Signs of Alcohol Addiction (Are you an alcoholic?)

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  • @PutTheShovelDown
    @PutTheShovelDown  5 лет назад +13

    📣Watch This Next:☑️ Get Sober On Your Own in 3 Steps: ruclips.net/video/aumwnJ0MdFU/видео.html

    • @sweetlolitaChii
      @sweetlolitaChii 4 года назад +3

      I started drinking with my now ex at 21 years old. I'm 25 now and we both still have 6 of the 11 criteria. 😭 I'm shocked it has been moderate to severe AUD for the past few years.

    • @theotherway1639
      @theotherway1639 4 года назад +1

      Cool vid. I also enjoyed the book "30 Days to Sobriety" by Harper Daniels.

    • @mazda309
      @mazda309 Год назад

      😊

    • @johnncarney
      @johnncarney Год назад

      I'm Irish and our 'people' are stereotyped and alcohol abuse is the least of this tiny island's problem. It's now drugs.

  • @gregwademan359
    @gregwademan359 Год назад +58

    I got 11 out of 11.... It's a good thing that I've been sober for 36 years now..

    • @sunnya.2665
      @sunnya.2665 7 месяцев назад +1

      The question was: did you experience this the last 12 months... sure you are sober? If you drink you drink, if you did not for 36 years you cant have 11 out of 11... dont lie to yourself; your an alcoholic. Cravings are gone if you didn't drink that long for example

    • @gregwademan359
      @gregwademan359 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@sunnya.2665 It's 37 years now since I had my last drink and absolutely no booze since then.
      Yes, I'm an alcoholic, of that I have no doubt. It would be a lie if I told you that I've lost all desire to drink (sometimes it happens at the strangest times) and I still get the occasional 'drunk' dreams.
      All of these remind me of my alcoholism and I avoid alcohol like the plague.

    • @sunnya.2665
      @sunnya.2665 7 месяцев назад

      @@gregwademan359 I think I didn't understand you the First Time English is not my first language..
      Sorry about that, I am nearly 60 and I am drinking alcohol since I was 10 years old. Sometimes I didn't drink for years, and now? Way too much... That's why I stopped last week. Tuesday I had my last drink. I look better already but I have cravings too.. luckily I live Alone so No One is telling me i'm boring because I am drinking coffee tea and water with lemon juice.
      I want to go back to the years I didn't drink at All when My Kids were Little..
      Before they find out how much I was drinking the last years.. I can do that but I have to stay away from alcohol for the rest of my life my body is in protest, I do want to have a happy life the years I have left. You never know how Long that will be.. bless you! Thanks for answering me I feel stupid I didn't understand..🙏🏼 better keep my mouth shut if I am not sure I understand.. so sorry!!🌻🍀

    • @gregwademan359
      @gregwademan359 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@sunnya.2665 No problem and I wish you years of happiness in sobriety.

    • @dogboymalone11
      @dogboymalone11 7 месяцев назад

      11 too. I'm 46. heavy drinking from 15.

  • @lisaberg9241
    @lisaberg9241 3 года назад +83

    It was an 8 for me. I've got 25 days of sobriety under my belt, but just had a relapse. I'm learning that completely staying away will be the only way I will win sobriety.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад

      That's fantastic Lisa!

    • @MultiDani2020
      @MultiDani2020 Год назад +1

      I hope it’s still going well 😊 I’m the same way I think

    • @remogatron1010
      @remogatron1010 Год назад

      how much booze did you drink per day or weekly?

    • @charlesputnam9370
      @charlesputnam9370 Год назад +3

      There is only one cure and that means not drinking. I have been recovering for 39 years. I still have to tell myself no . I think about drinking all the time but I know I can't cause I am an alcoholic.

    • @ellejaysmith6623
      @ellejaysmith6623 8 месяцев назад

      All the best to you. 👍

  • @nickysteel7604
    @nickysteel7604 Год назад +13

    My son is 7 years clean this year ..someone can only get clean when they are really at rock bottom...often people fail rehab because they go to make other people happy
    Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @prometheuszero9
    @prometheuszero9 3 года назад +63

    I'm a recovered alcoholic with a little over 4 years of continuous sobriety, and I stumbled across this video on accident. Great video. I never knew about this test when I was a practicing alcoholic, and so I took it today from the perspective of me on November 28th, 2016, when I last drank.
    I scored 10/11, and on question 11 itself, I am on the fence. If I'm being rigorously honest, we could probably say I scored 11/11.
    For anyone who is reading this right now, know that you can get sober and recover from alcoholism. There are various paths to take to get there too, so if one technique doesn't work for you, try some of the others. And if none of them seem to work, keep coming back and trying again. I personally do a 12 Step approach, and it works amazingly for me, but there are many different methods to achieve sobriety. Try them all and see what sticks, but remember to ALWAYS keep trying to recover. Relapse doesn't have to be end of your story.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +2

      Great advice, Stealing Fire!

    • @sarahblaquiere3121
      @sarahblaquiere3121 Год назад

      Sounds a lot like me, with the test criteria. I'd experience heightened anxiety if I didn't start drinking when the evening rolled around - or knew that I couldn't do so later on - and although I've had recurrent anxiety and depression throughout most of my life, in this context it very likely could have been an aspect of withdrawal.

    • @miraclejefferson9206
      @miraclejefferson9206 Год назад

      How do I get help I want a drink from time to time but I don't want a couple it was stopped but just the I'm going to tell you like this I'm not the type of alcohol is that'll keep drinking and don't know want to stop because I do not want to stop but I drink about 2-3 times a week

  • @calebzavala8284
    @calebzavala8284 4 года назад +175

    Well I'm an alcoholic... how do I stop. Cuz I'm the kind that is drinking every night after work to cover up depression....

