Thank you for this video. As an 82 year old senior, a classic dresser I decided to go gray with my hair when I was turning 80. I’m so glad I did. Inside I don’t feel my age and sometimes have to stop myself from feeling much younger. However, always positive and loving travel, I met a man (my age) who has many similar attributes as myself. He’s brought so much joy to my life and vice versa. Who says life is dull and boring at 80. We don’t.
I LOVE this video for two big reasons: 1) the affirming message that we should dress in the ways that make us happy, and 2) the wonderful selection of pictures of women of all ages, races, sizes, etc. dressing with so much gorgeous style!
Totally agree with this comment! As for me, you helped me know what my color palette is, and I decided to try a faux leather legging after one of your videos, although I am in my fifties and I would not have dared before. It happens to suit my body type, I love to wear them, and my husband and my four children always compliment me about them!
My mom was a real Southern Belle. She wore beautiful hats and tied ribbons or scarves on them to match her outfit. She always had on her red lipstick and as her curly hair turned white she was more stunning than ever. Her clothes always fit just right and heads turned when she walked into a room. She kept it up until she passed away a year and a half ago at age 90.
I'm still in my 20s but people have always said that I dress like an "old woman" so watching your videos has really helped me to start considering what I value in my personal style and how I can marry together my young-ish age and my love for more classic, structured, pieces that a lot of people my age don't consider trendy. Thank you Audrey for all the work you do!
when I was 20 I was told I was not feminine enough! I learned to wear "masculine looking" clothes and add some feminine touches (that I like!) like jewellery, scarves, belts, bags and I am completely happy with my style...
I also had the same problem in my 20s. I was always criticised for my matured dressing sense and even worse I was compared with my mother in law how her dress ups look more young-ish and not mine. I have now gained the confidence to present myself the way I want and ignore what others say or think or how they want to see me.
I am also in my twenties, and I love a style based on the 1950s. I feel that because I am so young, people around me think it's kind of "cool" to dress so vintage, because I can "get away with it". But I have been a bit worried that as I age, my style will age me faster. Because in a few years I don't have that juxtaposition of a "young" person in an "old-fashioned" style. This video is a step in learning to be ok with that. Vintage styles is something I'm passionate about, and I don't see that going away any time soon.
I am 35 and never felt so womanly and beautiful. I finally understand that my style are dresses from natural fabrics (linen), skirts and flowers in my hair. Finally I don't care if people like it. I started to think about my colors and it helps so much :) thank you Audrey, you have so much kindness in you.
So good to know. I love flowers ..real ones to decorate my hair.But worried what people would say and gave up. My mom used to decoarte my long hair with flowers (from our garden) every day when I was young.
Wait till you get to your 50s! You lose your body hangups and really understand yourself and your preferences. You can often also afford quality clothes with more ease as there are less demands on your wallet. But enjoy the whole journey. It is a precious gift in all it's stages.
Don’t dress like you have aged, dress like you have LIVED. ♥️ I am thankful that I have lived long enough to begin to shed the fears and pressures of dressing for others. Every outfit tells our story, however long. I am keen to see people shifting to this view of fashion where we are not marketing ourselves but using clothes as a way to express the uniqueness of our experience and our soul.
Every Outfit tells a story. so true. Infact for me every outfit brings back memories of when I wore it first time and have got some good durable clothes that are 2 decades old.
I'm 71 and have learned to dress to suit myself. At this age I no longer think about what others think. I love classic styles and I also love color. I still wear shorts only now they are usually in the form of a skort. That gives me shorts but the look of wearing a skirt. Fashion is fun.
I’m 50+ and I love the confidence I’ve gained over the years. My mom passed in July at 92 and loved all the latest style!!She loved her tailor and cleaners. Everything she wore had to be pressed. Mom wore makeup and pantyhose😜. At the end of her life I hope we honored her style by keeping her & bedding cleaned, lotion her skin, combing her hair and having her presentable to visitors! I hope to my end I’ll maintain my own inward & outward style, beauty and uniqueness💕
My closet is jeans, tops, and kimonos. I have a boho style and being retired, i want comfort. 66 yrs young here! I love your videos! You are full of grace and kindness!
I really appreciate this video. I'm in my mid-forties and started thinking "am I dressed appropriately for my age"? I thought this video was going to be "20's: mini-skirts, trendy clothes" to "50's: start dressing more conservatively". So I truly appreciate the comment that "we should dress how we want". And as I understand it, this video is saying "stay true to yourself" no matter what age. Thank you!
Audrey, I so enjoyed this video. I am 73 and I gave myself permission many years ago to be me. While many women do this, they somehow forget to translate that permission to their closets. Getting up and deciding how I want to present myself for the day is still such a deljght...you are so spot on. Love your channel, Thanks, Linda
I'm 19 and finally starting to experiment with my style. I love that I'm able to do this and that I'm figuring out who I am and what my style is. I sew outfits and customize thrifted clothes so I feel like my style is a full representation of who I am:)
hihi nope ...I encourage you to continue sewing and experimenting with your style which will evolve as you age. I too have sewn most of my life and love adapting and changing patterns, working with textures and color. It’s so much fun. I have been stopped a few times and complemented on how I look, which always makes me blush, mostly because I’m 67 now and with silver gray hair and only 5’2”. But, when I’m feeling a little down, I remember those encounters and I am reminded that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and I’m grateful for those kind people.
I once heard " I do not know how to behave, act or dress my age. I've never been this age before." . Needless to say this changed my life. I admire people who choose to express themselves through their clothes, as I've always done this myself. I may dress more mainstream now, but I'm working on fusing my former style and what I wish for my future together. I'm just discovering more and more colors that suit me well, or do not. It such a fun journey.
I'm 29 and I've been experiencing "age pressure". I sometimes still compare myself to my peers and get disappointed because I feel like I'm behind. I constantly need to remind myself that life is not a race and that I am robbing myself of happiness by subjecting my mind to this kind of thoughts. I'm slowly having less and less care on superficial metrics such as finances, belongings, achievements and so forth. I try to pursue what really matters to me. It's a work in progress.
i truly enjoyed your offering. I'm 66 and wear clothes i love vintage from op shops and garage sales wear despite negative comments from siblings. The photos showed amazingly confident women of all ages celebrating their uniqueness. Great inspirations totally comfortable in their own strength, femininity, uniqueness who revel in being a woman. I loved your soft and beautiful voiceand the gentle encouraging way you presented your content-rich information. My only criticism is that women of different sizes height etc (that don't fit the slim, tall beauties) were not included. Thanks again Win, Queensland, Australia It would be lovely to see shorter, plumper women with different shapes short, large bust tiny waist and large legs, etc carry their unique styles off as your ladies have.
Hi Audrey, as a husband, I am so glad you share this! Both my wife and I are turning 40, and the other day she told me she’s too old for mini skirt. I kept telling her why is there an age restriction? I think it looks great on her! I’m so glad you share your thought on this. I share this video with her =) And by the way, I LOVE your voice! (The main reason I subscribe to your channel!) it’s so soothing and relaxing! I wish you can do an audio book of some sort =)
I agree.her voice is great! And her approach doesn't sound demanding to require anyone to wear or dont wear this or that. Your wife is gorgeous and I agree you should let her watch this. There's nothing wrong wearing mini skirts at that age.
I think the only rule that applies here is one that is the same regardless of age: choose one area to reveal at a time. If you’re going sleeveless or accenting the décolletage, wear something less revealing on your legs. If your legs will be the main attraction, wear something with more coverage on top (but it doesn’t have to be matronly; a long-sleeve off-the-shoulder top would be great). Putting all the merchandise on the showroom floor at once devalues it, imho.
@@llamasugar5478 devalues it to who? Myself I dress conservatively but I applaud folks who wear whatever, regardless of rules insisting a certain percentage of us should be covered so we maintain our so-called value or taste. Bah! If being seen lowers anyone’s value it should be the looker not the seen.
A long time friend’s grandmother said she NEVER wanted to dress her age. She always wore very tasteful clothes, but she rocked above the knee dresses and wedge heels every summer I saw her until the day she died. That woman’s playful spirit showed through in her clothes and she never let herself get “old and stuffy”. Tell your wife, as long as it’s tasteful & if she loves the way she feels in it, ROCK IT BABE!
I'm close to 74 and I truly wear whatever I feel looks good on me. I love dresses, I love sleeveless tops, all manner of things. If I put something on and make a face when I look in the mirror, I take it off and put it in the donation box that lives in my closet. The only thing I've given up is very high heels because they no longer feel comfortable. I also am a huge makeup fan and every morning I get up, clean up, make up, dress up and show up ..... even if I'm not leaving the house (which is definitely the case here in Florida right now). Thanks for this great video.
Absolutely love your philosophy on fashion. Be yourself not your age. What I enjoy about my age, is being more confident with myself, trusting myself with just being okay with the choices I make.
I'm 49 now. When I was a teen, my mom had a stylist "do my colors". The stylist draped different colored fabrics over my shirt and had me look in a mirror. She showed me how some colors can bring out nice highlights in your own natural skin tone, while others highlight flaws, like blemishes or dark circles under the eyes. She gave me a color wheel and a pocket sized book of sample fabrics to take with me when I went shopping. It was very helpful in determining which colors I should wear near my face, and which colors to avoid.
What a great philosophy, Audrey! I love your videos. I’m 43 and have reduced my wardrobe considerably because I am done playing and now just want lasting quality. So I spend a little more for a classic and I find it lasts years and years. Which is what I did in my 20s too but never realized I was doing it! And yes, people said I too dressed “older” or dressed up too much and too often. Amazing how comments can derail a person’s confidence. But I’m done with that! Life is too short. Dress in a way that makes you feel good and makes you feel like you!
I recently retired and feel free; free to dress down or wear “churchy” outfits regardless of the day of the week! I no longer am bound to “business casual” or restricted from outfits that showcase my femininity. I do not have to blend in; I can express me! After 39 years in the work force, this is extremely liberating.
I so totally agree. I am 72 and recently retired after 48 years as a classroom teacher. I love to look “put together” and find that I have more time now to plan outfits so that when I go somewhere I can look my best.
