Me too. That was the last request, on the bottom of my Divorce Petition. The Judge asked me "Is it my understanding that you wish to resume your maiden name"? I said Yes, Your Honor. It was at that very moment that my ex-husband flipped out.
I’m glad it mentions stingy since they pretend to be generous in public but run the home so you won’t look like a good home maker, by what they do and pretend not to do.
Good point. My mother in law told everyone that I had the same curtains for five years that my grandmother gave to me. It was her son that controlled checkbook.
The use of my maiden name was the last request, on the bottom of my Divorce Petition. At the last court appearance, at the time we were to sign the Settlement Agreement, the Judge asked me "Is it my understanding that you wish to resume your maiden name"? I said "Yes, Your Honor." It was at that very moment that my ex-husband flipped out.
😂😂😂I love how passionate you are Dr Clark, when I got an annulment I told him the marriage never existed he was no husband he was a demon with multiple entities. Have not seen him, he had other wives while married, 😂😂I love the way you think, you are absolutely correct 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼when I call the narc stupid I’m being biblical🤣🤣🤣
They went from being my besties whom I trusted with my life to bold-faced parasitic imposters, doing an irreversible 180 the minute I said I was not ok with their wanting to change the lock on my guest room to keep me out in my own house!
My problem is I was so deceived that I married a man from another country,who lived in mine and pretended to be a Christian.We moved to his country.His country is a pseudo- communist country.I dont speak the language and it is a mafia run country.I cant even go to the police.My family are all Narcissists,so I am the scapegoat and they won' t help me.I haven't got a job and no way of returning home and even if I do,there are no jobs in my country or a place to stay.And I have complex trauma.I am trying to heal but get retraumatised daily.No church wants to help me.All I can do it trust that God saves me
I too experienced what you write. It's so hard. Cry out from the depths of your soul to God asking in Jesus name to help you. In a matter of a few days, I had the physical proof I needed to start towards freedom. I pray for you this very minute asking for your deliverance which will not come from me but the Lord.
I get what you're saying, and agree to some point--but as a caveat, just make sure you don't get trapped in a cycle of bitterness for the rest of your life. The best thing you can ultimately call such a person? HISTORY!
@@ekklesiajoy Yes. It's not expensive or hard but you have to do it through the court of course. I did mine myself. I had to give a reason and mine was that I did not want the name of my ex-husband and I did not like my maiden name. This is on the judgement signed by the judge. I got multiple copies of this 'original' judgement to have when needed.
Church folks have equated my anger that is helping me heal -- as bitterness. I'm in a 'divorce care' group at church and the leader said I have to see what I did/my part in the failure of my marriage. This astounds me how nieve her church mindset is! She truly thinks being angry about the injustice of my abuse is bitterness.
I was 26 (long time ago) when I realized that my path necessarily needed to separate from that of my parents, and exactly why, such that decades ago I knew I needed to change my name (in full) and also refer to them by their given names, never again by their previous titles. Names are very important.
It’s interesting how the narc has rarely used MY name throughout our long marriage. I even told him I liked hearing him use my name over the generic ‘ honey ‘ he used . He always ignored me and went on rarely using my name unless to people outside our family in reference to me . I often wondered why . 😔
It’s the same way here. He tells me everyday before he leaves for work and when hanging up the phone “ I love you”. He calls me “Love, Babydoll and Babe”. In front of his friends he called me his Ole Lady. I told him that I have never seen a happy couple that calls each other Honey. He starting saying as he walked into the house “Honey I’m home” and it never stopped. 🤢
@laurie2715 I had the same setup. Took me years to realize that giving me my name would make me a human. That’s why Hitler used numbers on people. No name-not a human. ❤
Never took his name after Marriage…thank goodness! There were serious red flags from the time we met which unfortunately I ignored or brushed off. I was late thirties and wanted to have children so just ignored the bad behaviour.
Hahahahahaha! Laughing out loud by minute 7. This is classic, one of a kind. Thank you, i so needed to laugh today. Please thank your wife too, these are wonderful, so therapeutic just to say out loud. Psalm 37 Fret Not, --just say these new names, and you'll feel better. 🤣😂 yes, had to leave behind the pinhead doodle brain, ratfink vile viper toxic fam of alleged origin in the dust.😊
I did change my name back to maiden, after son said I didn’t deserve their last name , which got me thinking …no regrets in doing so I never use Dad , when I email but use X’s initials . “Distorted” Demonic
My ex narc lives in the house I renovated while I live in a cabin in the yard while we're waiting for the whole property to sell. I have renamed her 'the house monster'. It makes me laugh. She had huge rage issues. I will work on a new name related to the word 'preditor' because if I could only pick one word to describe her that would be it.