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +4

      Hi Caleb, Here's a link that will allow you to get FREE access to our 30 Day Jump Start program. It's the same one that our clients get. hopeforfamilies.lpages.co/30-day-jump-start/

    • @Johnnymoloney1996
      @Johnnymoloney1996 4 года назад +18

      I'm in the exact same boat as you brother.

    • @russpeaknuckel9525
      @russpeaknuckel9525 4 года назад +18

      I tried the link, but the first 30 days not free. Says..error 404. Then if you continue, they want money. Things like this make me want to drink.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +2

      russ peaknuckel hi Russ, I’m sorry the link didn’t work. I’ll try to see what’s the matter with it. If you want to shoot me an email I’ll manually set it up for you. I just need an email. amber@hffrc.com

    • @thetruthk5138
      @thetruthk5138 4 года назад +16

      Just go online and find the rooms of AA it's free and will change your life 100% " It works if you work it ".

  • @Themadcelticshoe
    @Themadcelticshoe Год назад +4

    This woman has a kind demeanor, seems sincere in her desire to help others. I like her.

  • @isaaccarranza5240
    @isaaccarranza5240 Год назад +7

    Remembered I watched this video about 8-9 months ago after feeling regret and shame, been sober since then.

  • @mattbackus
    @mattbackus 8 месяцев назад +2

    I’m not an alcoholic but I’d listen to this lady read anything!!!

  • @saralibby9846
    @saralibby9846 4 года назад +45

    I live with one. I am so grateful I was spared self addiction. It must be hell to crave it but also want to quit.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +4

      Hi Sara, Thanks for watching and especially taking the time to leave a comment. There's tons of info on this channel for people who have addicted loved ones! Let me know if you're looking for anything particular.

    • @michelleprice-blackston174
      @michelleprice-blackston174 3 года назад +1

      I also live with one time ticking

    • @DixieDee
      @DixieDee 5 месяцев назад

      Indeed it Is hell. It's like 2 people in my brain tugging at me.

  • @souldreamer9056
    @souldreamer9056 Год назад +61

    I was a drinker for 15 years, the last 5 heavy, and the last year VERY heavy. Then I just decided to quit. No meds, aids, counsellors or AA. Just a decision. Next month I will have been sober 10 Years.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад +1

      That's awesome! Thank you for sharing this with us. It's so helpful to hear success stories.

    • @johnsmith-bx4rn
      @johnsmith-bx4rn 8 месяцев назад

      You've done well i'd be out celebrating

    • @bonsummers2657
      @bonsummers2657 6 месяцев назад

      You can drink beer, wine, and liquor, in moderation, and remain sober.

    • @souldreamer9056
      @souldreamer9056 6 месяцев назад

      @@bonsummers2657 YOU Can. Many people can. I can NOT.
      My every attempt at “moderation” has resulted in month/year-long binges, followed by loss of respect and irreparable damage to my relationships. I’m now approaching my 11th year of sobriety, and I won’t break that streak with another futile attempt at “moderation”.

    • @King64
      @King64 5 месяцев назад

      😂😂😂

  • @ronlussier8570
    @ronlussier8570 6 месяцев назад +5

    11/11 - I think I was in the 4th stage before I got sober. 5 1/2 years sober thanks to God and AA

  • @troy1890
    @troy1890 4 года назад +43

    I abuse alcohol, and I’ve been doing it for 16 years. I don’t think I’ll ever get it , and that scares me. What scares me more, is that even being scared isn’t enough for me to quit

    • @andrewgarfield9898
      @andrewgarfield9898 4 года назад +4

      Exactly

    • @joedirt6059
      @joedirt6059 2 года назад +9

      I've been abusing alcohol since 18, I'm 44 now. Last time I drank, I had 33 beers. I'm scared ill never get it either. Please try your best, I have 4 weeks sober. I'll pray for you.

    • @daniellachance6203
      @daniellachance6203 2 года назад +3

      You CAN do it. I finally figured it out and have been sober a long time and have no interest in it anymore. Being scared is the first step. Next remove your triggers. Meaning if you have certain times and places you drink start to slowly remove those "triggers" one by one off the table. After you take off one and cross out that slot move to the next. Then after you learn you CAN have control pull the rug out and close the door completely. It really works. That control must be learned. The reason rehabs don't work so we'll a lot is because when you come back to life your triggers are still there. Keep fighting!

    • @Chris-lz1fs
      @Chris-lz1fs Год назад +3

      The hard part is really accepting the fact that you shouldn't drink. Not even one. It's the first one that sets the ball in motion. And if you are like me, there's a thought in your head that tells you that it's ok to have one or two drinks. That's the deceptive part of it. It tricks you into thinking it's ok to have a drink and of course, once you start, you can't stop. And repeating this behaviour over and over, expecting a different result like just having one or two drinks, is a form of insanity. It's all in your head! That's where it starts. Learn to recognise the thoughts in your head and don't listen to them!

    • @alexism.7712
      @alexism.7712 Год назад

      💯✔️

  • @cleanslatebyvik
    @cleanslatebyvik 3 года назад +43

    I’ve had a really hard time coming to terms with the fact that I have an alcohol problem and have been in serious denial about it. I scored a 9. It’s time to get some help I think.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +4

      I love your self honesty!

    • @cajunstacker1376
      @cajunstacker1376 2 года назад +1

      If you get to where you are shaking too much. I would get medically detoxed.It
      is not bad at all.They really make you comfortable through the whole process.

  • @mfisher1952
    @mfisher1952 Год назад +6

    Been off the booze for 27 years. I checked off all eleven of these - and it's a damned good thing I got help quitting. There's nothing wrong with alcohol and there's nothing wrong with liking alcohol - but when it starts liking you back - you are screwed. I found that out the hard way.

