Why INFJs are Late to the Party (and why you shouldn't be worried about it)

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  • Опубликовано: 8 янв 2025

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  • @Potato.495
    @Potato.495 3 года назад +9

    Ah… I’m in love with your videos, it has become a routine to listen to you before I fall asleep.

  • @LordGadwin
    @LordGadwin 3 года назад +7

    took almost 33 years here. the pain is what became my passion, pain is the best teacher, for it tells you what you don't want.

  • @thirstwithoutborders995
    @thirstwithoutborders995 4 года назад +7

    I got my palm read once (don't judge me, I did it more because the "seer" looked like he needed money and I wanted to give him the dignity of having a job) and he told me that I would only shine professionally after I turn 40. Which is in a few years. Through all the turmoil of my life I have had this in the back of my mind. Not as an excuse for rest, but as a thought that calmed me down. I still have time to do something.

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад +3

      This comment gave me a big smile because I would have done the same thing. Unless you're hiding in the cave of self-denial, I think you will shine. Once you awaken to certain things about yourself, the process almost starts itself, as crazy as that sounds.

  • @anthonymwesigwa4113
    @anthonymwesigwa4113 3 года назад +5

    I thank God for leading me to you channel. I will forever cherish what am discovering.

  • @coolnate88
    @coolnate88 4 года назад +7

    Boom right in the feels.
    I've always been so indecisive and overthink everything and scared to jump in. I have a college degree but I'm currently working in retail. I've had so many different jobs in different industries I feel like a jack of all trades master of none.

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад +3

      Jack of all trades ... yes. I've always thought this about myself and my interests. What have I really mastered? And is mastery even necessary? Perhaps we don't give ourselves enough credit.

  • @martinry5412
    @martinry5412 3 года назад +3

    wow respect to what you did in "underground" phase. Now that I think about it....I just realized that I am in that "underground" phase as well....and I'm beginning to emerge from it....but not yet, almost out from the ground.
    The way I picture this "underground" well....I have this tingling feeling, that I'm an eagle amongst the chickens...at young age I always thought I could fly, higher, faster, stronger....this life that everyone contends with....it just not fit for me, I know deep down, I'm not meant to stay in this level. So I did somehow "accepted" this level, and learns from all kinds of jobs I had...teaching (maybe not as much as yours), waitressing (same not as long as yours), marketing (dealing with various types of people), being an HR (interviewing thousands of candidates each with their own storylines and hardships).
    That desire to face the world out there, so it's not just me having a rough time huh?
    it's just....like you said "databanks" of interacting with various people. Reminds me of that burning desire inside, to just live away a nomadic life for 1-2 years, then settling in for the rest of my life building my own family.

  • @DenisDolisy
    @DenisDolisy Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for those inspiring words 🖤
    I'm 35 now and am still in the underground but I've had an intuition for some time now, that something more has to come but I still don't really know what it will be. I think I've some more maturing to go through before the time will come but your video gives me the hope and courage to go on 🖤

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  Год назад

      Hello, kind sir! I've sometimes gone after some very strange things but every time, they have yielded something interesting ... many times something new. I guess the whole point is growth. It's kind of like collecting up drops of rainwater so you can finally take a bath. Not that the bath has to be some grandiose thing (although it might be) but more that it gets you clean - in our case, that the thing (whatever it is) fits or suits who we are. When I made this video, Type Book wasn't even a thing but it was all the drops which led to it.

    • @DenisDolisy
      @DenisDolisy Год назад

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Thank you, kind lady !
      Those things may actually not have been that strange as they lead you to discovering something new and growing.
      The drops are starting to show up in front of me, I just have to catch them and see what the bath will be like.
      Careerwise I'll have to play it safe though, as I have to care for my wife. But I see upcoming drops there too and I can feel that sooner or later one will land in my tub.
      Thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom and experiences 🖤

  • @gemeinschaftsgeful
    @gemeinschaftsgeful 6 лет назад +4

    I wrote this two weeks ago. I saw this video yesterday for the first time and it made me think that it's a wonderful coincidence to find this common theme of the rising up imagery--this time out of water.
    Oh waters turn to fire
    Let the clouds of thunder gather
    And lightening find it’s source
    Dark waves give way to light
    From your depths
    Abandon your thoughts
    Let your waves be still
    Announce the coming
    Stars reflecting the source
    Your time is here
    Look above and call out
    From water, the world sleeps
    Rocked in dreams
    Fire now awaken the spirit
    Brighten the way with heat
    As passion’s leap
    Let the children run with wild joy
    They know
    Ecstasy of the heart
    Its Nature found
    The time is here
    Waves rocked womb
    Awaken squinting
    Your light is love
    Confound the mind
    Delight the heart
    Let it leap
    Rise to the surface
    Water gentle source of life
    Now force of spirit
    Water as fire
    Delight the soul
    Quench the spirit
    Joyful burning
    Fill the heart
    Bathe the mind
    Flow humbly
    Spread to reach
    Feed to flower
    Love’s eternal source

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  6 лет назад +1

      There is something more in EVERY single line you have written here. Every line is a meditation. Absolutely beautiful.

