WHY YOU KEEP GETTING THE WRONG MAN by RC Blakes
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- Опубликовано: 19 апр 2020
- Let’s discuss why sisters keep getting the wrong man
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"You choose someone to marry based on your future, not your present"!!!
Marla completely agree!
I like that pick ur man for the future
He has to qualify to be in your present life & your future destiney & plans God has for you.
His plans & destiney works with yours too.
He can't decide only he & not you has a purpose for your life, along with 💘 love & marraige!!! He will want to Sucessfuly encourage & support your dreams & goals too. Your needs are important to be fulfilled over time & right planning in life too. Women need a Positive Balance in our lives & the right priorities. He & you will bring the best support & love to each others lives. We are not suppose to lose our self respect & accept being in a rut & used & hurt hearts. We are Not to be used like a wife & baby mama with out marraige as a priority.
Not some immature dude who makes responsibility & then he leaves, or God may have now have awaken you & you rightly stop bein with him.
You rightly put him out now! A real full time husband God has for you. We have to have faith & prepare for good husband. He comes with love & respect & trust that grows & provides for you, your family rather you chose to work out side the home or not. God's man loves & serves Jesus willingly with you too. We must get & believe for God's best man for us. That's is a must for us to know & do for our selves, Queens! God loves us like this. He wants us loved blessed right.💞😄😊🎁💝😍👆
I was told that I need a man who sees me the way God does, and I stand by that.
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Yep exactly, l
I retired from the project/build a bear industry back in 2010. And haven't looked back 😄. My last relationship was a HUGE lesson. I had the PROBLEM and it was a hard pill to swallow. I kept chosing men like my father. I love my dad but he was NOT an example to live by. Thank God my older brother is the polar opposite. I had serious daddy issues, low self-esteem and low self worth. I took a break from dating/relationship hopping and discovered self love, value and acceptance. I truly LOVE Danaé and will never again will I subject myself to such disrespect. I am happily single and have no interest in dating right now. I am content with me. I will let God send my God ordained husband in His perfect timing. Pastor Blakes you were telling the TRUTH🙏. #fromtheprojectstothepenthouse #fromboystoanEphesians5man
Amen lady! Your story sound like mines. God bless💙
@@HappinessWellnssLoveChile! I was 28 at the time and had enough of myself. I HAD to make a much needed change. God bless sis.
Danae, I gotta tell you, I'm 44 been without of my EUM for 5 weeks. Im too old to be going through mess like this. I saw the signs but, kept going for 3 yrs 2 months. I found RC Blakes in 2018 and just starting taking heed to what he is saying. I'm definitely taking a break from dating and focusing on myself. Thank you for sharing.
Danaé Lauren Tolbert I love your post.. self discovery and falling in love with our selves is a beautiful gift. It isn’t a easy process, when we give so much to others than we give to ourselves. My last relationship made realize I was ok with having a piece of a man, than no man at all. By the grace of God those days are over. Being single is not a curse. I’m enjoying being single, compared to what I was dealing with by being in a unhealthy relationship.
@@LoveWins73 Yes!! Yes hunty!!! Singleness is NOT a curse. You betta preach. Get to know and love you.
I wish I had known this years ago, so many wasted years. Better late than never 🙂
Time learned sis! No wasted time! 😘
Rhonda Walker agree
You not the only one that’s why we here🙏🏾
Moses took many years to come to God's will. He did some messed up things & ran away.
God still gave him a wife & a destiney. He repented.
He came back around to God, with new knowledge & faith & anointing to move forward with God's plans.
Enjoy your new wisdom & decisions & blessings God has for you now!!!!
Celebrate🎉🎈😄😊. Don't let the enemy take your 😂 joy. Some folks never go higher in blessings & wisdom.
They circle the same ⛰ mountain. You have a break through & blessings now & to come. Asked God to restore the years that's been stolen by the canker worm & locust with multiplied love & blessings & guidance & strength.👆👆💞🎉🎈🎊🥊🤾🎁💞🎖🏅😄💖
@@alishadennis17 That's good wisdom, God bless you 🥰
Ladies: Don’t pick your man “in the dark”. The light of God’s word will point you like a lamp and a light in the right direction. (And watch this video!)
