H community should see this.
Thank you very much for this video for several reasons. 1a) Harry praising the use of illegal almost everywhere substances without acknowledging that using them can come with fatal danger. How specifically does each substance help him therapeutically? Is the effect calming, numbing, mind- expanding allowing access to distant memories? It would be very useful for him to explain it, as he is only sharing the information to help others. b)Also, how is he purchasing these? How did he purchase them when he lived in the UK? How did he purchase them when they fled to Canada? When he is under the influence, is he safe to be around his children? 2. Therapy can be helpful, but I would like to add that not every therapist (or psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor, etc.) is going to be the right therapist for every patient. The wrong therapist can cause damage to a patient by offering suggestions, hinting but not stating a diagnosis, inconsistent treatment, etc. When a patient senses a lack of empathy (eg. shared a personal detail, and the reaction made the patient uncomfortable) and does not want to trust the therapist with personal intimate thoughts, that is not the right therapist. This is not necessarily the fault of either the therapist, nor of the patient. Both may sincerely be trying their best. But it is not a guarantee that every therapist one tries is going to be equally effective. 3. I'm so glad you brought up historical context. This is endlessly valuable for therapeutic purposes. I have been using this comparison of the present to historical perspectives eg how my parents' and my grandparents' generation, not to mention the 19th century and all the way back to remind myself of all the gratitude I have to be born in the time and place that I was. At the most basic, foundational level: I'm a girl and my parents were happy to have me. In how many cultures today, and in how many generations of Europeans/western countries have been happy when a daughter is born (especially if they don't have a son). Our (western) guaranteed rights and our standard of living has never been higher since the invention of electricity, indoor plumbing, modern medicine and dentistry, the right to vote, free education from kindergarten through high school, and virtually unlimited choice of careers, regardless of gender. Victimhood has become so popular in our culture, especially in the past 15 years approximately. Of course, there is room for improvement but people who focus on positive goals and work towards them constructively tend to be more hopeful. I'm always impressed with your insights and common sense. Thank you very much for the video. ❤
Archie and Lily have been deprived from seeing all their UK family and their support network. Maybe this will cause them anguish when they are older. They can blame their parents. H&M
Será? Quando elis crescerem e ficarem sabendo que alguns dos da realeza FICARAM preocupados SE elis seriam brancos de olhos azuis ou esverdeadas, ou que elis seriam :.. Negros,pardos ou morenos e que á mãe sofreu
as a parent our society really lack understading that "we as a parents will do mistakes anyway" trying to be being perfect make us worse, that we actually can be
Prince William went through the same things, but with more pressure, yet he has managed to turn his traumas into productive charities and healthy relationships. No one will be Princess Diana; she was a unique and lovely woman who made human mistakes, but who tried to turn the negatives into positives. However, if we were to look for echoes of Diana in the wives, the truth is Catherine is more like her. Honestly, H's immature behavior and attitude is turning him into the opposite of his mother. Diana said Charles was a good father, and she was a monarchist. She would be so disappointed in the way he's treated his family. As H continues his fall, he will find the truth stings more and more. He is a weak man tilting at the windmills of strong men.
I think the loss of another woman in his life is not necessarily meant as them ending up dead, but more like them having been driven away by the mean press/paparazzi. What Harry forgets is that they may have found being with him more unpleasant than having to deal with the press. That´s my thoughts and Lady C alluded to something like that as well. It always has been Harry, not the press, driving his girls away.
I can tell you from experience that you reap as you sew when you denigrate your father. My dad always spoke harshly about his dad, I carried on the tradition being very critical of my father. Now my oldest sons have no time for me.
Weird therapist... In my experience, my therapist never made such suggestions like "You didn't have a great childhood, what are you talking about?" Even if she thought that I was in denial, she would always ask questions to help me understand if I was really being honest with myself, because people react uniquely to life experiences regardless of their circumstances. The therapist putting his own way of dealing with life as a rule to judge whether Harry had a good childhood or not is very weird.
I think he was pushing Harry to be more honest. Good therapists are supposed to challenge your way of thinking and your level of honesty. Dr. Gabor Mate is actually quite brilliant (highly recommend his book), he’s admired by a lot of people more authentic and stable than Harry. Unfortunately he got tainted by the Sussex brush.
@@deeshan9844 I think it is problematic to put ideas in an already distressed person's mind. A therapist can be in a way an authority figure to many patients and without noticing, can manipulate the patient's perception of things. It is crucial to defy denial, but the way he did it in this interview (in my opinion) doesnt look professional at all... Like, just looking for drama. But anyway, this is on tv, so probably he doesnt even act like that in real sessions
Wow!!! Wow wow wow wow wow- your insight for someone so young?!!! So impressed- thank your parents again!! Wisdom in one so young speaks to an awareness and a mode of free thinking seldom seen these days❤
Making personal family problems into a career and monetizing them is a undignified and classless way to behave. Even if the RF did what he claims they did it doesnt invalidate H and Ms poor behaviour.
A therapist telling someone they had a terrible childhood is a red flag. Telling that based on a book is an even bigger red flag! Not everyone need the exact same things. My childhood might sound a bit sad to someone but I wouldn’t change a a thing! I’m a finn so we don’t show emotions, let alone give kisses and hugs to each other or say “I love you” every other minute. It feels fake to us thus we don’t do it. Honestly, if I was greeting my mum surrounded by photographers I would be very pleased with a handshake, a minimum of emotions shown.
Harry’s brother William and Catherine have been working for years in the mental health field. They have invested time and money, not just talk and they don’t make it all about themselves. Diana went out with a Pakistani heart surgeon for some time. She said he was the love of her life and even went to Pakistan to meet his family. No problems when she was doing that. Harry as usual, spins it to suit himself.
My grandparents were from England and they both lived by the stuff upper lip . I have to say that they handled things very well through life. They never complained about their childhoods which were rough group in poverty . There is something to be said for not focusing too much on your shortcomings and troubles . Press on was their motto .
Truth!!!! I grew up in a third world country and people who grew up in USA and now in UK (I guess) are sooooo entitled! Disrespectful to parents! When they lived more comfortable than the rest of us!
When all you live an easy life, every challenge seems like an oppressive set back. The collective west has no idea what they’re doing with how easy they have things.