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 3 года назад +39

    The problem is that everything can be turned into a special occasion if you rationalize hard enough. "I finished washing the car by hand in the driveway!!" "I successfully dropped off three children to two different schools and they all arrived on time !!" "I drove across town running errands and the light always turned green just as I was pulling up to the intersection nine out of ten times!!" "I managed to not make nasty remarks to the wife of my husband's boss at the company party even though she deserved it for calling my dress unfashionable and ugly!!"

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +2

      Nailed it!

    • @stephenjemyers
      @stephenjemyers 3 года назад +4

      I finished this bottle of vodka in a record time , chin chin !

    • @clairefutrell5089
      @clairefutrell5089 3 года назад +7

      I am the MASTER of coming up with “reasons” to drink. Rough day at work? Good day at work? Depressed? Good mood? Back pain? Husband is sick? Time for a drink! Hell, I have justified drinking because I had a STOMACH ACHE. Absolutely insane.
      I’m entering my sixth day of sobriety.
      I was able to cut out alcohol entirely for almost a year, and then I heard this stupid voice in my head saying, “You went all that time without a drink. You probably don’t even have a problem. You can have one drink.”
      Cut to six months later and I was back to drinking daily.
      I have accepted that I am incapable of having a “normal” relationship with alcohol. It’s gotta be all or nothing, so it’s gonna be nothing.

    • @gwillis01
      @gwillis01 3 года назад +2

      @@clairefutrell5089 Congratulations on recognizing your limits. Keep striving to improve yourself Claire

  • @SRT140
    @SRT140 Год назад +5

    This might be the greatest video I've ever seen on alcohol dependence / addiction

  • @kevstuey
    @kevstuey 3 года назад +4

    Im all the symptoms week in week out... time for a change!!!

  • @simple_beys
    @simple_beys 2 года назад +3

    I try not to watch, but I just can’t stop.

  • @DigitalLazarus
    @DigitalLazarus 4 месяца назад +1

    I pressed play on this video out of curiosity. I indeed suffered from the disorder but, with grace and determination, I have been teetotal for nearly 8 years and counting. What is fascinating is to measure just how far the progress and commitment has taken me. Thank you for this film. It's awesome. I have bookmarked. Please keep doing what you're doing.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for the positive feedback, and congrats on your recovery. Very impressive 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

  • @taylernoelle1
    @taylernoelle1 5 лет назад +28

    You make these so easy to understand. I also love your approach and compassion to help others with this disease. :)

  • @jeffreyburney6161
    @jeffreyburney6161 Год назад +16

    Three years ago, I would have scored two out of those 11 questions today at score 0 out of 11. Most of my problem was that I had a wife at the time that made life very stressful for me, but I have since got rid of that problem and now things couldn’t have been better.

    • @Pupsikvuba
      @Pupsikvuba 11 месяцев назад +1

      I'm a guy, I'm 20 years old, and I already have an alcohol addiction. I drink a lot of beer with my neighbor from the hostel, and I understand that this is wrong, but I can't do anything about it, I'm very exhausted by studying;)

  • @sarahblaquiere3121
    @sarahblaquiere3121 Год назад +6

    Only criterion I never met over the course of my drinking life was having any clear symptoms of withdrawal. I was lucky that I never got to the point of becoming an all-day-every-day drinker and developing the obvious physical dependence. For me it was all psychological but the dependence was definitely there. I'm happy to say I'm finally clawing my way out and getting my real life back.

  • @multiranger748
    @multiranger748 Год назад +3

    I went to Alcoholics Anonymous in the end straight up identified so much more came along it took 2 years but im almost 7months sober as I wrote this

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад

      That's fantastic, Multiranger! I'm so happy to heart that 💯💯💯

  • @Jerid58
    @Jerid58 2 года назад +6

    I remember AA giving me a 20 question list in a welcome pack. I filled it out a few weeks after getting sober. I checked 15 out of 20, pretty sure I made the right decision. 11/11 on this one. Number 9 I suffered from all including hbp which went away after quitting.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад

      You most definitely made the right decision, Jerid58!

    • @Jerid58
      @Jerid58 2 года назад +1

      @@PutTheShovelDown I’m sure of it. I enjoy your videos, the more you know the more you increase your chances in sobriety.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад

      @@Jerid58 💯💯💯

  • @Francisxuyota
    @Francisxuyota 3 года назад +40

    Man I'm 21 and I've been drinking sonce i was like 15, mostly whiskey. Now i drink whole bottles of whiskey almost daily, I've started to believe that i just like it too much.

    • @JohnnyForPresident.
      @JohnnyForPresident. 3 года назад +3

      Just cut down very slowly man! Good luck

    • @raymondotoole2600
      @raymondotoole2600 3 года назад +7

      Here’s a plan for you mate. If you drink 7 days a week, next week drink 6, the next week drink 5 days that week and repeat until you can get to one. Improve your life also. Work on a little project of yours. Maybe a gym project. Being in shape is an amazing feeling and once you get into shape other doors open up in your life. Relationships tend to get better not only with people but yourself and with your drink. Eating healthy is also a great way of feeling good. Also SLEEP ! Getting 8 hours sleep you should enjoy that! So fix a god damn routine up ! I promise you, you’ll feel great once you get over that 2 weeks at the beginning. Don’t try and find motivation for the first 2 weeks. You won’t find it. Motivation comes when you start seeing results. Please become the best version of yourself. It would be an utter shame if you didn’t become what you must

    • @zenberryflood
      @zenberryflood 2 года назад

      @@raymondotoole2600 good advice

    • @Jess-by4yk
      @Jess-by4yk 2 года назад

      Also 21 who started drinking at 14, its probably not that u like it. That many years of drinking starting from that young will be very difficult to stop

    • @earlgosselin5023
      @earlgosselin5023 2 года назад

      I drink 2 to 4 liters of wine almost every day I want to stop but can't.