Thank you 💓
Arnelle Berry ppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppo
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Absolutely beautiful 🌹 n correct 🤞
My parents did not know HOW to provide healthy love BUT when you stay single and fall IN LOVE with God, that is the only type of love you will seek after that experience. Best wishes to all!!!
True Kizzy...true!
@@thelibran11 🥰🥰
Thank you ❤
Pastor when you mentioned Tony Gaskins name I was floored. I discovered you 5 years ago and Tony 4 years ago. I always felt you two give the best godly advice to women. You’re my DAD and he’s my big BROTHER. You both have contributed to the woman I am today. Bless you and Lisa 🙏🏾
Glamrocs Makeup He’s genuine and wise. I like Tony a lot.
@@RCBlakesJr. I also watch both of you. You have genuine authentic and different styles, guided by God.
Yess
Hello pls who will i do all men hv dated dump me for their ex don't no de reason the guy am currently dating told me we should quit that he still love his ex don't y this is happening to me
I love Tony gaskins too!!!! I brag about both men to my women friends. I study both y’all books. Tony said his wife studied his first book what daddy doesn’t tell his little girl and she was able to rebuddle his moves. So I diligently studied, father daughter talk, queenology and mrs right by Tony gaskins and it opened my eyes a lot.
I just listened to this again. You said “Any man not looking for a wife is the wrong man”. So true, I have to keep this in my mind when I meet a new man.
A lot of us women think we're the game changer for the lost man...we think we can be the difference-maker when all along the bum has an agenda. So glad I'm too grown to waste time...something you can never get back
"Take a chill pill on relationships until you get your mind right" #CONFIRMATION
Plus "All Style & No Substance" should be one of your new unisex shirts
Not lick his lips like LL Cool J I can't Pastor to funny lol...😂🤣🙈😂🤣🙈
You and Tony are genuine guys, I'm so glad you both are on RUclips telling us like it is, no sugar coating
RC Blake jr & Tony Haskins & Christelyn Kraselin from pink pill helping black women & Dr. Banks the professor & author on marraige & how black women need to date based on quality & a man's maturity & being a Christian leader for being husband material for us.
Not to wait on one color of men where we out number them more than a million more black females. Just cause He is our color dosnt mean we any thing else in common. the husband for us is the right man not just color..
These 4 teachers on a show together would be so fabulous. Oh my God! It would make a huge effect on dating & marraige & wise life decisions & info for black women especially. Also for all women also.💞👆🎉😊
"Most women who keep getting dogs, keep choosing the same breed" 4:18 -RC Blake's is too much this morning! I can always count on him to have the best analogies.
I hollered out loud with my head cocked back!
Amen! They don't know their self worth.
Orange is your color Pastor!
I know right!! That color looks so good on him.
"This boy cant think hisself out of a wet paperbag" 😂😂😂 Pastor Blake's I appreciate your realness‼
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“has the capacity to pay the price!” SAY IT!!
Amen, it's not only because its "who" we have been attracted to but why we keep attracting them to us.
Wow, tell that real truth!!! We need to understand & over come that curse & attraction for Godly Attraction sent by God to us now.😄😅😊😍👆🎆
Your super gorgeous & wise! Be abundantly blessed, joy & peace filled. Be safe healthy & very well loved in Jesus name Amen sister.💞😄🎁💝🎊🎈🎊ps take vitamins for strong immunity to help guard against the Covid Virus & other illness. Check out Simple Nursing Channel. The male nurse tells you the 3 supplements to take, how it works & to eat before taking Zinc & other info. Please see it & tell others about it & check with your doctors first too. It has helped our immunity.
Be blessed!
f myself. I'm learning a little everyday.