I'm 27, and I am at this really cool crossroads where for the first time in my life I describe myself as a woman, not a girl, and for the first time I'm starting to have this real affection for my body and this freedom with it. A comfort in my own skin. And what this equates to is that I'm young enough to wear a crop top and show half an inch of skin over my high waisted pants when I'm wearing casual clothes on the weekend, in celebration of this feeling :P I'm also closing on my first year of working in my first career job post grad-school, I built a colour scheme and stuck to it when I first bought workwear pieces, and I was amazed at how confident I felt through the year and how impactful it was to be comfortable and happy in the colours and styles I was wearing. I didn't worry so much about what to wear, I also bought significantly less random pieces because I had a structure to stick to.
(Wife on husband’s account). In my 20s, I discovered clothes and the joy of dressing in a way that reflects my personality and shape/color/etc. In my 30s, I married and had 3 kids; just this past year I turned 40 and (now that my body is my own again) I’ve been trying to discover myself and my style again. My time and energy are stretched thin, but I’m making an effort to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable without being sloppy, and stylish without feeling high maintenance. And my jewelry is undergoing a change, too. Anyway, I really appreciate this video because in so many other places we’re told how we “should” dress, but I’m just not into what they’re pushing. Thank you for allowing me to feel confident in my choices no matter what my age; I appreciate it very much! :-)
Exactly, Audrey! I’ll be 63 tomorrow. I’ve always worn whatever I feel comfortable in. My mom is 81 today and she does exactly the same thing. We both wear shorts all summer! ❤️🇨🇦
Such a refreshing and stylish videos. I am 74 and during lockdown decided to stop coloring my hair. I simply love it and I feel younger and much more free than in my teens. Love pastels all my life and regardless what others think I stick to colors and conservative styles that bring me joy.
I turn 55 tomorrow, and the one gift of aging is that, as you said, I know myself and what makes me look my best. That's mainly button-down oxford shirts, jeans that fit well and flats. I'll pair this with pearls, but before you think "yawn," I'll throw my black moto jacket over the top. I'm also partial to my skull ring, with five small skulls across the band. It's this mix of traditional and rocker that makes me feel confident and comfortable. Keep up the good work, Audrey - appreciate all your videos!
Im 15. I just learned how to really love myself. Sounds kinda cheezy but now i feel really bad when my friends say something bad about themselves. I used to do it too. Things like saying how weird my hair looked that day, etc. seem so small but it makes a world of a difference when i manage to not even think them.
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Aw I love this advice. I’m 30 and started thinking “I shouldn’t wear x, y, or z anymore”. And this helped me realize what I really love to wear. Thank you so much for posting this.
I'm now 53 and I don't feel old at all. I don't wear make up and I wear what makes me feel good. You and I have very different styles but I really appreciate your perspective on dressing and being oneself. Thank you!
This was a great video. As a woman "of a certain age," I totally agree with you. The photos were wonderful; I loved the diversity of women represented.
I'm 27, and at this point, I feel self-love. I look at the mirror, and I don't think of body shaming myself anymore. I feel confident about how I look. I have an outfit for every occasion and weather. I'm surprised when people take inspiration from my outfits or ask me for fashion advice. I think the seasonal color analysis is fundamental to look your best, and I believe RUclipsrs like Audrey Coyne are great at teaching people how to look timeless and classy for any season. I changed my mind about dressing for summer, I learned that this is an elegant season for dresses and sandals and now, I absolutely love dressing up for summer!
I have been 27 for a couple of months, and by far it has been the best age yet for me. The self-love is on 100! I agree with everything you are saying, and Summa is my FAV too! Time out for body shaming and time in for acceptance, because ain't nothing wrong with us. Stay Fabulous ;)
This is a wonderful presentation. I am very proud to be 72 and still enjoying adding to my wardrobe. Recently I moved to a warmer climate and am loving wearing dresses again, almost on a daily basis. It feels great! Thank you for your insightful videos. 🌻
I am 20 years old and I find myself worrying that I will "miss out" if I don't dress in the trends seen in my demographic. Your insight helped me find comfort in wearing what is flattering to me, and what allows me to feel comfortable in my body. I would also like to add that you have such a pleasant voice and I enjoyed listening from start to finish. Thank you for your content, you have gained a subscriber!
I’m in my early 30s now so this was so great, I have found that over time I prefer neutrals so I can add color with my makeup and accesories, and I’m slowly but surely figuring out what I don’t like/need and what works with my style. I’m a concert photographer and I wear a lot of band shirts (I know, “what are you doing here?”), and your videos helped me not only find ways to work it into my outfits and make it look cool but polished, they’re also helping me listen to myself and what my style is without judgement, and ultimately I’ve been happier and more comfortable. Thank you!!!
I’m 64 now and I don’t think the joy of putting an outfit together will ever die. It saw me through cancer treatment a few years ago - yes I’m one of those who saw chemotherapy as a social occasion 😂 and dressed appropriately and comfortably but I like to think I was still stylish. Love your channel Audrey. Whatever the subject it is always a treat. ❤️
Audrey, this is without a doubt the best video of yours. I absolutely loved it. I watched it twice and will watch it many more times. Your perspective on age appropriate dressing was spot on. I am 65 years young and recently started wearing dresses and skirts. It was out of my comfort zone at first, but now I’m truly enjoying it. After discovering “slip shorts” I am wearing dresses and skirts at least 3 days a week. I’m excited each morning to try something new. I especially enjoy skirts with sneakers. Thank you for your point of view on this subject. You are such a refreshing change of pace! I really appreciate all your hard work.
You’re so “sunshiney” and it makes me feel happy and warm listening to you. And very helpful because I’m 40 soon. It can be rather depressing sometimes but I know it’s ridiculous and vain thinking that way. Confidence comes from within, no matter what the age. However, I WILL say that as we age we can’t get away with wearing cheaper clothes, products or make up - everything does get a little bit more expensive.
I recently hit 50, suddenly got my s*** together to lose 40+ pounds and get fit. Not for anyone else, just for me, and the sense of power is amazing. Style-wise, discovered I know exactly what I love and what suits me, it hasn't really changed in 30 years, I had just spent too many decades trying to amend the clothes I wore to disguise the body instead of putting that effort into nurturing the body and sticking with the clothes that are authentically me. Kinda wish it had all happened years ago, but realise it's my 50-ness that flipped the switch, so am trying to ignore any regrets and just enjoy the fresh start!
I am retired and of a "certain age" and after watching your videos I have become inspired to indulge in discovering and wearing "my style" with joy, panache (and maybe even feathers!) I truly appreciate your videos and you are fabulous !!
I LOVED this video. I'm 23 and since I was a teenager I've always loved a classic look, like button downs and blazers - I like looking smart and it works for my face and body, I think. But my mother has never supported me with this because I should "enjoy the body I have while I'm young" and wear young people things like crop tops and "cooler" styles. I think those things are fine and I'm not opposed to a crop top, but I've always resented her telling me I was mad for wanting to dress a certain way. I also saw and continue to see it as dressing for the life I want, not the one I have. This past year I've been making so much progress with identifying my personal style that I've started buying things that I actually love and fit my vision of me and it feels so good. This video has made me think about it consciously and I feel propelled to truly start dressing for myself. Thank you so much, Audrey 💗💗💗
when i was young my mother influenced a lot of what i was wearing (she was paying!) The last time she did I was buying a watch with my own money this time and I let her influence me again. Well I seldom wore that watch which was not my real style....
I can relate too! My mom did not like some of my creative looks when I was a teenager, my grandfather criticised my 'revealing' shorts and my uncle said girls should dress in a feminine way when I wore my brother's trousers. It's horrible to feel that people who love you shame you for what you wear when it clashes with their views. I am on my early thirties now, transitioning to a new stage and exploring my style and color more intentionally and freely than ever before. Damn it feels good :)
I find this bit about blazers amusing. I recently found pictures from my first and second birthday of me rockin' first, a classic box pleated skirt and soft sweater, and second a similar skirt and blazer blazer combo with white piping. Then a little Chanel style slubbed wool suit with hat when I was seven and at twelve a pink box-pleated skirt with matching cropped, floral blazer in pink. (The other photos were black and white.) They were adorable. I've never ended my love affair with skirts and blazers.
I liked this. I get tired of reading articles about what people can and can’t wear at certain ages so it’s nice to see someone advocating for wearing what you like instead of dressing for a certain age. On an unrelated note, I’d love to see a video on jewelry. Specifically, what necklace lengths look good with what necklines on shirts and dresses. Your necklaces always look great with your outfits and I can never seem to find necklaces that look good with my crew necks so I would love guidance on that.
I just turned 30, and now I've finally bought my very first designer bag. It's probably silly, but it just didn't feel right before.. I feel like I've earned it somehow now!
@@martianwalker31 As long as it feels right :) Nothing worse than spending a lot of money on something that is then just going to sit on the shelf because it feels wrong to use it xD
What I love most about being 24 are all the transition phases I’m going through! Graduating college, finding a career, planning a wedding for next spring, and feeling the most confident I have felt in my life! I love that I have accomplished a lot, yet there is still much life to be lived and new things to discover ❤️
Love this. When I was a teenager I use to think “I’ll never dress my age”. Now that I’m in my 30’s I realize the importance of dressing your age. I try to dress somewhat trendy but yet in a way that gains respect...if that makes sense.
Thank you! There's a saying that mutton shouldn't dress like lamb. Young girls can get away with a lot of fashions (especially kooky fashions) that just look wrong on older women. A woman can end up getting a reputation like "that crazy cat lady" or "the witchy woman down the street." I enjoy the fact that I can dress in a more sophisticated way now that I'm a senior and it looks right. I live in very casual town, so flannel shirts and jeans or pastel polos and khakis are about all you see. That's never appealed to me, but now I can trot out my pearls and silk blouses because I don't have to try to look like a 28 year old farm girl.
I totally agree. If you look your age, you need to dress up that looks dignified.I hate to wear shorts, mini skirts when my skin is sagging and wrinkly.
I am 53.. I have always felt boring in what I like to wear. I love the images you have chosen because you have shown that we can develop our personal style and look fantastic. Whatever our age. So exciting. Thank you!
