How long should an affair victim (me) feel down, sad, depressed, and unable to feel like I can move forward with healing? . I found out a week ago. He is willing and is very on board with healing us and doing the work. It's just that I am still in shock and hurting. Just not sure how to show up when I am still feeling so betrayed?
Hang in there! You have every right to feel the way you do. Give yourself grace. With that said, see the best in your husband, especially since he chose you! He sees he made a mistake and wants to work on your marriage. Find a good Christian counselor and fight for your marriage. Don’t let the enemy win.
Can't really say anything about this, although I have felt like having an affair, but wouldn't know where to find someone, so that's a non-starter. Just wondered how your eye is Dr Jo, assuming that the eye patch means there's something wrong with it or you've had a procedure. I've noticed it for the last couple of weeks podcasts.
God bless you all for your great work and support 🙏 🙌 ❤ I found your channel yesterday 😢. Your advice is a diamond 💎 ✨ 👌 😍 💖 💕, i really appreciate you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
my wife had emotional affair with his colleague, even though she says she ended the affair and insist she doesnt have much feeling for him, she still insist its fine for her to work in the same office space. she minimise the affair and in some way blame me. she says she doesnt have the trust towards me which puzzles me, why is that?
Why? Because she doesn't respect you. Because she enjoys humiliating you. Because she perceives you as a weak man who caves in and forgives any of her insults of you. Open your eyes, she already cheated emotionally and sooner or later will do it physical if not done already.
The most efficient way to heal after an affair is to dump a cheater and move on. Don't be pathetic and respect yourself. This is the only way to cope with it. Otherwise you'll get yourself into situation even worse than before
Not everything is so cut and dry in that way, and it has nothing to do with self respect, it has to do with TRULY following your vows in sickness and in health, and if you have ever dealt with a person in limerance, it's a sickness. I know my husband and as bad as this all was, I chose to respect myself AND love him through it. Sad how many people forget their vows the second things get rough.
@@nicholesidla6233well you’re trying to take a literal vow and making it a metaphor I could say “becoming an abuser is a cancer to the abuser” but that’s not the type of cancer that the vow means when you say in sickness and in health it means it in a literal way
@@nicholesidla6233but I’m sure you are one of the types of women that would shame others for leaving an abuser because you’re shaming people for leaving a cheater and “breaking their vows” even though the spouse broke their vows first
Jesus died for all of our sins, that includes infidelity. "ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Roman's 3:23-24. So when you sin is that just a reason to drop you? Marriage is worth fighting for, some people strongly believe in and follow their vows, these people are not grifters, they are life savers. I just don't understand why you're even on this page when you are obviously not promarriage? I'm sorry someone hurt you so much that you cannot see the purpose in following your vows, even and especially when it's hard.
@@nicholesidla6233 cheating is one of the only sins that allows for divorce. Even physical abuse doesn't constitute it, but cheating does. There is no reason to uphold your vows for someone who doesn't do it for you.
Dr. Joe Beam , cant thank you enough! You do incredible work and it is life saving and healing. Truly best wishes, and god bless.
How long should an affair victim (me) feel down, sad, depressed, and unable to feel like I can move forward with healing? . I found out a week ago. He is willing and is very on board with healing us and doing the work. It's just that I am still in shock and hurting. Just not sure how to show up when I am still feeling so betrayed?
Hang in there! You have every right to feel the way you do. Give yourself grace. With that said, see the best in your husband, especially since he chose you! He sees he made a mistake and wants to work on your marriage. Find a good Christian counselor and fight for your marriage. Don’t let the enemy win.
Can't really say anything about this, although I have felt like having an affair, but wouldn't know where to find someone, so that's a non-starter. Just wondered how your eye is Dr Jo, assuming that the eye patch means there's something wrong with it or you've had a procedure. I've noticed it for the last couple of weeks podcasts.
God bless you all for your great work and support 🙏 🙌 ❤
I found your channel yesterday 😢.
Your advice is a diamond 💎 ✨ 👌 😍 💖 💕, i really appreciate you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very enlightening. Thank you
my wife had emotional affair with his colleague, even though she says she ended the affair and insist she doesnt have much feeling for him, she still insist its fine for her to work in the same office space. she minimise the affair and in some way blame me. she says she doesnt have the trust towards me which puzzles me, why is that?
Why? Because she doesn't respect you. Because she enjoys humiliating you. Because she perceives you as a weak man who caves in and forgives any of her insults of you. Open your eyes, she already cheated emotionally and sooner or later will do it physical if not done already.
And yet you stay, and search for bad advice like this to justify your lack of self respect, and fearfulness at being alone.
Why are you guys on here if you have no care to try and FIX a marriage and stand by your vows?
The most efficient way to heal after an affair is to dump a cheater and move on. Don't be pathetic and respect yourself. This is the only way to cope with it. Otherwise you'll get yourself into situation even worse than before
Not everything is so cut and dry in that way, and it has nothing to do with self respect, it has to do with TRULY following your vows in sickness and in health, and if you have ever dealt with a person in limerance, it's a sickness. I know my husband and as bad as this all was, I chose to respect myself AND love him through it. Sad how many people forget their vows the second things get rough.
@@nicholesidla6233well you’re trying to take a literal vow and making it a metaphor I could say “becoming an abuser is a cancer to the abuser” but that’s not the type of cancer that the vow means when you say in sickness and in health it means it in a literal way
@@nicholesidla6233but I’m sure you are one of the types of women that would shame others for leaving an abuser because you’re shaming people for leaving a cheater and “breaking their vows” even though the spouse broke their vows first
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Stop grifting! Infidelity biblically breaks the covenant.
Jesus died for all of our sins, that includes infidelity. "ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Roman's 3:23-24. So when you sin is that just a reason to drop you? Marriage is worth fighting for, some people strongly believe in and follow their vows, these people are not grifters, they are life savers. I just don't understand why you're even on this page when you are obviously not promarriage? I'm sorry someone hurt you so much that you cannot see the purpose in following your vows, even and especially when it's hard.
@@nicholesidla6233 cheating is one of the only sins that allows for divorce. Even physical abuse doesn't constitute it, but cheating does. There is no reason to uphold your vows for someone who doesn't do it for you.