Thank you pastor for being the light in my ♥ heart and coaxing the best version of myself forward. I believe the Holy Spirit sent you and the Mrs to be my spiritual guides. What a blessing
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"You choose someone to marry based on your future Not your present".....OMG #Word to everyone!! Thanks RC Blakes Jr
This is so me pastor. My grandfather would say, "if you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything". My caregivers never taught me how to stand, chaos, alcholism, violence, confusion is what they taught me. As a result, I was angry, very angry. I know I fell from grace long ago, and still falling. Such an unfortunate life I have had. I chose dogs because I felt I was unworthy. Not easy being damaged goods. 2019 allowed me to stop, focus on myself, come to reality, and begin healing myself. My two most meaningful relationships ended in my filing bankruptcy (they came with nothing, and I made sure they left with what they came with). I lost everything material...twice. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". Never again. I have a little bit of a clue now. Tired of my eyes burning from playing with trash. I'm trying Pastor, I am truly trying. I am learning me. Thank you for your videos.
Keep trying sis. You’re not alone. You goin get there as long as you refuse to look back. We’re all are
I’m sorry to hear that, I hope you’re doing better now! I relate to a lot you’re writing about; going to start therapy again, really need it. God bless you.
May God bless you with peace as you seek Him !
Projects...that’s what Legos are for.
Legos are for kids.
Here is the prayer from the end of the video 42:57 "Father, I thank you for wisdom, I thank you for discretion, I think you for the guidance of the spirit, I thank you for discernment. And God, I thank you for the Spirit of Self-Forgiveness. I bind the spirit of guilt and shame tonight, because there’s no room for it. All of us has sinned. All of us have erred. All of us have made mistakes. And so now God I ask you to purge and cleanse tonight, and allow your daughters to regroup, to restart, to renew. And God, I thank you for the Spirit of Restoration tonight. In Jesus’s name, that they will not make the same mistakes! In Jesus’s name, The Spirit of Wisdom will rest upon them! In Jesus’s name, I pray. Amen!"
Thank you love for writing the prayer out too. Amen in Jesus name in agreement of the prayer with RC. Blake JR. Lord.
May more than thousands of women & men come to this site & channel Lord. May they listen & receive & believe your words & healing & new blessings & restoration & protection especially in romance & marriages & healthy relationships as we look to you to lead & counsel us in your awesome & simple ways Lord! May they & we all be set free & prepare to walk in your guidance & wisdom & receive abundant love in life as we go forward in peace & joy & have healthy hearts & continual healing & healthy relationships. In the matchless name ofJesus father, Amen father!💞🎁💝🎉🎈😄😅😍💖🎆👆🎑🎊🎊👆
Amen
Yes!! Amen..This is taking place right now!!
Amen 🙏🏽
Yup I had a big problem with picking men based on their looks. I was in a relationship with seemingly only narcissists. One right after another. I grew tired and depressed. I had no one to teach me about men. Now I'm just being with me, enjoying life and walking in love with me. I have a couple male associates but I have not let them get close enough to really get to know me. I'm in a place where, quite frankly I don't want to be bothered. Also I don't need validation from others now. I'm 44 but people tell me I look like I'm in my 20s. I have children that are grown and don't want any more children. I guess that's a good thing. I'm in a place right now where I don't care if I ever find a husband. My main focus in life is my happiness, I'm good growing old single but HAPPY 😊. But if were to change my mind down the line and maybe being open about dating again, I am definitely doing things different. Thank You Pastor Blake's❤️💪🏾
There are so many more projects, grown boys, and clowns that waste your time than real man
I agree with you👍 I'm having this same problem. I don't even be looking and they still find me?
@@toyawimley647 same here sis, why?
Children are NOT a game
Wait before you have children and if your NOT stable mentally or emotionally. Children are NOT baby dolls. I am telling you obey the voice of the Lord! Take Jesus hand and trust him! He will send the person you need NOT what you want.
You need someone who can pray for you when your sick and for your children. A righteous Man Of God who has a REAL relationship with God. Not play with your Life or your Future!
Made these mistakes I hope God will still bring me someone like this. Sometimes I wonder if my life will ever change for the better. Please pray for me.