  • @ShogunateDaimyo
    @ShogunateDaimyo Год назад +19

    Been drinking daily 2 - 4 beers for past 6 years, which ramped up to sometimes 6/ through the course of a whole day due divorce and family courts during COVID pandemic. I'm day #14 sober and never felt better. It was easier to stop than I thought but days 4 & 5 had the strongest cravings. Around that time also had some of the worst nightmares I've had in a loooong time. However I theorized that the majority of the cravings were for calories and sugars so I'd pop a can of spindrift and do 50% with orange juice the other 50% or I'd eat some quality high protein complex carb food and the craving passes almost right away. I'd say the hardest part of stopping drinking was how unsupportive people around me like my parents who are non drinkers were saying 2-4 isn't a problem or just that I drink mostly 'light' beer so that's not a problem etc. I was getting the worst depression anxiety and if someone did some rude or insulting i was following them to fight etc. Really dumb stuff and I actually never even really liked drinking anyways!!! for some reason it was like a subconscious program that said a cool way to deal with life problems is to drink some tasty craft beers. SMH

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад +2

      I'm very impressed with your insight, and I love how strategic you are about conquering this problem. I'm with you... It makes me crazy when others tell someone they don't have a problem. It's a huge pet peeve of mine. This isn't a decision someone comes to lightly. If someone decides they need to stop drinking, there's always a good reason for it. Often times, they're just trying to be nice, but it's can make things worse because it makes you start to second guess yourself. You're on the right track! You don't have to be a stage four alcoholic to make the decision to stop. You're dealing with this problem head on, instead of waiting until it gets worse. Good for you!

    • @ShogunateDaimyo
      @ShogunateDaimyo Год назад +2

      *Update* So I don't remember posting this comment but it says I posted 2 months ago. I guess I relapsed because I just got my 30 day chip in AA last Monday. AA is so badass and it's free. I was driving around after buying a case of beer going I can't keep doing this and serious feelings of suicide not just ideation if you know what I mean. I didn't want to do it but I just didn't know where to go to ask for help. It feels like everything is going to cost $50 - 100k for various rehabs and detox, unless you're homeless etc.. I didn't know anything about AA other than it's for old recovering drinkers. Man the fellowship is one of the best things that has EVER happened to me. Its the only way I won't eventually just say 'F it!' because there's a room of people just like you relying on each other to help them stay in recovery too. Its awesome! Ive had some shitty things happen in the past 30 days and wanted to drink and still didn't. I 100% wouldn't have been able to do that before.

  • @mariacastilla5149
    @mariacastilla5149 4 года назад +9

    Do you have a video on how alcohol effects mental health?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад

      Hi Maria, I think you'll like these to videos. They are both people sharing their stories about how alcohol impacted their mental health! ruclips.net/video/w1nU2Vq073Q/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/DjHRFUi6xyE/видео.html

  • @pamelah6431
    @pamelah6431 Год назад +2

    And country music glamorizes and makes light of it.

    • @Bretski126
      @Bretski126 9 месяцев назад

      Almost all music does, in a way. Rock and Roll, the Blues, punk, folk and on and on. Just the fact that we are humans, makes us prone to unhealthy behaviors and addictions. Alcohol and drugs are more powerful than one thousand of us standing together.

    • @FriendofDorothy
      @FriendofDorothy 8 месяцев назад

      I would drink like a fish too if I had to listen to country music

    • @SharonH65
      @SharonH65 14 дней назад

      @@FriendofDorothy 😂😂😂There are some good country music, I don't like the begging songs. you are funny🤣🤣🤣

  • @neoncamouflage
    @neoncamouflage 3 года назад +8

    A good video with a bad feeling. As soon as you mentioned we should be counting within the past 12 months and I was thinking in weeks, I realized it wasn't good. 8/11, ugh.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +2

      It's a lot to take in but at least you're being honest with yourself!

  • @Saurabhkumar-pw4tt
    @Saurabhkumar-pw4tt 6 месяцев назад +1

    great video without targeting gender . or divorce , or blackmail .

  • @anthonyrossmaund3161
    @anthonyrossmaund3161 Год назад +5

    I drank a half a bottle of Jack Daniels last night with a friend. I don't really like alcohol because it taste awful but I had this bottle in my freezer and actually should not have had it in the first place, per parole stipulation. I have been under a lot of stress lately and because I had it in my freezer it was too available. I definitely will not keep alcohol in the fridge again. I drink once in awhile, maybe once a year. It worries me because it didn't feel like it was enough and caused me to crave opioids. I was a heroin addict and have been clean for over two years and if alcohol makes me crave dope then it's not safe for me to drink. I have reached out to my supports today because I felt the need to tell someone else. Anyway, lesson learned, at least I stopped the drinking and did not relapse on anything else.

  • @Jack-il3qv
    @Jack-il3qv Год назад +4

    One of my favorite alcoholics was a woman who admitted to herself and decided for herself, that she was an alcoholic. She never tasted alcohol even once in her life. Alcohol comes in bottles, alcoholism comes in people.

  • @curtiscollins2174
    @curtiscollins2174 Год назад +2

    Very well done. I have AUD and your video helped me. Thank you so much.

  • @jeffprentiss5064
    @jeffprentiss5064 4 года назад +7

    Thank you for making this video. You do a great job of communicating clearly and I found it very informative.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +1

      You're very welcome, Jeff. I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

  • @Chris-lz1fs
    @Chris-lz1fs Год назад +5

    Yeah, I could tick all those boxes at one time in my life. My withdrawals were severe. Shaking, sweating, itching, hallucinating and not being able to walk because my legs were so weak and watery. I don't know how I suffered that time and time again after a session. Looking back on it, it all seems horrific now but at the time, I'd just accepted that was the way it was for me. 14 years since my last drunk and life is a lot better without booze in the equation.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing your experience, Chris. It's so good for us to hear success stories!