I most likely will not use any of those narc names. I will just let go and move on. Life is too short to allow all these names to bring me to a place of bitterness. I am keenly aware that he will talk smack about me and portray himself as the victim. I know people will take his side and that is totally fine. I have accepted the fact that many will blame me and not understand. My stepson blames me for our relationship falling apart. He claims it takes two to ruin a relationship. He thinks he knows the truth based on his limited view or time around us. I refuse to tell him things about his father even if it is the truth. My stepson has been hurt enough by his father. I love my stepson and always will even if he turns he back on me. I need to leave this relationship knowing that I did everything I could. That I don't speak ill of my spouse to anyone. It doesn't benefit me and it won't change the situation. We have three adult children that all agree it is time. I will always love him and thank God for the lessons learned. Most of all I will thank God for the miracle of three good children out of a difficult marriage. I hope my husband finds all he desires in life. I am obviously not on his priority list. At this stage I'm sure I never was. I am moving forward knowing that I have done my best. The manipulation will stop and hopefully I can help our adult children heal and recognize they need to change some behaviors they picked up from their dad.
My favorite is Wastrel. Wee little man. I kept the surname for my children's sake, and later, professional reasons. I had many degrees, certificates, registrations. I discovered that keeping the surname infuriated him.
Funny how I already stopped calling mine other than a letter. 😅 I just didn't want to use her name anymore. I am a nice person so I dont believe in talking bad but its true the name has a lot attached to it
I laughed! And lifted my hands in praise to God!! At last, I heard someone actually get their righteous indignation on like a man with conviction in the word of God. I have a mature, tertiary educational knowledge of many Christian expressions of faith. Been around the church from birth and have walked in trust and faith. And I find the false hope of praying for the DINGLEBERRY that actively invites the indwelling of. DEMON sheer biblical silliness at best. The idea of God saving the one who has actively quenched the Holy Spirit puts unrealistic hope on already brutalized people. in fact, the would be well meaning offend me so that I rather listen to an educator like Dr Ramini who pulls no punches about the warped world of forgiveness preached when zero repentance isto be had just grotesque. THANK YOU, for being Real.
I have a husband who loves to call himself nasty names. He even introduces himself to strangers as having the name of ass-hole. Yesterday he said that I love him because he’s cute, I responded by saying that is he a cute case of acid indigestion! He absolutely laughed his rear end off. He thinks acting like a jerk is really funny. But it’s no joke when you are so stressed out that digestive problems have you at the hospital for an emergency x-rays to find out what’s killing you.
Ratfink is awesome… I will use it for the narcs daughter who he raised up to be as arrogant a narc as he is. They were co-conspirators in pretentiousness.
Knob head. I'm certainly changing my name as soon as the divorce is finalised (which he's dragging out for as long as possible, so as to keep his/our money). But it's only just occured to me that KH's ex wife did change her name back to her maiden name, but recently is using my 'ex's' surname again - I think she still has a thing for him!
Personally, I'd advise to not indulge in venting via name calling like this. It feels like indulging and recommending which is a step in a not good direction.
Yeah. Stopp calling them ‘my narc’! Nr one. They never was and never will. Besides you do not want to emesh/ relate in any way to them. ‘My narc’ makes also the traumabound remain.
I called my narc female boss Cruella Deville as she d get the same crazed look in her eye like the Disney character would. At the time, I overheard two mgrs in my dept. refer to said narc boss and her asst, as, the Gestapo.at least I knew she had the same effects on others.
I actually kept my ex’s last name. It was easier for me to keep it. Why does the women have to be the one to change their name all the time? It’s such a hassle. He and his cheating affair partner now wife hated that I kept i didn’t do it to annoy them. They even told me I needed to change it! 30 years later I still laugh.
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When I got divorced I went back to my maiden name right away, after 40 years I am me again ❤
Me too. That was the last request, on the bottom of my Divorce Petition. The Judge asked me "Is it my understanding that you wish to resume your maiden name"? I said Yes, Your Honor. It was at that very moment that my ex-husband flipped out.