Uplifting video - appreciate your positive spin by asking what we like best about our age. I am over 70, and know I can never wear ruffles or puff sleeves without looking ridiculous! I have also learned, because of my husband’s fashion sense, that I still look good wearing black!
I absolutely love that you encourage us women to find our personal style and appreciate every year we have lived. I am 64 years young, fitter than ever and finally achieved my dream weight after giving birth to six children. Five lived and my last born is this year 20. I love either to dress sportive and elegant or relaxed and comfortable. You are right about investing in good quality items which don't have to cost all that much. Know and understand materials by touching and feeling them. Don't invest ever in unnatural materials as they don't last, make you feel sweaty and smelly. I know as I live on a tropical place. Keep your videos going. I have learnt a lot.
I love how you firmly and friendly posed your disclaimer and the made your point. I agree 100%. I have been wearing flat shoes only for years now and am never going back.
Shoes. Oh lord. I noticed that many of the more mature fashion icons posted with the video were wearing super cute heels, and that the shoe goes a long way to creating a look of style and sophistication. I have bunions. Trying to find bunion friendly footwear isn’t about fashion it’s about wearability. This isn’t a topic that Audrey should have to address, it’s not her world and I wouldn’t ask her. EmpressAustralia makes a stylish wide flat that for me is worth the money and the wait!
Really great video! I'm 72 and have just recently decided on my 'look' and I'm thrilled. V neck white T-shirts and interesting cardigans that have pockets. Skinny jeans or leggings. Heels or tennies, and of course my constant strand of small, asymmetrical pearls. Will check out other videos -- and yes, Age IS a gift!
Thank you for showing so many chic older women! I am 65 years old, petite, and fit. When I was younger I exercised to try to change my shape into whatever was the current fad. At 65, I exercise to feel strong and healthy. I love that change! I may have wrinkles and in places I have saggy skin, but I am still here to enjoy life! What a blessing. In terms of dressing, I have had years to learn what looks good on me and what I feel best in, but every now and then I step out of my comfort zone. I recently bought a jumpsuit and go so many compliments on it!
This is the best advice I’ve seen you give on your channel. My favorite thing about 43 is that I am learning to accept myself - physically, emotionally, mentally - and am better able to communicate that withy loved ones. We need understanding and communication to love and help each other! Each decade has been better and more enlightening that the one before it.
I am 50 (51 in October). I do work outside the home but it's a casual office. I dress for comfort, but I like to look put together. I recently bought blazers because of your videos. I love the look of a blazer with t-shirts, button-ups, and/or casual tops paired with jeans and ankle boots or flats. I'm not much into wearing heels any longer. I also do not spend as much time on my make-up as I did when I was younger (teenager of the 80's...make-up was everything back then) and I find it refreshing to be able to do that and still look put together. Also, I'm in the process of re-configuring my wardrobe (again because of your videos). It was time I simplified my closest. Best part, the ladies in my family are benefiting from my clean out. Thank you for sharing advice and tips.
At 59, what's interesting is that I've sort of gone back to some aspects of how I dressed in my 20's. I just remember how much I loved drama and dressing to make a statement--especially going out to downtown NY clubs in the early 80's. If you weren't a star, you'd better dress like you were on stage for the doormen to let you in! As I got older (and stopped hanging out lol) I moved away from that. Now I'm looking again for statement/investment pieces to mix with staples. I want to shine again. :)
I’m 59 and like the others, I have learned to dress for myself. I am a pants and top girl and that is my base. I have learned that I only like solid neutrals and add color and texture with scarves and blazers. I experiment with different weight pants and tops through the seasons. Everything in my closet goes with everything else, making it a breeze to dress every day.
I'm another 59 year old Donna. And you are so right. I finally decided to just dress in what I like and feel comfortable in. Totally liberating!!!! It might mean beige. It might mean enormous polka dots. But whatever it may be, it's my choice. And my awesome family never rolls their eyes or comments.
My husband keeps complaining about my "granny sweaters" and constantly encourages me to buy clothes I deeply dislike because he thinks I'd look good on them (he has terrible taste in fabric). I struggle constantly with the desire to please him visually and my natural bias towards comfort and covering up my body. I think all of your advices in this video are super useful (plus, your voice is a miracle haha, I love to listen to it). It's about self confidence and putting your own needs first, I suppose. Thank you for your videos.
My ex boyfriend hated that I wore a yellow and beautiful chiffon saree to a continental restaurant. I am an Indian and I carry a saree very well and it makes me feel graceful. He made fun of my dressing sense which I know is good enough and I have been praised for it before. He made fun of my individuality and couldn't accept it. Well now I wear saree whenever I feel like and happily living my life. Embrace your style and individuality. Nothing is more attractive than that .🙂🙂🙂
Ayushi Ghosh I am so glad you are dressing the way you like. Personally, I love sarees too, and wear them to almost all formal occasions. I am still in my late teens so, I do not have a lot of sarees, but you can bet that I am buying a whole lot of them when I am able to get a job. Anyways, I think sarees are eternally graceful and elegant piece of clothing that suit every body shape, height and occasion. Definitely one of the easiest clothing to dress up or down. No matter what anyone says, I am never getting rid of my love for sarees and in my opinion, anyone who cannot appreciate the beauty of sarees doesn’t really have a taste in clothing. They do not have to like to wear it, but they can certainly appreciate the elegance of sarees.
My two cents: Dress for your self, not for others. If you deeply dislike the clothing your husband suggests, that should be the end of it. I love that Audrey herself noted in the video that she shed the thinking of dressing up as how others think she should, and it made her much happier. Do what makes you happy.
I only really started to be comfortable and dress for myself once I hit 30. I never thought much about what I wore before that, but it's given me such a freedom of expression and genuine excitement every day. I love wearing oversized clothes, jeans and more tailored pieces like blazers. I am inspired by Korean fashion a lot and sometimes that gets me odd looks here in Ireland :)) but I've come to think of it as "they stare because i'm just too cool :))
Me too.I wore anything that I was given or bought until 25. Then from 30s discovered my style but limited to that..and now at 40 want to try something else that will be new and comfy for me.
I'm 26, and I love that I can dress to look "professional", because I actually have a profession. I love that I am finally comfortable enough in my own skin to wear more dramatic outfits, and I'm secure enough to prioritize comfort and practicality. And I love that I am able to buy items of clothing that are of higher quality, and have a better fit (and pockets!), now that I am no longer a student.
I’m 65 and I found that I love to wear slightly fitted tunics from mid thigh to above the ankle. Combined with leggings, straight pants or chinos. Slightly fitted tops, polos or sweaters mostly navy with dashes of peach jade green or turquoise scarves, bags, head scarves and feature earrings as my only jewellery. This allows for simplicity and flexibility from 2” heels to boots, and flats. All figured out with the help of beautiful Audrey and The Curated Closet. Love your inspiration Audrey 🥰
I have looked younger than my actual age for most of my life, in attempt to look my age I tend to dress older, like a senior older. Honestly I'm still trying to figure my style out, thank you for this video!
Recently my grandma told my mother she should cut her hair short because „that’s what you do“. My mom just laughed it off; she is 45 and has the most gorgeous brunette full hair with just a few greys peaking through, which make her even prettier :)
Thanks so much for this, I especially appreciate the still pictures you incorporated of real women without the overfilled cheekbones and overplump lips we see on so many insta pictures. Nothing against those things but I think lovely young women are using them s little too early and often. I’m over 50 and am loving my closet, color palette and the ability to spend on a few really nice things. I stick to classics, solids and neutrals and accent with scarves. I add statement costume jewelry from my grandmother’s roaring twenties collection to give my understated clothes a funky spin.
“Dressing Your Truth” is such a fantastic (free) course to help you totally nail a color palette that honors you! What I love about it is it also helps you with patterns (!), design lines (silhouettes), fabric textures, and much more. DYT helped me so much with identifying precisely why I am drawn to certain pieces and not to others. It makes shopping and thrifting such an easier thing!
This is such an inspiring video to just be comfortable in your skin, your clothes and style. I'm 20 but my preference has always been more sophisticated and simple. And I absolutely love it and how I feel in it. Despite being told that I dress older and more mature I still incorporate it in every piece. Thank you for a beautiful video.
I’m happy to have watched this again. As I’ve just turned 36 I’ve wondered if it’s time to clear out my closet of all the clothing and shoes I’ve had since my 20’s and “grow up” a little bit. This video helped clear a lot of that confusion. Thanks Audrey 😊💙
I love how positive this video is! I am moving into my late 40s, and my style has always been kind of quirky changing from bright colors and glitter to concert t-shirts and jeans, depending on my mood.
I’m terribly pleased that you’ve collaborated my theory on “dressing my age,” because I was beginning falter. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful, and logical advice on having a color palette etc. I’ve only see a few of your videos, but I look forward to seeing many more.
Hi sisters! I'm 63 and still young at heart. The best thing about this age is I can look in the mirror and smile...not at the movie star/model I once ached to be but at an old familiar friend. I have more understanding and tolerance of myself and no longer want the things I don't have. You're right - every year is a blessing. I have laughter lines because I laugh a lot. I have creases on my forehead because I think a lot. And I have great knees that I love to show off. Rock on girls (and boys!) - we were all born to be fabulous!
I love this message. It’s unique because I am use to hearing “ when women turn 40 she should NOT wear this, and that.” The message here is to make sure what u wear makes u happy, look and fit well ( your comfort level) and something that expresses who you are as a person.
Love your top. It echoes the classic Willow plate. It's a stunning color. I'm 65 and I'm an Autumn season, but your advice transcends all seasons and allows me to insert any of my own muted colors. My favorite pieces right now would be a wide leg Palazzo pant and tank top... comfortable and timeless. Thanks for all the inspiration and guidance.
In my mid twenties, I finally got a sense of worth and started adjusting clothes to me (my lifestyle, my body type, my sense of comfort etc.) instead of trying adjusting me to the clothes that were available/ in fashion/ visually appealing.