  • @bobbysgirl8365
    @bobbysgirl8365 Год назад +1

    Yes I am ma'am I drink from the moment I arise. I'm probably in relapse these past couple of years. I started again due to emotional pain.

  • @NeighborhoodBasketCase
    @NeighborhoodBasketCase 2 года назад +5

    I am here after a night of drinking way too much beer by myself again . I didn’t even keep track I just kept drinking. Went to bed and woke up throwing up with a nasty headache . I’ve been in bed all day and cancelled all my plans because I couldn’t control myself again. I gotta say I think I have an issue with alcohol because I related to 8 of these points

  • @mattlofty5884
    @mattlofty5884 2 года назад +2

    Drat I scored 4, I think it’s down to my divorce stress, I am slowly improving now

  • @JemyM
    @JemyM 3 года назад +4

    3 for me. I am guessing most people would say I am normal but the fact that my father died of it makes me scared of alcohol.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад

      I think it's very smart of you to keep a close eye on it!

  • @ethan24572
    @ethan24572 2 года назад +8

    I’ve known I’ve had a problem for awhile but never really know how bad it was because it became the normal for me to the point of drinking 1-2 bottles of whiskey a day just to “relax and clear my head” I turn 22 on July 9th and I’m in the military it just kinda comes with the line of work. You see things that mess with your head and the only thing to turn too that won’t leave is liquor. Feels like my life is being robbed by myself…. I scored 10/11 at the age of 21

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад +1

      It takes a lot of courage to admit that, Ethan! I'm proud of you for figuring it out at such a young age. Here's a link to my playlist on How To Overcome An Alcohol Problem: ruclips.net/video/CDSkXfj-sUw/видео.html

  • @OutToTheWoods
    @OutToTheWoods 8 месяцев назад +2

    You are just the best at this ❤

    • @FriendofDorothy
      @FriendofDorothy 7 месяцев назад +1

      I agree. She has a wonderfully disarming down-home Southern accent coupled with facial expressions that interestingly make her look like she is smiling throughout. That is at least part of her gift as no one wants to be talked AT by an overly wrought shame-monger, but rather TO by a no-BS person who conveys sincere concern. She is gifted with the art of communication.

  • @TURBOMIKEIFY
    @TURBOMIKEIFY 3 года назад +6

    Damn. I got 8/11. I don't even drink that much, albeit the periods of not drinking are becoming smaller. However, when I do drink I drink the whole bottle alone.

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 10 месяцев назад +8

    You know it's a problem when every time you say "I will have only two drinks". you end up drinking ten instead.

    • @Munakas-wq3gp
      @Munakas-wq3gp 5 месяцев назад

      That happens like every time for me. But it's no problem, it just means that you end up having more fun than intended 😜

    • @Adam-bw6dj
      @Adam-bw6dj Месяц назад +1

      ​@Munakas-wq3gp I just hope it stays fun for you mate and doesn't escalate because my drinking used to be just like yours. And believe me it ended up a LOT worse.

    • @gwillis01
      @gwillis01 Месяц назад +1

      @@Adam-bw6dj Thank you for sharing your experience Adam

  • @bruceli457
    @bruceli457 Год назад +2

    It was 8 for me, been non drinking for 7 days so far...ain't gonna lie it ain't been easy.....you only realise you have a problem when you concisely want to stop...

  • @ericlopez6311
    @ericlopez6311 3 года назад +7

    I've been an alcoholic the past 8 years... the withdrawals are hell... sweating,can't sleep, shaking just to get a drink of water due to the diarrhea is the worst... it feels as if your dying

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +1

      Hi Eric! You don't have to stay stuck. There is a way out. Life can be so much better.

    • @Hi98765
      @Hi98765 Год назад

      The sweating! Ugh nothing worse then trying to sleep, waking up super wet and freezing under 2 covers. I want to get better.

    • @Adam-bw6dj
      @Adam-bw6dj Месяц назад

      ​@@Hi98765And at work I'd be covered in sweat even on cold days. They say you can't always smell yourself as much as others can, well god help me if that's true because I could smell the alcohol in my sweat from a mile away. So glad to be free.

  • @Plutarkthefirst
    @Plutarkthefirst 3 года назад +3

    I scored 11, every day I tell myself not to do it. But then I go down the rabbit hole.

    • @eagleeye2300
      @eagleeye2300 2 года назад +1

      Because it's an addiction. Your brain chemistry gets changed by alcohol, and I think many people have gut problems which can contribute to the craving, too. (For example, a candida yeast overgrowth.) There are several excellent Drs. on RUclips who give understandable great advice on diet, supplements, lifestyle. Dr. Drew is one of them.

  • @stevetaxpayer6664
    @stevetaxpayer6664 2 года назад +1

    # 12 is being Speaker of the House.

  • @lucyplumbridge9204
    @lucyplumbridge9204 3 года назад +4

    I looked at this because I believe my father is one :( thank you for the informative video though

  • @gatomio9739
    @gatomio9739 3 года назад +10

    I have 6...
    And I'm drunk at this moment...

    • @Munakas-wq3gp
      @Munakas-wq3gp 5 месяцев назад

      I have to be sober for a couple of days to even get drunk... If I drink for many days in a row I just get a full stomach from softer drinks before I'm drunk. And if I take hard liquor then I start to get hangovers which I don't like... I can chug 20 beers in a day if I have a holiday with no trouble and no hangover the next day.

  • @aan8977
    @aan8977 4 года назад +18

    11/11... Always an achiever!!! 😎😎😎😂

  • @Mersthamgal1
    @Mersthamgal1 Год назад +2

    Very useful. Thank you x

  • @TheOstahaps
    @TheOstahaps 11 месяцев назад +1

    I’m only a mild alcoholic. I think I can live with that😌

  • @chrisdavenport6585
    @chrisdavenport6585 2 года назад +4

    I scored an 8. obviously the thought of cutting back has crossed my mind but I'm scared of the possible severe withdrawals having not gone a night without alcohol in years.