I too grew up in a third world country. Seeing people in US and in UK complaining all day about all kinds of politics especially the gender one, just grinds my gears. My country is so corrupt and poor that one unfortunate incident of a flood could destroy so many families lives and these people are talking about being oppressed just because someone refuses to call them by their designated "pronouns".
Also from a developing country here. Don't be so quick to judge. While there's certainly entitlement, there's also better recognition of toxicity within family in the West. The rest of the world doesn't even bother to consider sch toxicity, especially when ti comes from elders, but the impact it has on successive generations is immense. Heck, the third world countries parents don't know how to handle adult children.
Not all of us Americans are ungrateful. I’m eternally grateful for dental care, feminine hygiene products and grocery stores. I don’t know why I was born here in this time with my own grandfather lost his parents and had to eat out of garbage cans. And there is always a flip side. Our mental health, physical and spiritual health, families and communities are a wreck because with such prosperity over generations breeds very weak, entitled people unless held in check by strong spiritual principles. A lot of us think we can live without others and worship money. That’s the saddest part.
My Dad is totally messed up from his parents, but I can't really hold much of that against them because they honestly tried with ALL the had. My Grandpa had 2 alcoholic parents and an alcoholic grandmother that he lived with growing up so all he knew about parenting was to strive to be the opposite of them. My Grandmother grew up literally dirt poor, her father was her hero but he had bad PTSD and his job meant he was away for long lengths of time and her mother died when she was 13. She above all strived to make sure her sons had everything the needed and had sharp inquisitive minds, but she had severe mental health problems and was in and out of contact with reality. I am simultaneously surprised my father came out as well as he did and proud of both him and m grandparents for how fervently they were willing to sacrifice to give their children a better life than their own with such a shitty foundation. Harry doesn't come across as thinking of any of this other than how he was hard done by or wronged, except when he wants to dismiss the legacy of his family as a whole
I'll never believe neither of those kids are Meg's.If anyone was in the know before they had met,and married-she was admitted as being sterile.There's also the very very questionable "baby bumps" going from large,little,deflated,low,high etc;not to mention she was the first person that didn't allow the Royal family too be present during the birth using the Royal doctors.Instead,it was kept hush-hush for weeks to months.She also had mass amounts of plastic surgery,and those children look *NOTHING* like her when you see baby,and chidhood pics of her.
@@lukecona2749 Whatever damning info about her true self is most likely long gone from internet scrubbing.Look at the lengths she goes through to hide her own family to keep the truth about her from coming out.I do recall her being in her mid-40's some years back,though,and she lies about her age constantly.
I hate to seem callous but there are millions of unfortunate young people who lose a parent each year and don't use it as an excuse for their behavior the rest of their lives. I loved Diana but I detest her pathetic son.
Harry writes in his book how he would call out to his father when he was young and his father would come into his room and sit with Harry until he slept. Yeah, that’s a bad father😂
Diana told everybody that despite their marriage problem, she had to give Charles credit for being a good father to his boys.
@@alanaw27 I don’t see Diana in Harry but I see her in William.
Maybe I’m biased bc I don’t like H&M?
Deprivation!!!!
Spoiled, entitled brat! 😏
@Wendy Colautti Henry may be a Spencer through and through with his mental health issues, but he certainly hasn't inherited Diana's compassion for others and inner beauty.
@@wcolauttiNah, I'm with you. I don't see Diana in Harry either. That she can be seen in William is probably one of the reasons Harry is so jealous of him.
Shame on Harry for letting strangers insult his grandmother and her way of behaving in the public eye. Everyone knows she had to be stoic in front of the world and was affectionate at home with her kids. Also, she helped raise him when his mother died. I haven't been this disappointed and disgusted by a public figure in my life. Shame shame shame.
@@romo9802 He was not almost 40 years old when he wrote it nor did he additionally lambast and denigrate them in a continuous stream of monetized global media interviews.
I have heard other perspectives of the moment the Queen first saw her children after being away on tour. In front of the cameras she will be reserved. Once home, maybe the next day, she will be playing and laughing and hugging her children. No Netflix camera crews or iPhones to document however....
@@romo9802 well maybe to you but he's a spoilt little brat that doesn't get his own way so waaaaah mind you of something 😂😂
@@justanotherthought Exactly .. in private she was a mother .. a parent. She was not a wannabe celebrity launching PR campaigns to “merch her brand” to appear as one .. as some people feel the need to do.
@@romo9802 Again each person can reexamine how their parents parent. I did not ever seen Charles openly do what that despicable person has done with the help of his wife. What h is doing is spiteful and vile and ultimately he will be on the losing end as he has abused not only his elders but his closest alies in his brother and his sis in law.
Daaaang!!! Those closing words - "Hope your children are a lot more forgiving of your errors than you have been of your father's"... never truer words were said!
Wowww nailed it!!
If his children love Harry more than Harry loves his father, it means Harry did a fabulous job raising his kids! But let's use the word "forgiving" instead. A great example of how anyone can berate anyone in any given scenario! Great monetization!
I shudder to imagine how Harry’s kids will judge him and their mother when they are grown and of the rebellious and questioning age. To deprive them of so many enriching (not to do with $$$) experiences with their cousins, all but one grandparent, and legacy that they’ve been born into is a tragedy indeed. Their parents will have a lot of explaining to do when that times does eventually come. Especially the hating, self-righteous statements and actions, and so public. As if ol’ Harry had been raised in the Manson family. On top of that, he recommends drug abuse. Oh my.
I think he clearly has overestimated how much we care.
I only care to laugh at them. Hopefully the memes about them don’t stop and keep snowballing
WE ARE FED UP WITH HARRY. AND WITH MEGHAN. ENOOOOOOOUGH!!!!
Lol, that's so funny, he's got noemory of her projects
Well, I don't think we matter much at this point, they have already set sail. She got two awards in one week. The see I A has set her afloat. But I loved your comment!
Also, keep in mind GS is a spook, she wrote a book about it, good book to read to understand how the See-I-A works is Uri Gellars book,"The Secret Life of Uri Geller", a fabulous book written a few years ago. Hugh Heffner, several Follywood producers & at least one "journalist" from each network are employees too. This whole Hakles deal is one of their operations, why they want to negatively affect the Monarchy I don't know, but when Harkle ends up in jail for tax evasion etc, they are going to turn their back on their little pupper, just like they did JE's partner (both spooks).