“How do you know who belongs in your life if you don’t know who you are?” The pastor has spoken 🙌🏾.
"You just full of lust right now... you just mad... you just look over all the flags... just change yo settings completely" 😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Let em know Pastor‼
This has definitely been definitely what I needed to hear.. I’m 37 years old and I can honestly say I’ve valued myself a lot more now than ever.. having the understanding my worth.. RC you do it every time.. keep speaking this knowledge
Thank you pastor Blakes for confirmation. I am the woman who tries to " fix" men. No more.
49 and dated emotionally unavailable men and my share of alcoholics. Taking time out to date myself and value me. THANK YOU, RC for all of your wisdom and enlightening us women from a man's perspective. My dad was emotionally unavailable.
Wow, people put thumbs down. This must have hit home for them because this is "TRUTH". Keep being real speaking the truth Pastor Blakes🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I left my kid's father because he was the wrong man!
"Grown men recognize value." That's a t-shirt!!!
Love this thank you 🙏🏾
Love this Sharon. So make it!
stevieT stevens I JUST saw this!! That’s a GREAT idea!
😂😂😂 and all he is...“is a big ole handsome sex machine...” 😒 Good gawd! 😂😂😂
Thank you for this message Pastor!
I don't trust good looking men. Often that's part of the package of a fckboy!
Kathryn Ellicott Same with women🤷🏾♂️
@@kati1017 hey thanks for the reminder, you've just saved me a whole lot of heart ache! Bless you
Teisha J. 😔🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi Pastor, this is most hurtful and helpful. I’m disgusted I was deceived at my age. My self examination is where I needed a check-up. I’m too Queenly for this level of stupid.
10:14 A real man has to be enough to accommodate you when you meet him. 💯 (If you need to bathe in a full size tub, do NOT waste time with a man who would be like your bathing in a small cereal bowl... unh unh!)
Yes, don't give what is holy to the dogs!
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You always say that you are not a therapist but you are a therapist, sir. You are more of a therapist to women than all of these Licenced therapists with 3 degrees.
Ms. A 🙏🏽 Thank you 🙏🏽
I agree so much! Pastor Blakes has changed my life tremendously. No therapy has ever produced the results he has helped me to.
He has been of help to me. Tnk u man of wisdom
Agreed
So true knowledge is power
I'm laughing Bishop but you speaking truth🙌
You are talking good Man of GOD!
I definately do not think that all men are dogs. I just messed up by going back and sleeping with a wrong man from my past that had walked awat from over a year ago. I dont feel nothing this time just had a slip up and forgave myself and asked the most high to forgive me. I was feeling lonely and lustful at the time and i know that is not an excuse but it is what it is. I been praying for my match and hope this did not mess it up because i dont want the dude from my past just was something to do and i deeply regret it.
When we confess our sins God is faithful & just to forgive us our sins & cleanse us from all unrighteousness. The bible says. God's 💘 love & tender mercies & grace is their for us. You may find that it helps to protect your self by ✂ Cutting off any media or songs or shows that get you triggered or tempted in the flesh. Have a go to instead. Replace you actions with positive activities for good, future dreams & goals that help encourage you & lift your spirits & strengthen you when you ever feel vulnerable. Have a friend to pray with when you need to fight feelings or the flesh. You havebrepented & turned from it. God's still got your present & future blessings & your best intetest at heart. You are letting God heal & prepare you for his good purpose. God has a wise caring respectful husband for you. You want to grow focus & be ready. Let God's word, spirit & guidance lead & Keep you now. Confess daily God's in control of your life & choices & he alone leads you nothing else. God 💘 loves, 💘loves, 💘 loves you & us endlessly. He will never leave or forsake you & us is what his holy word says to us his children he cares for & loves.
Even when he spanks us for our own good cause of our falls & deeds, when we need it. We grow from God's discipline & 💘 love. Your gonna get your blessings. be ready for him & the blessings the right way in Jesus name Amen. Be safe, joyful & healthy. See Simple Nursing utube channel to strengthen your immunity against the virus with 3 vitamins. More info on the channel about immunity. But eat before taking Zinc to not throw up. Tell others to & check with your doctor. Gloves & a mask or scarf when going out. People protect our selves with a little good practice if THIS! Big hugs to you love!