I’m in my mid-40s and am going through earlier than average peri-menopause so, honestly, I’m struggling with my body image a bit. But I do have a more relaxed attitude towards myself and care less about what other people think; I’m less concerned about trends although I do pay attention because I love fashion. A topic I think that’s related to this one is dressing for your lifestyle. Many of us at one time have collected or made clothes for our ideal selves or a fantasy lifestyle which is far from practical! For example, I like to sew and I’m always attracted to pretty dresses and wanting to make them out of delicate fabric and/or silk and I finally realized that I had a closet full of clothes I never wear. So then I wrote down the activities I actually do and places I actually go. I started creating Pinterest boards of women gardening or working on flower farm who at the same time looked very stylish (because I spend a lot of time gardening!). I also started to sew more pretty nightgowns and robes because I spend a lot of time wearing those too. 😅 I would love to know your take on this: transitioning from shopping for your fantasy self to your real self whilst still looking and feeling put together. Maybe others would also find this topic helpful to explore?
I totally understand you about the menopause. I was 38 when I started going through it (not peri-menopausal, but actual, real menopause), and found the symptoms accompanying it making me very sef-conscious. Then, I sat down and had a proper chat with myself. The conclusion was that I wasn't going to change anything about how I dress, except for going for more breathable materials and a wee wider cuts for the first two years because of the hot flashes. Now that I am through that (what a relief!), and turned 43, I went back to my original style. But still wearing looser cuts as well, because I discovered I actually quite enjoyed them. Bravo for recognising your ideal self vs your real self, and dressing accordingly. Wishing you all the best. 🖤
I'm in my early 30s and I'm still in that phase where I tend to shop for my fantasy self, looking for all sort of reasons to buy that very cute dress that I will mostly likely hardly ever wear... Some people say to dress for the life you want to have, but it can be quite an impractical advice. Reading your comment made me want to look for the beautiful parts of my real self that I can let show through my choice of clothing. If that makes any sense 😅so thank you! And yes, I'm curious on what Audrey would say about this!
Audrey, I am 34 and at this age, I feel that I am truly coming into my own "brand" of personal style. I have begun to ignore trends. I have started to focus on garment cut and color. When an item has a beautiful color, it empowers me.
Like Audrey, I have always been petite, which led to a lot of comments about how young I looked during my teens and 20s. I once was even mistaken for a student at the elementary school where I worked (at age 28!). This caused me to choose styles that I felt were mature, professional, and “grown up” and avoid youthful styles and silhouettes. Now in my mid-thirties, I embrace the “youthful” styles that I love (skirts, dresses, shorts, etc.) and wear them because they because they make me feel comfortable and like myself. I encourage anyone who has felt the same to embrace your personal tastes.
😭 I also got mistaken for a child while picking up my kids from school when I was in my mid twenties. Secretary asked, "Can I help you??" I told her that I was getting my kids and she was embarrassed. I'm 5'1 and still get told that I look like a child while my 3 of my 5 children tower around me 😂 ugh
After graduating from university, I moved to Japan. I'm so thankful for the opportunity to live here for 2 years! Moving so far from my support network & comfort zone was a challenge, but has been so valuable in my personal growth and finding my independence/style/identity (all works in progress though). Style-wise, it's allowed me to experiment with things (hats, fits, colors, etc) without dealing with comments from people you know like "why are you wearing XYZ?", "Who are you trying to be?", "That's not your thing??". Thus, I have chosen elements from western and Japanese styles that fit me the best and have created a comfortable/genuine wardrobe (expat hybrid style?? haha). I am moving home next month and I feel proud to return as an improved version of myself. Excited for the next chapter :)
Now I'm in my fifties it's great to have clearer skin without hormonal outbreaks. I also don't feel any pressure to be 'fashionable' but at the same time really enjoy fashion.
I love how your voice ebbs and flows. Thank you for making this video. I'm 25 and feel like I don't know who I am and I express myself largely through fashion. I love thrift stores and vintage stores and creating my own jewelry. Like most 25 year olds, I'm rediscovering who I am with my career, my needs, desires, and sense of who I am. Your tips and encouragement made me feel less overwhelmed and more excited to find out about myself again with clothing. Thank you!
I love this so much and your style philosophy. And I love how you said “Age is a Gift”. I like my style a lot more than I did in my teens/20’s/30’s I feel like I’m more secure With who I am and I love playing with colour. Thank you again for another wonderful video.
Love the blouse you are wearing! I think the clothes that make you smile are the ones that are comfortable. The shoes that wobble or pinch, the waist you can barely breathe, the dress you are afraid to expose yourself in, steal your confidence, therefore your smile.
This is such an encouraging video, Audrey! To tell the truth I was expecting a set of rules that you adhere to and it was *such* a breath of fresh air to hear you use such freedom of intuition! I love your advice!! You are so wise. I am a mom of young kids in my early 30s and what I love about dressing my age is how I began discovering my personal style (despite running after little kids and changing diapers!) I hated how “frumpy” my wardrobe had gotten (and how frumpy moms tend to dress) and I wanted to change that about myself. I wasn’t happy, I was depressed and felt like a hot mess and like I could barely function. I wanted to show up to my life like the woman I aspired to be: loving, patient, kind, and elegant. And my clothes were clashing with who I wanted to be! Since what I wore was one of the *few* things I could control, I resolved to begin getting dressed in a way that gave me self-respect and dignity. I’ve been able to thrift and buy second hand clothing and it has been so helpful help me identify what I love and don’t love. Truly, sticking with a color palette has been huge in eliminating buyer’s remorse. And it turns out, everything that I admired when I was a teenager, looking through clothing magazines at my grandmother’s house, is exactly what I love today. I loved seeing women wearing classic Safari style shirtdress. I found a tan one at Old Navy when I was about 17 and I wore it ALL the time. It just took me over 15 years to realize that you CAN dress the way that you love. I remember being about 15 years old and my eyes going wide and my breath catching when I saw a picture of a classy woman wearing a Ralph Lauren style military blazer, with equestrian buttons running down the front, a white/cream colored Ruffle shirt underneath, and neutral slim trousers tucked into knee high boots. THAT is how I would dress one day if I could, I thought. Years came and went, I mostly wore scrubs for work, then became a mom and my personal style went drown the drain, and I kind of lost myself. Now, I have been on a journey to reconnect myself with what I always innately knew that I loved. A Collared shirtdress, a silk scarf, a bit of equestrian flair; I’m just so happy to have the opportunity now to honor the dreams of that young girl of fifteen when she wished she could wear classy, elegant outfits, with neutral colors and utilize layers and vests, and wear those riding style boots! 🥰 I also feel that I am showing my young kids what it looks like when a woman respects herself and honors her body. 💕
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"Age is a gift. The older we get, the luckier we are to see another year"
I really in love with her quotes here
This is wisdom people don’t realize it
Agree 😇
True for humans because they have short lived lives.
Beautiful attitude. Priceless.
Thank you for this video. As an 82 year old senior, a classic dresser I decided to go gray with my hair when I was turning 80. I’m so glad I did. Inside I don’t feel my age and sometimes have to stop myself from feeling much younger. However, always positive and loving travel, I met a man (my age) who has many similar attributes as myself. He’s brought so much joy to my life and vice versa. Who says life is dull and boring at 80. We don’t.
God bless you for finding joy and for inspiring me as a 60 yr old! 💖I want your sense of style and confidence!
Don't EVER stop yourself from feeling younger - be your authentic self! Too many act old before their time -
so inspiring to hear your story. how i wish to find someone soon too 😉😊
Looking forward to 82♥️
What a wonderful comment ❤️Wish you so much more joy
I LOVE this video for two big reasons: 1) the affirming message that we should dress in the ways that make us happy, and 2) the wonderful selection of pictures of women of all ages, races, sizes, etc. dressing with so much gorgeous style!
Totally agree with this comment! As for me, you helped me know what my color palette is, and I decided to try a faux leather legging after one of your videos, although I am in my fifties and I would not have dared before. It happens to suit my body type, I love to wear them, and my husband and my four children always compliment me about them!
There’s only white and black women so I wouldn’t call it that diverse😅
Brendons Forehead
There was an Asian
I am almost 36 and have a terminal illness. Getting old is such a privilege and fashion is a huge part of my life. Love your videos. Xx
God bless you.
God bless you
Awwe 😢 ❤
My mom was a real Southern Belle. She wore beautiful hats and tied ribbons or scarves on them to match her outfit. She always had on her red lipstick and as her curly hair turned white she was more stunning than ever. Her clothes always fit just right and heads turned when she walked into a room. She kept it up until she passed away a year and a half ago at age 90.
Your mom sounds like an icon of beauty style and elegance. So sorry for your great loss 💝
Wow...
She must have been one memorable woman💙
♥️♥️♥️❌
She sounds like a Disney Princess 🥺 WOW
Really enjoying this comment section with women of all ages showing self-love. Thank you, Audrey!
I'm still in my 20s but people have always said that I dress like an "old woman" so watching your videos has really helped me to start considering what I value in my personal style and how I can marry together my young-ish age and my love for more classic, structured, pieces that a lot of people my age don't consider trendy. Thank you Audrey for all the work you do!
Old people honestly have the best clothes. Vintage pieces are so stunning
when I was 20 I was told I was not feminine enough! I learned to wear "masculine looking" clothes and add some feminine touches (that I like!) like jewellery, scarves, belts, bags and I am completely happy with my style...
I also had the same problem in my 20s. I was always criticised for my matured dressing sense and even worse I was compared with my mother in law how her dress ups look more young-ish and not mine. I have now gained the confidence to present myself the way I want and ignore what others say or think or how they want to see me.
I heard that too! I like how classy older ladies dress!
I am also in my twenties, and I love a style based on the 1950s. I feel that because I am so young, people around me think it's kind of "cool" to dress so vintage, because I can "get away with it". But I have been a bit worried that as I age, my style will age me faster. Because in a few years I don't have that juxtaposition of a "young" person in an "old-fashioned" style. This video is a step in learning to be ok with that. Vintage styles is something I'm passionate about, and I don't see that going away any time soon.
I am 35 and never felt so womanly and beautiful. I finally understand that my style are dresses from natural fabrics (linen), skirts and flowers in my hair. Finally I don't care if people like it. I started to think about my colors and it helps so much :) thank you Audrey, you have so much kindness in you.