*The Secret Life of Uri Geller focuses on Geller's CIA, Mossad and possibly other government and military connections. Part of the book is based on declassified documents from the CIA and scientists who worked with Geller in the US.
My childhood at the hands of a cruel & abusive father is difficult to revisit. Yet, Harry revisits his ‘trauma’ like a grasshopper flitting from one family member to the next looking for someone to blame for his own failings. Devoid of any real self reflection & empathy, he’s the worst possible example of therapy.
True.
Great point 💯
He keeps going back for money
IKR?!!! Astonishing! He wants his pound of flesh and this guy is never going to change. The drum is the same incessant “blame beat”.
Its disgraceful how he exploits his suffering for monetary gain- UTTERLY DISGRACEFUL.
My heart is out to you- i recognize that pain too❤
He says what megnut tells him to say…… not excusing him tho no way!
The substance Prince Harry is most addicted to is himself.
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There is none?
I would say his wife.
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He only does Meghan recreationally, on the occasional weekend.
He's soooo far up his own rear end! His Royal *HIGH*-ness!
What I find really sad is that Harry is literally destroying his mother’s legacy, before she was at Saint level and would have been remembered as a prominent figure in British history but now her own son, in his efforts to monetise her death has effectively tarnished her legacy.
I never thought he would be able to destroy his mother's legacy. For money!?? Terrible!
Hes dragging his mother through the mud
This is true. Enough time has passed that now people are able to see her flaws, mistakes, shortcomings, and even bad things she did. But the thing is, no one would be doing/seeing these things if HE wasn’t the one constantly bringing her back into the public eye.
What’s he’s trying to do is backfiring.
Diana coddled him because he was not very bright and because most focus was on William.
@@notpurrfect6397I don’t believe that most of the focus was on William , who was introverted . Harry was obviously very envious of Diana’s love for William . He thought that he , Harry , should have been the only child . His vile envy part of his black soul .
Nobody wants their drug addict delusional brother to make sure their children “have fun”. I only started to really hate him when he dragged William’s kids into this. It’s disgusting disturbing. This man is dangerous.
I want to live long enough to read Archie’s tell all
Schnarchie gibt's gar nicht!!!
The Duchess will write that when he’s twelve.
Great comments people 😂👍
In reality this would be too sad
Poor kid'll be on r/raisedbynarcissists before he's a old enough to drive :/
I think Harry also needs to remember that a different parenting style doesn’t necessarily mean poor parenting. Okay, so Harry needed a more tactile father than he had, fine; that doesn’t mean the King didn’t show his love in other ways. Perhaps as a boy, Harry didn’t understand that, but surely now, as a grown man and father, he can begin to understand.
I think he has a very superficial view of love. He talks of making sure he displays his love for his children openly, via hugs and kisses, but that is performative love, not real love. He also seems not to see the damage he may be doing them via his own public behaviour. The lies, the smoke-and-mirror games they play, the fact that they've deprived their children of both sides of the wider family, and their growing notoriety, earned through their own spiteful vendettas, may well be burdens Archie and Lili have to carry through their own lives.
So true! My dad didnt show me love the way I wanted him to, but that did not mean he didn't love me! He did the best he could to show his love, even if it wasn't in the way I understood it. As an adult I can see that and give him credit as well as try to heal. I would never do what Harry is doing. My father is a great if imperfect man, and he deserves grace for doing the best he could. Just like Harry's family.
It’s easy to criticise. I wonder how good a parent he is. My bet is he’s quite a part time parent himself being away a lot and having nannies to do the daily grafting.
@@somersetgirl125 Not to mention all the drug taking
Wait till his kids grow up and start criticising their self obsessed narcissistic parents and the impact that their actions have had on them!!! What goes around comes around.
He's too deep into Meghan's game to come out of it. We lost him
I think this is how he’s always been.
When you play the game of Markle, she wins, or you die to her.
They’ll probably be divorced in another 5-6 years; but yes , me again
has given birth to 2 children with royal blood, and claim to the throne. She will always have the last laugh in the end. But yes. They will get divorced, I don’t wish it on them but it will happen. That’s my prediction anyway 🤷♀️
@@Thepateisgreat You are less cynical than me. I feel their marriage is on shaky ground now, depending on the finances and new love interest for her.
I’m afraid I don’t feel she was ever pregnant with the children we see in fleeting images, hardly the same child twice.
We’ll see.
Never really had him I’m so sorry he fooled us you don’t wake up one day with so contempt RF covers fir him what a waste
I was raised by my grandparents. They took me in when my mother abandoned me at their door as a baby. They rarely said that they loved me and they almost never hugged me. But they showed me the depths of their love every day by sacrificing their golden years and retirement dreams to care for me. I’ve had to work at being more affectionate with my own kids and was far from perfect. But I see my kids taking what little I could give them and multiplying it to give even more affection to their children. Lord willing, this pattern will continue and every person in this family, from now on, will know and feel loved and it will all be because of two selfless souls that refused to say no to a child in need and gave that child all the love they had, and more, at great cost to themselves.
I found you comment so inspirational. You look at your childhood through a lense of gratitude, and use any negativity to make your family feel loved. God Bless
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What a beautiful statement ❤
Yes! Love and affection is not only about saying "i love you" or physical stuff. There are a lot of ways to show it. Maybe the problem is with the one who can't see it
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Harry is being more cruel to his father than his father has ever been to him.
You are very right. Harry is too selfish to ever see this though.
Cruel as well to his own children for depriving them of the love and attention of their extended family. Utterly disgraceful
I think H is hiding behind 'therapy' to avoid accountability and having to get a real job that doesn't include publicly whining about his family
Unadressable & unaccountable the basic trades of a narc.
Harry talks about being let down by his father. How hurt he is.
Never once thinking about how hurt his father and stepmother feel after he's talked trash about their relationship and her for the past few years.
I don't like Camilla at all and until a few weeks ago I didn't really like Charles, but the way that Harry talks about Camilla is so disgusting. No matter how much I hate someone, I'd never call them a "villain" when all they did was fall in love. Camilla is far from perfect but she was *not* the villain.