  • @rainne1669
    @rainne1669 4 года назад +4

    I'm a minor and honestly I've always wanted to pursue music. But I was scared because I didn't know what I needed to do, no one in my family was invested nor interested in music. I wish there was someone to guide me and help me through that mental block. Though my mom says I was interested in dancing when I was a kid and then suddenly story writing, then acting and then arts. Then it lead me to music. I just got a guitar a few days ago and I'm excited to try it out, all I'm trying to do now is tell myself it's okay for starting out at this age and not at 5 or 8. I have absolutely no idea what the basics of music are but the passion's there. And I have to stop doubting it and just do it. Thank you so much for this

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад +1

      I think it's great to learn how to play a musical instrument, no matter what your age. I taught piano to a man who was in his 60s. He had never played before - the last time he played an instrument was in high school, the clarinet. He was so passionate and jumped right in with such enthusiasm. And then when he retired, he moved to Florida and played at Disney in a recorder quintet. All that to say ... sometimes we feel the push to do something, but it's not necessarily always about where we start, it's where it leads us. So start with the guitar. Who knows where it will lead you?

  • @sandyl7583
    @sandyl7583 3 года назад +3

    This is that year, here. It seems to be coinciding with my personal growth. Your video seems more on point now, for the world, than ever!

  • @Coneman3
    @Coneman3 3 года назад +4

    It must be so sweet when an INFJ, who is typically underestimated and patronised by lesser souls, is able to use their gift and preparation time to knock it out of the park. Must make others really question what they believe , which about INFJs is usually wrong 😑 My time will come 😉

  • @ho8464
    @ho8464 2 года назад +3

    During the past few years, I’ve noticed myself in the underground stage. I see myself learning and growing

  • @SirMo
    @SirMo 3 года назад +3

    I am literally at the cusp in my life, when I emerge from the underground. This was so on point!

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 3 года назад +1

      🤞 good luck

  • @maggiewanjiru2807
    @maggiewanjiru2807 3 года назад +4

    Excellent ain't the word enough!
    Am impressed
    Thanks

  • @LungteNangram
    @LungteNangram 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for this. Hope you're healthy and doing great. I've never been this magically motivated. Listening to you feels like listening to an older/matured version of me.

  • @Coneman3
    @Coneman3 3 года назад +5

    In a perfect world, INFJs would be going early and given special education etc. and highly valued. Sadly, our gifts usually have to be self discovered after much suffering. And only valued in retrospect. In history books.

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  3 года назад

      What would that look like, do you think?

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 3 года назад

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Teching psychology as early as posible in schools. I never encountered it up to 18. I know it's taught more now though, I'm 52.
      Then, tech about the archetypes and combine with philosophy of life. Pupils should identify with them or not. That should allow the acorns of great potential to grow. Once identified, INFJs should be treated like gifted high IQ pupils, alongside other types like INTJ, INTP. IT sounds harsh on other more common types but that applies to IQ selection etc. Education should follow channels which suit different types, to maximise pupil satisfaction and progess. Every type has unique gifts to give. What do you think??

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 3 года назад +1

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty And I think a particularly useful thing for slightly older school kids would be to explain how people misunderstand others, especially in relation to types. There is of course a danger with psychology that by explaining a behaviour or tendency we excuse it. But this should be taught as something we need to work on to avoid.

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  3 года назад

      @@Coneman3 Like you, I had no exposure to psychology until I was in college and the way it was presented in class was not very interesting to me. I took some sociology courses and enjoyed those more. Of course, this speaks more to who taught those classes than it does to the actual subject areas. I guess, to sum up what I think, I would have to quote you - "in a perfect world". The idea of tailoring the education to fit the child is very appealing. I've seen it done at the homeschooling level and it is very successful. However (sadly), it's probably not going to happen within our current system. There are too many educational pressures which make child-centered learning hard to achieve. Education (at least in my country) is a business and as long as that's true, value will be placed on turning out the young masses to be obedient to the system and do their duty to it.