I care if people like what I wear because the only reason I wear clothes at all is for other people. By myself, I don't wear clothes at all.
@@edennis8578 so you walk around naked at home? 😂
So good to know.
I love flowers ..real ones to decorate my hair.But worried what people would say and gave up.
My mom used to decoarte my long hair with flowers (from our garden) every day when I was young.
My age has brought me a confidence I never had before. I am enjoying my 30s way more than my 20s. This is reflected in my clothing as well.
surmadas same here! 30 is the new 20 😀
Me too
Same. There are clothes I wear now that I was afraid to wear in my 20s. I was thinner then yet I feel more comfortable now.
Wait till you get to your 50s! You lose your body hangups and really understand yourself and your preferences. You can often also afford quality clothes with more ease as there are less demands on your wallet. But enjoy the whole journey. It is a precious gift in all it's stages.
same here with me..
Don’t dress like you have aged, dress like you have LIVED. ♥️
I am thankful that I have lived long enough to begin to shed the fears and pressures of dressing for others. Every outfit tells our story, however long.
I am keen to see people shifting to this view of fashion where we are not marketing ourselves but using clothes as a way to express the uniqueness of our experience and our soul.
Every Outfit tells a story. so true.
Infact for me every outfit brings back memories of when I wore it first time and have got some good durable clothes that are 2 decades old.
Dress shabbily and they remember the dress, dress impeccably and they remember the woman. - Coco Chanel 💗
Coco got it right. Still true today.
🖤
Thank you for sharing this quote 😀
oh I love that!
Absolutely love that❤️
Your inner beauty literally pours out of you.
🥰🥰🥰 you are too kind! Thank you so much for spreading such light and love. You made my whole week ❤️❤️ sending you a virtual hug xx
I'm 71 and have learned to dress to suit myself. At this age I no longer think about what others think. I love classic styles and I also love color. I still wear shorts only now they are usually in the form of a skort. That gives me shorts but the look of wearing a skirt. Fashion is fun.
Preach!
Dressing to suit yourself is such a good way of putting it!
Love that! You sound like a fun lady
I need someone like you in my life 💞
Me, too! Skorts are my summer go to. I have a huge collection so I have something for most occasions and everyone just think I'm wearing a skirt💚
I’m 50+ and I love the confidence I’ve gained over the years. My mom passed in July at 92 and loved all the latest style!!She loved her tailor and cleaners. Everything she wore had to be pressed. Mom wore makeup and pantyhose😜. At the end of her life I hope we honored her style by keeping her & bedding cleaned, lotion her skin, combing her hair and having her presentable to visitors! I hope to my end I’ll maintain my own inward & outward style, beauty and uniqueness💕
My closet is jeans, tops, and kimonos. I have a boho style and being retired, i want comfort. 66 yrs young here! I love your videos! You are full of grace and kindness!
I really appreciate this video. I'm in my mid-forties and started thinking "am I dressed appropriately for my age"? I thought this video was going to be "20's: mini-skirts, trendy clothes" to "50's: start dressing more conservatively". So I truly appreciate the comment that "we should dress how we want". And as I understand it, this video is saying "stay true to yourself" no matter what age. Thank you!
Audrey, I so enjoyed this video. I am 73 and I gave myself permission many years ago to be me. While many women do this, they somehow forget to translate that permission to their closets. Getting up and deciding how I want to present myself for the day is still such a deljght...you are so spot on. Love your channel, Thanks, Linda
It’s like listening to the Bob Ross of minimalism, fashion and practicality. There’s no mistakes, it’s just figuring out your personal style 🙂
I love this
I agree! Even her sweet, soft voice is soothing like Bob Ross. I could listen to her all day - and she gives great advice too!
I'm 19 and finally starting to experiment with my style. I love that I'm able to do this and that I'm figuring out who I am and what my style is. I sew outfits and customize thrifted clothes so I feel like my style is a full representation of who I am:)
hihi nope ...I encourage you to continue sewing and experimenting with
your style which will evolve as you age. I too have sewn most of my life
and love adapting and changing patterns, working with textures and color.
It’s so much fun. I have been stopped a few times and complemented on
how I look, which always makes me blush, mostly because I’m 67 now and
with silver gray hair and only 5’2”. But, when I’m feeling a little down, I remember
those encounters and I am reminded that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”
and I’m grateful for those kind people.
I once heard " I do not know how to behave, act or dress my age. I've never been this age before." . Needless to say this changed my life. I admire people who choose to express themselves through their clothes, as I've always done this myself. I may dress more mainstream now, but I'm working on fusing my former style and what I wish for my future together. I'm just discovering more and more colors that suit me well, or do not. It such a fun journey.
I'm 29 and I've been experiencing "age pressure". I sometimes still compare myself to my peers and get disappointed because I feel like I'm behind. I constantly need to remind myself that life is not a race and that I am robbing myself of happiness by subjecting my mind to this kind of thoughts. I'm slowly having less and less care on superficial metrics such as finances, belongings, achievements and so forth. I try to pursue what really matters to me. It's a work in progress.
I'm the same age as you, and I relate so much!
Me three :-) totally relate
I'm 29 as well and I can relate
It's normal at your age ,with time you will find yourself and be content with yourself.
i truly enjoyed your offering. I'm 66 and wear clothes i love vintage from op shops and garage sales wear despite negative comments from siblings.
The photos showed amazingly confident women of all ages celebrating their uniqueness. Great inspirations totally comfortable in their own strength, femininity, uniqueness who revel in being a woman.
I loved your soft and beautiful voiceand the gentle encouraging way you presented your content-rich information.
My only criticism is that women of different sizes height etc (that don't fit the slim, tall beauties) were not included.
Thanks again
Win, Queensland, Australia
It would be lovely to see shorter, plumper women with different shapes short, large bust tiny waist and large legs, etc carry their unique styles off as your ladies have.
Hi Audrey, as a husband, I am so glad you share this!
Both my wife and I are turning 40, and the other day she told me she’s too old for mini skirt. I kept telling her why is there an age restriction? I think it looks great on her!
I’m so glad you share your thought on this. I share this video with her =)
And by the way, I LOVE your voice! (The main reason I subscribe to your channel!) it’s so soothing and relaxing! I wish you can do an audio book of some sort =)
thats so sweet 💗
I agree.her voice is great! And her approach doesn't sound demanding to require anyone to wear or dont wear this or that.
Your wife is gorgeous and I agree you should let her watch this. There's nothing wrong wearing mini skirts at that age.
I think the only rule that applies here is one that is the same regardless of age: choose one area to reveal at a time. If you’re going sleeveless or accenting the décolletage, wear something less revealing on your legs. If your legs will be the main attraction, wear something with more coverage on top (but it doesn’t have to be matronly; a long-sleeve off-the-shoulder top would be great).
Putting all the merchandise on the showroom floor at once devalues it, imho.
@@llamasugar5478 devalues it to who? Myself I dress conservatively but I applaud folks who wear whatever, regardless of rules insisting a certain percentage of us should be covered so we maintain our so-called value or taste. Bah! If being seen lowers anyone’s value it should be the looker not the seen.
A long time friend’s grandmother said she NEVER wanted to dress her age. She always wore very tasteful clothes, but she rocked above the knee dresses and wedge heels every summer I saw her until the day she died. That woman’s playful spirit showed through in her clothes and she never let herself get “old and stuffy”. Tell your wife, as long as it’s tasteful & if she loves the way she feels in it, ROCK IT BABE!
I'm close to 74 and I truly wear whatever I feel looks good on me. I love dresses, I love sleeveless tops, all manner of things. If I put something on and make a face when I look in the mirror, I take it off and put it in the donation box that lives in my closet. The only thing I've given up is very high heels because they no longer feel comfortable. I also am a huge makeup fan and every morning I get up, clean up, make up, dress up and show up ..... even if I'm not leaving the house (which is definitely the case here in Florida right now). Thanks for this great video.
71 and ditto🙂💐
Good for you, great attitude.
I will use the "make a face"! That and closet donation box. Thanks so much!
@@j.m.7056 You are so welcome!
I am 66 and do the very same thing. I don’t want to pass the mirror and wince! I also want to look nice for my husband.
Absolutely love your philosophy on fashion. Be yourself not your age. What I enjoy about my age, is being more confident with myself, trusting myself with just being okay with the choices I make.
I watched this with my mom, who is 73 and I'm 40, and we both loved it. Wonderful tips!
I'm 49 now. When I was a teen, my mom had a stylist "do my colors". The stylist draped different colored fabrics over my shirt and had me look in a mirror. She showed me how some colors can bring out nice highlights in your own natural skin tone, while others highlight flaws, like blemishes or dark circles under the eyes. She gave me a color wheel and a pocket sized book of sample fabrics to take with me when I went shopping. It was very helpful in determining which colors I should wear near my face, and which colors to avoid.
I’m a winter.
Bless your mom, she so helped you become à confident young woman!
I did that, too! A friend was a color consultant and did our group’s colors. It works and I’ve stuck with it for 30+ years.
What a great philosophy, Audrey! I love your videos. I’m 43 and have reduced my wardrobe considerably because I am done playing and now just want lasting quality. So I spend a little more for a classic and I find it lasts years and years. Which is what I did in my 20s too but never realized I was doing it! And yes, people said I too dressed “older” or dressed up too much and too often. Amazing how comments can derail a person’s confidence. But I’m done with that! Life is too short. Dress in a way that makes you feel good and makes you feel like you!
I recently retired and feel free; free to dress down or wear “churchy” outfits regardless of the day of the week! I no longer am bound to “business casual” or restricted from outfits that showcase my femininity. I do not have to blend in; I can express me! After 39 years in the work force, this is extremely liberating.
I so totally agree. I am 72 and recently retired after 48 years as a classroom teacher. I love to look “put together” and find that I have more time now to plan outfits so that when I go somewhere I can look my best.