@@yasminedjebbaili2553 There is no reason to dislike Camilla, so please explain why you feel the way you do. There have been so many accusations made against her that are blatantly untrue. She has been falsely cast as the "villain" for so long, & in so many ways that she simply doesn't deserve. I realise that this is an unpopular position to take, but Diana is guilty of far worse than Camilla ever was, so please can you tell me why you don't like Camilla? I'm genuinely interested in knowing why Yasmine.
@@jo.s7993 I may be wrong about this but I've seen several people claim that Camilla repeatedly refused Charles' proposals and it was only until he married Diana that Camilla finally realised that she loved him. That may be wrong so excuse me if it is. Another reason why I don't like her is because she willingly had an affair with Charles when he was married. I understand that they were both unhappy in their respective marriages, I get that, but the disrespect to both of their partners was just humiliating in my eyes
None of what you’ve read is true though. And I hope for the same reason you dislike Diana who has around 10 affairs that we know of, one happening before Charles went back to Camilla after he was humiliated by the outing of her affair with Barry Mannakee in front of his family.
@H vM I'm so confused by this comment. None of what I said has to do with Diana.
Harry had no right to attempt to villainize his stepmother in the media or his memoir.
She's his father's wife, and he should respect their marriage.
Whatever happened between Charles, Camilla, and Diana is in the past. The fact that he's still opening old wounds when all his father wants is to be happy with the love of his life, which is sad and pathetic.
Prince Harry is sitting on Santa’s knee and asks “can I get a unicorn for Christmas?” Santa replies “C’mon son,be more realistic” Harry then asks “can I be a respected member of the royal family then?” Santa then asks “what colour of unicorn would you like?”
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Spot on.😂
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The more you see of him, the more dislikable he becomes. He didn’t know his mother as an adult. A child of 12 doesn’t know their parents as individuals. He is just monetising his mother’s legacy and dragging it into the gutter.
I agree.
I feel like Harry and that therapist made a mockery of therapy. You can’t just diagnose someone in an hour with ADHD. There are people waiting to see someone to get an official diagnosis and that’s even if they can get their insurer to pay for it. This whole publicity stunt did a lot harm to people that struggle with mental illness. Harry has been mocked and there are people out there that might refrain from getting help because of this fiasco.
Dr Gabor Mate is well respected when it comes to his contributions to raising awareness about over medicating ADHD diagnosed children. To see him do this is very saddening, especially him being so casual about drug use.
Gabor Mate is not a trained therapist. He was family doctor who retired and became kind of a guru. He did work with addicts and people with mental issues.
I think he even claimed to have diagnosed him after reading his book!!
That's Gabor Mate's shtick. He goes from one high profile interview to the other and literally has the same patter for all of his interviewees. They all have 'trauma' and they all get 'diagnosed' with ADHD. Pay no attention. He's developed a very clever persona over the years which feeds into a particular breed of egotistical man. Harry ticks all of the boxes and isn't bright enough to see he was being used by Mate as much as he was using him. It's all about money, status and power at the end of the day. Achieved through a bogus lens of 'self healing'.
It's weird - I thought Mate was of the opinion ADHD isn't a concrete condition but a reference to a mental state a person can be induced into and then helped back out of
A lot of people go through the same things that Prince Harry has during childhood; many have gone through far worse.
A lot of people also didn't have the lifestyle and significant resources available to them.
Indeed. He's doing nothing to help those people.
My friend she die in fire with her mom and her two brothers only 2 month her baby and her father alive my baby only 2 month he neve have a chance to know his mom now he 19 year he turn out good man
This is what drives me crazy about his interview. Many others did not have the resources, he did, and this is how he chooses to use them.
I would say most and not many. I believe h is damaged as in an intellectual disability which among other disabilities like add adhd is shown by his grades and his behaviors. Left unchecked can be extremely damaging. The homeless mental illness on the streets today, most I truly believe are similar to h but without all the perks of a extremely massive lifestyle. h needs help but not from his wife. He needs cognitive brain therapy but all he gets is whakadoodle witchery using drugs and affirmations from yes men.
South Park need to make another episode breaking Harry's silence
The Galaxy Privacehhhh Tour
😂😂😂 do the space aliens know yet? How about the plankton before they get devoured by the baleen? NO REALLY FOR REAL LETS FIGURE OUT HOW TO INVOLVE THEM AS WELL THEY MAY FEEL LEFT OUT.
Wow, I’ve never heard a more accurate presentation of the distancing side effects of therapy. That was really well put. My sister went to therapy and her therapist pretty much told her to cut me out of her life, and then when I went to therapy and explained what my parents were like the therapist was telling me I needed to find temporary housing just to get away from them. I feel like there’s a fine line between a therapist listening and supporting your backstory and not-so-good therapists who pretty much instruct you to distance and leave relationships. That’s not always the right solution, and honestly I feel like all the attention Harry is getting is detrimental to the very human relationships with his brother and sister in law he could be salvaging
Some therapists are totally toxic, it's true. But some are truly marvelous. Be choosy about who you get advice from, and never let them replace your own judgement!
I had a psychologist who told me to spend as much time as I could outside of the house so that I wouldn't always be in the company of my mum and sister. I was completely baffled... how is that supposed to help a relationship?
@Elizabeth Bennett nah, you’re totally right and moving away from my parents was definitely a positive eventually but I also managed to salvage an incredibly close relationship with my mom. Not my dad, but at least one of my parents. all the therapist knew was my side and sometimes my side wasn’t the right one lol there’s sometimes a chance it’s your own side that’s toxic
I think people forget therapist are people too with their own ideas , perspective, mentality and personality.
If u get a therapist who himself doesn't think he can do wrong he will project that on his patients too.
Furthermore, patients themselves most of the time narrates story in such a way that they don't look wrong. So only listening to one side of the story.
This combo can easily create some negative results.
Out of all medical profession being a therapist is tricky bcs it's entirely dependent on people's own perspective.
Harry got played by that woman he married. His problems come from her cause she only thinks of herself and now he is like her . Look at me Look at me Look at me .