Me, too.
"Because you are in a war with the narc. you have to be righteously angry." This is wild wisdom I could have used 15 years ago, 14, 13, 12, ....There!
I’m glad it mentions stingy since they pretend to be generous in public but run the home so you won’t look like a good home maker, by what they do and pretend not to do.
Good point. My mother in law told everyone that I had the same curtains for five years that my grandmother gave to me. It was her son that controlled checkbook.
@ I need to get a bathroom sink fixed.🤣😅
The use of my maiden name was the last request, on the bottom of my Divorce Petition. At the last court appearance, at the time we were to sign the Settlement Agreement, the Judge asked me "Is it my understanding that you wish to resume your maiden name"? I said "Yes, Your Honor." It was at that very moment that my ex-husband flipped out.
😂😂😂I love how passionate you are Dr Clark, when I got an annulment I told him the marriage never existed he was no husband he was a demon with multiple entities.
Have not seen him, he had other wives while married, 😂😂I love the way you think, you are absolutely correct 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼when I call the narc stupid I’m being biblical🤣🤣🤣
Dr. Clarke, Everything you said is spot on. Divorced & went back to my maiden name.
I have called my narc husband Daddio for years. After I figured out that he was a narcissist I call him “Ding Dong, Dingle Barry” to his face.
"Fool" is a terrific one!
The book of Proverbs uses that many times.
I’m tired of being angry. No contact for 7 months
Me too no contact since June last year
“Creep” is my choice. He learned that from the late father-in-law (the ex was of course a perfect golden child).
Legion is my choice
@@ekklesiajoy
That's an apt name.
Cheater, father of lies, and vow-breaker comes to mind
They went from being my besties whom I trusted with my life to bold-faced parasitic imposters, doing an irreversible 180 the minute I said I was not ok with their wanting to change the lock on my guest room to keep me out in my own house!
😅😅😅 I love you, David E. Clarke!!! 😅😅😅 You crack me up and know just how to point out the truth in such an unfiltered way!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Voldemort
My x is a murderer. Im so thankful i got to see Heaven and come back. Im NOT alone.😊
Blessings❤
My problem is I was so deceived that I married a man from another country,who lived in mine and pretended to be a Christian.We moved to his country.His country is a pseudo- communist country.I dont speak the language and it is a mafia run country.I cant even go to the police.My family are all Narcissists,so I am the scapegoat and they won' t help me.I haven't got a job and no way of returning home and even if I do,there are no jobs in my country or a place to stay.And I have complex trauma.I am trying to heal but get retraumatised daily.No church wants to help me.All I can do it trust that God saves me
I have a friend who has this problem
I too experienced what you write. It's so hard. Cry out from the depths of your soul to God asking in Jesus name to help you. In a matter of a few days, I had the physical proof I needed to start towards freedom. I pray for you this very minute asking for your deliverance which will not come from me but the Lord.
Can you leave the country and stay w a friend? Or to a shelter?
I get what you're saying, and agree to some point--but as a caveat, just make sure you don't get trapped in a cycle of bitterness for the rest of your life. The best thing you can ultimately call such a person? HISTORY!
Nabal, is the name God referred about my ex-husband to me.
Same here.....and He is sending my David ❤
Nadal means fool
Excellent !! Hallelujah I have new name for narc so I can disassociate with his personality and start detaching from him and start my new life! Amen 🙏
I changed my last name to one of my choice after the divorce.
We can do that?
@@ekklesiajoy Yes. It's not expensive or hard but you have to do it through the court of course. I did mine myself. I had to give a reason and mine was that I did not want the name of my ex-husband and I did not like my maiden name. This is on the judgement signed by the judge. I got multiple copies of this 'original' judgement to have when needed.
Church folks have equated my anger that is helping me heal -- as bitterness.
I'm in a 'divorce care' group at church and the leader said I have to see what I did/my part in the failure of my marriage. This astounds me how nieve her church mindset is! She truly thinks being angry about the injustice of my abuse is bitterness.
I'm calling mine "Airhead." 😂
Blond is a genius! This is really good
I was 26 (long time ago) when I realized that my path necessarily needed to separate from that of my parents, and exactly why, such that decades ago I knew I needed to change my name (in full) and also refer to them by their given names, never again by their previous titles. Names are very important.