This message is so timely i came out of a very bad break up in November this dude tol me right off the bat that he has been married 3 times, at the age of 42, at the time i met him he was 2 months out of a relationship with a lady that was sidechick to his third wife, had no money, had bad credit, had a very bad relationship with his daughter was just barely able to rent a room for himself and was already having difficulty paying the rent after just 2 months. My research showed me that all the ladies he has been with were much older than him, however they always housed him and provide for him .with all them red flags i was still so focus on his height his color and his looks, totally forgetting that he hold grudges, is unstable and broke. Thinking that i could change him.so after five months another one showed showing all the same drama no 💰 barely able ro pay his bills married and divorce twice different baby mama's and all , this rime i dodged the bullet
Keep dodging them sis. Also, you don't have to accept every invitation from a man. What I mean is everyone doesn't deserve a conversation and an exchange of phone numbers. Take this time to devote it to God and yourself. There were plenty of instances where I flat out said, "Sorry I am not interested." Everyone interested ain't eligible.
@@DanaeLaurenTolbert1 very well stated 👏🏾
Smart
Amen, sister!
Why did it take you 5 months and a soul tie to walk away? Shouldn't even start anything with him to begin with. It's easier to walk away before it starts. Once you sleep with him, it's hard to walk away.
Thank you Pastor Blakes. Your teachings have spoken into my life. I’m grateful for you and your wife and your ministry.
I really laughed and this WAS so true for me, big ole sex machine. Didn’t have anything to bring to the plate unless it was sex.
Since I’ve been single and have not dated in 8 years.
It's very wrong to be so desperate for a child that you don't fully prove the quality of his father! Very selfish! Wrong mindset!
So true pastor. For 25 years l was blinded by my children father. Now am god Frist.5 years. free thank you jesus l called and HE answered. Me Amen.
We missed u.😘. We need to hear u at least 1nce a week..this video was a bit late, still love u. Continue to do the work of God.👍👍
Hey Pastor Blakes, I have a suggestion for you that may be a practicable alternative for the intermittent shoutouts - Why not have someone compile these names as they emerge & then you can do a run-through when you're done since it's a live show?
This should help maintain flow for both yourself & your listeners.
Rose Aduke Great 💡idea
Some of us like watching him thank and interact with his viewers. Stop critiquing and listen to his message, you are in your masculine energy telling him what he should do on his channel.
@@herstory1012
Oops. Your comment is out of date dear.
You really gotta purge yourself of obsolete thoughts.
Whilst at it, try to apprehend the difference between "Telling" & "Suggesting".
Get updated with his latest videos!
Cheerio.
@@roseaduke8835 1. I don't need to purge anything as he helped to transform my life and my marriage. 2. I watch all of his videos, new and old. 3. I can see that you have "the need to be right" attitude going on. So I'll say sister God bless you.
@@herstory1012
🤤 ""the need to be right" attitude" indeed.
The man already responded positively to my original comment, so I can only guess what could possibly be your own "need to be" that motivated your negativity. If I do guess, you'd probably accuse me of another "need to be xxxxxx"!
Nevertheless, it's good to hear your testimony of transformation from this channel!👍🏼
I would always think can' they see my worth. I know now they could not. even though they would voice that I was a good, or kind person. They could not see my worth, faithful, acting in honor, truthful, hardworking, etc. Those things that were instilled in me and I valued. I even talked to one man I loved about God and Jesus but he did not want to hear it. I did pray for him, now I pray for his daughter. I discovered he had a daughter in his middle age, I have no idea if he married. Thank you for your prayer as I struggle with for giving myself.
Thank you pastor Blakes all I could do is say Amen because at the age of 32 I am a woman of god waiting for god to bless me with my king. Until then I will continue to focus on me , my goals , my daughter. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
Hopefully I'll make the right choice this time, thank you Pastor RC Blakes.