I'm 27, and I am at this really cool crossroads where for the first time in my life I describe myself as a woman, not a girl, and for the first time I'm starting to have this real affection for my body and this freedom with it. A comfort in my own skin. And what this equates to is that I'm young enough to wear a crop top and show half an inch of skin over my high waisted pants when I'm wearing casual clothes on the weekend, in celebration of this feeling :P I'm also closing on my first year of working in my first career job post grad-school, I built a colour scheme and stuck to it when I first bought workwear pieces, and I was amazed at how confident I felt through the year and how impactful it was to be comfortable and happy in the colours and styles I was wearing. I didn't worry so much about what to wear, I also bought significantly less random pieces because I had a structure to stick to.
(Wife on husband’s account). In my 20s, I discovered clothes and the joy of dressing in a way that reflects my personality and shape/color/etc. In my 30s, I married and had 3 kids; just this past year I turned 40 and (now that my body is my own again) I’ve been trying to discover myself and my style again. My time and energy are stretched thin, but I’m making an effort to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable without being sloppy, and stylish without feeling high maintenance. And my jewelry is undergoing a change, too. Anyway, I really appreciate this video because in so many other places we’re told how we “should” dress, but I’m just not into what they’re pushing. Thank you for allowing me to feel confident in my choices no matter what my age; I appreciate it very much! :-)
Exactly, Audrey! I’ll be 63 tomorrow. I’ve always worn whatever I feel comfortable in. My mom is 81 today and she does exactly the same thing. We both wear shorts all summer! ❤️🇨🇦
Happy Birthday from BC 🇨🇦
Michelle Lambert, have a great birthday! 🎂
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Happy birthday in advance!💕💕💕
Happy Birthday to u!
Such a refreshing and stylish videos. I am 74 and during lockdown decided to stop coloring my hair. I simply love it and I feel younger and much more free than in my teens. Love pastels all my life and regardless what others think I stick to colors and conservative styles that bring me joy.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I turn 55 tomorrow, and the one gift of aging is that, as you said, I know myself and what makes me look my best. That's mainly button-down oxford shirts, jeans that fit well and flats. I'll pair this with pearls, but before you think "yawn," I'll throw my black moto jacket over the top. I'm also partial to my skull ring, with five small skulls across the band. It's this mix of traditional and rocker that makes me feel confident and comfortable. Keep up the good work, Audrey - appreciate all your videos!
That sounds sooo cool! I'm 19 and would 100% wear this style
Happy birthday!!
@@martaleitao9419 Thanks, Marta! It was a good one.
Im 15. I just learned how to really love myself. Sounds kinda cheezy but now i feel really bad when my friends say something bad about themselves. I used to do it too. Things like saying how weird my hair looked that day, etc. seem so small but it makes a world of a difference when i manage to not even think them.
This really spoke to me as I love to express myself through my clothes. I am well into my sixties and still enjoy choosing my clothes for each day.
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Aw I love this advice. I’m 30 and started thinking “I shouldn’t wear x, y, or z anymore”. And this helped me realize what I really love to wear. Thank you so much for posting this.
I'm now 53 and I don't feel old at all. I don't wear make up and I wear what makes me feel good. You and I have very different styles but I really appreciate your perspective on dressing and being oneself. Thank you!
I’m 16, so my favorite experience has been finding out more about myself and preparing for my future
This was a great video. As a woman "of a certain age," I totally agree with you. The photos were wonderful; I loved the diversity of women represented.
I was going to comment the same. So refreshing.
Yes, that was wonderful!
Well said!
@@aplusjba Hello Katherine, how are you doing?
I’m 69, my style has changed over time, but I always go back to what makes me feel good. I love your channel.
I'm 27, and at this point, I feel self-love. I look at the mirror, and I don't think of body shaming myself anymore. I feel confident about how I look. I have an outfit for every occasion and weather. I'm surprised when people take inspiration from my outfits or ask me for fashion advice. I think the seasonal color analysis is fundamental to look your best, and I believe RUclipsrs like Audrey Coyne are great at teaching people how to look timeless and classy for any season. I changed my mind about dressing for summer, I learned that this is an elegant season for dresses and sandals and now, I absolutely love dressing up for summer!
I have been 27 for a couple of months, and by far it has been the best age yet for me. The self-love is on 100! I agree with everything you are saying, and Summa is my FAV too! Time out for body shaming and time in for acceptance, because ain't nothing wrong with us. Stay Fabulous ;)
Hey I just turned 27 too.
I just turned 28, and I felt the same way about 27
You got me when you said there is no dressing your age, thank you, you're my first subscription ever.x
This is a wonderful presentation. I am very proud to be 72 and still enjoying adding to my wardrobe. Recently I moved to a warmer climate and am loving wearing dresses again, almost on a daily basis. It feels great! Thank you for your insightful videos. 🌻
Yes, dresses are so comfortable and airy and feminine and fun!
Hello Carolyn, how are you doing?😊
I am 20 years old and I find myself worrying that I will "miss out" if I don't dress in the trends seen in my demographic. Your insight helped me find comfort in wearing what is flattering to me, and what allows me to feel comfortable in my body. I would also like to add that you have such a pleasant voice and I enjoyed listening from start to finish. Thank you for your content, you have gained a subscriber!
I’m in my early 30s now so this was so great, I have found that over time I prefer neutrals so I can add color with my makeup and accesories, and I’m slowly but surely figuring out what I don’t like/need and what works with my style. I’m a concert photographer and I wear a lot of band shirts (I know, “what are you doing here?”), and your videos helped me not only find ways to work it into my outfits and make it look cool but polished, they’re also helping me listen to myself and what my style is without judgement, and ultimately I’ve been happier and more comfortable. Thank you!!!
On my early 60's & I think what I like best about my age is my increased insight into other people. ❤️ Ty, Audrey, for all you do.
I’m 64 now and I don’t think the joy of putting an outfit together will ever die. It saw me through cancer treatment a few years ago - yes I’m one of those who saw chemotherapy as a social occasion 😂 and dressed appropriately and comfortably but I like to think I was still stylish.
Love your channel Audrey. Whatever the subject it is always a treat. ❤️
Loved this video!! Know yourself and what you feel good in! Bravo!
God bless! I hope you are doing well! 🙏🏻💖
Hello Mary, how are you doing?😊
Audrey, this is without a doubt the best video of yours. I absolutely loved it. I watched it twice and will watch it many more times. Your perspective on age appropriate dressing was spot on. I am 65 years young and recently started wearing dresses and skirts. It was out of my comfort zone at first, but now I’m truly enjoying it. After discovering “slip shorts” I am wearing dresses and skirts at least 3 days a week. I’m excited each morning to try something new. I especially enjoy skirts with sneakers. Thank you for your point of view on this subject. You are such a refreshing change of pace! I really appreciate all your hard work.
I dress to my soul desires. . Not according to my birthday. 🙂 Your tips are always helpful and i find so great you share other images as well 💖
By that i mean i love how you feature other women of all walks of life. It is so great to be so open and absorb all of their beautiful style.
You’re so “sunshiney” and it makes me feel happy and warm listening to you. And very helpful because I’m 40 soon. It can be rather depressing sometimes but I know it’s ridiculous and vain thinking that way. Confidence comes from within, no matter what the age.
However, I WILL say that as we age we can’t get away with wearing cheaper clothes, products or make up - everything does get a little bit more expensive.
I dress however I want, I wear what suits my curvy body. I wear what’s appropriate for the occasion. Love you so very much sweet lady.
I recently hit 50, suddenly got my s*** together to lose 40+ pounds and get fit. Not for anyone else, just for me, and the sense of power is amazing. Style-wise, discovered I know exactly what I love and what suits me, it hasn't really changed in 30 years, I had just spent too many decades trying to amend the clothes I wore to disguise the body instead of putting that effort into nurturing the body and sticking with the clothes that are authentically me. Kinda wish it had all happened years ago, but realise it's my 50-ness that flipped the switch, so am trying to ignore any regrets and just enjoy the fresh start!
I love how you have such a body-positive and inclusive attitude towards fashion Audrey! It is so refreshing
👍 agree
I am retired and of a "certain age" and after watching your videos I have become inspired to indulge in discovering and wearing "my style" with joy, panache (and maybe even feathers!) I truly appreciate your videos and you are fabulous !!
I LOVED this video. I'm 23 and since I was a teenager I've always loved a classic look, like button downs and blazers - I like looking smart and it works for my face and body, I think. But my mother has never supported me with this because I should "enjoy the body I have while I'm young" and wear young people things like crop tops and "cooler" styles. I think those things are fine and I'm not opposed to a crop top, but I've always resented her telling me I was mad for wanting to dress a certain way. I also saw and continue to see it as dressing for the life I want, not the one I have. This past year I've been making so much progress with identifying my personal style that I've started buying things that I actually love and fit my vision of me and it feels so good. This video has made me think about it consciously and I feel propelled to truly start dressing for myself. Thank you so much, Audrey 💗💗💗
when i was young my mother influenced a lot of what i was wearing (she was paying!) The last time she did I was buying a watch with my own money this time and I let her influence me again. Well I seldom wore that watch which was not my real style....
I can relate too! My mom did not like some of my creative looks when I was a teenager, my grandfather criticised my 'revealing' shorts and my uncle said girls should dress in a feminine way when I wore my brother's trousers. It's horrible to feel that people who love you shame you for what you wear when it clashes with their views. I am on my early thirties now, transitioning to a new stage and exploring my style and color more intentionally and freely than ever before. Damn it feels good :)
@@janicevin4207 I can relate, it's happened too many times to me! That's why I'm done with it now!
@@ireneg.m.9365 yesss it feels so good! I'm sorry you've also had experiences like that but now's our time to shine! 😆
I find this bit about blazers amusing. I recently found pictures from my first and second birthday of me rockin' first, a classic box pleated skirt and soft sweater, and second a similar skirt and blazer blazer combo with white piping. Then a little Chanel style slubbed wool suit with hat when I was seven and at twelve a pink box-pleated skirt with matching cropped, floral blazer in pink. (The other photos were black and white.) They were adorable. I've never ended my love affair with skirts and blazers.
I liked this. I get tired of reading articles about what people can and can’t wear at certain ages so it’s nice to see someone advocating for wearing what you like instead of dressing for a certain age.
On an unrelated note, I’d love to see a video on jewelry. Specifically, what necklace lengths look good with what necklines on shirts and dresses. Your necklaces always look great with your outfits and I can never seem to find necklaces that look good with my crew necks so I would love guidance on that.