When Gabor Maté talks about trauma and parental failure, he always emphasizes that the right reaction is not to blame your parents. They had their own baggage and were trying their best given their knowledge and circumstances. Identifying trauma is not finding scapegoats, that prevents you from healing.
In anger management, you are REQUIRED to go around the room state your name & the reason why YOU ended up there at the start of every session. No mention of anyone else is allowed. It was fantastic to keep me from falling into that loop. He needs anger management classes.
Then I would assume/hope that he had a lot more in mind during the interview than what he said. I didn't watch it, but there are several layers of such encounters. A therapist can prompt exposition, lead the subject to stumble over themselves etc..
At this point everything that comes out of his mouth as hot dog water. Nasty raunchy and disgusting hot dog water that has been sit out for weeks.
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Maybe they didnt love each other, but both charles and diana did seem to deeply love their sons. Charles looked them like a proud dad, always.
Thank you for making that point about the handshake situation, it was a different time with different norms in different social cues, and expectations. As history buff, I’ve always been annoyed when people look at and judge things in the past from the perspective of today instead of taking at the historical context, doesn’t mean it was the right thing or the most healthy but we always need to give the people of the past a certain level of Grace and have a idea of the social and political context and norms of the time. Love your videos. ❤
I would also question whether the modern ways of doing things is any better. Seems we are producing a lot of fragile people who have little resilience and loads of anxiety and who are incredibly self-absorbed.
The handshake was in front of the cameras, those were "more reserved times". Surely behind closed doors they acted differently.
And his father did hug him, go on bike rides with him, played with him. He's just changed the narrative because it suits his me--eternal-victim story.
@@cestmoi5687 Exactly very well said...
Kudos! You are so right.
Exactly!!
I’m so glad you talked about judging the past through the lens of today. In spite of some traumatic childhood experiences, I realize my parents were just people too and were the products of their childhood and experiences. I loved them and they loved me.
Yes exactly. That’s what I think about too.
That is something I came to realize through therapy as well, that parents are people dealing with their own stuff at the time and this perspective can be helpful in the healing process, forgiving some things and moving forward in a more positive direction without that past weight.
Next generation adults to their therapists: "My parents always just hugged me when I needed to have a meaningful conversation with them."
Well said!
And also how many of those hugs are genuine, or just like the "air kisses" people give these days?
Had a girlfriend with this problem. She was going to therapy and since she was being reaffirmed by her therapist any issues I brought up weren't valid
Really liked how you explain how therapy can come between yourself and family in such a measured balance way 👏
Yes, this absolutely!!! Almost everyone I know has a story today about how their parents "failed them" and they cut them off forever, or how they are "better/more enlightened" than their parents. My parents made some huge mistakes with me, and as a young adult I went through a phase where I did distance myself to make sense of it, but then I went back to them, not to "teach them" or "punish them," but because I has better tools of how to cope with MY life and also see them as flawed individuals I loved and who loved me, like every other human interaction.
yep, she's a smart one, Baggage Claim lady!
100%!! Harry has made me realize that I have the most amazing therapist. After 4 years of therapy, I no longer feel like I NEED therapy. My therapist also helped me to understand my family and be more patient with them. My relationship with them is much better now. His therapists just enables his self absorption.
It’s ironic that he blames his father/family for everything but doesn’t even realize the future pain he may be causing his children. Growing up without a family. Countless tv interviews and a tell all book. Hug your kids Harry, but that’s not all they need…
You broke that down beautifully especially the circumstances of when it was a totally different era and mindset when our grandparents were busy parenting, this was excellently explained.
Thank You for you level-headed and reality-based opinions on these subjects.
If only all therapists had your sensible, pragmatic & truthful outlook, those that need help and guidance would have a far better chance of finding their place in today's society.
Well Stated ! And your Last Statement was Profound:
“I hope your children , Harry, are as forgiving of your parenting skills as you are of your father’s!”
Excellent point!
As a therapist for many years it is clear to me that absolutely no therapy works addressing issues of family without including the family in the therapy itself. Most therapists shy away from family and couples therapy as it is so complicated. Most patients lie in front of their family members. It is kind of a Bermuda Triangle.
But my clients rarely achieved success without family therapy if family was their issue.
SO TRUE.
No therapy works if the individual is not willing to look at their own shortcomings and take responsibility for their future. you are not perfect and yet so many people expect that from others. We all need to be aware of our own weaknesses
My point being that the so called “trauma specialist” should have addressed that. My other point being mental health therapists are often as confused and incapable as their patients.
@@romo9802 not anymore after that very unprofessional interview
Therapist relayed on Gingernuts book rather than listening to Gingernut. The book was written by Gingernuts wife so Not a good level to start on.
i agree with your assessment. ive seen these scenes too many times now. first time or two you're in such shock and anger. now hearing it makes me feel sick. Neither one of them ever convinces me to blame William, Catherine or KC & Camilla. I feel more sorry for them each time.
His therapists has turned him to be a despicable person! Is this supposed to happen 😰😰😳😳
Oh, Harry's related to Diana? That's new information Harry!!
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Also, that list of diagnoses? The doctor didn't do that. The British press did. 🙄
I remember hearing Harry's claim that Dodi wasn't white. My husband and I looked at each other in bemused astonishment because he has pretty much the same heritage as Dodi. Dodi was half-Egyptian, half-Saudi, whereas my husband is half-Egyptian, half-Syrian. The only non-white feature about my husband is the tan he gets during a decent summer: you just can't pick him out of a crowd of white Brits. I think the thing that we chortled over the most, though, was that we had put three white, British kids to bed only to have them turn biracial overnight - at least, according to Harry!
I don't know about the U.K., but the U.S. Census counts peoples from the Middle East as "white".
@@mystique592 My husband is very much on planet Earth, thanks, Mystique, and I'm quite happy to take his word for how he views his own ethnicity. Incidentally, like Dodi, his heritage is MENA, not just middle eastern.
He isnt wrong though People from the Middle East arent white just becuase they can pass as white then again Megan herself could easily pass at white so this is clearly not about Race at all just about Victim Playing
Harry’s repeat of “breaking his silence” shows how stunted he actually is, I think it’s an inner out cry of not knowing how to accept what happened with his pain, to the point he becomes numb with just living yet he needs to feel extreme emotions to feel something. He is hooked on being in a depressed state, refuses to take the essential steps of properly grieving to learn how to conduct his own life. The repeat of Diana is him not accepting that she has passed, instead, has put himself in a situation where he tries to force himself to seeing her in every possible relatable thing he can think, especially as an excuse of his wife where she obviously uses this as a way to manipulate him.