  • @AzorTTV
    @AzorTTV 2 года назад +3

    Beautiful , Your Beautiful , Thankyou stranger

  • @milybabe1
    @milybabe1 3 года назад +3

    I really related to what you said … heartfelt thanks from an INFJ💛✨

  • @melissadagley4145
    @melissadagley4145 3 года назад +4

    OMG this is so wonderful and SO ME!!! I jumped from job to job, never lived in any place for longer thsn a year before feeling "the itch" to go somewhere else. Now, I am in a place where I have found my calling, found my life partner, and in the process of finding our home!! This is so accurate!! 😆🥰

  • @bourasayyoub2580
    @bourasayyoub2580 6 лет назад +5

    I listen to this video everyday ! I loveeeeee it 😍😍

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  6 лет назад +1

      This is a wonderful compliment. Thank you very much.

    • @bourasayyoub2580
      @bourasayyoub2580 6 лет назад +1

      Thank you for making this video ! I was going to write a lot more but my english is bad I can't express my ideas correctly ! Anyway your video really helped me and made me cry and motivated 😍

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  6 лет назад +1

      Your comment made me cry ... how sweet you are. It goes both ways, you know. Knowing I've motivated you keeps me motivated.

    • @bourasayyoub2580
      @bourasayyoub2580 6 лет назад

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty I love that ! I cried again haha we are so sensitive and strong in the same time !!

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  6 лет назад +1

      Yes, we are - never forget it, either! ❤️

  • @GLRYB2GD
    @GLRYB2GD 6 лет назад +2

    This makes so much sense to me. Thank you.

  • @kalinadesseaux8011
    @kalinadesseaux8011 4 года назад +2

    I love your channel and your writing.
    I so want to 'jump in' to my dreams and goals, like you did, but I have no idea how...

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад

      For me, I was able to do so many things because I didn't know that I couldn't. In some ways, understanding my type in my younger years would have helped me but in other ways, I think it would have been a hindrance. It may sound counterintuitive, but not acknowledging certain things about my person was good for me. I will use a trait (perfectionism) which is common to the INFJ type to help make my point. I knew deep inside that I was a perfectionist but I didn't voice it. Not voicing it, not acknowledging it, allowed me to take some risks. Ignorance (or self-delusion) is certainly one way of accomplishing things, as crazy as it sounds. For you, it's too late to take the same way I did, as I can tell from what you write that you have acknowledged your strengths and weaknesses. You do understand this INFJ label. But that doesn't mean you still can't pursue what is important to you in life. In fact, knowing who you are earlier in life may allow you to arrive earlier to the party, earlier than I did. I think I took the long way around. There are many reasons for that. However, being that you know who you are - your struggles and your strengths - you can acknowledge your perfectionism and know when it's a good thing and when it holds you back. This is what self-awareness does for you. It allows you to see yourself objectively and then use what you are equipped with to move forward in life. You can turns those gifts into skills and reprimand yourself when you listen to the voice that says you can't do that thing you want to do because it won't be perfect.
      Basically, there are two ways to skin a cat. I took the long way around but you don't have to. You can learn from what I say here and from other good voices out there and get ahead so much faster. Use what you are learning to propel yourself forward. I'm not sure how old you are but I would urge you to get as many experiences as you can. Experience is an incredible teacher.

    • @kalinadesseaux8011
      @kalinadesseaux8011 4 года назад

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty thankyou so much for that detailed reply! Thankyou for your advice, and for really taking the time to read my comments. 💖 You are a lovely teacher! I'm so glad I found you. Please be safe and well!

  • @derealratos6332
    @derealratos6332 3 года назад +3

    love your videos and your beautiful voice

  • @thewatcher2332
    @thewatcher2332 3 года назад +2

    If I came across this video 10 years ago am I going to understand it very well like I do now? Am not sure...I hope this will at least guide the young INFJs in their journey. Btw when you started talking about feast (birthday party+Thanksgiving+Christmas) I think I heard something and I started to realize that am hungry 😂😂😂 that's why if I watch food channels I have to make sure that I got food on the table 🤣🤣

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  3 года назад +2

      I've thought about this a lot, mostly thinking about myself years ago and what would I have thought of my words back then. I believe there are layers to learning and understanding. So I think the younger me would have taken something from this video to use in the moment. There would have been something useful developmentally at that time. I don't think it would have or could have been understood fully, as it is by someone like you, right now. Deeper understanding happens over time. I think about presenting serious and nuanced topics to children. Something heavy, like death, for instance. A child can only understand death to a degree. The depth in understanding comes with maturity. So is the case here.
      The power of suggestion ... hee hee. For some reason, and I have no idea why, when I woke up this morning, all I wanted was a doughnut. I never have doughnuts, but I seriously wanted one. This is one of the reasons I'm glad I live out in the country. A really good bakery just down the road would be the death of me 😆