I just turned 30, and now I've finally bought my very first designer bag. It's probably silly, but it just didn't feel right before.. I feel like I've earned it somehow now!
Congrats😍😍😍big moment!
I'm 29 and still feel too young for a designer bag, another 5 years or so and I'm ready :D
@@martianwalker31 As long as it feels right :) Nothing worse than spending a lot of money on something that is then just going to sit on the shelf because it feels wrong to use it xD
Me too and same age. Just got my first Chanel last week. I think I should enjoy my life and myself more in my 30s
@@annlovecc congratulations on the Chanel! 🤩
What I love most about being 24 are all the transition phases I’m going through! Graduating college, finding a career, planning a wedding for next spring, and feeling the most confident I have felt in my life! I love that I have accomplished a lot, yet there is still much life to be lived and new things to discover ❤️
Good for you! I'm in my lates 20s and feel so lost regarding career, relationship etc.
@@noCRAPplz that’s perfectly normal, it just means you’re still learning about yourself! Lean into the process :)
Love this. When I was a teenager I use to think “I’ll never dress my age”. Now that I’m in my 30’s I realize the importance of dressing your age. I try to dress somewhat trendy but yet in a way that gains respect...if that makes sense.
Thank you! There's a saying that mutton shouldn't dress like lamb. Young girls can get away with a lot of fashions (especially kooky fashions) that just look wrong on older women. A woman can end up getting a reputation like "that crazy cat lady" or "the witchy woman down the street." I enjoy the fact that I can dress in a more sophisticated way now that I'm a senior and it looks right. I live in very casual town, so flannel shirts and jeans or pastel polos and khakis are about all you see. That's never appealed to me, but now I can trot out my pearls and silk blouses because I don't have to try to look like a 28 year old farm girl.
I totally agree. If you look your age, you need to dress up that looks dignified.I hate to wear shorts, mini skirts when my skin is sagging and wrinkly.
Eh, I’m 47. I’ll wear what I want. My clothes fit and are flattering for my body type. But I’m not going to dress like one of the Golden Girls.
I am 53.. I have always felt boring in what I like to wear. I love the images you have chosen because you have shown that we can develop our personal style and look fantastic. Whatever our age. So exciting. Thank you!
Uplifting video - appreciate your positive spin by asking what we like best about our age. I am over 70, and know I can never wear ruffles or puff sleeves without looking ridiculous! I have also learned, because of my husband’s fashion sense, that I still look good wearing black!
I absolutely love that you encourage us women to find our personal style and appreciate every year we have lived. I am 64 years young, fitter than ever and finally achieved my dream weight after giving birth to six children. Five lived and my last born is this year 20. I love either to dress sportive and elegant or relaxed and comfortable. You are right about investing in good quality items which don't have to cost all that much. Know and understand materials by touching and feeling them. Don't invest ever in unnatural materials as they don't last, make you feel sweaty and smelly. I know as I live on a tropical place. Keep your videos going. I have learnt a lot.
I love how you firmly and friendly posed your disclaimer and the made your point. I agree 100%. I have been wearing flat shoes only for years now and am never going back.
Shoes. Oh lord. I noticed that many of the more mature fashion icons posted with the video were wearing super cute heels, and that the shoe goes a long way to creating a look of style and sophistication. I have bunions. Trying to find bunion friendly footwear isn’t about fashion it’s about wearability. This isn’t a topic that Audrey should have to address, it’s not her world and I wouldn’t ask her. EmpressAustralia makes a stylish wide flat that for me is worth the money and the wait!
Really great video! I'm 72 and have just recently decided on my 'look' and I'm thrilled. V neck white T-shirts and interesting cardigans that have pockets. Skinny jeans or leggings. Heels or tennies, and of course my constant strand of small, asymmetrical pearls. Will check out other videos -- and yes, Age IS a gift!
Thank you for showing so many chic older women! I am 65 years old, petite, and fit. When I was younger I exercised to try to change my shape into whatever was the current fad. At 65, I exercise to feel strong and healthy. I love that change! I may have wrinkles and in places I have saggy skin, but I am still here to enjoy life! What a blessing. In terms of dressing, I have had years to learn what looks good on me and what I feel best in, but every now and then I step out of my comfort zone. I recently bought a jumpsuit and go so many compliments on it!
How re you doing?😊
This is the best advice I’ve seen you give on your channel. My favorite thing about 43 is that I am learning to accept myself - physically, emotionally, mentally - and am better able to communicate that withy loved ones. We need understanding and communication to love and help each other! Each decade has been better and more enlightening that the one before it.
How are you doing?😊
I am 50 (51 in October). I do work outside the home but it's a casual office. I dress for comfort, but I like to look put together. I recently bought blazers because of your videos. I love the look of a blazer with t-shirts, button-ups, and/or casual tops paired with jeans and ankle boots or flats. I'm not much into wearing heels any longer. I also do not spend as much time on my make-up as I did when I was younger (teenager of the 80's...make-up was everything back then) and I find it refreshing to be able to do that and still look put together. Also, I'm in the process of re-configuring my wardrobe (again because of your videos). It was time I simplified my closest. Best part, the ladies in my family are benefiting from my clean out. Thank you for sharing advice and tips.
How are you doing?😊
At 59, what's interesting is that I've sort of gone back to some aspects of how I dressed in my 20's. I just remember how much I loved drama and dressing to make a statement--especially going out to downtown NY clubs in the early 80's. If you weren't a star, you'd better dress like you were on stage for the doormen to let you in! As I got older (and stopped hanging out lol) I moved away from that. Now I'm looking again for statement/investment pieces to mix with staples. I want to shine again. :)
Yes Beautiful, go on and shine like a DIAMOND ❤️
I’m 59 and like the others, I have learned to dress for myself. I am a pants and top girl and that is my base. I have learned that I only like solid neutrals and add color and texture with scarves and blazers. I experiment with different weight pants and tops through the seasons. Everything in my closet goes with everything else, making it a breeze to dress every day.
I'm another 59 year old Donna. And you are so right. I finally decided to just dress in what I like and feel comfortable in. Totally liberating!!!!
It might mean beige. It might mean enormous polka dots. But whatever it may be, it's my choice. And my awesome family never rolls their eyes or comments.
Smart strategies. It makes packing for travel very easy too. (If and when we travel safely again, that is.)
My husband keeps complaining about my "granny sweaters" and constantly encourages me to buy clothes I deeply dislike because he thinks I'd look good on them (he has terrible taste in fabric). I struggle constantly with the desire to please him visually and my natural bias towards comfort and covering up my body. I think all of your advices in this video are super useful (plus, your voice is a miracle haha, I love to listen to it). It's about self confidence and putting your own needs first, I suppose. Thank you for your videos.
My ex boyfriend hated that I wore a yellow and beautiful chiffon saree to a continental restaurant. I am an Indian and I carry a saree very well and it makes me feel graceful. He made fun of my dressing sense which I know is good enough and I have been praised for it before. He made fun of my individuality and couldn't accept it. Well now I wear saree whenever I feel like and happily living my life.
Embrace your style and individuality. Nothing is more attractive than that .🙂🙂🙂
Ayushi Ghosh I am so glad you are dressing the way you like. Personally, I love sarees too, and wear them to almost all formal occasions. I am still in my late teens so, I do not have a lot of sarees, but you can bet that I am buying a whole lot of them when I am able to get a job. Anyways, I think sarees are eternally graceful and elegant piece of clothing that suit every body shape, height and occasion. Definitely one of the easiest clothing to dress up or down. No matter what anyone says, I am never getting rid of my love for sarees and in my opinion, anyone who cannot appreciate the beauty of sarees doesn’t really have a taste in clothing. They do not have to like to wear it, but they can certainly appreciate the elegance of sarees.
My two cents: Dress for your self, not for others. If you deeply dislike the clothing your husband suggests, that should be the end of it. I love that Audrey herself noted in the video that she shed the thinking of dressing up as how others think she should, and it made her much happier. Do what makes you happy.
He just wants you to dress more feminine. It happens a lot with men
@@ayushighosh20 That shocks me, that he didn't like sarees. They're the most beautiful, elegant clothes in the world. He obviously had no taste.
I only really started to be comfortable and dress for myself once I hit 30. I never thought much about what I wore before that, but it's given me such a freedom of expression and genuine excitement every day. I love wearing oversized clothes, jeans and more tailored pieces like blazers. I am inspired by Korean fashion a lot and sometimes that gets me odd looks here in Ireland :)) but I've come to think of it as "they stare because i'm just too cool :))
Me too.I wore anything that I was given or bought until 25. Then from 30s discovered my style but limited to that..and now at 40 want to try something else that will be new and comfy for me.
At my age (78) I applaud you for point out these gems. I know what colors I love, and my classic style. I’m glad to be me!🥰
I’m in my late 20s and am finally learning to dress in a way that makes me feel “me” rather than what I think others want to see.
I'm 26, and I love that I can dress to look "professional", because I actually have a profession. I love that I am finally comfortable enough in my own skin to wear more dramatic outfits, and I'm secure enough to prioritize comfort and practicality. And I love that I am able to buy items of clothing that are of higher quality, and have a better fit (and pockets!), now that I am no longer a student.
Same!❤️
I’m 65 and I found that I love to wear slightly fitted tunics from mid thigh to above the ankle. Combined with leggings, straight pants or chinos. Slightly fitted tops, polos or sweaters mostly navy with dashes of peach jade green or turquoise scarves, bags, head scarves and feature earrings as my only jewellery. This allows for simplicity and flexibility from 2” heels to boots, and flats. All figured out with the help of beautiful Audrey and The Curated Closet. Love your inspiration Audrey 🥰
Hello Terri, how are you doing?
I have looked younger than my actual age for most of my life, in attempt to look my age I tend to dress older, like a senior older. Honestly I'm still trying to figure my style out, thank you for this video!
Recently my grandma told my mother she should cut her hair short because „that’s what you do“. My mom just laughed it off; she is 45 and has the most gorgeous brunette full hair with just a few greys peaking through, which make her even prettier :)
I like your voice.