  • @mulfie4749
    @mulfie4749 10 месяцев назад +1

    Yep i'm an Alcholic and have been for years, booze gave me everything i could have wished for in life, wife, kids, family, friends, socialising, decent job as it was always present in all aspects in a socialising sense but has slowly taken everything away now even if i quit i will still have nothing so its really hard to see past that outcome that things will improve if i did!!! Nudged along the way to become an Addicted now laughed at as i am one!! Doesn't help that in the area i live i know so many people!! That just cant stop themslves to torment me which drives the urge to pick up the juice!! As there really aint much else to do where i live!!!

  • @suddendee
    @suddendee 3 года назад +8

    I’ve got so many problems in my life. Thank God I’m not an alcoholic!!

  • @Yorker1998
    @Yorker1998 Год назад +1

    I got moderate use disorder. Seems about right. I'm what one would call a "gray area" drinker.

  • @JagdeepSingh-ux8gy
    @JagdeepSingh-ux8gy Год назад +1

    I don’t drink. Decided that it was not for me after seeing others not managing their alcohol well

  • @CMoore8539
    @CMoore8539 5 лет назад +12

    I think that if someone is asking, they definitely have a problem. I know that I can’t touch it.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  5 лет назад +5

      You're so right Cindy. I usually say that if you're wondering if you're an alcoholic, then chances are pretty good you've got a problem. People who don't have a problem, don't really spend anytime wondering about it.

    • @CMoore8539
      @CMoore8539 5 лет назад +2

      Put The Shovel Down No they sure don’t.

    • @utahboxergirl11
      @utahboxergirl11 4 года назад +2

      So true

    • @utahboxergirl11
      @utahboxergirl11 4 года назад +3

      @@PutTheShovelDown normal drinkers don't ask themselves if they have a problem. 😂

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +1

      Rikavari 💯 truth 💣!

  • @Thordur94
    @Thordur94 3 года назад +2

    I scored a 6, however these are not symptoms from a 12 month span. I will just slowly lay off I think. For the better. Thank you for this video!

  • @dickyyrrep1383
    @dickyyrrep1383 3 года назад +7

    Sadly, I scored 11, I’m clean now for nearly 2 years and for me total abstinence is the only way.

  • @thewewguy8t88
    @thewewguy8t88 Год назад +2

    number 6 is an interesting 1 as i have recently discovered that i should not text and drink lol. due to me sending texts that tend to upset and annoy some people sometimes.

  • @natasjaaitchison4409
    @natasjaaitchison4409 3 года назад +4

    My mum is an alcoholic. She knows her drinking is a problem. But it’s the first crutch she grabs at the tiniest hint of difficulty. Her problem has damaged her relationships with all her family and my sister and I both feel it’s seriously harming our father. We’ve all lost any ability to find ways to help.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад

      HI Natasja. I'm so sorry your family is going through this. 😥 There are lots of resources for families on this channel that you may find helpful.

  • @holmavik6756
    @holmavik6756 Год назад +2

    Only 9 of 10, but I am working hard with the 10th one 💪🏻

  • @inthelandofmorethansmall7582
    @inthelandofmorethansmall7582 3 года назад +7

    So if I dont have even 1 of your 11 from the dsm 5, if I pour out the remainder of my drink once I've reached my warm, relaxy buzz, even if I do this 4 to 5 nights a week, I'm not alcoholic, right?
    I've built no tolerance, still get buzzed on 1 to 2 drinks, it hasnt interfered with anything, I dont feel bad the next day... in fact I sleep better when I drink... I'm NOT an alcoholic correct?

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 3 года назад +6

    Another RUclipsr I follow said that at the height of his drinking every activity his wife suggested prompted him to ask "Can I drink while doing that?"
    Going to watch the children play soccer as an after school activity, watching a movie in the movie theater, going to a dinner party, taking the children to the public park and letting them play on the jungle gym and the see saw, watching a sporting match between two professional rugby teams...
    All he wanted to know in these situations is "Where is the beer?"

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +2

      People don't always say it, but a lot of them think it!

    • @thetruthk5138
      @thetruthk5138 3 года назад +1

      The person was just a heavy drinker when you are in the madness and a fully blown Alcoholic you would have no interest in going out with your family (unfortunately)
      And running out of Alcohol isn't a option you make sure you never ever run out .
      Thankfully I have several years of continuous Sobriety and I thank God I no longer live like that
      To anyone suffering get help get Sober you will never regret it

  • @carmenmarchand8053
    @carmenmarchand8053 3 года назад +7

    My score was 2. I expected much higher.. 😬

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +3

      Sounds like you got better news than expected!

  • @kimmyymmik
    @kimmyymmik 4 года назад +5

    I don’t know what to do. My neighbors daughter is in my sons 1st grade class and yesterday i saw her playing outside by herself and I asked her why she wasn’t in school, and she told me that her mom didn’t wake up because she drank too much last night. I was shocked and felt so sad for the little girl. I’ve spoken to the neighbor a few times here and there and she always has a beer on her hand. I didn’t know it was a problem until yesterday when her daughter missed school. And this isn’t the first time she misses school it’s the third time and the kids just started two weeks ago! Ugh I feel like I’m involved now because I know what’s happening but I don’t wanna be that neighbor. I don’t know how to approach my neighbor to tell her if she’s okay or needs help. I just can’t stop thinking about the little girl.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +2

      Sounds like you've found yourself in a crappy position, Kim! If you're gut is telling you to do something, then I'd listen.

    • @crsh2007
      @crsh2007 4 года назад +4

      Maybe you can offer to take her daughter to and from school, since she's in the same class as your son. That's so sad. Someone could have taken the poor girl :( Hope things work out for her.