    • @thewatcher2332
      @thewatcher2332 3 года назад

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty you found the right example 👌🏻. Now I'm dealing with a young lady and I believe she's an INFJ so to introduce her to know herself that's already tough because she thinks she knows herself but she doesn't yet. The same case for me 1 year ago. The second step is to transfer my experiences and knowledge to her and it looks already very challenging to do it in the right way. But nothing is impossible if we do the impossible. We'll see how it goes.
      Talking about doughnuts 😂😂😂 I don't know if I should say you're lucky or not that I'm living nearby because I used to make it at home late at night and keep them away from the kids so I can give them one or 2 per day only... otherwise they will eat everything in one shot 🤣🤣🤣

  • @uckBayNguyen
    @uckBayNguyen 4 года назад +5

    I'm a way late bloomer... near 50 before I discovered I was supposed come out of the ground

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад +1

      I don't think that's very unusual for our type at all. There is so much looking outwards which must be done before we see the need to truly search ourselves.

    • @Official_Trey269
      @Official_Trey269 4 года назад +1

      @@YourNeverSleepingBeauty Same to me. We keep that which is great long inside. because we do a lot of environmental assessment.

  • @prayin4u523
    @prayin4u523 4 года назад +1

    Thinking now...❤️ thank you!

  • @kirkor_9643
    @kirkor_9643 6 лет назад +1

    You are The Teacher so don`t let random fellows tell you how you are sharing your messages.
    The improvised music is not equal to prepared one - just check some masterpieces and try to find improvised one. And the pattern that time spent on something makes it better etc.
    In general you are doing great. One of my favorite INFJ channels is Corine ruclips.net/channel/UCuLdWjBkyfsk1sXdMtB2KSA
    Obviously is good to try anything we wish but an INFJ way is to observe whether it makes things better or worse. A message is important and the way is delivered should serve the main reason.
    P.S. I have started making notes of the video, but then I realized that such comment would be endless, so I decided to put it in such telegraphic way.

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  6 лет назад +1

      I greatly value comments such as these. Thank you. It causes me to widen my perspective and reconsider what I thought to be true. You are right. I know I said I believed they were equally valid, but if that is the case, why do I keep returning to the prepared? To take my musical analogy further, one could go to a very high level of improvisational music but in that case, they are ultimately preparing for it. So it is about preparation.
      You had made a comment on someone else's channel about the "old truths" and I think what you said there also applies to what you have said here. The fact that there must be some higher standard in general ... that we are able to consider one thing better or of more value than another.
      In delivering a message, I agree, it is very important to consider our audience. If we fail or stumble in the delivery, it may not reach the intended ears.
      I will check out that channel, thank you. I had never seen that one before.
      Please keep sharing your thoughts. Even a teacher still needs instruction, and I am very receptive to yours.

  • @richiemcconnochie2506
    @richiemcconnochie2506 3 года назад +6

    A knowing is stronger than a belief..words can be spells..hence they call it spelling..look at the word believe..be..LIE..ve..if u believe u give permission to others to lie to u..even yourself..

  • @SealedDoorNu
    @SealedDoorNu 3 года назад +2

    Right timing 😆

  • @Official_Trey269
    @Official_Trey269 4 года назад +5

    We are always late. Why obsessed with perfectionism? Are we cursed?

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад +1

      I guess you're only cursed if that's the mindset you've adopted. I don't see it as a curse. Perfectionism, like so many other things in life, can be a good thing or a bad thing. If you put it to good use, then it can be a strength.

  • @kekojones8431
    @kekojones8431 3 года назад +2

    I’m here !

  • @charlyhurley7011
    @charlyhurley7011 4 года назад +1

    Just like when we get out from our Caves.jehejeh recharged..and arrive Fashionably Late...Hahahah

    • @YourNeverSleepingBeauty
      @YourNeverSleepingBeauty  4 года назад

      I wish. As a kid, I was made to feel that if I wasn't early, then I was late and today, no matter how hard I try, I still can't deprogram myself of that!

  • @Telltalesign
    @Telltalesign 4 года назад +2

    😂😂✌️ I'm always late to the party. 🤣

  • @estebannestares2745
    @estebannestares2745 3 года назад +2

    🌱💙

  • @brandonfisher2350
    @brandonfisher2350 5 лет назад +1

    💛

  • @ricardobarron4574
    @ricardobarron4574 3 года назад +2

    :)

  • @chhavipandey5621
    @chhavipandey5621 4 года назад +1

    💗