Im sure we all have coined a couple special ones over the years that fit as well.🙄
😂
Hilarious!!!!
Lol😂
Oh my gosh, I laughed so hard at the end there 😂😮😂.. luved it..❤ needed that laugh.. still laughing even now 😂
It’s interesting how the narc has rarely used MY name throughout our long marriage. I even told him I liked hearing him use my name over the generic ‘ honey ‘ he used . He always ignored me and went on rarely using my name unless to people outside our family in reference to me . I often wondered why . 😔
It’s the same way here. He tells me everyday before he leaves for work and when hanging up the phone “ I love you”. He calls me “Love, Babydoll and Babe”. In front of his friends he called me his Ole Lady. I told him that I have never seen a happy couple that calls each other Honey. He starting saying as he walked into the house “Honey I’m home” and it never stopped. 🤢
@ exactly! Good observation and the unhappy couples and the use of ‘ honey ‘ . 😣
@laurie2715
I had the same setup. Took me years to realize that giving me my name would make me a human. That’s why Hitler used numbers on people. No name-not a human. ❤
I stopped using his first name. Just called him by the last.
! Thank You !
Never took his name after Marriage…thank goodness! There were serious red flags from the time we met which unfortunately I ignored or brushed off. I was late thirties and wanted to have children so just ignored the bad behaviour.
I’m partial to “dummy”.
Wicked Worm
I love you, man. This is a big honkin AMEN!
This is the most funny, comical video by Dr. Clarke. Narcs are bottom feeders!! I love this!!!
Hahahahahaha! Laughing out loud by minute 7. This is classic, one of a kind. Thank you, i so needed to laugh today. Please thank your wife too, these are wonderful, so therapeutic just to say out loud. Psalm 37 Fret Not, --just say these new names, and you'll feel better. 🤣😂 yes, had to leave behind the pinhead doodle brain, ratfink vile viper toxic fam of alleged origin in the dust.😊
Ok, this is epic!!
I know huh😂
I am always angry. It’s only hurting me at this point.😢I am disabled and can’t financially break away. 😢
I call them Trolls. They are like internet trolls creating chaos and distractions.
I did change my name back to maiden, after son said I didn’t deserve their last name , which got me thinking …no regrets in doing so
I never use Dad , when I email but use X’s initials .
“Distorted” Demonic
@@donawheeler I’m sorry your son said that to you.
My ex narc lives in the house I renovated while I live in a cabin in the yard while we're waiting for the whole property to sell. I have renamed her 'the house monster'. It makes me laugh. She had huge rage issues. I will work on a new name related to the word 'preditor' because if I could only pick one word to describe her that would be it.
I most likely will not use any of those narc names. I will just let go and move on. Life is too short to allow all these names to bring me to a place of bitterness.
I am keenly aware that he will talk smack about me and portray himself as the victim. I know people will take his side and that is totally fine. I have accepted the fact that many will blame me and not understand.
My stepson blames me for our relationship falling apart. He claims it takes two to ruin a relationship. He thinks he knows the truth based on his limited view or time around us. I refuse to tell him things about his father even if it is the truth. My stepson has been hurt enough by his father. I love my stepson and always will even if he turns he back on me.
I need to leave this relationship knowing that I did everything I could. That I don't speak ill of my spouse to anyone. It doesn't benefit me and it won't change the situation.
We have three adult children that all agree it is time. I will always love him and thank God for the lessons learned. Most of all I will thank God for the miracle of three good children out of a difficult marriage. I hope my husband finds all he desires in life. I am obviously not on his priority list. At this stage I'm sure I never was. I am moving forward knowing that I have done my best. The manipulation will stop and hopefully I can help our adult children heal and recognize they need to change some behaviors they picked up from their dad.
You are funny 😂 and awesome
Kathy is ever bringing light to darkness.. love my strengths
The narc in my life has a fitting name: Jack.
I just named him “Zit”
My favorite is Wastrel. Wee little man.
I kept the surname for my children's sake, and later, professional reasons. I had many degrees, certificates, registrations. I discovered that keeping the surname infuriated him.
Everything you said - but for the female narc as well. The absolute hell I endured nearly cost me my very sanity and will to live.