    • @charlotteferdinand1246
      @charlotteferdinand1246 2 года назад

      Do the right thing and Report the woman to CPS because if you don't you are complicit in that that poor child's abuse. I f****** hate addiction it's the devil.

  • @TietieClannad
    @TietieClannad 2 года назад +6

    I’ve been having a real hard time accepting I have an alcohol use disorder. I scored a 9 so I think that should tell me something..

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад +1

      At least you're trying to be honest with yourself!

  • @user-h2db3u
    @user-h2db3u 6 месяцев назад +1

    I wish i could quit. But i have no insurance. And my city only offers counseling. I can't get any medication. And if i stop i get terrible withdrawal symptoms. So, my only option is too drink as the withdrawal will actually make me so sick i can't work. I have a severe problem. This video just made me so depressed.

  • @baldersn4474
    @baldersn4474 2 года назад +3

    What is your take on neurological conditions like ADHD and alchahol abuse?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад +2

      There's a strong connection between ADD and Addiction. They both have to do with Dopamine.

  • @drahcirnevarc9152
    @drahcirnevarc9152 Год назад +1

    I scored zero, or at the most 1 on the basis that despite my blood pressure issue for which I take medication, I get slightly inebriated most Friday nights when I meet my friends in the pub. Aged nearly 60 I can still go to the gym or run 5 or 6 miles on Saturday, so no or very little hangover is involved. I suspect that the reason I'm not an alcoholic is that I like alcohol, whereas an alcoholic wants alcohol. Right now it's Wednesday, and I haven't had a drink since Saturday, which is fairly normal for me.

  • @EnginerdBrian
    @EnginerdBrian 11 месяцев назад +2

    I scored an 8. Thanks for this easy to understand video.

  • @alexdonnelly4580
    @alexdonnelly4580 3 года назад +2

    Ive got all eleven

  • @sammy2840
    @sammy2840 Год назад +2

    I drank 2 or 3 times a week! Once I started they couldn’t make it fast enough! Got sober 15 years ago! Im now recovered! I can’t drink but the obsession is gone!

  • @KCDW83
    @KCDW83 Год назад +3

    Got sober on my own and it's been a year and a half. The last 2 or 3 years I spent drinking I absolutely had all 11 boxes checked that whole time. I could drink a half gallon of rum in a day no problem and drive out and get another bottle in the evening. If I went more than 6 or 12 hours without it I almost couldn't function from the shaking and nausea, cold sweats, heart racing ect. When I woke up in the morning I would have to take 4 or 5 shots before I left the house just to feel ok. It was a never ending cycle of drinking just to recover from drinking so I could drink later and do it all over again for almost a decade.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад +1

      Congratulations! That is so awesome. I'm so glad you shared your story. It's good for us to hear.

    • @KCDW83
      @KCDW83 Год назад

      @@PutTheShovelDown Thank you for acknowledging it at least. I shared on other channels with little to no response but I like the way your information is presented so I figured I would try again. I live in NC and your accent is very familiar so it's easy to listen to. Also, I love the channel name. It's so perfect.

  • @emilylaw1090
    @emilylaw1090 4 года назад +12

    am I an alcoholic or am I just 21? (I'm both, someone help - because I apparently can't help myself. )

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  4 года назад +2

      Hi Emily. Here's a link to our 30 Jump Start Program for FREE. It's the same one our clients get. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start

    • @aan8977
      @aan8977 4 года назад +2

      Ask yourself the question... You can never lie to yourself...
      As a 42 year old all I shall tell you is... You live only once... Have fun... Don't cross the line... I drink, smoke etc etc... Know many who did not and are gone... Heart stroke, brain stroke ... One even died in a terrorists attack in Mumbai... I'm still alive n kicking... So, do everything that pleases you but overdoing anything has unfavorable repercussions, so remember your line...

    • @inthelandofmorethansmall7582
      @inthelandofmorethansmall7582 3 года назад +1

      Here's what I say...
      Do you continue to drink despite negative consequences? (Like job loss, relationship issues, health or financial problems...)
      Theres your answer...

  • @jason_kenner
    @jason_kenner Год назад +1

    9 out of 11. Wow drinking while watching this video. Yay me right. 3 more drinks and I'll reach 11.

  • @chrishilton494
    @chrishilton494 2 года назад +5

    Why does drinking make me realize I I don't want to drink. And I only ever realize it when I'm drunk. And it doesn't expand to my sober life

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 года назад +1

      Great question. That happens because the thought of drinking releases dopamine in your brain (which is the desire brain chemical) It tricks your brain into thinking you want it, but once you get it, you come to the realize that you don't want/like it. Basically the feel good chemical is released before (not after) the drinking occurs. There are a few more things that are likely contributing to that but his is the main one.

  • @user-ce5oi3dy7l
    @user-ce5oi3dy7l 3 года назад +5

    When i am sometimes drinking at school (alone) and i have often the desire to drink, do i have a alcohol addiction?
    So i mean, i think i could quit, when i wanted to.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +1

      You might not be alcohol dependent, but it sounds like you could be developing an addiction to alcohol.

    • @user-ce5oi3dy7l
      @user-ce5oi3dy7l 3 года назад +2

      @@PutTheShovelDown uff ok. Then I should better take care of myself... I just dont know how... but i'll figuere it out, somehow :/
      Maybe

  • @pwk22
    @pwk22 Год назад +2

    Small suggestion: "criteria" is a plural noun. It should be "Criterion No. 1".

  • @garrettgaldonik611
    @garrettgaldonik611 2 года назад +1

    Met 10 of those. Might have a problem. Gonna start looking to quit drinking

  • @carlaandrews5376
    @carlaandrews5376 3 года назад +11

    Listening to this as I'm drinking my wine. I feel like such a fraud.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +2

      It's normal to have mixed feelings about it 💗

  • @kuntalsarma5106
    @kuntalsarma5106 3 года назад +2

    10 on 11... Doc do you do online counseling?