The internet was frustrating for the irresponsible drug promotions, however it highlighted the chances that Harry’s cognitive thinking is fried. It just revealed how much he is in a bad position, his brain is fried, hooked on certain drugs that enable his poor judgment, isolated from real friends and family that actually care about him, and stuck with someone who is making preparations to put him on a chopping block. The whole thing is not good, especially as this couple is actively in vain trying to get his wife into US politics as well as Harry trying to censor Americans over here.
Respect their privasay! 🙃
Don’t look at him!!!
Don’t look at his blue penis!
We want privacy 😂😂😂
He says while invading your personal space
I want to slap the smirk off of his face. Harry barely let Gabor Mate finish what he was saying before he jumped in and gleefully confirmed 'So I have all 6 of them?'. He's thrilled he has 'all 6' of the trauma points. And he thinks he's not going to pass on this genetic pain, that his kids will be perfect. Good luck with that Haz been.
He is a functioning addict. He will always deny that he has a real drug problem. He did a disservice to all families and friends that are dealing with a functioning addict. We wait for the doorbell or phone call to tell us that our loved one is no more.
I appreciate your realistic take on "context and times". H's self-preoccupation and exclusion of any others' life experience is mind-blowing. H doesn't have real life problems. He has entitlement problems and mental issues. He's a wealthy man living a wealthy life but he wants more. He makes a fortune pushing his "tale of woe". What is he a role model of? Mental health? NO. Taking responsibility for his own actions? NO. Appreciating what he has? NO. He's a negative force who's message is, Grab tight to every grievance. Others should give me what I want. My truth is THE truth even if not factual. Others should agree with me and behave and think how I want. If they don't, punish them. Accuse, lie, betray, backstab - it's their fault. 🤨 Demented poisonous man.
👏 Well done. You put a lot into context and perspective. Two things they don’t have as they are too self serving.
BC, you have hit the nail on the head, Harry's inability to consider context to be grateful for our ability nowadays to focus on self and not have to worrt about daily survival, war, famine etc... H hasnt left his golden cage, he's simply moved into another one... People with glass houses....
It’s important to note that its not a side effect of therapy,
Its a side effect of a bad therapist.
A good therapist will help you to understand how do you cope with what you already have around you and not just run away from it.
Dont give up on therapy,
Just be patient until you’ll find the right one.
Just like any professionals-
Some therapists are quite shitty.
Just finished your series and it made me thinking, especially the part "there is some narcicism in all of us". thank you for all the good work
Thank you so much!
Filial piety is an important virtue that was forgotten by the modern western world. And I'm also guilty of that. Now I have an elderly mother that I have to care for, and I'm having to learn this virtue as a grown man, which is hard but necessary.
Excellent commentary. I have been fortunate enough to have had wonderful therapy. No parent is perfect and never will be. We have the opportunity to have therapy and then as adults, forgive our parents for their mistakes, learn from them, and take responsibility for our actions…AS ADULTS.
It’s the World Wide Privacy Tour!
Ah so glad Harry is building his new legacy in holyweird the right way through cocaine, LSD and weed. Very Traditional in his area.
Yet there’s still no consequences! Why?? Bad example what if the public acted the same way & referred to Horrid as precedent!?
I will disagree with the idea that therapists are blindly on your side and will encourage a type of selfishness. A good therapist does not do that. They will help to validate your feelings, yes, but they also encourage you to do so while also looking at reality, which includes that others have different perspectives and thoughts. The best therapist help you be compassionate but not at the expense of yourself.
Well clearly Harry is not looking at reality. He is drowing himself in victimhood. Needs new therapist
Harry and his treatment of William really reminds of when in Avatar the Last Airbender Katara told Sokka that he didn’t love their mother the way she did because he told her to learn to forgive not hold on to her feelings of vengeance. I can totally imagine a scenario where William tells Harry he needs to move on and learn to heal better from their mother’s death and Harry tells William, “Then maybe you didn’t love her the way I did.”
Oh Thank you!!! Guess I’m not the only Avatar fan that picked up on that one, lol!!!
I, honestly, love just about every one of your videos. Your voice and delivery are perfect for the kind of intelligent, engaging commentary you do. I'm so glad I subscribed :D
Excellent! Part of maturing is gaining the ability to see a situation outside of your own narrow experience. That is how wisdom is acquired and compassion develops. Harry repeatedly shows that he is no where close to achieving those points.
Thank you for pointing out how the context of ones time has major effects on their parenting. Childhood mortality used to be quite high so parents knew they might loose their children. The world was harsh and uncertain politically, financially with few safety nets. Good parenting of the time meant feeding, housing and preparing the child for the realities of life. In many cases that meant teaching them to stand on their own two feet and toughen up. The pendulum swings and modern parenting styles has helped create extended adolescence, victim-hood and self entitlement. No parenting style is perfect, each child will respond to a style in their own way. Harry is blind to the fact that his parents loved him and did the best they could based on who they were in that time. That formed his foundation. He has free will to build on his foundation and move forward. Unfortunately he is happiest wallowing in self pity.
Thank you so much; you always explain things with such intelligence and grace. 👏👏👏👏👏
I've tried to avoid making the mistakes that my parents made, and in that process I made my own. The best relationship between me and my parents came when I stopped blaming them and started to accept that they were a product of their circumstance. I am a product of my circumstance, which my children will have to deal with in turn.
But Harry better hurry up or his children will miss out the best time of their lives with their grandparents and extended family on both sides. Acceptance is the first and foremost step, setting a new default position. I wonder if he'll manage that.
Well said! Great Journalism, which is lost in the media!
That was just an excellent video, thank you.
he reminds me of a friend I had growing up. She lost her dad when she was very young and ended up obsessed with the image she built of him. She made him so ideal and perfect in her mind that she failed to notice how amazing her mum and step dad were to her. No one could ever even come close to being as wonderful as the dad she barely knew, and she saw everything through that lense.