I don’t want it at all. This world has become a complete disaster
I needed to hear this , thank you
Amen and Amen! Thank you so much for the videos! God bless you and Lisa 🤗
I'm single right now and fine with it, there are so many time wasters out there. I don't want a fixer upper, I'm fine being single right now
I agree with you👍
Oh! This is good!! 54Never married! Love that!! Been working on this since i was 16. My 20 yr old daughter with grown boy, i wasnt trying to go there. I was just studying grown boy tactical maneuvers. When guy wont do anything ekse he can still spread seed willingly. Blows my mind how folks sleep. I started out a blessed independent girl & took detour unaware. Now i do my life with God. Hes been there all along! Talked to Trinity since i was 4! Lol
Wow. I had to share this video on my facebook page. Amazing! Powerful video! Thank you RC!
Thank you for continuing to drop knowledge on these topics.
Great to see you Pastor, have been praying for you and your church and congregation
Yes! Much needed. Thank you✊🏾.
Truth! This was on point and I needed to hear it. Thank you! I just read your book Soul Ties in less than a day! Loved it.
This is a hard needed truth and thank you .
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you and your words💙💙💚
Pastor you crack me up! 😂
Love watching your videos not only educational, spiritual but very funny. Thank you. 🙏🏻❤️🌟
I just love YOU pastor!! Thanks for keeping it real!!
Amen I so needed this today.
Excellent message thank you for sharing.
This message was right on time. I had to replay after the live. Thank you! 🙏🏾
Appreciate your Strong message and Your sense of humor! Thank you.
Thank you Pastor for confirming what I Know as well as another perspective that has shown me something new...
Awesome message 🙏🏾🙌🏽
I needed to hear this, thank you pastor.
You're helping me a lot. Thank you so much! Please continue making more videos with your wisdom!
Good stuff! helped me ALOT!!!!
Amazing information.Thank you Bishop.
I wish men would listen to such wisdom.
Hello from Savannah GA
Thanks for explaining, you have a divine gift and I'm glad I found you on FB.
Bishop Blake's, this was amazing!!! Thank you!
Thank you so much for the prayers at the end of your talks. Greatly appreciated! 🙏
Thank you, for your messages!!
We need them. I’m so done with projects!! ❤️
Thank you for blessing me, I haven't smiled and laughed like this in while.
Good evening Pastor!! I’m so happy to be back watching your videos! God bless you and your family..much love 🙏🏾
This is so so so goodddddd! Thank you for the enlightenment, Blakes
beautiful message wow thanks bishop
Thank you Paster Blakes enjoyed the video like always, iron sharpens iron. God bless you and family.
VERY POWERFUL, GOD BLESS YOU!!
You are the truth! Thank you so much pastor RC Blakes!💚
Appreciate you Paster Blakes .I brought Queenology.Excellent read.
You’re life changer! Thank you 🙏
🤣😂🤣🤣the shoe and jacket story has taken me out. These message is 🔥
I’m happy I came across your video on RUclips I like how u straight to point I need hear it like u tell it don’t sugar coat it I come from parents who told it like it was in I like way u say things I went counseling after losing my husband in they didn’t speak in words like u I wish I had someone as yourself to talk to thank god I found you videos. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
So much truth and funny too. Love it Pastor.
Can't thank you enough for this wisdom teaching thats made me better stronger and greater
Thank you so much for all your wisdom, and your prayer especially for this podcast. I receive this in the name of Jesus.
Thank you so much for your teachings pastor. I’m a Greek orthodox but your words are so healing to me.
Mr.R.C Blake's, I luv it when you tell it how it is, straight up, with no chaser,boy they better put some respeck, on this Louisiana style teaching! We love you!
Pastor your words are golden nuggets.
Pastor, that analogy with your grandson Austin & the ring was fantastic.. pure facts💯❤
🙌🏽thank God I needed this
Your channel is helping me so much! I'm finally learning to appreciate my season of stillness and focus on myself and my goals. Thank you for all you do, Mr. Blakes!
My God. Right on time!