  • @hernanserrano3464
    @hernanserrano3464 2 года назад +1

    Ma’am, how do I get a copy of the checklist please?

  • @kingrico2011
    @kingrico2011 3 года назад +2

    I drink here and there I stopped drinking for 8 months and then started again did not have shakes or any types of cravings

  • @thequeenmakayla
    @thequeenmakayla 3 года назад

    i had 7, also drinking my 4th alcoholic drink while watching this…

  • @dionsawyer
    @dionsawyer 4 года назад +5

    She's calling me out!!!!!!!!

  • @saltlifegull4091
    @saltlifegull4091 Год назад +2

    You Rock!! How can you deal with this occupationally? I would become an alcoholic if I had to deal with alcoholics!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад

      Hahaha, LOL 😜 There are occasional days that I feel that way. But mostly, I love my job.

  • @alexism.7712
    @alexism.7712 Год назад +3

    Tired of being tired but I keep doing it. 😮‍💨 I drink about 14 days out of each month on my days off from work. My problem is I enjoy it, but I wanna slow down to 4-8 days a month seriously. I started @ the age of 14 (not every day tho) and I am now 46. 🙄😵‍💫😬 It's soo hard to get there since I'm so used to it. I even pray and so far nothing, but I'm not giving up on God. 🙏❤

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Год назад

      Hi Alexism, I love how honest you are. I know you are going to figure this out!

  • @tyronerodgers
    @tyronerodgers Год назад +2

    Thank you mamm!

  • @DjSicEm
    @DjSicEm 3 года назад +3

    Okay so I have a question; I’m looking for your personal opinion: I’ve been more than three months sober and I was struggling with understanding if I need the program or if I can drink like a normal person so I went to the store and bought some vodka and to see if I could handle alcohol. I couldn’t control myself and drank half a fifth in two hours. Two days later I drank the other half. Now I know I can’t handle alcohol and this made me believe I need the program so I’m stronger. Does this count as a relapse? Do I need to start over with my chips?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад

      Hi Jay. That's one of those lessons we all have to learn the hard way. I'm so glad to see that you're recognizing the unmanageability right away. Very impressive. Here's a video that might help answer your question: ruclips.net/video/0pP6DnBK6qE/видео.html

  • @MF_Ranger
    @MF_Ranger 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for this really

  • @soilgrasswaterair
    @soilgrasswaterair 25 дней назад

    I’m scared of alcohol, because I have seen how many people have their lives ruined due to not being able to control their alcohol use. I used to feel silly about this fear, but these days I think it served me well considering no one will know ahead of time if they will develop an issue with alcohol or not.
    I also think my grades, health and life in general is better because I reduse to drink alcohol. Once a doctor showed another doctor my liver results (with my admission), and I rather have doctors express something positive tied to not drinking alcohol, than eing sat down and told the body is shutting down due to too much alcohol.
    I’ve had friends who struggled with alcohol, and I never shamed them or told them what to do other than sometimes sharing I worried and if they wanted to tag along to the gym a Friday or Saturday evening they were more than welcome to. It’s been wonderful to see them take the reins over things and to see them develop healthy habits and how much happier they became after a while when they let go of the alcohol or heavily reduced their intake of it.
    If I had spent my earlier days partying too hard, then my grades would not be at a place where I could apply university and eventually study law and psychology. Being alcohol free has given my life more joy and meaning than any alcohol drink could’ve ever given me! / Scandinavian
    Ps. Reading helped with my English, and I can’t really see reading and alcohol going well together, so another win.
    Ps. Can anyone truly say there are any benefits to alcohol?

  • @drmarykiaira2589
    @drmarykiaira2589 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you yr help in this video
    I am in Canada
    Don’t do online counselling ?
    Please let me know

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  6 месяцев назад

      Hi drMary. We don't do virtual counseling, but we do offer virtual coaching services. Here's a link to our website to learn more. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/

  • @amayawright4083
    @amayawright4083 3 года назад +1

    I started drinking more when I got in college honestly (currently still in college)

  • @alexanderdiaz6396
    @alexanderdiaz6396 Год назад +1

    Damn I’m definitely hitting every point…

  • @zachz699
    @zachz699 3 года назад +1

    I scored 2, but I am a unique extremely stressful situation at the moment, I don’t think I would drink as much when I am free of this situation and around more positive people, being more active and having more fun. I measure how much I drink nightly and it doesn’t really change the past year

    • @zachz699
      @zachz699 3 года назад +1

      I’m not an alcoholic but if I am asking this question it has me paying attention. Should only be stuck here another month or so

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  3 года назад +3

      Smart to be paying attention! Stress can take a normal drinker to a problem drinker.

  • @georgehicks4035
    @georgehicks4035 Год назад +2

    Most of this list is true of me, and I know I have a problem with alcohol. The weird thing about my problem is that it's a problem of chronic MODERATE drinking - I seem to need 1-3 glasses of wine every day. That's it. I don't like that I need those 1-3 drinks, but it seems like I can't function without a little alcohol all the time. I don't even like the way alcohol makes me feel EXCEPT it does one thing that I need, which is taking away my debilitating anxiety. I have gone to AA, but I don't feel like I connect with those hardcore alcoholics, and I get really annoyed when they start telling me about myself and saying I'm not being honest and I'm under-reporting my drinking. I feel like most recovery programs are designed for hardcore drinkers, so high-functioning, low-level alcoholics like me have to go it alone.

  • @Chris-ed9sn
    @Chris-ed9sn Год назад +1

    Allen Carrs book quit drinking without willpower helped me quit by revealing how it’s really a trap