Diana got into a car with a drunk driver who was driving far to fast and lost control. She wasn't wearing a seatbelt ! William lost his mother too and has turned out to be very rounded, a happy family life and looks happy. William has moved on where as Harry is clinging to the past to make lots of money out of it.
People just don't know how hard Prince Harry has it. He has to work 1 hour a week for charity. Grueling, yet so giving.
The arrogance this man displays is off the charts. I can’t help but feel that he is waving it in our faces at this point. People do that when they feel untouchable.
The Archie saying Grandma Diana thing drives me insane. Anyone who has been anywhere near a young child knows that children don't start speaking like that until they are much older than what Harry is claiming. Grandma is an extremely complex word my daughter is 2 and has only recently started calling her Grandma something that can be recognized as the word Grandma and she first started saying Dada at 10 months old so no she does not have a speech delay.
I could believe "Gan Gan" (what George called Elizabeth II), but Grandma Diana, definitely not.
I wanted to just scream watching these clips. You nailed it when you said people are now using therapy as a tool to self-aggrandize. I see it all the time. It means the therapy didn't work. He just learned a new warped defense mechanism to justify behavior that seems to be rooted in "authority."
loved that you called out the luxury of our modern times to even be be able to navel-gaze this much, talk about experiences and and healing generational trauma, and look for optimal ways to raise your kids. Absolutely agree.
Its ok to talk about them, and try to work on them, but for the love of all that is holy, people should stop pretending the world started revolving around the sun when they were born, and its so very beneficial to put things into context and remember that we are +in general+ living in the most prosperous and privileged age in ENTIRE HISTORY!
sometimes you have to separate from your family, not because you hate them or you don't forgive them, but because they aren't good for you. their way of interacting with each other (once everyone has become an adult) can be toxic and if so it's wise to distance yourself from them, to whatever degree works for you. i'm not talking about harry, but the underlying theme of this video.
But in harry's case, distancing himself, somehow in his own twisted mind, gave him an excuse to publicly shit on his entire family.
I’ve lived long enough to understand that what goes around comes around. I suppose Harry has yet to learn that little nugget!
Truly enjoy your videos. Thank you
Simply masterful, BC. Thank you! I am bowled over by the riveting content and summary as a first-time viewer. Both filmers and viewers in the M/H community should see this.
Thank you very much for this video for several reasons.
1a) Harry praising the use of illegal almost everywhere substances without acknowledging that using them can come with fatal danger. How specifically does each substance help him therapeutically? Is the effect calming, numbing, mind- expanding allowing access to distant memories? It would be very useful for him to explain it, as he is only sharing the information to help others.
b)Also, how is he purchasing these? How did he purchase them when he lived in the UK? How did he purchase them when they fled to Canada? When he is under the influence, is he safe to be around his children?
2. Therapy can be helpful, but I would like to add that not every therapist (or psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor, etc.) is going to be the right therapist for every patient. The wrong therapist can cause damage to a patient by offering suggestions, hinting but not stating a diagnosis, inconsistent treatment, etc. When a patient senses a lack of empathy (eg. shared a personal detail, and the reaction made the patient uncomfortable) and does not want to trust the therapist with personal intimate thoughts, that is not the right therapist. This is not necessarily the fault of either the therapist, nor of the patient. Both may sincerely be trying their best. But it is not a guarantee that every therapist one tries is going to be equally effective.
3. I'm so glad you brought up historical context. This is endlessly valuable for therapeutic purposes. I have been using this comparison of the present to historical perspectives eg how my parents' and my grandparents' generation, not to mention the 19th century and all the way back to remind myself of all the gratitude I have to be born in the time and place that I was. At the most basic, foundational level:
I'm a girl and my parents were happy to have me. In how many cultures today, and in how many generations of Europeans/western countries have been happy when a daughter is born (especially if they don't have a son).
Our (western) guaranteed rights and our standard of living has never been higher since the invention of electricity, indoor plumbing, modern medicine and dentistry, the right to vote, free education from kindergarten through high school, and virtually unlimited choice of careers, regardless of gender.
Victimhood has become so popular in our culture, especially in the past 15 years approximately. Of course, there is room for improvement but people who focus on positive goals and work towards them constructively tend to be more hopeful.
I'm always impressed with your insights and common sense. Thank you very much for the video. ❤
Yes I completely agree with you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
@@BaggageClaim thank you very much for taking the time to read my comment! I really appreciate your videos. 🙏💐
Your analyses is always amazing
Thank you for this profound review. It is clear that their intentions on airing Harry’s family flaws was malicious. What a sad couple.
"I always felt slightly different" probably because James Hewitt wasn't skulking around.
Archie and Lily have been deprived from seeing all their UK family and their support network. Maybe this will cause them anguish when they are older. They can blame their parents. H&M
It's OK. They don't EXIST except as photo ops with little child actors.
Será? Quando elis crescerem e ficarem sabendo que alguns dos da realeza FICARAM preocupados SE elis seriam brancos de olhos azuis ou esverdeadas, ou que elis seriam :.. Negros,pardos ou morenos e que á mãe sofreu
as a parent
our society really lack understading that "we as a parents will do mistakes anyway"
trying to be being perfect make us worse, that we actually can be
Prince William went through the same things, but with more pressure, yet he has managed to turn his traumas into productive charities and healthy relationships. No one will be Princess Diana; she was a unique and lovely woman who made human mistakes, but who tried to turn the negatives into positives. However, if we were to look for echoes of Diana in the wives, the truth is Catherine is more like her. Honestly, H's immature behavior and attitude is turning him into the opposite of his mother. Diana said Charles was a good father, and she was a monarchist. She would be so disappointed in the way he's treated his family. As H continues his fall, he will find the truth stings more and more. He is a weak man tilting at the windmills of strong men.
I think the loss of another woman in his life is not necessarily meant as them ending up dead, but more like them having been driven away by the mean press/paparazzi. What Harry forgets is that they may have found being with him more unpleasant than having to deal with the press. That´s my thoughts and Lady C alluded to something like that as well. It always has been Harry, not the press, driving his girls away.
I can tell you from experience that you reap as you sew when you denigrate your father. My dad always spoke harshly about his dad, I carried on the tradition being very critical of my father. Now my oldest sons have no time for me.