Funny how I already stopped calling mine other than a letter. 😅 I just didn't want to use her name anymore. I am a nice person so I dont believe in talking bad but its true the name has a lot attached to it
😂👍👌💐😮😊yess. Thank you jee🎉😊
Pompous describes them
Bottom feeder- how appropriate!
Burger King. He has to always have it his way.
I know a narc named Martin. I call him the Martinist.
I laughed! And lifted my hands in praise to God!! At last, I heard someone actually get their righteous indignation on like a man with conviction in the word of God. I have a mature, tertiary educational knowledge of many Christian expressions of faith. Been around the church from birth and have walked in trust and faith. And I find the false hope of praying for the DINGLEBERRY that actively invites the indwelling of. DEMON sheer biblical silliness at best. The idea of God saving the one who has actively quenched the Holy Spirit puts unrealistic hope on already brutalized people. in fact, the would be well meaning offend me so that I rather listen to an educator like Dr Ramini who pulls no punches about the warped world of forgiveness preached when zero repentance isto be had just grotesque. THANK YOU, for being Real.
Haha! How did you know,? My go-to nickname for my narc is 'bottom feeder' (only in my head, of course... wouldn't want to start a riot 😉).
GOOFBALLS😂
Richard……know what I mean? 😂 last of Wad.
I really wish codepends on how it was on paper😢
Jackwagon!! 😂
I have a husband who loves to call himself nasty names. He even introduces himself to strangers as having the name of ass-hole. Yesterday he said that I love him because he’s cute, I responded by saying that is he a cute case of acid indigestion! He absolutely laughed his rear end off. He thinks acting like a jerk is really funny. But it’s no joke when you are so stressed out that digestive problems have you at the hospital for an emergency x-rays to find out what’s killing you.
Voldemort.
My new name for Ms. Child Abuser? Respondent 🤣
The Situation….
Not Angry Just Aware…
Ratfink is awesome… I will use it for the narcs daughter who he raised up to be as arrogant a narc as he is. They were co-conspirators in pretentiousness.
Ogre, lawn gnome, garburator 😂
Knob head. I'm certainly changing my name as soon as the divorce is finalised (which he's dragging out for as long as possible, so as to keep his/our money). But it's only just occured to me that KH's ex wife did change her name back to her maiden name, but recently is using my 'ex's' surname again - I think she still has a thing for him!
Snodfish, I'm dead! 😂
I love your wife!
Bullshitmf’r has always worked for me😆
Or do as I do laugh when he says I love you cause the truth is they dont.
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Personally, I'd advise to not indulge in venting via name calling like this. It feels like indulging and recommending which is a step in a not good direction.
Omg I’m dying laughing 😂
The Holy Spirit helped me come up with these names for my narc sister Kim and narc brother Larry about a year ago…kimzabel and Larrhab.
Yeah. Stopp calling them ‘my narc’! Nr one. They never was and never will. Besides you do not want to emesh/ relate in any way to them. ‘My narc’ makes also the traumabound remain.
You are awsome😂😊
The narcissist in my life is my mom.
What should I never call her again?
I call my “mother” a demonic zoo keeper
Well the scripture says :her children rise up and call her blessed. I suppose you would call her by the name cursed
Just never call her again 👍
@@kindredinspirit no we should never curse a person, no matter what they do.
I called my narc female boss Cruella Deville as she d get the same crazed look in her eye like the Disney character would. At the time, I overheard two mgrs in my dept. refer to said narc boss and her asst, as, the Gestapo.at least I knew she had the same effects on others.
Where can i get that book?
And stop referring to them as “your narc” because that means you’re still claiming them. Reframe with “the ex narc” or Satan is very suiting! 😆
I actually kept my ex’s last name. It was easier for me to keep it. Why does the women have to be the one to change their name all the time? It’s such a hassle. He and his cheating affair partner now wife hated that I kept i didn’t do it to annoy them. They even told me I needed to change it! 30 years later I still laugh.
No one says you have to, it is just a possibility.
I name him on my phone Testes Clamps. So I don't reply him. 😅
OAF.
Fun to mock people?
Call ii ‘it’ ‘the thing’ that demon’ psyko or somethng.
Don't claim him as being, "your/my narc".
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Sewer rat 😂
😂😂😂😂
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You must have been hurt by your husband. In my experience there are more female narcissist in the world.
Snort fish...😂😂😂
Reprobate
🎉my favourite