Ya seriously it's so sweet. I was about to type the tell the same thing n saw ur coment
Yh.... Her voice is so soft and calm😊😊
Verry relaxt
Its so calm and relaxing
She told that she was trained as an opera singer. So I guess that makes her know how to project her voice effectively.
Thanks so much for this, I especially appreciate the still pictures you incorporated of real women without the overfilled cheekbones and overplump lips we see on so many insta pictures. Nothing against those things but I think lovely young women are using them s little too early and often. I’m over 50 and am loving my closet, color palette and the ability to spend on a few really nice things. I stick to classics, solids and neutrals and accent with scarves. I add statement costume jewelry from my grandmother’s roaring twenties collection to give my understated clothes a funky spin.
Hello Elizabeth, how are you doing?
“Dressing Your Truth” is such a fantastic (free) course to help you totally nail a color palette that honors you! What I love about it is it also helps you with patterns (!), design lines (silhouettes), fabric textures, and much more. DYT helped me so much with identifying precisely why I am drawn to certain pieces and not to others. It makes shopping and thrifting such an easier thing!
This is such an inspiring video to just be comfortable in your skin, your clothes and style. I'm 20 but my preference has always been more sophisticated and simple. And I absolutely love it and how I feel in it. Despite being told that I dress older and more mature I still incorporate it in every piece. Thank you for a beautiful video.
My favourite thing about being 62 is that I'm much more comfortable in my skin. To know yourself is soo freeing love. Xxx❤
I’m happy to have watched this again. As I’ve just turned 36 I’ve wondered if it’s time to clear out my closet of all the clothing and shoes I’ve had since my 20’s and “grow up” a little bit. This video helped clear a lot of that confusion. Thanks Audrey 😊💙
I love how positive this video is! I am moving into my late 40s, and my style has always been kind of quirky changing from bright colors and glitter to concert t-shirts and jeans, depending on my mood.
I’m terribly pleased that you’ve collaborated my theory on “dressing my age,” because I was beginning falter. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful, and logical advice on having a color palette etc. I’ve only see a few of your videos, but I look forward to seeing many more.
Hi sisters! I'm 63 and still young at heart. The best thing about this age is I can look in the mirror and smile...not at the movie star/model I once ached to be but at an old familiar friend. I have more understanding and tolerance of myself and no longer want the things I don't have. You're right - every year is a blessing. I have laughter lines because I laugh a lot. I have creases on my forehead because I think a lot. And I have great knees that I love to show off. Rock on girls (and boys!) - we were all born to be fabulous!
Why is no mentioning the fact that "she's so pretty"😍😍
I love this message. It’s unique because I am use to hearing “ when women turn 40 she should NOT wear this, and that.” The message here is to make sure what u wear makes u happy, look and fit well ( your comfort level) and something that expresses who you are as a person.
Love your top. It echoes the classic Willow plate. It's a stunning color. I'm 65 and I'm an Autumn season, but your advice transcends all seasons and allows me to insert any of my own muted colors. My favorite pieces right now would be a wide leg Palazzo pant and tank top... comfortable and timeless. Thanks for all the inspiration and guidance.
How are you doing?😊
In my mid twenties, I finally got a sense of worth and started adjusting clothes to me (my lifestyle, my body type, my sense of comfort etc.) instead of trying adjusting me to the clothes that were available/ in fashion/ visually appealing.
I’m in my mid-40s and am going through earlier than average peri-menopause so, honestly, I’m struggling with my body image a bit. But I do have a more relaxed attitude towards myself and care less about what other people think; I’m less concerned about trends although I do pay attention because I love fashion. A topic I think that’s related to this one is dressing for your lifestyle. Many of us at one time have collected or made clothes for our ideal selves or a fantasy lifestyle which is far from practical! For example, I like to sew and I’m always attracted to pretty dresses and wanting to make them out of delicate fabric and/or silk and I finally realized that I had a closet full of clothes I never wear. So then I wrote down the activities I actually do and places I actually go. I started creating Pinterest boards of women gardening or working on flower farm who at the same time looked very stylish (because I spend a lot of time gardening!). I also started to sew more pretty nightgowns and robes because I spend a lot of time wearing those too. 😅 I would love to know your take on this: transitioning from shopping for your fantasy self to your real self whilst still looking and feeling put together. Maybe others would also find this topic helpful to explore?
I totally understand you about the menopause. I was 38 when I started going through it (not peri-menopausal, but actual, real menopause), and found the symptoms accompanying it making me very sef-conscious. Then, I sat down and had a proper chat with myself. The conclusion was that I wasn't going to change anything about how I dress, except for going for more breathable materials and a wee wider cuts for the first two years because of the hot flashes. Now that I am through that (what a relief!), and turned 43, I went back to my original style. But still wearing looser cuts as well, because I discovered I actually quite enjoyed them.
Bravo for recognising your ideal self vs your real self, and dressing accordingly. Wishing you all the best. 🖤
I absolutely love your comment, wise words have been spoken! Wishing you all the best! Greetings from Poland!
What great tips, thanks for sharing
I'm in my early 30s and I'm still in that phase where I tend to shop for my fantasy self, looking for all sort of reasons to buy that very cute dress that I will mostly likely hardly ever wear... Some people say to dress for the life you want to have, but it can be quite an impractical advice. Reading your comment made me want to look for the beautiful parts of my real self that I can let show through my choice of clothing. If that makes any sense 😅so thank you! And yes, I'm curious on what Audrey would say about this!
You are straight up smart!
Audrey, I am 34 and at this age, I feel that I am truly coming into my own "brand" of personal style. I have begun to ignore trends. I have started to focus on garment cut and color. When an item has a beautiful color, it empowers me.
Like Audrey, I have always been petite, which led to a lot of comments about how young I looked during my teens and 20s. I once was even mistaken for a student at the elementary school where I worked (at age 28!). This caused me to choose styles that I felt were mature, professional, and “grown up” and avoid youthful styles and silhouettes. Now in my mid-thirties, I embrace the “youthful” styles that I love (skirts, dresses, shorts, etc.) and wear them because they because they make me feel comfortable and like myself. I encourage anyone who has felt the same to embrace your personal tastes.
😭 I also got mistaken for a child while picking up my kids from school when I was in my mid twenties. Secretary asked, "Can I help you??" I told her that I was getting my kids and she was embarrassed. I'm 5'1 and still get told that I look like a child while my 3 of my 5 children tower around me 😂 ugh
After graduating from university, I moved to Japan. I'm so thankful for the opportunity to live here for 2 years! Moving so far from my support network & comfort zone was a challenge, but has been so valuable in my personal growth and finding my independence/style/identity (all works in progress though).
Style-wise, it's allowed me to experiment with things (hats, fits, colors, etc) without dealing with comments from people you know like "why are you wearing XYZ?", "Who are you trying to be?", "That's not your thing??". Thus, I have chosen elements from western and Japanese styles that fit me the best and have created a comfortable/genuine wardrobe (expat hybrid style?? haha).
I am moving home next month and I feel proud to return as an improved version of myself. Excited for the next chapter :)
Now I'm in my fifties it's great to have clearer skin without hormonal outbreaks. I also don't feel any pressure to be 'fashionable' but at the same time really enjoy fashion.
I love how your voice ebbs and flows. Thank you for making this video. I'm 25 and feel like I don't know who I am and I express myself largely through fashion. I love thrift stores and vintage stores and creating my own jewelry. Like most 25 year olds, I'm rediscovering who I am with my career, my needs, desires, and sense of who I am. Your tips and encouragement made me feel less overwhelmed and more excited to find out about myself again with clothing. Thank you!
I love this so much and your style philosophy. And I love how you said “Age is a Gift”. I like my style a lot more than I did in my teens/20’s/30’s I feel like I’m more secure With who I am and I love playing with colour.
Thank you again for another wonderful video.
Love the blouse you are wearing! I think the clothes that make you smile are the ones that are comfortable. The shoes that wobble or pinch, the waist you can barely breathe, the dress you are afraid to expose yourself in, steal your confidence, therefore your smile.
This is such an encouraging video, Audrey! To tell the truth I was expecting a set of rules that you adhere to and it was *such* a breath of fresh air to hear you use such freedom of intuition! I love your advice!! You are so wise.
I am a mom of young kids in my early 30s and what I love about dressing my age is how I began discovering my personal style (despite running after little kids and changing diapers!)
I hated how “frumpy” my wardrobe had gotten (and how frumpy moms tend to dress) and I wanted to change that about myself. I wasn’t happy, I was depressed and felt like a hot mess and like I could barely function. I wanted to show up to my life like the woman I aspired to be: loving, patient, kind, and elegant. And my clothes were clashing with who I wanted to be! Since what I wore was one of the *few* things I could control, I resolved to begin getting dressed in a way that gave me self-respect and dignity.
I’ve been able to thrift and buy second hand clothing and it has been so helpful help me identify what I love and don’t love. Truly, sticking with a color palette has been huge in eliminating buyer’s remorse. And it turns out, everything that I admired when I was a teenager, looking through clothing magazines at my grandmother’s house, is exactly what I love today. I loved seeing women wearing classic Safari style shirtdress. I found a tan one at Old Navy when I was about 17 and I wore it ALL the time. It just took me over 15 years to realize that you CAN dress the way that you love.
I remember being about 15 years old and my eyes going wide and my breath catching when I saw a picture of a classy woman wearing a Ralph Lauren style military blazer, with equestrian buttons running down the front, a white/cream colored Ruffle shirt underneath, and neutral slim trousers tucked into knee high boots. THAT is how I would dress one day if I could, I thought. Years came and went, I mostly wore scrubs for work, then became a mom and my personal style went drown the drain, and I kind of lost myself.
Now, I have been on a journey to reconnect myself with what I always innately knew that I loved. A Collared shirtdress, a silk scarf, a bit of equestrian flair; I’m just so happy to have the opportunity now to honor the dreams of that young girl of fifteen when she wished she could wear classy, elegant outfits, with neutral colors and utilize layers and vests, and wear those riding style boots!
🥰 I also feel that I am showing my young kids what it looks like when a woman respects herself and honors her body. 💕