“You know who else was hunted by paparazzi? MY MOM!!” - Harry
Thank Goodness he wasn't born first 😮
Weird therapist... In my experience, my therapist never made such suggestions like "You didn't have a great childhood, what are you talking about?" Even if she thought that I was in denial, she would always ask questions to help me understand if I was really being honest with myself, because people react uniquely to life experiences regardless of their circumstances. The therapist putting his own way of dealing with life as a rule to judge whether Harry had a good childhood or not is very weird.
Yes exactly!
I think he was pushing Harry to be more honest. Good therapists are supposed to challenge your way of thinking and your level of honesty. Dr. Gabor Mate is actually quite brilliant (highly recommend his book), he’s admired by a lot of people more authentic and stable than Harry. Unfortunately he got tainted by the Sussex brush.
@@deeshan9844 I think it is problematic to put ideas in an already distressed person's mind. A therapist can be in a way an authority figure to many patients and without noticing, can manipulate the patient's perception of things. It is crucial to defy denial, but the way he did it in this interview (in my opinion) doesnt look professional at all... Like, just looking for drama. But anyway, this is on tv, so probably he doesnt even act like that in real sessions
Be careful who you marry. They can ruin you.
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Wow!!!
Wow wow wow wow wow- your insight for someone so young?!!! So impressed- thank your parents again!! Wisdom in one so young speaks to an awareness and a mode of free thinking seldom seen these days❤
Making personal family problems into a career and monetizing them is a undignified and classless way to behave. Even if the RF did what he claims they did it doesnt invalidate H and Ms poor behaviour.
You are so wise. I’m glad I found your channel today!
A therapist telling someone they had a terrible childhood is a red flag. Telling that based on a book is an even bigger red flag! Not everyone need the exact same things. My childhood might sound a bit sad to someone but I wouldn’t change a a thing! I’m a finn so we don’t show emotions, let alone give kisses and hugs to each other or say “I love you” every other minute. It feels fake to us thus we don’t do it. Honestly, if I was greeting my mum surrounded by photographers I would be very pleased with a handshake, a minimum of emotions shown.
Wow. 100% nailed it Baggage Claim!! Especially about historical context, which is so crucial, yet so rarely acknowledged. Great video 🥇
Harry’s brother William and Catherine have been working for years in the mental health field. They have invested time and money, not just talk and they don’t make it all about themselves.
Diana went out with a Pakistani heart surgeon for some time. She said he was the love of her life and even went to Pakistan to meet his family. No problems when she was doing that. Harry as usual, spins it to suit himself.
My grandparents were from England and they both lived by the stuff upper lip . I have to say that they handled things very well through life. They never complained about their childhoods which were rough group in poverty . There is something to be said for not focusing too much on your shortcomings and troubles . Press on was their motto .
Truth!!!! I grew up in a third world country and people who grew up in USA and now in UK (I guess) are sooooo entitled! Disrespectful to parents! When they lived more comfortable than the rest of us!
When all you live an easy life, every challenge seems like an oppressive set back. The collective west has no idea what they’re doing with how easy they have things.
I too grew up in a third world country. Seeing people in US and in UK complaining all day about all kinds of politics especially the gender one, just grinds my gears. My country is so corrupt and poor that one unfortunate incident of a flood could destroy so many families lives and these people are talking about being oppressed just because someone refuses to call them by their designated "pronouns".
Also from a developing country here. Don't be so quick to judge. While there's certainly entitlement, there's also better recognition of toxicity within family in the West. The rest of the world doesn't even bother to consider sch toxicity, especially when ti comes from elders, but the impact it has on successive generations is immense. Heck, the third world countries parents don't know how to handle adult children.
Not all of us Americans are ungrateful. I’m eternally grateful for dental care, feminine hygiene products and grocery stores. I don’t know why I was born here in this time with my own grandfather lost his parents and had to eat out of garbage cans.
And there is always a flip side. Our mental health, physical and spiritual health, families and communities are a wreck because with such prosperity over generations breeds very weak, entitled people unless held in check by strong spiritual principles. A lot of us think we can live without others and worship money. That’s the saddest part.
My Dad is totally messed up from his parents, but I can't really hold much of that against them because they honestly tried with ALL the had. My Grandpa had 2 alcoholic parents and an alcoholic grandmother that he lived with growing up so all he knew about parenting was to strive to be the opposite of them. My Grandmother grew up literally dirt poor, her father was her hero but he had bad PTSD and his job meant he was away for long lengths of time and her mother died when she was 13. She above all strived to make sure her sons had everything the needed and had sharp inquisitive minds, but she had severe mental health problems and was in and out of contact with reality. I am simultaneously surprised my father came out as well as he did and proud of both him and m grandparents for how fervently they were willing to sacrifice to give their children a better life than their own with such a shitty foundation. Harry doesn't come across as thinking of any of this other than how he was hard done by or wronged, except when he wants to dismiss the legacy of his family as a whole
We know people who had worst conditions in their life and knew how to look forward....
I'll never believe neither of those kids are Meg's.If anyone was in the know before they had met,and married-she was admitted as being sterile.There's also the very very questionable "baby bumps" going from large,little,deflated,low,high etc;not to mention she was the first person that didn't allow the Royal family too be present during the birth using the Royal doctors.Instead,it was kept hush-hush for weeks to months.She also had mass amounts of plastic surgery,and those children look *NOTHING* like her when you see baby,and chidhood pics of her.
plus her real age is 46 !!!!
@@George.W-Jenson Interesting, where did get the source, gimme please?
@@lukecona2749 Whatever damning info about her true self is most likely long gone from internet scrubbing.Look at the lengths she goes through to hide her own family to keep the truth about her from coming out.I do recall her being in her mid-40's some years back,though,and she lies about her age constantly.
The last sentence hit hard !
I bet your next video on the Harry and Meghan story will be right after this trial against the media in the UK. 😂 I can’t wait!
I hate to seem callous but there are millions of unfortunate young people who lose a parent each year and don't use it as an excuse for their behavior the rest of their lives. I loved Diana but I detest her pathetic son.
One corection: therapy doesn't cut you off from your family, bad therapists do.